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A Jewish-Christian struggle
It was a heartwarming, open hearted space and I was glad the students felt able to question us and engage in Shabbat along with us. The experience was overwhelmingly positive, as Jewish-Christian engagement almost always is. Of course we probed differences and struggles, but the quality of disagreement was a good one.
After sharing our shabbat worship with the group (or forcing it on them!) we were invited to join the group for their worship. Evening and morning prayers were brief and touching, and I was impressed at the abilities of these brand new ordinands who have only been studying part time for a few months. On Saturday afternoon, a longer prayer service took me somewhat by surprise.
I am always keen that folk don't feel the need to change their worship because I am present, however those wiser than I have suggested no harm would be done if we always consider how 'the other' might feel or hear things were they sitting in our services. That afternoon I was not offended, just fascinated to find myself straddling gulfs I had not expected to.
There were also incredibly moving elements to the service; a beautiful and evocative dance by a young pentacostal woman, something I had never experienced before in a worship context (although again the music was entirely about surrender to Jesus Christ, not reconciliation). The students also created a beautiful prayer space in which we were encouraged to think about places around the world in need of reconciliation, and having heard just before Shabbat about the desecration of a Crimean Reform synagogue, I appreciated this space greatly and it was held with great thought and dignity.
For the closing song, we all stood for a rendition of Chris Tomlin - Our God - I hadn't heard this one before. Many hymns hold fond memories of my childhood and school assemblies (Lord of the Dance aside!)This particular hymn, however, left me feeling that as a Jew, I am perhaps regarded with pity having not found the God of the song. If you listen, I wonder if your ears will hear what mine did (and if your own faith will change your hearing of it). While I suspect the congregation assumed that their God (of whom they sang) was my God, the water into wine part quickly established for me that it wasn't really my God they were singing about. And even if it were the same God, the triumphalism in the words 'Our God is greater, our God is stronger, God you are higher than any other' still struck a difficult chord for me as a Jew, and as a person engaged with Dharmic as well as Abrahamic faiths.
I also have to be honest - we too have liturgies (such as the Aleinu) that can seem triumphalist, even in some of the edited down Progressive versions, and down right anti-Christian in some older versions of it. But I also know many Jews struggle with texts like these, and change them, or, in the UK in particular, fail to engage with their real meaning at all because they are said in Hebrew. This hymn was a recently composed piece, and is part of a musical approach that I suspect draws many people in. Reflecting a few days later, I find myself wondering if these trainee clergy struggle with their liturgy as I know I and my colleagues continue to struggle with and even change our own? Were they more conscious of what they were singing when doing so next to me? Will that experience affect their service choices in the future?
I have attended Christian worship for many years in different contexts, from curiosity to friendship to dialogue. I have not had this experience before. Is liturgy changing? Have I been lucky in the services I have attended? Was I being over sensitive because 'A service of reconcilitation' meant something to me that it did not mean to those leading it?
I genuinely bear no ill will and came away from the weekend feeling positive about the content, the connections, and the conversations. Yet this remains a tricky part of Jewish-Christian relations, indeed of human relations; can we exist in our own faith, without it needing to be better than yours, stronger than yours, higher than any other?


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Aykan Erdemir
Aykan Erdemir
Professional Talks
"Building Bridges in Religious Freedom Advocacy" Keynote Lecture at the
16th Annual Religious Liberty Dinner
, Washington, DC. (22 May 2018)
"The Islamist Takeover of Turkish Media"
American Foreign Policy Council
Panel on "Digital Dictators: Media, Authoritarianism, and America's New Challenge," Washington, DC. (22 May 2018)
Turkey's Snap Elections: Erdogan's Gambit
Foundation for Defense of Democracies
, Washington, DC (8 May 2018)
"Islam, Democracy, and Dissent in the New Turkey" 8th Annual Conference on Turkey,
Middle East Institute
, Washington, DC. (4 December 2017)
"Studying Up the 'Helpers': The Turkish Political Elite's Instrumentalization of Displaced Syrians" 116th Annual Meeting of the
American Anthropological Association
, Washington, DC. (2 December 2017)
"The Limits of Incorporation: The Failure of Turkey's "Alevi Opening'" 51st Annual Meeting of the
Middle East Studies Association of North America
, Washington, DC. (19 November 2017)
U.S.-Turkish Relations in the Era of Erdogan's 'Hostage Diplomacy
Foundation for Defense of Democracies
, Washington, DC. (24 October 2017)
Arming the Kurds: Implications for U.S.-Turkish Relations
Foundation for Defense of Democracies
, Washington, DC. (7 June 2017)
"From Liability to Asset: Realizing Turkey's Potential"
, Washington, DC. (16 May 2017)
"Turkey after the Referendum: Stability or Turmoil?"
Bipartisan Policy Center
, Washington, DC. (17 April 2017)
"What is the Future of EU-Turkey Relations?"
Woodrow Wilson Center
, The Middle East Program Washington, DC (14 April 2017)
"The Historical Process of Alevi-Bektashi Culture"
Indiana University Bloomington
, Bloomington, IN. (13 April 2017)
The 'New Turkey' and its Discontents
Foundation for Defense of Democracies
, Washington, DC. (7 April 2017)
"Turkey's Transition to Presidentialism: From Populism to Authoritarianism" The Institute of Turkish Studies,
Georgetown University
, Washington, DC. (30 November 2016)
"Local Effects of Global Counterterrorism Policies"
The Next President's Fight Against Terror Conference
, Arizona State University's Sandra Day O'Connor College of Law, The McCain Institute for International Leadership, and the New America Foundation, Washington, DC. (19 October 2016)
"Unravelling the Turkish Coup" Global Forum, Edinburgh Political Union,
Edinburgh University
, Edinburgh, United Kingdom
"July 15 Coup Attempt and the Trajectory of Turkish Politics" School of Professional and Extended Studies,
American University
, Washington, DC. (22 September 2016)
"The Failed Coup and the Future of Turkey, the Region and U.S. Policy." Department of Political Science and International Studies,
Emmanuel College
, Boston, MA. (8 September 2016)
"Quo Vadis? The failed coup and the future of Turkey" Harvard Seminar on Turkey in the Modern World, Center for Middle Eastern Studies & Weatherhead Center for International Affairs,
Harvard University
, Cambridge, MA. (7 September 2016)
"Terrorism Generational Challenges: Political, Social, Economic, and Strategic Implications"
International Center for Terrorism Studies at Potomac Institute for Policy Studies
, Arlington, VA (29 August 2016)
"Turkey's Challenges and What It Means for U.S. Relations"
Stanford University's Hoover Institution
, Washington, DC. (11 August 2016)
"Turkey: Ramifications after the attempted coup"
Endowment for Middle East Truth
, Rayburn House, U.S. Congress, Washington, DC. (10 August 2016)
After the Failed Coup: Prospects for Turkish Stability and the U.S.-Turkey Alliance
Foundation for Defense of Democracies
, Washington, DC. (21 July 2016)
"Beyond National Unity: The Future of Pluralist Democracy in Turkey" Center for European Studies,
University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill
, Chapel Hill, NC. (30 August 2016)
"Imagining Religious Freedoms and Diversity Beyond the Halki Seminary"
The Greek Orthodox Metropolis of Chicago and The Archons of the Ecumenical Patriarchate
, Chicago, IL (2 June 2016)
"Turkey's One-Man Show: Erdoğan's Agenda After Davutoğlu"
Foundation for Defense of Democracies
, Washington, DC. (16 May 2016)
"Human Rights and Freedom of Religion or Belief in Turkey"
Norwegian Ambassadors to Southeast Europe Conference
, Istanbul (12 May 2016)
"Is there Space for Religious Minorities in Erdoğan's Turkey?"
