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Great cycling islands for beaches - a few hills too!
There aren't many Gaelic words that have made made it into English but machair is one. It means land behind the beach. There are lots of beaches. Quiet stretches of sand deposited by countless Atlantic rollers. The fertility of the machair is due to a mixture of peat and windblown sand, peat is normally infertile due to poor drainage. In summer you will notice many wild flowers. The scenery in the Outer Hebrides is amongst the most beautiful in the world - the sea is very clear. On a sunny day when it covers the white sands of the west coast it has more colours of blue and green than you can imagine. The white colour of the sand is due to its high shell content (over 80%). The marine life includes dolphins, seals, sharks and whales. The Minch (between the Skye and the Outer Hebrides) is one of the best areas in Britain for whale watching. Seals are particularly common and will be seen sunning themselves all round the islands. Not surprisingly the Outer Hebrides are also famous for shellfish which thrive in the unpolluted waters.
The Outer Hebrides are also noteable for numerous lochs. Some of these are brackish and others are dark and acidic, water lillies are quite common and many have populations of trout and charr. Birds include dunlin, redshank, plover, lapwing and the islands are the last stronghold of the corncrake. Nearly every beach seems to have a population of sandpipers. The islands are formed on the oldest exposed rock in the world, Lewisian Gneiss. This is grey coloured with bands of white and dark minerals contorted by the pressure of the earth. These were formed over 3000 million years ago, similar rocks are found today in Canada to which this part of Scotland was once joined.
Harris Tweed is cloth that has been handwoven by the islanders of Lewis, Harris, Uist and Barra in their homes, using pure virgin wool that has been dyed and spun in the Outer Hebrides. This is the definition of Harris Tweed contained in the Harris Tweed Act of 1993 and it ensures that all cloth certified with the Harris Tweed Orb symbol complies with this definition and is genuine Harris Tweed, the world's only commercially produced handwoven tweed. For centuries the islanders of Lewis, Harris, Uist and Barra have woven the cloth: Clo Mhor in the original Gaelic- 'The big cloth'. As the Industrial Revolution reached Scotland, the mainland turned to mechanisation but the Outer Islands retained their traditional processes. Lewis and Harris had long been known for the excellence of the weaving done there, but up to the middle of the nineteenth century, the cloth was produced mainly for home use or for a local market. Nowadays of course it is exported all over the world. More of the cloth is in fact produced in Lewis but you can still see Harris tweed being woven in Harris on the west coast at Luskentyre - take the dead end road off to Luskentyre beach to get to them: Luskentyre Harris Tweed Co. tel: 01859 550261.
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If you are arriving in Barra from Oban you'll probably be cycling down the Cal-Mac gangplank around 8pm and the immediate need will be to find a bed. The tourist office (01871 810336) opens to meet the ferry but if you want an economical B&B it might be best to book first. There is an independent hostel in Castlebay: Dunard Hostel (01871 810443), it's two minutes cycle from the ferry terminal. There are several hotels, and shops in Castlebay.
Barra is quite hilly with sandy beaches on the west coast. Exploring on a bike would take a day, the best beach is at Tangasdale (Tangasdal). Cycle over to Vatersay on the causeway. This was built after the local bull drowned on his annual swim to impregnate the cows of Vatersay. When the time comes to go, take your bike on the council run car ferry from Eoligarry (Eolaigearraidh) to Eriskay (cycle north on the causeway to South Uist). http://www.w-isles.gov.uk/harbourmaster/barratimetable.htm or phone 01851 701702 for ferry times. It's also possible to travel from Castlebay (Barra) to Lochboisdale (South Uist) on the Caledonian MacBrayne ferry.


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Everyone knows they should save money to help pay for their future needs or wants, but not everyone knows the best or easiest ways to save. Here are a few ideas.
Some people retire on income from an employer-sponsored defined benefit pension plan. Employers that sponsor defined benefit pension plans are responsible for contributing enough to fund promised benefits.
It's that time of year — the time to ring out the old and ring in the new, to ditch bad habits and replace them with good ones. We can't guarantee you'll lose weight, or become a better human being, but we can give you some suggestions to help you whip your finances into shape. Here are some tips for the new year.
In almost every case, the answer is a resounding YES. Planning for a financially secure retirement is most often ranked as the number one reason why people save and invest. Social Security and company pension plans may provide some of the income you need during retirement, but contributions to your company retirement plan and your IRA may make the difference between enjoying the retirement lifestyle you want or relying on others for your basic needs. Contributions to retirement plans and IRAs move you closer to a financially secure retirement in three ways. You save and accumulate money. Having a portion of your wages deferred into your 401(k) or other retirement plan can be the simplest and least "painful" way to save. Often the amounts are not missed as you automatically adjust your spending accordingly. Contributions to an IRA also add up, especially over longer periods of time. Contributing $5,500 a year over 20 years will add up to over $202,000 with a 6 percent earnings rate. Your earnings are tax deferred. Earnings on funds within your retirement plan and IRA are not subject to income tax each year the way your other savings are. This means you have more money working for you. You will have to pay tax on the earnings when you withdraw the funds (except for a Roth IRA), but most people are in lower tax brackets when they retire. You reduce your current income taxes. The amount you defer into your 401(k) plan reduces your taxable wages and you pay less tax each year. For 2014, the limit on the amount you can tax-defer into your 401(k) is $17,500 unless you are age 50 or above and then it is even larger. Contributions to a regular IRA are deductible if you are not covered by an employer-sponsored plan or if your adjusted gross income is below $96,000 for 2014 (married filing jointly) or $60,000 (filing a single tax return). Contributions to a Roth IRA are not tax deductible, but distributions are tax-free. Saving for retirement in 401(k) plans and IRAs continues to make good financial sense.
The best way to prepare for retirement is to save, early and often. Generally, one should set aside 10 percent to 15 percent of one's income each year. If the habit takes hold early in one's career, a very meaningful nest egg should be the result.
You may want to be socially conscious and do the right thing, both in your own community and in the larger global community. Perhaps you are concerned about environmental issues or about opportunities for fair trade and human rights, or maybe you are passionate about protecting wildlife or promoting healthy diet and exercise for young people.
Whatever your area of interest and moral or ethical position, you may want to act in a way that is in accordance with your personal beliefs and convictions. But at the same time, you may be interested in making money in the stock market. Many see this as an irreconcilable conflict, but it doesn't have to be, thanks to many stock funds that have been created to specifically cater to the needs of people who want to play the market without compromising their own personal values.
Mutual funds are a great way to delve into the socially conscious side of Wall Street. These are not single stocks, but groups of stocks that are managed by trained professionals. When you buy a share in a mutual fund, you are essentially contributing funds to a mutual fund, and then the fund's manager will use that money to buy stocks that he or she thinks will do well and meet the goals of the mutual fund's investors. Because these funds value diversity of assets, they are somewhat protected from the risk of only owning shares of an isolated company. And these days there are many mutual fund companies that specialize in socially conscious investing.
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New Jersey American Water recently announced the winners of its "Tap For Tap" contest, in which New Jersey K-8 students wrote and performed original songs proclaiming the greatness of tap water. The entries in the contest were judged by how well the song lyrics and dance routien extolled the benefits of tap water.
You can see these videos and more at New Jersey American Water's Youtube Channel.
Conover Primary School
The students at Conover Primary School choreographed a dance routine that allowed the whole class to participate, with individual students coming up to deliver their own lyrics in between the chorus of "Tap water — T.A.P.!".
Madison Elementary
The students at Madison Elementary rapped about how "Water to drink, drink, drink, helps the brain think, think, think."
Jefferson School
The fifth-graders at Jefferson School sang "Tap water is good for your body, tap water gives me energy, tap water is good for your body, so drink some tap water for me" to the tune of "My bonnie lies over the ocean."


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Steampunk is an artistic and literary style that tends to take place in fictional alternate realities, typically Victorian era, or American Midwest, where high technologies are made possibility through the use of steam engines. For example, steam powered computers, steam powered tanks, steam powered mechas and steam powered arm-machine-guns are all possibilities, provided you don't ask too many questions or look TOO deeply into the physical possibilities. This results often times in a world that appears outwardly advanced, but is rife with corruption.
Steampunk was popularized in novels by preeminent writers, such as Jules Verne in his flagship masterpiece "30,000 League Under the Sea." It has inspired a number of spinoff genres, such as "dieselpunk" and "Cyberpunk" both of which take distopic influences from Verne's work.
No Final fantasy IV? That was influenced by steampunk too and is widely regarded as the more popular of the franchise.
steampunk didn't exist when ff IV came out. its a pretty modern movement.


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Atmospheric Carbon Dioxide Record from Shetland Islands, Scotland
L.P. Steele, P.B. Krummel and R.L. Langenfelds
Commonwealth Scientific and Industrial Research Organization (CSIRO),
Atmospheric Research,
Aspendale, Victoria, Australia, 3195
Period of Record
December 1992 - November 2003
Individual measurements have been obtained from flask air samples returned to the CSIRO GASLAB. Typical sample storage times range from days to weeks for some sites (e.g. Cape Grim, Aircraft over Tasmania and Bass Strait) to as much as one year for Macquarie Island and the Antarctic sites. Experiments carried out to test for changes in sample CO2 mixing ratio during storage have shown significant drifts in some flask types over test periods of several months to years (Cooper et al., 1999). Corrections derived from the test results are applied to network data according to flask type.
