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Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Stupid Jerks
Honestly, I cannot understand you allow this from your kids. As I understand they never get *really* punished for this kind oh horrible behavior???
I come from a family of 4 children and myself I have 3 children. Of course they are sometimes agitated bu when in public, the slightest attempt at misbehaving is *immediately* stopped.
You might want to think about the future character of these children. Obviously they have no limits and they know that they won't be punished, so hey, let's continue.
I've been reading your blog for weeks and obviously you are a smart person, so I am just amazed at this educative laziness. Seems that your children own you, and they know it.
Publish Reject (Anonymous) 4:01 AM
Well "anonymous",
First off, have the balls to use your actual name, you judgmental idiot. "As I understand they never get *really* punished..."
"As you understand"? "As you understand"? Clearly, you don't understand much of anything. You only know what I choose to share on my blog. Period. To take that minute amount of information and draw the conclusion that I never punish my kids, is completely ignorant.
Calling me lazy is the most absurd insult I've ever received. Come spend a day in my shoes and see how "lazy" you feel.
I should be concerned about the future character of my children? Well, I'll tell you right now, THEY wouldn't ever write a nasty comment to a stranger for no reason other than to be mean.
@@ I just have to roll my eyes at you and anyone else who feels the need to tell me how to raise my kids, or tell me what I'm doing wrong. I didn't ask for your advice. I know I'm not perfect. I don't pretend to be. I'm an ordinary mom doing my best to hold it all together while raising my family.
I don't put parts of my life out here for ignorant, self-righteous jerks like yourself to condemn me. I share what I share to help other NORMAL people feel a little better; to let other people know that they're not alone. And I share because I have the most awesome readers (not including you) in the world! My readers (except you) make me feel better and let me know that I'm not alone either.
No, everyone does not have to agree with everything I write. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But if you have nothing nice to say, then keep your mouth shut.
OK, I'm done now. I feel better. Now, back to your regularly scheduled humor.
228 comments:
1 – 200 of 228 Newer› Newest»- Minnie said...
Good for you!
I love your blog, and admit I'm tired just thinking about what you have to get done in a day.
What a crock! - August 20, 2008 at 3:12 PM
Atta girl, Dawn! :) Thanks for the rant. Mind if I copy it for my own use on people who judge my parenting?
Keep up the great work and just remember that her kids will grow up to be psychopaths. - August 20, 2008 at 3:14 PM
- Heather's Haven said...
((((HUGS))))) Dawn. God love ya! Guess "anonymous" has never heard, "don't judge, lest ye be judged". And may I say, you're a far nicer venter than I would have been. We can't all be robots. :) Hope you feel better!
- August 20, 2008 at 3:15 PM
- swissjordanmom said...
You do help us regular moms out here! Just yesterday, it was gorgeous outside, but due to moving into our house 1 mo. ago, my husband traveling to Europe for 3 weeks and then going to my MIL for family reunion 17 hour drive away.... I opted to stay inside, watch cartoons and not change my kids out of their pjs, despite the perfect weather. It was a "WWDD" moment. Thanks for the laughs, we out here in the real world of parenting appreciate it!
- August 20, 2008 at 3:15 PM
- Renee said...
/applaud. Dawn, I'm speechless as I couldn't have said it better myself. Some people feel like a blog includes everything about your life. They tend to forget that a blog is only a small part of someone's life. I've had people judge me by what they see on my blog as well so I felt all of your comments as much as anybody could. I know everybody is going to say don't let them get you down and how awesome you are...guess I'll have to say it again :) You have six young kids. You're doing a great job. Keep doing what you do :)
- August 20, 2008 at 3:19 PM
- MayberryMom said...
Don't let people get to you Dawn. How can anyone really know how you parent from snippets on a blog?
The other day my son let out a loud noise at Wal-Mart. He's 6~he knows better, but *shrugs* what can ya do. This woman that was right by us says "Jes** Chr***!" and shakes her head. Okay, I know it was annoying, but really, do you have to cuss basically at my kid?! UGH.
I actually feel sorry for annonymous's kids, they must be miserable little creatures. - August 20, 2008 at 3:20 PM
BRAVO to you Dawn!!
- August 20, 2008 at 3:23 PM
- Mrs Rad Wag said...
Good for you, Dawn. I love your blog and have no patience for anonymous, rude postings. I'm glad that you reject their publication. And I'm REALLY glad that you don't take it personally and keep on blogging!
- August 20, 2008 at 3:26 PM
- Coma Girl said...
I read your blog religiously and LOVE it!
I hate when I get nasty comments, it can really ruin my day.
I think you're hysterical and a great mom and any mom who says they're kids never act like that in public is lying!
And everytime you describe Brooklyn, it sounds like you're talking about my 2 year old. They could be tantrum buddies. - August 20, 2008 at 3:33 PM
Good for you Dawn. I hope you feel better. Kind of makes me want to find 'anonymous' and follow her around, judging all her parenting! Gosh, wouldn't that be fun.
Annette in BC - August 20, 2008 at 3:40 PM
- Marjorie said...
I so know what it feels like to have to deal with your kids misbehaving in public. I have four with one on the way. I know what it feels like to see people stare at you with those judgemental looks. And you know they ARE judging you. Forget them and that idiot's comment.
You want to know what is the first thing that goes through my mind when I see/hear a child having a fit in public? It's, "poor mom". Not "bad mom" or "negligent mom" but "poor mom" Because I too have dealt with my share of temper tantrums. I too know sometimes there is nothing you can do to stop the flow of screams and tears. Forget what other people think. They have NO IDEA what you go through if they can say those things. - August 20, 2008 at 3:41 PM
I'm sorry that some people aren't able to see the humor in dealing with children. I have enjoyed your blog for a while now and like to hear that other children act out just like my two. (Notice I said only TWO!) Please keep posting like you have and ignore the self-rightousness of "the perfect people".
- August 20, 2008 at 3:43 PM
- Patricia said...
You GO GIRL! I'm behind you 100% on your reply to the rude comment left for you. Our blogs are meant to share with family, friends, and to help others with ideas they may not have thought of.
I could not imagine raising 6 kids (let alone giving BIRTH to 6 of 'em)! Your kids are looking pretty good from where I am sitting. You are right that someone should not take one post, or series of posts and come to conclusions based solely on that.
I have a child that makes everyone to not want kids. I have heard more comments about my abilities as a mother...but who of them knows that he has Asperger's Syndrome, an Anxiety disorder, oppositional defiant disorder and developmental delays on top of that? Or that the few minutes they see in public is NOTHING compared to the 15 years we have struggled with at home? Or that we have cancelled xmas for ever because we can't find a way to celebrate it without him advertently ruining it for all of us. They can't know the number of specialists we've seen; the doctors, phychologists, shrinks, developmental experts, neurologists, social workers.... or know the life we have to life in order to bring him up successfully ~ as determined by society.
No one can knows the tears we've all cried over the years, the hurts he has endured because of the cruelty of others. I try to write my blog with humour and to lighten the day as much as possible to bring relief into my life. I suggest that ANYONE walk a mile in someone else's shoes before they think they have any business in judging another.
It's great you have the guts to get out there and write back what the rest of us are thinking!! (although I tend to foam at the mouth and make smart remarks back... hee hee.) - August 20, 2008 at 3:45 PM
AMEN to that Dawn. Wow, you said it perfectly. That's too bad other people feel the need to spew their anger when it was not solicited. Anonymous probably lives an unhappy and sad life. I appreciate you and all you do to share with the world your life the way you want us to see it. Please don't ever let the haters win. - Mel in Utah
- August 20, 2008 at 3:46 PM
- Gem said...
Because the only way to discipline your kids to behave in public is to beat the crap outa them, ya know?!
Yeah, that too.
You go mama!!! - August 20, 2008 at 3:48 PM
Amen Sista! You crack me up, even when you're pissed!
Oh, and I'm not leaving my name, because I have no balls! Ha ha! ;-) - August 20, 2008 at 3:57 PM
Amen! You tell 'em, Dawn!
Sandy - August 20, 2008 at 3:59 PM
- vtbyers said...
Mean people suck.
Sorry you had to receive that comment, but obviously that person may have been raised with strict, judgmental discipline, but never with politeness, tact, compassion, or the intelligence to know that the slices of life that you share with us do not make up a whole picture. And frankly, your kids didn't sound like they were being that "bad" to me (annoying to you, maybe, but not what I consider "bad". They are kids, for goodness' sakes!). - August 20, 2008 at 4:00 PM
- Gretchen said...
KUDOS TO YOU DAWN! Hope her kids aren't self-rightteous and sanctimonious like their mother.
- August 20, 2008 at 4:02 PM
- DeeDee said...
Amen sister!!!!
- August 20, 2008 at 4:03 PM
- Jaimie said...
You tell em Dawn!!!
- August 20, 2008 at 4:04 PM
People can be so dang judgmental. What I'd really like to do is put them in your life for a day. Video Camera included in the equation, of course. ;)
Don't listen to people like her. She knows absolutely nothing about you that justifies that kind of sarcastic, condescending comment. People like her clearly aren't as perfect as they'd like to think, and so they project it onto others.
You are awesome, and so are your children, and so is your blog. Hugs! And Chocolate! =)
--Nadia K. - August 20, 2008 at 4:06 PM
- kimikki said...
Thank you, Dawn! You have the sisu to stand up to those who would see you throw down your toy and run off, crying. I read your blog as often as I can, and I really get a kick out of it! Some of it seems so familiar, having grown up in a family of eight.
Keep doing what you're doing, and don't let the idiots get you down. Thanks for the laughs!!! - August 20, 2008 at 4:10 PM
- Allison said...
Ugh! Good for you Dawn on standing up for yourself. Often you put yourself out there and you get these nasty comments. You're absolutely right, do unto others as you want them to do unto you. You are awesome!! I tell EVERYONE about your blog (thus getting them hooked too!) I have pre-ordered your book (in April) and will most definitely be eager to read it when it comes out next summer.
Stay strong, you're an inspiration!! - August 20, 2008 at 4:10 PM
- Unknown said...
I think you are delightful, real, funny and if I lived in your general area of the country, I would want to hang out. I appreciate the straightforward, honest way in which you write. I also love the humor you find in everyday life. I am sure my 5 year old, 3 year old and on the way child would love the fun and chaos a large family invariably provides.
Please do not let those who condemn and criticize you get you down. The rest of us look forward to the way you make us smile and laugh each day.
Thank you for sharing glimpses of your life with us. - August 20, 2008 at 4:15 PM
Remember when you were twenty still knew everything and knew for sure "my children will never so anything like that!"? Well, honey, thank God we grew up since then. Problem is - some people never do (grow up, that is) so they compensate for their lack of maturity by correcting the rest of the world. It makes them feel superior.
Ain'cha glad your above all that? Hang in there sweetie and keep writing and putting smiles on all the faces that count.;) - August 20, 2008 at 4:15 PM
- NellsJack said...