Norwegian Parliament
, Oslo, Norway. (26 April 2016)
"The EU-Turkey Deal: The Importance of European Values"
D66 Convention
, Arnhem, the Netherlands (16 April 2016)
"Turkey's Authoritarian Turn" The Institute of Turkish Studies,
Georgetown University
, Washington, DC. (23 March 2016)
"Migration of Faith: Formations of Alevi Identity",
Marie Curie - The Integration of the Second Generation (TIES) Research Training Network Workshop
"All about (Turkish) Migrations and Identity", Kadir Has University, Istanbul. (26 February 2009)
"Museumification of Contested Religious Sites in Turkey: Accommodating, Incorporating, and Managing Diversity",
University of Johannesburg
, Faculty of Humanities, Johannesburg, South Africa. (11 February 2009). [with Tuğba Tanyeri-Erdemir]
"Islams and the 'Secular' State: Turkey through the Looking-Glass",
University of Johannesburg
, Faculty of Humanities, Johannesburg, South Africa (10 February 2009).
"Hidden in Plain Sight: Systematic Lapses in Perceptions of Structure and Features of Contested Religious Sites",
NSF Workshop on Antagonistic Tolerance: A Comparative Analysis of Competitive Sharing of Religious Sites
, University of Delhi, Delhi, India. (21 January 2009). [with Robert Hayden and Tuğba Tanyeri-Erdemir]
The Cultural (il)logics of International Justice: Alevi and Kurdish Strategies at the European Court of Human Rights",
International Conference on State and Democracy
, Belgrade University, Faculty of Political Science Belgrade, Serbia (28-29 November 2008).
"Antagonistic Tolerance: Competitive Sharing of Religious Sites in Bulgaria and Turkey",
University of Pittsburgh
, Department of Anthropology, Pittsburgh. [coauthored with Robert M. Hayden and Tuğba Tanyeri-Erdemir (3 October 2008).
"Immigrant Work Strategies and Social Rights: The Construction and Circulation of Myths", Keynote Lecture at the International Conference on
"Towards New Geographies of Migration: Transnational Spaces Immigrant Entrepreneurship and Development as Builders of Social and Spatial Organization in Europe"
, University of Bremen, Bremen (26-27 September 2008). [written with and presented by Ellie Vasta]
"Internationalization of Social Sciences and Humanities in Turkey ",
ESSHRA Working Conference on Internationalisation of Social Sciences and Humanities: How about the Developing Countries?
Middle East Technical University, Ankara (9-10 May 2008). [coauthored with Sencer Ayata]
"Shared and unshared challenges for social sciences and humanities and science policies",
GlobalSSH Working Conference on "The internationalisation of Social Sciences in a global comparative perspective - Challenges for SSH research and research policies: Regional perspectives, Competencies, Institutions"
, Paris, France (23-24 April 2008). [coauthored with Sencer Ayata]
"From Raindrops to Hailstones: Environments of Insecurity in the Case of Emigration from Turkey to London",
GLOMIG International Dissemination Conference: Global Migration: New Dynamics, Strategies, and Visions in the EU and its Neighborhood
, Middle East Technical University, Ankara (1 March 2008) [coauthored with Besim Can Zırh]
"Museumification of Contested Cultural Heritage Sites in Turkey: Accommodating, Incorporating, and Managing Diversity",
Lecture Series on Comparative Studies in History and Society, Koç University
, Istanbul (10 December 2007). [coauthored with Tuğba Tanyeri-Erdemir]
"State and Human Security in Global Migration",
African Junior Diplomats Training Programme, Turkish Ministry of Foreign Affairs
[TC Dışişleri Bakanlığı Afrikalı Genç Diplomatlar Eğitim Programı], Ankara (20 November 2007).
"Internationalization of Social Sciences and Humanities in Turkey"
GlobalSSH Working Conference on "The Internationalisation of Social Sciences"
, Beijing, China (14-15 November 2007). [coauthored with Sencer Ayata]
"Museumification of Contested Cultural Heritage Sites in Turkey: Accommodating, Incorporating, and Managing Diversity",
IX. Conference on European Culture
, Center of European Studies, University of Navarre, Pamplona, Spain (23-27 October 2007). [coauthored with Tuğba Tanyeri-Erdemir]
"Competitive Sharing of Religious Sites in Turkey",
International Workshop on Competitive Sharing of Religious Sites
, Middle East Technical University, Ankara (6-7 October 2007). [coauthored with Tuğba Tanyeri-Erdemir]
"Transnational Shiites and Shiite Transnationalisms: Differentiating and Desecuritizing Shiite Trasnationality",
10th Conference of the European Society for Central Asian Studies on Central Asia: Sharing Experiences and Prospects
, Middle East Technical University, Ankara (12-15 September 2007).
"Differentiating Irregularity and Solidarity: Immigrant work strategies among Turkish immigrants in London",
International Relations Department Seminar, Bilgi University
, Istanbul (14 May 2007).
"State and Human Security in Global Migration",
XII. International Junior Diplomats Training Programme
, Turkish Ministry of Foreign Affairs [TC Dışişleri Bakanlığı XII. Uluslararası Genç Diplomatlar Eğitim Programı], Ankara (April 17, 2007).
"What contribution can EU Research on Citizenship, Identity and Immigration make to the definition of a Common EU Immigration Policy?",
Citizenship and Identity in the European Union, National Research council (CNR)
, Rome, Italy (27 March 2007).
"Migration Policies and Integration in the European Union: Impacts on Society and Politics",
GLOMIG Second International Workshop on Migration to the European Union: challenges, rights and opportunities
, Oxford University, Oxford (23-24 February 2007). [coauthored with Helga Rittersberger-Tılıç and Mehmet Okyayuz]
"The Predicament of Culture: Turkey and the Knowledge Economy - Four take-home messages from a social anthropologist",
Knowledge Economy: Experiences of Finland and Strategies for Turkey Workshop
, Middle East Technical University, Ankara (21-22 November 2006).
"Immigrant work strategies and social rights: the construction and circulation of myths",
COMPAS Annual Conference, International Labour Migration: In Whose Interests
, Centre for Advanced Study in the Social Sciences, University of Oxford, Oxford (5-7 July 2006). [coauthored with Ellie Vasta]
"Immigrant Work Strategies among Turkish Immigrants in London: Differentiating Irregularity and Solidarity" presented at the
International Migration, Informal Labour and Community in Europe Conference
, Istanbul (1-2 Decemebr 2005) [with Ellie Vasta]
"Lahcis and Alevis: Religious Continuity, Disconnect, and Prospects" presented at the
European Society for Central Asian Studies 9th Conference on Central Asia: The Local, the Regional and the Global
, Krakow, Polonya (12-14 September 2005) [with Ali Yaman]
"Risking all: immigrant work strategies and irregularity" presented at the
COMPAS Annual Conference, Irregular Migration: Research, Policy and Practice
, Centre for Advanced Study in the Social Sciences, University of Oxford, Oxford (7-8 July 2005). [with Ellie Vasta]
"Glocal Neighbors Near and Far: Re-conceptualizing Neighborhood in the Era of Global Migration" presented at the
Fourth METU Conference on International Relations: Neighbourhood: Past, Present And Future
, Middle East Tehnical University, Ankara (30 June-2 July 2005). [with Besim Can Zırh and Cemre Erciyes]
"Hacıbektaş Festival Revisited: Performances, Embodiments and Displays at the Margins of Europe" presented at
"Performing Policy – Enacting Diversity", European Summer Carnivals in Comparative Perspective Colloquium
, Humboldt University, Berlin (13-15 May 2005).
"Politics of Alevi Sexuality in Turkish Sunni Cosmology" presented at the
Sexuality Studies in the Middle East Workshop
, Center for Middle Eastern Studies, Harvard University (7 May 2004).
