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How I became "Mixter"Posted: January 16, 2017 Filed under: coming out, Janitorial work, name change | Tags: androgyny, coming out, gender, gender identity, genderqueer, lgbtq, name change, non-binary, work 6 Comments
This article first appeared on Transgender Universe, here: How I Became Mixter
For the sake of clarity, I'm going to give myself a pseudonym dead-name, for this article. Assume that before changing my name, my name was "KD Shorts." And my new, legal name is "Kameron."
A little over two years ago, I was at a workshop at the Philadelphia Trans-Health Conference, and one of the presenters was mentioning that they go by the honorific, Mx. (Mixter) in their professional settings. I had heard of this before, but I thought it was just a theoretical pipe dream. Here was someone who was actually using it, in their actual life! I felt soooo jealous. I thought to myself (with a good dose of biting envy), "Oooh, look at the progressive academic who gets to waltz around in an enlightened and indulgent bubble all day long." I never thought I would get there. Furthermore, even though I'm in my thirties, it was tough to envision a world where I was grown-up enough to have an honorific of my own.
I'd done an excellent job at avoiding it. No Mr. or Ms. for me! I am a janitor at an elementary school: a place where there's a lot of "Mr. / Mrs. / Miss / Ms. [last name]" around the kids, and then first names amongst ourselves. Except for the custodial staff. It's first names all around for us, generally. Everywhere except for our name plates on the custodial office door. There, we are "Mr. [last name]" and "Mrs. [last name]" I had somehow gotten away with requesting that I be simply "KD Shorts." It was awesome.
There was another sticking point though: every year, at school pictures time. We get our pics taken, and then we get some freebies, as well as a sheet of all the staff pics – just like a student would get a sheet of their class. And so, we had to give our names, to be recorded on the sheet. It would vary from year to year, depending on how vocal/empowered I was feeling. I usually told the portrait employee, "no Ms. or Mr. Just KD Shorts." There were a few years though, where I was "Ms. Shorts" as the default.
These past few weeks, I've been riding the wave of legally changing my name, which has been especially gratifying at work, where I was still known as KD Shorts, (she/her/hers). Everywhere else in my life, I had been going by "Kameron" for about two years, and (he/him/his) for many many years prior to that. So, essentially, I utilized this time of change as a chance to come out at work.
I talked to the principal and assistant principal on Friday, December 23rd. I stated that I was changing my name and my pronouns, and that I identify as neither a man nor a woman. The impromptu meeting was less than stellar – they fixated on bathrooms and the fact that the change was going to be hard for people to remember. They did mention that they wanted me to feel comfortable, but didn't offer any concrete ways that that could happen. I did not panic though – I was thinking, "do not catastrophize this." I remained neutral and open, but I didn't use it as a teaching moment. I shouldn't have to! I thought that things would work out fine, ultimately, and if not, I could always call in the big guns: my local gay alliance's speaker's bureau, to do the educating on my behalf.
We all took a time out for winter recess. I then came in on Tuesday, January 3rd, and the principal asked me if I'd come speak to her. Of her own volition, she had consulted the head of HR, and she had basically done a 180. We had a much more fruitful discussion. She still was strong in her opinions, but she made it clear that every choice was up to me, and I could take some time to think it over. We ended up talking about:
– How to come out, and the timeline
– How my name would appear on my name plate on the custodial office door
– Bathrooms
Coming out: I said that I have already pretty much told the people I would naturally tell in person, the ones I see regularly or semi-regularly. And I wasn't going to be able to get to everyone, so if she could either make an announcement at the next staff meeting and/or send an email, that'd be great. We agreed she would do both. I told her I'd get back to her with the content I'd like her to say.
Name plate: The biggie! I said I had two ideas, but I didn't say exactly what they were. (I'll say it here though! Either 1. just "Kameron" and nothing else. 2. Mx. [last name].) She said that her thought was that my co-workers have Mr. _____ and Mrs. _____, so it'd be great if I conformed to that and picked one or the other. I said, "OK! Great, there is another option that I will go with. It's Mx. That's pronounced 'Mixter.'" She wrote it down in her notes. It was a done deal!
Bathrooms: I could write an additional article about this (heck, probably more like a dissertation!), but to keep it short and sweet: We agreed that I get to pick where I go, and I am making no big deal of it, and it does not need to be a part of any announcement.
All's how it should be! Just one more small way I am joining the world of adults. That's Mixter, to you.
Guest post – Kale (one year later)Posted: January 3, 2017 Filed under: coming out, Testosterone, Writing | Tags: androgyny, gender identity, genderqueer, hormone replacement therapy, lgbtq, non-binary, queer, testosterone, trans, transgender, transmasculine, writing 4 Comments
About a year ago, I featured the story of an internet friend, here: Guest post – Kale
We lost touch for a while, but as the year came to a close, I wanted to see where they were at, transition-wise and otherwise. We corresponded for a bit, and they sent this update:
Hi! My name is Kale and I wrote a guest blog post for Kameron over a year ago when I first started taking testosterone. I live, mostly, in Newfoundland, where it's cold and grey a lot of the year. I suppose it goes without saying that a lot has changed for me in the past year. I'm writing this today after making a monumental change to my appearance and expression of self this very morning. After five years of having them I decided to cut off my dreadlocks. I know some of you might be thinking "what does that have to do with taking testosterone or being transmasculine?" Well, I believe that all the choices we make about our bodies, not just the big ones like taking hormones or having surgery, impact our experience of self enormously. And though I hate to think on my dreads in a negative way I know they were a kind of crutch for me for a long time. If you think about it dreads are very gender neutral. Whether a man or a woman has dreads it doesn't matter; the dreads will more or less look the same. And certainly once my dreads were long enough they obscured my neck, my slender feminine neck.
Well after a year it seems my neck isn't as slender as it once was. In fact a lot of things about my body are very different. It amazes me how I can feel so much the same and so very different all at the same time. On the one hand the differences feel right to me, feel like the me I always expected to be, and I know that makes a huge difference. On the other hand I know there is so much about me that is the same, the integral parts of me that will never change, no matter what. I think a lot of folks, myself included, fear changes that will alter who they perceive themselves to be. It's a legitimate fear but I don't think it's grounded in any reality. I know that I am the same person I've always been except now I feel closer to that person and so much happier. I should say that I identify with being transmasculine but do not feel comfortable with many labels. Every label I've ever tried on did not fit well enough to make me feel comfortable with it. Right now I like to say that I do not feel like a man or a woman. I feel like myself and that person has masculine and feminine traits.
