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When calling someone in city government, you might get a disconnected telephone number because the worker has moved to a new one. Or you won't get the worker's voice mail.
The city is upgrading its aging and costly phone systems that angered callers who could not get through or whose messages went to the voice-mail graveyard.
Under a new system called Voice over Internet Protocol, all city employees will eventually get new numbers, while some have the option of turning off their voice mail.
So far, the city has replaced 3,500 of the 9,000 phone lines, according to chief information officer Gordon Bruce.
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"During tax time the Real Property Tax Office was flooded with phone calls," Bruce said. "People were totally frustrated because they couldn't get through. Now, with Voice over IP, they can."
In 2005 there were five prefixes for city government telephones operating under 11 poorly maintained phone systems, some of which were 30 years old, Bruce said. Under the old phone systems, there were unused telephone numbers, voice mails that went unanswered or unnoticed, and costly maintenance expenses.
That year, the city began its project to upgrade the phone system so there would only be one phone system and two prefixes, the main one being 768.
So far, the city has upgraded 3,500 of the 9,000 phones, starting with the Frank Fasi Municipal Building, the Honolulu Fire Department and police substations. By the end of this year, they expect to be more than halfway complete with 5,000, and should finish the overhaul by the end of 2009.
"Voice over IP is definitely the technology of the present," Bruce said. "It's where the whole telephone industry is going toward. It's more efficient. It's more robust."
Bruce said the cost to upgrade the phone system, which is provided by Hawaiian Telcom, did not require any significant budget increases. The city stopped paying for maintenance costs on its old lines, allowing it to use that money for the upgrades. Under the old system, maintenance costs about $600,000, Bruce said, compared with the $200,000 annually the city spends now.
Under this phone system, many city offices eliminated voice mail, an option that Mayor Mufi Hannemann dislikes.
"The mayor's not a real proponent of voice mail," Bruce said. "He would prefer a live person to come to the phone."
In cases where voice mail is permitted -- a decision left up to department directors -- it will be recorded and stored in an e-mail file. Jeff Coelho, director of the city Customer Services Department, said this makes it easier and more efficient for complaint officers to follow up on callers' requests.
Bruce said the biggest challenge for upgrading the phone systems is the confusion the new numbers could cause for callers. For three months a city employee will have two phone numbers -- the old number and the new one -- to transition into the new number.
"We still have situations where people will call the old number," Bruce said. "That's not unique to us. But the biggest challenge is that the three-month transition is sometimes not long enough. We've done this in such a quiet and unassuming way that ... for the most part there have been little complaints."