"The Transformation of the Law of Foundations in Turkey" presented at the
Works in Progress Workshop at the Hauser Center for Nonprofit Organizations
, John F. Kennedy School of Government, Harvard University (26 April 2004).
"Islamic Nonprofits in Turkey: Reconfiguration of Alevi Belief and Practice" presented at the
102nd Annual Meeting of the American Anthropological Association
(AAA), Chicago (19-23 November 2003).
"Transformation of Alevi Collective Action in Turkey: a Contextual and Processual Analysis" presented at the
Works in Progress Workshop at the Hauser Center for Nonprofit Organizations
, John F. Kennedy School of Government, Harvard University (31 March 2003).
"A Critical Reassessment of Anthropological Approaches to the Study of Alevis" presented at the 36th Annual Meeting of the
Middle East Studies Association of North America
(MESA), Washington, D.C. (23-26 November 2002).
"Alternative Apocalyptic Narratives of the Alevi Religious Community in Turkey" presented at the
Seventh Annual Conference of the Center for Millennial Studies
, Boston University (2-5 November 2002).
"Alternative Modernities? 'Modern' Alevis and Alevi Alternatives" presented at the
"Local Modernities: Islamic Cultural Practices as Sites of Agency, Mediation, and Resistance" Graduate Symposium
, Massachusetts Institute of Technology (5 October 2002).
"The 'Eastern' Alevis and the 'Western' Elite in Istanbul" presented at the
Seventh Biennial Conference of the European Association of Social Anthropologists
, Copenhagen, Denmark (14-17 August 2002).
"The Predicament of Alevi Subjects at the Nexus of Supranational and National Sovereignties" presented at the
Fourth Annual Globalization Workshop Conference
, University of Chicago (3-4 May 2002).
"History as the Battlefield of Activism: Politics of Alevi Historiography in Turkey since 1980" presented at
History of Activism, History as Activism Conference
, Columbia University (5-6 April 2002).
"Turkish Citizens of African Descent: Suggestions for Further Research" presented at the
10th Annual Boston University Graduate Research Conference in African Studies
, African Studies Center, Boston University (22-23 March 2002).
"The Other's Sexuality as an Idée Fixe: Demarcating Religious Communities in Contemporary Turkish Culture" presented at the
Fixed Ideas Interdisciplinary Graduate Student Conference
, Harvard University, Barker Center (01-02 March 2002).
"Death of a Community: Alevi Predicament in 1990s Istanbul" presented at the
Boas/Benedict Graduate Student Conference
, Columbia University (23-24 March 2000).
Copyright © 2018 Aykan Erdemir - All Rights Reserved.

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Kindness and Teaching
Casey and Julie are without question the kindest people I know. And, as if that weren't enough, they're also excellent teachers.
I've had the privilege of working with Casey remotely for five plus years, and finally in December 2015 I had the chance to come to the Big Island and work directly with both him and Julie. I did an extended retreat at their beautiful Hilo center during a time of transition in my life; and without their steady presence and support, I wouldn't have been able to manage it with grace.
Casey helped me to clarify my essence, so that I could know what steps I needed to take to support myself going forward. And Julie made sure I followed up on those steps with gentle reminders. I learned how to do some basic visioning work with Julie, and got daily conversational lessons from Casey on topics that have been ongoing in our work since the start – release, non-judgment, strength, flowing in and out of relationships, and kindness, which is not a simple concept! He was always available for questions, and always patient with me as I tried to incorporate his answers. We also took breaks to swim in the amazing river nearby, and shared many healthy and delicious meals together.
Because what they offer is a PERSONAL Tao, the way Casey and Julie work with you might be completely different than my experience. But if you are fortunate enough to work with either or both of them, rest assured that you will get what you need. Both of them bring humor, wisdom, and a keen perception, balanced with patience and grace to help move you through the storm.
I miss them and the Island already. If you're ready to make some changes, Casey, Julie, and Pele (the powerful spirit of the Island) will oblige.


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June 28, 2012 -- As imaging gets crunched between government efforts to cut healthcare costs and a vacillating U.S. economy, it can be hard to determine the state of the radiology job market. Its future health, however, may depend more on public relations, according to an article in the July issue of the American Journal of Roentgenology.
A panel of nine radiologists discussed this topic and more during a roundtable discussion on the future of the radiology job market. The discussion was hosted by Dr. Howard Forman from Yale University and Dr. Marcia Javitt from the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences (AJR, July 2012, Vol. 199:1, pp. 127-132).
The market is currently in a supply-and-demand crunch, caused in part by the economic downturn of 2008, which may have reduced retirement fund value for senior radiologists and caused them to continue working longer, said Dr. Alexander Norbash of Boston University Medical Center. And groups have been faced with the challenge of balancing multiple payment reductions and trying to maintain income while also increasing the work performance of individual radiologists.
But is this trend something that should be extrapolated into the future? Not necessarily, according to Norbash.
"Personally, I am optimistic about radiology," he said. "The challenge we're facing is [not necessarily the amount of jobs available, but] our inability to fundamentally and eloquently verbalize the added value we bring to every single interaction. ... We have to be more specific in terms of demonstrating how beneficial we are to healthcare delivery systems, to referring physicians, and, most importantly, to our society's health."
Radiology is often characterized by wide swings between perceived oversupply and undersupply of radiologists, but the issue of declining reimbursements is real, according to Dr. Norman Beauchamp Jr. of the University of Washington. Yet the future also holds an increasing shift toward preventative care, to which radiologists can make a major contribution.
"If we look at the demographics, by 2030, it's estimated that 40% of the population will have some type of cardiovascular disease, 8 million more people will have coronary heart disease, and 4 million more will have strokes. Radiology will play a big role in the management of those diseases," Beauchamp said. "Reimbursement per study will probably go down, but I think in some ways that's a good thing. Specifically, the value of imaging is clearly there, but we do have to make it more affordable if we are to continue to be asked to contribute to patient care."
Increased efficiency is contributing to the downturn in the radiology job market, but there are also decreased expectations of radiologists and a lack of communication of radiologists' expertise to doctors in training, said Dr. Alan Kaye of Bridgeport Hospital in Westport, CT.
"Far fewer referring physicians come to look at images and review cases with us," he said. "Sometimes I have to threaten the surgical residents or the attendings that I will not render an interpretation of a CT study until we review the patient's clinical information and imaging findings together."
"If we shut the door so we can read a longer work list, we're not teaching our residents well," he continued. "This is becoming the culture of radiology -- to melt the stack and not do the consultations. This takes a lot less time to read the images, but it decreases job satisfaction and demand for new radiologists."
Radiologists also need to consider how other specialties will affect radiology and its future, according to Dr. Ellen Mendelson from Northwestern University.
"I think the answer is in creating a greater public face, both with other physicians and with our patients," Mendelson said. "I do think our future will be based on political activity and a certain amount of education."
Working on imaging safety and radiation dose reduction, having consistent imaging protocols across institutions, and delivering measurably high levels of care are ways for radiologists to demonstrate their worth in the healthcare enterprise, Norbash concluded.
"Evolution occurs when species are challenged," he said. "If we're challenged, this is a chance for us to improve. That's how we have to see the situation. That's how we have to see the circumstances. We have to take full advantage of these opportunities."


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I know it's hard to pick a winner, but do you think Susan Devoy might have been the least prepared and least competent Racist Relations Commissar since the ridiculous role was invented? On any issue on which she chooses to make a stand, she invariably takes the wrong one.
See, this is what we've been talking about: one of the biggest failures in recent decades has been the failure to fully welcome new people to new western countries into the values that made western cultures great.
Yet, in a bizarre parallel with the "safe spaces" on American campuses that students demand to avoid having to challenge their stunted young minds, Susan Devoy backs the Auckland Regional Migrant Services who intend to ensure that new people to our western country should not have to encounter Christmas, lest it offend many of the reasons they probably departed their last country of habitation.
