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Deceived part 3-The Rapture-Is It Secret?
by Paul Taylor
2/09/2013 / Bible Studies
Is there a rapture of the Church, and if so, is it secret, followed by a seven year tribulation period in which those left behind will have a second chance at being redeemed?
A fictional series of books called the Left Behind series by Tim LaHaye and Jerry Jenkins, published in 1995, took the Christian world by storm. Though the books are fictional, a majority of the Christian world took them as being Biblically correct, and as part of the Gospel, leading unsuspecting parishioners to fall for the story line completely. I have had people get fighting mad with me when I attempted to explain the truth. This is how easy it is for Christians to be so easily deceived. They will not open and study their Bibles for the Truth, believing an unbelievable fictitious book, simply because it follows the deception of the rapture and tribulation scenario laid down years ago by Satan and his minions.
According to current traditional teachings in a majority of the Christian Denominations, the Church will be secretly raptured from the earth. Airplanes will crash, trains will derail, buses and cars will crash due to the drivers and pilots being raptured. Millions will disappear and only the clothes they were wearing will be left behind.
Following the rapture of the Church a seven year period of tribulation will be ushered in, in which a series of events will take place; an anti-Christ figure will arise ushering in a period of peace when he makes a peace agreement with Israel, and after 3 years he breaks the agreement and forces everyone to accept an electronic implant (mark of the beast) and all Christians that have been redeemed through a second chance will be rounded up, persecuted and some beheaded. During this last 3 years there will be major catastrophes and troubles bringing in a major war, known as Armageddon and culminating in a third return of Christ to rescue the second chance Christians.
Sounds like something straight out of Hollywood and their special effects department doesnt it? Well, according to my Bible, It is, and I pray through the aid of the Holy Spirit and Gods Holy Word to show the deceptions of these scenarios and how they are completely opposite of what the Bible teaches. I believe this is one of the greatest deceptions other than the Sabbath day switch, ever perpetrated on Gods Church and his people. In this part 3 and part 4 the tribulation, to follow I pray I will be able to show through scripture the deceptions on God's people with the the seven year tribulation and rapture theories presently being taught.
The word rapture is not, and cannot be found anywhere in the Bible, but it means to be carried to another place, to remove, snatch away. Thessalonians 4:16 is usually cited as the source of this term RAPTURE; For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: This is one of several verses which indicate a rapture like event at the second coming of Jesus Christ. But is it secret or silent? There is nothing secret or silent in this verse.
According to present day teachings in most Churches it will be a secret and silent rapture with millions disappearing without a trace and the Governments attempting to cover it up, making it appear aliens from outer space kidnapped all these people. Lets see what the Bible has to say about a silent and secret rapture.
Matthew 24:27 For as the lightning cometh out of the east, and shineth even unto the west; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. Is lightning invisible as it flashes across the sky?
Revelation 1:7 Behold, he cometh with clouds; and EVERY EYE SHALL SEE HIM, and they also which pierced him: and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of him. Even so, Amen.(Emphasis is mine)
This does not indicate any secret or silent coming, instead this verse as well as the one above indicates a complete opposite of what is being preached and taught in todays churches, and all shall see and hear when the Lord descends for his people. Now lets look at another verse.
I Thessalonians 4:16 For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a SHOUT, with the VOICE OF THE ARCHANGEL, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first: (Emphasis is mine)
Psalm 50:3 Our God shall come, and shall NOT KEEP SILENCE: a fire shall devour before him, and it shall be very tempestuous round about him. (Emphasis is mine)
These verses of scripture do not indicate a secret or silent rapture. There is nothing quite about the actions of either verse.
I believe the confusion comes from 2 Peter 3:10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; (Most denominations have left off the later part of this verse and use only the first part to give rhe illusion of a secret rapture, therby taking the entire verse out of context leading to the false assumption of a secret rapture.) To the unbeliever this will be as a thief. They will be caught unawares. On the other hand, those which have a personal relationship with Jesus, keep his commandments, study the Bible and the prophecies relating to the end times, will not be surprised or shocked, this is what they are looking and waiting for.
When you take the verse in it's entirety, you get a completely different meaning. Let's look at the remainder of the verse and see if it changes the meaning. But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up
This completed verse sheds a completely different scenario, indicating that Jesus will reap the harvest of His obedient Christians and destroy the lost, or disobedient, all at the same time. No seven year tribulation is indicated in this verse.
As an example of false assumptions, the Scribes and Pharisees missed the coming of the Messiah because they were looking for a conquering King and not a meek servant of the people. The wise men from the East interpreted the scriptures accurately and came to pay homage as did the Sheppards in the fields, who were also waiting and watching for the Messiah.
The learned and supposedly intelligent of that day missed the Messiah. The learned and intelligent of today will also, like their counterparts of the past, miss the signs of the Second coming event.
Much like then, the Christians and Churches are looking in the wrong place and reading the wrong signs, listening to the false prophets and teachers which abound on radio and television, and will therefore, be caught with their pants down so to speak.
There are other verses which are used to indicate a secret rapture, including: Matt.24:38-41
Matthew 24:38-41 38 For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, 39 And knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. 40 Then shall two be in the field; the one shall be taken, and the other left. 41 Two women shall be grinding at the mill; the one shall be taken, and the other left.
Jesus is not indicating 2 individual persons but rather an analogy akin to the wheat and tares parable in the 13th chapter of Matthew, with the two people indicating the saved as one, (the wheat), and the lost sinner, (the tares), for the other. The one left is the unrepentant or lost sinner and will be cast into the fire as indicated in the Parable of the wheat and tares in Matthew chapter 13.
In this parable which can be considered a prophecy as it does indicate the gathering together of Gods people in the last days, and Jesus indicates this in Matthew 13:30 Let both grow together until the harvest: and in the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, Gather ye together FIRST the TARES, and bind them in bundles to burn them: but gather the WHEAT into my barn. (Emphasis is mine)
Jesus is indicating the saved will be gathered while the unsaved are being destroyed. I see no seven year separation in this parable; Jesus is indicating the lost will be separated and cast into the fire at the same time the saved are gathered, and if we look back at 2 Peter 3:10 we see almost the same scenario as the gathering of the tares and wheat in this parable. But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. This is indicating an action of gathering and destroying all at the same time and not over a seven year period.
There are four classes of people on this earth and all will be dealt with. There are the righteous living and the wicked living; there are the righteous dead and the wicked dead. At Jesuss return, the righteous living and the righteous dead will be raised incorruptible, as Paul describes in 1 Corinthians 15:52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed.
These are the first two classes of people Jesus will deal with, and he will then immediately deal with the second class of people, namely the living wicked of this world as shown in 2 Thessalonians 1:7-10 to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed from heaven with his mighty angels, 8 In flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ: 9 Who shall be punished with everlasting destruction from the presence of the Lord, and from the glory of his power; 10 When he shall come to be glorified in his saints, and to be admired in all them that believe (because our testimony among you was believed) in that day.
Now lets see what happens once the living wicked are destroyed at his coming as shown in Thessalonians 1:7-10.
