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I spent the week drawing a multi-layered tavern battle map. It's free thanks to my Patreon supporters, so please enjoy. I would love your feedback!
I spent the week drawing a multi-layered tavern battle map. It's free thanks to my Patreon supporters, so please enjoy. I would love your feedback!
Wonder how I draw trees and bushes, at the table and for my maps? In this video I do my best to explain the process. Please enjoy!
Those Mercantile Tokens I've been working on just came out the art-oven, and you can download them for free below – there's 177 in all!
I'd love to see what you create, so please share. 🙂
Whew, after a lot of work the Dungeon Room Builder is finally available! Please enjoy these 60 room pieces +1 demo map. I can't wait to see what you put together!
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This morning for some reason I had the song "Freedom" by Wham! going through my head - I found myself singing it in the kitchen much to my family's dismay. So I'm driving to work this morning and what do I hear, first song? What are the chances, right?
So I got to thinking about clairvoyance. Not that the above scenario was anything more than coincidence, but it was still weird. I have never been completely in tune with my "sixth sense", I'm one of those people a ghost would probably NEVER present themselves to. I do believe there's a guardian angel out there assigned to me, but think I'll probably never meet him/her. I have, however, had a strange "experience" or two. The one that comes to mind happened over a decade ago - I had this strange dream about a coworker. I dreamt about her marriage - that it was very unhappy and they were splitting up, and that her husband was initiating it. I had no reason to know this, as we were friendly but she was never one to put her personal life out there. So a day or so later I told her about my dream - I don't remember how I told her, but I do know I didn't immediately give specifics (that could have been very hurtful). I remember starting with something like "I had the craziest dream about you the other night" - and I'll never forget the look on her face, because my dream was dead-on, as it had already occurred.
Have you ever had a clairvoyant experience? Tell me about it!
Thursday, October 12, 2006
Clairvoyance or Coincidence?
This morning for some reason I had the song "Freedom" by Wham! going through my head - I found myself singing it in the kitchen much to my family's dismay. So I'm driving to work this morning and what do I hear, first song? What are the chances, right?
Posted by LoraLoo on 10/12/2006
15 comments:
- barbara said...
Umm, I'm kind of afraid to tell you because people tend to think I am a freak after they hear it. BUT...here goes:
I have a really strong 6th sense. When I was a kid I used to feel earthquakes that were in other countries. Sometimes I can picture exactly what is about to happen - word for word conversations with people I've never met before - and then they happen almost word for word.
The most recent thing was on July 4th this year when I "saw" (in my mind) my aunt standing in my brother's garage and faint. I knew she was at his house that day but I saw her fall, saw my sister call 9/11, saw the paramedics come. My sister later told me the whole story and I said "yeah, I know". UGH! I feel like a freak! It sounds eerie, but it's just bizarre.
- Heather said...
I have a lot of dreams that "come true". I have a friend who says that she believes that feeling of deja vu that we get sometimes is a sign that we are on the right track.
- LoraLoo said...
Barbara: You're not a freak! That must drive you nuts sometimes, like a bit of sensory overload!
Heather: I like the idea your friend has about deja vu. I get that a lot.
- An80sNut said...
I can't say that there was ever a moment of clairvoyance in my life. I do get a lot of deja vu. Mainly, I'll see a specific view in my dreams and see the exact same thing walking around unfamiliar territory. I'm kind of happy that I don't see more than that. hahaha
- Nik said...
I have this happen quite a bit, and it's awesome to see that there are others out there. So far, the worst thing that I've experienced was about 6 years ago. My sister was pregnant and I was hanging out w/ my best friend. Out of nowhere, we both gut this gut-wrenching feeling. This feeling was so bad, it felt like I couldn't breathe. I was gasping for air and my chest hurt so bad. I just knew something was wrong with my sister. Long story short, she ended up having a miscarriage. There have been other oddities, but that one was the worst. Most of the feelings/senses/whatever are simple things, like telling somebody that they probably shouldn't go somewhere cuz you have a bad feeling about, but they go anyways and wind up in jail.
Barbara-- you are in no way a freak.
- Meow said...
