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Comvax Side Effects Center
Medical Editor: John P. Cunha, DO, FACOEP
Comvax [Haemophilus b Conjugate (Meningococcal Protein Conjugate) and Hepatitis B (Recombinant) Vaccine] is an immunization used to help prevent Haemophilus B (a type of influenza) and Hepatitis B (a viral disease) in children. Comvax vaccine works by exposing your child to a small dose of the bacteria or virus, which causes the body to develop immunity to the disease. Comvax vaccine will not treat an active infection. Comvax is available in generic form. Common side effects of Comvax include injection site reactions (pain, redness, swelling, tenderness, a hard lump, or bruising), fever, irritability, fussiness, increased crying, loss of appetite, increased sleeping, vomiting, runny nose, stuffy nose, cold symptoms, cough, joint pain, body aches, and diarrhea.
Comvax is a 3-dose combination series that aligns with routine doctor visits at 2, 4, and 12 to 15 months of age. Comvax may interact with steroids, medicines to treat or prevent organ transplant rejection, or medications to treat psoriasis, rheumatoid arthritis, or other autoimmune disorders. Tell your doctor all medications and supplements you use and all vaccines your child recently received. This vaccine is not for use in adults, therefore it is unlikely to be used during pregnancy or while breastfeeding; consult your doctor.
Our Comvax [Haemophilus b Conjugate (Meningococcal Protein Conjugate) and Hepatitis B (Recombinant) Vaccine] Side Effects Drug Center provides a comprehensive view of available drug information on the potential side effects when taking this medication.
This is not a complete list of side effects and others may occur. Call your doctor for medical advice about side effects. You may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088.
What is Patient Information in Detail?
Easy-to-read and understand detailed drug information and pill images for the patient or caregiver from Cerner Multum.
Comvax in Detail - Patient Information: Side Effects
Your child should not receive a booster vaccine if he or she had a life-threatening allergic reaction after the first shot.
Keep track of any and all side effects your child has after receiving this vaccine. When the child receives a booster dose, you will need to tell the doctor if the previous shots caused any side effects.
Becoming infected with haemophilus B or hepatitis A is much more dangerous to your child's health than receiving the vaccine to protect against these diseases. Like any medicine, this vaccine can cause side effects, but the risk of serious side effects is extremely low.
Get emergency medical help if your child has any of these signs of an allergic reaction: hives; difficulty breathing; swelling of your face, lips, tongue, or throat.
Call your doctor at once if the child has any of these serious side effects:
- extreme drowsiness, fainting;
- fussiness, irritability, crying for an hour or longer;
- seizure (black-out or convulsions); or
- high fever.
Less serious side effects include:
- redness, pain, tenderness, swelling, or a hard lump where the shot was given;
- diarrhea, loss of appetite, mild vomiting;
- mild fussiness or crying;
- joint pain, body aches; or
- mild fever.
This is not a complete list of side effects and others may occur. Tell your doctor about any unusual or bothersome side effect. You may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088.
Read the entire detailed patient monograph for Comvax (Haemophilus b Conjugate and Hepatitis B Vaccine)
What is Patient Information Overview?
A concise overview of the drug for the patient or caregiver from First DataBank.
Comvax Overview - Patient Information: Side Effects
Infrequently, temporary symptoms such as fainting/dizziness/lightheadedness, vision changes, numbness/tingling, or seizure-like movements have happened after vaccine injections. Tell your health care provider right away if your child has any of these symptoms soon after receiving an injection. Sitting or lying down may relieve symptoms.
Remember that your health care professional has prescribed this medication because he or she has judged that the benefit to your child is greater than the risk of side effects. Many infants using this medication do not have serious side effects.
Tell the doctor right away if your child has any serious side effects, including: easy bruising/bleeding, unusually fast/irregular heartbeat, inability to make muscles of the legs/arms/face work (paralysis), mental/mood changes (e.g., unusual behavior, severe drowsiness, stiff neck, closing eyes/turning away from bright light), seizures.
A very serious allergic reaction to this drug is rare. However, get medical help right away if you notice any symptoms of a serious allergic reaction, including: rash, itching/swelling (especially of the face/tongue/throat), trouble breathing.
This is not a complete list of possible side effects. If you notice other effects not listed above, contact your doctor or pharmacist.
Contact the doctor for medical advice about side effects. The following numbers do not provide medical advice, but in the US you may report side effects to the Vaccine Adverse Event Reporting System (VAERS) at 1-800-822-7967. In Canada, you may call the Vaccine Safety Section at Public Health Agency of Canada at 1-866-844-0018.
Read the entire patient information overview for Comvax (Haemophilus b Conjugate and Hepatitis B Vaccine)
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Comvax FDA Prescribing Information: Side Effects
(Adverse Reactions)
In clinical trials involving the administration of 7918 doses of COMVAX to 3561 healthy infants 6 weeks to 15 months of age, COMVAX was generally well tolerated. In these studies, infants received COMVAX with licensed pediatric vaccines (n=1745) or investigational vaccines (n=1816). Serious adverse experience data were available for all 3561 infants and non-serious adverse experience data were available for a subset of 1678 infants.
Pivotal Immunogenicity And Safety Study
In the pivotal, randomized, multicenter study, 882 infants were assigned in a 3:1 ratio to receive either COMVAX or PedvaxHIB plus RECOMBIVAX HB at separate injection sites at 2, 4, and 12-15 months of age. Children may have also received routine pediatric immunizations. The children were monitored daily for five days after each injection for injection-site and systemic adverse experiences. During this time, adverse experiences in infants who received COMVAX were generally similar in type and frequency to those observed in infants who received PedvaxHIB plus RECOMBIVAX HB.
The most frequently cited events were mild, transient signs and symptoms of inflammation at the injection site (i.e., pain/soreness, erythema, and swelling/induration), somnolence, and irritability, all of which were prompted for on report cards filled out by parents of vaccinated children. Table 3 summarizes the frequencies of injection-site and systemic adverse experiences within five days of vaccination that were reported among ≥ 1.0% of children in this pivotal trial.
Table 3: Local Reactions and Systemic Complaints
Within 5 Days After Injection Reported to Occur in ≥ 1.0%†
of Children Given a 3-Dose Course of COMVAX Compared to These Events in
Children Given Concomitant Injections of PedvaxHIB and RECOMBIVAX HB
Event | Injection 1‡ | Injection 2‡ | Injection 3 | |||
PedvaxHIB and RECOMBIVAX HB*** (N=221) % |
PedvaxHIB and RECOMBIVAX HB*** (N=213)% |
PedvaxHIB and RECOMBIVAX HB*** (N=193)% |
Injection Site Reactions | ||||||
Pain/Soreness* | 34.5 | 37.6 | 24.3 | 25.8 | 23.9 | 21.2 |
Erythema ( > 1 in.)* | 22.4 (2.7) | 25.8 (2.7) | 25.7 (1.4) | 23.5 (3.3) | 27.2 (3.0) | 24.4 (1.6) |
Swelling/Induration ( > 1 in.)* | 27.6 (3.0) | 33.5 (4.1) | 30.4 (2.9) | 31.0 (3.8) | 27.2 (3.2) | 29.5 (4.1) |
Systemic Complaints | ||||||
Irritability* | 57 | 46.6 | 50.7 | 44.1 | 32.2 | 29 |
Somnolence* | 49.5 | 47.1 | 37.4 | 31.9 | 21.1 | 22.3 |
Crying— | ||||||
unusual, high pitched* | 10.6 | 8.6 | 6.7 | 2.3 | 2.9 | 3.6 |
not otherwise specified | 2.3 | 2.3 | 1.4 | 2.3 | 0.7 | 1.6 |
prolonged ( > 4 hrs.)* | 2.4 | 2.3 | 0.8 | 1.4 | 0.2 | 0 |
Anorexia | 3.9 | 2.3 | 2 | 0.9 | 0.8 | 0.5 |
Vomiting | 2.1 | 1.8 | 2.5 | 0.9 | 1 | 1.6 |
Otitis media | 0.5 | 0 | 2 | 1.4 | 2.7 | 1.6 |
Fever ("F, rectal equiv.)" | ||||||
101.0-102.9 | 14.2 | 11.9 | 13.8 | 12.2 | 10.5 | 6.4 |
> 103.0 | 0.8 | 0 | 1.6 | 1.4 | 2.7 | 4.3 |
Diarrhea | 1.7 | 1.8 | 0.8 | 0.9 | 2.2 | 0.5 |
Upper respiratory infection | 0.5 | 0.5 | 1.1 | 0.9 | 1.3 | 0.5 |
Rash | 0.8 | 0 | 0.9 | 0 | 0.8 | 0.5 |
Rhinorrhea | 0.2 | 0 | 1.1 | 0.9 | 1.3 | 2.1 |
Respiratory congestion | 0.6 | 0.5 | 1.2 | 0.9 | 0.3 | 0.5 |
Cough | 0.2 | 0 | 0.9 | 0.5 | 0.2 | 1 |
Candidiasis, oral | 0.3 | 0.5 | 0.8 | 0 | 0.2 | 0 |
Rash, diaper | 0.5 | 0.5 | 0.5 | 0.9 | 0.2 | 0 |
† Overall frequency of each event listed above is
> 1% even though the frequency after a given dose may be < 1%. ‡Most children received DTP and OPV concomitantly with the first two doses of COMVAX or PedvaxHIB and RECOMBIVAX HB. *Events prompted for on Vaccination Report Card given to parents/guardians of vaccinees. ** N for injections 1, 2, and 3 equals 655, 639, and 588, respectively, for COMVAX; N for injections 1, 2, and 3 equals 218, 213, and 187, respectively, for PedvaxHIB and RECOMBIVAX HB. *** Injection site reactions for PedvaxHIB and RECOMBIVAX HB based on occurrence with either of the monovalent components. |
Infants Previously Vaccinated with Hepatitis B Vaccine
In a group of infants (N=126) given a three-dose course of COMVAX after previously receiving a dose of Hepatitis B Vaccine (Recombinant) at or shortly after birth, the type, frequency, and severity of adverse experiences did not appear to be greater than those observed in infants in the pivotal study who did not receive hepatitis B vaccine at birth.
