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10 Ways To Help Pregnant Women Feel Better
70 comments:
- Pregnant Father said...
I've found that talking seems to work best. The more we talk, the better she feels. Well, that and exercising with her.
- July 25, 2009 at 9:15 AM
- Krista said...
Any experience or suggestions when its twins! People keep telling us "wow you guys are so lucky" My husband and I fail to see our luck! I fear I may drive us both insane well before we're due!!!
- July 27, 2009 at 1:21 PM
- baby clothing said...
Good article about '10 ways tohep pregnant women feel better'... very innovative... thanx for sharing...
- November 17, 2009 at 9:52 AM
Good suggestions and I'll try just about all of them right now because my 35-week pregnant wife just stormed out of the house. We were supposed to go together to a baby store about 20 miles away but she basically got up and left. It all started when she made a smart comment about not getting her a back massager (there's good reason for that -- she's never liked any of the massage products I have ever given her). After mentioning that I have been doing a lot for her, I slipped up by saying I don't need to keep helping her if I'm just going to be slapped around constantly (a hollow threat indeed). Obviously she didn't take that comment well. Now I'm sitting here reading your blog for the first time after typing "dealing with pregnant women" into Google.
- October 11, 2010 at 9:29 AM
- Ninja Mommers said...
Goodness sakes, I wish I had of seen this while I was pregnant with my first. I would have directed husbands attention to this. Insightful, hilarious.. and what a fantastic read!! THANK YOU LOL! Maybe we will read it as a refresher if I have another pregnancy lol.
- January 26, 2011 at 9:38 AM
- pregnancypillowsreviews said...
There are some very good suggestions here. Pamper a pregnant woman, that always works.
- February 3, 2011 at 9:13 AM
Thanks a lot, very helpful.. at least I hope it does! ;-)
- April 8, 2011 at 3:38 AM
- Garth said...
I bought my wife a body pillow for her pregnancy and it made her comfortable so she slept better and so did I.
- May 28, 2011 at 1:06 PM
- mommy said...
I am amazed at how thoughtful and understanding you've been during your time with a pregnant wife. The fact that you have an entire blog, and that you take the time to research about women is commendable! I am currently 37 wks and I can relate to so much here...I just wish my husband spent as much time researching pregnancy as he does work. I look forward to reading more of your blog! I need inspiration...and the comment about an open ear is so true...pregnant women have lots of anxiety.
- May 29, 2011 at 8:28 PM
- Brady said...
The BEST thing I found to make my wife feel better when she was pregnant was a body pillow. Starting at around 14 weeks she was having real trouble sleeping and she was taking it out on me!
I gave her the body pillow and wow, what a difference it made. She started sleeping soundly and waking up much less often, and she'd wake up without back aches and other pains. She still swears to this day it's the best money we ever spent. I might agree just because it made her much happier (read - less rawr in my direction)! - June 20, 2011 at 9:52 AM
- Paul said...
Thanks for the tips i'll try and give them a go as I can't take any more. Work is stressful and then when I get home I am treated like I am worthless, meaningless and irrelevant. Massive mood swings, hates me touching her, won't give me eye contact, won't smile when I get home from work. It's really, really getting too much and am probably going to explode very soon
- July 28, 2011 at 12:32 AM
This blog is possibly the most helpful thing I have ever stumbled across on the internet. I'm going to print myself a copy (obviously hide it) and hopefully reap the benefit, I'm in a similar position to Paul and I think that the man's emotions and struggles at this time are not well represented enough. Thankyou 'Almost a Dad' you're my saviour!
- September 24, 2011 at 3:35 AM
I'm 5 weeks pregnant with my second child, (different father). I will be directing him to this site, and highlighting all the stuff I want him to absorb into his head. Which is pretty much all of it. The 10 tips are fantastic! Your wife is certainly a very lucky woman.
- October 12, 2011 at 8:51 PM
Being tret like crap makes u feel even worse, its our secong child in 19 months so times are hard due to first baby not sleeping yet...we have 8 days remainin til due date on 2nd baby and the things she says to me are awful...i have been close to leavin whenever she calls me unneeded insults every other day...this site helps but its no excuse for behavin the way she does.....
- December 30, 2011 at 9:43 PM
I've tried everything, sometimes it works, and sometimes it doesn't. These are great tips but watch out, pregnant women sometimes just can't be consoled. As long as they know you're always there when you need them you're on the right track.
- January 7, 2012 at 4:48 PM
I have tried everything on this list. I mean everything. and nothing is working.
- February 15, 2012 at 6:36 PM
my partner doesn't go out at night and look for food i like. he just sit in front of the computer and just play.it's okey for him that i go out and walk along the park and look for the food i like... hmmmm i hate so much.
- March 15, 2012 at 6:56 PM
Mr. Anonymous who's tried everything. In your situation, you should just stick to #11. The Exorcism.
- May 4, 2012 at 12:30 PM
Super funny, and great suggestions. I'll be taking this advice, for sure :)
- May 16, 2012 at 8:36 AM
Great blog, especially the posts from mr anonymous I can totally relate to your situation. I say the littlest things and my wife explodes, she is so sensitive and its beenhard to accept but I keep forgetting she is hormonal and heavily pregnant. Good work, no.11 is one i will try next "May the power of christ compel you!" lol
- May 30, 2012 at 1:02 PM
is it normal for my pregnant fiance to not want to even speak to me unless she wants food or somethin? its really confusin to me shes only 10 weeks will she be like this the whole time? definitely need some help with this one.
- June 24, 2012 at 2:23 PM
I feel like im not wanted
- June 27, 2012 at 7:13 PM
The one piece of advice which seems to ring true again and again is. Your wife is quite likely crazy, but put up with it. Once the baby is born she will turn back into a loving wife and won't even remember the person she became.. Stick with it!! Get a calendar and count down the days to seeing your wife again:-)
- July 9, 2012 at 7:18 AM
Yes I think it's very normal.mine won't even kiss me or let me touch her.sometimes I'm asked to give her a back rub.i think there are generally two kinds of pregnancies for guys to go through.the one that's great and fun....and the one that just sucks!either way it's all about making her feel beautiful and loved.and most of all listen,man I can't stress that enough!just hang in there and keep her in mind in everything you do till the baby is born.