Look at Revelation 20:5 But the rest of the dead lived not again until the thousand years were finished. This is the FIRST RESURRECTION. (Emphasis is mine)
Now, my question to you is, if Jesus, as indicated in the forgoing verses resurrects his followers from among the living and the grave, and destroys the remaining unsaved at the same time, where is this seven year tribulation? These verses verify this as the FIRST RESSURECTION, but according to present teachings, all the lost (Left Behind) are to remain for seven years and afforded a second chance for redemption, but reading these verses there is no indication of this. Friends if you are waiting for this seven year period to make your changes, you are in for a very bumpy landing.
The Devil is a very cunning and devious spirit, anyone not believing this, need only look at Revelation 12:4 And his tail drew the third part of the stars of heaven, and did cast them to the earth: Stars in prophecy indicate angels, and here it is shown that Satan deceived a third of the heavenly angels into following him. Are we smarter than those angels? Look at what Paul said in Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Satan is working overtime in our Churches and in our lives to deceive us into believing his lies and robbing us of the eternal home God has promised to those that love Him, and keep his commandments, he knows his time is short and he intends to destroy as many of Gods people as possible.
Let me give you a little more insight concerning the wheat and tares. The tares are an almost identical looking piece of wheat scattered amongst the real wheat, making them counterfeit. The real wheat is a healthy plump plant filled with ripe fruit. The wheat in this parable then is indicating the fruitful Christian keeping Gods commandments, witnessing and winning souls for Jesus. On the flip side the tares which resemble the wheat have no fruit and are unproductive in winning souls to Jesus. These will hear the most pitiful words spoken; And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity Matthew 7:23
The tares are much like the bench warming athletes, who never play but wear the team emblem, or the armchair quarterback, never participating but always finding fault, complaining about those which are doing Gods work.
Which are you? The wheat, loving God by keeping His commandments, witnessing to others, and following the example as set by Jesus himself when he walked this earth. Or, are you a tare? A counterfeit Christian, warming the bench, complaining and finding faults with others doing what you refuse to participate in, not studying and following Gods word and his commandments, but rather conforming to this world and mans traditions and ways, 2 Timothy 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof:
Revelation 22:11-12 He that is unjust, let him be unjust still: and he which is filthy, let him be filthy still: and he that is righteous, let him be righteous still: and he that is holy, let him be holy still. 12 And, behold, I come quickly; and my reward is with me, to give every man according as his work shall be. What Jesus is saying here is there will be NO SECOND CHANCE, whatever state of rightousness or wickedness you are in, there you will remain.
If you intend to be in the first resurrection when Jesus comes, may I suggest you turn from your worldly ways and become a new creature as Paul describes in 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
Mathew 5:20 For I say unto you, That except your righteousness shall exceed the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, ye shall in no case enter into the kingdom of heaven.
If we expect to be with Jesus we must become a new creature and dispose of our sinful ways, putting all our troubles and faith on the one that matters most, JESUS! Our only hope, our only way of getting out of this world alive. Today is the day of salvation. Are you ready?
Please read part 4 Deceived- The Seven Year Tribulation to get a better understanding of this part.
Copyright 2013 by Paul Taylor All Rights Reserved
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Sean O'Hair's balky back might spoil his homecoming.
O'Hair was bothered by a sore back Thursday in the opening round of the AT&T National after he hurt it last week while working out.
O'Hair said he was "a little surprised" he was able to play after shooting a 1-over 71 and planned to skip practice for rest and treatment for Friday.
O'Hair said his trainer told him the injury could be a bulging disc. He also complained of tight hamstrings.
He makes his home in the Philadelphia area and recently joined Aronimink Golf Club. He withdrew from the pro-am Wednesday because of the injury.
"It'd be nice to play really well in front of everybody, but at the end of the week, it's just another golf tournament," O'Hair said. "I'd love to play well at this golf course, but I can't control my back."
The AT&T National is the start of four straight tournaments for O'Hair, a decision he's second-guessing because of his back. He wants to tough it out for the home crowd and for his club -- yet stay healthy for the British Open.
"It's in the best condition I've seen year," he said. "Being in front of the home crowd and sleeping in your own bed, it's fun."
His score shows there was no home-course advantage. O'Hair said he wasn't a regular at Aronimink and downplayed any connection that a familiar course should boost his score.
"I think the only thing you can do in a negative way is just put too much pressure on yourself, and I don't think I've done that," O'Hair said. "I'm not feeling great, so my expectations have come down quite a bit."
FURYK RETURNS: Sean O'Hair isn't the only player in the field with local roots. Jim Furyk heard plenty of fans wishing him luck, rooting him on and yelling, "Welcome home!" when he hit the first tee.
Furyk, who won the U.S. Open in 2003, was born in the nearby Philly suburb of West Chester and he was raised in Lancaster. For years, he hosted the one-day Exelon Invitational at various stops throughout the state. His event was the only professional golf that the Philadelphia area had on a yearly basis.
"A lot of people were out there cheering for me even at 8:26 on a Thursday morning, which is surprising," he said.
Furyk is well-versed in the area's place in golf lore.
"I grew up playing golf in this area and it's like coming back to your roots," he said. "It's an area where I'm really comfortable with a lot of the golf courses here. It's fun to have people pulling and rooting on your side. I haven't had an opportunity to play that many tour events in the Pennsylvania area."
Furyk should be back here next year when the AT&T National returns for a second season. The U.S Open will be held in 2013 at Merion Golf Club.
SPEED IT UP: Joe Ogilvie was one of four players tied atop the leaderboard at Aronimink Golf Club. He took nearly as much pride in the time it took him to post a 4-under 66 -- just a shade over four hours.
Ogilvie, who played with Jeff Maggert and Bill Lunde, can be one of the tour's fastest players. He said the trio could have finished in less than four hours had it not been for a wait on the 17th hole and a ruling on the 18th.
"You'd be kicked out of Aronimink if you played in 4 hours and 15 minutes in foursomes, so you ought to be able to do it in threesomes," he said.
Ogilvie's dream pairings, however, wouldn't be with player as swift with the club and decision making as he is each hole.
"I'm not used to playing with players as fast as I am, so I would tend to get in their way," he said. "I'm used to waiting on guys to hit and I'm used to also saying, 'God, how long does it take to lay it up?' So it would give me less material if I played with really fast players all the time.
"It's good to have some material."
TIGER'S ROAR: Boo, who?
Not Tiger Woods.
The Philadelphia crowd muffled their infamous chorus of boos for cheers and applause at each sighting of Woods. If his sordid tales of infidelity turned off the crowd, it didn't show in their "Go, Tiger!" screams at every hole.
"Unfortunately, we didn't give them a whole lot to cheer about today," Woods said.
Woods, the defending champion, shot a shot 73.
Woods teamed with rocker Jon Bon Jovi, a former co-owner of the Arena Football League Philadelphia Soul, for a fundraiser for their respective foundations on Wednesday night. The event raised more than $570,000 for the Tiger Woods Foundation and the Jon Bon Jovi Soul Foundation. Bon Jovi played an acoustic set of some of his greatest hits.
"It was neat to see him play acoustically," Woods said.
Joe Ogilvie heard a more typical Philly reaction when he played with former Eagles quarterback Ron Jaworski in Wednesday's pro-am.
"Our galleries were a little boisterous," he said.
CADDIE TALK: Nick Watney has a different caddie, although he should look very familiar.
