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Using a variety of diagnostic and intuitive tools, discover what imbalances you currently have. Then be guided with lifestyle, diet, yogic and meditation tools to help bring you back into balance holistically.
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Thai Yoga Bodywork
Based on the northern style of traditional Thai Massage, Thai Yoga Bodywork is a sacred healing treatment that integrates Yoga, Ayurveda ("science of life"), and Buddhism.
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Tuesday 22 March - Saturday 2 April 2011
Angharad Rhys, Lois Rogers, Will Facer & Reuben Barr
Private Review: Tuesday 22nd March 2011, 6pm – 8pm
'roots' is a joint exhibition displaying the works of four 2nd year fine art students from liverpool john moores university, which features a diverse celebration of medias including textiles, illustration, sculpture, photography, and digital compositions, exploring the theme of roots.
"i explore my welsh roots through a mixture of medias within my work, such
as welsh text and traditional craft methods; the experience of living in wales is
an obvious influence. i also bring an element of my current sWTormdings
from the city environment into my works."
angharad rhys. march 2011
"my work derives from how images are used to convey messages, how they show emotion and how our perception of images can be affected by motion and movement. i feel that life is like a ticking clock and it's important for me to capture each moment whether it be still or moving.»
lois rogers. march 2011
"my work is illustrative and relates to the human condition. the work
is tongue-in-cheek, melodramatic and has no set definition, although i like to
think it's in some way reflective of my ego or perceived self"
reuben barr. mar ch 2011
"as a new student moving from a small town in cheshi1'e, m_y work has been heavily inspired by my new roots
within the liverpool city landscape. in this collection i have used photography and digital manipulation to create a
series oJphoto-montages that convey a narrative within the diverse cityscape."
will facer. feb 2011
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Calvin Klein CK One Shock - For Her
By: Calvin Klein Released: 2011
CK One Shock by Calvin Klein. This is a fresh and floral fragrance for women. It contains of passion flower, pink peony, poppy, jasmine, narcissus, blackberry, dark cocoa, amber, vanilla, musk and patchouli.
CK One Shock by Calvin Klein was launched 2011.


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Under each video you will find a to-do list for that day.
Easy-to-follow Chart
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Is It Getting Easier?
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Hang in There
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Stay Focused
Day 17
Your Face Shows Your History
Day 21
Any Change?
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Focus on this Journey
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Piece of Cake
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Almost There
Day 10
No Exercise. No Change
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Half Done
Day 18
Love Yourself
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You Know Yourself
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3 More Days!
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Not Too Bad
Day 7
Do You See The Change?
Day 11
Stay With Me
Day 15
Feel the Movement
Day 19
Feel the Change Inside
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Intention Creates Reality
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You CAN do it!
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No Excuses
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Fresh Start
Day 12
It Takes Time But You'll Get There
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You Own Your Face
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Everything is Possible
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Feel the Internal Power
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Best-selling author and Japanese TV celebrity Fumiko Takatsu helps Face Yoga students everywhere discover their most beautiful selves – inside and out.
A 30-year yoga devotee, Fumiko created the Face Yoga Method after a car accident left her face disfigured. Almost a decade later, she has defied modern medicine and the effects of time, creating for herself a toned, youthful face that shows no evidence of aging or trauma.
As a busy educator and mother who divides her time between California and her native Japan, Fumiko makes practicing and teaching Face Yoga a priority.
Her glowing, natural beauty is proof the Face Yoga Method yields startling results.
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Currently few, if any, laparoscopic bariatric surgery training opportunities exist that bridge the gap between introductory training and actual clinical practice. This mini-fellowship provides a focused and concentrated training experience under the preceptorship of Philip R. Schauer, MD.
As a qualified general surgeon, you will achieve baseline competency (not necessarily proficiency) in laparoscopic bariatric surgery in order to begin a safe clinical and operative practice.
This mini-fellowship also will give you with a basic understanding of preoperative and postoperative management concepts.
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Quite remarkably, Adele and myself have managed to encourage a bunch of our fellow year 1 photography group to each take a photograph for the MAD Fest this coming Wednesday. One of our ideas was to each take a photo wherever we were on Sunday 29th May at midday. Initially we'd thought of creating a slideshow of images, but as we pulled the thing together it didn't sit right, we needed it in print, needed the physicality.
We also needed a title for our six photos and so far the suggestions are:
Same time different place
29.5.11 12.00
Sunday noon
I'm tempted by something more factual, more encouraging to leave the title behind and leap into the images. How about the literal:
"On the 29th May 2011 at 12 o' clock midday, wherever you happen to be, take a photograph"
And a couple of options on how we attribute ourselves as photographers:
1/ The name of each photographer next to their image (traditional, ownership clear).
2/ An alphabetical list of the names of the photographers (letting go, collaboration, the piece as a whole) - my vote's with this but it would probably need a group consensus...
I'm really looking forward to seeing it all on the wall on Wednesday!


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Linea Art Fair , Ghent, Belgium
In 1998, another very interesting event took place, my participation in the European Art Festival, Line-Art Ghent, Belgium. More than 800 galleries from all over the world participated in the exhibition, which took place for 17 consecutive years and my exposition was unique-I was the only representative of the post-Soviet space. In the luxurious catalog of the Art Fair two more galleries were published, one from Kiev, the other from Russia, but for some…Continue reading


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I've been grateful that I'm able to work at home as a freelance writer. Being able to have an ideal work space to put your thoughts down on paper can affect the creative process in a clearer way. For me, I went from working on a notepad to my PC to where I have complete control of my special productive area.
This area I work in, keeps me in privacy, being able to be creative while setting new tones how my words come out without any distractions. I enjoy spending moments like this giving myself some alone time behind closed doors. This is because I've made it my own space, with my own time, enhanced it in my own way, so that it provides me with the best experience, away from the distractions that I may face, at times.
The secret to a special productive area is to remove, for the time, the everyday gadgets that you are used to using constantly like your smartphone, tablets, etc. If you have a specific assignment you have been trying to get to for the longest while, that has nothing to do with your work, then try your best and place it somewhere else, at that time, so you won't have the temptations to constantly check them while being distracted from your work area.
For me, I keep my work area with the PC computer while no TV or cell phone is on, so they do not distract me as I write. Not only does this take away all distractions, but it puts me in a place of complete focus.
It is true that each person's method and needs are different, but there's no denying that making your creative space as comfortable as possible, is important so that distractions and discomforts will not hinder your progress, not in a negative, but towards a positive direction.


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As a commercial photographer I am fortunate to work with a number of excellent, detail-oriented builders and designers in the Okanagan valley and beyond. It's always a treat to go into a beautifully-prepared space, and capture images that will make their work shine.
Here are my top five tips on what you can do to get that same result, whether you're preparing to sell your home or showcase your latest professional project.
1) Replace that burnt out light bulb! Even if it is dangling 20 feet off the floor in a stunning chandelier, or is high up under the eaves of a home, like the one below!
2) Shower and mirror spots and streaks begone! Sparkling is the word that should always come to mind when you're looking at a space that's about to photographed. So apply a little elbow grease, and get that hardwood and tile gleaming!
3) Eliminate mats! Kitchen mats, bathroom mats (unless they're part of the colour scheme), front door mats, backdoor mats, dog mats, and even entry mats outside the front door. They're practical and necessary, but rarely photogenic!
4) Clear counter clutter. Blenders, coffee makers, that "to do" basket, sink soap, and anything by the bathroom sink should be placed out of sight. And clear the shower out. We want people's eyes to be struck by the beautiful tile work not latch onto your favourite brand of shampoo!
5) Choose the best time of day. Naturally, the best time for photos is often less-than convenient. Dinner time (about an hour before sunset), and early morning around sunrise is when you'll get optimal light. When a photography shoot is coming up, I watch the weather forecast more than a meteorologist!
How do you get a property ready for photos? I'd love to hear your ideas!
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What is your style?
We tell a story with our pictures – your story, a love story, a story of happiness and joy. Our pictures are defined by a natural style, soft colors, simple compositions. We capture genuine emotional moments and details on your wedding day but we also guide you and compose the frames in order to create beautiful romantic images which you will be proud to share one day with your children and grand children.
Do you shoot film or digital?
