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Seth Weitberg is a teacher, performer, and coach at iO West who began short form improv at Duke University before moving to Chicago in 2003 where he studied and performed at iO Chicago and Second City.
Seth has an organic approach to long form, in particular the Harold, a form which he teaches in Level 5. Here is our interview with him.
Let's get this out of the way; Name drop! Who have you played with or coached that you thought "(s)he's going to be a huge star!"
I was very fortunate to be on a team in Chicago called Bullet Lounge. It's members, which changed over the years, include Ryan Archibald, Tim Baltz, Joey Bland, Ross Bryant, Sarah Haskins, Barry Hite, Jordan Klepper, Thomas Middleditch, Rich Prouty, Bill Saveley, Blaine Swen, Steve Waltien, Charlie Wilkins, Brandon Sornberger, TJ Miller, Sarah Haskins, and Ryan Archibald. You may know some of those folks, and soon you will know all of the others.
You taught an openings workshop recently with Charna Helpern to all of the house Harold teams at iO West. What is your theory on a great opening? What should the team take away up top?
I don't know if you are specifically referring to Harold, or any longform structure in general, but I guess my answer would be pretty much identical. I think most improvisers think of the opening as functional. In Harold you look to discover a thesis or point of view to explore, while in other forms you may simply be looking to create information to deconstruct. But if you accomplish that goal, then you've really only done a part of what you need to set yourself up for a great show.
The opening is not just functional. It's the opening of your show. It's the first five pages of your spec script, it's the first paragraph of your novel, it's the intro to your song, it's the color you choose when toning a canvas. The greatest shows I've ever seen were all ones where the opening affected everything that followed, thematically, tonally, structurally, etc. So to answer the second part of your question, as to what the team should take away from the top, I would say, everything. They should take everything away from the opening, release judgment about it and instead make the assumption that what they just did is the start to a brilliant show that they never could have seen coming.
What was an early hurdle you had with scene work and how did you overcome it?
In my Level 1 class the best improv instructor of all-time, Liz Allen, pointed out that I really wanted to go fast and think ahead, in large part because I had predominantly done short form before then, where patience is not necessarily a virtue. She was basically saying, "listen." I have spent the years since then trying to be a better listener on and off stage, and there's no end to that pursuit. Liz also once told me, when the great improvisers go out on stage they just make a choice and then connect with their scene partners. It took me forever to have any clue what that actually meant on stage.
What is one thing you see a lot in classes/on stage that people consistently have problems with and how would you coach people away from it?
I'll give two answers, if that's alright. In early classes, it is extremely rare to get students who are really exceptional listeners. You simply do not have that many things in your life that require you to listen as deeply as improvisation does, so it takes months and sometimes a lot longer than that, just to get people to understand the depth of listening required in this work.
In upper levels I see people cling to form as a series of obligations which leads to uninspired work, the inhibition of true play and a whole ton of improv shows that end up looking pretty similar. The best example is with the Training Wheels version of the Harold. At iO, we believe that the form of Harold you learn in your Level 1 class or the book Truth in Comedy, is just an example. It's an exercise. Great Harolds do not follow that format to the letter, they follow the show that they are in. The form is there to serve your piece, you are not there to serve the form. In other words, what the Training Wheels Harold does well is it establishes what your show will explore, it helps you create characters, relationships, locations and minor themes to explore that larger idea, it balances the use of scene work and presentational stuff (or game energy), and it shows you how to bring elements of your show back in a way that ensures you balance the breadth and depth of your exploration. That is to say, if I know Training Wheels Harold, I should know how to bring a scene back if I want to, whenever I want to. If I know Training Wheels Harold, then I know how to decide when the show needs an adjustment of pacing, or tone or to switch to something that is not a scene, and I know how to do it. A math function is far less capable of expressing ideas than a poem is. A recipe is safe, but never as inspired as a chef simply cooking. Students want to be good, and it's much easier just to follow that recipe, but eventually you have to start seasoning your food, mixing up the syntax and going to your palette for a different color because you want to, not because you think you're supposed to.
What is your current favorite form to play and why?
If I could do Nogoodnicks shows with Tim Baltz every night of the week, I would. With all due respect to the vast numbers of amazingly talented people I've been lucky enough to play with, Tim and I met very early on in our careers, and I would gladly sit in a 45-minute show with him 365 days out of the year.
Since he is busy dominating Chicago, and I'm out here, I always love playing Armando on Saturdays, and starting Thursdays at 11pm in November, I am going to put my money where my mouth is, and be in group with Matt Cavedon and Thom Vacca, directed by Brad Morris, called Pascal, that will be performing a three-person Harold. I could not be more excited about working with all three of these guys.
You worked very closely with Charna in Chicago and still today now in LA, whats the difference between the 2 scenes that you notice?
I think there are many. I will name a couple of them. In Los Angeles, the idea of "the game of the scene" is much more prevalent as a part of our vocabulary. The point of access for an iO improviser will almost always be the relationships between the characters, but I think that Chicago would do really well to understand more about game mechanics. In Chicago, I think groups are pushing the art form in far more significant ways. I think, for whatever reason, it is a safer environment for pure experimentation and LA teams are less likely to push boundaries. I know that that last statement might make a lot of people angry to read, and I would be thrilled if those folks proved me completely wrong.
Improv technique is the same everywhere, but the nature of the community is reflective of the ethos of the city in which the work is taking place. Chicago is an ensemble town. It's about doing it together and following the work. The whole theater community is like that. LA is not a theater town. It's an industry town, and it would be naive to assume that the nature of the improv community would not be directly affected by that. I don't think that LA teams need to be doing what Chicago teams are doing, but I think LA teams need to not just be doing what Chicago teams were doing 5 to 10 years ago. It's near impossible to innovate in improv at this point, but you can help it evolve.
Early on did you model your play after anyone in particular? Did you study them? Do you suggest picking a few people and doing that?
All kinds of people. Baltz and I would have tons of discussions about players, groups, forms, styles, etc. and simply try to break down their style. Before I list the folks I can honestly say I have studied and tried to emulate at some time, I would add that I absolutely think there is merit in studying performers you love. But the goal should not be to simply imitate them, it should be to understand them. Sure, start by imitating, but only as another way of trying to understand the value in what they do as well as the potential pitfalls. Eventually, you jut figure out what works for you, borrowing little bits and molding all of them into your own self image. In all honesty, off the top of my head and in no particular order, these are the improvisers I have studied and/or tried to emulate in some way, at some point: Paul Grondy, TJ Jagodowski, Peter Grosz, Michael Patrick O'Brien, Jordan Klepper, Steve Waltien, Tim Baltz, Barry Hite, Kevin Sciretta, Katie Rich, Joey Bland, Sarah Haskins, Brian Wilson, Emily Wilson, Deb Downing, Michael Lehrer, John Lutz, Rob Janas, Neil Flynn, Brad Morris, TJ Miller, Alex Fendrich, Dave Koechner, Rush Howell, Thomas Middleditch, Joe Bill, Craig Cackowski, Andy Cobb, Laurel Coppock, Josh Funk, Peter Gwynn, Brian Gallivan, John Marnell, Forest Hynes, Porter Mason, Flynn Barrison, Gregory Anderson, Paul Downs, Dana Vachon and the 500 I'm leaving off for time.
Group games in the Harold: a way to revisit the suggestion or a thematic break from scenes or what? How can GG's become as important as the scenes?
A Harold only has two things in it: scenes and things that are not scenes. They should be balanced throughout a show, in whatever way is best for that particular show. I've been in Harolds that only have a couple scenes, and others that were almost nothing but. Remember, the Training Wheels Harold is a suggestion that does not want to be taken. What you're referring to as "games" I'm just referring to as "not-scenes". Simply speaking from my own experience on Bullet Lounge, in most of our great shows, the not-scenes helped form the backbone of the entire show, the structure that scenes would hang on like lights on a Christmas tree.
