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JASPER ® Offers GM 5.3L DOD/AFM Deleted Engine Option with Available DiabloSport i3 Programmer
At Grover's Auto Repair in Mathews we like to stay on top of our JASPER news. JASPER just released a GM 5.3L engine with a DOD/AFM deleted option (not available in California), and an available DiabloSport i3 programmer.
This Engine is available for the following:
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2008-2009 2007-2009
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"Due to customer requests, JASPER now offers a GM 5.3L option with a non-DOD (Displacement On Demand)/AFM (Active Fuel Management) camshaft, lifters and a flat valley plate (without solenoids)," said Brad Boeglin, JASPER Research and Development Group Leader.
"Along with the purchase of this engine, customers will be responsible for having the ECM programmed to remove the command for the DOD/AFM," said Boeglin. "To help support this engine, JASPER is also offering the DiabloSport i3 programmer as an upsell item to reprogram the ECM, and remove the command for the DOD/AFM activation. The programmer is CARB, and EPA, Certified in all 50 states."
"The programmer will be shipped with a license, and preloaded tuning options, for a single vehicle," said Boeglin. "If a shop wants to program more than the one vehicle, they can contact DiabloSport to purchase additional licenses. The programmer can hold up to 50 licenses."
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Little bite sized biscuits made with plenty of butter and sour cream, enough that I had to call them Butter Bombs. I feel pretty certain these would make Paula Deen a happy gal. |
Butter Bombs
If mixing up, rolling out and baking traditional southern biscuits makes anxiety rise in you, these little bite sized drop biscuits are so easy it's sinful.It's also sinful the amount of fat in them, so if you're a deputy on the fat police patrol, just move along please. There's nothing for you to see here.
Honestly the fat is what makes these so darned divine, so pop one or two and enjoy them and don't hate on me. Let's just agree to save these for occasionally, rather than everyday. I literally have to stick these in the freezer or my husband will stand in the kitchen, popping them into his mouth like popcorn! They do freeze well thankfully.
Did you know that southern biscuits didn't really start out as the huge "cat head" style biscuits that we've gotten used to? Indeed not! They started out as little bite sized biscuits, like this. Somewhere along the line we super-sized them. Imagine that.
By the way, since these freeze well, they are a great make ahead for the upcoming holidays. After you thaw and warm them, stuff them with some thin slices of warm country ham, or a nice chicken salad, egg salad, pimento cheese, or shrimp salad as an appetizer to hold the masses off until the big meal.
It seems silly almost for a tutorial, but I took pictures, so here they are. At least you can see how the dough looks. Here's how simple it is.
In a bowl stir together 2 cups of self rising flour, with 1 cup of sour cream and a full stick of melted butter. You can't say that I didn't warn ya!
Mix that all together. You'll have a pretty shaggy and sticky dough.
Use a spoon to scoop the dough into a mini (24 count) muffin pan that has been generously sprayed. You can smooth down the tops if you like. Can you get any easier than this y'all?
Bake in a preheated 400 degrees F oven for about 10 to 12 minutes.
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Recipe: Butter Bombs - Mini Bite Sized Biscuits
©From the Kitchen of Deep South Dish
Prep time: 10 min |Cook time: 12 min | Yield: 24 mini biscuits
- 2 cups of self rising flour
- 1 cup of sour cream
- 1/2 cup (1 stick) of melted butter
Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Spray a 24 count mini muffin pan with non-stick spray. Mix the flour, sour cream and butter until well blended. Scoop spoonfuls of the batter into the muffin pan and bake at 400 degrees F for about 10 to 12 minutes.
Cook's Notes: These freeze nicely, just let them come to room temperature and either microwave or wrap completely in aluminum foil and reheat in a 350 degree oven for about 10 minutes or until freshened.
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Wednesday, November 25, 2009
women, showers, cell phones...
My son Aditya told me to stop mourning and bury the phone. He swiftly arranged for a replacement. But my numbers!!! Fortunately, I had them saved on a cd. Smart! My new phone has gone for a fitting - like a model before a haute couture show. I'm set. Sort of. This is my second phone to have suffered a 'Death by Shower'. Somehow, this doesn't seem to happen to guys. What is it about women, showers and phones....?? I breathlessly await personal accounts of this kind from blogdosts. Tell me it can get worse.... and I'll feel better.
Arnab's show tonight between 9pm-10pm. Rajdeep's tomorrow between 7pm-8pm. Then back to Arnab again between 9pm-10pm. Then on to a traditional Thanksgiving and remembrance dinner with the American Consul General. It hasn't been easy for anyone...I am with the Israelis when they remind the world about the atrocities Jews have endured with the words, " Lest we forget..." India must not forget...
46 comments:
- Romulus said...
beats dropping it into a cup of coffee, because people look upon you with disdain for pulling something like that off :( haha.
- November 25, 2009 at 11:38 AM
- Ugich Konitari said...
There was a life before cell phones. Our parents had that life, and they didnt do too badly bringing up their children.
I think taking cell phones into showers is madness. Take a quicker shower instead. - November 25, 2009 at 12:27 PM
- aNuP__ said...
