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Nashville Globe – February 22, 1907
It is seldom that a more representaive body of Pythians have been assembled in Nashville than that which gathered at Wells' Cafe Friday night to banquet the members of the Endowment Board of the Order of Knights of Pythias. Men representing the various walks of life from which the membership of this great Order is composed met and vied with each other as it were, in doing honor to the men who have so successfully administered to the endowment funds of the Order as to draw forth the highest encomiums from the state insurance department.
The banquet was under the auspices of the Past Chancellors Council of this city. The guests were seatred around one long table with the toastmaster, Sir E.C. McNairy, and Grand Chancellor, Dr. J.P. Crawford, at the head; Grand Worthy Councillor, Dr. R. F. Boyd, of the Court of Calanthe, at the foot, while the members of the Endowment Board were seated to the right and the left of the head of the table.
The excellent supper, which had been prepared by the Knight Wells in his usual sumptous styel, and served in courses, had about reached the second to the last course, when the toastmaster, in his inimitable style, welcomed the guests of the evening and introduced Dr. J.P. Crawford, the Grand Chancellor, who responded to the toast: "Progress of Pythianism in Tennessee."
Dr. Crawford eloquently traced the growth of the Grand Lodge from its inception, when there were only eleven lodges in the state, to the present time when the number is near the one hundred mark. He pictured the misgivings which many of the members of the state felt when the Lodge decided to assume the endowment and recited a few figures to show how successful the said department had proven. When he said that the funds of the department had grown to a total in excess of $13,000, his auditors burst into applause.
The next speaker on the program was Dr. R.F. Boyd, Supreme Medical Registrar, Surgeon General of the Uniform Rank, Grand Worthy Councillor of the Court of Calanthe, who responded to the toast, "Success and It's Attainments." Dr. Boyd gave some of the early history of Pythianism in Nashville, as he recollected it, and then branching to the Court of Calanthe, he eulogized the work of the women's department, showing how against handicaps, the department had met such glowing success.
Other responses were made by N.N. Reynolds, Grand Lecturer of the Court of Calanthe, and District Grand Deputy of the Knights of Pythias, of Pulaski, Tenn.: W.F. Reynolds, President of the Endowment Baord, of Franklin; B.F. Johnson, Treasurer of the Endowment Board, Chattanooga: B.J. Fernandis, member of the Endowment Baord, Memphis; Dr. A.M. Townsend, Grand Medical Registrar; J.B. Batte, John Cunnigham. At the conclusion of the remarks of Sir Cunningham, Sir J.O. Battle arose and after a few introductory remarks, offered the following resolutions:
Whereas, We, the members of the Past Chancellors' and guests assembled to banquet the members of the Endowment Board, note the absence of our dearly beloved brother, Sir W.L. Cansler, Secretary of the Endowment and a pioneer of the work in the state: therefor be it
Resolved, That we hereby express our heartfelt regret that oru true and tried brother is prevented from being with us on account of illness, and we hereby tender to him our sympathy and testify our hope that he will soon be returned to us completely restored in health. Be it further
Resolved. That a copy of these resolutions be sent to our stricken brother and a copy furnished the Nashville Globe for publication.
On motion of Sir S.P. Harris, who also spoke of the work of Prof. Cansler, the resolutions were adopted unanimously by a rising vote.
Sir. A.W. Gleaves, Grand Outer Guard, pronounced the benediction.
Those present were: B.J. Fernandis, Memphis; B.F. Johnson, Chattanooga; W.F. Reynolds, Franklin; N.N. Reynolds, Pulaski; Moses McKissick, Pulaski; Dr. J.P. Crawford, L.O. Battle, S.P. Harris, R.E. Gee, Dr. R.F. Boyd, Porter D. Streator, Daniel Carter, Green F. Anderson, A.W. Gleaves, John Cunningham, J.W. Blaine, J.B. Batte, T. Clay Moore, E.C. McNairy, Dr. A.M. Townsend, R. L. Mayfield.


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Enter the Hipster: China's Street Style Evolves
Originally posted on Scene Asia:
Street style in China a decade ago meant pantyhose rolled down to the ankles and T-shirts rolled above the belly. A stroll in Shanghai today reveals that times have drastically changed.
Beijing-based social media site P1, which bills itself a "private social network" for affluent Chinese, has captured that change by snapping photos of China's street style over the past seven years.
The result is a clear picture of the country's fashion evolution. Images from the company, which analyzed color and trend shifts, show that even from 2007 to now, street fashion has morphed from an emphasis on designer brands to the rise of personal style.
Angelica Cheung, editor of Vogue China, said the country's fashion direction has changed far more rapidly than most industry watchers expected. "With increased travel, many are more open to new ideas and have a desire for individuality," she noted, adding that fashion brands face increasingly complex challenges when trying to appeal to customers' evolving tastes.
Gucci is out, fixed-gear bikes are in, added Svante Jerling, P1's marketing director. "People are building on their own ideas of what's cool rather than relying on prototype built by brands," he said.
P1's full collection of photos will be on show at the Orange, a gallery in Beijing's Sanlitun shopping center, from Dec. 13 to 19.
Not in Beijing next month? Check out a selection of the company's street-style snaps in our slideshow.
– Laurie Burkitt. Follow her on Twitter @lburkitt
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Aug. 9, 2010
SANTA BARBARA, Calif. - Former UC Santa Barbara swimmer Katy Freeman, who graduated in 2009 and still trains in Santa Barbara, took third place in the 200-meter breaststroke on Saturday at the ConocoPhillips National Championships in Irvine, Calif. Her finish earned her a spot on the 2010 Pan Pacific Championships team.
Freeman swam the 200 breast in 2:26.67 during Saturday's final, touching the wall just .17 seconds behind second-place finisher Amanda Beard. The former UCSB star placed 19th in the 100 breast earlier in the meet (1:09.72).
Freeman will be competing at the 2010 Pan Pacific Championships, which will be held in Irvine on August 18-21, along with fellow Gaucho Jason Lezak, who qualified as a member of the 400 free relay. Lezak tied for third in the 100 freestyle finals, touching the wall in 48.96 seconds.
Several current UCSB swimmers competed at last week's meet and many finished in the top-100 of their events. Ryan Hanni had the best finish of the weekend, taking 55th in the 50 free with a time of 23.69. Teammate Chris Peterson (23.79) placed 66th in the event. In the women's 50 free, Kendall Neely finished 65th with a mark of 26.83
Kevin Ferguson took 57th in the 100 backstroke (58.13) and 95th in the 100 free (52.28). Hanni (51.77) and Peterson (52.02) also swam the 100 free, placing 64th and 81st, respectively. Hanni rounded out his meet by taking 88th in the 200 free (1:54.92).
Other Gauchos who competed in the meet include Katie Stover, who swam the 100 free (59.67) and 200 free (2:07.84), Evan Simoni (400 IM - 4:39.70) and Ryan Garcia (400 IM - 4:45.41).
Incoming transfer Garrett Thompson, who swam for UC Irvine prior to the program being cut, swam the 50 free (72nd - 23.85), 100 free (63rd - 51.75) and the 200 free (66th - 1:53.85). Meanwhile, incoming freshman Paige Bradley swam in the 200 IM (2:23.88).
Season tickets for the 2010 soccer season are now available. All season ticket packages include tickets for the 2010 Men's College Cup, which is being hosted by UCSB on Dec. 10-12 at Meredith Field at Harder Stadium. Individual season tickets start at just $75 and include one ticket to all home men and women's regular season games and one 2010 Men's College Cup all-session ticket. UCSB staff and faculty can purchase their season tickets for a reduced rate of $50.
To purchase your tickets for the 2010 soccer season or for more information, please call (805) 893-UCSB, visit the Ticket Office located inside the Intercollegiate Athletics building on campus or buy online by clicking here.


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Birch nabs double-double, UNLV drops Wyoming 65-42
LARAMIE, Wyo. (AP) -- Khem Birch scored 12 points and grabbed a career-high 14 rebounds to lead a balanced attack for UNLV which rolled to a 65-42 win over Wyoming on Saturday night.
Bryce Dejean-Jones and Mike Moser scored 11 points apiece and Katin Reinhardt chipped in with 10 for UNLV (21-7, 8-5 Mountain West), which never trailed.
Derek Cooke Jr. scored a career-high 15 points and had nine rebounds to lead Wyoming (18-9, 4-9).
Reinhardt drilled a pair of 3-pointers and Moser had five points in the first eight-plus minutes as UNLV raced to a 19-7 lead. The margin reached 28-10 after Savon Goodman hit a lay-up and a free throw at the 4:13 mark of the first half. By intermission, the Runnin' Rebels were up 32-12. The lead didn't shrink below 17 after that.
The largest lead was 64-37 after a lay-up by Dejean-Jones with just over 2 minutes remaining.