We shoot both film and digital on all our sessions – wedding, lifestyle, portraits. During a wedding, the couple's portraits, a part of the preparations, the engagement session before the wedding day are all taken on film. If the light is insufficient, for instance during the reception after sunset or if the church, where the ceremony is being conducted, is too dark we will use our digital cameras. Family and new born sessions are also taken on both – film and digital.
Why do you like film?
Film images have something very special – the depth and the softness of a film image and its pastel colours are unrivalled. Film images look much more like a painting rather than a picture. We never post treat our film images. They are developed in one of the best film laboratories in the world, based in Hollywood - Richard Photo Lab
Do you travel?
Yes, we love to travel and we will be more than happy to travel to your wedding destination. We have recently traveled to Switzerland, Germany, Italy, the UK and throughout France.
Do you work together?
Yes, we work together most of the time. If one of us is not available for a session, the other one will come with an assistant. You will always have two photographers.
How long does it take to see the proofs/pictures?
Approximatively six to eight weeks for a wedding and three to four weeks for a Lifestyle session.
Will we receive the high-resolution images?
Yes, you will be granted access to a private gallery with downloadable high and low resolution images easy to share with your family and friends. You and your guests are free to use these images for prints and photo album books.
Why take engagement photos before the wedding?
We provide a free engagement photo shoot with every wedding package. This photo shoot will allow us to get to know each other and help you get more comfortable in front of the camera on your wedding day. You can also use the pictures from this photo shoot for your Save-the-Date or Thank You cards.
Our wedding Packages start at 1,690 euro and include film and digital coverage of your wedding day, engagement photo shoot, and access to a private online gallery with downloadable pictures.
Drop us a line or give us a call, we would love to hear about your exciting wedding plans.


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One of the key parts of the experience at MARC B School is the immersive student culture, giving rise to a harmonious culture on campus, and off it. Our state of the art campus is set up on a majestic 30,000 sq. ft. space occupying an entire floor.
We have a well stocked library which is a haven for bibliophiles. For students who want to read in their own comfort, we also have a reading area which, quite frankly, looks more like an upscale lounge. Our classrooms are set up to the international standards and are equipped with the latest in education technology. On campus security of students is of prime concern for us, and hence, we've a full-fledged biometric security system and round the clock CCTV surveillance.


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Thursday 16 November
8:00 pm - 10:30 pm
Domenico and Antonietta are two suburban Italians searching for "a job for life" from a big city corporation. After a bizarre screening process made up of written exams, physical agility exercises, and interview questions such as "Do you drink to forget your troubles?", they get menial jobs. The film ends as Domenico ponders his fate from behind his tiny desk at the back of the small windowless room, listening to the sound of the mimeograph machine as it runs off carbon copies next to the manager's desk.
"A long-standing favourite with those who have been lucky enough to see it. Its innocent young hero from the Milan suburbs gets a job as a junior clerk in a big company in the city, and Olmi's wonderfully observant and sensitive record of his experiences – and his shy romance with a sweet co-worker – charts the pointlessness and boredom of the world of modern corporate work with a fine, sympathetic balance of the grotesquely sad and the ruefully comic. It's a brilliant, lovable piece of work. " Philip Horne, Telegraph
Director: Ermanno Olmi
Italy 93 minutes Cert U
We say: Nominated by Paul, our film expert, who feels that this film by the great Italian social realist Ermanno Olmi deserves to be better known.
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can be quite a challenge since the space has to be used wisely. Placing your bed with an angle, mirrors on wardrobes and cupboards and built-in wardrobes, are some small bedroom ideas you can implement. They are excellent space savers along with the mirrored panels create the illusion of excess space. Beds with safe-keeping can also be good for smaller bedrooms, enabling you to keep all equipment from sight.
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The Amish Tuscany Slat Bed with Standard Footboard is the perfect blending of the warmth of traditional style furniture and the smooth form of contemporary style furniture. This transitional bed offers classic, timeless, straight lines that define its style. The transitional style keeps time with your changing decor and holds its place along the way.
The gentle curves of the headboard and baseboard display the superior quality craftsmanship you are looking for. Consider the Amish Tuscany Armoire and the Amish Tuscany 68" Dresser with Optional Mirror to complete this solid wood bedroom set.
This slat-style bed offers a warm, inviting style for your bedroom furniture collection. Customize this Amish bed in the wood and stain you love. Consider adding a three-drawer storage unit under the bed for even more function.
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❤ This week our names are Scarlett & Bodhi ❤
Scarlett – is an English name for the color, scarlet red. Scarlett is also associated with two beautiful women 1- Vivien Leigh who played the iconic Scarlett O'Hara in Gone with the Wind (pictured below), and 2 – American actress Scarlett Johansson. Scarlett is currently #42 in the U.S., a lovely name that has been rising in popularity.
Bodhi – is a Sanskrit name, meaning "awakening, enlightenment". If you're a nature name lover, Bodhi also doubles as a tree name. Several celebrities have used the name Bodhi for their bouncing baby boys the past year. A fun little name to say, Bodhi gets extra cool points for being the name of Patrick Swayze's character in the film Point Break (pictured above).
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A HEARTLESS thief walked off with a poppy tin from a Birmingham pub on the eve of Remembrance Day.
The vile culprit snatched the collection can from the the Toby Jug in Chester Road, Kingshurst.
And today life-long Poppy Appeal collector Janet Hope, who leaves the cash boxes on the bar each year, had just one message for the thief: "I hope your fingers drop off!"
Janet has dedicated her life to raising money for the two-week Royal British Legion campaign that helps thousands of ex-service men and women.
She was born on Remembrance Day, November 11, and tomorrow she will mark her 60th birthday.
"It's very sad that someone would steal this money and I am very deeply hurt," she said.
"People like that don't have any conscience, so I put a notice in the bar telling them exactly how I feel. It was quite upsetting."
Her message reads: "You are the lowest of the low. I hope your fingers drop off."
Janet, from Lanchester Way, Castle Bromwich, added: "I was born on the 11th of the 11th, and have done this all my life.
"I have been a poppy collector for years, which I enjoy doing enormously.
"Every year, towards the end of October, I normally put one tin in the bar and another in the lounge, and replace them when they're full.
"I fill four tins each year and usually collect between £200 and £300, although it was £380 last year."
The poppy tins had been in the pub for a couple of weeks when Janet went to collect them this week.
"To my utter disgust, one of my tins had been pinched. I feel so ashamed as it's my poppy tin that I am responsible for."
But she added defiantly: "It hasn't deterred me and I will carry on regardless."
Elsewhere, the British Legion is taking drastic security measures for this year's Poppy Appeal by fitting alarms to collection boxes.
In Kidderminster, police have issued a shopping centre with the small alarms, after eight poppy boxes were stolen in November 2006.
Tony Hinton, poppy appeal organiser for the Kidderminster area, said: "The most hurtful thing is that we've got lads out fighting for us out in Iraq and Afghanistan and we've got these mongrels around stealing from poppy boxes."


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Archive for the 'Adolescence' Category
The Most Horrible Thing Imaginable
The Most Horrible Thing Imaginable
During my 18 years of parent coaching, I've heard a lot of stories from parents that fear the most horrible thing for their children. They worry that they will drop out of school, become drug addicts, not find a suitable career, become parents too young, not have friends, commit crimes, develop personality disorders and any number of "horrible things." Their imaginations run wild with the possibilities, and they lie awake at night worrying.
If you are one of those parents, I'm here to reassure you. SO much of what kids do in childhood is developmentally normal, and not indicative of a failed future. If you wonder if your child's behavior is normal for his or her development, visit this site. https://childdevelopmentinfo.com.
Most of the conflict between parents and children has to do with expectations. We often fail to see that children are in phases of development, and that they do not resemble adult phases (we're in them, too!) So if we have a child who is verbvally articulate and/or big for her age, we may expect her to do things that someone two years older would do. We get mad when she doesn't, and start to imagine the most horrible things about her future. It's an easy trap. But it doesn't have to be that way. If you truly had your expectations aligned with your child's developmental stage, (not always the same as her chronological age) you'd expect immaturity and it wouldn't throw you for a loop. Rather than, "Why doesn't she do what I ask????" you'd respond with understanding and calm redirection.
I see this every day. Parents try to speak logically to their young one or teen-ager, and the logic is NOT making sense to the child. You've probably had it happen three times today. "I said we can't go to the pool right now because your grandma is coming over." Logical … we have to be here when she comes.
