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When I had my first child I was 32 years old and considered an "elderly primip." I felt I was in the prime of life, certainly not elderly.
About 14 percent of births in the United States are to women 35 and older. Now they are considered advanced maternal age. What does that mean exactly?
I thought I would tackle the issues of advanced maternal age in two parts. Today I will talk about conception and early pregnancy. I will cover more of the possible issues of late pregnancy in women over 35 if you are interested. My goal is not to make light of the potential issues but rather put them in perspective.
Women over 35 may take longer to be able to conceive. This is related to those eggs we have had since birth. We don't make new eggs as men make new sperm. Our eggs are with us almost from conception. They don't always age well. They can lose quality and there can be fewer of them. This is one reason to seek help from your health care provider if you have been unable to achieve pregnancy after trying for 6 months.
There is an increase in spontaneous miscarriage with an approximate risk of 25 percent in women age 35-39 and 51 percent in women 40-44. If you look at this another way, women 35-39 have a 75 percent chance of not having a miscarriage.
The concern many women over 35 hear about most often is Down Syndrome or other chromosomal abnormalities. At 35 a woman's risk of any clinically significant chromosome abnormalities is about 1 in 200. Her risk of a baby with Down Syndrome is about 1 in 365. In other words, the odds of having an absolutely normal baby would be about 99.34 percent.
I haven't answered the question of how old is too old because I don't think there is one answer. There are so many positive things about having children when we are older and yet the increased risks are real. Learn as much as possible and if and when you get pregnant, rejoice!
Mary M. Murry, R.N., C.N.M.
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I am 44 yrs old and wanting to hve a baby is it possible
I had my first child at 46. I will be 48 in two weeks. I had the perfect pregnancy and the perfect birthday and a healthy child. My OB/GYN said she had girls in her lobby that wished they had a pregnancy like mine that were 20 years old. I guess it just depends
Thank you for your article. I would advise to be careful with the term "normal baby." Perhaps, "healthy baby" would be more sensitive.
Thank you
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Thank you for this post! One sentence in it made all the difference to me. "In other words, the odds of having an absolutely normal baby would be about 99.34 percent." All I hear are numbers, 1 in 356 or 1 in 200, I panic and think that's not a lot of people to pull from. I never thought to see what the actual percentage would be. A 99.34% chance of no complications is very comforting. Thank you!
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I'm not sure where you come up with your math. No chromosome abnormalities (Down Syndrome means 3 #21 chromosomes) is 199/200, that's 99.5%. Nor does that mean your baby is "absolutely normal", as if that's even something to be desired, this would be a very boring world if everyone was "normal".
Disclaimer: My mom was 39 (almost 40) when I was born. I don't have any chromosome abnormalities but I'm certainly not normal.
I was shocked when i found out i was pregnant in may 2015, my youngest is ten and a half, i was worried about my age, i am due my baby in four and a half weeks time, and pregnancy was fine except i has pregnancy diabetes, i got pregnant naturally, and i am 47 years old, and turn 48 in april, so it was a bit of a shock, the midwife told me your eggs can sleep for up to ten years, and then get a burst of energy, so i would ssy dont give up, i wasnt even trying for another baby, but am.chuffed now x
I know this post is old but I loved reading it. I'm 39 and am contemplating another child. We have 1 son who just turned 7 and we can now finally afford another one.Thank you for as all the positive comments. I didn't get married till I was almost 30 and coming from a mother who has had 5 marriages I'm so glad I waited. My mom had me when she was 19 Dorothy and I had a horrible childhood. I would much rather have had a mom who was older and could provide me with a stable home not struggle financially and be emotionally ready for children than have a young mom who could provide none of this.
Thank you I'm starting to feel confident that I won't be alone in this decision. My son is my biggest blessing and I would love to have another blessing.
would love some reassurance about chromosomal abnormalities in children with Moms over 40. putting that in perspective would be nice to know. (I'm 40 and thinking it over)
Thank you so much for your well put answer.. I am 34 and people around me keep bothering me about having a baby as they conclude my "eggs will be rotten" if I don't.... So your answer puts me at ease. Thank you
I had my first child at 32. He was perfectly healthy and still is. Eleven years later I got pregnant again, by this time I was 43. My pregnancy went very well. Yes I was labeled high risk due to my age I felt that was crap. I am a very healthy and my husband and I are going to try for another baby-then we will stop. Neither of us drank, smoke, or due drugs ever. Don't let all the negative scare you out of having a baby. They are precious and fun! Just take personal inventory of your health and your partners and go from there. Good Luck!
As a Behaviour Specialist who works primarily with children, I would like to add that since the ever- ageing parent phenomenon has begun, we have also seen an ever-increasing rate in a wide range of problems with children, specifically, mental illness, autism spectrum, behavioural issues, etc.
Whether there is a connection is unclear, but there is a possibility. Older parents have missed their best child-rearing years physically, that is certain, and while they may be more settled in their career and maturity, there may be a cost.
That is only my speculation, but it is a strong one.
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I was healthy at 41. I became pregnant and lost the baby at 14 weeks due to spontaneous misscarriage. I did not expect this. I thought I would have a baby at nine months. I bled a lot and I was terrified. I will never forget the pain that loss has caused. The doctor said they had no idea why it happened. It was really sad and scary too.
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I'm 41 (will be 42 in May) and am getting married in June for the first time. Neither me or my fiance have any kids so we are going to try as soon as we get married. He won't try before. I have NO idea if I can conceive or not being older but I feel as though there would be a void in my life if we don't at least try. We own a house and both have good full-time jobs so we could support a child. Prayers for all of you trying!
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I have always been against older parents and thought it selfish. However, I have 3 beautiful children (ages 15,16 & 19) to a horrid abusive man and am now with the most beautiful precious man ever who dotes on my 3 kids. He has never married and has no kids of his own. He worships us all and would be a wonderful father and I so want to give him a child he is 44 and I am 47, and although I am still menstruating regularly, mega fit and apparently look in my 30's I am concerned about the health implications for the child and he does not in anyway want to put my health at risk. We are very happy but I know the joy a child will bring us. I would value opinions as we really dont have time to hang about on this.
I got pregnant at age 44 and gave birth at 45 to perfectly healthy baby girl. I had 2 adult children at the time, both married, my 2 grandchildren are year older then my daughter and they are great playmates :).
She is the best thing ever happened to me
Thank you. This was reassuring and informative. I'm 44 and surprised to be pregnant and don't know what to do about it. I gave birth at 36 without issue... and I'm not very healthy.
I thought the new thing was we are NOT born with all of our eggs but they take 3 months to build.
Thank you, your positive outlook has reassured me that I am not crazy. I am almost 39 years old and have two healthy children, but my husband and I feel that our family is not complete. I miscarried a few months ago and our family was shocked we were trying. Again thank you.
I am going to be 43 years old this year, and it just learned I am pregnant. I have a thyroid condition "graves" AND I was even on birth control, so you can imagine how surprised I am to find out I have a child growing in my belly! Children where never a subject in our 14 year marriage, since my husband is 20 yrs older than I and I never felt the urge to have any kids. He also suffered a traumatic brain injury 6 yrs ago, I I have been his caregiver as he recovers. So now I am very confused and worried that I am too old and too unprepared to raise a child? Then the thought of "what if it is a special needs child?" Because my eggs are so old? So I typed in "how old is too old to have a baby" and your blog spot came up.
Thank you, your advice was very comforting to many concerns that have entered my head, at the age of 39.
Thank you for your comment Jalilah, I too wish to be a mother in the near future. Hopefully that will come true.
Baby dust and many blessings to you and yours...