No clairvoyance in my life, that I can think of. But, when I got pregnant with Chicky (it was not long after I had lost my wonderful grandmother) I was feeling sad as my grandmother wasn't around to share in this exciting news. One night, in my dream, my grandmother appeared, and was so excited for me, gave me heaps of hugs and kisses, and told me how wonderful it was that I was pregnant. When Chicky was born (I always knew she was going to be a girl), we named her after my grandmother. She is very much like her, in many ways.
Dreams can be very interesting.
Hope you have a wonderful weekend.
Take care, Meow
- Fred said...
I've never had an experience that gave me any insights into the future.
I've had the normal "I told you so" moments because I was sure something was going to happen...but nothing out of the ordinary.
- Fred said...
Oh, and hope you had a great anniversary!
Hey Chickee Rocker - I just now found the link to the Bowie site over in the comments at Layla's! THANKS! I don't get alerted when someone leaves a comment there (its set up, it just doesn't work) so I miss comments sometimes.
I really wanted to join the Bowie site but its $65 for a membership!
Dang!!! But I can still enjoy reading them.
- LZ Blogger said...
Happy Anniversary! ~ jb///
- Teri said...
I have had so many that is is really hard to say. One of the most recent I have had was a dream. After I bought all the Winnie the Pooh stuff for Jacob's room, I had a dream about showing it to my best friend who passed away. She really liked it and on the blanket was written Best Friends above Pooh and Tiggers head. Not that long ago I took the blanket out of the package and to my surprise the words Best Friends were written above Pooh and Tiggers head. I was not able to see it in the package. It was just one of those things that makes me feel that she is still a big part of my life.
- Redneck Nerdboy! said...
At least it wasn't "Jitter Bug" you were humming!
I have them quite often, thinking of people before the phone rings and it's them, etc. Sometimes I think of someone, and find out they were thinking of me at about the same time.
Also I have been able to see the energy flow between trees. Very interesting orangish light or something that the physical eye can't see. I don't remember how or why I saw it, I just did!
- Redneck Nerdboy! said...
Barbara - THAT IS TOTALLY COOL!! What awesome gifts you have! You are not a freak. What you have is something that most people have, but just choose to ignore. Your mind is more open and wonderfully receptive.
Same with HEATHER! I have also heard that deja vu's are sign posts that we are on the right life path.
- BeckEye said...
I've had that song thing happen quite a few times. Funny you were thinking of Wham! because yesterday I had their really old song, "Club Tropicana" in my head. I think it was spurred by buying orange juice. Strange. I hadn't heard of that song in ages.
I've had situations occur where I imagine having a conversation with someone and then the conversation happens and it pretty much goes exactly as I thought it would. I don't know if that's a 6th sense or just knowing my friends too well!
I have deja vu a lot. That can be very unnerving.
- Vegas Princess said...
I have these all the time, mostly dreams that come true in reality. One time I freaked my mom out because I had told her about this vivid dream I had about a yellow farmhouse and a barn across the street and I walked into the barn and all these bats flew out. Two months later we were in Ohio and my father got a call from an old childhood friend of his that I had never met. They invited us out to their house to visit. My father hadn't seen him in over thirty years. When we pulled up it was the same yellow farmhouse I had dreamed about with the barn across the street and when they brought us to the barn and opened the door all these bats flew out. My mom almost died.

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Life "After" infertility. Being, becoming, midlife-ing, parenting... But no whistling.
23 March 2009
7 comments:
- What IF? said...
I've found the "trying not to be crazy" is an exercise in futility when you're waiting. You succeeding 70% of the time is miraculous. Hats off to you for finding some zen in this crazy conversion ride you've had.
The conversation with the "little maybe" sounds so freeing. I love how you can look back on the younger Kate and be kinder to yourself now.
Wish I had answers on the IUI wait time. I'm so hoping you'll get to meet maybe baby in 9 months.
- March 23, 2009 at 11:24 PM
- Sticks and Stims said...
Thanks for your post.
