text:
The competitive repositioning of automotive firms in Turin: innovation, internationalisation and the role of ICT
AbstractFollowing the increasing competitive pressure and the emergence of new industrial poles within the auto industry, Italian firms have been the protagonists of an intense reorganisation, which is still ongoing. This case-study involves 13 supplier firms, operating in the automotive industry, localised in Turin, that have adopted a series of strategies aimed at improving their international competitiveness. The empirical findings show that there is a particularly strong innovative drive for the interviewed firms to position themselves in activities with greater added value and to undertake internationalisation strategies, from the "lighter" to the more "complex" forms, coupled with a use of information and communication technologies.
Download InfoIf you experience problems downloading a file, check if you have the proper application to view it first. In case of further problems read the IDEAS help page. Note that these files are not on the IDEAS site. Please be patient as the files may be large.
Bibliographic InfoPaper provided by Department of Economics, Management and Quantitative Methods at Università degli Studi di Milano in its series Departmental Working Papers with number 2008-43.
Date of creation: 18 Dec 2008
Date of revision:
Handle: RePEc:mil:wpdepa:2008-43
Contact details of provider:
Postal: Via Conservatorio 7, I-20122 Milan - Italy
Phone: +39 02 50321522
Fax: +39 02 50321505
Web page: http://www.demm.unimi.it
More information through EDIRC
Related researchKeywords: Innovation; internationalisation; ICT; Automotive Industry;
Other versions of this item:
- Massimo Florio & Cristina Castelli & Anna Giunta, 2008. "The competitive repositioning of automotive firms in Turin: innovation, internationalisation and the role of ICT," Working Papers, Centre for Industrial Studies (CSIL) 200904, Centre for Industrial Studies (CSIL).
- O31 - Economic Development, Technological Change, and Growth - - Technological Change; Research and Development; Intellectual Property Rights - - - Innovation and Invention: Processes and Incentives
- L62 - Industrial Organization - - Industry Studies: Manufacturing - - - Automobiles; Other Transportation Equipment
- L63 - Industrial Organization - - Industry Studies: Manufacturing - - - Microelectronics; Computers; Communications Equipment
- F23 - International Economics - - International Factor Movements and International Business - - - Multinational Firms; International Business
This paper has been announced in the following NEP Reports:
- NEP-ALL-2009-06-17 (All new papers)
- NEP-CSE-2009-06-17 (Economics of Strategic Management)
ReferencesNo references listed on IDEAS
You can help add them by filling out this form.
ListsThis item is not listed on Wikipedia, on a reading list or among the top items on IDEAS.
StatisticsAccess and download statistics
CorrectionsWhen requesting a correction, please mention this item's handle: RePEc:mil:wpdepa:2008-43. See general information about how to correct material in RePEc.
For technical questions regarding this item, or to correct its authors, title, abstract, bibliographic or download information, contact: (DEMM Working Papers).
If you have authored this item and are not yet registered with RePEc, we encourage you to do it here. This allows to link your profile to this item. It also allows you to accept potential citations to this item that we are uncertain about.
If references are entirely missing, you can add them using this form.
If the full references list an item that is present in RePEc, but the system did not link to it, you can help with this form.
If you know of missing items citing this one, you can help us creating those links by adding the relevant references in the same way as above, for each refering item. If you are a registered author of this item, you may also want to check the "citations" tab in your profile, as there may be some citations waiting for confirmation.
Please note that corrections may take a couple of weeks to filter through the various RePEc services.


text:
Spokane-- More than 150 Spokane students spent Sunday at school acting on a movie set in Spokane. The film is about two 10-year-olds who met at a north Spokane school, that's why it was important to filmmakers to shoot the movie locally.
"We could have gone to a number of places, but it was important for us to do it here in Spokane because the story took place in Spokane. Up on the north side by Linwood Grade School in 1965. It's a true story about best friends who met in the fourth grade. One's a hyperactive little devil, and the other one is in the late stages of muscular dystrophy and he's confined to a wheelchair," said Lyle Hatcher co-writer and director.
Both lead actors are from the northwest. The one playing Lyle is a Spokane local. It's the first time he's been in a film and he says it's both fun and exhausting.
"Lots of shots, because in a movie you'll see they take a shot from here and then they'll have the face and then they'll take a different shot from here but you just have to because then it looks like a movie," said Brayden Tucker lead actor.
More than 150 other Spokane students are on-set to bring the school to live. All the local talent and local resources means that all the movie making money is staying local.
"It just makes sense. You can make a movie here for half the cost of the same movie in Los Angeles or even Seattle," said Tom Tayler production sound mixer.
The film, like the book is called "Different Drummers." They will wrap up shooting in the next four weeks. The movie should be out on the big screen about this time next year.

subset: commoncrawl


text:
Sundance Film Festival at Park City, Utah. PodTech and PodTech News, on the ground at the Sundance Film Festival, caught up with some new cool stuff from a company called Think Mobile's Kevin Quandt. Here is a podcast of a company called Think Mobile that has developed technology that can store 10 full featured films on a SD card that plays movies on smartphones and PDA. Very Cool. The founder, Brian Quandt talks about their new media product for consumers.
Enjoy the podcast and more to come from PODTech.Net
PodTech Network is committed to protecting your online privacy while providing you with the most useful and enjoyable Web experience possible.
Copyright ©2008 PodTech.net. All rights reserved. Modified: Tue, 16 Sep 2014 22:12:37 -0700


text:
Game Recap: Cubs 4, Rockies 0; One-Hit Wonders
I think we can call that one a bit unexpected. Five days after serving up 4 homeruns and 5 earned runs in 5 innings pitched, Ted Lilly took the mound for the first time at Wrigley Field and proceeded to hold the Rockies hitless until the 7th inning.
All told, Theodore Roosevelt "Psycho" Lilly went 6.2 innings, striking out 8, walking 2, and allowing only that 1 hit on 104 pitches. Meanwhile You-bald-ho, who threw shutout ball his last time out, walked 6 and failed to get out of the 4th inning, although he and the Rockies did escape numerous bases-loaded situations.
Amazingly the Cubs bullpen was mostly competent this time around. Angel Guzman, Aaron Heilman, and Kevin Gregg tossed 2.1 innings, allowing 0 hits, 2 walks, and striking out 4. Considering the circus he's been managing, Lou will take it.
Offensively, the only two Cubs not to get hits are ironically the two who've been the most successful. Ryan Theriot had his first 0-fer of the year and Mike Fontenot also failed to get a hit while starting third base for the first time in '09. The Fonz, meanwhile, collected 2 hits along with Derrek Lee (who drove in another run) and Three Finger Hill (who is now batting .300 on the season).
The Cubs also managed to draw 9 walks today, leaving most of them stranded (proving Dusty Baker's "base-clogging" manifesto to be right again). Among the regular walkers were Fooky (who walked three times) and Lee (who walked twice).
It was a dominating performance for Cubs pitching. Maybe that shouldn't be too surprising - after all, it was also a blisteringly crappy day weather wise and I'm pretty sure that Rockies manager Clint Hurdle intentionally got tossed so he could escape to the theoretically warmer comforts of the clubhouse. (Little did he know that the heater doesn't work in the Wrigley Field visitor's clubhouse.)
The Cubs have tomorrow off and will look for the pseudo-sweep on Wednesday.
Quick Links
Series Preview Rockies vs. Cubs
GameCast April 13th
now what i'm mildly confused
now what i'm mildly confused about...
why not start miles at third and keep fontatot at second? not that it failed terribly, but didn't we pick up miles to be the backup 3B?
grandpa's management hasn't ceased to amaze me.
I invite you to check on my
I invite you to check on my behalf, but I'm pretty sure 3B is one of the positions where Miles has close to 0 games experience
11 games last year. still
11 games last year.
still more than fontetot played.
But more relevantly, the
But more relevantly, the Cubs determined in early spring that third base was not a Miles strength. This year, particularly since March, Fontenot has had more play there and it's been part of Lou's plan to rest Rammy with FonteYES and start Miles at second every once in a while.
Which isn't to say that the Cubs couldn't strongly benefit from at least one legitimate backup third baseman.
myth BUSTED. i'm satisfied
myth BUSTED.
i'm satisfied now. thank you for your astounding wisdom kurt.


text:
…So what's our big announcement?
Did we get someone pregnant? Thankfully, no.
Are we moving to Europe? No, not yet anyways.
Did we just pick up a new project? Kinda sorta but that's not the big announcement.
You're probably asking yourself this now, "then what is it?!"
Well, you've probably noticed some of the pictures of custom leather jacket and helmet artwork that we've been posting lately. (Hopefully you have) If not, you can check out the gallery here.
Today's a really exciting day at Habermann & Sons because today is the day that we "officially" launch a new service to the world; custom leather jacket and helmets designs that are created by our very own creative mastermind, Markus!
We can use your leather jacket or helmet, or you can purchase one from our website and we can paint your design on it.
For complete information on how to get your leather jacket or helmet custom-painted, check out this link.
Have a good Monday and don't forget to stay classic,
Marc and Markus
P.S. please re-blog to help us spread the word. We greatly appreciate it!


text:
Category Archives: Trailers/Images
ANCHORMAN 2: THE LEGEND CONTINUES Trailer
Wolf Of Wall Street, The – Trailer
The Wolf Of Wall Street Trailer - Film Opens November...
Star Trek Into Darkness New Trailer/Character Posters
STAR TREK INTO DARKNESS Third trailer and character posters
Man Of Steel Final Trailer
Man Of Steel Final Trailer - Film Opens June 14, 2013
Trailers/Images: Iron Man 3
Iron Man 3. Next summer. 'Nuff said. Enjoy the...
Trailers/Images: Flight
FLIGHT: Three scenes from the upcoming film, opening November 2, 2012...