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Alrighty, a little misdirected here. been reading docs for a little while and experimenting around maybe someone can point me in the right direction.
How do you create a Guest Network in IOS Zone Firewall. For some reason Cisco, while using the term DMZ, applies differently on their routers than it does on their ASA's. I know how to do this on ASA's all day long however on the router it is a little different story.
I would appreciate a little direction even if you reference Cisco documentation on how this is to be done. I am sure this is basic and laughably so .... I cant seem to understand how to do this on a router with Zone Firewall. Thanks in advance.
Edit***1 For some reason I think I might need to create a zone just for guest... still studying up and yet your pointers are still going to be helpful. Thanks!
Edit***2 And again I am dumbfounded how it always never fails that when I am searching around the internets I never find poop, then I post here, and within 3 minutes I find this....
http://packetlife.net/blog/2012/jan/30/ ... -firewall/
Edit***3 And Bingo. I got it and now it all makes sense. I used that tutuorial, coupled with my knowledge of ASA OS, and coupled with Cisco Documentation and found how to do this. It was so easy I should slap my mama and call my self silly.
However I still want to ask you security experts if this is a problem. From my LAB GUEST PC (My laptop) connected through my VLAN'd and trunked 2960G switch I cant ping any other (in-zone) aka inside network hosts. However I can ping all of my router's subinterfaces, i.e. Gig 0/0 and Gig 0/1.1 0/1.9 etc... is there someway I can block pinging from the guest lan to my "on a stick" routed sub-interfaces? I do not want guest to know that there are other "discoverable" networks they might be able to attempt access at. I do have the firewall zones setup, security policies, etc... working like a charm.
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Friday, May 25, 2007
Uh, which is the humiliating side again?
According to the story linked above, "the woman's son was suspended from school for 10 days for some horseplay with a teacher. She wanted her son to have a more memorable punishment than being out of school, so she sent him out to pick up trash on a busy city street wearing an embarrassing sign on his back."
But after viewing a video clip and news pictures from the incident, we here at the MZone are confused. Because while it says the mother made him wear "an embarrassing sign on his back," this is the sign on his back...
And while that's bad, check out what he was wearing on his front...
Now do you see where our confusion arises? To us, that is the punishment. I mean, talk about embarrassing. In fact, it's downright cruel.
And if the Tosu shirt was the mother's idea as well, then I think this woman needs to be turned in to social services. Immediately. Because this is child abuse, folks. And it must be stopped.
(HT: Matt)
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- ges88 said...
Answer: February 24, 2004.
Question: When was the last time UM defeated OSU in either football or basketball (men's or women's). Now THAT'S humiliating!
- May 24, 2007 7:45 AM
- Edgar said...
That mother should be congratulated for having that idea.
- May 24, 2007 9:17 AM
- Da Braylon said...
What the FUCK does that have to do with this thread? Stop trolling and get a life. OSU's success over UM stops this coming season. Have you not come to the realization yet that your entire offense has been depleted? The one who left early realized that they can get paid more by an NFL team than Tressel can...
You are obsessed with Michigan...face it. Otherwise, you would not be trolling a Michigan blog site.
- May 24, 2007 9:56 AM
- Out of Conference said...
For what it's worth (and it's not worth much in the national picture), I think Michigan swept the Buckeyes in baseball this year. I could be wrong, but I know Micigan won the series. I apologize for even bringing up college baseball on a northern blog.
- May 24, 2007 10:07 AM
- TitleIX said...
Actually, the Baseball Boys in Blue are ranked 23rd in the nation and are currently hosting the Big Ten Baseball Tourney here in Ann Arbor. #1 seed Michigan plays the #6 seed, tOSU tonight at 7:05 PM at beautiful Ray Fisher Stadium. Game time conditions are expected to be fanstastic with clear skies, temps in the mid 80s with minimal wind.
- May 24, 2007 10:15 AM
- zen wizard said...
I have an Ohio State T-shirt that I will gladly trade for a shirt that says, "I made a bad choice of schools, and now I'm paying for it."
- May 24, 2007 11:53 AM
- ohio_guy said...
"You are obsessed with Michigan...face it. Otherwise, you would not be trolling a Michigan blog site."
While this may be true, it is also true that this site is obsessed with OSU.
- May 24, 2007 11:55 AM
- Out of Conference said...
You're right T9 - #23 in Baseball America's poll, but not ranked in any of the other 4 big polls.
Simulated RPI (NCAA doesn't release RPI data on baseball during the regular season) and Boyd's rating puts you somewhere in the top 30's, which should secure an invitation to an NCAA regional. A #112 strength of schedule doesn't help, but to your credit, there aren't very many good baseball schools within bus distance from AA to boost that number. I've see one projection that sees you guys going to the Austin regional. Should be a great trip if they go and as BiB would agree, there aren't very many better places to catch a college game than Disch-Falk Stadium.
I think next season the uniform start date rule takes effect that Northern schools pushed for because of the weather in Feb in the north. It will take 2-3 seasons to see if it will be the great equalizer that Delaney claims.
- May 24, 2007 1:40 PM
- Philip. said...
What a great idea by the mother!
- May 24, 2007 3:31 PM
- LJTunes said...
ges88- Since you like going off topic and to talk smack....
Question: When was the last time OSU defeted Florida in n either football or basketball (men's or women's). Now THAT'S humiliating!
Go Gators ! 0 for 2. We'd probably even kick your asses in Hockey if we had a team!
- May 24, 2007 5:24 PM
- ohio_guy said...
"I think Michigan swept the Buckeyes in baseball this year"
not anymore.
OSU just beat UM 4-2 in the Big Ten tourney.
- May 24, 2007 10:10 PM
- UGA said...
"Embarrassing"? This kid is wearing the sweatshirt of this year's Big Ten Champs in Football, Basketball and Baseball.
- May 27, 2007 3:47 PM
- Da Braylon said...
What are you talking about? UM won the Big Ten in baseball.
- May 30, 2007 2:41 PM
- ohio_guy said...
you won the reg season title
we won the tournament title
we are both big ten champions in baseball for 2007
- May 30, 2007 3:09 PM


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1. What was your initial thought about the fact that Charlie told Bella Goat Rock wasn't a good place for camping? Did you wonder what else Edward might be doing up there?
2. How did you feel about Lauren and her open dislike of Bella?
3. What was your first impression of Jacob Black? Did you like him? Did you get the sense that he was interested in Bella as more than a friend?
4. Why do you suppose Jacob didn't believe the legends of his people as readily as Bella did?
5. Given the fact that the stories about the "cold ones" were true, did you fully expect to see werewolves in the future books?


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2013-07-24 / Obituaries
Julia R. Corso, longtime Massapequa resident; avid horsewoman and gardener
Julia R. Corso, affectionately known as the "Galloping Grandma" because of her passion for horses and riding, died May 18, 2013 at 88. She was a longtime resident of Massapequa. Mrs. Corso was born in Brooklyn. She was married to Anthony Corso, who died 33 years ago.
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WILL Skyfall be the first Bond film to score an Oscar nomination for best picture? Will French actress Emmanuelle Riva, at 85, become the oldest candidate for an acting award? Is Anne Hathaway a sure-shot for best supporting actress? And is there any risk that voters will get Steven Spielberg's Lincoln mixed up with Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter?
On Thursday, the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences announces the Oscar nominations for 2013. It is earlier than usual - a calculated spoiler for the Golden Globes, which has its ceremony on January 13. This is the first time that Academy members - just under 6000 in number, with an average age of 62, according to the Los Angeles Times - have been able to vote online.
Some films are expected to do well across the board. Spielberg's Lincoln (opens February 7 in Australia) will be a presence in all the major categories, and Daniel Day-Lewis, in the title role, is a strong favourite for best actor. Paul Thomas Anderson's The Master, with Joaquin Phoenix and Philip Seymour Hoffman, is also likely to attract votes. David O. Russell's darkly comic Silver Linings Playbook (opens January 31), with Bradley Cooper as a man trying to rebuild his life, is expected to do well. And Jacki Weaver, who plays Cooper's mother, could be in Oscar contention once more.
But she is up against the seemingly unstoppable force of Anne Hathaway, as Fantine in Les Miserables: the Oscar statuette is still considered to be firmly in the grasp of Fantine's cold, dead hand. Les Mis, which will probably score a best picture nomination, also has Hugh Jackman as a likely candidate for best actor.
The best picture category has become a wider field. Since 2010, up to 10 nominees can be chosen, after the much-criticised omission of The Dark Knight in 2009 led to a change being made. The new Bond film, Skyfall - with favourable reviews and a billion-dollar worldwide box office - might score a nomination: the Producers Guild of America has just announced it as a PGA nominee, which is an encouraging sign for 007.
Ben Affleck's Iran hostage drama Argo is thought to be a strong best picture candidate with some good prospects in other categories. And Kathryn Bigelow's hunt-for-bin Laden action drama, Zero Dark Thirty (opens January 31), might have attracted debate over its politics, but it will still draw nominations, particularly for Jessica Chastain for best actress, for her performance as an obsessive intelligence analyst.
She is in a strong field. Hunger Games star Jennifer Lawrence is a likely contender for Silver Linings Playbook, as is Rachel Weisz for Terence Davies' The Deep Blue Sea. And two French actresses are possibilities: 2008 Oscar winner Marion Cotillard, in Jacques Audiard's Rust And Bone (opens March 28), and 85-year-old Emmanuelle Riva, in Michael Haneke's Amour (opens February 28). Amour, Austria's entry, is on the best foreign-language film shortlist, but it is also thought to have a chance for other nominations. There are even a few pundits who have fantasised about French director Leos Carax, or his actor-muse Denis Lavant, scoring a nomination for the extraordinary Holy Motors.
And the focus could well be on youth, as nine-year-old Quvenzhane Wallis, from Beasts Of The Southern Wild, could get Academy voters' attention.
Australian contenders also include writer-director Ben Lewin for The Sessions, the story of a man who has spent most of his life in an iron lung, and seeks the help of a sex surrogate to lose his virginity. Naomi Watts, in The Impossible (opens January 24), is thought to be a strong chance for a best actress nomination.