In my case, the phone rings when half the class is sleepy. and professor on a really interesting topic in theory in his polish accent.
Rest of the time it acts as a substitute to my dear lost watch.
best example of the murphy's law..! - November 25, 2009 at 12:34 PM
- Roshan said...
Do you really need to take your phone into the shower? Heard of Voicemail?
- November 25, 2009 at 12:36 PM
- Lolopookie said...
I dropped mine in a waterfall once. Is that consolation enough?! :D :D
- November 25, 2009 at 1:02 PM
- Unknown said...
- November 25, 2009 at 1:43 PM
- Unknown said...
my husband dropped his i phone in a glass of water.so dont worry.things like that happens:)
- November 25, 2009 at 3:19 PM
- Ranjit said...
haha!! nice one!! Reminds me of the incident where I adventuroulsy proposed my girlfriend over phone in heavy rains.The phone stopped working in the midst and I lost both the phone and the girlfriend............
- November 25, 2009 at 4:11 PM
- Vishal Pore said...
Ah, you should have let it dry before trying any of those gimmicks.It really helps. Once I let my laptop dry and it worked :) Next time remember this...oops...don't take a phone to the shower :). Prevention better than cure and all that...
Vishal Pore
http://southindianpuranpoli.blogspot.com/ - November 25, 2009 at 4:11 PM
- Vaudeville of Exhilaration said...
My cell phone once dropped in a bucket of water. Guess what? I am still using it. You know guys are cool. So if it had been a guy, he wouldn't have taken a cell phone into the shower and if he had taken by any chance, he wud hv cancelled the call..
- November 25, 2009 at 5:00 PM
- चंद्रमौलेश्वर प्रसाद said...
This is my second phone to have suffered a 'Death by Shower'.
MORAL OF THE STORY: DONT TAKE CELLPHONE TO THE BATHROOM:) - November 25, 2009 at 5:18 PM
- NIM said...
yup that's true...all important call or atleast call that we don't want to ignore(irrespective of being important) occur when i'm in the shower... but luckily i have not witnessed a 'death by shower' incident. :P
- November 25, 2009 at 5:39 PM
- Neha said...
Sorry about the loss, but it sure made me smile (to say 'laugh' might sound offending!). That reminded me of a friend who flushed his cell phone while talking to his girlfriend!! Well, guess it was time for you to take a new one...so take it that way :). Am sure you are liking your new handset :)
- November 25, 2009 at 5:43 PM
- Unknown said...
- November 25, 2009 at 5:46 PM
- Shatrughan Singh said...
Teachings of Bhagwat Gita were given by Lord Krishna more than 5000 years ago but are still relevant today in our lives. Here is one for you:
What did you bring at the time of birth, that you have lost? What did you produce, which is destroyed? You didn't bring anything when you were born. Whatever you have, you have received it from the God only while on this earth. Whatever you will give, you will give it to the God. Everyone came in this world empty handed and shall go the same way. Everything belongs to God only.
My friends start beating me when I speak like this. Hope your feeling is not same here. - November 25, 2009 at 7:23 PM
- Jyostna said...
Better take it to the shower than having an aquarium n a kid. My cousin lost 3 phones for the same reason, so she got rid of the aquarium since she cannot stop her kid ;)
I do have this habit of taking cellphone to shower but never had such experience. :) - November 25, 2009 at 7:34 PM
- Sameer said...
Sorry to hear about your phone "loss". I can imagine how your world must have gone paralyzed. I usually carry my phones as well in the bathroom when I go for shower but this has not happened yet. But may be now I will be careful.
I agree with some other blogdosts who mentioned about how our world has changed. With cell phones, i phones, twittermania we operate in this information crazy world where we forget to take time to savor the simplicities of life. May be we should start doing that - enjoy our showers without any interruption, watch a movie in theater without your cell phone on..and the list can go on. We should have at least one day a month like this where we operate without any mode of communication- cell phones, computers, emails. Nothing. I agree, our parent's generation survived, why can't we? - November 25, 2009 at 7:37 PM
- TheBanyanTree said...
hahaha...that was funny...but awww ur cell died...:(
once my dad forgot his cell in his trousers n it gt washed up in washing machine ...hehehe...it too crashed...
but no worries...next time...wear gloves n answer d call...lol... :)
tak care.. - November 25, 2009 at 7:44 PM
- Mansee's Point Of View! said...
Taking your phone with you for a shower?? Frankly speaking I'm dissaponted. You don't come across as somebody like that..."Bathroom" is the best ME time which anybody can get- why do you want to spoil it by having something as bothersome as a phone around?? There is always voice mail or the option to call back
- November 25, 2009 at 7:45 PM
- Jogeshwar said...
Well I once happened to drop mine in a stack of hay. I searched for it quite a while but then gave up. I found it months later when the hay finished. The cellphone was barely recognizable but luckily I could use the sim again :)
- November 25, 2009 at 7:47 PM
Tonight/Tomorrow/And again
- Big Boss 3
9pm-10pm - November 25, 2009 at 7:55 PM
- ekta khetan said...
Hey Ms de I saw you on Arnab' show and even tweeted about it.