- July 19, 2012 at 1:41 PM
so my fiance tells me she wants more kids,after I get back from afghanistan...things get rough between us.im closed off,dont want to talk to her and then one day she tells me she is falling in love with me all over agian.to make this short!shortly after this she finds out she is pregnant and it starts.first the sex stops,she doesnt want it at all,then it hurts her.I underrstand that.but then she stops talking to me all together and acts like she doesnt want anything to do with me.its like no matter what i do for her its not apprieciated.and I totally understand she is feeling like the ugliest person in the world with the worst pains but im trying like all heck to be here and make her feel better.all Im aloud to do is give her back rubs.just really needed to vent i guess but im trying these suggestions and hoping the nitemare ends soon.going into the second trimester!
- July 22, 2012 at 8:08 PM
To all you men complaining you feel unloved/worthless ect, while I understand where you're coming from. Imagine for a second the worst man flu you've ever had. Now imagine that lasting for 9 months. Imagine not being able to sleep it off. Imagine all the foods and things you would have once found comfort in now having the opposite effect? Imagine loosing the figure that once gave you confidence. Finally imagine a certain part of your anatomy never quite being the same. I think you'd be a bit miserable right? And thats just the tip of the iceberg. Woman do act up, we can be unreasonable, selfish and we don't know when to shut up. But the fact of that matter is, we go through all of this to have a child with the man we love. So next time you feel invisible because of our mood swings, just remember all that crap comes from a place of love. And the end result, kinda worth it dont you think?
- August 2, 2012 at 5:31 PM
My wife and I are pregnant with our second baby now. I can Definitely say the second Pregnancy is rougher than the first. Yes, she is moody, grumpy, and sometimes hateful. Yes, little things set her off. I left a can of sprite on the table and well, I won't make that mistake again, lol.
Through it all, I know she loves me, I know I love her, and I know it gets better once the baby comes. - August 5, 2012 at 6:34 AM
- swilliams6387 said...
My lady is pregnant with our 4th child (8, twins are 6, all girls hoping for a boy)and its a nightmare! She argues bout everything from morning until night. She doesn't want me to touch her or hold her at night anymore. She pinches me constantly and pushes my touch away when i try to hug her or kiss her.She constantly throws up and have heartburns. She lays down most of the day and doesn't have interest in home cooked food. She has backaches and headaches probably caused from yelling at me or the kids all day. She is only 4 months. i need help. I don't know what to do. I try to give her her way sometimes but it seems to not work.Im not much of a talker and I spend alot of time on the computer doing work but I do make time for her. Somebody help me.
- August 14, 2012 at 8:08 PM
- swilliams6387 said...
My lady is pregnant with our 4th child (8, twins are 6, all girls hoping for a boy)and its a nightmare! She argues bout everything from morning until night. She doesn't want me to touch her or hold her at night anymore. She pinches me constantly and pushes my touch away when i try to hug her or kiss her.She constantly throws up and have heartburns. She lays down most of the day and doesn't have interest in home cooked food. She has backaches and headaches probably caused from yelling at me or the kids all day. She is only 4 months. i need help. I don't know what to do. I try to give her her way sometimes but it seems to not work.Im not much of a talker and I spend alot of time on the computer doing work but I do make time for her. Somebody help me.
- August 14, 2012 at 8:13 PM
- i want off this ride said...
OK so reading the comments all of them sounded similar Mine is well "I don't know or were too start but here go's" My wife has never really been interested in kids, where as I have always wanted them. 19 wks ago she finds out that she is pregnant, in telling me the news she immediately followed with saying she would have documents drawn up for me to sign saying I would not be responsible for supporting it. Now we were not married at the time but we had made life commitments to each other. and have know each other for 15 plus years been in a committed relationship for 5 years Now she is reclusive I haven't seen here in two week she will stay in here room and wont come out do I press and invade here sanctuary the verbal abuse seems like BS Because while I have not had a flu for nine months but I have been bead ridden for nine weeks and the last thing I would do is be abusive to my family or friends in spite how utterly miserable I felt. I know its all about them but how can you keep getting kicked and pretend nothing is wrong I keep reading in the posts when the baby is born you get your wife back but what about the mental and phycological effects on myself and the relationship after all she might not remember, I do! and Im sorry the hormones reason it always feels that there is some intent as if there is a "I don't have to do shit for shit with shit Free Pass" behind the crazy tantrums It seems counter productive maybe just down right masakistic but abusive and why is it ok? I don't know what to think any more and my sense of self is destroyed and make me not want to keep trying.
Help...... - September 4, 2012 at 12:59 AM
My boyfriend and i are nine weeks prego and we cant seem to make the other person happy im going crazy feel unloved i barley see him he feels in over dramatic and needs to change to understand him and how to be with him but yet i am not reciving that in return he promises he will change but he has been promising for five years and now we have a baby on the way and don't know if we can be together
- September 10, 2012 at 12:49 AM
I am 25 weeks pregnant. I split up with the father in the early days of pregnancy but we remained friends and he said he wanted to be as involved as possible. I don't quite know what he means by this as he's never there unless it suits him. He has been to the scans and says he wants to be at the birth, but he has done nothing...absolutely nothing...to help me through what is a really difficult pregnancy. (It's my 3rd and his 1st). He knows that I'm not coping well mentally or physically yet has never once said 'is there anything I can do to make things easier or less stressful for you?' He did say he would help with my garden but over a month later there was still no sign of him helping me out. He doesn't understand the hormonal moods and takes them personally despite me telling him I can't control my hormones or how I feel.
Things have now reached the point that I just don't want him around anymore, although I'm his ex I've made every effort to involve him yet he acts like I'm an insignificant baby carrier. I've never felt more ill, exhausted or lonely and can't understand, if he really wants this baby, how he can leave me to struggle so much on my own with everything. I feel like I'm being punished for something but I don't know what.
