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Dag Hammarskjold, His Critics, and the United Nations in 1956
September 26, 2011 // 4:00pm — 5:30pm
History and Public Policy Program
Wm. Roger Louis from the University of Texas discusses the extremely significant role of Dag Hammarskjold in the 1956 Suez Crisis, a pivotal point in UN history with an impact still felt in today's peacekeeping missions.
Film Screening: Weathering Change
September 22, 2011 // 10:00am — 12:00pm
Environmental Change and Security Program
Population Action International will screen the documentary Weathering Change, which follows four women from around the world - Ethiopia, Nepal, and Peru - as they struggle to care for their families in the face of increasing crop failures and water scarcity.
Nigeria: Business, Investment, and Development Opportunities Presented by Six Key Nigerian Governors
September 19, 2011 // 9:00am — 11:00am
Africa Program
The Africa Program in co-sponsorship with Africare and the Constituency for Africa presents the "Nigeria: Business, Investment, and Development Opportunities Presented by Six Key Nigerian Governors."
Gender and Islam in Africa: Rights, Sexuality, and Law
September 15, 2011 // 12:00pm — 1:00pm
Middle East Program
Gender and Islam in Africa examines ways in which women in Africa are interpreting traditional Islamic concepts in order to empower themselves and their societies. African women, it argues, have promoted the ideals and practices of equality, human rights, and democracy within the framework of Islamic thought, challenging conventional conceptualizations of the religion as gender-constricted and patriarchal.
Foreign Relations of the United States Series: Southern Africa, 1969-1976
September 14, 2011 // 4:00pm — 5:30pm
Cold War International History Project
The Wilson Center's Cold War International History Project in collaboration with the Africa Program presents a panel discussion on the the newly released Foreign Relations of the United States, 1969–1976, Volume XXVIII, Southern Africa.
Fairness and Transparency in Cameroon's Next Presidential Election
September 13, 2011 // 2:00pm — 3:30pm
Africa Program
A delegation of Cameroonian officials will present the government's plans for the coming election as a backdrop to a discussion on how the international community can help ensure that democracy, human rights, the rule of law, and accountability are respected.
Sudan: From the CPA to Separation
September 08, 2011 // 2:00pm — 4:00pm
Africa Program
After the conclusion of a conflict that spanned five decades, the Comprehensive Peace Agreement outlined a pathway to bring about the end of the bloodletting and the birth of a new nation: The Republic of South Sudan. Tim McKulka, a photographer with UNMISS, presents, "We'll Make our Homes Here" a book about Sudan through the eyes and words of Sudanese people.
Security Sector Reform in the DRC: Innovations and Complications
September 01, 2011 // 9:30am — 11:30am
Africa Program
The United States has been engaged in Security Sector Reform (SSR) in the DRC since 2006. However, without strong political will to improve security, overall improvement has stagnated. The Congolese army, the FARDC, is still seen as a factitious group of rebel militias. What is the way forward for SSR in the DRC?
Population, Health, and Environment Approaches in Tanzania
July 19, 2011 // 3:00pm — 5:00pm
Environmental Change and Security Program
Tanzania's rich marine and terrestrial biodiversity makes it one of East Africa's environmental gems, but the country is predicted to be the fifth most populous country by 2100, and its rapid population growth threatens to outstrip its ability to provide for its citizens. Two population, health, and environment (PHE) projects currently operating in Tanzania seek to meet people's needs for income and healthcare, while protecting the environment that supports them.
Maternal Health Challenges in Kenya: What New Research Evidence Shows
July 12, 2011 // 9:30am — 11:30am
Maternal Health Initiative
GHI simulcasts a workshop in Nairobi and Washington, DC to discuss Kenya's maternal health challenges and identify solutions with policymakers, health workers, media, and donors.


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areas of scientific research thus offers powerful opportunities for public out-reach aimed at communicating the process and value of science to the welfare of humans, all living things, and entire ecosystems. The subject matter itself, which deals with human survival and adaptation in the past, also offers avenues for inspiring the public's curiosity about scientific findings relevant to society's adaptation to climate change in the near and distant future.
A state-of-the-art program in public education and outreach creates opportunities for diverse audiences along several avenues, which include (1) development of dynamic and up-to-date public Internet sites; (2) dissemination of findings via the Internet or using print, radio, and television media; (3) organization of seminars, lectures, and dialogues in venues that are both visible and attractive to the public; (4) interaction with national science educators, who can translate scientific findings and data into the classroom; (5) development of museum-based and less formal exhibitions, which are attractions for family and school-group explorations of and learning about science; (6) engagement of adult learners in the excitement of research and discovery and encouragement of volunteerism (docents); and (7) provision of graduate, undergraduate, and high-school training and research experiences, which offer a means of building the future generations of scientists and educators. As the items in this list illustrate, an effective program of public education and outreach requires skillful approaches to formal and informal learning in which children and adults decide whether to pursue (and for how long) any particular topic that interests them.
No curriculum currently exists to inspire teachers and students to explore the relationship between past climate change, human evolution, and the long-term influence of environment on species survival, adaptation, and mitigation strategies. The following suggestions represent components of a broad effort to redress this deficiency:
Develop opportunities that bring educators and scientists together, and that build new partnerships among research institutions, museums, science centers, and national scientific and education organizations, to contribute to the development of national and state science standards.
Establish a National/International Educator Institute as a long-term effort that employs climate-evolution research to enhance professional educator development.
Establish internships that connect students and teachers to the international scope and nature of scientific research on past climate change and human evolution.
Engage adult learners who may be underserved and have ventured away from formal avenues of science education.
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Back On Track: After enjoying a weekend off, the NASCAR Nationwide Series (NNS) heads to Richmond International Raceway for a 250-lap shootout at the 0.75-mile D-shaped oval. Rookie of the Year contender Kyle Larson has one previous start at RIR, starting second and finishing fourth in the NASCAR K&N Pro Series East's (NKNPSE) visit to the track last season. The 2012 race is where Larson broke into the top five in the NKNPSE Driver Point Standings and never looked back, capturing the championship later that year. Up In The Air: Cessna will be returning to take flight with Larson this weekend at Richmond International Raceway after debuting with the rookie NNS driver in the ARCA Racing Series event at Daytona. Cessna, the world's leading general aviation company, has designed, produced and delivered more than 193,500 airplanes around the globe. This includes more than 6,300 Citation business jets, making it the largest fleet of business jets in the world. Previous Race Recap: Competing in the "Wild Asphalt Circus" at Texas Motor Speedway for the first time in his young career, Larson and his No. 32 Cessna team began the weekend with hopes to capitalize on recent momentum. Rolling off from the 12th-starting spot, Larson maintained his track position through the first 40 laps of the O'Reilly 300 before misfortune ended his hopes of a podium finish. An incident on lap 44 ultimately led to a blown left-front tire, causing extensive damage and relegating Larson to a 32nd-place finish. Winner, Winner: Larson comes to Richmond fresh off his first career NASCAR top-three series victory, which he captured at Rockingham Speedway on April 14 in the NASCAR Camping World Truck Series (NCWTS). Larson started third in the event and paced the field a dominating 187 of 205 laps before capturing the checkered flag. The win was achieved in only Larson's fifth NCWTS start. This Week's Camaro: This weekend, the No. 32 team will unload chassis TSM-323 at Richmond International Raceway. TSM-323 last hit the racetrack at Phoenix International Raceway in March, where Larson scored a 13th-place finish. Watch and Listen: The ToyotaCare 250 can be seen live on Friday, April 26 on ESPNEWS. Race coverage will begin at 7:00 p.m. EDT. The event can also be heard live on MRN Radio as well as SiriusXM Satellite Radio, channel 90. Kyle Larson on Richmond International Raceway: "Richmond is one of those tracks that I don't think any team really conquers, so we're all looking forward to having some extra practice time this weekend. Track position is super important in Richmond; you have to qualify up front because it is extremely difficult to pass. We qualify during the day and race at night, so it's also a place where you have to be on top of your changes to keep up with the track condition. I had a pretty good race when I came here for the K&N East race last year, so I think this can be a really good weekend for the No. 32 team."
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New Zealand's coins: the Queen on one side, Bilbo on the other
Putting a person's likeness on a coin is a special honor usually reserved for presidents, statesmen and, in New Zealand, a queen. New Zealanders also hold some other characters pretty dear to their hearts — Tolkien's hobbits, elves and wizards.
It seems New Zealanders have grown quite fond of their otherworldly cousins, as their country has been doing a stunt double for Middle Earth for a few years now. That love is so great that they are putting these characters on legal tender coins. Even Gollum.
The release of coins and stamps is timed to commemorate the release of The Hobbit: An Unexpected Journey. Commemorative coins, tokens and stamps have long been a practice to honor people, places and events, but most are merely collectibles. The Hobbit, however, has made it to the big leagues — actual legal tender and mail-worthy stamps.