You were absolutely fantastic with "on your face" remarks and stand! Bravo!
Being in telecom I know how bad u feel when ur h/s goes missing...Hee heee good that u ve backup for your nos...nokia PC suite? - November 25, 2009 at 8:34 PM
- Manjiri said...
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- November 25, 2009 at 8:44 PM
- Manjiri said...
The best way to dry the phone is to keep it on top of your TV set. In two days, it returns to normalcy. I have tried it. I am telling you it works - November 25, 2009 at 8:46 PM
- Harish said...
aiyyo! id toh die if my fone takes a shower. I have deprived my phone from a bath since long... and i will rather have her stinking than watch her sinking.
Lest we Forget. you know de... the internal dialogue has started. though the results of teh anger is not always measurable and tangible, the conversation with ones innerself has begun.
I see mumbai more vociferous, about issues. Even if they sport a resigned and cynical attitude they do so with a lot of vengeance and hidden anger.
I am doing an activity tomorrow to remind people...A street extempore outside our college - st. xaviers.
Details here:
our ministers suffer from Gajani type amnesia and wish to acquire paa type Progeria. This hybrid is most fatal... they forget too soon, and wish to run faster and get wealthier too soon... - November 25, 2009 at 9:08 PM
- Chanz said...
hahaha... poor you... Women and cell phones... Welcome to our group.. You took the phone in a shower. Hahaha... I have heard a hundred stories abt this. So u must thank god, that you are not the only one who is crazy enough to take the phone to a shower... Its actually, the caller's fault.. Dont call yourself names coz u didnt do anything.. Be happy and enjoy the new phone..
(Sigh) Women know how to take money out of their husbands and dads... :) - November 25, 2009 at 11:31 PM
- Another Kiran In NYC said...
Atleast you didnt get your phone caught in the velcro back of your active toddler's diaper to be pee-ed on for half a day while you wondered where the hell it went.
I was in a hurry to get him to the sandpile at the playground and paid no attention when he kept tugging on his pants.
And it didnt even ring! Imagine if his bottom had begun to ring at the playground!
No amount of drying was going to help that phone! - November 26, 2009 at 5:56 AM
- drukmo said...
The hair dryer trick to dry the phone reminds me of that scene in the movie "Funny Games" when Naomi Watts is desperately trying to ring 911 with her wet phone. It is a disturbing film directed by the much acclaimed German guy who this year got a lot of critical acclaim for White Ribbon. If you haven't seen the movie, please try to watch it and if you have, you know that your situation is like a thousand times better than the one in the movie. The silver lining in this case extends into the realm of "violent" movies that are able to make you sweat without showing the act itself. You'll watch a good movie, connect to the actor's frustration against her dead phone and thank god you aren't in the same situation. It's all win win!
My two cents worth...a tibetan fan of yours. - November 26, 2009 at 10:34 AM
- Scarlett said...
Someone I know dropped hers into the toilet. Indian style...LOL. So there was no way she could've fetched it out either!!
- November 26, 2009 at 11:03 AM
- Nandinikakoti said...
seen Arnab's show.. my deductions ain't humble here.. however u did look Awesome............as always xx
- November 26, 2009 at 11:47 AM
- Nandinikakoti said...
Never mind with yo half world lost... people will get bck to ye.... u know why... Cheers!
- November 26, 2009 at 11:49 AM
- Tara said...
ooh a nice hit ! made me remember the day when v both (cellphone and me)were drenched in heavy rain all lost in a quiet street. Just as i tried my friend for help it died.. aaahh but made back to home though.. defenitely u will save the phone u hold now !!!
- November 26, 2009 at 1:27 PM
- introspection said...
My nephew entered the sea with his iphone and blackberry in the pockets of his shorts at Hawaii beaches.
Apple replaced his iphone, but office did not replace the balckberry.
There, this should make you feel much much better! - November 26, 2009 at 2:30 PM
- sharmila said...
My son sat on my cell phone and the screen display actually looked like an imprint of his bum.We had a hearty laugh over this death though!!!
- November 26, 2009 at 2:56 PM
- Pooja Rathore said...
About your cell phone such things happen and it is normal to react that way though nothing like that has happened with me my suggestion take shower in peace leave the cellphone alone let the cell phone have a break too because if you take it along you will be tempted to use and may repeat the same mistake again.
I liked Arnab show on Times with regard to 26/11 how safe ? the answer is the same we dont feel safe no major security measures if there are we cant see or most important dont feel (as far as mumbai is concerned i have to take your word and you said you dont feel safe that means nothing major in terms of security arrangement is concerned , i live in Bangalore here too i cant see anything major in terms of security when prevention of terrorism is the main issue.
The Kingfisher calendar girl 2010 reality show on NDTV GoodTimes is fun its spicy and entertaining i watch the show for you and my favourite magnetic scorpion Milind Soman ( he still looks so good).Its fun watching the girls give their best to win the title. - November 26, 2009 at 4:39 PM
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- November 26, 2009 at 6:27 PM
- Latha said...
