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Micaire is wanting to have a baby, but she's afraid that she will forever lose the fit, toned, and well exercised body she's worked so hard to achieve. Micaire is a Chiropractor, has lots of nutrition knowledge, and she knows how to take care of herself, yet her concerns around gaining weight and having stretch marks on her body are getting in the way of starting a family.
She wants to figure out this conundrum but simply doesn't know how. Tune in to this intriguing and challenging podcast episode as Marc David, Founder of the Institute for the Psychology of Eating provides some direct, potent, and memorable insights and suggestions to help Micaire move forward and embrace a bigger destiny.
Below is a transcript of this podcast episode:
Marc: So welcome everybody! Here we are in the Psychology of Eating podcast. And I'm here today with Micaire. Welcome!
Micaire: Hi!
Marc: Hi!
Micaire: I should say aloha.
Marc: You should say aloha because you're in Hawaii. And what a great place to be. I was saying I lived there for a number of years and in Colorado now. But, wow, do I miss the ocean and just having amazing weather every day. So you've been there how long?
Micaire: I've been here eleven years.
Marc: And you have an interesting profession.
Micaire: I do. I'm a chiropractor. So I've been practicing since I've been in Hawaii.
Marc: Wow! Good for you. My dad was a chiropractor. He graduated chiropractic school back in 1952. And talk about the old days, right. Yeah, he was at the beginning of the wave when it first hit. So, yeah, I've been getting adjusted since I was a little kid.
Micaire: Birth.
Marc: Pretty much. So here's what we're going to do. We are going to have a session today. And the idea of this session is to take six months to a year's worth of what would be coaching and condense it into a short amount of time so we can turbocharge the situation and help you get where you want to go really quick.
Micaire: Okay.
Marc: So I'm going to take a whole different approach that I normally would with a typical client session because I'm going to just, at some point, I'm going to ask you questions and then after about twenty or thirty minutes, I'm going to start to give you ideas and feedback and suggestions for how to move forward and really get where you want to go. So it's like pushing the fast forward button on transformation.
Micaire: Awesome!
Marc: Yeah, sounds good? Great!
Micaire: Yeah, yep.
Marc: So, Micaire, tell me what's the main concern or challenge that you would like to work with?
Micaire: Let's see. On my application, I was talking about a variety of different things. I've never been overweight. I've never weighed more than 134 pounds. But some of the things that have come up through being a chiropractor was my incessant need to test out any nutrition programs before I would recommend them to my patients.
And, therefore, I've done HCG. I've done the Master Cleanse. I've done UltraClear. I've done three medical-grade cleanses over the last, let's say decade and just finding out my why, why that so important to me. People need to cleanse more than…Let's say overweight people need to cleanse, perhaps, more than somebody who has six pounds to lose, you know.
So it's translated to some body image issues for me. So I'm thirty-seven right now and contemplating having a family. It's almost embarrassing to say. But we're speaking candidly. So I'm concerned about the changes that my body is going to go through through pregnancy. Will I ever be content with how it looks afterwards? Like consciously having a family is important to me. However, superficially, I'm a little bit intimidated almost about, "Can I ever achieve contentment with my body after that major change?"
Marc: So the fear is you would gain weight or the fear is you would have stretch marks or age or what would the fear be?
Micaire: Yes!
Marc: All of it!
Micaire: All of the above.
Marc: Uh-huh. Yeah. Yeah. So that's the challenge. How long has this been circulating in your mind?
Micaire: I would say all of my childbearing years.
Marc: Wow! So…
Micaire: Yeah, this is something I've been thinking about for a long time.
Marc: Mmm hmm. Are you married?
Micaire: No. But I'm in a serious relationship.
Marc: And does he want to have kids?
Micaire: Mmm hmm.
Marc: Mmm hmm. And have you discussed this with him at all? Like what your concerns are?
Micaire: I have.
Marc: And how does he respond? I'm interested.
Micaire: He's very supportive. He says, "I love your body no matter how it is," and essentially like it will be worth it to step into the unknown so that we can create the family that we want.
Marc: So how does that land for you when he says that?
Micaire: It feels great. I just don't know that I believe it full heartedly.
Marc: Mmm hmm. How many kids do you want to have?
Micaire: I just, chronologically, probably only have time for one.
Marc: Ideally?
Micaire: Two.
Marc: And how about your mom, was she ever concerned about her body or her weight, her body image that you're aware of?
Micaire: For sure, I remember her never being satisfied with her weight. One time, specifically, I remember her…We were out somewhere. And maybe I was eleven or twelve. And there was a group of overweight women walking by. And she asked, "Am I as big as they are?" And I knew what the right answer was to please my mom. But I said, "Yes." And she got so mad at me. But I definitely think I've inherited some of this concern from my mother, for sure.
Marc: Yeah. Is she still alive?
Micaire: She's not. She actually passed away from colon cancer when she was fifty-five. So I was twenty-one at that time.
Marc: Wow. And in your recollection, before she died was there ever a point where she had made more peace with her body, her body image, her weight?
Micaire: I can only assume, yes. But, I mean, when she was going through her treatments, she probably dropped forty pounds. So that was the smallest she had ever been.
Marc: But I mean before the cancer.
Micaire: I don't think so.
Marc: And to your mind, when you think about your mom and you think back to those times…I'm just really interested in the mother-daughter relationship. Do you think to yourself, "Wow, my mom really messed me up when it comes to my body or whatever," or, "Eh, whatever. Who cares?" What's your thought about that?
Micaire: My thought is acknowledgement of where the source may have come from, but not blame, and acceptance of the suggestions that were put in front of me at an impressionable age. But like I said, not in a blamey fashion.
Marc: Sure. Good for you. So let me ask you this question. If you could go back in time and have the maturity that you have now and speak to your mother as if you were her advisor—so you weren't her daughter, you were just her advisor—and tell her some tips for dealing with her daughter when it comes to raising a daughter with just a healthy relationship with her body, what would you have said to her?
Micaire: What I really want to impart onto my daughter or young girls now is to be happy with the body that you're given. All your parts work. You're beautiful. Let your beauty come from the inside out. So not such a superficial, topical beauty, but the beauty from your heart.
Marc: And here you are as a practitioner. Do you see a certain kind of patient population?
Micaire: I see a lot of Cross Fitters and a lot of pregnant moms.
Marc: Wow! Fascinating! Almost like two sides of your brain in a weird way.
Micaire: Exactly! Yeah. Exactly!
Marc: And have you noticed the pregnant moms that you see…What have you noticed in terms of their relationships with their bodies, any themes or anything that leaves you with any kind of impression?
Micaire: I'd say for first time moms, I'm more concerned about, "Oh I feel fat. And my clothes don't fit anymore." And when people are having their second or third baby, they're more at peace or they know what to expect more. They just seem like, "Ah, I got this. It's not a big deal that my skinny jeans don't fit anymore." They're happier, I think.
Marc: So the ones who are the second timers, they sound like they've been around the corner. And they're more relaxed. And they're more chilled.
Micaire: Yeah.
Marc: Yeah. Interesting. Now, how about the Cross Fitters? Are they mostly men, women, both?
Micaire: Both.
Marc: Would you say for the women, what percentage of your women Cross Fitter patients have children or a child?
Micaire: Probably like eighty percent. Most of them.
Marc: Wow! Yeah. And what do you imagine or do you notice anything about the Cross Fitters? Their relationships with their bodies, especially for the women?
Micaire: Not so at peace.
Marc: Really?!
Micaire: Yeah. So I feel like in their Cross Fit community, you get accolades for still lifting heavy when you're in your last trimester or still being able to do pull-ups when you have a full-term baby. And to me, it doesn't make sense. I want to support people where they're at. But knowing that I'm so ingrained in that population because I do Cross Fit myself, when I'm pregnant I don't want to be a gym rat. I want to be more zen and at peace and be okay, like "All right" with twenty-thirty extra pounds or whatever comes. That it's no longer my desire to be able to workout at that level.
Marc: Have you decided…And by the way, just, Micaire, for you to know and people listening, part of my style is I like to jump around. So there's actually a method to the madness here, even though the questions may seem unrelated. Do you have brothers or sisters?
Micaire: I have two brothers.
Marc: Two brothers and are they older, younger?
Micaire: One each.
Marc: One each. How are they with their relationship with their bodies?
Micaire: My older brother is not content with his body at all. He's gained a lot of weight. In his mind, he's still the soccer playing high schooler with a six pack. But in reality, he looks more like our dad. My younger brother is in the Army. So he's more toned. And he's eight years younger than my older brother.
Marc: I'm going to bounce back to kids and pregnancy for a second. Have you decided already that you're going to have a kid?
Micaire: I'm at like ninety percent.
Marc: Ninety percent. What would put you to a hundred?
Micaire: Oh, I guess more…Because I own my own business, knowing that I had the financial support. I'm in Hawaii so my family is not on this island. So, I guess, making sure my tribe of women friends is prepared for stepping in where family members couldn't.
Marc: So ninety percent there. And to what percentage does the piece about, "Oh, my goodness. I get pregnant. I give birth. I might not lose all the weight. My body might not be super fit or toned anymore," what percentage does that kind of interfere with, "Okay, I'm ready to have a baby."
Micaire: Mmm, I'd say probably a third. I said ninety percent. So sixty percent financial and thirty percent body stuff.
Marc: Got it. Got it. Got it. Okay. So it definitely impacts you. And by the way, I really appreciate you being so honest and open about this because, to me, this is a personal issue that you're talking about. But the truth is I've heard this so many times.
And you are speaking the voice of so many women. You're giving voice to a lot of women who might not say this. But it eats away at them. And to me, you are very wisely looking in the mirror and saying, "Wow! This is impacting me. And I know there's a better way. But I haven't kicked its butt yet. It's still affecting me."
Micaire: Exactly!
Marc: So I just want to say that that is so honorable. And it's so important because, to me, that's how we transform. That's how we grow. We're willing to look at the places where you want to scratch your head and go, "Gosh! This doesn't seem like the right way to think. But, wow."