Things have now reached the point where I don't even want him at the birth. I know this may sound unreasonable but I feel that it's not on that he gets to pick and choose what he is there for. He hasn't been there for me so I don't see why he should get the privelidge (think that's spelt wrong!) of being there at my most vulnerable and painful time. I am in desperate need of help and support so have hired a doula instead. - September 18, 2012 at 11:33 PM
I'm a first time pregnancy and must say right about now I feel really bad for men because we women really do go insane from all this momentarily. I think as women its important to reflect on what others are going to feel during a pregnancy keep it in mind as much as possible and not let the brat get the best if us, just breath. It is the most vulnerable feeling ever to be pregnant. Just ride the wave dear fathers to be and trust in your inner strenght as men. We are born for love no one said it would be all soft ;)
- October 3, 2012 at 9:08 PM
- Unknown said...
Hi a bit random and not related go the tips above but my wife is expecting and only 12a weeks but has started sleeping a lot like most of the day and all night is this normal
- November 20, 2012 at 7:17 AM
thanks , thought it was only my girlfriend till i read all this ,made me feel abit better about it
- January 6, 2013 at 5:22 PM
Just have to say I am 13 weeks pregnant and def hasn't been easy and yes I have flipped out but always calm down and talk it out with my husband. I think some of the problems you are all facing is insecurities with yourself and your spouses insecurities. Her body is changing to something she doesn't recognize or feel comfortable in and it is communication and reassuring her that will help. My husband and I are best friends and we keep nothing from each other. No matter how irrational or just retarded a thought might be, we share it with each other and talk it out. If you are struggling with your spouse, stop focusing on negatives because it makes nothing better. Leave notes on the mirror with a dry erase marker for each other, send texts, be kind and only kind until you can rebuild what is damaged. During pregnancy we feel like failures!! Our relationship struggles, sex life struggles, washing dishes becomes a major task!! The role we had in the home has changed and now taking a shower feels like manual labor!! There is no excuse for hatefulness but there is also no excuse for doing it in return! Good luck and stay positive because as long as you are staying positive and doing your best, everything will work out!! Buy her some comfy maternity pajamas or a gift certificate for pregnancy massage..:)
- January 11, 2013 at 11:34 AM
i am a 13 yr old girl. don't try thinking that i am pregnant because i'm not. it's my mom. You see, my mom is having her 3rd child and now that i am older and understand a few more things that i didn't back when my mom had her 2nd child (i was 7), i have noticed things with my mom including: keen sense of smell, morning sickness, mood swings, etc. i couldn't simply take it anymore (with my mom being sick and having to throw up every time she entered a diffrent room because it SMELLED) so while my mother was taking a bath (she takes a long time) i cleaned the 1/2 bathroom, the kitchen, the living room, the dining room, my room, her room, and my brother's room. after she came out of the full bathroom i cleaned it too.the house smells fresh and she obviously feels better. i found this and decided to write it down to give to my stepdad (who works from 6 to 8) so he can ACTUALLY help out... bye i have to do my homework
- January 14, 2013 at 3:01 PM
- Unknown said...
My wife is 22 weeks of what has felt like 3 years of pregnancy. I'm trying to think outside of the box here because the seemingly less times she is happy I end up sleeping on the couch and I want her to know I completely support her pregnancy and want to play a large role in it. I wish there was a way to make her feel more confident and trusting of me but seems no matter how hard I try it doesn't work. She doesn't realize how much I love her and care about her and this pregnancy. I wish I knew that magical trick that would help her understand.... Any advise would be appreciated.
- January 18, 2013 at 9:45 PM
- Unknown said...
Looking to make this experience a good one for my beautiful wife. I need help letting her know how she means to me and how proud I am that she fights the fight of pregnancy for our family. What can I do to give her security that she is the ONLY woman I could ever want in my life? If we could rid of the insecurities she has that I would rather have someone else now that she is showing in our pregnancy so much I think it would fix so many things... suggestions would be appreciated..
- January 18, 2013 at 10:02 PM
Figure it this way, guys. Your level of involvement in the pregnancy is entirely voluntary, hers is not. She has hormones that are beyond her control and her body is creating new organs as well as the baby itself. She gets no break. All of the pain, hormonal responses, and exhaustion are not optional for her. If you feel like crap because you think she is being too hard on you, try and imagine how much more horrible she must be feeling to act that way. And then remember that you can walk away and escape the negative feelings, but she can't. Everywhere she goes, she's still pregnant, while you're only affected by it second hand.
- February 5, 2013 at 7:36 AM
You're kind of awesome.
- February 5, 2013 at 7:37 AM
This was amazing! Wish I could get my SO to pretend to care that I'm 24 weeks pregnant long enough to read this. I don't ask for much...no back rubs no foot rubs no going out at midnight for cravings even no body pillow but I would like some help. Sitting in front of the TV while I lug all the laundry I just washed up the steps is not okay! I wish there were more men like you!
- February 18, 2013 at 10:29 PM
- abner fernandez said...
Love it!
To the point, articulate and very interesting,
Thanks - March 3, 2013 at 1:53 PM
Ive found that talking things through lightens the load on both sides.hand massages help to relax also.
- March 7, 2013 at 8:17 AM
Hi there I can kind of relate to all this my partner is 10 wks pregnant and she's split up with she has another child but its dad didnt want nothing to do with him I've taken him on as my own and he's never wanted for anything but now cos I said about money worrys and how her son would take to another mentioning abortion but she can't as we both agree that isn't a option but she says she doesn't want me no more and that's in back of her head even though if I didn't want it I would of done what the last dad would of done an scarper but she says she don't feel the same about me and we she split up with me I love her I really do I provide for both of them she has a part time job that doesn't pay much what do I do hang on in there or do I just let her go ?? Please help
- March 16, 2013 at 1:40 AM
Wow I'm bout to be a dad and reading most of these comments really make me feel better knowing that I'm not the only one out there going through this. I've been so confused on weather I should just put up with her craziness, attitude, unnecessary smart comments, verbal abuse and extra. After all I do is bend over backwards and work and try to spend every minute with her. At the same time in one ear I'm getting " stop babying her" and in the other I'm hearing " do everything even if you know she's wrong still let her be right " I don't know I'm just venting. I honestly been doing everything to keep her happy but I feel like I don't get that love back now that she is pregnant the things she has said. I hope it's the hormones talking. It's been like this since she got pregnant and she is 6months. She was never like that before. I'm not being soft I'm just tryna be a good man and take care of her. I always reminded her that I would always be there through thick and thin. But I wish she could show that love back to.