Samples were analysed by gas chromatography with flame ionization detection after methanization of CO2 to CH4. One Carle gas chromatograph, labeled "Carle-3" (C3) was used over the length of the record. Further details of CSIRO's global sampling network, sampling procedure, and analytical techniques are provided elsewhere (e.g., Francey et al., 1996); measurement uncertainty is discussed by Langenfelds et al. (2001).
Data are reported in the WMO CO2 Mole Fraction Scale. The link to this scale was established with nine 'primary' high-pressure cylinder standards of synthetic mixtures of CO2 and CO in "zero air" (hydrocarbon-free air) calibrated by NOAA/CMDL in 1992, with a subset recalibrated in 1994. The relative stability of the primary suite is monitored using frequent comparisons with about 15 long-lived secondary standards. The link to the international scale is monitored by a variety of on-going comparisons involving high-pressure cylinder standards (e.g., WMO Round Robins, IAEA CLASSIC, cylinder exchanges with NOAA, etc.), as well as 6-per-month flask-air-sharing comparisons of samples collected at Cape Grim. More detailed calibration information is given by Langenfelds et al. (2001).
These data represent monthly means, calculated as the mean of daily values from a smooth curve fit to the data using the curve-fitting routines described by Thoning et al. (1989).
Shetland Islands, Scotland
60°10' N, 01°10' W, 30m above MSL
These measurements indicate a rise in annual average atmospheric CO2 concentration from 356.89 parts per million by volume (ppmv) in 1993 to 372.34 ppmv in 2002, or an increase of 1.72 ppmv/year, on average. This average increase is somewhat higher than that shown in records extending back to 1992, reflecting a particularly small increase from 1992-1993.
- Cooper, L.N., L.P. Steele, R.L. Langenfelds, D.A. Spencer, and M.P. Lucarelli. 1999. Atmospheric methane, carbon dioxide, hydrogen, carbon monoxide and nitrous oxide from Cape Grim flask air samples analysed by gas chromatography. Baseline Atmospheric Program (Australia) 1996, edited by J.L. Gras, N. Derek, N.W. Tindale, and A.L. Dick, pp. 98-102, Bureau of Meteorology and CSIRO Atmospheric Research, Melbourne, Australia.
- Francey, R.J., L.P. Steele, R.L. Langenfelds, M.P. Lucarelli, C.E. Allison, D.J. Beardsmore, S.A. Coram, N. Derek, F.R. de Silva, D.M. Etheridge, P.J. Fraser, R.J. Henry, B. Turner, E.D. Welch, D.A. Spencer, and L.N. Cooper. 1996. Global Atmospheric Sampling Laboratory (GASLAB): supporting and extending the Cape Grim trace gas programs. Baseline Atmospheric Program (Australia) 1993, edited by R.J. Francey, A.L. Dick, and N. Derek, pp. 8-29, Bureau of Meteorology and CSIRO Division of Atmospheric Research, Melbourne, Australia.
- Francey, R.J., L.P. Steele, D.A. Spencer, R.L. Langenfelds, R.M. Law, P.B. Krummel, P.J. Fraser, D.M. Etheridge, N.Derek, S.A. Coram, L.N. Cooper, C.E. Allison, L.Porter and S.Baly. 2003. The CSIRO (Australia) measurement of greenhouse gases in the global atmosphere,report of the 11th WMO/IAEA Meeting of Experts on Carbon Dioxide Concentration and Related Tracer Measurement Techniques,Tokyo, Japan, September 2001, S.Toru and S.Kazuto (editors), World Meterological Organization Global Atmosphere Watch, 97-111.
- Langenfelds, R.L., L.P. Steele, C.E. Allison, and R.J. Francey. 2001. GASLAB Calibration Information, Internal Report, CSIRO Atmospheric Research, Aspendale, Australia.
- Thoning, K.W., P.P. Tans, and W.D. Komhyr. 1989. Atmospheric carbon dioxide at Mauna Loa Observatory, 2, Analysis of the NOAA/GMCC data, 1974 - 1985, J. Geophys. Res., 94, 8549-8565.
CITE AS: Steele, L. P., P. B. Krummel and R. L. Langenfelds. 2007. Atmospheric CO2 concentrations from sites in the CSIRO Atmospheric Research GASLAB air sampling network (August 2007 version). In Trends: A Compendium of Data on Global Change, Carbon Dioxide Information Analysis Center, Oak Ridge National Laboratory, U.S. Department of Energy, Oak Ridge, TN, U.S.A.
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Remember a couple weeks ago when some nutter strapped a bomb to a young Australian woman's neck? Well, they think they've got the guy, and he was in hiding in the boonies in Kentucky.
The FBI has arrested Paul "Doug" Peters, the Australian man who was the prime suspect in the captivating Collar Bomb Caper that took place on August 3. Wait, his nickname is "Doug"? Australians are supposed to have cool nicknames, like "Chippa" or "Bottle". "Doug" had been hiding out with his ex-wife in the small town of La Grange, Kentucky.
I've gotta say, this makes a lot of sense. I mean, if I were wanted for a major crime in Australia, where would I hide? I would think that a tiny town in rural America would be the last place anyone would look. Maybe I'd hide in a small Chilean village instead. I dunno. Regardless, Dougie went without a fight.
This has got to be some small bit of solace for the victim, Madeleine Pulver, and her family. Luke Moore, a detective superintendent for the New South Wales Police Force, told reporters that investigators are still trying to determine why the Pulver family was targeted. Really? You know this was an extortion plot, and you have a ballpark idea of what the Pulvers are worth, is this enigma really that hard to unravel? Douggieboy, who authorties believe fled Australia on August 8, will appear in a Louisville court today, and will likely be extradited. When you waste 10 hours of the bomb squad's time, things are not likely to go well for you. [Reuters via Yahoo! News]
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Happy 40th birthday, Sesame Street. Here's to 40 more years!
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Being in the Navy seems like the perfect time to be single. Sailors are young, many just out of high school. They're always traveling the world. Reaching a foreign port is one of the craziest parties imaginable.
The ship's crew — mostly male — gets obliterated and goes wild in an unfamiliar land with unfamiliar women. We'd get off the boat, feeling like celebrities with 50 to 100 cab drivers waiting for us, charging only $5 American to take us anywhere we pleased. I would be at a bar and see male shipmates with at least one Asian prostitute hanging on their arms.
"Six hundred baht," a pretty Thai girl would say. "Six hundred baht all night long."
Six hundred baht was about $20 American, so for a minimum ATM withdrawal a man could have his way with a woman all night. I was 20, from Chattanooga, Tennessee, and shocked to see officers and gentlemen French-kissing prostitutes and using those same lips on their wives and children a few months later. I loved being the one to call them out.
"Dude, why are you kissing her?" I'd ask a guy with his Thai rental. "Do you know where her mouth's been today? You really think she brushed her teeth?"
With a mouth like mine, it wasn't long before I discovered how the Navy gets back at those who dare to cross the lines.
What was bizarre to me when I first entered the Navy was how everyone was married, young and old. The oldest ones were usually on their second, third, and fourth marriages, but everyone was in love with someone. Sailors fell in love fast, married fast, and cheated fast. Divorce was not uncommon. Many sailors were married but never spoke of their spouses at all. In fact, you would never know they were married. When I finally looked at the pay charts, everything began to make sense.
Basic allowance for housing (BAH) is what members of the military receive if they have dependents, which includes nonmilitary spouses. It is tax-free money that provides couples with a place to live, along with the other comforts of home. Single sailors were forced to live on the ship. We slept in tiny beds where the mattress lifted up like a coffin lid and you stored your things inside, but the lids were heavy and could easily crush fingers or heads. It was bad enough that I worked long hours on the ship, but I lived there, too.
The ship was cold, uncomfortable, noisy, and had a musty stench that reminded me of my grandmother's moldy basement. I hated waking up in my coffin, unable to sit up, afraid to roll out because it was up high. Drowsy, I would jump down onto the cold hard deck, hoping that I'd land right. The constant echo of Navy terminology over the ship's intercom made sleeping in or napping nearly impossible. I still remember irritating announcements: Reveille, reveille! All hands heave out! Muster Duty Section on the quarterdeck! Ship life drove me crazy.
I missed the little things, such as sitting on a couch, sleeping in a real bed, or being able to walk barefoot in my kitchen while eating cereal in my pajamas. I was unhappy. The Navy was suffocating me. It seemed that everyone around me was falling in love, getting married, and soon had a home. In a moment of intense frustration, I called my friend Will, who had just been discharged.
Will wasn't a fan of the Navy either. He had developed severe insomnia and depression during his last deployment and separated from the service for medical reasons. Will and I were shipmates on the USS Higgins. We weren't close friends, but for my 19th birthday on May 28, 2004, I went to Rosarito with a group of friends, including Will. We had an odd love/hate relationship. I irritated him, he picked on me, but somehow we got along that way. We ended up getting extremely intoxicated and started making out on the beach. The next thing I knew, we were in the back of a truck being sent to jail. Our friends rescued us, and we had that memory of being locked up in Mexico together.
