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Two more CSC students deny theft chargesNovember 06,2013Student theft ring:
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Two more Castleton State College student athletes have denied charges that they stole merchandize from a sporting goods store in Rutland Town.
Eric N. Cross, 19, of Morrisville and Zachary Howe, 28, of Westminster pleaded innocent in Rutland criminal court to misdemeanor charges of retail theft. Cross faces two theft charges while Howe is charged with a single count.
They are among six CSC students who have been charged with stealing from Dicks Sporting Goods.
Students Brandon E. Boyle and George A. Busharis have already denied a felony charge of retail theft and four misdemeanor charges of retail theft respectively.
Two other students, Dominic S. Heller and Mark Comstock, have also been charged in the theft ring and have been cited into court at a later date.
All six are players on the CSC football or soccer teams. Two more unidentified students in the alleged theft ring have been suspended by the college from sports but not charged.
Vermont State Police said Cross, with the help of Boyle, who worked at the store, left the store on two occasions with merchandise that wasnt paid for. The value of the items taken was $172.99, police said.
Police said Howe took merchandise from the store once, but the value of the goods was $304.93.MORE IN This Just InBy Josh O'Gorman Full StoryBy Gordon Dritschilo Full StoryCASTLETON - Police have released a picture of a man who robbed a convenience store Monday night. Full Story
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KANSAS CITY, Kan. (BP) -- Although several four-star films with artistic and technical merit have captured the attention of critics and moviegoers, I want to choose a few "bests" with themes that uplifted the spirit and entertained the heart.
These entries are my favs of the year, but some include content that may be considered objectionable. Due to space restrictions, please read my full reviews and get the reason for their ratings by going to
. As for the "could have beens," though containing powerful messages, the filmmakers couldn't manage to tell their stories without the use of crude or excessive content. This raises the question: does their profundity outweigh the profanity?
-- "Gravity"
Sandra Bullock and George Clooney are stuck in space. Then, just Sandra. Lots of twists and turns occur in this beautifully photographed lost-in-space action thriller. Seeing it in 3D and in IMAX is a visceral experience unlike anything since "2001: A Space Odyssey." Now, maybe I'm reading more into it than the writers intended, but its thoughtful moments about life and death suggest the sanctity of life. While not a tool for proselytizing any particular religion, it does contain ethereal questions amid its action sequences. (PG-13)
-- "Captain Phillips"
This true story of a freighter hijacked by Somali pirates gives Tom Hanks his best role in years.
Its central theme, much like Gravity's, revolves around man's instinct for survival. And like Gravity, as well as Robert Redford's "All is Lost," Captain Phillips' reflective moments concerning the preciousness of life give spiritual dimension to its storyline. (PG-13)
-- "Unstoppable"
In this thoughtful, heartfelt documentary from Provident Films, Kirk Cameron addresses the age-old question, "Why does God allow bad things to happen?" From a technical, artistic and spiritual perspective, Unstoppable is the most riveting and inspiring documentary I've seen in years. I saw 60 minutes of passionate examination that asserted we are more than mental and physical beings, and that our Creator is with us through the good and the bad: "... in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to his purpose" (Romans 8:28). (PG)
-- "42"
Chadwick Boseman stars as Jackie Robinson in this powerful indictment against prejudice and bigotry. 42 also exemplifies courage and faith in the ultimate good of man, and reminds us that one man, backed by another, can turn our world around. 42 is an engaging film, and despite the reenactment of injustice and the evil of bigotry, it is a film that offers hope and goodwill. Caution: (PG-13)
-- "The To Do List"
In this youth-aimed comedy, a teen girl feeling pressured to become more sexually experienced compiles a list of erotic sexual activities to accomplish before attending college in the fall. It's not just a movie that exploits vulgarity, but it also reflects the casualness of sex in today's society, never a good thing. (R)
-- "The Lone Ranger"
So here's a great idea for a film: take a beloved, iconic cowboy figure and update him as a klutzy moron. That should bring the folks in. (It didn't.) Along with the over-produced look, the several subplots too many, and the fact that Johnny Depp as Tonto does the same shtick he does in all his action/comedies, it's also an offensive, biased, insulting characterization of the pioneers. The movie further frustrated me by presenting every Christian character as either an imbecile or a villainous hypocrite. You can be sure that's the way some in Hollywood see us. I thought that thinking was called prejudice. (PG-13)
-- "The Big Wedding"
A dysfunctional family gathers for a weekend wedding celebration. The movie contains not one single fresh idea or true emotion, just stale gags, crude and often irreverent humor, and few insights. The Big Wedding is a big vulgar mess. The subject of a young couple entering into wedlock is ripe for incisive satire, but here we are given nothing of true substance or clever wit, just jokes about puke and bawdy sexagenarians, and irreverent religious jabs. And Robin Williams playing a "funny" priest? The comedian shouldn't play a pastor, he should see one. (R)
-- "All Is Lost"
After a collision with a shipping container at sea, a resourceful sailor (Robert Redford) finds himself staring his mortality in the face. I only have one fault with the film; at no point does the protagonist call out to God. Even if you're not a religious person, if the end seems at hand, don't you out of desperation cry out to a Higher Power? Yet, neither God nor the sailor's place in the afterlife are ever considered by the film's protagonist. (PG-13)
-- "Man of Steel"
Superman, our flying caped defender of the American way, gets a bit of an overhaul in Zack Snyder's Man of Steel. Though he can still leap tall buildings and is faster than a locomotive, we see him as a vulnerable, introspective outsider with doubts. Filled with spiritual metaphor, this is a good film, one that gives dimension and thoughtfulness to an overly familiar screen presence. Sadly, the Christian symbolism that radiated throughout the proceedings was overwhelmed by the bombastic and endless carnage. There was no blood, hence the PG-13 rather than an R rating. But make no mistake; by film's end we were all beaten up as much as that guy from Krypton.
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Casting Stones: When Is It Okay to Judge?
Published on - June 2nd, 2010 (by J.D. Roth)
I've been stewing over something for the past few days, and I'm finally ready to write about it.
I'm not a fan of judging others and their actions. Like Atticus Finch, I believe you never really know a person until you stand in their shoes and walk around in them. But I'm human. Like everyone, there are times I can't help passing judgment. And although I know that judging others isn't productive, sometimes I'm at a loss to do anything else.
Rock bottom
I had dinner with my buddy Michael last week. Michael's moving back to Portland after several years away, and his financial life is a mess. He's had a rough couple of years:
- He lost his home to foreclosure.
- He lost his job.
- His wife is out of work, too.
- And, last month, Michael filed for bankruptcy.
Not all of Michael's problems are due to the economy. He's brought plenty of woe upon himself due to a typical consumer lifestyle. He knows that.
Over a meal of southern-style fried chicken — my treat — we talked a lot about his financial situation. We've chatted some in the past, but I never feel like what I say makes much of an impact. I don't want to be too pushy, for one thing, but I also get the impression that Michael isn't ready to hear the message. Now, however, that may be changing. He has a haunting, hunted look about him.