Micaire: Yeah.
Marc: "Why am I thinking this way?"
Micaire: Like almost like I'm too smart for this. But I don't know how to move past it.
Marc: Yeah, Micaire, I love that you said that. "I'm too smart for this. But I don't know how to move past it" because I really think that's accurate. I really mean that. And I say that also because I meet so many women and men when it comes to body image and their relationship with food where they are smart. And there's especially certain places in their life, they're professional. They're accomplished. They're educated. Or they know about life. And yet there's this little piece that circulates in the mind that stops us.
So I'm pointing that out because one of the reasons why you're smarter than this and it still has you is because it's sort of bigger than you and it's bigger than us. This whole thing about, "My body has to be perfect!" is a big free-floating…It's like a parasite that circulates in the environment. And we catch it. And you probably caught it very young.
And, in fact, you said it. You said at some point, "Wow! Certainly in my child-bearing years, here I am having this fear." I've traveled around the world going to a place like Africa. Most African women, this concept that you're talking about, it would never come into their mind. They wouldn't even dream about it. But you and I, we're the products of a very different culture.
And so what I'm saying is that in a strange way what you're battling right now isn't your fault. It's not like you, Micaire, have this deficiency or you have this weakness. Young girls have this viral belief, "My body has to be perfect." Young boys are getting that same viral belief, "My body has to be perfect." And once you catch that virus, it is hard to get rid of.
And that's why we're having this conversation where we're exploring. That's why I do the work that I do, really looking at how do we get to the heart of the matter and adjust this? You're a chiropractor. You look at the body and you go, "Okay, what do I need to adjust here so that the system finds its natural place?" So we're looking at what needs to be adjusted here so the system finds its natural place.
So what I want to say is you have this virus that's landed in your system called, "I have to have this perfect body. And oh, my God, if I get pregnant, that's going to interfere with it somehow, potentially, which then means I'm screwed, which then means I'm unlovable. I'm going to be miserable. And essentially, life is going to suck!"
Micaire: People won't like me anymore. [Laughs]
Marc: Absolutely! "We used to like you when you had six-pack abs. But now that you don't, eh. I'm going to go to a different chiropractor. I want a chiropractor who has less body fat." Right? That's the kind of nonsense that can grip the mind.
So I want to say a couple of things. I was asking you about your mother's relationship with her body because, in part—and it's never about blaming our parents, never ever about blaming your parents. I'm glad you don't—but we inherit what we inherit from our parents. You have half of your mother's and half of your father's DNA. So we inherit from them. So that's just the way it is.
We inherit a lot of their patterns. We inherit a lot of their beliefs. There are certain beliefs and patterns that your parents had that you didn't inherit—you rejected. And you evolved in a different direction. So I think part of what we are here to do is be better than the generation before us. Not because there's something wrong with them, but because life has us getting better. Life has us evolving. Life is calling us to improve. And that's what you're doing.
So I asked you if you could go back in time and talk to your mother as a consultant with the wisdom you have now, what would you tell her about raising a healthy child or a healthy daughter. And you said—and I'm going to paraphrase—you would tell her, "Hey, just love your body. And it's okay as it is. And it doesn't have to be perfect." And you want to impart that to your child.
And if you don't tackle this and handle this for yourself, somebody's going to be interviewing your daughter on a podcast thirty years from now. And she's going to be having the same body image issues. And somebody's going to ask her, "What would you have liked to tell your mom?" meaning you.
Micaire: Right.
Marc: So this is all about you upping your game so you're not raising a kid with a handicap that you weren't able to kick its butt with. So this is you doing something for your future children. And you're doing it for you, for sure, so you can be liberated. But you're also doing it for your kids—boy or girl or boys or girls—so they can have the advantage of growing up with a healthy relationship with their body so that they could be more free.
So, essentially, one of the pieces, to me, that you're being asked to do is to take your own wise advice because you gave some very wise advice when I asked what would you tell your mother if you could go back in time. And there it is right there. So it becomes a practice.
If you had a patient that came in and they weren't taking care of themselves, they weren't taking care of themselves with exercise, they were eating a lousy diet, and if they said to you, "Ah, you know, I just can't seem to exercise. And I just can't seem to follow the right food." You'd probably say, "Hey, come on, you got to do this."
Micaire: For sure!
Marc: You'd give them a little pep talk because there's this weird zone between what we need to do and doing it. Right now, you're at that cliff's edge of what you know you need to do—jumping over that cliff onto the other side—and doing it. So that's where you're poised right now.
And what I want to say is one way to kind of fast forward this process is for you to simply choose, "I'm going to have a baby a hundred percent." And have that conversation with your partner. "Let's have a baby."
There's a book. And I'm embarrassed to say I never read it. But it's been one of the most influential books in my life. And I've never read it because the title is so good. And the title of the book is called Feel the Fear—
Micaire: and Do It Anyway.
Marc: and Do It Anyway, right?
Micaire: I've heard of that.
Marc: Have you ever read the book?
Micaire: No.
Marc: See. [Both laughing] I hope the person who wrote that book is a millionaire. I apologize to that author because I never read it. But it's a brilliant title. And it's a brilliant concept. And that's what I think you need to do is to feel the fear and do it anyway.
That's what you're doing a lot of times when you're exercising and you're going beyond your limits. "I don't know if I can do this. I don't know if I have the endurance or the strength or the ability to do this workout." You feel the fear. You acknowledge the fear. And you do it anyway.
So you are afraid of what's going to happen to your body. And legitimately, because there's a darned good chance that after you give birth, your body's going to change. Some part of your brain has looked around the environment and sees that we change. And, in fact, it is predictable that between this moment right now and the time you die, your body's going to change, whether you have zero babies or fifteen babies, your body's going to change. It's going to get old. It's going to get wrinkly. And it's going to die at some point. As far as I can tell that's what seems to happen to everyone.
So there's a place where for you and for all of us who are facing this kind of thing—for people listening in here, whether it's a woman contemplating having a child and having the same concerns or just anybody worried about, "Oh, my God, what's going to happen when I get older?"—don't worry about what's going to happen when you get older because you know what's going to happen. We actually know. We're going to get a little slower. We're going to get a little more wrinkly. And at some point, we're going to just keel over. And we'll be done with it.
So there's a place where life is asking us to mature. So you're being asked to grow up from being a girl to a woman. And there's a part of you that is wanting to make that shift from girl consciousness in this department. So there's places in your life I'm going to bet where you're very much in woman consciousness, meaning adult consciousness as a woman. There's certain places where you handle life really well. And there's certain places where you're going to be more in girl consciousness. This is one of them.
And it's not personal because so many women…I meet women in their fifties and sixties and seventies. I meet women in their seventies. I work with them who still want to lose five pounds and ten pounds—for what?!—what is the point? Are you going to go to the grave and your last dying thought is that you want to lose five pounds. There's something more to life than that. And part of it is getting with the program.
So one of your homework assignments is to begin to take your own advice. And this is almost like I'm asking you to take on a project. It's like an exercise. It's like a workout. And the workout is called stepping into my womanhood. And even though there's going to be the fear, even though you have the legitimate fear, choose to have a child. You're ninety percent there, anyway. Make the choice. Feel the fear. And do it anyway.
Micaire: Okay.
Marc: What do you think would happen if you just made that choice today? Theoretically, if you made the choice today, "I am going to do this, even though I don't know exactly what's going to happen with my body, even though, I'm still afraid." What would happen if you told your partner that, "I'm making this choice? I'm a hundred percent."
Micaire: I think a certain amount of peace because I have been back and forth for…I don't know. Even with—I'm divorced—but even with my ex-husband, even in my three years of being single, I would still…When I was single, I was trying to, I guess, convince myself that if I don't have a family and kids, I'll be fine. I'm independent enough. I've got my career going. I have tons of friends and love doing…I don't know. I have a lot of hobbies.
But when I found the right partner, I wanted to more fully accept that "Hey, this is really what I want." And now that I have it, it's like, "Why would I hold myself back from getting what I've always wanted?"
Marc: Mmm hmm. So well put. So this is what you want. The only thing stopping you is, in part, this little nagging fear. And make the choice, feel the fear, do it anyway. When you moved to Hawaii, was there any fear there about what's going to happen? Is this going to work? Did you have any concern?
Micaire: Well, I actually didn't. When I first came, I didn't really have any intentions of staying. So I was…
Marc: Yeah. How about when you…
Micaire: Go ahead. Go ahead.
Marc: How about when you started your practice, did you have any fear?
Micaire: Oh for sure. Yeah.
Marc: Okay. But you did it anyway?
Micaire: Mmm hmm.
Marc: Same thing. So now your practice is working for you. It's supporting you. It sounds like you're doing some good work and you're helping people. You felt the fear and you did it anyway.
Micaire: Mmm hmm.
Marc: This is one of those moments. And I really want you to think in terms of, "This is me, Micaire, growing up and stepping into my womanhood." Because there's a place where when we're in young woman or young girl consciousness, we want approval from the outside. "Oh, you look so beautiful!" "Oh, you look so pretty." "Wow! Look at how fit you are. Wow!"
And when we're young—for boys and girls—we seek approval. We want to know from the outside world, "Am I good enough? Am I loveable?" So a human being needs those messages. When you're given those messages from youth, from the time you're a child—"You're loveable. You're good enough."—we grow up feeling loveable and good enough.
When we don't get those messages, we're in a lot turmoil. And there's a lot of humans walking around in misery and suffering because they think they have to have a different body. And here you are. I'll guarantee you that there's a lot of people out there, there's a lot of women out there that wish they had the body you do.
Micaire: I acknowledge that.
Marc: Yeah. And they're probably thinking right now, "Wow! What's she complaining about. I wish I had that body." And the truth is it doesn't matter what kind of body you have. Have you seen people with such a great "perfect body," particularly women, and they're still not confident?
Micaire: Yeah.
Marc: And they're still not happy. And they're still being like, "Oh, I've got to just change this."
Micaire: For sure.