Generally I feel more attuned to my masculine side and that was a huge factor in my choosing HRT. Being read as female, therefore feminine only, made me feel very unlike myself. I could not live that way feeling like no one saw me for who I was. A year later my voice is pretty low and I have the faintest line of hair over my upper lip. My veins pop out of my forearms and my pecs and shoulders have muscles they never had before. Strangers almost always think I'm a man. This is my new reality. It generally feels good to me but it's not perfect. I'm not a man. I don't really want to consistently be thought of as one. I take what I can get though because in this society being seen as neither a man nor a woman is a pretty unrealistic goal. I feel closer to my masculine side so being read as a man is less difficult than being read as a woman.
The other huge reason I chose HRT was my association with my genitals and my experiences of sex. For whatever reason I am cursed with the desire to have male genitalia. It fucking sucks. I cannot imagine having bottom surgery despite the fact that I really would rather male genitalia. I'm so not ready to even entertain that idea and I don't know if that will ever change. I wasn't entirely sure what testosterone would do for my relationship with my genitals but it certainly seemed worth trying. This was hands down the best choice of my life. I can't express how thankful I am that I had the ability to make this choice. Before HRT I often could not derive sexual pleasure from my junk; it just didn't feel like it was a part of me. That feeling was exasperating. I felt incredible guilt because I loved my partner but I could not enjoy sex with them. I don't know how to describe the difference in my genitals other than it feels like what I imagine having male genitalia feels like. I have experienced some clitoral growth but it's so much more than that. The difference is mind blowing, truly, and I wish I could find the words to express what it actually feels like but I can't seem to. I hate to use the cliche but it's so accurate; my body feels like my body now.
Despite all the ways I am so thankful for testosterone, I don't like to put excessive emphasis on HRT. It was right for me in that moment in time. It's not necessarily the right choice for everyone. And certainly I don't think HRT is the only thing that's helped me with my sense of self. If I want to I can think about my dreads negatively, as being a crutch. Or I can think about them positively, as being a big part of how I expressed myself authentically. Having dreadlocks and using HRT are both choices I made to feel closer to the person I feel inside. There's so many ways that we can learn to be happy in our own bodies and the only thing that matters is that; each individual person's happiness. I am so happy I found the courage to choose HRT but there are still days I look in the mirror and wonder who I am, what I think I'm doing. They're less often, definitely, but they're still there. This life is a journey, happiness is a journey and there's no end until you're dead. I wish I could say HRT made me completely whole and happy and yay now my days of feeling dysphoria and sadness are over! But it's just not true. Happiness is not something you attain once and that's it; it's something you have to always work for. My intent in saying all this is to remind folks of certain realities. And I need to remember them as much as anyone. Life is hard. Go easy on yourself. Love yourself, no matter what you may feel sometimes. If there's one thing I've taken out of this last year and all my experiences with my changing body it's this.
I like how Kale starts this piece with hair-related changes, and then gets more into it from there. I also use my hairstyle to obscure my slender feminine neck! What are some things you do to help feel more congruent with your gender identity?
If you'd like to write a guest post, please go for it! You can just click on "ask me something" at the top of the page…
I came out at workPosted: December 22, 2016 Filed under: coming out, Janitorial work, name change | Tags: androgyny, anxiety, coming out, gender identity, genderqueer, janitors, lgbtq, non-binary, queer, trans, transgender, work 8 Comments
This has been my biggest transition goal. For a long time. I always knew I would / could, at some point in the (distant) future, but usually it felt like there'd be no way. I've been riding the waves of my legal name change though, and getting in on that as an opportunity to say that there's more to it than just that I am going to go by a new name now.
Monday – My supervisor had been out of work for 3 weeks, and Monday was her first day back. During her absence, I had received the signed court order from a judge in the mail, and was starting in on some of the bureaucratic processes: going to the DMV, going to my bank, etc. So it was good timing for when she came back – I told her (again) that I was changing my name, and I deferred to her in terms of what she thought I should do. I did not tell her anything beyond the name change, and she expressed concern that she wasn't going to remember. I also came out to my 2nd co-worker (my one co-worker has been in my corner this whole time.) She was emotional in her responses, but I'm sure she'll be fine / nothing will change.
Tuesday – Before work, I went to the "third floor" to speak to the benefits lady. I filled out paperwork. She asked me if I had my new Social Security card, and I was like, "uhhhh…" I made a mental note to get on that. She said we could get things started anyway, without it, and I just send over a copy when I get it. While at work, I came out to my favorite teacher. It went well. The reason I like her is because she just seems real. We don't talk a whole lot, but when we do, she's always reserved yet super thoughtful in her insights. She shared with me a couple of impressions her 4-year old daughter has had of me (she's met me a handful of times.) That was nice. I told her the name and the pronoun thing, but I didn't get as far as "neither male nor female" in this interaction. It was good enough for me right then; she said, "I'm happy for you," a couple of times.
Wednesday – I gave it a day or two. My supervisor basically seemed to think now I just wait for things to trickle down from the "third floor." I wasn't feeling that – I was feeling more proactive than that, but I gave it a day. I In the meantime, I emailed our union president (the benefits lady prompted me to do this) to give him a heads up. We just had an election in November, and my favorite buildings and grounds guy was elected. It's always a buildings and grounds guy, and if it has to be one, I'm so glad it's him because I think he can absorb the news and take the lead on it within all those guys – electricians, plumbers, HVAC, maintenance, conservatives, white men, Trump supporters, etc. etc. Hopefully.