Michael told me about the mistakes he's made and the lessons he's learned. He also confessed that he borrowed money from a family member, but had never repaid the loan. "It tears me up inside," he said. "I feel so guilty." Once he gets everything worked out, his goal is to pay that money back as soon as possible.
Michael explained how he's hoping to set up a budget; he wants to set money aside for things before buying them. "Plus, I want to pay myself first," he told me. "I've been reading about saving. I want to open a savings account and set aside $400 per month. My wife thinks we should use the money for other stuff, but I really think we should save."
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Because Michael is a good friend, I want to help him and his family. (Michael and his wife have two kids.) I've been watching for cheap rentals in the Portland area, and even found a house where he could stay for $500 a month (which is incredibly cheap). There are some drawbacks to the place, and I wouldn't suggest that he and his family stay there long term, but it'd be an awesome temporary home be while they get back on their feet.
"Thanks for finding that place," Michael told me as he took a bite of mashed potatoes and gravy. "But we've decided to rent someplace else. We found a place in Rock Creek for $1300 a month."
"Wow," I said. "That seems like a lot."
"Not really," he said. "That's pretty good for similar places in Portland. Plus, it gives us space for our two dogs."
I sighed inside. Sure, that may be a good price compared to similar houses, but I know there are tons of places to live in Portland for less than $1300 a month — if Michael and his wife are willing to make some sacrifices. I wanted to pursue this line of questioning — What about getting rid of the dogs? Why not look at the $500/month place I found? — but I let it go. You can only argue with your friends so much, right? We moved on to other topics.
Michael mentioned that although his wife is still looking for work, he's managed to find a job. (He was vague about what the work entailed and how much it paid.) He even has transportation. "I'm borrowing an old beater until I have a chance to buy a new car," he told me. Michael's last vehicle belonged to his employer, so he came to town not only homeless and jobless, but carless as well.
"You might want to wait to buy a new car until you're more sure of your situation," I said. "There's nothing wrong with driving an old beater. Heck, where you'll be living, you could ride the light rail into work."
"I hadn't thought of that," Michael said. And from the way he said it, I could tell he still wasn't thinking of it. In his mind, he needs a car — and a new one, too.
Further to fall
Before we parted ways, Michael gave me his new cell phone number. "What happened to your old phone?" I asked.
"It was the company's. I had to give it back," he said.
"That makes sense," I said. "What did you get instead? Did you go with a prepaid phone? That's a great way to save money."
Michael evaded the question, but when we stood up to leave, I noticed the phone hanging from his belt clip: a brand-new iPhone. Later I learned from a mutual friend that Michael didn't just buy a new iPhone for himself, but he bought one for his wife and for his 11-year-old son as well. (And he bought his 9-year-old son an iPod Touch so he wouldn't feel left out.)
This is the part of the story where you now have to imagine a little black squiggle hanging over my head, like in the comic strips. This is the point at which I go from being sympathetic for my friend to judging him — and not favorably.
The mote in my eye
But as I began to silently judge Michael's choices, I thought of my recent trip to Alaska. I spent ten days on the boat with my neighbor, the "real millionaire next door", and in those ten days I often felt like I was being judged.
- Before the trip, I bought a $120 backpack at REI. My goal is to use this for much of my travel during the coming years. It fits in an overhead compartment, and is a great way to limit what I carry. John frowned when he saw the new pack and asked, "What's wrong with a duffel bag from Goodwill?"
- On the first day, Mac and I tore a paper towel in half, and we each used our half as a napkin for several days. Eventually my napkin became grimy and gross, so I went to tear off another half a paper towel. When John saw me, he scolded me and told me I ought to use a cloth towel instead.
- Near the end of the trip, I threw a molding orange overboard. "I wish you hadn't done that," John said. "I could have cut out the bad part and eaten the rest."
- On the last day, I went to the bookstore in Sitka and bought a copy of Bruce Chatwin's In Patagonia, which I've been wanting to read for a long time. (After our trip to France and Italy this year, Kris and I hope to save for a trip to Argentina and Chile in 2012 or 2013.) When John saw I'd bought a new book, he shook his head. "I've got a lot of perfectly good books here on board," he said, indicating his library of old paperbacks.
Throughout the trip, I felt like I was under pressure to, well, be more frugal, to make the same choices John would make. And you know what? That pressure sucked. It felt awful. I didn't like the feeling of being judged, especially by somebody I look up to.
To judge, or not to judge?
So, I'm torn. As much as I hate to judge others, sometimes I can't help it — and now I'm judging Michael. He says he wants to change, he says he's learned his lesson from his bankruptcy, but his actions say otherwise.
He has no savings, no car, no home. His wife is out of work, and he's only just started a new job himself. Yet he's decided to rent a $1300 house, is looking to buy a new car, and has signed up for at least $180/month in cell phones. (I'm ignoring the start-up costs of the phones.) These are just the things I know about. Michael is talking the talk, but he's not walking the walk. (I'm reminded of a previous conversation with another friend.)
I know how tough it can be to change your behavior. I've been there before. I used to talk about changing, too, without making any actual change. I'm sure my friends just shook their heads at me. (In fact, I know that some of my friends used to wonder at my foolish choices — they've told me so.)
I hope Michael turns things around, but I can't help but judge his actions right now. And I don't know how to help him.
Footnote #2: Okay, folks. No need to leave any more "I can't believe you said that about the dogs" comments. You've made your point. In fact, I'm now whipping up an article for Friday where we can spend all day talking about the relationship between dollars and dogs. (And cats.) So, please: Save your pet-related discussion until Friday.
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Gosh, that's a tough one.
I see your situation and your friend's situation as two entirely different things. Perhaps your neighbor's comments would be justified if you were in financial trouble or were being irresponsible, but the fact of the matter is that you're not.
So, I'd be inclined to say something to your friend but not to you.
In either situation, though, I think care needs to be taken when it comes to HOW something is said. From what you've said, it sounds like your neighbor offered his comments in a judgemental way that was lacking in humility. It didn't sound like it came from a heart that wanted to help you, but instead from a heart that wanted to criticize you.
This is a universal issue.
There are always people doing 'better' than us at saving, scrimping, investing and making money. There are always people doing worse. It's so easy to judge and be judged.
One thing I didn't see was your friend asking for help – which makes me think he's still not ready. But he may not be ready until he truly hits rock bottom. (funny – I thought the court took away credit cards and such when people filed bankruptcy, hmmm). If you haven't already gone there, I suppose you could identify 2 or 3 BIG picture things you'd be willing to help him with (e.g., help him sit down and figure out a budget or help him define his values and how they should govern his financial decisions. or helping him throw away his book ) Then, rather than evaluating the individual items of his expenses, you could simply put the offer of big picture assistance out there and give him the opportunity to accept – or not. You could also invite him to spend a little time with you to observe how you and Kris live and how you make financial choices through the day.
Of course, sometimes the only teacher is experience. It's tough to see our friends (and relatives!) make the mistakes we've made, but sometimes that's the only way they'll figure things out.