Your posts have filled me with hope and joy from some of your stories. I am 35 and my fiance is 27. Neither of us have children, but we have been planning this our whole three year relationship. I secretly worried that I would have issues and decided to discuss these issues with him. Now, we both eat healthier, are growing spiritually, and securing our finances to give our children a stable, loving home. I am glad I waited for the right person. And after stumbling upon this blog, I am confident God will bless each and every woman who desires to be a mother with a healthy pregnancy and child. The fact that you cared enough to wait shows the love you already have for your unborn child by laying a foundation first. God Bless
I read this post, as my "future" wife will also be in a similar situation in the near future. This is a sensitive topic for a lot of women, as they keep such desires often hidden deep within their hearts. I wish all women currently seeking a child receive a healthy bundle of joy. Never give up and never put yourself down because of age, men or various circumstances. If it was God's will, it will happen, so keep optimistic! Best wishes to all of you! :)
I am an RN,You would be super surprised at the older ladies haveing healthy beautiful babies.You are never to old God makes no mistakes.
I was just wondering if you conceived your children naturally at 53 and 54 or invitro or what method you used. I would love to think that it is possible at that age to have a child, I just have my doubts realistically.
I'm 55 and have my first child at 53. Second child at 54. Both healthy. Thank you god
These are so sweet. I am 48 and my boyfriend is 40. I have 3 children from my 1st marriage. My boyfriend has none. He wants children so bad of his own. I told him this risk and that babies for me is out of the question. So a few days ago he left because he wants to be a father with children of his own. So don't wait to be a mother/father.
I was told I couldn't have kids because I had two abortions at 16 and 18. I thought for a long time I was being punished by God and out of nowhere..I had a healthy baby at 34. I thank the Gods everyday for my son. I took it as a sign as it was my time. I am in consideration of a girl.. but don't want her or him to come out with birth defects... I guess I can only put it to the higher powers again. If it was meant to be it will.
Babies end up being a blessing whether they are carefully planned for or not...they are funny that way ;)
However if you had to choose wait until you are ready to become a mom. But if not youll be so glad you had a baby anyway. ;)
I am 34 years old. I do not have any children. I would like to have children one day, maybe one maybe two. I am glad I decided to wait to have children. Because I have grown so much in the past ten years and have gotten to know myself, developed a career and a sense of independance. God willing I will truly embrace becoming a mother one day and give my child all the knowledge and things that I have learned. While all my friends freaked turning the big "30" and needing wanting to have babies NOW or NEVER attitude..I say...just chill...be happy...and dont worry be happy. Plan, live, do what makes you truly happy. After all...the longer you wait for something the more you apprecaite when it arrives. And if you prepare for it and have a good sense of reality...youll be great! And as far as medical reasons, things can happen at any age.Although risks can be greater, risks are always present. GOOD LUCK to all the mommy to be and mommy wanting to be out there!!! Bless you and your future children, and may they become assets to the world ~
How about...having a baby when you really really want one and are able to supply your child with everything the child needs and deserves. Having a child is not only about the mother but it is about the baby as well. Finances in order, loving solid relationship, stability. I find these things come later in life. However everyone is different. Have children when you are good and ready.It is a tough job if you want to do it well and is immensly rewarding if sone properly as well. There is no "perfect' age to create another human....it is a blessing and gift, the more you are prepared the better the experience will be for you, baby,the baby's father and the world ~
I just turned 30 and my friends are all around the same age, some are just having kids, others like me are waiting until 35-39ish when we have our finances/life in some kind of order... and most importantly when we want to have kids! If I can't have them then it's not meant to be but i'm not worried at all. Good luck everyone and go at your own pace.
It's so nice for me to read this. My husband told a friend of his the other day that we were thinking of having a child (I am 39). My hubands' friend responded "Really, at her age its dangerous for her because of all the problems she may encoutner with down syndrome etc"
Once I heard that, I felt terrible and really upset with his response. Then I thought, well that's interesting, and how many pregnancies has he gone through!
Thanks again, I feel a little more positive now.
With all that said good luck and best wishes to all who are trying at this age:)
For the no name given posted( May 13 2012) I know Im late but I am just getting in this discussion. I am 32 years old and I still have not had any children actually I had a miscarriage at 19 years old. I do of course plan on having 2 children if God's willing. My mother gave birth to my brother when I was 25 I was her only child she had me at 19 years old and had my brother at 44 years old. She has more energy now then she did when I was a baby. Oh and not to mention she gave birth to him natural and in the tub her and my stepfather delivered my brother. No complications. My brother is now 7 and healthy as a peach so honey it depends on the women the body and God.
I didn't find the right man and get married until I was 28 (one month away from being 29, actually). We weren't ready to have kids right away and then we had a miscarriage when I was 32. That was a difficult experience to say the least and made us not want to try again for quite a while. After much prayer, I had my first when I was 1 week away from being 35. He's a healthy 8 year-old boy now. After much prayer again, I had my second when I was 39.5 years old and he's a healthy 3 year-old now. I came to this article because I really want a third. My husband doesn't want a third b/c of our age. It's going to take a miracle for his mind/heart to change. As I'm writing this comment, I'm really just confirming to myself that it is really about trusting God with it and it is really about God's will being done. He is a good and loving God and he knows the plans He has for you. Both of my kids were created by God and are blessings from Him. God bless...
Hi i am a 44 year old woman with two boys 18 and 16 .. 12 years ago at 32 i lost a baby at 22 weeks was devistated.. In the past 12 years i had accepted that my family was complete and thought i was not having anymore children.. about a year and half ago i got involved in a new relationship.. to my suprize i missed my period in october 2013 and found out i was pregnant.. Suprized and shocked my boyfriend and i had decided to proceed with the pregnancy , many people were aganist it and said i was going to have a downes baby but felt it was meant to be but i was going to have Gentic testing ... to my surprize all tests came back fine and in May of 2013 i am expecting a baby girl... so to all my fellow woman who want a baby in there 40's go for it but do seek the proper medical attention good diet and take care of youself ... what is gods will will be .. good luck ladies ..
Thank you for mentioning pregnancy at 40 and older. I think it might be good for me to do a blog specific to this topic.
This article is very misleading. To all of the women on here who are over 39 it is almost irrelevant and missing so much needed information. At the age of 41 your chance of down syndrome goes to 1 in 10 and over 42 1 in 4. Why this article didn't mention that I don't know but get the facts and this article surely didn't have any useful ones for those over 39.
I had four kids when I was younger. I remarried and had a daughter when I was 43. I have since then had two miscarriages. I'm wondering if I should just throw in the towel. :( The place I go for prenatal care is NOT interested in advising me or giving me progesterone, since mine is slightly low.
Thank you for putting the statistics so positively! As a 39-year-old mum-to-be you have put my mind at a bit more ease xxx
Hi im 30 and have been with my partner for 3 yrs we just went overseas and now have the travel bug and are planning to postpone having a baby for another yr or so as we want to travel more im just a little worried that in doing so i run the risk of leaving it too long but we want to travel before having kids
I am 44 years old, I have a beautiful daughter, she's 9 years old. I'm still fantasysing of having an other baby, but it 's possible only if I do IVF NATURAL CYLE(kind of IVF for older women).Am I crasy??
Thank you for this short yet very informative article. It really helped to put the whole entire idea of pregnancy after 45 into perspective. I will leave this part of my life like I have everything else in God's caring hands.
I am 36 years old and 8 weeks pregnant with my first child. I was worried about having difficulty getting pregnant, but it only took two months! So far the pregnancy is going well. I do worry about the increased risk of Downs Syndrome but hoping and praying for a healthy baby. I would have liked to start a family sooner but didn't meet the man I'm meant to spend my life with until last year. I had begun to lose hope that it would ever happen but it finally did :)
i feel better after reading this. I will be 38 in December 2012, my only child will be 21 years old in December 2012. I am now having empty nest syndrome. Thank you....
I am 39 and have no kids. When I was in my twenties my boyfriend at that time and I tried to have a child for almost two years, but I never got pregnant. He left me when I was 30 and I was devastated for years and accepted that I would never be a mother.
My thirties were happy years, but it took me almost 8 years to open my heart again. I am now with the man I love and a day before I turned 39 I found out that I was pregnant. I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks and my heart just broke. This was a month ago and though I try not to worry too much I am afraid I will never experience what it is like to be a mother. I read all these comments and it makes me happy and scared at the same time.
If I could have decided I would have had my children in my late twenties, but it did not happen. Now it may be too late. My advise to anyone is not to postpone anything this important.
