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- Joanne Goldblum: Poor moms re-use diapers because they can't afford new ones
- Food stamps don't pay for disposables, she says, cloth diapers impossible option
- Goldblum set up a diaper bank, but it hardly meets the enormous demand
- She says a federal program must solve this small, but real, problem
We mothers spend a lot of time saying, "I love you." We don't always use words: it can be wrapping that squeaky-clean baby in a fluffy towel or warming up cider for the kid who comes in wet and cold after playing in the snow.
Childhood is full of times when mom made us feel cared for and comfortable. But imagine the difficulty for a mother who doesn't have the resources to keep her infant warm and dry.
Although I spent much of my career working with chronically homeless families, it took a long time to realize just how deep their deprivation was. Finally a woman named Angie set me straight when she dumped out the solids and put a used diaper back on her baby. I explained how unhealthy this was. Angie told me she couldn't afford diapers. I urged her to buy more diapers with her food stamps. Angie told me she couldn't do that.
She was right: Food stamps can't be used to buy diapers. Mothers cannot get diapers from a major federal source of support for poor families, the Women Infants and Children Program, either. There was nowhere for Angie to turn. The impracticality of cloth diapers became obvious: She didn't have a washer, and her local laundry wouldn't allow her to wash diapers in their machines.
So Angie's baby was stuck in wet, dirty diapers. Angie was stuck, too. She needed job training and employment if her family was ever going to climb out of poverty. In order to get either of those, she needed child care. Most child-care providers, however, require parents to supply disposable diapers. Angie couldn't buy diapers unless she got a job, and she couldn't get a job unless she had diapers.
I spent a lot of time railing about the unfairness of it all until my husband suggested that we could "just do it." We roped in some friends to help us buy diapers at the local warehouse club and deliver them to agencies that served low-income families. The demand was enormous. The organization soon moved from our dining room to a warehouse and now distributes clean diapers to 2,500 children a month.
That means the world to my own community, but all across the country there are Angies who need help. Last year, I started the National Diaper Bank Network, to help diaper banks start and thrive nationwide. I'm enormously proud of the people I work with, who do so much good.
But it is not enough. It will take 6.57 billion diapers to keep every American baby living in poverty clean and dry this year. That's based on 3 million children under age 3 living in poverty in the United States, and a conservative six changes a day.
Diaper banks tend to be small, often all-volunteer organizations. The scale of the response does not match the enormity of the need.
If we are to attack the problem, the first step is to acknowledge it. In my experience, when people learn about diaper need, they want to help. I can think of no better time than Mother's Day to talk about it. There are many ways this could be dealt with from a policy perspective -- through the Women Infants and Children program, the SNAP program, Child Care Subsidies, Temporary Assistance for Needy Families -- the list goes on.
We wrestle with all sorts of policy questions about the achievement gap, intergenerational poverty and the like. They are serious questions that deserve long and deep discussion. But let's add this small -- but serious -- issue to the conversation.
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Life is a journey. The destination is death. This blog is all about the musings of a sojourner in her thirties, curious about the stops, the fellow passengers, the driver(s), the conditions of travel and the highlights and lowlights. All the while in a place of tranquility: the sanctuary.
Saturday, May 26, 2012
Thanks, but no thanks!
I ask questions.
If pushed to a wall, I give suggestions :-)
Caelaeno asked me how to politely turn down a guy, here.
I gave a suggestion.
She was gracious enough to reply that she found it helpful.
Which is nice, Caelaeno. Thank you.
But I can't help but feel that there are others here far better qualified to answer this question than I.
My review of 'Firelight' (thanks again Danny!) yielded two examples of rejection on the romantic front.
What's so brilliant about this is that we get a woman rejecting a man (Elisabeth rejecting Mr. Taylor) and a man rejecting a woman (Charles rejecting Connie).
I thought to myself:
Why don't we look at this again?
And this time with both genders in mind, as rejectors and the rejected.
I have harped on enough in the past that it is entirely expected that a woman rejects several men before she picks one (for life hopefully).
I always thought that there must be far more women rejecting men than men rejecting women.
I think this is intrinsically true, but there is a shift in proceedings, of course, with the result that we now have a situation where for probably the first time in history, masses of women are deemed rejectable.
This is sad in many ways.
It used to be that men did most or all the pursuing (with women doing some subtle 'hinting', of course!) and women selected.
But with a change in rule-book and different dynamics at play from my grandma's hey-day, women are being required more and more in today's SMP to do some active and sometimes amazingly aggressive pursuing of their own, at the beginning of a relationship.