A leading Auckland migrant settlement agency is avoiding the word Christmas and will instead be talking about 'happy holidays' and 'season's greetings.'
The Auckland Regional Migrant Services (ARMS) says it has taken the move so non-Christians and those who do not celebrate Christmas do not feel excluded [and] to be multiculturally sensitive …
As an inclusive organisation that respects and welcomes people from all backgrounds and faiths, we use terms such as 'festive', 'happy holidays' and 'seasons greetings'," said [a representative from the Auckland Regional Migrant Services].
"This is not new. We have been doing so for years. This year, for example, we have organised a festive multi-ethnic pot-luck lunch for all migrants and ethnic communities." …
Devoy, who is also the agency's patron, said references to Christmas were not banned at the agency but the terminology it used aimed at being inclusive.
"The lunch you refer to has always been called a festive lunch.
"The Auckland Regional Migrant Services works hard to include peoples from all faiths to work together in peace and diversity," Devoy said.
"Migrant Services uses language that will encompass and include everyone; it is not designed to exclude anyone."
Well, yes it does. It excludes those who value western culture, and might like to enjoy a Merry Christmas.
Think about it.
Why should westerners always be so backward about supporting the elements of western culture—one of the most important parts of which is that, unlike the primitive places so many have escaped, it is so inclusive, that it does invite everyone in? Yet if we westerners ourselves are busy bowing and scraping and apologising for all those things that are so importantly western–-and Christmas is one of things, for many more reasons than today's religious mythology—then why on earth should anyone seeing the craven cowardice think there's anything to really respect?
As Leighton Smith just argued (and on this we do agree), if there's any group that really should be out there promoting the superiority of western culture, then it's the very service that meets new immigrants to this western culture and helps them settle here.
This story tells you how poorly that point is understood and promoted, most lamentably by those most needing to understand it.
For them, [explains Walter Williams of a similar crowd] all cultures are morally equivalent and to deem otherwise is Eurocentrism. That's unbridled nonsense. Ask your multiculturalist: Is forcible female genital mutilation, as practiced in nearly 30 sub-Saharan Africa and Middle Eastern countries, a morally equivalent cultural value? Slavery is practiced in Sudan and Niger; is that a cultural equivalent? In most of the Middle East, there are numerous limits on women — such as prohibitions on driving, employment, voting and education. Under Islamic law, in some countries, female adulterers face death by stoning, and thieves face the punishment of having their hand severed. Are these cultural values morally equivalent, superior or inferior to those of the West?
Western values are superior to all others. Why? The greatest achievement of the West was the concept of individual rights. The Western transition from barbarism to civility didn't happen overnight. It emerged feebly — mainly in England, starting with the Magna Carta of 1215 — and took centuries to get where it is today.
One need not be a Westerner to hold Western values. A person can be Chinese, Japanese, Jewish, African or Arab and hold Western values. It's no accident that Western values of reason and individual rights have produced unprecedented health, life expectancy, wealth and comfort for the ordinary person.
This last point is so crucial I'll say it again: One need not be a Westerner to hold Western values. Western values are able to be embraced by anyone. They are inclusive, not exclusive. They are held by choice, not by race.
Memo to Dame Devoy: It's not about being white and racist—because (as George Reisman also thoroughly points out*), Western civilisation is not a product of race:
Once one recalls what Western civilisation is, the most important thing to realize about it is that it is open to everyone... The truth is that just as one does not have to be from France to like French-fried potatoes or from New York to like a New York steak, one does not have to have been born in Western Europe or be of West European descent to admire Western civilisation, or, indeed, even to help build it. Western civilisation is not a product of geography. Indeed, important elements of 'Western' civilisation did not even originate in the West. ''Western civilisation is not a product of geography. It is a body of knowledge and values. Any individual, any society, is potentially capable of adopting it and thereby becoming Westernised."
I once gave Tariana Turia the example of how western values are open to everyone: After talking with her I was off to a concert in which a piece of music written by a Russian was about to be played by a Chinese soloist, under a Peruvian conductor, in front of an orchestra containing Jews, Asians, Africans, Arabs and who knows what. Their race was irrelevant; their musicality wasn't. That's an example of western values in practice: they are open to anyone who wants to embrace them.
This is the real antidote to the ghettoisation of new immigrants, and the danger of that incubation turning into some of the disasters people see overseas. Overseas, they wonder why second- and third-generation immigrants especially sometimes see nothing to respect in the place of their birth and become ripe for plucking by bastards wholly unapologetic about their barbarity. But is that any wonder when so much of what they see around them is people apologising for everything about their place?
Memo to all of us: We should never be afraid to promote the superiority of western culture, and never feel we need to wring our hands for saying that. If we ever fear it, we might remind ourselves of Thomas Sowell's important observation that
Cultures are not museum-pieces. They are the working machinery of everyday life. Unlike objects of aesthetic contemplation, working machinery is judged by how well it works, compared to the alternatives. The judgment that matters it not the judgement of observers and theorists, but the judgement implicit in millions of individual decisions to retain or abandon particular cultural practices, decisions made by those who personally benefit or who personally pay the price of inefficiency and obsolescence. That price is not always paid in money but may range from inconveniences to death.
So, memo to the Auckland Regional Migrant Services: Merry Christmas.
May I recommend you pass that on to those the government has charged you to help.
* I thoroughly recommend a good reading of Reisman's essay in which he makes the argument most thoroughly: " Education & the Racist Road to Barbarism."
- Multiculturalism's Treachery – Olivia Pierson, NOT PC
- And, into that vacuum stepped Islam … – NOT PC
- After Paris: That's enough cultural appeasement; let's fight for the Enlightenment. – Brendan O'Neill, SPIKED
- Western leader says to defeat Jihadists the West must reject Islamist values – NOT PC
- Unity through Diversity Equals Cultural Death – Olivia Pierson, NOT PC
- Home-grown horror – NOT PC


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Tuesday, July 28, 2009
Things have a way of Working Out...
I will admit...I was scared to death when my cousin Emily came into my everyday life. She & her husband moved here a year ago so that he could go to school. She is a teacher, she loves kids...especially my kids. She's always been "every mother's DREAM babysitter"...the most responsible young adult I know...and suddenly here she was available & wanting to babysit my kids whenever I needed a sitter.
It scared me to death!
I believe that everything happens for a reason...(and this is going to sound crazy) but all I could think of was that she had come into my life like this because something was going to happen to me.
And something did.
From losing someone I loved...I got lost.
From gaining another little sister...I found my way back.
Being around this amazing person on a daily basis...I was reminded...of all the good things I loved about my life before I let stress & anxiety take over. Emily is a rare gem...she's simple, beautiful and loves with all her heart...you feel comfort just being around her.
Em is so special, I want to be just like her when I grow up! ;)
I love you, crazy girl!
Happy Tuesday!
(and that is NOT our beer in that first picture...Argh!...perfectly GOOD family picture tarnished...alcohol, you stink...bah!)
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I have told you many times you are very lucky to have Emily in you and your kids life. It's very hard to find someone that you love and trust with your kids. I so very wish we could find someone like her! She was great with my boys as well! I've looked and looked to find a good babysitter and I just have not found someone I trust my boys with, maybe some day I will! :)ReplyDelete
You lucky duck! I would kill to have an Emily in town! I am sooo picky and it's hard to find someone good! My husband has one cousin in town (who is like our Emily), however, she has a very busy social life so she usually isn't available when we need her!ReplyDelete
Sorry to hear about your post-traumatic stress syndrome. How scary. I am so glad you are feeling better though.
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The following passage originally appeared in a 1969 book of essays and such, under the heading American Labor and United States Foreign Policy, and cites Thomas Braden. More about Braden in a second, but if you are like me, when you saw that book title you thought "Wow! There's a book I'll never read." Indeed, I never did. I picked up this passage from The Politics of Heroin, by Alfred McCoy.