I have had a wonderful and amazing life and still have. BUT how I would LOVE to be a mother.
Good luck to you all!!!
I had 3 kids by the time I was 21 years old. (twins) Seven years later I had 1 more, then 1 more 4 years later. (thats 5) I divorced and remarried a much younger man that had no kids and wanted them (including,hopefully, a boy) Since then we have had 3 beautiful girls that are the pride of their daddy. (now 4,2 and almost 1) I turn 42 in july and we are contemplating trying one last time. I was diagnosed with MS last November, but with medication I feel great! I run a daycare in our home, so I take care of a number of kids, with no problems! My energy level is better than my husbands!! And I am fortunate to look years younger than my age, so no one knows we have a 13 year age difference between my husband and myself. He is a hard working, financially responsible man and a wonderful father to ALL my kids! I am not worried in the least to try JUST ONE last time! : )
I could'nt help but notice this "Dorothy" character while reading these comments. I initially started reading because I am 34 years old and have not had a baby yet. I was wondering if I am "too old". After seeing the first two comments from "Dorothy" I noticed the punctuation, spelling, grammatical and just plain english errors. The final apology comment was pretty normal. Could it be from her 30+ year old daughter who has yet to conceive or is "Dorothy" just a drunken and/or iliterate fool who apparently had kids at the "perfect" time?
This article cherry picks too much. A better advice perhaps would be for women to freeze their eggs earlier in their 20s. Science can't change biology and controlling perception does not change the underlying reality.
U know im 41 and my doctor told me its bad to have a baby over 35 and so i went on the depo now reading this i made a bad decision
That was really good advice as i am a 36 year old woman & both me & my partner want kids, just reading what youve said has reasured me & therfore think we will now go ahead.
thank you
Obviously as a woman ages her chances of becoming pregnant does decline. But as for being able to care for an adolescent when someone is 50 or 60 is a little laughable. Look at the many number of grandparents already raising their grandchildren for whatever reason. (one could be because a too young mother gave birth). It is absolutely possible to have the energy/time to nuture any child when your 50/60. Its a personal choice and if someone choose so, hope for the best.
The article is kind of controversial especially coming from the famous and research heavy Mayo Clinic. It gives the false sense that age doesn't matter with the statistics. Yet almost every research indicates it is better to have kids earlier than later.
There is a reason why it is harder to get pregnant as people age. Fewer eggs are in optimal shape and can turn into a viable baby. It only shows two statistics (Down syndrome and miscarriage). It would be more interesting for them to run hundreds of other controlled factors and compare the difference between a 25 year old and a 35 year old.
Also, as people pass 40, their energies goes down. Having a first kid at 35-40 is difficult especially if an older sibling can't help take care of the younger ones. Can a parent in their late 30s/early 40s be ready to put significant amount of energies/time in nurturing/raising a adolescent (12-15) kids when they are in their mid 50s-60s?
My mother was pregnant FIVE times from age 39-44. Two were terminated, two miscarriages, and my healthy 20 year old sister was born when our mother was 44. She conceived naturally with all of her pregnancies, had no complications in labor.
I am 40 and when I feel ready to try I won't hesitate due to age concerns, as long as I'm healthy. I had a pregnancy at age 36 that ended in a missed miscarriage. However my partner was diagnosed with varicocle and irregular sperm. It still only took me one month to conceive.
This was an uplifting article and I want to offer further encouragement to any other women 35+
I am so glad to have stumbled upon this article and all of the comments related to it! I am 30 and still waiting for the right man to come into my life. I desperately want children and was very scared that by the time I meet him and get married it would be too late. Thanks for easing my fears!
Ronni, Amy, Jo, Ami, Regina etc. - as a woman and a mother I know the words in my last comment were poorly chosen. I wanted to express relief at having finished raising my kids at 48 and encourage others to have kids earlier, if at all possible. Clearly, it is easier to get pregnant and stay pregnant in your 20's. However, I realize that my judgement on women who wait longer to have kids was completely wrong. I am sure you all have reasons and I fully respect that. Again, my heartfelt apologies to you all. I really mean it.
Hey undecided, we are in the same boat. I'm glad to have company. LOL I thought I was the only one considering a baby at 41. But now I feel less anxious!!!
I appreciate all the posts and different scenarios I'm 41 with 3 children and my recently husband is 10 years younger with no children, he wants one and I was a little hesitant b/c of my age, now thanks to this article I have reconsider and we are trying to have a child.
I was so pleased to find this artcicle as I have spent a tearful week after finding out that my partner's job will be insecure for the next two years and that we cannot even think of children until we know what's happening with him. By then I will be 39 and I thought too to have children, but reading this clear and helpful advice from Mary Murry and all your stories has given me hope. Thank you all.
I appreciate all the comments. In addition to everyone's stories, the article made me realize that if we decide to have another child it will be fine. To all the women trying, best wishes!
Hi Ladies,since my last post I had a fertility test. The prognosis wasn't great and I had a rather nasty reality check! But I kept remembering all the positive stories on here and thankfully I am more positive myself and my husband is starting to come round to the idea we have to seriously start thinking about trying for a baby...scarey but exciting!! :)
I am 35 and due for my 2nd baby this June. I think is a personal choice for every women depending on how long they want to wait before having kids. However, due to the fact that raising children takes a lot of energy, the best time would be in the late 20's to early 30's. After 35 your energy level may go down and it will be harder to keep up with a young child, your job, and everything else in your life.
I am 34 and plan to have my first in the next year or two. Most of my late 30-something friends had babies with no problems at all. One thing I know for sure was that I was not at a emotional and mental maturity level in my 20s that I feel I would need to be at in order to be a good mom. I am so glad I waited.
Dorothy sounds like an ignorant human being, and I feel bad that her children had to have her for a mother. Im sure they were made fun of in school for having a mother like her. Unfortunately there will always be people in the world like Dorothy, that we have to hear from. If nothing else people like her are good for a laugh.
I'm 35 and trying for my third child. We have a darling 9 year old daughter and a handsome 5 year old son. Despite being so blessed, I still have this nagging feeling our family isn't complete yet. Conception for the first two were very easy but this one has been more of a challenge. I was able to conceive about 6 months ago but miscarried shortly after. It also took 5 months to conceive that baby versus only 1 month for the first two. My advice to women that have found their sole mate but are putting kids off for their career: don't do it. It is harder to conceive the older you get. Don't miss out on being a mom. It's way too awesome!
I'm 37 and just now have met the right man that I hope to spend the rest of my life with. I would hopefully like to have a baby one day. It's encouraging to read this article and responses and knowing i'm not alone in this. As for you Dorothy...good for you for getting married and having kids in your 20's. I myself didn't want to settle for just any guy. Clearly you didn't marry well as you are now divorced. Don't know anything about you or your situation but If I had to guess i'd say he probably saw how ugly you are on the inside and how judgmental you are. Normally I would never assume something about someones life or remark on it but when you get someone on here that is so nasty and so hateful it's hard not to. My best friend had her 1st baby at 36 while working a full tim job and going to school and he's a healthy happy baby. She's 37 now and is getting ready to have her 2nd baby. When her kids are 20, she's going to be 57. My mother is 59 and she's a healthy active woman...not walking around on a cane. So take a look in the mirror Miss Dorothy, pat yourself on the back and tell yourself you're wonderful because you're the only one who things so. As for all you other ladies...best of luck to you and may you all have beautiful healthy babies!!!
I love this article. I am 38 and have an amazing 6 month old and will try for #2 soon. I cannot imagine having babies before this. For one, I didn't meet the man of my dreams until I was 34. If I would have had babies earlier, I would have had them with the wrong guy. Elle is the most amazing baby, wouldn't have done it any differently. We are financially stable and 2 parents very in love with each other and our baby. Dorothy, I am glad you are happy with your situation, it may have worked for you. (?) but this happy marriage and family works for me! Congrats to all of you strong women and your wondeful families at any age.
I had my first child at 31 am 37 now and trying for my second. In no way was I suppose to have my child in my 20's. Guess what DOROTHY still married and I was married in my 20's and having fun...not raising babies. Sounds like your selfish and decided to have children in your 20's so you could get them out from under foot and divorce their dad and move on with your life. You will probably make a great Grandmother..doubt it.