As far as the make-out session went, it was an odd, drunken one-time thing of being young, stupid, and new to the military. The fact that we had no chemistry beyond friendship was the reason I wanted to marry him. I knew that a marriage for money should be strictly platonic, and we kept it that way.
"We'll be roommates," I told Will. "I'll have a place off the ship to live, and you will live rent-free."
"You know, I might be down with that." Will's response was typical. He was tall, thin, with dark hair and drowsy eyes that never had an intense expression about anything. He came from a good home in Alabama and had a kind face and good heart, but this clashed with Will's twisted, cynical sense of humor.
"Okay, I'll do it," he said.
"Wow," I said. "Okay, I guess we're engaged." Sarcasm was my second language.
We giggled hysterically. We laughed about our marriage throughout its entire 31-month existence.
Kissing my husband on the lips was the most awkward thing I've ever done.
I was quivering — not out of passion or even love — but out of nervousness, thinking, "How am I going to pull this off?"
Will and I got married on January 5, 2005, the day before my first anniversary of joining the Navy. I wore a black blouse and a leopard skirt, trying to be especially tacky. Will was in a pair of casual jeans, flip-flops, sporting his new chin piercing. We stood facing each other. I looked at Will, unshaven and mellow. I was jumpy and rushed. Our clerk at the downtown courthouse, a short, stocky, middle-aged woman, smiled at us sweetly. But I could see in her eyes that she knew we were full of it.
I was grateful, though. She was giving me one fabulous wedding gift — an extra $1452 a month, tax-free, basically doubling my pay.
Will and I held hands, she began reading wedding vows. That was when tears streamed down my face. That's how hard I was laughing. The vows were brief, but not brief enough. I could barely contain myself by the time I stuttered, "I-I d-d-d-o!"
We kissed, a tight peck on the lips.
"No chemistry," I thought.
Will and I agreed on that one.
My face was flushed from laughter.
"I can't believe I married you," Will muttered, shaking his head.
As a little girl, I visualized my first wedding as a romantic experience, with me dressed in a beautiful white gown, reciting vows to the one I loved. I never would have imagined a 20-minute session for $100. Then again, I never would have imagined that my job would consist of outdoor labor in the scorching summer of the Persian Gulf. I sanded rust, chipped paint, and repainted a U.S. Navy ship, kneeling on the burning, rough deck. I ended a work day with paint and dirt under my nails, my uniform drenched in sweat.
I recalled the theme from the Navy recruiting commercials: "Accelerate your life."
Accelerate your life! Yeah, right! Those back-stabbers. What had I gotten myself into?
I shocked my family by joining the Navy. I shocked myself, but I was desperate. Born in South Carolina and raised in Tennessee, I was never a Southern girl at heart. I came from a great family, but something about me felt out of place. I was that typical teenage girl with problems: insecure, never cool enough, never pretty enough, anorexic at 12, and obsessively bulimic from 14 to 18.
I was an experimental young partier and vicious toward my sweet mother. I moved in with my boyfriend Jerry when I was 17, living in a house I called the "box in the middle of nowhere." It was in Sale Creek, Tennessee, surrounded by run-down trailers, mangy chow dogs, neighbors with missing teeth, and all the crystal meth you could snort. One morning, I awoke from my love spell to see that Jerry would never match my ambitions. My bulimia had become so bad that I was vomiting four times a day and bleeding from my ears. Something inside of me said, "Get out, Maggie. Get out of the box and leave everything, quick!"
I made my decision and never looked back. My recruiter was a big, husky African-American man who reminded me of a grizzly bear. I timidly walked into his office.
"Hey, you!" the big guy shouted. "You ready to join the Navy?"
He caught me off-guard.
"Well, yeah, but I need money first."
"No, you don't. The Navy pays you. You don't need nothin'!"
A month later, I was shipped off to Knoxville to take my military entry test and get every inch of my body poked and prodded to make sure I was ready. When it came to my job assignment, I wanted to be a Navy journalist. They told me no. I started to walk away.
"No. Wait!" A masculine, dark-haired woman with a stack of paperwork in her hands stopped me. "You can enter the Navy undesignated, without a job. Then you can choose later. You can wait a few months to be a journalist."
Eight months later, on my knees chipping paint, I remembered her lies.
That was just the first time I got screwed over by the Navy. Everybody has a story about getting screwed over, every one of us.
I endured boot camp in frigid, windy Great Lakes, Illinois. Four months after that, I was shipped to the USS Higgins in San Diego, a place with no Navy journalists aboard, where I would be doing what we called "slave work." I wanted out. I was broke and hard work meant nothing.
"If the government can utilize me, I can utilize the government," I decided.
My Navy honeymoon lasted 18 months, until I became a statistic in an unwinnable war. I'm not talking about Iraq. I'm talking about trading marriage for a decent paycheck. We didn't cheat the system, we used it. My pay went from $1384.30 (not including taxes) to $2836.30 a month, tax-free. This is not counting the extra $250 a month of family-separation pay when I was on deployment. Sure, I wasn't in love. It wasn't your typical marriage, but what marriage is? We were buddies, we communicated and shared. I supported him, and we got along much better than the majority of Navy couples that I have known. Life was much more comfortable for the both of us, and finally I had an escape from the ship and the coffin rack. I gained a little bit of sanity and lost a little stress.
But low-stress life never lasts long in the Navy. On September 12, 2006, I walked into the NCIS office and sat down with Darnita Brown. She was a young, attractive, pregnant African-American woman. She looked sweet, maternal, not intimidating — at first. We began talking about her baby and other casual things that women talk about. Then Brown told me that we were being recorded. I began to get nervous.
"Do you know why you're here?" she asked.
"No," I said. I had an idea, but I was in complete denial.
"You're being accused of committing fraud," she said. I was terrified. My body grew weak, and my hands began to shake. I wanted to run, cry, scream, and throw up, all at once. I was interrogated for several hours. According to the documents she gave me, I had the basic criminal rights. I could remain silent and end the interview, but a combination of the investigators telling me it would look bad on my record and my own fear made me do otherwise. I thought I could fake my way through it. I overestimated myself. I tried to tell a false story of my marriage, but lies have never been my greatest skill.
"Okay!" I blurted out. "I was never in a relationship with my husband. We did it so we'd have the money to get an apartment! I can't lie anymore. I can't play this game."
"You're not a good liar," Brown said, with a sympathetic smile.
I broke down in tears, feeling pathetic and weak. I spilled my guts about myself, my marriage, and my white-trash past. I was scared and naïve. I even answered overly personal questions, such as "Do you still believe that your marriage was legal when you never had sex with your husband?" I began telling them whatever they wanted to hear so I could escape that interrogation room.
"Girl, I'm not worried about you," Brown said, smiling again. "Yeah, you're in trouble. You're in big trouble. But look at how far you've come." She reminded me that I had my whole life ahead of me.
"From the path you were going, you should have been lying in a gutter somewhere, but here you are now, in the Navy and on track. You're going to be fine."
In a way, Darnita Brown broke me down and built me up. I can't say that I ever hated her or NCIS. We all had a job to do.
They took my mug shot, got my fingerprints, and said that I was a criminal for embezzling $31,025.10 with my "arranged marriage." For the next five months, I was under an extreme amount of stress. Before this, the most legal trouble I'd had was a speeding ticket. I developed migraines, and I became afraid of spending money. I hardly left my apartment. My old reality seemed like a distant memory. I felt backstabbed, unsure of who had begun this investigation. During those few months, I was constantly paranoid, jumping every time my phone rang. It seemed as if I was always being watched. I honestly felt that I had done nothing wrong. The only requirements for BAH were a valid marriage certificate and spousal support. I had all of that. I had everything.
I also had a raging resentment toward the Navy's hypocrisy. I thought about all the cheaters I saw on my ship. I remembered two officers that had been caught having sex during a deployment. Their only punishment was transfer to another command. Both were married with children. Both were supposed to be leaders, examples for the enlisted. I even worked for a guy who raped a college girl. She had medical evidence of anal tearing, but the Navy never pursued the case, supposedly because there was no evidence of forced sex. Yet they could prove that I never loved my husband. I didn't hurt anyone, lie to anyone, and I followed the rules. There were no requirements to feel a certain emotion for your spouse.
I wrote in my statement to NCIS, "We were two close friends who committed to a marriage that was not so much for romance but for convenience. I understand that our marriage was legal in the State of California but not appropriate for Navy standards. I did not believe that I was committing any type of fraud."
Suzanne Lachelier is the Navy lawyer who handled my case. She has since moved to Washington D.C. In mid-January I called her to say I was finally out of the military.
"Good!" she said. "I'm glad it all worked out for you."
She was assigned to my case after my interrogation. I was skeptical about her at first because she was a Navy lawyer. It didn't make sense for the same system prosecuting me to be defending me, too. But I quickly liked her and felt comfortable around her. A dirty blonde, fair-skinned woman in her early 30s, she represents what I strive to be: successful with a career. She's an intelligent woman, who searched the Navy's rules and regulations for ways to help me escape. It turned out that not everyone in the federal government was trying to screw me over.
She had dealt with two BAH fraud cases about ten years earlier, but both marriages had fake certificates. Mine was valid. Lachelier thought no one could be punished for marrying for a particular reason.