You are so right on! Awhile back I was in a department store looking at lawn furniture. Well my 3 year old was testing out every single lawn chair there was and just happened to cross infront of this women pushing a cart. As I grabbed my kid to prevent this Amazonian from running her over I heard the lady say in the nastiest tone "CONTROL YOUR KID LADY!" .... WTF my daughter is 3yrs old & by my standards was actually behaving quite well. I just thought to myself..."What'd she expect me to do...spank my kid right there in aisle 5 for running out in front of her??!!"....
- August 20, 2008 at 4:21 PM
BRAVO BRAVO!!!!!!!!!You my dear sweet Dawn took the words totally out of my mouth. I seriously have been in your shoes and I swear to God there are times I could easily strangle my 2 youngest. Normally the youngest is the best its my 5 year old that drives me to want to drink. There is never a worse feeling than having your child misbehave and want to shrink and disappear. Thank you for telling us your stories of your own kids adventures because it reminds us other BAD mothers that its ok. I would lie to find that oh so perfect mother and have my kid kick him or her in the shin.
- August 20, 2008 at 4:29 PM
- a li'l bit squishy said...
mean people suck!
- August 20, 2008 at 4:29 PM
You GO, Dawn!
- August 20, 2008 at 4:31 PM
- vande2 said...
Wow! It still amazes me that complete strangers have the nerve to leave comments like this. One will write things she will not say out loud, it seems. Most families have days like yours, and it's completely normal for kids to test their limits and push every button they can, especially if they think you won't punish them in front of others. Brush off this ignorance and get back to doing what you do best, you MOM, you. :)
- August 20, 2008 at 4:36 PM
- rachel said...
grrr. i think i know the person who left that comment... only because i've been on the receiving end of crap like that before. yes, some people are judgmental. other people are judgmental and rude. just let it roll off. honestly, i get scared when i see kids who don't have the freedom to express their impulses - they're children, hello?! or parents who brag about their own children's behavior. kind of makes me wonder what kind of 'punishment' is going on at home that causes their kids to be so compliant. there's a whole school of thought out there that wants nothing more than compliance out of children - something educators and child development experts have been learning about (and subsequently fighting) for years. no, there's no one right way to raise kids, but one of the best ways to ensure rebellion or maladjustment in adults or adolesents is with this authoritarian 'punishment' crap this person is apparently advocating. from what you share about austin and savannah, it appears that they're not turning out too badly... the episode you described involved YOUNG children. one a toddler and one a preschooler. God knows my kids act like this sometimes - even ::gasp:: in public. young kids do this. duh! if this person has 3 kids of his/her own, i would think he/she would have some experience with this phenomenon. again, grrr.
- August 20, 2008 at 4:38 PM
HOOORAY!! You go get 'em girl!!! "I" for one LOOOVE your blog! Dawn, you have the best sense of humor!!! With "ONLY" 3 girls of my own, I can only fathom what it is like with 6! So Kudos to you!! I am a firm believer in a couple swats on the behind (not everyone agrees), but public humiliation ("discipline" per anon.) is not a good tool either! SOME people are clueless!!! Anon. Probably has a nanny or Au Pare...
- August 20, 2008 at 4:45 PM
*eyeroll* Ignorant people who think they know everything are the worst! I love reading your harrowing tales of going out in public. As I see it, you write this blog to entertain us, not to educate us on your parenting doctrines. Keep it up! 99% of us absolutely love and support you! *hugs*
- August 20, 2008 at 4:46 PM
Great response!
- August 20, 2008 at 4:47 PM
- Lucrecia said...
I love anonymous commenters - talk about chicken little.
Lazy huh? Wouldn't the lazy mom be the one who couldn't be bothered to leave the house, much less document thier lives? - August 20, 2008 at 4:51 PM
Ugh, honestly do people have nothing better to do? As I understand (LOL) you do a fantastic job with your kids. The way you write about your family with such love and humour has enabled me to also begin to see the funny side in the most infuriating situations. You keep me sane, Dawn. I love your blog. Don't let people like Anonymous get you down.
- August 20, 2008 at 4:53 PM
You go girl!!! - August 20, 2008 at 4:53 PM
- trishia said...
what a jerk. Dawn, as I understand it you are an awesome mama! From one mom of a large family to another- your kids will be all the better for these moments. Think of all the "remember whens" you will have to share at holiday dinners! :) As for punishment, I am sure if you shared what the punishment was there would be those out there telling you how mean you are to them... you just can't please some people. Forget them. You Are Wonderful!
- August 20, 2008 at 4:55 PM
*clapclapclap* Great job Dawn! *hugs*
- August 20, 2008 at 4:56 PM
- Michelle said...
- August 20, 2008 at 5:02 PM
- Figaro said...
Wow! I cannot believe someone would post such a comment like that! It must be so nice for that person who must have perfect kids in her perfect little life to be so judgemental of someone she has never met in real life!
- August 20, 2008 at 5:02 PM
- janetcc said...
self-righteous b*tch. You tell 'er Dawn. Geez, no wonder her kids are angels, if she treats perfect strangers that way can you imagine how she treats those near and dear?
- August 20, 2008 at 5:04 PM
I am a mother of 2 boys, My children act exactly the same as your children, they run around stores, slide on the floor, dont always use inside voices, spill things, cut things, draw on things, fight, break things,Dont listen, and as are yours they are NORMAL KIDS! Nobody has the right to make rude comments such as that posted, and obviously they didnt listen to their mother when she said "if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say nothing at all". I dont know you personally, but from what i have read I think you are doing a great job, keep up the good work!
- August 20, 2008 at 5:04 PM
- Cookie said...
Wow! I think this lady was present when my 4 year old threw a tantrum at swimming lessons a while ago. I'm pretty sure she was the mom smirking on the bench while I wanted to hide under a rock and cry!
Hugs! You're not alone, Dawn!
-The other Dawn - August 20, 2008 at 5:05 PM
Good for you, Dawn! The heck with "anonymous" ... what does s/he know? I for one would just like to THANK YOU for your blog. For taking the time to share your gifts with us. Bless you and yours.
(O.k., o.k., so this will be posted from me as "anonymous" -- as I'm not set up with a google/blogger username, or have a URL or whatever. I'm a "good" anonymous though ;-) == Marie from WI) - August 20, 2008 at 5:05 PM
She's worried about the character of YOUR kids? Has she been paying attention? Oh wait, she's relatively late to the game and is now an expert on how Dawn lives her life. So her comment is perfectly justified (I know you get sarcasm!).
Let's see...Savannah wanted to donate her own money to the Make a Wish foundation, Lexi risked her own safety to save Clay from getting hurt, Austin cleverly rigged a device to help Brooklyn sleep more comfortably in the car on the way home from the zoo, the entire family is helping Jackson with his Feingold diet...need I go on?
Her entire comment seems to have the subtext that she, herself, beats her kids into submission / fear and that's the only way she can see for anyone to discipline their children. Way to go, lady. Let us know how THAT turns out when your kids are in therapy as adults and have cut you off for sucking the life out of them (and then you get to look on in horror as they do the same thing to your grandchildren). Sorry, was that a bit harsh? Did I jump to wrong conclusions just from what you wrote on a blog? How rude of me. At least I'll sign my name...
~Laura - August 20, 2008 at 5:07 PM
AMEN!!! What is it with people thinking they know best how to raise your children, when YOU'RE the one doing it??? If it's so easy, then be my guest! I could use a vacation! You're doing a wonderful job I'm sure, and you simply choose to leave some of your private life to yourself, and there's nothing wrong with that. We're all human, and kids are wired to act like rabid chimpanzees every now and then. I'd hate to meet a child that was so robotic and lifeless for fear of misbehavior. I bet that reader was a perfect angel as a child and never tested her parents either.
- August 20, 2008 at 5:09 PM
- Alexis AKA MOM said...
Wow is all I can say, well actually no that is just the first word that comes to mind! What is wrong with people these days. They only see a little piece of what goes on in our day. Usually we blog just to have a release and a little comic relief for ourselves and our readers. This is not a camera into our life and EVERYTHING that goes on. The lazy person is the person who makes comments and snap decission with out taking a walk in our shoes. I'm so glad that her kids are perfect, I would really love to see that! You go Dawn as a mom blogger I know that this is just a snip it of your life. The stories are to make us laugh and also it helps as moms know that we are not alone.
Again Wow .... Alexis - August 20, 2008 at 5:12 PM
You tell 'em, Dawn! I think you do a wonderful job, both as a mother, and as a blogger! You keep me ROFLMAO! I LOVE reading your blog! So keep ignoring the "idiots" of the world and keep doing what you do!!
- August 20, 2008 at 5:13 PM
- bunchkin said...
I have 5 kids. Maybe others dont, but I know what you go through every day. Seems to me youre doing an awesome job. Taking that many kids anywhere is an adventure, and inevitably one of them is going to have a meltdown. How you handle it and manage to stay calm is whats important, not the fact that they are tired and cranky, which is normal kid stuff. What do these people expect, little robots? Not that i would mind a BEHAVE button to push every once in a while.....
- August 20, 2008 at 5:16 PM
- Unknown said...
I think you are a great mother! You do make me feel better about my life as a mom. My kids act up in public all the time and they are discplined, but kids are kids...they still act up. That person apparently is not very smart, thinking you would only write EVERY SINGLE DETAIL that occurs in your life. Of course you didn't write whatever discpline ensues. It would take too much of our valuable time to read it, and most importantly, YOURS- to write it! Keep up the good work! My quality of life is higher because of you!
- August 20, 2008 at 5:19 PM
Way to go Dawn! I personally think that you are a great mom and that you already give us all plenty of proof to say that you do punish your kids. I have been reading your blog since the whole pokemon card auction.
- August 20, 2008 at 5:20 PM
Get em' girl! My mom raised 5 of us and now, me only having one, can definitely understand where all the gray hair came from.
Stupid people suck - August 20, 2008 at 5:20 PM
Just want to say "WE LOVE YOU, DAWN!!"
I'm so sorry that some people feel the need to criticize. How in the world can they say such things when they don't even know you!
I've been reading your blog for a few months, and the last thing I would do is criticize. I think you are pretty amazing! You are raising 6 amazing kiddos! They are all alive, happy, and healthy. You have taught them so many things like how important faith is in their lives, to be kind and compassionate with others, and to love each other.
Dawn, you are doing a great job! And, for this person's comment on how you don't disciple your kids...how ridiculous! What, does she want to hear about every time-out or every grounding or every time someone gets worse punishment? Geez! I discipline my kids when needed (and lately, pretty often), but I would never write about it on a blog! I would feel like that would violate my kids a bit, ya know?
Anyway, keep up the great work! I love reading your blog! You always make me laugh, and I always feel better about my job as a Mom!
p.s. Did you ever make it to Sonic? My neighbor and I tried to go with the kids today for lunch, but it was a 40 minute wait just to get to the spot to order our food. We decided to wait until it calms down a bit! :-)
Cherisse - August 20, 2008 at 5:23 PM
You go girl!!