For whatever reason, LA teams crutch incredibly hard on using group scenes as group games. But once you let the Training Wheels go, then scenes are just scenes, so most people's shows end up just being nothing but scenes with maybe some attempt at game energy through an edit. People so easily forget that you can do absolutely anything in a Harold, and they should remember all of the presentational stuff available to them: personal monologues, character monologues, dance pieces, finger puppetry, physics lectures, movie trailers, etc. Learning to improvise presentational elements will make your team vastly stronger, because you will have the capacity to not only follow your inspiration in new directions, but also to have total control over the variety and texture of your show.
Finally, when is your never-to-be-released book on improv going to be released and what are you going to call it?
If I cobbled together all of the emails I've written to students over the years, and all of the massive treatises I wrote to Charna when we were rewriting the Level 1 curriculum in Chicago, I'm sure there is enough for a book. That being said, I'm not convinced that anyone really wants more books written about improv. If you want to know what I think about something, I'm obviously more than happy to tell you any time. I'll probably write one someday anyway, though, because I do think my mother would get a kick out of it.
"When you're lost or playing with someone who is less experienced jump right into the low-status role." Derek Miller
"If you can't figure out what's going on, tell the person you're playing with something about their character." Megan Grano
"Match your partners energy or go the exact opposite. Start the next few exchanges with 'you' or 'I' statements." Mike Betette
**I took a lot of notes through my training, here are some of them.**
So what do you do when you're lost in a scene?
Chelsea Coleman is on the house team Waterloo, you can see them perform each and every Tuesday night at 8 o'clock on the main stage.
Chelsea is an actor, photographer as well as an improv coach.
Visit her website for more information: Chelsea Coleman.
Over the coming weeks and months we are going to bring you tips, tricks and takeaways from improv all-stars, if you have suggestions of improvisors you want to hear from please let us know. Also, if you're having problems with your own improvising that you can't seem to get past, send us your questions and we'll pass them along to our teachers and respond. Chances are, if you're stuck on something there are hundreds of other improvisors having the same problems you are.
We really want to make this site a free resource towards improving all of our performing abilities. Of course we're going to highlight shows, advertise our classes, and probably post funny pictures but above all, iO West is an improv school and we want to help everyone up their game!!
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Servings: 4 t 6
Prep Time: 15 min
Cook Time: 25 min
Difficulty: Easy
One 16-ounce package refrigerated pizza crust dough
1 green bell pepper, cut into rings
1 red bell pepper, cut into rings
1/2 onion, thinly sliced
1 pound extra-lean ground beef
2 tablespoons spicy brown mustard
8 slices provolone
1 1/2 cups shredded mozzarella
1 teaspoon Montreal steak seasoning
Preheat the oven to 450 degrees F. Let the pizza dough rest according to package directions.
Press the dough into a 16-inch pizza pan or a rimmed baking sheet. Bake for 5 minutes.
In a large skillet, combine the bell peppers and onions. Cook over medium heat until the vegetables are tender, about 8 minutes. Remove from the heat. Next, add the ground beef and cook until crumbly and brown. Remove from the heat and drain well.
Spread the mustard over the pizza crust. Top with the provolone, beef mixture and mozzarella. Sprinkle with the Montreal steak seasoning. Bake until the crust is browned and the cheese melts, about 10 minutes. Cut into wedges to serve.
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A Teaticket resident was ordered held on high bail following his arraignment on charges stemming from last spring's robbery at Paul's Pizza.
Michael A. Geggatt, 22, appeared in Falmouth District Court Tuesday, when he was arraigned on charges of armed robbery, armed assault to rob, assault and battery with a dangerous weapon, and conspiracy. He was ordered held in lieu of $10,000 cash bail/$100,000 surety until his next court date, a pretrial hearing scheduled for March 6.
Tedra E. Noonan, 23, of Acapesket Avenue, East Falmouth, was also arraigned in connection with the crime on charges of conspiracy and accessory before the fact. She was released on personal recognizance and is also set for a pretrial hearing on March 6.
Complaint applications were filed by the Falmouth Police Department against the suspects earlier this month. The information regarding this case was not made public until their formal arraignment.
Mr. Geggatt, whose address was listed as Glenwood Avenue and as Teaticket Highway in various police and court documents, allegedly robbed the restaurant after being informed by Ms. Noonan, identified in court documents as a "minority owner" of the restaurant, that a lone employee would be leaving the restaurant that night with bank bags for a night deposit.
Falmouth Police Department reports stated that Mr. Geggatt attacked an employee after closing on June 15, striking him in the head with a brick and stealing two bank deposit bags holding a total of $3,900 to $4,100 in cash.
Falmouth Police Department reports stated that Mr. Geggatt, who previously worked at Paul's Pizza as a member of the wait staff, attacked an employee after closing on June 15, striking him in the head with a brick and stealing two bank deposit bags holding a total of $3,900 to $4,100 in cash.
Falmouth officers and a K-9 unit from the Barnstable County Sheriff's Department conducted a search of the area but could not locate the suspect. The bank bags were recovered the next day around 3:30 PM on Alma Road.
Police interviewed numerous individuals, including Ms. Noonan and several Paul's employees, which led them to interviews with several individuals identified in court documents as known drug dealers.
Investigators got a tip from one of the interviewees that Mr. Geggatt was most likely behind the robbery, police reports stated, and Mr. Geggatt allegedly fit the victim's description of the robber. The victim later allegedly identified Mr. Geggatt as the robber from photographs.
Police arrested Mr. Geggatt on July 1 on an unrelated matter, a warrant issued on a charge of unarmed robbery, and questioned him on the robbery at Paul's. He was also questioned about a robbery days earlier that occurred in the parking lot of Cumberland Farms on Main Street, which is directly behind the restaurant.
Ms. Noonan was also questioned about the robbery but she allegedly denied involvement with the incident or with Mr. Geggatt. After obtaining a court order, police reviewed Ms. Noonan's cellphone logs and allegedly discovered that Ms. Noonan had contacted Mr. Geggatt the day before the robbery, and several times in the minutes immediately following the robbery.
Police reports stated that the evidence suggested Ms. Noonan and Mr. Geggatt conspired to rob the restaurant to support their respective drug habits. Reports also noted that in the days before the robbery, Ms. Noonan had pawned several personal items for cash.
Mr. Geggatt was last in court last month facing a charge of assault and battery and larceny over $250, amended from unarmed robbery, stemming from the robbery at Cumberland Farms, which police characterized in reports as a "rip"—a drug transaction that turned into a robbery. The charges were dismissed when the victim failed to cooperate with police and prosecutors.
CORRECTION (Tuesday, February 26)
This story had identified one of the suspects, Michael A. Geggatt, as a former employee of the restaurant. A spokesman for Paul's Pizza said that Mr. Geggatt, in fact, never worked there in any capacity.


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Yuma, AZ- "I definitely feel better, I think justice has prevailed, but we still feel his loss," said Jagdish Gill, Satinder's older brother.
Jagdish and the Gill family have all been very involved throughout the Preston Strong Trial.
They have spent many days in the court room listening to testimony, they were also present for closing arguments and the verdict.
"It was such a relief to have the verdict and now the whole case is behind us. You saw us in the court room, we were all in tears. It was so emotional for us," said Jean Gill, Satinder's sister-in-law.
Jagdish says it was hard not knowing who was responsible for his brothers murder for nearly 5 years.
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The Gill family is from out of state, and part of the Gill family lives India. Jagdesh tells News 13 he hasn't been able to tell their mother about what happened.
"Till this day we haven't told my mother. She is 90 years old and has health issues. She wouldn't be able to handle it."
Jagdish says they told their mom Satinder died due to heart problems. The family says they will forever miss Satinder gill, and they say he will always have a place in their hearts.
As for Preston Strong, they hope he gets the maximum punishment which would be life in prison. His hearing is scheduled for next month.
