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Wednesday, March 16, 2011
Moving On
Last week he texted me, telling me that he had a job and would be starting Monday. I didn't respond because what was I supposed to say? Congratulations? I'm so proud of you? Yay? He's had a job all along quite frankly, but he's gotten paid in cash under the table/free room and board/whatever and not passed along a penny of child support from that job, so why should this one be different? Would this be an actual job with W2s and everything? A job where the state could take out child support once again? Honestly, I doubted he even had a job anyway, so I just ignored the text.
Today, I went to pick up some medication for Austin. It wasn't covered by AllKids. It cost $271. I couldn't get it. For the past couple days, Savannah's been complaining of pain and popping sounds in the knee she had surgery on last May. Her orthopedic doctor doesn't accept AllKids. I haven't been able to make an appointment with him. So I broke down and texted Joe to ask him if this was a real job and if he was carrying insurance on the kids again. Apparently "the job fell through". Shocking.
I wrote out a check to pay my taxes today. It was an obscenely high amount. I mean, make you sick to your stomach high amount. On the bright side, I was prepared for this. Taxes hadn't been taken out of any of my income last year and I knew I'd be owing a lot. Thankfully, I had the exact amount I owe set aside for this purpose. That's the good news.
The bad news is that it leaves me with maybe three months' worth of money for living expenses. (And that is thanks to the enormous generosity of you guys!) I've been struggling with so many decisions regarding the future for me and my kids. Today I had to make the tough choice to put my house up for sale. But I can't count on my ex-husband for anything and based on my little income, we can't stay here. It sucks. I hate having to uproot my kids like this especially when they're still having issues with depression.
Taking a deep breath, dealing with the punches as they come, enjoying the little moments, doing what has to be done, and as always, trusting God to carry us through.
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Posted by Dawn at 9:45 PM
34 comments:
- noexcuses said...
I'm so sorry to hear about the house. Don't give up hope. I'm sure you will begin to feel the prayers coming in. If it wasn't illegal, I'd be happy to share my depression meds. God knows what's happening. He will bring you through it.
You've got my prayers!
- March 16, 2011 at 10:32 PM
- The Big-Bellied Beauty said...
Dawn, I am so sorry you are going through this. You will overcome and you will have amazing kids to show off for all of the struggling you have done.
I only have a two bedroom townhouse, but you're more than welcome to come stay with me in Northeastern Ohio, LOL! I hope that lightened your day, thinking of your 7-person family mixed with my 3-person family in a 2-bedroom with 1.5 bath. Scary...
- March 16, 2011 at 10:32 PM
- Pam said...
Dawn, I have been down this bumpy road, and the bumps can rattle you to the core. God will carry you and the kids through it. Make the best decisions you can with the information you have and don't look back and second guess yourself. Right now many of us are flying by the seat of our pants, so to say. I will continue to include you and your sweet, funny and talented children in my prayers.
- March 16, 2011 at 10:48 PM
- Six-Pack Momma said...
Sorry to hear that, Dawn. I hope you get what your house is worth and you find someplace more affordable. Kids are resilient and I know with you as their mom, they'll be OK. Best of luck, you are in my prayers.
P.S. I am happy to see you at Babble.com. Do you get paid simply if people read, or do I need to subscribe to you or something?
- March 16, 2011 at 10:50 PM
- Rikki said...
It'll be okay Dawn. Even though you have to move out of your house, your kids still have you and THAT is what matters. I'll be praying for you guys.
- March 16, 2011 at 10:54 PM
- amy said...
Hugs Dawn!
You should move to Oregon, all children here can get pretty good insurance if you qualify (which you probably would). Plus think how much closer you would be to the ocean. And it's really pretty! And last, but not least, the weather is wayyy nicer than Chicago!
- March 16, 2011 at 11:10 PM
- Mom Taxi Julie said...
I'm sorry you had to put your house up for sale :( Maybe eventually he'll get a job and you'll get a ton of back child support.
- March 16, 2011 at 11:22 PM
- V1nce said...
We're here if you need us!
- March 16, 2011 at 11:22 PM
- Kim Neyer said...
Oh that is tough, Dawn!! But maybe a move won't be that terrible? I mean, a change of scenery might prove to be a nice distraction and you can make some new memories there. I'll be praying for you guys and a smooth transition - hopefully your house sells quickly so you don't have to deal with the stress of showing the house for months on end. Btw, you are so awesome and funny! :D
- March 16, 2011 at 11:25 PM
- Amy said...
I'm so sorry Dawn. I've been in your shoes (almost, I only had 5 kids) and I know how rough it can be. Keep going as you have been and trust in God. One day at a time - I found that was worked best for me.
I hope something comes thru for you soon!
- March 17, 2011 at 12:08 AM
- The Gibson's said...
In everything you are all always so positive and something good will come out of this next step. I hope you find a new home in a place that will help you all heal from the struggles you and your children are going through. Thanks for being upbeat, it really helps me to face the crap I go through and I know I can because though my struggles are different it's still a hard trial for me to handle. I LOVE your blog!!!
- March 17, 2011 at 12:37 AM
- Mama-in-Ausbildung said...
Sorry about your house =( and everything else you have to go through. I think you are a wonderful and tough mom! Praying for you.
- March 17, 2011 at 1:21 AM
The Lord understands your pain! Praying!
Isaiah 53:1-3: Who hath believed our report? and to whom is the arm of the LORD revealed? For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him. He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.
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- March 17, 2011 at 1:30 AM
- DarcsFalcon said...
Praying for you hon. I know how hard this time is. And even though moving seems like a terrible thing right now, it might be a way for you and the kids to let go of some painful memories too.
You're doing great! Your kids see you "rolling with the punches" and that's such a valuable lesson! Nothing stays the same in this life - learning out to roll is a great skill to have.
Heaps and heaps of blessings on you!
- March 17, 2011 at 2:01 AM
- ManaSmith said...
I am truly sorry that you are wrestling the decision to sell your home. Feel free to ignore the suggestion as I understand you do not want to uproot your kids, especially the ones struggling with depression, but my 'grass is always greener' comment is that maybe they will embrace a change in scenery.
- March 17, 2011 at 4:29 AM
Dear Dawn,
I know this seems like another blow on top of some almost insurmountable blows,but you have proved yourself to be stronger than you ever thought possible, and I am sure that you will face this one down and come through the other end.
Much love from Australia xoxoxo
- March 17, 2011 at 7:20 AM
- Deciduous Heather said...
Goodness, It sounds like you are rolling with the punches as best you can. I hate it when the medicine is too much..that is crazy expensive. As a soon to be pharmacist (I graduate in May!) I wonder if there is a more cost-efficient alternative that would treat the same problem. There usually IS!!.....doctors sometimes just prescribe without thinking about things like insurance coverage and co-pays. It is worth asking. (((HUGS))) and good luck house selling vibes coming your way!
- March 17, 2011 at 7:42 AM
- Katie Lee said...
I am so sorry you have to sell your home. Moving is always hard, but even more so under these circumstances. But, when one door closes, another one always opens. I will be keping your family in my heart.
- March 17, 2011 at 7:51 AM
- Jen@Scrapingirl said...
I'm sorry you are going through all this crap. I am still praying for you guys. I hope you find a new house quickly.
- March 17, 2011 at 9:34 AM
- Our Unique Family said...
We are praying for your family everyday! I hope this moves is a wonderful new start for your family!
- March 17, 2011 at 9:46 AM
- Tammy said...
Wow. Sorry to hear that things are still piling up. But praise God you had the money saved up, and that you do have money for a couple months. Now is the time to think about that big move you'd considered in the past. You know, where you move to warmer weather close to the beach. Somewhere with lower cost of living and nice quiet schools. :0) I pray for you all the time that God would watch over you and your children. Keep swimming, keep swimming...
- March 17, 2011 at 9:50 AM
- Dana from Alabama said...
Dawn, I am so sorry about what you've been going through, and I've been keeping you in my prayers. I don't want to sound callous, but have you thought about going back to work, at least part-time? Since Brooklyn's in school at least part of the day, I thought maybe you could find something to help you out. Maybe a bakery needs a good cake designer! Or Starbucks could be hiring to make fancy drinks. That would at least bring in a little extra income.
On the other hand, I don't know what it's like to raise 6 kids or write for multiple blogs or write books, so I probably don't know what I'm talking about. I just wanted to gently point out that there may be another source of income for you. LOVE your blog and let us know if there's anything we can do to help!
- March 17, 2011 at 9:50 AM
- Mother & Wife said...
I know exactly what you are going through.. well maybe not exactly but I think its pretty close. My ex's don't pay their child support and I can barely make it on my own. But I did it! It takes hard work and a lot of dedication! You can do it! Don't worry about the ex! You are the mother of wonderful kids! You do whats best for you and everything else will fall into place! I promise! I was down and out when my daughters dad went to prison. My son at that time was 2 and my daughter was 8 months. He took my car got a dwi and I was stuck. No where to go and no money! I called on family and friends and they helped me get on the right path. As I was working my way into an apartment and making a better life for myself I met my hubby! He has helped so much! ... Don't you worry!! Everything will work out!! Keep your head up! I will be praying for you!!