Watney, who had been with Tim Goodell, began working this week with Chad Reynolds, who had been on the bag for Vijay Singh the last few years until leaving the big Fijian. Singh is using David Clark.
Brett Quigley, meanwhile, changes caddies frequently, and he also had a familiar face on the bag at Aronimink -- just not in golf circles. His good friend Adam Oates, the former NHL star. Oates is working his fifth tournament with Quigley, who opened with a 67, and he arrived his this week after taking the job as an assistant coach with the New Jersey Devils.
Oates is the second NHL player to caddie on the PGA Tour this year. Dan Quinn is a part-time caddie for Ernie Els.

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The star gets extensions and bangs! See her new look.
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The pixie may be the haircut of 2013, but Julianne Hough is going against the beauty grain. The star has a new hair motto: #longhairdontcare.
Hough debuted extensions — courtesy of stylists Riawna Capri and Nikki Lee at the Nine Zero One salon in Hollywood — on Tuesday at a pre-concert event for Beyoncé's Mrs. Carter tour in L.A. And she's definitely loving the look, sharing her transformation on Instagram with the caption "#changeisgood."
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Capri also posted a snap of the actress's transition from short to long. Originally, the Great Length extensions (a favorite brand in Hollywood) went past her waist, before Capri cut them into a chest-length angled chop. It also looks like Hough cut some long piecey side bangs to complete her look.
"Don't worry, It's just for a project… @juleshough signature short hair will be back eventually," Capri captioned the above photo. She then told PEOPLE, "Julianne needed a lot of Great Lengths extensions to blend, because she herself has thick hair as well as her hair was so short. We wanted to give her a long shag for an edgier, piecey look. She loves it and can't wait to rock different hair styles!"
As saucy as the look is, we're happy to hear her new do is only for a role, because we loved her amazing lob. But we also think it's fun to change things up (read about one editor's experience with extensions here). Are you a fan of Hough's long hair? Sound off below!
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CINEEUROPE: Other highlights of Fox presentation include Ridley Scott and Ben Stiller presenting their next films.
Fox International wowed the crowd at CineEurope today with a star-studded, behind-the-scenes slate presentation that had an especially poignant moment showing the first footage from James Gandolfini's final feature film, Animal Rescue.
Bullhead director Michael R Roskam is now in post production on the film, which also stars Tom Hardy, Noomi Rapace and Matthias Schoenaerts in the Dennis Lehane-scripted story of a Brooklyn bartender (Hardy) who crosses paths with organised crime. Gandolfini plays a bar owner who has to contend with the Chechen mob.
Fox Searchlight International executive VP Rebecca Kearey said everyone at Fox feels "very honoured" to be working on Gandolfini's final film.
Ridley Scott took to the stage in Barcelona alongside Javier Bardem to talk about The Counselor (which was previewed in four scenes and the new international trailer). Scott said he was "mesmerized and blown away" by Cormac McCarthy's screenplay, which he says boasts "some staggeringly interesting characters."
Bardem, who stars alongside Michael Fassbender, Brad Pitt, Cameron Diaz and Penelope Cruz, said of Scott: "he is a master and he knows how to put things together." Of McCarthy's writing, he added: "It inspires your mind and your thoughts and your imagination and also your gut. McCarthy is like a punch in the stomach." (He also starred in McCarthy adaptation No Country For Old Men.)
Ben Stiller also came on stage in Barcelona to introduce footage from The Secret Life of Walter Mitty. He said the movie "above all isn't cynical….I hope people walk out thinking, 'It's never too late to make a change in your life'." He got a big laugh when he added: "There are no giant robots in it, I hope that's okay."
Other highlights in the Fox presentation included extended trailers for Walking With Dinosaurs: The 3D Movie and The Book Thief, an action sequence from The Wolverine, and Bryan Singer's behind-the-scenes video tour of the set of X-Men: Days of Future Past. Singer noted there was "a very international flavor to the film" as it is set in Russia, France, China, Washington D.C., New York and beyond.
Director Carlos Saldanha previewed footage and animation tests from Rio 2. He noted that new cast members joining that film include Bruno Mars, Janelle Monae, will.i.am and Kristin Chenoweth.
Justin Timberlake, appearing on video, introduced an extended trailer for his new thriller Runner Runner. George Clooney and Grant Heslov appeared in a recorded message from the set of The Monuments Men, and Clooney called it "a war film in the scale and size they used to be done." The film is in its final week or so of shooting and will launch theatrically in January.
Fox Searchlight International showed images from Wes Anderson's The Grand Budapest Hotel, which is now in post. Kearey also confirmed that the sequel to The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel will shoot either at the end of 2013 or early 2014.
The Fox presentation showed more star power than any other studio thus far at CineEurope – Fox is a company that has directly benefitted from international markets on releases like the recent Life of Pi, so it's no wonder they are paying special attention to European exhibitors. The company also had Snoop Dogg performing at a party in the evening (story here.)
Earlier in the day, Universal's presentation included footage from RIPD, Kick-Ass 2, About Time (with a video intro from Richard Curtis), The World's End, The Wolf of Wall Street, Last Vegas, All Is Lost and 47 Ronin. The studio then screened Despicable Me 2.


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OCEAN CITY – A proposal for an additional Boardwalk comfort station before the City Council on Monday created discussion and yielded immediate opposition from Boardwalk home and business owners.
Boardwalk Development Association (BDA) President Bob Givarz and City Engineer Terry McGean came before the council at Monday evening's meeting to present their idea for an additional comfort station to be located on 4th Street and the Boardwalk. There are currently four comfort stations on the Boardwalk, and they are located on 27th Street, 9th Street, Caroline Street and Worcester Street. Givarz, owner of the Alaska Stand on 9th Street, and McGean feel that there is a gap between the 9th Street and Caroline Street comfort stations and see the potential for an additional comfort station in between those at 4th Street.
A few years ago, the BDA and town came together to give the Boardwalk a face-lift and to provide further amenities to improve people's experience on the Boardwalk. The comfort stations are an example of such amenities that have benefited the town's featured promenade.
"When we originally did the Boardwalk project, an additional comfort station was proposed at that time," McGean said of the potential for a fifth station.
McGean explained that at that time the proposal was for a comfort station to be located not on the Boardwalk on 4th street, but west of the Boardwalk in the street itself. The idea was met with opposition and the idea for a 4th Street comfort station faded away.
After the recent reconstruction of the 9th Street comfort station and the positive feedback the city has received, McGean and Givarz feel that it is a good time to explore the possibility of a comfort station be located on 4th Street. The building would be located to the south of the sea wall and at the end of the train lane.
"Hopefully people will find this aesthetically pleasing," McGean said as he presented rough draft images of what could be achieved at 4th Street.
McGean made several comparisons to the 9th Street location, explaining that it would basically be the same building with the same aesthetic appeal but with slightly different measurements.
The building, if approved and built, will be similar to the size of the 9th Street comfort station, but slightly wider and shorter. It is projected to be about 1,200 square feet with 28 fixtures and estimated to cost around $350,000. If pursued, McGean projects that it would be finished by the spring of 2009.
The glitch in the design lies in the effect that it may have on surrounding buildings and condos.
"Even though the building would be in the street, the roofline of the building would be higher than the balconies of the first floor," McGean said of the potential effect on the El Capitan condominiums.