Dorothy is rude. I had my first at thirty because I didnt get married until I met the right guy. 50% divorce rate we don't need to rush kids! Power to all you moms young and old, I'm 34 now and still thinking about another one.
Thank you so much for this discussion -I'm turning 39, but I look 10 years younger; but recently I have been getting stressed that I may have left it too late to start thinking about Children. Unfortunately my husband and I have not concidered it before now because of our financial situation being in constant flux - and this does matter Dorothy and it's nothing to do with being selfish, it's the complete opposite and how dare you put down 99% of these amazing women on here who have succeeded in having children over 35.
So thank you everyone, I now can think clearer and plan!
If and When..Rejoice:)
Stop being a selfish mother and have your children in your 20's when your body was design to have you baby. Im 48 and think god I had them in my 20's. Don't look 48 look 38 divorced and believe me I wouldn't want to be stuck with little children, my children are grown up like they suppose to have their own families and Im young enough to see it. think god I didn't start at 40 with my first sad I would be 50 a old women with a 10 year old not fair to the child sorry. Your eggs get old after 20's. Yes a proud mother who wasn't selfish and had her childen in her 20's when her eggs where young. unless you wasn't able to conceive until later other then that its selfish
Had my children in my 20's the eggs were young and your body was design to have them in your 20's. I really think if you have your first in your 30's and 40's I hope people don't have their first in their 60's I don't think it's possible. Stop downing mothers in their 20's who have children that's when your supposed to. If I had my first child at 40 my child will be 10 when Im 50 a grandmothers age selfish. When my children where teenagers they had a youthful moter not some women in a cane. sorry not fair to the children they will be joked in school sad. Please don't give me that finance excuse if your motivated your children are going to be okay if you had them in your 20's or 50's please don't use that excuse just was being selfish
Thank you, Im 26 and dieing to have kids. I cant afford them and was always told 30 is the cut off point. Nice to know theres a good chance Ill still be ok at 35.
Are the risks/timelines for woman who have previously concieved different than for woman who at age 35 have never concieved? I am thinking along the lines that woman having concieved in the past have built up the equivalent of anti bodies (sorry for the poor anaolgy).
Thank you for this information it is very informative.
I'm 48,I have two sons 22 and 18 I wanted a girl and really didn't think I would get pregnant. I am now blessed with a beautiful healthy 4 year old girl she is my sunshine. My Doctor called it a high risk pregnancy. My freinds asked if I was sure I wanted to start all over again. Some encouraging words to the doubtful women,anything is possible.
I am 45 yrs old. I am soooo ready for my first child. Thank you for taking all the scary stories you hear when is it the right time? Thank God, I am physically and mentally healthy. My Dr told me for my annual check keep going with my current lifestyle. My B/P was 110/72. So happy :-) If you seriously want a child. Have one and be the very best. I give all new mom's to be much blessings.
While I suspect I am younger than your average reader, I am 26, unmarried, and currently enrolled in a PhD program that will take another 4-5 years. All my friends are getting married and having babies all around me and I just worry that I am going to end up waiting too long since I don't want to have kids until I am out of school and have been married and settled down for a while. You've taken a load off of my mind to say the very least!
Turning 40 and marrying a great guy in August 2011. I also have a Handsome 11 year old son. My husband to be and I want to have 1 more. This article makes me feel much better about my decision. Thank you! ;o)
I am 51 and want to stop taking birth control. I do not want to become pregnant. When is it safe. I'm not having symptoms of menopause, but how likely is it that I could become pregnant? Any advice?
it s so reassuring to see that as im 40 this year that i not totally loseing the plot by wanting another child !!! i hav two boys one is 15 and one is 6 and i long for a little girl ,,, i know it s not guarrantted but i keep thinking in ten years time will i be sorry i did nt try one more time :P , dont get me wrong if i had another boy then obviously it was nt meant to be but if it was a girl i would be over the moon and thanks again x x
I am turning 39 in a few weeks, and have no child yet because of so many things.....I am not sure if there is perfect timing in life to have a child. I am so worried if i will ever be able to have one, and more importantly will the baby be ok?
I am 40 this year and only now ready to have a baby and your article is so well written it has given me hope. Thank you.
I feel like a weight has been lifter after reading this. I want another baby and Im scared because Im now 38. Thank you!
Thank you. I am 43 and am ready to have my first baby. I did the college-career thing and now I am ready to be a Mom!! I am in excellent health and look forward to this time in my life. I am encouraged by your article! Thank you!!
it was not until my early and late 30s that I was able to deliver 3 beautiful children. At age 32, we had our first son (complete shocker), at 34 our second son was born, and our precious daughter who is now 7 mths was born when I was 36. I have had miscarriages before, but with prayer we were able to conceive and sustain 3 pregnancies without the use of fertility drugs. Let me add that I am by no means judging anyone that uses fertility drugs. Medical intervention is sometimes needed to assist in conception. So regardless of how your family is formed and the age at which you begin, be blessed!
I was 36 when I became pregnant...while the dr.s did every test to ensure a healthy pregancy....I had the risk results of a 20 year old. I had a good pregnancy and an almost perfect delivery. My daughter will be 3 in February and is the light of my life. If I had to do it over again I would in a heart beat. I will be 40 in May and my daughter is asking for a brother or sister. I have not decided yet but either way she will always have my love.
Hello to everyone! All of your replies to this article have helped me a lot, I am 26 years old and still in college, no kids, and I am in a serious relationship but we are both not ready to get marry yet or have a baby.. we are both college students waiting to have some financial support to get marry.. now my concern is that I am getting too old already and I fear I might never have the chance to have a baby. Maybe I am thinking negative but time does fly and he wants kids so I dont know what to do
Fertility really depends individually on the woman. My mother could not get pregnant as much as she tried in her twenties and early thirties. It was not until her late thirties she began conceiving children. She had 4 children and her last at age 43. Statistics are only numbers. As long as you keep your blood pressure down a woman can concieve healthy babies well into her fourties.
I read this article and I found the courage to smile. I am engaged to a wonderful man who is 46 and I am turning 35 this coming November. Financial circumstances have postposed "things" for us and suddenly I have been terrified if it is "too late" for me. In many ways it is hard for me to believe I am going to be 35. I have always looked young for my age. I am sure that it won't be until I am 36 or 37 until I do actually have a child. Well, this article has helped to put some of my titanic fears to rest. Well, at least into perspective. I know that maturity wise It is best that I have waited. I sure am more of a healthy, responsible and selfless person then I was in my 20's. Also, I would like to say that I have a first cousin who lives outside of London who gave birth the first time at 40 and the second time at 42. Both are beautiful little girls now. My cousin also, I should add had uneventful pregnancies. Nothing was abnormal. Again, thank you so much for this! It is giving me some hope and maybe I am not so "old" after all! :)
I am 42 yrs old, married a man who is 20yrs older than me when I was just 21. He has other children before "us" and we have one together. He doesnt want another (I dont blame him really) but is it right that I sacrafice such a gift. Is it too late for me? I am the only one of all my family to just have 1 (and she is 17 and an amazing blessing to our family) I would have loved to have had a couple more really but I dont know it just always seemed "he didnt want anymore"... I am too passive, and now is it too late? I am an involved mom all the way, a very young 42 and have much more love to give <3 Any answers out there? PS. my mother had her last at 43 yrs old. what to do, what to do??
What happened to part 2 of this ?
Well put, and encouraging. Didn't make it sound so negative like a lot of other site have done.
my name is angel and im pregent but i dont look like it do you have to have a bump
Women above 40 will find it difficult to conceive and could need help. Please go to http://www.menstrualproblems.org to view Dr Raelph's videos on the subject, Its right at the end of the page.
My daughter-in-law, a craftsman and artist, is 44 and shows no interest in having a child. My son (only chuld) on the other hand, has always wanted children--at least until after marrying her.
Is it best that this couple NOT conceive, and does that mean I will never have the joy of being a grandma?