Thursday (today) – I talked to my supervisor about when can I change my badge, stuff like that, and she reiterated that I just wait and it'll all happen. What I was really most concerned about was talking to the principal (again), so that she hears it from me, and so that she hears all of the information. I knew that once I talked to her, she'd take it from there (I'm not sure how she'll do it, but the whole school will know through her.) My supervisor said she mentioned it to the principal, and I took that as a green light. I came out to three more teachers (one of them told me about a relative, and I was able to get to the part about "not male or female" with her, which felt great!) I was feeling pressure to talk to the principal either today or tomorrow because we're going into Xmas Recess, and having everyone know when they come back from break would be ideal. So I made it happen. After school but before the admin. assistants leave for the day, I went to the office to see if the principal was available. The assistant principal happened to be with her in her office right then, which worked out perfectly. Kill two birds with one stone! Plus, the dynamic with both of them was so much better. A lot of times, they are like foils to each other. I said the stuff (the name, the pronouns, the "neither male nor female,") the principal brought up bathrooms (which I have mixed feelings about), the assistant principal brought the energy and excitement, but also brought up how he was not going to be able to remember, and that's not anything about me. I said yeah yeah I know it'll be an adjustment period. (In my head, I'm thinking, how long is this adjustment period, exactly???)
Friday (tomorrow) – I have about 5 other people I'd like to tell in person, if I get the chance. If not, no big deal. Everyone's gonna be focused on Xmas parties and getting ready for domestic family things and cookies and blah blah blah. We'll see. The best part is there's really no more pressure!
And so, that's it! Now I just wait for things to happen around me. Next week, during Xmas Recess, the only people who will be at the school will be me, my two co-workers, my supervisor, and maybe the principal and assistant principal. So, that's a whole week for the people who say my name the most, to practice. I have a feeling my co-worker / ally will step up and lead it, followed by me correcting everyone every single time.
Then teachers and kids come back. And teachers will have a heads up from the principal one way or another, and then I just start correcting, correcting, correcting. For how long? Not sure.
(I gotta say, I definitely feel good and accomplished, but I don't feel that "wheeeeeeeee" feeling that often comes with big comings-out. I'm attributing that to my medication, for better and worse. It makes so many things so much easier, but those roller coaster feelings – yeah, I miss the good ones…)
Finally changing my name legally pt. 2Posted: December 14, 2016 Filed under: coming out | Tags: coming out, DMV, gender identity, genderqueer, legal name change, lgbtq, name change, non-binary, queer, trans, transgender 5 Comments
On Saturday, I got my signed court order in the mail, along with all my supporting documents (including an exemption to having to announce my name change in a publication) and instructions to go back to the County Clerk's office and file again. It only took 26 days – didn't expect such a quick turn-around. I got this piece of mail immediately after coming home from a birthday lunch with my spouse and parents, at which I told them about my legal name change (tough conversation to bring up, but I did it!) Monday was my birthday, and my spouse and I went on a day trip. I had also taken Tuesday off, which was perfect because I had plenty of time to go back downtown and keep this momentum going.
I got there at about 11am and, after filing, I purchased two certified copies of the court order for $10. I then thought, wow, I could go down to the DMV too at this rate! I did some stuff at home (including coming up with and practicing a new signature!!), and then I headed down there at about 3pm. Filled out the form, wrote my new signature in a box, got my picture taken, and then was told that their system was down. The lady re-booted the computer two times, I took another picture, wrote the signature again, and, …no go. She gave me my number anyway, but when I finally got to go up, they just told me I needed these things scanned first, and since the computer was down, it just wasn't going to happen. Blah!
So, I came back the following morning (this morning). Wrote my signature two more times, got my picture taken two more times, with technical issues in between. It finally went through though. And now I have a temporary license, and I'll get my new one in two weeks!
I had always thought I was going to stick with "F," legally. As I went through the day yesterday though, I came back to that – it suddenly had a lot of weight attached to it. NOW was my chance to change to "M," if I wanted. I would have just waited on the DMV until I'd gotten a note from my doctor, psychiatrist, or therapist. (That's all it takes where I live! No proof of HRT. No proof of surgery. Just a letter from someone saying that you identify as you say you identify!) Ultimately, I decided, no, I'm not changing it. If I could change it to something else ("X," "N," or whatever, I'd have done that in a heartbeat. It was a fairly easy call – I was no more attached to "F" than "M" – they equally do not define me, so as a default, I'm sticking with F. At least for now. I know it might be harder to change it in the future, (Trump) but, that's a risk I'll have to take, because now is not the time…
I actually had an idea while thinking through all this, and I wonder if others do this: I think I will put a teeny tiny black sticker over the "F" on my new license. It'll just be a blank square. And if for some reason I have to show a cop or something, I can peel it off real quick first. But for purposes of showing bartenders, etc., hey, they don't need to know!!! I think it'll feel super validating to black out "F."
So, right now, all systems are open! There's nothing in my way from changing my name anywhere and everywhere. It now is timely for me to come out at work. I can finally have an actual name on Facebook.
Etc. Now, where to start???
6 months after top surgeryPosted: December 1, 2016 Filed under: top surgery | Tags: androgyny, ftm, genderqueer, lgbtq, medical treatment, non-binary, queer, surgeon, surgery, top surgery, trans, transbucket, transgender 1 Comment
A couple of days ago, something suddenly dawned on me: It finally clicked why things weren't looking too good in terms of symmetry. I previously had not paid attention, but my rib cage is actually fairly uneven. I've known that my hips are askew for forever – I have mild scoliosis. My waist is off – it goes straight down on the left side, and curves in on the right. We all have these little quirks… Other things: my eyes are not the same – one eyelid is droopier than the other. One nostril is a little bigger than the other. You know that swirl everyone has within their hair (cowlick)? It's never dead center, is it? – It's over to one side. Some people even have 2! My point is, we're all a little different, even on a structural level. And I had been ignoring/avoiding my chest and rib cage – possibly because of the dysphoria surrounding that area.
I knew there was a weird dent on the left side, but beyond that, my ribs were pretty foreign to me. Recently, I started poking around. The bones are not in the same place, between my left and right! The left side even juts out a little further than the right.
Despite this, my breasts actually had been symmetrical, but that's probably because there was all that extra tissue as a buffer. When the surgeon went to take that all out, bones were a hindrance as to what she could do, I'm finally realizing. (And yeah, I am actually that skinny that my ribs stick out a little bit. I wish I had some more meat on me there!)