"I never thought the Navy would get into that," she said.
The military has never officially defined marriage. There are no written rules.
"If you had researched the Navy rules before you got married, it actually would have been more reason for you to get married for BAH," Lachelier said. "There were no rules to break."
She told me that my command initiated my case.
"Why do you think they were pushing so hard to prosecute me?" I asked.
"Well, you being a woman may have something to do with it, because most women are more emotional toward marriage. Also, you're outspoken and articulate. That can be intimidating, especially in the military. But I think it was mostly for moralistic purposes. They probably felt what you did was wrong and wanted your punishment to be an example to other military members."
The Navy will make an example of you when you mess up! I remembered officers constantly telling me that.
"They were trying to prosecute you for marrying for financial purposes, but they are the ones who are putting a price on marriage," Lachelier said.
Lachelier got my fraud charges dropped. I walked away with reduction in rank and had to pay a fine of about $4000, plus get lectured about committing fraud. My life was not ruined. Although my superiors did not treat me as if my charges were dropped, I left the Navy with an honorable discharge at the end of my enlistment.
With the war in Iraq, military members are faced with incredible stress. I witnessed a lot of broken marriages. I decided to speak with an expert on these problems: a Navy marriage counselor. I called the Fleet and Family Service Center. A man answered the phone in a friendly voice.
"Hi. I'm writing a paper on Navy marriages, and I was wondering if I could speak to a counselor."
"Sure!" he said enthusiastically. "I'm a marriage counselor. I could talk to you over the phone if you'd like."
His voice was warm, and I liked how cooperative he was. He provided me with great information. He told me that when military members have family issues, it can take concentration away from doing their jobs. He added that the majority of couples with marital problems are under the age of 24. Marriages are often rushed, because the military provides financial support and because it's more likely for spouses to be stationed close to one another.
Just as I expected, he said that the majority of marital issues come from infidelity. He also told me that couples usually get married primarily for the BAH.
Once we finished the interview, I mentioned that there was a possibility of having my paper published. I wanted to send him a copy to get his approval on everything.
His warm tone turned cold.
"You didn't tell me this was going to be published," he said.
Wait a second. I recognized that tone. It was the same tone I'd heard throughout my enlistment from men old enough to be my father but cold and suspicious. The message was, You're not one of us.
"I — I don't know if it's getting published," I said, shaken.
"You told me this was a school paper, not an article!"
"It is a school paper, for a journalism class."
He wasn't happy about that.
"What is your name, number, and email?"
I remember that too. Everywhere on base, if I broke some stupid rule I'd hear, "What's your name, shipmate?"
The last conversation I had with my grandfather before he died ended with an officer saying, "No talking on the phone in uniform, shipmate! Hang that up! What's your name?"
The marriage counselor didn't want the Fleet and Family Service Center to be misrepresented, which was not my intention. He insisted that he receive a copy of my story when it was finished.
I aim to please, so here's your copy, Uncle Sam!
But that counselor was right about a lot of things. Navy couples do rush into marriage, due to a combination of love, youth, getting orders close to each other, and BAH. Many other couples have a marriage without a relationship at all. A woman I'll call Kristy Austin, who didn't want her name used in order to protect her spouse, is a civilian who has been married to her friend for about a year. He is in the Navy.
"So, why did you marry him?" I asked.
"To help him out with money," she said. "He gives me $300 a month and keeps the rest. That's enough for me."
"What was it like saying wedding vows to him?"
"Uhh…" Austin smiled and giggled.
"Awkward, huh?"
"Yeah, very," she said, still smiling.
Austin says that she doesn't really think about being married. Her marriage is only a sheet of paper. She even has a boyfriend.
James Gerrardi (not his real name) also married for the BAH.
"You married one of your friends?" I asked.
"I wouldn't even consider her a friend," he said. "She was more of an acquaintance."
Gerrardi got married when he was an E2 (seaman apprentice) and gave his wife $400 a month.
"Do you regret getting married for those reasons?"
"No way. Not for a second," he responded without hesitation. "There is no way that any ethical or reasonable person raised in a middle-class household could be subjected to those living conditions and stay sane."
From our first day of boot camp, we are told that we have to set an example to others because we represent our country. We have to be more responsible, loyal, and stronger than our peers. We have to pave the way for our generation. Naturally, we are expected to have a higher level of morality.
Before deployment, my friends and I would try to predict who would cheat with whom. It was one big soap opera. Marriage seemed to be simply a sheet of paper, and the rules were, What happens on deployment, stays on deployment.
When I was accused of fraud, I took another look at myself. I went through with getting married to someone I had no intimacy with in order to collect money. I knew I was raised better than that. The numerous others I knew in these marriages were raised better as well. There was a time when I was ashamed to be in the Navy. I thought that all the men were lying cheaters and all the women were sluts. I laughed at the thought of marriage and love. I was bitter with the things I had witnessed and bitter with myself. I see things clearly now. Bad people are not in the military. The military brings out the bad in them.
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I'm confused. Was this the cover story or did I just read the roommate from hell?
As ex-Army, I always thought Barracks living was bad enough (musical-chair roommates, communal living, "Hey You" details, etc)... I almost feel kind of sorry for those on ships. Barracks may suck, but it doesn't drive as many to marriage (there's like a whole percent or two less guys getting married for Army BAH. maybe.)
I dunno. Still smells like fraud to me. Fraud is bad but the writer is correct in that she agreed the bad was already in her. It's just military conditions allowed it to flower.
Here's a radical thought; why not pay those in the military an actual living wage?
I realize one needn't pay extra for menial jobs. However, if those doing the lousy jobs are doing them away from their family, the G.I. bill is not enough of a "treat" to join. So pay a living wage and get on with it. Then fraud wouldn't be so attractive.
Excellent story depicting a reality that needs to be uncovered. We cannot allow for criticism to be absent from our lives just for the sake of institutions. It should be the other way around: Institutions modified to meet the demands and expectations of critical, engaged citizens...
I loved the mastery that puts together irony, fine prose and self in the sort of Journalism that inspires the reader.
Ironically, the Navy did help you to become a Journalist!
My congratulations to the Editors for having three great cover stories in a row.
Way to go Reader!
Maria Bolivar
Good story about how the military works in regards to marriage and how to "use the system". I am ex-Navy got out in late '87 after getting married for real (still married to the gal) I knew back then that Navy and marriage didn't go together. What I take exception to is the very last sentence of this story. Too much bitterness from the writer. You chose to join, your test must not have been high enough if you went in as a BM. What you left out of the article was what you did or did not do to try and get to be a JO, appears as if you gave up and became bitter because you did not get your way right away. The military does not bring out the bad in people they do through the choices they make.
Whogasa, I don't think it's fair to comment about the test scores not being high enough. Everyone knows how they try to eff you over regardless of your ASVAB scores. They tried to push me into an apprenticeship program until I was clued in by my cousin who was already in. Fortunately I hadn't shipped and was able to get into another program (computers) and now have a pretty decent career thanks to the Navy. However, they did try to screw me over as they try to do all the naïve young people trying to pull themselves out of (usually) poverty and the mid-west hell many of us grew up in. As with many people the military can bring out the best or worst in us. I had a decent 4 years on a carrier but you aren't expected to have a life and young sailor. The thing I think about is that I would accept money to take the family guy's watch or duty day. Was this any more wrong than what she did? The military frauds you and lies to you and then they expect you to not walk a fine line to help yourself? The lie to you to get you in and then give deserving people very crappy jobs and you only stay so you don't end up in the brig. I don't think what she did was fraud. People get married for many reasons and money is just one in the long list of things. The military has Article 134 (if memory serves me right) that is the catch-all for anything they think you've done wrong but they can't find anything in the previous 133. It's basically a way to get you on charges but not knowing what to charge you with. That's high standards?
Kudos to you, my dear!!!
As a military wife, who married for love (not money), I am aware of the attitude of What happens on deployment, stays on deployment. In addition to the dozens of births post-deployment, there are also dozens of divorces, caused infidelity of both civilians and service members. That is to say, that the military is not concerned with the how or why of a situation, but what it looks like to the public. As a USMC spouse, it seems like everything is classified information. If that is the case, my relationship is too. Stop focusing on my home, and pay attention to the so-called war....
I say BULL. This is a matter of ethics. The "everone else is doing it so why shouldn't I?" defense doesn't fly.
well, technically she didn't break any rules. who is anyone to say what she did was morally wrong? marriage is a legal thing and nobody can tell her why she has to get married. nobody said it had to be love. you can't make her feel an emotion. i myself was in the navy and i saw a lot of marriages, a ton of divorces, and nearly everyone cheated. the majority of the time, the driving force for people to get married was money. she called the navy right out. at least she didn't rape or cheat on anyone. so many horrible crimes are pushed under the rug and ingnored. sometimes the truth pisses people off. everything she said is real and happens all the time. those who haven't been what she's been through can't judge her until they've been through it as well. fantastic story! don't be so ignorant, people!
There are reasons that certain military things are supposed to remain unspoken.
Inability to keep things quiet is why women were not allowed in the military for so long, God forbid we end up with one as a president...