Often with disastrous results.
But this is off-topic. I shan't dwell on this for now.
How does one say politely, 'Thanks, but no thanks!'?
Does it depend on your own gender?
Does it depend on the gender of the person you are rejecting?
Does it depend on the timing of the relationship?
Does it depend on the reason for the rejection?
Does it depend on your own life circumstances?
Does it depend on how you perceive the other person, in general?
I suspect the answer to all of the above questions is a resounding 'yes'.
But to what degree in each case?
I always think that consideration for the other person is key, whatever the motive or the outcome of the rejection.
But this is often hard to achieve, given that a rejection is often painful, stuffed full of emotion, and unpleasant for all concerned.
Often, it is indeed the rejector who feels worse than the rejected. Even if it may look like it's the other way round.
Is there such a thing as a mutual rejection?
Or is this the preserve of Hollywood couples parting ways, in an attempt to pull one over the rest of us?
Is there such a thing as a 'nice' rejection?
Or is this a face-saving device invented by the rejected?
Some people are far too brusque in their 'rejection technique'.
Others are far too 'gentle' and ineffective, thereby needlessly prolonging the agony.
Others use one standard method for everybody, regardless of the situation.
Others use a 'variation on a theme' strategy.
Some people have never rejected someone.
Some people are lifelong rejectors.
Some people never recover from a rejection that happened in 1976.
Others are expecting to be rejected and come prepared.
Some people love the challenge of rejection and seek to breakdown the 'resistance'.
Others run a mile from impending rejection because they know they can't take the pain.
Incidentally, this scene from 'Captain Corelli's Mandolin' also provides a good example of a well-executed rejection. Except it wasn't really a rejection in this case. All that smiling and coy behaviour is the clue :-)
So whilst I wouldn't recommend this for Caelaeno who was asking about 'serious' rejections, it is worth comparing this with Elisabeth Laurier's rejection of Mr. Taylor.
The first 30 seconds...
Now for my thoughts on the specific cases of rejection from 'Firelight'.
I should let drop now that my thoughts on these two cases are not restricted to the scenes of rejection alone.
Far from it!
Because I feel the context around these two rejections are indeed relevant, as you will see below:
Beginning with Elisabeth and Mr. Taylor...(hahaha, why does this make me laugh? She could have ended up as 'Elisabeth Taylor' had she not rejected him :-)
It has to be said that Mr. Taylor was near-perfection as far as a worthy man was concerned. A hard worker, handsome, good character, great sense of humour (he was, for example not at all phased by the antics of Lord Clare, Charles' father) and had an eye for spotting worthy women.
Elisabeth is not just beautiful, she is also graceful. She moves like a dancer.
And yet, by the time he got to ask Elisabeth for her hand in marriage, he had already lost her.
For she was emotionally unavailable to him.
Unfortunately for Mr. Taylor, Charles had got there first.
Eight whole years before him.
Elisabeth fell in love with Charles before they left the island hotel where she conceived Louisa.
Not because she had sex with him, I don't think.
In fact, I personally think she had fallen in love with him (of sorts) long before she actually saw him.
When she first heard his voice.
But this is arguable and I shan't dwell on it.
When she gives up her baby and pines for her for 7 years, we (as the audience of the film) are not made aware that she is also pining for the man with whom she had conceived her baby, until the very last scene where she admits to this...
Elisabeth appears very much to be a 'cold fish'. But this is just the usual façade of introverts. She wasn't really 'cold' at all. And in fact she actually says she is not like this: When Charles asks her how she can remain so calm at one point, she truthfully replies that she is not calm.
Elisabeth reminds me of a duck on a pond.
On the surface it appears all serene, but underneath, no-one is seeing its feet paddling furiously away.
I might even venture as far as to apply Myers-Briggs to Elisabeth.
I can unequivocally say she is INT...
Can't make up my mind whether she is a P or a J. Can any experts on Myers-Briggs help me out here?
Her background is also crucial and highly relevant. Elisabeth is a true loner. She appears to be an only child.
Motherless and with a father in prison, she is factually and effectively alone in the world.
It is therefore not surprising to me that her one idea to raise money for her father's debts involves creating another human being, even if the plan is to give up said human being at birth.
In executing this plan, Elisabeth at least had company for nine months. For nine whole months in her lonely life, she had someone else to talk to, to relate with, to connect to.