I recently took some photos, so that finally, I could post my results on transbucket (you can check it out – you just have to create an account to access the website, first). And I found that things don't look as bad, through the camera lens, as they do when I'm scrutinizing every little thing in the mirror. I had also taken photos of my chest, pre-op, and this was the first time I looked at those since surgery – my breasts seem a lot bigger than I remember them! Haha.
Here's what I wrote on transbucket (a summary of sorts):
"Had surgery in June of 2016. Was reimbursed for 40% of the total cost, which I wasn't expecting! This surgeon and her staff were subpar with patient care and availability. I have barely seen / spoken to Dr. Rumer during this process. All follow-up appts. (been doing them through Skype) have been with a physician's assistant. The only other time to see her will be at the 1 year-follow-up.
I was not completely satisfied with the results (although these pics don't look too bad). The left side is larger than the right, and the nipples are uneven, a little sunken in, and (at 6 months) purplish in color. It's tough to see from the pics, but I believe some muscle tissue was taken out on the right side, and there's a dent to the right of the nipple. Sensation is touchy, but slowly improving. I recently realized that my rib cage is not symmetrical, so that may have impacted my results.
I plan on seeking a nipple revision, at the least, in the future. Since I would have to pay more for this, from Dr. Rumer, I will be looking at options elsewhere as well.
At the time of surgery, I was not on T. I'd been on a super-low dose prior, for 2.5 years, but I do not think that impacted my musculature.
More information can be found at: https://janitorqueer.com/category/top-surgery/ "
Here are past updates about top surgery, documenting as I go:
4.5 months after top surgery: 4.5 months is an odd point – but it seems worthwhile to write now, mostly because within the last couple of weeks, sensation has been returning at a faster rate. and I want to make note of that. …
3 months after top surgery: I did not expect to feel much different other than a cerebral satisfaction regarding being able to wear anything from now on. But it's more of a gut- level confidence. …
1 month after top surgery: I can live with that for now, but I doubt things are going to change enough for it to actually look good. I'm not happy with the results. …
2 weeks after top surgery: Right now, there is not enough symmetry, in multiple regards. …
6 days after top surgery: Everything went smoothly, except for the fact that the surgeon was about to do the wrong procedure. …
Branching outPosted: November 26, 2016 Filed under: Uncategorized, Writing | Tags: blogs, election, gender identity, genderqueer, hate crime, lgbtq, non-binary, politics, queer, trans, transgender, writing 2 Comments
I started writing occasionally for a website called Transgender Universe. Here's the first article that I've posted! It's about pride flags being burned in my neighborhood, following the election, and then an impromptu rally, as a response to this hate crime.
(This first appeared on Transgender Universe, here: From Burning Pride Flags to a Neighborhood Rally)
The morning after the election, I woke up to a text from a friend who said, "Hi! We'd like to get a rainbow flag to hang at the house in solidarity after what happened yesterday. Do you know where we could purchase one?" When he had said, "what happened yesterday," I figured he meant Trump, but once I got on facebook, I saw that two pride flags had been burned in my neighborhood the evening before. Talk about getting hit close to home! It is being investigated as both arson and a hate crime, but so far there are no suspects.
So I looked up information for the gay pride store that had been a mainstay in our city, first opening in 1989 as a leather and fetish supplier, and later changing ownership a couple of times and morphing into a place that had something for everyone in the LGBTQ+ community. I was shocked and saddened to learn that it had closed in August with the death of the current owner. So instead I recommended a couple of novelty stores to my friend, hoping he'd be able to track one down.
As the events had unfolded, it became apparent that there was nowhere, locally, to get a pride flag because every place had sold out! A fellow neighbor had ordered 120 more flags, and she was formulating a plan to get these out to people and acquire more, flooding the area with rainbows.
On Friday evening, another friend in the neighborhood had texted me to see whether my spouse and I were going to the rally in the morning (I feel fortunate that I have so many friends who are in the loop, because there are times when I am totally living under a rock!). I said, "Yes," as if I knew all about it (ha ha), and we made a plan to go together.
And so, my spouse and friends (a queer couple with a 10 year-old son) and I walked over to a nearby park Saturday morning, carrying signs and wearing fun outfits. As we approached, I felt a wave of emotion, moved by the size of the gathering, the amount of rainbows flying in the air, and the openness of everyone there.
Mary Moore, the organizer and the neighbor that ordered the flags, stood up on a table to announce the intentions of this rally: to hand out more flags for community members to show solidarity, and to show LGBTQ+ members in this neighborhood how much support is out there. Mission accomplished, by leaps and bounds! There were so many allies and families, along with people who identify as LGBTQ+. I walked around the outskirts of the crowd, taking photos and scoping out all that was happening. There was a station for people to make rainbows out of ribbons, as well as a spot to make construction-paper rainbows. Someone was doing face painting, and there was also a place to sign up to order a flag, because the 120 that Mary had ordered for the rally had sold out in 9 minutes!
The director of the local gay alliance also stopped by, got up on the table, and delivered a similar message of hope and love. I started to feel more comfortable, and moving into the crowd and approaching people with signs, asking whether I could take their photograph. I saw a couple of acquaintances, and where I would normally be too shy to strike up a conversation, in this environment, I went right up to them to say hey and chat for a while. My spouse and friends also connected with neighbors we know, as well as meeting a few new people.
I posted a photo album of the event on Facebook and watched my social network do its work, spider-webbing outwards from friends I had tagged, to friends of friends and beyond. I also messaged Mary, the organizer, to thank her and to ask her a couple of questions.
We talked on the phone for a bit this morning, and I learned that she has been an ally and supporter of LGBTQ+ rights for a long time, even doing advocacy work in Washington DC. She said that for the past 8 years though, she could ease up because there was someone in the White House who was pushing for the same things; she could focus on her career, working as a lawyer in private practice, and on her family.
She first heard about the 2 flag burning incidents from a friend, while picking her kids up from daycare. Her husband had heard about it through the website, nextdoor.com, which acts as a community bulletin board and a way to connect with others nearby. I just joined, myself, to see what it's all about (and to try not living under a rock quite so much). Sure enough, 5 days ago, there was a post from one of the victims of the hate crime, stating, "I hang a rainbow flag on my front porch and someone burned it down. Thankfully my house didn't catch fire. The [police are] currently investigating; please keep an eye out for suspicious behavior in the area."