The coins start at $10 and run through to $1. The stamps are priced at $1.90. You'll find all the major characters there — from Gandalf to Gollum with some wise elvish saying (we assume) to boot.
Just think, these coins are going to be in circulation for years. New Zealanders could be putting Bombur, Bofur and Bifer into Coke machines for years to come, and they wouldn't want it any other way.
Even Sir Ian McKellen is thrilled, and as befits an actor of his stature he never even breaks character when he describes the honor to TVNZ, "To put Gandalf on these splendiferous coins is a wizard idea." He also seems pretty darn pleased with the stamp saying, "The pointy hat, the beard and the illuminated staff — the $1.90 NZ stamp is pure Gandalf."
Sure, there is an element of a marketing stunt to it all, but New Zealand is making a big commitment by putting their love of Middle Earth on real coins.
Just imagine if one day we woke up and found Captain Kirk or Han Solo on the back of a quarter? Then we'd be playing in their league.
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Location: Norris Geyser Basin
Emerald Spring is a hot spring located in Norris Geyser Basin of Yellowstone National Park.
Originally named Emerald Geyser by Philetus Norris, park superintendent (1877–1882) because of its color, the name was later officially changed to Emerald Spring by the U.S. Geological Survey in 1930. Emerald Spring is 27 feet (8.2 m) deep. The water temperature in the spring is around 83.3 °C (181.9 °F).
The spring gets its name from the emerald green color of the water created by sunlight filtering through the water, giving the light a blue color, and reflecting off the yellow sulphur creating the green hue.
While Emerald Spring is a mostly calm pool, which usually only has a few bubbles rising to the surface, it does experience periods of turbidity and small 3-foot (1 m) high eruptions. In 1931, Emerald experienced a period of extremely vigorous activity with eruptions measuing 60 to 75 feet (18.2–22.9 m) in height.


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What is your favourite quote and why?
I would like to begin here a compendium of those bits of wisdom humanity perceives to be most true or without exception.
It is not necessary to name who might be credited with saying your selection, as no such person can honestly claim to have been without some outside inspiration, which catalyzed their creativity and moved them to express their insight.
Much like what you are called here to do.
If you yourself have distilled some wisdom through reflection, please allow me to present you this moment to pass it on here for consideration or perhaps start your own string.
The purpose of all this is to provide a most efficient tool for correlating the most valid ideas about morality and what we perceive to be real or important across culture or socialization. I would then like to work with you to turn this soil and see what new things (ideas) might grow. Food for the soul.
You are encouraged to emulate the creative process here so: COPY, COMBINE and TRANSFORM! Help me correlate.
Please comment in a constructive way if you agree or not with anything posted here and explain why.
Closing Statement from Wayne Busby
Herein you will find over 700 quotes and comments full of inspiration and wisdom, from Tedsters motivated by positivity and the betterment of mankind.
I am blessed and humbled to have consorted with them.
Get yourself your favourite comfort drink and stay a while, this is one of 'Ted Conversations' longest strings ever.
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Mar 8 2012: Meld the two?
If we are living in the present moment, it always IS the present moment and never becomes anything other than the present moment.
This belief presents a direction...living in the present moment.
I will also "meld" it with one of my favorite quotes..."...happiness is a way of travel not a destination"
A "way of travel", IS in the moment and it is not a "trap" because we are moving toward a destination while being in the moment.
Wayne Busby 30+
Mar 9 2012: Infinity/Eternity..................No beginning and no end. It is, but it has not become. Once it becomes, or is created, then it no longer qualifies as "is" or always "present".
I would imagine that Plato was discussing God, the Creator when he said this. Since scripture says he has no beginning.....he has always existed.....and he has no end. God is eternal. Hence, the reason some find it difficult to believe that Jesus is God, since Jesus "became".....was created as the first angelic being according to scripture. And also, he was sent to Earth, "became" human, lived, and died.
Just some additional thoughts.
Mar 11 2012: I think their is lot for God if present to be involved in but saying no end to god is a debate cos the state of NOT BE is purer then nothing and Being. Yes god has to wear many hats, lot more coats and zillion shoes and be around know n unknow but at some point has to have the icecream or Not BE that which is the pure state and that of no return. However for that God has to do all the work like in a house wash utensils, mop floor, cook, comfort, etc., then sleep right?
Mar 11 2012: Dear Wayne,
Thank you for the feedback and kind words:>) I'm glad to share stories, which is what my comments on TED are about. I usually speak from my own experiences and what I've learned, as I travel the life journey.
I had a good start with an unconditionally loving mother who always saw the positive side of everything, believed she was here on earth for a purpose, and lived life by constantly modeling what she believed in.
I have always felt like an observer/adventurer with the curiosity of a child, so while fully engaged in the moment, I've been observing everything and everyone around me, including myself:>)
While I had the nurturing of my unconditionally loving mother, there was also a violent, abusive father, who taught me how NOT to be in this world. Yes, he was a valuable teacher as well. If I did not have an up close experience with violence, I may not have understood it quite as much.
There were challenges in my life, as many of us have, which I believe are all opportunities to learn, grow and evolve. The greatest lesson for me was a near fatal head/brain injury, which I sustained at age 43. By that time in my life, after living with curiosity and intention to learn and grow, I thought I was doing really well with the life adventure...understood a lot of things, was clear with myself and others, and felt confident. My kids were off to college...doing well...I was a professional actor, singer, dancer, performing in musical theater, a competitive athlete, very active member of the community, honored by an international group as a "women of the 90s", etc.
One day I went horseback riding, and when I regained conciousness 2 weeks later, I was again in a new-born child like state emotionally and physically. I took the journey to adulthood for the second time in this body. The importance of living in the moment was again reinforced.
"Yesterday is but a dream,
Tomorrow, a vision of hope,
Look to this day for it is life."
Wayne Busby 30+
Mar 12 2012: Thank you Harsh...nice to "see" you again on TED:>)
Here's another little piece of information that may be helpful. When I hear or see a wonderful quote that resonates with me, I put copies all around my home...bathroom mirror, refrigerator, bed-side table, car visor, daily planner, etc. etc. I repeat it until it becomes part of me.
At the time of the near fatal brain injury, I was also facing other challenges. My mother died, I was ending 24 years of marriage, a month after that, I was diagnosed with cancer, and two months after, I sustained the Traumaic Brain Injury, had an emergency craniotomy, and was not expected to live. I also experienced an NDE/OBE. When I DID live and regained consciousness, I was experiencing a whirlwind of emotions, and physical challenges. I happened to see this quote and embraced it:
"Out of its abysses, unpredictable life emerges, with a never-ending procession of miracles, crises, healing, and growth. When I realize this once again, I see the absurdity of my belief that I can understand, predict and control life. All I can really do is go along for the ride, with as much consciousness and love as I can muster in the moment".
(Molly Young Brown)
There were times that it was beneficial to simply surrender to the circumstances and tell myself that the only thing I had to do that day was heal. This mantra still helps at times to detach from the past and the future, and be fully in the moment...all I can do sometimes, is go along for the ride with love in my heart:>)
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Report: Arsene Wenger signs new three-year deal as Arsenal boss
May 30, 2014, 7:49 AM EDT
According to multiple outlets in the UK, Arsene Wenger's long-awaited contract as Arsenal manager has finally be signed.
Wenger, 64, is said to have put pen to paper on a three-year deal which both the BBC and Sky Sports are confirming. However no official word has yet come from the North London club where Wenger has been in charge since September 1996, winning eight major titles so far.
If these reports are true, it brings to an end almost an entire year of talk surrounding Wenger's contract and will finally stop the constant badgering the Frenchman receives regarding his new deal during every single press conference he performs.
After sealing the clubs first piece of silverware in nine years by collecting the FA Cup at the end of an up and down 2013-14 campaign, Wenger could have done two things: call it quits or start an entire new rebuild.
It seems like Wenger has opted for the latter as his deal will be signed on Saturday, according to the reports, with the Frenchman wanting everything sorted out before he jets off to the World Cup in Brazil.
Guiding Arsenal to 17 consecutive UEFA Champions League appearances is an incredible achievement, especially after his transfer kitty diminished considerably while the club paid off money they owed on their new Emirates Stadium instead and the former Monaco coach had to get creative with transfers. However Wenger could now be handed more cash in the upcoming transfer window, as Arsenal led the way until January last season but then limped towards the finishing line and eventually secured fourth spot.
More news on this as and when it becomes official. However after being in Wenger's post-match press conference following the FA Cup final win, I can confirm he was very relaxed and confident that this deal was going to be signed.
Looks like Arsenal's boss is sticking around into his mid-60's. At least.
WATCH: Ronaldinho's brutal PK attempt mars Mexican debut
Sep 19, 2014, 1:46 PM EDT
How many times in his life has Ronaldinho performed this task with flair (or at least adequately)?