- April 22, 2013 at 12:10 AM
What if she's just too hormonal and crazy at the same time. What do you do, what do you do!!!
- April 25, 2013 at 11:01 PM
I'm the same my fiancée is only 8 Weeks gone I work full time I cook clean do everything but wipe her ass and have been like that since I got with her. This is her second pregnancy but has gone so unloving its unreal never felt this low in my life I love sex but its a distant memory atm but before we were having it 5 times a day so gutted :(
- April 28, 2013 at 1:19 AM
- teresa_cho said...
It's just too bad that my husband won't do any of these things!! He still expects me to wait on HIM hand and foot (because he has a job! As if i don't!!) I also have a two year old and only 11 weeks and am struggling keeping up with everything by myself!! Sigh....
- May 14, 2013 at 11:03 AM
Good advice even though my husband still expects ME to wait on HIM hand and foot. Because he is the one that has a "job" (as if being pregnant and taking care of a two year old 24 hours a day isn't a "job!")I keep telling him he is lucky because most pregnant women demand to be waited on! I'm still doing everything by myself and he still does not help me! He won't even make an effort to be nice to me and I'm always crying...sigh. It sucks being pregnant. The least you could do is pick up your socks off the floor and TRY to be nice once in a while!
- May 14, 2013 at 11:12 AM
Don't worry you just gotta take a deep breath show her you can take whatever she dishes out at you and impress her by still loving on her believe me I kno I'm only 19 and so is my pregnant gf and she's crazy but she really loves that I'm still here. Try talking to the baby too
- May 29, 2013 at 7:22 AM
Hello. I'm 19 weeks. And after having my hormonal changes. I can understand where you men are coming from but please hear me out! I've gone from a 25 inch waist with DD chest some what clean skin to a fatty with acne. My body has changed so fast I feel weird even looking at me. My insecurities have left me single as I've pushed my other half away with all the anxiety and feelings that he didn't care. He showed no emotion or excitement with the pregnancy I've been to 98 % of my appointments alone with a high risk pregnancy. I'm sore tired and feel drained. If you take the time to show her she's important I'm sure once the first trimester passes she'll be more open and loving with you. I know you think it's silly. But there is soooo many changes going on emotionally physically and mentally with pregnancy, unless your going threw it you won't understand. Every pregnant woman is different. Be there for her even on her bad days. It'll pay off.
- June 1, 2013 at 9:00 PM
wow I have to say after last night I couldn't believe it usually she would not let me touch her and she has been having such a hard time sleeping we have 8 more weeks to go and today I rub her feet I love all the feedback on this thank you everybody and thanks for some of the funny stuff too I also found that even if I'm right and she's wrong as long as I do not even try to say I'm right avoids conflict which is wonderful ..thank you everybody!!!!!!
- August 13, 2013 at 3:55 PM
- Unknown said...
Every husband should read this!
- August 21, 2013 at 11:20 PM
Im 9 months pregnant and reminded 4times a day how I do nothing around the house, my bf makes HUGE deliberate messes throughout the house and RARELY goes to work, so its not like he doesnt have the time. I have a three year old whos DYING to go outside for an afternoon, I can not physically chase him and he wont take him out. He wont help with anything,at all. I got so mad today about the way the kitchen looks, we had a fight, theres a box in the living room for him to put his stuff in and leave, and hes playing video games right now
- December 17, 2013 at 1:48 PM
Hi, it's refreshing that can see it from both sides.
My girlfriend is moody all the time but I've learnt to step back and when she wants something she will ask.
The hormones are no reason to be mean and nasty but I understand how it must be and that you can't control them..
So, lads.. take a BUG deep breath, back off and when the hormones calm down you'll be needed..
We hope..
Good luck dad's to be.. we all need it (inc our gf's) - March 12, 2014 at 2:04 PM
Im 34 weeks pregnant with my first child. There are some men who are good men and supportive and make the pregnancy enjoyable. And some men think well all women have kids you are fine, and dont have any sympathy. And it makes us women more mad to see articles like this bc that's all we want. Im in so much pain from my back to feet, I ask for a massage and he says where is mine when ive done a few small ones this week. My dr put me on bed rest due, and so now I get even less help bc im not working when he just sells cars so his job is easy. Men who write this, make us pregos crazy bc most of our husband's dont help or make us feel supported.
- April 13, 2014 at 6:19 PM
Glad to see there are husbands out there who are supportive and care enough to try and make their wives a bit more comfortable. My husband unfortunately acts like it's business as usual, I don't even think he remembers that I'm about 4 months pregnant. He has to win every disagreement we have and acts like i'm off my rocker if I get upset about anything. He was pretty great with my first pregnancy. But my second, it's like it's not even happening for him and I'm just being needy and a pain in the ass for him to deal with. It's really very upsetting.
- June 2, 2014 at 2:39 PM
- Obgyn mountain view, ca said...
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- September 29, 2014 at 1:50 AM
- Unknown said...
I am 4 months pregnant trying to get my man to realize how much better he needs to treat me. I told him an hour and 15 minutes ago to read these articles and I just told him how long I have been waiting and he told me to "shut up" and "who the fu** cares about some articles someone else wrote!"
- November 6, 2014 at 10:25 PM
I understand. My boyfriend works nights and comes home and either sleeps or plays video games. It's irritating. I know he thinks he's trying but truthfully what I need is help with chores and physical attention that doesn't require sex. I know I haven't been in the mood but it bothers me when he gets upset going a week without it
- December 21, 2014 at 12:05 PM
- Unknown said...
Omg, reading this made me realize how much of an asswhole I was being to my girlfriend/future wife. She's three months pregnant and god this is harder than i thought. It's like if she's on her period everyday lol But I started googling a lot about understanding what women go trough during pregnancy and so far I found all hawsers here. Thanks a lot and from now on I am going to treat my girlfriend like a princess even when i know she's wrong.
- September 3, 2015 at 8:37 AM
Im 16 weeks pregnant now and it's still very tough with all the nausea and aches... Before pregnancy I was a very confident,fun loving, strong, career oriented and lets go for a drive at 2am kind of woman.. Now I hardly leave home. Everything depresses me I get tired too quickly and I give my husband hard time but through all this I actually love him more and yearn for him to talk to me. (most of the times he ruins my mood by talking lol)
Well my point is its difficult for the woman and the man so just hang in there. - September 6, 2015 at 9:11 AM
How did you get through the first trimester? I'm at week 12 with my pregnant lady and it's crazy. I hope it gets better, at least for a little while in the second trimester. I need a break.