And then, as a response, Mary Moore created the event, "Let's Gather to Support Our Community." She wrote:
In response to the burning of two rainbow flags in [our] area, let's stand together and show that our community is tolerant and welcoming, regardless of who you love, where you worship, where you were born, your political affiliation, the color of your skin, or how much money you have. Many people in [our] neighborhood have been buying rainbow flags to put out in solidarity and to give to friends. … Would people be interested in organizing a central meeting place this weekend or next to give out flags and just to stand with our community in solidarity? … Please comment below if you would be interested in a gathering like this, if you have or can buy flags to distribute, and/or if you can assist with finding a location for this gathering. If there is interest, then we can set up a formal event on here.
I know that this is just one of many issues and injustices within our communities and that we are all so very busy, but we have to start somewhere and do what we can with what we've got every day. Let's not be bullied or let our neighbors be bullied.
It all came together from there. I want to personally thank Mary Moore for showing my friends, my spouse, me, and everyone else who could be there for how much we are supported by our neighbors!
Regarding our rainbow flag status: We don't have one, but when we moved into our house ten years ago, we dubbed it the "Rainbow Ranch" (it's really a Colonial), and I spray painted a rainbow on our garage door. I sure as hell hope that never gets burned down – we just put a new roof on it a couple years ago!
Finally changing my name legallyPosted: November 21, 2016 Filed under: coming out, name change | Tags: androgyny, emotions, gender, gender identity, genderqueer, legal name change, lgbtq, name change, non-binary, queer, trans, transgender 7 Comments
I started going by "Kameron," socially, in May of last year. I had a turning-point conversation with my spouse a couple of months before that, but I wanted to let it sink in, because once, years ago, I picked out a name I thought I wanted to go by. But then I just didn't do anything more with it. So I wanted to see if that was going to happen again, or if I would actually move ahead. My spouse started calling me the name around the house, and then, a pivotal moment was trying the name out within a group of strangers that I was only seeing on a temporary basis: Being transgender while in a partial hospitalization program. That helped immensely; to hear the name repeatedly and see if it would sink in. Once that felt right, I emailed a bunch of people with this new information (and with a new phone number). That was a big move, but I haven't regretted it. It's been a super easy transition – no one, surprisingly, has messed up in front of me, once. Plus, acquaintances and friends of friends heard word from others, so I barely had to tell or remind anyone! So cool! (Well, ok, except for family members, which is different).
Last Monday, I finally went downtown to get the process rolling on getting it legally changed. I think the hold-up was: I wasn't ready to come out at work, and I wasn't sure if I wanted to change my last name, too, while I was at it.
I'm now feeling good about coming out at work within the near future. Also, I decided to change my first, middle, and last name. That's going to take some getting used to, since I haven't changed that anywhere yet, even socially. Guess I gotta come up with a new signature too.
The process was not too bad: I printed some documents out from an online site, and fortunately my spouse's dad is a notary, so we were able to go over to her parents' house to get that all in order and signed, the day before. I had Monday off work, and it turned out to be a gorgeous day, so I decided to bike. (So glad I did because I ended up having to go back and forth, and to a few places. Parking is tough downtown, and I was able to zip around and lock up at VIP spots anywhere I was going, haha – VIP spots meaning street signs and trees.)
I first went to the information desk at the County Clerks' office. The lady was brusque, giving me 2 other documents that had to be filled out, asking me if I had my index #, and telling me I needed 3 copies of all these papers. Luckily, my spouse's dad, who works downtown, had told me I could contact him if I needed anything else. I called him, biked over the few blocks to his office – it was cool to see where he works! – and he helped me fill out the rest, plus he made copies of everything and paper-clipped everything neatly and efficiently, with clips on both the top and the sides!) I thanked him and rode back and got in line, where I stood for probably a half hour. When it was my turn though, I got through quickly. I paid the $210 fee, got my index number, and got a receipt.
They told me I then had to go to the Hall of Justice, to the Judicial Clerk's office. This involved more bike riding, plus a walk through a metal detector and asking around in order to find the right room. Things went smoothly there too, although I noticed that on the receipt I got from the County Clerk's office, they spelled "Kameron," "Kamerson." Aarrgh! I asked if this was going to be a problem, and I was assured that it was fine – the judge wasn't going to be looking at that at all.
I then biked to a coffee shop and worked on some writing for the rest of the afternoon. About to head home, I ran into a friend, and we chatted for a while. Then a stranger approached us with a digital recorder, and he asked if he could ask us a question for a radio show. I said, "probably!" So he launched into, "OK, so the Cubs won the world series, and that hasn't happened in 108 years. And then Trump was actually elected president. So, with all this going on, what's next?" I said, "Flying lizards," just because it was the first thing that popped into my head, but if I had thought for even just a second, in retrospect, I would have said, "SUPERMOON!" because I'd heard that on that day, (November 14th), it was the biggest it's been in 69 years, and it's not going to be that big again for another 34!
Oh well. Next time I'll make more sense.
Anniversaries, traumas, deaths, and name changePosted: November 15, 2016 Filed under: coming out, mental health | Tags: anniversary, bipolar disorder, emotions, gender identity, genderqueer, hate crime, lgbtq, marriage, mental health, politics, queer, same-sex marriage, trauma 6 Comments
Game changing significance was loaded on top of more and more significance, this past week. On Monday the 7th, Leonard Cohen passed away. Then, of course, the upsetting election results. My spouse woke me up to tell me the news. I was in a hazy half-sleep, largely induced by my medications (I think), and I just replied, "Ohhhhhhh," and immediately fell back asleep. It was a surreal half-consciousness, and, in a way, I continued on in that space for a long time after, even now, as I try to wrap my head around it.
She also texted me later that morning saying "Happy anniversary of our 'legal' marriage today." I had completely forgotten about that. We have much more meaningful anniversaries between us; this one is not a big deal. But, interesting that it happens to fall on this same date. Plus! It was the one year mark of the launch date for the radio station I am a DJ at. Also on this day, a friend's father passed away. The next day, my spouse's sister proposed to her boyfriend!