Waiting is awful. I am a POAS addict so please take that into account! I got both of my positives with IVF 8dp3dt or 11dpo - both ended early but started off really well. That is pretty early. My little sister - she got pregnant naturally - did not get a positive until 13dpo - and she has a beautiful little girl. I am no sure of the timing for IUI and there are late implanters...
I drove myself crazy with the POAS - but, it prepared me for the horrid official news that I received yesterday and I was able to work and life my life. Now, this weekend was a different story. I cried quite a bit but I was glad to have the preparation of the bfns on the sticks.
The end of my azzvice is always the same - do what you will be comfortable with in the long run.
I am hoping you get a bfp - we need one around here.
- March 24, 2009 at 6:57 AM
- IVF 40+ said...
HI Kate. You sound positively sane compared to my ramblings!! I say POAS 5 days before your period. If you can wait that long. OR poas every day! that way you will be so over the whole thing by the time the sentence is read.
Easy to write advice - watch this space when my time comes!
Whatever happens, may your hopes come true. Thinking of you. Thanks for all your support over the past few weeks.
- March 24, 2009 at 8:59 AM
- Joannah said...
Yeah, I've been wishing for an extra decade these last few days. That line in your post resonated with me.
My doctor always had me do the BETA with my IUIs, so I don't know what to tell you about when to test. Maybe start at 10 days post IUI?
- March 24, 2009 at 6:16 PM
the wait is always the worst part. especially because some days you can make it hours without feeling obsessively obsessed with your body... and then one little thing can set your mind off and the spirals begin to strand away.
i hope the wait goes quickly. i hope some little bugger in there relaxes into you and hangs out to grow.
hang in there lady.
- March 24, 2009 at 8:35 PM
- karen alonge said...
the pee stick test results seem to be much more reliable on or after the day your period is due, which is probably about 2 weeks post-conception.
If you read the small print in the package, even on the brands that say you can test early, the reliability significantly improves with each passing day.
I always waited til period day to test because I did not want to ride a rollercoaster of emotions based on an inconclusive result. and I always bought the double package, so I could verify it right away.
But that's just me!
Thinking of you every day with love and optimism. xo
- March 24, 2009 at 10:40 PM
- Maredsous said...
Hey Kate,
I am not one to ask about testing. I am delayed gratification person. So I would wait until the day your period is due.
Sounds like you are holding up well this cycle. I think positive thinking is a good thing. It also makes life much more livable.
I am anxious to find out about your trip the the Magic Kingdom of IVF.
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Board Books:
– It's Time to Sleep
– Little Blue Truck
– Big Red Barn
– Goodnight Moon
– Corduroy
– Are You a Cow? (S in general likes Sandra Boynton books, though they sometimes drive Ezra and I crazy with how nonsensical they are)
– Any by Caroline Jayne Church – all her illustrations, but S especially loves I Love You Through and Through and Ten Tiny Toes (and any of her song ones).
– Poke-a-Dot Goodnight Animals
The Busy Tree
Insect Detective
Hurry and the Monarch
Counting Birds (Alice Melvin)
Dianna Aston
In the Sea (Elliott & Meade)
My First Day
Over in the Meadow (Ezra Jack Keats)
Up in the Garden and Down in the Dirt (Messner)
The Ink Garden of Brother Theophane (Book of Kells/Illumination)
Katie Meets the Impressionists
Charlie Needs a Cloak
First Bible Basics
The Biggest Story ABC
Zin Zin Zin a Violin
What Charlie Heard
Music Everywhere
Meet the Orchestra
Counting Birds (Alice Melvin)
Where Did My Clothes Come From?
Tale of two Princes
Frog & Toad
Miss Rumphius
Rookie Toddler
Green Eggs & Ham, Are You my Mother
The Quiltmaker's Gift
anything by Ezra Jack Keats
Amelia Bedelia (S's pick, not ours ;))
Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs
Chicken Sunday
Silent Music
Stepping Stones (Ruurs, Badr)
The Journey – Sanna
How to make an apple pie and see the world
NG Beginner Kids' Atlas
Children Just Like Me
books published by Global Fund for Children
Sasek, "This is… (City)" series
Maps Mizielinska
Snow in Jerusalem
Adele & Simon
Mama Panya's Pancakes
People – Spier
What can you do with a Rebozo/Paleta?