This concern brought about several comments of opposition and concern.
Local business owner Greg Shockley came forward on behalf of Shenanigans and the Shoreham Hotel.
"I welcome you guys to take it to a work session," he said of the proposal, "and let everyone have a shot at it because we have mixed feelings within our group."
Joann Vogel, a condo owner from the El Capitan, came forward to voice her concerns over having a comfort station built in front of her condominium.
"I certainly applaud all the efforts that you are doing downtown and on the Boardwalk," she said. "We'd like you to consider a different location or something that's not going to have an impact on our condo association."
Vogel addressed two main concerns with the project, asking the council to look at the impact that it may have on the condominium owners' property value and also the impact that it would have on the people in the first floor units who would be losing the ocean view that they paid for.
Joe Grimes, another El Capitan resident, agreed with Vogel, saying that they all paid for property with an ocean view and many rent their condos under that premise. Grimes also expressed concern over the Boardwalk train, saying that the train turns at that location and could result in problems with people leaving the comfort station and not paying attention to the turning train.
Council President Joe Mitrecic reminded those in attendance that this was only a proposal and that nothing would be decided immediately. He assured everyone that they will have a chance to be heard at the work session and that stronger diagrams and more concrete ideas would be presented.
Councilwoman Nancy Howard agreed, saying, "I think we need more discussion about this," and motioned to move it to a work session.
Councilman Jim Hall supported the motion.
"When 9th Street was built, it came out looking so good, it's very pleasing to the eye and I think now is the time," he said. "Let's talk about it at a work session and see if we can all get our heads together."
The council voted unanimously to move the proposal to a work session so that the issues and concerns could be addressed and hashed out. They also agreed that everyone who could potentially be affected within a 300-foot area be notified, particularly the El Capitan residents, Shenanigans, and the Shoreham Hotel.


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A young soldier scurried up an exposed hill toward the sounds of fighting, leaving a military chaplain in his wake and stopping only to scoop up some ammunition.
Halfway there and he can hear the all out hell he's heading into ... the Korean War ... suddenly he turns around and there's the chaplain, right behind him, a pipe sticking out of his mouth and puffing calmly, crate of ammo in his arms.
"'Father, you really shouldn't be doing this,' I told him," an 87 year-old Robert Wood recounted to the Army News Service (ANS).
Capt. Emil J. Kapaun, an Army Chaplain, puffed a smoky refusal.
Minutes later, as Wood recalls, they're both charging up a hill under withering enemy gunfire. So bad so that Wood dove into a ditch to avoid being killed. Looking back at Kapuan, he noticed the man puffing on a pipe that had its end blown clear off.
They both had a nervous chuckle at that.
Kapuan survived that day. He survived another day when a mine blew up his jeep. Instead he picked up an old bike, and the troops would catch him riding it toward the fighting.
"We all saw him out in front and we all said to one another, 'there goes Father Kapaun again, heading toward the sound of the guns,'" Wood told ANS.
The chaps would regularly brave gunfire to save or tend to wounded.
Wood recalled the very end, when they were "scattered over hell's half acre in poor positions" and eventually overrun by 30,000 Chinese. Kapuan chose to stay with all the wounded when the other troops fled.
He even persuaded a wounded Chinese soldier to try and keep as many men from being killed as possible. Then, upon capture, he pushed one of the enemy out of the way and dove in front of an impending execution, pleading for the man's life.
Later, at the POW camp, the soldiers remembered him for always trying to keep their spirits up, and for tending to the wounded. He would even steal away at night to bordering villages to get bags of rice and bring them back, an action that would have meant instant death if caught.
Eventually the Chaplain's leg became infected, too swollen to walk on, and fellow soldiers brought him a stick to use as a cane. He would hobble around the camp, treating the sickly. Without specifics, the diseases in the camp were of many different ghastly varieties.
Still he aided them, until he became too sick himself. Wood recalled having tears in his eyes as he carried the chaps to the hospital, what he called effectively a "death house."
President Barack Obama announced that upon further review, Kapuan's actions prior to capture had earned him the Medal of Honor. The award will go to his family members April 11.
The Vatican named Kapuan a "Servant of God" in 1993. He's currently in consideration for sainthood.


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The long-anticipated bout between WBA heavyweight champion Wladimir Klitschko and Russia's Alexander Povetkin will be held in Moscow on Oct. 5, the boxers confirmed Monday.
Klitschko was first set to defend his heavyweight title against Povetkin three years ago but the contract for the fight was never finalized.
"We had a long story with Alexander and could have met earlier," Klitschko said at a news conference. "Alexander hasn't lost a fight and I'm looking forward to meeting him but in no case will I underestimate him. I'm sure he will do his best to win on the night of Oct. 5."
The WBA heavyweight belt became vacant when Klitschko was elevated to "super champion" status in 2011 after beating David Haye. Povetkin became the mandatory challenger for Klitschko when he beat American Hasim Rahman last September.
Earlier this year, the 37-year-old Klitschko improved to 60-3 when he beat Francesco Pianeta with his 52nd knockout, while the undefeated Povetkin, 33, has improved to 26-0 with his 18th knockout, stopping Polish challenger Andrzej Wawrzyk for his fourth successful defense of the "regular" title.
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trying to get some info on why a dog's stomach wall would be thickening?
Michelle's boxer has not been eating on her own...hundreds of dollars later, we have no conclusive evidence on what it is. 8 year old boxer, spayed female, previously healthy as a horse. Monday we took her to the vet, the first x-ray showed a weird "structure" to the stomach, and an enlarged spleen. Wed was the ultrasound...which showed the spleen was only slightly enlarged, and they're not worried about that anymore...but the stomach was full of gas, and they couldn't see anything specific with the stomach. So we fasted her and took new xrays (digital) on Friday. The stomach wall is thickened, but the weird "structure" is gone.
However, she's still not eating on her own...and only eats if I hand feed her. (she did eat for the first time from her bowl today).
She is on a stomach coating med, and antacid...but she's still not eating well. No vomiting but diarrhea. Losing weight (which she doesn't have to lose, as she's a skinny dog already)...even though she's eating 3 cans of Merrick (she enjoys that) and 6-12 satin balls each day.
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Ex-Tennessee governor's Senate campaign fears it was hacked
Former Tennessee Gov. Phil Bredesen's campaign for U.S. Senate told the FBI on Thursday that it fears it has been hacked, amid growing concern that candidates in the 2018 election could be targets of cyberattacks.
In a letter obtained by The Associated Press, campaign lawyer Robert E. Cooper Jr. wrote that Bredesen's aides became suspicious when someone pretending to be the campaign's media buyer asked for money to be wired to an international account.
The letter says the person used an email address nearly identical to the actual media buyer's and knew about an upcoming TV campaign and its proposed dates. Cooper says the campaign hired a cyber-security firm that found the impostor emails were registered through an Arizona-based registrar.
"Thanks to alert action by campaign management, no funds were diverted," the letter states. "However, due to the fact that the impostors knew the media buy was imminent, we are concerned that there has been an unauthorized intrusion into the extended campaign organization."
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AnnaMaria posted 9/19/2011 00:42 AM
I heard someone mention the 'limbo' forum in a different forum and instantly realized that this is the place for me.