text:
Burnham Yacht Harbour
United Kingdom
Fax: +44 (0)1621 785560
Burnham Yacht Harbour
United Kingdom
Fax: +44 (0)1621 785560
Check Your Credit Finance Insurance Boat Transport
Priced for quick sale
Rare opportunity to acquire a Grand Soleil 45 at a very competitive price with a good level of equipment and well presented ashore. The price has just been seriously reduced for a quick sale.
Viewing by appointment only through our Essex office on: (01621) 785600.
|Hull Material
|Hull Shape
|14 ft
|Max Draft
|7 ft 6 in
|Engine Make
|Engine Model
|Fuel Capacity
|54 gal
|Length at Waterline
|39 ft 4 in
|Length Overall
|45 ft 7 in
|Water Capacity
|401 gal
|Stock Number
|Sales Area
|Number of Engines
Burnham Yacht Harbour
United Kingdom
Fax: +44 (0)1621 785560
Twin double aft cabin, owners fore cabin layout offering up to 9 berths in three cabins plus saloon, with 6'5" max. headroom. Forecabin with island double berth, two seats, and large hanging locker. Ensuite heads compartment with separate shower area, marine heads, washbasin and storage lockers. Saloon consisting of a C-shaped seating area to port, table with storage, small settee berth opposite and excellent storage facilities. Galley aft to port equipped with an Eno cooker with 3-burners, grill and oven, twin stainless steel sinks, large refrigerator and ample storage. Two double cabins aft both with hanging lockers and stowage, and a pilot berth in the starboard cabin. Pressurised hot and cold water system throughout via calorifier and immersion heater. Eberspacher diesel heating system. Excellent ventilation provided by six opening deck hatches with hatch covers. Blue upholstery and matching curtains.
Located under companionway/cockpit in vented and soundproofed compartment, Yanmar 4JH3E 56hp 4-cylinder marine diesel engine. Fresh water cooled via heat exchanger. Single lever engine control with electric start. Saildrive to 3-bladed fixed propeller. The engine has been well maintained and was last serviced in April 2012.
4 x 12v Batteries (3 x 110ah new 2010, 1 x 85ah new 2012) charged via engine alternator. Shorepower system with ring mains, immersion heater for water heating and battery charger. Full cabin lighting. Inverter.
Fractional (7/8ths) sloop rig. Sparcraft anodised aluminium mast with triple spreaders and boom with kicker. Stainless steel standing rigging with backstay adjuster. Terylene running rigging (new 2009/12). Slab reefing mainsail with lazyjacks. Facnor headsail furling system. 2 x Harken 56 self tailing sheet winches. 2 x Harken 46 halyard winches.
Grand Soleil 45 built in 2004 by Cantiere del Pardo to a design by Judel & Vrolijk. Blue GRP hull with white superstructure and teak laid decks. Deep draft lead fin keel. Wheel steering to spade rudder. Self draining aft cockpit.
2 IMS World Championships, 3 IMS European Championships, 3 IMS Italian Championships, 2 times winner at the Copa del Rey and also the Fastnet Race; these are the results of our yachts during the last 3 years in the most challenging and prominent regattas in Europe. Cantiere del Pardo clearly realizes that a high level regatta provides the best test-bed for materials, the study of sail plans, positioning and sizing of deck hardware, the hydrodynamic tuning of all immersed appendages and the ideal calculation and dimension of the keel. The results obtained by Grand Soleil represent, without reserve, the quality of the work achieved.
The company normally acts as broker for the vendor who unless otherwise stated is not selling in the course of a business. Whilst every care has been taken in the preparation of these particulars the correctness is not guaranteed and they are intended as a guide only and do not constitute a part of any contract. A prospective buyer is strongly advised to check these particulars and where appropriate and at his own expense to employ a qualified marine surveyor to carry out a survey and/or to have an engine trial conducted which if conducted by us shall not imply any liability on our part.


text:
Dave Stapleton
British jazz musician
We currently have no biography for this artist. You can contribute biographical information for Dave Stapleton to Wikipedia, the user-contributed encyclopedia. If you know that a biography for Dave Stapleton already exists in Wikipedia, you can add a link to Dave Stapleton's entry in MusicBrainz.
Links & Information
- Last.fm page on Dave Stapleton
- MusicBrainz entry on Dave Stapleton
Member Of
Links & information come from MusicBrainz. You can add or edit information about Dave Stapleton at musicbrainz.org. Find out more about our use of this data. The BBC is not responsible for the content of external sites.
BBC Reviews
Flight 2012Reviewed by Martin Longley
A departure for British jazz talent Stapleton, and a fine one indeed.