- March 17, 2011 at 10:40 AM
- Nicki said...
I'm sorry you are having to make these decisions. Kids will adapt and so long as they have you there, they will be okay in the long-run. I have to echo the advice to make the best decisions you can make with the information you have, and just go from there. It will all work out in the end.
As far as the medication goes, definitely speak with the doctor and see if there are any alternatives, or if there is a program for medication funding for those without insurance/finances, or even if they can give you samples. I have had family members who have had to rely on samples, when they could get them, as they did not have any insurance and their medication (antidepressants in this case) were fairly expensive.
I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
- March 17, 2011 at 12:23 PM
- Lisa said...
Dawn, I am praying for you and your family. I wish I could do something to help out. Do you have any manuscripts that you could publish on Kindle? There are no guarantees, but it would be worth a shot, don't you think? Do you read J.A. Konrath's blog? Anyway, I sure wish I had a way to help. I will be in prayer that God will intervene for you.
- March 17, 2011 at 12:28 PM
- Anon said...
Are you planning to move out of state to somewhere more affordable? Or are you selling the house and looking for something smaller/cheaper there in the Chicago area? Although you've told us your house is around 1000 sq feet, so can you go smaller with 7 people?
- March 17, 2011 at 12:47 PM
- Colleen said...
OH Dawn...God bless you!!
Where has the donation box gone???? I still havent done mine and I'm thinking now is a darn good time!!
- March 17, 2011 at 1:53 PM
- Jade said...
Dawn, I'm thinking of you. Can't have been an easy choice, hopefully it will sell quickly and you will find somewhere else reasonably hassle free. I really hope the kids dad comes to his senses and steps up to the plate with his responsibilities.
- March 17, 2011 at 2:45 PM
- Heather said...
God bless you, amazing Dawn.
- March 17, 2011 at 6:17 PM
- T.M. said...
That really stinks. We've been there, done that with having to put our house up for sale because we just can't afford to stay in that house any longer (has happened twice now - hopefully won't happen again). But, we're also now in Western NY - the economy is SO depressed out this way - lots of great houses for pretty cheap! :) *just in case you were looking for a good place to live inexpensively*
I hope your house sells for a decent cost and that you can find someplace that works for you and your kids.
- March 17, 2011 at 6:46 PM
Hi Dawn, I'm very very sad and sorry to hear that you have to sell your house. I've been a quiet reader all this while, but I had to post and say to hang in there. I know it's not much, some random person saying a few words, and I really do wish I could do more. Unfortunately I'm still a student (yes, not just adults read this blog! ;P) and monetary contributions are a bit beyond me at the moment. But I believe in karma and that things will eventually work out.
All the best!
- March 17, 2011 at 9:16 PM
- Rachel said...
I don't know if this will help or not but as far as access to medication sometimes the manufacturer of the medication will give free or greatly reduced prices if you contact them. This has worked for me many times. You can always give them a call and see if they can help you just call the pharmacy and ask for the name of the company that makes your son's med. I will pray for you and your kids this is tough stuff but they have one thing going for them and that is a great mom! I love your babble blog too, great fun!
- March 17, 2011 at 10:34 PM
I know you have a million other comments saying the same thing, but I'm sorry that you have to go through this. This can't be easy for you and taking on the burden by yourself is even more difficult. I hope it comforts you to know that your friends in the blogosphere are always here for you.
Thinking positively will always prevail.
- March 18, 2011 at 9:15 AM
- Anon said...
It seems like Savanna should be able to get in to see the doctor who did her surgery as a follow-up appointment. You shouldn't even have to pay for it. If I were the surgeon, I would want to see my patient that I did surgery on less than a year ago.
- March 18, 2011 at 8:44 PM


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Barbie sent me this pretty nifty album cover art.
Here's the cover art for one of my favorite kids' books. It's a whole book starring Boo Boo, one of my favorite cartoon characters and the illustrations are wonderful. Really swell colors. A perfect balance of neutrals with spots of bright colors.
Jesse is very reliable in sending me fine work. Here he demonstrates that he knows exactly what the difference is between girls and guys.
And Quinton sent me this Harman-Ising film that proves once and for all that cartoons can be more than mere entertainment.
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Severe weather can happen anytime, but March, April and May typically make up the peak season in Alabama for tornadoes and other severe storms, according to Patrick Huselton, public information officer with the Gadsden/Etowah County Emergency Management Agency.
Severe weather can happen anytime, but March, April and May typically make up the peak season in Alabama for tornadoes and other severe storms, according to Patrick Huselton, public information officer with the Gadsden/Etowah County Emergency Management Agency.
That's why Severe Weather Awareness Week, which started Sunday and runs through Friday, comes at a vital time, Huselton said.
"Before the season kicks off, we need to be looking at preparing for severe weather now," he said.
The single most important way people can be prepared, Huselton said, is to have a weather alert radio.
He will be at several locations this week to program weather alert radios and provide information about them and about severe weather preparedness.
Huselton will be at Academy Sports and Outdoors from 3:30 p.m. to 6:30 p.m. Wednesday and is scheduled to be at Lowe's from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Friday. However, there is a possibility of severe weather on Friday and if so, the Lowe's event will be rescheduled.
Radios will be available for purchase at both locations and also will be available, along with other emergency preparedness items, during the statewide sales tax holiday set for Friday, Saturday and Sunday.
Huselton said he can check radios to make sure they are programmed properly for the owner's zone.
"People buy them and think they're already programmed, and they're not," he said. "If you hear the voice when you turn it on, that actually is the generic information. They have to be programmed for a specific county. We cannot stress enough the importance of having one, properly programmed for your area."
Even though a weather radio is the best way to get alerts, Huselton said, it is important to have multiple sources for receiving severe weather information.
Severe weather doesn't only mean tornadoes, but can include downpours, flooding, powerful lightning and thunderstorms, violent winds and damaging hail.
Thunderstorms can be classified as severe if they produce winds of 58 mph or greater and/or hail of an inch in diameter or greater.
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He said hail is most common in the spring and can cause severe damage to automobiles and building. There have been five recorded hail fatalities in U.S. history.
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Since 1955, 22 people have been killed and 127 people in Alabama injured by lighting.
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This spring I delved into gardening with a vengeance. As always, native plants were chosen due to their lower water and maintenance requirements, and ability to attract desirable wildlife.
Additional coneflowers (Echinacea purpurea), coreopsis (Coreopsis lanceolata), purple poppy mallow (Callirhoe involucrate) and Missouri primrose (Oenothera macrocarpa) gardens have all been expanded, and other plants have been added, too. Our gardens have flourished looking the best they ever have.
What I have noticed is that very few honeybees come to these pollen-heavy flowers. I imagined with hundreds of open-faced flowers that I would have tons of butterflies this year. While the butterfly crop has increased, I still only see one or two at a time. Surprising for the number of flowers available.
After some research, I have discovered that many stores are using seeds and plants that are treated with pesticides that are harmful to pollinators, especially honey bees. While the pesticides do not actually kill bees they weaken the bees and the whole hive.
A new publication, A Guidance for Assessing Pesticide Risks to Bees, was just released on June 19, 2014, by the Environmental Protection Agency.
According to this publication, seeds treated with systemic pesticides result in the translocation of the pesticide to the pollen, nectar, exudates (fluids), and honey dew which foraging bees pick up and bring back to the hive. This results in, "…reduced colony strength and survival, reduced queen fecundity [fertility] and brood success, reduced individual survival and behavior changes." All of these changes contribute to, "…reduced honey, wax…and reduced species richness and abundance." In other words, seeds treated with pesticides are slowly killing off hives.
Ralph Maughan, professor emeritus at Idaho State University with specialties in natural resource politics in his article, "Pesticides, Honeybees, and Native Pollinators", on July 26, 2014, in The Wildlife News, wrote that neonicotinoids, a new type of pesticide derived from nicotine harm, "most insects, including neutral and beneficial insects along with the pests."
Maughan writes, "Neonics kill or weaken insects that prey on or are parasitic to other insects, thus disrupting biological controls, both intentional control and naturally occurring controls." This includes ladybugs that eat aphids. "Pollen and plant nectars are problems. Bees, butterflies, and other harmless or beneficials that drink or eat these would succumb." You would think that plants that are grown for wildlife consumption would not contain these poisons, not so – neonic seed coats are even used for sunflowers!
Friends of the Earth report from their new study that they tested "bee-friendly" garden plants from Walmart, Lowe's and Home Depot in 18 cities across the United States and Canada and found more than half contained neonic pesticides. Home Depot stated that they are working to address concerns regarding neonics, but Lowe's and Walmart have not responded.
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Friday, January 21, 2011
B101's Questions For The Weekend
Saturday's Games
Can both Ohio State (at Illinois) and Kansas (vs. Texas) both make it through the weekend undefeated?
How ready is Jay Wright for this week to be over? Fresh off a last-second loss at Gampel Pavilion, Villanova has to head to the Carrier Dome on Saturday, where 33,000 Syracuse fans await.
What's the over-under on Wake Forest's point total against Duke? 40?
How much of a difference will having Bruce Pearl back on the bench make for Tennessee against UConn?