- September 10, 2015 at 8:24 PM
Wat a relief it gave after reading this post here ! Mine is 11 weeks pregnant..she has jus gone crazy. One moment she loves me like anything, another monent she jus dont want to see my face. I am treated like a crap -- worthless person! Few days back, i got so tensed that i went inside the toilet to cry and vent out my frustration. I feel like exploding at times but have been controlling a lot since i love her very much. Dont know for how long it will continue. Really thanks for the wonderful tips !
- November 23, 2015 at 9:43 AM
- Unknown said...
im about 4 week still have a long way 😳
- January 15, 2016 at 9:09 PM
- Tabasco said...
my husband thinks that because he works I have to clean, do the dishes,cook, take care of our little one etc and if hes doing the house chores hes only helping me because it is my job not his. I never ever asked him for any help before our daughter was born. I used to cook,clean everything and it means everything!,do the dishes, laundry, even iron our clothes and work as well. since i quit my job i was again the one staying at home so i continued doing everything. when i fell pregnant , my body changed completely and i was continously unwell , I only needed him to do the vacuum cleaning and dishes and that as well he would do after a week or so.He has never cooked for me except making me tea. Now he asks me to reuse my dishes that i use. i just feel sad and really emotional and I feel I need someone to understand me because he argues so much as well and blames all on me. He takes care of our daughter though, fixes her a bottle of milk when she needs one and at night too if hes home.
- March 13, 2016 at 5:33 AM
- Unknown said...
thanks for all these ideas my girlfriend is one months and 1 week pregnant and she is so stubborn and miseriable these are so great info .. thanks much cause i think they will surely help
- April 7, 2016 at 12:10 AM
- Loube said...
This just made my cry probably just hormones lol.
I would love any of these off my partner? At 25 weeks pregnant I can honestly say I have not had one conversation with him.about my baby...If I do bring him.up I get called needy n to leave him to have a break as he just finished work lol. X - February 21, 2017 at 4:31 PM
- Unknown said...
Same here idk what I'm doing
- June 9, 2017 at 7:25 PM


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- increase the likelihood of creditors being compensated where they have suffered loss from director misconduct"
David Cameron seems keen to share the insights gained. Here's an extract from his letter:
"As you know, I believe that beneficial ownership and public access to a central register is key to improving the transparency of company ownership and vital to meeting the urgent challenges of illicit finance and tax evasion. So I am proud that the establishment of a publicly accessible central registry of company beneficial ownership information will now form a key pillar of our G8 legacy.
"We have conducted an in-depth consultation and now look forward to introducing legislation in the UK Parliament as soon as possible.
"I am firmly of the view that making company beneficial ownership information open to the public is by far the best approach. It will give businesses and individuals a clearer picture of who ultimately owns and controls the companies they are dealing with and make it easier for banks, lawyers and others to conduct due diligence on their customers. It will shed light on those who have provided false information, helping to tackle crime where it occurs and deterring people from providing this false information in the first place. And it will help reduce the cost of investigations for tax and law enforcement authorities here and overseas, particularly in developing countries, by making information more easily available to them at the very start of an investigation.
"I am very keen that we should move forward together in raising standards of transparency globally. I therefore wholeheartedly welcome all those Overseas Territories who are joining us in leading this work, either by already having a central registry in place or by consulting on establishing one.
It would seem that the net is tightening on organisations that use off-shore arrangements to avoid paying tax.

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Of Pentium D, Ethernet, and those assumption we all make
Recently, I did some benchmarking using Intel Pentium D® processors and gigabit Ethernet. The data are pretty impressive. If I were a non-technical person, I would probably say, Pentium D kicks ass, but you know, I like numbers and have a professional reputation to uphold. Therefore, in a professional sense I can say, Pentium D really kicks ass. To prove my point, this article presents some of the highlights from a recent white paper I prepared for Appro International called Achieving High Performance at Low Cost: The Dual Core Commodity Cluster Advantage. For a more complete description of the tests and results (including benchmark numbers) you probably want to download the white paper.
Back In The Day
Back when clusters started stirring up trouble in High Performance Computing (HPC) world, there were those that said things like, there is no way commodity hardware can stand up against real iron, or you cannot build a real supercomputer from PC parts. We all know how that turned out.
Today's cluster nodes typically have dual cores sitting in dual sockets connected by a low latency/high throughput network. In market terms, this is data center/sever level hardware -- the good stuff (and expensive). At the lower end of the spectrum is the desk-top hardware, which one would assume is not really up to snuff as far as HPC goes. You certainly cannot build a real supercomputer from this type of hardware, you probably have to use gigabit Ethernet for heavens sake! Sounds like an assumption to me. Some numbers are needed.
In the past, fellow monkey Jeff Layton and I have written about very low cost commodity computing where $2500 can get you 14.5 GFLOPS running HPL (the Top500 Benchmark). These results can easily be improved upon today as the tests were performed in 2004. Indeed, the introduction of low cost dual core processors combined with some innovative motherboards make the commodity proposition a very real alternative to the high end server hardware. Enough talk, let's get to the results because they tell the real story.
Pentium D You Say?
For the tests, I used the recently introduced 3.2 GHz Pentium D (Presler) processor from Intel (which will eventually be replaced by the Xeon 3000 line). The Presler series is a dual-core processor manufactured using the latest 65nm process and is currently available at speeds up to 3.40 GHz. More importantly for HPC users, each Presler has 4 MB of on-chip cache which it divides evenly between the two cores (2 MB each). These caches are fed using an 800MHz FSB and DDR2 memory. We used eight of these to create a 16 core cluster.Dangerous Assumptions
As a way to introduce the results, lets look at some of the assumptions currently floating around the HPC market, but first the standard advisory. As with all things cluster, performance depends on your application. If your application(s) do not behave like the benchmarks, then you may want to do your own testing. In my testing, I used the NAS Parallel Benchmark Suite and the GROMACS Molecular Dynamics package. You also may want to look at Parallel Molecular Dynamics: Gromacs by Erik Lindahl.The cluster consisted of eight Pentium D 940 (3.2 GHz) processors (16 cores total), one per motherboard, connected with an SMC 8 port gigabit Ethernet switch. (See the Testing Methodology Sidebar at the end of the article for more information.) Based on my testing, the following assumptions may be worth checking:


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How to weatherize your home
Steps you can take to save energy, lower cooling bills, make your home more comfortable and reduce pollution.