Navy Vet, 1987-1991, Honorably Discharged, PN3, USS Sacramento(AOE-1)
People get lied to about getting a rate all the time...it is called a good sales job by the recruiter...right, wrong or whatever, it is and always has been the DUTY of the prospective enlistee to find out what the real deal is before they sign...I had to get a waiver to join, but still got a PN "A" School.
"...... I came from a great family, but something about me felt out of place. I was that typical teenage girl with problems: insecure, never cool enough, never pretty enough, anorexic at 12, and obsessively bulimic from 14 to 18."
Sorry, I didn't know there was a typical teenage girl with problems.....everyone has problems.....obviously, the reader thought that she was pretty enough to put on the cover(repulse me a bit, tho)
I spent 9 months a year on average away from homeport, so offbase housing would not really have been an option...but if it was, I would have been grateful....Out of 12 guys in my office, two were married, from beginning of tour of duty until the end...and I thought they were pretty average.
This young lady is not a very good writer...I responded to this because it is fairly insulting to the U.S. Navy to blame your problems on them...they are your problems...the Navy did not cause them...find something in your life you do well, "Maggie", and try not to allow blame for the things that you do/did wrong.
AD NAUSEUM. It is a disgrace that this would get published, let alone get a cover story. The piece is whiny, and (at best) show cases her caliber as a sordid opportunistic person in uniform. Many military marriages fail; however, the author was never in a legitimate marriage, so she could never understand the pressures that exist in that situation. She complains about the Navy not paying her enough, however she fails to mention that she would have been compensated had she MADE RANK. Rank has its privileges, single BAH (one that doesn't require a marriage)is one of them. Don't blame the Navy for your lack of information at the time of enlistment. Don't blame the Navy for your lack of discipline and the fact YOU COULDN'T CUT IT in the military. Don't be upset that you got caught. Had you pulled this stunt at any other job you would have been charged with FRAUD ( a felony in most cases). I can go on and on. Thanks "MAGGIE" for perpetuating the myths that the good people in the military work hard to counteract. They already are faced with a severe antiwar sentiment, and to top it off, people out there think they give their lives in Service simply because they are too STUPID to do anything else.
As author Stephen King recently put it: "I don't want to sound like an ad, a public service ad on TV, but the fact is if you can read, you can walk into a job later on. If you don't, then you've got, the Army, Iraq, I don't know, something like that. It's, it's not as bright. So, that's my little commercial for that."
To add insult to injury, it is also very poorly written. Go figure.
It's interesting that no one has picked up on the idea that the government puts a price on marriage (and discriminates against single people) by paying married military personnel more than single personnel. At what other government agency does a married woman make more than a single woman, just because she's married? At what company does a married man make more than a single man, just because he's married?
The government should get out of the business of valuing a marriage. Just pay all personnel the same wage, by rank and years in service. Of course, you won't see many married military personnel or spouses arguing for this point...The benefits are sometimes even more insidious than BAH: many married military personnel are easily allowed to use the excuse of familial obligations (school play, kid's t-ball game, wife's girls' night out) to regularly skirt out of work early, to avoid week-end watches that are too frequently dumped on single people, etc...
Good story Maggie. And it IS well written. After all, it must be a good story if it has so many people talking. Ignore the resentful tone of some of the comments, and keep plugging away.
Plenty of people have, in the past and present, gotten married for financial reasons. Some don't marry similarly out of financial concerns. Divorce too. Marriage to the government is a legal contract. They entered into such a contract and it should have been respected by the military. Marriage as an emotional and procreative bond is for the churches and similar, which have zero standing in government and military affairs. Yes, they took advantage of the system but so do many taxpayers who choose to either file separately or jointly based on the bottom line.
Fun article to read thanks for the entertainment. Brought back memories when I was on the Constellation (aircraft carrier) when Vietnam started in 64. Was in a squadron from Miramar. I made $99/month (about .13/hour) lol, which didn't include flight deck pay or hazardous duty pay because there wasn't enough alloted for everyone. Worked 12-16 hour days for months at a time (no such thing as Saturday or Sunday). I was in charge of a secret project that saved lives of pilots and rio's. I was in trouble constantly until I got involved with this project. Totally loved it and willingly worked many long hours. Pardon my long rant. Just wanted to say the Navy can and has sucked although I was more responsible then I liked to admit. Much bad with even more good.
Maggie my Love, A wonderfully vivacious & violently vivid story, but what else would I expect? : )I love and respect your honesty but even more your selflessness to engross us readers. Thanks love, JG-VW
whogasa - You know if you would have read and understood what this young lady wrote about you would of understood that no matter what she came into the military as, you would known that she a very smart young lady and great writer, better than you and all the mistakes that you made within your "negative" feedback. A lot of the young men and women that are joining our service are not represented properly by their recruiters and just place somewhere within the military un-designated and so they are sent to the flight deck and do "BM" work. Besides, there is nothing wrong with being a BM, there are a lot of good men and women that are in that field and without them, who would do the work, what would we call them? Get your facts straight next time before you go putting people down and get a clue!
smela07 - Very good point of view. I think that your idea would solve a lot of the people getting married for the wrong reasons. I agree that people should be financially set before they get themselves into a marriage, but it is that extra BAH money that tempts a lot of the young people out there today. Your idea would take that out of the equation and I bet that we would see less people getting married and we would see people concentrating on what is more important, like getting promoted. Doing it the way that we are now gives people in the service the easy way out to earn extra money. Great idea, you should send it to a congressman to take back to congress.
kohai 99 and socalsocalsocal, Wow, if she is such a bad writer, well, it's funny how you to read the whole thing so thoroughly and then went through the effort of signing on to the San Diego Reader and writing what are practically essays in criticism. You really put forth time an effort for an article being so "poorly written". Usually when Ifind a poorly written article, I don't have the desire to read it all, much less comment on it. I bet you cheating old men men hate the attention!
check this out: http://www.cnn.com/2008/US/05/09/admiral.affair/index.html?eref=rss_topstories surprise surprise.. The Navy is full of it.
How can they justify essentially doubling a seaman's pay on the merit of ONLY being married? What about all the other honest single sailors? The Navy's system was meant to be played with if they implemented such a biased pay system. Seriously how is one expected to live on the ship in their homeport when it is their day off.
i'm choosing to comment on my own story because miketango obviously knew me personally.i want to set things straight for my readers. 1. i didn't mention my shore command because my marriage took place on the higgins. my story behind my marriage lies w/ the higgins. i didn't go into transferring to my shore command and all that because it really doesn't matter. i was representing me vs. and entire organization. telling a long story about transferring would have led to a lot of needless rambling.
- my "affair w/ a married man"? you could only be talking about 1 of 2 things. the first thing, well, it's not an affair when the wife is OBVIOUSLY ok with things. affairs involve lies and backstabbig. a crazy fling of an 18 year old and a man in an open marriage hardly counts as an affair.i'm sure if you look up "cheating" in the dictionary you'll get some clarity. second thing: i don't feel that a drunken kiss with a married man who told me he was on the verge of divorce should count as an affair w/ a married man. it was more of me being naive and him being a creep. a if you want to equal that with someone screwing hookers or whoever else and coming home to their loving spouse, then that's all you. i'm not saying i was innocent and perfect. i'm saying i didn't have an affiar w/ a married man.
- my ex husband is now happily married to....ta da! A WOMAN! :)
- i took a lot of college courses while in the navy and am halfway done w/ my b.a. (how well did we know eachother? i'm wondering who you are.)
- i chose studying for college over studying for advancement because i knew i didn't want to stay in the navy. i could care less about becoming a jo because....look, i'm doing it now. it's so easy to become codependent off the navy, but you do not need the navy for everything. certain benifits just help. jo a-school halfway through my enlistment would have required a long extension. once again, i knew i didn't want to stay in.
- and for the record, my ex boyfriend was a great man, just not the one for me. he also tried to get me help for my bulimia. he wasn't "ok" with it at all. God forbid you have a son or daughter with an eating disorder. you'll understand the lack of control you really have.
- and if you want to rationalize cheating and deception with "what happens on deployment stays on deployment", you'll be one of many. Do you see what I mean, readers?
8.i was never a corpsman.
- get an apartment w/ other single sailors? e1's make under california's minumum wage. e2's and 3's barely over. i know a few guys who got an apartment w/ single pay. they ended up in debt and are still deep in debt 4 years later.
- and who am i to judge? i didn't call any particular person out. i wrote what i saw. nothing in this story was fabricated.
to everyone: whether you loved or hated the story, you still took the time to read and comment on it. i am grateful to every single one of you. thanks soooo much!
so it's so surprising how you didn't mention that the command that started the investigation on you wasn't the USS HIGGINS, in fact it was you shore command. since you did become a corpsman and get away from your "slave work" as a deck seamen. you also failed to mention that you, yourself had an affair with a married man before you were "married" and that the reason that you didn't have any chemistry with your husband is because he was gay. it's amamzing how so many people can talk so much crap about the navy, what did you do while you were in? nothing... you didn't go to school while you were in. never heard you talk about wanting to be a JO.
true some people do get married for money, true people cheat. but who are you to judge? when you're away from home a lot people do a lot of things that they wouldn't normally do. and that's right, "what happens on deployment, stays on deployment". why would you go back and tell someone's spouse bad things about their husband or wife? for what? what does that get you? a peace of mind knowing that you just made someone's homelife that much worse?
as far as living on the ship... you could've have easily got an apartment with other single sailors onboard. just like college students do. hell, you should be happy to live onboard and not in a box with a man that thought it was okay for you to puke up your dinner.
so, all this boils down to...if you're going to tell the truth, tell the whole truth and not something that's completely biased.