Can Jimmer and Friends survive a tough road test at Colorado State? Do the Rams deserve a spot in the bracket if they finish off an already big week with a victory over the Cougars?
Will Texas A&M bounce back from its loss at Texas and, in the process, bounce Kansas State from the bracket?
Can Kentucky finally win an SEC road game?
Will Terrence Jones stop being such a SELFISH MOTHERF....?
Can anyone win on the road in the Big Ten? Can Michigan State avoid its seventh loss of the season and win at Mackey Arena?
Can Notre Dame avenge its 22-point beatdown at the hands of Marquette back on Jan. 10 and take care of the Golden Eagles in South Bend?
Will Washington State complete a much-needed 2-0 week and beat Arizona in Pullman? Should the Wildcats be bumped from the bracket in favor of UCLA if they lose?
St. Mary's might be the least talked-about good team in the country, but are they good enough to win at Vanderbilt?
Will the A-10 be back to a three-bid league on Monday? If Richmond wins at UMass, there's a good chance the answer to that question is yes.
Even with a win at Oklahoma, is Colorado (after losing by 12 at Nebraska on Tuesday) going to keep its spot in next week's bracket?
Will a win at Baylor be enough to get Oklahoma State back in the bracket? (If A&M beats Kansas State, yes.)
Is Florida State really the second best team in the ACC? If they are, they should beat BC at home.
How many questions will we have to answer from panicked FSU fans if the 'Noles lose?
Is Virginia Tech in the bracket to stay after their convincing win at Maryland? The Hokies have a pretty easy schedule from here on out, and there's no reason they can't finish in the top four in the ACC.
Will Georgia and Southern Miss be able to bounce back from crushing last-second home losses earlier in the week?
Can Xavier seize control of the A-10 race and beat Temple?
Will the winner of the Memphis-UAB game be the only C-USA team in our next bracket?
Will ODU take care of VCU at home and avoid falling two games behind the Rams in the Colonial?
What happened to UNLV on Wednesday? Will the Rebels regroup and take care of New Mexico in Vegas?
How much longer will the loser of the Cincinnati-St. John's game be in the bracket?
Will the MVC be back to a one-bid league on Monday? After Wichita State's home loss to Northern Iowa on Wednesday, that's a very good possibility.
Will Florida play better against Arkansas than they did against Auburn? Is it possible for them to play worse?
Sunday's Games
Can Northwestern finally get a quality Big Ten win and beat Wisconsin at home?
Is Miami worthy of a bid next week even if they win at N.C. State?
Could West Virginia really lose to Marshall and South Florida in the same week?
Can Belmont continue to tear through the Atlantic Sun? (The Bruins have won their first eight conference games by an average of 29 points.) What seed would Belmont deserve if they finish the regular season 28-3, with their only three losss coming to Tennessee (twice) and Vandy?
Did we really just ask a Belmont question?
28 comments:
- Michael said...
What are your thoughts on the FSU-BC game this weekend? Very big game in the ACC as both teams are currently tied for 1st place. Both teams are on the good side of the bracket as of now, but one bad slide and they'll be on the edge.
Will BC's effecient offense be able to keep it up against arguably the best defensive team in the country? Will FSU take advantage of BC's suspect defense? This should be a very interesting game with the winner the most likely team to challenge Duke for the ACC crown.
how about Baylor - OSU?
OSU is squarely on everyone's bubble. Does a road win in Waco get them on the right side?
How about Baylor...who's best victory all year is to #139 Lipscomb....what does Baylor have to do to get consideration?
Oklahoma St looks pretty good for now if they win at Baylor.
For Baylor this is an absolute must win if they want to stay on the radar. Baylor probably has to finish 10-6 in B12 to feel good, 9-7 would be dicey unless they get a couple tournament wins.
Count for panicked FSU fans=1
Glad to see Belmont talked about and if they do finish 28-3 I hope they end up better then a 12 like Cornell with a similar resume was placed at last year.
Also I think its kinda insane to think CUSA will only get 1 bid come Monday. Their are seven teams with five or less losses and many of those teams have picked up some OOC quality wins.
- Bracketology 101 said...
(Whoops...we meant to post a question about the OSU-BU game as a follow-up to the question about Colorado. It's been fixed.)
If Oklahoma State wins and Kansas State loses, the Cowboys will be in the bracket next week.
Baylor's got a long way to go before they get back on the bubble. They did nothing OOC, their RPI is over 100 right now, and they missed a golden opportunity at home against Kansas earlier in the week. The Bears still have to play at Kansas State, at A&M, at Texas, at Missouri, and at Oklahoma State the rest of the way. They are going to have to win a couple of those to get in the mix.
- Bracketology 101 said...
We've already been burned picking against FSU once this week, so we'll take them this time at home against BC.
- Bracketology 101 said...
Since C-USA will probably find a way to get two bids down the road, we might have to stick with two in for now. Two bids is definitely not as certain as it was two weeks ago, though.
It's going a little far to say that many of the seven teams with five losses or less in C-USA have good OOC wins. Out of those seven teams, only three have quality OOC wins - UCF (Florida, Miami), Memphis (Miami), and Marshall (WVU) - and two of those teams (UCF and Marshall) are under .500 in conference.
You get so many FSU questions because
A. They're always on the bubble.
B. They're always getting screwed out of getting into the tourney.
Colorado State is 5-4 vs teams above .500
I have been VERY confused about the Mountain West Conference this year. There seems to be SDSU and BYU as consistent factors at the top, then the craziness happens. First UNLV rises, then falls; New Mexico rises, then falls; now Colorado State is moving up. How do you see this falling out? 3 bids? 4 bids? If it comes down to a close situtation between the three, which gets a potential third bid? Is there a chance it only becomes a two bid league even with the strong OOC wins in the league?
- Joey said...
Hasn't Florida State made the tournament the last two years? Doesn't seem like they're "always screwed out of getting into the tourney."
And I will answer one question. Yes, you can win on the road in the Big 10, provided you're playing at Iowa.
Mountain West will be getting at least three unless UNLV just totally falls apart in conference. The question is if New Mexico or Colorado St. can play really well in conference to make the league a 4-bid league.
- Bracketology 101 said...
The most likely scenario is that the MWC gets three bids. SDSU and BYU are locks, and we think UNLV will regroup from its early struggles in conference to snag the league's third bid. With their solid OOC resume (wins against Wisconsin, Virginia Tech, and Kansas State), a third place finish should be enough to get UNLV a bid.
Colorado State definitely opened some eyes with their win at UNLV, but that was the Rams' first notable win of the season. If they beat BYU at home Saturday, we'll entertain the idea of a four-bid Mountain West.
Florida State made it the last two years, but had a string of 4-5 years before that they should've made it but didn't.
So now that Villanova won at Syracuse, what does that do for their seeds, and how big of a win is that for the Wildcats?
What was that about St. John's again?
RPI what?
Cincinnati proves again that they're one of the best unranked teams in the NCAA. They have yet to lose to an unranked team. Unfortunately, they are yet to beat a ranked team. They'll have several more opportunities to correct that before March.
Can Cincinnati now be placed as a 7 or 8 seed in your bracket, as they've deserved all season?
They're clearly not a top 25 team, but they're a consistent and very good team.
- Bracketology 101 said...
Villanova's win at Syracuse and Texas' win at Kansas made things very crowded on the 1 and 2 lines. There are nine teams for eight spots right now: Ohio State, Pittsburgh, Duke, Syracuse, UConn, SDSU, 'Nova, and Texas. We'll have to cruch some numbers tomorrow night to see who gets bumped to the 3 line.
Cincinnati will be an 8 or 9 seed next week.
Wow... Florida State gets it done at home. Last week you said FSU's ceiling was a 6... Do you still feel that way?
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1. Nope.
2. He's probably wishing tonight would never end after winning in Syracuse.
3. Over.
4. Not much.
5. Yes, BYU survived. We'll have to wait to see if CSU deserves a bit some other week.
6. Yes, indeed. Bye bye Kansas State, for now.
7. Yes.
8. At least for one game, yes.
9. Minnesota can win on the road, apparently, if it's playing Michigan. Ohio State can win on the road as well, even against a solid Illinois squad. Nope. Michigan State loses again.
10. Yes.
11. Unfortunately, no. Yes—especially after UCLA won against Stanford.
12. Unfortunately not.
13. Looks like it, as Richmond pounded UMass.
14. Probably not.
15. Didn't happen.
16. Maybe, at least for now.
17. I'm glad we don't have to find out.
18. Not if they don't start playing teams better than Longwood.
19. Georgia, yes. Southern Miss, no.
20. Looks like it, for now.
21. Probably, after UCF and Marshall lost in conference again.
22. Nope.
23. Barely.
24. Until Monday.
25. Probably.
26. Absolutely. There was no way they could shoot worse without blindfolds.
What on earth has happened to UCF. Losing at home to Rice??? I've been a big fan of C-USA all year but unless some of these teams can consistently find a way to win in conference they're gonna end up with one tourney team and possibly four teams in the NIT.