- August 20, 2008 at 5:25 PM
VERY well said!! Why do people feel it necessary to be rude? Would that person like to be judged? I think not. We do not know every single detail of your life, we only get a glimpse. I love your blog and I read it daily, and I applaud you as a mother! Take care, and ignore the ignorance...and, as I love to say..."You can't fix Stupid"!
- August 20, 2008 at 5:33 PM
- Meegan @ The Harvey Circus said...
**Doing my best cheerleader impression**
Goooooooooooo Dawn!!!!!
What more do I need to say really?! - August 20, 2008 at 5:35 PM
- Momma03 said...
Let me tell you...You are awesome!! The reason I love this blog is because it makes me feel good knowing that I am not alone and that there are other mothers out there like me with kids as crazy :) as mine (and I only have 3)!!!! When I read what you have written I often feel your joy and your sadness as it relates to me and my life. I do realize that what you write is a small part of life with your family. We don't need to know everything, I'm glad for the things that we do know!
Thank you for sharing the things that you do share with us...I love your blog and think its a shame that others can't see value in everything that you write.
Dawn...Thanks again....Have a great day!!! - August 20, 2008 at 5:36 PM
I knew it was only a matter of time before someone made a comment about your 5 minutes at the salon. All I can say is that as a mom of 2, I don't know how you do it. Let alone put it out there for other people to read about, and throw their 2 cents in. Of course kids will always misbehave at times. Any mom who claims her kids are perfect is beyond me. If your kids were so perfect, people wouldn't be interested in your blog at all. The humor lies in your busy kids and the messes they get themselves into. So keep up the good work, and let those insults roll off the back.
- August 20, 2008 at 5:36 PM
- The Gang's Momma! said...
Good for you! What mom hasn't been in your shoes, with a tantruming toddler? Or, in some of our cases, a tantruming elementary school student? Kids lose it, kids forget their manners, kids learn by their mistakes. Even the ones they make every.single.day.over.and.over. . .
Come on, Anonymous, think bigger than your immediate, knee-jerk reaction to what you are reading. If she was truly lazy and unconcerned with the character of her children, she would have buried her face in a magazine and stayed at the salon, letting her kids terrorize the other customers. - August 20, 2008 at 5:37 PM
Gaaah, what a perfect idiot! Good put-down!
- August 20, 2008 at 5:42 PM
- Alana said...
Long time reader, but I think this may be the first I've posted. YOU GO, GIRL! Good for you! I am new to the blogging world as a writer and one of the most important things for me personally is that it is MY blog.
I love that you defended yourself. And I appreciate what you said---it is SO true. No one knows all that occurs in our homes, only the bits and snippets we share on our blogs.
Keep your chin up! I for one think you are doing a fine job. :) - August 20, 2008 at 5:54 PM
- You May Be A Bariatric Patient If said...
Well said!!! I am the oldest of 4 and have 3 children and you know what? Kids aren't perfect, they weren't meant to be perfect they were meant to be KIDS. You actually allow that to happen, I know that reader must be in shock and taking huge gasps that believe it or not parents allow their kids to be kids and Yes WITH discipline. So don't let that one idiot get you down, you're an awesome mom. The behavior that you're kids exhibit at times means they are secure enough to be themselves. While frustrating for you I'm sure they know you still love them. When my youngest was 3 years old he screamed all through Walmart "help help, you're not my mom," threw himself on the floor all because I refused to by him a truck he wanted. Does that mean I'm a horrible mom because the best I could do at the time was wrangle him back into the cart and leave the store while trying to draw the minimal amount of attention to the situation. Also this idiot should take into consideration that they didn't see the whole scene play out, like what happened when you were alone with your kids and how you dealt with it on YOUR terms.
Anyhow for what it's worth you're an awesome mom and really know how to make me laugh when I'm having a tough day. I enjoy your stories and how I can look at back at my boys at those ages and relate to some of the experiences you share. Keep up the awesome work. You go girl.
Kristin - California - August 20, 2008 at 5:56 PM
wow. First off I am totally excited to be your First comment on this post!!
Second!... What the kind of crap is this "no name" talking about! It's a freaking Blog! Yea... Your gonna post about ALL the mean things you do to your kids on here... As a mom I know I keep that stuff to myself {wink Wink}
Apparently This person is PERFECT and has PERFECT kids!! Great.. maybe "they" can write a blog about it!
I think you do a fine job.. You spend TOns of time with your kids which is more than I can say I do.. Being a working Mom.
Ignore Stupid people like that! - August 20, 2008 at 6:07 PM
- LaLa said...
Hey Dawn, amidst the bitterness I had to post! Screw that guy by the by.
I just found out yesterday I am pregnant, first child, and was not expecting it. I wanted kids "eventually", and while I always thought I'd be excited, dancing, and farting rainbows.. I am terrified and feeling sad. Do those kind of feelings go away? - August 20, 2008 at 6:08 PM
You tell her Dawn!!!
You are ABSOLUTELY right!!!!
Colleen Ohler
St Helens Oregon - August 20, 2008 at 6:09 PM
- Erin said...
Dawn - I've been reading your blog for almost a year; you are an AMAZING mom! I seriously doubt "anonymous" has perfect children under perfect control at all times.
Was she commenting on the haircut episode? I can't imagine what you could have done differently. I remember leaving shops when my son was 2 because of tantrums. You can't reason with a child in tantrum-mode. And if Clay wasn't testing his boundaries, he wouldn't be meeting all of his developmental milestones.
You hang in there! Your humourous stories always make my day!
:) Erin in Vancouver, Canada - August 20, 2008 at 6:11 PM
- Allison Hill said...
Exactly!!! You tell 'em!
It's people like that that don't understand the value of the occasional "Happy Meal for peace and quiet" trade off, without which I would wither and die. - August 20, 2008 at 6:22 PM
- krystina said...
How could they?! They don't know what goes on behind your blogging door, neither should they! People like that wouldn't be satisfied even if you told them how you punish your kids, they'd find a reason to criticize you.
On a happier note, my days go a whole lot better when I realize that you've blogged! - August 20, 2008 at 6:27 PM
Good 4 u!
- August 20, 2008 at 6:30 PM
- Kyddryn said...
Aww, sugar...nolite les bastardes carborudorum (don't let the...erm...buggers...get you down). People are an odd lot, and there's always someone who thinks they can do it better, faster, stronger, or smarter.
Honestly, I only have the ONE Evil Genius, and he's a handful sometimes...I've had to walk out of restaurants without eating, leave the grocery store empty-handed, and leave parties and social events before they were over when he just couldn't pull himself together - because he's a child, and they have their moments.
People who leave smug, self-satisfied comments like that are likely the same sort who will stare at a struggling mother whose child is having a tantrum in the store rather than offer to help her finish her shopping or make her exit.
Thanks for putting yourself out here on the Internet for the rest of us normal mums.
Shaded and Sweetwater,
K - August 20, 2008 at 6:36 PM
- Unknown said...
There is always ALWAYS someone who thinks they can do better. 'Oh you let yours have a dummy/suck their thumb/play in the dirt did you?' as they're looking down their noses at you. Who gives a fig what you think? It's always easlier to look in on someone's life and assume you can do better. I could probably look in on theirs and tell them the best way to get ahead in life is to take that broom handle from up their a***.
- August 20, 2008 at 6:37 PM
- Drama Queen said...
Hey "anonymous":
Speaking of bad parenting, didn't your mother/sister/aunt/grandmother ever teach you that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!? Jerk!
Keep up the good work. Your kids are great and you're an awesome mom!! - August 20, 2008 at 6:39 PM
I've read your blog almost since its inception but I've never commented. I guess I figure that you get so many comments each day it must be nearly impossible to read them all. I feel I have to now, though, as I'm appalled at the comment you received (and I don't see any comments yet). I've seen in other places online that people automatically jump to assumptions (usually incorrect) based on whatever small (and often incomplete) information someone decides to share about their own life. Just like your anonymous commenter (who can't even post their name...).
I also think that people will say things online, under the cloak of anonymity, that they wouldn't say in person because there's a certain detachment there.
So, ignore the nastiness. I enjoy your blog very much; I only have one child (so far) but oh even with just one there are certain days that I need the humor you provide to remind myself that I'm not the only one experiencing these things. - August 20, 2008 at 6:39 PM
- Heather H said...
Grrr, what a mean person to say that to you.
- August 20, 2008 at 6:40 PM
Dawn, Any idiot would know that you do not air all of the "dirty linen" in your blog. Does Anon. share all her dirty linen with the world? I bet she chooses what she tells about her family too. After reading about the garage door incident, I was quite taken by the fact that your kids care so much for each other that they would put their lives in danger for each other. Keep up the good work mom!! BTW, my kids are grown and gone, but reading about your family is like reliving my mommy days. Been there, done that (but only with 2).
Get the rant out of your system and thank the gods that school starts soon.
P.S. take care of your foot so you can keep up with your kiddos. - August 20, 2008 at 6:40 PM
- Holly C. said...
- August 20, 2008 at 6:43 PM
Wow, Some people are just stupid. I'm a mom of 6 and there are just some times that you do just slack on the discipline thing, because you have too many things to think about. But I don't understand where this criticism comes from. I just know that, what ever I do, my third daughter is going to come home on a motorcycle with a tattooed, pierced long haired hippy guy, smoking a cig, and I will just smile and wave. I love reading your posts. You are more patient than I!
Becky (O'Fallon, MO) I'm only anonymous because I don't know how to use this! - August 20, 2008 at 6:47 PM
So... wow.
It's amazing to me how people think they have someone all figured out by the tiny details they read about someone on the internet.
I actually have a disclaimer on my blog that states: "This blog is a very small glimpse into my life and/or the life of my family. Please do not assume you know everything there is to know about me or my family simply because you read this blog on a regular basis. ~Thank you!"
If you took the kids home without a haircut (I guessed that's what you did from what you wrote, but I could be wrong) that IS a punishment. If they didn't get suckers, again, that's a punishment. So the comment that reader left is clearly clueless.
Don't let the mean people get to you. - August 20, 2008 at 6:50 PM
amen! you go dawn!!!
franzi - August 20, 2008 at 6:56 PM
- Diane B said...
OK, I just have to say: ROCK ON SISTER!!!!! I had to pick my jaw up off of the floor when you called out he/she/anonymous with "Have the balls"; good for you!!!
It is Just.So.Easy to pick apart and arm chair parent other people's kids. As for the future of your kids? I have a really good feeling they will be thankful their mom has a sense of humor, supported them as individuals and taught them to not sweat the small stuff.
Mean people suck. They can cause us to stumble on our path and doubt ourselves.
I, for one, appreciate that you put yourself out there (despite critics) to bring humor to the masses. Despite the negative-nellys, you are appreciated.
On the flip side, if you did disclose any punishment you would open up a HUMONGOUS can of worms as to "time out vs spanking", blah, blah, blah, blah and it doesn't seem like that's the purpose of your site.