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Soliciting a Social Gathering
I am a 23 year old nanny. I got my current nanny job in August 2011 after being unable to find a job in my field (graduated with a BS). I read ISYN all the time, and I am disappointed to see how different my relationship with my MB is compared to a lot of the posters. I realize that I am extremely lucky to have found a family that fits my personality so perfectly. I have never dreaded a day of work since the day I started, and I just gush about how great my job is to everyone.
Let me start from the beginning. I fell in love with my charges, a boy (4) and girl (2), almost immediately. I am so head over heels in love with them and I tell them how much I love them every single day, multiple times a day. My relationship with DB was a bit awkward at first because he was starting a new (very difficult) job when I started in August. Since then, however, it has only gotten better. In the beginning he seemed stressed and not as interested in getting to know me. Once he saw how great my relationship with the kids and MB was, he opened up a lot. MB and I have become very, very close. I look forward to seeing her and having her around (I love days when she works from home!) and I know she feels the same. We could talk for hours, about the kids or anything else. After testing the waters for a few months on what we could/wanted to share with each other, we now talk about everything. She has met half of my family and I have met most of theirs as well. She knows most details of my daily life...for example: what I buy when I go shopping, where I go to dinner (she often gives me suggestions), hears stories about who I am dating, loves to know what bars I go to and what happens on my nights out. MB and DB are 34 and like to drink and love to tell me drinking stories etc. Trust me, it shocked me in the beginning! DB also talks to me about things like this and recently invited me to a golf outing and insisted I bring my boyfriend--first social invite from the fam :)!
One of the biggest differences that I find interesting about my relationship with them vs. other people I've worked for is that they encourage me to drink their alcohol when I babysit on weekends and the kids are in bed. MB also tells to me grab a beer on Friday afternoons when I'm hanging out at the house-- I often hang around and watch TV with MB while the kids nap. They also constantly encourage me to nap in the guest room while the kids nap. I know they love and trust me a great deal. Also I'd like to say that I have never taken advantage of their leniency (the most I've had in front of them is one beer). I cannot stress enough how close I am with their family. I consider them my second family and have slept over at their house many times. I do much more for them than they have ever asked-- I empty the dishwasher, take the trash out, swiffer/sweep the floor, and make sure the house is basically spotless before MB gets home every single day. They have NEVER asked me to do any of this. I was used to it from my other job and honestly it makes my life easier because I feel more organized (they are kind of messy) and it gives me piece of mind that I am doing my job in the best way that I can. I know they appreciate it. The biggest reason I do it, though, is because I love them. I appreciate how they treat me like family, trust me, and allow me to take the kids anywhere I want, whenever I want.
Anyway...they often feel bad about having me babysit on weekends because they think I will be too burnt out from the week to deal with the kids, which has never been the case. My issue is that I WANT to be around and I WANT them to invite me to be around more often for social reasons. I've been kinda bummed in the past when I wasn't invited to the kids' birthday parties (family parties which is totally understandable), I didn't expect an invite but I was kinda bummed to not have it mentioned that I stop by. They feel bad having me around when I'm not working because they think that I would rather be doing something else. Also, to be fair, they would never have invited their old nanny (there are no pictures of her and she was around for 3 years), so I'm sure they don't know how to approach situations like that. MB seemed shocked when I got the kids gifts for their birthdays and Christmas. Shame on old nanny for not loving my babies in the way that they deserve! I would love to stay for dinner one night or take the kids out WITH the parents one day or night. I would also love to have dinner with just DB and MB sometime or interact socially with them. I know people who go to bars with parents they babysit for. I'm not saying I want to go to a bar with them, I actually don't and I think that would be awkward. I am confident that they feel the same way, I'm sure they would love to have dinner one night and a few glasses of wine or whatever, but they feel bad because I am around their family 7:30-5 five days a week.
So I guess the advice I'm looking for is how to approach the subject of being more social together? My birthday is coming up and it would mean a lot to me to spend it with them...It is a Thursday and I work that day. I don't want them to feel like I want to go to dinner so that they'll pay, that wouldn't matter to me at all, I would happily pay for myself. I also recently moved into a new apt that I have talked to MB about extensively, and we have mentioned having her come over to see it several times, but she hasn't yet. We are both kind of shy and I don't know in what context I should invite her over in. They are people that I want in my life forever, even after I get a job in my field, and it is important to me that they feel comfortable enough to go out to dinner etc. We have talked about them bringing me on vacation and one of MB's concerns was that there might be some awkwardness. They had a VERY different relationship with their old nanny, and I have never felt about other bosses the way I feel about them. So, I think we are both so new to the situation that we don't know how to approach it/make sure one another is comfortable. Please spare me the whole "you shouldnt drink with your bosses" thing because that is just how we are-- they love to drink and so do I. I don't need to hear that being too personal with them is a bad idea, we are way beyond that point already and our relationship has only been strengthened by sharing personal information with each other. I wouldn't want it any other way. Am I the only one who has developed a relationship like this??? I hope not!! MB is one of my closest friends! and the KIDS-- I could write a whole other post about my relationship with them and how awesome they are :) MB has told me I have a job with them until I don't need it anymore, but how do I show them that it's not just a job to me?! (We don't tell each other how we feel about each other it's more of an unspoken thing)
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While I might mention that you would have gone to the kids birthday parties or something, be careful.
Yes, these people are your friends but they are also your bosses. Be sure that you have a life outside of your job. While they may be laid back and fun and treat you like family, they aren't.
- May 3, 2012, 8:04:00 AM
- UmassSlytherin said...
My advice is to keep your distance. And I certainly would not drink around the kids. They are the parents: they can. You are not family and I just wouldn't do it. I would wait until I was off the clock, off the premises, with my own family and friends before cracking open the wine. lol just my opinion.
- May 3, 2012, 8:12:00 AM
- workingMom said...
I agree with the other posters; although the parents have said you can drink and let your hair down around the kids, you should never actually do it. Some day it will come back to bite you.
It's lovely that you all get along so well, but never, ever forget that they are NOT your family - they are your employers. You need to hold yourself to a professional standard and distance at all times (even if/especially when the parents do not!).
Too much informal socializing with the bosses usually turns out badly.
- May 3, 2012, 8:23:00 AM
I'll try this again. I think it's fine to hang out with your employers. I've been on vacation with mine(pleasure not working). I've gone out to dinner with them and gone over to watch teleVision with them. I'm always allowed to drink at the childrens parties and at night time jobs after I've put the kids to bed. I think it all depends on how comfortable you feel with your relationship with the parents. I personally love hanging out with my employers. I'm no longer with them but worked with them for eight years and we are still very good friends today.
- May 3, 2012, 9:03:00 AM
I think it's wonderful you get along, truly I do.
But I've been around the nanny block a few times and no how quickly a nanny/parent relationship can sour.
They are your employers first and always never forget that.
I would limit my off hours contact with them to the kids' birthday parties.
It's not a good idea for you to drink while on the job no matter what they say.
I'm truly glad this is going well for you now, but this truly has nightmare ending written all over it.
- May 3, 2012, 10:27:00 AM
Boundaries! Boundaries! Boundaries!
I can't say it enough, it'l be hard now but some need to be put in place.
- May 3, 2012, 10:32:00 AM
Going to have to agree with Fiona on this one, sorry. I've gotten close and been "friends" with an employer and it sort of back-fired on me. We ended up just knowing way too much about each other and if something came up that was none of her business, like my finances or whatever, she would stick her nose in it and be angry if she saw me spending money on certain things, etc. But it was my fault for telling her too much to begin with. Someday you might want to keep something to yourself and you should be able to but if you cross certain lines, it won't be possible. I hope that makes sense the way I worded it. It's awesome that you feel so comfortable around each other, and honestly, I still keep in touch with that employer I was talking about and NOW we get along great again. I still babysit the kids and take them for ice cream or to a movie when I miss seeing them for awhile, we still give each other birthday and other holiday gifts and ex-MB and I still text. She'll send me pictures of the kids and I still tell her if something new is going on in my life, but it's ok now because she isn't my employer. It just works better.
Just speaking from my own experiences though, your situation might work out fine, and I hope it does! :)
- May 3, 2012, 11:47:00 AM
I agree with most. As a new employer I also made the mistake of becoming too close with caregivers. Including encouraging them to have a drink after the kids were asleep. It ended badly -- came home to one falling down drunk while alone with dc.
I now strongly advocate for a respectful, but professional relationship. You can have mutual respect and liking without crossing boundaries.
- May 3, 2012, 1:44:00 PM
- Phoenix said...
I think you sound like a really nice person and i am happy that you found a family that you feel comfortable with.
that being said. if they ever dissapoint you they are going to crush you. i don't think that you are putting up enough guards. For instance if somehow they can't afford you anymore they will fire you. I know you can't work for free as much as you'd like to. Just remember you are an employee and no matter how cool people are they will always choose their family to save over someone else. meaning there may come a time where they won't be so cool. and that will kill you inside. That would be partly your fault. I hope to high water that it doesn't but just know that it could
- May 3, 2012, 2:22:00 PM
NEVER drink on the job period! You are setting yourself up to get screwed. I also have a great relationship with all my employers; i'm invited to the children's parties, allowed to drink and text them over the weekend BUT I never cross boundaries. I never actually drink when offered and I don't share everything with them. They are my employers, not my friends and def not my family. You need to learn that now before you get fucked over later. They may do a lot to help you and enjoy talking to you but when the time comes when they decide that you no longer fit, you will be out on the street without a second look. YOU WILL NEVER BE FAMILY.... Remember that!
I'm sorry if you think most of us are being crazy but I assure you that' one day everything will change. You are young and this is your first nanny job so keep our guard up.
By the way most of love our charges as much as you do and get along with our employers..
- May 3, 2012, 3:03:00 PM
- melissa said...
I agree with most posters. NEVER drink on the job. I don't care what they say. Heaven forbid in the future something goes wrong, and you can't get a good referral from them because you drank on the job. I've made a point of being close with the families I work for, but not to the point of outside socializing. I've always been invited to the children's parties (and other big events as well), but that's about it. There do need to be boundaries. Plus, forgive me please, the whole post sounds a little creepy to me. Like, it sounds like a crazy nanny movie plot. Just saying- be careful.
- May 3, 2012, 3:18:00 PM
So sorry to burst your bubble, but this will comeback to bite you in the ass big time! Yes, most experienced nannies have made this mistake eary on, that is why we are all agreeing that professionalism is key to have a successful, healthy, working relationship with your employers. Your in over your head, and one day they will let you go and you'll be lucky if the children or parents remember or acknowledge your existence. You really can't distance yourself now without seeming cold, but you should really try to build a fun and positive life outside of work. It will be much healthier for your head and heart in the long run to keep most personal things personal, and remember you are not family. The comments you wanted to hear are not here because it will not work out to be this close with your employers. Of course you may be the type of person that learns life's lessons the hard way. Oh, if you drink on the job (even with their permission) you may be charged with child endangerment, or neglect by the parents if and accident happens. Such a bad idea.
- May 3, 2012, 3:41:00 PM
No matter how much you love them, or how great your bosses are, this should just be a job to you, because things can happen fast. Take up a hobby and try to make other friends.
Relying emotionally on your bosses sounds like a very bad idea, because your workplace is their home, and somehow this just never works well.
- May 3, 2012, 4:05:00 PM
- Mike Obey said...
Whoa!! Put on the brakes!!
You should NEVER mix business w/pleasure..it just doesn't make any sense.
It's refreshing to hear about a good Nanny/Family relationship, especially on this blog, however I caution you that you are waay in over your head here.
Like the other posters say, you need to build other outside interests. Since money is involved here, this is not the typical "friend" relationship you think it is. Money changes that dynamic.
- May 3, 2012, 4:19:00 PM
- Phoenix said...
I'm sorry. I finally read the rest of the post...I couldn't get through it all the first time.
The way you are stating how your boss behaves...i shall say reluctant. could it be that you are the only one thinking this relationship is more than it is? Do you think they are being nice because you appear to be head over heels in love with this family. It almost borders on creepy. I've had people around me before and they had this same type of enthusiasm and I thought they were annoying as shit.
If I were you I would leave it be. To me it sounds like you are intruding and they are just trying to be nice. if they didn't invite you to their kids bday they didn't want you coming. its like that movie What About Bob?
- May 3, 2012, 4:33:00 PM
Hmmm...okay. I'll try to keep this short and simple. I have an amazing relationship with my nanny family as well. I have many similarities with them as you do with yours...I consider MB almost like a big sister in the sense that we talk about everything just because it's comfortable. I moved to this state FOR this job, so I knew no one but this family when I got here so in turn they sort of became my "family" here and she was very supportive when I was lonely and homesick especially in the first few months. I do live with them so it's a bit different from your situation. ANYWAY...with that being said, I think you still need to keep your distance. Being a live in, they are always including me in their plans but I think a lot of it is because I'm there and have nothing else to do so they feel bad, but they, much like YOUR nanny family, need to have time together as a family without you. You may be close to them and like a family member, but you so still work for them so you need to give them space and also give yourself space. I just think you are being a been pushy with this whole matter and it's nothing that can be pushed...they will invite you to do things if and when they feel comfortable doing so. They may be hesitant because you work for them and they still would like to keep some of those professional boundaries. Just be careful...I'm not shutting you down for this post because like I said, I am very close to my MB and DB as well, but keep it professional. It will be very difficult to discuss work-related issues that may ever come up if you are socializing/drinking/whatever with them constantly.
- May 3, 2012, 4:42:00 PM
- Nanny J said...
I agree with others. Boundaries are important, I've had bosses like this and it has come back to bite me in the ass more than once.
I do not do ANYTHING like that, and in fact try to keep my conversation with my families light and airy. About the kids, or the weather, or weekend plans. Nothing extravagent, not informing them of my drinking habits (I don't drink apart from major holidays anyhow, but still!), etc.
- May 3, 2012, 5:15:00 PM
OP its great that you truly love the kids you care for. I am sure the family feels secure having you. Remember though you are the paid caregiver.
Please don't be upset you weren't invited to the kids party. They probably just wanted their family and close friends. They probably are so busy working during the week. That the time with their kids one on one is very precious to them.
Second you mentioned they had a nanny for three years. I am sure they appreciated her as well. You mentioned there are no pictures of her around the house. That will be you too. Do you really think the family will have your picture plastered all over the place.
Why not spend more time with your boyfriend? Do you have friends you can spend more time with? Even just relaxing at home, or going to the gym.
Well its great you try to keep the house spotless for them. Do you think now though they just expect it? If you had a really crazy busy day and the house was messy would they confront you about it. Sometimes you do all these "extras" then if you can't get around to something they will call you out on it.
I just feel like you are setting yourself up for heartache. Trust most of the posters on here. Learn boundaries. They will respect you more
- May 3, 2012, 6:35:00 PM
Okay wait you invited her over to your new apartment. So you asked her a few times already. Sounds like she isn't interested in doing that. So why not drop it. She may be trying to tell you something here...she is not interested in your personal life.
Also the "vacation" time. Honey it will not be a vacation for you! LOL. All nannies know its usually a dreadful time for them. They are stuck with the kids for most of the trip. Basically you will not have any free time for yourself. They are not bringing you as an friend or family member. They are bringing you as a worker.
Please please do not talk about feelings with them. Do not get so emotionally vested with them. They will think you are a little nuts.
When I was young I nannied for someone. I actually moved to California for six months to help out. I went beyond my scope of duty. They were an awesome family (or so I thought). Before moving to California I knew them for two years. Anyway, weekends I would go out with new friends I met in California. Go to church. Even go places alone.
I really loved them as well and thought they did too. Guess what after they didn't need me anymore that was it. I felt bad that they didn't drive me to the airport. They had a cab come get me. They never kept in touch. I did try a few times to keep in touch but it was never returned. After that I didn't bother anymore. So listen please just be careful!!
- May 3, 2012, 6:45:00 PM
Whoa! I think you need to take a huge step back here. There are red flags all over your post and they are all coming from you.
It doesn't seem like MB & DB are as invested in this relationship as you think they are.
You sound obssessive. Really it's creepy how you go on about them.
Why would they have pictures of a previous nanny displayed?
Your disappoinment about not being invited to their personal outings.
They aren't your family.
They aren't your babies.
Take a big step back.
Maybe you are just lonely , I suggest you look into hobbies, take up painting, join a gym, learn a new langauage , go dancing, the key here do none of this without the people you work for
- May 3, 2012, 6:49:00 PM
You sound insane! Like sleep with one eye open. Seriously you sound in need of professional help.
- May 3, 2012, 6:53:00 PM
- workingMom said...
If you want to express your appreciation for them, send/give them some flowers. Mother's day is coming up.
But I agree with the majority of posters; you need to establish some boundaries and gain some perspective.
- May 3, 2012, 7:19:00 PM
It sounds like you have a big heart :) but I think you need to draw the line somewhere.
Your relationship with them sounds very open & "wonderful" but keep in mind that boss-nanny relationships can do a 180 in a matter of days.
Best of luck to you.
- May 3, 2012, 7:36:00 PM
- MissMannah said...
I personally think some of the previous posters just haven't been lucky enough to experience this sort of relationship with their bosses, so they don't really understand. Normally I would agree with them and tell you to back off, but that was until I got the job I have now. MB works from home and she and I have gotten very close. We trade silly stories back and forth everyday and just yesterday she shocked me by telling me about hitting the bars with the gals over the weekend. I had to bite my tongue to keep from saying "That sounds fun, let me know next time y'all are going out!" But I didn't say it the same reason you shouldn't say something like that, because it is not work-appropriate. However, my DB did invite my husband and me to come over and have dinner with them next week, so it is ok to socialize a small amount with your bosses and I think that would be the time to drink, not while on the clock, even though they said you could. Mine have said I can have a beer at work as well, but I would never do that just because it doesn't seem right to me.
- May 3, 2012, 7:45:00 PM
I've read through this a few times and here's mt take
Yo are thrilled to have great bosses finally. I can relate to having hellish bosses and finally getting a great one or just clicking . It's amazing.
It's not wrong to get on with bosses or even to spend personal time together and share a bit.
My concern is you might be too invested in the relationship or the relationship may be more one sided than you think.
Just be careful and I'm glad you found someone you like.
- May 3, 2012, 8:21:00 PM
I know what you mean about being close to your employers I have a similar situation. I agree with other posters to keep a professional relationship with your boss but it is hard as you work in their home. A family you work with can totally feel like your own family which is wonderful when you live away from your own family as I do. But at the same time you do need other interests in life but being a nanny can be a great job!
- May 3, 2012, 8:25:00 PM
Ms. M
Yeah I think she is to close with this family. Maybe, a little to pushy as well. I think it can get annoying to them when she keeps asking the mom to come see her place. Also, she seems upset about not being invited to the kids party.
I think they may get her a present for her birthday but I don't think they are interested in going out with her for dinner. Maybe its just a sad world we live in. Mom and dad work longs hours and can't be bothered.
I don't think its a good idea for her to ask them to get together for dinner.
I feel she needs to find a position in her field. She may need more interaction with others. Hopefully, she will find a position around other adults to spend time with.
- May 3, 2012, 8:30:00 PM
I have to agree with Mannah. Most of us haven't had this kind of experience with our families! I love the kids I care for but I'm typically itching to leave by the end of a 12 hour day with them. As far as their parents go, I have gotten birthday gifts from them and Christmas cards, but never did I expect that, and I wouldn't have been sad if they hadn't given me anything at all. Now I agree with everyone here about the drinking. A few months ago I agreed to watch the kids outside of my regular nanny hours on a Friday night so MB could go out with her friends. She came home wasted! She couldn't even count the money she was paying me! It may just be me, but I don't want to see my boss piss drunk, whether I'm employed as a nanny or a working for freaking NASA. I just feel like it crosses a line. I have been invited to the children's birthday parties and most recently a wedding. I have never went to any of these events, and I felt as though I was being invited out of simple courtesy. I do get the kids something small I know they'll like for birthdays and Christmas/Easter and I know their parents appreciate me doing that, but I also know I don't have to. I also know that if I didn't get them anything at all, it wasn't because I didn't love them as they "deserved". I think that is a very odd statement. Also you need to remember that a nanny job is not forever. You've graduated college like many of us here and your doing this in the meantime, and that's great, but don't get too attached. Definitely take up a hobby.Volunteer somewhere! Sounds like you have a lot of love to give.I would just try and share your big heart with something that will last you longer than these children outgrowing their nanny or you potentially landing your future dream job in the professional work world.
And just a thought it may not apply, be careful around a drunk DB. That's the last kinda trouble I'd like to be involved in and I would never want to make MB feel uncomfortable with the potential issues that may arise from that.When you're drunk you're not thinking with a full deck,neither are the tipsy people around you.
- May 3, 2012, 8:57:00 PM
OP are you missing college life a bit?
Since you are a new grad I can see you missing the dorm life, chats in the hall, tons of parties, and places to go, crashing over in other's rooms having all TV viewing sessions.
It's great you have a good relationship with this family. It truly is.
I worry you might be too emotionally invested in this.
- May 3, 2012, 9:29:00 PM
But at the end of the day, OP, this is a job. You are there nanny.
It concerns me because you talk about them like you are falling in love with them. Well beyond the normal attactcment a nanny can and should feel for a family and her charges.
You speak about their other nanny as though she was not worthy of them and only you are worthy.
I believe you can have great nanny- employer relationships. I've had them on both sides of the relationship.
I'm having a very hard time putting into words my thoughts on this post.
It sounds weird to say because it's a situation where the employer is treating the nanny very well and everyone seems to be getting along so well.
But I don't think this a good thing because I don't think it's an emotionally healthy situation.
But based on what you've put here. I don't think this a healthy relationship. I don't.
- May 3, 2012, 9:59:00 PM
There may be something to the idea of OP missing college life.
My first year out of college was tough. I was looking for the same type of social structure I had during college.
I was also short on friends and became to inested in my job. That one didn't end badly, but it did end, and we didn't stay bffs.
- May 3, 2012, 10:11:00 PM
I don't think it's odd to have a good relationship with MB/DB.
What I think is odd and possibly concerning.
1. Being bummed when they don't invite you some place.
2. Expecting them to have pictures of their nanny displayed around the house. ( maybe in the kid's rooms or an album)
3. The kids not being loved like they deserved because theor former nanny didn't buy them gifts. wtf?
4. You repeatedly asking MB to see your place and asking them to dinner and being turned down.
5. Drinking with the bosses
I think you might be missing some important social cues.
- May 3, 2012, 10:19:00 PM
I think you do not initiate in outside social gatherings.
If you are invited go ahead and attend. I would avoid trips to a bar because th can easily get messy.
I think you stop reapedtly asking MB & DB to your house.
I think if you want to do something nice for them Mom's and Dad's day are coming up give a modest gift then ( there was a post here a few weeks ago with great ideas of appropriate gifts)
- May 3, 2012, 10:41:00 PM
This is so odd. These feelings you are having and waaaaaay beyond normal and I bet the parents think it was well, if they do not accept the 1st few invites then let it go! They do not wish to see you outside of work. Not to mention that you are there all week and they probably want to spend time as a family with their children when you are not there, I repeat, AS A FAMILY!
I have been with the same family for 5 years. There have been no issues and we all get on just fine. Yes I love the kids, especially as 2 were born with me there BUT I also love my own family and group of friends so in my spare time I want to spend it with them. I enjoy a break on the weekend and I can understand that they enjoy having a break from me!
- May 3, 2012, 11:07:00 PM
I think you are missing important social cues.
You say they feel bad asking you to sit with the kids on weekends, but they still ask.
They feel bad having you around off hours translation they want you to go home and they want to be with their own family.
You mentioning your new place and inviting MB over and she hasn't made plans to see it. Translation she doesn't want to go.
Same with vacation It might be awkward = we do not want you to go.
Same with not inviting you to parties.
Same for MB's job offer translation. She didn't say we want you here forever she said as long as you want. Translate that to your good enough with the kids we don't want to look for another, but we're not opposed to getting someone else.
There are also meaningless invites in which people say oh we should do this but never have the intention of doing so.
Yes these are nice people and they are trying to nicely tell you they don't want that sort of relationship with you.
They haven't been more harsh with you because they need a nanny not because you're besties
Wake up!
- May 3, 2012, 11:46:00 PM
Is this a plot of a movie you've watched or are writing?
The Nanny: an obssessive college grad from a broken home takes a job with a young family.
Tagline:The Family She Always Wanted . The Perfect Nanny . deadly Combination
This is made for lifetime
- May 3, 2012, 11:56:00 PM
I've lived in Germany for a few years now, and I can say that here, alcohol is pretty omnipresent and universally accepted (as in, those who don't ever imbibe are seen as little weirdos). When I drank with my nanny boss in America, it felt weird and strangely intimate, whereas when, here in Germany, my boss cracked open a bottle of nice wine and invited me to have some with dinner one night, it just felt natural.
However, I should possibly have been more careful, as she kept refilling my glass and then - half an hour later - casually dropped the bomb that I wouldn't be able to take the vacation I'd planned on taking, as she'd be out of the country then, too, and who would watch the children...
Very calculating people, these Germans.
- May 4, 2012, 5:40:00 AM
@The Devil - Agreed, I was thinking that. I was also sort of chanting "Three...some. Three...some." quietly in my head while reading it.
- May 4, 2012, 5:41:00 AM
This post reminds me of the movie, "The Hand That Rocks The Cradle"......
- May 4, 2012, 6:24:00 AM
I wish I had some sort of photo to illustrate my face as I read this post.
At first I was so excited that there was funally a post that was about a happy nanny-employer relationship.
I was smiling. At the end I had to pick my job off my keyboard.
I was scared. There's nothing normal about your feelings for them nothing.
You need help! I'm not being sassy either.
I think you are confusing kindness with a having a deep relationship with them.
- May 4, 2012, 8:01:00 AM
OP, I'm glad you are able to have found common ground with your employers and get along very well with them, but I agree with other posters you need to establish boundaries now and need a life outside work. Look, when I was 22 I left a miserable nanny job with one family that treated me like pure garbage and found an amazing family that was heaven scent. I was like you, young, eager to establish a bond and spent all kinds of time with them outside my working hours and baby sat most weekends. I know understand why, it was nice to be needed and I needed them too. Well I worked for them for 6 years so clearly they were amazing. However as I matured and grew older so did my needs. I no longer needed nor wanted to work late during the week or work weekends. I had grown older and didn't want to spend my life working in my off time and miss out on fun. I realized I needed a balance to stay sane. I also at that time started dating my now husband and I was as most people do in a new relationship I wanted to spend my free time with him. Well this all happened around the birth of their second child. I understand now their needs were changing as well and sadly I don't feel they were understanding to my perspective. They became very absorbed and overwhelmed with their needs and demands. We were once so close and so kind to each other and I felt like the second my life changed and I couldn't work for them late nights and weekends that's where the problems started. I was very upset about the lack of compassion from the parents when I addressed to them why I couldn't work late nights and weekends. They seemed more concerned about themselves and even seemed mad. What was the most hurtful and frustrating about the whole situation is when they were in their mid twenties they had just met each other and were doing the very thing I was trying to accomplish, building a life of your own with a person you love. So I couldn't understand why it was okay for them to find themselves, meet and marry but it was not okay for me? From that point on there was a pretty deep sense of tension between us. The moral of the story is we started off as family and through the course of time became distant because we could grown and change together. I needed understanding that I am a person who wants a life outside my job and they wanted a nanny who had an open schedule. It's sad but that's the way it went. I still keep in contact with them, sadly it's usually by my initiation but I love those kids so much and the parents too so I will take what I can get. So OP just try to find a balance between work and play and as you mature make sure they understand your human too.
- May 4, 2012, 8:55:00 AM
I'm soooooooooooooooo glad that I'm not the only one who thinks this situation is a bit creepy. (to put it nicely). I'm a nanny, and the family I work for is amazing.. but the bottom line is.. I work for them. When I clock out, I don't kick back and sip beers or hang around clinging to them. I GO HOME. TO MY OWN LIFE. Your post made me sad for you. You need friends. And maybe some therapy to figure out why you are so desparate for this families attention.
- May 4, 2012, 11:16:00 AM
Not even trying to be rude but I was much like this years ago with a family I nannied for...unhealthily clingy and I did go through therapy..for other reasons but a large reason I was so dependent on this family stemmed from other things so really....go talk to someone. This is so unhealthy. Take it from someone who's been there! It's creepy and I am positive they have noticed and are trying to keep a healthy distance.
- May 4, 2012, 12:18:00 PM
You say ",Please spare me the whole "you shouldnt drink with your bosses" thing because that is just how we are........... I don't need to hear that being too personal with them is a bad idea"
Clearly you know on some level that drinking on the job and getting too personal isn't good.
You sound lonely and you are trying to fill that emptiness with your work family. Yes, we love our charges, or we wouldn't be nannies. Your EMPLOYERS on the other hand are a married couple in their 30s, with children. You are a 23 yo single woman just out of college. Best friends? no
Please make an effort to establish a life away from your work family. Make friends, get involved in activities that you will be eager to pursue in your off time. The transition from college to the real world can be difficult, but also offers the freedom to create an exciting new life for yourself.
- May 4, 2012, 3:46:00 PM
I think it is great that you work for a family you love, however...your feelings towards them are borderline creepy. It just rubbed me the wrong way when you said "shame on old nanny for not treating my babies the way they should be treated"...no, they are not your babies. And telling them you love them multiple times a day..i don't know. A lot of my charges told me they loved me, and I'd say it back (and sometimes I'd just say "You too!" or "Love ya too!"..to me "I love you" seems really intense), but I wouldn't initiate it with the child.
I have nannied for 5 different families and had really great relationships with all of them (except for one, but it was really good up until the end). One family in particular I am very close with, we talk on the phone once in a while, send cards/gifts on the holidays/birthdays, and make it a point to see each other when I am back in the area (I live in a different state from them now). I definitely consider my former MB and DB as friends, but I certainly don't have the feeling that the 2 kids are "my babies" (I love those little rascals, but your post makes you seem really territorial about them, they are not yours) and even when I worked for them, as much as I really enjoyed their company, I certainly didn't feel like I wanted to stay after hours and have a beer with the mom. I was on a personal level with all my MB and I enjoyed it very much, but...there is a line in the sand, ya know?
I don't know, I guess you just come off as a little aggressive and obsessive about the whole thing. You sound like you have that type of personality where you are outgoing and get along with people really well, but sometimes come on a little too strong. Especially since you say MB is a little hesitant on things like seeing your apartment, going on vacation, etc...she's probably very kind and doesn't quite know how to tell you "No". She just says "Yea, that sounds like a good idea!" but never follows through. And doesn't plan to.
Just wondering...what about your family and friends? Why are you not celebrating your birthday with them?
- May 4, 2012, 6:11:00 PM
- Hellcat said...
Not only would I not drink on the job, but as a parent I would not be drinking around my kids (even if they're asleep... They CAN wake up) and I certainly wouldn't leave them in the care of someone who had been or may be drinking.
I guess I'm the odd one out, again.
- May 4, 2012, 11:28:00 PM
I think there is a difference between being drunk and having a drink.
I still wouldn't have a drink with my boss because it's not my style. I've had the offer in the past.
There is nothing normal or healthy about YOUR feelings towards the family you work for nothing.
Them treating you well is what they're supposed to do. Not a sign of unspoken feelings.
- May 5, 2012, 2:54:00 AM
I read this post, then I read all the comments, then I read the post again...carefully. I'm guessing this is a troll post...albeit from a very clever troll! "I love the days MB works from home!"-WTF?! Who refers to their charges as "my" babies? Bringing up drinking on the job? Plus the overwhelming theme of unprofessional closeness to the family?! I bet the author is a nanny herself who knows exactly which buttons to press here to get everyone worked up!!
- May 5, 2012, 7:02:00 AM
I agree with above post!! Now way this is real
- May 5, 2012, 7:08:00 AM
Where is the moderation here? Are we not supposed to attack the OP? Calling her a troll and second-guessing her truthfulness, I thought was not allowed.
- May 5, 2012, 8:32:00 AM
I'm glad you are happy with your position. But I have to echo other responses here.
I can understand liking and valuing the time with your bosses, but I'm curious- what in particular makes these people MORE attractive to be with than your own friends? (e.g. why would you choose to spend your b-day with them rather than friends? Can you "talk for hours" with your friends? Do you drink with them?) That's a real question, not trying to be snarky. There is definitely something you find alluring about them, which it seems you are not aware of yet. And if you can figure it out, I think you will be able to appreciate the relationship you have with them, but still keep some perspective that this is your job- a great job, but still a job.
Also, be careful about assuming you know how they feel. Although they may value you as a nanny, like you as a person, and be glad to have a more friendly relationship with you than with their old nanny (assuming that's true), it's VERY doubtful they want you around all the time on your off hours. To me, it sounds like they want to have some boundaries, but are just struggling to make that happen
- May 5, 2012, 10:42:00 AM
OP, if they wanted that kind of relationship with you, you would know and you would HAVE it. I am very close with my MB and DB. I've drank with them (off the clock), MB and I have occasional girls nights, they invite me to every social gathering with them...etc. Professional? Maybe not. That is the type of family they are-very social,welcoming, and have taken me in as part of their family..they even included me in their family Christmas card. I guess the difference here is that when they wanted to hire a nanny it was KEY that this nanny would feel comfortable around them and their friends and be a good fit for their family and social group...they have friends over and do things with their group ALL the time. I don't do everything with them because I do think they need their family time and I need my own time...but they want me around and it is very obvious. Nothing about your MB and DB says to me that they want that kind of relationship with you. My nanny family practically begs me to go places with them sometimes because they truly want me there...I am not hearing that on your end. Don't be so obsessive and pushy...in doing so you are only pushing them further away.
- May 5, 2012, 4:03:00 PM
- StrawberryShortKakes said...
I was in a situation like yours, OP, but it was opposite- the MB wanted to be all chummy and I wasn't having it. She would ask me all kinds of personal questions and it was clear that sometimes she just felt like we were two friends hanging out. She would ask me about my personal life and comment on things she saw on facebook (never friend your MB on facebook!). I liked her and all but sometimes she told me too much (gossip about her friends and family, etc) and I just didn't think it was appropriate. She would also ask for my opinion on so many things unrelated to childcare (what faucet to put in the bathroom, etc) and I didn't like it. She would also invite me to stay for dinner after a long day (off the clock) and I appreciated it but most of the time I just wanted to relax. Plus I was always unclear about discipline and things like that when I was just "hanging out." In the end, the relationship was causing me stress so I started to ignore their calls and eventually cut off all contact. I felt bad about it but I could not explain to her why I didn't want to babysit or nanny for them any longer. Bottom line is, unreciprocated feelings like you are having for your MB and her family are going to drive them right out of your life. You need to do what others have suggested and separate your work life from your social life. Of course there can be some overlap but what you are describing is unhealthy.
- May 5, 2012, 6:26:00 PM
In hopes that this is not a trolling post- OP, have you ever been a nanny before? Just curious. As others have said, the first year out of college is a hard one. It's a hard adjustment into "real life" and the friendships and support systems are different than they are in college. It is great that you enjoy your job so much but please remember that it is a job. You are providing a service and they are paying you. You are not in their lives to be friends. It is easy to idealize people who are kind, caring, cool, a little older, and that you get along with- especially if you are spending a lot of time with them (and in their home, no less). This said, I invite you to look into why you are so interested in friending these people. Maybe they are really great parents, successful, live the kind of life you envision for yourself someday? You mention that you go out to bars & go out to dinners & have a boyfriend. This is a time to create who you are, not leech off of other people's social lives (sorry if that was harsh). I, like someone else said, am also having a hard time putting what I want to say into words but just remember that while it's okay to want to be successful in your career & a good parent as these people may be, you are your own person with your own life. And this is your job. And this is not healthy.
- May 6, 2012, 11:07:00 PM
I hate to say it but Jane's post made a lot of sense. (And no, you didn't appear trollish.) If this is what OP's problem is (and reading Jane's comment smacks her in the face the same as it did me)- let's hope OP listens to her advice. This relationship truly is unhealthy.
- May 7, 2012, 12:19:00 AM
yikes! Dude, you need some friends! WTF?!?! Red Flags!!! First off it says a LOT that they didn't invite you to their child's b-day party.. Yeah repeat THEIR child. You seriously need to calm the fuck down. Many Many other nannies also have wonderful relationships with the family. It's not so outlandish that you are in a positive relationship. So, please try to get off your high horse. If you LOVE the kids so much why would you even want to drink on your shift? idk you sound like you need professional help. . . Please make some friends other then the ones employing you to do a JOB. thanks
- May 7, 2012, 12:30:00 AM
There's no really nice employers. There are just varying degrees of rudeness and manipulation.
- May 9, 2012, 8:05:00 AM
- Tales from the (Nanny)Hood said...
OP, it's terrific that you love your job so much.
However, I think that you need to take a hard look at the reality of your situation. The truth is, Nannies eventually leave. Every job ends.
The children are not "your" babies, and your employers are not your friends. You need to find some boundaries pretty quickly, or you may scare these employers off. They don't seem to be responsive to your desire to socialize, and that's a red flag right there.
Good luck to you in finding a way to draw back slightly and remember that this is a JOB, not a social networking event.
- May 9, 2012, 3:56:00 PM
@ReallyBadEggs: your statement is 100% completely right. Thank though for saying that!
- May 14, 2012, 1:51:00 PM