The thing about florida State is that half of the battle in a close game is getting stops. Florida State, in my opinion, is the best team in the country at getting stops. Just listening to the commentators talk about the defense, saying of their rotation on defense "that's a good shot against any other team in the country; that's an open shot against any team on bc's schedule, and he couldn't even touch the backboard; this team will be in every game it plays, because they can shut ANYONE down. ". The thing with FSU is that they play a different game than duke, or ohio state, or any of your other top teams. If they shoot 35% against a random team, it's a close game. If they shoot 45%, it's a laugher. Hard to see them losing more than 2 or 3 more.
Where do you predict duke, ohio state, and kansas finishing? I don't see any way duke doesn't get the top overall seed if irving comes back.
- Bracketology 101 said...
Florida State will be in the 6-7 range in tomorrow's bracket.
We still like Duke, Ohio State, and Kansas to ultimately get 1 seeds. The Big East regular season champ (which looks like Pitt right now) will join those teams on the 1 line.
What does Vanderbilt's 19 point blowout win of St. Mary's do for their seed? Am I crazy to think they are the class of the SEC? They very well could be undefeated right now, their 4 losses: 3 point loss to West Virginia, OT loss at Missouri, OT loss at South Carolina, and 3 point loss at UT.
Big East thoughts...
Cincinnati has some good wins... Xavier, Dayton, and @St. John's. Wright State, @Oklahoma, and @Miami(oh) are solid too. I still think 10 Big East wins will do the trick.
St. John's is in trouble with schedule they have ahead of them.
WVU has been hard to figure out but will do enough to get in. They have a bunch of good wins already.
Louisville resume isn't that great, behind both UC and WVU at this point.
Marquette needs some quality wins because they have no wins outside of the league that are going to help them. I believe they will get done at home.
- Keith Bell said...
It seems like the Mountain West is a three bid league right now. Would the Mountain West be a four-bid league if someone aside from BYU, San Diego State or UNLV wins the conference tournament or would one of those teams lose a bid?
- Bracketology 101 said...
Vandy will be in the 5-6 range in our bracket tomorrow after their big win over St. Mary's.
If UNLV finishes in third place in the MWC and someone other than the "Big Three" wins the MWC tournament, the league would likely get four bids.
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So after first seeing this on Miss Jaclyn's blog (thanks Jackie for this!), I had to check this out for myself because I have Freshlook Colored Contacts that needed to be thoroughly cleaned. Despite the fact I rarely wear them because I hate dealing with dryness, re-wetting them, etc. I still like to keep them clean when I am not using them.
So I picked this up at Target after work last week, and before I begin with the tutorial and my review, let me briefly describe how it works. First of all it's NOT a solution you rinse your lenses with before you put your lenses in your eyes, doing this WILL CAUSE STINGING AND BURNING IN YOUR EYES! You also MUST use the lens case it come with ONLY, not the typical lens cases because the case itself is what really cleans and neutralizes the solution to thoroughly clean your lenses and making the solution itself be neutralized so that it's similar to your natural tears, thus preventing burning once it's done. The NEUTRALIZING DISC is what causing the chemical reaction with the solution to clean your lenses. It takes 6 HOURS for it to clean your lenses, after 6 hours you may placed them straight from the case into your eyes. If you plan to not wear them, they can be stored in the case as is for up to a week.
Product: 4 out of 5
Packaging: 5 out of 5
Overall: 5 out of 5
Price: $7-$9, available at most drugstores
PROS: Really does an awesome job at cleaning your lenses, also prevents dryness, no re-wetting needed, made my lenses very comfortable to wear. I like how there is no additional cleaning, you can take it out right from the case and wear them, and NO burning whatsoever! You can WATCH the cleaning magic happen! It works for any types of lenses as well.
CONS: Takes up to 6 hours for it to thoroughly clean your contacts, so if you need to wear them asap, plan accordingly! You cannot interrupt the process so it's important to allow yourself 6 hours before you wear them.
Overall: This is seriously a Godsend! It's pure genius and I am glad something like this exists. I am sure it will help many of you who wear contacts on a daily basis.
Here's how it works:
Place your lenses on the dome and close the basket, make sure it's right on the dome to avoid ripping or tearing your lenses.
Each side is labeled "R" and "L" for right and left...
Fill the container up to the line with the solution:
Place it into the container...
And then watch the MAGIC! PLAY the video to see live action cleaning!
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Product Review & Tutorial: Clear Care Contact Lens Solution (Contact Lenses Cleansing System)
So after first seeing this on Miss Jaclyn's blog (thanks Jackie for this!), I had to check this out for myself because I have Freshlook Colored Contacts that needed to be thoroughly cleaned. Despite the fact I rarely wear them because I hate dealing with dryness, re-wetting them, etc. I still like to keep them clean when I am not using them.
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- Mrs. Lynne, MakeupFix.net said...
Blogger is a POS! Ok, sorry.
I read her entry on that also. I does look really neat and I love the deep frying action you get!
I'll probably pick one up this weekend since we're running low anyways.
- March 14, 2008 at 12:49 AM
- Christiana Divine @ Memoirs of A Shopping Addict said...
ha! that video of the live cleaning action is neat! hehe. :] thanks for posting a review of this. i definitely need this, and it's great because you said it helps with dryness (which i suffer from ALOT which is why i also hardly wear my contacts). :] i need to get me some of this already. hehe. i already have the contact cases too, and they are the right kind because they look exactly like that one and they have the little metal thing in the bottom black neutralizing disc thingy. haha. :P :]
- March 14, 2008 at 12:50 AM
- MrsDiaz said...
Hey Ness,
When I first got contact lenses 13 years ago, (wow that makes me sound so old) my eye doc recommended this stuff. Needless to say, I still use it because it works. Definitely make sure you leave it in there for that 6 hours or it burns like you know what. I've had that happen when I stuck it in my eye too early. Feels like you're burning your retina off.
Anyways, I created a new blog, so update your link. It's www.mschas.blogspot.com I decided I needed to be a beauty blogger as well! Hey you guys are all bad influences on me! hehe
- March 14, 2008 at 12:56 AM
- Elizabeth said...
that looks so cool! But where the hell would i find that in Australia??? Ive never seen that at my target!
- March 14, 2008 at 2:18 AM
- ilurvemakeup said...
I need to get me one of these today! TY!!! :)
- March 14, 2008 at 4:53 AM
- missjaclynrose said...
oooh, i like the live video. your pictures came out great on this! good review.
glad I can help! and glad this works for you.
- March 14, 2008 at 6:25 AM
- Xuanie said...
wow i didnt even know they had something like this. I def need this stuff. My contacts are always drying out my eyes. thanks for the review!
- March 14, 2008 at 7:20 AM
- Anonymous said...
Also, while all of the other contact lens solutions [like optifree, renu, aquify, etc] kill only bacteria, clear care is the only one that kills both bacteria AND fungus! i work at an optometrist office =)
- March 14, 2008 at 8:40 AM
- Tracy said...
i've been wearing contacts for over 10 years now. i was recommended to use b&l renu, but then there was that big scare about it causing eye infections =/. i started using clear care (it's pretty cheap at costco), and i totally vouch for it. it's the best solution i've used, and i've tried out plenty. my vision is so bad, i'm pretty sure i'm close to legally blind. i wear my lenses over 8 hours a day with no discomfort. i would also suggest getting a generic rinsing solution (i also got this from costco... the kirkland brand) just in case. i know what that stinging feels like, and i'm paranoid about it, so i'm always rinsing my lenses before i put them on.
- March 14, 2008 at 9:29 AM
- Linda said...
this is soooo amazing! i had no idea this type of product existed. but it still looks a little hard to use.
- March 14, 2008 at 10:10 AM
- Vanessa said...
Hi Linda, it's not hard to use at all, as you can see in the pics, it's really just popping the lenses in, filling the container with the solution, close and it cleans it by itself.
- March 14, 2008 at 10:19 AM
- soFresh & soPink said...
Hi Vanessa, I use this same lense solution and I love it! It really does the job. And it comes with a little bit of entertainment. =P
- March 14, 2008 at 10:39 AM
- Chiara said...
Holy crap, that stuff looks amazing! I'm going to go get that now!
- March 14, 2008 at 10:40 AM
- Fei said...
I'll def have to get that!!
Girrrrl... Cheesey works. lol! How'd you think Vernon got me. XD
- March 14, 2008 at 10:55 AM
- Bliss said...
Great Review, this is such a nifty device, i gotta try this out :)
- March 14, 2008 at 10:55 AM
- Charlene said...
oh i absolutely swear by this!! As soon as i find them in a drugstore they are sold out...but love this cleaning system. Watching the cleaning, and HEARING the sounds, definetly makes me feel like real cleaning is taking place.
- March 14, 2008 at 12:03 PM
- said...
Wow, that's kinda cool! I've never seen that before but I think I'll check it out next time I run out of my current solution bottle. My contacts tend to dry out too, so maybe this will help.
- March 14, 2008 at 12:10 PM
- MakeupByRenRen said...
i saw this on missjacklynrose's blog too! this doodad is so cool! i would go get it right now but someone stole my identity yesterday and my account is overdrawn...dagnabit!
- March 14, 2008 at 1:59 PM
- (g)ezebel said...
damn, girl. you just made me feel sooooo old. i was using one of those things when i got my very first pair of colored contacts; about 17 years ago...
this is obviously a newer, more improved product. do you know if it can be used for disposable lenses (the week-long kind)?