Keep on keepin on.....
Diane-not-afraid-to-list-my-name-Bishop - August 20, 2008 at 6:59 PM
- Sunny said...
I love your blog because you keep it real.Some people actually think they know it all I guess.
- August 20, 2008 at 6:59 PM
Some people are so rude!! Don't pay any attention to them. From what I read, you're doing a great job with your kids. Only people who can't control their own kids and aren't happy with their lives make comments like that about others.
- August 20, 2008 at 7:00 PM
- Mrs. Carney said...
I laughed at your haircut post because my kids would (and do!) the exact same types of things. It is so frustrating, embarassing, tiring, etc. and is only made worse when these types of behaviors manifest themselves in public. When my husband heard me laughing, he asked me why. I read him a brief summary and he whole-heartedly agreed you were describing our children.
Apparently "annonymous" never leaves the house with his/her children- or the children are grown now with kids of their own!
Thanks for the story as it is comforting to know mine aren't the only ones who act like *gasp* KIDS! - August 20, 2008 at 7:12 PM
- Aubrey said...
People are unbelievable.
I think you rock. - August 20, 2008 at 7:15 PM
- Unknown said...
*hugs* Although thats a little too familiar since I don't really know you. But you seem like you need it.
- August 20, 2008 at 7:20 PM
- Joslin @ Just Batty said...
Okay, sorry but this person's rude post really got my blood boiling (if you know what I mean). I REALLY don't like when poeple try to tell me, or anyone else, how to be the perfect parent! Especially when she is clearly indicating that punishment should be the only choice. What about praise and rewards for doing things well? What about natural consequences (like Brooklyn having to leave the salon without a sucker in tow)? And, beleive it or not, using positive reinforcement and extinction (ignoring unacceptable behavior) can completely eliminate a behavior from ANY person's daily routine. It's documented here http://seab.envmed.rochester.edu/jaba/articles/1998/jaba-31-03-0475.pdf and here http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0966852834/ref=sib_dp_pt#reader-link (and many other places I'm sure)and used all the time!! Who does this "anonymous" think he/she is? Dr. Phil?
- August 20, 2008 at 7:22 PM
- Christine the Soccer Mom said...
*sigh* As if your entire life is here.
Come on, the blog wouldn't be nearly as funny and entertaining if you just chronicled all the times you tie them up and lock them in the closet! Then again, maybe it would be entertaining --- herding cats, anyone?
(For those who might not understand, that last comment was sarcasm. It means that I do not lock my kids in a closet, advocate others to do so, or even think Dawn does it.)
Dawn, don't let them get you down. It's not hard to imagine that this is a tiny slice of your life, and it only takes a momentary thought to get that. - August 20, 2008 at 7:30 PM
- Veggiemomof2 said...
You cannot please everyone, so don't worry! If you'd have posted about their punishment, I'm sure someone would have judged you as too strict & someone else would say you were too lenient.
I fear any parent who says they have control over their toddler anyway :P - August 20, 2008 at 7:30 PM
I hate stupid people
- August 20, 2008 at 7:32 PM
- Cat said...
Bravo Dawn! Well Said!
- August 20, 2008 at 7:32 PM
Some people need to get a life. If it bothers "Anonymous" so much to read about your family's NORMAL escapades, then they should really stop wasting their time! Geesh! Don't let the idiots get you down, Dawn!
- August 20, 2008 at 7:34 PM
Forget this person, they must have perfect kids. Everyone who has kids will go through this. This person would be the first one to call the cops if you spanked one. I have a daughter who has downsyndrome and she will scream throw things on the floor take of her shoes and do all kinds of things. My others will try to make a game of how long it takes till I blow. You are a great mom. Wish I were more like you. I just take it day by day. A few years ago a lady called the cops on me at her store becouse my little on would not wear her shoes. So I figures fine, it is cold out, she is not walking I will take her to the car. I meet the cop outside he wants to see her shoes, why she is not wearing them. Give me a brake people nothing is perfect kids always go nuts. Kids are people not trained dogs!
- August 20, 2008 at 7:37 PM
- Erin said...
Dawn, do NOT feel bad - I have one child (who has ADHD) and she is medicated and she is still a really tough kid to parent. I don't know how you do it! You also share more about your kids' misbehavior than any other blog I read. I think most people want everyone to think they are super mom rather than blogging about the awful days that you are happy to see come to an end. Don't let "anonymous" get you down!
- August 20, 2008 at 7:40 PM
- Elizabeth said...
Oh, it irritates me to no end when people have to play the 'I'm a better parent than you' game!
I love reading your blog and I think your kids are great-just normal everyday active kids who act like normal everyday active kids should-which sometimes means getting into a little trouble here and there. - August 20, 2008 at 7:41 PM
Just a question for your annon poster, ARE YOUR CHILDREN AFRAID OF YOU? Do you threaten them and act on, beatings behind closed doors if they don't act proper and prim in front of you? Do YOU know how your children are when your not looking? Nine times out of ten those children, such as yours, are the ones who repress, fear, and anger are the ones that end up on the wrong side of the fence in their teen years. Only because FEAR of their parent prevents them from talking to their parents.
So, before you go knocking someone else, and trying to degrade them, look toward the type of parent YOU are first. Just because a peach looks like a peach, acts like a peach in the present of others and YOU, does not mean it's as sweet as a peach should be. - August 20, 2008 at 7:44 PM
Sorry to hear that there are actually rude folks who feel the need to email and try to belittle you. I have been a reader of your blog since your Pokeman auction and I must say there are days that your blog is the best part of my day and reading it makes me smile. Not everyone has a "perfect life" but it is really good to hear your stories and know that I'm not alone in the stresses and pleasures of parenting. Like my mom always says, "Misery loves company" and anonymous obviously needs some and is instagating. Again, I love the blog and really look forward to your book =)
Carrie from Kansas - August 20, 2008 at 7:47 PM
- Turtles In Northern Florida said...
Wow...just wow..I cant even come up with a comment but glad you did! Wow.....Some people are very opinionated arent they!
- August 20, 2008 at 7:56 PM
- Stephanie Honeycutt said...
Gotta love those "holier than thou" attitudes. Don't let em get you down . Obviously, instead of being critical of your mothering, the anonymous author probably needs to brush up on his/her grammar skills!!
- August 20, 2008 at 8:00 PM
I'm sorry that you get comments like that Dawn. I am pretty proud of my kids behavior in public. I even get compliments from others about it. But guess what? Sometimes they have days just like you experienced at the salon. In fact, they just gave me a similar run for my money at Walgreens on Monday. That doesn't make me a bad parent and it doesn't make you one either. That poster can't possibly say they've never had an experience like that, because that would be a LIE. It's part of having kids. (((hugs)))
- August 20, 2008 at 8:02 PM
Wouldn't you HATE to be one of that person's children???? What a jerk.
Sounds like you aren't letting it get you down! If you are letting it bother you, DON'T! - August 20, 2008 at 8:07 PM
{{{HUGS}}} I hope your mood gets better. I hate nothing more that stupid ^%#($ that have nothing better to do that spout off about that which they know nothing. I love your blog and you make me feel wonderful about what I know my life will soon be when the terrible twins are older. Hang in there!
You know they say don't pet the sweaty stuff and don't sweat the petty stuff... This little person and their little comment are very petty!!! - August 20, 2008 at 8:09 PM
- Britney said...
Dawn, I really appreciate your transparency about motherhood. I wouldn't read your blog if you only shared about the good behavior of your kids. I'm sorry that not everyone sees the beauty of your realness because they're missing out on a blessing. I pray that you are blessed today in a special way.
- August 20, 2008 at 8:11 PM
- Sararrt1980 said...
As I am sure everyone else will say, You are great! I hope you never believe what these few and far between will say to you. I have trouble controlling my one child at the hair cutting places! SHew! And he, like yours!, would never say anything so mean to someone else.
I totally agree with you Dawn, you are a great mom, and I hope to be like you! - August 20, 2008 at 8:15 PM
- BandK said...
You go, girl! It's amazing to me how people will say things they'd never dream of saying in real life on a blog, because they can remain totally, completely anonymous. There's another blog I follow faithfully, and this poor thing has managed to attract a real freakazoid and her Anonymous stalker makes horrible comments on her blog. If I were her, I'd do like you do and have comment moderation, but perhaps she enjoys the way her Anonymous crazy person stirs the you-know-what.
Anyway, I agree with you wholeheartedly -- no one has the right to criticize if they have not walked a mile in your well-worn mocassins, and tried to corral six normal, high-energy children. Geesh. I'm glad you let him/her have it with both barrels.
Let he who is without sin throw the first stone. And people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. And whatever other cliche applies here. Phooey on Anonymous for even thinking they can criticize you or anyone else.
Hugs for you, Dawn! You're doing a great job. :-) Don't let the naysayers get you down. - August 20, 2008 at 8:21 PM
- Unknown said...
Oh man, what is with the bad moods. I am on DAY THREE!!! I hate the world and a comment like that would have set me way over the edge. Karma anonymous, karma. BTW, we'll know who you are as soon as you win the mother of the year award!
- August 20, 2008 at 8:24 PM
- Knitty said...
'Tis sad, but true, that the only way some people can feel good about themselves is to put someone else down.
Have no fear, Dawn. The footprints she tried to leave on your back will come back to her when she least expects it. I predict that Karma will be wearing either construction boots with steel shanks (extra heavy) or Karma will have stiletto heels and since Karma has gained a few pounds since her prime, those heels are gonna leave some nasty marks!
Now park your butt back on the couch, break out the bonbons and let your kids run wild. You have a new reputation to uphold. ;-) - August 20, 2008 at 8:25 PM
- Nikki said...
You go girl! Tell 'em like it is! I for one, count on your blog for getting me through my day with some of the funniest things I've ever read and seen! And of course, the most important thing: knowing I'm not alone in this parenting journey!
~ Keep up the great work, I'm a huge fan!
Nikki - August 20, 2008 at 8:25 PM
- August 20, 2008 at 8:27 PM
You go girl!!! I think you are a great mom, doing a fab job with 6 kids! I would love to be one of your children and grow up in a large family filled with so much love and fun...your children will all sit around as grownups during the holidays reflecting on the wonderful upbringing they had. And all will be successful, well adjusted adults! Seriously, kids will be kids. My three often create mini scenes when we are out and you know what, who really has time to care?! If they do, then they really need to get a life!
Keep up the great work. We moms have the toughest jobs and you are doing better than most!
Kristin - August 20, 2008 at 8:28 PM
- Hannah Schaefer said...
You go girl! (Dawn, I mean, not Anon!) Some people have nothing better to do than to blog stalk and sit in judgement. Maybe she would be better off spending time with her three kids . . .
I think, how ever little my opinion is worth, that Dawn does an awesome job! Plus, reading her almost-daily installments of humour from her life is one of the few things that helps me through my day! So, thanks, Dawn! The pox on Anonymous!! - August 20, 2008 at 8:29 PM
- Kalynne Pudner said...