I'm glad to know she married an actual friend. Sometimes those love/hate friendships are the only thing that can keep your chin up when you're pulling your 800th "hey you!" detail.
I would rather see an entire ship full of people married to good friends, who are well supported during deployment, than sailors with emotionally dependent spouses and multiple children, many of whom would be devastated by the truth of what some really do whilst separated by duty.
Thank you, Maggie, for exposing the truth. I was in the Army for four years, in an extremely high stress environment. I saw young people far away from home, stressed out of their minds, clinging to and marrying the first person who gave them a shoulder to de-stress on -- some less than a month after meeting. I watched more than half of them likewise wind up in very ugly divorces within a year or few, sometimes after children were born and the realities of starting a family with someone they didn't even really know REALLY sank in.
The military is supposed to set such a high moral standard for the rest of the country, but in fact -- it's very structure makes people take less than highbrow options. Marriages to have a nice warm bed, one's own groceries, etc. Marriages because a person is scared, lonely, and 3000 miles from home. Marriages because lower-enlisted base pay is not a "dignified living" for anyone. Marriages to get posted in the same hemisphere as one's latest love/lust interest. Shotgun marriages because people thought their lust was more important than birth control. You name it. Bad pay, less than ideal billeting, and loneliness got me engaged three times in four years. Eighteen years later, I talk to a lot of vets who are positively gobsmacked to hear that I have never been married and have zero children -- some actually question whether or not I was really in the Army. I can name at least a dozen off the top of my head who say I was crazy for NOT finding some buddy to marry just for the BAH/BAS and tax break. You're not alone -- it's TACITLY ENCOURAGED.
As an adolescence as well as an adult you have the ability of making sound decisions in your life. Regardless of temptation the options still remain. During my time onboard the USS HIGGINS I cant say that everything had been run the within the views and expectations of society, yet in life everyone is so quick to judge what is rite. Your correct though, the majority of people who join are fresh out of high school. This may be the precise reason why so many adults in the military now still have a childish mentality. So this is our future, grown women and men who live their lives to tell on other adults and what their doing in their lives. One thing I have learned while in the military has been that the only people who focus their attention on others lives is simply to get the focus off thiers and what wrongs their doing. Small minds discuss people, when bigger minds discuss ways to change the world and create better. During my times overseas I chose to utilize my time by taking advantage of what was given to me. To use the ports as means to build my mind, my art gallery, and my networking of business.
You quickly mention how the guys would "get obliterated…etc." in all honesty knowing it simply wasn't just the males but females as well. In history it has been known for sailors to drink and cuss thus the world has evolved and has become worst at the same time better. The newer generation comes with brighter ideas on how to create a better system or better inventions to protect and serve thus there are those few who create a bad appearance due to over intoxication which is rare. So quick to mention the negative yet the positive is how much money is brought back into these countries after years of war, natural disasters, poverty, and hunger. However, I'm not justifying any actions of trafficing in persons (prostitution) at all. Just don't make it seem as if its every guy to do so.
Now, for you to mention your age and where your from doesn't place a halo over your head in any way, shape, or form. "french kissing prostitutes …" I'm assuming your still referring to thailand. If so I do recall that port visit clearly. Yes there were so many young sailors running the streets with "rentals", but I also saw more people just enjoying the festivities the place had to offer, the cheap merchandise, exotic eateries, beautiful landscape (even after the tsunami had just rampaged their country), people who were out making the best of their time jet skiing, parasailing and much more. I do recall seeing you in the bar with the normal group of girls you accompanied everywhere. I remember seeing you on stage, yet this hadnt been disclosed in your article. Though you used those same lips to kiss your illegitimate husband who also had tendencies of his own. So it doesn't justify a reason for you to be "the one to call them out."
I read the story and these comments. The story is "Confessions of a Phony Navy Wife" afterall. You never know, this story may help the Navy make some changes for the better. Most importantly is recruitment needs to be reformed so tha people are not lied to when they enlist. Her story is not an isolated incident, recruiters have been getting away lying to young people for decades. The Armed Services need to stop the bait-and-switch on a promised MOS, and they need to allow people to live in peace-time conditions when they are not at sea.
Knowing her personally is beside the point. The issues brought up in this article are real. Address the issues. My dad was in the navy. I grew up in navy housing. I could relate to many points and issues in this article. The Issues
1.Recruiters lie-I know this for a fact my father was a recruiter at one time.They are salespeople that are under pressure to bring you in.
2.Infedelity-Very high percentage. Many factors. Age,seperation due to being out to sea etc...What profession would have you seperated for months at a time, live so close together(military housing) at such a young age? I am sure infedelity would be an issue in civilian marriages under these circumstances.
This chick I knew from the USS Higgins. I am now out and proud to have served. She was what military persons define 'dirt bags'. She was completely lazy, always complaining, with a huge mouth that ALWAYS got her in trouble. Her activities on and off the ship we known to everyone b/c she had no shame and bragged often. She was never articulate but just blabbed stupid stuff without thinking and did the same here, running her mouth without thinking of the consequences it may have on the families of loyal sailors, the Navy and the sailors aboard ship serving our country.
All this story is about is a piss poor sailor making bad decisions and complaining about it. We all do and we all get over it, so please do the same and don't go as low as blaming someone or something else. I wish San Diego Reader interviewed someone off the Higgins to verify her creditability because if they had this would have never been published let alone front page worthy.
"...I thought that all the men were lying cheaters and all the women were sluts. I laughed at the thought of marriage and love."
Come on Maggie, you were no where near the model of moral standards. And this, the pointing of fingers of infidelity is ridicules. You are just mad that you got caught and caught badly and now want to blame anyone but yourself. You don't listen to anyone and never have, you just ramble on and on hoping someone listens, it was always nonsense, garbage and I see nothing has changed. Just now someone gave you a pen, big mistake.
Don't take this story to heart. There are many good navy men and women that continue to be loyal to their spouses. It is unfair to judge a group by a few bad eggs and I'm sad to say "Maggie" was defiantly one of them who is now is essentially 'ratting' out her few old friends, blaming the Navy for her short comings. She'll eventually grow up and realize she was wrong.
Good Job Maggie! You have never ceased to amaze!
Thats total b*llshit bro. Youre just mad that she (someone) called u out. I was involved in the mikitary for 10 years, and she barely scratched the surface of what youre really like. Just was being kind here. And her reputation within your bro rank has nothing to do w it.
I agree though that those same guys later kissed their wives and children which is inappropiate. But lets face reality for anyone who is familiar with the military is safe to say that the majority of females are just as promiscious as the guys in their indevours. Every deployment when the ship begins to set sail on its operations of peace and intelligence it gives the oppurtunity for corruption. Couples form from the most unlikely people. Yet the majority are already married. Everyones human but to narrow this issue to a military issue is too narrow. This isnt only a military issue its been existant in the world for generations. Being on a ship with over 200 guys and only 30 females gives oppurtunity for some females to make money whether it be thru being treated to materialistic items, mentally spoiled, physically selling their bodies, or just becoming a complete whore amongst the crew. Though I cant say this for every female but thru my years onboard I have scene so much to where I chose to stay single out of fear. I recall a faithful guy who returned early from deployment to surprise his wife only to see her being railed in his bed. So its not just a one way street. This may explain how so many people had been married so many times. Not simply because of money but because they assumed they were ready and had found the rite one.
Single sailors werent forced to sleep onboard. When I first checked in despite my small check I still had my own place out on town. I had money saved from my teenage years and a second job I had while in San Diego to balance my living. I knew a lot of single sailors who lived out on town. It's a matter of whats a priority to you and what you want out of life. As for myself I worked in a rate which was hard to make rank and yet I still made PO2 my first time up in 3 yrs rather than the adverage of 5 yrs it normally takes someone.
It's a matter of taste so I cant argue the issue of how you felt about the living conditions but I do know there had been times where we watched the girls and guys from the ship leaving out on liberty, it had been well deserved after all the hours of sweating, painting, priming, etc. yet none of those people showered before they left. I physically watched you and your group of girls leave smiling, perfumed, make up on and all yet the water hadnt even been hooked up to the ship yet. Sanitary issue I do believe, but then theres wonder on why there had been a musty stench. Priorities yet again …
The ship had to be cold for a reason, not for personnel appeal but sanitary issues such as discussed above, also cooling equipment etc. buy a cover rather than that next drink. Sure some beds had been uncomfortable but so quick to complain when there are marines, army, etc. in iraq rite now who have to dig holes in the dirt and create a bed out of that. Im sure theres room for complaint there but would you be willing to trade places is the question. My father a former U.S. Marine endured a lot during the time he had been in. to complain about the comfortability of a bed is insulting to those troops we have out there now as well as those we have already lost. There had been no need to jump from the top beds when there had been installed foot ladders placed on each bed to assist in travels coming down and up.