I am so very happy to have found this article. I am 30 and marrying the man of my dreams this year. We want to have children very much, but would like to spend a few years establishing "us" and getting finances and my career a little more solid. I spoke with my 32 year old friend today who is pregnant with her 2nd child and told me about the risks of getting pregnant later on. It really worried me because until today I had not considered that I would already be in an advanced age brackett to have a baby. Thank you to all of the wonderful ladies that posted as well. We have to stick together and offer support!!!
I'm 49 & want encourage other mothers. I had my one and only son at 42. Married in 30s, no birth control or pg. for about 6 years. Found I had ovarian cysts that may have been interfering with pg but not really certain. Became pg at 39 & again 40 naturally, both miscarriages due to low progesterone. Pg again at 41 with successful pg. I did need progesterone vaginal cream for the first trimester. Son born at 42., very healthy. If I had my choice, I wouldn't have waited so long, but sometimes we don't have that choice. My dr. also had a baby at 42. She explained as some others have, even though statistically you have a chance of more potential problems in your 40's, you have an 80-85% chance of a perfectly normal pregnancy and baby. Now I am 49 and would love to have another (we did try for a few years), but I really do feel I'm too old at this point. I think as long as you are healthy and want one, you should go for it. Our mothers and grandmothers never heard that your shouldn't have children after 35 and they did just fine. I think our modern society has made the age of 35 some looming deadline that so many people feel fearful of passing. Don't get me wrong...the information we have today is awesome and it helps us make better decisions. But just because our circumstances don't fit in a nice little box doesn't mean all is hopeless. BTW, having our son has been the epitome of our lives! He's healthy, happy and has, in fact, kept us young at heart!
I'm almost 33 and the only reason I've been waiting to have my first baby is to get my career figured out. Well actually I've been foolishly listening to my so called friends say how IMPORTANT it is to have the career thing figured out BEFORE having kids. Well in this economy and the fact that I'm in the midst of changing careers - this could take YEARS. So my husband and I are pretty well off financially. I think my career can wait and I'm not getting any younger. So I'm hoping to have kids soon.
Thanks for your honest writing. I have heard untrue statistics from people. I'm glad to hear you have a 99% chance of having a healthy baby.
Thank you so much for this. I am 33, married, but not in any position to have a child financially. The risk for having a child with autism when conceiving later in life is all over the news today. I would love to have a baby, but after working with adults with disabilities and the amazing families that care for them... I am terrified to have a child of my own now. Do you have any advice about these most recent findings?
I'm 38 years old and have five daughters. Yes, you read that right, FIVE DAUGHTERS. (Ages 18 - 2) We thought we were finished, but as my youngest reaches that 3rd birthday, I'm starting to hear that little voice saying that it's time again. Everybody already thinks we're insane, but I strongly feel that if you are healthy and you want a baby, you shouldn't care what other people think!! I don't think anybody should base their decision to have a child on what the rest of the world thinks. Each of my five daughters has brought joy beyond words!! Our oldest daughter has autism and many would think that in itself would warrent us NOT having more children, but for those people, I would try to explain to them just how much she has taught everyone around her. She is TRULY a blessing! Having a child with a disability is NOT the end of the world. It's just as much a blessing as having a "typical" child. So, I would urge others not to let those statistics be the deciding factor either. I am concerned about having another child at age 38 for health reasons, and that's what brought me to this site, but after discussing this with my doctor and doing a little research, I think we may try again. And I would LOVE to have another girl!!
I would like to know how many of you mothers over the age of 35 used fertility drugs. I am thirty four and have no kids, have never been married, and am not dating anyone. I cannot afford to freeze my eggs. Afriend told me that she would never have a baby after thirty five because of the risks. I trust her opinion since she is a married stay at home mom with an ideal family, (husband and two kids in a middle class neighborhood). I never expected my life to turn out this way and it is getting hard for me to keep tolerating people with families. I don't want to become a single parent like my mother was, I wanted a real family and I know this is going to cause a life crisis.
Thank you so much i am 32 and for years every one around me says i am to old to have kids.So its good to know there is a chance for me and my husband.
Thank you all so much! I'm turning 30 next month and was really starting to freak out about time running out. I've always wanted a family. My boyfriend and I have been dating about 8 months and he's younger and not in any hurry while I've been trying not to panic - I guess the number scared me more than I thought. Thank you all for sharing your stories and information. I'm going to do my best to relax and just see where things go. Hugs!
I have not seen much on this issue, but if you are in your late 30's early 40's and still have regular monthly periods 28 days apart or so, are you still considered to be as fertile as when you were younger? Does this correlate to not having problems conceiving? If you know about this, I would love to hear from you.
Hi, I am just a few months away from my 40th birthday and the mother of 2 girls ages 11 and 6. My husband and I are planning on another child. I am having my IUD removed later this month. In the past I have been very fertile. I am so excited but yet nervous when I read of women having problems. You know my biggest fear...what others will think of me being so old having a baby. Not to mention both my mother in law and my own mom will be outraged. Amazing to think I am nearly 40 but still care what people think. I just pray for no miscarriages. My two prior pregnancies were very healthy and without any problems.
I'm 35. and I had my life planned with my 3 kids. But, life had other plans for me so now I'm pregnant. My pregnancy is going really well. And I'm not going to get an abortion just because some people think I'm old. Many celebrities have their babies even in their 40's and nobody says anything about it. And they are just like everyone else, only famous!!!
WOW!!! I am 39 and think I might be pregnant, I am 7 days late usually pretty much on schedule, I feel tenderness where I should not, a feel hungry all the time, and tired seems to soon but feels like the first time I was pregnant back in 1997, yes I have a 12 year old. I have been married for 4 years and I was trying to get pregnant 2 years ago since it did not happen I gave up on it... Right now I am terrified. I guess I had accepted the fact that I would not have another baby. Reading these comments has made me feel a lot better. I will wait until I am 10 days late before I take a test.
Well,that didn't quite answer my question.
but,you did tell me the stuff i needed to know!
I was 32 when I had my first child...he is now 10 years old and not just "normal" but incredible! I also have multiple sclerosis and was told not to have any more children. I had my second son at age 39. My OBGYN advised me that the fetus could have all kinds od devestating disorders and syndromes...I was scared to death. Well, I fired her and found a very compassionate high risk OBGYN. I am sitting her at age 42 watching my blonde haired beautiful little 3 year old boy play with his cars and trucks. He also is not only normal but extraordinary! My husband and I want 1 more child. Doctors tell me I should not even consider it and have a tubal ligation. Both because I have MS and my age. I am in excellent shape, exercise daily, eat very well and feel great. Yes, I have had Ms for 18 years but my disease is mild and not progressive. We have just begun to try to get pregnant. We have gotten pregnant very easily in the past and hope we will again. We did briefly talk about an egg donor or a surrogate but my husband is adamont that they are my old eggs! Thank you for a positive place to blog. Some of us went to college, had years of graduate school and career, married late or are in second marriages and still want children...I love being an older, wiser, more patient mom!
Ok... Now that I have read the comments; let me give you my true miracle pregnancy experience. At age 29, had my tubes tied; at age 44 in a half had them untired, at age 45 had my daughter; and she is now 14 months old, healthy and happy... Now, at age 46, I'm working on getting pregnant again... I love being an older mother! ~ My oldest daughter is 27 and my youngest, just 14 months... Of course, the doctors all told me it would be impossible and I was wasting my money on the surgery but ... as I told them, faith is better on my side than mans medical opinion...
Doctors tried to scare me with the Downs risks and maternal age factors -- but, again, I just based my risks on my previous pregnancies and kept healthy -- and had a healthy baby from it all...
Good luck to all of you who are trying to conceive!
WOW! Thank you for this POSITIVE article. I'm 38 years old thinking about having my first child. I was terrified by the negative statistics (1 out of 365) until I read your percentage of having a "normal" baby (99.34%). I'm blown away because I have never seen it put that way. I actually feel *relieved* for the first time. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!
Thank you so much for putting such a positive spin on being an older mum. I am 39 year old teacher and trying to get pregnant for the first time.