text:
skip to main content
Join 3,561 readers in helping fund MetaFilter
Best Of
New User
How to cope with the holiday blues?
November 29, 2012
My little family doesn't care for Christmas like they used to, among other things. How can I avoid or learn to cope with the holiday blues this year?
I am a 30 year old only child raised in Canada. I have a very small family, and I have always been the youngest, by far. I had no cousins until I was 20 years old. I have no children.
Christmas dinner this year, if it even happens, will consist of my parents, my aunt and her husband, and my grandmother - all between the ages of 65 and 94. Both of my parents are immigrants from outside of North America (one British and one south East Asian) and a) came from extremely humble beginnings, and b) although they are both Christians, neither of their families ever celebrated Christmas... at least not the way it's celebrated here in North America.
My childhood was full of Christmas cheer, bustling family dinners (all of my grandparents were alive, my only uncle was still living in this city), gifts, stockings, everything. All of my memories are extremely fond. But over the last ten years or so, Christmas has basically become just any other day. I realize now that my parents only really went through the Christmas motions when I was a kid because... well, I was a kid. Now that I'm older, they seem to have stopped caring completely as seem to have stopped seeing the point in celebrating at all.
My dad doesn't care about Christmas at all. My mom cares more, but only very slightly. She no longer wants to make Christmas dinner. The last few years, she has consistently suggested that we don't invite my aunt and her husband over for Christmas and have "just us"... meaning my parents, myself, my boyfriend and my grandmother, who lives with my parents. This upsets me because how rude to not invite part of the family over, when they've been spending every Christmas with us since I can remember, and probably have nowhere else to spend it with! Not to mention the fact that dinner "just us" is basically a normal dinner I might have on any weekend when I visit my parents.
My mother is 71 years old. I don't expect her to make a big Christmas dinner after doing it and stressing about it for twenty something years (I only realized it stressed her out as an adult). In fact, I would be even happy with no dinner at all. We could just go over and eat premade snacks and sip eggnog or whatever all night, as long as we're all together enjoying ourselves. However, even this kind of low-key gathering doesn't seem to appeal to anyone.
I made Christmas dinner at my apartment one year because I wanted to relieve my mother of the responsibility of taking care of everyone. What happened was that my mother ended up criticizing the way I cook which made me feel totally bitter, and it was generally inconvenient because my grandmother is quite on in the years and doesn't really take to being at my place for very long (when we're at my parents house, at least she can excuse herself early when she gets tired and go straight to bed), my parents get immensely stressed out trying to find parking around my apartment because I live downtown and parking isn't easy to come by, especially during the winter, and my aunt is an extremely nervous driver who normally only drives very short distances to buy groceries in the suburbs where she lives. All of these things made everyone on edge for the entire evening, and it wasn't really a good time for anyone, especially me, who slaved away all day cooking only to serve a group of miserable people who didn't seem to appreciate it or the fact that it's Christmas and not a time to be stressed!
I'm not a super gung-ho Christmas lover myself, it's not like I'm trying to force my family to sing carols and wear Santa hats and give extravagant gifts. I'm not into the material part of Christmas, or the immense sense of obligation that comes with the holiday season. I am my parents' daughter after all, I'm really low key on the Christmas thing. However, I still enjoy and really miss the feeling of being part of a loving family that enjoys spending time together - all of us - not just me and my parents. There aren't many of us... we should cherish what we have, right?!
My parents usually decide that our family won't trade presents at Christmas, and I have absolutely no issue with this whatsoever, as my parents are extremely generous and emotionally supportive year-round.
This always makes me feel really blue for most of December. On one hand, I feel relieved that my family expects virtually nothing from me, yet at the same time, it feels so lonely and depressing. Most of my friends have moved to other cities. People will inevitably ask me what I'm doing for Christmas, and then they'll react with shock and pity when I tell them that I'm doing... nothing. My wonderful boyfriend will invite me to his huge and friendly family's great Christmas dinner on the 24th, and even though I get to be part of that celebration, the reality is that being at someone else's Christmas dinner and seeing THAT family enjoy being together so much makes me feel even more alone. In fact, I'm actually really dreading it and I really wish I didn't have to go (nothing against his family, they're great. They're just not MY family).
All of this combined with the fact that I live and work downtown, where it gets unbearably frenetic during the holiday season, and that we have excruciatingly cold winters here and it's just getting colder and colder, leaves me with a pretty severe case of the holiday blues. People always seem so happy and excited this time of the year and I don't feel like a part of it at all. Some days I'm filled with holiday cheer, and other days I feel like the grinch and wish that I could just go to sleep and wake up mid January.
I keep telling myself that I'm incredibly fortunate to have parents who despite not really very enthusiastic about anything, are generally extremely supportive and generous with me (and each other). On a darker note, I realize that they're all senior citizens now and have a lot less energy and patience. Though I try not to think about it, in the back of my mind, I can't help but think about how this is the only family I have left and that I might not have very much time left with them and I want us to enjoy being together as much as possible.
How can I best deal with all these feelings?
posted by
Human Relations
(39 answers total)
12 users marked this as a favorite
Do you have friends who are into christmas?
If so, why not organise a big christmas dinner with them - you each pick a dish to cook (someone does potatoes, someone does greens, etc), do a secret santa, all bring booze, eat till you think you might die, and then play a stupid board game whilst drunk or watch a cheesy christmas movie.* Even the ones who have moved to other cities might come back for it, especially if they can crash.
Then, on actual christmas, go have a nice dinner with your folks, and don't worry about how festive it is because you already got all that out of your system.
I do this with my friends. Hint: having some sort of forfeit where the penalty is being the one to dress as santa and give out the presents works well.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
11 favorites
Being around kids at Christmas time really helps with the "it's not so special anymore" feeling, because their enthusiasm is contagious. Can you find some way to spend at least part of the day around kids? You might be able to volunteer at a children's hospital, or at a women's shelter, although be aware that many places have more volunteers at Christmas than they need, and would rather have your support the rest of the year as well/instead.
Alternatively, do you have friends or colleagues with kids who will be in town? Drop by (ask first) with a few small gifts for them - maybe on Christmas Eve if they spend the day with family. Go out somewhere where you will see kids having a good time with their presents. But not just to observe. If there's somewhere nearby where you can ice skate or sled or whatever, take your boyfriend and do that.
Another option is to agree with your family not to do Christmas together this year - sometimes a half-hearted attempt is worse than none at all. Then round up other strays, even if you don't know them super well, and have your own Christmas dinner. We did that one year with a bunch of international students who couldn't afford to go home for Christmas. We learned a lot of new Christmas traditions and foods that year!
Finally, make Christmas about the whole month. Choose some traditions that are meaningful to you - drinking hot chocolate, decorating a tree, going carolling or to hear Christmas music, etc, and schedule to do them on different days in December. Don't see it as a build up to a single day, but rather a season with a lot of smaller special things in it.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
6 favorites
However, I still enjoy and really miss the feeling of being part of a loving family that enjoys spending time together - all of us - not just me and my parents.
Work on cultivating that feeling outside of the context of Christmas.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
5 favorites
This is one of the benefits of being in a longterm relationship or getting married - to have traditions of one's own. You're almost there!
In the meantime, why not join a carol group or something?
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
3 favorites
Start a new tradition of doing something special with your aunt on some other day close to Christmas. Bring food to her house or go to a restaurant.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
1 favorite
Yeah, I agree that you should make this more into a
instead of just a day. Walk or drive around and sing along to Christmas music at the top of your lungs and search for houses and shops with the best Christmas lights. Or visit holiday fairs -- I love the ones around where I live. People spend MONTHS getting their crafts ready for these fairs and they take so much pride in their work that just talking to them and asking about their work makes me very happy. Volunteer. Bring meals to the homeless or home-bound or doughnuts to the fire station. Tie jingle bells to your cat. Use the month as an excuse to buy anything with peppermint in it.
One more thing: Don't focus too much on formal moments with your family. The more tightly wound you get, the more people can sense it, and it puts people on edge. One of my favorite family holidays, I mostly spent the day doing crosswords with my dad. It was totally impromptu, and I don't remember a single puzzle or clue, but I'll never forget those hours.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
12 favorites
Oh the holidays. They are wrapped up with so many expectations.
It sounds like you are on your way of letting go and learning to accept that your parents aren't going to celebrate in the way you would like. The good news (as you have noted) is that they are emotionally supportive, they love you, you love them. Once you fully accept that your parents aren't going to celebrate in a manner you think they should, you will enjoy your boyfriend's family celebration, and your own celebrations and activities, more.
I am 40 and I used to be immensely wrapped up in how my parents behaved, especially when it came to holidays and my kids. I wanted them to be a certain kind of parent and grandparent they were never going to be. It still bothers me at times, though mostly I have learned to accept and let go. Instead of focusing on how I think it should be, I accept what it. I enjoy my in-laws, my parents, and my little family more.
Most of my friends have moved to other cities. People will inevitably ask me what I'm doing for Christmas, and then they'll react with shock and pity when I tell them that I'm doing... nothing
Really? I would not react to shock and pity and I doubt others will either. Going to a big family celebration with your boyfriend and having a nice day with your parents -- what is shocking about that? I think you need to view your holidays differently. You are viewing them as shit, when they are quite normal and nice. Make your own fun and forget the Hallmark version of how you think Christmas should be.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
8 favorites
My wonderful boyfriend will invite me to his huge and friendly family's great Christmas dinner on the 24th, and even though I get to be part of that celebration, the reality is that being at someone else's Christmas dinner and seeing THAT family enjoy being together so much makes me feel even more alone.
Really? If a boyfriend's family invited me to spend Christmas with them, I'd be grateful that they considered me to be that much a part of THEIR family. Yes, you're seeing that family enjoy being together, but what you're not getting is that they think you are PART of that family now.
You're not alone - your "in-laws" have adopted you and asked you to join them.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
36 favorites
One November my grandmother canceled thanksgiving. She was in her 70s and didn't want to cook, and didn't want anyone else to cook, so the holiday was done. My father was having none of this. So instead of typical thanksgiving, he made a big batch of taco meat from ground turkey, and got all the fixings for tacos and we brought those over to Grandma's house to have thanksgiving. It was different, but it was still the holiday.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
3 favorites
Why not enjoy your boyfriend's family's Dec 24 celebration more? I have a similar situation with my husband's family - my own family is lukewarm about Christmas, especially the food. In particular, my mother never liked cooking the dinner, and stopped as soon as my older sister-in-laws could take over. The last several years it's been a hodge-podge of potluck items like lasagna and casseroles and for one sad Thanksgiving - KFC for the whole family.
On the other hand the first time I had proper, classic traditional holiday fare was at the first Thanksgiving and Christmas I spent with my now husband's family. Three choices for pie at Thanksgiving! A plum pudding soaked in brandy and lit on fire for dessert at Christmas dinner! Although I already knew I loved my husband, and really liked his family, I fell in love with the whole clan and their love of food and tradition. I guess I could have compared the two families, and I'm sure I did a little, but I quickly realized that I have a good thing going here and choose to enjoy the awesomeness (and ask for turkey and pie leftovers).
There have also been a number of years due to geography that we didn't get to experience my in-law family awesomeness, and that's when "orphan Christmas" started. If it doesn't happen right on Christmas Day, that's cool - but it's a chance for people to get together and share their traditions.
One of my orphan Christmas traditions started when a friend and I shared our frustrations over cooking full turkey dinners for family members who didn't seem to appreciate the effort or seem to be very much into Christmas - and it has now turned into a happy, joyful pre-emptive strike against possibly disappointing celebrations elsewhere.
That also ties in with the suggestion to make the whole holiday season a celebration rather than focus your energy on December 25 - try to take the emotional charge out of that particular day. I enjoy the first clementine, the first gingerbread cookie, all the decorations - houses, stores, office buildings. I'm not religious - I focus on the "fuck you winter!" energy - all the lights, candles, mulled wine and warming spices as defiance against the long dark nights and cold temperatures. What's nice about that is that feeling doesn't get stuck on a particular day. You can curl up with a great book and a hot mug of something nice with a blanket whether it's December 5 or 30th.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
10 favorites
I'm not really a big Christmas person myself (although my husband may slowly be changing that), so I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice, but it seems to me that you're putting much too much weight on
. For so much of our lives, we're spoon-fed these ideas of what these perfect family holidays should be. Thanksgiving gets a lot of this, as well. It can be a lot to live up to... not to mention, for some people, truly exhausting.
Reality, however, is usually pretty different—especially as people go their separate ways (or depart from this world), we get older, and, as you've noted, people may start making less of an effort to make everything super-magical-Christmastime. Traditions we've known our entire lives start to change, and it hurts.
The thing is, that's okay. I've experienced a
of this in the past 10 years, for a variety of reasons, and I know how hard it can be to let go. But this is your opportunity to create
traditions. True, you can't force your family to go along with it, but surely there are other people in your life who you love dearly who feel differently about the holiday season. As you've noted, you still have your family's love and support (and, apparently, the love and support of another family on Christmas Eve). Really, a simple dinner with the folks isn't a pathetic Christmas at all, and I'd be surprised if anyone actually thought that of you.* As long as you're spending time with your loved ones, that's really what it's about—even if it's not with
you love. Try to focus on the season, rather than one specific day, and make that season as magical as you want/need it to be.
*If they do, then they probably need to take a step back and re-evaluate their own issues with the holidays.
posted by
cellar door
on November 29, 2012
When my Dad passed away, and my family reduced to just me and Mom, neither of us felt very jolly, and couldn't get in the Christmas mood. (For a LOT of people, Christmas can be a lousy time of year.)
Instead of doing up the house and having a huge dinner, we just went out (the Casino is always open, but other hotels probably are, too). No hassle, no pressure, and the start of a new tradition. It worked out much, much better than we'd hoped.
I would suggest something similar for you. With ageing adults, removing the hassle is very attractive. No pressure on them, no pressure or criticism on you and how you do your thing, and everyone is together in the most low-key manner possible. You still have the big, traditional dinner with the BF's family, you have a meetup for drinks and snacks with your family at a neutral but nice location, and everyone is as happy as they're going to be.
posted by
Capt. Renault
on November 29, 2012
I have one family member with whom I'm on speaking terms (other than a Christmas card once a year) - and that is my dad, who has dementia and is in a care home. I am not married and have no children. I do have friends, but they have their own families and many live far away. Therefore, any Christmassing I do is something I have to do myself.
I'm a total sentimental fool about holidays and I just love all the tinsel and glitter and decorations and all the fun of Christmastime despite having no family. I go all-out decorating the house (I have three Christmas trees, albeit small ones - two are silver tinsel Vermont Country Store kitschy ones!), I have Christmas stockings for the cats monogrammed with their names and I fill them with kitty toys. I listen to Christmas music. I go downtown and enjoy the holiday displays. I go to Macy's San Francisco and coo over the cute puppies and kittens up for adoption in the store windows. I go to crafts fairs. I immerse myself in the season, marinate myself in tinsel and spice, and have fun. I enjoy the whole holiday season (as other posters have suggested), not just Christmas Day itself.
And on Christmas itself I go out for a nice restaurant meal. Somebody else is doing the cooking and washing all the dishes, hooray!
Basically I do not let my unfamilied state get me down or interfere with my enjoyment of the season. Sure, sometimes I get pangs of longing when I see big happy families gathered around the table or the tree...but the upside is that I'm missing So Very Much dysfunction and drama that can lurk under the surface of these shiny happy families. No drunk uncles spouting Tea Party rhetoric! No fighting between divorced parents and their exes! No fighting over whose house to spend Christmas at because three sets of grandparents all think it should be spent with them and only them! Christmas is my own to create. I get to choose and celebrate the Christmas that
I say if you enjoy Christmas, make your own. It's fun.
posted by
Rosie M. Banks
on November 29, 2012 [
15 favorites
Yes, I would agree - we face tremendous pressure to have "perfect holidays" when in reality it makes a lot of people miserable. I've never enjoyed Christmas with my family, mostly because my mother had a pretty rotten childhood, and is determined (well, not so much anymore now that she's getting old) to have the PERFECT Christmas, in which each of us, including grandchildren, play a roll.
So there's that to think about.
For my family, my wife is Japanese and therefore none of the Christmas stuff holds a fraction of the emotional resonance it does for Canadians. It's liberating, but now that we have kids I have to make sure they experience Christmas. Which is fine.
However, as a family we have created our own tradition. New Years Eve is a much more important family holiday in Japan, and, in an ideal world, the family gathers together in the living room to eat food, drink beer (or pop or whatever) and watch tv. We do that when we're in Japan, and when we spend New Years in Canada, we get TV Japan to watch the New Years Eve programming.
The kids seem to like it.
posted by
on November 29, 2012
I'm Jewish and I've spent my life at other people's Christmas Celebrations. When I was a kid and we lived in San Francisco we'd do the Movie/Chinese Food thing, and it was fine.
When I got older I'd be invited to other people's celebrations and I enjoyed the hell out of them. Most recently, before I was married, I'd spend Noche Buena (Christmas Eve) with my Cuban family, eating roast pig and all the Caribbean trimmings. YUM!
Now, we go to KY to be with Husbunny's family on Christmas Eve. The funny thing is, actual Chrismas has been kind of a nothing since 1995 for me. Everyone I know, now celebrates on Christmas eve.
Now on Chrismas day, we drive home from Kentucky, and I cook a little something for us. Or we go out for Chinese.
So perhaps you can readjust your thinking on this. When people ask you what you're doing for the holiday, it's HUGE. "I'm doing the traditional thing with my boyfriend's family on Christmas Eve and then we're doing a low-key thing on Christmas with my family."
Times change, people get older, children become adults. It's not bad, it's different. Perhaps you can get Chinese take-out for your family and enjoy it at your Mom's house. Start a new tradition.
The fact that you have all these aged relatives is a blessing! You'll really miss these quiet holidays when they're gone.
posted by
Ruthless Bunny
on November 29, 2012 [
1 favorite
I don't think you realize how lucky you are. Your boyfriend's family is huge and friendly and they have a great Christmas dinner on the 24th and you're invited? You've hit the Christmas jackpot. Go, enjoy, be thankful. Seriously. This is not something that everyone gets to have.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
10 favorites
Your answer is in your question. Go to your wonderful boyfriend's family celebration
and enjoy yourself!
posted by
on November 29, 2012
Yes! You are incredibly lucky! You have two fantastic celebrations of different timbres, neither one you need to coordinate. Hot Toddy is right, you've fallen upon the Christmas jackpot. Enjoy!
posted by
on November 29, 2012
Christmas has a tendency to get a lot harder when you reach late 20s/early 30s. Not only do you lose the magic that made Christmas so special as a kid (Santa isn't real, gifts aren't as big of a deal when you can buy your own stuff year-round, most Christmas songs are really annoying after twenty-five years), but if you grew up with a cohesive generally-happy family that spent the holidays together, you can lose a lot of that feeling too (siblings fight, parents criticize your life choices, cousins get drunk and annoy the shit out of you, aunts and uncles stop visiting, divorces, deaths, etc.). As much as I still love Christmas, it's also now a stressful season for me, and I never know what to expect.
It's a hard part of getting older, but just knowing that it's common makes me feel less alone. Got any friends you feel comfortable venting to about Christmas? They probably have stories of their own, about feuds started over who's responsible for bringing casserole, or unimaginably awful gifts from family members, or spending the entire day alone for the first time with nothing in the kitchen but saltines. And then maybe one of you will say "hey, we should just get together one day and have our own little thing with takeout and eggnog from the store," and even if it doesn't become a tradition, it's a fun little thing.
It helps to find joy and love in the non-traditional things of the season, on days other than the 24th or 25th (and Christmas Day can often be a drag anyway, since there's nowhere to go and everyone's busy), with "found" family or even by yourself.
And when I get childhood Christmas nostalgia, I like to think about the things that I've simply outgrown and couldn't recreate even if everything were perfect. Things like sitting by the tree every night and marveling at how it was SO huge (at six feet). Or trying to stay up until midnight to see if animals really did talk. Those are some of my favorite memories, and knowing that I got to have and treasure those kid-only experiences makes me feel a little better about things just not being the same anymore.
posted by
Metroid Baby
on November 29, 2012 [
7 favorites
Only child here, too. I totally understand the need for a Big Family Christmas, because big family is something only children don't get the other days of the year. My adult Christmases have been so horrible, that if I were to list them out, you'd help me find a bridge to jump off of. But I, like you, keep hoping & trying to find that Christmas Feeling I got glimpses of when I was little.
I don't have all of the answers, as I am still working things out, but I can list you the things i do to help myself feel more "in the season" all month long.
I rent a cabin with friends earlier in December and we have a white elephant gift exchange. The more horrible the gift, the better. Most of these gifts usually come from thrift stores and are donated right back. The silliness and no-pressure of the entire thing is really helpful, as is the feeling of celebrating the holiday in a big group of friends.
Make Christmas cards. Make cookies. Make ornaments. Spend the month visiting people and giving these things out.
Get together with others and watch your favorite Holiday movies.
Also- most recently my therapist mentioned having a loose plan for Christmas & Christmas eve, which includes either driving or getting out and walking around and admiring lights & nature, as well as a dinner with friends. If all of that isn't possible, schedule yourself to volunteer somewhere on Christmas & be around others & feel good making a difference.
Spend the month saying
to the invitations of others. Sure, you will be a newbie this year, but it could turn into your new favorite tradition in years to come. But you won't know if you don't try.
Tell yourself you can grieve for the loss of your beloved family Christmases as soon as it hits January 2nd. And do grieve, because I think that it is really important to say goodbye to them properly. But spend December working on a new project: Discovering new traditions.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
1 favorite
I think one other thing to consider is to sit down and really think of what "makes" Christmas for you. Is it the food? The lights? The crazy madhouse shopping at the mall? Then really try to emphasize those things this year. Make cookies, or grandma's plum pudding. Go see a holiday light show at the local zoo or park. Go to the mall, get an eggnog latte, and watch people go mad trying to get all their shopping done in an hour.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
1 favorite
Basically, you want to spend time with your family where you can all enjoy each other. You don't want it to be a lot of work or inconvenience. This is something you can accomplish! Just don't get too bogged down in elaborate traditions.
How about bringing food to your parents' house, maybe bringing some cute socks for everybody (feet still need to be warm, right?), watching a movie together, having some tea and photo-album time, and if you want to be super-festive, bring along a _real_ wreath so the room smells nice? You can volunteer to clean up the pine needles and take it down again at New Year's.
Basically, you do all the work, making sure to plan it so that a) it's not that much work to begin with, and b) your Mom won't feel obligated to work a lot. Apparently your parents' house is more comfortable, so that's where you do it. Or your aunt's, if she'll be comfortable and still feel OK taking a nap if she wants one.
In fact, if it were me, I'd plan time-outs every hour or so where everybody gets a break, and make that a part of the published plan so people don't protest too much. I don't have a lot of cultural expectations, though, so that may be easier said than done.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
3 favorites
People will inevitably ask me what I'm doing for Christmas, and then they'll react with shock and pity when I tell them that I'm doing... nothing.
"Nothing" is what you'd be doing if you were sitting around by yourself in your apartment for Christmas. Unless I've read your question entirely wrong, what you are doing is something like "Oh, boyfriend and I are having Christmas eve with his family, then we will be with my parents and my grandmother." If you keep saying "nothing", someone's going to be even more shocked when they invite you to something for Christmas and you have to explain that you actually had plans to visit with two different groups of people.
Suggest going out to eat for Christmas dinner (Make a reservation ASAP for this). Volunteer to drive over and pick up Aunt at the time you suggest this plan.
Alternately, see if Aunt would like you to visit earlier or later in the day, or take your Aunt and her husband out to dinner with just the 3 of you. Your mother might not feel up to the cleaning and other things she feels would be appropriate if it's not "just us", even if she wouldn't be cooking.
Try going to some before-Christmas events or performances, maybe that will give you some of that feeling of Christmas cheer that you miss. If you like to give gifts, there's probably a local charity doing something where you can buy a gift for a child who might not otherwise get one. You can exchange Christmas stockings with your boyfriend, or if that's just a reminder of how you don't do that with your parents do "12 days of Christmas" or make an advent calendar.
Get a lightbox to help with the "colder and colder", part of that might just be that its getting darker and darker. Maybe you need some warmer mittens, wool socks, or new boots. You can even get battery-powered bootwarmers. If you can afford it, a trip somewhere warm and sunny will probably help your spirits.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
3 favorites
Something that helps me integrate my "I want the holiday to be a certain way" thing and my "this family is kind of lame about holidays" issue is to get down everyone's expectations and desires on paper, and work from there.
(I also think you need to embrace the boyfriend's family, and maybe volunteer in your city, and find other days to do the "we all love each other" stuff, but I think that's all been handled adequately by advice up above.)
I literally spent two hours quizzing family members on what made Thanksgiving "right" to them - made it
- and then made a plan around
. Cranberry sauce is only important to two people, but they really love it. I actually gave my mother the results of my survey, including things that each person had claimed responsibility for, and that relieved a lot of her stress about the whole thing and helped her be less annoyed at the workworkwork issue.
I also got really
with myself in terms of what I
wanted from each holiday. For instance, for Christmas, it's really important to me that we all sit down together and open a variety of presents. So, instead of buying one major gift for each person, I buy several smaller gifts. It's really important to me that the space that I inhabit is decorated and cheerful over the holidays, so I make decorations while listening to Christmas music. It's really important to me that we have nice dishes and use the fancy expensive silver, so I negotiated with my sister and got her to agree to polish the silver and find the nice dishes the day before. It's really important to me to focus on the religious aspects of the holiday, so I put a LOT of effort into study and worship during the preceding month.
Other things turned out to be not as important to me - I don't
to spend the whole entire day with my family doing hugely significant religious or holiday-ish stuff. So when they decide to go see a movie, as long as it's not Sunday, I'll go with them. It's not that important to me to have a ton of treats, so I make boring side dishes and maybe one pie. It's completely unimportant to me to spend Christmas Eve as a family, together - so I've stopped being annoyed at my mom and stepdad for going to the mall to gawk at last-second shoppers, and I spend time hanging out with my sister or something.
It also turned out that me contributing the things I personally care about - I finally flat-out resorted to physically bringing the food to the house to ensure we had a nice Christmas dinner - made other people more enthusiastic about making their own contributions. My sister has really taken off on the side dishes thing this year - now she's branching out into making nice dinners on other, normal days, because she learned that she enjoys it.
Something you seem to care about is that your aunt and her husband may not be able to spend Christmas with anyone else in the family. Consider having Christmas Day in two places - one with them at their house, and one with your parents and grandmother at the
recommend that you cook in your own kitchen and bring it to your parents' home, if you want to have a feast or even just specific foods. Mostly because that has worked out
well for me. There are some things that show up at my mom's house on holidays because I intend to eat them and no one else wants to. Interestingly, other people end up joining me!)
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
3 favorites
You and your boyfriend should cook for your family at your parents' house. And clean up, too!
Watch a bunch of cooking shows and collect recipes online to get your menu organized. Or you could even pick up a whole Christmas meal from an upscale market or restaurant that offers this, of which many do.
Don't forget to decorate.
You sound a bit immature and spoiled, when really at 30 years old, you are more than old enough and capable enough of taking over the bulk of the festivities and making it fabulous.
I don't know why you equate hosting with your place downtown. Just play the host at your patents' home. Easier and more comfortable for everyone.
posted by
on November 29, 2012
As the commenters above illustrate, you really get to make the holiday what you want it to be now, but you do also have to respect other people's energies and feelings and negotiate with them.
If you want to eat with your whole family, do it at your parents but consider getting it catered, and help your mom clean her house before and after so she doesn't have to fuss.
Do things with you family, but also create events with your friends. Few is us get everything we need from one group of people anymore.
And remember, doing nice things for others reliably makes people happy.
posted by
on November 29, 2012
Lot of good options above! I especially like the one about you making the food, then bringing it over to your mom's (maybe finish making it there). So what if your mom criticized your food once? Christmas is no time to be holding on to bitterness, especially since this happened one or more years ago - come on! Be confident and try it again. Test out the recipes beforehand. Let your parents know how excited you are about each and every one of those. Fake it, if you have to. Ask each and every family member for their opinion on what to eat, what to do, what makes Christmas feel like Christmas to them.
Spending it with your boyfriend's family works too.
Have you considered doing some charity work instead? Volunteer at a soup kitchen or something?
Your family is old and tired. Inject some enthusiasm into the holidays - not just that one day.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
2 favorites
I don't think there's any call for the suggestion that the OP is "immature and spoiled."
To me, this sounds like you're dealing with your parents/family abandoning all the traditional "parenty" things they did when you were younger, and which haven't magically transformed into grandparenty things for obvious reasons. Maybe Christmas just allows you to focus these feelings on a particular set of traditions and events.
Just because you're not popping out the grandbabies doesn't mean that the older generation gets to realize their dream of sitting around watching Jeopardy all day every day, even on Christmas. Make new traditions. Don't be afraid to pull people along with you into some enthusiasm for the holiday season. It's not going to be automatic, but you are the leading generation now. Ask your mother or aunt what her responsibilities were during Christmas at your age, to give yourself some perspective or ideas.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
1 favorite
Oh, and if your parents are criticizing your cooking, bring food from a restaurant they already like. Or just don't try too hard with the food; bring a pizza or your family's equivalent of a pizza.
posted by
on November 29, 2012
Welcome to Adult Christmas. This happens once you're over a certain age, not married, and no kids around that everyone has to put up a show for.
I pretty much enjoy Christmas Season these days, but don't enjoy actual Christmas. It really isn't terribly fun, plus it's down to my mom and me so people-wise, it's not great. I have just kinda grown to accept that. I agree with you that I'd be weirded out going to a boyfriend's giant family party (I have really felt strange being invited to the houses of people I don't know well or at all at Christmas the years Mom and I did that), but that is probably where you're going to get the traditional holiday stuff going on compared to your own family. Without the kids around, after awhile people do lose interest, and it's up to you to either accept that or bring all the festivities in and MAKE them, darn it! I mostly just get my Christmas on in the weeks before the actual day any more.
In your case: yeah, I second those who said you bring food there. Or just all go out to a restaurant--honestly, it's NICE to go out at Christmas, you're not the only people there doing it, it's not a shameful thing.
posted by
on November 29, 2012 [
1 favorite
Or just all go out to a restaurant--honestly, it's NICE to go out at Christmas, you're not the only people there doing it, it's not a shameful thing.
Three cheers for going out to eat at Christmas! I did it even when I had a family (with young cousins) to spend Christmas with. You'll see families with kids doing the same thing. If you can afford it, it's such a treat to have someone else do all the prep, cooking, and cleaning, while you get to sit and enjoy yourself. And if you can find a restaurant in a hotel that serves a buffet, that is THE BEST; you get to pick and choose whatever you want to eat. Even non-buffets will usually offer a choice of turkey, prime rib or some kind of fish for a main course.
Holidays at restaurants FTW. I haven't cooked a Christmas
Thanksgiving dinner in yoinks. And I've seen lots and lots of families in those restaurants, so many moms and dads doing up Christmas "for the children" feel the same way. And restaurants usually go all out decorating for Christmas and sometimes have Christmas music, so they'll give you that holly-and-tinsel feeling you want.
posted by
Rosie M. Banks
on November 30, 2012
I agree with some of the above that this is still a logistics problem--your family basically enjoys spending the holiday together already, so if you make it easy enough for them to get into the spirit of the season then they will.
Since a traditional meal seems to be what your family wants in order to get into the spirit, you can buy a pre-cooked Christmas dinner and have it delivered to you. You do some minimal prep (thawing for a couple of days in the fridge and then heating it day of) and serve it at home (or, in this case, at your mother's house).
's a list from last year of stores which do this. One of my grandmother's friends got the Costco dinner for Thanksgiving and really liked it, it's a little expensive but comes with a large number of side dishes and so on. Plus then if your mom criticizes, well, she's not criticizing you really, so you can just shrug it off.
posted by
on December 1, 2012
Thanks everyone for the very helpful responses! A number of you have pointed out that I'm lucky to be able to share in and be a part of the boyfriend's family celebration. I never really thought about it from that angle, and have always considered it one of those relationship obligations (because it's a normal concept for me for parents to invite the SOs of their children to their celebrations - every boyfriend I've ever had has invited me to his family's celebration - regardless of whether I'm close to his family or not) and now I do feel incredibly lucky that they consider me a part of their family. I'm trying to remind myself of that, now. At the risk of falling into a self-fulfilling prophecy though, I know that I will feel distant and sad and a longing for my own family... as I have always felt like that (last year, at the same family celebration, as well as every other Christmas I have spent with the families of previous SO's). Maybe
this previous question I asked
might shed a bit of light on how I feel with my boyfriend's family. Absolutely think they're wonderful, but feel a disconnect due to language barrier, among other things.
On another note, reading everyone's suggestion that I'm putting too much emphasis on Christmas day, versus the season, I realize that I made it sound like that by leaving out some other stuff. Basically, I'm referring to the entire lead up to Christmas... the actual Christmas season. As soon as the Christmas merchandise and songs start appearing in stores, my family starts to get pretty negative. It starts off with "oh no, the Christmas stuff is in stores", and "oh God, it's that time of the year again". Then it continues to "we don't really want to do anything this year", and "we're not trading gifts", and "ughhhh the caroler's are outside", to "people drive so badly at this time of year!" and "Christmas songs are on every radio channel, it's SO annoying", to "ugh I guess this means we have to invite your aunt and her husband"... basically, it's an entire month or so of lead up where I'm being reminded that THIS SUCKS, which inevitably culminates to one day of people not really wanting to be together. I have trouble processing why this is so difficult on a day where everything is closed for the holidays, everyone else is doing Christmas stuff with their own families, we all live within ten minutes of each other, no one is working and no one has anything better to do than be together because we have no other obligations. I don't care so much that it's Christmas, and don't really absolutely desire any of the things that define Christmas for other people (Christmas tree, a specific Christmas themed dinner, presents, Christmas songs, etc), but it's like the perfect storm of everyone being totally free on the same day. Why not hang out together? Why so much complaining and negativity for the entire month of December? They're not generally downers for the rest of the year. There's no bad blood between any of my family members.
My boyfriend and I put up a Christmas tree at his house and sing along loudly and badly to Christmas music, and are creating our own new little family traditions. I don't expect my parents to participate in this at all, and I've accepted that they are old and tired. I've tried to make things easier for my mother on the times she has decided she'll host some kind of Christmas "thing" by helping her cook and clean, or taking over those responsibilities entirely. But no matter how much I alleviate the burden for her, my parents are still so negative for the entire season. I guess that was my question... how can I stay happy or even normal when I'm constantly reminded of how much they hate it?
Whew, this turned out to be a novel of a response! I suspect that no one will return to this thread anymore since it's already a couple days old, but thank you everyone for so much good food for thought!
posted by
on December 1, 2012 [
1 favorite
I guess that was my question... how can I stay happy or even normal when I'm constantly reminded of how much they hate it?
Compulsory fun is inflicted from without, even by the most well-meaning. Your badly-sung Christmas carols and your tree are fine for *you,* but may stand as reminders to your family of just how far unmoored they have become from the holiday, the season, and from the social constructs around how they are supposed to observe it and feel about it. Can you understand that your energetic joy might be experienced by someone else as pressure?
I stand by my advice, above, to work on reinforcing the bond you have with your family *without imposing anything holiday-related on them.* Their attitudes toward the season are their struggle, not yours. Please do not expect them to be sources of your holiday joy. Accept their "Oh shit, Christmas
?" commentary as evidence that they are thinking through their relationship to the season, and not as a judgment on you or your choices about celebrating Christmas. Let it go. Love them anyway.
posted by
on December 1, 2012
MonkeyToes, my Christmas carols and tree are things I do on my own time, which is something I've only really started to regain appreciation for since my boyfriend and I got together. I showed them a picture of the tree, and that's it. As for energetic joy, well... I have next to none these days, hence the purpose of me posting about the holiday blues to begin with. So yes, I absolutely understand that energetic joy is experienced by others as pressure, because that's one of the very things that's getting
down these days.
posted by
on December 1, 2012
Sorry, I accidentally clicked on Post Answer before I was done.
I wanted to add that I have already accepted that they're not into the holidays, and I don't take it as any form of judgment against me or my life. I just wish I were better equipped to deal with what I feel is a constant unnecessary reminder of how much they hate it. Like ok, you're not into it. I'm not happy these days either. But complaining non-stop doesn't help anyone. I feel crappy too, but I don't feel the need to tell them every time I see them.
This compared with everyone else's festive joy makes me sad and lonely, and I guess I just wish I had a better coping mechanism.
posted by
on December 1, 2012
I think you can choose to be festive and joyous as possible. My parents are not complainers but they do think Christmas is a hassle. They only leave their decorations up for two days. Just enough time for us to see them on Christmas Eve when we celebrate with them.
I can be a complainer too. I bemoan the fact that I have to drag my stuff out and decorate. I secretly roll my eyes and laugh at people who wish they could "leave their tree up all year long because it's so pretty!" I can't be bothered and sometimes I think my lack of enthusiasm stems from social anxiety and pure laziness.
The holidays can reveal or magnify some sad truths and leave one feeling vulnerable: not as many friends as you would like, not invited to any or many Christmas parties, lost family connections, loneliness, another year and I'm still hanging on to these extra 20 pounds, etc.
Complaining might be a form of distraction for your parents. An excuse not to be open and to enjoy fully because they might not know how or it's too uncomfortable for them.
Have a very Merry Christmas. Just because others aren't as enthusiastic doesn't mean it has to ruin your entire month.
posted by
on December 2, 2012 [
1 favorite
I'd be worn down by such constant complaining too! Compleat Complainers are tedious and joyless to be around.
If I were you I'd focus less on getting your family to enjoy the holidays and more on stopping the constant flow of negativity. Refuse to engage. Something like, "I know you're tired of Christmas carols, but there's nothing we can do about it." Then change the subject to something neutral. Make it clear that
you do not want to hear a constant stream of complaints.
And be prepared to walk away if they won't shut up.
Your holidays are yours to make as you please. And if your parents don't want to celebrate, that's their choice. But it's not fair to you for them to drench you in a constant drip, drip, drip of negativity, whining and complaining. Don't force them to celebrate a fancy Christmas, but make it clear that you do not want to hear Whine, Whine, Bitch, Bitch all the time.
posted by
Rosie M. Banks
on December 2, 2012
Rosie has it right - and I'd add that if you need to spend Christmas with people who AREN'T your parents in order to get away from their complaining, that may be a necessary step. I know it would be sad, and you'd rather not because they're your family, but it sounds like right now you're the only Christmas fan in the family and that may not change. You do have other people to celebrate with, which is VERY fortunate.
Giving up is definitely a last-resort step, but....it is a step you could take if nothing else is working out.
posted by
on December 2, 2012
« Older
Can Excel do input filtering o... | Please recommend the best cart...
Newer »
This thread is closed to new comments.
Related Questions
I'm blue. Healthy suggestions for cheering myself...
March 3, 2013
Feeling ignored by my loved ones.
December 25, 2012
December 8, 2012
"From now on, we'll have to muddle through...
December 15, 2007
Why do I associate Rockin' Around The Christmas...
December 22, 2004
New User
MeFi Wiki
Buy a Shirt
© 1999-2014
MetaFilter Network Inc.
All posts are © their original authors.
| ☃