I'm sure everyone had seen those "accelerate your life" commercials but who honestly jumps into the unknowning without researching it first ? ok maybe those few exceptions. Like they say "choose your rate, you choose your fate." As for myself sure I wouldn't suggest the military to anyone but its my personal opinion. Id rather tell my child to stay focused in school, work hard, and achieve all the goals you place on your plate.
Looking at your marriage, you felt as though you didn't commit any type of fraud yet you knew you were only marrying for money. Everyone is aware that that is against the rules as well as society as a whole. Its money coming to you which you didn't earn that's one, taxpayers supported, and a slap to the face for any real marriages out there now. It's a matter of moral and despite being in the navy everyone was raised to have that very trait instilled in them.
Like you said though, not everyone is bad. You just have to have the will and strength not to slip into being a statistic.
I think the Navy is gay, the Higgins was gay when I was stationed there, and everybody cheated on everybody. There was only a few cool people there, everybody else was fake, and thats just how it was, and probably still is. But J Dub was the best CO I ever had, and I know everybody who served under him can agree on that! Who cares about this story, does anybody ever wonder what happend to J Dub? Dude needs to be in charge of his own squadron...for real, one of the best leaders i've ever seen
I was stationed on the USS Higgins with Maggie as well. Like most young sailors, Maggie was a wild girl, but she at least owned up to everything. She wasn't in a committed relationship. (I wouldn't count her "marriage") She talked a lot and had the language of a trucker, but her big mouth was known for speaking truth, which is what she did in this article. This article wasn't about ratting on cheaters. Cheating sailors is an old stereotype. It was about how people do things in the military they normally wouldn't do in civillian life and the reasons behind it. Maggie, you are much smarter than I ever gave you credit for. She used the system to the best of her ability and got herself on the cover of the reader because of it. Maggie, you do never cease to amaze!
I know this girl also. She is not the sharpest tool in the shed (obviously). This is a blatant attempt by an embittered person to seek revenge for her failure in the Navy. Bottom line: She broke the rules. She paid for it.
I did not serve with her in the Navy but I am in a class with her at Mesa College. She never knows when to shut up. Every day I wish I had a tape recorder (or duct tape) because of the total garbage that comes out of her mouth.
Good job San Diego Reader. Do you even have an editor? If you had any credibility now you have none.
I will never buy anything from anyone who advertises in your rmagazine again.
I too knew this person, served with her and some of the people commenting on here. I agree that what happened shouldn't have, she should have kept her mouth shut. But in her division things were blown up all the time. This story is NOT 100% true. She was not an example to follow. And now she is twisting facts and truths. 1. Its 1000 baht for 4hours, I didn't use this service, but trust me I know a lot that did. 2. She created a lot of her own problems, she was stupid from the get go, look at her job, undesignated, only people who get suckered or are a rock, don't get an A and/or C school. 3. She wasn't getting the attention that the rest of the young single girls aboard HIGGINS were getting. If somebody would have given her some, she would have never written this. 4. There were many times that i waited for cabs, and it never cost $5, try $20. Transportation overseas was always and issue. 5. She was jealous of the "sluts" that the "cheating married men" and single sailors would look at. It's plain to see in her opening statements. If you are going to blast the HIGGINS crew, blame yourself for being a loud mouth, marrying a possible gay man( later confirmed to be straight), bragging about it, and daring people to do something to you. There are plenty of good people on that crew, and now you put suspicion and worry in the hearts of the faithful men and women that were home, supporting us out there. You are a family wrecker, maybe someone should give her attention, so she quits twisting stories and trying to hurt people. You are still the retard you were back on the ship.
The story is interesting but not exactly accurate. It leaves people with a very skewed perception of Navy sailors and of HIGGINS.
- You should have explained that HIGGINS was not the command that went after you for fraud. You criticize the ship for being hypocrites but in fact they didn't meddle in your phony marriage, it was your shore command.
- The officers that you spoke about, the ones who got caught having sex on the ship got into quite a bit more trouble then just getting transferred to another command. They both were sent to Admirals Mast and received appropriate punishment. This lack of accuracy of this story makes me a little weary of some of the other stories you mention; are they true or is it just the scuttlebutt that you heard on the smoke deck one night on deployment? A LOT of rumors are passed around on the ship and only about 10% of them are even close to being accurate.
- The military does NOT make bad people. Sure the environment is a bit more stressful, but freedom doesn't come easy. The military simply contains a slice of society. There are plenty of bad people outside of the Navy; adulterers, rapist, etc. In an office environment you may not know that your colleague is cheating on his/her spouse or is involved in other inappropriate or illegal behavior, but then again you aren't spending 24 hrs a day with him/her for 6+ straight months.
My experience with the military was stressful and hard and at times I thought it was unfair, but it was an extremely satisfying experience. I wouldn't change anything about my time in the Navy. The choices we make and the experiences we go through shape who we are. As the NCIS officer pointed out to you, if you hadn't joined the Navy "you should have been lying in a gutter somewhere." So stop complaining about the experience; embrace and build off it.
It is unfortunate to see those cast judgement on a lifestyle they have never lived. If you have lived it an survived then you are some of the lucky ones. We forget those who have lost their lives aren't always the ones who are fighting on the battle field or dead. You sacrifice a lot to serve and you expect a little respect in return. It is a hard life with as many benefits as downfalls. And there is a constant battle here at home and most don't even know about it. My story was a little different and yet in a way the same. I too witnessed the hypocrisy of the United States Military. The code states Honor, Courage and Commitment. But sometimes the only way to survive the system is to make it work for you when it won't stand behind you when you need it the most. Otherwise, what good are you going to be when your country needs you the most?
-balicoastdaisy- It's pretty comical that you sit and accuse Maggies about her article and her so called whining, when that is pretty much what your responce was...ohhh poor lil ol' me! I went to college and had to work at a bowling alley, blah blah blah. I only made this much money, blahh blahh blahh. I could find a better job, other then serving pizza....gimmie a break, this was your avenue to whine about your situation, let's not call the kettle black!!
First and foremost, congrats to you Maggie for getting out of the Navy with your head held high and dream to follow.
I as well knew Maggie. We were stationed together at our shore command. It is true Maggie was not the "model sailor", and at times her mouth did get her in alot of trouble. However, I can understand her attitude twoards the Navy and believe it was just. I was in for almost 8 years and have witnessed many lies the recruiters will tell the young nieve people who walk through their doors. We were all just numbers to them. Wouldn't you as well be bitter if you faced lie after lie, and realized you had been suckered?
Maggie's story hit the nail on the head. Yes, there are many people who are married ligitamatly in the military and who do not cheat on their spouses, but they are few and far between. There are far more people in the military who are married for convience, and for the money. We saw it everyday, as a matter of fact before Maggie reported to the command, I believe four or five people had been busted on BAH fraud. She isn't the only one and will definatly not be the last. Maggie is a outspoken and strong willed person, and yes that got her into trouble. But she always spoke the truth, people in chain of command didn't approve of you having a opinion, let alone a woman with a opinon.
I applaud you Maggie for speaking the truth on some of the issues of the military. This article wasn't meant to "bash" anyone or any command. However, if you took offence to it, perhaps you are one of those guilty people who is afraid of their laundry being aired, and truly showing the civilians some of the real issues in the military. The Navy closes a eye to alot of things that go on depending on your status, if you are well liked or a "dirtbag" depends on the outcome. You could have the most squared away sailor in the Navy who is committing fraud. Just because Maggie didn't fit the typical Navy image, people are so quick to attack her on her mistakes.
Thank you Maggie for writing about some of the issues that the Navy has so blindly overlooked. This article was very well written, and I can't wait to read your NEXT article!
As many of the other individuals that posted a comment on this article, I also served with Maggie in deck division. There was an individual that stated her asvab scores were too low to do anything other than undes, but you know just as well as I know it wasn't a matter of what you're capable of doing in the Navy. It's a matter of where that recruiter needs you and his numbers. Also I have seen her falling asleep studying for the JO exam. Not only that for every individual that thought she was stupid, was absolutely wrong. Simply b/c she played that role so no one would ask her to do things, and no one ever noticed when she was missing. There are many tedious task assigned to those in deck divison and no matter how motivated you are, you will get tired of it. Anyhow now that I've taken up for the supposed "dumb blonde". I think the article was decent, but you have far too much potential to waste your time whining about your past in the Navy. This is the point in your life you need to look foward and grab the attention of the general public. Honestly g/f 90% of your readers are "us" (mostly sailors that served with you). Your not going to make money exploiting the Navy b/c it's only interesting to a very small group, get America's attention! The only reason half of your readers stopped to read this was for gossip purposes, you've entertained the Navy long enough entertain the nation. DON'T LOOK BACK, BECAUSE YOUR NOT GOING THAT WAY". Congrats again fake ass bobble head!
Moving Forward JaY
Ladies and Gentlemen of the USS Higgins, Please for the sake of your good image stop.
I am a Veteran of the Us Navy and cannot sit idly by while you all air dirty laundry about who said what or how to whom. Maggie, while I believe your impression of the nature Naval policy and organization to be flawed, it is your impression. I cannot change or alter your experiences. I can say that your attitude and actions appear to have caused some ill will among the crew with which you worked. This and not the navy as a whole is probably what led to your investigation. I say investigation because the outcome appears to be based on your confession to allegations that could not have been backed up and proven in a court marshal. Your marriage for whatever reason was legal in the state in which it was obtained. You did not according to your article have an extramarital affair. And the only apparent cause of your punishment was that you were not willing to stand up for your own rights as a married sailor.