In the cited book, Ronald Radosh cites Braden, a CIA agent, as follows:
On the desk in front of me as I write these lines is a creased and faded yellow paper, It bears the following inscription in pencil:
"Received from Warren G. Haskins, $15,000 (signed) Norris A. Grambo."
I went in search of this paper on the day the newspapers disclosed the "scandal" of the Central Intelligence Agency's connection with America students and labor leaders. It was a wistful search, and when it ended I found myself feeling sad.
For I was Warren G. Haskins, Norris A. Grambo was Irving Brown, of the American Federation of Labor. The $15,000 was from the vaults of the CIA, and the yellow paper is the last memento I possess of a vast and secret operation…
It was my idea to give $15,000 to Irving Brown. He needed it to pay off his strong-arm squads in the Mediterranean Ports, so that American supplies could be uploaded against the opposition of Communist dock workers.
Historians who rely on declassified documents will be hard-pressed to understand what Braden is talking about, but it has to do with breaking a dock workers' strike in Marseille, France in the post-war years. Quite a few things were going on. The Corsican mob, with CIA assistance, was strong-arming communist workers* out of the unions, while Lucky Luciano, then living in Italy, was using laboratories in Marseilles to process heroin for shipment to the United States (the "French Connection"). The CIA assisted the Corsicans and Luciano in moving product stateside. The U.S. was also running arms shipments through Marseilles to assist the French in their battle to retain their colony in Vietnam.
In the meantime, CIA was busy infiltrating American labor unions and student organizations, trying to separate them from leftist influence. And, in a separate operation aptly known as "Mockingbird," CIA was busy infiltrating its people into American media. CIA Director William Colby would later say that the idea was to "Own everyone of any significance in the major media." No doubt they succeeded, as our American news media is a tame rabbit even as it is portrayed in movie and TV fare as a stalking tiger.
CIA were busy boys in those days! The reason this passage struck me was that anyone who was sentient in 1982 might remember a TV show on CNN called "Crossfire," and the opening words uttered five nights a week:
From the left, I'm Tom Braden."
Yeah, that Thomas Braden, speaking from the left no less!. Braden was obviously Mockingbirded into his seat on that show. (He was also a newspaper columnist, and the inspiration for the TV show "Eight is Enough.")
I call it full spectrum dominance. No matter your point of view in this country, if you get your news from the American media, you're a right winger. If you're "on the left," like Braden, you're just a righty of another color.
*Due to McCarthy era propaganda, which went on through 1990, the reader's assumption might be that the communist workers were part of the Internationale, and took orders from Moscow. Not true. It was merely an organizing force for labor.


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It crept up on us some time around the early 2000s—a growing recognition that P.F. Changs has little to do with "Chinese" food. Watered down Chinese? Perhaps. Chinese stylings for American taste buds? Certainly. Embarrasing? Definitely. But we're hardly alone in this international exercise in culinary cynicism. Take, for example, India's play on the theme. You can taste it at Rasraj (9252 Miramar Road).
At its base, Indo-Chinese cuisine is just the adaptation of Chinese flavors and techniques to Indian tastes. Created when Chinese migrants settled in Calcutta and adapted their food to local ingredients, Indo-Chinese food has since become an important part of the Indian culinary culture. One of the reasons for this is the ready adaptability of Chinese cuisine to vegetarianism, an important factor in the largely Hindu country. Rasraj, for example, is a vegetarian restaurant.
Perhaps the most famous Indo-Chinese dish is called "Gobi Manchurian" despite the fact it has absolutely nothing to do with Manchuria. It is, however, delicious. Cauliflower florets are dipped in a spiced corn flour batter and then deep fried before being sautéed with onion, chilies, garlic and other spices as well as no small amount of soy sauce and, believe it or not, ketchup. It feels vaguely Chinese, yes, but features the unmistakably rich and spiced flavors of India. It is addictive.
A lot of Rasraj's dishes bear familiar names: spring rolls, fried rice, Hakka noodles. Not all of them represent exactly what youíd expect from the name. The spring rolls—more along the lines of fried egg rolls—were well rolled, featuring a cabbage and carrot based filling. Crisp on the outside, tasty on the inside, they were competent if not excellent.
The fried rice, on the other hand, was a poor take on one of my favorite classes of Chinese dishes. The vegetables themselves—peas, cabbage, carrot and green onions—were decent, and the rice was competently cooked. But the dish as a whole was dreadfully under-seasoned.
Hakka noodles is Indo-style chow mein : cooked noodles with stir fried, sliced vegetables (green beans, cabbage, carrots, peppers, chilies, etc.) seasoned with salt, soy sauce, vinegar and a mild chili sauce (a chili, garlic, sugar and vinegar concoction). Hardly the best Asian noodle dish I've tasted it was easily the most "Chinese" of Rasraj's Indo-Chinese offerings.
Rasraj has many straight Indian options from up and down the sub-continent. But I couldn't resist the dosa , thin and crispy rolled pancakes made from a fermented batter of rice and black lentils. A cylindrically rolled pancake is served with a selection of sauces including sambar (a lentil based stew) and a variety of chutneys. While the Manchurian-stuffed dosa sounded better than it turned out to be, the "plain" version was full of texture as well as flavor, and ripping and dipping the thing was child-like fun.
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Our vision is to create a network of Pakistanis united in Christ, focused on better quality of life, fellowship and religious freedom for Christians in Pakistan and the UK.
Boring in Jaranwala begins. Many of you have been asking for a progress report on our Jaranwala water pump project and I am pleased to advise that the project is underway and we hope to have two of our pumps installed by the end of the week. Money for the project was given by a Christian charity who work mainly in Africa. They will be paying for Mehwish Bhatti to go on a trainers course so that further help can be provided to this carpet-making community through the set up of a 'Village Savings and Loan Scheme', entrepreneurial skills and start up assistance. Two houses have been selected after communal approval by local people. The proposed&nbs...Read More
Image of the BPCA pump we installed for gang-raped Christian teenagers Sherish and Farzana. We are very pleased to announce that the BPCA has received funds to build five water pumps for the deprived Christian community of Jaranwala. Many living in this community have suffered the ignominy of poor health and regular taunting because of the inability to wash properly and drink clean water. Poor Christians in this community earn around £600 per year and the boring of pumps would cost over a year's salary. No help has ever been provided to the Christians of this community despite it being the worst off community in the area....Read More
Sherish and Farzana by the newly installed pump that will vastly improve their standard of living. For more details on the two sisters please click here I cannot say I am shocked by the number of people misunderstanding the need for better bathroom facilities for Sherish and Farzana, but I can say I am disappointed that people have missed the purpose of our recent project. Sherish and Farzana were brutally raped after being abducted at gunpoint by three local Muslim boy's from their village. The three boys had constantly been pestering these girls, despite their staunch belief in chastity before marriage a concept that is described in no uncertain terms...Read More


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I took a taxi yesterday to my storage unit on Hanger Lane with the more valuable contents of my shed. I sat in the front next to the driver and it turned out that he was of Pakistani origin. This swiftly led us into a conversation about my recent trip to Pakistan. At the traffic lights near BBC TV Centre, he insisted on shaking my hand – "respect" for the fact that I had been to the Chitrali mountain range. He himself had been some ten years ago but on his recent trip to Lahore this summer, he hadn't made it past Murree. Too dangerous, man!
At the beginning of the summer, I needed a plan for August that would amuse me post-Widcombe Grange and before spending a week at Lakeside Road between tenants. Everywhere seemed too far, too hot or frankly, likely to be full of families away during the school hols. I needed to escape to somewhere a bit random… which is how I ended up choosing a Wild Frontiers trip to Pakistan. It was all very last minute and in fact, I only picked up my visa at 5pm on the evening before my 8.40am flight to Islamabad.