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Johann Sebastian Bach
Wolfgang Schmieder, Thematisch-systematisches Verzeichnis der musikalischen Werke von Johann Sebastian Bach: Bach-Werke-Verzeichnis, 2nd rev. and enlarged ed. (1990), known as BWV, is the standard catalog of Bach's music, including a bibliography for each work. Ray Reeder, The Bach English-Title Index (1993), lists titles in English, each accompanied by its respective BWV number from the aforementioned Schmieder work. Paul Kast, Die Bach-Handschriften der Berliner Staatsbibliothek (1958), contains a descriptive catalog of the Bach manuscripts in the possession of the Berlin National Library, the largest single repository, with more than 75 percent of the surviving Bach sources. May Deforest McAll (compiler), Melodic Index to the Works of Johann Sebastian Bach, rev. and enlarged ed. (1962), contains some 3,872 themes. Gerhard Herz, Bach Sources in America (1984), in German and English, is of special interest. Hans-Joachim Schulze and Christoph Wolff, Bach Compendium (1985– ), is the most comprehensive catalog of Bach's works.
Collections of correspondence, sketchbooks, and reminiscences
Werner Neumann and Hans-Joachim Schulze (eds.), Schriftstücke von der Hand Johann Sebastian Bachs (1963), a critical edition of all surviving nonmusical documents (such as letters and receipts) in Bach's handwriting, and Fremdschriftliche und gedruckte Dokumente zur Lebensgeschichte Johann Sebastian Bachs 1685–1750 (1969), a critical edition of all known printed and handwritten discussions of and references to Bach dating from his lifetime, are vol. 1 and 2 in the series Bach-Dokumente; Hans-Joachim Schulze (ed.), Dokumente zum nachwirken Johann Sebastian Bachs: 1750–1800 (1972, reissued 1984), is vol. 3 of the series; and vol. 4 is Werner Neumann (ed.), Bilddokumente zur Lebensgeschichte Johann Sebastian Bachs (1979), with text and captions in both English and German. Also of interest are Hans T. David and Arthur Mendel (eds.), The Bach Reader: A Life of Johann Sebastian Bach in Letters and Documents, rev. ed. (1966); and Robert Lewis Marshall, The Compositional Process of J.S. Bach, 2 vol. (1972), a study of the autograph scores of the vocal works, with transcriptions of all surviving musical sketches and drafts included in vol. 2.
Biography and criticism
Philipp Spitta, Johann Sebastian Bach: His Work and Influence on the Music of Germany, 1685–1750, 3 vol. (1885, reprinted 1992; originally published in German, 2 vol., 1873–80), a monumental study, is still the standard biography, although no longer valid in many particulars. Further important full-length studies are Albert Schweitzer, J.S. Bach, 2 vol. (1911, reprinted 1966; originally published in French, 1905), an influential, if highly subjective and personal, interpretation; Charles Sanford Terry, Bach: A Biography; 2nd rev. ed. (1933, reprinted 1972), a useful supplement to the biographical portions of Spitta's work; Karl Geiringer and Irene Geiringer, Johann Sebastian Bach: The Culmination of an Era (1966), an account of the life and works that uses results of research in the 1950s by Alfred Dürr and Georg von Dadelsen bearing on the chronology of Bach's works, and The Bach Family: Seven Generations of Creative Genius (1954, reprinted 1980); and Percy M. Young, The Bachs: 1500–1850 (1970). Barbara Schwendowius and Wolfgang Dömling (eds.), Johann Sebastian Bach: Life, Times, Influence (1977, reissued 1984; originally published in German, 1976), is an illustrated collection of wide-ranging essays on the composer. Other useful sources include Alec Robertson, Bach (1977), a biography with a survey of books, published editions of the works, and recordings; Norman Carrell, Bach the Borrower (1967, reprinted 1980), on Bach's use of preexisting material; and Robert L. Weaver (ed.), Essays on the Music of J.S. Bach and Other Divers Subjects (1981). Malcolm Boyd, Bach (1983), examines the composer and his music. Gerhard Herz, Essays on J.S. Bach (1985) is a compilation of noteworthy articles focusing on Bach's works. Analysis of the spiritual foundations of Bach's music is found in Jaroslav Pelikan, Bach Among the Theologians (1986). Contemporary interpretations of Bach are explored in Don O. Franklin (ed.), Bach Studies (1989); and Robert L. Marshall, The Music of Johann Sebastian Bach: The Sources, the Style, the Significance (1989). John Butt, Bach Interpretation (1990), discusses the usage and function of articulation marks in Bach's compositions. Christoph Wolff, Bach: Essays on His Life and Music (1991), assesses various aspects of the composer's career; Stephen A. Crist (ed.), Bach in America (2002), is a compendium of essays on various aspects of Bach's music in the New World; and John Butt (ed.), The Cambridge Companion to Bach, (1997) collects several perspectives.
Bach's place in history is discussed in Wilfrid Mellers, Bach and the Dance of God (1980), focusing on the creative process and the relationship of music, word, and drama in his music; Jan Chiapusso, Bach's World (1968, reprinted 1980), a historical study, with musical analyses; and Douglas R. Hofstadter, Gödel, Escher, Bach: An Eternal Golden Braid (1979, reissued 1989), a metaphorical, philosophical work for the reader interested in the structure of Bach's music.
On the vocal music
Alfred Dürr, Bach's Cantatas (2003; originally published in German in 2 vol., 1985), a general survey, also includes individual essays on each cantata by one of the principal editors of the Neue Bach-Ausgabe. Werner Neumann, Handbuch der Kantaten Johann Sebastian Bachs, 5th rev. ed. (1984), is a handbook of useful factual data and schematic analyses of all the cantatas; it is complemented by Werner Neumann (ed.), Sämtliche von Johann Sebastian Bach vertonte Texte (1974), complete texts of the works set to music by Bach; and W.G. Whittaker, The Cantatas of Johann Sebastian Bach, Sacred and Secular, 2 vol. (1959, reprinted 1981), a stimulating appreciation, but one that should be used with caution. Detailed research is given in Charles Sanford Terry, Bach's Chorals, 3 vol. (1915–21, reprinted 3 vol. in 2, 1979), Bach: The Cantatas and Oratorios, 2 vol. (1925), Bach: The Passions, 2 vol. (1926), and Bach: The Magnificat, Lutheran Masses, and Motets (1929), these last three reprinted in 1 vol. (1972); Basil Smallman, The Background of Passion Music: J.S. Bach and His Predecessors, 2nd rev. and enlarged ed. (1970); Paul Steinitz, Bach's Passions (1978), with an overview of the history of performances of the Passions; Alec Robertson, The Church Cantatas of J.S. Bach (1972), with information on the religious significance of Bach's treatment of the texts; and Augusta Rubin, J.S. Bach: The Modern Composer (1976), an analysis of his harmonic methods, with more than 1,200 quotations from the chorales. Stephen Daw, The Music of Johann Sebastian Bach: The Choral Works (1981), appraises Bach's cantatas, Passions, Magnificat, and masses. Laurence Dreyfus, Bach's Continuo Group: Players and Practices in His Vocal Works (1987), is concerned with the instrumental accompaniments for Bach's vocal music. W. Murray Young, The Cantatas of J.S. Bach: An Analytical Guide (1989), is a readable treatment and translation of Bach's religious and secular cantatas, useful for the general reader. An original examination of the influence of theology on the tonal structure of Bach's vocal works is presented in Eric Chafe, Tonal Allegory in the Vocal Music of J.S. Bach (1991).