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Please forgive the quality of the pictures. These are from the 80s. Even if I were to try to give you some more recent pictures of these amazing people, the pictures would still be fuzzy. Why, you ask? Well, two of them went to be with their Heavenly Father before the "digital age".
Here we are. December 10th. Smack in the middle of my favorite time of year.
Really. It is. Always has been.
I loved the Holidays as a child.
Thanksgiving in Louisville. The longest day ever, but oh so worth it. I didn't watch football back then, so it bored me to tears to have an entire day of waiting to eat the food that was smelling up the house so wonderfully. Football in the background. Smells swirling through my Nana's home. W.A.I.T.I.N.G.
Then, finally the fellowship of family. My aunt and uncles. My cousins. My near 100 year old GrandMomma. My dad. My mom. My little brother. My Nana & Grandpa. Stuffing balls (hehe), olives, sweet gerkins and SHIRLEY TEMPLES. Oh the SHIRLEY TEMPLES.
Christmas at home. The earliest day ever, but I'd venture to say it was also oh so worth it for my parents. It was the one day we could wake them up before dawn. Now that I am a parent, I have a whole new respect for their willingness to get out of bed SO VERY EARLY, just for us. I remember trying to wake my dad up at 4:30 a.m. once. He just nicely told me it was a bit too early. I waited patiently until about 6:00.
We woke them up EARLY. They made us W.A.I.T. while they got their coffee (Of course, I TOTALLY get that now). They wanted to see our faces as we came into the living room. Beautiful, amazing, wonderful memories.
I simply L.O.V.E.D. the holidays.
I still do. Now, I'm the one making them wait while I get my tea.
The only problem with this time of year is how it brings my childhood memories to the surface. They are wonderful. But, they are bitter sweet.
You see, those memories include four people ~ my mom, my dad, my brother and me.
As I sit here today, only two of us remain ~ my mom and me.
I can't help but get a little weepy this time of year. I turn into a big baby. I miss my Daddy. I miss my little brother. I want to wake my Daddy up at 4 in the morning again and have him tell me ever so sweetly that it is just a little bit too early. I want to wait for my Daddy to make his coffee. I want to squeal in anticipation with my little brother as we are both about to climb out of our skin. I want to hug my Daddy and feel his rough fingers as they squeeze me back. I want to see that joy in his eyes as he spends Christmas morning with the greatest thing he's ever done ~ his family. I want to joke with my Daddy and my brother in Louisville as we wait for dinner at Thanksgiving (my immediate family were the only ones who didn't watch football in those days). I want to watch as my brother makes jokes that no one gets but us. I want to watch as my Daddy shows my almost 100 year old Grandmomma the most attention she's seen in a while, as he patiently listens to all of her stories of "way back when", simply because he loves the elderly as much as he loves children and animals.
I want to step back. Just for a minute, please. I want to smell them. I want to hug them. I want to feel their arms around me.
But, I can't.
I just have to accept that and move on.
And, thankfully, God has blessed me with a beautiful distraction.
He has given me the gift of a family of my own. He has given me the opportunity to make those same memories for my own children. I must look forward. Always remember and appreciate the past, but move forward, making memories for my own children.
So, here we are.
I'm making memories for my girls. We are decorating our tree. We are making them Shirley Temples and watching football on Thanksgiving. We are making them wait just a bit longer on Christmas morning as we fix our hot beverages (Daddy drinks coffee, Momma drinks tea).
And, we're making new memories for them.
We're taking them to The Nutcracker Ballet. A real ballet. But, we're reading the book first and listening to Tchaikovsky first, so that they know what they are seeing and making connections on their own.
We're taking them scootering around the Friendship Fountain while listening to Christmas music on the loudspeakers (maybe that's Florida's version of Ice Skating in New York???).
We're taking them to Bethlehem. To see the Roman Soldiers and listen to them demand your taxes. To see the people of Bethlehem, selling their wares. To see and smell and pet all of the animals, goats, sheep, chickens, ponies, horses, donkeys and of course the camel. To see the little children of Bethlehem cooking over their fires, weaving on their looms. To hear the shofar as the Rabbi calls people to the temple. And, to the inn that had no more room. To the stable to see the live baby Jesus.
We're taking them to friends' to celebrate the season with a beautiful Advent Spiral.
We're taking them on Christmas bike parades and Christmas hay rides.
We're helping them make and wrap gifts and making hot "cocoa" (carob) and Silk Nog with nutmeg.
I will forever cherish the sights and sounds and smells of my own childhood memories.
My Daddy.
My Brother.
My Momma.
And, I can only pray that my girls will forever cherish the sights and sounds and smells of their childhood. All I can do is move forward and give them the same LOVE that I always felt from my family.
It's a beautiful time to have a family!