Yeahhhhhh. Someone seems to have missed the Character Education Boat in her four-sibling upbringing.
- August 20, 2008 at 8:40 PM
I'm sure that anonymous has never had one of her/his children have a melt down in public. I believe every parent has had at least one of those moments. When my oldest was 2, we called them "Helen Keller" moments. Those times at the early part of the movie when Helen throws food and pitches a royal fit. Been there, done that. I truly believe that you handled that situation perfectly. You removed yourself and your children from a situation that was slowly escalating.
Please don't allow one negative person to affect you. Those of us who love your blog and read it every day know that there are many things you don't share with us. I am sure there was plenty said in the car on the way home. Your purpose here wasn't to show how to parent but to let all of us know that every parent has these moments.
Keep up the excellent work you are doing with your children. From what you HAVE shared with us, your children are well on their way to having a great caring character! - August 20, 2008 at 8:45 PM
woohoo! you tell 'em girl!
- August 20, 2008 at 8:48 PM
Here, Here! If only we could all be perfect parents like that poster. The biggest problem with our world today, in my opinion, is that people are so busy putting on a show for others because they believe everyone else's lives are perfect, and they have to try to measure up. The truth is, we all are just doing the best we can, and we need more people willing to share the truth so we all can quit trying to live up to some unrealistic standard and be supportive and understanding of one another instead of judgmental and harsh. And then there will be world peace and harmony and no more war or famine...anyone for a little kum-ba-yah?:) Ah, well...I for one am eternally grateful for your doses of humor and your willingness to share. It makes my days with my brood of five a little more comical to me, too.
- August 20, 2008 at 8:52 PM
Way to tell 'em Dawn. I don't think I have ever posted here, but I read your blog daily since the pokemon listing. What this person obviously doesn't understand is that when you take children out in pulbic, that kind of behavior can sneak up on you and get out of control in a spit second. I commend you for picking them all up and taking them right on out of there showing them that what they were doing was not acceptable.
Keep on doing what you are doing and don't let the idiots out there break your spirit.
A faithful reader,
Christine - August 20, 2008 at 8:52 PM
- August 20, 2008 at 9:00 PM
- Unknown said...
I have a friend whose five kids sit quietly beside her all during church. No wiggling or giggling. It's crazy. One day, we asked her how she did it. She told us that when her kids started to misbehave, she would pinch them really hard. I laughed. If I did that, my son would scream at the top of his lungs, "OUCH! You pinched me!"
There's a difference between kids obeying because they are trained to and obeying because they choose to. Allowing kids that choice is hard work for parents. I'm sure your kids know if they choose to disobey, they are choosing XYZ for punshiment. My kids don't always make good behavior choices, but I'd rather have my kids learn bad choices=consequences now rather than getting their first taste of that later in life. - August 20, 2008 at 9:01 PM
- Jen said...
Mr/s. Annonymous is a turd. Keep standing up for yourself!
- August 20, 2008 at 9:03 PM
You go Dawn!!
PS. Did you or anyone else happen to see the cover of Parenting magazine this month and think the little girl looks like Brooklyn? - August 20, 2008 at 9:03 PM
Nice Job Dawn!!! It always amazes me that ignorant individuals such as this one are quick to leave a negative comment, but then sign it anonymous. I have been a reader of your blog for a couple of months now and it is clear from what your share with your readers that your are an exceptional mother raising wonderful children and you are open enough to share both the good and the bad with us. Don't waste your time on idiots like this. Ten years from now her "perfect" children will probably be on "America's Most Wanted". Keep up the good work. As a Mom of 4, I look forward to reading your blog every day. It reinforces to all of us how tough it is to raise kids in today's world and yet you can keep us laughing at the ordinary, everyday experiences.
- August 20, 2008 at 9:03 PM
AMEN, sista! Only three kids....ha! What does she know? (obviously nothing about spell check!!) Sheesh....I for one am one of the moms out here seeking a bit of humor at the end of a long day and am grateful to know that mine aren't the only crazy ones around! Thanks for sharing, Dawn!!
- August 20, 2008 at 9:04 PM
Dawn - I admire the resolve that you have in dealing with meltdowns. I wish I could remain as calm and together as you do! I generally have a moment of calm, then embarrassment, then after that, begin my own meltdown! I would love to see how idiots like that person would have reacted if in the same position...Hang in there and keep sharing! I personally think your kids are very well behaved and wish my 2 year old would listen even a fraction as well as yours!
- August 20, 2008 at 9:13 PM
(((((Dawn))))) Good for you. Sometimes I think about starting a BLOG of my own but I know that comments from ignorant people would crush this sweet spirit that dwells in me.
God Bless you for raising your 6 wonderful kids and having the courage to put it out there for the rest of us to feel "normal".
Know that you are loved greatly by many many people and devoted readers.
Karen in Rockland Ontario - August 20, 2008 at 9:14 PM
- Momma K said...
As a mom of 5 young kids who enjoys your blog and relates to it almost daily, can I give you one piece of advice? Don't lower yourself "anonymous"'s level by responding! Anyone with common sense who reads blogs knows that you don't tell the whole story here...it would get a little dry for us (moms especially) about the heart-to-heart conversations /disciplining that follow some of the stories that you relate. We all know pretty much how the bad behaviors are dealt with, it's just the "how you got there" that is funny and interesting.
Don't let the comment bother you.
Erin in Ohio - August 20, 2008 at 9:15 PM
- Mrs. M said...
I'll never understand why people feel the need to be ugly. Apparently, she wasn't taught, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all."
From one mom of six, to another: thanks for your blog. You make me laugh and it is SOOO nice to know that there are other NORMAL moms out there! Keep up the good work! - August 20, 2008 at 9:16 PM
Thanks, Dawn. You confirmed some feelings I was having today after reading in a forum regarding a TV reality family with 2 sets of multiples (I'm sure you know who I mean...). Everyone is SOOOO judgemental based on what they see on the show, even going so far as to accuse the parents of child abuse, based solely on what they see for 30-60 minutes a week. You can't judge people accurately based on a snapshot of their lives (to be fair, we shouldn't judge AT ALL), yet people do it all the time! I'm glad you addressed that, even though I'm sure the person who left that comment won't understand.
I personally LOVE LOVE LOVE your blog. I only have one child, and plan on leaving it at that, so I live vicariously through you! Thank you.
Patty - August 20, 2008 at 9:16 PM
Let it roll right off your back Dawn - some people seem to have nothing better to do than criticize others!
I hate to see what that lady would have had to say about my parenting skills had she seen my son and I at the bookstore the other day! We went to the train table at Barnes and Noble (ya know because the 50million Thomas trains, tracks, buildings and train table at home just doesnt compare!) Anyway, the table was pretty busy, and my darling son (3.5yrs) who is a little obsessed with Thomas wasnt happy with the train he had and kept crying, several warnings of "wait your turn, play with what you have, or we're leaving" were issued and after he tried to grab from another kid, I followed through. I felt like all eyes were on us as I picked him up, kicking and screaming, pried the train out of his hand, apologized to the mother of the child whose head his flailing feet kicked and left the store!! Of course the train table is in the very back of the store, so everyone IN the store (as well as those in the parking lot) got to see or at least hear his meltdown along with his screaming promises to behave as long as we didnt leave - Sure Noah, b/c Mommy is just that dumb!
Reading your post about your trip to the hair dresser definately made me feel better and realise I am not a terrible mother b/c my kid freaked at the train table!
Ms Anonymous/SuperMom(note the sarcasm) needs to keep her opinions to herself. Imagine the future character of HER children considering how judgemental she is of others! Thank you for sharing your stories - they keep me sane and I'm only a mother of ONE!
Danielle (I'm the first time anonymous poster from last night - didn't see the use your name option, duh! - about how you had me laughing/crying over the walking on your buttcheeks post) - August 20, 2008 at 9:17 PM
What a jerk - that sucks! I think you are awesome, Dawn!
Michigan - August 20, 2008 at 9:20 PM
- Amanda said...
You go Dawn!! I recently had a somewhat nasty comment on my blog too, after I posted about my 7 year olds tentative diagnosis of Aspergers Syndrome. Seriously, these people need to have a deep look at themselves if they think it is fine to blast other people, when they so do not have the whole story!! Keep on blogging. P.S. I loved the whole hairdresser episode, especially Clay's comment at the end. I only have 2 boys (so far, 3rd is on the way) and moments like these can happen even to those "perfect" parents (and if they dont happen, then those kids are not having a lot of fun are they!!)
- August 20, 2008 at 9:24 PM
Way to kick some a$$!!!!!!
- August 20, 2008 at 9:24 PM
Well said!!
We've all gotten the stares and looks from others in public places when our children are acting out. You just said what we would all like to say to those who form an opinion of our parenting when we are having a bad day. Thanks for sharing all your challenging moments w/ us b/c it does help to know we are not alone!!!
Next time you get one of those emails...hit DELETE!!! - August 20, 2008 at 9:27 PM
Hey Annonymous,
If you don't like Dawn or her blog, then DON'T READ IT!!!! I hate when stupid people tell someone how to live their life. Is she asking you to help her raise her kids? Is she complaining that she has too many kids or that they are really nuts? NOPE!!! Dawn loves her children and they are just that - CHILDREN. Everyone has off days, and as an adult I don't even like to sit for a haircut. A child should not be punished for being a child. I wonder how your kids feel about you - must be a pretty boring childhood. I don't have kids, but when I do, I hope to be like Dawn and not some judgemental jerk like you. - August 20, 2008 at 9:27 PM
- Kim said...
I'm a bummed to read your latest post. I like your blog and your ability to find humor in tough days. While the comment was tacky I don't know that it helped anything to call her names.
- August 20, 2008 at 9:31 PM
- Vicki said...
Girl, I love what you said to this CRAZY person. I can not believe that anyone would have the nerve to say such things. Purely CRAZY.
I just love it!!!!! You are the best Dawn....I might call ya when I need to tell someone off...You ROCK!!!!
Sorry you had a bad day. Go get some Starbucks and a sweet treat! You deserve it!!!!! - August 20, 2008 at 9:31 PM
- 3girlsmom said...
Atta girl. Get em.
Personally, I LOVE your blog. And it's nice to know that my kids aren't the only ones who act crazy in public places. Whew! - August 20, 2008 at 9:34 PM
"THEY wouldn't ever write a nasty comment to a stranger for no reason other than to be mean."
Heheh! Very apt. I've always wondered about the sort of person who feels the need to tell total strangers they encounter on the net all about what they're doing wrong and how they're going to hell and so forth. All I can think is that they have Major Issues(tm) and taking out their aggression and frustration on random strangers somehow relieves some of that for them.