Even if that peson was invisible and couldn't exactly participate in any conversation except to kick at frequent intervals :-)
In a fit of frustration during one of Louisa's tantrums, Elisabeth lets slip her own fears about her loneliness and her wish to prevent this life for Louisa when she grew up to become a woman.
Elisabeth's mistake when she was 22 was to believe that it would be easy to disengage from the emotional aspects of sex and motherhood.
Clearly, no-one had told her about a certain badass hormone called 'oxytocin' :-)
For a very mature woman, this is a somewhat surprising 'gap' in her level of insight.
But of course, Elisabeth soon learns...
Am I being unfair?
Elisabeth was motherless. Her father was unavailable. Detained at Her Majesty's pleasure, as we would say in Britain.
She would have had to 'raise' herself in many ways.
I say she did a pretty good job.
But there would have had to be a 'gap' somewhere.
Otherwise she wouldn't be human :-)
She fell in love with Charles because he was special, to her. Deep down, she could have terminated their encounters at any point, and she knew that. But she didn't. Because she had fallen for him.
When at the beach he asked her if she had enjoyed their encounter the previous night and she replied 'no', she quickly added that 'she could'. By this, I don't think Elisabeth was saying that she could force her body to respond to Charles. She was simply saying she knew it wouldn't be hard to enjoy any further encounters with Charles, because he was already someone she had begun to care about.
The 'no' was also perhaps just a normal woman's attempt to avoid giving the impression of 'sluttiness' especially in this situation where Elizabeth would probably have felt 'guilty' to have enjoyed her counter with Charles - it was afterall not supposed to be 'pleasure' - it was 'strictly business'.
And of course, when she says during their second encounter, 'I don't want to know your name, I don't want to know anything about you', you just know she really means, 'I do want to know your name, I want to know everything about you!'
Elisabeth's 'pattern' is that when she is feeling 'passionate' she wants to shout :-)
See? Not at all a 'cold fish' at all :-)
Something else which may not be apparent to everyone watching this film:
A little geography lesson of sorts.
Elisabeth was Swiss.
Switzerland is a small country with no access to the sea.
Sure, it has plenty of lakes - part of its charm.
But at each lake, you can see the bordering town or country: at Lake Léman you can see France. At Lake Konstanz you can see Germany. At Lake Maggiore you can see Italy.
The sea would have had a profound effect on Elisabeth.
The fact that you could see nothing beyond its farthest horizons would have been especially appealing to her as a Swiss woman.
To 'shout' where there is 'nothing' would have been truly liberating for her.
Another time she felt the need to 'shout', she went to the lake-house at Charles' home to do it.
This was the nearest thing she had to the sea.
Charles, on the other hand, I don't think was in love with Elisabeth per se when he left her on the boat.
Sure, he liked her an' all...but remember, at initial encounter, to a man, all women are the same.
Charles didn't fall in love with Elisabeth until 8 years later when she showed up at his house as the new governess to his daughter.
And even so, it wasn't until after Mr. Taylor had been rejected by Elisabeth that he got thinking about her...
But I dare say, there was the beginning of something even at their first encounter...
When he questions her about this rejection and presumes it is for Louisa's sake, does anyone really believe her (affirmative) answer?
I for one don't.
Didn't think you did either :-)
She was heavily under Charles' spell by this stage. Louisa was just an innocent bystander in this regard :-)
But when he did fall in love with her, the 'alpha-beta' chain was set in motion.
What do I mean?
The Tango dance. Alpha, beta, alpha, beta, in that order...
Incidentally from 00:30 to 02:20 in the above video is a brilliant display of Tango skills...
A woman falls in love with a man when he is at the 'alpha' stage. Confident/maybe a bit aloof/definitely dominant to her. Charles was all of these at their initial encounter - albeit not a 'normal' encounter by any means.
The man falls in love with the woman when he is at the 'beta' stage - a stage in which he pedestalises her a bit, and gets all vulnerable.
For Charles, this happened when he mentioned about 'firelight' the night after Mr. Taylor left for America.
From then on, everyone knew he was in love.
Certainly Molly, the girlfriend of his father noticed this.
And the rest as they say is history.
He did most of the 'chasing' in this story. But note that Elisabeth did it once too: at a time when it counted.
With the above in mind, what did Connie do wrong, then?
Connie's mistake was to be there for a man who had never gone 'beta' on her. For ten whole years, she had loved Charles. That's like a huge chunk of her childbearing years.
She was perhaps 5-10 years older than Elisabeth, so if Elisabeth was 22 when she met Charles and 23 when she had Louisa, and therefore 30 when she turned up again when Louisa was 7, that would make Connie about 35-40.