On the instrumental music
Studies include Hermann Keller, The Organ Works of Bach (1967; originally published in German, 1948), Die Klavierwerke Bachs (1950), and The Well-Tempered Clavier by Johann Sebastian Bach (1976; originally published in German, 1965), exploring the historical context of Bach's organ and keyboard works, with individual analyses of the compositions; Donald Francis Tovey, A Companion to "The Art of Fugue" (1931, reprinted 1982), an analysis; Hans T. David, J.S. Bach's Musical Offering: History, Interpretation, and Analysis (1945, reissued 1972); Charles Sanford Terry, The Music of Bach (1933, reissued 1963), and Bach's Orchestra (1932, reprinted 1972); and Norman Carrell, Bach's Brandenburg Concertos, 2nd ed. (1985). Gregory Butler, Bach's Clavier-Übung III: The Making of a Print, with a Companion Study of the Canonic Variations on 'Von Himmel Hoch' BWV 769 (1990), analyzes the compositional background of some of Bach's organ music. David Schulenberg, The Keyboard Music of J.S. Bach (1992), is a highly informative study of Bach's keyboard works (excepting organ), of interest to serious as well as to more casual readers. Meredith Little And Natalie Jenne, Dance and the Music of J.S. Bach (1991), is the first comprehensive treatment in English of the nature and significance of Bach's indebtedness to the dance traditions of his time.
On performance
Differing ideas are represented by Erwin Bodky, The Interpretation of Bach's Keyboard Works (1960, reprinted 1976), a controversial but stimulating approach; Walter Emery, Bach's Ornaments (1953, reprinted 1981), a discussion of the problems and suggested solutions; Thomas Harmon, The Registration of J.S. Bach's Organ Works, 2nd ed. (1981); Frederick Neumann, Ornamentation in Baroque and Post-Baroque Music: With Special Emphasis on J.S. Bach (1978), with a glossary of terms and symbols and a bibliography of primary sources; and the preface to Arthur Mendel, The Passion According to St. John (1951). Keyboard performance and interpretation are examined in Ralph Kirkpatrick, Interpreting Bach's Well-Tempered Clavier: A Performer's Discourse of Method (1984). Fernando Valenti, A Performer's Guide to the Keyboard Partitas of J.S. Bach (1989), addresses issues raised by the author's pupils. Paul Badura-Skoda, Interpreting Bach at the Keyboard (1993; originally published in German, 1990), is a thoughtful discussion of tempo, articulation, choice of instrument, and ornamentation, among other issues.


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NEWS BLOG (WSAU) Spring is late in coming, and it's been felt hardest by high school baseball teams in our area. The DC Everest baseball team has played only once, a 5-1 loss to Stevens Point. Nine of their games have been cancelled. And that's one more game than Wausau-East has managed. Every one of their games has been called off.
The weather is slowly improving, but this year's baseball season is hopelessly compact. There will only be five weeks of games; some teams will play only 10 or 12 times before the playoffs arrive.
A good baseball manager will tell you that it takes 40 or 50 at-bats before you can judge a hitter. This season most players won't get that many at-bats all year. No one will have enough good pitching for the double-headers and four-games-a-week that will follow.
Baseball is supposed to be a game of attrition. There's always supposed to be another game tomorrow. Consider the first three weeks of the Brewers season: you'd think they were hopeless bums. Then for the next three weeks, you'd think they were champions. That's how short this year's high school season will be. Mother nature wins this year.
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cuegrosssobbing said: hi! i've been looking for this fic forever oh god. it has tony as steve's guardian angel of some sort and he constantly is helping steve to the point where he drains his (tony's) life source and ceases to exist. near the end they meet again, both humans. any ideas? much appreciated xx
Is it Weighing of the Heart by scifigrl47?
Anonymous said: Would you happen to know of any were Steve and tony are together before/during the battle of New York and when he almost dies?
Anybody know this one?
emilyhasadventures said: I know this is a week later, but I didn't see an answer to it; so in case the anon who was looking for the fic where everyone walks in on Tony masturbating was still looking, it's Greatest Hits by peppermintchild on AO3.
Yay, an answer!
Anonymous said: What was that once steve/tony fic where in the first chapter all the avengers walk in on tony masturbating? Clint like throws his phone at Tony's balls, Thor joins in with him, Natasha comments on his vibrator and how she has the same one but the speed disappoints her n tony offers to make it better, n steve just blushed n walks out?
I have nooo idea— anybody got this?
Emoticon!anon, is ♥ by tsukinofaerii what you were looking for?
illmakeamanoutofyouuu said: Hi i was wondering if you or anyone seemed to know the fic where steve and tony end up talking in emoticons/symbols because of tonys experiment?
Any followers got this?
illmakeamanoutofyouuu said: its never close our eyes anon
Anonymous said: Do you remember that one fic where Tony dies, but not really? He was kidnapped by Hel or something and Steve travels through Death Land and fights zombies and everyone had to declare how much they love Tony to get him back.
Ack, no, I'm sorry! Anybody else know?
(so yeah, this summer in general is going to be really intermittent posting—I keep thinking I will have more tumblr/fic reading time, and then I don't, so consider the posting schedule irregular through about august. sorry dudes!)
Last Night I Dreamt I Was In The Labyrinth by valtyr
Rating: Explicit
Length: Complete at 1400 words
Author's summary: "For my next trick: Ultimate fic with Steve bottoming. YOU WAIT." - valtyr, 7th April 2009. I deliver.
Why you should read it: Yeah, yeah, I know, I already recced valtyr. But last time was MA:A, and this time is Ultimates and thus basically the complete opposite, in themes and tone and all that jazz. This is not as happy of a fic as I usually rec, not as lighthearted or as charming, but it's definitely rewarding. This is a subtler fic, and the kind of fic that gives goodies with careful reading, and again, this is Ultimates, and thus not all bright and optimistic, but it is hopeful, and there's a surprising sweetness to parts of it, and just— I've been rereading this a lot lately. Give it a try?


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At CeBit 2009, taking place this week in Hannover, Germany, Asus showed off its Eee PCs, including touch-screen models. Our colleagues at ZDNet Germany provided this slideshow. (Captions translated from German.)
See also: Asus to nix 7-inch Eee PC Netbooks
The Eee PC Touch can be used like the iPhone, with finger gestures, but there's no Multitouch support.
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"Space Jam Rip" design for Long Island based garage-rock band Soda Bomb. Once these are printed on shirts, stickers, posters, whatever I'll be sure to post 'em.
July 2012.
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Taking life in Londons Docklands to a new level
At Surrey Quays, and only 2 minutes* from Canary Wharf, Marine Wharf is taking life in London's Docklands to a new level.
Thanks to the winding course of the River Thames, Marine Wharf enjoys a privileged location near to the water's edge. With a wealth of transport options including the nearby Jubilee Line at Canada Water, Thames Clippers riverboats and a forthcoming Crossrail station at Canary Wharf, the City, West End and Central London are only minutes away*.
Baroque Gardens, Cleveley Court and Mary Rose Square
Latest phases include a new release of contemporary apartments at Cleveley Court and Baroque Gardens consisting of: 1, 2 and 3 bedroom apartments. Mary Rose Square offers a limited collection of spacious 4 bedroom executive townhouses will also be available.
Residents benefit from landscaped courtyards, a new linear park on Grand Canal Avenue, a 24 hour concierge service, a fitness studio with facilities for personal training, leisure facilities and a forthcoming Tesco Express.With innovative design, unique style and elegant landscaping Marine Wharf caters perfectly for todays busy, modern lifestyles. Ideally positioned to access all that London has to offer.
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2 minutes from Canary Wharf*
With contemporary apartments and executive townhouses available in the heart of Marine Wharf
Exciting amenities including shops, bars, restaurants and leisure facilities
24 hour concierge service
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Landscaped gardens and courtyards
Communal "linear park" that runs the entire length of the development
Limited allocated car parking, subject to separate negotiation
Leisure facilities
Marine Wharf is ideally located close to the River Thames and offers a vast array of transport links. Surrey Quays and Canada Water stations are within easy walking distance, the latter providing direct Jubilee Line services to Canary Wharf, The City and the West End.