It truly is amazing the sort of weirdos there are out there. In the fourteen or so I've been on the net, I've gotten emails telling me I'm going to hell (apparently, God personally tells people these things so they can pass it on to me, though, really God is perfectly welcome to talk to me directly and I haven't heard anything about this going to hell business!), that I have no life (duh, what do people think I'm writing about?!), that I need to grow up (pot kettle black?), that I have issues (again with the black pot), that I think better of myself than I should (uh... what?), that I'm obviously a sorority chick from a wealthy background (all I could do was laugh until I fell off my chair over that one, it's so wrong it's beyond ridiculous), that I don't know what sort of men I like (no comment), that I'm a lunatic (well, maybe, but I don't send random insults to people on the net!), and on and on and on.
Dawn, the fact is, some people are just *beep* (insert the rude name of your choice; mine refers to the area of the body from which one excretes solid waste). I actually took to publishing their emails with humourous/snarky comments, which not only made me feel better, it entertained others and, assuming the comment/email writer ever actually read it, hopefully made them realise that their compulsive need to write rubbish to total strangers is inappropriate. ;) - August 20, 2008 at 9:36 PM
Good job! I hate that know it all(s) give their 2 cents when they have none to spare!
I enjoy your blog and don't change a thing because of some nut.
KNOT MOM - August 20, 2008 at 9:43 PM
Wow. I was not the one who left the comment, nor would I make any suggestions on how you raise your kids - I for one know I am blessed by having four children and know the struggles. However, I found your blog by linking from a friend of a friend of a friend and do stop by frequently to read. However, after reading this post - I had to look at your profile - I thought you were a Christian writer. I did see that you're a Sunday School teacher.
While I realize people will say things to discourage and upset you and this is frustrating, but your response just blew your testimony - and the bottom line is, if people can't see Jesus in us because we get upset - you may lose them before they get a chance to know Jesus. Maybe others were as shocked as I and that's why your normal 50 plus comments are gone on today's post. Good Luck. - August 20, 2008 at 9:46 PM
Clearly "Anonymous" did not read any of the ordeal with Savannah and the trouble she had with the friend who borrowed money...nor any of the really creative things Austin has done...Your children obviously have great character! What a crazy person to assume that you do not punish just because you don't tell all of us every detail!
- August 20, 2008 at 9:51 PM
- Amanda said...
Good for you! Some of us DO care about our kids and DO discipline them, but the kids just feel the need to push the envelope regardless of the consequences. I have a child like this. The rules have been VERY consistent since he has been able to understand them. We learned very early on that any wavering from the norm even as a reward for good behavior was disastrous. Even though the rules are the exact same in and out of our house ALL the time, with both parents, my son acts like how you described your kids just to see if that's the day the rules change. You'd think after 7 years, and 3 of them spent in therapy, he'd get the hint by now. Walk a mile in another parent's shoes.
- August 20, 2008 at 9:53 PM
- This Mom said...
I have never had a negative comment. I am new so nobody reads me yet. :0). But I agree with what you said. I mean If you don't have something nice to say then say nothing at all.
I think you can have a different opinion but say it nice.
Don't keep those angry feeling in they make you burst. I glad you can vent here, it is your sace do with it what you want. - August 20, 2008 at 9:53 PM
- Andi said...
Blow it away, Dawn. You know that the rest of us know how amazing a person, mother, and wife you are.
Read my blog and you can tell how people can get the wrong ideas. My own daughter (17) chose to live with her father. That does not make me a bad mother, it makes her a person who chose to do something differently than me. I still love her and want her home even though she wants nothing to do with me. Her father, his wife and she choose to hate me but I have an overwhelming armful of people who love me for me so that is all that matters.
We love you, Dawn, and will always stick behind you. Anon can blow it out his tail pipe. I am proud to call you a fellow blogger! - August 20, 2008 at 9:56 PM
- Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] said...
Brava! Brava! Brava! I'm standing up (figuratively of course) applauding (again, figuratively) for you (yes, you)!!!!
- August 20, 2008 at 9:56 PM
Yuck! Why don't the "perfect" parents stay to their own blogs and leave the rest of us real parents alone. If we wanted to read pretend stories about what raising a child is really like, we could buy a book in the fiction section. Thanks for not only standing up for yourself, but for the rest of us as well.
- August 20, 2008 at 10:01 PM
You go Girl!
I love your blog. you are really funny.Don't listen to those losers. - August 20, 2008 at 10:11 PM
I have had you in my favorites since the infamous eBay listing I stumbled accross some time ago. When I need a laugh or a pick-me-up after a long day I read your blog. The "individual" who made the comment criticising you and your parenting skills either has no children or was raised by Hitler. But for me,as usual, reading your blog has put my day into perspective. My oldest son started school this past Monday, which means my 4 year old has been up at the crack of dawn with his brother and will not take a nap. Much like your haircut scenerio, my four year old proceeded to raise hell in Target. The more I disciplined him the louder he screemed. After getting looks of dismay, judgement and some of pitty I finally decided to end my trip to Target. I would love to see a reality show with that person trying to handle my 4 year old in this situation. I do discipline and even have a wooden spoon for such occasions but sometimes there is no answer. The little guys just need to get it out of their system. Just an hour after leaving Target my 4 year old was crying in my lap and telling me how sorry he was. In the end, sometimes it takes the few bad times to really appreciate all of the good times with our kids. Thank you for you time and efforts to continue blogging. You can add therapist to other moms' to your long list of unpaid duties.
- August 20, 2008 at 10:13 PM
Today I had to stop by Walmart. On my way back to my car, I heard this little girl wailing. Her grandmother was very aggitated and spoke to her harshly. The child kept screaming. And all I could think of was, "I'm so sorry the grandma is having such a bad day." Once upon a time I might have thought about why the kid wasn't minding but thanks to you, Dawn, my first thought was about how the grandma must be feeling. I hope when I have children someday, there will be more people who have read your blog/book and will offer me grace when my little ones aren't as controlled as I would like for them to be. Thank you for the inspiration.
- August 20, 2008 at 10:16 PM
Why do people feel the need to tell you how to parent. I get so sick of "advice" on how to get my two to behave. I think you are awesome...and hearing your stories makes my life seem a little easier. As one of those military moms trying to take care of a four year old and a 6 month old I applaud you for being an awesome Mom. Your right she should have been brave enough to use her name if she was going to hurl insults at you. Apparently her parents never taught her "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!!!" And in the words of my daughter when I had a bad day the other day..."Momma you are a queen, here's your crown, it will make it feel better."
- August 20, 2008 at 10:32 PM
- Jen said...
Amen, preach on sista!
- August 20, 2008 at 10:39 PM
Good 4 you Dawn!
Just so you know, I threatened my two "perfect"ones at our local Wal-Mart the other day. "Do you want me to take you into the bathroom? You know how bad it stinks! in there!!" lol, the lady on the other isle just busted out laughing.
Another words, good job to you, and sometimes ya just gotta lettem have it!! That rude person will think twice the next time!
Shawn in Mo. - August 20, 2008 at 10:58 PM
- Debbie @ Three Weddings said...
((Hugs!)) Thank you for putting up with this kind of sh@t so we can enjoy your blog and know we are not alone! I'm sorry you had to get a comment like that.
- August 20, 2008 at 11:00 PM
- Robin said...
Amen! You tell 'em how you feel! Better now? And does this mean you don't get a sucker? = ) Love ya Dawn! We imperfect parents have to stick together.
- August 20, 2008 at 11:14 PM
ohhhh i can't wait till she gets hers back u know how it is you talk about other ppls kiddos and yours end up the same way maybe her's are programmable kids you know the "perfect ones" some ppl are just plain idiots and those are the ones that will have lost complte control when there kids are teenagers i think u do a great job with your kids and i am glad that i'm not alone with some of the things u go through i just found out from my 3 year old that she wanted to use my razor b/c her sister who is 8 did then of course she denied it till i realized a nice long streak of hair was missing from her forearm then when i asked she denied it she didnt get into troublei just explained y we dont do that besides i guarantee if you woulda posted that you disciplined your child then they would have said that cps shoulda been called on u i think ur a great person and i love your blog and to the idiot you will get urs one day ---sasha
- August 20, 2008 at 11:29 PM
- Higgins Family said...
- August 20, 2008 at 11:33 PM
- Stephanie said...
Yay! Yay! Yay! I'm clapping and cheering for you right now!
Somebody give Dawn an award. Oh, wait.... She HAS A BOOK COMING OUT NEXT YEAR!!!!!
I hope ANONYMOUS reads all these comments, and realizes she's pretty much the only crappy one to have those judgements.
Keep up the fantastic work, Dawn! Your fans love you! - August 21, 2008 at 12:21 AM
- Shari said...
Don't you dare let that crazy, judgemental reader get to you. She has no clue what you do on a daily basis. I have three kids and one is special needs. Man, that person has never walked a day in your shoes or anyone's else's for that matter. It still boggles my mind that people drive by blogs and shoot then disappear with no name. Cowards! It doesn't matter what blog a person reads, there's going to be times of possible disagreement, but sheesh! keep it to yourself and give the lady a break! Then move on!
- August 21, 2008 at 1:04 AM
- Audrey said...
Dawn, would you like me to track this "Anonymous" person down, and take them out behind the woodshed? I'd sure would be happy to! <--evil laugh :)
I swear, we should round up people like this, and send them to Iraq. I bet they'd have a bit more respect for people when they came back.
Apparently, they weren't raised "properly" or they would know, "if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all". haha
Ok, I'm coming off of my soap box now. Go Dawn, you rock. - August 21, 2008 at 1:09 AM
- Michelle said...
Oh, Dawn! Have another hug, this time from me! And maybe a big margarita. Or two. Maybe lock the door to the bathroom and take a long bubble bath? Although now that I think about this suggestion, that may make things worse for you when you get out!
One good thing about being a total unknown blogger is that I have yet (knock on wood) to get nasty comments! - August 21, 2008 at 1:10 AM
I love your blog and follow it faithfully (like many readers, from the ebay incident that started it all *Grin*).
I was awed at your composure at the hairdressers. I would have lost it early on and said, "Forget it, we're going home!" Kudos!
As for the 'anonymous'... You have every right to call them out and shoot them down and defend yourself (sad reall,y that you have you defend yourself).
Being "christian" doesn't make you perfect. Oh..... sorry, Dawn can't be a perfect mom and christian so SOMEHOW this is going to shatter someone's life and Christianity is going to lose a few people. ** Sarcasm ** :D
Excuse me?
How pathetic that someone feels the need to take their time and waste yours to tell you that "I don't think it was very christian of you" So what? Go somewhere else.
Anywho. You write what you want, what you need. 99% of us ADORE your blog and wouldn't change a thing. You're doing beaautifully. (hugs) - August 21, 2008 at 1:44 AM
- Jennifer Foster said...
I only wish I could rant like you! But I cannot, due to the fact that it is impossible to be a blogger AND a teacher-at least in this perfect little Pleasantville, CA town where I live. (sarcasm) What I have learned is that as an educator, you can't have a rant about anything on your blog because the angries will come along and anonymously leave you nasty comments-saying what a crappy role model and person you are-and how dare you be a teacher! (sadly, my guess is that some unruly parent found my blog and decided to harass me.)