The way she talked incessantly about loving her sister Amy also suggests that she is Amy's older sister. Elder siblings talk like this and are all protective of their younger siblings and never the other way round.
Connie and Elisabeth are both 'nice girls'.
But there is a subtle difference between them. One that Mr. Taylor spotted when he remarked (about Elisabeth): 'She's got pride in herself, doesn't back down'.
This is Connie:
Nice, nice, nice, kind, nice, nice, nice, smile, nice, nice, nice, compassionate, nice, nice, nice, smile, nice, Nice, NICE!!!
This is Elisabeth:
Nice, nice, nice, PASSION, nice, nice, nice, FIRE IN THE BELLY, nice, nice, nice, DESIRE, nice, nice, nice, PRIDE, nice, nice, nice.
See the difference?
Connie was too 'stiff upper lip British'.
Her passion, if she had any, was too deeply buried within her.
I strongly believe that she had every chance at her disposal to 'get' Charles before Elisabeth showed up.
Like ten whole years. She was frustratingly passive! Like Blanche Maxwell, this woman threw away an awful lot of opportunities. Not to say she should have been direct. But there is a way to be active while still being indirect...
She is effectively the proverbial passenger who lived by the seaport and still managed to miss the boat everyday for ten years.
Moreover, Connie was one of those women who needed 'competition' to get her own juices going. She needed the 'preselection' that Elisabeth provided.
Her last ditch attempt to show some passion for Charles by kissing his hand after he euthanases Amy (and by this stage it is clear to Connie that Charles loves Elisabeth) is not only somewhat pathetic, it is also way too late.
Connie is an example of what I described here.
A woman does not have to sleep with a man to be hooked on him.
Connie never got this far with Charles. Not to say she didn't hope for this.
But I imagine for her, there wouldn't be another man.
Charles had ruined her for other men.
She had wasted her whole life on a man who had never felt the same way about her.
A true tragedy.
On the other hand, I can also see the alternative point of view: that Connie was a sweet, kind woman who did everything right and still lost out. This is of course a very valid view.
Mr. Taylor, on the other hand would not have had this problem. For a start, for a man, 'there is always another woman' even when he has previously fallen in love with a woman.
As he correctly said to Elisabeth, 'one of these days, I might be doing this (proposing to a woman) again'.
I have no doubt that even on the ship en route to America, he would have found another woman to propose to.
The thing about 1838 is that, there were plenty more women like Elisabeth (i.e. marriageable women) around. The biggest complaint amongst men circa 2012 is that whilst there are millions of 'bangable' women out there, very few are marriageable.
I don't really know if this complaint is valid. But I shan't dwell on this.
Elisabeth's manner of rejecting Mr. Taylor is in my view, exemplary. Caelaeno, here's your answer.
She declines politely (actually, she doesn't decline - she acknowledges his compliment of her, and allows him to correctly deduce her refusal. After which she expresses regret. How classy is this!) And then she leaves.
She doesn't stay to commiserate with him.
A lot of women may feel it right to do this commiseration thing. Having previously done this myself, I now know it is wrong. Because to do this is to feel sorry for him in a way that wounds his masculinity.
Mr. Taylor begins what could be described as a self-depreciating speech when he starts to talk about a man getting his hopes up too high...but her icy stare soon sets him straight.
She helps him along by declaring that 'he is not too disappointed' (with her refusal of his proposal, that is).
I think this is very clever of her. She sets the 'frame' that he is to follow. Without making it too obvious, and certainly without taking anything away from his sense of masculinity.
And when he shows his vulnerability by asking if there was something he could 'fix' about himself before approaching another woman, she is both truthful and kind when she replies that any woman would be fortunate to be courted by him.
Sadly for Taylor, any woman but Elisabeth Laurier.
Elisabeth rejects Mr. Taylor: 6:08 to 7:50.
Connie's rejection was much more cringeworthy and brutal, although I don't see how gentler Charles could have made it.
Given that he had been effectively giving her this message for ten years...
Connie's problem was that she hadn't just been rejected on that fateful day.
She had never even been noticed by him in a romantic way. Ever.
She had been LJBF'ed for ten years.
But because her 'favours' had been gratefully accepted (none of these sexual, so there is a silver lining somewhat for Connie), she thought she was in a 'relationship'.
One persistent thought I had throughout my viewing of this film was...if Charles was so in need of a surrogate for his heir, why not Connie? He preferred to pay a strange woman a small fortune when Connie was available and would have most likely been willing.