Residents of Marine Wharf will also be perfectly positioned to use other modes of transport including Thames Clippers riverboats and the forthcoming Crossrail station at Canary Wharf.
The local are is home to superb shopping, dining, leisure activities and culture. Fabulous transport links provide access to Central London in minutes, to international airports in under an hour. The capital's superb schools and universities are also within easy reach, as are its key business districts. Marine Wharf places its residents exactly where they need to be.
Nearest schools:
- Marathon Science School - Primary (0.2 miles)
- Deptford Park Primary School (0.2 miles)
- Sir Francis Drake Primary School (0.4 miles)
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London Underground
Fashionable Canada Water is less than a mile away from Marine Wharf, and its Tube station offers fast Jubilee Line services to the City, Central London and all the excitement, shops and nightlife of the West End. In fact, the Jubilee line is the only Underground line that connects with every other line, which means the whole of the metropolis is within easy reach by Tube.
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London's famous red buses run throughout the entire city and beyond, many of them on a 24-hour timetable. And for those who prefer to take the car on longer journeys, the beginning of the M1 motorway is only 15 miles and less than 40 minutes' drive away.
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Long distance travellers are served by trains at nearby King's Cross and St Pancras stations, both of which are just a short Tube journey away. For London Overground rail services, Canada Water station is less than a mile away and provides even more options for getting around, and out of, the city.
London City Airport is just 16 minutes away and serves over 30 destinations across the UK and Europe, plus New York. Heathrow is only 22 miles from Marine Wharf by road; Gatwick 32 miles. Each can be reached in less than an hour.
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Choosing a home is one of the most important decisions of our lives and it's vital to get it right. Come home to Berkeley, and you can be confident that you have made the best decision.
Over the last twenty-five years, Berkeley has built a reputation for creating homes that surpass expectations in terms of design, quality of construction, and our vision for sustainable development. Across London and the Home Counties, our developments encompass new homes, contemporary urban apartments, refurbished historic buildings, traditional family homes and innovative mixed use schemes - all guaranteed to express the essential Berkeley values.
Many of our developments combine leading edge design whilst maintaining and renovating key elements from our architectural heritage. From highly complex developments, that combine residential, retail and leisure facilities, to key worker apartments or the more traditional rural communities - Berkeley continues to provide quality, style and sustainability.
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Berkeley is the largest division within the Berkeley Group and one of the UK's best known developers of new homes, with a reputation for creating highly individual, high quality homes in carefully chosen locations, and customer service standards that result in consistently high levels of customer satisfaction.
Berkeley was founded in 1976 and its first homes were typically large executive style properties. Today the Berkeley portfolio reflects the aspirations of a much broader range of home buyers, encompassing medium to large-scale developments in towns, cities and the countryside, mixed use schemes, riverside apartments, refurbished historic buildings and urban loft spaces - as well as the traditional executive homes. The company has also gained considerable experience in creating sustainable communities within complex regeneration schemes and today all building takes place on brownfield sites.
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New race: Goblins. You decide at character creation what faction to align with, but both Horde and Alliance goblins could share the same leveling areas. They'd have ogre mounts, which would be awesome.
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Oct 12, 2012There's never a dull moment across AWLWLB's 38 minutes. It's all peaks.
Oct 9, 2012While All We Love lacks cohesion in spots, it solidifies Converge's position as one of hardcore's most progressive yet soulful stalwarts.
Oct 16, 2012All We Love We Leave Behind entices kinetic release in every possible way, irrational and otherwise, allowing unchecked ventilation as means for escape through a medium that has never sounded so engaging.
Oct 11, 2012All We Love We Leave Behind stands tall within Converge's discography as yet another glowing example of how to make art out of aggression.
Oct 16, 2012This is pure, unadulterated energy, seething catharsis taken out on throats, fingers, fretboards and drum heads by a band going on 22 years, and showing no signs of weakness or irrelevancy.
Oct 11, 2012One of the most spectacular and intense albums the group has released yet.
Oct 8, 2012Converge has become synonymous with consistency, and the band's latest effort proves that after seven albums they still have what it takes to put their listeners through hell in the best kind of way.
Oct 12, 2012As daring as it is confident and poignant in its execution, this album captures both the Converge we know and love and a Converge we're not quite accustomed to--leaving us with an album arguably as striking and challenging as anything the band has done before.
Oct 29, 2012All We Love We Leave Behind will sit alongside the very best. [6 Oct 2012, p.53]
Oct 16, 2012All We Love We Leave Behind occupies the unruly intersection of metal, punk and progressive music, weeding out the weaknesses the band perceives in each genre and saving the good stuff for its rigorously constructed songs.
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Oct 12, 2012Converge are not to everyone's taste, but of course those who love their chaos with a sprinkling of melody and a face churning blast of terror that would go unnoticed at the gates of hell are in for a treat with this new album. Just listen, no time for anything else.… Full Review »
Jun 15, 2014Converge are an amazing band. They're very hard to get into tho. It's like diving into cold water. You have to ease yourself in and adjust and next thing you know, you're neck deep and it actually feels quite refreshing. If you're a new listener to Converge, this is actually the best place to start. This is easily their most accessible album. It has a little bit of everything that everyone would like in it. It's not as good as their Jane Doe, however (hence the 9 instead of a 10). Totally a must have album for anyone who loves the metalcore scene.… Full Review »
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- In May, the U.S. trade deficit expanded $4.9 billion to a level of −$45.0 billion after expanding $3.0 billion to −$40.1 billion the month prior. May's expansion comes in above consensus forecasts which had predicted a contraction to −$37.6 billion. Imports increased 1.9 percent while exports fell −0.3 percent leading to the overall expansion. Slower global activity continues to weigh down export activity, which has been slower than import activity on a monthly basis for four out of five months in 2013. On a year-over-year basis, imports grew 0.7 percent after contracting &mius;1.4 percent and −5.1 percent in April and March. Exports posted yearly gains of 1.5 percent after rising 1.8 percent in April and falling −0.7 percent in March.


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DEVILS LAKE, N.D. (AP) - Authorities in Devils Lake have filed charges against motorcyclists who allegedly committed a number of traffic offenses last month and then posted a video of their activities online.
Police Chief Keith Schroeder says that the video was posted to YouTube on Easter Sunday. He says authorities used the video to determine the identity of the motorcycle riders and pinpoint where and when the violations occurred.
Schroeder says six people face charges including exhibition driving, speeding, reckless driving and driving without a motorcycle license.
Schroeder says a seventh person in the video was ticketed for speeding after being clocked by a Highway Patrol trooper going more than 110 mph the day the video was filmed. Authorities believe the motorcyclists posted the video to criticize the patrol.


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Sharks start Daniel
The Sharks are boosted by the return of Keegan Daniel for their Currie Cup clash with the Free State Cheetahs.
Daniel has recovered from the knee injury that kept him out of the opening two matches of the tournament and he takes over from Brynard Stander who sustained a minor knee strain against the Lions.
Jacques Botes will retain the captaincy playing at number eight.
Daniel's return is one of two personnel and one positional changes to the team in Bloemfontein on Friday.
The loss of Odwa Ndungane with a hamstring strain means last week's debutant SP Marias shifts back to his preferred position at full-back while Sizo Maseko, who missed last week's match, returns to the wing.
Sharks forwards coach Brad Macleod-Henderson believes that steady improvement is what The Sharks are looking for in their campaign as they showed this from week one to week two.
"It's probably more important for us to focus on our performance rather than the results," he told the Sharks website.
"The results are secondary to performance; if you perform well you'll get the result. The highlight for us is that we played better this past week against the Lions than in the first match against Griquas, and if we continue to improve each week then the results will take care of themselves."