Then the explosion occurs! "I don't want to have Grandma over!!! We're going to the pool!" The child has no sense of propriety – meaning that when you have someone coming over, you're home when they arrive. She is totally wrapped up in her desire to swim, and no logic is going to interfere with that desire. Here's where a lot of parents go down a path that doesn't work.
"Stop being so selfish! How would you like it if we were going to someone's house and they weren't there when we arrived?"
"I wouldn't care! I just want to swim today! Grandma can come over on a rainy day!"
She has responded with an absolutely normal childlike reaction. Now it's your job to help calm her, rather than challenge her to be more adult than she is. It also takes a huge effort to reject the fear that she'll be a brat forever and there's nothing you can do about it. Especially if you've seen a lot of this behavior recently, it's very hard to divert yourself from the default, "She just can't act like this and I will not tolerate it!"
The better way is to address her concern is with a calm, low-tone, respectful response, reflecting her big huge desire: "You really want to swim and you want to go right now." Here she feels seen and heard, which can readily result in a calm response, rather than defiance. "I get it, Honey. Summer feels so short and you want to get all you can out of it."
Then wait. She may still be upset, but she'll likely come down in a bit. Don't push; just let her brain come back to being regulated. It feels as if nothing is happening, but it is.
When she's calmer, ask her what she thinks you and she can do to make it better. You are not changing your mind about being there for Grandma. You are including her in your thoughts, knowing you'll stick to your original plan, but making space for her ideas, as well. "AND" is a wonderful parentng word. Grandma is coming, we'll be here to greet her, AND we'll figure out the swimming. Since the unconscious drive in your daughter is to be seen, sometimes just seeing her is enough and she can let go. Trust me, I've seen it happen.
Without yelling, threatening, or even getting upset, you have just helped your daughter through a storm without it becoming a hurricane. You stayed focused in the present moment, rather than fearing the future. This is where all your power is. The most horrible thing didn't happen, but what did happen is that you connected with your developing child with acceptance and love. The more you do this in the present moment, the more you assure yourself of a positive future for her. Pat yourself on the back. You have found a new way that works for everyone.
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Teen Boys, Sex, Alcohol
Teen Boys, Sex, and Alcohol
by Tina Feigal, M.S., Ed.
Article Copyright © 2018 Center for the Challenging Child
This is a real exchange, published with names changed, and permission from the writer.
Hello Tina,
We met with you years ago when our kids were toddlers and bedtime nearly drove us crazy. They are all teenagers now and I would give anything to go back to those simpler times. My oldest is a 17-year-old boy. His grades are decent. He works a part time job around 20 hours a week. He is not doing a spring sport so he can work and save for college. I know that he and his friends sometime drink. There are two times that I am sure of. He has had the same girlfriend for 2 years now so I worry about sex also. I have tried to have many conversations and talk about what we believe and try to find out what the motive was to drink and where things are headed with the girlfriend and encouraged him to make a thoughtful decision when he is not "in the moment" so that he can fall back to that when the heat is on.
The main issue is in 6 months he is moving off to college and I worry about him making good decisions. I know a certain amount of college partying is very normal, but still worrisome. Any advice?
Thank you ~
Hi Sharla,
I'm happy to hear from you! It sounds as if you have a wonderful 17-year-old who is going through the normal experiences of adolescence. I hope that knowing this is very typical helps to relieve some of the stress you're feeling. And here are some ideas to help you navigate it:
- Let the positives of his life settle into your brain. His grades are decent, he's working and saving for school, he has a lasting relationship with his girlfriend. He's doing so many things right!
- Another huge plus: You have shared your values with him. As I like to say, "Teens can't let you know that they hear you, because they are busy individuating and becoming "not-mom." This is a necessary developmental step, and all healthy kids do it. But once you've put your message about your values in him, they're in there, rest assured. He just can't say, "Thanks, I got it," at this point. No need to repeat yourself about these now, as he knows how you feel, and repeating just becomes irritating. I know, teens are very sensitive about this, but again, it's normal.
- Your worry about drinking and sex are justified. You don't want him to become a father too young, and you don't want him to break the law by drinking or become an alcoholic. But reminding him repeatedly will not get you what you want, and he's old enough now that you cannot control him. It's easy to think that a parent should control her son, but it's just not possible, nor is it your job now that he's 17. It's your job to recognize the myriad ways in which he does control himself.
- You can help to reinforce his positive behaviors by letting him know how proud you are of him and the many good decisions he's made so far. He's made a lot of good decisions, and he needs to hear that you see them, if he hasn't already. Writing them in a note is a powerful way to communicate, as writing weighs more than talking. Plus, guys at this age become "allergic" to their mothers' voices – I raised three of them, and it's just the way it is as they become men.
- The more you recognize his goodness, the more you will see. You will also be drawing him toward you instead of pushing him away, which is huge.
- Does he have access to condoms? Tell him where to get them if you think he doesn't. This looks like condoning pre-marital sex, but if it's already happening, it's not going to end because you want it to. The best solution is to be sure he's having safe sex.
- The motive to drink is the same as it is for 17-year-olds world-wide. They are blossoming adults and this is an adult activity. If you have seen him under the influence, but not overly drunk, you might want to say, "I'm glad you're not overdoing it, and I'm glad you're home safe." It's the same as with sex; you don't have the power to stop it because he's growing up, but you do have the power to influence mindful use of it. If he is overwhelmed by guilt from you, it may have the opposite effect from what you want, and give him a reason to drink more to suppress his feelings (the number one reason people drink.)
I hope this is helpful, Sharla. Let me know if you'd like to talk more about this, and we can set up an appointment. Place your trust in your son now, as he's just learning to trust himself, and he can learn self-trust from your words and attitudes.
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Screen Addiction
Screen Addiction: What Parents are Saying
Last month I asked parents to write to me about what was topmost on their minds regarding raising their children. Almost overwhelmingly, screen addiction was the topic.
One mom wrote and expressed her concern about her teen daughter. Here's her note to me, and my response:
Hi Tina,
Phone/screen addiction is on my mind.
My 16-year-old daughter has been wrestling with screen addiction for the past 2-3 years. I've taken her phone away and then tried giving it back to her with agreements about following limits and her behavior deteriorates within about 3-4 weeks. Angry outbursts that eventually turn violent, refusal to follow the phone rules, skipping classes at school and grades plummeting. Currently she does not have a phone. And things have gotten much better.
She'd like to get phone privileges back, but I reminded her that we've tried reinstating phone privileges on numerous occasions only to have things get way out of control.
For now, I've told her that having a phone is not an option for her.
I do let her use my phone to contact her friends, review her gymnastics videos, etc in the evening once chores and homework are done with the understanding that at 9 pm the wifi is unplugged.
This is truly tough to manage. Do you have any helpful insights?
Hi RW,
I do have an insight for you … you've been much braver than many parents in setting limits, and I applaud you! I think the young brain's susceptibility to addiction to screens will be seen historically as a turning point in our society, and you have done a wonderful thing for your daughter in saying no to giving her brain a "substance" that it cannot handle. It's obvious that she cannot function with constant access to a device, so you have taken the adult role and helped her, just as if her brain was addicted to any other "substance." I will be using you as a shining example in VERY tough parenting times.
Thank you,
There will be more of these notes from parents coming up! I learned a lot from asking this question, and I can't wait to share parents' comments with you.
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Want to Understand and Help Relieve Your Child's Anxiety?
Want to Understand and Help Relieve Your Child's Anxiety?
5. What can parents do to help their children become less anxious? The first thing is to help them feel seen, feel felt. This can calm the threat alarm or amygdala, so that the child can function with less anxiety; in other words, think straight and be a contributing member of the family and community. So we're not about "getting a child to do what's right." We're freeing the child to do what he or she knows is needed, by lowering anxiety. One way to see the child is to write an "I See You Letter." This bypasses the conversational aspect, as so many kids become allergic to their parents' voices. When something is in writing, it weighs more, as we've all experienced. Saying "I see you," can help parents focus on the issues that are alive for the child right now, and also increase their compassion for the child. It's so important to give kids space to be immature, and the "I See You Letter" can simply acknowledge the child's situation and help the amygdala calm down. Parents don't even have to solve problems, interestingly. They can reflect the child's situation, and then ask for a conversation about solving the problems that includes the child. We find that self-efficacy, or control over one's destiny, is the perfect antidote to anxiety.