A typical American family spends nearly $2,000 per year on home energy bills. With energy costs skyrocketing, many are reconsidering how they use energy in their homes.
The Inflation Reduction Act contains many rebates and tax credits designed to help Americans reduce their energy use, make homes more comfortable, and reduce our dependence on fossil fuels that pollute the air we breathe inside and outside our homes.
Whether you're just trying to lower bills or working to "electrify everything" in your home, weatherization is a great place to start.
Some of the steps outlined in this guide can require an upfront cost, but it's an investment that will pay off in energy savings. Those energy savings mean lower bills, more comfortable living spaces and less pollution because the cleanest energy is the energy you never use in the first place. And by making sure you're not wasting energy, weatherization can make sure any heating upgrades you may be considering are right-sized for your household's actual needs.
Tips to getting started saving energy
Get a home energy audit
What is a home energy audit?
A home energy audit, sometimes referred to as a "home energy assessment," is an inspection that assesses how your home uses energy.
What happens during a home energy audit?
During an energy audit, a professional energy auditor will complete a walk-through of your entire house and conduct a few tests to find ways for you to improve your home's energy use.
Some of the most common tests completed during a home energy audit include:
- Blower door tests to measure air leakages through cracks and openings in your home's envelope
- Thermographic inspections with infrared cameras to find hot and cold spots in your home where additional insulation could help, and potentially identify air leaks.
- Indoor health screenings to look for signs of carbon monoxide and mold
- HVAC system efficiency test to see if there are air leaks
What do you get from an energy audit?
Once the inspection is complete, the auditor will provide you with a writeup and explanation.
This information can help you understand the whole picture of your home's energy use, including: how much energy your home uses, where it's inefficient and which problem areas and fixes you should prioritize. A home energy audit is a sensible first step as you embark on energy-saving home improvements.
How much does an energy audit cost?
Professional home energy assessments provide a thorough analysis of your home's energy use. An average professional home energy audits costs between $200 and $700 depending on the home's size and the intensity of the audit. Starting in 2023, the Inflation Reduction Act's Energy Efficient Home Improvement Credit will cover the cost of home energy audits up to $150.
How do I find an energy auditor?
The Department of Energy offers more tips and guidance on professional home energy assessments here and recommends RESNET or the Building Performance Institute can help you find an energy assessor near you.
DIY energy audit
A diligent self-audit can help you pinpoint problem areas and prioritize your energy efficiency upgrades. Solar Reviews has developed a DIY energy audit checklist you can download and the Department of Energy also offers helpful guidance for conducting your own home energy assessment.
Find air leaks yourself
The most effective way to find air leaks is with a blower door test administered by an energy auditor. This test can help you accurately identify the air leaks in your home.
But you can find air leaks without the test by visually inspecting your home. You can create your own pressurization test to find the biggest air leaks yourself. Here's how:
- Wait until a windy day
- If you have a combustion furnace or water heater, make sure it's turned off.
- Close all windows and doors.
- Take an incense stick, candle or blown-out match (still smoking) and pass it near common leak locations, such as electrical outlets and lightswitch plates (particularly on exterior walls), door and window frames, electrical and gas service entrances, baseboards and more.
- If you see the smoke waver at a particular location, there's an air leak there that you'll want to seal up.
Assess your ventilation & moisture management needs
A properly air-sealed home also needs to be properly ventilated to keep it safe, healthy and comfortable. The Department of Energy offers resources on ventilation and identifies three basic ventilation options —natural ventilation, spot ventilation, and whole-house ventilation. The "appropriate" amount and type of ventilation varies from home to home so you'll need to determine what's right for you as you reduce the air leaks in your home.
Use caulk to seal cracks and openings that let air in
Air leaks can waste a lot of energy. Once you've identified air leaks in your home, one of the quickest energy- and money-saving tasks you can do is to seal up cracks and openings that let air in with caulk. Here's how to do that in five easy steps.
How to caulk air leaks
Assemble your materials
You'll need something to scrape away old caulk like a putty knife or old flat-head screwdriver, a caulk gun, a tube of caulk and a rag for wiping up.
Prep your surfaces
You'll want to scrape away any old caulk, dust or debris before you apply fresh caulk. Make sure the area you plan to caulk is clean and dry before you start.
Prep your caulk gun
Cut the tip of your tube of caulk at a 45-degree angle and don't make the opening too big. You can always cut it a second time if you need to make the hole larger.
Apply your caulk
Run a bead of caulk in the crack you're working to seal.
Smooth your bead of caulk
By smoothing the surface of the bead of caulk you just applied into the crack with your finger, you help it seal to all sides and the crack.
Weatherstrip around windows & doors
Weatherstripping is the best way to seal air leaks around windows or doors. Here's are some simple steps for how to go about it.
How to weatherstrip around doors
Prep your surfaces
The adhesives used on the backs of many forms of weatherstripping will stick best to clean and dry surfaces. You'll want to make sure to clean the sides of the door or window and the jamb or frame with soap and water and let it dry thoroughly.
Measure your door
You'll want to install strips on the door jamb around the top, both sides and the bottom of your door. Take careful measurements of your door height and width and write down the measurements.
Make sure your door hinges are tight
Grab hold of your door knob and lift the door upwards. If there is play in the hinges and the door moves up, tighten the screws on the top hinge. Then make sure the screws on the bottom hinge are tightly screwed in as well.
Measure the door jamb
You need to answer two questions that will inform how much weatherstripping you need to buy and how wide it should be. The first question is, how wide is the gap between the door and the jamb? This will inform how thick your weatherstripping should be. To get this measurement, measure the door jamb, subtract the width of the door and divide by two. You'll want to get weatherstripping that can fill that gap when compressed. Next you'll want to measure the sides and top of your door jamb. Sum up all the totals and add 10% for good measure so that you have enough weatherstripping to complete your project.