- March 14, 2008 at 4:30 PM
- MakeupWithLakahna said...
i def got this today and trying it out now, hopefully it will clean it well
what camera do you use because the picture qualities are amazing
- March 14, 2008 at 5:19 PM
- Seymone said...
This is a great review.. I have to pick it up tomorrow. Thanks alot.
- March 14, 2008 at 5:50 PM
- ilurvemakeup said...
I just got this today ^_^
- March 14, 2008 at 6:00 PM
- Anonymous said...
I have been using this for about a year and I love how simple it is. My contacts feel so much better. I did make one mistake though and bought the Target generic version to be cheap. I hate it. The solution is alright but the case is horrible.
- March 14, 2008 at 8:34 PM
- Distinque said...
lol that shit is cool. i agree with lynne it looks like the contacts are getting deep fried.
- March 14, 2008 at 11:10 PM
- Distinque said...
lol that shit is cool. i agree with lynne it looks like the contacts are getting deep fried.
- March 14, 2008 at 11:10 PM
- Sheila Ferrari said...
I've been using this for about a year now and I will never use anything else. It saves me from much irritation.
- March 14, 2008 at 11:28 PM
- Anonymous said...
I wonder if I this can get baby in Singapore or Japan , I've been using contacts for a year or two , I think I started using contacts when I'm 12... I've been using Rohto (a japanese brand) but the clear care contacts lens solution seem like a great baby to use... I think I will try to search for it in Shibuya or harajuku...
- March 15, 2008 at 6:47 AM
- Anonymous said...
I can't find it anywhere? Is that whole name of it? I looked on the Target and Walgreens website and I can't find it, or do they not have it listed online and you can only pick it up in store?
- March 15, 2008 at 12:52 PM
- Nic Nic said...
oo that lens cleaner looks really nifty! I would definitely be interested in buying that, if only it was available here -_-"
I also find Freshlook too drying :S
- March 15, 2008 at 4:58 PM
- IchigoBunnie said...
oo i have that contact solution! It works SO WELL. When I went to my old optometrist, she made me use Opti-Free, which was fine, but then I just switched to some new doctor closer to my house and he told me to this one. OMG now my contacts RARELY itch and bother me...and i love how it bubbles up...when i first got it, i literally stood right in front of it for like 10 minutes staring at the chemical reaction hahahah XD
- March 16, 2008 at 1:03 PM
- Nikki of Vox said...
that is so cool!
I hope i can find that here.
- March 20, 2008 at 9:30 PM
- psychoexgirlfriend said...
LOL, I wish I read this post earlier this week! I bought this and when I went to wet my contact lenses with the solution, my eyes burned and closed shut I couldn't pry my lids open to get the lens out. I promptly threw away the solution, the case and the lenses!
- March 23, 2008 at 9:18 AM
- ' * : . b | u 3 . : * ' said...
i tried this out yesterday, but i found the solution foamed up so much it leaked out of the cap! (which was closed tightly...) Did that happen for you too?
Because it leaked out more of the lens was exposed (out of solution) so I had to add more :S
- March 24, 2008 at 7:11 PM
- Jessica said...
I was just curious....does the clear care affect the color in your color lenses? I wanted to use this but wasn't sure! Thanks so much!!
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Usually I let stupid comments slide for the mere fact that they are based off stupidity and ignorance and heck why entertain such low lifes...but I think that there are people that don't know about other cultures and how or why we do things and think that by asking such a rude question deems them to be high and mighty, so let me break it down...
Q: Wow... how unrealistic. All this for an 18th birthday? Why? What's the big deal? Your family has cash like this to burn on a girl's birthday, fit for a wedding reception, and others are struggling to pay the bills. Huh.
A: Uhhh, it's NOT unrealistic, maybe for you darling, but these kinda parties happen all the time. MTV's "Sweet Sixteen" is a little extreme, featuring spoiled, rude brats who happen to have rich ass parents and their own pony, and have 2 cars as their bday present one for M-F, and one for the weekends. But in real life there are "coming of age" parties such as quinceaneras (when a girl turns 15), bat-mitzvah's (when a Jewish young woman reaches the age of 12 going on 13), Sweet 16's, and for us Filipinos, a debut (when a girl is celebrated as a woman at the age of 18). IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME.
Like I mentioned before, my sister has NEVER asked for anything from me or my parents. She is not the typical teenager that asks for a new car, money, or anything like that. So for my parents and my grandparents to throw her such an amazing party she'll remember for the rest of her life, pales in comparison to how amazing of a person she is. She DESERVES every damn penny that was spent on that party- to me, it was all the years she has NEVER ASKED for stuff. A debut is TRADITION. Everyone celebrates their "coming of age" party in a different way, for me, I had a small party simply because I wanted a car instead, and I got a nice hand me down car that was already paid off (NOT a new car) and I was happy with it. My parents DO NOT spoil us, they never gave us allowance, bought us only the things we needed over the things we wanted, and kept us grounded.
My family does not have "cash to burn", and if they did, who cares, it's their hard earned money...it's called savings sweetie. And honestly my parents have been saving for her extravagant party since they found out my mom was having another girl! LOL, it's a damn tradition to celebrate at 18. Not everyone lives paycheck to paycheck. There's a huge difference between being rich and knowing how to save money. And my money, as well as my family's money is HARD-EARNED money with years of hard work, blood, sweat, and tears. My biggest pet-peeve is when people just assume you are rich or ask me how I am able to afford all this makeup, is it REALLY that hard to believe that there are people that can actually have a really great job and know how to save? Why work so hard and not be able to buy yourself something? I don't know why people care so much when it comes to how other people spend their money, jealousy perhaps???
I know the economy has gone to shit and there are people struggling, but not everyone is struggling and can continue to support their lifestyle- lavish or not. I feel for those of you who are going through hard times right now, I know it's tough. And I know many of you have had to tap into savings to get by and it sucks (I've done this at one time or another myself), and there are people that still have months or years of savings to help get them by, but life isn't going to stop, bills aren't going to stop, you just gotta deal with the cards you are dealt with and remain strong and positive. And if YOU are struggling (this particular person), I am sorry to hear that, but that's YOUR problem, not mine. So I should stop spending MY money or have my parents stop throwing my sisters' a party just because your broke ass is struggling to pay bills??! If you are struggling to pay bills, then why don't YOU work hard and find a better solution to your situation rather than sitting their and complaining about everyone else. Go and find a better job or a better way of making ends meet rather than wasting time leaving ignorant comments when you should worry about paying your bills? :)
Remember kids, hating and jealousy gets you nowhere. Simply channel that animosity into something positive for yourself, allow it to push you and motivate you to create a better life for yourself and be a better person. Anytime I am envious of something or someone, I am complimenting them at the same time inside. I just push myself to get to where they are or to be above them- challenge yourself. The ultimate reward is truly gratifying because you did it on your own without having to put anyone down in the process.
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Usually I let stupid comments slide for the mere fact that they are based off stupidity and ignorance and heck why entertain such low lifes...but I think that there are people that don't know about other cultures and how or why we do things and think that by asking such a rude question deems them to be high and mighty, so let me break it down...
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- Jolina said...
GO VANESSA!!!Well said ;p
- April 6, 2009 at 2:00 AM
- miemiemie said...
omg that is such an annoying question! she's just jealous. and yes, its tradition for filipinos to celebrate a girl's 18th bday with a debut. even for those in the middle class or with little money, people still throw debuts here nowadays. its easy for people to be insensitive like that to comment rudely. but its their opinion anyway and their opinion would never matter.
- April 6, 2009 at 2:17 AM
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- April 6, 2009 at 2:20 AM
- Celly | La Dolce Vita said...
LOL. Well said, Ness...
I'm surprised this person didn't know such things. I smell a moded ass person.
My neighbor flew all the way to Philippines to have her catilion and I guess my mom asked them why so far away - wouldn't it cost more? You know stuff being much cheaper over there, they could go more all out and actually spend less then they would have it here. Anywho, I don't see the big deal of having a big party? If other people are struggling with money - how is that YOUR problem, ya know?
- April 6, 2009 at 2:21 AM
- K said...
Well said! Your family SAVED money so that they could spend it on something IMPORTANT! That is so wonderful!
My father was born poor, and he used to live paycheck to paycheck. Then he met my mother, who showed him all the money he was wasting every month by eating out and spending it on things he couldn't even remember. The result? A better work ethic, a better appreciation for money, and a much better quality of life.
Your sister will certainly remember her party for the rest of her life, just as you surely remember your first car!
- April 6, 2009 at 2:27 AM
- candicenoelle said...
Thank you for this post. As a Filipina I understand the tradition of Debuts and I'm glad you put that ignorant girl in her place. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of for taking pride in your sister's party and as it does take all 18 years to actually save up for such an event - it is all well worth it. It's a shame that whomever left you a rotten message is so pathetic and jealous they can't celebrate such a fabulous time in a young girl's life. I honestly believe that whomever left you that message is just a bitter spoil sport who doesn't get what she wants she has to take others down with her. I'm so happy that your sister and your family had a beautiful ceremony and a fabulous time enjoying a momentous occassion! Lots of love to you
- April 6, 2009 at 2:31 AM
- Jerah197 said...
well said!! jealousy is a major sickness!