text:
Topic Page
Nation Topics - Conservatives and the American Right
News and Features
For years the battle raged across my family's kitchen table.
The Bush Administration has not made it easy on its supporters. David Brooks now admits that he was gripped with a "childish fantasy" about Iraq.
Most Americans long ago stopped believing that George W. Bush is what he
claimed to be during the 2000 presidential campaign: a compassionate
In the early 1980s, soon after the right-wing grassroots movement gave
us a Reagan presidency, I announced that I would be boycotting my
straight friends' weddings.
Daniel Pipes has made his name inveighing against an academy overrun by political extremists. But he is nothing if not extreme in his own views.
When George W. Bush asked Congress for the
authority to attack Iraq, New York Congressman Amo Houghton voted no.
Who should
control access to the archives of the 9/11 Commission after it closes
up shop in August? The commission's records will go to the National
The good news is that Utah has dropped murder charges against Melissa Rowland, who rejected her doctors' advice to undergo an immediate Caesarean section and gave birth to a stillborn boy and a g
A conservative provocateur turned Senate candidate may have tried to skirt campaign finance rules.
While gaudily festooned Hollywood liberals presented each other with the false golden idol of a little naked man, enlightened others quietly celebrated the traditions of thousands of years of Wes
Nation Media
Also From The Nation
Facebook Like Box