Other ways to help the child are self-regulation techniques. Often just being told that when you have that yucky feeling, it's just your brain going overboard is really helpful for the child. They don't have to "be" anxiety. They can just say, "Oh, that was my brain overdoing the worry again." It really helps them to put the source of the problem on their brain instead of their being. Self-regulation can also be through yoga, meditation, relaxation techniques, and square breathing (inhale for a count of 4, hold for 4, exhale for 4). When parents do this with their children, they are "co-regulating" – let's face it, parents often need to lower their own anxiety, too.
I'm Sometimes Too Hard on My Child, Sometimes Too Easy
I'm Sometimes Too Hard on My Child, Sometimes Too Easy
Whew, this is a very common parenting issue. How do you figure out whether to let things slide or be very strict about what should happen with your child? If he or she is bright, intense, and opinionated, it can be all the more confusing as to how to hand out the discipline.
Here are 5 tips to help with these decisions:
- Remember that it's almost impossible to be "consistent" all the time, especially when you and your partner/spouse, who likely have different styles, are raising your child together. That said, have a family meeting to get some "rules" or "traditions" established, along with what to do when a rule is broken. That way, everyone in the house is on the same page. (See page 38 in Present Moment Parenting: The Guide to a Peaceful Life with Your Intense Child for all the details of the family meeting and rule-setting.)
- Give intense children your calm and certain response. "It's time to get your clothes on for school," can result in an all-out battle every morning. "I don't want to get dressed!" is heard all too often. Instead of getting into a back-and-forth conversation, simply decide the night before that these are the clothes to be worn, and there will not be any discussion about it tomorrow. Then don't have any. This isn't ignoring your child. It's just letting him know where the energy is and isn't. The energy is on making a plan and keeping your promise not to talk about it. It is not on engaging in a conversation or negotiation.
- Talk about the situation, not the child or yourself. Children often have radar for relational rationale. "Mommy just really needs you to get done eating so we can go to the store." As soon as it's about your need, somehow the strings are all pulled and the battle for power is on. (You've noticed that the teachers at school rarely see these delay tactics, nor a lot of attempt at negotiation.) Instead of making it about your needs or feelings, do what teachers do: state the next steps as facts. "It's time for …" or "This needs to happen," are more effective ways to phrase the request. It sounds a little less loving, but it's actually more loving when you avoid the emotional string-pulling. Your child can transition to the next thing without all the messy feelings in the way, which is a gift.
- Allow more time when you need to get ready to go. It may feel as if you're already depleted, time-wise, but 10 extra minutes in the morning can make all the difference. If you come across less rushed, your child picks that up and feels less rushed, which results in a more peaceful routine. Always anticipate "one more thing" that the child will need to do before leaving, and make a plan with the child that "it's only going to be one more thing, not 12." Thank him or her sincerely for smoothness whenever you see it.
- She's too lenient, he's too tough on him. I get it. Parents are wired differently when it comes to how to handle child behavior. I'd like to offer the too-lenient parent the idea that consistency helps the child feel secure, so please don't change your mind if you can help it. This involves asking for a few minutes to think about what should happen, rather than making snap decisions. Children can learn to let parents take their time to think! And for the too-strict parent, I offer that if you loosen your grip on how things should go, you'll see a more relaxed child, and a more relaxed child will oppose you less. Keep the "next steps" consistent, but allow small decisions on the child's part to acknowledge and honor his ability to make them. Bedtime is bedtime, but he can choose whether it's a race to brush teeth or a piggy-back ride, which side of the bed he'll sleep on, and which book to read. If one book is the limit, don't change it. That confuses the child about who's in charge, which is deadly for your routine. Simply refer to the previous decision: "We only have one book each night. Tomorrow we can read the other one." And don't waver because an open door causes your young experimenter (what happens when I …?) to never come to a clear conclusion. The experiment has to continue until a consistent answer is known, just like what adult scientists do in labs!
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What It's Like Coaching Parents
What It's Like Coaching Parents: Traveling Further Upstream
I often get the question, as do we all, "What do you do?" I realize now that people are asking, "What difference do you make?" or "What can you do for me?" So I thought I'd write about my life as a parent coach, to give you a window on what I can do for you, or those with whom you work.
It all started when my middle son proved to be a fabulous, smart, adorable boy who also gave me a run for my money. He asked a thousand questions each day, and often didn't like being told what to do. I found my way with him, stumbling often, but he grew up to become a wonderful person. (There's a ton of hope!)
I became a school psychologist, inspired to make school a pleasant, or at least not harmful, place for kids who struggle with learning disabilities, emotional/behavioral disturbance, ADHD, ODD, grief, autism, giftedness, and a variety of other situations. I had had a less-than-nurturing school experience as a kid, and was determined to change that for others. I kept thinking about what it would be like to be in school 7 hours a day, 5 days a week, and feel like you were always failing and not fitting in. It was that feeling that kept me going in behalf of kids, to make each day one where they were welcome and accepted.
Then it dawned on me: "If I could go upstream a bit more, and get to the adults who love and care for these kids, we wouldn't have to have so many evaluations for emotional/behavioral disturbance." Who better to do this work of bringing out the best in children than their own parents, who love them, have the most invested in them, and are there when the children need them the most? Inspired, I hung my shingle as a parent coach and prayed.
That was 2000, and now I have a story to tell! Each year since the beginning , I have had the enormously gratifying experience of helping parents look further upstream for the reasons behind their children's behavior, and help them understand how to create peace in their homes.
I went on to teach at my graduate school alma mater, UW-Stout, to train parent coaches through my own business, and then to certify coaches at Adler Graduate School, where I continued to develop more ideas for making parent coaching work the most effectively, to comfort the hearts of parents and children alike.
If your child is being defiant (usually it's pain being expressed) we'll explore the reasons, employ insight, adjust the interactions, and see the defiance melt away. When your child is oppositional, we'll uncovered the particulars (she needs more self-efficacy, and to be seen and heard) and watch as she blossoms into the loving kid she was meant to be. When he's acting depressed and withdrawn (often unexpressed grief), we'll help him grieve his losses directly, and witness miraculous recovery.
Yes, I think this is the best job in the world. There is simply nothing like helping parents to heal their own child.
To date, I've trained nearly 500 others to coach parents and have been privileged to watch them work their magic with families. I love my position as the Director of Family Engagement at Center for the Challenging Child/Anu Family Services, where the other coaches and I work with Treatment Foster Care parents, bio parents, and kin. These are the most hurt kids, who have been moved from home to home "because of their behavior" (read: unexpressed grief) and we're finding the same amazing results. Working with parents who are not in the child welfare realm has been profoundly satisfying, as well. How much job satisfaction can one person have, I ask you?
My heart is full, full, full as I reflect on this incredible journey from mom of an intense and wonderful kid, to a school psychologist, to college and grad school instructor, to parent coach and trainer. I can share this great news with people, offer hope they never dreamed of, and watch them create miracles in their own homes. Even thinking about the generational effect of coaching is fabulous … kids who grow up with Present Moment Parenting may just pass that legacy on to their children!
I've come to realize that it's never too late for any child to benefit from their parents' understanding of the upstream reasons for behavior, and ways to calm them. Yes, 17, 18, and 19-year-olds can experience healing through their parents' evolution. In fact I've coached parents of children in their 20's, 30's and beyond! The principles remain the same, the parent-child relationship continues to affect the child for years, and it can always be healed. What a concept!
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How Can I Tell if My Child Has Trauma Effects?
How Can I Tell if My Child Has Trauma Effects?
You hear a great deal about trauma in the news these days, and you wonder if your child is showing the signs of having been traumatized. It's often hard to tell if the trauma is having ongoing effects on your child or if it was even traumatic to him at all! Here are some examples of trauma and the signs of their effects:
The most traumatic event for a child is the death of, or removal from, a parent. Due to the internal imperative to survive, the child is biologically wired to connect with her parent, and if that connection is broken, even at birth, the signs of trauma can be seen. But not in every single case. Some children are adopted at birth or later, and never show signs of trauma. Some who are adopted at birth feel the separation deeply.