- April 6, 2009 at 2:31 AM
- kawaiikao said...
i applaud you!! i was in my friend's debut and you're right!! they start from day 1 once they know they are having a girl!! she took those special dance class lessons since she could walk to do that umm..bamboo dance. it was hardcore...but anyways!! thank you for speaking your mind and standing up for yourself and our family!!
- April 6, 2009 at 2:32 AM
- Anonymous said...
i love your blog, and people shouldn't leave rude comments, but it also kinda sounds like because someone left a negative comment about people with money you're getting a little down on people who don't have money. not everyone can "go to jobs.com" and automatically get a job, because of the economy and other situations. i think that on both ends of the spectrum people should try not to get down on others and respect those who have a lot of money/saved money etc and those who don't. people can spend their earned money on whatever they choose, and it takes hard work, but say someone doesn't necessarily have a lot of money, it doesn't mean they also haven't worked hard or tried themselves. not that you said it's their fault, but by saying "your broke ass" etc makes you sound kind of insensitive. If someone didn't throw them a party that doesn't mean something's wrong with them or they're not "classy." though i can see what you wrote could have been out of anger because they hurt you feelings, and i know you're directing your post at them and not all people who don't have money.
they probably felt bad and so they tried to make you feel bad.
my opinion, thanks.
p.s bar/bat mitzvahs are usually at 13.
- April 6, 2009 at 2:47 AM
- Beauty is Androgynous said...
i didn't expect to see this.
but yeah what a retard.
so ignorant too.
ugh i dont even know what to say about that person's comment!
but u go nessa!
- April 6, 2009 at 2:59 AM
- teeyah. said...
Amen! :) Am a Filipina, too, and it's tradition, no matter how big or small a celebration is. It's your money, your parents' money and most of all, YOUR blog.
I applaud every single sentence you wrote.
- April 6, 2009 at 3:21 AM
- Beauty Counter Direct said...
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- April 6, 2009 at 3:48 AM
- Paint Me Gorgeous said...
omg soo true! everytime someone comments like that when bloggers post hauls just PISSES me off. I SAVE for my makeup, as in I set aside a little every week. Some of these people seriously are POOR, but most are BROKE because they can't save. BIG difference.
- April 6, 2009 at 3:52 AM
- Jo said...
i smell jealousy from that person who left that comment. big time.
when i turned 18. my family planned for me to go to the philippines to celebrate it there. i went to my principal's office to inform her that i would be away for just under 2 weeks for this occasion and she TOLD ME that i should have TOLD her about it first before planning it ... i wasn't there to ask permission whether to have my 18th from my school principal .. i was there to inform her LOL. again. it's because she doesn't understand tradition.
- April 6, 2009 at 4:45 AM
- ♥Leigh♥ said...
Ohh wow! Who ever said that was probably clueless what a DEBUT means for us! It's tradition and she should mind her own business! Gosh! If she has nothing good to say,then better keep it to herself.
- April 6, 2009 at 4:58 AM
- A. Rose said...
Wow. I didn't know that our financial crisis could also make people oblivious to cultural diversity. Clearly that person is having issues if they're getting mad at other people spending THEIR OWN money. Debuts are tradition and are meant to be celebrated extravagantly. Besides, this was your family's hard-earned money and how you use it is your own business.
Yeesh...people these days.
- April 6, 2009 at 5:27 AM
- Amina said...
omg!!I can't believe you received such a mean comment and you've addressed it so well! That party you could see from the pictures that it came from the heart!!! Your sister is so glowing, happy and you have such a beautiful family!!
- April 6, 2009 at 5:36 AM
- B said...
Honestly V....I don't feel like you have to explain anything to anyone. True, the economy is struggling and true some of us live paycheck to paycheck (that's me, yo!) BUT that has nothing to do with those that can afford to give their children beautiful parties. If anything, it should be motivation for the rest of us to save money so that we can do the same for our family members.
You can't MAKE people understand that. You rock on, my sister. But don't pay the haters any mind.
Love you lots!
- April 6, 2009 at 5:40 AM
- Vanessa said...
taintedxlove33- I wasn't being insensitive, perhaps you took it the wrong way, you are right it was directed only to that person and I am aware how hard it is to find a job hence "find a better solution to your situation", regardless, if someone is going through a hard time, I am sorry to hear that but again it's NOT my problem. Overall, this person should not judge my family or how their money should be spent. It has NOTHING to do with the economy or how people are struggling, the basis of the comment was rude in itself and I didn't feel that my response was insensitive because I DO understand that people are struggling because of the economy, but they aren't telling me how to spend my money, THIS particular person was, see the difference? Hence they aren't gaining any sympathy from me.
p.s. If you wikipedia "bat-mitzfah" they mention that it starts at 12. :)
- April 6, 2009 at 6:13 AM
- xppinkx said...
sorry you got barney hats and plates girl....
HI *waves* NESSA!!!! i'll bei seeing your beautiful face soon...how are you dollface!!!
- April 6, 2009 at 6:17 AM
- Askmewhats said...
Well said Nessa! Well said! And true, 18th birthday party is a tradition for our culture. I didn't have an extravagant party but I celebrated it still! True about the economy going down, but we cannot stop people or dictate people on how they spend their money because in the first place..it IS THEIR MONEY! :) It's nice for you to answer this so people who doesn't know get to understand!
- April 6, 2009 at 6:21 AM
- Pau F said...
Nessa, you really shouldn't even acknowledge asshats that question a persons motivation to celebrate. the party looks like it was awesome, all your family looked gorgeous and i thank you for sharing such beautiful moments with your readers.
- April 6, 2009 at 7:10 AM
- KiLLaCaM said...
well said! you really didn't need to explain yourself to this person, they are obviously just oblivious to cultural and traditions.
your sis deserved everything she got that day and then some! she sounds like the ideal daughter and sister :)
- April 6, 2009 at 8:05 AM
- Phamtastic said...
I think you are a very sweet person from the fact I asked a question before and you nicely responded with like three paragraphs! It showed how much you care about your blog-viewers and I understand you must have been very upset when that person even bothered to rudely comment. Like they say, 'if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all'. I hope you got it off your chest!
- April 6, 2009 at 8:11 AM
- Janelle said...
Well said, Vanessa. :) People should be able to spend their hard-earned money however they see fit!
- April 6, 2009 at 8:15 AM
- mayaari said...
AMEN! your sister totally deserved that party - tradition or otherwise :) I opted to celebrate my debut late so that I could go to the Philippines and celebrate with all my relatives - sure it might have cost more for my whole family to fly over there, but it was one of those rare summers when everyone was together. that person obviously didn't take your family's culture into consideration, and the fact that your sister never really asked for anything in her life really shows her character.
- April 6, 2009 at 8:23 AM
- Jaclyn Rose said...
Amen Nessa!
- April 6, 2009 at 8:24 AM
- MAi . said...
damn. i couldn't have said it better myself. I didn't even have a debu. I didn't have enough people and plus.. i didn't want to be the center of attention. i just rathered spend time with the family with a little get together.. but now that my little cousin's is coming up they're splurging on that. but hey, just like your sister, she deserves it. some people just aren't cultured i would have just left them to their ignorance but go you! haha. :D
- April 6, 2009 at 8:25 AM
- ♡ Nic Nic ♡ said...
well said Vanessa!
- April 6, 2009 at 8:31 AM
- Anonymous said...
seriously, jealous bitches and haters these days!! like what u said, ur sister deserves it!!!
- April 6, 2009 at 8:34 AM
- Mets GirLL said...
Good for you Vanessa! To be honest with you, I used to ask the same question about how people can afford all of this makeup, but then I thought who am I to judge? I spend my money on Coach bags and people used to ask me the same thing about those! If people make their own money, it's up to them and ONLY them how they spend it.
- April 6, 2009 at 8:43 AM
- Witty said...
Your response was composed and well said. I believe that person had nothing better to do than to leave a nasty comment on your page. The only thing I'm throwing out there is that you not use the word "retarded" to describe a situation as it is demeaning. For a long time the r-word has slipped under the radar of epithets and we shouldn't be attaching that word to bad situations as it has a stigma. Just a thought...
- April 6, 2009 at 8:45 AM
- Sher said...
LOL I cant believe someone asked that!! Every filipino I know has had a debut except me because I hate being the centre of attention. Also if someone's parents wanna send it on their own daughter, why the heck not? I have no objection to people who spend their own money =p
- April 6, 2009 at 8:46 AM
- AGrlCanMAC said...
You tell her girl! That's what's up!
- April 6, 2009 at 8:48 AM
- Vanessa said...
Witty (Kelly)- I agree Kelly, I should have not used that word at all, I think I was just angry and spewing whatever out at the moment, and constantly hear people use it out of habit (like the word "ghetto"), but you are absolutely correct, thanks for that I am about to edit it. :)
- April 6, 2009 at 8:57 AM
- Robyn @ Purely Cosmetics said...
Jew girl here didn't know anything about debuts, but it makes no difference.