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Ando to make competitive return at NebelhornTwo-time world champion replaces injured Korpi
The German Figure Skating Federation announced Tuesday that Miki Ando, Japan's two-time world champion, plans to compete next week at the Nebelhorn Trophy in Oberstdorf, Germany.
It will be Ando's first competition since the 2011 World Figure Skating Championships in Moscow, where she defeated Yu-Na Kim to win her second world title. She won her first world title in 2007.
Following her victory in Moscow, she parted ways with coach Nikoli Morozov, returned to Japan and performed in shows. In 2012, she was nominated for two Grand Prixs but did not compete, saying she had not been able to find a coach in Japan.
On July 1 of this year, she revealed in a Japanese television interview that she had given birth to a daughter, Himawari, in April. Although Japanese media has speculated as to the identity of Himawari's father, Ando has declined to name the man, asking reporters to respect her privacy.
At that time, Ando said she planned to make her competitive debut at a small competition in Japan in October.
One motivation for her appearance at Nebelhorn is to gain the ISU minimum points required to compete at the 2014 Olympic Winter Games in Sochi, Russia. She would need to earn a technical element score (TES) of 20 in the short program and 36 in the free skate.
For the 2014 World Figure Skating Championships, which will be held in her home country, the minimum required scores are 26 for the short and 46 for the free.
Nebelhorn is the final qualifying competition for the 2014 Olympic Games; many countries that did not earn Olympic spots based on their skaters' finishes at the 2013 World Figure Skating Championships have entered competitors. Due to the high number of entries, the German Skating Federation maintained an unofficial substitute list. Ando was entered after Finland's Kiira Korpi withdrew Monday due to injury.
The 24-year-old Korpi announced via Facebook, "Doctor told me some bad news. My Achilles tendon was partially torn last Tuesday while jumping on the ice. I will go to Finland for further examination and rehab. I hope to get back on the ice soon and be stronger than before."
Korpi, a three-time European medalist, missed the last two world championships due to injury. She left her Finnish coaches in early summer and now works with Rafael Arutunian in Southern California.
In her place, Finland is sending Juulia Turkkila to Oberstdorf to try to secure one of six available Olympic ladies spots for her country. If Turkkila, who finished 31st at the 2013 World Championships, is not successful, Finland will not field a ladies skater in Sochi.


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BOSTON (AP) – The brother of former Olympic figure skater Nancy Kerrigan is returning to a Massachusetts jail.
Local media outlets report that a Middlesex County judge ordered Mark Kerrigan back to jail on Friday for six more months for violating his probation.
Kerrigan was sentenced to 2 1/2 years after being convicted of assault and battery in connection with the 2010 death of his father. He was released early and placed on probation.
Kerrigan asked this summer to return to jail to finish out his sentence rather than adhere to his probation conditions, which included alcohol counseling.
His probation officer told the judge that Kerrigan tested positive for alcohol and marijuana. Kerrigan told the judge who agreed to his request, "I found the six months was far less an imposition than the two years of probation."
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i'm at a loss with this concept
I'm pretty sure any major winery in the millions will have their stock insured so i'm sure he's probably going to get halfway between his cost and his retail price.
When you consider that you work to make money, in this particular situation it's 6 years of sales in a single day.
How's that tragic again?
Or is it tragic that we wine lovers will be missing 6 vintages of a particular wine?
Or are you saying that the past 6 years he was trying to build some kind of legacy where these last 6 vintages were never meant to be sold, but instead kepted in private family cellars? (which is that case, yes it would be tragic)
This is my sig -> www.brownteacup.com
(Wine distributor)
G-man, if you have met the family and toured the cellar and garden/vineyard/ecosystem then you would understand what a tragedy it is for the family. They work real hard in the vineyard to make a truly great wine that they could easily sell out for more than double what is currently charged. The fact that his customers will not be able to enjoy these wines has to be crushing to this family.
true, it certainly easier to relate once they're on a personal level.
I was simply speaking from my standpoint in my particular industry, I've personally seen tons of insurance frauds/scams/ponzi schemes where someone was just looking to cash out for retirement. My dad has also been a victim of a ponzi scheme where the individual running the scheme was 72 years old and my dad's reasoning for going in on the investment was "oh he's 72 yr old why would he run a scam". Simply call me the pessimistic new yawker
This is my sig -> www.brownteacup.com
(Wine distributor)
What a waste of vinegar!
Just one more sip.
Interesting that he was one of the strong supporters and agitators for keeping Brunello and Rosso di Montalcino 100% sangiovese against the wishes of some of the big producers. He is also reputed to be one of the people who brought the brunellogate saga to the attention of the authorities.
I understand it may have been an ex employee.
Obviously extremely unhappy but why?
Still tragic
Maybe he tasted the wine and was a humanitarian.
Just one more sip.
Live simply, Laugh often, Wine a lot!!!
Some news from Italy (sorry, it's in Italian)
Corriere della Sera
Basically, an ex-employee at the vinery has been arrested. Apparently the reason for this absurd action is because another employee had been preferred to him when a small flat at disposal of the company had to be assigned, plus some other laughable reason on the same line.
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Max hates potatoes.
He hates 'em baked.
He hates 'em mashed.
He hates 'em french-fried.
Okay that last one's a lie. Damn you, Ronald McDonald.
But the rest is true. He hates virtually all forms of potato. He won't even play with Mr. Potato Head.
But when someone's passing him a hot one - you know, during a game of Hot Potato at a birthday party -- he will cling to it like sour cream on a chive.
At a birthday party last weekend, Max was one of seven kids, all aged five and under, sitting on the floor playing a game of Hot Potato. Now normally during Hot Potato, you want to get rid of the darn thing; pass it to the next kid as quickly as possible, because if you're holding it when the music stops, you're out.
But this game of Hot Potato was essentially the game of Pass the Parcel, where the prize is wrapped a dozen times and passed around, a layer of paper removed each time the music stops by the kid holding the goods until there are no more layers -- just sweet victory. Except in this case, the prize beneath all that paper was, well, a potato. So we called it Hot Potato. It just felt right. And it's way more fun when the kids think it's going to burn their hands.
But not when my stage-four clinger is in the circle. Apparently Max likes to feel a good, deep burn. The sought-after spud would come to him and, despite all pleas to pass it to the next eager child, he just could not let it go. Parting is such sweet potato sorrow.
At one point, the music stopped just as I intervened to flick the beloved tuber from his grubby paws into the hands of the next child. If we did a slow-mo replay of the action, it would show that it was indeed in Max's hands at the moment the music stopped, but it had been there for the last two to three bars of music! It should have been halfway around the circle by now. In fact, it should be halfway around the neighbourhood, in a pot up the street next to a few carrots. The next kid got to take off a layer of paper while Max kicked and screamed and sobbed, spudless.
Last time there was this much fuss over a potato, it was 1741 Ireland.
I could chalk it up to the terrible twos or almost threes. Toddlerhood is an emotional time. But here were a handful of kids, all around Max's age, and he was the only one freaking his freak. I was so proud, so very proud.
But I didn't let this potato drama boil my blood. Instead I thought how do I fix this?
Do I yank him from the circle as punishment for misbehaving? Show him that if he can't play properly, he doesn't get to play at all.
Or do I sit down in the circle with him and force him to do what is required of this game (and this life!) so he sees what's happening and, hopefully, learns? I mean maybe it's all a bit confusing for my little guy: This irresistible mystery package is plopped into his empty hands, and then, in a fraction of a second, he's expected to give it up to the next guy.
If I were at Neiman Marcus and the sales lady said, "Congratulations -- you're our millionth customer, you win this Gucci purse! Here you go. Uh, oh wait, no, you're our 999,999th customer, sorry, my bad. Could you pass that cherry red, genuine leather, luxury handbag with the gold hardware to the nice lady behind you, please?"
Waaaaaaaaaah. I'd be heartbroken. And I'm not three years old.
So I opted for plan B. I sat down next to him in the circle, cradled his sticky hands in mine and proceeded to facilitate the receipt and passing of the stupendous spud. I also refrained from making inappropriate jokes like, "Idaho who's gonna win this game!"
Each time the potato made its way around to Team Ginger, I plucked it from Max's death grip and passed it on at lightning speed; I didn't want him holding it when the music stopped, not even to take off an upper layer of paper. If he got to take off one layer, there'd be no stopping the human vegetable peeler from hitting pay dirt. And plus, the potato is hot, remember? "Toss that tuber, kids! Save your fingerprints!"
But lo and behold, despite my fast-handed action and good intentions, the little frigger won the game. The music stopped when the potato, now barely concealed by a thin layer of pink tissue paper, was fair and square in Max's mitts. Turbo Ginger's maniacal laughter broke through his tears. It was terrifying.
Victory was the worst possible outcome. Today's lesson in Toddlerville: Have more hissy fits, get more stuff.
Damn it.
He unwrapped the final layer of paper and there it was. He had no idea the potato-shaped parcel that we were all calling the hot potato was really a... wait for it... potato. Kids are so wonderfully dumb.
The long-awaited prize looked him in the face with a hundred gnarly eyes and said, Surprise, kid. What'd you think I was -- a truck?
What the heck? Max thought.
Then, ah well, Idaho who's gonna give this a go.
He traded in his potato for a real prize, of course: a pair of wind-up fish that swim around in the bathtub. He didn't let the precious cargo out of his sight for the rest of the day. They were donated organs on ice, en route to the operating room.
A second game quickly ensued, but this time I ejected the spud champ. I couldn't risk the greedy bugger winning for a second time. It would go right to his potato head.