Some people definitely questioned my sanity ahead of the trip and many more after the fact. A few others simply rolled their eyes. I had to acquire some super-duper "non-FCO recommended country" travel insurance and added on some extra terrorist cover for good measure. It is important to note that the FCO only advise against all travel to four countries currently: Libya, Somalia, Syria (darn shame) & Yemen. Anyway, my trip was in the North West provinces of Pakistan, bordered mainly by Afghanistan so surely all would be fine J. On a more serious note, when a well respected travel company has their "signature trip" to Pakistan, I presume that they have the clients' safety under control.
The trip started well, arriving into Islamabad on time and the weather was hot, but not too hot. Our guide, Zafer, kept mentioning that he was monitoring our flight for the next morning. Today's flight to Chitral had left and the weather for tomorrow looked good. The daily 1 hour flight from Islamabad to Chitral is on a very small plane and gets cancelled not infrequently. All looked good on Saturday morning when we got up at 4am and after a light breakfast, headed to the airport for our 7am flight. We checked in our luggage and made our way to the departure gate. There were two planes on the tarmac and only one of them matched the description of our small plane for Chitral. It was a little upsetting when it took off for Gilgit…
It took until 7.30am before the departures board suddenly changed to show "cancelled" for our flight. Fortunately our minibus had stayed until the car park to wait until we had taken off and so by 7.50am we had collected our luggage and were setting off on the 12-ish hour journey to Ayun, near Chitral. As we were travelling during Ramadan and food can be hard to come by during daylight hours, Zafer stopped to pick up some snacks and fortuitously to make a set of photocopies of the list of our passport and visa details (4 Brits, 1 Canadian, 2 Aussies & 2 Americans).
We passed uneventfully through the Swat valley but then progress slowed when we had to stop at an army check point in the Dir province. Sitting opposite a Chitrali Scouts barracks, we waited for an hour whilst Zafer negotiated with the army to allow our passage. The army had decided that we lacked a "No Objection Certificate" (a relatively new invention). A few times, it seemed that Zafer had collected his document folder and was on his way back to the minibus when suddenly the army chief would suddenly call him back and he would sit down for some further discussions. A lot of phone calls were made.
Finally, it was agreed that we could continue and the army chief would call ahead to all the check points that we would pass over the coming week and inform them that we should be allowed swift passage. Unfortunately this message did not reach the next check point up the road. We enjoyed the questioning of an enthusiastic army officer who was concerned that we had been kidnapped by our guide and driver. I wonder if it was almost a disappointment that we hadn't and that boringly, we were exactly who we said we were – tourists.
The subsequent few hours passed in a blur, nibbling on almonds and biscuits and occasionally having to close the curtains on the minibus to avoid the attention of unwelcoming locals. Late afternoon, we arrived at the PTDC Hotel in Dir and were thrilled to be served tea and meet our jeep drivers (Mufti, Nasir and Daman) who had come from Chitral to collect us (a slightly longer journey than if we had arrived into Chitral airport). By 5pm, Liz, Ken and I were settling into our jeep with driver Nasir, looking forward to arriving at Old Masoud Fort in 3-4 hours time. The journey would take us up the Lowari pass and somewhere near the top, we would leave the Dir region and enter the Chitral area. As Nasir repeatedly said "Dir – bad people, Chitral – good people".
As we approached the Lowari pass, we requested permission to use the Lowari tunnel but we were refused on the grounds that it was too dangerous for foreigners. It is debatable whether this related to the potential of what could happen within the tunnel or simply due to the state of the road on the other side. We had no choice but to head up the pass itself at the onset of dusk. The problem was that since our drivers had driven over the pass at 1pm, there had been heavy rain causing many landslides… Our skilled jeep drivers handled these landslides with aplomb despite being bemused at how the road could have changed so much during such a short time. "No problem", Nasir would tell us with a grin.
Suddenly at 8pm, we met our match. "Problem", said Nasir, "Go back". Liz gave him all her snacks so that he could break Ramadan. We set off back down the mountain, my front seat affording me a great view of mountain pass, even in the pitch black. At the bottom of the pass, the army again refused us permission to travel through the tunnel but promised that they would allow us to travel through the following morning. Back to the PTDC at Dir then… As there was no mobile signal, they were not expecting us and the chef had gone home for the night. Rooms were found for us and our jeep drivers headed off to find us a "takeaway" which we devoured at 11.30pm.
We were granted a late start the next morning (and boy did we sleep well) and headed back to the pass. I don't think very many foreigners have travelled through the Lowari pass tunnel and definitely we were the first Wild Frontiers group to do so. It took a bit more negotiating but eventually we set off in convoy followed by a variety of Bedford trucks carrying live chickens. My jeep led the 30 minute drive through the dark wet tunnel. No Taliban jumped out along the way.
When we arrived at the other side, it was clear that we wouldn't be going anywhere any time soon. The heavy rains had washed the road into the dry river bed. Zafer was convinced that there was a route through for the jeeps but Mufti just laughed. In the end we left our main luggage with the jeeps and scrambled over to the other side. The jeeps would follow us later in the day once the army had restored some form of "road" over the river bed. The plan was to walk until some taxis could be found to take us the rest of the way. In the end, an enterprising minibus driver was found and he drove us to Ayun. With the state of the roads, this took another four hours: ouch. Old Masoud Fort could hardly have scored more highly as a picturesque destination. A cup of tea, late lunch and a hot shower later and all was well with the world again.
The journey may have been long but everyone remained pretty relaxed and in good humour throughout. Zafer remained calm at all times but as days at the office go, these were two fairly stressful ones! Those photocopies proved invaluable - every check point seemed to want one. You could even go so far as to say that this itinerary was an improvement on the original as it took us much deeper into Pakistan and gave us a better insight to the troubled regions.
That evening, a controversial announcement was made to Zafer. For the next five days, we would be supplied with a police escort to ensure that we were safe. This meant that wherever we went, we were accompanied by five police officers, including a local chief. All the Pakistanis we met were furious and convinced that this was officiousness. However, a little googling since I returned suggests that this has become standard since October 2010. The police joined us for the drive to the Kalash Valley and as we were in the front jeep, we were able to laugh at their inability to take the corners properly. Relations relaxed a lot once the chief of police discovered that he & Zafer were both Ismaili and from the Hunza Valley. Suddenly the police were all smiles and we could be trusted!
Whilst it was a little annoying have a continual police presence, they were generally charming and keen that we were enjoying out stay in Pakistan. When we trekked up to 3,800m (much of which was scrambling), they carried our rucksacks and waters and were always ready with a helping hand. Following our schedule did mean that they ended up doing a lot more exercise than normal! The negatives obviously are that when you visit a village, the locals associate the arrival of foreigners with police and also, you are never free to just wander. Our guesthouse owners were also obliged to provide lodgings and food for the policemen. Clearly if a police escort is to become standard practice, then it should be the tourists or the police covering the costs and not the local guesthouse owners. The times when the police put their flashing lights on to get us through traffic was mortifying and wholly unnecessary.
Where we ever in any danger? Probably not, but then I'm no foreign policy expert. In the Kalash Valley, we were a day and a half walk from the Afghan border but the locals didn't feel there was any issue. For the Pakistani authorities however, we were a potential PR disaster and so ultimately it is their decision.
The rest of the trip was fairly straightforward! We loved our three days in the Kalash Valley and the walks to the various villages & hardcore trek up to 3,800m. In our simple guesthouse, we chatted with the owner Saifullah and enjoyed mulberry gin instead of Kalash fruity wine (last year's grape harvest failed). I stayed in Michael Palin's "room" and if you'd like to know more about the Kalash then "Palin's Travels" provides a far more succinct description than I could achieve.