Sounds like your neighbor is a cheapo. I'd rather be debt-free, happy, and able spend consciously than to be a millionaire living like a pauper.
I don't think you should feel too guilty for "judging" your friend. I would have told him straight-up (but not in an insulting or condescending way) how I felt about his bad financial habits and what he could do to change. He might not take your advice but at least you would have told him exactly how you felt.
Your neighbor apparently lives a life of extreme frugality. He already has millions saved- I don't see the harm in spending some of your hard earned money. Like the saying goes, "You can't take it with you" – so you better enjoy some of it. You're not in financial trouble so the chastising from your neighbor was unnecessary. You'll use the backpack and learn from your book.
what's missing from the picture are his goals. Like with anybody, you need a goal to strive for.
If your friend has a goal to pay off debt, perhaps he'll be mroe conscious of his consumer choices.
Having your friend set a goal and having you follow up on how he is acheiving his goal is a better approach than asking the questiong "why are you buying such and such?"
You can't help Michael.
I have a friend in the same situation and although he says he wants to change, he doesn't mean it. He can't afford to pay his bankruptcy lawyer the $750 to start proceedings. Another friend, he and I go out to dinner once a month, and he puts his share on his card (not sure if it's prepaid or not, and don't really care), and my other friend and I put ours on our cards. I would never offer to treat him. Rich people save their money, poor people treat everyone.
Michael's thought process is similar to a drug addict. They know what to say and whom to say it, but until THEY want to change their situation, nothing you can say will help them.
Save your energy and fight a different battle. Good post today.
There is one glaring difference in my opinion between the two situations. Michael NEEDS to change. That lifestyle will ruin him and his family. If you were to live even more frugally it would be by CHOICE. You don't really NEED to save more whereas Michael most definitely does.
I'm in the same situation with a girl getting married a few months after me. We have made every effort to save money for our wedding and are paying for everything with cash. My acquaintance doesn't have two dollars to rub together and speaks of saving money but never seems to. She also has a brand new iphone! At the beginning I passed along money saving tips I had found but now I just avoid all talk of it since it seems to make me enjoy my planning less. I feel terrible no matter what I do so now I just ignore it…
The millionaire next door sounds very judgmental and not someone I would like to travel with. As long as your decisions do not negatively impact your life – everyone has different goals and what they do with their money is their business. Your other friend might learn, but will more likely file for bankruptcy again without ever paying back his family member. I doubt saying anything would change him – so I would keep my mouth shut – but he definitely is wrong, a liar and a cheat (he can't be that torn up over the loan, if he is buying new iPhones for his family).
"During dinner, Michael told me that he's been reading personal-books."
Since he has already brought up this subject, this would be a good opportunity for you to pass along one or two of your favorite personal finance books that you feel might be better in helping Michael learn to manage his money.
lostAnnfound beat me to it! Perfect opening to lend him "The Millionaire Next Door." Not sure he's ready for YMOYL yet…
Great, thought provoking post.
I disagree with the idea that you can't help your friend. I do agree that you can't fix his problems for him.
Your journey to financial responsibility was a long process. You knew you needed to change, but it took awhile for the light to come on as to what change really meant. It may take awhile for your friend as well, and I know it is frustrating that the light is not coming on for him. You can't always bring someone around to the truth over a single fried chicken dinner.
That's sad. I agree with a previous commenter that the 'I'm torn up about the loan I never paid back' is probably a lot of lip service (both to you and even to himself) since I'd bet that a good chunk of whatever he owes could have been paid back by not having iPhones.
Sheesh, it's stories like this that make you realize that as much progress as we might be making on trying to get out of the debt cycle, we can only go so far. People just don't get it.
I'm with you…except for the part where you suggest him "getting rid of" his dogs. Pets are a commitment. You don't 'get rid' of them the same way you do an object.
How could you think of suggesting he get rid of the dogs? The other things, fine, but once you have a pet you have made a commitment, in my opinion, anyway. I'm sorry to be harsh, but I think it's an irresponsible thing to even voice on this blog, especially so cavalierly in just a passing sentence. Newspapers have been full of stories over the last couple of years about the uptick in animals being dropped off at shelters and killed. I thought you were a pet lover so I'm surprised and disappointed.
The first thing I did was go to the restaurant link you posted and judge your tab at eating out instead of making some scrumptious chicken at home. Then, I finished reading the article.
Hey – I read this blog, would you expect any less?
As a culture, we frown on "judging" in any form yet we have more lawyers and judges than we know what to do with. Everyone has an opinion. It will be interesting to watch the comments to see how people react to your judgement of your friend (I predict 99% will support you and your handling of the situation) and how they react to your neighbors judgement of you (Again I predict 99% will be against him).
You should not feel guitly for wincing at the new gadgets your friend has or the new car that he wants. You know that, given what your know of your friend's circumstances, those are probably not good choices. From your own experience you are in a position to make a judgement based on the facts presented. By living on both sides you have become somewhat of an authority on the subject of personal finance and of getting out of debt and staying out of debt. From this position of authority you have the ability to show grace to your friend. You can offer your life as an example. You can offer advice if he asks. You cannot change your friend. There is no single piece of advice that you can give him that will revolutionize his life. Your example and humility will draw him to ask questions when he is ready.
These are hard words to live by. My natural tendency is to offer my opinion when I think it's warrented. (In reality I'm doing it now though I think you are genuinely looking for responses.) I have a similar situation with a person that is struggling as well. I've offered advice and that has caused the relationship stress. It's still hard to not give my opinion when, in my mind, it's the exact thing they need to hear.
You can make a judgement based on what you know about the choices a person makes. You cannot judge whether a person is ready for the advice you want to give. Live by example and show him kindness and grace that extends throughout his life.
Also, concerning peachy's comment:
Rich people save money; poor people do not. Rich people give money on their own terms and for intentional reasons. Poor people give money away and don't know where it went. You will not be rich if you do not give.
Good luck to you and your friend.
I think ditching the dogs is a valid option – they are a luxury expense, and they also have the potential to cost you a ton of money at a moments notice (i.e. emergency vet bills).
You're right JD, this guy doesn't want to change things, he wants everything to be fixed for him (and by fixed, he wants himself and his wife to get great paying jobs so they don't have to change a thing about their lifestyle). I wouldn't waste your breath, he will likely just resent anything you have to offer at this point.
Using half of a paper towel for a few days? That is a little bit extreme, I don't think you should have had to explain yourself for throwing away a greasy scrap of paper.
You should view your time with John as a sociological observation – don't take it personally when he makes comments like that, just try to understand his perspective (don't be afraid to stick up for yourself either, folks like that usually appreciate a good debate)
You can't just 'get rid of' dogs. They are living, feeling, thinking things, not an object you own until its inconvenient. All a dog wants is to be part of a pack. To expel him from the pack, because you are having financial difficulties is a horrible thing to do.
If he wants to save money, maybe he should consider getting rid of his wife and kids instead, they are much more expensive to keep. Yes, I know that is ridiculous. But its the same thing. Dogs are not possessions, they are part of the family.