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Dear Editor:
I am a lifelong resident of Union City and have always known it to be a "melting pot"; a place where the dreams and hopes of immigrants and refugees have, with hard work, true potential to become reality. This is why every time I pass by 35th street and Bergenline Avenue and see the sign "Teddy Greenbaum Way," I feel especially moved. Some years ago, Mr. Greenbaum, a respected local businessman, told me his life story. As a teenager he was imprisoned in a Nazi concentration camp where he endured horrors beyond the average person's comprehension. The stories he told me moved me to tears. After the war, still a teenager, alone in the world, he became a displaced person, working several minimum wage jobs at the same time in order to start anew and make a life for himself. He also told me he was going to take part in a Holocaust Remembrance project where survivors were interviewed so people would never forget what had happened.
It is a wondrous testament to the human spirit that this man even retained his sanity, much less made such a success of his life. As Mayor Brian Stack said, {this man} "has overcome many obstacles, to say the least." Teddy Greenbaum is a sterling example of courage and hard work overcoming tragedy, bigotry and horror. He is an excellent role model for the "melting pot" residents of Union City, especially the young, and it is so very fitting that 35th and Bergenline has been designated "Teddy Greenbaum Way."
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Friday, July 2, 2010
Who wants this Poster!? I got 2 left
Yo! I was cleaning the room and noticed I got two more "Dynomite" Posters. Who wants them? How about if we do this.... The first person to e-mail me wins it. And the 100th person wins it! Let's see how long it takes to get that 100th e-mail ! :)
I won't even post this on Facebook or Twitter. Let's see who's paying attention. I'll announce the winner tomorrow (if I do get 100 e-mails) I won't respond to anyone. I will only respond to the winners. I'm sure it might be too many e-mails to reply "Sorry, you lost"
So there you go, don't get upset if you don't hear from me. I will e-mail the winners on Saturday and I expect a reply within 24 hours with your address. Good luck!
One last reminder: Please do not participate if you already have this poster. Thanks.
Also, have fun to those that are driving to Arizona this weekend. I know some fans that are going and I hope the Dodgers can get you some wins!
I'll see you later.
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- Canadian GP - FP2
Raikkonen still not happy with Ferrari's handling
Kimi Raikkonen says he is still not content with the handling of his Ferrari, despite edging team-mate Fernando Alonso in Friday practice for the Canadian Grand Prix.
Although Raikkonen has played down the issues he has had with his car in recent races, blaming it on a lack of performance overall from the F14 T, in Ferrari's post-practice press release he said the handling is still not to his liking.
"I am still not 100% happy with the handling of the F14 T, but I am sure that an analysis of the data we gathered will point us in the right direction for qualifying and the race," he said.
Raikkonen's practice session was not helped by an engine issue in FP1 which he said cost him set-up time.
"This morning, because of a problem on my car, I was unable to run as much as planned and that's never a good thing, because getting in plenty of laps is very important. Thanks to speedy work from the team, in the afternoon, we managed to make up for the run lost in the morning and even if it's too early to make predictions, overall, it didn't go badly and by the end of the day my feeling with the car had improved."


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Tone Deaf conducted an interview with Massachusetts metallers KILLSWITCH ENGAGE at this year's Soundwave festival in Australia. You can now watch the chat below.
KILLSWITCH ENGAGE's new album, "Disarm The Descent", will be released on April 2 via Roadrunner Records. The follow-up to KILLSWITCH ENGAGE's 2009's self-titled release is the band's first album with original singer Jesse Leach at the vocal helm since 2002's now-classic, genre-defining "Alive or Just Breathing". Leach returned to the band in January 2012 after a decade-long absence. The artwork for the new CD was created by D'Antonio.
"It is with a grateful spirit that we prepare for this record's release," Leach said. "From the music, to the lyrics, to the artwork, we are all proud of what we have accomplished. To me, this is by far my best vocal performance, much thanks to Adam's guidance and faith in my abilities. I am very grateful to be where I am in life, back in an amazing band with a record we are all excited for the world to hear. Thanks to all the fans for their warm welcome back and their undying love for KILLSWITCH ENGAGE."
"Disarm The Descent" was mixed by veteran British producer Andy Sneap, who has previously worked with MEGADETH, TESTAMENT, EXODUS, ACCEPT, ARCH ENEMY and NEVERMORE.
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Looking for feedback on your kid's book manuscript? Bring your work-in-progress to Writeous Writing Group, a hands-on critique group moderated by professional children's book editor Julie Romeis Sanders. You will be amazed at how much you learn yourself by critiquing another writer's work. Pre-register and learn more at http://www.booksinc.net/childrens_book_writing_group
Julie Romeis Sanders fell in love with reading while hiding under the covers with a book and a flashlight. She rediscovered the wonders of children's books in high school, while working at an independent book and toy store. By 2001, Julie found her dream job helping to launch the U.S. division of Bloomsbury Children's Books. There she edited books for all ages and discovered authors such as Printz Honoree Rick Yancey and author of a Caldecott Honor, Aaron Reynolds. In 2007 she took a turn for the west coast and joined Chronicle Books to grow their fledgling fiction program, create fabulous gift products, and develop unforgettable picture books such as Caldecott Honor Book Flora and the Flamingo by Molly Idle. Julie has also spent many years guiding future editors at the Columbia Publishing Course and encouraging aspiring writers at SCBWI conferences around the world. Now, as a freelance editor, Julie continues to pursue her passion for working with authors, illustrators, agents, and publishers on various editorial and consulting projects. She is also delighted to have returned to her book-selling roots as a children's specialist at independent bookseller Books Inc.


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Governor McAuliffe recently announced the launch of Cyber Virginia, a plan to establish the Virginia Cybersecurity Commission and augment Virginia's leadership in cybersecurity.
The Commonwealth has a strong legacy in cybersecurity, and is well-positioned with the infrastructure to grow this sector. Virginia has the highest concentration of high-tech workers, according to Cyberstates 2013, and up to 70 percent of the world's Internet traffic flows through Northern Virginia every day. Growth in the Commonwealth's data center industry remains robust — investment topped $1 billion in 2012 — positioning Virginia as the place to be for companies moving towards cloud computing.
Virginia's close proximity to the federal government's cybersecurity operations also played a role in establishing its leadership position. The Commonwealth is home to the U.S. Department of Defense, U.S. Department of Homeland Security's National Cybersecurity and Communication Integration Center, and DARPA.
Virginia's premier institutions of higher education are poised to maintain the Commonwealth's leadership in technology through a healthy pipeline of skilled technology workers. Twenty-two of Virginia's 23 community colleges offer training programs in cybersecurity.
In addition, the NSA and U.S. Department of Homeland Security named five Virginia schools as National Centers of Academic Excellence in Information Assurance Education: George Mason University, Hampton University, James Madison University, Marymount University, and Norfolk State University. Virginia Tech was named a National Center of Academic Excellence in Information Assurance Research.
To highlight a couple of these programs, Virginia Tech offers the Hume Center for National Security and Technology, which researches intelligence applications of cyberattacks and defense. The university also provides students with real world experience through its IT Security Lab. In partnership with the Naval Postgraduate School and L-3 Communications, Virginia Tech hosts the Cybersecurity Innovations Laboratory at its Arlington campus.
In one of our recent blogs, we mentioned George Mason University's expertise as the author of the VEDP Cybersecurity Export Market Report. GMU is home to the International Cyber Center and founded the Center for Secure Information Systems in 1990, which was the first academic center in security in the U.S. and one of the NSA's original Centers of Academic Excellence in Information Assurance Education.
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Watergate and Wine
In honor of its recent opening, Members of the The Downtown Clubs of Raleigh were invited to attend a special event at the Watergate exhibit at the nearby North Carolina Museum of History last week. The exhibit opened on May 17, 2013, the 40th anniversary of the first televised hearing of the Senate Select Committee that investigated President Richard Nixon's 1972 campaign for re-election. The guest of honor at the event was Rufus L. Edmisten, a founding Cardinal Club Member and Deputy City Chief Council member to the Watergate Committee.
Members began their evening with a private tour of Watergate: Political Scandal & the Presidency which included the viewing of significant artificats such as a memo and page from one verison of the Nixon administration's "enemies list," one of the subpoenas served to President Nixon's lawyer, and the gavel Sen. Ervin used while chairing the Senate Select Committee. After the tour concluded, Members arrived back at the Cardinal Club for dinner featuring Pezzi King wines and a four-course meal inspired by the time period. The meal featured items such as Crispy Cottage Cheese and Ketchup, Steak and Meatloaf, and Orzo Stroganoff.
Edmisten met with members between meals and reflected on the events that took place in 1973 and how it impacted America. The members of the Downtown Clubs of Raleigh truly enjoyed this experience and are grateful to have learned more about the historical events that took place 40 years ago.