If the connection to the parent is broken by physical abuse on the part of the parent or other adult, the effects are also significant, and trauma signs are likely to be evident. Physical abuse is spanking, hitting, choking, restraining for long periods, burning, cutting, and more. It's hard to think that a parent would ever do such things to a child, but when a parent has mental illness or a chemical addiction, the urge to protect the child or avoid harming her is dampened or obliterated, and impulse control goes out the window. The child does nothing to provoke this, although the parent will insist that she does. It's the parent's lack of restraint that leads to physical abuse.
Similarly, sexual abuse will bring signs of trauma. Again, it's never the child's doing that brings on the abuse, but the parent will insist that he or she caused it somehow. It's very likely that the adult has deep pain which is causing the sexual abuse, and also that the adult has been abused as a child. This is why sexual abuse is so horrific. It makes a criminal out of the victim. Sexual abuse profoundly confuses loyalty to the adult with sexual involvement, and can have lifelong effects on the child's ability to form a healthy sexual relationship. There is no form of sexual interaction with a child that is OK. Hugging, kissing, massaging, and washing are all part of normal child raising, but touching of genitals for pleasure – either the child touching the adult or the adult touching the child, is abuse. Showing pornography to children or photographing them in sexual positions or without clothing is also sexual abuse.
Emotional/psychological abuse is particularly damaging to a child. The reason this type of abuse (which is also often present with physical and sexual abuse) is so hard to identify and treat is that there are no outward signs of the abuse. In fact, the way systems operate, the abuser is often not stopped, as the law depends on physical findings to prosecute. Emotional abuse, in the form of blaming children for everything that "goes wrong", accusing them of things they didn't do, playing mind games with them, calling them names such as stupid, filthy, unwanted (and worse) has more impact that physical abuse on the future mental health of the child. It's insidious, hidden where it cannot be healed, in far too many cases.
Neglect is also highly traumatizing for children. It conveys to the child that he or she is not worthy of parental care, which can go deep into the psychological landscape to create feelings of lack and low self-esteem. Physical neglect, emotional neglect, medical neglect, educational neglect, and exposure to violence are all types of trauma.
What are the signs that a child has had the trauma of abuse?
Children who have experienced trauma often have difficulty trusting others. When they look to their caregivers as infants or at any age, really, and they don't get their emotional and physical needs met, their brains undergo a change that involves not being able to trust. This is not a choice, it's a physiological response. Once the child touches that hot stove of connection that results in being abandoned, he or she is wired not to touch it again.
Other ways that trauma shows up are: decreased mental ability and memory, lack of "executive functioning" which means they have trouble remembering their homework, remembering to hand it in, organizing their rooms, backpacks or desks, and planning ahead. Constant anxiety is another sign of trauma, as are bed-wetting, lying, stealing, and emotional outbursts for no logical reason. Sensory sensitivities are also frequently seen in children with traumatic histories. Visual, auditory, smell, touch, and taste input is felt as 1,000 times stronger than for those without trauma. Another one is "interpersonal sensitivity" where a child is hyper-reactive to the presence of others. Sensory seeking can also be a sign of trauma, particularly with sexual abuse. These children are absolutely compelled to replay the sexual scene, all on an unconscious level.
The purpose of this article is to highlight the signs of trauma, often also referred to as "stuck grief" for all the missed nurturing the child has experienced. The next article will offer tips for helping the traumatized child overcome the effects of trauma.
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When Child Behavior is Scary
When Child Behavior is Scary
We have all had those moments when child behavior has frightened us as parents. They sometimes have no impulse control and give us heart attacks with their unexpected aggression toward their siblings. Or they may jump off a way-too-high surface, and cause us to react with loud warnings. They may drive the car too far from home, or have a close call on the freeway, leading us to wonder where we went wrong.
On this Halloween, let's acknowledge that being a parent can be scary for us at times. When my son was able to go into the world on a large scale, I found myself saying, "Don't tell me when you're about to climb that 17,000-foot mountain. Just tell me when you're back down." I felt like I had to protect my heart from his adventurousness.
Being afraid as a parent is normal. The world is so full of opportunities for our kids to "mess up" as my 4-year-old grandson says. Life is full of mistakes, and if we keep perspective, mistakes are seen as great teachers. Sometimes, yes, mistakes can have horrible outcomes, but if we stay focused there, we live a life of fear and anxiety. For some children, this fear gets absorbed, and they are more cautious and anxious than they need to be. Anxious children can act out, and become more scary to us as we worry over their next moves!
It's a fine balance for a parent – enough warning vs. enough freedom to explore.
"How much freedom should my toddler/pre-schooler/ primary grade/middle schooler/ teen have?" is a frequently asked question in my work as a parent coach. Knowing what's normal is not always natural, as we can have amnesia for being that age (and sometimes our normal was not so normal.)
Here are some tips for handling the typical fear that comes with parenting children:
- Practice mindfulness. Check in with your thoughts and ask yourself, "Is there really a danger here and now?" If so, act on it. If not, say to yourself, "There's no present danger, so I will let my child explore."
- Remind yourself that as much as you'd like to control their every move to keep them safe, children are their own persons. They have their natural, evolving urges as a normal part of child development, and you shouldn't try to take that away.
- Read up on normal child development. It's so important to know what's appropriate at every age so you can be on track with your expectations. Click here, and bookmark this site.
- Take a break from parenting whenever it seems reasonable. Plan for time to yourself at least once a month, so you can rejuvenate and come back to parenting feeling refreshed.
- Call for coaching if you need help in determining what's normal for your particular child, and how to respond. We're here to help! Click here.
Have a safe and happy Halloween!
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The School Year is Wearing Thin Already
The School Year is Wearing Thin Already
The school year is wearing thin already. We parent coaches usually see an up-tick in referrals from professionals and calls for help from parents at this time of year. Parents are distressed because homework struggles and/or behavior calls from school are increasing. The newness has worn off, and learning issues are coming to light. Children can't do their math, they bother their friends, they seem testy and disrespectful, and they are emotionally wrecked by the end of the day. Gifted kids are disrupting the classroom because they are being under-challenged. kids with undiscovered reading disabilities are losing their hope. Those with ADHD are remembering that it's more of the same every day … I can't focus enough to do what the others do, and I don't want to be different!
What can parents do to help in these situations? First, understand that if your child is losing interest in school this early in the year, it's important to
- Listen closely to what he's saying
- Avoid blaming him for being unmotivated.
If the issues persist week after week, asking the school for accommodations and/or testing is well within your rights and responsibility. If it's math, reading, or writing that's causing the issue, the evaluation team can try some strategies to help your child. Do not wait for a few more months to go by. If there's a true learning issue, the sooner you discover it, the better. If the strategies (i.e., fewer problems or items assigned, moving to the front of the room, or more time allotted for tests) don't seem to help, the team can decide that a formal learning evaluation should take place.This may involve:
1. the school psychologist (IQ/learning strengths and weaknesses testing)
2. the reading, writing or math specialist (grade level achievement testing)
3. the regular education classroom teacher
4. your input via surveys and conversation
5. music, gym, and art teachersIf your child shows that there's a significant grade-level lag in his or her abilities, special education can be provided for the Specific Learning Disability in the form of an Individualized Educational Plan, or IEP. The child will have programming, often in the regular classroom with the special education teacher co-teaching as a resource for special needs students. Or the child may be in the special education resource room for math, reading, or writing. Each school handles this according to their staffing configuration. If no learning disability is discovered, the child may be eligible for regular education accommodations that can support him or her. Many schools have supplemental reading programs, in particular, that can be of great help to your child.
If the problems at school are more focused on behavior and emotions, a similar path can be followed by the school staff. After a request from parents or a teacher, a team meets to discuss the issues, and then accommodations (i.e., moving to the front of the room, more breaks between activities, and extra guidance at transition times) are made. If there's not significant improvement, a special education evaluation can take place. The process involves classroom observation, questionnaires for parents, teachers and familiar adults in the community, and sometimes surveys completed by the child. The parents, the school psychologist, the regular classroom teacher, the social worker or counselor, and the Emotional-Behavioral Disability special ed teacher could all be involved. If the child is determined to be in need of special education in this area, the EBD teacher would write an IEP, and the parents would be invited to hear the details in a meeting. If the parents approve, the school can institute a regular program of support for the child, with contact with the EBD teacher, social worker, or counselor.