text:
By Dan Merhar On Jan 20 2014, 1:28 pm
Marie Harte's Prey & Prejudice has been nominated for Best Paranormal/Fantasy Book of 2013 at Love Romance Cafe!
2 Comments
By Gabriella.Hewitt On Oct 7 2013, 8:31 am
Lately, I have been doing a lot of soul searching and I'm thinking I need more than a flashlight and a plastic bag to get rid of half the garbage I am touting around. Sometimes I need to take a step back and realize that crap is going to pile up along with the laundry, [...]
1 Comment
By Cathryn Cade On Jul 31 2013, 12:02 pm
A long awaited day is here … for me, and for the readers who've been with me since my first release at Samhain. In 2007 my first story, Tyger, Tyger, Burning Bryght came to be. This was the first work I ever sent to a publisher, so I was over the moon when Samhain let me know my [...]
No Comments
By Samhain On Jul 31 2012, 8:00 am
What's New in eBook at Samhain! Publication Date: July 31, 2012 http://store.samhainpublishing.com/new_release.php Rolling in the Deep by Cathryn Cade Genre: Paranormal, Red Hots!!!, Multicultural Length: Novel, ISBN: 978-1-61921-103-2, Series: Hawaiian Heroes Price: $5.50 Limited time sale-priced for $3.85 Desire as deep and dark as the sea…danger as close as a heartbeat. Hawaiian Heroes, [...]
By Samhain On Jul 24 2012, 8:00 am
What's New in eBook at Samhain! Publication Date: July 24, 2012 http://store.samhainpublishing.com/new_release.php Colors of Love by Jess Dee Genre: Contemporary, Red Hots!!!, Ménage & More Length: Category, ISBN: 978-1-60928-930-0, Series: Speed Price: $4.50 Limited time sale-priced for $3.15 Their true colors are hidden…until one woman turns everything upside down. Speed, Book 2 Seth [...]
Connect With Samhain:
home |
authors |
store |
contact us |
customer service |
employment |
submissions |
editors' corner |
newsabout ebooks | privacy policy | terms of use
©2005-2014 Samhain Publishing. All rights reserved.