Yes, the logistics would have been complicated, but it wouldn't have been difficult to arrange for her to 'disappear' for a while only to turn up with a baby (with an 'unknown' father)...and which Charles could have 'adopted'...
But no. Charles wasn't even up for this option.
Connie was just not in the frame at all...poor girl.
Charles rejects Connie: beginning to 1:37.
The extra painful part for Connie in her rejection scene is when Charles says to her, 'You know how much I loved her, don't you?' (referring to his dead wife, her sister). Not the best time for Connie to hear this.
Every woman needs to be a doctor of sorts.
For she needs to correctly diagnose when she loves a man, and when he loves her.
And she should know that a completely 'lukewarm' man is the male equivalent of a 'reluctant bride'.
There has to be something from him. (Not to say he ought to get his way of course :-)
In this regard, even an attempt to hold hands counts as something. But a clearer sign is better.
That's my 'suggestion' for the day.
I could go on all day. Um, in fact, I have!
Why don't we discuss?
Any interesting stories out there?
For Caelaeno?
For me?
For all of us to learn from?
Thank you kindly :-)
23 comments:
The Navy Corpsman
- May 26, 2012 at 8:30 AM
Lol NC. But that's ok. Just girl talk on the subtler art of womanly management skills from a feminine point that gives a man a masculine frame in rejection.
You also bring up something that I would have felt compelled to bring up sooner or later.
You wrote
This is Connie:
Nice, nice, nice, kind, nice, nice, nice, smile, nice, nice, nice, compassionate, nice, nice, nice, smile, nice, Nice, NICE!!!
This is Elisabeth:
Nice, nice, nice, PASSION, nice, nice, nice, FIRE IN THE BELLY, nice, nice, nice, DESIRE, nice, nice, nice, PRIDE, nice, nice, nice.
See the difference?
Femininity and niceness are all good and well, but if a woman has no sparks or backbone in her personality, she's toast. Worse yet, she's lucky if she'll ever get married. In a way, this is the advice given to Victorian women that mirrors what men today have dealt with in blue pill mentality.
A man should be alpha with a woman in the beginning, but if he doesn't go beta in showing affection, he isn't feeling it. Connie wasted a lot of time.
I also agree with not sticking around to commiserate with a man. Hard sometimes with social circles.
- May 26, 2012 at 10:42 AM
- Spacetraveller said...
If I knew what your question meant, I would answer it.
But as things currently stand, I haven't a clue.
Could you please shine a light on my obscurity?
- May 26, 2012 at 10:42 AM
- Spacetraveller said...
Wow, you know what NC's complaint is?
If so, 'chapeau', as we say in french (hat tip). I am still scratching my head as to what his specific issue is :-)
Might I say, I think this is a bg difference between you and me. And why I love your comments.
I can see I have a long way to go before becoming a Woman, even though I am a woman by virtue of everything that needs to be there, being there ;)
But at times perhaps I can be as thick as two planks. Unless NC comes back and explains in detail what he meant, I won't get it. I am missing a communication chip somewhere...
I remember one of Denzel Washington's films (I think it was 'John Q') in which he kept saying over and over again: 'explain it to me like I am a 6-year old' whenever someone said something to him. I am like that sometimes...
Connie's situation is one of the reasons I love this film so much...and why I chose to go back to it having already reviewed it.
This is the reason 'nice girls' finish last. But I can see that it doesn't have to be so!
The problem is, a girl like Connie, seeing that she is getting nowhere with her 'niceness' might conclude that 'all men want b*tches' and may well copy her b*tchy friends who seem to be getting the guys. I understand this reaction, of course I do. But I can see how that leads to a whole different set of problems...not least a kind of cognitive dissonance with her.
Charles just wasn't feeling it for her. And she knew it. She even told Elisabeth that she couldn't pretend that Charles loved her as much as he loved his wife, her sister...
I learned an awful lot from this film. I know that Danny's primary interest was in the Game principles that Elisabeth used to 'Game' Louisa, (and those are interesting enough, I have to say!)but for me, now, I am more interested in the interactions between the adults...For sure, one day when I am looking for parenting skills, I shall be back to watch the Gaming of Louisa...
- May 26, 2012 at 11:19 AM
The problem is, a girl like Connie, seeing that she is getting nowhere with her 'niceness' might conclude that 'all men want b*tches' and may well copy her b*tchy friends who seem to be getting the guys.
And this is very much the problem in todays smp/mmp.