1. If you have the ability to pay for it, what's the issue? Are you supposed to go to Skid Row and hand it out?
2. A lavish party for whatever the reason: wedding, bar/bat mitzvah, debut, sweet 16 is also helping the economy. All the people who were hired to put something like this together are also hurting from the economy. Do you think the florist, caterer, or photographer has not felt the effects of this recession as well? Getting an event is a Godsend to them - they're having just as difficult a time feeding their families as you, taintedlove.
3. Vanessa's sister's birthday was not exactly a surprise. Her family has known for 18 years when the date was. This has allowed them to save for this party for as long as they needed to. For all I know, Nessa's father is independently wealthy, gives thousands of dollars for philanthropic causes, or he could just as easily be living hand to mouth. I can't speak for anyone else, but my child comes first. I will forego necessities for myself to provide for her. If she gets into an Ivy League college (which she won't), I will give up my own luxuries to pay that tuition. I would sell my house and my car if that's what it took. Who's to say that this debut isn't as important to the Garcia family?
4. Just a side note for Nessa - a Bar/Bat Mitzvah may begin at 12, meaning that's the final year of preparation, but yes, they do take place on/around one's 13th birthday. 13, in Jewish tradition, is when one is considered to enter adulthood.
5. I'm getting off my soapbox now!
- April 6, 2009 at 9:04 AM
- Anonymous said...
Well said....
I don't understand why this person had to leave such a flame. It's not her business to tell you or your family how to spend money. Yes, the economy sucks at the moment, but some people are still doing well.
This gal had a choice to continue reading your blog or stop. If something bothered me I'd skip the post or move on.
- April 6, 2009 at 9:11 AM
- MK said...
ha ha ha! Well said Vanessa!
It's normal to be jealous and to envy others but being ignorant and selfish is something else.
- April 6, 2009 at 9:13 AM
- Anonymous said...
There will always be people who want to criticise EVERYTHING you do. Since you can't please everyone just look to please yourself. I think your sister's party was beautiful and you have a warm loving family.
- April 6, 2009 at 9:23 AM
- Vanessa said...
Thank you Candice and everyone else for your 2 cents and support, it's nice to know that many of you can relate as you have experienced these parties yourself and have fond memories of your special day; and know how much time and hard work it takes to pull of such an event. You fully understand that many of our parents never experienced even half of the things they have done for us, and it's their way of showing that they are proud and love us.
Going along the argument of the economy, like Robyn mentioned, caterers, event planners, DJ's, etc, are also suffering from the recession and this crazy economy, and if anything I am grateful that my family was able to somewhat help THEM in the process and stimulate a small source of income for them.
All in all, this was an experience for my sister that I would never take back and I know she wouldn't take it back either for anything in this world because she had a great time with her family and friends and it was well-deserved. And lastly, spend your money how you see fit!
- April 6, 2009 at 9:24 AM
- Anonymous said...
i can't believe someone commented that. but well said vanessa :)
i myself didn't have a formal debut but I still celebrated it. and by far, it was my most memorable birthday. :)
- April 6, 2009 at 9:53 AM
- Makeup Mama said...
I had a cotillion, too. It was a lot bigger than my wedding, but my wedding was really simple. There might be a recession, but it is a tradition, not jsut with filipinos, I mean, it started in Europe. You do with your money what you see fit. I buy makeup, you save...some people do cotillions. Who are we to judge?
- April 6, 2009 at 9:55 AM
- sehr said...
God! This world is full of haters unfortunately. Well said Nessa! Well said :)
- April 6, 2009 at 11:07 AM
- N$A said...
Tell 'em sweetie :]
well said!
- April 6, 2009 at 12:39 PM
- ♥ Kendall ♥ said...
Whoever posted that comment to you is probably not "culturally aware", which sucks for them! Just because people are struggling the world doesn't have to stop. Besides your sisters party HELPED the economy! From the venue where it was held to every detail from the food, decorations, dresses, hair styling.... Think of the trickle down effect, so every penny helped the economy & made your sister happy! Workers were able to get a paycheck, the caters got business and were able to provide food, even the people who cleaned up after had a little more job security.... I'm blabbling, I hate ignorant uncultured aware people!
- April 6, 2009 at 12:50 PM
- Erica said...
You said it just right sweetie! It's not rare to have a coming out party. My quienceanera was really nice :)
- April 6, 2009 at 1:19 PM
- sanniet said...
Great post! Your sis did deserve everything that she has got and you do too!
- April 6, 2009 at 1:23 PM
- Elaine said...
Hiya Vanessa,
I'm a long time reader of your blog but first time poster. I just want to say, well said. It is not anyone's job to judge where you spend your money on. In fact you guys are really saving the economy with your spending! I hope no one in your family got upset by this stupid comment and I'm glad that your sister had an absolutely beautiful party, something she will remember for the rest of her life.
That poster is just very very very jealous of you guys and definitely did not get a party when she SOOOO wanted one. Jealousy is an ugly monster, don't let her drag you down with her!
- April 6, 2009 at 2:04 PM
- Lorina said...
Well, i totally support Vanessa.
I'm italian, and here in italy you throw big parties when you come of age (18, for italian law).
I did.
My bro did.
Mum and dad were happy to spend fot that, and honestly I still remember that day, and it's in my heart.
They didn't spend that much, probabily more than other parents were able to do those days, but that's life, wherever you go you'll find someone that is doing better than you, and someone who's doing worse than you.
And, in italy we celebrate even when we graduate.
I'm 28, don't think i'm unrealistic and old!
- April 6, 2009 at 2:11 PM
- ladystarr said...
wow nessa, that was really powerful! hehe. i love the way you explained everything. hopefully the jealous loser gets it and doesn't leave anymore ignorant comments!
- April 6, 2009 at 3:03 PM
- Honey B. Fly said...
f*ck the JEALOUS haters!!! this entry was very well-said.
- April 6, 2009 at 3:18 PM
- Heidi said...
That reader's question was indeed ignorant and stupid. Kudos to you for telling her off. It's YOUR money and therefore YOUR business to spend it in any way you wish. I can't wait to be financially indepedent so that I can buy "junk" (haha).
I think it's amazing that your sister received such a lavish 18th birthday. She definitely won't forget it.
- April 6, 2009 at 3:20 PM
- only x lindah said...
well said! your money, your decision what to use it for :) and for some it's different
- April 6, 2009 at 3:24 PM
- Katrina said...
Its your money, why not spend it on someone you love? What else do we need it for? Money does not make you happy, it the times you spend together as a family that makes us happy. That right there, was MONEY WELL SPENT!
- April 6, 2009 at 3:57 PM
- javy said...
awesome post, i agree with everything you said, seriously, i cannot even believe someone would post a comment like that about your sisters party, how disgusting.
- April 6, 2009 at 5:02 PM
- Imee said...
what an ignorant bitch! i'm so glad you answered that lady like cuz i know i woulda had a fit! i had a debut as well, and that shit was money well spent. yes we don't have a lot of money, but keeping tradition alive and celebrating it with friends and family [in a very grand way], that shit is priceless to me so i dunno who that bitch thinks she is, but she needs some damn manners!
woooosaaaaahhhhh... ok, love ya nessa!
- April 6, 2009 at 5:19 PM
- babycupcakesz said...
ii love how you handled that "reader question" really well. good for you =D
&& it honestly gets on my nerves when ppl ask me how ii can spend my money for the sake of my own pleasure. ii work for my money && ii think its up to me how ii spend my own money, cuz ii think ii deserve a special something for being able to work that hard.
but fcuk those jealous haters...dem haters are alwaysz gonna hate..
oooh && btw, the party did really looked gorgeous!! =D
- April 6, 2009 at 5:38 PM
- Seymone said...
Hey Vanessa.. Brush that off your shoulders, which I am sure you have already. That email or comment is laced with jealously and envy. Maybe that person is going thru hardship and have mis directed it to you. Your sister'd party was beautiful and I am sure she will remember it for the rest of her life. Keep doing what you do.
- April 6, 2009 at 5:54 PM
- Ingrid said...
Hi Nessa, I'm so with you girl..It's really sad that some people cannot be happy for others..Don't even pay attention to comments like that you have a beautiful family and that's all that matters.
- April 6, 2009 at 6:48 PM
- dorame said...
Well said my sistah!..right on!
Thanks for sharing your sister's debut with your readers--everyone looked beautiful and i bet your sister's memory of her "moment" was priceless! (btw, wayyyy better than mine too!!)
- April 6, 2009 at 9:30 PM
- Captain K said...
I really love how the first thing I "got" from the person asking the question was this feeling of absolute disdain. Seriously, I was like, "Well, what you are is uncultured and ignorant!" Some people value cultural traditions more than they value things like money. I get it, the economy is pretty crappy right now; does that mean we have to stop celebrating these milestones in the lives of those we love? Your sister looked gorgeous and more important, HAPPY in the photos you posted of her debut. I feel badly for whoever thinks spending money to celebrate a person's life is bad.
- April 6, 2009 at 9:40 PM
- _theresa said...
WOW; whoever gave you that comment is so ignorant. It's a coming of age thing; it's not just about being spoiled and dancing in a gown for your birthday. I loved your sister's gown btw [:
- April 7, 2009 at 12:23 AM
- Berryrachel♥ said...