Americans Abroad preview: Guzan looks to keep Villa rolling
Sep 19, 2014, 12:55 PM EDT
Tim Howard's stint as No. 1 USMNT backstop may be on hiatus, but the battle of who's the top American goalkeeper in the Premier League is on
Premier League Preview: Queens Park Rangers vs. Stoke City
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Awaiting trial on domestic abuse charges, Hope Solo plays on. Fair?
Sep 19, 2014, 11:20 AM EDT
A Washington Post report asks why Hope Solo is being celebrated for her on-field efforts while awaiting the results of her not guilty plea to domestic abuse charges.
Di Vaio seems ready to call time on prolific stint in Montreal, career
Sep 19, 2014, 10:32 AM EDT
It's not about the Impact, the CONCACAF Champions League or the club's record. For Di Vaio, it's about home.
Benoit Assou-Ekotto suspended for comments on Anelka quenelle gesture
Sep 19, 2014, 9:25 AM EDT
Perhaps the investigation took a bit too long, but it seems many athletes did not understand the depths of their joke usage.
Bastia's Brandao gets six-month ban for headbutting PSG's Thiago Motta
Sep 19, 2014, 8:40 AM EDT
You can watch the video of the 'premeditated' act inside. Six months is fairly understandable, no?
Euro 2020 semis, final to be played at Wembley Stadium
Sep 19, 2014, 7:48 AM EDT
The required capacity for the final was a minimum of 70,000 seats, which certainly helped England near the front of the pack.
Mic check: Clint Dempsey takes the stage at FIFA15 event
Sep 19, 2014, 12:06 AM EDT
Win U.S. Open Cup on Tuesday. Drop a few bars in New York on Thursday. You know: #JustClintDempseyThings.
CCL: Two goals from Toni push Sporting Kansas City past Saprissa
Sep 18, 2014, 11:32 PM EDT
Sporting took a big step toward getting out of Group 2 thanks to its Spanish winger.
Sloppy USWNT 4-0 win over Mexico adds fuel to turf conversation fire
Sep 18, 2014, 10:50 PM EDT
Awkward bounces made a disorganized El Tri look awful and the high-powered USWNT look pedestrian in a 4-0 decision on Thursday night.
MLS's new logo: Reddit (yes, Reddit) may have a way to solve the league's new problem
Sep 18, 2014, 9:22 PM EDT
Users decided to make the new art's white space into a plus, ditching the high brow concept in favor of more appealing products.
MLS Preview: Real Salt Lake vs. Colorado Rapids
Sep 18, 2014, 8:20 PM EDT
NBCSN's first of three weekend broadcasts takes place tomorrow night at Rio Tinto Stadium.
FA chairman: England "might well bid for" Euro 2028
Sep 18, 2014, 7:41 PM EDT
It's 14 years off, but The FA is still planning to make a push.
Europe League roundup: Everton big winners at home; Spurs left with draw on the road
Sep 18, 2014, 6:15 PM EDT
Roberto Martinez makes an impressive European debut, while Mauricio Pochettino sees him team go without a shot on target.
It's not too late for Major League Soccer to turn away from its new logo
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MLS has admitted failure before. Today's new art may prove to be another idea the league should cast off.
Premier League Power Rankings: Red Devils and Villans on the up
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It's freezing outside. Still, clear blue sky days. And, spring is only 4 weeks away. Yes! Winter here in the UK is the only season I dislike – although not intensely. There are, of course, aspects of it that I do like. Problem is, I prefer flip-flop weather. So a simple, healthy Chicken and Chickpeas stew. Okay, you can cheat and use a decent chicken stock cube. I prefer poaching chicken pieces with lots of veg (which will also give you loads of nutrients). Literally only 20 minutes prep involved – and I'm not the fastest in the kitchen. Once you've brought the stock to a boil it then only takes 30 minutes to cook. Couldn't be much simpler. All I do is strain the stock, discarding the veg but keeping the garlic and bay leaves, add the potatoes and cook them. I don't usually bother with a type of roux (instructions for this at end of post) to help thicken the stock to a thin gravy. Instead, I mash the potatoes into the stock on my plate – who says I have to grow up!
As for the spinach: you could buy already washed to save time. This time I didn't, for a change, as I'm cooking spinach soup over the weekend. I prefer my spinach wilted in the stock just before eating. Although, a salad of their leaves would be equally as good. A little drizzle of lime goes especially well with spinach. And, freshly snipped parsley tastes great with the chickpeas.
Chicken and Chickpeas, with potatoes, wilted spinach and pan-fried shallots
- 200g (7.05 oz) x onions, peeled and cut into 4 or 6 pieces
- 150g (5.29 oz) x carrots, peeled and roughly chopped
- 200g (7.05 oz) x celery, washed and roughly chopped
- 500g x (17.63 oz) chicken pieces (I've used leg quarters), skin and excess fat removed, washed
- 500ml (1.05 pt US Liq) x water
- 1 x organic vegetable stock cube
- 2 x garlic cloves, peeled
- 6 x fresh sprigs of thyme (from 'living pots'), rinsed – use less if thyme is of mature growth
- 6 x parsley stalks
- 2 x bay leaves, ripped
- up to 10 x juniper berries, lightly crushed
- 1/4 x scant teaspoon cayenne pepper OR 1/4 x teaspoon red pepper flakes (or more to personal taste)
- 150 – 200g (5.29 – 7.05 oz) x potatoes, peeled and cut into smallish pieces
- about 75g (2.64 oz) x shallots per person, peeled and sliced in half lengthways
- oil
- 1 x 410g or 246g drained weight (14.46 oz or 8.67 oz drained weight) can chickpeas, rinsed
- 1 x level teaspoon paprika
- about 20g fresh spinach per person (or more), washed
- freshly snipped parsley, to serve
- 1 x slice of fresh lime – optional
Measurements within brackets above are approximate only.
- After preparing the veg and chicken pieces add the first 12 ingredients to a large saucepan with a lid, bring to boiling point on electric heat No 4 (out of 6) then reduce to No 2 and simmer for 30 minutes. It's advisable to check the chicken pieces for any signs of pink juice near their bone. If that's the case cook for another 10 or 15 minutes to make sure they're absolutely cooked.
- Remove the chicken, when cooked, along with the garlic and bay leaves and set aside (when cool enough take the meat off the bone – optional). Strain the stock through a metal colander into a suitable bowl. Wipe out the same saucepan with kitchen paper and pour the strained stock back in.
- Prep the potatoes and add them, along with the bay leaves, to the stock, on heat No 4 and with a lid, until boiling point. Then, reduce the heat to No 2 until cooked.
- In the meantime prep the shallots, if using, and add them to a pan with enough oil to coat its base. Put on heat No 2 and allow to settle. Keep and eye on them for any signs of scorching. If that's the case reduce the heat. Turn them over after about 15 minutes and allow them another 10 minutes to cook through.
- Add the rinsed chickpeas to a large heavy-based pan and add enough oil to coat its base. Put on heat No 2 and allow to settle. Shake the pan occasionally. When the chickpeas are nice and golden take off heat and sprinkle over the paprika. Allow the paprika to infuse for several minutes before adding to the stock.
- All that's left to do is to add the washed spinach, and the chicken, several minutes before serving. This will allow the spinach to wilt and will also reheat the chicken. Serve piping hot with freshly snipped parsley and a slice of lime.
How to thicken the stock for a thin gravy:
- Place a small pan on low heat only. Drizzle enough oil to coat its base. Add 1 dst of plain flour and stir thoroughly. This type of roux should be slightly wet as it's easier to deal with, so do drizzle over more oil if necessary. If the flour starts to bubble take off heat immediately and allow to cool. Put back on heat and cook out the flour, making sure the flour does not burn. After about 5 minutes take off heat and slowly add to the strained stock (after cooking the potatoes) stirring continuously until the stock thickens sufficiently.
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Redwood Systems launched its network-based technology for LED lighting and building-performance systems in March. The new technology is based on the idea that LED lighting presents opportunity to create a unified network-based digital platform for smart buildings, helping building owners and designers reduce energy costs while providing control and automation in commercial lighting never before possible.
At Lightfair last week, Commercial Building Products asked executive Jeremy Stieglitz to demonstrate the product. By combining three typically discrete systems (power, communications, sensors) into one low-voltage networked system, Redwood says its platform "will make smart buildings vastly simpler, easier, and lower cost to own and operate."
Redwood Systems' CEO is Dave Leonard, formerly general manager of Cisco's Ethernet Switching Business Unit. Mark Covaro, Redwood's CTO, is the former principal power design engineer for Cisco's widely deployed power-over-Ethernet platform.