I am 33 years old and still not ready to be a mother but am starting to feel this slow, creeping panic that I may be running out of time. Reading this article and the comments inspired me to relax, that I am right in waiting and that I am correct when I say to people who pressure me about kids "Hey, I'll still have eggs when I'm 40!" :) Thanks for your stories.
I 44 years old and trying to have another baby, I am not as lucky this time as I was my first time. I had my first baby (my only one) at the ripe old age of 42. I married late and with God's help I was pregnant 3 weeks after we were married (concieved naturally, good honeymoon :), yes I know very lucky. This time around I have had a couple of inseminations with no luck. We are going to try invitro, I hope. I have so much love to offer another child.
Good luck to all those who want to have a baby after 40 it is possible.
Take care.
Hi , I had a stillbirth at 21 weeks trought a C-section last October and I just turned 39 . We are still trying and hoping that we will be able to have another child soon - we have a 9 1/2 year old boy . We do not want to wait too much but having a c-section some doctors say wait 6 mo some say 1 year . Being 39 does not help the matters but I do not want to make the wrong decision .
after listening to some people speak of woman over 40 being "too old" to have a baby, it was very upsetting since i am 39 & w/out a potential daddy. this article & the comments inspires me to have some hope :) thank you
I am 43 and think I might be pregnant. My husband (36) and I did not plan for a baby but I am beginning to think God had a different plan. I am not in the best of health but I am ready to go through this if it is God's will. I have a 23 year old daughter from a previous marriage and two grandsons ages 4 and 1. I am less than one week late for my cycle which 99% of the time is right on schedule. I have enjoyed reading all the positive comments from the older moms. Thank you. p.s. Can anyone tell me how accurate home pregnancy tests are, and how soon after missing a period can you use them?
I'm 28 and my husband and I are discussing having a child but most likely I will wait until Im 30. I really appreciate all of the great comments from the older moms out there. My friends and family all put a lot of pressure on me to have kids now even though Im not ready. My mom had me young and we have never been close, but my grandmother who was 53 when I was born have always been really close. So I personally think that older adults make better parents because they are more settled and know what they want out of life. Thank you all for the encouragement. It's going to happen when God wants to happen anyway.
I am 43 and pregnant w/my 2nd child. My after 2 unsuccessful rounds of IVF using my own eggs, we resorted to using an ovum donor and were successful with our 1st try. We "defrosted" embryos to achieve this pregnancy. I feel like I am at the best place emotionally and financially in my life to be starting my family. I may be a bit more fatigued during this pregnancy than a 20-something having her 2nd baby, but that is of little concern. I figure that these kids will help keep me and my husband (who is in his 50's) very young for a very long time!
Iwas 39 had a MC fell pregnant again at 40 had another MC and again after that.I am going to be 42 this year not giving up.i have 3 children oldest 18 then 2 boys 8,9
I'm 37 and unexpectedly pregnant. I have a 4 year old. Thank you for the encouraging article!
I have had three pregnancies: one at 24 when I was still single, in school, and not in love, one at 35 after I met my husband, and one at 41 (still with my husband). Each occurred at very different stages of life, but I can honestly say that I was not ready to have a baby, any baby, until I was 35, at least. Honestly, at 41, I finally feel ready to have a baby for the first time. So much needs to be in place--a loving marriage, financial resources, emotional maturity, professional satbility, etc. My grandmother and sister both had babies into their mid-40s without fertility treatments, and my husband and I are hoping to do the same. At the same time, I think it is important to educate women and men about the risks (decreased fertility, miscarriage, etc.) of waiting to have children too long, and there needs to be more support of families generally from U.S. society, regardless of age. At a recent ultrasound, the technician made a comment about our ages and when I looked at her shocked, she said "I am not saying you are the oldest patients we have ever treated, but...." It was so insulting to be lying there carrying a child that we conceived naturally without any fertility treatments and to be treated like we had no right to be there because we happened to be old enough to be responsible adults but still young enough to be making babies! Sometimes it feels like we are in "Logan's Run."
So is anyone who is over 50 considering pregnancy? Still having regular periods and in physical better shape than when I had my son in my early 40's. So is it physically possible? (especially with a younger man as Les points out.)
I got married to my husband in May of 2007. In Sept of 2007 I asked my doctor if it was ok to try to start a family. She basically said "Go ahead and try but don't get your hopes up." We got pregnant in two weeks! It gets better...with fraternal twins! The babies were born a month early and spent 10 days in NICU. They are wonderful, healthy 7 month old babies now! I am blessed beyond belief! I think it was easy for me to concieve because I started my menstruel cycle late (mid/late-teens) and becasue I was in great physical shape at the time of conception.
I have been enjoying the comments. Thank you all for sharing! I am just about to turn 36, and my husband and I have been married for a little over one years. We have been trying to get pregnant for 3 months! I am really freaking out, as there are so many negative comments and preconceived notions regarding being over 35 and pregnant that I feel hopeless at times! I know it is too early to freak out, but I cannot get all that negativity out of my head. So, thank you for your encouragement for us over 30 or 35!!!
Its so encouraging to read so many positive things. I am 39 y/o and had my son at age 27. I was single and was not able to have a baby. I am now engaged and trying to have another child, I had an ectopic preg. 3 yrs ago. All I can do is wait, but time is going by so fast. I feel like giving up sometimes.
hi i am in early 30s and trying to conceive but recently i went to remove cryst from my ovary does this make me slow down of getting pregent.
And my hubby use to smokes and drinks alcohol at times does this will effect or will there be a problem to be conceive.
Thank you and looking for yr comment.
I was 17 when I found out that I had only 1 felopian tube. Between the ages of 21-22 I fell pregnant 3 times only to miscarry 3 times.At 23 I gave birth to a healthy boy & at 24 I had a healthy girl. I was told that I only had half a womb & that I was lucky to have my babies.I'm now 38 and am trying for another child, I didn't let 1 felopian tube than half a womb and 3 miscarriages stop me before so I won't let being 38 stop me now, all anyone can do is be postitive and keep a healthy body & if it is meant to be it will.
I am 45 and call me a dreamer but I really want to get pregnant again. I have an adorable 4 year old, so my first pregnancy was at 41. I have had two miscarriages (one before and after him). I want to have hope, but my OB/GYN said my "eggs were fried", which I find really negative. Is there any hope?
I suffered an ectopic pregnancy 3 years ago and I am seeking information regarding the likelihood of natural concenption when one felopian tube has been removed. I've been told by 2 specialists that the remaining tube is very healty and I have very regular cycles but being 38 is a concern for me. I'd like to know how soon I can seek fertility assistance. I'd like to be pregnant within the next year or so. Please help!!
One of the few regrets in life I have is not having children. I am in my 40's but still think about it sometimes.
I am 37 and TTC for the first time in my life. My doctor told me he thought it would take me 2 months to get pregnant. When I asked him why he said because my cycles are regurlar. Within 2 months I was pregnant. We miscarried, waited a cycle, got pregnant again. Hopefully this one sticks. There is so much scary and negative information online about being over 35 and trying to conceive. The Mayo Clinic is my favorite source for information on pregnancy. Lots or relavent information and not so much discouraging stuff. Just remember, that even if your in your 40s you're still likly to conceive and have a HEALTHY baby.
I have six wonderful children (same husband) all born after my 30th birthday. Happy, healthy beautiful children. My youngest is now 17 months old. I just suffered a miscarriage at age 43. My heart is broken but am a willing vessel if God chooses to bless us again. Every time I look at one of these amazing creatures I can't imagine doing anything to prevent pregnancy. I have read all the statistics and I know the risks, I also know it's God who is in control. If your doctor laughs or makes fun of you wanting a child at "advanced maternal age" - find another doctor or midwife who respects life and the Creator of Life. Best wishes.
im 37 years old and had a miscarriage this past may. my husband and i are now trying again to conceive. we've been trying for 3 months now, and nothing yet. i'm hearing all these things about how i may not be ovulating as often as i was when i was in my 20's and im starting to give up hope. i will be seeing my doctor this month so hopefully i can get some encouragement. it is nice though to hear that women my age and older are having babies. hopefully it will be me soon as well. good luck to you all.