So, I commend you for such a beautiful rant...really, a masterpiece!...I lived vicariously through that one! I hope all the "anonymous" jerks in the world take note.
XOXO - August 21, 2008 at 2:15 AM
I just want to hug you for having the guts to let us all "in" to your life and for having the courage to tell us the good, bad and ugly of it. It's not always pretty, but it is real, and it lets imperfect parents like me know that we're not alone out here, and that it really does help to keep smiling through all the chaos and mess that parenting brings.
Your rant was justified, my dear. I raise my middle finger to Anonymous on your behalf. How very un-Christian of me. - August 21, 2008 at 3:30 AM
You go Dawn!!!
I don't know what I'd do without your humour and great ideas. Your advice on how to handle my two-year-old was extremely helpful!
So "Anonymous", most of us has crappy days with kids bouncing off the wall. Most of the time you need to be flexible. I actually pity your kids, since you don't seem to have room for errors. Lay off Dawn, there are 24 hours in the day and she probably shares one or two. Walk a mile in her shoes before you pass judgement. - August 21, 2008 at 7:12 AM
- Rick said...
Oh Dawn! This is too rich. I'm so glad that I pop in tonight and that you made mentiion of this post. It was hot! It was funny! I loved it!
I feel kind of bad to be so entertained by your troubles. In my job I too know what it is like to get criticism.
Thanks for sharing. - August 21, 2008 at 7:13 AM
The nasty commenter is obviously just a clod, to be ignored.
I DO hope that you read this....
By lowering yourself to their (im)maturity level, you're not doing yourself, your blog, or more importantly your upcoming book any favors.
Save yourself any potential harm to the success of the things you've worked so hard at, this site, your book, and take the high road. Easier said than done when you're provoked, I know. - August 21, 2008 at 7:28 AM
- Emily said...
I am so sorry you have to read junk like that! I think you are awesome, and you should never be judged for the job you do! I guess we should all be perfect and have perfect children like "anonymous". I don't know about you, but I don't want "perfect" kids like that! You are great and we all love you and your blog! Have a wonderful, non-judgmental day!
Emily - August 21, 2008 at 7:32 AM
- I Play Outside The Box said...
WOOO-HOOOO Dawn! Well said!!
- August 21, 2008 at 7:38 AM
- Jen G said...
Amen Sista!! You did say it perfectly and I don't blame you for getting annoyed at stupid people. You are doing a wonderful job with your kids...all 6 of them! I have two kids and have HALF the patience as you. And your humor makes me realize it is better to make light of the kids' behavior or else you will be in a padded room! Annonymous obviously doesn't get it, and what I see is the point to your blog is not 'how to discipline your kids' but 'how to stay sane when raising kids'. My kids do a lot of the same things that you are wondering 'what were they thinking?!' but to see you put it in humor like you do lights up my day. Forget annonymous, keep going for me, an avid reader and a huge fan!!!
Jennifer in MI - August 21, 2008 at 7:53 AM
- Irishmama said...
Unfortunately, this is what you'll get from time to time because you put it all out there for us to peek into your life.
I'm sure that person is perfect and her children are perfect too. We can't all be like that.
Have a good day - August 21, 2008 at 8:14 AM
- Jennifer said...
Oh Dawn! You are human just like the rest of us and we all need to rant at some point. There are many people out there who don't realize that "different" and "wrong" are two completely different concepts. If Anon. thinks her way is the only way then she is the one who is doing her children a great diservice. And I have to admit that I thought about you the other day when my mere two children were driving me to the point of crazy. The thought of having to parent six kids just made me suddenly very tired.
Keep doing what you do best which is bring humor to the everyday-ness of life. If I had a choice between laughing or crying I would much prefer to laugh. - August 21, 2008 at 8:16 AM
Dawn, as so many of the other commenters have stated, don't let negative comments get you down. Everyone has their own way of dealing with their families AND what they choose to share on their blogs. On a lighter note, to speak of diciplines, I've taken my granddaughter to church ever since she was about 6-8 wks old. Once when she was a little over a year old, she was misbehaving and I threatened to take her outside. Well, I forgot how she LOVES outside, that was like a treat for her. :) By the way, she is the one I sent the picture of her wearing her shorts for her hat. Margie (I sign anonymous because I don't have an account.)
- August 21, 2008 at 8:34 AM
- Searching For Simplicity said...
((BIG HUG)). I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. People can be so opinionated over something they really know knowing about some times. I appreciate you writing how and what you do. I find you such an inspiration. I have four little blessings and one who is ADHD(we have done Feingold too) and I have days SO much like yours!! It's so nice to know I'm not alone and I'm so grateful that you blog as I believe you are a wonderful support to many of us out here! - August 21, 2008 at 8:40 AM
- Jen said...
See, that's what I don't get. Why does a person like that even read your blog and then comment on top of it all? I so don't get that, but then again, I'm a BUSY mom, just like you, so I don't have all day to sit around, read about other moms and judge the snot out of them.
Over here, I love this blog. It's just the perfect tonic for any sort of day with kids, well, this and chocolate, well, this and chocolate and a drink...
Thanks for doing what you do!
Jen in WI - August 21, 2008 at 8:46 AM
- Heather said...
Kudos to you Dawn. I read your post about the incident at the salon. And I have read many other posts. I have a 4 yo that has meltdowns and he gets told "No." often. Other readers are correct -- you only share the slices of your life that in the end show the rest of us that life with children is always a challenge even on the best days. I also apologize - even though I was not that "A"-non commenter - I thought ill of you too quickly too for "a lack of discipline". We, the readers, do not know the extent of what you did that is truly what works for you in caring for your kidlets. You and I both will be forever grateful when the half pints no longer have the nuclear mushroom cloud syndrome! Many blessings to you always!
- August 21, 2008 at 8:55 AM
- Rosie : ) said...
Awful! It is quite impossible to judge from watching someone's children, much less from a blog about them, as to what type of parent you are around them.
Most of the time, the kids are good, but there are days...7 kids misbehaving in public is not quite what you might think, especially if Mom is the only one there.
I understand your trouble with the 6 kids, you just don't have enough hands!
There are times when walking out from the situation (as you did, {applauds})is the only solution. And then you can take care of the discipline at home, give proper consequences, take away priviledges. It is almost impossible to do so in public. There is no "time-out" area, and the priviledges are a distant memory. How are you supposed to do anything?
As Moms, we do our best. We love our children as no one else. How can you compete with that? - August 21, 2008 at 8:56 AM
- maggiebsmocks said...
Dare I add another comment?
Dawn, aka Saint Dawn, who is the Patron Saint of REAL MOTHERS, you are doing just fine.
Let's see, kids were acting up, you removed them from the situation. Hmmm, seems to me, that was the REASONABLE thing to do.
You really need to work on THE LOOK. Obviously, IF MamaPerfects's children slide an half inch off their chairs, she surely gives them THE LOOK and they are reminded they are STEPFORD CHILDREN and they succumb to perfect behaviour.
Do you have a Mary Poppins Bag of Tricks? You could have entertained your darlings by giving them one of seventeen neat and tidy treats that leave no crumbs, drips or spills. Or maybe read them a chapter from War and Peace, it might put them to sleep, and you know that book fits in that MPB. Or maybe you could have whipped out 6 GameBoys, each color-coded for a special Angel.
My favorite is the MOM who loudly chastises the children. LOUDLY so everyone knows SHE is a GOOD Mommy (dearest). She does it frequently too. With every, wiggle, movement of an arm or leg or eye. Personally, I'd rather listen to the child than the whiney mother.
Ah, perfect parents. I see them every day.
I read a few weeks ago how you helped DD understand theft via a friend. And how her mother tried to cover for her. WHAT A LESSON! Not only did your child learn that her pal was less than honest but she learned it from her mother.
I often say:
Children learn what they live.
Your children are going to be just fine. Trust me ;)
Love your show, keep up the great work!
maggieb! - August 21, 2008 at 8:59 AM
- Teresa said...
Amazing - Obviously she needs a few more kids! Oh and by the way Sonic is a daily stop of mine in Oklahoma! I always get my Diet Coke during happy hour. As a mom of 6 myself I NEED that Diet Coke! I appreciate that you continue to "put yourself out there" for NORMAL people like me! Keep the laughs coming! Thanks so much, Teresa in Shawnee, OK - birthplace of all 6 of my kids AND Sonic!
- August 21, 2008 at 9:13 AM
Go Dawn, Go Dawn, Go, so go Dawn!!! You rock! I hate that some people think they can draw conclusions on ANYONE else's life.... blog or in person you only know about other people what they choose to share. Never the whole story.
And did I miss the part in the Bible that says "now that you are a Christian you shall act like a doormat and never be angry with another"??? Pretty sure thats not in there.... however "judge not, lest ye be judged", is. - August 21, 2008 at 9:18 AM
Dawn, I think you're awesome and I think anyone who judges another in such a rude manner probably doesn't have many friends.
I endured a similar instance in a video rental store one time where I was basically called a bad mother because a lady *thought* she heard one of my children say 'a$$', when she really said 'eyes'. You have never SEEN such rage (from me) when she told my 6-year-old daughter that she needed to watch her mouth and that her Mama obviously wasn't a good mother. Because my 3 daughters were there (as well as 2 others who weren't mine), I had to control my tongue, but I managed to get my movies free and all late fees deducted from my account because the teenagers at the front saw the look in my eyes!!! lol
Don't be sorry you shared what you thought, you did nothing wrong, YOU weren't judging. There is nothing un-Christian about expressing your feelings! - August 21, 2008 at 9:33 AM
Dawn... I have a suggestion...
I would start a wall of shame... Any of those nasty comments can be put somewhere for everyone to see their ignorance... It's just another form of therapy, really! ;) - August 21, 2008 at 9:37 AM
- Sarah said...
Nicely done with your rant Dawn. I have long admired that you simply delete the negative and inappropriate comments without such a reaction, and I think you were due if you read this crap with regularity.
That said, I get hints of this kind of comment from my dad once in a while. I have 2 kids - 5 and 4 - and they can be loud, opinionated monsters at times. True enough. He comments about how we (my brother, sister and I) never did such things. I love my dad, but I really want to say, "and what do you know about it, you were gone 3 nights a week for your job and Mom was home with us 24/7." My mother never chimes in that he's right, and I can remember being removed from stores, so I think his memory is lacking. But your anonymous commenter makes me wonder what he/she thought would have been the cure to immediately stop any hint of misbehavior...I haven't found that magic bullet. How is removal from store for misbehavior NOT a solution? Do you threaten violence later to control the children (which will only work if they really believe you, and that is disturbing)? Anyway, anonymous is a jerk to make such leaps of assumption about anyone else's life, particularly without any constructive purpose apparently.
Well done! - August 21, 2008 at 9:44 AM
Don't let this one loser get you down, Dawn. You are a great mother and doing the best you can. You are way more brave than I; I only have 2 kids, and it's a struggle with them! Keep up the excellent work, and don't worry about going off on this moron.