My WH and I have been in pseudo-R for the last 28 months. I thought we were in R, which to me means that we both wanted to be in this marriage and were just trying to figure out how to do that. But the words "want", "try", etc. permeated his speech. Turns out he is still trying to figure out if he wants to be here. It also turns out that he still has feelings for the OW. I doubt those two things are a coincidence.
So we're not really in R. We are in MC but I'm not sure what the point of it is, since my WH can't commit to me or to our M. Because he can't commit, then I can't either. He has to go first. After everything that has happened, he has to go first.
So I am in limbo. We sleep in the same bed, naked and wrapped around each other much of the time. We have sex. We live. But it's a day-to-day existence, one without true love or commitment, and I honestly don't know how much longer I can do it.
Why am I here? For the same reason I suspect most of us are. My DD is going to college soon and if we were to separate then we couldn't afford to send her. And I don't really want a D. I want a true marriage with the person I'm married to. I'm not ready to start my life over. Dammit, it's just not fair that I have to even be thinking about that.
The thing is, I don't know if I can accept this half-alive existence. My WH says that he doesn't want to live a life of 'quiet desperation' anymore. I agree. The thing is, I'm willing to make the commitment and do the work to change things. He isn't. And so -- limbo.
insecure posted 9/19/2011 11:43 AM
I hate being in limbo. WH tells me A is over, but yet everytime I turn around OW is there in our lives. I was happier when WH was out of our home and living with OW. He is back, since end of July, and still she keeps popping up. I feel like the backup plan for when she throws his butt out. I am tired, angry, hurt, on the verge of depression. We now live on the main road, since Aug, and everytime her car is at MY HOUSE I am notified by someone. I just don't know what to do anymore. Everytime I stupidly try to R, she is thrown in my face.
Going To Make It posted 9/19/2011 15:51 PM
Insecure, i'm so sorry. I wish you strength to do whatever you decide.
neverendinghurt posted 9/19/2011 17:53 PM
My question for those of you in limbo who have accepted it, how do you deal with the loss of the marriage. I really miss having someone to share my life with
I miss the intimacy, (all aspects of it).
Most of the time I just get on with things as best as I can, but I still have down days.
SoLost&Confused posted 9/21/2011 12:49 PM
AnnaMaria - you said it. That's exactly how I feel.
I have no idea where to go from here. I don't want to end our marriage - there's a lot of good there, and a lot of potential to be great, IMHO, but H needs to decide to commit, step up to the plate, and do the work. He's not, and has the added bonus of being very resistant to ideas that don't originate from him. So, any pushing I do is likely to push him even farther away from committing, yet I have to push in some ways because he won't do it himself. Argh!!! This would be so much easier if I didn't believe so much in our potential and want so much to have an intact family. I feel like I'm waiting for him to wake up and realize what he almost lost, but I'm starting to wonder if he ever will, or if he will before this limbo has caused me more pain than I can handle in the interim. I guess it remains to be seen.
crickett posted 9/23/2011 00:45 AM
I am in limbo I want to save our marriage and I have no idea what WH is doing anymore.
He is in lta at the OW place and his behavior is odd
I feel like I am living a broken record
feeling bi polar posted 9/23/2011 15:16 PM
((((everyone)))) I too am a resident in limboland. Some days I think things are salvageable and then there are other times when triggers happen and I revert to feeling angry and hurt. Sorry that we have all been relocated to this limboland hell.
Going To Make It posted 9/25/2011 15:24 PM
Another day of TT finally got the truth about his motorcycle. He didnt want to tell me cuz he knew I would never ride behind him again. He gave my place to her
I told him Im done giving a shit about. Nothing I gave him is/was sacred
[This message edited by Going To Make It at 3:29 PM, September 25th (Sunday)]
mentallyabused posted 9/29/2011 22:05 PM
I too live in limbo.. I wish I had the magic ball to see what my future is and stop worrying now about what I need to do..!
SickInMySoul posted 10/1/2011 18:14 PM
Feeling very Limbo-y tonight and a little blue, so I thought I would pop by and just say I am thinking about all of you that are in the same spot...and praying for us all.
Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend.
PurpleRose posted 10/1/2011 20:15 PM
oh, yes, living in Limbo...
it sucks. I'm tired. I'm weak. I feel pathetic. I hate this!
WH says he is leaning more towards D, but he hasn't made any final decisions yet.. and so I stay, hoping that the strange delusional man who is sleeping next to me every night will change back into the loving husband I have known for 20 years.
I can't go on like this forever.. I see some posters who've been doing this for years and I just don't get it. I will end up in a psych ward soon if things don't change one way or the other.
And I don't want to make the decision to D. That would be WAAAY too easy on WH. I've told him as much, too. I refuse to pull the trigger and be the parent who ruined our kids' lives. Won't do it.
I sometimes think he wishes I would... and then other times I see glimpses of *my* H again. I am losing ME in this process and its killing me to see him carry on as if all is well. I don't get it.
rejectedluv posted 10/1/2011 21:26 PM
Crazy Daze, you could have written my story. DDay has only been since 9-9-11, but I am waiting as he is on the fence. We are in MC, but not sure if he is really putting forth an effort or when I will truly see an effort. The Love Dare a book was given to us by our counselor and we are starting it....only on day 3 and so far, it seems I am the one trying. He says I am trying too hard...really isn't that what you do to save your marriage and make it better. He thinks it's going to be this long drawn out affair and he isn't ready to touch me (hug and cuddle) but I wasn't the WS EA or PA (he is denying PA) and I am willing to touch him, so what gives-guilty mind I guess. So, hang in there the best you can.
colezmom1221 posted 10/5/2011 08:55 AM
Hey all from my little corner of limboland!
I've actually had a few days in a row of not feeling so lost in all this muck.
WH has switched back to working days so now I see him more. I wasn't sure if this was going to be a good thing since he seems to be one of my constant triggers I guess only time will tell.
Just wanted to pop in and see how everyone else is doing.
Feb 8, 2011 posted 10/5/2011 11:41 AM
In Limbo as well. But WW just doesn't know what she wants yet (and is learning in IC to be "comfortable" with not knowing).
....confusion may be fine for WW, but it is making me miserable. My anger grows and grows with each week, and at this point we are doing fundamental damage to whatever friendship and co-parenting relationship we would want to have after a separation.
I am getting very close to separation. I can't believe she has done this to our family. But oh well.
Hi Lost42, I am Lost45. Everything in your quotation resonates with me... I too, can not believe that she has done this to our family.
I think that the reasons I am in limbo are>>>>
50% Financial
25% Children - not wanting to uproot our three kids, shatter their sense of security, tear them away from their friends (can't see any way either of us could keep the house) - and have to face days where I don't get to see them
15% Inertia
10% Clinging to hope that we can R and have a real relationship again
My WW's A is over. She has been ostracized from an entire group (thrown under the bus by OM after I told his wife). The loss of "friends" (were they really her friends, if they "dumped" her so easily for their buddy?) has caused her more pain and anger than the end of the A imo. It has also caused a huge wedge between us, as she believes I told OBS for revenge and spite, and not to prevent the A from continuing, or for my own conscience.
