['I had a memory pop up on my facebook the other day it was a photo of my hands, and my moms hand. I was taking care of her during her last days.', 'Oh my god! That is so sad! I am so sorry!', 'Yeah its okay it happens thats life! I enjoyed being able to know I was the one making sure she was okay as she went!']
That is a good way of looking at things.
when i took care of my mom when she was dying