I'm surprised that 'Apple' replaced somebody's iphone. My son wasn't so lucky. His iphone was pick pocketed in Virginia & the police & the Apple company acted typically like Indians. When it is a wrong done to a foreigner by a local guy, they look the other way. That iphone was a birthday gift by his friends. So it's not even the money. It's the feeling behind it.
Only we Indians fight for the justice that should be done to the foreigners who visit.
For westerners it is no issue at all!!!!! - November 26, 2009 at 11:35 PM
- Illkilya said...
I lost my phone when it got jealous of me having a blast in Goa & decided to take a dip in the Arabian Sea!
- November 27, 2009 at 1:06 AM
- Theyoginme said...
At least you had a back up...hope you back up your laptop and PC regularly.. those Hard-drives don't last forever and they don't need a wet hand to kill them..they simply die unexpectedly.
Perhaps you should consider not taking it in the shower - you should have some time for yourself without being interrupted. This whole idea of emergency phone calls adds more to our already stressful lives. Even in case of an emergency what could you have really done from the shower? Most likely the callers would have tried your land line instead. I think you should switch it off, disconnect...
We all lived without these gadget (pests!) and had perfectly normal lives in the past and dealt with emergencies just fine. this is why I hate cell phones! :) - November 27, 2009 at 1:47 AM
- Theyoginme said...
I was a bit shocked to read you carry your cell into the shower. The only thing I take is a magazine or a newspaper but not during a shower...
Not to sound sexist but perhaps women have more of an emotional attachment to their cell phones, so they want to carry it everywhere including the shower.
I think most guys want the latest and greatest! If they can afford to, they will dump their old cell phones for the new thinner and more sexier model with the latest whiz bang features. I have observed that guys in India carry several as if one is not enough... hmm.. what does that say about us men! Uh-oh, I hope I didn't offend anyone, but I am going to put my flame resistant overalls just in case!!! - November 27, 2009 at 2:00 AM
- Unknown said...
ur cell cant die just by a touch of wet hands.I think u r using chinese cell phones..............
- November 27, 2009 at 6:31 PM
- kamal310i said...
My phone is too much for me.I do blogging and all the internet stuff on it.Believe me,it fell into the toilet english type.Poor me had to put hands and fetch it.Silly me to have washed it thoroughly under a tap with soap.The phone slept for a couple of hours.Then I kept it in the sun for a few minutes.It became ok.I am posting the comment through the same phone.
- November 27, 2009 at 8:58 PM
- Jennifer Tavares said...
i watched you on arnabs show last nite and i felt you were too critical of everything. maybe thats ur job and thats why arnab calls u there. however i noticed that noone appreciated that we have lived for one year without a major terror attack and hats of to Mr PC on that.why do people light candles mrs de??? in rememberance thats why...so dont poke fun when people do it. you too will feel like doing it when you lose a loved one( god forbid) lastly i remember you in the early nineties coming to breach candy hospital with your son who fractured his hand or leg. you came inside the OT when we kept telling you to go out. you behave like a VIP, demanded things and wud not budge. i did not know who u were but somebody said she is a big shot. you still are and therefore you chose the tv studio over a candle march. you belong to the chatter class where bachi karkaria rightly put u.
- November 27, 2009 at 10:35 PM
- Mukesh Bhatia said...
Men, Phone & Toilet is one of the combo. It happened with many whom I know personally & once with me too. Keep guessing how does it happen.
- November 28, 2009 at 4:32 PM
- shivansh's blog said...
Haha....ur drenched cell phone is bRINGING smiles on my face...I too put some wet fingers on my cell few months back while washing clothes....(yes,boys can also wash clothes..dat too..not by washing machine)...Phone was switched off for whole night and it auto-dried next day..thanks to hot delhi weather...But anywz..try touch phones..no keys in them..no chances to get wet..;)
- December 2, 2009 at 7:42 PM
hahaha...that was funny. Merry Christmas to you!
smart phone - December 19, 2009 at 6:32 PM


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Disaster of US Making – Iraq and Afghanistan
Americans have forgotten about the Iraq war, which began 10 years ago this week, and the Afghan war, the longest in American history, but the U.S. government is still throwing its weight around in both countries.
The Iraq war, the pretext for which was nonexistent weapons of mass destruction, officially ended in 2011 with the withdrawal of virtually all of America's combat troops. But the havoc wreaked by the U.S. invasion and regime change goes on. Over a hundred thousand Iraqis were killed in the war itself, but many more died in the aftermath from sectarian violence and the obliterated infrastructure. (Iraq had never recovered from the destruction inflicted by the U.S. government in the 1991 Gulf War and in the decade of sanctions related to it.) Millions fled their homes.
The U.S. occupation unleashed bitter sectarian violence, complete with U.S.-trained death squads, leading the numerically dominant Shiite Muslims (who are friendly to Iran) to cleanse the Sunnis from Baghdad. A Sunni insurgency against the occupation inflicted heavy casualties until American money managed to have the guns turned on the al-Qaeda affiliate, which was not in Iraq before the U.S. invasion.
On the American side, the deaths approached 4,500, with tens of thousands shattered in body and spirit. For the U.S. taxpayer, the price is over a trillion dollars, with billions lost to sheer corruption in the so-called rebuilding.