Marc: It's crazy! It's a form of insanity. Really, it's a form of insanity that we accept as normal. To me, it's a form of insanity that somebody is getting kudos because you're in your ninth month of pregnancy and, yeah, you can still do pull-ups.
Micaire: Yeah.
Marc: Wait a second. Let's relax a little bit. I don't think nature wants us in that kind of stress response when we're ready to have a baby.
Micaire: For sure. So this is some evolution I've done on my own. For my past seven birthdays, I've made a goal that I would have a six pack by…My birthday's in the fall. So every year I'm hitting the gym, getting strict with my nutrition, and just this year—so I have a little bit of woman consciousness about this—I sat down with myself. And I tried to identify why is that so important to me?
And it came to me that, "Oh, no. The desire for a six pack is purely ego based." And it no longer felt right to make that my goal. So I have abandoned the seven-year goal of having a six pack. Now the goal is to love whatever stomach I have, ripples or not.
Marc: What a beautiful thing!
Micaire: Yeah.
Marc: What a beautiful thing because the body is the body. And what happens when your baby pops out and your baby has this thing called baby fat? Are you going to look at your baby and say, "Ugh, you know, I'm sending this back. I want a baby with a six-pack abs and three percent body fat."
Micaire: Some guns.
Marc: Right. You're not going to do that. It would sound absurd. The body does what the body does. There's a wisdom to life. There's a wisdom to the universe. And I love how you said, "I realize that having a six-pack ab is about ego." And, yeah, it's fine to have that goal. There's a lot of goals that we can have that re totally fine that's very personal and that might be based on ego.
And then the question is we have to ask ourselves, at some point, "Does this goal truly serve me? Is it truly serving me?" Because sometimes, yeah, there's people out there who need to spend a lot of time exercising their brains out and sculpting their body the way they want to do. That's okay.
And it's useful to examine, "What the hell am I doing? What the hell am I thinking? Does this work for me? Does this work for those around me? And is it a good use of my life energy?" Because let me tell you, creating six-pack abs for a huge amount of people takes a lot of life force and a lot of life energy. And is that where you want to be spending it?
Micaire: No.
Marc: Yeah. So loving your body…And most people don't realize this because they haven't had the experience. But when you make the shift from conditional love of your body…Conditional love of the body means, "I will only love my body when it looks like this, this, this, this and it weighs that. And my hip shrink and my butt this and my legs that." When we go from conditional love of the body to unconditional love, magic happens.
Your partner…And I actually believe him. By the way, here's my bias. Women don't understand men fully. Men don't understand women fully. We tend to think really different. It's mostly the women of the world who are going, "Oh, my God, I've got to lose two pounds or three pounds or five pounds." The men of the world—when your man tells you—"Honey, I love you just the way you are," he's telling you the truth! He's not spending five hours a day or ten hours a day obsessing about your belly like you are.
He's not wasting his time. He just wants to get in bed with you and play. And he wants to have fun. And he wants you to love your body because he knows that if you love your body, it's going to be fun to be with you. It's going to be fun to be with you in a physical, intimate, sexual way because you're loving your body.
And if you're with a man who is going like, "Honey, I don't want to be with you unless you have six-pack abs," if you're with that guy, I highly suggest you consider getting rid of him.
Micaire: [Laughs]. I'm definitely not!
Marc: And I've met a few of those guys. And honestly I wouldn't have my best woman friend date them. There's no way. You'll be living in misery. And the reason you're with a guy like that is you're here to learn from that.
So in a lot of ways, here's another homework assignment that you might want to consider. And I'm going to send this to you in an email. Another homework assignment to consider is to tell your partner, "Listen, I had this great session. And this weird guy Marc says that every night before we go to bed, you have to say some compliments to me about my looks and my body. And my job is to take a deep breath and relax and take it in and believe it and absorb it."
Micaire: Mmm hmm. Well, I feel like he does that. He's really good at compliments. And I never tell him he's wrong. I'll never say, "Oh, no. This is too this," or whatever. I say thank you maybe because I think that's the right thing to do.
Marc: Yeah. So what I'm saying is take the next step, which is don't be polite about it. Really take it in. Think of the times…Can you remember times when you've sincerely complimented someone and you know they didn't take it in? You know they deflected it. You know they didn't really let it go into their system.
Micaire: Mmm hmm. I call people out on that, particularly, my patients.
Marc: How would you do that? What might you say to them?
Micaire: Mmm hmm. If I compliment them and they reject it, I'll say something like, "Okay, now say something nice about yourself."
Marc: Mmm hmm. So there you go. So this is a great case of you taking in your own medicine. And you can't fake it. There's no faking it. It's kind of like a relaxation. It's relaxing and letting go and absorbing the compliment, which is really relaxing and letting go and loving your own body. A lot of exercise like Cross Fit is a lot of doing. It's doing. It's doing. I'm doing stuff. I'm doing stuff! And that's fine.
But we have to live in a world of polarities and opposite and balance. So we have wake and we have sleep. We have night and we have day. We have work and we have play. We have doing and we have being. So, okay, you're doing stuff to make your body this, that, the other thing. Now you have to have time to be with your body and love it up no matter where it is and where it's at. You are doing that for yourself. But you're doing that for your child.
Because otherwise, if you don't start to handle this head-on and tell yourself, "Okay, I'm now ready to graduate." It's not going to happen overnight. "But I'm choosing to graduate. I'm going to have a baby. And I'm going to get there. I'm going to get to the place where eighty, ninety, ninety-five percent of me loves my body."
Are we going to ever be perfect? "Oh, I love my body a thousand percent every moment, every day." Maybe. But I'm going to say we're not shooting for perfection. We're shooting for like eighty, ninety, ninety-five percent. And this is the legacy that you can pay forward to the world so that we're creating a world where we have empowered people. And we're not running around doing crazy nonsense to perfect the body. And we never get to perfection.
Wow! What's that?
Micaire: Did you hear birds?
Marc: Yeah. Are they outside the house or inside?
Micaire: [Laughs]. They are right outside that window.
Marc: Okay. So that feels like the wisdom of nature confirming everything I just said. That's how I'm taking that. It's kind of like a sign from the universe that, "Yeah, we've got to do this."
I'd also like you to do something else. I would really love for you to start to observe old women in a different way. I really want you to start to notice women of all ages, in particularly, fifty, sixty, seventies and really take them in and really start to see, "Am I going to be that old someday?" How old do you want to live till?
Micaire: Mmm, let's say eighty-eight.
Marc: Nice. Okay. So you're going to be eighty-eight. And an eighty-eight year old woman is probably going to have some gray hair. She's probably going to be a little wrinkly and probably going to have a little less muscle tissue than one who's thirty-four.
So wouldn't it be interesting to start to notice the future you and say, "Yeah, that's going to be me." And just start to kind of bless the older women. It's not easy being a human being alive on planet Earth. There's a lot of difficulties whether you're a woman, whether you're a man. There's parts of aging that sucks. It's not fun.
And at the same time, there are parts to aging that are absolutely priceless and that are amazing because we can grow in wisdom. We can grow in spiritual wisdom. And we can grow as spiritual beings. We can be powerhouses of love. And we can be powerhouses of magic. And if we're worried about our bodies and how they look and all that nonsense, we'll never step into our true power.
So I just want you to start to love just inside your mind. Look at the old women. And see if you can look at them through the eyes of love and through the eyes of honor and respect because if you want to be eighty-eight, then that's very similar to the journey you're going to be on.
Micaire: Okay.
Marc: How does that land for you when I say that?
Micaire: My first thought was, "Wow, I really don't spend a whole lot of time with that population." And I don't know if that's by choice or just coincidently. But, yeah, that's not my patient population at all. And when I do, let's say, volunteer projects, I would be more drawn to working with kids than with seniors. So, hmm, there's something there.
Marc: There is something there. It's something to think about. And even if you're not working with that population, at the very least, I want you to notice them at the supermarket. I want you to notice them on the street. I want you to notice them wherever you go as if they are part of your world and part of your community because they are.
And if you're going to be eighty-eight, you're going to be that person. And the more we embrace all the age groups, I think in a strange way, the more we set ourselves up to be seen and loved and considered when we're that age because old people get invisible in our culture. We kind of want to push them to the side. We worship youth and we worship beauty. And that's fine. It's fine to do that. But can we worship the golden years, as well?
Micaire: Yeah.
Marc: Can we worship aging? And let's worship all of it because it's worthy of it. So that would be a very powerful way for you to start to evolve yourself out of these crazy little fears that don't belong to you. They've infected your system. That we are now saying, "Okay, we're going to mount an immune response against these thoughts that disempower us, that disempower me, that can disempower my kids, that disempower my patients, my loved ones. And we're going to change the world and start to support each other as human beings who are doing something really different, meaning reaching our potential without this nonsense being in the way."
Micaire: Yeah. When you asked if I could go back and talk to my mom, I've always wondered…At the time—that's the reason I said I was twenty-one—and it didn't really make sense to me how…I have zero history of colon cancer. And my mom was into organic and carob and soy milk before it was cool. So I think she ate better than the Standard American Diet.
And then the more I learned about psychosomatic causes of disease and chakras and energy healing and things like that, I always wished I could go back and talk to her about, "What were you unable to forgive in your own life that perhaps manifested in the disease that ended your life so early?"
So I think about that for myself. I try to feel into my root chakra stuff and what am I not acknowledging about my own forgiveness for? What's that familial stuff and financial stuff that could, potentially, take me down that road that I don't want to go? I saw some gnarly stuff that my mom went through her last few months. And like that feels unacceptable for my future.
Marc: Yeah. It behooves us to do our personal work. Personal growth and evolution and bettering ourselves, we can't sweep it under the rug. It doesn't work. Life has a way of course-correcting us, I think, one way or another. And it's interesting when you said the word "forgiveness." What do I need to forgive in myself?
You know, ultimately, maybe we're not guilty of anything. And there's nothing to forgive. But, oftentimes, we do feel guilty about things or we do feel angry about certain things. And there are certain people who have affronted us. And they have hurt us. Or certain situations have put us in the role of victim. Or sometimes we've been in the role of making somebody else a victim.