I think that a woman can maintain femininity, sparks, and back bone. It doesn't have to be an either/or situation. I think that in many cases, women have gone too far in one direction or the other.
Though, I also maintain that guys can be nice most of the time and still maintain alpha. (Which gets me into trouble in the sphere) It doesn't have to be either/or.
It's a ballancing act, for women and men.
- May 26, 2012 at 11:35 AM
The Denzel Washington movie you are thinking of is Philadelphia. He played a lawyer who used that line to ask his witnesses to explain technical things as simply as possible. :)
This post is actually very timely for me, but I don't have the time to say so right now. I'll be back!
- May 26, 2012 at 1:02 PM
To keep things on topic, rejecting a man should be done with as much class and as complimentary as possible. BUT, if there has been a relationship, hanging around to be his friend is sending mixed messages. It's cruel, even if it's meant to be kind.
- May 26, 2012 at 1:06 PM
If I knew or understood anything from your post on this, I'd be glad to specify.
Men do not do this. We analyze, we examine, we do lots of things, but we don't rip a failed relationship to shreds, to see where it failed. We simply assume it's our fault and we walk away.
Yes, some men assume it's the female at fault. Whatever gets them through the night...
Sorry, this post is clearly females only. I was lost from:
"I have harped on enough in the past that it is entirely expected that a woman rejects several men before she picks one (for life hopefully)."
I'll not ask "really?" since this would be off-topic, but I hope you revisit that again, while I look back through the past month of posts hoping to find something about women being expected to reject some men before marrying... cuz I sure don't recall it.
Carry on.
The Navy Corpsman
- May 26, 2012 at 6:52 PM
As a guy it never mattered to me the reason why a woman rejected me. No is no - who cares why. Yet some gals went to great lengths to provide explanations. I wish they hadn't.
Even more important than what you say to him is what you say about him behind his back after the rejection. Don't poison the waters for him with other women in the social group by talking him down with them.
From what I have seen that has to be the hardest thing for some women to do. Their worst nightmare scenario apparently is one where a good man she rejects subsequently winds up doing the happily ever after thing with a rival woman in her social group.
They will throw that guy under the bus to prevent this from occurring. I've seen it happen.
In short then when rejecting someone just remember 3 simple words – don't be evil.
- May 27, 2012 at 7:39 AM
- Spacetraveller said...
@ Bellita,
Thanks! I don't know why I thought it was 'John Q'...
Wow, you were right about NC's gripe! Chapeau again. I'm impressed. Just one word, and you knew what he was on about...
NC and Grasshopper,
Is it really true that men in general don't think too much about rejection?
I find this hard to believe!
Sure, you probably wouldn't obsess over it like a woman would, but surely men have their own way of dealing with rejection?
Especially, as (traditionally and historicaly, at least), you have been the gender to deal with this more, because you are the ones who approach women. Now it's 'even Stevens', sure, but you still get an awful lot of rejections as men.
I got a question: I know that men like to be alone when they brood over a rejection, but in general, would you say they dealt with rejections in a less healthy way (mentally) than women? Sure, a woman is more likely to binge-eat and cry a lot..but at least she usually surrounds herself with others...a man might do drinks and drugs, and there's no-one to 'supervise' him in case of attempted suicide, overdose etc...
"Yet some gals went to great lengths to provide explanations. I wish they hadn't."
This is an example of the commiseration thing that women do. It's not our fault, Grasshopper! I think it is usually a gesture of goodwill. But you have confirmed what I suspected - that men don't like this.
And in many ways, it is perhaps an example of 'projection' too, inasmuchas women like to dissect out details of a breakup to understand the ins and outs of it, and so women expect men to want this 'closure' too, hence they offer it, even when it is unsolicited. It's one of those things that you would never guess correctly about. You always have to learn this from experience - yours or someone else's :-)
I touch on women rejecting men in the posts 'Friendly or fresh, fascinating or forward' and 'Fools rush in'.
I see you are beating a hasty retreat from the door of the ladies' locker room!
Wise man :-)
- May 27, 2012 at 8:45 AM
I am quite sure there are lots of men who beat that particular dead horse quite badly. After all, a lot of MGTOW took that pill because of the horrors of divorce court. But, I don't see that type of man as being overly obsessed with the 'why' as much as the 'why so damned vindictive and hateful'.
On one hand, I don't see any reason for a married couple to stay married, if one of them is unhappy. On the other hand, I would not give the time of day to someone who divorced for 'emotional unfulfillment', whether male or female. Boredom is not an excuse for divorce, in my book.