I have just suffered my first miscarriage at 36 which I have found very hard and I was beginning to think I had left it too late to have a child, however thanks to your articule and other comments I feel so much better knowing so many other women continue to have healthy babies over 35. This has giving me renewed hope and I will start to try again once my body and mind is ready!.
Wonderful article and wonderful comments. I am 45 - not pregnant yet- but wont hesitate for a second should it happen. I waited for the right man who entered my life when I was 42- didnt get pregnant yet- but also I am not running after it and dont take hormones. It is either god given or not
I turned 39 yesterday. The day before my birthday, a health care provider strongly warned me against conceiving. He gave me the black cloud speach about increased risks involved with older women having a children. He also expressed his concerns about my husband not being a good father, becasue he had had a vasectomy and then a reversal. I was very irritated with both of his opinions, because having children when you are older is not all doom and gloom, and men who choose not to have children in one part of their life doesn't mean they can't change their mind and be wonderfull fathers. These are all choices that we should be allowed to make without the unfair judgement of others. As long as we are fully educated and have the forsight to make reasonable and safe decisions, then that is our prerogative!
I'm almost 31 and still have not been married or kids.
I want to have a kid within the next couple years but
it is so hard to find the right man. I want to make sure
my unborn kids have a good father who loves me and them.
I'm crying thinking about this because I don't know where the good decent men went to...oh yeah, they are already married. So what is a girl to do? If I don't find someone I'm going to adopt. But I would really like the experience of giving birth.
I was just told that my ex mother-in-law, who just turned 69 today, has tested positive for pregnancy! She has been on bio-indentical hormones for the past year and began menstruating over 6 monthes ago. Has anyone heard of this before from the use of these replacement hormones.
The most important thing is being able to provide a loving and stable life for your baby. I'm 32 years old and don't have a family yet because I haven't found the right man. I know what it's like to grow up without the presence of a loving, protective father who is able and willing to provide for his children. I want my child to have what I didn't and I haven't found the man that is ready to provide those things. I hope that when this happens that I will still be able to conceive a child but if not I won't regret having waited for the right person. Adoption is always an option for me. I would love to be a parent and if it turns out that I can't have my own biological child it would still be an amazing blessing to bring a child into my life through adoption. It's great if you find a man ready and wiling to be a wonderful father when you are both in your 20s but that is a rare thing these days.
Great comments!
I had my daughter at 38 yrs and was very happy to do so! I'm so happy to be a mother. At 41 I had a miscarriage. I was scared to try again, but later on I regretted not trying again.
thank you all for some possitive word's of Hope!!
I am 47 almost 48 and have felt very embarrased about having a child at my age.(sitting at obgyn with pregant young girls)
I've had 5 doctor's say i have 0 to 1% of getting pregant at my age even tho every test has said my chances are better than they thought.. i left one doctor's office in tear's after him laughing at me because of my age.....I had a tubal reversal even tho all told me about the negetive thing's in having a baby that can happen even death...
i belive that God is the one who forms us in our womb and every child is his gift to us....after long prayer's and no possitive word's from anyone, we decided to put my tubes back the way God had them and let him do the work from there!!
as i read everyone's posting's i began to cry as i finally heard that it's not as uncomon as all the doctor's said it was and im not alone!!
I Just want to thank every one that has spoke out to us older women and gave possitive encouragement to our dream of having children.
i know of lot's of people who have raised there grandchildren in there old age and many people who care for foster children and adopt...so i really could'nt understand why i was being persecuted for wanting to have my own child at 47??
God Bless...what is impossible with man..is possible with God!!
I had my daughter at 39, and my son when I was 41. Both pregnancies took a bit of a toll on my body (don't they all?), but I didn't enter into them in the best possible shape. Now, seven months after the birth of my son, I have lost all of the baby weight plus another 20 pounds – while nursing!! I'm still a little sleep deprived, but I feel better than I have in years. Despite my fears regarding the potential challenge of becoming and staying pregnant at my advanced age, I conceived both of my children within two months of trying. I feel so very fortunate. I had no idea how much joy, love, laughter, and just plain fun my children would bring. Had I known, I might have tried sooner. But had I done so, then the different egg/sperm combo would have brought different kids, and I wouldn't have known my little loves. They were most definitely worth waiting for!
On another note, my mom was 27 when she had my sisters, and 38 when she had me. She was my best friend for the 30 years we had each other. I would never have traded my "old" mom for a "newer" one. For there never was a person with a younger, more loving heart.
I just turned 44 and have an 8 year old and a 3 year old. I feel I am a more relaxed, patient, and happy person in my 40's than I was in my 20's. Being an older mom has fantastic advantages and I wouldn't change a thing. However, it's good to keep a sense of humor when you're changing diapers and having a hot flash at the same time!
I had my one and only child 3 months before I turned 40. His father was 62. Our child is almost 13, His father is 75 and I'm almost 53. Poor child has old parents, BUT he always has someone to come home to and parents who love him very much. We are both active in his life. His dad coached his football and basketball teams at age 74 and has taught him to play golf. We homeschooled for 6 years. He is the delight of our life. However, adolescense, senility and menopause make for an interesting combination. Not too many dull moments! It's the best thing that ever happened to me - didn't expect or plan it - but welcomed it as truly a "Gift from God". My background pre-child was politics and law - post-child I'm a childbirth educator and Board Certified Lactation Consultant. My life changed in so many ways - for the better.
Wow, finally some hope! I read this article thinking I was just going to have another person tell me to give up. When I was 17, I became pregnant. Due to many factors, I gave my daughter up for adoption. It wasn't something I really wanted to do even though I , myself, am adopted. I struggled every day with that decision and it has actually become harder. I thought someday I could have children of my own but it hasn't happened. The reality that I may have given up the only child I will ever have is suffocating to say the least. I am now 37 and have literally been going through a grieving process the last few years. Believe it or not, it was brought on by my birthdaughter finding me. Seeing what I missed out on and then watching her have a child of her own has been overwhelming. I have been trying desperately to accept the fact that I will never have children. Everything I have read until now tells me all the reasons I shouldn't have a baby at my age. It's not like I wanted to be an "older mom" but it would be better for me than facing a life without children. Thank you so much for posting a positive article. Thank you so much for all that posted. Finally, I have hope and inspiration!
As long as an infant is born healthy – with no genetic defects, any age is OK to have a child.
The comment posted by HB (a few line up) is totally outmoded in this day and age with so many 'Baby Boomers' hitting 60 years of age, and thousands of centenarians – even 'super-centenarians' (those over 106 years of age) alive in the U.S. These people are not all mentally incapacitated and bound to wheelchairs – many are physically very active, and some are still running businesses.
Theoretically, if a woman were physically fit to have a 'medically assisted' pregnancy at age 80, it is very very possible that she would have at least 20 more years to enjoy that new person.
We in the 21st Century need to re-shape our concept of what is 'Too Old' for a person to do.
I had 3 children within four years , the last when I was 26. In the next 13 years I had several miscarriages. I became pregnant at 39 (with the smae husband) but thought I would again miscarry. I didn't! Another surprise arrived 15 months later-a very healthy baby. I brought my last child home on my 45th birthday. Another very healthy baby. All 6 are thriving, healthy as am I at a ripe old age.
Please do your research and keep this in perspective! There are exceptions to most rules. My mother had my brother at 37 and gave birth to me at 45 and that was 47 years ago. Just think of the advances in medicine since then. I also have a friend who had a baby in her early 30s. The baby had genetic concerns and died a few years later. Even so, the mother had two children after 35 and they are healthy and rambunctious. Some women in their 20s are less healthy than some older women. Factor in diet, environment, stress--there are just too many variables to make a blanket statement. Do what works for you, the father and the baby.
I had both of my children when I was over the age of 40. I had my son at 40 and my daughter 15 months later at age 41. They are both perfect, wonderful kids that keep me young. I think that being an older Mom has many advantages. I think younger and feel younger! They are a true blessing.