But I think one of the places to practice this thing called forgiveness is to forgive yourself for not being perfect and having the perfect body and having perfection. And it's okay. It's okay. Nobody's holding you up to that standard, but you. And when you let it go and forgive yourself for not having that, you become free. And you can become powerful.
And even you mentioned having a child. One of the concerns is, "I just want to feel financial security." In my belief system, everything in our life is connected in some way to everything else. And when you say the words financial security…And by the way, that makes total sense to me. And it's completely practical and completely a real life concern.
And there's also the hidden metaphysics, as well. And I think one of the things that helps financial security is being secure in other places in life because the more insecurity that's in my system, the less security is in my system. And it'll ooze into other places.
So what I want to say is the more secure you are in yourself, the more secure you are in your looks and your body…And security doesn't mean, "Now I have the body I want so I can be secure." Security means, "I feel safe and I feel trusting, no matter what body I have."
Because the body's going to shift and change. And our finances are going to have their own flow. And there's times when you're going to have a little more or a little less, a lot more or maybe a lot less. And security means there's a deeper trust. And that deeper trust just comes from a different place other than the outer circumstances.
Micaire: I've definitely noticed that to be true. Just authentically speaking, when I was married, my ex played into that fear of—pardon my vulgarity but—"Your boobs are going to sag. And my things are going to be wrinkly. And your body's not going to be the same." That was definitely reinforced by him.
And I struggled for probably the first three years in my practice. And when we separated was the first time that I actually profited in my business. And every year, based on my own evolution, I'm making more now than I ever did. So it feels good to recognize, "Oh, wow! This is coming from me." Because the procedures and practices that I do in the office haven't really changed that much.
Obviously, I'm getting better in business. The longer you do it, you become more of an expert. But I really think it's based on the growth that I've done towards—we'll just say—towards womanhood. So it's been very like, "Wow! This universal principle really does work!"
Marc: It really does work. And you know something? Even if it wasn't connected, at the very least, you feel more secure. You're making more money. And you've bettered yourself as a person. So you win either way. But I think you've discovered for yourself indeed that the universal principle really does work. That when we improve in one area of life, when we involve in one dimension, the other dimensions get boosted. They feel that.
And we all have a different journey. And it works maybe a little different for each one of us. But I'm clearly hearing that and seeing that for you. And I was tuning into it. It felt like that there's a place where, as you get more powerful as a person—and powerful as a person means unconditional love for yourself—how could people not want to be around that?
If I go to a practitioner of any kind, I don't want to go to a practitioner who I think is judging my body and judging me. And "Why are you sick? And why is your spine out of alignment? And how come you don't have more muscle tone?" I don't want that.
I want to go to a practitioner who's going to give me unconditional positive regard. Yeah, they might ask me to improve. They might inspire me in certain directions. But there's an undertone of unconditional acceptance with the added bonus of, "And here is where I'm going to help you." So people sense that.
And I think this is relevant for any practitioners who are listening in right now. Micaire is, to me, living proof that, "Yes! I've done some work in my personal life. And it's impacting my professional life." Because it's all one in the same. You can't box those and separate them out just like you can't separate out the cardiovascular system from the immune system. It's all connected.
So great work, Micaire!
Micaire: Thanks!
Marc: Yeah. How you feeling right now?
Micaire: I feel good.
Marc: Is there one particular thing from this conversation that's really landed for you that feels like you're going to really take away?
Micaire: I think can most easily start doing the observing the older generation of women and embracing and perhaps befriending and having more compassion towards myself through the aging process by seeing some powerful women that are older than me. And, yeah, just to take action and not get in my own way from fear.
Marc: Yeah. And how about the piece around choosing to have a baby and feeling the fear and doing it anyway?
Micaire: That seems safer.
Marc: Uh-huh.
Micaire: I think it will physically and emotionally force me to step into womanhood because you don't get to raise a girl and be a girl. I don't want to. That might be the transformation that is the final key in reaching the next level of evolution for me.
Marc: Beautiful! Well put! This might be unfair for me to ask, but I'm going to ask it anyway. So when do you think you might go to your partner and say, "Okay, I'm in. We're having a baby."
Micaire: Oh, hmm, perhaps later today. [Both laugh].
Marc: I love it. I hope you do.
Micaire: Thank you.
Marc: And thank you so much. Thanks for being so real and so honest and sharing your inner world because as much as we are totally unique individuals and we're all different, there are places where we are so all the same.
And to me, that's why we're in this conversation. We're in it for our own personal benefit. But by each of us sharing what's really going on for us, we can all grow from that. And I just feel like you've made a really big contribution to viewers and listeners. So thank you.
Micaire: Thanks, Marc!
Marc: Yeah. And thanks for tuning in, everybody. Lots more to come in the Psychology of Eating podcast. I appreciate your energy and your attention.
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What to feed the child after vomiting and diarrhea – diet for children
What to feed the child after vomiting and diarrhea? This question is raised by all parents, as food poisoning happen periodically with all. No one is protected 100%. Even preparing food yourself, you cannot be sure of the quality of the products and that the baby will not eat something at daycare or school, and even dirty hands. In this article we tell you what you can eat after vomiting child when to start eating, what foods can be consumed and which needs to be abandoned.
Causes of vomiting and diarrhea
Vomiting and diarrhea are frequent symptoms in children of different age categories. They can be signs of functional failure of the body inflammatory or infectious process, of intoxication or poisoning.
Any episode of nausea, vomiting, or diarrhea that occurred in a child requires attention from the parents. It is necessary to observe the condition of the baby, try not to miss any other symptoms.
Below are the main reasons that can cause diarrhea and vomiting in children of different ages:
- Food poisoning. It can develop due to consumption of stale and low quality food products, also due to non-compliance with a child basic personal hygiene. Poisoning manifested by nausea, vomiting, diarrhea, increased gas formation in the intestines, abdominal pain. This condition can occur without fever.
- Intestinal infection (salmonellosis, dysentery, rotavirus infection, etc.). These diseases are caused by pathogenic microorganisms that can be found even in fresh products. For example, a source of salmonellosis are eggs, dairy or meat products. Intestinal infection is manifested by profuse watery diarrhea, which may be streaks of blood, mucus, nausea, strong abdominal pain and fever. If untreated develop severe dehydration.
- Acetoneiso syndrome – a condition in which blood increased levels of ketone bodies. This disease occurs in children up to 7 years. The characteristic symptom is a smell of acetone from the mouth of a baby and from his urine.
- Overheating of the child, heat or sunstroke. This condition can manifest with vomiting, tachycardia, may cause occasional diarrhea. Children up to 6 years more sensitive to the influence of the sun and high temperatures. Due to high sweating they develop electrolyte failure and there is a rapid loss of fluid.
- Inflammatory disease gastrointestinal (pancreatitis, gastritis, cholecystitis). These pathologies were previously considered more "adult". But over the last 10-20 years of their age category has changed dramatically. Substandard food, environment, chemicals "rejuvenated" these diseases. For example, there are cases of chronic gastritis the baby at the age of 4 years or pancreatitis in 2 years.
- Intolerance to any food, food Allergy. For example, the digestive system of a baby can not digest dairy products or gluten. Most of these individual characteristics are identified in a child at an early age, and parents, knowing about them carefully are diet.
The child may vomit from the feeling of disgust toward something or during crying, nervous feelings. Children up to 5 years, often tearing fever SARS and influenza. You need to monitor your baby, try to understand the cause of the symptoms arising from it.
The basic rules of food during diarrhea and vomiting
Diet after vomiting the child is not required if this symptom arose from the disgust, crying, or SARS. In all other cases it is necessary to make specific menu of the child after vomiting and to carefully monitor his diet.
Feed the baby with vomiting and diarrhea, according to the latest who guidelines, you can begin on the first day of the disease. Scientists have shown that hunger is not conducive to rapid recovery. However, eating with nausea, and in the absence of appetite is not worth it. Thus, it is possible to re-trigger a gag attack.
A detailed list of foods and diet rules need to be discussed with your pediatrician. Diet for vomiting in a child, prescribed by a doctor and has individual characteristics and takes into account the disease and the condition of the toddler, his age.
Below we have gathered General recommendations that can guide thinking about the diet after vomiting in children:
- Feed your baby often. The breaks between meals should not exceed 3 hours. If the child is under 3 years, he should eat every 2 hours. Give food in small portions. One-time volume of food should not exceed the volume of the Cam of the child.
- All food and beverages must be neutral (room) temperature. Hot or cold can irritate the stomach lining, cause nausea, abdominal pain.
- All diet after vomiting and diarrhea should not be just a diet and easy, but also to meet the energy needs of the body of the baby. The child needs energy for recovery.
- Do not force your child to eat if sick on the first day of the disease. But fasting for a long period of time is impossible. Vomiting can of hunger and irritation of the gastric walls with hydrochloric acid.
- Food if vomiting is strictly contraindicated to feed your baby you can start only after its termination. If it tears, start to givea little drinking mineral water. It is best to drink a SIP every 5-10 minutes. This mode of watering will help to start the digestive system, will not allow the amplification of dehydration.
- Prepare food for baby is best in a double boiler. It can also be boiled or stewed. All food should not be spicy or very salty. Spices, seasonings and flavor enhancers are prohibited.
What can I eat with vomiting and diarrhea
Food on the first day of the disease is very limited. To feed the baby in case of poisoning only rice broth, dried white bread or biscuits simple app. You can also eat oatmeal, boiled to the consistency of mucous.
In acute gastritis, pancreatitis or an intestinal infection you can eat to start only after permission of the attending doctor.
Starting from the second day, the list of allowed foods is greatly extended. It includes:
- Low-fat chicken broth, made from the loin. You can add some carrots, salt.
- Boiled lean chicken, Turkey or rabbit.
- Baked in the oven or microwave apples.
- Dried white bread.
- App cookies.
- Boiled potatoes, carrots, beets, zucchini.
- Bananas.
- Low-fat varieties of cheese, cheese, dairy products.