text:
Oh, that George Clooney. What a hunk a burnin' love. If only he'd settle down and make some baaaaaabies. Because we need more people like him in the world. (JK, George. Your child-free, marriage-free life is a perfectly valid choice.) Anyhoo. Guess what George did, y'all? Did he visit some warn-torn country again? Did he make some socially meaningful movie? Did he get yet ANOTHER gorgeous girlfriend? Nope! It's better than all of that. (And honestly some moms could learn a thing or three from his gobsmacking act of restaurant behavior.)
George was hangin' with some buds in a trendy Berlin restaurant. And apparently George & Co. were noisily yukking it up and being all THRILLED TO BE IN THE COMPANY OF GEORGE CLOONEY.
So when a guy who sat near them went to pay his $135 tab, he was stunned to be told that Georgey Poo had settled it already. And he added that he hoped he hadn't disturbed the man's dinner.
Hear that??!! Some moms and their noisy offspring might want to take note. But lo, the guy said not only was George NOT disturbing him (because how could he? he's George Clooney), but he didn't even know who the actor was. Whaaa??? Sacrilege!
Said the lucky man who got to WATCH GEORGE EAT: "They had behaved in a very cultivated manner. I was stunned."
You mean George wasn't running around with his pants around his ankles, crawling under the tables, and sending out throat-rattling screams from hell?
Aw, isn't that like George to think he's being rude even though he's being all gentlemanly and mannered 'n' stuff? I don't get this whole Ryan Gosling thing. It's GC all the way, iffin ya ask me.
What do you think of George's gesture? Have you ever picked up anyone's tab?
Image via csvtova/Flickr
Wow, this article came off as really rude towards moms who "dared" go out to eat with their noisy, pants around the ankles hell screaming child.
This article is so terribly written it made my head hurt. You seriously got paid to write that garbled mess?
I love kids, but I hate trying to eat and hearing nothing but screaming in the booth next to me, while the mom or dad is in la-la land playing on their cell phone. Therefore, I avoid dining out during peak child friendly hours. It's bad enough I have to put up with it in the grocery store, but at least there, I can walk away should there be a kid throwing a fit!
Anyway, that was very nice of Mr. Clooney, I wouldn't expect anything less from him.
I actually never had a bad time in a restaurant even when there was families around.
I guess parents should never take their children out to eat huh?
Yeah, this article annoyed me a little. You can be doing everything *right* as a parent and your kid could still throw a piece of food or suddenly shriek. It happens. I do not ever play on any type of device when I'm with my kids in public. I try really hard to make sure we are not ever bothering anybody else and if my kids start getting loud, we usually pack up and go. My advice to people like Kiri who don't like to be around kids when they are eating on the chance that they may do something completely kid like is to avoid family friendly restaurants around normal family friendly hours. Parents (and kids) deserve to get to go out to eat, too, and it's not feasible to always have a babysitter. The suggestion that moms eating out with kids should pick up the tab of nearby patrons is ridiculous. I wish I had that kind of money!
So if I go out to dinner with my family and my children happen to be loud ( and then controlled by the parent) it's up to mr to pay for someone else's dinner??? Yeah, poor journalism. Iffin ya ask me!


text:
It's KBOO's Fall Membership drive Donate Now!
Call 877-500-5266 (KBOO)
Donations as of 10/01/2014 6 PM:
Book Mole: "The Burgess Boys"
Elizabeth Strout's new novel The Burgess Boys concerns two brothers who must return to their home town to deal with issues they thought they'd left behind. The novel shows how extraordinary are the lives of ordinary people living ordinary lives when seen through the eyes of "a compassionate and wise story teller." Our Book Mole Larry Bowlden compares it with Strout's earlier novel, the Pulitzer Prize winning best seller Olive Kitteridge, which Larry also reviewed on the Old Mole.
- Title: Book Mole: "The Burgess Boys"
- Album: May 13, 2013
- Length: 6:29 minutes (3.72 MB)
- Format: MP3 Mono 44kHz 80Kbps (CBR)


text:
Try our Advanced Book Search
Advanced Book Search
Search books by title, genre, publication month, publication year, and rating or search by any combination of these options (i.e. all Mysteries published in January 2001 with 4.5 rating).
If you want to search for a name or phase, include quotation marks around your search term (example: "Deborah Smith")
Visitor login is required to post a review and comment on the blog and other interactive features on the site. Use your same username and password to register for the RT Forums.
Genre: Regency Period, England
Innovative author Teresa DesJardien treats us to another of her special delights: a warm and wonderful romance with a sparkling touch of whimsy.
Lady Augustine Wayfield never expected to turn out to be a matchmaker. After all, her own marriage had left a lot to be desired, and she has lived quite happily alone since her late husband's death. Nevertheless, more than one couple holds her responsible for their current happiness.
But there is one union for which she feels continuing guilt. The marriage of her neighbor, Lord Sumner, turned out to be a disaster, eventually leaving him a widower with a delicate young son. And hence his dilemma.
He needs a wife, and he needs her quickly. Who better than Lady Auggie to find him one? Since he has no intention of marrying for love again, it should be easy, right?
Not exactly. And therein lies the tale of a delicious courtship of two lonely people who discover unexpected love together. Enjoy, enjoy! (July, 252 pp., $4.50)
Reviewed By: Melinda Helfer
Publisher: Zebra
Published: July 1996


text:
Aap Ki Aankhon Me Kuch
Lyrics & Chords
Superb melody composed by late RD Burman from the movie Ghar. Sung by Kishore Kumar and Lataji. This is my home recording with a track. Comments are welcome.
Krishnan N v ( nvk ) said
Was an extremely good performance…Congrats.
Prateek Dayal said
wow … are u sure u did not uploade the original by mistake? :)
Kumaran said
Superb rendition, Kumar. Keep it up!!!!
Radhakrishnan Nair said
Very well sung, great job!
Harshan Nambiar said
Nice singing …. thought "mahke howe se" was sounding different than the original song ….
Phool khilte ….was slightly off beat ….
Very good attempt !! liked it
Venky Srinivasan said
amazing voice you have Kumar!
Shonnie Madan said
good good
uploaded over 6 years ago
- 596 Plays. Last played on September 14, 2014
- 1 Favorites
- 2 Likes
- 11 Comments
- 0 Aap Ki Aankhon Me Kuch MP3 Download


text:
It seems that Mercedes has become bored with creating cars and has decided to get a bigger piece of the retail pie by turning their attention to a new direction: cologne for men. That's right, Mercedes is now in the smell good business. Their first product was developed in cooperation with the INCC Group and it will be available from selected specialist retailers from the first quarter of 2012, as an eau de toilette, after shave, deodorant, and shower and body gel.
The fragrance combines woody notes with floral freshness. The cool top note features Calabrian bergamot, lemon essence, and Italian mandarin, while the middle note is a warm, spicy mix of bourbon pepper, nutmeg, violet and galbanum resin. The base note provides a spicy finish to the perfume and includes American cedar wood, vetyver grass, and patchouli. These scents are all combined and packaged in a masculine, modern, and elegant bottle design.
Success sure does smell sweet, doesn't it?