From the Kalash Valley, we travelled to Chitral, Mastuj, the Shandur Pass, Phander, Gilgit, the Hunza Valley (where we saw Rakaposhi and Ladyfinger), ending up at Shigar Fort after 14 hours of being bumped along jeep track. The people of the Kalash & Hunza Valleys shone out as the most welcoming. Elsewhere we were largely ignored. It was a long way from the continual waving in Africa earlier in the year. Our return flight to Islamabad from Skardu did leave on time which saved us a two day drive back to Islamabad. I'm not sure we'd have all managed the same sang-froid as we had at the beginning of the trip! Pakistan is a beautiful country with a lot to offer the tourist but I fear that it will be a while yet before it becomes a main stream destination again.
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· We advise against all but essential travel to the Kalesh Valley, the Bamoboret Valley and Arandu District to the south and west of Chitral in Khyber-Pakhtunkhwa. These areas have seen an increase in militant activity recently which has included abductions, violent armed robbery and murder.


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After graduating high school, I went directly to the Arizona School of Massage Therapy. Not only did they provide me an extreme amount of knowledge but they took the passion that I had since a child and developed that into something that I love today.
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Lao Tzu once said, "The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." Such an inspirational quote. For a few moments, I thought that my journey of 630 miles might have ended with one step…
It was my first day of walking. I wasn't even on the true path yet. I was leaving my first bed-and-breakfast on my way to start walking the actual path, when I slipped. On the wet stone steps. Word of warning: stone steps are slippery after a rain. My foot suddenly slid out from under me. Fortunately I caught myself before falling flat on my rucksack, utilizing the railing of the steps that was obviously strategically placed for me to finally use. Yet I felt a twinge in my right thigh. "Great," I thought. Eight months of planning for a three-month 630-mile walk gone in an instant. I hadn't even walked a foot yet on the South West Coast Path.
I really thought for a few moments that all the time that I spent figuring out an itinerary of how many miles per day I wanted to walk, reserving nearly 50 bed-and-breakfasts, buying guide books with maps and booklets with directions, carefully packing what I would need, would all possibly be for naught. I nearly cried, and felt my breathing get a bit erratic.
After looking around to make sure no one saw my embarrassing slip, I took a deep breath, and walked slowly and carefully down the rest of the steps and off the bed-and-breakfast property, testing out the thigh and seeing how it would react to walking. So far so good. I breathed a bit easier. I walked down the road, around a hair-pin turn and headed downhill, as I was instructed to do by the proprietors of the B&B in order to find the bronze monument of hands holding a map, marking the beginning of the South West Coast Path.
As it turns out, there were actually two hair-pin turns that I was supposed to be taking from this B&B, before heading downhill. I started pacing up and down the street a couple of times looking for where I should to be going, searching to see if I could see the monument below in the distance. "Great," I thought. I'm not even on the South West Coast Path yet, and I'm already lost.
Fortunately there was a couple sitting romantically on a little park bench, and I asked them politely. "Excuse me, can you please tell me where the beginning monument of the South West Coast Path is located?" They kindly advised me where to go, and with my right thigh seeming to be just fine, I found the monument!
It was official. I was there! I was really there! Months and months of planning. Weeks and weeks of looking forward to this day. Days and days of anticipation. Hours and hours of traveling to get here – as I literally just flew in that morning, went through passport control at the airport, was questioned as to why I would be in England for 89 days, took a train and then a bus, and checked into my bed-and-breakfast. Deciding I would like to walk to fend off the jet lag today, as originally I was not going to walk today, I was here. I was really here! In Minehead, England – the start of the South West Coast Path walk. Or the end of the walk if you walk in the opposite direction.
I had a photo shoot with the monument. Some photos of just the monument. Some photos with me after I asked someone passing by to kindly take my picture, as I was wearing my rucksack and holding the first of four Nationals Trail Guide books that I would be using for my walk. I took photos of different angles of the monument. Close-ups, far away shots. I took photos of the words faded on the ground saying, "South West Coast Path National Trail," complete with an arrow pointing me in the right direction, and an acorn, the important symbol of National Trails in England, including the South West Coast Path. I took photos of another sign showing me that I was even about to walk "part of the England Coast Path!"
Since my "home-base" for three nights was in Minehead, I returned to the monument a couple days later to take a few pictures with my purple shoes and the monument – the shoes that I would wear most of my walk.
When the photo shoot was complete for today, it was time. Time to walk. Time to start this path. This journey. This adventure. My right thigh was fortunately doing alright. Was I nervous? Was I excited? A bit of both at the moment. "Just put one foot in front of the other. And walk. Don't think." That's what I told myself. One step at a time. After all, the journey of 630 miles begins with one step.
I was off. At exactly 3:00 pm on Sunday the 4th of June, 2017, England time, I started my 630-mile walk along the South West Coast Path.
And then I was hungry…
Sweet Travels!


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Sunday, April 17, 2016
Great job by Melissa and Ilir
Thank you to everyone who made our exhibition fight event a success!
Formal thank yous still to come for all of the athletes, teams, volunteers and vendors.
For now, we are very proud to shout out our two warriors.
Melissa had an intense preparation and a "no complaints" attitude in training which helped her fight strong.
Ilir stepped in with a few hours notice to fill in for another athlete, and showed great composure and technique given the sudden circumstances. Good work and display of Muay Thai, YMTeam!
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Every ounce matters!
Every ounce that you have saved while packing your rucksack will help you in the wilderness. At 14000 feet, you don't want your shoulders being dragged down by unwanted weight.
I bought Wildcraft T Lite in 2012 from Delhi. 1990 grams in weight and too voluminous to be fitted inside the rucksack. While it performed exceptionally well all these years, I was desperately looking for a replacement.
Light weight and compact size were my topmost priorities.
That's where Wildcraft's D Lite scores big. It's light-weight. And compact. And obviously warm as well. The good folks at Wildcraft sent me D Lite for testing. Having used the old T Lite, I was bit susceptible about the performance of this little compact softball going by it's lighter weight but my worries were put to rest in a wintry October camp set at 10000 feet in Himachal Pradesh.
Weight: 1065 grams
Material: Polyester Shell and Lining
Temperature Rating: 10°-5° Celsius
Dimensions: 210cm L – 75 Head Width – 40 cm Foot Width
Compression Straps: Yes. Fold, wrap, and tighten with the compression straps.
Price: ₹2995/-
If you have a rucksack with separate compartment for your sleeping bag (like my Wildcraft Rodhas) D Lite will smoothly fit in.
Now coming to its performance, I pitched my tent besides a lake and at 10000 feet in a jungle to figure out how well the sleeping bag would perform. The head space has amply been modified and you don't have to pull the Velcro straps to keep your head falling out of the hood.
Secondly, the heat loss that was prominent in my old T Lite near feet area has been substantially reduced. It doesn't feel cold anymore when you wake up in the middle of the night.
I had to use warmees to keep my feet warm previously but this time, even without the outer lining of the tent installed, I was comfortable inside my sleeping bag during nights.
I would recommend this sleeping bag for summer treks of altitudes upto 4500 meters where you don't have to camp on snow. For snow camps, this sleeping bag won't do because then you would be subjected to low temperatures that has been marked as 'risk range' for D Lite. I think T Lite would perform good for such treks but I would rather try it out before passing any judgement on its performance.
Wildfcraft has also launched a refurbished T Lite, which is lighter than its old version by 925 grams (1990 vs 1370 grams) and is reasonably compact in size. However, as I couldn't lay my hands on that, I can't comment how well the newer one is going to perform.
The only problem that must be given a serious thought by Wildcraft is the quality of compression straps. Without compression straps, you will have a bulky-dangling mass of polyester shell ready to explode out of your rucksack.