The following day, I heard word that two pride flags had been burned in our neighborhood. Talk about being hit close to home! More on that in an upcoming post. We attended a rally on Saturday morning with some friends, and the spirit of that event was totally incredible.
Also, around this time, 17 years ago, I was hospitalized for 19 days, and was traumatized by the process, for a very very long time. I take a moment every year to think about this and reflect. (In the past, it'd been much more than "a moment" to reflect. For too long, it had felt like constant rumination.)
Three years ago, I wrote about how I finally gained access to the medical records from my hospital stay, and how I started to process things differently with the help of my therapist: Continuing to work through a specific trauma.
Then two years ago, I wrote about finally bringing that record into therapy and how it felt to have her go through it. I was starting to realize that maybe I didn't need to pick it all apart; maybe my perspective was shifting naturally, over time: That specific trauma is still there.
Last year, I wrote about how much time has changed things, and it no longer felt like a big deal. The fact that I had been hospitalized again, that year, surprisingly helped me find ways to heal, rather than adding more baggage onto the feeling of it: That specific trauma is no longer a big deal.
This year, this personal matter has simply been buried underneath all this other stuff going on. I don't have the capacity to think about it and write about it right now. I don't see that as a problem. It's not like I am grieving the loss of space and emotional energy to be with this thing. It was a thing. And it gradually became not as much of a thing. It is OK.
I also experienced an upswing this week. Probably galvanized by the shitty stuff going on. I cancelled a doctor's appointment that I didn't want to go to. I called my grandpa and talked to him about different ways to save for retirement. I solidified plans for my spouse and I to take a trip to Washington D.C. for her birthday – right around Martin Luther King Jr. Day, and just in time to get the fuck out of there before the presidential inauguration. We are going to go to the National Museum of African American History and Culture, part of the Smithsonian, which just opened a few months ago.
I also submitted my stuff to legally change my name! Finally! I did this yesterday. (This might also be a separate upcoming post.) I also emailed a lawyer to see if he would be willing to work with me toward gaining legal non-binary status. I haven't heard back yet, and I realized that the timing is shit. This is such a low priority right now, as transgender people scramble to get their Social Security card, passport, etc. in order before the Trump take-over. And I know this lawyer in particular is probably swamped with going above and beyond to help people with this. So, I'm going to wait on it.
But a time will come. I know it.
The Secret Emotional Life of ClothesPosted: October 31, 2016 Filed under: coming out | Tags: clothing, fashion, genderqueer, Halloween, lgbtq, non-binary, podcast, queer, radio, trans, transgender 8 Comments
When I think about Halloween, I think candy, jack-o-lanterns, movies, and all that stuff, but I also think about it as the perfect opportunity to try out something totally different, appearance-wise, and test out whether it's worth exploring past that. I've definitely seized it as an opportunity in the past, both to try out a different type of "masculinity" – dressing like my idea of a punk a few times, something I was definitely interested in; and also to see what it felt like to dress femme. I think a lot of people try out things like this too, in the guise of a "Halloween costume."
I wrote about that here: Hey Halloween! (how costumes fit into our lives)
I just listened to a really interesting podcast about how what you wear can affect how you feel, how you're treated, what you decide to do, your cognitive abilities, your identity, and so much more! It starts with a brief snippet of a Halloween night, with kids running around a neighborhood in all kinds of costumes. Here's part of that transcript, talking with a girl who is afraid of flying:
FRANNY: I'm wearing a leather jacket and an aviator hat and aviator goggles and jeans, boots and an aviator scarf.
ROSIN: Franny's dressed as…
FRANNY: Amelia Earhart.
MILLER: Yep, a woman who ate airplanes for breakfast. Who was…
FRANNY: Awesome and brave.
ROSIN: And as Franny puts on the white silk scarf, the leather jacket, the hat with the floppy ears… …Guess what happens? The nervous disappears. If I put you in an airplane right now, what would happen?
FRANNY: I'd feel like a pro.
It's true, to an extent! We've all experienced this, somehow or another, I think.
Listen to the full podcast here: Invisibilia
For me, shoes have always been a big deal – probably my favorite element of self expression. I remember the first time I got to get a pair of boy's shoes, in 3rd grade, and the emotional tenor of that moment and of every single day that I got to wear them. It was the best thing ever. And of years later, in my early 20s, when I first got a pair of skateboarding sneakers – it was that same feeling (or, OK, maybe a diluted young-adult version of that same feeling) because I decided that I was worthy of wearing the type of shoes I always coveted. And I was an adult. And I could buy and wear whatever I wanted (I had a hard time "letting" myself buy things that I wanted.) And now! I recently got a pair of Reebok pump basketball shoes, and I have such a fun time just putting them on! I'm not a skater or a b-ball player, but that's OK, shoes say so much more than "basketball," "running," "work-boot," etc.
What are your favorite articles of clothing to play around with?
Have you used Halloween as an opportunity to try out something new, that you might want to incorporate into everyday life?
There are 6 other stories in the podcast, including someone who uses sunglasses to avoid getting bullied, and then ends up feeling so strongly about their magical powers that he just ends up never taking them off. This was my favorite story, and it's the first one, so if you wanna just hear that one, it's totally worth it!
Parts 2 and 3 are also really good. Part 2 is about a person who started out as a cross-dresser, and then after a breakup, they started wearing feminine clothing all of the time, and identifying as a trans-woman. She was also a fairly public figure, doing stand-up comedy regularly and being covered in the media. She was also 6'5″, never passed, and always was on guard, feeling paranoid and defensive. It was wearing her down, and the feminine clothing had lost their allure. After about 7 months, she went back, from "Sarah," to "Will." And he endured backlash from the trans-community for doing so.
Part 3 was about a social science experiment (I think I'd read about it in a book, as well), where people were asked to put on a white lab/doctor's coat, and then go through a battery of concentration tests. The control group wore their regular clothes. And it was proven that those with the coat on did twice as well as those without! Was it something about the extra weight on the shoulders? No, that was tested for with just pressure being applied. What about if the coat was referred to as a "painter's coat" instead of a "doctor's coat?" No go – that did not produce any improvements. It appears that when people feel like they are putting on something that has a particular meaning, they will, largely subconsciously, act accordingly.