Always judge the action, never judge the person. That's my rule.
It is impossible to make intelligent decisions without judging. All thought follows from judgments. Is this right? Is this wrong? Everything you decide follows from good or bad judgments. What to eat, what to drive, what to wear, what to do, what to say, on and on.
But, no, you cannot judge the person. Because you don't know what they were able to learn from their past experiences. And you do not ever know what is in the other person's heart. A person can do an objectively stupid and horrible thing for reasons that make subjective sense to him.
This is why Jesus said from the cross: "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." He wasn't saying that the soldiers who put him on the cross were doing the right thing. He was saying that they didn't get it. All of us are guilty of not getting it re a good number of important things. There is not one exception to this rule. We're flawed creatures.
Your neighbour sounds like the judgemental type that I can't stand. I have never once met a vocally self-righteous person (this seems a fitting description) who realised that their pride was at least as weighty as their own supposed virtue.
If your friend genuinely asks you for your advice and help – if he truly wants to know what you think because he thinks you can help him, then be honest and tell him about the things you noticed.
If he doesn't ask for your help or advice, you can offer it, but don't be pushy about it. Offer it once and if he doesn't take you up on it, let it go.
Friends like that in my experience will never change. They will simply continue on and then eventually in my experience view you negatively for trying to help. I have learned to have very frank discussions about frugality. People are either on board or not and it seems to me he probably just liked talking about his problems to his friend who would listen which is fine but I have leared to now not get emotionally vested in anyone else's issues.
Arg: I would argue that a mortgage is a commitment too, but that's already been thrown away in this case as well.
JD: How about giving him a copy of your book?
I agree with JonasAberg in comment #6. It's one thing to own an Iphone, new car, nice house, etc. when you have no significant debt, a big emergency fund, and are meeting your other financial goals. Your friend is no where near that point, it's not judging, it's seeing someone running full steam towards a cliff and debating whether or not to call out a warning because you're thinking they've got to see the edge of the cliff, surely they'll stop.
You're millionaire next door friend has been living alone too long and has come to the conclusion his ways are the best ways, rather than his ways work best for him. When you're frugal to the point of endangering your health, like eating rotted food or repeatedly reusing bacteria ladden paper or cloth towels, that's gone too far for me personally. If it wipes an orifice, I don't let it air dry and reuse it.
The book purchase I can see from his end as in you implied by buying new that none of the books he had were worth reading, rather than explaining to him you'd been looking to get a copy of that particular book for a while and were planning on buying it sometime anyway.
Its the same ol' saw. What we do ourselves or think is okay is frugal, what others do that we wouldn't want to do or we feel it's going too far, is cheap. The problem is when you see someone like your friend, who talks about how they need to get better while cutting at their own wrists, and you can't help them because they don't want the help and would actually fight you off if you tried to help. Or the flip side where twenty plus years of habits can't be changed even when there is no longer a need to maintain that habit, it's frustrating. In the end you offer what help you can, accept that some folks have a different idea of frugality than yours, and as long as you're meeting your goals, you don't need to care about someone judging you.
It's a GREAT question you are posing here. I was brought to my knees last year from debt and totally insufficient income. I've changed my ways, and it took the Dave Ramsey Financial Peace University course to get the job done. I brought many guests to the course with me while I was in it. None of them enrolled in the course, but I'm clear that the introduction to it alone made a difference.
I will use a phrase from one of my good friends…you cannot pee for people. Someday, they will be brought to their knees just as I was. Everyone's "rock bottom" is different. I remember that every time I'm judging someone. I haven't walked a day in their shoes, and they certainly haven't walked a day in mine.
Thanks for a great post. Best to you.
Your millionare next door sounds alot like the generation of adults raised during the great depression. Save everything, plus some. Do not take it personally that when he fusses at you for throwing away half a paper towel. You would have the same attitude if you saw someone fix a huge meal and then watched as they threw away all of the left overs. As for your friend, if you value your friendship you should probably not discuss finances unless he brings up the topic, and then only provide advice if he asks for it. Otherwise let him make his own bed.
You shouldn't encourage him to ditch family members. I agree, it is like telling him to get rid of his kids because they are too expensive. Yes, dogs can be expensive, but you make a life long commitment to them. 3-4 million dogs and cats are euthanized in shelters every year because of irresponsible people. Please don't encourage more people to make this decision.
JD, I wanted to make a point that you might not have noticed. On your trip with the RMND, he told you what he thought about your expensives point blank. When he felt you spent to much money on a backpack or a book he said something. When Michael spent to much on a iphone or rental place did you say something? Someone who cares about your financial health will say something.
I have a similiar friend with money problems. When she tells me about bad choices I say something. For example, "$500 on a bag, did you put that on a credit card?" Keep your comments without judgement but questioning decistions. Say something to a friend because they might not be thinking the same "frugal" way that you do.
I just wanted to make one comment about the dogs. I agree you should never get rid of your dogs, however if you could have a friend or family member care for them instead for a few months (maybe JD could offer) that is a good opition.
Great Post!
Sounds like your neighbor is a cheapo. I'd rather be debt-free, happy, and able spend consciously than to be a millionaire living like a pauper.
Seriously. I'm all for being frugal, but I'm not gonna be eating rotting fruit any time soon.
I am acquainted with someone who seems trapped in a cycle of poor financial decisions combined with self-sabotage when it comes to employment. I finally had to make a conscious decision to stop taking on any worry or concern about their choices, as I'd find myself getting worked up over a situation that I had little or no control over. It's takes a lot of mental energy just to stay on top of my own situation–the last thing I need to do is start putting energy into trying to help someone who's not even helping themselves. As a matter of fact, I won't even begin to broach the subject with them until I see evidence that they are actually working hard to address the underlying issues.
As for the other situation with your neighbor, being the parent of an Aspergers' child, I've come to have a new appreciation for the fact that not everyone in the world is equally skilled in communicating gracefully with others. I'm not suggesting that one needs to submit to a non stop barrage of criticism, but if you know someone who's otherwise a great person, and they are just blunt or brusque with their opinions at times, then perhaps they are just unaware of the impact their choice of words may be having. There's nothing wrong with saying to John "I know being frugal is very important to you, and I know you're interested in showing me what you've learned, but sometimes when we're on a different page from each other, when you point it out it feels more to me like you're criticizing me than sharing your knowledge."
I've learned over time that it's best to mind your own business and lead by example.
For example, I have some friends who are in a financial mess. I also have some friends who are very responsible, too. I've talked about money with all of them. What's interesting is that I've learned something from talking to both. But I don't tell them that one way or another is "right", just what worked for me.
It's similar to dieting and exercise. I've lost 40 lbs and kept it off by tracking calories and changing my lifestyle. I still enjoy some sweets from time to time, but I've cut back drastically from what I used to consume. The only thing that made me do it was me. No one else can control what goes in my mouth, and no one else can make me exercise.