"Redwood's vision is to use LED lighting's low voltage to power not just lighting, but create a digital network to manage and efficiently optimize lighting, heating, venting, air conditioning, plug loads, window shading, and just about everything else that uses power in a building," said Leonard. "Using a network-based platform approach, we will deliver smart lighting systems that revolutionize how lights, and buildings, are powered, controlled, and optimized." —Jim Carper
A new idea in LED lighting
Rockin' the prairie
Rock Island, IL, isn't on my radar. Though it and I are both in the Land of Lincoln, it's out west, on the Mississippi River, while I'm east, in Chicago, on Lake Michigan. When I do think of my fellow Prairie State metropolis, it's along the lines of Quad Cities or Rock Island Railroad, not high-stakes gambling.
Then a press release crossed my desk about Jumer's Casino & Hotel in that fair city. The $151 million complex consists of a 170,000-sq.-ft. casino/entertainment center, and a five-story, 205-room hotel. It opened in December 2008. The photos are stunning. The casino changes colors in broad daylight, according to the release, because the aluminum-composite material (ACM) skin changes colors as different wavelengths of light are reflected back to the viewer's eye.
"With each shift of the sun and clouds, it changes color, from red to orange to almost brown," said Guy Davidson, KKE Architects, Minneapolis.
Jumer's is clad in two colors of Alucobond ACM—Spectra Cupral and Texas Copper. Alcan Composites USA, Mooresville, NC, makes the product, which consists of two sheets of 0.02-inch-thick aluminum thermobonded to a plastic core. General contractor was Kraus-Anderson Construction, Minneapolis. M.G. McGrath Architectural Sheet Metal, Maplewood, MN, and SGH, Omaha, NE, installed the material.
I feel a road trip coming on.—Jim Carper
Two to tango: Indelval and Salto
CBC Flooring, Commack, NY, has tapped South America and Europe for inspiration. The company is now the exclusive North American source of Indelval brand rubber flooring from Argentina.
And it launched a brand of its own, called Salto Exceptional Flooring. (In Italian, "salto" means to jump or to leap. "The Salto brand is characterized by leaping into the future or forward thinking in the commercial flooring industry," a company executive said.)
Indelval products are made with a high content of natural rubber harvested directly from rubber trees. The flooring is free of PVCs, plasticizers, halogens, formaldehydes, heavy metals, and asbestos.
Rubber flooring is often spec'd for sanitary flooring in laboratories, clinics and hospitals; for conductive flooring when there is a need to control electrostatic discharges; for installations where heavy traffic requires a durable floor; for transport flooring for buses and trains; and as sports flooring, including glueless interlocking options.
The product has a good green story: the color pigments are eco-friendly, the manufacturer recycles waste from the manufacturing process, and it uses only recyclable packaging materials.
The company says the products and installation systems will contribute to a number of LEED credits, including Materials and Resources Recycled Content 4.1 and 4.2, Reuse 3.1 and 3.2 and IEQ Credit 4.1 and 4.3 for indoor air quality.
The Salto brand "is designed to satisfy unmet market demands, irrespective of material," said Jeff Collum, CBC's director of flooring.
Unica, the first product in the line, is a recycled 18-inch by 18-inch limestone tile with 80% recycled content: 10% post-consumer and 70% pre-consumer recycled content. No two tiles look exactly the same. They are available in 28 colorways.
CBC says Unica is California Section 1350 compliant, the basis for many indoor air-quality certifications. The tile and installation system contribute to LEED credits, including Materials and Resources Recycled Content 4.1 and 4.2, Reuse 3.1; and IEQ Credit 4.1 and 4.3 for indoor air quality.
The product is so new that photos are not yet available. I had thought about hiring some paparazzi to stake out the factory and grab some shots. But the budget choice was paying for pix or attending Greenbuild. I'll see you in Phoenix. Ciao. — Jim Carper
Wall art in a box
Got a big public wall that needs some dressin' up? Don't want to pay some artist a fortune to paint a mural that makes people shake their heads. You might try the Móz Tides product from Móz Designs Inc., Oakland, CA. Móz Tides is a kit that consists of visually-dynamic decorative aluminum panels and the necessary mounting hardware to create your own artwork. The Móz Tides panels "create a dramatic centerpiece that brings a fresh style and flourish to a new site or interior 'make over.'" Ocean Waves, the first set of panels in the Móz Tides collection, "creates a multi-dimensional experience that mimics the ebb and flow of the ocean." Kits contain both concave and convex panels to create a floating effect, rising approximately 3 7/8 in. off the wall. The panels can be mounted horizontally or vertically and are available in 4- and 5-ft. lengths.—Gary L. Parr


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Fertility Intentions and Obstacles to their Realization in France and Italy
AbstractThis article compares fertility intentions and realization in France (2005-2008) and in Italy (2003-2007), two countries with contrasting fertility models, using comparable data from the longitudinal Generations and Gender Surveys (GGS). Four main findings are presented. First, the strong predictive power of negative fertility intentions and, conversely, the fact that positive intentions overestimate actual outcomes, are highlighted. The comparison then reveals an important difference: the proportion of couples who realized their positive fertility intentions was systematically higher in France and, for those who did not intend to have a child, the proportion who went on to have one was also higher. Alongside the classic effects of age and number of children, socioeconomic factors play an important role, and less favourable situations appear to hinder the realization of intentions. The determinants of intentions are not all identical, however, and there is no single model that applies to both countries: the role of context remains primordial. Last, among couples who did not realize their intentions, some had postponed their childbearing plans while others had abandoned them altogether. Here too, the determinants are not the same in both countries. In this respect, the distinction between those who postpone and those who forego, rarely made in the literature, is an interesting question.
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Moxa Hardware
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Taiwan Moxa Burner and Holder
This moxa burner is made in Taiwan using a special wood.
Tiger Warmer - Small
Acu Point heating device. Easy to use, effective for warming and massaging small areas or points on the hands, feet and body. The buring moxa stick warms the chrome plated brass (stainless like), spring adjustable outer cover. Size: 11.5cm x 1cm, burns the 5mm moxa sticks code 4MX013..
Tip Safe Moxa Roll Extinguisher
A chrome plated solid brass moxa holder that extinguishes moxa in approx 5 seconds.
Mini Moxa Torch
This Moxa Starter is a 3" x 1" butane lighter that lights moxa sticks quickly and easily, eliminating the need for traditional lighters or matches. Even smokeless moxa sticks (which typically take longer to light) are lit in a matter of seconds. The starter has an easy push button for ignition and the flame intensity can be easily adjusted by turning a dial located at the bottom of the device. The starter comes empty and must be filled with butane gas. Made in .
EZ Moxa Starter Lighter
The New EZ Moxa Starter Deluxe is a 4.5" x 2.5" table standing butane lighter that lights moxa sticks quickly and easily, eliminating the need for traditional lighters or matches.
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Moxa burning bowl - 5 hole. For use with 4DB208, 4DB208a & 4DB208b moxa.
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Strange as it seems in this day and age, not everybody likes to work out. Case in point, my husband, The Lawyer. Though he has actually headed Workout Departments in a law firm, commercial bank and investment bank, none of them required him to break a sweat. Yes, he does walk the dog—and that is more than it seems, since it's a 120 lb. Rottweiler. But ever since he got stuck in the Lotus position in a yoga session, he simply refuses to attend another one. So Downward Dog—not to mention a Whittle the Middle class—is simply out of the question. He's also big on coming up with excuses for not exercising. He basically blames his achy knees, a sore back and what he refers to as "negative buoyancy"—I'm assuming the legal term for heavy bones—which he feels makes it practically impossible for him to swim laps.
So when a press release from the American College of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology (ACAAI) crossed my desk saying that allergy and asthma triggers can ruin workout routines since allergens can be found lurking in health clubs, I naturally didn't mention it. I could just hear him say, "Jane, I told you I felt worse after I came from the health club—[Note: the one time he actually went to one]—not better!! So much for your theory that we should all go to the gym!"
But reading the release, I hesitate to admit, he might have a point. So I took my concerns to allergist Richard Webber, MD, President of ACAAI. "Not only can new workout routines be difficult for those with asthma," he said, "but, yes, many allergens can indeed be found lurking in health clubs making this healthy activity bothersome for the more than 40 million Americans who suffer from allergies."
The good news is that understanding what triggers symptoms, those with allergies and asthma will be able to feel good and remain active. So in order to help The Lawyer and others of his ilk, thankfully, the ACAAI has identified the five most common allergy and asthma exercise ailments, with tips on how to overcome them:
1) Over stepping your boundaries. If you're experiencing shortness of breath, wheezing, coughing and chest tightness, you might have exercise-induced bronchoconstriction (EIB). (This condition affects about 10 percent of Americans.) Find relief by using your allergist-prescribed inhaler before you begin your workout routine. Breathing through your nose, rather than your mouth, can also help. Be sure to track your symptoms with the online journal, MyEIBJournal.org.