text:
- musicisthesoulbreathing reblogged this from hislivingpoetry
- sp9735 reblogged this from hislivingpoetry
- angelvitamins likes this
- pkayyumi reblogged this from hislivingpoetry
- saquake likes this
- saquake reblogged this from hislivingpoetry
- thetruestefani likes this
- thetruestefani reblogged this from atimeforchangemovement
- hislivingpoetry likes this
- atimeforchangemovement reblogged this from hislivingpoetry
- chooisingausernsmeishard likes this
- martha-kate reblogged this from hislivingpoetry
- katorkat likes this
- rclinkdump likes this
- lealalalalalalalalahm reblogged this from each-beat
- gordonnash4 reblogged this from andiprogress
- watching--stars--collide reblogged this from each-beat
- watching--stars--collide likes this
- likohno likes this
- micgaring reblogged this from each-beat
- ashfrem reblogged this from each-beat
- sunshineystorms likes this
- jesuswins reblogged this from each-beat
- jesuswins likes this
- each-beat reblogged this from htxhoney
- htxhoney reblogged this from hislivingpoetry
- four-fires reblogged this from caughtin-yourgrace
- wishing-apples reblogged this from dreamsfromtheprairie
- inthepottershands likes this
- savannahlaurel reblogged this from moratoriu-m
- humble-scandal reblogged this from myheartwillsing
- jamsterdam likes this
- humble-scandal likes this
- lightwillfindaway likes this
- justestherandi likes this
- arroganceanduncertainty likes this
- c--lee likes this
- ontheroadtovictory likes this
- restinginyou reblogged this from moratoriu-m
- restinginyou likes this
- themichaelwchen likes this
- moratoriu-m reblogged this from prettywingsx3
- xaerenhcharis likes this
- jennfromtheblog likes this
- genuinepetals likes this
- theadequategentleman likes this
- offdahizzy reblogged this from heartofamissionary
- prettywingsx3 reblogged this from heartofamissionary
- christandcoffee likes this
- Show more notes
Hi, I'm Ramses
It's much easier to hand the homeless man at church a food card than it is to hear his story and help him find shelter and a job. When we give quickly, we are often being selfish—we're choosing to demean the other person to a charitable cause and ignore the relational opportunity.
If we believe the neighbor Jesus calls us to love is any and every person, then we should also believe that people deserve our time and attention, not just our dollars (Luke 10:27). Everyone deserves the opportunity to tell their story and be loved as an entire person, not just a need.
Jesus is spontaneous in His helping—His miracles arose as a result of seeing a need—but He is also serious about His relationships. We see Jesus repetitively eating with people and stopping for discussions and questions—here is God with only three years of ministry time on earth, stopping to eat, drink and have conversation. This is how He works.
Jesus also stops to get to know those who are considered unlovable by His culture, like the Samaritan woman at the well (John 4:1–26). And in doing so, He keeps the focus on what God plans to do in their lives—He instills not just help but hope.


text:
Some Yearlings to Note at Keeneland September
With Keeneland's September yearling sale set to begin Sept. 8, here's a selection of outstanding pedigrees worth noting at the auction's opening session.
With Keeneland's September yearling sale set to begin Sept. 8, here's a selection of outstanding pedigrees worth noting at the auction's opening session.
Pedigrees don't win races, but on paper, none of the new faces to emerge so far in 2013 looks better than Elnaawi.
To Honor and Serve was undeniable in the $750,000 Woodward Stakes at Saratoga Race Course Sept. 1, holding off the late challenge of 4-5 favorite Mucho Macho Man to earn his second grade I by a neck.
Grade I winner To Honor and Serve, an earner of $1.3 million, will enter stud in 2013 at the Beck family's Gainesway Farm near Lexington, the farm announced Aug. 19.
He only defeated three horses in a scratched-filled edition of the $142,500 Westchester Stakes (gr. III), but To Honor and Serve could not have looked any better in his season debut April 28 at Belmont Park.
MAHUBAH'S CORNER, by Avalyn Hunter
Bernardini's juvenile standout To Honor and Serve, who's on early watch lists for Triple Crown 2011, descends from Darby Dan's foundation mare Golden Trail.
Starlight Stables standout filly Ashado is expected to be a heavy favorite over eight rivals in Saturday's $250,000 Cotillion Handicap (gr. II) for 3-year-old fillies at Philadelphia Park.
With half the field boasting victories over the track, there's plenty of local angles to Sunday's 80th running of the $200,000 Monmouth Breeders' Cup Oaks (gr. II) at Oceanport, N.J.
Golden Eagle Farm's Yearly Report tops a field of ten entered in the $500,000 Delaware Oaks (gr. II) to be run at 1 1/16 miles at Delaware Park Saturday.
Smarty Jones isn't John Servis' only starter this weekend. He will send out longshot Pilfer for Friday's Black-Eyed Susan. Bob Baffert's Yearly Report is favored in the nine-furlong race.


text:
Log In
Clearance Products
New Products ...
All Products ...
New Products [more]
Imagination Coins US Quarter (DVD and Gimmicks) by Garrett Thoma
Reviews [more]
Hi fellow magician.I have saw many material...
:: All Products
All Products
Sort by:
Product Name
Product Name - desc
Price - low to high
Price - high to low
Date Added - New to Old
Date Added - Old to New
Buy Now
Allan Ackerman A Material (2 DVD Set) by The Miracle Factory - D
Price: $50.00
Date Added: Thursday 01 August, 2013
Buy Now
Allan Ackermans Classic Ackerman DVD
Price: $34.95
Date Added: Tuesday 29 April, 2008
Allan Ackerman is one of the world's foremost experts at sleight-of-hand magic and gambling moves with playing cards. On this fascinating new DVD,
... more info
Buy Now
Allan Ackermans Prequel/Sequel DVD
Price: $34.95
Date Added: Tuesday 29 April, 2008
Four of the most incredible card effects you've ever seen! Includes special cards printed by the U.S. Playing Card Company. PREQUEL/SEQUEL: Allan's
... more info
Buy Now
Alone by David Regal.
Price: $22.50
Date Added: Tuesday 08 July, 2003
Close-up card magic doesn't get any more direct than this: A spectator names a card. A deck is spread between the magician's hands, and the named
... more info
Buy Now
Amazing Secrets of Card Magic - Michael Ammar - DVD
Price: $29.95
Date Added: Wednesday 28 April, 2004
Just release on DVD - one of Ammar's best for beginners: Amazing Secrets of Card Magic Your complete introduction to card magic! Even if you've
... more info
Buy Now
Ambitious Classic (World's Greatest Magic) - DVD
Price: $19.95
Date Added: Wednesday 10 March, 2010
A small packet Ambitious Card routine circulated in the underground among the cardmen cognoscenti before it finally saw print and was dubbed the
... more info
Buy Now
Ammar Trilogy (3 DVD Set) by Michael Ammar - DVD
Price: $49.95
Date Added: Monday 27 September, 2010
Michael Ammar Trilogy This is what professionals call The Real Work. It's all revealed with the trademark technique pioneered by World Champion
... more info
Buy Now
An Extension of Me (DVD Set with Gimmick Coin Bonus) by Eric Jon
Price: $89.95
Date Added: Thursday 18 February, 2010
"Eric Jones is THE real deal!" This is what top magicians from all around the world are saying after seeing Eric Jones perform his stunning close up
... more info
Buy Now
Andrew Mayne's Shock FX - Magic For Mutants (DVD)
Price: $29.95
Date Added: Monday 17 May, 2004
Twisted, devious, gut-wrenching magic for the stage, home and urban environment. Produce a bowling ball in an impossible way. Stab a pencil through
... more info
Buy Now
Animated Miracles Yigal Mesika
Price: $19.95
Date Added: Tuesday 30 November, 1999
Experience the power of the Loop! Until now there has been very little information available on the loop. Very few gimmicks are as versatile and
... more info
[<< Prev]
[Next >>]
Advanced Search
World's Greatest Magic - Sponge...
Dai Vernon Revelation 30th...
Bill Malone - Here I Go Again! 3...
R. Paul Wilson on the Royal Road...
Tommy Wonder's Visions of Wonder...
Max Maven - Multiplicity
Nothing - Max Maven DVD
World's Greatest Magic -...
Micheal Skinner's Ultimate 3 Card...
13 Steps To Mentalism Starring...
Copyright © 2014
L&L Shop
. Powered by
Zen Cart
Parse Time: 0.538 - Number of Queries: 670 - Query Time: 0.119783512909


text:
don't owe
(866) 788-9612 | +1 8667889612 Phone Number Reports
+1 866-788-9612 Phone Call Reports
Call started with a female voice apologing for the wait/inconvenience and something like please stay on the line. Then music played for a minute or so before a male voice came on the line and asked to speak to Forrest Brooks. An internet check confirmed that this is a scam.
I've had my current phone number for about 3 years, and ever since then, this number has been calling me looking for a certain person. I always tell them they have the wrong number, then they proceed to ask if I know the man they're looking for. I tell them no, and then they ask if I know where to find him! They sound more and more irritated each time they call. I want to call them back and see what happens but I'm scared..
Keep a log of the phone calls. Then find an attorney for yourself. This is an TCPA/FDCPA violation. They are trying to get you to pay for someone else. Once you told them to stop calling that is they were supped to do, stop calling
another one of the calls that hang up as soon as I answer, very tiresome these annoyances from what is probably a Robo-caller. Damn things need to be banned completely. No more I say, IF someone wants to call let it be a live person so I can tell them to stop calling me in violation of the Do Not Call Lists I'm on.
calling me about somebody else., told them not to call again. They didnt say why they were calling, nor would they leave a firm name or address
No way to stop these abusive fax calls into my voice mail.
they will not stop calling even though its not the person they are looking for.
pipl.com - you can probaby find their home phone numbers and call them. I am sure they would love the conversation over dinner. Company Address: 63 Range Road 300, Windham, NH 03087-2098 Company Phones: (603) 537-1747 Owners / Employees Dan Pellegrini Marc J Pellegrini Judith M Bucciarelli - firstname.lastname@example.com / 49 y.o. Relatives: Heidi Lynn Lustenberger Steven Bucciarelli Michael Bucciarelli Joseph L Bucciarelli John Frank Bucciarelli Michael T. Pantazis