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Hey all - for the past few weeks I've been getting these strange return emails in one of my web-based email accounts. They sometimes come from different sources, but the text is always the same:
The email address contained in the message body is sometimes different.I'm afraid I wasn't able to deliver your message to the following addresses:
Undeliverable to firstname.lastname@example.com
Does anyone know what's going on here? I have no virii on my PC, and I just got done last week doing the usual 6-month format-the-hard-drive-and-reinstall-everything exercise. I get these messages at a rate of about two per week.
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There's a self-effacing charm to the semiautobiographical yarns of comedian Mike Birbiglia. He's a living contradiction, a charismatic nebbish. That's a good thing, because he is in practically every scene of "Sleepwalk With Me," and yet there's never too much of him. He's so comically appealing that you fear to look away from the screen even for a moment, in case you'll miss something.
Birbiglia has turned his true-life adventures as a commitment-fearing fiancé, a struggling standup comic and a sleep-disordered somnambulist into a best-selling book, off-Broadway play and popular monologues on public radio's "This American Life."
Onscreen, his anxious Everyschlub quality isn't tiresome, because somehow he's built a full range of emotional levels -- both comedy and drama -- into his low-key grumbling. He makes muddling through not a plot gimmick but a way of life.
Birbiglia, who also co-wrote and directs, plays Matt, a younger version of himself as he drifts through a period of early-adult anomie. He's a nightclub bartender engaged to a smart, beautiful voice teacher (Lauren Ambrose of "Six Feet Under"), but he doesn't want to marry "until I'm sure that nothing else good can happen in my life." His excuse is a bit pathetic; we can see that underachieving Matt feels unworthy.
Matt is not seeking love, or sex, or even a job, really. He's searching for independence from other people's expectations. He's in flight from his bossy physician dad (James Rebhorn) and cuckoo mom (Carol Kane) as well as his girlfriend and 9-to-5 life in general. He finds self-validation when he mumbles a few jokes into a microphone and persuades a dubious agent (deadpan Sondra James) to find him some standup gigs. "You're not funny, but the good news is that this business has nothing to do with funny," she says. The important thing is, he has access to his dad's car for out-of-town bookings.
Working small colleges and dive bars lets this naturally funny man's talent grow. His sort-of career gathers momentum, but so does his potentially dangerous sleep disruption. We find Matt fully dressed and showering at midnight, and traveling into oddball fantasies where he's fleeing jackals or winning a medal in the Dustbuster Olympics. Then he wakes to find himself out of bed and bewildered.
We're told that "to be a comedian you have to be a little delusional," but Matt's late-night rambles can put him in physical danger. His refusal to seek treatment frustrates his parents as much as his indecisiveness disappoints his girl. Birbiglia is bracingly honest and ruefully funny about Matt's refusal to take responsibility for his personal and professional missteps.
"Sleepwalk" is full of nice touches, from in-the-know cameos (comedian Marc Maron as a philosophical mentor, producer Ira Glass as a wedding photographer). It's a three-layered structure of straightforward narrative, surreal dream sequences and straight-to-camera soliloquies. Birbiglia's pleasingly nasal delivery and agreeable presence holds it together. Before one low point, he turns to the audience and confides, "Before I tell you this part of the story, I want to remind you that you're on my side." Yes, we are.
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From planting the seed to making the sale, teens with autism will soon be able to participate in St. Gerard House's new Feed the Need program.
From planting the seed to making the sale, teens with autism will soon be able to participate in St. Gerard House's new Feed the Need program.
The Children and Family Resource Center announced the Hendersonville nonprofit as the winner of $10,000 for its business plan in the Promise Competition Saturday at the Speak Out for Kids event held at Blue Ridge Community College.
The finalists shared their video pitch with the audience and answered questions from the judges, who reviewed their proposals. The audience voted for the winner via text messaging.
"It was great. It was really, really a great process," said St. Gerard House Executive Director Carolina Long. "It was fun to look out and see a bunch of supporters in the crowd and community people. And, really, the great part about the whole thing was the exposure; how many people came up to us and said they'd never heard of our program and that they wanted to come by and volunteer."
During the final competition, an anonymous donor offered to give the two runners-up $5,000 each. The anonymous contribution went to the Enterprise Program of the Boys & Girls Club and Partners in Reading initiative from Smart Start.
Blue Ridge Community College Small Business Center also offered for all of the seven submissions to receive a year's worth of business plan and incubation services.
The contest finalists' business plans had to successfully address at least four of the five promises for children in Henderson County, which are to provide caring adults, safe places, a healthy start, effective education and opportunities to help others.
St. Gerard House's Feed the Need program addressed all five in its plan. St. Gerard House is a resource center and school for children with autism and their families.
"We have our Grotto School, which is intensive early interven�tion for children ages 2� to 8, and then we have a Connect Social Skills Program, which is for kids aged 5 to 19," Long said. "The program that we won the money for is a new program that we have called Feed the Need Garden, and it will take high-schoolers and young adults, and that's sort of the top end of the spectrum that we haven't hit yet."
Long said the school has been working to find a way to better serve teens and young adults with autism and said this new program will help the school do just that.
The school obtained two lots for a community garden in downtown Hendersonville between Bearcat Boulevard and Buncombe Street, which will be crucial for the Feed the Need Program. Long explained that high school students and young adults will work in the garden and learn vocational and technical skills through gardening, as well as communication and teamwork.
Long said those soft skills are "really sort of unspoken skills that you and I take for granted that these guys don't have and need a lot of help to acquire."
On Saturday March 15, volunteers will work together to build the raised plots needed to begin growing for spring.
The money from the competition will go toward purchasing supplies and tools for the garden.
"We will teach them how to harvest the vegetables and the herbs, and how to take them to a tailgate market or work with a restaurant, a small restaurant or go to a co-op and sell what they've grown … that's all part of the social interaction and social skills that are required to have a product and you really need to learn how to promote it and have conversation about it," Long said.
Looking forward to the future, Long said she hopes it will be able to expand into catering opportunities that use food grown in the garden.
"I really want it to be a program that gets participants to gain a lot of skills and confidence so that they can go out there and want to work with local business and organic growers," Long said. "Maybe we can match our guys to different businesses and get them to do internships with them, and get a taste of what it is like to be independently working."
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Maybe MIL is disappointed that your parent have already promised two big gifts and she feels left out? If so, she really needs to just ask you guys what you still need and tell you what she wants to get rather than leaving it as a surprise, which seems to be where she's headed.
On the rare times we've found ourselves in a financial tight we couldn't fix by cutting back for a few weeks, we asked my parents for help instead of his, and both times my MIL made a fuss about it and was very resentful. She complains that we don't let her help us. So I worry that this is another instance of us "not letting her help" when in reality, we just don't want to rely on other people more than we have to.
it isn't your job to mitigate your mil's anxiety and security issues when it comes to her place in your family.
So you don't have an etiquette issue, you have a nutty-in-law issue because a parent getting angry over their children's independence is insane. This might be harsh, but it isn't your job to mitigate your mil's anxiety and security issues when it comes to her place in your family.
I can't figure out why showers have turned into these set up my nursery parties. It is nice if a family member wants to contribute one of the big things (crib, high chair, stroller) but it is the parents responsibility. My shower was fun small stuff...clothes, bottles, books and I loved it!
Actually, I think there can be middle ground. People who haven't stockpiled diapers would not be "unprepared" in my book. And people who registered got a stroller, car seat or anything else and waited to buy whatever items they didn't get until after the shower would not automaically get that designation either.If they had no plan for ever providing the diapers the baby needed, by the time the baby needed it - that would be unprepared. Same with the other items.
Not rude. And you now have the perfect opportunity for people to give you things for the REST of baby's life - after the newborn phase is over.It's amazing how many thousands of tiny, newborn onesies you seem to find in the drawers, when the baby is 6-9 months old and only has one pair of pajamas.
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This is probably another one of my dud threads, but I was thinking about some proverbs or cliches that simply don't make sense or that are not necessarily true.
"Money can't buy happiness."
Sure it can. It is not a prerequisite to happiness, nor does it solve all problems, but having a bunch of it sure makes people happy sometimes and it can make getting through life a whole lot easier.
"Waste not, want not."
Unless you want more than what you would have wasted, then this handy saying gets tossed out the window.
"The exception proves the rule."
I've never understood this one, and frankly it would seem the exception would disprove the rule. Every time.
"Trust your judgment."
Better hope your judgment can tell you when you need to get someone else's.
"It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game."
Anyone remember the last time a losing team advanced in the playoffs? Or do they just pass on the team that played better? What in the heck does this mean?
Others? Comments? Anyone? Bueller?


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Jennifer Lynn Ames passed away suddenly June 27, 2013 at her foster care home in Medford, Ore. She was 41 years old. She was a warm, sweet and loving person who often put other's needs before her own. She will be missed by those who knew her, especially her parents, her foster care "mother", Pat Puckett, and her companion, Carl Comstock.
Jennifer was born in Riverside, N.J.. She graduated from Hopewell Valley High School in Pennington, N.J. and later from the Stewart School of Jewelry Design in Jupiter, Fla.
Jennifer worked as manager of the Nature Shop in New Hope, Penn., and at K-Mart before becoming ill and moving to Medford to be close to her parents and to her grandmother.
Jennifer is survived by her father, Allen Ames, and her step-mother, Pam Ames, of Medford; her mother, Marie Ames, of Tulsa, Okla.; her longtime companion, Carl Comstock, of Medford; her niece, Melanie Bishov, of Runnemede, N.J.; and her step-brother, Ivalle Noel, of Portland, Ore.
Funeral arrangements by Rogue Valley Funeral Alternatives, Medford. Internment will be at Hillcrest Memorial Park.