2) Think before you eat. As part of your regimen to get in shape, whether you've signed up for a dieting meal plan or are opting for foods with fewer calories, be sure to always read nutrition labels before you consume new items. Many products contain hidden food allergens, such as milk, wheat and egg. Energy bars can also be loaded with allergens, including soy and nuts.
3) Choose equipment wisely. While most exercise machines won't cause you to sneeze or wheeze, rubber mats, medicine balls and some rubber-coated free weights might. Latex can often be found in these items, causing those with latex allergies to develop a rash or hives. Also beware of disinfectant wipes and sprays used to clean gym equipment. They can contain volatile organic compounds (VOCs) which can spur an asthma attack or cause skin irritation.
4) Explore the great indoors. If you're allergic to pollen, grass and other environmental factors, hit the ground running—indoors. Not a fan of treadmills and indoor tracks? Take your allergy medication but avoid running outdoors during mid-day and afternoon hours when pollen counts may be highest. Be sure to change your clothes and shower immediately after finishing your workout to remove any particles that might have fallen onto your clothes and hair.
5) Opt for comfort over fashion. If your workout leaves you itchy and you've ruled out other gym culprits, your clothing might be the culprit. Synthetic materials used in everything from shirts to socks could be irritating your skin. ACAAI recommends checking clothing labels and opting for Lycra (spandex) which is higher quality and less likely to irritate your skin. Garments made of natural products can also help. If you have a latex allergy, also be wary of athletic shoes and elastic waistbands.
Of course, if you think you experience symptoms of allergies and asthma, schedule an appointment with a board-certified allergist. Allergists are experts in diagnosing and treating both allergies and asthma. To learn more about what may be triggering your symptoms, and to locate an allergist in your area, visit www.AllergyAndAsthmaRelief.org.
Too bad for The Lawyer there are no cures yet for a yoga allergy!


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Club Handicap
The Club handicap is a 5K handicap race now held on a Tuesday night bi-monthly around the club handicap course in Wallsend just near Western Community Primary School. Members should meet at the start around 7:00 PM with the first runners setting of around 7:20pm. The next handicap is on TUESDAY 12th August 2014.


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I am proud to show here some examples of the work of my good friend MOSAIK, another artist invited to customize VANS this season...
Mosaik is a Street artist born in Lisbon and is one of the graffiti pioneers in Portugal. Nowadays He is involved with many projects, from urban decorations to collaborations with shoe or clothing brands, like this one for Vans or for B.Side, as example.
more of his work in on-line at: www.mosaikone.blogspot.com
Photo: Vasco Célio
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Mosaik wearing his own B.SIDE Limited Edition T-Shirt
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Silver Luxe-Leaf Necklace by John Greed
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This beautiful Silver Luxe-Leaf Necklace by John Greed is simply adorable! Crafted from delicate silver with intricate detailing, this chic piece will update your look in an instant. Team with other for the latest look and prepare to wow!
Sterling silver.
Chain - 16" to 18" adjustable.
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The New York Times is reporting that across the country frazzled mom are just saying 'NO!' to volunteering at their schools.
"Around the country there are a number of altruistic, devoted and totally burned-out mothers just like Ms. Lentzner who are becoming emboldened to push back against the relentless requests from their children's schools for their time. What started out as an admirable civic gesture somehow snowballed into an inability to say no to any committee assignment or project request, and spiraled into night, weekend and after-school commitments, middle-of-the-night e-mail exchanges, as well as frozen dinners, takeout pizza and baby sitters at home. …"
"Many parents are happy to volunteer uncoerced, and most everyone recognizes the worthiness of the cause. But the heightened need and expectations are coming at a time when many parents have less and less time to give. "
" 'Volunteerism is way down at our school this year,' said Gary Parkes, the PTA president at Carmel Elementary School in Woodstock, Ga., a suburb of Atlanta. At the school's recent annual fall festival some games had to be closed down because of a lack of adult volunteer supervisors."
" 'Economic necessity, Mr. Parkes said, has forced some stay-at-home mothers to go back to work. 'People are so busy trying to stay afloat, they just do not have as much time as they would like to give," Mr. Parkes said, adding that he has heard similar laments in regional PTA meetings. 'This seems to be a problem for a lot of schools. ' "
Mr. Parkes has gotten creative to finder volunteers. He's using Cub Scouts to help with the fall festival, a girls' lacrosse team for face-painting station and looking into corporate and ROTC volunteers.
We've talked before on this blog that it's often the same group of mothers doing everything at the school. I think it's finding a way to let everyone pitch in a little bit so the burden is spread out. The same mothers get asked because they know they will do it.
The article mentions a new online service to help schools coordinate volunteer work so you don't have all the irritating back and forth emails. It's like Evite but for volunteers. (I swear I had this idea two years ago and never did anything with it! Kicking myself! I will definitely check out this site and I just sent it to our teachers.)
The site sends "a calendar of volunteer opportunities and allows parents to sign up for those of their choosing without multiple e-mail exchanges. She now runs a company called VolunteerSpot that markets the system, coordinating 460,000 volunteers, 75 percent of them parents in schools."
I think this sounds like a great way for folks to see where the needs are and where they can fill in.
A couple of other interesting points in the article:
It talks about mothers volunteering out of maternal guilt.
It talks about women quitting their jobs to stay home but then doing so much volunteering they aren't actually home with their kids. They are hiring sitters, feeding their kids frozen food and are generally stressed out.
Several mothers mentioned their husbands being angry about their over-commitments to the school. One even said a husband left his wife because of it. (Michael has definitely been angry at me in the past for volunteering too much between church and school.)
So what do you think: Are the schools looking for too much help? Are there extraneous activities that really don't need to be happening at schools and could reduce the need for repeat volunteering? Do you think the group online sign up sheet would help more parents fill in instead of the weight being on a few?
Are you volunteering too much? Are you ready to jump off that train? Has your husband ever been mad about your volunteer commitments?
December 3rd, 2010
1:05 am
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December 3rd, 2010
6:46 am
You know, there are good volunteer groups that your kids can participate in with the parents. One locally, is Chattahoochee River Keepers. Yes, little Johnny might not be immediately on board to clean up other morons left trash, but you can actually make that fun, and maybe let him invite his best friend to come along to make it an adventure. Why not do your volunteerism and kid raising together?
It would seem that at least some of that would rub off on junior, and you never know, junior might even decide that mom a dad are pretty good "role models", maybe even better than Taylor Swift and Jake -"can't even remember that last name"-, right?
Jeez, it occured to me that the kid just might learn something about the real world, maybe dream of doing something significant and rewarding…no it's just the coffee.
December 3rd, 2010
6:53 am
I like Shaggy's suggestion. I think every child should do volunteer work of some kind.
At our school (630 students, 84% white, 15% Latino) we have three (3?) parent volunteers. They are exhausted. The rest just sit back and let the teachers do whatever it was that parents used to do (bring food for parties, etc). At PTA, unless there is a special program, we have less than a dozen parents who show up. (Now on Latino parent night, be have 120-130 parents and kids show up). For special activities after school (sock hop, fall festival) teachers do it all except for these handful of volunteers.
December 3rd, 2010
7:11 am
Sorry Theresa, but you seem to be the very definition of "frazzled mom." I volunteer when I can at school, but I'm realistic since I work as well and don't want to turn into one of those moms. And yes, it does seem to be the same people who step up time after time, and some parents you'll never meet or hear from. I don't know if it's a public school thing since we never experienced that at private preschool/K. But it's simple: just sign up for what you can manage without pulling your hair out!
December 3rd, 2010
7:11 am
One teacher of my daughter's at Open House night had a bulletin board with scraps of paper tacked to it with volunteer opportunities, classroom supplies needed, etc. Her instructions were pretty simple. Pick one. So if you are not able to volunteer you can send your kid in with 2 packs of Expo markers. If you cannot afford supplies or the time to come into school to volunteer, you can stuff envelopes from home. Very diplomatic. Something for everyone. I liked it!
December 3rd, 2010
7:28 am
When I worked full-time, I was one of the parents who would try to do what I could, when I could do it. Now that I am home, I still try to do what I can, but I have found that the teachers like "their helpers" and I feel as if I am getting in the way. As much as the "mothers" complain, most of them feel they have to do it in order for it to be done right. I say screw it and let the same one's do it then. I will find something else to do with my time.
Anyone else gone through or going through this?
December 3rd, 2010
7:32 am
Wow, it must be tough, dealing with the babysitters, nannies, house cleaning services. It probably gets old driving those SUV's around, talking on the cell as you drive, settin up those vacations, gossipin' with the other moms. It's gotta be hard spending hubbies money, day in, day out. One of these days you'll get that catering business going or you'll write that book, just like that lady on TV did, but for now back to the grind, sweatin it out, in a sauna, at the gym, tanning next, wishin' somebody else would pick those damn kids up every once in a while, you need a break.