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TEATRO: Pavón (C/ Embajadores 8)
DÍA: 23 Marzo (miércoles)
HORA: 8pm
PRECIO: 9e
martes, 18 de enero de 2011
"UN BOBO HACE CIENTO" (Atonio Solís Riva de Neyra)
TEATRO: Pavón (C/ Embajadores 8)
Publicado por EOIGoya_Inglés en 13:22
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What on earth was the director thinking about? The Bobo was indeed so but one felt foolish too as I could not understand the plot and I was not the only one! Many people told me they didn't understand it either or that it was difficult for them to follow it.
The music also was quite out of place and made the play even more difficult to follow.
Well I don't think anybody liked it, though people clapped at the end which was indeed a surprise.
- 28 de marzo de 2011, 23:01
possibly the worst play we have seen this year. The text was unclear, the actors vulgar, noisy and cheap, a real shame that we feel, in this country, that we have to be coarse and uncouth when we want to excel.
- 31 de marzo de 2011, 13:03
I agree with you Carmen.
My comment is about another play:
I saw a play last weekend. Although it is interesting, I do not recommend it to a lot of people. The play is divided into three parts, three reflections about sanctity. The stage is a central corridor with spectators on each side very near the actors.
The first story is about a missionary accused of murder. She tried to defend her child. The second part , which I did not like at all, talked us about sacred objects. The third part is the most emotional for me, perhaps because I admired the person that they were talking about, Edith Stain. She was a Jewish woman who became a catholic nun and she was murdered in a concentration champ by the Nazis. The dialogue between her and the police in prison permits us to know her history.
It is not easy to make a play about sanctity and to reflect about mystery, transcendental life and people enduring sacrifices to help theer neighbour. I tell you, Edith Stain is a special soul. She is considered the most intelligent woman in the last century and it is always interesting to know something about her. Even though, I can not recommend the play to many people.
- 4 de abril de 2011, 12:48