The Sharks: 15 SP Marais, 14 Sizo Maseko, 13 Louis Ludik, 12 Heimar Williams, 11 Lwazi Mvovo, 10 Fred Zeilinga, 9 Charl McLeod, 8 Jacques Botes (capt), 7 Jean Deysel, 6 Keegan Daniel, 5 Marco Wentzel, 4 Edwin Hewitt, 3 Wiehahn Herbst, 2 Kyle Cooper, 1 Dale Chadwick.
Replacements: 16 Craig Burden, 17 Rayno Gerber, 18 Peet Marais, 19 Lubabalo Mtembu, 20 Cobus Reinach, 21 Butch James, 22 Jaco van Tonder.
Date: Friday, August 23
Venue: Free State Stadium, Bloemfontein
Kick-off: 19.10 (17.10 GMT)
Referee: Jason Jaftha
Assistant referees: Jaco van Heerden, Pieter Janse van Vuuren
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I am an artist and photographer. I currently teach courses on digital art and time based media at VCU. A collaborative book with artists from RISD and Brown University, of transcribed discussions on the subject of re-framing the real, is in the works. I received a BA in Social Economics from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst and an MFA in Photography from the Rhode Island School of Design. I was awarded separate Graduate Studies research grants in 2013 and 2014 for research related to the ongoing project Michael.
My recent work focuses on the undercurrent of private experience and its quiet power in our lives. I am interested in the ways that secret desires and emotions manifest as events. My concern is not whether these events are socially accepted or appropriate, but simply that they exist and motivate us.
The opt-in nature of online interactions creates new opportunities for people to transform desire into experience. Lurking (2010-present) is comprised of screenshots from live video chat rooms that are later paired as diptychs, thus simulating the interactions of strangers in virtual spaces. The diptych installations are a vicarious testament to the experience of private sexual and emotional expression that is universal but publicly veiled. Although digital culture carries with it the burden of trivializing human interaction in general, my work hints at the fleeting significant moments that also arise.
Through the series Michael, I ally with the history of homosexual men living in the epoch between the Stonewall Uprising in 1969 and the death of Rock Hudson by AIDS in 1985. More specifically, I trace the experiences of my uncle Michael, a gay man and artist whose adult life was bookended by these landmark events in queer history.
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View from Overlook #3 of the Pierce Stocking Scenic Drive near Glen Arbor Michigan. Part of the Sleeping Bear Dunes can be seen, along with Lake Michigan, Glen Lake, and the barns of the D.H. Day Farm.
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The Orem Dognapping Caper has been solved, and the missing Shih Tzu-mix puppy they took is back at the Animal Ark Pet Store — presumably waiting for someone who can afford its $500 price tag.
Orem police Sgt. Craig Martinez said the couple stole the six-week-old, black-and-white puppy on Jan. 11. The man reportedly kept a lookout inside the store at 33 W. Center Street while his wife stuffed the miniature mutt into her purse.
Police obtained video surveillance and released images of the suspects, however, which ran on local television stations. That apparently spooked the couple.
"On Monday about 2:30 p.m., we got a called from Animal Ark saying the dog had been returned. The suspects had opened the shop's back door and left the dog inside," Martinez said.
Shortly after that, however, a caller who recognized the man called 911 and identified the suspect. Police could not find the couple at home Monday night, but were able to contact them Tuesday morning.
The woman was arrested and booked into Utah County jail on suspicion of burglary, while her husband was cited for misdemeanor theft, Martinez said.
On Tuesday, Animal Ark Manager Jenny Clark said the puppy — actually a melding of a Shih-Tsu father and a Chihuahua-Yorkshire Terrier mother — "seems to be just fine" after his ordeal.
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A Quasar with 140 Trillion Times the Water in All of Earth's Oceans.
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DELHI, Calif. — A central California man has been arrested for possession of child pornography, thanks to a tip from burglars who robbed the man's property, authorities said.
Last month, a juvenile and a 19-year-old illegally accessed the property of Kraig Stockard, 54, of Delhi, California, according to a statement from Deputy Tom MacKenzie of the Merced County Sheriff's Department. They broke into Stockard's barn and stole approximately 50 CDs they believed were blank.
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Mom's cancer took a turn for the worse, not sure what I can do to help.
January 30, 2013
My mom has been battling colon cancer for the last 6 1/2 years, and essentially my whole family had settled into the rhythm of her treatment, and I know exactly what I could do to help, but recently her condition took a sharp downward turn, and I feel as if I'd been blindsided without any idea what I can do now.
When her condition was relatively stable, I drove her to her chemo appointment and stayed with her until she was done, bought the groceries, picked up my brother from school - I knew exactly what I could do and had done it daily for the better part of my adult life.
But recently she was hospitalized, her cancer had spread very quickly, and it's not looking great. Her oncologist is very invested in her health after 6+ years of working together, and while she has told us to mentally prepare for the worst, she also hasn't said that she is beyond help.
My father has taken up the bulk of staying by her bedside, and she is still conscious, fairly mobile and able to speak, eat, and all that stuff. I can only visit her for 5 or so hours on both Saturday and Sunday, as someone has to stay home to take care of my little brother, who is 15 years my junior (I'm 23).
So on the weekdays, I drop off my brother at school, and I then proceed to mindless dawdle through the day until I have to pick him up again. I haven't the mind to work (self-employed, luckily), I do exercise, but that's a relatively short activity. Most of my time is spent watching stand-up or playing videogames, and I feel like a real heel because of it. Back when I had cancer my mom stayed by me day-in, day-out, and it's killing me that I can't return the favor.
My dad had also told me that he thinks I don't appear to me showing enough concern for my mom, and while I don't always see eye-to-eye with my dad, in this case I think he is right. It's not as if I am not concerned, obviously, I just feel completely at a loss for what I could do. I call her daily, but those conversations are short. I want to send her an email, but I don't know what I should say. I asked my dad what I could do, and he said that he doesn't know either and that it's something I need to figure out by myself.
None of my friends have had experience with this sort of thing, either, so I feel completely on my own here. They are all busy with school and work and all that jazz and I don't feel right talking to them about it.
So I guess my question is, how can I best help my mom at this point in time without being by her side constantly?
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#1 Ask your mom!!
#2 I don't see why you can stop by the hospital on weekdays while your brother is at school (driving distance, maybe). Would it be possible to stop by at lunch time and stay with your mother while your father takes a break?
#3 When my mother was in a similar situation, I bought a vinyl "whiteboard" sheet that would cling to the wall. whenever I came to visit, I would draw a picture or write a quote or leave a message that she would let her know that I was thinking of her when I wasn't there. YOu could also use post-it sheets to do something similar. Maybe you could also help your brother make one for her - he must be wanting to do something too.
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Oh Geektox, that is a world of sorrow, and you are still so young. I am very sorry for what you are going through.
There is no right or wrong way to experience stress. If you can talk to your dad, can you try to tell him that? Tell him you are processing things in your own way?
As for your mom, metahawk is right: ask her what she needs from you. The whiteboard idea is adorable. If not a whole email, what about sending her pictures or videos that you find online, that make you think of her? Could you write her a letter in longhand? Could you tell her what you remember of your cancer, and tell her how she helped you then and what it meant to you?
Try to reach out to your friends. They are busy, and some may let you down, but some may be waiting for you to approach them, and very willing to listen.
You took her to chemo, you bought groceries, you are caring for your brother: your mother must know how much you love her. Please be kind to yourself. You and your family are in my thoughts.
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Please do not be offended by your dad's saying that you don't appear to me showing enough concern for your mom. He is probably frustrated by the possibility that there is not much to do.
Your brother is very young. If your mother is considered terminal, perhaps you could gently prepare him for the inevitable. He may be really in need of hugs and kindness.
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Could it be that your dad is overwhelmed by being at the bedside all the time? And maybe he wishes that weren't all on him, that someone else could take some of it, so it comes out as "you aren't showing enough concern." And maybe thats why he can't come up with something more you should do, because it's not really rational - there's not much more you could do.