As for your friend Michael, he has to walk his own path. If you want to support him, that's great, but realize that he will choose a different path that you did, and he will likely truly hit rock bottom at some point, which is unfortunate. The same thing happens all the time with people who eat too much and don't exercise. Sometimes it takes a heart attack or trip to the hospital to realize that the life they are leading isn't sustainable.
I would also concur that in a dire situation (which appears to be looming for Michael), anything is on the table to turn things around and some hard choices may need to be made, including finding somewhere else for his dogs to go. Who knows, maybe this will be the turning point for him and his first goal — perhaps he can leave the dogs with his parents, a sibling or a friend and can only get them back when his financial house is in order and seriously on the mend. If his kids and wife are attached to those dogs, it will be a daily reminder that they need to get their financial house in order, and a great goal to work towards.
I often find myself judging, although rarely voicing. In fact, over the weekend I managed to have a couple of arguments with my husband whom I love dearly (and who is not a spender by no means) for silly things like using a dryer and spending a few bucks at vending macine over the course of 2 weeks. Believe me, we are neither in debt, not struggle. We save a bunch and put away, and live comfortably. But like the dude on the boat, I often find where else it could have been saved (and yes, then drop a grand for a trip to a couple of races). So, about Michael…I would be afraid to say much at the dinner in fear to ruin the dinner. But as we part ways, i'd offer to sit down and chat, if he wants to. I don't think he does. Honestly, weird considering his history…but then again, some take longer to learn, some never do. It's just we always want to scream loud when it is obvious to US what to do.
As for pets – I can only imagine the comments from pet lovers. I believe since you got cats on your own and spend a bunch for them, you didn't mean to have it in a "passing sentence". But the idea has its merits. Probably not first on the list, not even second (far down from iPhones, big house for rent, new car and so on). I surely wouldn't get a bigger house just to accomodate pets.
Do dogs really think and feel? Do they love? Or do they react (Pavlov)? I'm betting they 'love' the owner who feeds them; do not confuse the 'affection' of your pet with real feelings…only humans have that capacity.
Nothing against animals, but family and people are more important. You can't get rid of the kids (RELAX…it's a joke, people!), but pets, unfortunately, are a luxury. BTW, we have two dogs.
Nice post, J.D.
It sucks even when people you don't look up to clearly show their disapproval of your actions. The need for belonging and approval is strong in most people, and the hurt and anxiety of disapproval kick in even when we know, logically, we shouldn't care.
The differences I see in the two scenarios above is that the first scenario seems to contain an element of asking for advice, and the advice-giver seems to have backed off when he started getting signals that the advice wasn't wanted (Michael didn't want the cheaper house, started shying away from financial questions, etc.) The second scenario seems to consist of unasked-for advice that may have continued despite any signals JD might have given John to back off. There can be several reasons for John's behavior:
1. JD has treated John as a source of financial information in the past (i.e., the interview for this blog), and John may now regard his role with JD as permanent giver of advice.
2. JD may not have given John clear signals to back off when the criticism started to hurt, or John didn't get the signals JD was sending.
3. John may have consciously or unconsciously gotten competitive with JD, and decided to teach this young, so-called finance guru a thing or two about how real savers live. (I stress that this may have been unconscious — we all act like asses occasionally and don't really know why.)
4. John may be an angry, tightly-wound person who finds it difficult to stop himself from commenting when someone does something differently from how he would do it. He may be beating himself up about it now, wishing he could develop the ability to play it a little cooler. (Welcome to my life!)
My point is, we don't know why John made several comments about JD's lack of frugality — he may have done it for all the right reasons, and it just came out as graceless. But, JD, you seem to have avoided doing the same thing to Michael while at the same time retaining your liking for John. So your uncomfortable moments with John in Alaska, and the time you spent analyzing your emotional reaction to those moments, have helped you to become a more compassionate, Atticus-like man. And that's a good thing. Excellent, really.
First of all, I don't think John was 'judging' you. More likely he was pointing out things that, to him, seem like waste and making suggestions for alternatives.
I'm assuming that he knows that you respect the choices he has made and admire his lot in life? If so, it's perfectly sensible that he'd try to drop a few words from his store of canniness – he no doubt sees himself as something of a mentor. This is no bad thing, wish I knew someone like him.
I'm not entirely convinced that some of the people criticising him in their posts are in a position to make assumptions that he's some sort of stereotypical greedy skinflint.
As for Michael, he has to realise how bad things can get for himself. No amount of well meant hints and tips will interest someone who remains hypnotised by the dizzy whirl of consumerism.
I've gone through a similar thing with my elder brother (thankfully he's in a better state than Michael) and he's just not interested!
J.D., if you're honest, as well as being concerned for a friend, is there an element of you wanting to make up for your past financial errors by vicariously sorting out Michael?
It's frustrating to talk to people like this. Many times they seek out people (like us savers) for advice on how to get their lives on the right track financially, yet they aren't willing to control their finances and basically have some self control. In my line of work I see women on welfare complaining about how hard it is to live. But, they have the fake fingernails, trendy new clothes and $1K purses! They aren't ready to listen.
One more thing. KEEP THE DOGS! They provide a great deal of happiness in our lives and ask for very little.
Get rid of the dogs? Seriously? Get rid of the fancy phones first. Dogs are members of the family, devoted, loving members of the pack who'd lay down their lives for you, all for the price of a bit of kibble and a warm place to sleep, a pat on the head, and some excercise each day.
And what would that teach his boys? That when a beloved family member is inconvenient or expensive, we just get rid of it, to an almost certain death? Kids generalize… and it's not too much of a leap for kids to think, gee, what happens if I get to be too inconvenient or inexpensive… plus kids have a unique bond… how's a kid going to react to having it's pets yanked away to an almost certain death because it's too expensive, while dad's playing with his fancy new i-phone and financing his new car?
No, there's lots of things to cut before you cut out the dog. Dogs don't need a big house. In fact, they're happier in closer quarters with their families.
I was surprised at your get rid of the dogs suggestion. True – it may be necessary to find homes for pets in a dire situation. In this situation, however, the iphones and new car should be sacrificed before a pet. When someone gets a pet – it is a commitment that should be honored if at all possible. Too often people think of pets as disposable and I think that is extremely unfortunate (and says a lot about our society).
Hi, J.D.,
What an interesting and thought-provoking piece. It is interesting to me that your thoughts today are based on the Bible. In fact, both the judge not and the mote ideas are from Matthew 7. What interests me most is that many people live by the judge not saying (and most of us without knowing where it comes from!).
What we need to realize is that shortly after saying not to judge lest we be judged with the same yardstick, Jesus says to cast out the mote in our own eye in order to see clearly enough to help remove the speck from another's eye.
In other words, we are supposed to continually work at becoming better people for the express purpose of helping others become better. It seems to me that in the issue of finances, you have done an amazing job of working hard at getting out of debt, understanding wise principles to live by and helping others to understand how to do the same.
In my opinion, you are not judging when you see that your friend is not following a wise financial path. You've done the work, you have a clear eye and now you have a responsibility to help him see his way clear to a wiser lifestyle.