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Thursday, May 7, 2009
the only sound that's left
Cinderella, she seems so easy
'It takes one to know one,' she smiles
And puts her hands in her back pockets
Bette Davis style
And in comes Romeo, he's moaning
'You Belong to Me I Believe'
And someone says, 'You're in the wrong place, my friend
You better leave'
And the only sound that's left
After the ambulances go
Is Cinderella sweeping up
On Desolation Row.
~ Bob Dylan
[North Avenue east of Milwaukee Avenue]
Posted by Ray Pride at 5/07/2009 01:34:00 AM
About Me
- Ray Pride
- Chicago, Illinois, United States
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- keep this coupon
- follow you home
- a perfect subject
- love an empty airport
- rarely-beloved a single star is uttered
- the shadow that everything casts
- it is this that the darkness is for!
- matter don't mind
- division
- win winn
- second-hand satisfaction, half-souled
- no such place as brooklyn
- axes
- tangle
- vagrant
- corner
- obituary, i like that word
- no one owns life
- a sense of what is not
- shame followed
- the greatest of these
- only a voice
- without grace
- One-three-hundredth of the Icelandic population
- the only sound that's left
- but now we cannot
- laughed inside her laughter
- monotony
- some good in you
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Winslow Homer Art Studio Opens Sept. 25 in Maine
Homer lived in the studio from 1883 until his death in 1910.
Tours 2 ½ hours in length will be held at 10:30 a.m., 11:45 a.m. and 2 p.m., Tuesday-Sunday. Tours depart from and return to the Portland Museum of Art by van and are limited to 10 visitors. Tickets are $55 for nonmembers, $30 for members, and can be reserved by calling 207-775-6148, according to the Scarborough Current/ keepmecurrent.com.
Scarborough is located about 5 hours from the Capital District, and the museum in Portland is not much further.
More information about the renovation, done through the Portland Museum of Art, can be found on the museum's site.