Infants 6 Weeks to 15 Months of Age
In clinical trials, 3285 doses of COMVAX were administered to 1678 infants who were monitored for injection-site and systemic adverse experiences from Days 0 to 5 after each injection of vaccine. Of these, 855 infants had safety data following vaccination at approximately 2 months of age, 836 infants at approximately 4 months of age and 1573 infants at 12 to 15 months of age. The most frequently reported adverse experiences ( ≥ 1% of subjects for at least one injection), without regard to causality are listed in decreasing order of frequency within each body system:
Injection Site Reactions: Pain/tenderness/soreness, swelling/induration, erythema; Body as a Whole: Fever; Digestive System: Anorexia, diarrhea, vomiting; Nervous System/Psychiatric: Irritability, somnolence, crying; Respiratory System: Upper respiratory infection, rhinorrhea, cough, rhinitis; Skin: Rash; Special Senses: Otitis media.
Post-Marketing Experience
As with any vaccine, there is the possibility that broad use of COMVAX could reveal adverse experiences not observed in clinical trials. The following additional adverse reactions have been reported with the use of the marketed vaccine.
Anaphylaxis, angioedema, urticaria, erythema multiforme
Nervous System
Seizure, febrile seizures
Potential Adverse Effects
In addition, a variety of adverse effects have been reported with marketed use of either PedvaxHIB or RECOMBIVAX HB in infants and children through 71 months of age. These adverse effects are listed below.
Sterile injection-site abscess; pain at the injection site
Symptoms of hypersensitivity including reports of rash, pruritus, edema, arthralgia, dyspnea, hypotension, and ecchymoses
Cardiovascular System
Digestive System
Elevation of liver enzymes
Increased erythrocyte sedimentation rate
Musculoskeletal System
Nervous System
Bell's Palsy; Guillain-Barre Syndrome
Agitation; somnolence; irritability
Stevens-Johnson Syndrome; alopecia
Special Senses
Conjunctivitis; visual disturbances
Adverse Event Reporting
Patients, parents and guardians should be instructed to report any serious adverse reactions to their health-care provider who in turn should report such events to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services through the Vaccine Adverse Event Reporting System (VAERS), 1-800-822-7967. The healthcare provider should inform the parent or guardian of the National Vaccine Injury Compensation Program (NVICP), 1-800-338-2382.
Read the entire FDA prescribing information for Comvax (Haemophilus b Conjugate and Hepatitis B Vaccine)
Comvax FDA Prescribing Information
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Comvax - User Reviews
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Effect of patient age on management decisions in breast cancer: consensus from a national consultationTools Leonard, R. C., Barrett-Lee, P. J., Gosney, M. A., Willett, A. M., Reed, M. W. and Hammond, P. J. (2010) Effect of patient age on management decisions in breast cancer: consensus from a national consultation. The Oncologist, 15 (7). pp. 657-664. ISSN 1549-490X Full text not archived in this repository. To link to this item DOI: 10.1634/theoncologist.2009-0284 Abstract/SummaryThis qualitative study investigated the attitudes, perceptions, and practices of breast cancer specialists with reference to the effect of patient age on management decisions in breast cancer, and attempted to identify national consensus on this issue. One hundred thirty-three relevant specialists, including 75 surgeons and 43 oncologists, participated in a virtual consultation using e-mailed questionnaires and open-ended discussion documents, culminating in the development of proposed consensus statements sent to participants for validation. A strong consensus was seen in favor of incorporating minimum standards of diagnostic services, treatment, and care for older patients with breast cancer into relevant national guidance, endorsed by professional bodies. Similarly, an overwhelming majority of participants agreed that simple, evidence-based protocols or guidelines on standardizing assessment of biological and chronological age should be produced by the National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence and the Scottish Medicines Consortium, developed in collaboration with specialist oncogeriatricians, and endorsed by professional bodies. A further recommendation that all breast cancer patient treatment and diagnostic procedures be undertaken in light of up-to-date, relevant scientific data met with majority support. This study was successful in gauging national specialist opinion regarding the effect of patient age on management decisions in breast cancer in the U.K.
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Khloe Kardashian is opening up once again about her husband Lamar Odom and his condition after being hospitalized for an overdose after partying too hard at a Las Vegas brothel, the Love Ranch. It was a shock for everyone to learn that she and Odom, who had signed their divorce papers, were still legally married. That meant that Khloe was responsible for all of the medical choices that were to be made on Odom's behalf. She ended up calling off the divorce, which was just a few days from being finalized. Reason: she got the phone call that he was hospitalized and had only four hours to live, as she shared on "The Today Show" in a pre-taped interview. "It's a horrible call to get. Getting to the hospital and knowing he's in a coma and having to run these tests or make medical decisions. It's terrifying. You have to make risk-and-reward decisions. Like, OK, well, there's an 80 percent chance if we do this operation, he might pass away. But also if we don't do it, there's a 90 percent chance he'll pass away." That has to weigh extremely heavy on the reality star and author who we saw try her hardest to help Lamar when he was going missing and hardcore into drugs.
The couple wed after just a month of knowing each other, a wedding planned in nine days and documented on "Keeping Up With the Kardashians," which has just returned for its eleventh season on E!. Kardashian has had the support of her whole family, including step-father Caitlyn Jenner and boyfriend James Harden and is relieved that Odom, 36 is off life-support: "He is learning how to walk again and learning…cognitive therapy and speech therapy. They think, like, within a year and a half to two years that, mentally, he might be fully recovered. But they don't know." It seemed as though he had just hours at first when she was told about his condition. Unfortunately, all of the stress and being in the hospital day and night has caused Khloe to suffer and ultimately cancel her book tour. A source tells E! that: "Khloe has experienced fever, fatigue, and swollen glands. She has an infection but hasn't been diagnosed yet."
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Career Advice – 3 Ways To Answer "Why Are You Leaving Your Current Job?"
Mar 1 2011 in Featured, Interviews, reCareered Blog by Phil Rosenberg
If you are having a difficult time with your work, workload or personalities at work, that's not always the best thing to admit or explore. Better to talk about the things you want to do that you aren't doing now …
No matter what, keep it positive. Negative answers, even if true are almost never in your favor in a job interview. Even if your current boss clubs baby seals (and clubs you also) your future employer doesn't want to hear it.
3 ways to answer "Why Are You Leaving Your Current Job?"
- Work/Life Balance: For example, one of my clients was trying to leave a current position where he was expected to work 60 hour weeks … something that wasn't made clear when he first took the position. Rather than call his current boss a slave driver (which was true), we decided there was a more effective response.