- August 21, 2008 at 9:52 AM
Whoo Hoo!! You tell her, I have four kids and they have had similar situations in public!! Who cares what she says, although I hope she reads your blog again just to see she is in the minority with her feelings. The rest of us are normal :)
- August 21, 2008 at 10:00 AM
- Beth said...
Amen to the rant! I recently encountered my first judgement jerk who felt I needed to "control" my children better. He informed me that the 5 kids that he raised NEVER acted like that. I have decided to pray for him and his children, who hopefully are now adults. You see, my 4 year old and almost 2 year old were laughing and enjoying each other on a carefree summer Saturday night. I feel so sorry for his children who apparently were not allowed to laugh as children--I'm sure they would have been spanked for laughing in a public fast food restaurant. I hope that as adults his children feel free to have a good belly laugh. I also pray for your anonymous poster and all the miserable children whose lives he/she has affected.
- August 21, 2008 at 10:05 AM
I'm all the way from Singapore and I'm a big fan of yours! your entries about the little episodes of drama with the kids always makes my day. it reminds me of the times when me and my brothers would drive my mum crazy, haha!
Anyway, I'd hate to be "anonymous"'s child. I'm glad my mom was more like you... who knows when to be strict and when not to, when to laugh along with me+my siblings, and when not to.
I'd say you really have things in great control. I mean SIX kids, you have SIX! And you're doing such a great job, so much so that sometimes reading your blog makes me envious of your kids for having such a supermom. :)
So really, "anonymous" is just being rather narrow-minded. And hey "anonymous", if you're reading this... please cut your kids some slack! - August 21, 2008 at 10:44 AM
- Geev said...
I feel sorry for the character of that Mean Lady kids! I'm the eldest of 5 children and your stories bring back memories of my mom desperately trying to keep us in line and us paying the price for our crimes. They're the best "thanksgiving tales" ever!!
Mean Lady will never hear her kids tell stories that begin with "remember when we set fire to the dollhouse and said lightening struck it?" (true story) And hear gales of laughter as her kids recant the sagas of a christmas in an uncarpted living room on cold bare cement and homemade halloween costumes that missed the mark.
Nope! Mean Lady gets to hear stories about how her kids were terrified to go in public for fear of corporal punishment. How snacks consisted of celery and cottage cheese and birthday cakes came from the bakery and how mom was proud of her spotless kitchen.
Dawn, it may be hard but its all fun and at the end of the day and Mean Lady will never know that kind of joy.
You Rock, Mama! - August 21, 2008 at 11:04 AM
Perhaps anonymous is a bit jealous at how well you handle yourself. I too would have lost my patience at the hair salon but you handled it well (like all things). Try not to worry too much about such a person. You are wonderful.
To anonymous- I hope your self-esteem was elevated a bit after you pulled someone else down. What a sweet person you are. *rolls eyes* - August 21, 2008 at 11:31 AM
Dawn, always remember that your fans/friends FAR outweigh your critics. I have a neighbor who acts the same way - maybe that's who "anonymous" is! Don't pay any mind to THOSE types of people. They aren't worth your time or energy!
Keep on truckin' -- you're doing an awesome job!!
Donna in PA :) - August 21, 2008 at 11:58 AM
What the heck you clearly did something. You made everyone leave and you didn't give them lollipops. It isn't like they were doing deliberate harm to another person or the store. They were being annoying kids like all kids can be from time to time.
Good for you for letting loose with that vent!
Kama - August 21, 2008 at 12:03 PM
- Janet said...
I've been reading you for a year, and rarely comment because you have so many. But I had a similar experience a few months ago when I was ranting about the behavior of my 4-year-old girl. I had 2 rather nasty comments regarding my deplorable lack of parenting skills, one from someone whom I know, and whose children are grown and he wasn't actually AROUND when his kids were that age, because he worked nights. I chose not to respond, because I couldn't come up with anything helpful that wouldn't have started a family feud. But again, they were not ANONYMOUS comments! I feel sorry for that person's kids.
And the other anonymous who posted above about blowing your testimony as a CHristian? She obviously missed the story about Jesus throwing the money-changers out of the temple. Lazy mothers do not take 6 kids to the zoo. If I took my 2 kids to the zoo by myself you'd see us on the 6 o'clock news. You are a great mother, your kids are great kids, and I would dearly love to meet all of you someday. - August 21, 2008 at 12:40 PM
I love your blog - you make me laugh on most days and I feel your pain on other days. Thanks for having the courage to share your lives with the rest of us!
another mom of 6 beautiful babies
www.caringbridge.org/nd/josh - August 21, 2008 at 1:50 PM
Hi Dawn,
Sorry that you are getting Crappy comments. I was going to comment on your hair cut post, but I was having a similar day and never got to it.
I was going to thank you for that post because I have lived it with my 4kids(10,5,3,2. I am glad to see that I am not the only one who has those days. THEY ARE KIDS!
I think that it is awesome that your kids (like mine) are not little robots that sit perfectly quiet for hours on end. Got to go I hear screaming..
We are with you!
Oblivious Suburbaninet (soory no time to spell chec) - August 21, 2008 at 2:22 PM
Let me get this straight: because you didn't beat your children senseless and tried to "control" their behavior with the tell-all "you're gonna get it if you keep it up mom look" as opposed to making a scene, you're a "bad parent"? I think you handled yourself with grace and dignity under pressure---can't say that most of us would be able to do the same!
I guess "anonymous" never read your posts about Savanah trying to do right by her friend and loaning her money (thereby gettting screwed, but that's another story) or about how Lexi saved Clay's head from being smashed by the garage door because she didn't want him to die, or the countless times Austin has stepped up to the plate as "big brother" and helped take care of the little ones, etc., etc., etc. Yeah, I'd watch out for their characters too! ;)
Keep up the good work, Dawn! You're awesome! - August 21, 2008 at 3:04 PM
Maybe this will make you feel a little bit better. Last week my normally very well behaved 2 year old stood up in the seat of the basket at Wal-Mart so she could reach the back of the credit card machine and yank the cord out. Killed the whole machine deader than dead. This is after I reminded her that she isn't supposed to touch the "buttons", or stand up in the seat.
- August 21, 2008 at 3:14 PM
As my Grandmother used to say, "And the angels said 'Amen'", meaning what you say about others may come back to haunt you. I'd like to hear from Anonymous when her kids become teenagers! Try controlling them then!Why do people have to be so damn judgemental? Anyone who says their kid never had an uncontrollable tantrum in public is a liar!
Your children seem normal and well-adjusted. Keep up the good work. - August 21, 2008 at 3:15 PM
OMG - I cannot believe someone would be so rude. Oh wait, yes I can! I have three children - the two youngest just turned 3 and 4 and are boys, so I wholeheartedly feel for you. When it was just my daughter, I could take her anywhere and she behaved beautifully but she was a quiet, more reserved child. My boys will climb on anything, run around anything, etc., and yes, I have had the looks when they are not behaving. I guess if you would just beat them in public, people like "Anonymous" would feel better. And don't feel bad about going off on them; they don't have the right to judge other people, especially on small tidbits of information. Their children are probably just as dysfunctional as ours, only in other ways :-)
- August 21, 2008 at 3:35 PM
There are some folks that just don't like kids,but are ashamed of that fact, so they try to blame their dislike on the poor mamma.
I used to work in a restaurant, and even though we were a family friendly eatery, we sometimes got complaints from other customers, but nothing really unpleasant until one day when a family with three small children came in. A well dressed lady, who was already seated and eating her salad, leapt to her feet and loudly proclaimed, "I've already raised my children, and I don't want to be bothered by anybody elses!" She demanded to be moved to another section of the restaurant. (We were a small establishment, and the "Other" section was closed as there was only one waitress on duty) The poor mother was mortified--her children were not misbehaving--just being kids. One by one, the other diners came by their table and assured her that that woman was out of line, and they didn't mind a little childish enthusiasm. The irritable woman left in a huff, and we never saw her again. I say, "Good riddance to bad rubbish!"
"The proof is in the pudding", as my Grandma used to say. One day you will be surprised to have people tell you how nice and polite your children are and you won't have seen a trace of it at home.
You are doing a great job, and taking your kids out in the world teaches them what they need to know. Your children will do you proud.
Grandma Judy - August 21, 2008 at 4:54 PM
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So wait a minute here. I am not sure what it is that your kids did that upset this woman whose comment you posted?? What is she upset about?? What did they do?? They are just being kids.
I tell you, I feel sorry for HER kids. What do they get to do?? Sit on a chair all day?? Is she talking about the way your kids acted in the hair cutting place? Because you left. You did your best to deal with it, it was clear it was not working, so you left. WHat was it that you did that was negligent or irresponsible or "letting" your kids behave in a certain way?? I am totally lost here! LOL
Some people just don't let kids be kids. YOu keep them safe, you teach them right from wrong, you raise healthy kind and independant adults. That is what you are doing. Your kids are awesome! They are not perfect, just like you and the rest of us aren't. You are constantly commenting on how not perfect you are. It is clear that you love your children with your entire being. They are smart, funny and great people. So I am not sure where this woman thinks you are going wrong?? People who are too strict and tough on their kids raise people full of resentment and they rebel and get into the exact trouble the people were trying to avoid in the first place. Not to mention no happy memories and loving cuddles to think back on. You don't expect perfection from your kids, they know they can be who they are around you and love them, faults and all. Man, we mess up with our kids all the time. Look how forgiving and loving THEY are with us. Why don't they deserve the same??
Maybe this is not making sense. I just don't understand how anyone could take issue with what you do in your childrearing. You stories are amusing, and we laugh and cry with you. The whole Lexi and Clay and the garage door thing, man. Seriously, I was totally crying. Just because I can imagine how you felt! These things happen. You know how serious it is. And you share it with us! Not to be judged, but like you said. To make the rest of us feel like we are not alone in this MOST IMPORTANT job EVER, of raising kids.
Keep up the great work, Dawn! YOu are AWESOME and so are your kids:)
Like Grandma Judy said. Lots of people have their ideas and there is no talking them out of it. They make instant judgements about something they know nothing about. For example my family hates it that we home school our kids. Any time my kids do anything, it is because "they don't go to public school". SO I guess apparently if my kids went to public school, they would never act like kids!??! My son stepped onto the bottom rung of a neighbour's fence so that he could talk to the little girl on the other side. My mother flipped out and there was a big thing about it and he just now told me today that my mother said, "If you went to public school, they would teach you things like that. You wouldn't get to do anything you want and not know the rules of how to behave." SO I guess 9 year old boys are not supposed to stand on the lower rung of a wooden fence?? I wasn't aware of this. Is there a class at public school teaching them the dangers of this?? So that means all you ladies who choose to send you kids to public school, none of them have ever stepped onto a fence before?? WOW! My son is totally out of control, I guess, eh?? - August 21, 2008 at 8:04 PM
You tell her Dawn!!!!!
- August 21, 2008 at 8:27 PM