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When seasons change, so do my decoration inspirations and preferences. Perhaps this late arrival of autumn in California is the reason it has taken me so long to get the fall decorations set out around the 3P space! But now that the last day of October is here, autumn decorations are finally here. The recent cooler nights recently definitely inspired me to create a more cozy living room for relaxing and enjoying candlelight, hot cider, and the occasional fire in the fireplace. Thanks to the ever-fabulous Target, with cute little details I already had on hand, this autumn makeover came together in a cinch! So without further ado, here is this newly decorated space I am totally enjoying for fall.
Have a safe and happy Halloween, and enjoy all kinds of sweet treats!
Couches: JC Penney
Orange pillows: Target Threshold
Bronze sequined pillow: Pier 1 (options here and here)
Checkered throw: Target Threshold
Tan blanket: Pottery Barn (similar)
Lamp shades: Target Threshold (on sale!)
Pillar candle holders: unknown but similar
3-tier wood stand: Target Threshold
Fox candle: Target Threshold (in stores but cute matching canisters here)
Glitter pumpkin: unknown but similar on sale
Bottle brush fox: Pier 1 (similar cuties here, here, and here)
Wood squirrel: Target Threshold
Sheepskin throws: Ikea (also eying this blanket and pillow)


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1 box brownie mix (425 grams)
18 graham crackers
1 cup semi sweet chocolate chips
12 large marshmallows, quartered
1/2 cup semi sweet chocolate chips
1. Preheat oven to 350ºF. Line 8x8" pan with tin foil and grease well.
2. Prepare brownie mix according to package directions. Spread half of the brownie mixture into the prepared pan.
3. Place 9 graham crackers over brownie layer then sprinkle chocolate chips as well as marshmallow pieces over top and cover with 9 graham crackers. Spread remaining brownie mixture over graham cracker layer.
4. Bake brownies 25-30 minutes or until firm and toothpick comes out clean. Immediately upon removing brownies from oven, sprinkle over chocolate chips and when melted spread to cover top.
5. Let brownies cool completely then remove from pan and slice into squares. Serve & enjoy!
Makes 9.


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The question might be asked: Why is there no Singaporekini? Zhi Yuan and Lim Siow Kuan of Malaysiakini attempt to answer this question. The writers note that the equivallent of Malaysiakini's readership of 100,000 would yield only 17,390 readers a day in Singapore. Surely such a figure ought to achievable. Yet an equivellent publication has not been attempted in Singapore. Yuan and Kuan note that Singapore's media is highly controlled, its class of professional journalists and editors having been made comfortable. They speculate that Singaporeans may simply have been rendered more brainwashed than Malaysians:
Singaporeans, especially those born after independence, have grown up knowing only the pro-government state press which explains why they are seldom able to distinguish between truths and spins inherent in the reports unlike an astute reader from a developed country like United States or United Kingdom.I'm not convinced educated Americans these days are that much better at distinguishing spin from fiction than educated Singaporeans. And I would venture to speculate that concerning foreign affairs, Singaporeans are much better informed. The Straights Times may not offer great local coverage, but in my opinion the paper is superior to all but two or three American newspapers when it comes to providing comprehensive coverage of international issues.
... Malaysians who have long been skeptical of the mainstream media's coverage of political affairs take an instant liking to Malaysiakini's independent streak almost immediately, facilitating its eventual ascension to the pinnacle of Malaysian journalism.
Does Singapore does lack a sufficient number of consumers desperate for critical reporting of local politics for a paper like Malaysiakini to succeed in the city state? Perhaps. Nevertheless, a number of good Singapore blogs exists, some of which I link to on the sidebar of JotAsean.


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One of my favorite Sci-Fi gags involves putting someone in a teleporter loop. You know the little doohickeys like they have on Star-Trek where they beam you to a different position in space? Like in The Fly? Well, theoretically, if those were to exist, and you were to put someone into the process, and then configure the arriving transporter to automatically send the matter to the next teleporter, and so on to a fourth, and then back to the first, you would essentially have a person that simultaneously exists in four different places, and nowhere. It creates a physical paradox that would render the person completely incapable of thought or relevant movement. And that's a lot like Lamar Odom lately.
Lamar Odom is 6-11, 230 lbs.
That's a big guy.
Lamar Odom is not a big. And the sooner that we the fans, Lamar Odom, and the Lakers coaching staff realize this, the better off we'll all be.
We tend to exalt guys who are bigger than their position, yet can play it. We consider them "freaks" or "hyper-athletic." These things are especially important in draft evaluations. Yet for some reason, Lamar Odom is being harangued because he's an oversized small forward trying to play power forward. His game is much more suited to the 3 spot, allowing him to use his range, length, slashing ability and quickness to get to the basket. This proves remarkably difficult when A. he is exhausted from having to guard guys who are much more physical and bulkier than him, and B. his defender is hanging out in the paint, waiting on him to drive while Pierce and Rondo take swipes at the ball in his hands as they continue to shadow their man.
You have to give Odom an edge. Not much of one, but an edge. He has to be able to get in between, underneath, around, and otherwise sneakily past defenders without going through them. His hook shot isn't reliable. His tip-ins are suspect. And when defenders are waiting on him? His layups are atrocious right now.
With Ariza back, the Lakers have options. Ronnie Turiaf is going to pick up fouls. This is true. So is Kendrick Perkins. Start Turiaf, push Gasol to the 4 where he rightfully belongs, shift Odom to the three and play Kobe and Fisher. What, are you worried about the Celtics outrunning you? Seriously? With Ray Allen, Kendrick Perkins, and Sam Cassell all getting significant minutes? If Turiaf gets in foul trouble, shift Gasol to the 5, insert Ariza. If Gasol gets in foul trouble, insert Ariza. The concern? Pierce will kill him. I got news for you. If Pierce is healthy, he'll kill anyone you put on him. And it's not like Vladimir Radmanovic is anything but a tragic, vacant ghost on defense. Let Odom use his physical tools against him. Then you have offense versus offense, not offense and defense versus offense and defense. The sooner the Lakers accept that Odom and Gasol are not going to be forces on the defensive end, the better. The Lakers want a high scoring game. They want a faster pace. They want a back and forth game. That's how they got here with one of the highest pace ratings and one of the highest efficiency ratings. Your concern isn't Paul Pierce scoring, that's going to happen or it's not. What you do worry about are Kendrick Perkins, Leon Powe, and Kevin Garnett created second and third chances with Ray Allen warming up. Moving Odom back to his rightful place at the 3 is good, fourfold. First, it puts a meaner, tougher frontcourt out there (as tough as you can be with a guy with a heart condition and Pau Freaking Gasol). Second, it allows Odom to concentrate on the offensive end, where he's best. Third, it takes the pressure off of him by not asking him to do that which he cannot: be physical and rebound (in this series, against this team specifically). And four, it simultaneously puts him in a more key position of stopping Pierce, yet in a more comfortable setting.
Pierce can outduel Odom. And Pierce can outduel Kobe, if the cards go right and Boston stays fundamentally sound. Pierce can't ouduel Kobe and Pierce. Let Odom be Odom. It'll work out much better, and we won't all be so disappointed in the guy.