We weren't comfortable talking about looking for a better work life balance, out of concern that some employers might feel he was a slacker (he wasn't married and didn't have kids). Instead, we decided to turn this into a positive, by planning this response: "I want to continue my education and start a night time master's degree program, so I'm looking for an employer that supports employee education. The time demands of my current position would not allow me to do well at both work and school." Another way to answer this for those with a family: "I have two kids and want to be more involved with their activities. Increasing time demands at my current position are making it difficult to spend much time with them."
- Bad Boss: As another example, I advised a client who was fired after three months on the job by a manager who was also fired the week after. It turned out that this same manager was later indicted and plead guilty to fraud. My client wanted advice how to explain her short tenure … but she really wanted permission to tell the interviewer what a scumbag her prior boss had been and how pleased she was that karma paid him back.
While explaining her side in detail might have made my client feel good temporarily, it probably wouldn't have helped her interview. Instead we decided she should say she was last hired and first fired in a round of corporate layoffs (true statement) and that it was a positive. She didn't feel challenged at this company and a quick layoff gave her the opportunity to change the direction of her career into areas that gave her greater work satisfaction.
- Personality Conflict: Explaining personality conflicts at work can be a little more challenging. Stating that your boss is impossible to deal with (even if true) has a high risk of backfiring – and making you appear as a potentially difficult employee. The interviewer doesn't know what the situation is, but a smart interviewer realizes that there are 3 sides to the story (your side, their side, and the truth lying somewhere in the middle).
Instead of focusing on the personality conflict, it may be more effective describing the underlying situations. So rather than complain about personal conflicts, could you make it a positive and try "A new manager is still trying to convince finance to approve productivity improvements"? How about: "My company is in the process of changing its strategy in ways that I don't see as being very smart for the organization." Or maybe try: "I want to advance my career but slower growth at my current organization provides very few opportunities."
How about the readers? How would you answer the question "Why are you leaving your current position"?
Employers and recruiters – Please share any great examples of how candidates have responded to this question. If you're feeling generous, you could also entertain us by sharing examples where candidates crashed and burned with their answer.
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BRIGADOON TV Edition Set For Special Screening & Q&A At The Paley Center, 5/17
by Pat Cerasaro BroadwayWorld.com May. 14, 2014The rarely-seen 1966 TV adaptation of Golden Age classic BRIGADOON starring Robert Goulet and Sally Ann Howes is set to be seen in a special screening later this week at the Paley Center.
The official description of BRIGADOON at the Paley Center is as follows: "This much-celebrated 1966 telecast of Brigadoon, the beloved Lerner & Loewe musical about a legendary village that appears only once every hundred years, was telecast on ABC's Armstrong Circle Theatre starring Robert Goulet, Sally Ann Howes, Peter Falk, Marlyn Mason, and Edward Villella. The broadcast of Brigadoon (which has never been released commercially) was produced and directed by Fielder Cook, adapted for television by Ernest Kinoy, choreographed by Peter Gennaro, and conducted by Irwin Kostal-and went on to win five Emmy Awards including Outstanding Musical Program and Outstanding Director. Following the ninety-minute screening, actress and singer Marlyn Mason ("Meg Brockie") and dancer Edward Villella ("Harry Beaton") will be interviewed by Opera News writer Eric Myers."
BRIGADOON will be screend at 3 PM on May 17 at the Paley Center.
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Top 4 Weekend Food Events: Josie's Beekeeper Release Tasting, Mashed Potatoes Pop-Up, Taste of LA at the Breeders' Cup + Good Food Conference
Pumpkin Pecan Tart at Josie's
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Josie's Beekeeper Release Tasting
Don't worry about flying insects at this dinner; it's actually a private release party for one of Sonoma's up-and-coming vineyards. Appetizers from chef Josie Le Balch will be paired with a selection of the cellar's newest wines. Reservations are strongly recommended.
WHAT: Josie's Beekeeper Release Tasting
WHEN: Sunday, Nov. 4, 6 p.m.
WHERE: Josie's, 2424 Pico Blvd., Santa Monica
Mashed Potatoes and Gravy Pop-Up Art Show
Food and art are the focus of this streetside event featuring more than 25 professional artists and a whole bunch of food trucks serving up tasty snacks during Westchester's First Friday.
WHAT: Westchester Pop-Up Art/Food Show
WHEN: Friday, Nov. 2, 4-11 p.m.
WHERE: 6249 W. 87th St., L.A.
COST: Free
Taste of L.A. at the Breeders' Cup World Championships
Ten Los Angeles chefs and food vendors, including The Gorbals, Mo-Chica, Heirloom L.A. and Kogi, will be cooking up a range of culinary offerings for guests to enjoy while viewing the nation's top thoroughbred racing event.
WHAT: Taste of L.A. at the Breeders' Cup
WHEN: Nov. 2-3, 11 a.m. - 4 p.m.
WHERE: Santa Anita Racetrack, 285 W. Huntington Drive, Arcadia
COST: $5-10 (food vouchers extra)
Good Food Conference
The Los Angeles County Museum of Art co-hosts a series of educational panels featuring top leaders in the good-food movement -- just days before California voters decide whether to require the labeling of genetically modified foods.
WHAT: Good Food Conference
WHEN: Saturday, Nov. 3, noon-4:30 p.m.
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Who Said it?: Stars Talking About Their Pets
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Have you ever been caught trying to rationalize with your furry friend or showering them with embarrassing amounts of love? Well, Hollywood types are no different. So if you're as crazy as a cat lady or as codependent as any other dog lover, rest assured you're not alone. Don't believe us? Click through to see if you can guess which stars lovingly dished about their beloved furry friends.
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This book analyses corporate insolvency law as a coherent whole, stemming from common fundamental principles and amenable to being justified or criticized on that basis. The book explains why consistency of principle must be sought, and how it might be found in the relevant statutory and case law. It then draws on political and legal philosophy to construct an egalitarian theory for the analysis of corporate insolvency law based on the premise that all the parties affected by this law are to be treated as equals. The book argues that this theory can reconcile the dictates of fairness with the ... More
Keywords: egalitarianism, pari passu principle, assets, floating charge, recievership, Enterprise Act 2002, administration, wrongful trading provisions
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Like so many of Vladimir Jurowski's intriguing programme ideas, the pairing of Ravel's Piano Concert for the Left Hand and Shostakovich's 7th Symphony "Leningrad" amounted to much more than the musical equivalent of speed-dating. Both works were, in different ways, the products of war and heroism: the concerto inspired by the pianist Paul Wittgenstein, who rebuilt a concert career despite losing an arm in the First World War; and the symphony an ode to the people of Leningrad, whose endurance in the face of Nazi oppression had been well-practised under Stalin.
But Jurowski will undoubtedly have spotted the musical kinship between the frivolous march at the heart of the Ravel and its toe-tapping equivalent in the first movement of the Shostakovich. Both might be described as "frivolous with intent". Jurowski immediately homed in on the underlying blackness of the Ravel, his bass clarinet worming through groping string bass arpeggios.
Jean-Yves Thibaudet, both arms operational but only one in use, made something grandly defiant of his opening flourishes. His rhythmic resilience in just one hand was extraordinary, and come the long final cadenza, those leaps across the spectrum of the keyboard really did suggest 10 fingers in play. The savage sawn-off ending – with that march now goose-stepping – opened the door on the Shostakovich.
And the highest accolade one can pay to Jurowski's detailed and deeply felt reading of the symphony was that, where others may leave only an impression of tub-thumping rhetoric with this piece, Jurowski left one in no doubt of its greatness. It's true that the protracted mutation of that inane march can wear the listener down. That's the idea. A study in mindless repetition. Except it isn't. Few in my experience have chronicled the changing colour and temper of the orchestration like Jurowski, and with his extra trumpets and trombones separated antiphonally in the choir stalls, and four of the seven horns filling the texture in between, the climactic modulation was horrific indeed.
But there is music in the middle movements that is unique in Shostakovich's output, and from the spooky Mahlerian intimations of the scherzo to the ineffable, heartbreaking beauty of the chorale-led slow movement, Jurowski and his orchestra dug deep.
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Head coach Brady Hoke said in a statement, "Fitz made a poor decision and has been suspended indefinitely because of that action."