Good job girlie! Usually you do not want to address haters but sometimes some comments NEED a response. I totally agree with the whole its your parent hard earned money and as long as you guys can hold your heads up and say yes I did through this party for my daughter, I also had a quinceñera, and its worth it because it is a chance for your parents and their loved ones celebrate such a happy occasion!
- April 7, 2009 at 1:06 AM
- R.Gálvez said...
Vanessa, don´t listen to that stupid person with no brain at all!!!
People should respect more different cultures. I'm Spanish and I understand you perfectly.
Maybe she should travel more to open her mind a bit....
- April 7, 2009 at 8:37 AM
- R.Gálvez said...
Dear Vanessa,
Do not listen to people who DO NOT RESPECT other cultures. I'm Spanish and I understand you perfectly.
Maybe this person should travel more...
Take Care
- April 7, 2009 at 8:39 AM
- Nádia said...
This is not directed to you, Vanessa, but to some people who have commented. The other reader was downright rude, but some people are going "how can she be so stupid not to know this is absolutely common for the philipine (sp?) culture?". Well, remember that this blog has reader from literally all around the world. I myself am portuguese, and I had no idea it was common to have debuts at 18, and yes, I thought the party was a bit over the top, but whatever, it's not my party, not my money, not my life, so I could care less. I had no idea this was common, this type of stuff just isn't done here. Maybe that girl who posted that comment is from a country where this is also considered too much? That doesn't excuse her rudeness, but that doesn't make her ignorant. Does the fact that I also had no ideia of this make me ignorant and uncultured like some of you said? Because I bet you don't know many things about my culture, for instance, and I don't think you are ignorant for that.
- April 7, 2009 at 8:39 AM
- Vanessa said...
Hi Nadia, you are absolutely correct and thank you for your opinion, you are obviously very intelligent and are not ignorant, and I know there are many of us including myself that do not know about a lot of cultures, I think the basis of this person's remark that was rude was the assumption that my parents had "cash to burn" while insinuating that my sister perhaps did not deserve such an elaborate event while others are "struggling". I took it upon myself to explain that these types of parties happen all the time; not just to MY culture, but in a lot of other cultures as well.
I am assuming she was unaware of debuts in my culture, but the whole basis of being ignorant was at the latter portion of her comment holding MY family accountable for HER struggling to pay her bills.
- April 7, 2009 at 8:47 AM
- ~Mel said...
well said hun! it really does irk ones mind to have such ignorance be displayed all over your comment box. glad to know there are many others who have some semblance of right and wrong and just be sensitive to things such as culture. i'm sure the reader was taught that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. THAT was what i learned growing up here. even if you dont' know others culture, you at least know manners.
- April 7, 2009 at 10:43 AM
- Lily said...
yeah, debuts and cotillions happen all the time. i guess the person who left the comment isn't familiar with coming of age parties.
- April 7, 2009 at 10:54 AM
- Whit said...
Wowww!!! this is surely a heated topic!
First of all:
The recession in our economy has nothing to do with your sister's debut! Come on ppl., have some common sense!
I, simply, cannot STAND when people ask "how'd you buy all of that?," or anything pertaining to money spent on myself or others- it's flat out rude, it's none of anyone's business, and people need to learn how to keep their thoughts to themselves.
Unfortunately, we cannot control other's opinions or comments- however, I am glad you posted this, to let other people know that you won't put up with their sh*t!
Go Nessa!!!
- April 7, 2009 at 11:46 AM
- Anonymous said...
YES! A round of applause to you for that amazingly well-thought-out response. HELL YES was what kept going around in my head as I was reading. Hard-earned money that is carefully saved and also allows you to treat yourself is what I've been doing all this time too. Thank you Vanessa for speaking out. Your thoughts depict what I have felt inside for a long time. =)
- April 7, 2009 at 12:15 PM
- Bridget said...
yeah people are ridiculous. your parents could have been totally poor but had saved for your sister's party for years and years.
and haha I learned what a debut was from Degrassi :P
- April 7, 2009 at 2:07 PM
- Anonymous said...
Take this for what it is worth. Everytime I see your pics, Hauls, parties you go to, etc....I must admit, I get a little green eyed with ENVY!! :-)
But, I see that you work hard for all you have and when I saw pictures of your sisters party- I was like "DAMN! That was better than my wedding." But- at no point did I feel resentment.
Your parents had EVERY RIGHT to throw her that party. I think the person who wrote that did so out of pure sadness that SHE did not get the same thing. People who grow up in low level income families cannot FATHOM why people would throw such parties. Personally, growing up, I never had money. I MADE MY MONEY, and therefore grew to RESPECT MY MONEY.
Also- if the person who wrote that was a parent, which I can tell by her sarcasm she isn't...she would know that a parent who LOVES their child will do ANYTHING to make them happy. I know I would, even if it means skipping my next trip to MAC so that my son can have what he wants/needs.
So, Nessa...yes, you make some of us just a tad jealous, but in a GOOD way!! You show a possiblity of what we CAN do. Don't stop being you or living your life! I adore you- and all the MAKE-UP that comes with you!!
- April 7, 2009 at 2:30 PM
- Vanessa said...
Thank you LOVEBIRDS!!, I truly appreciate your honesty and I am glad that you can see the sacrifices a parent makes for their child and how their happiness is a priority. I totally feel you on that, even though I do not have kids myself, I am the eldest and my younger siblings are like my kids and I know I would do anything for them. So thank you for that, your comment was very inspiration and a fresh breath of air!
- April 7, 2009 at 2:40 PM
- Nanzy said...
Ok, so I'll be the 75th person who's gonna say this but, BITCH IS JEALOUS!!! hahaha
Still surprises me how people can be very rude & insensitive sometimes...don't you waste your energy, Nessa ... your sis looks fab, the party look fab.... dang you ALWAYS look fab!! =) cheers~
- April 7, 2009 at 2:42 PM
- Citrine said...
Yeah, your reply is pretty well said...why would she have a problem when it's not even her money?
- April 7, 2009 at 4:25 PM
- Rachel said...
I think it's really brave of you to put your life out there, so people are always going to hate...even if it wasn't a party they'd find something else. I think we need to stop judging other people and how they spend their money and be responsible with our own and happy with ourselves. If someone doesn't understand a culture, they can ask a question without sounding critical.
I hope to one day be able to do my makeup half as good as yours...love your blog!
- April 7, 2009 at 4:53 PM
- bren said...
Hi Vanessa,
Man wat haters!!! Please Vanessa, don't stop posting or sharing the bee-yu-tiful pictures that you and your talented family take. I love reading your blog and have learned sooo much. These haters are just jealous of you, I guess that's a compliment, in a strange kind of way. You're parents are sooo lucky to have grateful, well-mannered, intelligent and beautiful children. Please keep blogging, and don't let those stupid haters ever discourage you. The people who really love your blog, which means that we really really like you too, lol, far outnumber the haters.
- April 7, 2009 at 7:43 PM
- kanitab said...
This person should go live in a communist country. I personally haven't been affected much by the "recession" and although I know that there are people who are affected by it, I feel like it is being kind of exaggerated and the idea of it is being used by companies to sell more. Every freakkin commercial on TV talks about how you should buy their product/service because of the recession. I also think that some people (perhaps this person) are using the recession as an excuse to not better themselves. Regardless, there are always poor and rich people, and those who work hard or don't in both categories --but the bottom like is that you spend your money however you want and to make yourself happy-- and even if you wanted to help others you really couldn't help everyone. I think that your emphasis on that it's not your problem is a really good point. Not that we shouldn't help others, but it is survival of the fittest out there and there's no communism in the US.
- April 7, 2009 at 11:31 PM
- Liza said...
I totally agree with you!! My parents threw me a debut as well and my parents save their money and they worked really hard for the money. And because of this, others think that i'm hella rich and stuff, and i hate when people say that because we don't get money just like that, especially for my parents, they work long and hard to give us what we need. but yea, that was really rude of that person to judge like that.
- April 7, 2009 at 11:59 PM
- Makeup Mews said...
I think that person was speaking with jealousy. I would say to not let it bother you too much but honestly, I'm annoyed right along with you. Everything you said is right. Plus, who the hell cares if your parents are rich or saved or didn't save & put it on their credit card?? They are free to do whatever the hell they want with their money!
- April 8, 2009 at 10:44 AM
- Anonymous said...
I'm a huge fan of your blog and check it daily, and I was highly annoyed with this person's comment as well. I applaud you for handling it so well, making so many valid points. Whether or not this person does or does not have money to spend on "extra" things in life, they obviously don't understand and were speaking out of turn! Your parents did a wonderful job making your sister's debut special (and didn't they HELP the economy in the process?The businesses they paid in the process needed the income as well!)
- April 8, 2009 at 11:16 AM
- Leizel Jayne ♥ said...
oh yess you said it girl ! i applaud you for your classy response =) and i totally agree with the whole "saving money" thing , seriously life just doesn`t have to be about paying the bills . besides it`s tradition for us filipinos right ?! some people need to get their head around issues and understand the meaning behind them rather than making assumptions ..
- April 10, 2009 at 3:42 AM
- Anonymous said...
you go girl, i totally agree, damn haters..! lol (:
- April 12, 2009 at 5:57 PM