December 3rd, 2010
7:47 am
@ catlady
The Latino moms more often than not don't work, and the father's often have jobs that bring them home at a decent hour. Their lifestyle and culture are so vastly different for the American way of life, including their work life. They also have extended families that help out!
The downfall is often is often monetarily, these communities are poorer.
December 3rd, 2010
7:57 am
Just what is your point. Generalization usually arises from jealousy, envy, and ignorance.
December 3rd, 2010
7:59 am
I never understood why some of the Dad's participate? it's almost always 100% Mommy.
December 3rd, 2010
8:04 am
OMGosh..It's the awful writer with a Sarah Palin-esque point of view again! Would you please donate your computer to any passing person with a shred of intelligence. That would really help us all and will probably help lift the ajc circulation. Also, it would allow you the time to explore returning to school!
December 3rd, 2010
8:06 am
@ Christina…your experience is exactly what I did when I taught Kinder. Instead of asking for someone to co-ordinate a party, I would put a list ( at the beginning of school) up like this:
2 Parents to attend the party:__________ and _____________
Send in the paper goods:_______________
Send in four 2 liters of Sprite or Juice;________________
Send in something sweet: ________________ and salty: ___________________
Prepare games and send them in with the instructions;________________
Since we had 4 parties per year, I asked each parent to sign up once. If you cannot attend, you CAN send in 4 two liters of juice or Sprite and if you knew about it in August, you will not be called the week of the party with a frazzled request from another Mom who forgot about it.
This way, all kids can be proud that their parent helped out.
Some parents try to do everything and if I put this list up and asked everyone to do one thing that seemed to spread it out.
I do see less volunteers, in the schools I am in. I volunteered at the check in desk during the 6 years my kids were in middle school Two hours once a week. I caught up on paperwork and cut coupons from magazines etc. Once, a lady came in to check her son out and said ( to me) , "Oh my…this is a cushy little job now isn't it?" I replied, "Oh yes…since I get paid less than 5 cents per hour…it is pretty easy…YOU TOO can volunteer…want to sign up?
"Oh NO…I have a real job!"
"Me too… I have my own business but make time to volunteer too!"
Yes, I think children do need to see their parents volunteer but if they are always frazzled and over committed, than that message is not essentially a good one either. You make time for what is important to you!
If everyone did a little, a lot could get done.
December 3rd, 2010
8:07 am
Vol: Half our Latino parents are Mexican; half are Guatemalan. Most of the Mexican mothers do work. None of the Guatemalan mothers do (nor do they read–no schooling). In our area, there is one major employer for the Latino folks, and they run morning and evening shifts. (an employer who, btw, uses everify on its applicants-haha). Many of our dads are on the evening shift.
On extended families–most are cousins and siblings, who also attend our meetings.
We have been working for about 10 years to improve the relationships between the school and the Latino community. That has been an important effort of mine. The first time we met, we had 45 parents and kids, crammed into a teacher workroom. Many of our parents, particularly the Guatemalan parents, have little positive memories of school, and only a third of the dads are liteate in Spanish. Their home language is a spoken language, and is NOT a dialect of Spanish! It is a completely different Native American language.
I feel proud when we have events (like our first PTA meeting of the year, when the Latino parents outnumbered the "white" parents by over two to one. Or when we hold Reading Night, and over half the folks there are Latino. Or when 4th grade has a stargazing night, and almost everyone who signs up is Latino.
In our area, the "white" parents cannot use the excuse of "I work nights", as there is only one employer that has evening shift, and those jobs are routinely given to the Latinos.
The Latino parents in our area place great emphasis on their children getting educated. For one thing, their children can be of more help to them if they can read or write. And, too, it is a family pride thing, something that many of our Anglo parent lack (drawing on public assistance for so many things).
BTW, although our Latino kids are 16% of our student population, they represent about 50% of our honor roll. (It would probably be higher if their parents were able to help them more.) They also are very over-represented on behavior and attendance rewards.
Too bad we can't get more of the Anglo parents more interested.
December 3rd, 2010
8:10 am
@ Photius…my husband loved to volunteer and ate lunch with our daughter nearly every Friday at school when he was working 4 day work weeks. He also chaperoned our son's Kindergarten field trip to the Atlanta zoo…took off work for that one. It is wonderful when Dads show their child that their life is important too and show up at school every once in a while. Neither of us had Dads that modeled this with us…their job was too important to miss!
December 3rd, 2010
8:22 am
Arggghhh. What a sore subject with me. I stay at home full time and have a part time job that allows me to work around the kid's schedules (preschool and elementary)..I either work while they are in school or nights and weekends. I give my time when I feel like I can but it is MY time to give.
I am not a stranger at the school but they certainly don't have a spot reserved for me. Yes, I do see the same moms there when I go in and if that is what they feel like they need to do…fine. Just don't pressure me into it. My day is so full with laundry, errands,spending time with my kids and working that I truly don't get much free time. I stay at home for our kids…not for everyone else. I also will not babysit the neighbors kids on a regular basis…sorry. Have no problem helping a n'bor out…but do not expect me to watch little Johnny every Tuesday b/c you can't/won't find a real babysitter.
Last year I heard my son's kindergarten teacher say "Ask so and so …she's a stay at home mom and has no excuse for not coming in." SERIOUSLY????!!!! What people do with their time is their business…if you want to volunteer…do so. If you don't or can't, then you shouldn't feel obligated. But don't volunteer and then b**** about it the whole time or take on the martyrdom crown. Not going to buy it…all about choices people. No one is holding a gun to your head to do this.
December 3rd, 2010
8:23 am
I take off of work a few days a year to help in my daughters' classrooms, however as a teacher myself I am never able to be there on the "fun" days, 1st or last days of scool, holiday parties, etc. as I ma with my own school at the time. However, I do volunteer a few days with our school watchDOGS (Dads Of Great Students) program. I also volunteer weekly as an EMT with our local rescue squad. I have always preached to my students that it is important to give whatever you can to your community to make it a better place for all. And the best way to do that is through example. I tell my students about all of the volunteer opportunities that are around and try to get them involved. I was recently part of a "Main Street" beautification project where we had over 30 students show up. we even outnumbered the number of "regular" volunteers. The most important thing about volunteering, espe cially if you do it on a regular basis, is not to burn yourself out. Make sure that you still enjoy what you are doing, It is OK to take a break from volunteering. the community will survive without you, and I think that in the long run you will do a better job once you come back from a break.
December 3rd, 2010
8:32 am
Life is about priorities, choices and doing what you want vs doing what needs to be done. At the end of the day it's your choice and if you can put your head on the pillow and sleep. No need to beat a dead horse.
December 3rd, 2010
8:37 am
To madmommy – I absolutely agree. This is the first year I have really been able to get into my kids' schools without having to arrange babysitters, etc. My youngest went off to kindergarten. I have tried to get in to volunteer at both of their schools, and it has been pretty hard to break in. I was just told that I would have to wait for an opportunity next month because I had already been in the classroom once this year. I have also been inundated for email status updates and advice on how to handle things from room coordinators for things that were delegated to ME to handle. I signed up for several things at the beginning of the year to help with, and it took until now for me to break into one of the positions. I have offered to sub spots for parents who only want to trade their shifts (which I don't have to trade because I am not on the schedule) – they won't just let you come in and sub for them….. I think these very same parents who are experiencing "burn-out" are also very unwilling to pass along duties to other very willing and able bodied parents. It is a vicious cycle!!
December 3rd, 2010
8:38 am
HOORAH fred!
In the past, I often got sucked into projects I really did not want to do. BShepC…I did wear the martyr crown! LOL
Once I turned 40, I adopted this perspective:
When you ask me to do something, if I will be mad at myself for agreeing and you will be mad at me if I do not agree to do it…guess what…I do not want to be mad. So, I am not going to volunteer for something that makes me angry. You will just have to find someone else. Sorry if you are mad. There are lots of other things I can do that will not make my blood boil.
Here is a funny story that teachers and those who are involved in the classroom might like:
My neighbor was planning a classroom spring party for 4th graders about 10 years ago. She asked a Mom to send in fruit. The mom asked if she could send in grapes…Yes, that is fine.
There were 22 kids in the class and the Mom send in a baggie with 22 grapes! I still remember that kooky MOM. I would have expected perhaps 22 baggies each with a small cluster of grapes. OH NO!
December 3rd, 2010
8:44 am
@ frustrated….some volunteers act like they have been hired for the job and it is a power play for them to hold the position. This is funny to watch ( to me).
In defense of teachers, sometimes they have had too many Moms who forget who is hired to teach the class and who is there as a volunteer and may not have educational credentials but know a better way to do everything. This tends to shut the door on parents in the classroom, as the teacher has to do his or her job and cannot be distracted.
I never had this but some of my kids teacher's have and when I asked them why no volunteers they told me …after they knew I was a teacher too.
December 3rd, 2010
8:54 am
Your experiences with the Latino culture are always vastly different than the norm. Why is that?