Why is it so hard to make an appointment?Posted: October 27, 2016 Filed under: mental health, Testosterone | Tags: doctors, endocrinologist, genderqueer, hormone replacement therapy, lgbtq, medical treatment, mental health, non-binary, queer, testosterone, therapy, trans, transgender 7 Comments
I made a decision that I'd like to get on testosterone injections, temporarily. I've thought on-and-off about it for a while, and I think the idea solidified over the summer, like, once I'm back to normal after recovering from surgery, I'm going to look into it. Unfortunately I knew I couldn't just get this from my Primary Care Physician – she had been OK with maintaining my androgel dosage, but not comfortable with changing / increasing anything.
On September 26, I called the local LGBTQ+ health clinic and explained what I'm looking for. They said they could get me in on January 25th. I said, OK set the appointment, but in my head, I was thinking, this is a ridiculous amount of time to wait. (And, I know, I know, relatively speaking, it's not at all, especially looking at it from a global perspective. But, if I think I can do better than that, why not try?)
From there, I looked up endocrinologists in my area and what types of care they covered. I found one that hypothetically seemed like a good fit, and I posted about it on the local transmen Facebook page. I got one comment that yeah, she and her staff are good, and a few more comments agreeing with the inefficiency of the clinic. In terms of vetting, that seemed good enough.
I called her office on September 27th and was told I'll need a referral from my Primary Care Physician, and then once that's in, I should hear back within a week. I called my PCP's office, and they said they'd send that over right away. I then waited 10 days before calling. I was told the referral didn't get received, huh, not sure, can you have them send it again? Got that done, this time with a confirmation plus I got a copy, and waited another few days. I got a call from my PCP's office, saying that the endo needs an additional referral, from a psychiatrist. GATEKEEPING at its finest. I would have been super pissed, and probably would have stopped trying to go this route, if it weren't for the fact that I actually do have a psychiatrist right now. So although I hate that I had to do it, it wasn't actually much of a hassle.
I emailed my psychiatrist (she was already aware that I was pursuing this), summarized the nature of the referral from my PCP, and asked her to also write a letter. I said that including pertinent information, like the fact that I've been on a low dose before, that I've had top surgery, and/or that I identify as non-binary would be great. She replied that she could write the dates she's seen my, my diagnosis (meaning my mental health diagnosis), medications she prescribes, and mental stability status. "OK?"
I replied, "OK that'd be great, thanks." Guess I didn't want to argue or push it.
I then waited another 8 days (by this point, it was Oct. 25th, a whole month later and I still hadn't secured an appt.) and called the endo's office again. I was given a wishy-washy answer by the administrative assistant. That the endo is still in the process of finding more information, and she is currently booking out till January – they can get me in for January 10th. But at the same time, she can put me on a waiting list to get me in sooner. I asked, if I were to call and check my status, would that help me "jump the line"? (I didn't actually use this phrase.) She implied that sure, that could help.
At this point, I took a step back and thought about what's happening. So far, the endo got a referral from my PCP, and that didn't include any history of care: just Female to Male transgender person (F64.1), chronic. In addition, they got information from a psychiatrist that I am bipolar, that I have been seeing her for 9 months, and that I've been stable during that time (relatively, this is such a short amount of time; it's kind of implying that the rest of my "bipolar disorder" time is a wildcard.) I don't want to get too paranoid, but this collection of information is not working for me at all. That plus the fact that it's straight up inaccurate.
Feeling like the system is working against me, I decided to pull from my bag of tricks and email my therapist. If there's anything that could help this stalemate, it'd be her. I relayed this whole series of events and asked her if she could also write a referral, actually filling in the background information. She replied in 10 MINUTES – such a refreshing change! and said crazy that this is so hard, and sure she'd write a letter, and is there anything else I'd want to make sure she includes?
So she's writing a letter. My intent is, essentially, that this is not a new diagnosis, coming out of nowhere. That I've already been on T in the past, I've had top surgery, I'm in the process of legally changing my name, etc. So, this should be a continuation of ongoing care (timely, please!). I'm not starting from square one here. I imagine this endo has access of my medical records (?? not sure how that works), so if she looked into it, she'd find this stuff. I'm just having my therapist bring it to the forefront, which will hopefully change something?
Because, I feel like if it went the other way – my doctor sending the referral first on my behalf, instead of me going backwards to get this stuff covered, I would have been given an appointment within a more reasonable window. Not sure if that'd be true or not – there could be dozens of reasons outside of my control – maybe she's just really busy. But, I gotta try…


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01.14.12 Mastered Marukaite Chikyuu! (action09, poltergeist05, daianohana14, ticket); leveled up to level 3 from level 1 (sharetheworld16, fish07, inori10, action04, pantystocking03, hitsuzen07, sogeking20, action05, ticket x2, star x2);traded marukaite07 (double) for catchyoucatchme19 with Midori; traded academy10 for blaze19 with Jeny; High Note (monogatari06, 19sai07); Gil and Oz's Treats (tank12 for exdream05)
01.08.12 Vintage Box (catchyoucatchme04/09, exdream16, theworld06/20; Make A Wish (ticket, stamp, star)
01.04.12 Traded sociallinks10 and dramatic02 for kimihana14 and marukaite15 with Marge; traded endscape20, e-aria14, and sorairodays14 for action18, blaze20, and catchyoucatchme02 with Joyce
12.30.11 Traded endlesstale12, orpheus11, shoothigh05/14, and sinfulrose11 for blaze05, exdream02, exdream04, exdream18, and monochrome11 with Yingyu (gradesheet completed!)