The enormity of the crime committed by the Bush administration, with the complicity of cheerleading politicians (Republican and Democrat), journalists, and foreign-policy "experts" cannot be adequately calculated — and the consequences are not all in.
The country is now ruled by a corrupt, authoritarian, and brutal government. The infrastructure is a mess, with water, sanitation, and electricity unreliable. Most significant, the violence continues. Car bombings are common, and the al-Qaeda affiliate is active again — so active that the CIA is "ramping up support to elite Iraqi antiterrorism units," the Wall Street Journal reports. (And you thought the American war was over!) The irony is that these al-Qaeda fighters have been on the American side in the efforts to overthrow Libyan dictator Muammar Gaddafi and Syrian dictator Bashar al-Assad.
If the Iraqi catastrophe isn't enough to destroy one's confidence in big government, what would it take?
Meanwhile, in Afghanistan's capital, Kabul, 300 residents of Wardak province recently held a demonstration demanding that the U.S. government remove its special-operations forces from the province because of the violence they are believed to be supporting.
Last month Afghanistan's president, Hamid Karzai, gave the Americans until March 10 to leave the province, but so far they have not left and Karzai is willing to compromise. The order came after complaints about raids by U.S.-trained Afghan squads that led to the disappearance of Wardak residents. Nine men disappeared after one such nighttime raid. Murder and torture have also been alleged.
The New York Times reports that "the influential Ulema Council … issued a threatening statement," which said, "If the Americans once again do not honor their commitments and keep on disobeying, then this will be considered as an occupation, and they may expect to see a reaction to their action." The Times added that the statement "referred to American forces in Afghanistan as 'infidels,' echoing language used by the Taliban."
The U.S. command denies the allegations, and an investigation is underway. It should be noted, however, that the U.S. military trained and supported similarly brutal militias ("death squads") in Iraq, just as it did in Latin America in the 1980s.
Whatever the investigation reveals, the controversy demonstrates the perils of invasion and occupation. People resent foreign forces on their soil, and the Afghans are no exception. They have driven out foreigners many times in the past, most recently the powerful Soviet Union.
U.S. officials say the invasions of Iraq and Afghanistan were key to national security after 9/11. Even Barack Obama, who built a presidential campaign on opposing the Iraq war, claims it did much good after all.
The 9/11 attacks were criminal acts intended as reprisals for American-sponsored oppression in the Middle East. The U.S. response has not made America safer — it has created new enemies. What did you expect of the corrupt, power-hungry incompetents who call themselves American "public servants"?
Next on the agenda: Iran.


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I think I've really hurt several people's feelings. Yesterday I said something insensitive to Friend A about Friend B and Friend C, and I don't think any of them will like me now. I feel really guilty. What should I do please?
– Elizabeth*
No one's perfect. We all mess up now and then and wish we could hit some magical "undo" key. It can help a little bit to remember that most people have been in the situation you're in.
What makes the difference is what you do next.
Use the power of a sincere apology.Apologies can go a long way toward healing hurt or angry feelings. It takes courage to step up and admit what you did was wrong.
Try saying: "What I said the other day was really insensitive of me. I shouldn't have said that. It wasn't fair. I was being judgmental and gossipy — and I don't feel proud of that. I just want to say I'm sorry. I messed up."
The important thing about an apology is sincerity. When we apologize, we need to do so because we feel genuinely sorry about how hurt another person may be. An apology shouldn't be a way to protect our own image or be liked. If an apology is more about ourselves and how we can benefit, it might not seem true.
Another element of a sincere apology is the intention to change. Let the person know you're not going to let it happen again. You could tell your friends, "I'm going to be more aware of what I think and say about people in the future. I'll make an effort to be kinder and more positive about people, and not to talk behind their backs — especially when it's my friends."
Apologizing in person is best. But if you can't bring yourself to have a conversation in person, write a note. Whichever way you decide to communicate, be sure that you'd feel comfortable if anything you say is shared with other friends, too.
Hopefully, your friends can accept your apology. But don't be discouraged if it doesn't happen instantly. Some people are quick to forgive. Others may have to think about what you said and need time to get over hurt feelings or anger, or to rebuild trust. Do your best with the part that's up to you. The rest is up to them.
Forgive yourself, too. We can learn from mistakes. Focus on mending the situation, not replaying it in your head. Being too self-critical can't help you. Neither can wishing the situation away, thinking about what you said over and over, or dwelling on what you could have said instead. Move forward. Focus your energies on trying to make things right and working on your good intentions!
*Names have been changed to protect user privacy.
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Thursday, January 1, 2009
Year of the Tongue?
Thursday, January 1, 2009
Or I suppose it could be an ant-eater. Or a wild boar. Or an anthropomorphized vacuum cleaner.
Or, if you turn it THIS way, a Billy Goat wearing a balloon hat:
Heh, it's like an ink blot test. What do YOU see?*
Thanks and belated birthday greetings go to Amy C., who suffers from having a birthday between Christmas and New Years. Like many kids growing up with such a birth date, she never had a birthday cake of her very own. So last week, after years of waiting for someone else to buy her a cake, she decided to go out and just get it herself. [standing and applauding] Plus, she ALSO bought this cake - with no intention of eating it - solely to share with us here on Cake Wrecks. Now that's a Wreckporter.