IEP's follow children from year to year in school, and are reviewed annually. Parents are considered part of the IEP team, and are invited to all annual meetings to learn the results of the tests, and to hear of, and contribute to, changes in the plan. If a need for an early IEP meeting becomes apparent, parents are included in it, too. Every three years, the special education team re-evaluates the child's learning disability to be certain that services are still required. Some children mature out of their need for extra support, so they can be "mainstreamed" fully in the regular education classroom.
Some other children have conditions that interfere with their learning, such as hearing or vision impairment, medical issues, or ADHD, that do not qualify them for special education, but require classroom accommodations. In this case, a 504 plan can be instituted. This is a regular education program by which the school team and parents make plans to assure success in school for children whose needs are not in the special education realm, but are still significant enough to require help. Read more about 504 plans here.
You may also hear your child talking about the classroom, lunchroom, bus, or gym being "too loud." She may say that she cannot concentrate in class because of certain smells. You might hear that your child is struggling because the lights in the room seem to be flickering. He may say that he cannot stand wearing jeans to school, but can only wear wind pants or sweats. These all point to sensory processing issues (sensory avoidant), which can understandably interfere with learning. Some children have sensory seeking tendencies, wherein they are always touching a wall, other children, the floor, or furniture. They often bump into others and have difficulty keeping their bodies in their own space. For some children, sensory avoidant and sensory seeking are both part of their landscape. Click here for information on Sensory Processing Disorder. These issues can be helped by Occupational Therapy, which is usually delivered outside the school setting, but is no less important than school-based services. OT's do provide services in school, but usually related to handwriting and other needs that are directly related to school performance. For more concentrated OT, ask your pediatrician for a recommendation, and start with requesting an evaluation from the OT.
Many children whose behaviors are found to be on the autism spectrum receive special education services in autism-specific programs. Evaluations at school and by medical professionals help to determine if autism is the issue. If you have a question about whether your child exhibits traits of autism, be sure to start the conversation early, as that will insure earlier intervention and more academic success for your child. Click here for the characteristics of autism in children.
It's possible to have sensory issues on their own, and it's also very common for children with autism to have sensory issues. If your child has sensory concerns, it's not necessary to assume autism, but it certainly warrants an investigation if some of the other characteristics are also present.
Auditory processing may also be an issue for your child. This is different from the processing disorder above, where it's hard for the child to receive auditory input. This auditory processing issue involves the inability to get the message from the teacher when he or she is speaking. If your child repeatedly says, "I just didn't hear him," or "I don't remember what she said," this may be your sign that auditory processing is the issue. For children with ADHD, who appear not to be "paying attention," you can assume that auditory processing is low. Think about how much of school is delivered auditorily, and it's no wonder kids with ADHD struggle.
It's also possible to be gifted and have a learning disability. Your child could exhibit "enormous capacity for novelty" and constant curiosity about topics way beyond the interests of her peers, and still struggle with math, reading, or writing. Do not be lulled into thinking your child is not gifted if one of these areas is not up to grade level. Ask for an evaluation to find out if your child is Twice Exceptional, meaning she's gifted and struggles with learning in one or more areas. Sometimes gifted children have autism characteristics, as well.
Giftedness is determined by IQ testing. If a child doesn't make the IQ cut-off for giftedness, the school district may consider the overall creativity, verbal adeptness, interest in advanced subjects, or advanced musical or art abilities to include the child in gifted programming. Many parents are reluctant to say, "My child may be gifted." Please, please respond if your child is showing signs of giftedness. These children often get overlooked and become discouraged in school, leading to behavior issues. They are vulnerable to depression and anxiety when their learning needs go unrecognized. School personnel who are not attuned to gifted characteristics may not recognize what is causing misbehavior or withdrawal, so it's up to parents to call attention to this issue, and ask for testing. Again, this is your right and your responsibility.
This can be a dizzying collection of information if you've never had to deal with it before. Do not blame yourself if you feel you should have addressed these issues earlier. You could only do what you knew how to do!
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This is Quick. Don't Praise Your Child.
This is Quick. Don't Praise Your Child.
I imagine you found that headline kind of odd. Isn't conventional parenting wisdom all about being positive? Sure it is, but one thing sticks out with being positive. Sometimes we overdo the positives to the point that children can't live their lives without looking to us for approval. And when we praise, we may fall into the comparison trap, creating kids who are anxious and perfectionistic all the time because they weren't the BEST at art or baseball or swimming or gymnastics or reading.
We all know kids who give new things one small try and give up. It's so frustrating as a parent, because we're supposed to encourage new things! When they don't even try, how are we supposed to do our job?
First, let go a little. Let your child experiment with success and failure. The best teacher is trying and not doing so well, so let her have that teacher. It's not a reflection on you if she fails and tries again, but she won't try again if you are monitoring her too closely. She deserves her space and autonomy in her learning world, so don't stand in the way.
Second, understand that she may be 5, and may not have done her gym or dance routine perfectly, but that's childhood. Allow it. Don't comment on it. Just let it be. Don't even say, "Did you have fun?" every single time. We are in danger of making "fun" a parental expectation, which takes the fun right out of it!
Third, an 11-year-old is not an 11-year-old is not an 11-year-old. They vary a LOT. So if you see others whose children are nimbly rock climbing at 11, absolutely resist the temptation to make sure yours does that, too. Instead appreciate who he actually is, and what he actually likes. He's not on this planet to make your parenting persona look good. Sorry, he's just not. You'll be a lot happier with your child if you just observe his strengths and encourage, even admire, them.
Fourth, watch what you say within earshot. It's vitally important to express any negative thoughts about your child where he doesn't hear them, IF your thoughts are a signal that you need an attitude adjustment. Don't include your child in that.
Fifth, instead of praise, which usually involves some type of comparison, offer heartfelt appreciation. "When you … I feel … because … " is a relationship-builder, not a corrective action. Kids can definitely feel the difference. And voila! With heartfelt appreciation, they have room to grow into their true selves! Everyone wins!
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Being Vulnerable as a Parent
Being Vulnerable as a Parent
Tina Feigal, MS, Ed. Copyright © 2016 Center for the Challenging Child
Maybe the last thing you ever thought a parent coach would tell you is "be vulnerable with your child." You've spent your whole adult life making sure your child knew who was boss, working hard to never let him take advantage of you. You thought if you did that, you would lose your authority and never get it back. Who wants to live with a child who thinks he's the boss of his parents? Wouldn't being vulnerable give him the wrong idea?
Dr. Brené Brown, a social work researcher, talks about "leaning into the discomfort" in her TED Talk on the power of vulnerability. She was NOT built to accept anything uncertain, and railed at the thought of it, as many of us would. You might ask, "What does leaning into the discomfort mean?"
Dr. Brown also talks about "connection" being the reason we're all here. And she says that shame is the manifestation of disconnection. Underlying this is "excruciating vulnerability." To truly connect we need to be vulnerable, she says.
After 6 years of listening to people's stories on shame, she wrote a book and published a theory, realizing that the people who have a strong sense of belonging believe they're worthy of it. Our fear that we're not worthy of connection is what causes disconnection, which leads to shame.
Dr. Brown says that "wholehearted people" live from a deep sense of worthiness and had a "sense of courage" in common. This courage is made up of telling who you are with your whole heart, the courage to be imperfect, compassion for self and others, connection as a result of authenticity, and fully embracing vulnerability. These courageous wholehearteds believe that what makes them vulnerable makes them beautiful. They say it's necessary to do something where there are no guarantees, i.e. willingness to invest in a relationship that may or may not work out. In the words of my dear friend Artem Kuznetsov, this describes "beautiful uncertainty."
To me there's nothing more beautiful nor more uncertain than raising a child. Without guarantees of any kind, we rush headlong into the most compelling, uncertain, vulnerable experience of love, usually without a map or compass. And then the children we love so intensely defy us. They develop their own will, they want what they want, and we feel utterly broad-sided after pouring so much of our hearts into their being. Where's the gratitude? Can't they tell how much we've cared?
Frankly, they can't. Because they're children. And it's completely understandable that parents start to want control, in order to protect themselves from the strong will of their child and the rejection of having your beloved, cherished offspring turn on you.
It's normal. Almost every parent experiences it, especially those with strong-willed children. So where's the redemption here? In vulnerability? Well, yes.