Read: Michigan-Alabama to open season in prime time
Toussiant finished second on the team behind Denard Robinson in total rushing yards, with 1,041 yards and nine touchdowns. There is no word yet on whether he'll miss Michigan's season-opener against Alabama in Dallas.
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It's been somewhere around three years that I've been wearing this belt everyday. One of the first American made pieces I picked up that really made me realize that you truly get what you pay for. Starting out as natural vegetable tanned leather, it has darkened and developed some really nice patina. I snapped these just to share with Eric, but figured I'd share 'em here. Looking back at where he was when I purchased this belt from him, it's really amazing to see how he's expanded Corter Leather. It definitely shows that guys (and gals) are more interested in quality over quantity. Keep up the good work Eric!
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Truman Hand Crafted Journal Cover
Awhile back I stumbled on Truman Hand Crafted, the idea behind one of my favorite bloggers – Teppei Teranishi of Newgrass. He delved into leatherworking as a hobby, and has just recently started selling his wares. I have been storing my notebook in my back pocket for far too long and saw that he had a beautifully designed journal cover that was exactly what I had been looking for.
The cover is made from an 6 oz vegetable tanned leather with the majority of it being cut from a single piece of leather. The tab closure has a pen/pencil holder stitched onto it to ensure you're never without one. Handset copper rivets secure the journal cover to protect your valuable (or invaluable) notes. Hand stitched throughout, with waxed and burnished edges – you know that no corners were cut in making these.
These are available over at the Truman shop, along with some other fine pieces. These are made to order, but the turn around time is fairly quick.
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Tanner Goods Custom Belt
A proper sized belt has been long overdue, mainly because I love how my Corter belt looks and feels after a year and a half of everyday wear. It was necessary though. I finally hit the point where I was using the fifth hole and even then, it still wasn't holding my pants up. I decided to try out a Tanner Goods standard belt. These belts are hand cut from 11oz vegetable tanned leather, and assembled with American sourced hardware that is branded with the TG name. The guys over at Tanner Goods even took the time to hand stamp in "SIMPLE THREADS" to the back of the belt which I totally dig, even though no one else will see it – I still know it's there. The buckle snaps are also mix & matched; the visible hardware is nickel but the inside is brass. The pictures below show the awesome evolution that natural vegetable tanned takes on after a year plus of wear, compared to a brand new belt. Thanks again Mike & Anthony for making me this one-off belt.
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Tanner Goods Workman Wallet
I decided I wanted to try out a wallet with more space with the hopes it would help me stay more organized, keep receipts, and maybe actually force me to keep cash on me. Because, although this helps you save money, it is not very gentleman like. My main focus was finding something that would have longevity, simple stitching, a vintage silhouette, crafted in the United States, and of course: be crafted of vegetable tanned, natural toned leather. This wallet is perfect for me, it's got a very spacious bill slot, a coin pouch that is sealed off with a heavy-duty zipper, and just enough card slots to give you enough space, but not too much to add bulk to the wallet. Crafted by the good folks over at Tanner Goods of Portland, OR. Constructed of beautiful 3/4oz English Bridle Leather to ensure longevity. This is a wallet I'll have for many years to come.
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Vital Statistics at Time of Disappearance
Missing Since: July 22, 1986 from Lincoln City, Oregon Classification: Endangered Runaway Date Of Birth: April 19, 1971 Age: 15 years old Height and Weight: 5'5, 130 pounds Distinguishing Characteristics: Caucasian male. Brown hair, brown eyes. One of Duane's right fingers is disabled. He may spell his name "Dwayne." Clothing/Jewelry Description: A black jacket and jeans.
Details of Disappearance
Duane disappeared from downtown Lincoln City, Oregon on July 22, 1986. Authorities believe he left of his own accord. Few details are available in his case.
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What is it about tattooed people? A disdain for their skin?
After yesterday's piece on the results of the man with the a Romney tattoo on his head, this bunch of tattoos popped up on the web (can you believe it?!):
So it doesn't matter whether you are a Republican or a Democrat, if you have the amazing need to defile yourself as a party poster, you fall into a category of folks that is beyond my understanding, not that I am fond of the current trend to cover yourself with all kinds of tattoos at all.
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Quote of the Day – The man with the Romney Tattoo
Remember Eric Hartsburg? He was paid $15,000 to get a five inch Romney campaign tattoo on his face. Hartsburg did it as an auction. His only requirement for bidding on the 'ad space' was that it could not be racist or offensive.
"I'm the guy who has egg all over his face, but instead of egg, it's a big Romney/Ryan tattoo. It's there for life.
"I'm hoping this opens some other doors in the entertainment business."
Hmmm. Opening doors in the entertainment business? I was trying to think of a situation where that would be possible, outside of a film about Romney's loss… not something I see much of a market for. Perhaps the logo could be sold to an auto manufacturer (Rolls Royce?) and Hartsman could become a car dealer's mascot.
How much do you want to bet that Hartsman will be whining about the tattoo to his grandchildren.
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So where are we with General Petraeus?
What on earth is happening when an American who has been trusted as much as General Petraeus has his little love affair exposed (which doesn't seem to have effected his CIA leadership at all) and feels the need to resign?
This article is from Truthdig… I'm putting it all here:
How the David Petraeus-Paula Broadwell Affair Was Uncovered
AP/Cliff Owen Former CIA Director David Petraeus. Modern technology apparently cost ex-CIA Director David Petraeus his job. The retired general's affair with his biographer Paula Broadwell was discovered by the FBI while it was investigating harassing emails she sent to Jill Kelley, a 37-year-old woman who serves as an unpaid social liaison to MacDill Air Force Base in Tampa, Fla. A former associate of Petraeus says he and Kelley are just friends.
After news of the FBI investigation that uncovered the affair, Director of National Intelligence James Clapper stepped in and asked Petraeus to resign.
Clapper was told by the Justice Department of the Petraeus investigation at about 5 p.m. on Election Day, and then called Petraeus and urged him to resign, according to a senior U.S. intelligence official who spoke on condition of anonymity because he was not authorized to discuss the investigation publicly.
…Concerned that the emails he exchanged with Broadwell raised the possibility of a security breach, the FBI brought the matter up with Petraeus directly, according to the official, who spoke on condition of anonymity because he was not authorized to publicly discuss the investigation.
Petraeus decided to quit, though he was breaking no laws by having an affair, officials said.
In the wake of Petraeus' resignation, members of Congress are asking for more information about the investigation, including why they weren't alerted sooner and whether the probe had any impact on national security.
Now here are my thoughts. Given the world situation, why in hell are we letting a man with this amount of military and foreign policy and management experience leave this job over a little penis stimulation? You can't tell me that the Congressfolk who would sit over his situation if he hadn't resigned haven't been involved in the same kind of stuff.
If I were Obama, I would have, at least temporarily, refused Petraeus' resignation and let him go ahead with his testimony about Libya (which he should do anyway, whether he has resigned or not.)
If we really let him go we are more stupid than I already think.
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Cartoon(s) of the Week – It's all over. Where are we?
Kevin Siers in The Charlotte Observer:
Perhaps we can start on getting religion out of politics. What are we, the Taliban?
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Clay Bennett in the Chattanooga Times Free Press:
At least we know now that America is more than old white men…
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Joel Pett in The Lexington Herald-Leader:
Of course, some Republicans will probably continue their uncooperativeness. It will kill them later.
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Mike Luckovich in The Atlanta Journal-Constitution:
Of course, this may make at least one news organization reevaluate it's strategy…
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Adam Zyglis in the Buffalo News:
And now forward into the second term (thanks, in part, to General Motors.)
My congratulations to Stephen Skinner…My best wishes to Elliot Simon
The election finished in West Virginia with results I predicted on the air.
So we have a wonderful guy going to the State House of Delegates representing us here in Jefferson County.
Although I consider myself glad to know both Skinner and his opponent, libertarian Republican Elliot Simon, who does the radio program "Common Sense" on Saturday Mornings just before my show, "Talk To Me", on WSHC radio in Shepherdstown, I must say it is Stephen's politics that I agree with. It does not surprise me that he won.
I'll be glad to have Elliot's full time attention back on our Saturday Morning broadcasts. I'm sure he disagrees with me, but I hope we will still cordially greet each other between shows.
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How do the candidates stand on America's energy future? Here's a radio piece from NCR
Energy policy, defining how we use energy to power our economy and our lives, is among the most pressing issues for the next four years. In this special edition of BURN, stories about the power of one: how, in this election season, a single person, place, policy or idea can — with a boost from science — affect the nation's search for greater energy independence.