I have also seen where you have grossly exagerated facts in various blogs. Sorry, but I find your biased on this subject to the point that there is some sort of hidden agenda.
I gave my observations at what happens at my school, but your school is always held up as the perfect example. You are always right, everyone else always wrong. Just take a look at your diatribe above.
In a nutshell, in your eyes "white" parents are always lazy and unattentive and Latino parents are lauded for everything! Please stop laying it on so thick. I am just not buying what you are selling!
December 3rd, 2010
9:02 am
I'm so thankful I don't have to deal with this anymore. I know I served my fair share of volunteering at my daughter's schools. I was fortunate enough to work and live close to her schools, so I was able to go help before work, on my lunch hour, etc. But those days are over now, since the kid is off at college now……
Happy Friday Ya'll!!!!!
December 3rd, 2010
9:11 am
As a stay at home mom, I am just sick and tired of being expected to do everything. Right now I am a co-room mom with a working mom. As soon as she found out I was a SAHM, her eyes literally lit up. Now when planning the Holiday party, I wanted everyhting planned yesterday and she has come up with every excuse imaginable.
I have learned not to volunteer if I can't commit. I was asked to be a room rep for my younger child but refuse because I knew there would be instant conflicts.
At my school, we also have a large handful of moms that want to be everything and really just want the recognition. They are the ones that are the biggest complainers (quietly in their little group) and look down on those that do even just a bit less. These women's (yes all moms) lives are in a mess personally and their houses are kaos.
December 3rd, 2010
9:15 am
@ Former…what are you talking about. catlady has spent MANY years inside of schools. Due to her experience she does not need to exaggerate, in stating her opinion. I am also aware of her geographic location and I think she is presenting valid information to back up her beliefs.
In some areas of our country, white families ARE lazy and backwards while immigrants strive to give their children a better life and will do whatever it takes to enhance their education.
The painter who painted my house is Hispanic and worked very hard. He did an excellent job and I would hire him again, in a minute. He has enrolled one daughter in private school, as their public school was not working for her. I admire that sacrifice as he is not wealthy but sees the need to do what he has to do and work hard to have it. Not all folks realize this…no matter what their ethnicity.
December 3rd, 2010
9:28 am
I absolutely underrstand the need for PTA/PTSA…..HOWEVER. Some of them could give crime families a run for their money. Its ridiculous! Last year I was HOUNDED by the newly elected PTA Prez. Because of my career and what she mistakenly thought to be "connections"….she was on a mission from hell to get me to head up any and all artistic/music oriented committees. Um…how bout' no. I work…full time. Thank you baby Jesus most of it can be done while my kiddos are in school. But still….I do not live to be stationed at the school store, ice cream table or Secret Santa Shop. I made the HUGE mistake of agreeing to sit for an hour at one of the Fall Festival booths. But The Boy came home vomiting a la Linda Blair and I had to find a suitable replacement. Even though I covered it…this lady still called, emailed and texted all night berating me for not showing up. Get an effin life Gotti and stay the heck outa mine!:) Perhaps…and I'm just spit-balling here….if some of you PTAer's would come to the realization that we're not all like you and we have other pressing matters to attend to…both our worlds would spin a little more smoothly. AND…done.
December 3rd, 2010
9:28 am
I've always been a working mom, but did take time off of work to volunteer when my daughter was in elementary (not as many opportunities now that she's in middle school). Our school had to put out strict guidelines because there were so many parent volunteers, particularly those that wanted to sit beside jr. in class all day, that the eliminated in class room volunteering. You could help out the teachers by doing things in the work room, or the media center, but not in the class room. It just became too disruptive, particularly when said parents brought their younger kids with them!
December 3rd, 2010
9:29 am
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December 3rd, 2010
9:29 am
I enjoy volunteering at my daughter's school but it would be nice if I was asked to do something besides carry stuff.
December 3rd, 2010
9:30 am
my sad little rant is floating around in blog purgatory somewhere Theresa:)
December 3rd, 2010
9:35 am
"We have been working for about 10 years to improve the relationships between the school and the Latino community. That has been an important effort of mine".
I'm intriqued by this–can you share with us what your school has done to over the years to increase the participation so much. It sounds like amazing results and I'm curious what you've learned in working with the Latino community that could be applied by communities/schools that have low participation from parents.
December 3rd, 2010
9:38 am
Spanish. They learned Spanish. sorry…:)
December 3rd, 2010
9:49 am
@ jeff…I know you have some skill that you could share with the class. Perhaps you might mention it to a teacher. My husband and I visited middle school, on career days and shared what we did at our jobs. Does your school have field day or festivals? Some schools cultivate their own garden or greenhouse…that ( to me) is really neat. You could share a science project. Even coming in and reading a story to the class would be super, as not many Dads will do it. I would have grabbed you ( for the class) in a minute. Teachers tend to be up to their eyeballs keeping up with the agenda but if you come in with a wonderful idea, they should scoop it up!
December 3rd, 2010
9:49 am
@motherjane Did you not read my comment in regards to catlady's rant about the wonderful Latinos vs. the horrible "White" people? We are all here in metro ATL, right? My school statistically looks similar to catlady's, but the participation level is vastly different! I can also safely say that others that I know of there experiences are similar to mine, NOT catlady's.
I have read on several instances where catlady goes on and on in the same manner and calls people out if their experinces are different. Again, she is right, everyone else is delusional.
Again, what is the agenda?
December 3rd, 2010
9:56 am
I volunteer 2-3 mornings a week in the front office, BEFORE I go to my office, at my daughter's school. I usually volunteer from around 7:50 a.m. to 8:40 a.m. typing up documents and working on databases. On those days I make it to my office right at 9:00 a.m. I am also vice president of the parent association for her dance school. This is actually a light-year as far as I am concerned. She is in middle school now, but when she was in elementary I was also team mom for her soccer team, cookie mom for her girl scout troop as well as volunteered around the school and her dance studio.
December 3rd, 2010
9:57 am
I meant to address my earlier question/comment to @catlady, not look like I'm using her name!
Just wanted to clarify—–and I am curioius what you've learned that may be helpful to other schools looking to increase parent/family involvement
December 3rd, 2010
9:58 am
How is catlady sharing her own experiences in her rural county "calling people out"? You're angry because her school has successfully engaged immigrant parents in their children's education? Why are you more interested in convincing people that your school is the norm and therefore her account must be an exaggeration than in learning about how her school has achieved the level of parental participation it has? What is your agenda?
December 3rd, 2010
10:08 am
I agree with madmommy. The school volunteer moms can be very clique-ish and they want to be able to beat their chests about everything they do. On multiple occasions I've asked to help out with projects and I get the "we have enough volunteers" notification. That is okay, I still find a away, but trust that some of these frazzled moms bring it on themselves.
December 3rd, 2010
10:15 am
@ ooops…thanks for clarifying…I was confused. Sometimes it helps if just pick one name and use it whenever you post. Many of the rest of us do this.
Cammi 317….good for you! Thanks for your contribution and I mean it sincerely!
@ Former: I am making the assumption this is sarcasm:We are all here in metro ATL, right?
Sometimes it is hard to see and eye roll on the blog.
Your comments are parallel to the comments I made about a week ago regarding eating mac and cheese at Thanksgiving dinner. While many southerners serve it religiously, others not so much!
Different things happen in different places.
You can choose to trust me or not…catlady has more experience regarding most things in education than the rest of this ( on this blog) combined. She is an intelligent, fascinating person who knows her stuff. I have been criticized on my opinions too.
I recall that she mentioned specific statistics and " our area". She obviously has not been to ALL areas and neither have I, so she is presenting the information she knows from her years of experience in the areas where she has worked. I tend to do this too!
JATL…perhaps my reading comprehension is lacking…..HELP!
December 3rd, 2010
10:25 am
Wow now HB has joined the group of schoolyard bullies. Since your all such good friends, I am suprised you don't recall the numerous times catlady has praised Latinos and trashed Whites here and especially on get schooled (that may be the disconnect for). My agenda, to get her stop acting like she is a know-it-all when it comes to parent involvement when it comes to race. Her experience is not the norm, and yes I do applaud her for being proud of that success. But her bashing of another culture is distastful and flat out wrong!
PS .. my ethnicity would suprise you! :)
December 3rd, 2010
10:29 am
Sometimes it's okay to say No. Some events don't have to happen for kids to still have a happy childhood. Simple is good.