Amy, you just keep wreckin' on with your bad self. And thanks for the reminder that life's too darn short to not buy your own birthday cake. Live it up this year, my friend, and enjoy that cake.
* You know, besides the obvious but not-so-creative pink elephant. ;)
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- Dee said...
Is it a pink elephant for some inexplicable reason??
- January 1, 2009 at 1:35 PM
- CRRE said...
Egads. That's almost pornographic.
But happy birthday and waytago to Amy. :) - January 1, 2009 at 1:38 PM
- Kelley said...
I think it's a pink elephant... although that giant pink booger/tongue/member/thing coming out of its trunk is frightening...
--Kelley - January 1, 2009 at 1:41 PM
- Pam said...
I thought maybe it was a pink elephant...like the kind you see after drinking too much champagne!
- January 1, 2009 at 1:43 PM
- Special Sauce said...
Pink elephants, which is what you'll see after you drink too much?
- January 1, 2009 at 1:44 PM
I see a fireman wishing me good luck in China.
- January 1, 2009 at 1:45 PM
- H. L. Dyer said...
I'm almost positive that is meant to be the proverbial "pink elephant".
The fact he is also spouting champagne (in an identical shade of pink) from his trunk is unfortunate. - January 1, 2009 at 1:46 PM
- Hyena Overlord said...
I thought it was a pink hippo with a ermmm "firehose" sticking out of it's head.
I would so buy a wreck for the sake of having it posted here.
wvotd..saniver...as in St. Saniver Ganache..patron Saint of Wreck Reporters. - January 1, 2009 at 1:49 PM
i see a pink fish trying to eat a pink worm. or something like that. ^^
- January 1, 2009 at 1:54 PM
It's a pink elephant, fer shur!
- January 1, 2009 at 1:56 PM
- HappyEverAfterGirl said...
I am hoping it is an elephant with really small ears.
- January 1, 2009 at 1:58 PM
Looks like a pink elephant, which would almost make sense for New Year's Eve drinking.
- January 1, 2009 at 1:58 PM
- WM said...
OK...could it be an elephant? Huh? Maybe? Except the tail is kind of short. Or maybe a pig blowing one of those noisemaker things? Weird, just weird.
- January 1, 2009 at 1:58 PM
- A. Comfort said...
Could the pink thing be a gastric bypass, for someone who's going the surgical route to their New Year's weight loss resolution?
- January 1, 2009 at 2:01 PM
- Feisty Irish Wench said...
My brother's birthday is the day after Christmas. My sister-in-law's is Dec 30th. They get screwed big time. Mine is in January. I stopped waiting for other people to give me a good birthday and started providing a good one for myself about 10 years ago. Best thing I ever did for myself. Everyone is recovering from Christmas spending and I get cheap, cheezy gifts or I get forgotten.
I also applaud Amy C for taking charge of her birthday. It's so much better that way than relying on other saps to celebrate in your honor. - January 1, 2009 at 2:05 PM
- H. L. Dyer said...
Googling "pink elephant cake" brings up many odd things, but I think this is what they were going for:
Pink Elephant Cake - January 1, 2009 at 2:08 PM
- MarieA said...
this was too funny for words.My own birthday is 3rd in less than a month - my oldest daughter - starts off the Taurus stubborn feast, then 13 days later... her younger sister, and then 14 days after that me! Three Taurus girls... now all PMSing a week apart....
By the time my turn came around... we were admiteddly tired of cake, but even at that...the soon to be EX spouse... just never bothered... (reason #15 at least to deserve the EX title)
Like your fearless and intrepid Wreckporter... I shall get my own BD cake and perhaps find a feat for the eyes as well.
thanks for this. Helps start the New Year right! - January 1, 2009 at 2:08 PM
- andie said...
Happy Birthday, Amy!
- January 1, 2009 at 2:08 PM
- Laurie Black said...
Perhaps it's a heffalump...I've always wanted one of those. :)
- January 1, 2009 at 2:08 PM
It's a Slowpoke! :D
- January 1, 2009 at 2:09 PM
- Debbi said...
Yay ~ Amy got sprinkles! Way to go!
- January 1, 2009 at 2:11 PM
Could it be an attempt at a pink elephant?
- January 1, 2009 at 2:19 PM
Maybe it's one of these?
Either way, HAPPY NEW YEAR! and keep on Wreckin! - January 1, 2009 at 2:22 PM
now are you just being silly or didn't you come up with a pink elephant? i know i saw mine last night :)
- January 1, 2009 at 2:26 PM
O.O I see something slightly resembling a hentai tentacle monster with, er, only one strategically placed tentacle.
Please delete if unsuitable :P
SK - January 1, 2009 at 2:27 PM
- Grandma J said...
umm...I'm pretty sure that's supposed to be a pink elephant, which is what all good drunks are supposed to be seeing on New Year's Eve. It is a pretty long trunk though. Jeannie
- January 1, 2009 at 2:28 PM
"I could stand the sight of worms
And look at microscopic germs
But technicolor pachyderms
are really too much for me." - January 1, 2009 at 2:39 PM
- DivaLea said...