We've had a lovely afternoon and evening at the American Conservation Film Festival.
We are in the four day period of the ACFF, now celebrating it's 10th Anniversary of presenting conservation and nature support films here in Shepherdstown.
We saw two films this afternoon, but tonight we saw two films accompanied by live discussions and question periods with the filmmakers.
The most interesting to me was Marion Stoddart whose life and career spent saving the Nashua River was so well presented in the short film "The Work of 1000."
Filmmaker Susan Edwards broached the subject Can one person truly make a difference? This film tells the inspiring story of how a remarkable woman saved a dying river–for herself, for the community and for future generations–and became an environmental hero honored by the United Nations.
Mrs Stoddart, now in her 80s spent decades getting a very polluted river clean… petitioning, demonstrating, approaching manufacturers and politicians directly, and getting her husband and children involved. Her live presentation with the audience was very involving.
Our Nation's River: A System on Edge was the second film we saw this evening. Ten minutes long and made by Alexandra Cousteau, granddaughter of historic natural filmmaker Jaques Costeau. This piece was particularly meaningful for us, since it is about the Potomac River, the water body that forms our northern border and flows from us down to Washington DC.
Ms, Cousteau answered questions but also presented a discussion panel of professionals from the Nature Conservancy and the Potomac River Foundation.
The House was pretty full at Reynolds Hall, Shepherd University, with a number of standers who wanted to catch everything as well. Among the folks there tonight were most of the officers of Sustainable Shepherdstown (My wife is in that bunch, of course), our current State Delegate John Dolan whose work for us has been spectacular and who is leaving office at the end of the session. Steve Skinner, the Democratic candidate for Delegate who, hopefully, will take John's place, was there as well. Both men realize the importance the Potomac is to our community. Of course, Republican Candidate Elliot Spitzer was NOT there this evening. Preserving our environment is just not a Republican issue… after all, don't they all think that Climate Change is a joke?
We're going to some more films tomorrow.
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Here's a video treat from ALL HAT NO CATTLE…
…the one blog I try to view every day. This is a video that Lisa put together Called "Back in the Good Old Days" which is a good indicator that Romney will bring Bushiness back to us.
Hope you enjoy it. I sure did!
Hey radio fans… we have a special schedule today due to football season:
My "Talk To Me" show will be on WSHC this morning from 10:30 AM to Noon. We'll have 90 minutes for your eclectic song requests, discussion of politics with 3 days to go until all of this is decided, and perhaps some comments on the results of Sandy.
If you are too far away to call in at 304-876-5369 remember you can also Listen Live at our web site from anywhere in the world. Just go to 579WSHC.org and click on "Listen Live" and you can join our regular morning call-in group (join Ralph, Stu, Bobby and Oinky and the rest of the gang… we'd love to have you on the team.
Elliott Simon's shown is on before ours from 9:00 to 10:30 AM.
OK… I'm putting my show together so I can get out of the house on time.
Tell Mitt Romney: Climate Change Isn't A Joke
Much of the nation is reeling from Superstorm Sandy. As families rebuild from Sandy's destruction, our thoughts are with the victims of this horrific, fossil-fueled storm.
When Gov. Mitt Romney made climate change a punch line at the Republican National Convention, he mocked a real threat to the lives of Americans.
We can't let Mitt get away with his laughing dismissal of the threat of rising seas caused by the carbon polluters who fund his campaign. Share this ad with friends and family to tell Romney: climate change isn't a joke.
Ref: Three Ways Climate Change Made Hurricane Sandy Worse
Thanks to Climate Silence.org.
Nate Silver has put out his Electoral College prediction…
Nate Silver, whose 538 blog has often made the best election predictions, has now put this one out on the Electoral College votes to come:
Nate Silver: Obama 303, Romney 235
Remember, it takes 270 Electoral Votes to win the election. Silver puts Obama pretty far ahead.


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Love and Stockholm
The Mystery of Loving an
Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D., Clinical
People are often amazed at
their own psychological conditions and reactions. Those with depression are
stunned when they remember theyÆve thought of killing themselves. Patients
recovering from severe psychiatric disturbances are often shocked as they
remember their symptoms and behavior during the episode. A patient with Bipolar
Disorder recently told me ōI canÆt believe I thought I could change the weather
through mental telepathy!ö A common reaction is ōI canÆt believe I did that!ö
In clinical practice, some of
the most surprised and shocked individuals are those who have been involved in
controlling and abusive relationships. When the relationship ends, they offer
comments such as ōI know what heÆs done to me, but I still love himö, ōI donÆt
know why, but I want him backö, or ōI know it sounds crazy, but I miss herö.
Recently IÆve heard ōThis doesnÆt make sense. HeÆs got a new girlfriend and heÆs
abusing her tooģbut IÆm jealous!ö Friends and relatives are even more amazed and
shocked when they hear these comments or witness their loved one returning to an
abusive relationship. While the situation doesnÆt make sense from a social
standpoint, does it make sense from a psychological viewpoint? The answer
is - Yes!
On August 23rd, 1973
two machine-gun carrying criminals entered a bank in Stockholm, Sweden. Blasting
their guns, one prison escapee named Jan-Erik Olsson announced to the terrified
bank employees ōThe party has just begun!ö The two bank robbers held four
hostages, three women and one man, for the next 131 hours. The hostages were
strapped with dynamite and held in a bank vault until finally rescued on August
After their rescue, the
hostages exhibited a shocking attitude considering they were threatened, abused,
and feared for their lives for over five days. In their media interviews, it was
clear that they supported their captors and actually feared law enforcement
personnel who came to their rescue. The hostages had begun to feel the captors
were actually protecting them from the police. One woman later became engaged to
one of the criminals and another developed a legal defense fund to aid in their
criminal defense fees. Clearly, the hostages had ōbondedö emotionally with their
While the psychological
condition in hostage situations became known as ōStockholm Syndromeö due to the
publicity ¢ the emotional ōbondingö with captors was a familiar story in
psychology. It had been recognized many years before and was found in studies of
other hostage, prisoner, or abusive situations such as:
In the final analysis,
emotionally bonding with an abuser is actually a strategy for survival for
victims of abuse and intimidation. The ōStockholm Syndromeö reaction in hostage
and/or abuse situations is so well recognized at this time that police hostage
negotiators no longer view it as unusual. In fact, it is often encouraged in
crime situations as it improves the chances for survival of the hostages. On the
down side, it also assures that the hostages experiencing ōStockholm Syndromeö
will not be very cooperative during rescue or criminal prosecution. Local law
enforcement personnel have long recognized this syndrome with battered women who
fail to press charges, bail their battering husband/boyfriend out of jail, and
even physically attack police officers when they arrive to rescue them from a
violent assault.
Stockholm Syndrome (SS) can
also be found in family, romantic, and interpersonal relationships. The abuser
may be a husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, father or mother, or any
other role in which the abuser is in a position of control or authority.
ItÆs important to understand
the components of Stockholm Syndrome as they relate to abusive and controlling
relationships. Once the syndrome is understood, itÆs easier to understand why
victims support, love, and even defend their abusers and
Every syndrome has symptoms or
behaviors and Stockholm Syndrome is no exception. While a clear-cut list has not
been established due to varying opinions by researchers and experts, several of
these features will be present:
Stockholm Syndrome doesnÆt
occur in every hostage or abusive situation. In another bank robbery involving
hostages, after terrorizing patrons and employees for many hours, a police
sharpshooter shot and wounded the terrorizing bank robber. After he hit the
floor, two women picked him up and physically held him up to the window for
another shot. As you can see, the length of time one is exposed to abuse/control
and other factors are certainly involved.
It has been found that four
situations or conditions are present that serve as a foundation for the
development of Stockholm Syndrome. These four situations can be found in
hostage, severe abuse, and abusive relationships:
By considering each situation
we can understand how Stockholm Syndrome develops in romantic relationships as
well as criminal/hostage situations. Looking at each
Perceived threat to oneÆs physical/psychological
The perception of
threat can be formed by direct, indirect, or witnessed methods. Criminal or
antisocial partners can directly threaten your life or the life of friends and
family. Their history of violence leads us to believe that the captor/controller
will carry out the threat in a direct manner if we fail to comply with their
demands. The abuser assures us that only our cooperation keeps our loved ones
Indirectly, the abuser/controller offers subtle threats
that you will never leave them or have another partner, reminding you
that people in the past have paid dearly for not following their wishes. Hints
are often offered such as ōI know people who can make others disappearö.