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Are the burners staying on all the time, or are they cycling on the limits. Were they operating good at one time, if so when. Was any electrical work done on the building where the phases could of been changed and the blowers are running backwards.
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WHEN Unisex Cuts hairdressers in Liebig Street got its Telstra landline reconnected last Saturday, staff thought the setbacks to the business caused by the Telstra outage were coming to an end.
However, their troubles are not over because incoming calls are being diverted to another telephone number.
The business is one of several Telstra customers that have reported problems with their landline telephone service following its reconnection after the Telstra fire.
Emma Baulch, a hairdresser at Unisex Cuts, said a Warrnambool resident had come into the business to report she had received dozens of calls for the business.
Ms Baulch said the crossed line had meant that customers could not ring up to make or cancel appointments.
However, since Unisex Cuts operated principally on a no-appointment basis, the impact of the crossed line on its trade had been minimal.
"Most people have still come in and we have been busy," Ms Baulch said.
Telstra corporate affairs manager James Howe said customers who had a crossed line or needed other assistance to reconfigure their telephone service should ring 1800 073 900.
Mr Howe said technicians will be on duty for as long as it took to sort out the problems.


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Shares of Symantec (SYMC) Wednesday rose $2.33, or almost 10%, to close at $26.68, after the company Tuesday afternoon beat fiscal Q1 expectations but forecast Q2′s revenue and profit slightly below consensus.
Price targets are rising among the bulls today, as are estimates, and the stock's fans are encouraged by a projection for revenue of $6.91 billion to $7.04 billion, which while a mere half a point of growth, suggests to them the company's restructuring efforts are leading to stability in the business.
The bears, for there part, think more time is needed to assess the durability of the company's restructuring:
Raimo Lenschow, Barclays: Reiterates an Overweight rating, and raises his price target to $31 from $27. "hile management cited some prudency over the Q2 outlook, the key point from these results is that the turnaround story remains solidly on track and the "5/30" goal should be achieved on time. As such, our investment view is unchanged: we expect management to continue steadily delivering a better growth and margin profile over the next 6–8 quarters, gradually driving the stock higher towards our price target." Lenschow raised his fiscal 2014 view to $6.98 billion and $1.90 EPS from a prior $6.96 billion and $1.86.
Daiel Cummins, B. Riley & Co.: Reiterates a Buy rating and raises his price target to $30 from $27. "ith 30% of revenue coming from a very profitable consumer franchise battling against the PC's competitive decline, we regard the overall revenue performance as noteworthy. The makeover goes on (only mile 1 of the marathon is done, says the CEO), and eventually investors will judge success on the basis of products and services that do not yet exist. For now, Symantec is running scared again (a big positive) and beating estimates, and that will do for now, in our view." Cummins raises his fiscal 2014 estimate to $6.94 billion and $1.95 per share in profit from a prior $6.92 billion and $1.92 per share.
Philip Winslow, Credit Suisse: Reiterates an Outperform rating, and raises his price target to $30 from $27.50. "ymantec has already made significant progress in its restructuring by reducing management layers, rolling out new sales territories, compensation, sales quotas based on new business bookings, the establishment of a specialized sales force, and the launch of a new renewal organization […] Although Symantec remains in a transitional period, we view management's guidance as rather conservative and expect the cost savings from the restructuring to begin to emerge in the second half of FY2014." Winslow cut his fiscal 2014 view to $7.01 billion and $1.88 per share in net profit from a prior $7.03 billion and $1.89.
Rob Owens, Pacific Crest: Reiterates a Sector Perform rating. "While overall results beat expectations and reflect solid progress, there is still plenty of work to be done with the reorganiza- tion. Given the current growth rates of the core business, we believe significant go- to-market improvements will need to be made to meet the company's stated 5% or- ganic growth in F2015. We remain on the sidelines as we wait for signs of execution on the company's strategic direction and a return to solid organic growth rates." Owens cut his full-year revenue estimate to $7.01 billion from a prior $7.04 billion, but raised his EPS estimate to $1.90 from $1.88.
Todd Weller, Stifel Nicolaus: Reiterates a Hold rating. "With the initial restructuring that included the reduction of management layers largely complete, focus now shifts to implementing the meaningful changes to the sales organization that the company talked about in January […] Those changes include creation of a renewals team, changing sales comp structure to only pay on new business, changing sales force from generalists to specialists selling either information management or information security solutions, and a new channel strategy […] Although we believe the various changes being made are likely positive from a business standpoint longer term, we continue to believe a healthy level of optimism is already baked into the stock." Weller cut his revenue estimate for the year to $6.93 billion from $6.97 billion previously, and raised his EPS estimate to $1.93 from $1.88.


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Lance Armstrong may take a lie detector test to clear his name from doping allegations, his lawyer said on Sunday, even though he did not expect the result would change the public's opinion of the American cyclist.
Armstrong is set to lose his record seven Tour de France titles after the U.S. Anti-Doping Agency (USADA) published a 1,000 page report on Wednesday that said the retired American took part in and organised doping on his way to his unrivalled success on the Tour.
Armstrong has always denied he took banned substances during his glittering career but refused to challenge the USADA charges against him.
His lawyer Tim Herman told the BBC's Radio 5 Sportsweek on Sunday that the Texan cyclist may take a lie detector test to prove his innocence.
"We might do that, you never know," Herman said.
Asked why he Armstrong would not commit to taking the test, Herman said that he didn't think it would make a difference.
"He's moved on. His name is never going to be clear with anyone beyond what it is today," said Herman.
The world governing body for cycling, the UCI, are yet to rule on USADA's report.
Armstrong, one of the world's most famous athletes who is well known for his cancer-fighting charity work, had said he was a victim of a witch hunt and preferred to focus on his Livestrong foundation.
"People are fans, most of the people that I've talked to, this is their opinion, it is, 'we don't care whether he did or he didn't'," said Herman, who added he would like the 26 witnesses who testified against Armstrong to take the lie detector test as well.
"A lie detector test properly administered, I'm a proponent of that frankly, just personally," he said.
"I would not challenge the results of a lie detector test with good equipment, properly administered by a qualified technician. That's a pretty simple answer."


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Page 1: 1999-2002: The United States and the CTBT
1999: The Clinton Administration pushes for ratification
The South Asian nuclear tests led to intense efforts by the US Administration under President Bill Clinton to persuade India to join the CTBT now that it had successfully conducted nuclear weapon tests. In 1996, Pakistan announced it would sign the CTBT if India did, thus India's signature would effectively bring both countries into the fold.
In the fall of 1997, President Clinton presented a ratification package to the Senate Foreign Relations Committee. Senator Jesse Helms (Republican-North Carolina), Chairman of the Committee, opposed the Treaty and demanded that President Clinton send forth the Kyoto Protocol and amendments to the Anti-Ballistic Missile (ABM) Treaty to the Committee before agreeing to hold hearings on the CTBT. Aware that the Kyoto Protocol and the ABM Treaty amendments would likely face defeat if sent to the Committee, President Clinton delayed presenting the CTBT to the Committee until 1999.
The 1998 South Asian nuclear tests led to intense efforts by
the US Administration under President Bill Clinton to
persuade India to join the CTBT. Pakistan announced it
would sign the CTBT if India did.
Senate Democrats wanted to ensure that the deliberations on the Treaty allowed for proper consideration and adequate debate, and proposed scheduling a vote in March 2000. However, Senators Trent Lott (Republican-Tennessee) and Helms instead pressed for an earlier vote that would in effect constrain debate on the issue, predicting that a truncated period of deliberations would favour opponents of the Treaty.


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One afternoon eight years ago, Cathy Kezelman, now 58, found herself standing at The Gap, teetering on the edge. She saw herself falling, and visualised the landing. Would it be on the rocks or in the sea? It was a windy day. The waves gnashed below but Dr Kezelman heard little. "I was terrified," she says. "But the pain was so extreme, I didn't know any other way to stop it."
It started a few years earlier, when Dr Kezelman, a GP in Sydney's eastern suburbs, began having recurring nightmares. "One was of me as a little girl being chased through the jungle, footsteps thundering behind me, getting closer and closer. Another was me as a girl being fed like a piece of timber into a circular saw."
The dreams, she later learnt, came from her childhood when, between the ages of four and 14, she had been repeatedly sexually abused by her father and a family friend. "For 30 years I'd repressed it," says Dr Kezelman, who is now the president of Adults Surviving Child Abuse. "I'd compartmentalised it, and now it was coming back to overwhelm me."
Victims of child sex abuse experience a fury of emotions, including shame, guilt, anger and betrayal. "Anger at themselves for letting it happen, anger at their parents for not protecting them," says a psychiatrist, Peter Klug, who has worked in the area for 25 years. "And shame because they feel they might've been complicit, by accepting gifts or favours from the perpetrators."
But the deepest wound is primal and instinctual: it comes from suffering what humans fear most: losing control. "Paedophilia is a dominant/submissive dynamic,'' Dr Klug says. "The child has no control, so they experience the abuse with fear, anxiety and severe helplessness.''
Thus child sex abuse becomes, in Dr Klug's words, "a factory for mental illness". It plants a seed of rot in the soul. Children develop coping mechanisms that destroy and distort their personalities.
"I became scary to other people," Dr Kezelman says. "I was cut off. I made friends but not of any great depth. I would snap at people when they talked of their childhood because mine was a blank. I hated myself for the things I'd done as part of the abuse. I was defensive and harsh and impatient, especially of vulnerability."
As a child, she regularly suffered significant injury but was never allowed to complain. "The family script was: 'nothing happened.' Everything was OK, even when it wasn't.''
Later this became her daily reality. "A couple of years ago I had root canal surgery and the dentist overheated the diathermy instrument. It ended up burning a large section of gum, which then had to be repaired. During the surgery I sat there in excruciating pain and said nothing because I was used to being in pain and saying nothing."
Victims often don't disclose the abuse for fear of not being believed. They're children, after all, and children tell tales. For fear, also of being blamed, or worse, shunned.
So they live in silence with the guilt. Guilt that they are gay (if it was homosexual abuse), guilt for not having spoken up, guilt that they might have, in certain circumstances, enjoyed it. "We see that with victims who come from affectionless environments," Dr Klug says.
"I felt it killed me," a patient of Dr Klug once said. "I've found solace in drugs.'' Now in his 40s, the man had been abused at school by a priest: "He told me that Jesus was gay, and that it was OK to love another man."
Now he lives alone. "I don't shun human contact," he says, "but I don't embrace it … I like the company of women but I can't have an intimate relationship. I prefer the company of my dog.
''I don't like walking outside. I feel people looking at me … that they know I am dirty. I live off the beaten track," he says. "A place where no one knows me and no one bothers me."