Happy Birthday, Amy!
I can't believe anyone wouldn't jump at the change to add some fun and more cake in the week between Christmas and New Year's!
Good for you for doing it for yourself!
Word verification: addrysec
ADD ruins your silly elephant cake! - January 1, 2009 at 2:49 PM
- DivaLea said...
Marie A.: I have a STB ex, too, and for MANY reasons not unlike yours!
Here's to a new start for us! Delicious cake we buy ourselves, GO! - January 1, 2009 at 2:53 PM
- Mari said...
I see... an ephelant!
- January 1, 2009 at 2:57 PM
- JohnnyB said...
Whatever it is, someone stepped on it and squeezed all the toothpaste out of it.
- January 1, 2009 at 2:57 PM
- ofnadwy said...
Is there any reason it couldn't be a pink aardvark? Happy New Year! Pink Aardvarks for everyone! It symbolically eats the... um... the bad... ants... of the previous year, allowing a fresh start! Happy Aardvark!
- January 1, 2009 at 3:00 PM
- erika325 said...
Uh, yeah, that kinda scared me for a moment. Yikes.
Happy Birthday to Amy though and bravo for buying your own cake!! Hope you got to eat it too ;) - January 1, 2009 at 4:05 PM
It looks like a facehugger from Alien.
- January 1, 2009 at 4:21 PM
- Angie said...
Perhaps most people overlooked your disclaimer "* You know, besides the obvious but not-so-creative pink elephant." at the bottom of your post. However...even though it is an elephant...I'm seeing Horton Hears a Who....maybe after accidentally swallowing his speck?
Love the wrecks....I'm always on the lookout! - January 1, 2009 at 4:22 PM
- Mrs. Flax said...
I think it's a New Year's Baby. Like Baby New Year in "Rudolph's Shiny New Year," except instead of ridiculously huge ears . . . well . . .
- January 1, 2009 at 4:30 PM
- Summer said...
Maybe that pink thing is a New Year's Eve noisemaker?
- January 1, 2009 at 4:41 PM
- Scritzy said...
That's ... vaguely obscene.
JohnnyB, your interpretation rocks! - January 1, 2009 at 5:02 PM
- Mella said...
I see a pink elephant after a horrible car accident
- January 1, 2009 at 5:24 PM
The Transformers fan in me is rearing its head... I'm seeing a pink Quintesson with only one tentacle...
- January 1, 2009 at 5:50 PM
- Calamity Cookie said...
When it's upside down I see a pink hippo with a fluffy white pompom tail wearing a very silly hat.
- January 1, 2009 at 6:18 PM
- Stephanie said...
that's an ELEPHANT??!
- January 1, 2009 at 6:26 PM
A collapsed pink elephant with only enough energy left to blow a noisemaker?
What does it say when your hallucinations are collapsing from fatigue?!
captcha: inallys -- where this cake should have been found :-) - January 1, 2009 at 6:29 PM
I'm not seeing the goat.
Comment number 6 made me laugh!
Thank you for such wonderful posts. I don't think any other blog has made me laugh as much. The cakes and commentary are a hoot. All the best to you for 2009.
I wonder what wrecks await us? - January 1, 2009 at 6:56 PM
Uh, I think it's supposed to be one of those party favors that you blow.
But I don't think it looks like a trunk, a tongue, OR a party favor. It looks like something TOTALLY different. LOL - January 1, 2009 at 6:59 PM
- Wolverine Girl said...
Like many others I saw a pink elephant, but upside down it looks like a hippo to me. And I don't even want to know what that thing is on its head. And happy birthday Amy! My hubby and I have a friend who's birthday is January 2nd and we always try and get him something nice.
- January 1, 2009 at 7:10 PM
- Donna M. said...
Haven't you ever heard of the New Years Elephant? (with white whipped cream doodie)
- January 1, 2009 at 7:17 PM
i can't believe that no one else has identified what this obviously is.
it's a snardvark. just like that game i used to have when i was a kid.
there's a not-so-great picture here:
the little "snards" had to run down the tongue so as to not get eaten. - January 1, 2009 at 7:33 PM
I think it's an extraordinarily poorly done pink elephant, which is what you're supposed to see after you're drunk.
- January 1, 2009 at 7:39 PM
- FreedomFirst said...
I was thinking pink elephant... But that trunk needs some wrinkles, otherwise it might look like something pink and smooth that you don't want on a cake.
- January 1, 2009 at 8:07 PM
- E.A.D. said...
It's a pink tapir who got his tongue caught in some undergrowth while looking for food.
wv: voidines - The dark side version of saltines? - January 1, 2009 at 8:24 PM
- Heather said...
I think it's an elephant blowing one of those party noisemakers.
And by noisemakers I mean... Yeah. - January 1, 2009 at 8:47 PM
That thing looks like a hippo. I know it's a pink elephant (as everyone on this board has already said. We get it) but it doesn't have big enough ears for it to be clear that that is what it is.