Perro Grande, Perro Pequeno
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For New Big Siblings
– Hello Baby
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– When You Were Inside Mommy (Joanna Cole)
– In the Womb (National Geographic)
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I never cease to be amazed how pride can affect the human condition. Tiger Woods' revealing public apology for his extramarital affairs, shows how sporting success led in his case to pride and a sense that universally accepted moral standards did not apply to him:
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In the same way politicians are not immune from pride. Faced with possible impeachment in 1998, President Bill Clinton eventually owned up to an adulterous sexual encounter with 22 year White House intern Monica Lewinsky. Clinton later admitted that he acted as he did..... "just because I could".
In the dictionary, pride is defined as "an inflated sense of one's personal status or accomplishments, often used synonymously with hubris.......extreme pride or arrogance. Hubris often indicates a loss of contact with reality and an overestimation of one's own competence or capabilities, especially when the person exhibiting it is in a position of power." (Wikipaedia)
It is a sad fact that Christians can get caught up in behaviour which stems from pride. Tim Brannagan of 'Freedom to Lead International', a ministry dedicated to 'cultivating Christ-centered leaders' clearly points out the corrosive effects of pride among some Christian leaders:
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For a flash, a fleeting moment at the tender age of 18, I saw the possibility of me having success with ladies. One defining moment put me into such a state of euphoric confidence that I was already laying out my life as a hustla'—the rap term for "he who woos many a woman who, in kind, loveth him greatly, fan him with giant palms, and drop succulent peeled grapes into thine gullet." It was a relatively innocent experience, punctuated by black leather pants, blonde highlights, and—perhaps most relevantly—cherry red lips, but it was enough to introduce me to what I'd later find out was "college romance," loosely defined. Ahh, memories…
This all happened about midway through my freshmen year of college, shortly after being cheated upon by my first college girlfriend. My understanding of myself at this age was that several women in the world would make ideal mates, but none of them knew it yet. Other than with my wife, I've always been the kind of guy who harbors crushes, holds onto them privately for months until the object of my affections either dates someone else, moves to Turkey, or simply dies. It was always one of the three.
It always felt "too soon" to relay my feelings, and I never wanted to hurt the friendships I had with these girls, so rather than take any sort of risks whatsoever I just kept my mouth shut. As you can imagine this was not an effective girl-grabbing technique.
So when some high school friends and I drove about an hour to visit buddies at a different university, I went into it with extremely low confidence. I'd just been cheated on and most of the freshmen couples had found each other by that point of the year, meaning all the good ones were already wrapped up. There were zero expectations of this party being fruitful. This is why what actually happened ended up being one of the more pleasant surprises of my young love life.
Before the evening's festivities, my friends and I convened at a La Bamba's nearby and consumed burritos as big as our heads. Actually, most of us consumed regular-sized burritos but my one friend—we'll call him "Adam," mostly because that's his real name—was at a point in his life where he liked taking on food challenges, so he ordered the biggest burrito they had. This would later prove to be a mistake.
But at this dinner I remember sharing with my friends how nice it was to be back together with the old gang (who, by the way, I haven't seen in much too long and miss dearly) and how nice it was to be away from my own college, which had become depressing. "Let's have some fun tonight, guys," I said. Or something like that. I needed an escape. That's what this night was all about.
So we head to the apartment hosting the gathering. It's a nice place—white couches, white walls, sparse art, and a little spiral staircase leading up to a loft. Pop music thrummed through an impressive stereo system, sending rattling bass vibrations through my feet, and the crowd was a diverse smattering of people I had never seen before. I was happy about this.
An hour or two into the evening I pointed out a girl to Adam that I thought was cute—this was the young lady with the black leather pants and blonde highlights I mentioned earlier—and he suggested I go over and talk to her.
Now, "going over and talking" was not something I had ever done in my life at that point. While I consider myself a generally amiable guy in social situations, talking to girls I don't know but would like to is not my strongest suit. My bottom jaw turns into gelatin and my stomach flares up like I'm in trouble. Seriously, the exact same feeling you get when you've done something really wrong and just gotten caught. This is the sort of anxiety women instilled in me as a youth.