I do not think the majority of men spend a lot of time thinking about why their girlfriend/wife/significant other dumped them. After the first dumping, men learn that nothing they say or do will change the mind of their ex. Why ask why?
Deal with rejection? Accept it, move on with my life. Outcome independence. Hey, if you and I were dating, and somehow you determined that I was just not the "One" you wanted to marry and you let me know (in any fashion) I would be upset, sure. I would probably spend ten, maybe fifteen minutes wondering what the real reason was, then I'd get hungry and fix myself something to eat. And that would be the end of that.
Grasshopper points out that explanations can also be more painful than the actual dumping. True enough, yet it still comes under the heading of overanalyzing. I'm well aware this is how women think, and I accept it as fact. It's not how I think, probably not how Danny, or Dogsquat or Grasshopper thinks. I hope you can accept that. If I get a laundry list of reasons why I am not suitable, from you when you dump me, please believe that I am going to think you're picayune and possibly OCD, and will shorten that time where I analyze the relationship post-breakup to 30 seconds, max.
Whether from the Creator, or evolution, men have been designed to be independent. We're absolutely good with being happy with the company we keep when we're the only ones in the room. This may sound like a declaration of independence from women, but it isn't. We're also very good at keeping company with women. Given a choice, many many men would be happy to set up housekeeping with a suitable woman. Since I've been married for over 20 years, I have to say that I'd be in serious difficulty if I had to go back to cooking for myself, but that's a minor problem in the whole issue.
You see, there are three truths in any breakup, Spacetraveler. There is his truth, her truth and the real truth. Sometimes they're pretty close to each other, and sometimes they're really far apart. Yet one fact, one logical statement remains at the end of relationship:
Not a damned thing I can do about it.
I MAY be able to actually figure out what happened, and apply to future relationships so as to prevent a recurrence, but isn't it easier to accept reality and go on with your life? Not for you, certainly... and that's just fine for you.
But even more germane is that I won't spend any time at all, analyzing someone elses' breakup, and sure as hell not a fictional character in a movie.
The Navy Corpsman
- May 27, 2012 at 10:34 AM
- Spacetraveller said...
"But even more germane is that I won't spend any time at all, analyzing someone elses' breakup, and sure as hell not a fictional character in a movie."
Overanalysing is my thing, NC.
Over at Bellita's, her latest post also analyses the break-up of a celebrity couple.
Question for you, NC: which is worse for you, a celebrity couple or fictional characters?
Just teasing...
You make great points. Thanks especially for presenting a man's point of view.
In many ways I am jealous. If only I could be less analytical, I'd have more time for other things to occupy my mind with ;)
- May 27, 2012 at 11:53 AM
ST it is not a surprise to me that you find it hard to believe men do not dwell all that much on rejection.
Women seem to view a man brooding over her rejection as a validation of sorts. It's so … well … un-validating of us to not brood. How dare we.
There is also an undercurrent of narcissism to women's thinking here. Any man she denies the wonderfulness of her company to will of course naturally turn to drinking, drugs and be a major suicide risk apparently.
Fact is the man likely did not ever see the woman rejecting him as super wonderful but just the best he could do at the time.
Fact is he likely has other girlfriend possibilities he is in one stage of pursuing or another and you may have made things easier for him by taking yourself out of contention.
- May 27, 2012 at 2:05 PM
Spacetraveller said...
"Question for you, NC: which is worse for you, a celebrity couple or fictional characters?
Just teasing..."
Actually, a good question, given that it's slightly off topic.
Generally, if an author is good at character development, the reader becomes involved in the characters of the book, or the characters of a play/movie. With the understanding that a good actor/actress can really bring a dull character to life, to reality as it were, I'd have to say a fictional character has a better chance of engaging my interest. Celebrity couples are engaging in something I call 'attention whore complex', where they WANT their private lives aired on national or international television.
"No publicity is bad publicity."
Tell that to the Pope.
Look at 'reality shows' which are so far from reality that people actually watch them to escape from their own. My eldest son told me I should try out for something called 'Survivor' whereupon he made me watch an episode. I nearly gouged out my eyes, but more importantly, I told him I'd not last ten minutes in such a situation before I'd rabbit-punch the host. Smarmy shitheads do not sit well with me, especially ones that look like a Ken doll.
I watch TV, and I FEEL my IQ lowering, dynamically. Movies, well, there I get to pick the good ones, and every once in a while I sit through a chick flick to make my wife happy. I have to duct tape my mouth shut, however, because something goofy would happen and I'd point it out, earning me scorn. Hey, not my fault when some guy shoots a woman and the pistol fires AFTER he raises his hand in simulation of recoil!