Go shopping
You'll want to choose the right weatherstripping for your project. Wide enough to cover the width of your jamb and thick enough to fill the gap between the door and the jamb. You may also want to purchase a right-sized door sweep that is wide enough to cover the width of your door.
Cut your weatherstripping into segments and check for fit
Cut one strip for the top of the door jamb and two for the sides. Better to err on the side of too long than too short. Before you apply your weatherstripping, check the length to make sure it's not too short.
Apply your weatherstripping & door sweep
If the weatherstripping you bought has an adhesive back, peel it away and press the stripping into place on the sides and tops of your door jamb. You'll want to start in a corner and work your way along. Then install the door sweep. Because the screws that come with a door sweep are often small, you will be well-served to predrill holes using an electric drill. You'll want to position the sweep so it seals tightly against your threshold.
How to weatherstrip around windows
Inspect and clean your surfaces
You want to make sure your sills are in good condition prior to installing weather stripping. Clean the inside edges of the window frame and the bottom of the sash with soap and water and allow to dry thoroughly.
Measure your window
Measure the surfaces you plan to attach weatherstripping to.
Go shopping
Choose weatherstripping that is the same width as your window and thick enough to seal the gaps. Purchase enough weatherstripping to cover the lengths you plan to seal and add 10% to be safe.
Install the weatherstripping
Peel away the backing on one end of your weatherstripping and start in a corner and gently push to apply. Close and latch your windows to make sure the insulation compresses to seal out air, but that you can still close your window. It should be snug.
The Department of Energy has put together a step-by-step weatherstripping guide that can help you to weatherize these movable parts of our homes so you can tackle this project with confidence.
Lower the temperature of your hot water heater
Some manufacturers set water heater thermostats at 140ºF when a temperature of 120ºF is usually adequate for most households. In addition to saving energy, the lower setting slows mineral buildup and corrosion in your water heater and prevents scalding.
How to make sure your water heater is at the right temperature
Poke around
Research how to adjust the temperature on your water heater. Your owner's manual should have guidance.
Assemble your materials
You'll need a thermometer and a marker.
Take a measurement
Go to the faucet furthest away from your water heater, run the hot water and measure the water temperature with your thermometer.
Track your work
Make a mark at that temperature on your water heater's thermostat. If it's hotter than 120 degrees, turn down the thermostat.
Repeat as needed
Wait a few hours to let the water in your water tank come to the right temperature. Then take another measurement. Again, go to the faucet furthest away from your water heater, run the hot water and measure the temperature. Repeat steps 3 through 6 as many times as needed to get your water to the exact right temperature.
Insulate your water heater
Just like insulating your walls or roof, insulating your electric water heater is an easy and inexpensive way to improve energy efficiency and save you money each month.
The Department of Energy has great tips for how to insulate your water heater tank. https://www.energy.gov/energysaver/do-it-yourself-savings-project-insulate-water-heater-tank
Insulate hot water pipes
Insulating your hot water pipes reduces the amount of heat lost between your water heater and faucet. Properly insulated pipes can keep water temperature 2°F–4°F hotter than uninsulated pipes, which allows you to lower your water temperature setting on your water heater.
How to insulate hot water pipes
Plan your work, take some measurements & go shopping
Decide on what insulating material you will use. For electric water heaters, pipe sleeves made out of polyethylene or neoprene foam are most commonly used. For gas water heaters, it's important to keep insulation at least 6 inches away from the flue for safety reasons. If pipes are within 8 inches of the flue, your safest choice is to use fiberglass pipe-wrap (at least 1-inch thick) without a facing. You can use either wire or aluminum foil tape to secure the fiberglass to the pipe. The folks at the hardware store can help you get the right material for your situation.
Measure the width of your pipes. You want to match the pipe sleeve's inside diameter to the pipe's outside diameter for a snug fit.
Measure the lengths of your pipes. You need to measure the amount of insulation needed to cover all accessible hot water pipes starting at the water heater. You want to prioritize the first 3 feet of pipe from the water heater. It's also a good idea to insulate the cold-water inlet pipes for the first 3 feet.
Go shopping. You'll want to buy enough insulating material to cover all accessible pipes, as well tape to secure it. If buying fiberglass pipe wrap, make sure you have gloves, long sleeves and long pants and wire wrap to secure the wrapping to your pipes.
Cut the pipe sleeve to the lengths needed
Place the pipe sleeves seam side down
Heat rises so placing the seam on the underside of the pipe prevents unnecessary heat loss.
Secure the pipe sleeve
You can tape, wire or cable-tie the insulating material every 1-2 feet to secure the insulating material to your pipes.
Air seal and insulate floors over unheated garages
Air sealing and insulating between an unheated garage and the heated living spaces above can save energy and money, improve comfort, and safeguard indoor air quality. The Department of Energy offers a guide on how to properly install insulation in this kind of space.
Install storm windows
If you have single pane windows, purchasing and installing storm windows can make a big difference on your energy consumption. According to the Department of Energy's DIY guide on installing storm windows, installing a low-emissivity (low-e) storm window over a single pane window can reduce energy waste as much as replacing the window with a new window.
Done with basic weatherization and ready for the next step of taking charge of energy in your home?
Replace inefficient appliances
When replacing inefficient appliances, choose energy efficiency-certified products. Here are some tips for choosing efficient appliances.
Tips for purchasing energy-saving appliances
Choose ENERGY STAR
ENERGY STAR® is the government-backed symbol for energy efficiency, designed to provide simple, credible, and unbiased information that consumers and businesses rely on to make well-informed decisions.The ENERGY STAR logo is on all qualified products that exceed the federal minimum standards for efficiency and quality — sometimes significantly. Look for the label on appliances, electronics, water heaters, windows, and other products that consume energy in your home.
Use the Energy Guide
The federal government requires that most appliances display the bright yellow and black EnergyGuide label. These labels will show you the annual energy consumption and operating cost for each appliance so you can compare as you shop.
Consider smart appliances
Some manufacturers now offer "smart" appliances — appliances that can be connected to or controlled by smart electric meters or home energy management systems to help you shift your electricity use to off-peak hours, when power may be more affordable.