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An insider's view of what is really happening in the Harris County Criminal Courts
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
A Day Without A Plea?
The article basically calls upon all defense attorneys to boycott pleading out any cases on Thursday, January 31st to protest the sexist and racist administration of Chuck Rosenthal. It purports to be sponsored by the same coalition of groups that are scheduled to protest at the CJC that same day. It also, of course, calls for the removal of Chuck Rosenthal and his staff.
Now, that's all well and good, but I can't help but wonder who this boycott would potentially hurt the most. Maybe felony cases wouldn't be that big of a deal because they are typically plea offers for significant amounts of time (a day or a week or two reset wouldn't matter so much, since there can be credit applied for a Defendant's time in custody), but what about misdemeanor cases?
Isn't there an ethical duty to convey any and all offers made by the State? What if the offer is for "time served"? Does the client get to spend an extra night in jail because his or her attorney is trying to make a point? What if the court resets the date for four weeks? What if the prosecutor won't hold an offer open past that day? It seems to me that there could be numerous problems that a boycott could cause to one's profession.
I'm all for making your voice heard and protesting all day long if you want, but it would seem that the client should be consulted about whether or not they want to participate in the protest as well, before they spend another night in the HCJ.
7 comments:
- Michael said...
It's hard to believe that the fliers were circulated by attorneys.
- January 23, 2008 at 10:47 PM
- Leviathan said...
They weren't circulated by attorneys. They were handed out by group members to people entering the CJC this morning. A coworker showed it to me and I just shrugged my shoulders. I'd like to think that defense attorneys are, as a rule, intellectually superior to the oxygen bandits who came up with this moronic idea.
- January 23, 2008 at 10:58 PM
- Mark Bennett said...
Collective action will never work for criminal defense lawyers because we have to put our individual clients' interests above almost all else. That'll always be the chink in the collective armor.
This idea reminds me of the email that circulates now and again encouraging people not to buy gas on a particular day. Well, so what?
- January 23, 2008 at 11:08 PM
Oh, man! Like I said...politics. And I don't care what legal crap anybody cares to spout. It's all bs in this case and you know it. Just like during Rosenthal's weekly meetings...where he acts like nothing's happening and the ADAs sit there feeling sick, it's the BIG ol' neon elephant in the room. Rosenthal is an IDIOT and an egomaniac. Every day that he refuses to resign will be another day for the media to do their Jerry Springer-style, "witch is dead" jig and another day in which the ADAs will continue to be distracted from their important work for the public by these bullsh*t distractions from the salivating liberals.
- January 24, 2008 at 5:24 AM
It's just another attempt of liberal brow beating to look like they are "actionaries" when in essence they are " reactionaries".
There are several other issues to conside outside of the legalities of such an attempt...
Let me remove my brain for a moment while I venture to dare to contemplate the thought of a "shut down" protest on the courts for just one day.... Ok. No one mentioned the cost ( immediate and residual) that such an action would carry. Everyone associated with the courts are being paid that day. Right down to the parking lot attendants. Chuck gets paid, the ADAS's get paid. Who pays their salaries? Duh! LOL Anyone can answer,this is after all an open forum! LOL And not only for THAT grandstanding day but for the fall out days, weeks, months that would be needed to correct that one day. Ok.
I am back in full body mode with brain back in place. If a price tag were to be placed on that " action" ( it would be astronomical) and the tax payers of Harris County were asked to vote it in, would it be passed? What if only those that were responsible for the flier, would they billing to pick up the tab? I am so laughing at this one. I agree with Bennett's reply. Who cares? The only thing the persons achieved from passing out the fliers yesterday morning outside the CJC and court house is, well, they proved they are moronic enough to stand out in the rain passing out fliers! ~JAGJO
- January 24, 2008 at 5:57 PM
- January 24, 2008 at 6:24 PM
- A Harris County Lawyer said...
Well put by all of you guys. When I saw the flier, it was by an attorney who was very amused by it, and certainly had no intent of heeding the call to participate in it. I agree with earlier writers that this is not something that was sponsored by credible attorneys.
That being said, I saw did see this group on the news regarding how they planned to protest, and I did see at least one criminal defense attorney standing with them. She must not have thought this out.
- January 25, 2008 at 7:32 PM


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I've been too preoccupied to blog here and on Everything She Wants lately. Saturday my husband and I finally took the plunge and got a cat. Sort of. We are fostering a 10-month-old kitty from For Animals Inc. Her name is Gracie. She's an adorable brown and gray-striped tabby. She's sweet and petite. Well, at least the petite part is consistent.
At night, she's a different animal.
Once it's clear that we've gone to bed, around one in the morning she starts to meow. And meow. And meow some more.
We've been putting her in the bathroom with her litter box and bed when we go out for the day and letting her have free reign of the living room at night. But once the crying starts, in the bathroom she goes, where she continues her meow remix.
Did I mention she's adorable? I'm getting really attached, however, I'm getting really annoyed too. We can't figure out if she's sick (she's been sneezing and may be trying to cough up a hair ball) or if she's just nervous to be in a new environment. Whatever it is, it's day four and Mama is tired. If she cries again tonight, Gracie may not make it through the two-week foster care period.
If there are any cat owners reading this, I'd love some feedback, advice, or words of encouragement on how to get Gracie to stop crying at night. That would be purr-fect.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Meet My Bipolar Cat Gracie
Posted by Tracy Hopkins at 6:29 AM 4 comments
Labels: cat adoption, cat care, cat crying
Tuesday, August 03, 2010
Beyonce Brings the Heat to CVS
It's sad to say, but the highlight of my day was popping in my local CVS.
Correction, make that my notoriously disorganized local CVS. But to my surprise there was a new addition to the poorly stocked store -- a display for Beyonce's Heat fragrance.
The drug store is offering the fragrance (0.5-1.7 oz.) and an exclusive two-piece gift set starting at $19.99. Meanwhile, Heat is still priced at $49-$75 on Macys.com. So this is one time the recession is working to our advantage.
I gave the perfume a sniff test and it's a decidedly sexy, girly scent. The floral and fruity notes of magnolia, almond macaroon, honeysuckle nectar, blush peach, and amber blend nicely.
As an added incentive, if you use your ExtraCare card you get $5 extra CVS bucks for any Heat purchase. I'm not sure how long the deal will last, so I suggest picking up your bottle or gift set ASAP.
And I'm not the only one who loves CVS (love the chain, loathe my neighborhood store). For more deals, check out the cool site "I Heart CVS."
Posted by Tracy Hopkins at 6:00 PM 0 comments
Labels: beauty blog, Beyonce, Brooklyn shopping, celebrity perfume, CVS
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Tuesday, December 1, 2009
saddle up
7 comments:
is that you mary?!?ReplyDelete
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this image is not me but I wish it was!ReplyDelete
Sp Good for Bunnies--where and how do I get a pair of those booties?
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This is actually a depiction of a demon... er a succubi or incubus cant remember but um yes sadle up!ReplyDelete
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Trump announces Alex Azar as Health secretary nominee
President Trump announced his HHS secretary nominee via Twitter on Monday as Alex Azar.
Azar was deputy secretary at HHS during the administration of President George W. Bush before joining drugmaker Eli Lilly and Co, first as senior vice president of corporate affairs and communications and later as president of Lilly USA, its U.S. affiliate, according to his LinkedIn page.
He left the company in January to form an Indianapolis-based healthcare consulting firm, his Linkedin entry says.
Azar also clerked for U.S. Supreme Court Associate Justice Antonin Scalia and was a partner at Washington law firm Wiley, Rein and Fielding, the Linkedin page says.
This article was initially published on AOL.com: Trump announces Alex Azar as Health secretary nominee


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In case you missed the back to school post, or are new to reading my blog or know nothing about my family, let me fill you in. All of my children, and I only have three, are now in school. Translation: I don't have any kids at home during the day.
In case you missed my last recital for a while post, or are new to reading my blog or know nothing about my former job as a piano teacher, let me fill you in. I'm not teaching anymore. Translation: The two things that filled my time during and after-school are no more.
Summary of my life right now- This is all new territory for me. I've never been here before.
Questions asked.. So did you cry when they left? What are you doing now? Do you miss teaching? What are you going to do with all your free time? and more.
Questions answered…
I actually didn't cry when the kids left, which is surprising because with Audrey I sobbed on her first day of
preschool, kindergarten, okay, both. I didn't jump up and down for joy but I wasn't sad either. This is life. The next right step is for my kids to go to school and I'm not going to hold them back because I don't want our life to change.
The next three questions are all answered in one, sort of. Last Monday I would have started my first week of lessons in the studio. I didn't do that. When I realized that, I was sad a little. Why? Because I love teaching piano. But I was glad to not have to do that on top of what I'm doing now because where would I fit that in?!!! I've been busy.
As a coordinator for the Rosebud Exchange Program, I've been at my computer or on my phone a good amount of time, helping host families work out details and fielding questions and exchanging texts and listening to praises and problems. Though I didn't do as much this summer as I thought I would, I've certainly made up for it in the two weeks the kids have been here. This doesn't take up all my time and comes in waves. I am thrilled to do what I can.
Our home has been an open door to lots of people over the last month, also. I'm so glad for all who stayed. I plan on keeping it that way!
I've also spent time with my family as we now work through estate things after the death of my uncle. This definitely comes in chunks and is often a sad, sorrowful thing. My family is never far from my heart as I seek the Lord through it all. I love them and I want His glory to shine through us. Psalm 119:68 says "You are good, and what you do is good."
I found that verse today in my time in the Word and that's another thing that I continue to relish- my alone time with Him. I soak Him up as much as I can with these quieter days. It's not always this way but while I've got it, I'm trying to store up as much as I can.
I'm spending time with friends. My friend, Kate, had a little get-together the first Friday of school and then Angie had her craft day. Plus, I've had lunch with a friend and other occasions with friends. Yay! I've definitely missed that over the years.
I love being there for the kids when they get home. Yup! I look forward to them coming home. I don't always have fresh cookies or treats, but that was never an integral part of my plan. Yummy, but not integral. We have all sorts of things to share, not to mention a bit of teenage drama to talk through.
My new nephew. Oh, I can't get enough of him!! He's growing and doing really well, being 21 days old- yes, ask me, I know. And when I do hold him, I take a picture of him with my phone and send it to Bill to make him jealous. It's fun.
Other things I'm supposed to be doing…
- laundry. Hah! Just the other day I realized I should do Bill's and my laundry. Our routine has been turned upside down for the last few weeks, so laundry and planned meals just happens, sort of.
- planned meals. No more what's for supper at 6:00, especially since kids have to get to bed earlier now that school has started. When I taught, I would plan a crock-pot meal, a casserole and a soup as part of every week's menu. Menu. I should make a menu.
- cleaning and sorting through every nook and cranny in the house. Yeah, right. That will happen. It actually got started at the beginning of August, but when my uncle suddenly died, everything was put on hold and I've literally been too busy to finish it. I should. I will. The stair landing looks like a Goodwill store, according to Aunt Denise. All the nooks and crannies are going to have to wait their turn.
That's it. That's what this new territory looks like so far. I fall into bed each night, more exhausted than I have ever been, with exception to when the kids were babies. My life is good because God is in it and he has told me "This is the way, walk in it." Isaiah 30:21b