- Buckwheat, oats, rice porridge.
- Boiled eggs, steam omelets.
In the ready meals you can add a small amount of vegetable vegetable refined oil. From butter, margarine, mayonnaise should be abandoned for the period of diet.
In addition to food, special attention should be paid to the watering of the baby. The liquid necessary for reducing the intoxication syndrome and to normalize the water and electrolyte balance.
After vomiting and diarrhea give the baby to drink simple drinking water. Then he can drink alkaline mineral water such as "Borzhomi", black sweet tea, compote.
What not to eat
A large number of products to which the child is used, are prohibited during the diet after nausea and vomiting. We tried to collect the most extensive list of them:
- Milk (other than breast) is a prohibited food product in violation of the digestive tract. To start to drink milk only after 2 weeks.
- Fatty meats and fish, and broth, cooked based on them.
- Chocolate, pastry, fresh bread.
- All sausages, pates.
- Meat offal.
- Store-bought products.
- Carbonated drinks, coffee, cocoa.
- Juice (store-bought and fresh).
- A variety of sauces, tomato paste.
- Cabbage, garlic, onions.
- Citrus and exotic fruits.
- Fat varieties of cheese and dairy products.
- Fried, fat, smoked, spicy.
How to choose and buy products for your baby
Food for the child should be first and foremost safe. Weakened children's organism is very sensitive to any toxins, preservatives, and substandard products can cause aggravation of disease or of repeated food poisoning.
Below are tips for choosing food:
- Buy all products only in official points of sale (shops, markets). Natural markets is a dangerous place, where the goods are not checked or controlled by anyone.
- Before purchasing any product, check its date of manufacture. Buying meat or fish, don't hesitate to smell it.
- Do not buy ready meals for your baby in cooking or restaurants. Only by preparing the food, you can safely give it to your child, confident in the quality of the products and clean cooking dish.
- Try to avoid frozen products and semi-finished products. They do not have anything useful. For example, meat, freeze is useless, its structural proteins are destroyed and can not provide the body with essential amino acids.
Nausea, diarrhea and vomiting are symptoms that you need to always pay attention. Diet is an essential component in the treatment of diseases of the digestive tract that can manifest the symptoms. Do not attempt to self-medicate, consult your doctor about the list of permitted and prohibited foods for your child. You can eat a little bit already in the first days after onset of the disease. All the food that you give your child must meet his daily energy needs and be safe for his body.


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Amazon is selling the latest 128GB MacBook Air for just $1,059, which amounts to $140 (or 12 percent off) the regular retail price of $1,199. You can only get it at this price in silver, but fortunately the space gray model is also on sale for an agreeable $1,069.
Not bad. If Amazon had chopped the price down just $60 or $70, that'd be how much it'd cost you to buy the previous-generation MacBook Air at retail price.
I personally like the new model. I prefer the slightly inclined design over the flat expanses of the MacBook Pros, and I like the extra room and extra USB-C port it provides over the smaller 12-inch MacBook. I even like the keyboard, which has the same membrane-padded butterfly design of the 15-inch 2018 MacBook Pro. That makes it quieter than the 12-inch MacBook, and for me, the tiny bit of resistance makes it more pleasurable to write on.
But you might not feel the same. The new MacBook Air lacks the many ports of the old model, and it lacks the punchy keyboard with high key travel that made the previous model so popular. It even lacks the glowing Apple logo that's still a familiar sight in many press rooms. All the same, this model is much faster and comes with nifty features such as a Retina display and Touch ID.
As we said in our review last month: "If you're familiar with the 12-inch MacBook, using the new MacBook Air makes it immediately obvious that this is a slightly updated and scaled-up version of that model, with the "Air" name attached. If you've been waiting for years for Apple to finally re-imagine the MacBook Air in a way that will once again revolutionize the thin-and-light laptop market, you're going to be disappointed to find that it has only been brought up to the standards of other modern Mac laptops, with all the good and bad that goes with that."


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A renowned South Korean climber was among nine people killed when a vicious snowstorm hit their camp on Nepal's Mount Gurja.
Police and locals are working to bring the bodies off the mountain and to Kathmandu, South Korea's Foreign Affairs Ministry said in a statement.
A rescue helicopter was dispatched at about 7:15 a.m. Sunday, and by 9:40 a.m. all nine bodies were found, the ministry said. Some bodies had been located Saturday.
Link: https://www.cnn.com/2018/10/14/asia/nepal-mount-gurja-nine-bodies-found-south-korea-climbers/index.html


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Dates: 19/6/17 - 15/9/17
Student Expenses: Student will pay all expenses including visa, tickets, accommodation, ...etc.
Internship Description
2 electronic Eng. undregrads interns are needed to join different research teams at the Ohio State University working on digital and analog IC Design. The internship will start on 19/6/2017 for 12 weeks. Interns will be working on state of the art topics and expected to write a technical paper at the end of their internship describing the results they obtained.


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' A fresh bouquet of pink peonies, spring toasts and a balcony humming with wildlife'
Our balcony is finally in it's summer presence, with about twenty pots of flowers planted. I still need a few more herbs, but I love the Parisian atmosphere it holds. We have everything from olive, rose and rosemary trees, lavender, greens, tomatoes and all kinds of summer flowers. We also have new hand made cast iron chairs and a side table that adds to the Mediterranean feel and new porcelain cups and plates that we found from an antique shop from the countryside. The weather has been absolutely amazing here, about 25 Celsius degrees and during the day, it's roasting on the balcony. We had our first breakfast outside today so I decided to make the ultimate spring toasts that are full of fresh flavours. We have ourselves a large pot of english breakfast tea and the sound of birds singing at our feet.
Nectarine Toast
Sauté sliced nectarines in a medium heated pan with butter and sage. Fry for about 10 minutes until soft and golden. Add salt and pepper. Slice your toasted bread in half, add a dollop of Greek yogurt on both slices and pour the nectarines and sage leaves on top. Garnish the toasts with almond flakes.
Cucumber Feta Toast
In a bowl, add the shaved cucumber, chopped herbs, orange juice & zest and mix well. Place in the fridge for 5 minutes to soak up flavours. Slice the toasted bread and add spread the feta cheese all over. Add a generous amount of cucumber on top and add a pinch of salt and pepper.


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Nev Interview
Nev MacDonald
Interview 2 Nev's Letter to the Fan Club
Interview 1
Why did the Parlophone deal fall through?
That's a really hard one to start with! I dunno, we just got dropped. We got signed to Parlophone because somebody believed in the band from the start, but they then got moved onto another department and we were left like... spare pricks at a wedding! Nobody really wanted us on the label anymore - they maybe thought we weren't cool enough, I dunno the reason really. Because of this, "Lucky" didn't really get the airing it deserved. They made the album as a token kind of thing, a couple of videos, then that was it - bye bye boys!!!
With bands such as Little Angels, it seemed as though the collapse of a record deal signaled the beginning of the end. Has it been a struggle to stick together?
IMMENSE problems, ha ha! Not really! The public generally, like you say in the question, you lose your major deal and they're like "Oh my God, it's the end of the Earth!" but we never really felt like that as a band. We still felt like we wanted to play together and we had the opportunity, thanks to our management, to record another album, initially with Castle Communications, and we thought "great!". We had new material, new songs and we were very excited about it. So firstly it's been quite exciting but it is quite a struggle when your profile starts to drop down a bit and you're out of the public eye. We canceled a tour last year to do this album and I think quite naturally you do start to slip down the slope a bit; you lose a lot of ground which we have in this country so this tour really is just to get back out on the road and see if there is anyone out there who still likes SKIN!
Why has the album not been released over here as it has in Japan?
Because we have no deal in this county. We've got a deal in Japan so the album is released in Japan, it's out now actually and it's available on import although it's extortionately expensive. We've got a deal in Germany and we're hoping to secure a deal here and get the album released sometime in May. If not, we will find a way of doing it, even if we have to fund ourselves, it's ready and we just want to get it out as soon as possible!
The music press reported on several occasions that SKIN had signed a deal with Raw Power, stating an album release date for February 17th. How much truth was there in these rumours?
Had we?! That's not true! No, I dunno where that came from! Like I said, we were hoping to sign to Castle but... nope!
Why is Colin no longer in the band?
It's a funny one that! We've used Colin in the "How Lucky" video and he's toured a lot with us, but he never really officially became a member of SKIN. He ended up being in a lot of the press photos as well and at the time we thought he was going to be integrated into the band but I think Colin always wanted to keep his independence. He was into very heavy funk and we didn't want to stop him pursuing his own thing. I can appreciate why people thought he was the fifth member of SKIN as there was a lot of confusion but we never really saw Colin as a member. We haven't fallen out or anything; he's a great guy!
Who chose the album title this time?
I think it was just named after the song Myke wrote. We just thought "this is different, it's fun" y'know, and just thought it'd make a good title!
How do you feel about going out with Thunder for the second time.
Err, mixed feelings I think! We really enjoy playing out own shows now but we're looking forward to it. It's given us the chance again to play in front of a lot of people and it's re-establishing ourselves in the UK and this is a great vehicle for us, this tour. We're grateful to Thunder for accepting us because it could've been quite easy for them to say "SKIN?!? Not them again!!" but they've kindly agreed to let us come on the tour and it's great. We're really looking forward to it.
The new stuff is again a big leap forward from the last album, but unlike "Lucky" this isn't so much SKIN going 'grunge' as SKIN 'meaning business'! Are you hoping to attract a wider following or is it just that you've developed harsher attitudes over the past year?!
Harsher attitudes? Nah, I don't think so. We've always seen the band as sort of growing... wings! As we get older our music matures and grows with us. Our music's always been pretty self contained. Our first album wasn't released until nearly a year after we'd recorded it and during that year we'd developed, but because of that we were labeled with the "Cock Rock" thing, but that doesn't really bother us. I think musically it's just development. The new album is just us being us really. Myself and Dicki have been more involved with Myke in the writing side and we've really enjoyed making this album. It's not a conscious effort to make a statement, it's just us trying to be truthful really and I think our live performances reflect that.