Smart appliances don't just turn off during times of peak electricity demand — instead, they use subtle ways to shift energy use. You might not even be aware of it. For example, your air conditioner may run slightly less often, or your water heater may adjust its heating cycle to operate when energy costs are lower, without impacting their performance.
Replace fossil fuel appliances with more efficient electric technologies
Most home appliances that burn fossil fuels – like furnaces, boilers, gas water heaters, dryers or cook stoves – are less efficient and pollute more than their all-electric counterparts.
Commit to electrifying something
Electric appliances and equipment are typically much more efficient than those powered by fossil fuels, and draw their power from a grid that incorporates more clean, renewable energy with every passing year. That makes "electrifying everything" one of the most powerful things most of us can do to make our home a clean energy home.
Now is the time to commit to electrifying something. Maybe the thing you choose to replace is an older piece of equipment that is on its last legs like an old furnace, a water heater, or gas stove. Or maybe it is something smaller like induction cooktops and window-unit heat pumps that cost only a few hundred dollars each. Whether your electrification project is big or small, the most important thing is to commit to starting somewhere.
Go solar
Many households are perfect for solar panels, and there are even local solar options available for renters or others who can't install their own system. We partner with EnergySage to bring you online tools and resources that make it easy to explore your local solar options.
Plan ahead
Big home energy upgrades such as replacing a heating system or installing solar panels require a lot of homework – identifying contractors, soliciting bids, and determining what kind of equipment best suits your needs. Make sure to leave plenty of time – with rising demand and many contractors still unfamiliar with technologies like heat pumps, there is no guarantee that a contractor will be available the moment you want them.
Electrifying everything in a home requires being able to deliver enough electricity to all those new appliances. For owners of older homes, though, this can be a problem, as older electrical service panels may not be designed to handle the additional load.
What tax credits and rebates are available?
The Inflation Reduction Act contains many rebates and tax credits to help Americans reduce their energy use. These credits lower the cost of weatherization and electrification projects so you save even more. U.S. PIRG Education Fund offers a great explainer on what the tax credits and rebates are in the Act, what they cover and how they will be administered. Some of the tax credits will be available for any project completed after January 1, 2023. Others are on a different timeline because they will be administered by the states.
For example, the law's High-Efficiency Electric Home Rebate (HEEHR) Program provides point-of-sale consumer discounts to enable low- and moderate-income households across America to make their homes more efficient with electric technologies. This program offers point-of-sale rebates as immediate discounts when making qualifying electrification purchases.
Households making less than 80% of the area median income are eligible for having 100% of their costs covered and moderate income households are eligible to have 50% of their costs covered. Rewiring America has created an IRA Savings Calculator
to help households determine their eligibility for these rebates. Qualifying households can expect the following rebates, which will be administered by state energy offices.
- Heat pump HVAC system $8,000
- Heat pump water heater $1,750
- Electric stove/cooktop $840
- Heat pump clothes dryer $840
- Breaker box $4,000
- Electric wiring $2,500
- Weatherization (insulation, air sealing, ventilation) $1,600
How to apply for weatherization assistance?
The U.S. Department of Energy's (DOE) Weatherization Assistance Program (WAP) is administered at the state and local level. For information on the Weatherization Assistance Program and how to apply in your state, click here.
Recording of Winter Weatherization webinar
Johanna Neumann
Senior Director, Campaign for 100% Renewable Energy, Environment America Research & Policy Center
Johanna directs strategy and staff for Environment America's energy campaigns at the local, state and national level. In her prior positions, she led the campaign to ban smoking in all Maryland workplaces, helped stop the construction of a new nuclear reactor on the shores of the Chesapeake Bay and helped build the support necessary to pass the EmPOWER Maryland Act, which set a goal of reducing the state's per capita electricity use by 15 percent. She also currently serves on the board of Community Action Works. Johanna lives in Amherst, Massachusetts, with her family, where she enjoys growing dahlias, biking and the occasional game of goaltimate.


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1865: Mendel's Peas
1865: Mendel's Peas
Gregor Mendel describes his experiments with peas showing that heredity is transmitted in discrete units.
From earliest time, people noticed the resemblance between parents and offspring, among animals and plants as well as in human families. Gregor Johann Mendel turned the study of heredity into a science.
Mendel was a monk in the Augustinian order, long interested in botany. He studied mathematics and science at the University of Vienna to become a science teacher. For eight years, starting in 1857, he studied the peas he grew in the garden of his monastery. He carefully pollinated the plants, saved seeds to plant separately, and analyzed the succeeding generations.
He self-pollinated plants until they bred true - giving rise to similar characteristics generation after generation. He studied easily distinguishable characteristics like the color and texture of the peas, the color of the pea pods and flowers, and the height of the plants.
When he crossed true-breeding lines with each other, he noticed that the characteristics of the offspring consistently showed a three to one ratio in the second generation. For example, for approximately every three tall plants, one would be short; for about every three plants with yellow peas, one would have green peas. Further breeding showed that some traits are dominant (like tall or yellow) and others recessive (like short or green). In other words, some traits can mask others. But the traits don't blend: they are inherited from the parents as discrete units and remain distinct. Furthermore, different traits - like height and seed color - are inherited independently of each other.
More Information
Mendel read his paper, "Experiments in Plant Hybridization" at meetings on February 8 and March 8, 1865. He published papers in 1865 and 1869 in the Transactions of the Brunn Natural History Society.
Some Biographies of Mendel:
Iltis, Hugo, Life of Mendel. Eden and Cedar Paul, trans. London: George Allen & Unwin Ltd. 1932. From the German publication, "Gregor Johann Mendel, Leben, Werk, und Wirkung", Berlin: Julius Springer, 1924.
Orel, Vitezslav, Gregor Mendel: The First Geneticist. Oxford & London: Oxford University Press, 1996.
In the following paper, scientists explained, in molecular detail, the cause of the wrinkled seed trait that Mendel had observed in his peas:
Bhattacharyya M.K., Smith A.M., Ellis T.H., Hedley C., and Martin C.. The wrinkled-seed character of pea described by Mendel is caused by a transposon-like insertion in a gene encoding starch-branding enzyme. Cell, 60: 115-122, 1990.
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