But I had had a couple of "sodas" at that point and was feeling the effects of the "caffeine," so I thought, What the hell? And I approached the lovely young lady to ask her to dance.
I know that sounds ridiculous, like I'd be in pantaloons and tails with a ponytail pulled tight and white powder on my face, but other people were dancing and getting pretty into it. She was standing up against the wall talking to a friend, which was the same thing I had been doing just a short moment before, so I figured I had nothing to lose. I was in a town I almost never visited talking to a girl I'd almost certainly never see again, so the risk was low.
Her answer to my query: "No, thank you."
Ouch. Usually I would've been like, "Okie-dokie!" and hummed nervously back to my spot on the wall, but I was feeling oddly assertive this night, causing me to ask the follow up question, "Why not?"
Her reply: "Because I have a boyfriend, and I don't feel like dancing."
I see. Here's what I do when I don't think I've got any chance with a girl—I befriend her. Better that than nothing, I've always told myself (though we all know males and females can't be platonic friends unless they're married or one of the two is particularly unattractive. Women think this is possible, which is why they let the friendships happen. Men know better, and remain friends in hopes of someday breaking through into boyfriend mode. Or at least make-out and feel-up mode.)
So we chatted for the rest of the evening. I was utterly charming and looked especially so when Adam regurgitated the entire carcass of that big-as-your-head burrito on our friends' white couch (he recuperated by lifting his body out of his vomit pose and flipping me a double thumbs up—it was awesome). In our conversation I found out that she and her boyfriend had been having a hard time lately, which was why she went out with her friends that night and specifically chose the leather pants, and I also discovered that she was 21—three years older than me, making me even more proud of myself for having approached her.
On the whole, I felt good about the evening because I had been able to talk to a girl, even if I couldn't even get her on a dance floor, let alone to anything else a strapping young 18-year-old lad might have had in his agenda book (in my case, it wouldn't have mattered even if I wanted more to happen—I told you, no game). Eventually this lovely girl gathered her purse and informed me it was time for her to go. So I said goodbye, and that was that.
Or so I thought.
A few minutes later, after I thought the girl was out of my life forever, she tapped me on the shoulder, turned me around, and planted a fat one right on the lips. She just said, "Thank you," and then walked away, for good this time.
I stood there confused, my insides burbling gelatinous heat like a lava lamp, and just smiled. To this day I'm not sure what I did—maybe she just needed someone to listen to?—but that's how things ended up that night. Up to that point in my life I had never kissed a stranger, let alone a much older one. My confidence boosted from there, and I spent the rest of that year trying to meet girls back at my own college. Those efforts were met with extremely minimal success, but I was out there trying, dagnabbit, and there's something to be said in that.
It all started with the girl in the leather pants. I suppose I could've taken a road to full time hustla' at that point, but it just wasn't in the cards. I've always valued love and the perks of relationships more than the idea of the one-night-stand, so I make a crappy hustla'. Somehow, I got the gumption to ask out my wife four-and-a-half years ago, and who's to say that this experience wasn't the first domino to fall in letting that happen? My wife should be thanking me for kissing random college women. Yes, I'll have to have a conversation with her about that…
Monday, March 02, 2009
I'm a Hustla', Baby
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Dinesh D'Souza Quotes About SlaveryQuotes about: Slavery
Historically, the argument is we stole the country from the Indians. America stole the labor of African Americans for over 200 years under slavery. America took half of Mexico by force in the Mexican War. American foreign policy, the progressives say it's based on theft. Why? Because look, America is very active in the Middle East. Why? The Middle East has oil. Notice that America doesn't get involved in Haiti or Rwanda because they don't have any oil.
We certainly did take the country from the Indians. Right. So, but what's going on here, as I would call it a, sort of, morality tale. What the progressives do is, they take a few nuggets of American history, Columbus' arrival, then the founder's compromise with slavery, and what they do is they fast forward to their favorite episode, so to speak, and they create a story out of that leaving a whole bunch of facts out.
Dinesh D'Souza
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