The image has changed too. First Dicki's hair went, now Myke has gone blond mohawk. Is there a chance you or Andy will have the chop?!
Me, have the chop?! Nah! I thought about cutting my hair; I might do, I mean, it may happen! I dunno yet!
Were you nervous playing to a Brit. audience for the first time in nearly a year?
Yes! In the meantime I've become a dad, a lot of people may not know that, but we took three months off for me to concentrate on being home with my wife and my child. It was great but then to come back and play live was pretty nerve-wracking for us all. But it does take time for us to regain out momentum and recapture what we were all about after such a long lay off. Having made the album, taking the time off, then getting back together if very difficult and you do start to question whether you can do it anymore. We were all digging deep for those first few shows, wondering whether we still want to play music together and that was the hardest point I think, just coming back together and seeing if we still wanted to do this. But we knew we had a good album in the can and we wanted to give it our best shot, with or without a deal.
What are your "after tour" plans?
We're doing some extended shows with Thunder in Spain, about three shows, between the British Thunder tour and our shows at Newcastle and Nottingham. We're just taking it a few months at a time now. We can't plan too far ahead with our deal situation in this country, we're just taking it one step at a time. Our next priority is to get the album out and just make sure it gets heard.
Despite everything, you've proved that SKIN have certainly got staying power! Should, heaven forbid, anything else go wrong will you continue to stick to your guns or would you be tempted to call it a day?
Everybody has to sit down and re-evaluate. You have to look at each other and say "do we enjoy playing together? Can we continue to do this? Can we sustain ourselves financially?" You have to take a lot into consideration. It's not just about being a great band and great musicians, it's about actually physically keeping the band together. So many things have to come into consideration. We're doing it, we've done it quite a lot over the past year since losing the deal. You have to sit down and look at yourselves, and we're happy with it.
Can we tell the readers about your good news?
About the baby? Of course, yeah, people are gonna find out one way or another! Yeah, I've become a Dad; his name's Callum John and we're very, very happy!
"What's it like playing in your home town?
I get very nervous, and I get very... I get a bit anxious I think. Probably because everybody knows me. I get a lot of friends and family coming along so it's just different When you play your home town it's really weird. Did you enjoy it last night - it was really hard work.
Are you looking forward to playing Europe?
YES! Enormously!! Can't wait - it should be really good!!! Playing for 35 minutes!!!
Are you going to learn any German?
No! I mean, I did, when we toured with Bruce Dickinson, Dicki taught me how to say, what was it, "Wie geht's" or something like that (How are you?) and I said that in Koln or somewhere and nothing happened!!! Alright, okay!! So that was it, that was the only German I learnt and it floundered badly and so I haven't done anything about it since.
Do you speak Welsh?
Nev launches into Welsh, which I won't try to write down!!!
What does that mean Nev?
I don't speak Welsh!!!!! My Mum does!!! I don't - a little bit, but....
You know what one of the most asked questions is?
How old are you?!!
Just tell them he's an old bastard and that's the end of it!!!!
So what you you think of these new elephant T-shirts then?
I like the elephant T-shirt - I think it's great!! The best one we've done!!!
So who chose that particular design?
We did. We had different photographs of animals fornicating - zebras, giraffes, lions. Rhinos, which we quite liked.
So who took the photos?!!!!!
David Attenborough I think!!! We got them from some library I think. But the rhinos were really good - they were close, just for the expressions on their faces!!! They look quite, sort of, like rhinos really!!!
What are you doing after Europe?
We're going to do some festivals I think in Europe in June after our European tour. That'll be good. And if anybody asks us to do anything in the UK we'll do it, but we haven't been asked yet!!
So how come you don't write any songs anymore then?
I'm crap!!! I'm a crap songwriter that's why I don't write any songs!!!!! No, it's just the way it worked out this time. Myke had millions of ideas so we just started jamming them and they were all great so we thought let's just concentrate on these, so it was brilliant. So we didn't have a problem with that at all. It was really good. I did some ideas, and the boys said that's quite a good one, you ought to try and finish it, but I'm just lazy really and I didn't finish it!!!
So it's usually Myke that comes up with the original idea?
Yeah, we just jam them and see what works and what doesn't really and that's the way it goes. Sing a few melodies and he just takes home the jam session on a tape and decides what's good and what isn't.
So how come the lyrics aren't on the album and they are on the Japanese release?
The Japanese insist on it, and we wanted it to be, the lyrics to be on, but the record company didn't put them on again. We'd prefer the lyrics to be on, but the record company, it's down to them really.
How do you learn the lyrics and remember them?
The hardest one to remember, and I always kept getting it wrong and I still keep getting it wrong is "Face To Face"!!!
Is that why you aren't you playing it live?
No, not really. We just can't find a space for it in the set. But I keep forgetting it because almost every line begins with the word "remember" or "I remember" !!! And it's like, I remember, well I remember... what?!!!!! And it's taken me months to get it right and I still haven't got it right!!! So that's another reason why we're not doing it!! I don't know why we're not doing it actually!!!
It never used to stop you on "Monkey". You used to get the words completely different on that!!!
Yeah. Yeah I still got that wrong up in Glasgow!!!
That's a good live song!
Yeah, a lot of people like that. I don't know why we didn't do it more.
And "Take Me Down.." has come back.
It's not one of my favorites really.
Is it a true story?!!!
I think so!! Myke's probably.. I think he's based it on something that happened to him in America. I wouldn't put it past him!!!
So what's your favorite SKIN song?
I don't know. I couldn't pick one out.
What's your worst one?
"Take Me Down To The River"!!! I don't particularly enjoy doing that.
What do you do if you come down with throat problems on a tour?
I think the last time I had a really .. I remember having a really bad throat before Donington. We'd just come off the end of the tour and then we did Donington and I was recovering, and I sounded like grit on the recorded version of Donington!! I was terrible!! And then we went in the next week, when we went in to listen back to the tapes I had a chance to redo some of the vocal parts, so I went in and tried to do Colorblind and I sounded exactly the same as I did on the day!!!
And I thought, I think I'll just leave it actually!!! I can't do it any better than it already is!!!! So it's as is!! I just changed one word on "Colorblind" I think. I got the line wrong I think so I just had to change that line. I can't actually remember which one it was. That's the only thing I did to the live tape, 'coz I got it wrong. I just went "nah nah nah nah" live and I thought I'd better put the words in it.


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Rhino horns in Vietnam, elephant tusks in Africa, turtles in Thailand, and drugs and dirty money just about everywhere: these are but a few of the laundry list of illegal goods being trafficked across country borders these days.
Just this past Tuesday (August 7) Hong Kong's customs department confiscated 1,120 ivory tusks, 13 rhino horns and five pieces of supremely valuable leopard skin, worth over $5 million dollars in total. In 2011, Thailand's customs department confiscated endangered turtles worth a total of $33,000. Contraband artists have been caught smuggling bear claws (above) across the China-Russia border, and poachers have been turning endangered polar bears into rugs and shipping them off for years. Earlier this year, a 70-million-year-old dinosaur skeleton was even successfully smuggled into the US, before it was found, confiscated, and sent back to Mongolia.
But it isn't the mere variety in unusual items that are being smuggled that's baffling—the varying ways in which they are being trafficked is mind-boggling, too. Last year in Germany, dirty money was found concealed in pastries; in Australia, 293 grams of ecstasy were found hidden inside of a Mr. Potatohead doll; and US customs enforcement seized 200 donkey statues containing some 1800 pounds of marijuana back in 2009.
Successful contraband trade is a tricky business. Moving contraband items from country to country isn't only highly illegal, it's highly risky, too. Here are a few of the strangest flops:


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Nicopolis ad Istrum and Lesicheri Obelisk
Nicopolis ad Istrum and Lesicheri Obelisk
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Today I went on an excursion with 'F' and a couple of others to Nicopolis ad Istrum, the remains of a Roman and Early Byzantine town about 20km north of Veliko Tarnovo.
Nicopolis ad Istrum is in the countryside very close to the little village of Nikyup (pronounced Nik-yoop) - a small collection of old-looking houses with tiled roofs. Horses wandered around; apparently they belong to the gypsies who live in Nikyup and travel around by horse and cart. These carts are very small - we passed two or three of them. The women wore coloured headcloths and sat in the back while the men stood at the front to drive the horse. The whole way from Veliko Tarnovo to Nicopolis ad Istrum I kept an eye out for white storks, but although I saw a big stork's nest on the chimney of a house in a town we passed through, I never actually saw any of the birds.
When we arrived at the site of Nicopolis ad Istrum there was only one other car in the little car park and the entrance to the complex was locked up.
Just as we walked over, a guy climbed over the wall and said there was nobody there apart from him. He was just leaving. He said he was from Romania and chatted with us for a while. The wall was only about three feet high, so we scrambled over it and began our walk round. 'F' said that if the chap selling tickets did turn up, he wouldn't mind us having got in already; he'd just sell us the tickets then instead.
Although apparently there is still a lot to be uncovered and excavated, the layout of the town was still clear, with a forum in the middle surrounded by public buildings and two main streets.
These two streets had massive slabs of stone as paving stones, now very uneven. In a couple of places holes had appeared, revealing tunnels below - the sewer system, I assume.
The sun was out, the air was filled with the sound of birdsong and for most of the time we were the only people there. It was so lovely and peaceful. Apparently later on the summer lots of brightly shimmering lizards appear and sun themselves on the walls of the foundations. In one of the trees I spotted three martenitsas tied to a branch. We stayed for a couple of hours and nobody official ever arrived.
We took a roundabout route back to VT because we decided to stop at Lesicheri Obelisk, a Roman pillar in the middle of a ploughed field a few kilometres away from Nikyup.
Apparently nobody knows anything about this obelisk apart from the fact that it's Roman. Every time the fields are ploughed, hundreds if not thousands of fragments of old pottery are uncovered, but no excavations have ever been done. Farmers are so used to it, they completely ignore whatever comes up. As we walked across the field we looked for interesting finds; I felt a bit like I was beachcombing. We didn't dig at all, we just looked on the ploughed earth as we walked. There were indeed lots of pieces of broken pottery, but I only kept one small fragment that looked like it had been glazed and was possibly part of a handle to something.