Indirect threats also come from the stories told by the abuser or controller ¢
how they obtained revenge on those who have crossed them in the past. These
stories of revenge are told to remind the victim that revenge is possible if
they leave.
Witnessing violence or aggression is also a perceived
threat. Witnessing a violent temper directed at a television set, others on the
highway, or a third party clearly sends us the message that we could be the next
target for violence. Witnessing the thoughts and attitudes of the
abuser/controller is threatening and intimidating, knowing that we will be the
target of those thoughts in the future.
threatening and survival situations, we look for evidence of hope ¢ a small sign
that the situation may improve. When an abuser/controller shows the victim some
small kindness, even though it is to the abusers benefit as well, the victim
interprets that small kindness as a positive trait of the captor. In
criminal/war hostage situations, letting the victim live is often enough. Small
behaviors, such as allowing a bathroom visit or providing food/water, are enough
to strengthen the Stockholm Syndrome in criminal hostage
relationships with abusers, a birthday card, a gift (usually provided after a
period of abuse), or a special treat are interpreted as not only positive, but
evidence that the abuser is not ōall badö and may at some time correct his/her
behavior. Abusers and controllers are often given positive credit for not
abusing their partner, when the partner would have normally been subjected
to verbal or physical abuse in a certain situation. An aggressive and jealous
partner may normally become intimidating or abusive in certain social
situations, as when an opposite-sex coworker waves in a crowd. After seeing the
wave, the victim expects to be verbally battered and when it doesnÆt happen,
that ōsmall kindnessö is interpreted as a positive sign.
Similar to the small kindness perception is the
perception of a ōsoft sideö. During the relationship, the abuser/controller may
share information about their past ¢ how they were mistreated, abused,
neglected, or wronged. The victim begins to feel the abuser/controller may be
capable of fixing their behavior or worse yet, that they (abuser) may also be a
ōvictimö. Sympathy may develop toward the abuser and we often hear the victim of
Stockholm Syndrome defending their abuser with ōI know he fractured my jaw and
ribsģbut heÆs troubled. He had a rough childhood!ö Losers and abusers may admit
they need psychiatric help or acknowledge they are mentally disturbed, however,
it's almost always after they have already abused or intimidated the victim. The
admission is a way of denying responsibility for the abuse. In truth,
personality disorders and criminals have learned over the years that personal
responsibility for their violent/abusive behaviors can be minimized and even
denied by blaming their bad upbringing, abuse as a child, and now - video games.
One murderer blamed his crime on eating too much junk food ¢ now known as the
ōTwinkie Defenseö. While it may be true that the abuser/controller had a
difficult upbringing ¢ showing sympathy for his/her history produces no change
in their behavior and in fact, prolongs the length of time you will be abused.
While ōsad storiesö are always included in their apologies ¢ after the
abusive/controlling event - their behavior never changes! Keep in mind; once you
become hardened to the ōsad storiesö, they will simply try another approach. I
know of no victim of abuse or crime who has heard their abuser say "I'm beating
(robbing, mugging, etc.) you because my Mom hated me!"
abusive and controlling relationships, the victim has the sense they are always
ōwalking on eggshellsö ¢ fearful of saying or doing anything that might prompt a
violent/intimidating outburst. For their survival, they begin to see the world
through the abuserÆs perspective. They begin to fix things that might prompt an
outburst, act in ways they know makes the abuser happy, or avoid aspects of
their own life that may prompt a problem. If we only have a dollar in our
pocket, then most of our decisions become financial decisions. If our partner is
an abuser or controller, then the majority of our decisions are based on our
perception of the abuserÆs potential reaction. We become preoccupied with the
needs, desires, and habits of the abuser/controller.
Taking the abuserÆs perspective as a survival technique
can become so intense that the victim actually develops anger toward those
trying to help them. The abuser is already angry and resentful toward anyone who
would provide the victim support, typically using multiple methods and
manipulations to isolate the victim from others. Any contact the victim has with
supportive people in the community is met with accusations, threats, and/or
violent outbursts. Victims then turn on their family ¢ fearing family contact
will cause additional violence and abuse in the home. At this point, victims
curse their parents and friends, tell them not to call and stop interfering, and
break off communication with others. Agreeing with the abuser/controller,
supportive others are now viewed as ōcausing troubleö and must be avoided. Many
victims threaten their family and friends with restraining orders if they
continue to ōinterfereö or try to help the victim in their situation. On the
surface it would appear that they have sided with the abuser/controller. In
truth, they are trying to minimize contact situation that might make them a
target of additional verbal abuse or intimidation. If a casual phone call from
Mom prompts a two-hour temper outburst with threats and accusations ¢ the victim
quickly realizes it's safer if Mom stops calling. If simply telling Mom to stop
calling doesnÆt work, for his or her own safety the victim may accuse Mom of
attempting to ruin the relationship and demand that she stop calling.
severe cases of Stockholm Syndrome in relationships, the victim may have
difficulty leaving the abuser and may actually feel the abusive situation is
their fault. In law enforcement situations, the victim may actually feel the
arrest of their partner for physical abuse or battering is their fault. Some
women will allow their children to be removed by child protective agencies
rather than give up the relationship with their abuser. As they take the
perspective of the abuser, the children are at fault ¢ they complained about the
situation, they brought the attention of authorities to the home, and they put
the adult relationship at risk. Sadly, the children have now become a danger to
the victimÆs safety. For those with Stockholm Syndrome, allowing the children to
be removed from the home decreases their victim stress while providing an
emotionally and physically safer environment for the
As a
hostage in a bank robbery, threatened by criminals with guns, itÆs easy to
understand the perceived inability to escape. In romantic relationships, the
belief that one canÆt escape is also very common. Many abusive/controlling
relationships feel like till-death-do-us-part relationships ¢ locked together by
mutual financial issues/assets, mutual intimate knowledge, or legal situations. Here are some common situations:
Controlling partners have
increased the financial obligations/debt in the relationship to the point that
neither partner can financially survive on their own. Controllers who sense
their partner may be leaving will often purchase a new automobile, later
claiming they canÆt pay alimony or child support due to their large car
The legal ending of a
relationship, especially a martial relationship, often creates significant
problems. A Controller who has an income that is ōunder the tableö or maintained
through legally questionable situations runs the risk of those sources of income
being investigated or made public by the divorce/separation. The Controller then
becomes more agitated about the possible public exposure of their business
arrangements than the loss of the relationship.
The Controller often uses
extreme threats including threatening to take the children out of state,
threatening to quit their job/business rather than pay alimony/support,
threatening public exposure of the victimÆs personal issues, or assuring the
victim they will never have a peaceful life due to nonstop harassment. In severe
cases, the Controller may threaten an action that will undercut the victimÆs
support such as ōIÆll see that you lose your jobö or ōIÆll have your automobile
Controllers often keep the
victim locked into the relationship with severe guilt ¢ threatening suicide if
the victim leaves. The victim hears ōIÆll kill myself in front of the childrenö,
ōIÆll set myself on fire in the front yardö, or ōOur children wonÆt have a
father/mother if you leave me!ö
In relationships with an
abuser or controller, the victim has also experienced a loss of self-esteem,
self-confidence, and psychological energy. The victim may feel ōburned outö and
too depressed to leave. Additionally, abusers and controllers often create a
type of dependency by controlling the finances, placing automobiles/homes in
their name, and eliminating any assets or resources the victim may use to leave.
In clinical practice IÆve heard ōIÆd leave but I canÆt even get money out of the
savings account! I donÆt know the PIN number.ö
In teens and young adults,
victims may be attracted to a controlling individual when they feel
inexperienced, insecure, and overwhelmed by a change in their life situation.
When parents are going through a divorce, a teen may attach to a controlling
individual, feeling the controller may stabilize their life. Freshmen in college
may be attracted to controlling individuals who promise to help them survive
living away from home on a college campus.
In unhealthy relationships and
definitely in Stockholm Syndrome there is a daily preoccupation with ōtroubleö.