Thank you so much for the information you have started in this blog. I would be interested to hear your comments on the use of Prometrium to boost the sometimes low progesterone levels in the older expectant mom.
Also, in the future, could you talk about how to avoid hypoglycemic-like episodes in early pregnancy in a non-diabetic. Our 37-year-old daughter is trying to control her weight, but gets terribly hungry during the day with a job that she cannot leave at will. Today, she had a terrible, almost fainting, episode.
I had a daughter with Down syndrome 8 years ago (I was 36) and she has been the greatest addition to our family. She spreads sunshine everywhere she goes. She reads, writes , signs (is more verbal now but signs along with speaking)tells time, can identify money and so much more. She has taught us so much more than we teach her.......truly a gift from God.... Many parents and family members will tell you of the joy a Down's child is. Our daughter has gotten more positive attention from complete strangers than all my other (5) children combined. Please don't let Down's be a negative factor.....we could all learn something from their positive nature!
Another thing to keep in mind is the experience a child will have with an older mother. My mom was in her late 40s when I was born, and it was extremely difficult growing up with someone who was so much older than the parents of my friends. She couldn't relate to me at all and we were never close, not even now that I'm an adult. Of course there are always generational differences between mother and child, but those differences are even more difficult to manage with an older mother.
I will be 39 in June and I am 5 (gestational)weeks with my first. I feel great although I am apprehensive about my age and complications that could arise because of it. Life was just not at the right place to have a baby at age 29 and most definately not at 19. Not only do you have to think about the pregnancy but the remaining 18 years that your child is in your direct care and your ability to provide your child with the proper skills to live life and begin his or her own family. Your responsibility doesn't stop with birth.
there was this old lady. it was on cnn. that an 80 or older lady had a child. i think thats just too far. i mean how are you going to raise and support the child when you are no longer living.
Wow,seems like lots of misinformation. I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy and birth of my baby girl at age 40. One of my friends just had a little boy last week at age 37 and another friend at age 41. My mother in law had my husbands sister at age 42. and that was 42 years ago.
Good Luck to everyone enjoy your pregnancies and babies1
Just a little encouragement; I gave birth to a healthy baby when I was 21, and another at 41 (natural conception after just a few months of trying). The pregnancy at 41 was definitely harder on my body. I had to go to bed for the last two months due to early contractions, but it was all worth it. I found that sleep deprivation from caring for an infant did not affect me as much this time around, and I am more patient with this child. I'm also more confident, as I know my older son turned out well! When I was pregnant with my youngest, I worried about Downs, etc. but refused amnio so as not to risk miscarriage. One day when I was 5 mos. along, I saw a little girl at the store with Downs who was about 6 or 7 years old, and she smiled like an angel when I spoke to her. She made me realize that I was prepared for whoever my child would be, and I stopped worrying so much. As it turns out, my youngest has an IQ of 153, is relatively healthy, and lots of fun to be around. My boys are 20 years apart, and love and enjoy each other very much. So I say if you do have a later pregnancy, relax and enjoy as much as you can.
I am 39 yrs old and I was told by a MD on 3/6/08 I was 6 wks pregnant. On3/20/08 I was told I was 6 wks pregnant by another MD.On 3/28/08 I was told by another MD I was 6 wks pregnant but the fetus did not have a heart beat. I should have been 9 weeks and 4 days pregnant as of 2/28/08. None of the MDs did there homework from the previous MD; or listen to the patient,when I explainte that the previous MD stated I was 6 wks. Now I'm carrieng a deceased fetuse. If things would have been taken care of like they should have been; the death of the fetuse would have saved me the aganoy of morning. AT this point,the MD's do not know what casused the death of the fetus. Down Syndrome and a miscarriages were my biggest concerns. I say all of that to say, age do play a big part of one's pregnacy.
I did not give you all any references for the statistics I quoted in this last blog. I would like to give you the titles of the studies. The perinatal effects of delayed childbearing, Obstetrics and gynecology(105)2005 and Advanced maternal age and adverse perinatal outcome. Obstetrics and gynecology (104)2004
I also wanted to thank Les for the contribution. According to UpToDate® spermatogenesis continues even in elderly men. Since the adult male's germ cells have passed through more mitotic replications than the adult female's germ cells, there is a greater opportunity for error.
I wanted to let anonymous know that I spoke with 2 perinatologist regarding your question and both felt that having successful pregnancies prior to a pregnancy over the age of 35 would have a positive effect. I am looking for research regarding this so I can speak with more confidence.
I had my first baby at age 39 after trying for almost 2 years. If you're trying to get pregnant, time goes by fast so never feel apprehensive about continuing your efforts to get pregnant. It may feel that time is not on your side - it doesn't diminish your desire to have a child. I have a wonderful 9 month old who is such a joy - good luck!
Thank you for sharing this information. I'm 37 and planning to try soon. I've read a lot of the statistics about chromosomal problems and I was really concerned. It puts my mind at ease to hear that it actually translates to a very low chance of a problem. It's tough as a woman- you don't always have control over when the things in your life fall into place. Thanks again!
You are wrong about sperm being new all the time. Sperm come from progenitor cells and collect mutations which cause miscarriages, autism, schizophrenia, etc. etc. The sperm go through divisions every 16 days, mistakes are made and genetic defects that are not in the father but in his sperm are passed to offspring. The older the father the higher the risk. Ovum are much less prone to mutation.
This blog contains some research paper on the subject of the male biological clock: http://themalebiologicalclock.blogspot.com/
I'm on my first and will deliver around my 32nd birthday. I am 25 weeks gestation and have never felt better in my LIFE! The reason this article caught my eye is because I would like to possibly have another, but don't see myself having a 2nd right away. Thanks for putting things in perspective!
I'm terrified at the idea of having a baby at 35+. I'm 25 now and currently pregnant and it's pretty hard on my body. I can only imagine what its like when your older. I had my first child at 21 (not so bad) and at 25 this pregnancy is taking a lot more out of me. After 32 I'm calling it quits.
I think about all the things that could go wrong and how my body would take it if I was in my mid to late 30's. I also want to be as young as possible for my kids. I don't want my 10 year (for example) to have a 50 year old mother. I want to do it while I'm young. A lot of women are waiting later to have babies and to each there own (god bless you). I think both sides have there ups and down, financially and emotinoally.
Does it make a difference if you've already had two healthy babies and you're trying for a third at age 36?
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How Tennessee's education changes will impact adults
SULLIVAN COUNTY, Tenn. - Governor Bill Haslam is pushing a plan to get more high school students to go to college. The 'Drive to 55' initiatives could also get more adults college credits or certificates.
The goal of Governor Bill Haslam's Drive for 55 campaign is to have 55 percent of Tennesseans get either a college degree or certificate beyond high school, but his office says there aren't enough high school students to hit 55 percent; instead, they're counting on some adults going back to school.
Tim Crigger lost his job in 2011 and enrolled at Northeast State Community College. He's getting ready to graduate in May with a new set of skills, something Haslam is hoping more Tennesseans will do.
Haslam's office says about 940,000 adults in Tennessee have some type of college credit, but not a degree. During an interview on Tuesday, Haslam said he's hoping to change that so more non-traditional students can finish degrees. "We're looking at increasing our online capacity to make it easier for people to go back to school. We're also making it so those folks who want to go back to our technology colleges, they can now do that free of charge, regardless of their education history," adds Governor Haslam.
The idea is called Tennessee Reconnect; the goal is to re-engage adults in post secondary education.
That, along with the newly unveiled Tennessee Promise, aimed at getting more high school students onto college, has staff at Northeast State expecting an increase in students.
In fact, many of those students may be graduating from high school with college credits, thanks to dual enrollment. "There are a lot of opportunities in many different paths. Students can start in high school, working toward their courses. We're trying to promote at least one year of college credit before a student graduates high school," says Janice Gilliam, Northeast State Community College President.
Both the Tennessee Promise and Tennessee Reconnect are set to begin in the fall of 2015, provided the legislation is approved.
According to the governor's office, students who attend a Tennessee College of Applied Technology have a job placement rate of 86 percent.