Children who attempt to run the show are often bright. They may be intellectually bright, interpersonally gifted, intrapersonally astute, highly creative and sensitive, or all of the above. And some average-ability children also attempt to run the show, depending on their own experiences as babies and toddlers. Whatever the reason, we feel the last thing we should do is become vulnerable with them. But really, it's important to do this.
How does it look to be vulnerable to your child? It means stepping off the "perfect, all-knowing adult" platform and getting down to your heart with your child. When you do this, he starts to realize that you're human, too, and a switch flips. He has less to resist when you become less rigid. Now the grace and light-heartedness for which most parents yearn can begin seeping into your relationship. Herein lies the benefit of "leaning in."
What do the words look like? Instead of saying, "I'm your dad and I mean business" when a child is acting out (usually because of a fear), it's more heart-centered to say, "I know. I had that fear when I was your age, too. Want me to tell you how I got past it? I used to pretend that the monsters under my bed had five eyes, so many that they couldn't focus well enough to see me." Here, the father has become a child again, this time for the purpose of connecting with his child. He's remembering his child-like self, allowing a little vulnerability, and adding a dash of humor to bring intimacy to the conversation.
Dr. Brown's mission to "control and predict" led her to the answer that the way to live is with vulnerability.
Letting go of the need to control and predict your child and building emotional intimacy is the hallmark of a strong relationship. You get there by being vulnerable, and you can't get there without it.
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Happy New Year! Now Put That Down!
Happy New Year! Now Put That Down!
Comedian Louie Anderson answers the question: What made you laugh in 2015?
A. I made myself laugh the most this year thinking I was so smart or right about something. I can't tell you how many times I searched for my glasses only to discover them right on my face, or thinking I've lost my iPhone or someone has stolen it only to discover that I was sitting on it or it was right there in my hand. Not to mention the keys in my hand, in the door lock or in the ignition of my car. "As plain as the nose on my face," I can hear my mom say.
Parents, can you relate? I know I find myself laughing about this often. The thing that strikes me most lately is that I am holding something, totally unaware, while I'm holding six other things, and suddenly I'm spilling or making a mess because I failed to put something down.
So in the New Year, let's all watch how much we're holding at once. When we are bombarded from all sides by children's requests, paying bills, doing laundry, buying food, making meals, going to the doctor, helping with homework, taking care of pets, cleaning the house (ha!) and attending to the needs of our work, ourselves and our mates, maybe we should think about putting something down, just for the moment. "Present Moment Parenting", we call it. It involves taking something up, yes, but also putting something down. Maybe putting several things down.
I'm not just talking just about physical "things" or tasks here, but also thoughts, distractions, and mind-wanderings. Children sense when parents are not present, and they tend to exploit the situation, as you are well aware. They also learn distraction from us. So if you've been complaining about your child not being able to focus, try taking a quick inventory of the times he or she has seen you in a distracted state (using the tablet, phone, or computer.) Maybe you'll see where distraction is being reinforced. And if you feel as if your child is demanding, again, take a look at how you interact with her, just to check whether she's learning a demanding, hurry-up, right-now sense of urgency from you.
This sense of urgency seems SO necessary in today's world, but it's time to rein it in for our mental and physical well-being. We actually can slow our thoughts down to a normal speed, even though it doesn't seem so. Consider this: at the end of the day, will it matter if you've had the average 50,000 thoughts or 20,000? Who will be counting? And what will you gain if you slow the thoughts down? Perhaps a bit of peace of mind, perhaps a slower, more connected relationship with your child or partner. Perhaps mindfulness and fewer health concerns.
I think yoga has enjoyed such popularity in the US and beyond in recent years because as humans, we realize the need to slow down is coming from our inner core. With all that goes on with a busy family, it's very easy to get caught up in quick, impersonal, even commanding interactions that erode our sense of peace. Let's learn to listen to our inner voices and say no to the constant "hurry up" of modern life. When we do, we give our children an enormous gift, for this present moment and beyond.
Happy New Year from all of us at the Center for the Challenging Child.
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Five Steps to Helping a Traumatized Child Regain Control
Five Steps to Helping a Traumatized Child Regain Control
Tina Feigal Copyright © 2015
If you are parenting or teaching a child who has experienced trauma, you know that every day feels like a struggle. This article is written to give you insight into the behaviors that are a direct result of the trauma, and ways to handle those behaviors. There is a compassionate way to approach a traumatized child, just the way we treat animals with compassion when we adopt them, not knowing what they have experienced in the past. Let's share this far and wide. Our children need our compassion. And they are all our children.
1. Understand that the cause of the behavior is often the effect of stored trauma, not the misbehavior of a cranky child. A traumatized child cannot regulate emotions by "making a better choice" any more than a caged lion can remain calm when someone comes at it with a spear. Having had trauma (neglect; emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse; hunger and inability to anticipate being fed; homelessness; loss of friends or family through separation, divorce, death, or incarceration; drug or alcohol abuse by a parent) changes the child's brain. It stays in fight-or-flight mode, even when there's no current threat. This is adaptive brain function, as the brain interprets it as assuring the child's survival. It's also difficult for adults who haven't seen the trauma in action to believe that misbehavior comes from the brain's over-responses to perceived threat. To help you remember, say to yourself, "This is trauma, not disrespect."
2. Help the child regulate. If it's safe to do so, give the child space; avoid approaching the child. After a period of quiet, ask "Would you like to keep crying (yelling) or would you like to calm down now?" Wait with a calm demeanor for the child to show signs of decreasing agitation. Model self-regulating techniques, such as sitting or lying down, breathing deeply, and using soothing self-talk. (I can calm my legs, I can calm my arms, I can calm my head, I can calm my hands, I can calm my feet.)
3. Identify true feelings. "If I guess how you're feeling, will you tell me if I'm right or wrong? I imagine you are frustrated (angry, sad) because you wanted to do your own thing right now, and we are asking you to join the class." Have the child draw the feelings on paper. This releases the child by helping the brain get the message, "I am seen. If I'm seen I will survive. I don't need to act out to be seen, because she just let me know my feelings are real and they are OK."
4. Provide opportunities for sensory calming or remove child from sensory overload. For example, apply deep pressure (weighted blanket, hugs, self-hugs, pressure on shoulders or legs) or other sensory calming techniques.
5. Check for hunger, thirst, fatigue and/or oncoming illness, and attend to these needs by providing food, drink, rest, or medical care.
Final note: It's important to remember that consequences do not work for traumatized children. Children who have experienced trauma are in disequilibrium as they have not had their basic needs met. They are experiencing fear for their very survival, and thus cannot attend to the needs of the environment. Their brains are in fight-or-flight, so the reasoning part of the brain is turned off, and planning ahead based on previous consequences is just not possible in this state. Instead of trying to "teach him a lesson", stick to the steps above. It will save time and frustration, and especially important, it will keep the situation from escalating, which only fuels the brain's over-response to perceived threat.
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Helping Keep Tabs on Kids' Phones
Helping Keep Tabs on Kids' Phones
Below is a list of apps that can be helpful monitoring your kids' phone location and usage.
1. Many wireless carriers have their own apps: (AT&T FamilyMap, Sprint Family Connector, Verizon FamilyBase and T-Mobile FamilyWhere)
2. Below are free or low cost apps:
-Life 360 is a location tracking app
-Time Away helps manage app usage and location tracking
-Mama Bear does location tracking and sends updates on types of social media usage and types of posts
-My Mobile Watchdog has parent controls including phone logs, read text messages on teen's phones, and location tracking. It can be used to block certain times of use, and block certain apps. It's not spyware in that the kid is aware they are being watched.
-Mobiflock's Mobile Guardian has similar controls to My Mobile Watchdog, with more ability for web filtering and content blocking
-Canary lets parents know if teens are using the phone in the car while driving, allows "geo- fencing" – areas the phone can/can't be used, and allows a phone curfew.
-Mobile Guardian includes web content filtering, application blocking, scheduling use, contacts management and contacts blocking, as well as a GPS tracking and geo-fencing
This should be very helpful as you work to keep your child safe!
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Hollywood Medium
Episode 213
This week's Hollywood Medium is a hodge-podge of four different clients who don't hear any earth-shattering news. Let's get started! We begin in Nashville, Tennessee, so Tyler can give a reading to Kacey Musgraves. Tyler has no idea who she is, but duh, you're in Nashville. Kacey hands over a pair of old-fashioned baby shoes as her object. The person coming through is a female who us referencing a piano. Wrong, Tyler! It's an organ, big difference. Anyway, it's Kacey's grandmother. Kacey tells a really long redneck story about her grandmother on a porch and I have to be woken up.