But maybe you could spend some more time at the bedside and he could spend more time with your little brother instead? Or maybe there are things you could do for your dad instead, so that he feels supported emotionally himself, while he has to give the bulk of the in-person emotional support to your mom?
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My father-in-law succumbed to colon cancer after battling it for several years. It's tough. If you can, bring a book and hang out with your mom.
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I can relate to a lot of your situation. My dad was ill for 5 years before dying of colon cancer and yes, there can be a bit of routine going on during the more predictable treatment periods that makes accepting that things have turned for the worse harder. I, like you, was not ready for the rapid slide at the end of the illness and I was not emotionally aware enough to really help anyone. You are asking this question which is more than a lot of people do.
I don't know what you should do. I would suggest though, that you be open with both your parents. Ask what you can do for either of them. Simply be there with them. Be emotionally open and communicative. That last can be really hard but I really do think it's incredibly necessary.
You won't regret being available, open and present.
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Seconding the suggestion to ask your mom what she wants/needs from you, but be aware that she may not know exactly what she wants and/or may find it difficult to express her needs. Be patient and keep working on communicating.
A couple of specific suggestions: speaking as a mom, I expect that she is interested in hearing mundane details about your and your brother's lives, e.g., how you spend your time, who you hang out with, movies you've seen—anything that would help keep her connected to your world. Also, I would very much enjoy being read to (not a universally shared desire, of course).
I'm so sorry you are dealing with so much at such a tender age.
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I had a very similar experience three years ago. Be strong, be open with everyone including your mother, express love as much as possible, accept the negative and selfish emotions as they come (the stress and anguish are epic - you know that), and your mother may change a lot with illness and drugs. You can't live at the hospital, but you can make the visits special and memorable. Sharing a burden like this isn't equal across family members, you all have a unique and different relationship to your mother - be kind and understanding to your dad - it's a different kind of pain for him and you all need to be united. I used to text my dad (him in hospital) about trivial things during the day or phone him when I couldn't (or couldn't face) visiting. Guilt is an inevitable part of all of this nomatter whom it's happening to - just allow the guilt and try not to beat yourself up about it. I won't say prepare for the worst - no one knows how to prepare for something like this, but right now try to make positive, practical life and career plans for yourself and your brother for the next few years, regardless of what else is happening. That's what I wish someone had said to me. Your life is ongoing and it must not stop altogether or what's the point of all this?
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First, my deepest sympathies - I lost my mother to cancer when I was in my early twenties, so I know how tough your situation is.
One thing that strikes me is that you and your father seem to be shouldering the whole burden between the two of you. I think you need to reach out to other people around you. Just as you are saying
I don't know what to do to help
there are probably lots of friends, neighbours and relatives who are thinking the same, and would be glad to help if asked.
I think you should try and arrange at least one midweek visit as well as getting to the hospital at weekends. If the time your brother spends at school is not long enough for you to make it to the hospital and back, why not arrange for him to go home with one of his school friends for maybe three hours. So on Wednesdays, for example, you could drop him at school, go straight to the hospital, and collect him from his friend's house three hours later than you'd normally fetch him. Or you may have neighbours who are around during the day, who could collect him from school and keep an eye on him for a few hours, while you make that mid-week visit. (His friends' parents and your neighbours will probably be delighted to help, and might in fact be mortified if they realised how much they could have helped and were never asked).
Also, the 'mindless dawdling' sounds as if it's not doing you any good. Think about making a short outing one day a week to somewhere interesting and taking photos, so that you'll have something to talk about on your next visit. It's far more cheerful to be able to tell your mom
"I went to see the snowdrops in the Botanic Gardens yesterday, look, here are some photos on my phone"
than trying to skirt around the fact that you haven't been doing anything except dawdle around.
Keep strong and look after yourself!
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How about offering to trade places with your dad some weekdays. Your little brother is 8 years old, his mother is hospitalized and his father is focused on his mother ... he needs his father! If you could trade mom-sitting / kid-raising duties with your father more than just weekdays/weekends, it would be good for everyone involved.
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Back when I had cancer my mom stayed by me day-in, day-out, and it's killing me that I can't return the favor.
As someone noted upthread, unless your mother is two hours away from you, I sortof don't see why you can't return that favor, at least to some degree, even if just to give your father time to go to a coffee shop or walk in the sunshine for a few blocks, or both of those.
I want to send her an email, but I don't know what I should say.
No email. Not email. And for all that is decent and good in this world, no texts, unless to tell her you're almost there, and does she want chocolate or strawberry ice cream from this little store up the street. Really though, if you can't make it, write her a note, on nice paper, and ask your dad to give it to her, or mail it, whatever. As far as what to say, you just say what you'd say if she was right there in the room with you, that your boyfriend still smokes those stinkin' cigars and you want to choke him, that you love the light in the dining room in the January sun, tell her that the car you just bought handles so well in the snow, just as you'd hoped...
I asked my dad what I could do, and he said that he doesn't know either and that it's something I need to figure out by myself.
He's telling you that it's time for you to think for yourself. Honestly, I think he's telling you to grow up, in not so many words, or, rather, in different words. Note that I am not saying that, just that I think it might be what he's saying. He may be right, but you're the one who gets to decide that, and you maybe won't know for years.
Your mother wants the same things everyone wants -- time, attention, to feel cared for, cared about. In a word: Love. This whole thing that so many people have about not knowing what to say or how to say it, in times of grave illness, in the proximity of death -- I understand it, I do, but from what I've seen and experienced, that whole self-consciousness about what to say or do or think, that jive has to hit the floor, you just don't have time for it in the face of serious illness. Let it drop. Be with your mother, as you can, if you can.
The only time I'd say that's not the case is if you're so caught up in self-consciousness and/or grief that your mother would end up having to take care of you, emotionally, as she's got enough going on emotionally already.
I mostly learned how to do this being present thing by having friends who damn sure have had lots of dark nights of the soul, plus I've sure had plenty of them myself, to the point where I'm comfortable in those situations, often I'm able to shine in them, I'm like "Well damn, I'd have a nervous breakdown except I've been through it too many times to be nervous about it."
You don't need to know what to say. That's the self-consciousness -- let it drop. Just talk about whatever she loves -- knitting, computer programming, family, friends, her dog or cat. Honestly, you're going to hear one hell of a lot less about knitting and/or computer programming than you'll hear about friends and family and dogs and cats -- no one gives a shit about that new car or computer if their life hangs in the balance, they want to talk about people they love, likely want to talk *to* people they love, if that can be done easily, without things being awkward.
Cancer is just so goddamn loathsome, it took my brother almost three years ago -- lung cancer -- it tore right through him. I couldn't be there -- I'm in Austin, he lived in Phoenix, I'd gone to see him three months before his death, both of us knowing it was our last time together -- I couldn't be there, even talking to him on the phone, I'd get off that fucking phone and cry and cry, it was like I was gut-shot, except it was in my heart, too. It came on so fast, it took him so fast -- four months from diagnosis to death -- we were caught in a whirlwind.
Any-old-ways, on that trip out there, time I spent with him and his wife, you know what he wanted to do? Same things as always -- catch some movies, both in the theater and at home, eat good American food and enjoy it, spend time with friends and family. We busted each others ass same as always, having fun as we could, just for sure lots of heavy undertones all over the place.
I'm sorry you're facing this right now, that your mother is facing this, your little brother, your father. Don't hold back crying if it comes to you, it only wants to be released, it's like it wants to go through, wring us out as it moves through. If it comes, don't fight it back, let it have its way -- it's going to anyways, no matter, so just give in to it. Maybe you don't want to see your mother because you don't want to cry with her? I sure can't know, but if that were the case it's damn sure understandable, because it's awfully damn vulnerable, crying with another is about as intimate as you can get in human relationship.
I'm wishing for you the best, and peace in your heart.