Trouble is any individual, group, situation, comment, casual glance, or cold
meal that may produce a temper tantrum or verbal abuse from the controller or
abuser. To survive, ōtroubleö is to be avoided at all costs. The victim must
control situations that produce trouble. That may include avoiding family,
friends, co-workers, and anyone who may create ōtroubleö in the abusive
relationship. The victim does not hate family and friends; they are only
avoiding ōtroubleö! The victim also cleans the house, calms the children, scans
the mail, avoids certain topics, and anticipates every issue of the controller
or abuse in an effort to avoid ōtroubleö. In this situation, children who are
noisy become ōtroubleö. Loved ones and friends are sources of ōtroubleö for the
victim who is attempting to avoid verbal or physical aggression.
Stockholm Syndrome in
relationships is not uncommon. Law enforcement professionals are painfully aware
of the situation ¢ making a domestic dispute one of the high-risk calls during
the work hours. Called by neighbors during a spousal abuse incident, the abuser
is passive upon arrival of the police, only to find the abused spouse upset and
threatening the officers if their abusive partner is arrested for domestic
violence. In truth, the victim knows the abuser/controller will retaliate
against him/her if 1) they encourage an arrest, 2) they offer statements about
the abuse/fight that are deemed disloyal by the abuser, 3) they donÆt bail them
out of jail as quickly as possible, and 4) they donÆt personally apologize for
the situation ¢ as though it was their fault.
Stockholm Syndrome produces an
unhealthy bond with the controller and abuser. It is the reason many victims
continue to support an abuser after the relationship is over. ItÆs also the
reason they continue to see ōthe good sideö of an abusive individual and appear
sympathetic to someone who has mentally and sometimes physically abused
Is There Something Else
In a short response ¢ Yes!
Throughout history, people have found themselves supporting and participating in
life situations that range from abusive to bizarre. In talking to these active
and willing participants in bad and bizarre situations, it is clear they have
developed feelings and attitudes that support their participation. One way these
feelings and thoughts are developed is known as ōcognitive dissonanceö. As you
can tell, psychologists have large words and phrases for just about everything.
ōCognitive Dissonanceö explains
how and why people change their ideas and opinions to support situations that do
not appear to be healthy, positive, or normal. In the theory, an individual
seeks to reduce information or opinions that make him or her uncomfortable. When
we have two sets of cognitions (knowledge, opinion, feelings, input from others,
etc.) that are the opposite, the situation becomes emotionally uncomfortable.
Even though we might find ourselves in a foolish or difficult situation ¢ few
want to admit that fact. Instead, we attempt to reduce the dissonance - the fact
that our cognitions donÆt match, agree, or make sense when combined. ōCognitive
Dissonanceö can be reduced by adding new cognitions ¢ adding new thoughts and
attitudes. Some examples:
Heavy smokers know smoking
causes lung cancer and multiple health risks. To continue smoking, the smoker
changes his cognitions (thoughts/feelings) such as 1) ōIÆm smoking less than ten
years agoö, 2) ōIÆm smoking low-tar cigarettesö, 3) ōThose statistics are made
up by the cancer industry conspiracyö, or 4) ōSomethingÆs got to get you
anyway!ö These new cognitions/attitudes allow them to keep smoking and actually
begin blaming restaurants for being unfair.
You purchase a $40,000.00
Sport Utility Vehicle that gets 8 miles a gallon. You justify the expense and
related issues with 1) ōItÆs great on trips (you take one trip per year)ö, 2) ōI
can use it to haul stuff (one coffee table in 12 months), and 3) ōYou can carry
a lot of people in it (95% of your trips are
Your husband/boyfriend
becomes abusive and assaultive. You canÆt leave due to the finances, children,
or other factors. Through cognitive dissonance, you begin telling yourself ōHe
only hits me open-handedö and ōHeÆs had a lot of stress at
Leon Festinger first coined
ōCognitive Dissonanceö. He had observed a cult (1956) in which members gave up
their homes, incomes, and jobs to work for the cult. This cult believed in
messages from outer space that predicted the day the world would end by a flood.
As cult members and firm believers, they believed they would be saved by flying
saucers at the appointed time. As they gathered and waited to be taken by flying
saucers at the specified time, the end-of-the-world came and went. No flood and
no flying saucer! Rather than believing they were foolish after all that
personal and emotional investment ¢ they decided their beliefs had actually
saved the world from the flood and they became firmer in their beliefs after the
failure of the prophecy. The moral ¢ the more you invest (income, job, home,
time, effort, etc.) the stronger your need to justify your position. If we
invest $5.00 in a raffle ticket, we justify losing with ōIÆll get them next
timeö. If you invest everything you have, it requires an almost unreasoning
belief and unusual attitude to support and justify that
Studies tell us we are more
loyal and committed to something that is difficult, uncomfortable, and even
humiliating. The initiation rituals of college fraternities, Marine boot camp,
and graduate school all produce loyal and committed individuals. Almost any
ordeal creates a bonding experience. Every couple, no matter how mismatched,
falls in love in the movies after going through a terrorist takeover, being
stalked by a killer, being stranded on an island, or being involved in an alien
abduction. Investment and an ordeal are ingredients for a strong bonding ¢ even
if the bonding is unhealthy. No one bonds or falls in love by being a member of
the Automobile Club or a music CD club. Struggling to survive on a deserted
island ¢ you bet!
Abusive relationships produce a
great amount on unhealthy investment in both parties. In many cases we tend to
remain and support the abusive relationship due to our investment in the
relationship. Try telling a new Marine that since he or she has survived boot
camp, they should now enroll in the National Guard! Several types of investments
keep us in the bad relationship:
In many cases, itÆs not simply
our feelings for an individual that keeps us in an unhealthy relationship - itÆs
often the amount of investment. Relationships are complex and we often only see
the tip of the iceberg in public. For this reason, the most common phrase
offered by the victim in defense of their unhealthy relationship is ōYou just
donÆt understand!ö
The combination of ōStockholm
Syndromeö and ōcognitive dissonanceö produces a victim who firmly believes the
relationship is not only acceptable, but also desperately needed for their
survival. The victim feels they would mentally collapse if the relationship
ended. In long-term relationships, the victims have invested everything and
placed ōall their eggs in one basketö. The relationship now decides their level
of self-esteem, self-worth, and emotional health.
For reasons described above,
the victim feels family and friends are a threat to the relationship and
eventually to their personal health and existence. The more family/friends
protest the controlling and abusive nature of the relationship, the more the
victim develops cognitive dissonance and becomes defensive. At this point,
family and friends become victims of the abusive and controlling
Importantly, both Stockholm
Syndrome and cognitive dissonance develop on an involuntary basis. The victim
does not purposely invent this attitude. Both develop as an attempt to exist and
survive in a threatening and controlling environment and relationship. Despite
what we might think, our loved one is not in the unhealthy relationship to
irritate, embarrass, or drive us to drink. What might have began as a normal
relationship has turned into a controlling and abusive situation. They are
trying to survive. Their personality is developing the feelings and thoughts
needed to survive the situation and lower their emotional and physical risks.
All of us have developed attitudes and feelings that help us accept and survive
situations. We have these attitudes/feelings about our jobs, our community, and
other aspects of our life. As we have found throughout history, the more
dysfunctional the situation, the more dysfunctional our adaptation and thoughts
to survive. The victim is engaged in an attempt to survive and make a
relationship work. Once they decide it doesnÆt work and canÆt be fixed, they
will need our support as we patiently await their decision to return to a
healthy and positive lifestyle.
When a
family is confronted with a loved one involved with a Loser or
controlling/abusive individual, the situation becomes emotionally painful and
socially difficult for the family. While each situation is different, some
general guidelines to consider are:
Your loved one, the "victim" of the Loser/Abuser, has probably been given a
choice - the relationship or the family. This choice is made more difficult by
the control and intimidation often present in abusive/controlling relationships.
Knowing that choosing the family will result in severe personal and social
consequences, the family always comes in second. Keep in mind that the victim
knows in their heart the family will always love them and accept their return ¢
whenever the return happens.