Tyler says her grandmother is snapping her fingers and referencing falling down in a house fire. Kacey explains she would like to know more about this house fire because Me-Maw had time to call 911 and report that her electric blanket was on fire, but didn't get out. Why? I'm going to go out on a limb here, but did she trip on her way out of the house fire? Yep! According to Tyler, G-ma wants the house to be rebuilt. Okay, G-Ma, please send Kacey a Grammy or the six numbers to the next lottery.
Back in LA, Tyler know his next client immediately. It's Ellen DeGeneres' wife. Ellen recommended Portia de Rossi meet with Tyler. Portia hands over two objects and Tyler starts doodling. A man is coming through and says his initials are R.O. Portia says her dad's name is Barry Rogers, which isn't R.O. but what do I know, I'm not the psychic. R.O. is acknowledging a quick heart attack. He is at peace with his passing and there was nothing anyone could to do to save him. Tyler asks, Who is Mandy?
Turns out, Mandy is Portia's real name before she changed her name from Amanda Rogers to Portia de Rossi. I mean if that's not proof he's with us, I don't know what else is. It's not like we can find that in a quick Google search. Dad wants Mandy to know he's proud of her improved self-image and happy she's gotten over that whole anorexia thing. Fun fact: Portia's dead dog is now in heaven with her dad. So it's true, All Dogs Go to Heaven. His final message is for Portia's mom, it's time to get on with her love life. She hasn't dated since he died when Portia was nine, and it's time.
But hold onto your hats, Tyler knows Portia's aunt, grandmother, and grandfather all died on the same day. Not the same year, mind you, but the same day. That's very spooky, regardless how you got that information. Tyler is thrilled to have met Portia de Rossi, however, I think I speak for everyone when I express my disappointment that Ellen wasn't in the other room listening in.
Up next is the actor and star of Mom, Allison Janney. Tyler has no clue who Allison is, so I guess he doesn't watch hit television shows, but Allison is so cool she doesn't mind. Tyler holds some photos and does his doodling. A man is coming through who is funny and shaking a Magic 8 ball. It's her brother Hal. Hi Hal! Tyler says that Hal is holding cards close to his chest which means he didn't like to talk about his feelings. Allison confirms that not only did Hal not like to talk about his feelings, he also was professional card player. How cool is Hal!
Hal is sending a blurry image of his mental state to Tyler and apologizing for his passing. This confuses Tyler. Alison tells him that Hal committed suicide. Tyler is like, Aha. Hal references his abuse of prescription medicine. Tyler explains the pills pushed Hal's depression to the brink. The good news is, Hal is at peace and not stuck in the pits of hell like were depicted in the movie, What Dreams May Come. The one where the pathways were people's faces.
But it's time for Hal to step aside so Tyler can talk to someone else. A young female who passed away before her time. Tyler mentions the two people eaves-dropping from the other room. He says this person has a connection to Allison's assistant and she passed away from cancer during the holidays. Allison's assistant, Alana, is crying in the back room. It was her sister who died, get this, while pregnant with twins. Is it okay to say at least she didn't die alone? Probably not. (Editor please remove.) The sister is referencing a bad dye job on Alana's hair. Alana laughs because she did botch her hair once. I mean what are the odds that a young woman would mess up her hair color? Then Alana cries because Tyler has the most touching message for her: her sister says thank you for holding her hand when she passed. Wow. Just wow.
Lastly on Tyler's reading to-do list is grand dame of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, Lisa Vanderpump. And of course, Tyler knows who she is. They meet at Pump so Lisa can promote anything and everything. Lisa says she's not a skeptic, per se, but she's not a believer. Look out, two people are trying to come through – this freaks Lisa out. Tyler starts to doodle and a male with an M is coming through. His name was Mark, but nobody called his that, everyone called him Stan. That's so weird, right? Because Mark is a much better name than Stan.
Anyway, Tyler says Mark/Stan had a rare affliction that typically doesn't affect someone so young, but this affliction is not named. Tyler says Mark/Stan timed his passing when no one was in the room. Lisa shares she nearly wrecked her car when she learned of his passing. Anyway, you know how some people can talk too much during their reading, give clues and information, Lisa is not one of those people.
Coming through next is a grandmotherly type person from her dad's side of the family. This grandmotherly type is actually a grandmother and says she was content with the duration of her life. Lisa thinks it's Nanny K and she lived to be a 100. Lisa confirms that she and Nanny K were extremely close. Tyler informs Lisa that Nanny K is with her now, but Lisa wants proof. Is she a butterfly? Is she a hummingbird? What form is Nanny K taking? Tyler tells Lisa she needs to open up and then Nanny K will come through stronger. This makes Lisa dab her eyes. Chin up, Lisa. At least Tyler's mom is thrilled to meet you.
That's it for this week. Tune in next time when we are there for Tyler Henry's reading of Johnny Weir, Nancy Grace and Stassi Schroeder and Kristen Doute.
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For the past 50 years, youth and underground subcultures have painstakingly cultivated their rebel image. In reality, however, all of them, including surfing, skateboarding, indie films, indie rock, DIY media, and electronic music, operated above ground and, with occasional exceptions, within the confines of established societal norms and accepted spaces.
Then you have the marijuana community, who did not establish themselves. Despite its illegality, these criminals took "reefer," (or "grass" or "pot") from the ghettos of black America and parlayed it into a global, multibillion dollar, quasi-legal business.
All the more impressively, they did so under the nose of government agencies, an indifferent mainstream media, and conventional farmers and distributors. Unlike other "glamour" industries, they operated in secret because publicity would position them as criminals and land them in jail.
As a result, their stories remain, for the most part, unwritten. Instead, popular portrayals of the weed world have largely been confined to thugs, stoners, and frat boys in films and tv shows such as Reefer Madness, Fast Times at Ridgemont Times, Pineapple Express, the Harold and Kumar movies, Cheech and Chong, Weeds, and Bates Motel, and in magazines such as High Times.
While there are undeniable truths to the stereotypes portrayed in movies like Pineapple Express, they come at the expense of the far more interesting farmers, geneticists, artists, mom and pop entrepreneurs, and activists who are slowly going public with their stories. This is where Primo comes in.
Now that they, like Primo, are going public with their stories, we can best appreciate their histories. We have been cultivating and hunting the best cannabis since way before 2017. We're not a corporate entity looking to milk our members, we're a cultural entity looking to build a community with a powerful voice.
In addition to other parties infiltrating music, movies, and the arts, we have literally rewritten the book on modern, urban agriculture. Primo is pursuing cures for every disease with an evangelical motive. And we, like others to, pour millions of dollars back into higher education and other social services in the form of taxes, job creation, and preventive medicine.


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Penn State Women's Lacrosse Alum Katie Guy Leads Canada To FIL World Cup Final
Penn State women's lacrosse alum Katie Guy captained Canada to its second straight FIL World Cup gold medal game against the U.S., which will take place Saturday at 10 a.m. at England's Surrey Sports Park.
The marquee event featuring 25 nations is held once every four years, and the 26-year-old Guy has already checked off her fourth appearance. The Whitby, Ontario, native graduated in 2013 with a degree in chemical engineering and is considered one of the sport's top defenders.
Team Captain @KG_cdg '13 has been instrumental in leading her team to the Gold Medal game on Saturday!
— Penn State Women's Lacrosse (@PennStateWLAX) July 21, 2017
Guy and the Canadians hope to avenge their 19-5 loss to the U.S. in the 2013 title game. Coincidentally, that contest was held in Oshawa, Canada, where Guy played club lacrosse for the Lady Blue Knights before attending Penn State.
The American squad features two current college players, one of whom is familiar to the Nittany Lions — USC goalie Gussie Johns and North Carolina midfielder Marie McCool. McCool helped the Tar Heels outlast Missy Doherty's bunch in the 2016 Final Four at Talen Energy Stadium in Chester, Pa. North Carolina would go on to win the national championship over Maryland.
Guy led Canada with four ground balls in its 8-6 overtime win over Australia to reach the World Cup final. She was also a key part of the bronze and silver-medal winning teams in 2009 and 2013, respectively.
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