After we'd got to the obelisk we looked round it for a bit and then climbed to the top of a little hill about 100 metres away. The rest of the countryside was so flat, I'm convinced this was a burial mound. There was a big hollow at the top, so maybe if it was a burial mound, grave robbers had been and gone a long time ago.
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If you are a manager or marketer, I'm sure you have heard of customer loyalty. However, do you pay close attention to it?
About a year ago, I was one of the managers who only focused on getting new customers. What I did most of that time was drawing up plans and strategies to attract as many clients as I could. But eventually, no matter how many grand plans are set, the most important issue to a business is still profits. When I realized that the revenue did not increase and the cost even massively exceeded it, something in the strategy must have been wrong.
And you can probably recognize what my mistake was. Getting a new customer is great but it should never be what you concentrate 100 percent on. So what should you do to increase revenue and profits? According to my experiences, customer loyalty is what you need to put your mind and soul on. I'll answer the questions: What is customer loyalty? And why is it important? for you in this article.
If you are having troubles in boosting your income, the following content is specified what you need to read.
What is customer loyalty?
As you can see from the term, it is the tendency of a client to favor a brand from all of the others due to various reasons, which can be high-quality products, fantastic services, rewarding campaigns, or whatever satisfying them.
There are many types of customer loyalty being applied in marketing these days, such as monogamy and polygamy or behavior and attitude. You can look for more information in here: https://prloyaltymarketing.com/customer-loyalty/what-is-customer-loyalty/
Why is customer loyalty important to you?
It reduce operating costs
Do you know that the price for getting a new customer is five times exceeding that for maintaining existing one?
You may not believe, but that's true. It's a conclusion from Forrester Research from many surveys and analytics. Therefore, having your customers' loyalty will save you tons of dollars each year.
I made a comparison with my business as well, which the result was ultimately astonishing. The liabilities had a remarkable change after only a month. I remember the last interim statement before I made some improvements in marketing strategy, it was only 30,000 dollars. But a month later, it was only 10,000 bucks. The massive increasing revenue and the reduction of advertising cost were the reasons for such result. I think that is the strength of improving customer loyalty.
Your business will be just like mine if you start giving efforts for existing customers now. Just imagine what you would do with the profits? I'm sure you will think of many excellent ideas.
It increases customer engagement
Although the price for earning new clients is high, poor customer service still exists, which costs about 41,000,000,000 dollars per year. That's a significant amount of money, isn't it? And yet, customer service is not everything creating customer engagement and loyalty.
Whether it is your service or product, satisfied clients always buy more than unsatisfied ones and the number of times that they come back is also greater. And customer engagement will follow that number. You will be able to increase your profits by raising chances of up-selling, cross-selling. Furthermore, rewarding programs for loyal customers are recommended for more engagements and loyalty.
So mark the following criteria and add them to your strategy next month. I believe great regular clients will come to your business in no time.
Making customers come back = Increasing customer loyalty = Improving engagement.
It spreads your brand's reputation
If you have read some of my previous articles, you may see that I usually mention about word-of-mouth (WOM). And that is the major factor contributing to your company's reputation.
According to statistics from White House Office of Consumer Affairs, 9 to 15 are the number people that a customer will show his awful experience about products and services to. And about 13% of unsatisfied ones choose to share their horrible feelings and thoughts to over 20 others. I think these figures have their logical reasons. Communicating is a human characteristic. And one of the most common topics is still complaining about service quality.
Therefore, increasing loyalty to make customers stop doing that and even make compliments for your brand is just the most necessary task. The realer experiences your customers talk about, the more loyalty and reputation your company can get.
And it enhances the quality of your products or services
This last benefit does not come directly, but it is also quite crucial. Loyal clients will provide you the most honest comments and opinions about your products and services. And their quality can easily be improved thanks to those. Besides, clients like when their views are noted and implemented. When you show them that you are willing to listen and change for the better, they will not hesitate to give you honest feedbacks. You may even think of some terrific ideas or new advertising campaign by communicating with them.
I had numerous customers like that. And I remember one time when I met Dan, a regular client of one my coffee shops. He had a unique circumstance of being single for nearly 40 years and really wanted to have a girlfriend. He said that the coffee in my store is completely great but space is a little ordinary and it seemed to be what anybody can create. I thought about that a lot after his feedback. And when considering his situation, I popped out with an idea: A mainly designed coffee shop for single people. What could be better than holding the drink you like and having an opportunity to meet the possible love of your life? The store has been opened and attracting a significant number of clients.
That's an example of customer loyalty which improves product quality. Try listening, and your product will definitely become the best in the market.
I hope you have had a great time with my article about customer loyalty as well as my stories. If you have any questions, do comment. I would be very glad to answer.
Regardless, thank you for reading my writing. I probably will have some more, so I hope to see you in subsequent ones. Goodbye.


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Sunday, September 21, 2008
Can I Brag?
My son has taken off for freshman year in college, majoring in photography. I try to paint them, but he sure can photograph them. This is our family pet (one of 8) Mattie, a chocolate standard poodle. Just wanted to show off his work.
Monday, September 01, 2008
A short absence
Goodness, I have been remiss in posting. All is not lost! Just a busy time of year lately. Mostly getting the son launched off to college for his freshman year. So lots of time shopping, organizing, soaking up what time was left. And then packing, hauling, playing decorator, and all.
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"Jacob – a warmhearted, lively and dynamic first grader – caught our attention due to his apparent social problems. He had a tendency to become aggravated and got into fights with his peers which ended in mutual accusations and tears. The teachers became nervous and the parents of his classmates started to get worried […] We then tried to get a better picture of Jacob and had a first meeting in which we shared our impressions with just a small circle. Next morning I observed the first effect of our effort: I welcomed the pupils by the classroom door. - Jacob appeared. He came towards me with an outstretched arm and in his tight fist there was a small bunch of flowers. […] Jacob later became an amiable, social, warmhearted and conscientious class mate." (i)
Anna Seydel describes here how our awareness of a pupil can quickly change a situation. Child Study meetings have become a firmly established part of the pedagogical work in Steiner/Waldorf schools. To put it shortly, it is a helpful instrument by which a group of people focuses on a particular child and tries to have a positive influence on the child.
Nowadays, many teachers see the children's need for guidance. However, this also opens up many questions. Today, the protection of a person's privacy is rated highly. Are we allowed, then, to still hold such Child Study meetings? Are we invading the child's and the family's privacy? Could there possibly be any negative results for the pupil? Does the teacher lose sight of the rest of the class? Is it just too much work?
Learning to understand each other
A Child Study meeting is an opportunity to encounter the child on a different level, a possibility to get to know each other better. Rudolf Steiner states, "But when you accustom yourself to making real efforts to get to know the children psychologically, you gradually form a different relationship with them, simply as outcome of such endeavour. Getting to know them more deeply does not just mean recognizing their characteristics; a different relationship arises with them when you try to get to know them better." (ii)
Child Observation is an important method also in mainstream pedagogy, especially in early childhood education. Teachers and parents share their observations of the child's development and coordinate their efforts to accompany the child in the best possible way. (iii) Possible topics are the child's wellbeing and interests, her strengths and needs, as well as the expectations of parents and teachers. (iv) In the context of state education, the term "diagnosis of resources and deficiencies" is sometimes used. In this method there is an emphasis on analysing the pupil's more successful and less successful school work. (v)
Child Study, on the other hand, emphasizes the teacher's individual observation of the child. If we want to help a child, it is important to understand that every child presents us with a unique "riddle" which teachers are called to solve.
Let us now turn our attention to the organizational aspects of Child Study meetings. Which groups and professionals take part in the meeting depends on the institution, the people involved, the situation and the method. Does it take part in a school or a kindergarten? Are we talking about a kindergarten child, a pupil in the lower or the upper school? Are the parents and the child or teenager present? Are all or only some chosen teachers present? Does the school doctor or a therapist take part?
Christof Wiechert recommends holding the Child Study meeting with the full college of teachers, including the colleagues who do not know the child. (vi) Klaus Hadamovsky suggests that the parents should decide who takes part. (vii) Further, Henning Köhler proposes that everyone who plays a part in the child's life should come together as a "protective circle", particularly when we are considering a child with behavioural difficulties. For a so-called status review, the student, the teacher and the parents sit together; and the whole class is present for a class-circle (viii) Thus, a lot depends on the child and the method when deciding who should take part in the meeting. The author would love to hear of any other methods.
Regarding the time frame, many teachers worry that a Child Study meeting will take up too much of their time. It is important to note that once they have established a certain routine, the meetings can be kept quite short; Christof Wiechert suggests that it should not take longer than about eighty minutes. (ix)
If the entire college of teachers is present, the meeting should be chaired so that time and process are kept in focus.
Let us not forget the role of the parents: they must be informed beforehand and their agreement obtained. Whether they will be present or not must be discussed early on. Further, we have to bear in mind that the meeting should be conducted in a manner as considerate and respectful as if the child herself were present.
Kindergarten teacher Franziska Spalinger states that it is important to observe the child very carefully in the days leading up to the meeting; in fact the observations should become an omnipresent instrument in our daily routine. (x) In the kindergarten, the main areas to consider are the child's physical development, the ability to imitate, the way the child plays and how she interacts with others. Such observation helps the teachers to become aware of the child's development. We want to stress here that different areas of observation should be chosen, whether the children and youngsters are in kindergarten, in the lower or the upper school.
Example of a Child Study meeting with the college of teachers
How a Child Study meeting is conducted cannot be planned in detail because it is a process that focuses on the individual child. We can, however, describe some distinct stages of this process.