text:
Hotel Tulum
No availability found through our partners. Please contact the business directly or check some of our recommended alternatives.
TripAdvisor Reviews Hotel Tulum Cancun
Travel Blogs from Cancun
The calm before the storm
Day 1 The day began like any good holiday should- with two breakfasts; one at the airport and one on the plane. British Airways were impressive- efficient and pleasant service and the food was very good. Cottage pie with tabula salad and millionaire shortbread mousse I don't mind if I do!The couple next to me were very friendly, offering me sweets every half hour to the extent that I thought thatthey were intent on giving me diabetes... After landing and going through customs ...
... at home Morale: individual sense of right and wrong (beliefs) Ethics: communal sense of right and wrong. (Laws) bargaining here vs home Wednesday 9:00 am lobby Thursday GM speaker Friday Length of stay Airlines EP hotel - European plan hotel. Room and food sep OTA is 40% of business. (Expedia..) Need of a revenue ...
... who knows? Mark and Efrosini are back in the afternoon so I prepare dinner for their return. Jerk chicken (with the paste they brought over), rice and peas and salad. I haven't managed to find the gunga peas that would normally go in the rice so use the black beans used here for refried beans. It works surprisingly well and everyone enjoys it, although it would have been better with some cream coconut, but I have yet to find any. Mondays ...
Cancun & Speedy Gonzales along Boulevard Kukulkan
... to the dollar. Some were as low as 12.25.
Once all done walked out of the hotel and along came a bus marked R1. Just what I needed and it wasn't full. Paid the 9.50 pesos / NZ $ .90c / US $ .70 (don't ...
Back to Babylon!! :(
... am going to figure something out! I gotta do some research, get on a job, save some cash money! Bcus the world likes exchanging meaningless paper for goods!!! Anyways this travel blog is no where near done! I will continue to travel till I die! I will prepare more next time round. I've learned! I've spent approx $1700 dollars in two months including flights, hotels/hostels, excursions, transportation passport and visa! I know how to do south east Asia for ...
Other places to stay in Cancun
Hotel los Girasoles CancunCalle Pina #20, Cancun | Innfrom $39
Hostal MayapanBoulevard Kukulkan Km 8.5 , Cancun | Innfrom $29


text:
Mechanic Killed by King Air Door
A mechanic at Taylor Municipal Airport in Texas died April 11 while attempting to board a Beech King Air 200 while the engines were operating at idle power. According to the NTSB, "unexpected pressure" between the interior and exterior of the airplane caused the door of the aircraft to open forcibly once unlatched, and it struck the mechanic's head.
The pilot had called for the mechanic after noticing a "screaming" sound coming from the airplane during a test flight, following replacement of the vertical speed indicator.
Please Register
In order to leave comments you will now need to be a registered user. This change in policy is to protect our site from an increased number of spam comments. Additionally, in the near future you will be able to better manage your AIN subscriptions via this registration system. If you already have an account, click here to log in. Otherwise, click here to register.


text:
Para su estancia de alojamiento de PA vienen psiblevisitar nuestro Poconos cama y desayuno, un hogar de embarque de verano de ex 1880's situado en 14 acres en el borde de la Tannersville Cranberry Bog. Una posada de temporada todos con una configuración regional de montaña rural y conveniencia urbana. Flora y fauna abunda mientras que prevalece la relajación. 5 bellamente decoradas habitaciones cada uno con chimenea de gas romántico y baño privado con ducha y bañera separada. Su estancia incluye un desayuno completo con porcelana fina y desayuno de candlelite. Lotes de local finos restaurantes, tiendas, esquí, senderismo, paseos a caballo, casino y mucho más. Vienen sea Cranberry Manor Bed & Breakfast su estancia tranquila montaña B & B donde tu placer es nuestro placer.
Almirante habitación tiene una cama doble, en la sala de baño privado con ducha doble y profundo remojo chimenea de gas y bañera. TV con DVD. Libre acceso a Internet inalámbrico y DirecTV. Situado en el tercer piso. Imágenes son actuales.
: $145 - $160
Contessa habitación tiene una cama de dosel, en la habitación baño privado con ducha de esquina y la chimenea de gas y bañera profunda oval. TV con DVD en la habitación. Libre acceso a Internet inalámbrico y DirecTV. Situado en el tercer piso. Imágenes son actuales.
: $145 - $160
Floral de la habitación tiene una cama de trineo, en la sala de baño privado con doble ducha y chimenea de gas y bañera separada. Habitación tiene área de descanso de sofá, TV con DVD Player. Acceso gratuito a internet inalámbrico y DirecTV. Situado en el segundo piso. Imágenes son actuales.
: $135 - $150
Jardín de la habitación tiene una cama de King(2 twins joined), en la sala de baño privado con doble ducha y profundo remojo chimenea de gas y bañera. También tiene un sofá de traviesas de doble tamaño para una tercera persona a un adicional de $ 20.00 una noche. TV con reproductor de DVD. Libre acceso a Internet inalámbrico y DirecTV. Situado en el segundo piso. Imágenes son actuales.
: $160 - $175
Victoriano de la habitación tiene cama doble con dosel de la mitad, en la sala de baño privado con ducha y chimenea de gas y bañera profunda oval. TV con reproductor de DVD. Libre acceso a Internet inalámbrico y DirecTV. Situado en el segundo piso. Imágenes son actuales.
: $145 - $160
Puntuación basada en
10 Comentarios
5 en septiembre 15, 2013
We literally called on a Saturday afternoon to see if they had availability ,packed a bag and left 20 minutes later. We took the last room. Was very happy with our accommodations. Very CLEAN. Breakfast was delicious . The owners were great. Would defiantly recommend ,we came home and booked another weekend!
5 en septiembre 24, 2012
We stayed with Ric and Sharon last October, 2011....Just getting ready to plan our trip for this November...We cant wait for some quiet R & R in their cozy B & B...Also can't wait for Sharon's delicious breakfast! Great location near the outlets and great restaurants!
5 en noviembre 27, 2011
It's cute & cozy and conveniently located for any activities you may want to do in the area. I'll tell you a secret though: It's one of those places you almost don't want to tell people about because you want to make sure you can still get a room the next time you go. Sharon & Ric make this place what it is. What is it? S-p-e-c-i-a-l. Ric's stories and Sharon's cooking(Oh My God, sooo good.) Their charm together as a couple will make you want to come back, again and again.
4,2 en abril 26, 2011
Overall, this was a great place. The owners gave us a complimentary upgrade since we stayed for 3 nights, which was a pleasant surprise! Breakfasts were good. Service was outstanding. The bed wasnt as comfortable as I would have hoped. Overall, for the money, it was a great value and I recommend.
5 en enero 05, 2011
My husband and I stayed at the Cranberry Manor during New Year's eve weekend and had a wonderful experience! Sharon and Ric are very gracious hosts and we were impressed at how meticulously clean the entire place was! The breakfasts were incredibly delicious and Sharon was incredibly accomodating to my husband's dietary restrictions. It is also very conveniently located off the I-80, and very close to Camelback for skiing, The Crossings Premium Outlets for shopping, Mt Airy Casino for entertainment, and a slew of good places to eat! We couldn't have chosen a better place to spend the weekend!!
4,6 en agosto 13, 2010
Ric and Sharon were wonderful, breakfast was delicious, and the room was charming. We were only able to stay for a short time, but we'll definitely be back.
4,6 en agosto 02, 2010
We were looking for a quick overnight getaway to help us destress from the craziness of the week. We found the Cranberry Manor on the Bed and Breakfast website. What a find! From the minute we walked in it smelled homey and inviting. Ric and Sharon were friendly and immediately made you feel as if this were your home. The rooms were clean and comfortable. We loved the porch and the pool table. Breakfast was fresh, hot, and delicious. We will most definitely return next time we need a little getaway. Maybe next time we will take advantage of the big tub in the bathroom and the fireplace in the bedroom!
5 en marzo 26, 2010
This was everything we expected, and more. The owner's Sharon and Ric, met us when we arrived and made us feel at home. Ric entertained with his many stories and knowledge of the area history and Sharon served up her world famous "upside down mandarin orange pancakes". The area also includes wineries antique shops, many fine restaurants and a casino that is only a short drive. We can't wait to make a return trip! Doug & Karen Bedford, Pa.
5 en enero 24, 2010
Cranberry Manor was beautiful and exactly the warm and cozy B&B that we were looking for. Rick and Sharon were so friendly and Sharon's three course breakfasts (fresh fruit, entree and muffins/dessert) were delicious and hearty. Breakfast was a special event with elegantly table settings. Hazel
5 en diciembre 22, 2008
My new husband and I went for our honeymoon to the Poconnos and we had the best time. Sharon and Ric were the most wonderful people. We had a beautiful room and the breakfast were wonderful. We got the romance package and it exceeded anything we could of imagined. I have recommended them to everyone we know. It was a honeymoon to remember. Sharon went out of there way to help us with local restaurants and reccomendations of things to do and see. It was perfect perferct perfect!!!!! We will be going again to visit and stay... We stayed from Dec 6-11 from: James and Ruth Douglas
Allentown, PA (LVI-Lehigh Valley International)
Parque de Atracciones, Compra de Antigüedades, Casino, Extreme sports, Cenas Elegantes/Gourmet, De Interés Histórico, Lago, Cine, Parques Nacionales, Área natural, Monta a caballo, Tiendas Outlet, Teatro, Área de picnic, Servicios Religiosos, Río, Rodeo, Area de esquí , University, Viñedo, Bodega
Historic Inn, Bed and Breakfast
Juegos de mesa, Reproductor de CD, Movie library, Parking, Vídeos , Acceso inalámbrico a Internet
Aire acondicionado, Despertador, Ventiladores de techo, Reproductor de DVD, Chimenea, TV por Satélite/Cable, TV, Wi-Fi
Billares, Observación de aves, Multa de comedor, Comprar
Ric and Sharon Anderson, Innkeepers
Gatos , Perros , Gatos no vagan por lado B & B
BedandBreakfast.com Diamond Collection