At high altitudes, when you have to unpack and pack your sleeping bag inside a cramped tent, it's the compression straps that will bear the brunt of accumulated stress. Slight modification in the build quality of compression straps will surely make D Lite unbeatable in it's category for summer treks.
D-Lite is a winner hands down. I'm going to try it again for my upcoming Winter Trek expedition.
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New World Kitespeed Record, New Outright USA Record
Originally Posted at https://www.luderitz-speed.com/
Frenchman Alex Caizergues (F One) has broken the world kiteboarding speed record with an incredible time of 50.98 knots, breaking his previous world record of 50.57. Rob Douglas (Cabrinha) also set a new American outright speed sailing record with an equally impressive time of 50.95knots, just three one hundredths of a knot shy of Alex Caizergues. Many other competitors also recorded noteworthy times including Sebastian Cattelan (Solid) who completed a run of 49.51before falling foul of equipment problems. Christophe Prin-Guenon (F One) got 48.44, Jerome Bila (Genetrix) came in with 47.73.
Charlotte Consorti (F One) again led the ladies with a speed of 44.27 knots. Fast, but still a full knot short of Sjoukje Bredenkamp's outright record of 45.20 set last year.
Today the riders are heading again to the strip for another day of racing as the wind here in Lüderitz continues to be favorable. With two weeks still left in the competition, everything is still up for grabs, including the highly sought after world outright speed sailing record of 51.36 knots, set by the French Hydrofoil l'Hydoptère in September of this year.
LUDERITZ SPEED CHALLENGE RANKING DAY 3 – 14th of November
1 CATTELAN Sébastien 49.51
3 DOUGLAS Rob 50.95
4 CAIZERGUES Alex 50.98
5 TAUB Manu 46.85
6 BILA Jerome 47.73
7 HOCEINI Sylvain 45.91
8 NIEHAUS Taro 47.19
9 DOUGLAS James 47.7
10 MENOSSI Patrice 45.8
11 MARTIN Marc-Antoine 46.46
12 PRIVSEK Jernej 43.49
13 MASCAREL Geoffrey 44.99
14 RICHARD Maxime 39.97
15 Hall Mike 45.98
16 CAOUS Stéphane 43.91
17 BREDENKAMP Hennie 44.78
18 KLOREN Fred 44.62
19 METZGER Stefan 38.61
20 JOHANNPETER Felipe 36.32
21 AVELLA Marc 32.44
22 TURNER Tim 32.08
1 CONSORTI Charlotte 44.27
2 BREDENKAMP Sjoukje 43.26
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Lying to a child is only going to end badly. The truth always comes out. I don't give a rats what you and your DH and FOB decide. But do not lie to your child. I have donor conceived children and of course they know.
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I'm sure I'll be beaten with sticks but I struggle to buy all this. You've had an affair and got pg and your husband is pretty much fine with raising it as his own. Even if a man did accept the cheating and the child, surely there would be a gigantic blow up and contemplation.
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10-05-2017 08:10 #35
I think it's very kind of this man to be willing to accept this child as his own, but I think given the affair and marriage problems are so recent, they would have plenty of work to do before everything is good. And I don't agree with lying to the child and its siblings. The children are the only innocent parties in this story, they should be given the truth, or when the truth comes out there will be problems down the track.
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10-05-2017 08:18 #36
I spoke with my dp about this today before the kids where up. He said he would leave and take "kids" 50/50 and see you in court to split the rest up. No way in hell would and will he accept cheating and definately not another mans child. We are on the same terms with how a partnership should be treated.
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10-05-2017 08:21 #37
I am currently pregnant with a bub conceived using donor sperm. The clinics strongly recommended being open with these children to avoid issues later. I know some people choose not to but I really think a child has the right to know about themselves.
It's important to consider this child will/may have different genetic risks, different blood types to you and DH, be incompatible for bone marrow transplant. It's all to common for older children to find out about paternity because they became unwell. If the paternal side has a predisposition to certain illness it's neglectful in my opinion to ignore this at the detriment of a child.
Please also remember FOB has every right to show up on your doorstep and request visitation. Totally unlike a sperm donor who has willingly helped an infertile/single/same sex couple become parents.
I think it's a terrible situation to have put yourself in and 100% of the focus needs to be on protecting your current and potential future children from the backlash this will all cause.
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10-05-2017 08:43 #38
I won't speak to the affair and etc as that's already been done, but I can speak in terms of telling children the truth.
My eldest son isn't biologically my husbands. I was with an abusive ex who tossed me out the day I got the positive test. He spent the next few months stalking and harassing me before ultimately turning around and saying he wanted nothing to do with us and I haven't seen him since. He refused to sign the birth certificate (which caused me a world of problems in itself but we are so much better off).
I started dating my now husband while I was still pregnant. We hit a bit of turbulence around the time of birth but we were dating again by the time Bub was 4 months old. He has only ever known my husband to be dad. He calls him dad. But last year, my husband sat him aside and gave him (an age appropriate version of) the truth. Explained that another man put him inside my belly, but that man went away and daddy chose to take his place.
My sons siblings don't know. We figured it is our sons story, not ours, so he can choose when to tell them. They are all younger though, so it's not like they had to deal with a strange birth.
It was exceptionally hard letting my child find that out. I was so worried it would destroy his little heart, but he took it on board and hasn't asked about it. He doesn't treat his dad any different now and he gets treated the same as the other kids.
But my point is, I firmly believe that it's the child's story, they deserve to know. It's their choice what to do with that information but it's their information to know. It's their life.
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10-05-2017 08:47 #39
Whilst I do see why a story like this might be hard to believe for some, don't forget just because YOU find it hard to believe doesn't make it not true.
I can think of plenty of men and women who would forgive their partner of pretty much anything. I can think of plenty of men and women who would rather just raise a baby and pretend it's theirs and pretend like the cheating never happened than to walk away from their partner. Just because you and the people you know wouldn't do it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
Op, sounds like your husband is absolutely besotted with you and will forgive you of anything. I think you should make sure the biological father knows of the baby and leave that ball in his court. If he chooses to be involved obviously your child will know from early on that he has a different father, and you know what, that is ok. Plenty of men take on children that aren't there's, plenty of family's are blended. Yes the 'cheating' part makes it a little more tricky, but if your husband can truly forgive you for that then I don't see why you all can't make this work.
Good luck. Keep us posted on how you go telling FOB
I DO think that even if FOB doesn't want to be involved that at some point you do need to tell the child, as it will come out eventually, and they have a right to know.
ETA - I just read post above mine and completely agree with telling your child in an age appropriate way when they are old enough to understand.
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Oct 2nd, 2015 – Bayelsa Engineer Kills Self With Sniper Poison Over Unpaid Salary
Tragedy has befallen the Bayelsa State Water Board, following the decision of an engineer working with the board, Mr. Peter Ogiero, to commit suicide over 13-month unpaid salaries by the state government.
Ogiero, a middle-aged man, reportedly killed himself on Tuesday after waiting in vain for the Seriake Dickson's administration to fulfill its financial obligations to the board's employees.
the father of four, whose life depended on his salary, was said to have capitulated to frustration over his unpaid salaries and decided to end it all.
The deceased was said to be hypertensive and developed stroke about one year ago when he could not care for himself and his family members.
Following his economic woes, his wife abandoned him, took three of the children and fled to her village.
But his teenage son, Wilson, who depended solely on alms for survival stayed with Ogiero before he finally took his life.
"Ogiero's condition was pathetic. His death was tragic and painful. He took his life by drinking an insecticide called Sniper. He was so frustrated that he felt life and the government were unkind to him. He was hopeless and helpless," a source from the family, who spoke in confidence, said.
At Ogiero's residence in Okaka area of Yenagoa metropolis on Thursday, the deceased relations looked dejected, saying their late brother lived in penury and died a frustrated man.
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