As to millionaire friend, I think it is also related. Proverbs says open rebuke is better than concealed love and the wounds of a friend are faithful.
Your millionaire friend, whether too extreme or not, was trying to be faithful to you in pointing out what he considered your wastefulness. Sure, it was uncomfortable, but it made you think. Now you can decide where you draw the line on frugal.
The question is, did you do the same for Michael? Did you make him uncomfortable enough to think things through? We all have Michaels in our lives in one way or another. Some want advice, some want lip service, some want to hear themselves talk, but a faithful friend will lay it out clearly.
Hope this gives a little perspective.
So I'm not the only one with friends like this. We have some friends who went overboard building a new house, constantly have to have every new consumer electronic, have a large library of video games and DVDs, and are drowning. He is working 2 part-time jobs in addition to his full-time job. She is doing a couple of (legit) work-at-home jobs. And, even though my wife and I have done budget counseling with them, they will not change their spending habits. They truly believe they are under-deposited and not over-drawn.
I do agree with the above commenters that getting rid of the dogs is not a priority. Dogs are a commitment that should not be taken lightly or trivialized by getting rid of them to pay for luxuries.
This is a really interesting and intelligent post. Thanks! I would like to suggest two things that I did not see in the comments so far.
1) Regarding Michael, making bad decisions is its own punishment in life (just as making good decisions is its own reward). In other words, Michael's decisions are already making his life miserable, so there is no reason for you to make it worse by being judgmental towards him.
It seems pretty clear that he suffers from an addiction to material consumption. I doubt that you can help any addict by telling him that he is making bad decisions. He already knows it; he just don't know how to stop. Imagine that Michael had an addiction to alcohol or cigarettes or gambling or drugs. What would you do then? Being judgmental probably would not help.
2) Regarding John, maybe you should be judgmental toward him! He sounds like a jerk. From what you described, I would say he suffer from the opposite addiction to Michael. Michael is addicted to buying whereas John is addicted to saving. Neither person knows how to deal with money successfully, and as a result they have sacrificed their freedom, their intelligence, and their ability to have compassionate relationships.
I think that both men are suffering under very heavy psychological burdens that are making their lives much less fulfilling and less joyful than they could be. Michael and John don't need to be judged by you; they need your sympathy and support instead. But, seriously, I wouldn't go on vacation (or even out to dinner) with either one. I would make it clear that you want to offer your help when they are ready to take it; but then I would stop enabling their harmful behavior.
Sorry, but dogs are like kids, you can't just get rid of them in hard times. Certainly, you shouldn't take on dogs when you're not financially able to (and similarly, you should do your utmost to not have kids when you can't support them). If you've already got dogs when the financial hard times hit, well then too bad, they're still your responsibility. You can't get rid of the kids, can't get rid of the dogs. No real pet owner would want to, either.
I think it's great your friend feels open enough to talk about his situation with you – that's step #1 in my opinion. And he's reading personal finance books – I'd suggest a few for him to read. After that his actions have to be his own without comment unless he asks for advice or your opinion. Peoples spending habits are very personal and something that means nothing to you and is a waste of money might be his most important thing.
It's the same with people that have no hobbies, don't read unless they have to and I have to wonder what the heck they do when they get home from work – mostly they watch tv. I personally find that a total and complete waste of time, but people are emotionally invested in "their shows", and have no idea how to relate to me having no cable or network stations at all.
I don't think there is anything wrong with judging – it's pretty hard not to. However, I think keeping your opinions to yourself is the right thing to do.
I have a family member who sounds like Michael – I'd love to help but any conversations about money go nowhere fast.
Bottom line is that you have to let people find their own way.
I know a lot of people who whine about their financial situation and my offer to help is very precise. I say that I have a system (the envelope system) and I could show them how it works. They can try it out for 14 days and if it's not for them, then 14 days is not a huge time investment.
And then I say nothing. I put the ball in their court. I never pester or follow up or preach. If the person is interested or serious about fixing their finances, they will follow up with me. I don't stress out if they don't follow up. It just means they aren't ready.
For the record, nobody has followed up with me in the 10 years I have been using the envelope system. Oh but they still whine about they money woes and I continue to feed my retirement fund, savings and new car in 2017 fund. Oh yeah, I am totally smug about it, but I hide it well.
FINALLY, someone else who thinks Robert Kiyosaki's Rich Dad, Poor Dad is a terrible book. Somebody's gettin' rich all right, but it's certainly NOT his readers.
What's amazing to me is that in this case you HAVE been in Michael's shoes, and yet you are still judging him. Stop it. Really. It just makes you sound like a a jerk.
Most of your readers have read your stories — we know you were still buying CDs and comic books when you had loads of debt. It took you years for things to really click and for you to make big changes. And remember, when you hit your hardest times, you were lucky that it was times of general economic prosperity AND you had a family business that kept you employed. Without those factors, you could easily have been unemployed and filing for bankruptcy.
This isn't about Michael, it's about you. If you really want to be a personal finance guru (and in many ways, you already are) you are going to have to remember what it's like to be in over your head but clinging to the belief that it's really not that bad. And you are going to have to find ways of helping people in whatever form they are able to accept. In this case it's encouraging him to follow through on his savings account idea, maybe even sitting down with him as he opens it and sets up automatic transfers. Maybe once he sees that working he'll be ready for a debt snowball or another idea.
Remember, JD, it's easy to preach to the choir. You can be the guy that helps people go from middle of the road finances to millionaires next door. But if you really want to change people's lives, you need to learn to support your friends and readers even if they haven't figured it all out yet. Eventually, it'll click for Michael, and it'll be a lot better for both of you if you haven't completely alienated him by the time it does.
Another bad sign is a financially challenged person reading "The Secret".
Regarding the dogs, I'll share one of my favorite tools that I use when dealing with a design problem, or any problem for that matter. Generally when faced with a problem, people will come up some solution to a problem and then think that's the only way — they quite literally fall in love with their first idea and then stick with it. The exercise is to come up with at least three ways of accomplishing the same goal.
So in Michael's situation, he could have a lot of starting points to his problem of "saving money" or "getting my spending under control":
- Dropping the iPhones
- Live somewhere cheaper
- Cut cable tv
- Find a temporary home for the dogs
- Find a permanent home for the dogs
- Find a cheap way to get to work
And on and on. The next stage is to attach dollar values and priorities to these items and then start working the list. We don't know Michael's whole situation, either. Perhaps the place he chose to rent puts him in immediate proximity to family or friends who can provide childcare so his wife can work, or maybe it's close to a lot of places his wife could get a job and the other place wasn't. Maybe Michael was doing a favor for someone and watching the dogs … and that favor has now become a burden that's too heavy to bear. Perhaps he is a iPhone developer and needs at least one. Who knows, every life is different and we can't judge based on a few sentences in a blog post.
I'm also fairly sure that the boat trip was full of a lot more than just grousing about paper towels and oranges, too — I'm sure a lot of fun was had and it was a mostly pleasant experience, that can't be judged on a few examples.