And now? Well it seems exactly the same as a year ago (when she was on a slippery slope, and the A was about to start), except she has found new friends to ride with, and they apparently know our situation.
Dallas2 posted 10/5/2011 12:22 PM
Another thread for me to be in. My FWH and I both though that we wanted to R. He went to MC but missed alot of appointments(due to work) one time he was to sick to go but he spent over two hours doing the lawn.
It's been rough because he is not an overly affectinate person or real open with feelings. He shared so much more with her than he ever has me.
He still says he wants to stay M but I feel like I am losing the desire for that. It's just real hard to walk away from someone who has been in your life 25 years.
Am I undecided because I always said cheating was a deal breaker. Afraid of the unknown? Do I still have hope?
Limbo really sucks. I have been doing more research about divorce than affairs recently. The A already happend.
BMC0415 posted 10/6/2011 11:26 AM
Here I am as well. My d-day was 4 1/2 years ago and we really tried to make things work. Even took custody of the OC and his sisters, but ultimately things have not worked out.
My h has been living in his own apt. 30 miles away since Aug. 2010. His former habits caught up with him and he could no longer live at the house. What is keeping us apart now is that I did not move with him. Oh and I took away his manhood when we were trying to R, by looking at his phone, questioning his whereabouts and embrassing him in front of his little friends! He expects our older children to move out on their own and me and him and the OC to live together. First of all I would not have been able to handle taking the OC in my home if not for my kids, they have helped in every aspect you can think of! Secondly, my oldest 22 yr. DD is a student a 2 colleges and works part-time and just had a baby, my 21 yr. ds is a student, works part-time and has an 18 month old, and has ADD. My 19 yr. dd just graduated from Cosmetology school and is not fully employed yet. Even if they all moved in together, they would not be able to make it on their own.
My h does not understand that. He was on his own at 17 and thinks everyone should be that way. When my kids are ready to live on their own, they will. Anyways he feels that I picked the children over him! And I told him that I did not want to move down there to the "hood" with him when the family can stay here in the good schools and environment. All 3 OC are in special education and it took a lot for me to set up. So if he wants to put it that way, then yes I picked the kids over you, they never betrayed and lied to me.
Anyway he comes over the house about 15-17 days per month because he doens't have enough money to get back and forth after he pays his rent. I went to file a legal separation from him a couple of months ago only to find out that because we are both joint Guardians of the twins, if we separate, their custody will go back before the judge and they could be sent to foster care and taken away from us and their brother. For this reason we have decided not to divorce at this time.
However, it is putting me in a situation that I can not move on. He acts like my h sometimes, but he says we will not be "together again" until we live together again, so no sex. I really hate him for that because he is the only person I have ever been with and we have been together 23 years. I want to find someone that will love me completely and I can't while I am still married to him.
So I get to raise all 3 OC by myself and put my life on hold. It really sucks.
[This message edited by BMC0415 at 11:29 AM, October 6th (Thursday)]
Dallas2 posted 10/13/2011 08:32 AM
As I read other posts here, journal my feeling in my book and read so many other books and websites.
I am beginning to think that for me Limbo land is a self made hell. I was actually not living at home when WH confessed in MC. He broke down and cried,OMG he is human was my first thought. Then he asked if I wanted to go out to dinner. Was he kidding? If I'd had to sit next to him he would not be breathing today. Our MC said not to talk about it(she meant at that moment) he took it as never. He'd already kept his secret a long time.
I look back and think I must've been in Zombie land I moved back home. Not sure if this was my biggest mistake or not. I tried to get things out in the open between us.
When I got the most impoortant questions answered I guess he thought that was all there was to it. No more talking-wrong.
I am beginning to feel like his actions have more to do with me being in Limbo than me.
First he does the right things. then he is passive-agressive about other things. Sometimes he talks about were he wants us to be and other times I sit here alone.
He feeds me just enough to keep my hope alive and destroys me enough that I want out. I am not crazy just in LIMBO but if I stay here long I might go CRAZY
cupcakegirl posted 10/13/2011 08:51 AM
I believe I belong here too. My WH has been recently diagnosed SA. That to me spells LIMBO. I do not know if I will ever have any peace/intimacy w/him.
WH takes a polygraph next week after a full disclosure w/MC csat. I have two children- one with special needs that i could never provide for if it weren't for WH. So I feel like I am married, but I am not. To all the neighbors, we are married. Between us, there is uncertainty and confusion. I do not know what I am going to do, I do not know what my H is going to dump on me at the pg. So I float along.
Limbo is my life.
dawnmarie posted 10/14/2011 10:35 AM
Had to barrow these stages:
Stage 1: forgiveness. Was I able to forgive, to let go of resentment and be able to see him as simply a flawed human?
He is human, and really, it's not my job to forgive and it makes no difference to me. I cannot let go of the resentment because he knew I was not the kind of person who could survive this and I knew that too.
Stage 2: acceptance. Could I just accept that the past is what it is? After a grieving period, can I accept that time period from start of A to dday was much less than pretty, that the man I loved did not love me back?
I struggle with what he did every single day. No amount of counseling has changed how I feel about his A. I look back to Dday and wish I would have punched him square in the nose and then kicked him out. The man I married would never do that to me and I would never put up with it...but I am still here.
Stage 3: vulnerability. Can I feel safe enough to become emotionally and physically vulnerable to WH once again?
I cannot honestly feel vulnerable to him. He has done absolutely everything right since dday. He shows me 50 times a day how much he loves me. I used to look at him as my perfect match, the man I knew would always have my back, would be there when I grew old, yadayada. I look at him most days and wonder how I have stayed for 2 more years. Yes, we have really great times together, we laugh, we support each other in everything and yes, i still look at him with disgust.
When we were dating, we talked about infidelity many times. We also discussed it throughout our marriage. He knew how I felt and I thought I knew how he felt, it was absolute that we would never hurt each other like that...then he did. Do I know why, can we ever really know why. We were busy living life and he was having some difficulty in the bedroom, but I supported him, loved him, and was there no matter what. This went on for several months and when I looked back after dday, this was when his A started.
I see people on here saying things like "for better or worse" and I can't just leave, I took vows....I apologize to them, but that is total bs to me. I promised (and he promised) to love, honor, and be faithful only unto me, then he ripped my heart out, stomped on it, and threw it aside like it was nothing.
Do I love him?? Yes, but (adding that is never a good sigh), but is it enough?? I love the man I married, he would not hurt me like this. I loved what we had, now I struggle each day to find that again.
My son had just turned 5 when we met. I had a horrible first marriage that ended when my son was 9 months old. I chose very poorly. Anyway, I spent the next few years working on myself and understanding why I chose so poorly, what I would and wouldn't do in the future and how important is was to take time as my son deserved only the best. I met my now husband and he was everything I was looking for. We took our time, I needed to know him. We dated for almost 2 years before we married. Those dating years were full of wonderful times and lots of long talks about who we were and what we wanted. I cannot stress enough how important of a topic infidelity was in our discussions. It was the end all deal breaker, there was nothing that could be done to me that would devastate me more....so why am I still here??
My son is in high school now. I have breached the topic every so gently about how he feels. He knows about the A. He was devastated too and he loves his SDad with all his heart. How do I take that away from him?? How do I turn his world upside down?? He's at a pivotal time in his life and I do not want to crush his life, take away his home and all he knows. I have a career, I can take care of him and I, but I could not stay in our home, the only home he's every really known. He is my life.