December 3rd, 2010
10:36 am
@madmommy – I totally agree with you and share your *ARGH* I showed up a little early to my daughter's holiday lunch with the food I had signed up for, and to help get plates, drinks, etc. ready. Not only had they already served my daughter's class and moved on to the next (so I missed Grace and part of lunch with my Girl), but they shrugged off my offer of help, then acted like I was in the way when I tried to get lunch to go in and eat with her. Fortunately, a grandfather was in the same boat and he was less subtle than I was :o) I love her school, but didn't appreciate missing out when I took time off work to a) help, and b) participate! My food ended up coming home with me since there ended up being no one to eat it. *Rant over*
December 3rd, 2010
10:56 am
Agreed ssidawg – Simple is good -I think we should look at getting back to basics – I think overcomplication is part to blame for the chaos in a lot of our lives – sometimes I wonder do the kids really notice, or are we a little guilty of trying to keep up with the Joneses?? Do what is best for your family and what works for you and your family, and you will always be right.
December 3rd, 2010
11:07 am
I'm pretty good at not over-committing to volunteer activities but perhaps I do fall into the "mommy guilt" a little bit. When my work schedule permits, and I'm on a more flexible schedule because work is slow, I tend to do a lot of volunteering. Then my kids get used to seeing me in the classroom more, especially my 8 year-old, and then expect me to be there for every activity. It really seems to mean the world to her when I'm there to help out, so even when I get busy with work, I push myself to sign up for things I don't particularly want to because she's sooo disappointed when I'm not there.
There are worse reasons for volunteering though. I don't like being pressured by adults to sign up because I feel that I do my part, but in our house, it's definitely not keeping up with the Joneses, becasue my kids really do notice!
December 3rd, 2010
11:24 am
This is kind of interesting…
My sister and her family have volunteered each year for a shift at the Salvation Army bucket and ring the bell as a family. They live in a small town. Her boys are in college now.
She told me that she observes some families walking into the large discount store and purposely avoiding their entrance…steering the kids away from the bell and bucket. Then, they come out with carts full of things.
I know everyone has their own idea of what charity to support or perhaps none at all but would it kill someone to put a nickel in the bucket or model the behavior of giving to their children? Our own kids loved going over to the bucket and dropping a few coins in…it was just something we have and still do. Now we can put in paper money :)
Again, if everyone did a little…a lot could get done!
December 3rd, 2010
11:26 am
I'm going to read the comments in a minute, but: if all moms feel this way, who is going to pick up the volunteer slack?? Already most people don't volunteer. Like EVER. The KEY here is motivating MORE people so that it is evenly spread out.
I, for one, am TIRED of picking up the slack of others, but I will not give up because the causes (church, scouts and the kids school) are 100% worth my time.
December 3rd, 2010
11:32 am
I actually really looked forward to volunteering for all the neighborhood, church and school stuff surrounding my kids. It's something I really looked forward to about parenting. However, I have gotten pretty PO'd lately with our neighborhood group. The same 10 people do EVERYTHING -of course -and I'm amazed at the hundreds -yes, literally hundreds -of people who show up for every event and never, not once, ever volunteer for anything. We ask people to take shifts of 30 minutes or an hour at our different events and it's like pulling teeth. I had to get almost ugly in my firmness that I was NEVER going to head up and be the organizer of an event again -to the point that I told them if someone new didn't step up to organize the holiday thing this year -we wouldn't have it. I'm DONE with that and plan to resign my position after the holidays because I've worked my a** off for 4 years. Of course the MOST common excuse from both parents is "I work," and "I have more than one child now…" I sent an "reminder" a few weeks ago about the volunteers needed for holiday stuff and stated that I have TWO jobs and TWO small children -yet somehow I'm managing to volunteer -because I wasn't going to be nice to the next slacker who comes to everything but just can't help because she has a 10 m old. I find that half of our volunteers are all full-time workers and there are scads of SAHPs with one toddler who just can't so much as bake a batch of cookies for a bake sale. Folks -if you and your kids live in a community, attend a school or church and always go to every event thrown -you need to volunteer sometime -I don't care what your employment status is!
December 3rd, 2010
11:45 am
@MJG -what is it about turning 40 that makes you finally wake up? I've decided the same thing -if I'm going to wind up mad because I've volunteered or allowed myself to get roped into something, I'm not doing it anymore! With the neighborhood situation, I let myself get roped into an officer position, but I was told I would only need to email and delegate -and I've refused to do more.
As my kids get older, I'm also interested in devoting my volunteer time to their schools and our church events. I just over-extended myself this year with church and neighborhood -and with my son's school I've tried not to go nuts. I volunteer when I can. One thing I really try to do, since a lot of the volunteer opportunities occur in the middle of my work day, is to donate materials the teacher emails us that she needs. Arts materials, snacks, etc. I know that many of the SAHMs who help there a lot have to watch their pennies a little closer than we do, so I feel like I can at least help in that way.
My husband has gotten angry numerous times over my volunteer hours -usually because I've gotten angry as well at doing something yet again. However, he is really ramping it up now and volunteering more for neighborhood and school stuff. He's been to our oldest son's school several times now to help out and always attends parent events. He's planning to help chaperon a field trip on one of his "work from home" days after Christmas. It's taken awhile, but he also seems to have had a "wake-up" with 40, and he's started getting a lot more involved in the things our kids are involved in (he's always been a pretty hands-on dad -but not when it came to extra-curricular stuff).
@MJG -I don't think you're misreading anything here.
@FormerVoloholic -I get what you're saying (although I guess you'll also call me a bully -since HB asking you questions got that response), but I think catlady's personal experience at her school and in her community is what she says it is. I've witnessed the same type of thing both intown and in the rural area where I grew up. There are some places with a large poor-white population that, quite honestly, is often poor because they don't take advantage of opportunities or ever try to better themselves -some would call them "lazy." When a large group of immigrants moves into the same area, they usually outshine the whites because they work hard and are very grateful to be here instead of being the 5th generation to take it all for granted. The immigrants push their kids to do well in school -and a lot of the poor white crowd seems to think school is no big deal. The same can be said for other races in other pockets of this city and state -and everywhere for that matter. It REALLY boils down to class instead of race!
The exact opposite may be true for you if you live in an upper middle-class suburb that's definitely metro Atlanta. You still have lots of white parents and black parents and every-other-type of parent who are educated and doing well -and many times the mom is a SAHM who not only has a lot of time to volunteer but actually wants to and does it. Both situations are possible, but catlady's situation definitely exists -particularly, it seems, the further out you get. I believe she's in N. GA and I experienced the same thing and see it all the time in my hometown in Middle GA. I've never read her comments as "trashing whites" -but as it is with all races -some whites are trash! They do nothing and exist as parasites.
@ssidawg -YES -it's good to say no!
December 3rd, 2010
11:48 am
Learning how to say "No" is one of the hardest lessons women have to learn, I think. There are somestay-at-home-moms who, especially if they were in busy careers before choosing to stay at home, substitute volunteer activities to get that kind of outside approbation that many crave. To many (male and female), getting that approval from an outside source, whether it be "Highest Sales for the Quarter" or "Volunteer of the Year", is something that helps define them and makes them feel as if they aren't wasting their time.
Pick one or two things, do them with joy and a smile, and don't get tricked into a guilt trip for the things you can't do.
I say this as a reformed volunteer-aholic. Sunday school teacher, homeroom mom, team mom, scout leader . . . you name it, I said "Sure! Sounds like fun!" I actually left one church because I simply didn't know of any other way to extricate myself from an encompassing web of volunteer activities. Even after I had transferred my membership to another church, someone at the previous church called me and said, "I know you're going to (__) church now, but I wondered if you'd be willing to continue doing (___)." Whaaaaat?!? I told the education coordinator at our new church that I was burned out, and just needed to be left alone for a while. After years of coordinating Sunday School, VBS, children's chapel, etc., I wanted to lurk on the back pew, enjoy the service, and LEAVE. That was the beginning of my learning how to say "No, but thank you for thinking of me."
It's a tightrope, to be sure — if you're the kind of person who likes to get things done, craves approval, and gets satisfaction out of a job well done, then being a volunteer meets that need, especially if you're home with the kidlets. I think parents who work outside the home tend to be more discerning and realistic in what they can do, simply due to time constraints. The problem is when people who use volunteering as a crutch for validation get a holier-than-thou attitude, as if the weight of the world is on their shoulders. We need to remember that, just because someone may not choose to volunteer at our favorite volunteer spot, that doesn't mean that they aren't contributing somewhere else. To judge someone because they aren't contributing to YOUR cause (time or money-wise) usually ends up making you feel like an idiot when you realize how involved they are somewhere else.
December 3rd, 2010
11:48 am
Volunteer or work!
Do something while your kids are in school.
I was raised by a working mother, and magically all of our laundry was done, our house was clean, and I turned out to be a good member of society.
I'm not saying stay-at-home moms with school-age kids are lazy by any meants. I just think they put thier energy into unproductive activities.
December 3rd, 2010
11:50 am
@JATL: I definitely think that, as you get older, you reach a point where you don't give a rat's ass what anyone else's opinion of you is :-) It's a very liberating feeling!! I was in my 40's before I finally woke up and said, "Enough, already, if you don't like it, too damn bad."