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Ethics and values are words spoken of very high standards in the earlier part of India. But if we study our history we find Shakuni was on working on a sly with Duryodhana (I am not talking how good bad he was), Jhansi laxami, Kittur Chennamma, Tippu sultan, Rana Pratap Singh, and many freedom fighters were all betrayed by their own trusted people...? How now can one expect us to follow ethics in India ?
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FOURTEEN PHOTOGRAPHS is a selection from Theo Anderson's ongoing work CADILLAC. It is a selection of American social landscapes made at locations in Pennsylvania. "The photographs are not so much about place as they are about transformation," said Anderson. "The context of everyday American life is used in my visual exploration. The search began in the the early twenty-first century and is expressed in a myriad of episodes that inform my life."
Anderson is an accomplished photographer who creates compelling photographs for editorial, advertising and institutional clients. A master printer, Anderson designs, prints and binds his editioned artists books under the moniker, wilbureditions. Anderson has recently published several handmade artists books including GUN CRIMES (2012), COCA-COLA (2012), PENNSYLVANIA (2013) and SNAFU (2013).
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In a 4-1 vote, the City Council voted Monday night to promote Edward "Eddie" Rojas, the city's building director, to city manager.
By city charter, Mayor Luigi Boria has the power to nominate a city manager. Boria backed Rojas, saying he values his previous experience with the city and prefers promoting from within.
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In a weak-mayor form of government such as Doral's, the city manager is the top administrator. Rojas will be responsible for running the city's day-to-day operations and implementing policies set by the City Council.
Boria had shared the applications of eight candidates with council members before Monday night's meeting. Rojas, who has never served as a city manager before, was universally praised by the council and community members for his efficiency and good relationship with the local business community.
Rojas, 45, has been the city's building director since last year. In that capacity, he's overseen an operational budget of about $3 million for a department that handles permitting, code enforcement, plan review and inspections. He was building director in Surfside from 2012 to 2013, and he held various positions in Doral's building department from 2005 to 2012. Before that, he worked in the private sector for 13 years. He holds a master's degree in construction management from Florida International University.
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Councilwoman Sandra Ruiz, the dissenting vote, lauded Rojas for his work as a team player and as an efficient director, but she said she was looking for someone with more government experience.
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The Stranger (1946 film)
|The Stranger
Theatrical release poster
|Directed by
|Orson Welles
|Produced by
|S.P. Eagle[1]
|Screenplay by
|Anthony Veiller
Decla Dunning
John Huston
Orson Welles
|Story by
|Victor Trivas
|Orson Welles
Loretta Young
Edward G. Robinson
|Russell Metty
International Pictures
|Distributed by
|RKO Radio Pictures
|Release dates
|Running time
|95 minutes
|United States
The Stranger is a 1946 American film noir directed by Orson Welles and starring Welles, Edward G. Robinson, and Loretta Young. The film was based on a screenplay written by Victor Trivas, which was nominated for an Academy Award. Sam Spiegel (credited as "S.P. Eagle")[1] was the film's producer, and the film's musical score is by Bronisław Kaper.
The film was made by International Pictures, and released by RKO Radio Pictures. The copyright on the film originally belonged to The Haig Corporation, but the film is in the public domain because the producers did not renew the copyright in 1973.[2][3]
In 1946, Mr. Wilson (Edward G. Robinson) of the United Nations War Crimes Commission is hunting for a Nazi fugitive Franz Kindler (Orson Welles), a war criminal who has erased all evidence which might identify him. Kindler has assumed a new identity, Charles Rankin, and has become a prep school teacher in a small town in the United States. He has married Mary Longstreet (Loretta Young), daughter of Supreme Court Justice Adam Longstreet (Philip Merivale).
Wilson releases Kindler's former associate Meinike (Konstantin Shayne), hoping the man will lead him to Kindler. Wilson follows Meinike to the town of Harper, Connecticut, but loses him before he meets with Kindler. When Kindler/Rankin and Meinike do meet, Meinike, who is repentant, begs Kindler to confess his crimes. Instead, Kindler strangles Meinike, who might expose him.
Eventually, Wilson deduces that Rankin is Kindler, but not having witnessed the meeting with Meinike, he has no proof. Only Mrs. Rankin knows that Meinike came to meet her husband. To get her to admit this, Wilson must convince her that her husband is a criminal – before Rankin decides to eliminate the threat to him by killing her.
Rankin's pose begins to unravel when Red, the family dog, discovers Meinike's body. To protect his secret, Rankin poisons Red.
Meanwhile, Mrs. Rankin begins to suspect her husband, but is too blinded by love to accept the facts. She is torn between her desire to learn the truth about him, and the idea of helping him create his new life. Mr. Wilson shows her graphic footage of Nazi concentration camps, and explains how Kindler/Rankin developed the idea of genocide. But not until Mary discovers Rankin's plot to kill her does she finally break down. In a tense moment, she dares Rankin to kill her. Rankin tries to, but is prevented by Wilson and Mary's brother Noah. Pursued by them, he flees into a church belfry, and falls to his death.
- Orson Welles as Franz Kindler / Professor Charles Rankin
- Edward G. Robinson as Mr. Wilson
- Loretta Young as Mary Longstreet Rankin
- Philip Merivale as Judge Adam Longstreet (Mary's father)
- Richard Long as Noah Longstreet (Mary's brother)
- Konstantin Shayne as Konrad Meinike
- Byron Keith as Dr. Jeffrey Lawrence
- Billy House as Mr. Potter
- Martha Wentworth as Sara
Robinson appeared seven years earlier in the anti-Nazi film Confessions of a Nazi Spy.
Spiegel initially planned to hire John Huston to direct; when Welles offered to direct the film, Spiegel agreed on three conditions, all of which Welles accepted:[1]
- The script was to be edited by Ernest J. Nims;
- No script changes once production begins; and
- If the film went over budget, Welles would pay the studio out of his own pocket.
One of the film's early scenes occurs at the school where Rankin teaches and contains references to the Todd School for Boys, which Welles attended. Signs visible in the scene refer to a "Coach Roskie" and a "Mrs. Collins", the names of actual staff at the school during Welles's time there. One of the signs also refers to "Clover Hall", which was an actual building on the Todd School campus.
In an interview Loretta Young recalled that originally Orson Welles wanted his friend and fellow Mercury Theatre player Agnes Moorehead to play the investigator's role but producer Sam Spiegel (billed as S.P.Eagle) refused, casting Edward G. Robinson instead.[4]
The Stranger was the only film made by Welles to have been a bona fide box office success upon its release.[citation needed]
In a July 1946 review, Bosley Crowther called it a "bloodless, manufactured show"; according to Crowther, Welles "gave no illusion of the sort of depraved and heartless creatures that the Nazi mass-murderers were. He is just Mr. Welles, a young actor, doing a boyishly bad acting job in a role which is highly incredible—another weak feature of the film. As a matter of fact, the writing of The Stranger, by Anthony Veiller, is the weakest thing about it—and that estimation includes another silly performance by Loretta Young as the killer's wife. For the premise is not only farfetched, but the whole construction of the tale relieves very soon all the mystery and suspense that such a story should have."[5]
At the 19th Academy Awards, Victor Trivas was nominated for Best Story, losing to Clemence Dane.