It is a bit vulgar though...if taken that way. - January 1, 2009 at 8:47 PM
- ksaldria said...
I'm voting for naked anteater.
- January 1, 2009 at 9:04 PM
24 hours post New Years Eve fun- I believe I'm looking at a deflated Elephant who only has enough energy to raise his strangely phalic looking trunk, sadly I don't have the energy to do the same I'm going to sleep...
- January 1, 2009 at 9:11 PM
Someone needs to tell them that 2009 is the year of the COW not the PIG lmao DX
- January 1, 2009 at 9:25 PM
Aw, it's kinda cute. In a snuggly-animal-having-an-erection kind of way. And I apologize for any traffic you get from that E word.
Angie (from over at www.HalfAssedKitchen.com) - January 1, 2009 at 11:36 PM
Wait, wait, wait...that's supposed to be an ELEPHANT!?
I would have never ever ever figured that out. - January 2, 2009 at 12:38 AM
- M.D. said...
"Dude. Your pink beer bong keeps lookin' at me."
- January 2, 2009 at 1:21 AM
Happy Birthday Amy!
I was thinking it looked more like a pink elephant and what better way to have a birthday than a fantasy come true. I hope all your Birthday wishes come true. - January 2, 2009 at 1:28 AM
- Unknown said...
Pink elephant!
- January 2, 2009 at 4:16 AM
- emzeegee & the hungry three said...
Maybe it's meant to be one of those blower things?
I totally feel for Amy C, because my birthday is ON Christmas Day..and I'm Jewish. Pretty much the worst birthday ever, and this year I asked my hubby to buy me a cake... because I'm a professional pastry chef, and dammit, sometimes I don't want to bake.
Yes, he screwed it up royally:
Thanks for the ongoing laughs!
M - January 2, 2009 at 5:57 AM
I agree with Eeeek!
fireman all the way.
"Good suck in China!" - January 2, 2009 at 8:32 AM
- Alison said...
I think maybe it's related to this nermeatean or whatever worm at Ugly Overload:
http://uglyoverload.blogspot.com/2008/12/strangest-invertebrate-ever-maybe.html - January 2, 2009 at 9:20 AM
- Unknown said...
I agree with Crystal RR Edwards.
Or else I've got a really dirty mind, and didn't know it.
~Amy B - January 2, 2009 at 10:47 AM
- Dani said...
Awww now that's just wrong, her parents and/or signifigant other or whoever should have been buying her a cake all these years should have gotten coal in their stocking. My daughters b-day is 12/21 and I made her a cake geeze!
- January 2, 2009 at 11:25 AM
- Lulubelle B said...
a pink elephant
for the boozy and sober
to greet the new year - January 2, 2009 at 12:36 PM
Um, I see, well, I think you can guess. Let's just say that is a very "manly" cake. :(
- January 2, 2009 at 2:01 PM
- Keeper of the Zoo said...
My 2 year old says it's a lollipop... with eyes! LOL
Karen - January 2, 2009 at 2:44 PM
Eh, my birthday is 12/29 and people have always thought it would be terrible. It really hasn't been, I always had a separate party and I always had my bday to look forward to after Christmas when I was little instead of being all disappointed that Christmas was over.
- January 2, 2009 at 4:19 PM
My 5 yo just looked at that and said "Ooooh Licky Licky!"
Disturbing. - January 2, 2009 at 9:01 PM
- punxxi said...
omg! it's a pink alien cake!
- January 2, 2009 at 10:45 PM
I just saw all of the comments wishing me a Happy Birthday and I wanted to say thank you all! :)
I totally got the pink elephant/firehose thing when I saw this in the store. If it hadn't been chocolate I would have eaten it! - January 3, 2009 at 2:52 PM
C'mon, Jen! That was a PERFECT cake for another guess-a-wreck, like the "Superdome"! A whole wreckish opportunity wasted! I'm disappointed in you, Jen!
- January 4, 2009 at 12:37 PM
- Rowenna said...
Pink elephant--the classic symbol of seeing something alcohol-induced. So, is it really on the cake or are we drunk?
- January 4, 2009 at 6:07 PM
- Carmen said...
My three year old says it looks like a throw-up monkey.
- January 4, 2009 at 9:54 PM
My 4 year old just saw the picture of this cake and asked for it for her birthday. Yikes!
- January 5, 2009 at 12:30 PM
I used to buy my own birthday cake!
I'm known among my friends as a great baker, especially cake, but prefer not to bake my OWN birthday cake. Perversely, I kind of LIKE store cake, although some stores' frosting is better than others. It was usually the only time I got to eat store cake all year.
Happy Birthday, Amy! - January 7, 2009 at 9:49 PM
- Cinnamingirl said...
But, this is the year of the cow...
- January 14, 2009 at 11:21 AM
Wait a minute, if it's laying on it's back, (look at the legs in the second picture) why is its head in that position? Is it just me? Am I seeing things?
- January 16, 2009 at 11:45 PM
- Current Resident said...
I'm kinda surprised that nobody got that this is an anteater, and the little sprinkles are supposed to be the ants!
- March 31, 2009 at 4:54 PM
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