Remember, the more you pressure the "victim" of the Loser/Abuser, the more you
prove the their point. Your loved one is being told the family is trying to ruin
their wonderful relationship. Pressure in the form of contacts, comments, and
communications will be used as evidence against you. An invitation to a
Tupperware party is met with ōYou see! They just want to get you by yourself so
they can tell you bad things about me!ö Increasing your contacts is viewed as
ōputting pressureö on their relationship ¢ not being lovingly
Your contacts with your loved one, no matter how routine and loving, may be met
with anger and resentment. This is because each contact may prompt the
Loser/Abuser to attack them verbally or emotionally. Imagine getting a four-hour
lecture every time your Aunt Gladys calls. In a short time, you become angry
each time she calls, knowing what the contact will produce in your home. The
longer Aunt Gladys talks ¢ the longer your lecture becomes! Thus, when Aunt
Gladys calls, you want to get her off the phone as quickly as possible.
The 1980Æs song, öHold on Looselyö, maybe the key to a good family and friend
approach. Holding on too tight produces more pressure. When the victim is out of
the home, itÆs often best to establish predictable, scheduled contacts. Calling
every Wednesday evening, just for a status report or to go over current events,
is less threatening than random calls during the week. Random calls are always
viewed as ōchecking up on usö calls. While you may encounter an answering
machine, leave a polite and loving message. Importantly, donÆt discuss the
relationship (the controller may be listening!) unless the victim brings it up.
The goal of these scheduled calls is to maintain contact, remind your loved one
that you are always there to help, and to quietly remind the controller that
family and loved ones are nearby and havenÆt disappeared.
Try to maintain traditional and special contacts with your loved one - holidays,
special occasions, etc. Keep your contacts short and brief, with no comments
that can be used as evidence. Contacts made at ōtraditionalö times ¢ holidays,
birthdays, anniversaries, etc. ¢ are not as threatening to a controller/abuser.
Contacts that provide information, but not questions, are also not as
threatening. An example might be a simple card reading ōJust a note to let you
know that your brother landed a new job this week. You might see him on a
Wal-Mart commercial any day now. Love, Mom and Dadö. This approach allows the
victim to recognize that the family is there - waiting in the wings if needed.
It also lessens the lectures/tantrums provided by the Loser as the contacts are
on a traditional and expected basis. ItÆs also hard to be angry about brotherÆs
new job without looking ridiculous. Also, donÆt invent holidays or send a
reminder that itÆs Sigmund FreudÆs birthday. ThatÆs suspiciousģeven in my
Remember that there are many channels of communication. ItÆs important that we
keep a channel open if at all possible. Communication channels might include
phone calls, letters, cards, and e-mail. Scheduled monthly shopping trips or
outings are helpful if possible. The goal is to maintain contact while your
loved one is involved in the controlling/abusive relationship. Remember, the
goal is contact, not pressure.
Don't feel the victim's behavior is against the family or friends. It may be a
form of survival or a way of lowering stress. Victims may be very resistive,
angry, and even hostile due to the complexity of their relationship with the
controller/abuser. They may even curse, threaten, and accuse loved ones and
friends. This hostile defensiveness is actually self-protection in the
relationship ¢ an attempt to avoid ōtroubleö.
The victim needs to know and feel they are not rejected because of their
behavior. Keep in mind, they are painfully aware of their situation. They know
they are being treated badly and/or controlled by their partner. Frequent
reminders of this will only make them want less contact. We naturally avoid
people who remind us of things or situations that are emotionally painful.
Victims may slightly open the door and provide information about their
relationship or hint they may be considering leaving. When the door opens, don't
jump through with the Marines behind you! Listen and simply offer support such
as "You know your family is behind any decision you need to make and at any time
you make it." They may be exploring what support is available but may not be
ready to call in the troops just yet. Many victims use an ōexit planö that may
take months or even years to complete. They may be gathering information at this
point, not yet ready for an exit.
- We can get messages to people in two ways - the pipeline and the grapevine. The pipeline is face-to-face, telling the person directly. This seldom happens in Loser situations as controllers and abusers monitor and control contacts with others. However, the grapevine is still open. When we use the grapevine, we send a message to our loved one through another person. Victims of controlling and abusive individuals are often allowed to maintain a relationship with a few people, perhaps a sibling or best friend. We can send our loved one a message through that contact person, a message that voices our understanding and support. We don't send insults ("Bill is such a jerk!) or put-downs ("If he doesn't get out of this relationship he'll end up crazy!) - we send messages of love and support. We send "I hope she/he (victim) knows the family is concerned and that we love and support them." Comments sent on the grapevine are phrased with the understanding that our loved one will hear them in that manner. DonÆt talk with a grapevine contact to express anger and threaten to hire a hit man, and then try to send a message of loving support. Be careful what and how the message is provided. The grapevine contact can often get messages to the victim when we can't. ItÆs another way of letting them know weÆre supporting them, just waiting to help if and when needed.
Each situation is different. The family may need to seek counseling support in
the community. A family consultation with a mental health professional or
attorney may be helpful if the situation becomes legally complex or there is a
significant danger of harm.
As relatives or friends of a victim involved with a controller or abuser, our
normal reaction is to consider dramatic action. We become angry, resentful, and
aggressive at times. Our mind fills with a variety of plans that often range
from rescue and kidnapping to ambushing the controller/abuser with a ball bat. A
rule of thumb is that any aggression toward the controller/abuser will result in
additional difficulties for your loved one. Try to remain calm and await an
opportunity to show your love and support when your loved one needs it.
In some cases, as in teenagers and young adults, the family may still provide
some financial, insurance, or other support. When we receive angry responses to
our phone calls, our anger and resentment tells us to cut off their support.
IÆve heard ōIf sheÆs going to date that jerk, itÆs not going to be in a car IÆm
paying for!ö and ōIf heÆs choosing that woman over his family, he can drop out
of college and flip hamburgers!ö Withdrawing financial support only makes your
loved one more dependent upon the controller/abuser. Remember, if weÆre
aggressive by threatening, withdrawing support, or pressuring ¢ we become the
threatening force, not the controller/abuser. It actually moves the victim into
the support of the controller. Sadly, the more of an ōordealö they experience,
the more bonding takes place as noted in Stockholm Syndrome and cognitive
- As you might imagine, the
combination of Stockholm Syndrome and cognitive dissonance may also be active
when our loved one is involved in cults, unusual religions, and other groups. In
some situations, the abuser and controller is actually a group or organization.
Victims are punished if they are viewed as disloyal to the group. While this
article deals with individual relationships, the family guidelines may be
helpful in controlling-group situations.
may be the victim of a controlling and abusive partner, seeking an understanding
of your feelings and attitudes. You may have a son, daughter, or friend
currently involved with a controlling and abusive partner, looking for ways to
understand and help.
If a
loved one is involved with a Loser, a controlling and abusing partner, the
long-term outcome is difficult to determine due to the many factors involved. If
their relationship is in the ōdatingö phase, they may end the relationship on
their own. If the relationship has continued for over a year, they may require
support and an exit plan before ending the relationship. Marriage and children
further complicates their ability to leave the situation. When the victim
decides to end the unhappy relationship, itÆs important that they view loved
ones as supportive, loving, and understanding ¢ not a source of pressure, guilt,
or aggression.
article is an attempt to understand the complex feelings and attitudes that are
as puzzling to the victim as they are to family and friends. IÆve outlined
recommendations for detaching from a Loser or controlling/abusive individual
(www.drjoecarver.com) but clearly, there are more victims in this situation. It
is hoped this article is helpful to family and friends who worry, cry, and have
difficulty understanding the situation of their loved one. It has been said that
knowledge is power. Hopefully this knowledge will prove helpful and powerful to
victims and their loved ones.
consider this article as a general guideline. Some recommendations may be
appropriate and helpful while some may not apply to a specific situation. In
many cases, we may need additional professional help of a mental health or legal
M. Carver, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist


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In Reply to: REVIEW: Magnepan Magneplanar MG2.6R Speakers posted by Robert C on April 22, 2007 at 18:09:45:
as a 14 year 2.6 owner, that's listened to them with several amps, from 100wpc to 800wpc, I can tell you that power is what makes them sing. The more power and current you feed them, the more they seem to open up. I am just finishing re-equiptmenting my maggie home theater, and went with 800 x5 for power, with 2 very strong subs. I mostly listen to concert dvd's, either in multichannel or stereo. What I now have does justice to Sarah Brighton or Allison Krause, but can also duplicate the energy of Carlos Santana and Rob Thomas, Clapton, or Steven Tyler and Joe Perry. My 2.6's are destined to be the rear surrounds in my next theater, with 20.1's in the front. But for nowthey do a fine job. great review on the 2.6 and 1.6.
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