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The inaugural SAG Agent of the Month has been announced and it is Chaim Magnum of The Lemon Lime Agency, submitted by SAG member Adam Jeffries. Are you represented by a terrific, franchised agent that should be the next SAG Agent of the Month? Click here to find out how you can submit your agent. We look forward to hearing from you!
SAG Agent of the Month Chaim Magnum, The Lemon Lime Agency
Submitted by: SAG Member Adam Jeffries
Chaim Magnum from Lemon Lime Agency is OUT OF THIS WORLD. Although it would be considered a boutique agency, don't let this fool you into thinking that they're taking it easy. Chaim submits clients, confirms auditions, callbacks, and bookings 7 days a week!! On top of that, he gives actors and/or industry people advice on Twitter, holding and attending industry workshops, sharing his experiences and knowledge in the business...all out of the kindness of his heart and in the spirit of generosity.
And speaking of generosity, it should be noted that he gives back to the city of Los Angeles, too. In 2009, Lemon Lime Agency hosted an online silent auction for MY FRIENDS PLACE, raising thousands of dollars to benefit this organization. We as clients, also known as "LemonLimers," contributed to the success of the auction by gathering generous donations from all over the city. In addition to the auction, Lemon Lime donates 1% of Gross receipts to MY FRIENDS PLACE, a local charity that "assists and inspires homeless youth to build self sufficient lives."
I have the absolute pleasure of working with these wonderful people on a daily basis. Chaim has motivated me as an actor to keep moving forward, set goals, and take control of my career. And he has inspired me to be a better humanitarian by giving back to the community, myself. So, I am nominating him for Agent of the Month, so I can let THE WORLD know just how wonderful and special he is.
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- Michael Phelps swam one event in his first Olympics, placed fifth
- At age 15, though, people saw his potential to be great swimmer
- Three Olympics later he has the most medals of all time, most golds
- He raised the popularity of the sport in America through record-setting performances
He was only a kid, a 15-year-old with braces, when he first dove into the Olympic spotlight.
He didn't win any medal at the Sydney Olympics, but he gave fans a tiny glimpse of what was to come when he swam the last 50 meters of the 200-meter butterfly faster than anyone else in the pool. He moved from eighth to fifth and moved from side note to talking point just like that.
His teammate Tom Malchow told reporters at those 2000 Games, "He's a true competitor, and he's going to be one of the greats."
Malchow likely meant swimming great. But did anyone expect the long, lean teenager from Baltimore to grow up to be possibly the greatest Olympian in history?
On Tuesday, Phelps won his 19th Olympic medal, more than many countries have ever won. And with a gold on Thursday he moved his overall total to 20 -- 16 gold, two silver and two bronze medals.
"It's a combination of everything," he told reporters last week on how he became the biggest name in swimming. "You have to have a great work ethic. Have a strong mind, be motivated. There are so many things that come into it.
"I have a decent package so I can't complain."
The United States has been a world power in swimming since the days of Johnny Weissmuller, but Phelps has elevated its status like no other American competitor.
NBC once broadcast the world championships live, a rarity for the sport, because Phelps was so popular. He was the first swimmer to win Sports Illustrated's Sportsman of the Year.
After every Summer Olympics the number of swimmers increases, but when Phelps won eight gold medals in an electrifying eight days in Beijing in 2008, it grew exponentially more than previous post-Olympic years, according to a 2009 article in the Orlando Sentinel.
Fresh off his record-setting Beijing performance, in an offseason where he was more concerned about tricking out his new apartment than training, he told Sports Illustrated he wasn't worried about the future even though he was out of shape and had put on some pounds.
"When I have to turn the switch back on, I know I can. All I have to do is put my mind to something and that's it, it's done," he said. It took a few years, but after some controversy he became motivated again.
He was banned from competition for three months in 2009 after a tabloid newspaper ran a photo of him appearing to inhale from a marijuana pipe. He almost retired, but decided the London Games would be his sendoff from the sport he began as a wispy child in Baltimore.
Phelps, who started swimming to emulate his sisters at age 7, set individual world records 29 times, and still owns records in six events. In the two competitive races he has left he probably won't be besting those times, now that he's almost a swimming old man (and due to slower swimsuits).
He wraps up a career as the most decorated Olympian ever, perhaps the greatest ever. Some commentators will argue the cases of track and field's Carl Lewis, who missed an Olympics due to a U.S. boycott, or distance runner Paavo Nurmi, who won 12 medals. Some might argue for Bjorn Daehlie, the Norwegian cross-country skier. And there's gymnast Larisa Latynina, whose 18 medals are now second all time.
It's a class for which it doesn't take long to call roll.


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Draft BHIVA Pregnancy Guidelines Online for Comment Until 5 March
January/February 2012
The British HIV Association (BHIVA) Guidelines for the management of HIV infection in pregnant women 2012 are now online in draft.
The overall purpose of these guidelines is to provide guidance on best clinical practice in the treatment and management of HIV-infected pregnant women.
The scope includes guidance on the use of ART therapy both to prevent HIV mother-to-child transmission (MTCT) and for the welfare of the mother herself, guidance on mode of delivery and recommendations in specific patient populations where other factors need to be taken into consideration such as co infection with other agents.
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Topic: Faberge
Imperial Peter the Great Easter Egg (1903). Photo © Virginia Museum of Fine Arts
The Detroit Institute of Arts will host Fabergé: The Rise and Fall featuring more than 200 precious objects from the Virginia Museum of Fine Arts, home of the largest collection of Fabergé in the United States. The show traces Karl Fabergé's rise to fame, highlighting his business savvy, artistic innovations, and privileged relationship with the Russian aristocracy. Despite the firm's abrupt end in 1918, the legacy and name of Fabergé continues to hold a place in popular culture.
Visitors will have the rare opportunity to glimpse imperial Russian treasures made by the House of Fabergé, including jewel-encrusted parasol and cane handles, an array of enameled frames, animals carved from semi-precious stones, and miniature egg pendants. The exhibition features six exquisite imperial Easter eggs. These one-of-a-kind objects, which took at least a year to create, have become synonymous with the name Fabergé. One stunning example is the Imperial Tsesarevich Egg, made of lapis lazuli, diamonds, and gold and opens to reveal a miniature portrait of young Alexei, the heir of Tsar Nicholas II. The objects on view will be exhibited with text, images, and activities meant to help visitors imagine the ways in which such luxury items would have been manufactured in a workshop, displayed in a storefront, and used to adorn the interior of the imperial palace.
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AUGUSTA, Maine — Governor Paul LePage drew cheers as he spoke to more than 100 people who turned out for a gun-rights rally outside the State House despite Friday's snowstorm and bitterly cold temperatures.
''While I'm your governor, they will not infringe on your rights,'' LePage said. ''The Constitution is very, very clear, and free people, law-abiding citizens, should have the ability to carry guns. That's what keeps us safe and free.''
LePage followed several other speakers including conservative Republican activist and former congressional candidate John Frary.
The Republican governor mingled with the crowd afterward and shook hands with many of those attending, despite the 5-degree temperature and a stiff wind.
Rally participants held American flags and placards, one of which said: ''Tyrants Fear Armed Free Men.''
The rally was held two days after a coalition formed after the Dec. 14 Connecticut school shootings announced its support for state legislation to keep guns out of the hands of mentally ill people, limit magazine capacity, have universal background checks for gun purchases, and promote gun safety.
One of the speakers at the rally, state Representative Deborah Sanderson, Republican of Chelsea, said people attended to show their concern over state, as well as proposed federal legislation, which includes bans on assault weapons and high-capacity magazines. Sanderson said it is important to focus on mental health as a root cause of gun violence.
Similar rallies have been held in other state capitals, including Trenton, N.J., where 300 people and two legislators gathered Friday outside the State House in opposition to the state's gun laws, which are among the nation's toughest.