First, we are trying to perceive the child, to create a first picture of the child. At this stage we might describe the child's physical appearance, her biography, her skills and abilities. We might want to focus on her particular characteristics, look at her school work or drawings, her health, her inclinations, the social interaction and her expressions of thinking, feeling and volition. It is very important to abstain from expressing a personal opinion or interpretation. It is crucial to strictly separate this stage from the following stages in order to avoid early interpretation and the danger of pre-judgment!
During the next stage, the participants look for motives and try to fine-tune the picture of the child. This stage requires some knowledge of anthroposophical concepts, the knowledge of the other participants, everyone's involvement and the ability to comprehend deeper connections. We might ask what everything that has been said so far can tell us or what we have truly understood. It often happens at this stage that insecurities come to the surface. These are not to be understood as weaknesses but rather as a sign of a transition period.
For Anna Seydel it is very important to be in tune with the child at this stage. She indicates that we should try and perceive the child within ourselves, within our limbs, our breathing and indeed in the whole body. One might choose some peculiarity, a distinguishing feature, of the child and try to "live into" it; one tries to feel how the child experiences this peculiarity within herself.
Christof Wiechert suggests to concentrate on the expression of the etheric in the physical––for example, how the child draws––or to look for the expression of the etheric body in the senses –– for example, the child's intellectual abilities. And finally, we might want to study the expressions of the soul, such as how the child handles and experiences colour. He further recommends working with flexible mental images such as the temperaments, the three-fold and four-fold human being, the powers of thinking, the child's powers of imagination, her interests or the image of the Self in relation to the physical body. We can also try to create a more comprehensive picture: to ask ourselves if the pupil has a tendency to be bright, wakeful, cool or rather dark and warm.
Finally, the last stage is concerned with the search for suitable assistance. We need to ask ourselves what would really help the child or the adolescent. We are called to develop a creative, educational willingness to help.
We need to take into consideration that effective action is inherent in the school curriculum, that detours are often necessary and that the teachers' commitment is needed to implement the action. Further, it is important to find and apply new ways of teaching. Christof Wiechert has dedicated a complete chapter of his book Solving the Riddle of the Child: The Art of Child Study to the effects of the lesson content on the children.
For Ingrid Ruhrmann and Bettina Henke, the Child Study meeting is part of the teacher's self-development, a chance to practise scientific precision, "ritual concentration" and creative-imaginative thinking. (xi) They have developed exercises to practise intensive perception which are used at the Bernard Lievegoed institute in Hamburg.
It is important to plan a review and to report back to the college of teachers about the pupil's development after a certain length of time.
Further Methods
Child Study meetings are intensively used and discussed in curative education. However, in the context of schools, Child Study can mean more than the process described above.
Some schools offer status reviews, meetings in which the teacher, the student and the parents review the past six months. The student evaluates his or her work and creates an action plan; this strengthens the student's sense of responsibility. (xii) At this point we might consider the possible difficulties connected to a Child Study meeting in the upper school. If we fear that issues about privacy or the parents' agreement could arise, we might consider the status review as a suitable alternative. There needs to be a discussion within the Waldorf movement about which forms and methods are suitable for Child Observation and Child Study meetings for the various age groups.
Some teachers conduct class-circle meetings with the whole class, possibly with the help of a ball or "talking stick" which the children pass from one to another. Only the child who has the ball or stick is allowed to speak. This method facilitates discussion and contemplation with all the pupils present, starting from grade one. The aim is for the pupils to get to know each other, and it is also a possibility for the teacher to see the children in a new light. (xiv)
And Finally..
It has become clear that Child Study meetings are in themselves a very effective method. Sometimes, only stage one can be implemented, due to a lack of time and knowledge, and no practical action is decided upon. However, in most cases this leads to an increased focus on the child, to a new perception of the child and to some positive change.
If we go through the whole process, we realise that we have learned to understand the child and we will be surprised at our new educational ideas. It would be very interesting for the editors to hear about further experiences. Readers are invited to submit their stories and new ideas on Child Study.
Take part in the discussion. Join our Child Study forum.
Katharina Stemann is thrilled by the growth of the international Waldorf movement and admires the brave people who are starting up new schools under challenging circumstances. Further, she is an editor at Waldorf Resources and part of the Pedagogical Section at the Goetheanum.
Translated by Karin Smith
i Seydel, Anna: Ich bin Du. Kindererkenntnis in pädagogischer Verantwortung. Pädagogische Forschungsstelle. 2009.
ii Steiner, Rudolf: CW 300a. Meeting of 23 September 1920.
Konferenzen mit Lehrern der Freien Waldorfschule Stuttgart. GA 300a. Dornach. 1975.
iii Mienert, Malte; Vorholz, Heidi: Entwicklungsgespräche. Uni Bremen. www.mamie.de/pdf/EntwicklungsgespraecheRaabe.pdf
iv Vollmeier, Knut: Fachwörterbuch für Erzieherinnen und pädagogische Fachkräfte. Verlag Herder. 2012.
v Stöckli, Thomas (Hrsg): Das Kind im Zentrum. Im Auftrag der Arbeitsgemeinschaft der Rudolf Steiner Schulen in der Schweiz und Liechtenstein. Copyright: Institut für Praxisforschung. Solothurn. 2. Auflage. 2009.
vi Wiechert, Christof: Solving the Riddle of the Child: The Art of Child Study. Verlag am Goetheanum. 2012.
vii Hadamovsky, Klaus: Was braucht eine gute Kinderbesprechung? In: Erziehungskunst. März 2011. www.erziehungskunst.de/artikel/was-braucht-eine-gute-kinderbesprechung/
viii Stöckli, T. (2009)
ix Wiechert, C. (2012)
x Stöckli, T. (2009)
xi Seydel, A. (2009)
xii Ruhrmann, Ingrid und Henke, Bettina: Die Kinderkonferenz – Übungen und Methoden zur Entwicklungsdiagnostik. Verlag Freies Geistesleben. 2008.
xiii Stöckli, T. (2009)
xiv Ibid.
Further Reading:
Avison, Kevin: Developing Coherence: Meditative Practice in Waldorf School Colleges of Teachers. Bulletin Autumn. 2009, Vol 14, #2.
Avison, Kevin: The Holistic Assessment. An outline. Curriculum research. Webblog. 2014.
Blanning, Nancy: Developing the Eyes to See. In: Gateways. A Newsletter of the Waldorf Early Childhood Association of North America. Issue 57. Fall/Winter 2009. www.waldorflibrary.org/images/stories/Journal_Articles/GW57_issue.pdf
Bockemuhl, Johannes: Child Study. In: Gloeckler, Michaela (Ed.): Education as Preventive Medicine, A Salutogenic Approach. Rudolf Steiner College Press. 2002.
Clark, Laurie: A Contemplative and Reflective Format for Early Childhood Study. In: Gateways. A Newsletter of the Waldorf Early Childhood Association of North America. Issue 57. Fall/Winter 2009. www.waldorflibrary.org/images/stories/Journal_Articles/GW57_issue.pdf
Flynn, Virginia; Olmstead, Scott; Petherer, James et al: Young Schools' Guide: A working Guide for the Development of Healty Waldorf Schools. AWSNA. 2005
Goebel, Wolfgang: Child Study in Education and Therapeutic Education. In: Gloeckler, Michaela (Ed.): Education as Preventive Medicine, A Salutogenic Approach. Rudolf Steiner College Press. 2002.
Göschel, Jan Christopher: Der biografische Mythos als pädagogisches Leitbild. Transdisziplinäre Förderplanung auf Grundlage der Kinderkonferenz in der anthroposophischen Heilpädagogik. Edition Anthropos: Heilpädagogik und Sozialtherapie aus anthroposophischen Perspektiven. Hrsg. von Rüdiger Grimm, Bd. 1. ATHENA-Verlag. Oberhausen, Deutschland. 1. Auflage 2012.
Göschel, Jan Christopher: Die Kinderkonferenz als sozial-künstlerisches Übungsfeld zur Entwicklung diagnostischer Fähigkeiten. In: Seelenpflege. Februar 2008.
Grimm, Rüdiger: Die gemeinschaftsbildende Kraft der Kinderkonferenz. Seelenpflege in Heilpädagogik und Sozialtherapie, Heft 3, 220-228. 1997.
Michel, Angela: Child Observation. In: Gateways. A Newsletter of the Waldorf Early Childhood Association of North America. Issue 57. Fall/Winter 2009. www.waldorflibrary.org/images/stories/Journal_Articles/GW57_issue.pdf
Müller-Wiedemann, Hans: Die Kinderkonferenz. Lernen Konkret, 11, 29-30. 1992.
Priess, Heiner: The Practice of Child Observation. The Online Waldorf Library. 1999.
Schöffmann, Erika; Schulz, Dieter: Wege zum Anderen. Facetten heilpädagogischer Diagnostik auf anthroposophischer Grundlage. Info3 Verlagsgesellschaft. 2015.
Schubert, Karl: Care Group Manual. Association for a Healing Education.
Seydel, Anna: Was ist eine Kinderbesprechung. In: Erziehungskunst, März 2011. www.erziehungskunst.de/artikel/was-ist-eine-kinderbesprechung/
Wiechert, Christof: Child Study. In: Education – Health for Life. Perspehone Verlag at the Goetheanum & Medical and Pedagogical Sections. 2006.
Wiechert, Christof: Die Kunst, Kinder zu betrachten. In: Erziehungskunst. März 2011. www.erziehungskunst.de/artikel/die-kunst-kinder-zu-betrachten/
Wiechert, Christof: Kinderbesprechung: Berührung mit dem Schicksal. In: Erziehungskunst. Heft 4: Reinkarnation und Karma. 2004. www.erziehungskunst.de/fileadmin/archiv_alt/2004/0404p003WiechertSchmelzer.pdf
Wiechert, Christof: Kinderbesprechungen: Eine Gesamtleistung des Lehrerkollegiums. In: "Schulkreis" 3/2005 Entwicklungsschritte. www.schulkreis.ch/Schulkreis/Archiv_Ausgaben_files/3%3A05.pdf
Wiechert, Christof: "Solving the Riddle of the Child…" The Art of Child Study. Verlag am Goetheanum. 2012.


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