I am just so confused and really need some perspective on this. I know I need to tell my H what I feel. I know it will crush him and I do love him, but I also know that may not be enough.
[This message edited by dawnmarie at 10:45 AM, October 14th (Friday)]
deanab posted 10/14/2011 11:02 AM
Hello all,
I have recently started coming around to SI again after leaving a couple of years ago. D-day was back in 2007. My WH was physical with some of the OW but didn't have actual sex with any of them (confirmed by polygraph) which was why I justified staying in my mind- because it wasn't actual adultery. But the lying, the deceit, the betrayal of many years broke my heart none the less. He was living a double life (SA).
We did counseling, both MC and IC. We read books, we studied, we searched, we moved cities, we talked, screamed, everything. Today, 4 years later, I am no longer foggy nor confused. I can see clearly now and I see that I tried much harder than he did. He showed true remorse for a couple of months then would turn back into a selfish man. He didn't cope well with any of my emotions. I did do alot of things I'm not proud of such as trying to control his every move but I couldn't cope any other way. I have grown SO much since then which is why I'm sooo happy and relieved today. BUT my heart is still broken because I know deep inside that he hasn't loved me nor presently loves me as he should. I am the one that has carried our marriage the whole time. I'm the one that has begged and pleaded when he's wanted out.
I have done alot of soul searching this past year since moving to the new city and I have come to the conclusion that I deserve better. I am worthy. I'm not perfect but I'm good enough. I can't take scraps anymore. He's been talking about leaving the M since the very beginning and hasn't. The word divorce is thrown out by him every other day/week. SO I've decided to take the reigns and told him enough is enough, he either committs 100% or we end this. He stopped his affairs in 2007, but his heart is still selfish towards me. I cannot live like this anymore. I cannot wait for the other shoe to drop. I cannot have knots in my tummy anymore when I'm around him. I don't know what's going to be the decision but I do know that I will be okay. That is HUGE! I know it will be hard but 2 years ago I thought I couldn't survive without him. I'm now seeing that I cannot not only survive, but that I can succeed. It feels great to have power but of course I'm feeling the motions of the what if's. So I'm in limbo but hopefully for not too long.
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Conservatives Still Cannot Show Liberal Bias At NPR
This is becoming rather comical. The GOP Noise Machine has ginned up a nasty crusade to undermine public radio and get it defunded, but oops! they forgot to form a coherent reason for why the venerable news institution deserves to be undercut.
Last week I noted that Andrew Breitbart had two shots at detailing NPR's supposed sins. But each time Breitbart threw up air balls. First on CNN, and then writing at the Huffington Post. Both times Breitbart failed to point to anything of significance that NPR has done wrong, especially in terms of its coverage of conservatives and the Tea Party movement. And certainly Breitbart failed to point to anything NPR had done that would warrant the kind of bloodless right-wing pursuit that's now on display.
Now, the latest to fail at the mission is Brent Bozell's Newsbusters, an organization that, in theory at least, is supposed to be able document liberal media bias. But when it comes to NPR, Newsbusters' Noel Sheppard seems to concede the organization has no NPR evidence to point to, and instead suggests NPR "should hire an outside, neutral entity that knows what metrics to use to come to a valid conclusion" about the question of bias.
Are you kidding me? The conservative media movement and elements of the Republican Party have made it priority to defund NPR, but it turns out they have no actual proof of its wrongdoing. But if NPR paid for an outside study they might be able to document what NPR does wrong?
Let's face it, if NPR were as blatantly one-sided as conservative haters claim it is critics would instantly be able to point to a dozen or two examples of unfair journalism to back up their claim. Instead, over the last week conservatives haven't been able to point to any examples.


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A couple of years ago, while staring at my magic glow screen, I stumbled upon a cartoonist who was creating experimental poetry by attacking a page of the New York Times with a Sharpie and blacking out all but a few choice words. Little did I know that this magic glow screen was actually called the "internet," and that this multitalented "writer who draws" would soon be launching an entire book of these winsome poems, created by subtraction rather than addition.
Meet Austin Kleon, whose Newspaper Blackout was published this month by Harper Perennial. The technique of "finding" a hidden text within a text is not new, as Austin will tell you, but his approach is. He has liberated it from the left-field manifestos and postmodern posturing which have usually accompanied it, and has created work which is direct and accessible. These poems are as sweet, poignant, evocative, and funny as anything written by the "traditional" method, and definitely worth reading. One might even find them addictive. At Austin's prodding I decided to try one of my own, and then I had the pleasure of talking to him about his book. Here's some of the back-and-forth:
DD: Michelangelo reportedly said that "I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free." What made you first discover the blackout poem?
AK: A nasty case of writer's block. I was twenty-two, right out of undergrad, trying desperately to write short stories. (Short stories are what they teach you to write in college, and so I tried to write them.) I'd sit in front of the computer screen, and the Microsoft Word cursor would just blink and blink and blink. Like it was taunting me.
One day, I looked over at our recycle bin stacked full of newspapers, and I thought, I might not have any words, but right there next to me are millions of them.
So, I picked up a marker, circled a few words, and blacked out the rest. I didn't know what I was doing. (Donald Barthelme said all art comes from "not-knowing.") It just felt good to watch those words disappear. It felt like play, not work.
I didn't know anything about the history of found poetry, which people filled me in on later. I was thinking of John Lennon's FBI file, which I'd seen on The Smoking Gun website: those stark black and white documents with just a few words peeking out from a mask of magic marker.
The play element is apparent and I think it's what makes the poems engaging. What kind of found poetry are you referring to?
Well, after doing a bit of research, I found out people have been finding poetry in the newspaper for over 250 years. The farthest back I can trace it is to a guy named Caleb Whitefoord, a wine merchant, writer, diplomat, and former next-door neighbor to Benjamin Franklin. In the 1760s, he'd read the newspaper across the columns, to come up with all kinds of funny juxtapositions, like, "On Tuesday both Houses of Convocation met : / Books shut, nothing done." He'd read them aloud in the pub, and on occasion have them printed up as broadsheets. In the 1920s, the Dadaist Tristan Tzara cut up a newspaper, tossed it in a hat, and read the words he pulled out to make a poem. Then, in the early 1960s, Brion Gysin and William Burroughs take up the cut-up technique, and it just goes on and on from there…
I guess such long history shouldn't be any big surprise: as Walt Whitman said, "The true poem is the daily paper."
Do you see any similarities with your book and the Dadaists?
I really don't identify with the Dadaists at all. The only thing random about my technique is the article I pick. That's it. Everything else is a process of deliberate choosing. Again, it's the idea of turning this avant garde, random technique into something that's readable. Tzara thought even a random poem would still resemble you, but I don't buy it. For one thing, it's not interesting to me as a reader. Why would I want to read some random gibberish that a guy pulled out of the hat? Now, Burroughs, he thought that the cut-up method could pull you out of your own ego. But frankly, I don't want authors to escape their egos. I go back to my favorite writers to hear their voice, to experience their "best selves" that they've put out in their writing.
Not only is it readable – it's also doable. Anybody can do this, especially those who find themselves overwhelmed when they've got a blank page staring back at them. You're very intentional about this.