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Columbine massacre victim who became a martyr figure in the media when rumors began to spread that her murder was a direct result of her unshakable Christian faith.
According to popular legend, Cassie was confronted by one of the Columbine killers and asked if she believed in God. When she responded to the affirmative, she was shot dead. But official investigation into the killing spree revealed that this event never took place.
Cassie's mother, Misty Bernall, authored a book on the story of her daughter's life, titled She Said Yes: The Unlikely Martyrdom of Cassie Bernall. Cassie's martyr myth also inspired songs by contemporary Christian artists Michael W. Smith and Flyleaf.


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He's exaggerating, but he is right to a point. The thing with Revis is that when he is right, the QBs don't even try and throw in his direction. Which funnels the offense to other places. So Revis is still valuable because he is feared.Era of 'defense wins championships' is over
January, 14, 2013 11:45 AM ET
By DJ Gallo | ESPN.com
Rest in peace, defense. Well miss you. You had a good run. You gave us a lot of memories. You were responsible for great nicknames like the Purple People Eaters and the Steel Curtain. You even gave us a cliché -- Defense wins championships -- that had the added benefit of being true ... for a time. But that time is over.
The Broncos scored 35 points in the divisional round in single-digit temperatures. And lost. The Packers scored 31 points and lost. The Seahawks and Texans both scored 28 points and saw their seasons end. The losing teams in the second round of the playoffs averaged 30.5 points per game. The winners averaged 38.5. This is not the NFL you grew up with. These are closer to Big Ten basketball scores than traditional playoff football scores.
But adapt or die. Die like defense has died. NFL teams must learn to play defense -- or whatever new name it is eventually given -- in modern times. Heres how.
Bend and break
Look, youre going to give up points. Thats a given. But does it have to be instantly? At least make your opponent go on a three- or four-minute scoring drive so your offense can rest a little bit between its scoring drives.
Dont spend money on defense
Why spend big money on a pass-rusher or defensive back (REVIS) that could instead be budgeted for an extra tight end or dynamic third-down back? Your defense is going to get torched regardless, so why waste money on it? Oh, look! Your $10 million linebacker got to the quarterback! And now hes being penalized for roughing the passer. Money well spent.
Dont commit penalties
Most forms of tackling are now outlawed. Defensive pass interference is called approximately seven million times more than offensive pass interference (rough estimate). This is not going to change. Dont fight it. And dont give your opponent free yards with your penalties. Why are you jumping offsides? Did you want to get a head-start on your fine for hitting the quarterback? No, its better to avoid penalties and just try to gently angle your offensive opponents out of bounds after they break into the secondary. Getting them out of bounds can stop the clock and give your offense more time to catch its breath.
Give up fast late-game scores
Your team is winning by four points with 90 seconds left in the game. What do you do? Try to stop your opponent from scoring a touchdown? AHHHHHHHHHHHahahahahahaha. Stop living in the past, man. Chances are youre not going to stop them from scoring a touchdown. What you need to do is practice smart defensive failure clock management and let them score a touchdown immediately. That way you get the ball back in the hands of your offense with enough time to win the game with a touchdown of its own.
Know your role
Look, you play defense. Not everyone can be important like offensive players or even kickers, who score points. You are now regarded as the equals of punters: something that has been part of football for decades and no one can figure out how to completely get rid of. But you still have some worth. Because sometimes a quarterback will accidentally throw you the ball and you can catch it and run with it and score a touchdown, and for that brief moment you will know what its like to be relevant. And it will feel amazing.


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ABCNEWS.com asked readers to submit their questions about bullying to Rosalind Wiseman, educator and author of "Mean Girls."
Your questions, and her answers, are posted below.
Hi! My daughter first became friends with "the bully" a few years ago. We live in the same neighborhood, and at that time the girls attended the same school. The bully was in a grade ahead of my daughter. They were close friends who played almost daily. Soon after they became friends I noticed a lot of jealousy from the bully. She did not want my daughter to have any other friends but her.
She would tell lies to the other girls in the neighborhood and at school in an attempt to make the other girls not like my daughter. And when the other girls were around she would make fun of and be mean to my daughter and then later tell my daughter that the girls made her say and do the things she did. I have put an end to the friendship, and since then the bully has threatened my daughter physically and it's like she is so obsessed with trying to get every friend my daughter has and trying to hurt my daughter in any way she can.
Fortunately, they do not go to the same school anymore, but they do attend the same dance class. She is constantly and secretively doing things in dance class to hurt my daughter, verbally. I've told the teacher, who watches the girls and tries to make sure the bully is not getting away with this. This bully is 10 and my daughter is 8. She has a reputation in the neighborhood as rude and the "mean child" of the neighborhood.
Her parents, whom I tried to talk to because we were once friends, ignore everything their child does. When I was friends with them she would treat her parents rudely and disrespect them on a daily basis. I am concerned, because even though their friendship is ended, she is still just as obsessed with hurting my daughter or trying to ruin things for her. I told my daughter just to ignore her, which she has done a good job at doing. I just didn't know if there were any other suggestions you could give me. Thanks so much. — Nancy
ANSWER: Thanks for writing, and you're doing a lot of good things here, like enlisting the support of other adults who can make sure your daughter is safe.
That said, when you have a situation where there is a pattern of behavior where the bully is continuing the behavior, I would at least practice with your daughter what she can say to the bully to stand her ground. What your daughter should do is say, in her own words, what the bully is doing that she doesn't like, what she wants the bully to do, and end by saying something about that she has the right to be in the dance class without being bullied. But it needs to be in her own words. Even if she doesn't face the bully the next time the girl is mean to her, your daughter is that much more prepared to stand up for herself the next time. The goal here is to help your daughter get used to standing up to people who are treating her disrespectfully — a life- long skill.
Hi, My daughter is 13 and has ADHD/bipolar. She is in a special class for students with 'special needs" one period of the day, and in regular ed classes the rest of the day. She often comes home and says that this kid or that has called her a monster, or good for nothing, that she is stupid because she is in "redirect" and kids like that should not have any friends.
I try to get through to her that those kids have nothing better to do than to pick on someone, and that her value comes from God and he made everyone unique and focus on her good qualities of caring and helping others. But that doesn't help at school.
She tells these kids to leave her alone and she tells a teacher, but there is little else she can do. They never hurt her physically, but she really doesn't have any friends and her self-esteem is very low. How can I help her and kids like her to deal effectively with "bullies" like this? What strategies work? Thanks! — Karen
ANSWER: First of all, this is an issue that the principal needs to address, because no kid in a special needs class should be taunted. It means that the school, or students within the school, are willing to go after whom they perceive to be its most vulnerable members. Administrators responsibility is to do everything they can to ensure they take a very strong stand against that kind of unethical behavior. Second, what to tell your kid. Tell her, "I'm so sorry this is happening to you, thank you for telling me, and together let's work on making it better."
Now, you're not going to be able to stop the bullies overnight (and of course, you know that) but the goal here is that your daughter feels better about herself for the way she is handling this very difficult, painful situation. When she feels mastery of something like this, she is developing social competency. I would also encourage her to take a stand because if they are doing it to her, they will also do it to even younger kids. So she's not just fighting for herself to be treated with dignity but for other kids as well.
Hi-I just last night had a crying 9-year-old because she took a nest into school to show the kids and a boy made fun of her and it shook her up so much. She kept it bottled up inside all day and didn't tell me about it until bedtime. Then she was bawling. I don't know what to do. Should I go to the teacher and have the boy confronted with the bullying?
I comforted my daughter, but I don't think that was enough. She told me she didn't say anything back to the boy and I asked her why. She felt like whatever she said back, he would just make fun of that too. I hate that she felt helpless and want to give her the tools to defend herself verbally against this abuse. Without escalating or embarrassing her, what can I do? Thanks for any advice. — Sara
ANSWER: I'm so sorry that your daughter was teased for trying to bring something like that to school. Here's what I would do. First, tell your daughter you are sorry that happened to her, and thank her for having the courage to tell you. Together I would come up with a plan that ideally would be:
1. She writes down what happened, how she felt about it, and what she wants to happen (i.e., that the boy apologize to her and not tease her again).
2. Because she was teased for something related to school and her education, you should set up a meeting with the teacher where your daughter can explain what happened, how she feels, and what she wants (all of which she will have prepared by doing step one). Tell your daughter that she should speak first but if she gets overwhelmed, she can ask you to help her. You can even have a code word that she can say that means you can step in. Make sure to ask the teacher what the plan is if the boy goes after her again. The best would be that your daughter and the teacher would decide something together.
3. Then debrief with your daughter after the meeting. What she learned, how she felt about it, etc.
4. Follow up with an e-mail to the teacher thanking that person for the meeting and your understanding of what was discussed.
5. Tell her you are very proud of each one of those steps she did and if the problem continues, reiterate how important it is to come to you or another trusted adult.
Hello Ms. Wiseman, As a young girl in elementary school, I was bullied by another girl. It was actually one girl who would bully me and a group of my friends. One week she would turn one of the girls against the rest of us. Even though we were somewhat friends she bossed us around and made us go against each other.
I was wondering if this event in my life could have affected me as a person now in my 20s. Does bullying affect a person long after the incident itself? Thank you. — Azza
ANSWER: It is absolutely true that your experiences as a child with bullying can impact your adult life. From not being able to build and maintain strong friendships with other women, to not being able to stand up for yourself when someone is bullying you at work, to bullying yourself, all of these things are possible.
But the good thing about being an adult, however, is that you have more freedom and wisdom to change your life and the relationships within it for the better. In fact, I think that's really what being an adult is all about — no matter how old you actually are.