As for the actions of your shipmates, if they violated the trust of their marriage or their commitments to those they left behind then they are wrong, but that is a moral issue for them to deal with. I promise that the navy as a whole does not tolerate extramarital affairs. That having been said they will not go out of their way to research or discover them either. This double standard is based on simple ideas like those that govern the business world. If the navy has proof of infidelity they may take action to maintain good relations with sailors and spouses, but unless the act is publically apparent then they will willfully ignore it and continue to operate as if there is nothing amiss. The reason is simple; the navy doesn't need sailors to be faithful to their husbands and wives. It does need sailors to be sober, alert, willing to follow orders, and fearful of the repercussions of not obeying the chain of command.
To the rest of the crew who want to set the story straight, or let their side be heard…don't. Let it go as a footnote in history that at one time you may have served with a person who didn't quite fit in with the rank and file of navy life. Maggie's story may not be the whole truth, but it is her truth. She comes off as the victim of a situation of her own making and as such must deal with her own failings. The navy is an organization manned by real people in the real world, and as such will suffer from all of the pitfalls and foibles that we all suffer. The navy didn't make people bad, it just has to deal with people who have all of the vices of any human population.
Oh wait. I'm not 100% finished. This article really heated me up in a bad way.
On top of everything you have the nerve to whine that you are taking home about $600-$700 a paycheck.
You know how much I was taking home working at the bowling alley? $380.00 on the 1st and the 15th.
I lived in studio, shared a kitchen with 14 other women (it was down the hall) and six industrial bathroom stalls with 14 other women (showers included...also down the hall).
If you want to write about the Navy putting a price on marriage and blah, blah, which I might have agreed with an article in that vein. Then fine. But your article seems to harp on how horrible your life was to justify the decisions you made. Guess what? We have all had horrible lives in some way or another. We all made our decisions. We all have to live with that.
Okay, I'm done. I'm going to let it go now. But my Reader is still going to remain in the trash.
In addition to all of the obvious problems/criticisms of this "article," my biggest problem is that it is so poorly written. This is just a bad article. The author did not do a good job telling her story (regardless of what that story really is). I do not fault a publication for publishing an article that is potentially thought-provoking or controversial, however, I do fault a publication for publishing a bad article. This is hardly good journalism, and the author has a LONG way to go before what she writes is worth reading on it's own merits. People read this simply because it appeared that it might be interesting or shocking. While it did succeed in being controversial and inflammatory, it was poorly done. The author only succeeded in portraying herself as a complete trash bag with no talent for writing.
As a person who knows the writer of this article and has experienced the anger and sadness of her actions, I dont like how she is presented as this honest person who had this rough Navy life and this poor me attitude.
First of all NOT ALL MILITARY MEN CHEAT. Not saying that she said that but the story does imply that they do. Secondly I dont agree with marriage for money. I will never agree with it. If you want better pay, become a model sailor and earn your rank. Thats how you get better pay.
I do agree with the parts about the Navy having screwed EVERYONE over at least once.
I will say that I do not have animosity towards Maggie any longer. The issues are long gone and over with and I hadnt even thought about them till i saw this story. While I believe she may have changed her life around, at the time that I was around her and had issues with her, she wasn't what i would consider a good person.
Hopefully things have changed.
I hated this article so much I promptly threw away my Reader when I was finished. It was so terrible and so whiny I was horrified.
First, I am an extreme liberal. I am not Navy or military sympathetic nor am I all "gung-ho" USA. So, politics really has nothing to do with my post.
Where to start on this horrific piece of "writing.." Well, my situation sucked. I lived in the South and hated my life (blah, blah typical teenage whiny bull)...you know what I did? Hmm? I went to college. I applied for loans and grants and went to college. So, author, don't hate your decisions, you made them. Oh...boo-hoo...you think recruiters lied to you. You think you were "had" ....oh whine, whine.
Second, why did you have delusions of grandeur? Do you think every job you jump into and you are suddenly in a dream position? Navy or real world that is NEVER the case (except in rare instances). I graduated a 4-year college, $40,000 in debt and I could not find a job! I worked at a bowling alley for two years after college and worked at community basketball games at night. I felt tears well in my eyes every night because while I was in college I thought I was going to make $50,000 a year straight from the starting gate. When I was cleaning a nacho cheese spill off the floor of the bowling alley I became my most depressed and thought "Is this it? Is this my life?"
Guess what I learned though? Everyone....EVERYONE has to "pay the piper" everyone has to pay their dues and do some crappy job they do not want to do in order to gain some experience to move on. I have been out of college for four years and FINALLY have a job that I love, that's professional, and that I worked hard to get (not to mention the pay is fantastic). Oh wait....I did CRAP for four years and got a good job I love. I worked HARD.....sounds like what the military would've done to you....you know, given you a raise.....if you worked HARD and paid the piper. We ALL do crap we hate to get where we need to be. I have NO sympathy for "poor wittle you" having to do manual labor for a few years. I had to serve pizza to teenagers until midnight with a four year degree under my belt. Yeah. That sucked too.
You brought on your own fate. Don't blame anyone for catching you commit fraud. Karma is a bee-yotch. Take responsibility for what you did. Just because you missed "eating cereal in your PJs" doesn't excuse you from thinking that its okay to buck the system. I think its a matter of ethics. Simple as that. I worked in the system, climbed up the ladder, legitimately worked for the money I take home.
It just heats me up that I worked my arse off for four long miserable years at a CRAP job and got where I am today legitimately and YOU bucked the system like a snob and brat proceed to publish a whiny article about your poor widdle life.
Oh please.
Good story and thank you for sharing it. Keep up the writing 'Maggie'! By the way-I loved the cover shot; it really caught my eye.
Navy Vet, 2004-2008, Honorably Discharged, AM3
I to have been SCREWED over by the navy. Did i like it HECK NO. Did o make the best of it HECK YEA. I personally do NOT see a problem with her getting married to have BAH BUT as long as she stays out of stouble and does what she is told at work. No counceling chits nothing. I think its a fair reward for staying out of trouble.
I went in the navy wanting to be a MA and cause of my recruiter messing up on my paperwork i couldn't be a MA. so i made the best of it became a air framer and went ASF and worked as much as possible with the MA's..... I made the best of a bas situation. yes there was another time they royally screwed me over but actually to think about it it wasn't the NAVY that screwed me over but one B*#&h of a squadron doc. anyway i again made the best of a bad situation and did what i needed to do and got out with a honorable discharge without so much as a blemish counseling chit NOTHING on my record. its squeaky clean. i'm going to school and once i get my BA than i'm either getting a job or maybe of the navy will let me i'll go in as a officer. The navy isn't bad its some people that you come across. Yes at times it can be hell and you wish you could quit your job. But things always will get better one day. mine did. I think Maggie just couldn't hack it and decided to point the fingers at others. i'm glad she got out the navy OBVIOUSLY was NOT for her. as its not for everyone. As another person said what did she do to peruse her career as a JO. it seems to me she's not happy with herself and blames others. BUT now that she's out maybe she can go on with her life and try to do better. Just my 2 cents
I read Maggie Young's article about being accused of fraud, due to her marriage. I was particularly interested in this, because I am married to a Navy Seal who was using Craig's List to solicit men and women for sex. I contacted Navy Fleet and Family services, even took my husband to four counseling session that were a complete joke. Long story short, he refused to stop seeing a particular girl he met online and asked me to leave after cleaning out the bank accounts. When I contacted Navy JAG, they refused to get involved and his command told me they couldn't do anything except make him pay $300 a month in child support. I moved out and he moved his girlfriend in two days later.
I was surprised the Navy went after Maggie Young, but does nothing about adultery. I would like to see this changed.
Thanks, Maggie, for shedding light on problems in the Navy.
Technically she didn't do anything wrong under the UCMJ, but morally it was wrong because it was a waste to the taxpayers money to pay her that extra money for a phony marriage. No one would have known that if she didn't tell on herself to NCIS though. They could have speculated, but not proved anything. signed, "Sea Lawyer" .no I'm not a real lawyer.
Glad it worked out for you. I am an officer who wants to throw up every time military people pretend that money is not an acceptable reason for marriage. Economics has ALWAYS been an acceptable reason for marriage, throughout history, and before money existed it was sheep or beads or something similar. There is no requirement ANYWHERE that you have a certain emotional condition or feeling in order to get married or stay married. The Navy even PAYS counselors and chaplains who advise married members who do not love each other to stay together.
Marriage is nothing but an agreement between two people that is then certified by the government. When the state issues a legal certificate, you have a legal marriage. All the NCIS had the right to ask was, "do you have a legal marriage certificate or not?" Their intimate prying into your private life is nothing but a disgusting witch hunt. As you came to realize, you did not have to justify to anyone why you entered into a legal marriage contract with another consenting adult.
Sounds like your "shipmates" were only too happy to put on a display moral outrage, but never learned how keep their nose in their own business. The Navy as an institution violated you personally, and failed the US taxpayers, by allowing your command to waste resources on this "investigation."


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