12.29.11 Christmas Day 11 (choice card -> marukaite19); traded crowsong06 for exdream01 with Zags; Christmas cards (loop09, sailorfuku19, musicplayer07, marukaite03, marukaite04, howling20, yellowmoon18, progress05, marukaite08, believe10, dirty14, roulette18, marukaite20, stars x3, stamps x2, event card)
12.28.11 Christmas Day 12 (marukaite18, endscape20, superdriver17, tank16, purple pixel, star pixel); Christmas Day 11 (operations03, dorchadas06, blue pixel, light blue pixel + choice card); Vintage Box (catchyoucatchme08, catchyoucatchme11, exdream15); Broken Record (dramatic02, soundworld16, again04, shoothigh05)
12.26.11 Christmas day 10 (operations14, akaitsumi01, brown pixel, yellow pixel)
12.24.11 Traded majimekao18 for action20 + backstage passes with Dany; Where did this image come from? (oneesan11, crystalenergy14, sharetheworld03); Christmas Day 07 (loop20, progress02, action08, star pixel, green pixel); Christmas Day 06 (monogatari11, roseone04, lament15, gorgeous17, green pixel, purple pixel, star pixel x2); Higher or Lower? (onehalf01, soundworld08, mysecret09, target305); High Note (mytomorrow10, mindgame10, yasashiku16, jumpkick18, star)
12.22.11 Christmas Day 04 (obsession02, butterfly02, e-aria14, purple pixel, blue pixel); December slots (monochrome04, kiss04, stoneabyss11); Traded slots stoneabyss11 for monochrome05 with Ralene; Traded uragiri10 and uragiri16 for izayoinamida19 and readygo04 with Zags; Traded shigeattack04 for soundworld19 with Ka-chan; Christmas Day 05 (lulu20, shiningdays15, colors04, shoujos17, angel, brown pixel, yellow pixel, green pixel, star); DJ Mary
12.18.11 Traded bacchikoi07, missing18, and papermoon08 for shoujos09, shoujos20, and spell 19 with Zags; Etude (shissou11, stoneabyss18, jumpkick17, starrysky19, yellow pixel); Christmas Day 01 (scramble11, loop14, resonance15, angel pixel, blue pixel, star pixel)
12.14.11 Broken Record (sugitakisetsuwo10, onereason04, ohayou15, renaicirculation08)
12.11.11 Traded firstepisode18 for soundworld08 with Ka-chan; traded hitotoshite14 for marukaite12 + backstage passes with Lee; traded triangular16 for marukaite14 with Cassidy; traded foryou12 for marukaite13 + backstage passes with Elisia; Kiku's Memory Challenge (immoralist09, bacchikoi07, crowsong06); Triton's Trivia (tozasareta12, ok17); Higher or Lower? (hitintheusa11, superstream10); High Note (reignsupreme16, cosmosvsalien01, iwish12, eternaldiva10)
12.06.11 Traded rewrite05 for blaze16 + backstage passes with Hyu; traded again02 for marukaite10 + backstage passes with Wing; Restoration (theworld01, newworld09)
12.04.11 Traded kagayaite02, lostones10, and mindgame06 for marukaite05, marukaite09 and marukaite16 + backstage passes with Norkia (gradesheet completed! :D)
12.03.11 DJ Mary's Mystery Melody (endlesstale07, justlove20, hitotoshite14); Triton's Trivia (exdream03, kaerimichi11); Higher or Lower? (overlap01, oneesan20); Broken Record (endlesstale12, hoshinosumika18, sociallinks10, merry-go-round10); November deck release (newworld14, twister06, sinfulrose11, uragiri10, zetsuboubilly08, issei11, lostones10, someone01, musicplayer03, amethyst06)
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trading decks: trading
member cards: trading
special cards: may trade for other special cards
random keeps: not collecting, please don't offer! trade slots: trading for monochrome
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Francisco Alonzo-FrankieZ- 2003 350z, Team HybridFrankieZ Apr 26th, 2017, 09:22 PM
Amazon has what you're looking for. I finally needed to buy new pads as my old W8006/9006 pads are finally wearing out. I got three each of the threeroushstage2 Apr 26th, 2017, 09:00 PM
Sorry, I forgot to mention: it's recommended to wait 12-24 hours after wax/sealant application before using Ultimate Fast Finish on top of it.
Ultimate Fast Finish can be used on top of any wax/sealant. It locks it and offers long protection period.
From my experience - I really
LynnWhiteThunder Apr 26th, 2017, 07:21 PM
so after polishing use the fast finish then apply wax ?chris918 Apr 26th, 2017, 06:06 PM
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The below thread might help
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Did you know that you can set the default area code to use when entering in a seven digit phone number? GoldMine comes configured with the default area code of 310. To change this;
(this is a per-user setting, and must be repeated for each user that wants to change the default area code)
1. Select Tools | Options from the top level menu.
2. Click on the Telephony tab.
3. Change the "Local Area Code" to the desired area code.
4. Restart GoldMine.
Now, when you enter in a seven digit phone number, GoldMine will automatically provide the default area code.


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Water pump frozen but heater working fine and not runninghot?
Last year(July 2013) before moving to Williston ND I had all the fluids etc changed and anti-freeze rated for these extreme temps up here put in
Last winter we had temps of -55 I had no problems with my jeep starting (2006 Jeep Commander v8) I just had it in today to have anti freeze changed out - the water pump is frozen I was told...however I used it today to run a couple of short errands and if it was frozen how has it been blowing heat it had to have frozen last week when these single digit temps started and Ive been using it and it has seemed fine?
Heats been working hasn't been running hot....
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I should add I did a lot of driving last year for work...when we moved up here my car only had 38,000 miles on it...I put 40,000 on in a year- it now has 78,000 miles on it that's why I was having it changed needless to say I also changed jobs and now work from home
If the pump is frozen then the belt will be squealing and it won't last long before it is burned off. Seem strange someone would say that, if you don't know what your looking at yourself get a second opinion.
Im a 46 yr old mom and nope don't know what Im looking at :) and when I called them back they said radiator not water pump...my bad on that one he said he told me he knew it wasn't the pump but he suspects the radiator is because the coolant wont go in.....We live in Williston honest mechanics are a rarity but this guy is my neighbor and trying to help me( he runs a tow shop and has several cars he does mud racing with and does all the mechanic work on them)
* Williston ND where rent is higher than New York and for every 10 people maybe 2 are women :)
Still don't sound right too me, if the radiator was frozen you would be blowing coolant all over the place once the engine starts to warm up. Are you sure he said frozen or restricted? If it is restricted and your temps are as low as you say then you won't notice it for a large number of miles down the road. I had a restricted radiator in one of my rigs and it would not overheat until it was driven at highway speeds for 20 miles.
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