Rotten Tomatoes reports "no consensus yet"; four of five of its "top critics" and 17 additional critics rate the film "fresh."[6]
Fascism/Nazism and the film[edit]
Before The Stranger, Welles had shown an interest in the nature of Fascism and, especially, documentary footage of the concentration camps. In his column for The New York Post, Welles wrote that this documentary footage "must be seen" as an index of the "putrefaction of the soul, a perfect spiritual garbage" associated with what "we have been calling [...] Fascism. The stench is unendurable." (Welles, quoted in Heylin, 2005: 163; emphasis in original). Welles worked some of these preoccupations into the film: the film openly engages with the fallout of Fascism. In one striking scene Mr. Wilson shows Mary Longstreet some footage of the concentration camps. Mary sits in stunned silence, and Welles holds the camera on a close-up of Loretta Young as the light from the projector flickers across her face.[7] In the scene Wilson says that Kindler "conceived the theory of genocide — mass de-population of conquered countries."
In his Post columns, Welles wrote that the social reforms in post-war Germany would not eradicate Fascism; Nazi believers were "laying the fuel for another conflagration..." In one of the film's strongest scenes, Mr. Wilson and Kindler/Rankin join the Longstreets for dinner. The dinner conversation turns to an article about social reforms in post-war Germany. Rankin asserts that the Germans will never give up their dream of world conquest — directly echoing the sentiment of Welles' Post columns.[7]
Home media[edit]
Long in the public domain, The Stranger received home video releases for many years, including a 2009 release by UK's Network DVD.[7] An archival restoration was released on DVD and Blu-ray Disc by Kino Classics in October 2013.[8] Kino's release was mastered from a 35mm print at the Library of Congress; the release includes audio commentary by Bret Wood. Death Mills (1945), a U.S. War Department documentary on the Nazi death camps directed by Billy Wilder — excerpts of which appear in The Stranger — is among the supplementary material. Other extras include four of Welles's World War II radio broadcasts: "Alameda" (Nazi Eyes on Canada, 1942), "War Workers" (Ceiling Unlimited, 1942), "Brazil" (Hello Americans, 1942), and "Bikini Atomic Test" (Orson Welles Commentaries, 1946).[8]
See also[edit]
- ^ a b c d e The Stranger at the American Film Institute Catalog. Retrieved on 2013-11-10.
- ^ The Stranger, DVD#9_9346,Madacy Entertainment Group, Inc. 2002
- ^ McCarthy, Gail (8 October 2010). "Return of 'The Stranger': Showing spotlights local man's restoration". Gloucester Times.
- ^ Bawden, Jim Loretta Young Interview http://www.thecolumnists.com/Oscars2011/lorettayoung.html
- ^ Crowther, Bosley (July 11, 1946). "The Stranger, With Edward G. Robinson, Loretta Young and Orson Welles...". Retrieved 2013-11-10.
- ^ The Stranger at Rotten Tomatoes. Retrieved on 2013-11-10.
- ^ a b c Lewis, Paul (9 January 2009). "Stranger (The) - Sponsored Review". dvdcompare.net. Retrieved 2013-11-10.
- ^ a b The Stranger at Kino Lorber, Inc. Retrieved 2013-10-05.
External links[edit]
|Wikiquote has quotations related to: The Stranger (1946 film)
|Wikimedia Commons has media related to The Stranger (1946 film).
- The Stranger is available for free download at the Internet Archive [more]
- The Stranger at the American Film Institute Catalog
- The Stranger at the Internet Movie Database
- The Stranger at AllMovie
- The Stranger at the TCM Movie Database


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SEATTLE, Wash. (Feb. 14) – Starting guards Mark McLaughlin (Jr., Bothell, Wash./Inglemoor HS) and Jordan Coby (Sr., Tacoma, Wash./Woodrow Wilson HS) both scored in double figures, but the Central Washington University men's basketball team was unable to overcome a 29.9 percent shooting night and a conversely hot-shooting Seattle Pacific University squad in the Wildcats' 113-75 loss to the fifth-ranked Falcons on Thursday night at Brougham Pavilion.
The Wildcats suffered their second consecutive loss, falling to 13-9 overall and 7-7 in the Great Northwest Athletic Conference. The Falcons, who earned their largest margin of victory in 120 series meetings between the two schools, improved to 18-3 overall and 11-2 in the GNAC.
McLaughlin scored 20 and Coby added 17 to account for almost half of the Wildcats' 75 points on the night. Coby drained five three-pointers in eight attempts and was 6 of 11 overall, while McLaughlin made 7 of 16 shots. Junior Nate Walker (Tacoma, Wash./Henry Foss HS) had 10 points and a team-high eight rebounds (six offensive) in 21 minutes off the bench.
CWU never led in Thursday's contest, struggling from the get-go especially on offense. CWU made just 9 of 40 shot attempts in the first half (22.5 percent). The last time the Wildcats shot below 30 percent in a game was also against Seattle Pacific, when they made 26.8 percent in a 76-49 home loss to the Falcons in January 2012.
Seattle Pacific started the game on a 16-4 run, and although CWU closed the gap to five points, SPU responded with a 19-2 spurt to make it a 22-point game. The Falcons led 49-25 at halftime. The hosts shot 62.9 percent in the final period, while CWU improved upon its first half percentage but still made just 37.8 percent (14 of 37) after the break.
Neither team committed many turnovers, with the Wildcats totaling just nine turnovers to Seattle Pacific's eight. SPU finished with a 49-39 advantage in rebounding, although the decided difference was in field goal shooting.
CWU remains in fifth place in the conference standings with four games remaining in the regular season. The Wildcats will visit sixth-place Montana State University Billings (13-11, 6-7 GNAC) on Saturday night for a 7:30 p.m. Mountain Standard Time (6:30 p.m. Pacific) contest with the Yellowjackets.


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NEW ORLEANS (AP) -- Ricky Tarrant scored 21 points and Josh Davis recorded a double-double as Tulane dominated Chicago State 79-51 Sunday in a nonconference game. Davis scored 18 points, grabbed 10 rebounds and made 10 of Tulane's 23 free throws. Tarrant, who recorded a game-high four steals, knocked down 3 of 4 3-pointers. His trey with 7:52 left in the first half gave Tulane a 19-17 lead and sparked a 20-4 run for the Green Wave. Tulane (3-1) led 39-21 at the break. Chicago State (1-3) would not get any closer as Tulane built leads of 16, 23, and 29 in the second half. Tulane shot 24 of 52 from the field and made 23 of 27 free throws. Chicago State shot just 34.5 percent (19 of 55) from the field and committed 23 turnovers. The Green Wave scored 16 points off those errors. Corey Gray led the Cougars with 16 points.
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