I'm not sure if William Burroughs meant it or not, but he said, "Cut-ups are for everyone." At the last Newspaper Blackout event, we had over 50 people of all ages attacking newspapers with a marker like they were mad artists. The intensity in the room was amazing. And even better than that, many of them stood up and read their poems in front of the audience! It's very rare that adults are told that it's okay to play, it's okay to make something. The Oklahoman, a newspaper out of Oklahoma City, they had me judge a blackout poetry contest that they ran, and the winner was an eighty-year-old lady with thirty-three grandchildren! (Watch the winners read their poems.) Her poem gave me goosebumps. I think everybody's got a good poem in them.
My favorites of yours, not surprisingly, are the ones that seem to stumble into an unexpected twist at the end, like "Gasoline." In others, like "Foreclosure," it seems like you sought out a tidy ending: "…a house is not a home." Is there a difference in approach? Which ones were surprising even to you?
It's funny you mention "Foreclosure," because that's my least favorite poem in the whole damned book. My wife liked that one and made me keep it in! (In all fairness to her, she also loved "Gasoline.")
It all comes down to choices. You can choose the word that ties up the poem all nice and neat, or you can choose the word that pushes it in another direction. That's writing: choosing the right word. I figure if the poem surprises me when I'm making it, it'll surprise the reader, too.
I love the poems where the end result is either a complete transformation or a reversal of the original text. For instance: a poem like "His Wife Appears," which was from a review of the great French flick, Tell No One. ("His wife appears / nude in the moonlight / then they have a hot-fudge sundae / and do the twist") Tell No One is a movie about a man who loses his wife. The original text was "Snared in a Dark Labyrinth When His Wife Disappears…they return to swim in the moonlight…they have a minor squabble……Watching it is like gorging on a hot-fudge sundae…The story, which involves murder and depravity in high places, is so elaborately twisty…" So the poem is still about marriage, but it's about my marriage. I made it into what I wanted it to be.
Are you looking for something specific about a text when you set out to do a poem?
I'm just looking for language that I can use. Words that, if I were to sit down and try to write a poem "the traditional way," might come out of my pen. I'm looking for words that are part of my own world. The poems in the book reference small towns, love, marriage, time-travel, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Texas, teenage sex, UFOs, lawn-mowers–all the junk that's up in my head. All the junk that's important to me.
In a funny way, the poems have freed me up to make writing of the stuff that really interests me. Kurt Vonnegut said he wrote best when he sounded "like a person from Indianapolis," which is what he was. I'm a kid from small-town Ohio.
Every art form, including cartooning, is governed by its own internal logic. Are there any identifiable "rules" that you try to follow as you do this?
My #1 rule is: the poem has to be readable. My big idea is to take this weirdo, avant-garde technique, and get poems out of it that people actually want to read. Poems that don't waste anybody's time. So it's very important to me that the structure of the poem is very clear, and that it's very easy for the reader to tell in what order the words are supposed to be read. Practically, this means that I either make sure the words appear in the order that Westerners read, left-to-right, top-to-bottom, or that I use the white space between words to create arrows or little "trails" that indicate the reading order.
Which speaks to a sensibility derived from your comics background. Has this process altered your approach to "traditional" drawing or writing?
Well, I was a huge fan of "subtractive" methods in art before I started making the poems. One of the poems I made reads, "Creativity is subtraction." It isn't just what we choose to leave in, it's what we choose to leave out. (I like the idea so much I made it into a t-shirt.)
What the poems have taught me is that every artist needs constraints. Absolute freedom is the death of creativity. It's when an artist is working within constraints…that's when the really interesting work happens. Saul Steinberg once said to Kurt Vonnegut, "what we respond to in any work of art is the artist's struggle against his or her limitations."
I totally agree. You've got those great Chesterton quotes on your website about how constraints are the essence of artistic freedom. In his autobiography, Chesterton says that the setting of limits is a secret pleasure, a "truth without which the whole modern world is missing its main opportunity." Even though technically there are still thousands of choices to make even among one page of text, there is something truly thrilling and liberating about being limited to this one palette of words. I found that my mind was forced to make connections between things that it wouldn't have ordinarily made, which created fresh ideas. Cartoonists get writers block also, so this was a great model exercise in how to break out of a rut.
I think that's all a "new" idea is: a connection made between two previously existing ideas. Even though there's no cutting and pasting with the blackout poems, it is, essentially, collage. You're taking the words out of their context and making something new with them.
Embracing collage has really changed my whole approach to art-making. Even when I'm just doodling now, I think of all my drawings as a Frankenstein monster of the stuff I love–over here, one of Steinberg's profiles. Over here, a tree like Bruno Munari would draw. Etc. Jack Kirby once said, "If you think a man draws the type of hands that you want to draw, steal 'em. Take those hands." What this means is that you have to constantly be collecting–either keeping a physical/mental/digital scrapbook, or copying the stuff you love into your sketchbooks. The collecting comes first. And then, when you sit down to work, you have all that stuff at your fingertips. I drew a doodle one time called "How To Look At Art Like An Artist." It had two steps: 1) figure out what's worth stealing 2) move on to the next thing.
Speaking of avant-garde, you cite Tom Phillips' 1973 book A Humument, in which the author took a W. H. Mallock novel from 1892 and refashioned it into a new story by giving it the blackout treatment. Instead of using a black marker, he painted images on every single page. What's your take on his approach?
A Humument is amazing. I have nothing but respect for Tom Phillips' work. That said, it's not exactly accessible. I mean, it's pretty far out. If I may be allowed a stretch of a music metaphor, I like to think that A Humument is Sgt. Pepper's and Newspaper Blackout is The Ramones. You listen to Sgt. Pepper's, and you go, "Whoa, this is amazing. Can you imagine the work? I could never do anything like this," and you sit with your headphones on, in awe. You listen to The Ramones, and you go, "Well, dang, this is amazing, but this is just a couple of dudes from the corner. I could do this," and you go out and buy a guitar and start a band. Of course, it's deceptively simple…
I've long appreciated Phillips' book, but I've also felt that the images turn the book into more of an art gallery than a truly cohesive novel.
I think in my work there are several ways of incorporating graphical elements into the poems without detracting from the writing and the overall look. I'm only just starting to explore that idea now. (See: "Open Road" from my blog.)
So, speaking of exploring, what are you currently working on or discovering?
I'm trying to recharge right now. I still work a 9-5 cubicle job, so it's really been a stretch for me to go to work, promote the book, and try to make new work. So now, I'm just banging out a poem here and there, and reading as much as I can. My wife and I have an idea for a graphic novel about art and marriage that we want to collaborate on. We'd write the "script" together, I'd draw it, and she'd do the coloring (she's a painter). Trouble is, we're both so busy: she's getting her PhD in Architecture right now. One of these days. My question is always: is it better to kill yourself cranking out art in the studio or to live a happy life surrounded by family and friends? I want a balance. I'm a fairly healthy 26-year-old guy with not a lot of vices, so I figure if I'm really lucky I've got about 50 or so years left–that's a lot of art that could get made. But I want to enjoy the ride.
Well, the "limits" idea works in art, so it should in life also, right?
It should! It's all a big experiment…