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In Roane County, Dennis Ferguson won the position of Road Superintendent. Ferguson was successful over Jim Beason and third place finisher Brian Mullins.
Ferguson will do good.
Longtime Roane County Property Assessor Teresa Kirkham lost her re-election bid to challenger David Morgan. Other candidates in the race were Steve Robinette and J.T. Floyd. Mr. Floyd suffered an untimely death during the election period.


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Mum: Natasha!!!!
Me: Yes. (in a shaky voice)
Mum: I need you to come over right now.
Me: (became scared and walked to her room)
Mum: Could you please help me with the bedding? I need to make some food for your dad now.
Normally I would just leave it and go back to my room, but I complied right away. This is not very typical of me. As I did some research on this, I've figured out the reason behind this - this is an example of the fear-then-relief phenomenon.
Dolinski and Nawrat (1998) conducted four field studies and one laboratory experiment to examine the fear-then-relief phenomenon, which suggests that people who experience fear which is immediately relieved are more likely to respond positively to subsequent requests. In their first field study, groups 1 and 2 were selected from people who jaywalked (crossing the road in the wrong place). Group 3 were selected from people who walked along the sidewalk legally. For group 1, when people cross the road, they heard a policeman's whistle which was in fact blown by an experimenter. This was to induce fear in these participants who then generally walked faster or looked around upon hearing the whistle. After 20 seconds, another experimenter approached these participants and asked them to fill in the Self-Description Inventory, which was expected to take 10 minutes to complete. For group 2, participants also jaywalked but no whistle was produced. Group 3 was the control condition where participants were walking on the sidewalk and no whistle was produced.
Results of this study were consistent with Dolinski and Nawrat's predictions - as shown in table 1, the whistle group (group 1) had the highest compliance rate (59%) compared to the other two groups (46% and 41% respectively), meaning that a sudden decrease in negative emotion can temporarily enhance conformity to social pressure. It was believed that when the feelings of fear dissipates, the feelings of relief occurs. At this state of relief, a person's cognitive resources are already depleted to a certain extent. This is because the feared stimulus has caused cognitive fatigue, and being in a state of relief further depletes thinking capacity by thinking about previous fearful experience, and 'how lucky I was just now!', or other similar thoughts. Therefore, there might not be enough cognitive resources to deal with the subsequent request. At this state, automatic processing is likely to be employed, such that people's will make decisions basing on 'the first thing that comes to mind', which might explain the increased compliance.
I was relieved at the moment my mum told me to do the bedding because I had been scared about her finding out that I ruined her favourite skirt. My cognitive resources might have depleted at that time, which resulted in my subsequent compliance.
Dolinski, D., & Nawrat, R. (1998). "Fear-then-relief" procedure for producing compliance: Beware when the danger is over.Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 34(1), 27-50.


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The thing with sharing these spaces with all of you is that I want them to be close to perfect. So even though our place is 99% complete, I have been waiting to share the different spaces on the blog until I felt like they were "photo ready!" This past week, I finally finished up some of the loose ends on a few of the spaces and I can't wait to share all the details over the next couple weeks. For now, here are some sneak peeks...
{fauxdenza in process- just missing the wood top at this point!}
{ornate gold mirror}
{brass perfume tray}
{preserved boxwood}
{kitchen organization}
{top shelf in the office}


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Come see us!
Monday, May 11, 2015
Who's My Big Brother?
Come see us!
9 comments:
- Donna said...
We were at the NH Sheep and Wool Festival this past weekend and just fell in love the the lambs. So darn cute!
- May 11, 2015
- Jan baby said...
Such a perfect and cute mugshot! Liddy's a hit!
- May 11, 2015
- LannieK said...
Have a great festival! I know it will be fun ~ Excited to see the new Lamb Camp cards :-) Thank you!!
- May 11, 2015
- The Green Dogs said...
Aww, lovely lambs! I really like the black ewes with white splotchy faces. :)
- May 11, 2015
- MarmePurl said...
Happy Festival Weekend!
- May 11, 2015
- Lisa Smith said...
It sounds like you will all have a wonderful time at the festival. Can't wait to hear all about it and see your great photos of the event!
- May 12, 2015
- Benita Story said...
I can't wait to see everyone and get my new T-shirt! And a new Liddy mug? Save me two!!!
- May 12, 2015
- Susan Mckee-Nugent said...
WHAAAAAAAAAH I want to go tooooooooooo!! Have a blast, thinking of you! Did I miss something? What T-shirt design did you pick?
- May 12, 2015
- Terry and Linda said...
Aw, what sweet photos!
- May 12, 2015


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Traffic of Hyd..a detailed study..
Where do I start? There are ppl breaking rules everywhere…there are ppl breaking cars and bikes too…Some things I have observed for long, got frustrated with but don't know how to get it out..So this is my small way of teling every1..Afterall, small beginnings lead to bigger things.. So here goes..
First of all ppl in Hyd lack a basic traffic sense, that is a perfect dampener for such a magnificent city(most aspects apart from traffic).Hyd traffic has been da worse in all da cities I have seen!(now don't comment, this city;'s taffic is bad, Im talking abt myself).Ppl either don't care abt their lives or abt the other's, eitherways u r a jerk, a mindless freak if that is ur line of thinking!! People go from whichever way is convenient to them! Some bikers get on pedestals and expect u to move and give them way and swear wen u ask them where dey are going! Seriously, there are some demarcations on the road indicating signals and basic rules and regulations bt that board is either greeted wid pan-spits or it is uprooted or it is in such magnificent conditions where nothing can actually be read to say the least. And even if it was dere, there wud be very few ppl actually looking(forget abt reading) at it!
Bulls run wen dey see red but people in Hyd aren't bulls then why do they speed up instead of slowing down wen da red-light flashes? Like they are in some kind of a race. Why can't ppl slow down? it wud just take anoder minute or so but no, they have to go first, now da oder person watches this and tries to do the same! Blv me bad traffic starts wid da effort of just 1 idiotic individual just like 1 dirty fish dirties da whole pond!
Secondly, people act as if the road has been gifted to them by their father-in-laws or fathers maybe as the popular quotation goes "
Buses are the kings of the roads..They will go wherever dey like, they will dash whoever they want! They will go wherever dey like and they will never follow rules! They determine how u go, not u alone!
Next comes going wrong way, this is da funniest and da most irritating, u are fighting ur way in the traffic, u r tryn to juggle between cars in inch to inch traffic and u see da perfect sight, a biker ,auto fellow or car(even saw a bus once, gosh) coming wrong way.. and taking all
So how do we stop this or if not stop, control it? Made me think a lot!!!
I come up wid dis, any kind of change starts wid da individual, u start following rules! Don't allow any kind of corruption in da RT offices(though it seems impossible, u can get


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Betsy Walker
Believe it or not there are those of us who wish to bury our loved ones with dignity but cannot afford to and have no one to turn to. When my daughter died unexpectedly at the age of 22 years young if it hadn't been for the kindness of friends coming through for us I don't know how we could have buried her. At that time I vowed I would put away money to bury my other family members, (who also had no resources for their burial). We all work hard, (I work in social services). But with life being as it is, we barely make enough to cover our immediate needs, nothing left over for a savings. Recently my mother died. I had no money to bury her. During our grief we met with funeral homes who told us they could bury her for only $5000.00. At this time of our lives $5,000.00 sounds like $5 million. Thank goodness someone came through with a loan. I have no idea how I will pay him back, but I will, because I have faith. I don't want to see others going through the trauma of having to beg, borrow and plead to bury their loved ones as we did. It is so embarrassing to not be able to bury a loved one. Therefore, I would like to set up a fund for those who are in our situation. Hard working, kind people who just don't make enough to bury their loved ones. Different states will assist with cremation. However, there are those who due to their spiritual beliefs do not believe in cremation. I would love to be able to help others in a similar situation as ours with money to bury their loved ones while respecting their dignity. I thank you from my heart for your assistance. Betsy Walker
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