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I'm so, so sorry for what you're going through. I've experienced something similar, and I can share with you a few things I learned, but keep in mind that every experience and every patient is different. I can't tell you what you should do, because you have to be the judge of it. I can only share my general thoughts about this.
1. I disagree about the advice above that you should ask your Mom what she wants you to do. That seems to me to be putting the burden of deciding how much time you should sacrifice for her. She might be the kind of person who would never tell you to spend a bunch of time with her, for example.
She has a lot on her mind already; don't ask her to come up with tasks, projects, bonding experiences or fun things for the two of you to do together
. If she asks for something, of course, try to follow through, but I would not ask her a blank question of "what would you like me to do?"
2. Spend time with her. Sounds like you have plenty to spare. Bring a book, movies, your work, along with you, and just be there. She won't be expecting you to entertain her constantly. But having you around, even napping near her, might make worlds of difference. Of course, again, her personality or yours may not make this ideal, I don't know. But this would be my general advice.
3. Think about ideas where you could take some initiative about things you can do. The idea above about a quote on a whiteboard everyday sounds great. Keep looking for other ideas where you can express your love and your concerns and remind her that you're thinking about her even when you're not at her bedside.
4. You wonder what to talk to her about? Part of this is surely that you don't know quite how to talk to her about her suffering and what may come. But keep in mind that many patients would welcome the chance to talk about something else. She may love hearing about your friends, your job, crazy people you see on the street, your plans, your dreams, your jokes. You don't have to have profound things to say about her suffering.
Good luck, and I'm so sorry you're going through this at such a young age. I absolutely hate cancer. My advice is not meant to be at all judgmental about what you're doing now, but it's just a way of sharing my experience in case there's anything that can help you now. My best wishes to you and your mom.
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I'm a close friend to a family so close to your situation it hurts. Three boys between 23 and 15. The mother has battled what started as stage 4 colon cancer yet spread through pretty much every organ over the last five years. The number and invaciveness of surgeries would be stupid to recall. Treatment was withdrawn about a month ago.
My current simple contribution aside from lots and lots of coffee sessions is a family meal home cooked once a week. The boys always show up. I'm a good cook. We argue, discuss, interact, share. I'm an interloper in the inevitable within their family. I'd like to think I'm enabling and easing and being a friend.
I've known the boys and their Mom and Dad for a long time. In their family it's simple; stay the same but more so. We've spoken about this a lot. It's the normalcy and the need to be a good parent that's incredibly important. So be there but still be yourself, even if that includes arguments or bad jokes. She has her passing to face, but its more likely its you and your brother's future that is foremost in her thoughts.
The next weeks and months will be hard, no doubt and there is little solace except honesty and family.
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My father had lung cancer for just over 2 years and was very sick for the last 6 months. It seems like you are doing a lot of what I did at the same time, I was self employed and spent a scary amount of time in computer games, WoW had just come out and I easily spent 8 hours a day hiding in there. I say hiding because it so much easier to just play computer games or watch TV than face the fact that scary scary things were happening that I had no control over.
Go spend time with your Mum. Go sit with her, bring a tablet or a book, you don't have to talk all the time, in fact she will probably want to rest, but just being there will be nice for her. Go see her during the week, take your brother in the evening, go spend time with her. You don't have to "do" anything just be there with her, like she was for you.
If you know things she likes take her treats. Does she like a particular take out (and is not on a restricted diet pick her some up and make a surprise lunchtime visit. My Dad raved for weeks when we snuck him his favourite Japanese food in to the hospital. Even a bowl of a nice soup, or ice cream or something easy to eat. If one time you are sitting with her and she mentions something like how dry her skin is, call in the next day for a 5 minute visit with a bottle of her favourite lotion. Little things like that will make her feel loved and cared for, and give you a concrete way to help so you feel useful too.
If you can't get in. Call her on the phone. No emails or texts or bs like that actually ring and talk to your mother. Tell her all the boring shit about your day, what you and your brother are going to do after school. What so and so down the coffee shop said or how pretty the garden looks anything not about her being sick. If she's tired and weak just make it a quick call but talk to her. It is scary as hell having to deal with one of your parents being weak I get that and it's easier to distance yourself from it with emails and the like but the more you do it the less scary it gets. And, God or whatever you believe in forbid, things do not go well you will regret that you didn't make the efforts and that you lost yourself in your work and computer games. I regret it every day since my Dad passed. His last day I was so busy "working" so I didn't have to face the fact he was in the last stages of his life, that the ICU nurse watching him rang me up and basically yelled at me to get down there. It took that before I could get my shit together and realize this wasn't about me. I could hide all I liked from how scared U was , but I was not as scared as my Dad and Mum were at the time and hiding from what was happening helped no one in that situation.
TL;DR - If you are not working anyway, go spend time with your Mum.
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As someone who went through this, every second you spend with her now is something you'll treasure for the rest of your life (unless you are really distant or she is really mean or something). If you can't take her to a park or shopping, get her to tell you what to buy, or bring some nature documentaries or whatever mom would like, and honestly where she is at right now she would probably take any gesture you make as pure gold. Not sure about your deal, but the worst thing about my mom's cancer was that she ended up in some sort of dementia way before her body gave out and that was the HARDEST thing, just not having her mind there anymore. Ugh, best of luck.
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Ugh, I am so sorry you're going through this. It spurred me to call my brother, who was also 23 and a cancer survivor when our dad died (rapidly, though) of cancer.
He says just go. Go and be there, it's hard and it sucks and it will hurt like fire but go. He was pretty much tirelessly at my dad's side through the whole six-month ordeal. Somehow he was able to draw on his own experiences and make it a good thing for both of them.
Dad didn't much care for my company, once he got really sick; we had an awkwardness hump that we never got over, I didn't know what to do, he was frustrated with me (although in retrospect probably MORE frustrated with himself/situation)...I tried to be there, tried to be normal, but mostly I felt useless, and often I avoided visiting as a result.
Guess which one of us is at peace with the situation, 5 years later? (Hint: it is not me.)
Go. Turn off the video games and pack a book and some playing cards, and go.
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I am going to suggest you try something. I know you mentioned you don't always see eye-to-eye with your dad, but at your age, that's normal.
Take your brother and go to the hospital when your dad is there and say, "Dad, I know you need a break. I'll take over for a while. Take brother home, get some rest, and I'll catch up with you guys later."
And then be with your mom.
You will not regret it.
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Thanks, everyone. I appreciate your responses, you've given me a lot to think about.
I don't usually visit during the weekdays because that's how both my parents wanted it. During the first part of her hospitalization I did visit after my brother was dropped off, but they'd both be telling me to go as soon as I got there. I think they don't want to put that pressure on me. Our family has never really been super communicative about what we want and need, part of our upbringing I suppose, but it might be time to change that.
It's funny that the first poster mentioned whiteboards, her room actually has a whiteboard and it's completely filled with my doodles. Mom said she really likes them too.
I think I will make a short visit every other day or so. That way maybe they won't feel as if they are putting extra pressure on me.
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Hi Geektox,
My mother died of cancer in the hospital - every second you spend with her is precious.
I would suggest you tell your parents that you would like to do a bit more and that you miss your mom. See if you could amend the schedule so that you get into the habit of dropping by 2x per day. Once in the morning after dropping your brother - you could share with your mom everything thats going on in both your lives and let you dad take a walk, take a shower, play tennis or recharge in some other way. Then you could come back just after lunch for a second visit (30-60 min), sit with your mom, read, talk, watch tv together, whatever, and let your dad get another short break.
The other thing I would be concerned about is when does your brother get to see his mom and dad? Could you bring your brother by the hospital? He must be terrified for his mom and really be missing her.
As you settle into this 'new normal' why do you suggest some schedule changes so that everyone gets time with your mom and your dad gets some support.
YOu have my sympathy and support - its a very difficult time. We found the best way to get through it was together, as a family.
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