Wow... somehow I wandered so far off topic I'm not sure we'll ever get back. I wonder why I wandered....
The Navy Corpsman
- May 27, 2012 at 9:21 PM
Go read this, and understand this happens to nearly EVERY man, once. And only once. Twice, and the guy usually loses his mind.
Courtesy of former USMC Sgt Dogsquat:
I have to say, something like this did happen to me, when I was 14 years old. However, I learn from my lessons.
The Navy Corpsman
- May 27, 2012 at 9:48 PM
I can see I have a long way to go before becoming a Woman, even though I am a woman by virtue of everything that needs to be there, being there ;)
Not at all. You are very insightful, and a charming hostess as well. Elegant yet mischeivious.
- May 27, 2012 at 11:27 PM
- Spacetraveller said...
@ Grasshopper,
Yes, if I am to be completely fair on this, it does seem rather narcissistic of women to expect men to crumble under their rejection of them.
On BeijaFlor's blog, he describes a woman who seemed blissfully happy when an ex-boyfriend of hers committed suicide because of her rejection. I remember feeling rather sick as I read it. I think Bellita also made a similar remark as to how awful this woman was.
In contrast, I was watching an interview with musician Gregg Allman last week where the interviewer made mention of the fact that Gregg Allman had, wait for it, not one but two ex-girlfriends commit suicide when he broke up with them. He was suitably humble and remorseful about that.
Now I am not suggesting that all women are like BeijaFlor's friend, or that all men are like Gregg Allman. Not at all!
It might be just possible that you misinterpreted my question somewhat. My question was not so much about the possiblity that women expect men to be suicidal. It is more that we hear this all the time from men themselves - case in point, the post from Dogsquat that NC links to above, and from the media in general - eg. reports that when Michelle threatened to divorce Barack, he was severely depressed and suicidal.
Also, I was alluding to two other points.
1. Concern that she has hurt him (yes there is such a thing as a compassionate woman lol!), hence my reference to the worry that he is alone, as opposed to in the company of other people who could help out if things got scary.
2. Lack of understanding that a man could really get over his hurt rather quickly, because all women know that as women, we really feel the pain of rejection (and we tell the whole world about it!) so we find it unbelievable that a man could just walk away unscathed. That's why I mention 'projection'. Especially in light of what we hear about as above also.
But I think I didn't make my self clear enough: rejection where there has not been a relationship is of course very different from rejection where there has been a long and perhaps loving relationship. I made no distinction betwee the two when I asked my question.
"I watch TV, and I FEEL my IQ lowering, dynamically."
Same here! But unlike you, I like it. Um, is this bad?
"Wow... somehow I wandered so far off topic I'm not sure we'll ever get back. I wonder why I wandered...."
Wander away, NC, wander away. It's all part of the fun of ideas expression :-)
Thanks for linking Dogsquat's post. Like I say to Grasshopper above, this is the kind of intel I have on men's reaction to rejection. Women of course feel this pain too, but express it differently. For example, I don't know many women who would punch a drunk guy to pulp because of their pain of rejection lol, but perhaps for women the hurt is directed more at themselves rather than others..I dunno.
That's lovely to hear, especially coming from someone I respect so much :-)
I aim to continue gaining 'womanly wisdom' from women like you.
- May 28, 2012 at 2:32 AM
Spacetraveller said...
""I watch TV, and I FEEL my IQ lowering, dynamically."
Same here! But unlike you, I like it. Um, is this bad?
Depends on whether you can afford to lose any points. I'm on the low side of normality, (at least I like to think so) so I tend to conserve all my strength for intellectual challenges, such as "Where's Waldo?".
It's funny that you mention the difference between a breakup of a long term relationship, and one that has not been going for years, perhaps not even months. My wife told me, before we wed, that if I ever found someone else, she would not 'go crazy' or anything like it. She figured that we both loved each other, and if one of us fell out of love, the other should just accept it and move on. It's a logical thing, and I warned her that we both should not ignore emotions, at our personal peril. She agreed, but we both decided that this would be the best way to handle an unforeseen situation. Life isn't fair, and neither of us expected anything different.
It all sounds so civilized, yet I've done my share of wondering, all humans (except perhaps celebrities) have their moments of self-doubt. I recall a guy I knew in college who boasted to me that he told his girlfriend that he will kill her and her lover if she ever cheated on him. A few years later, he was commenting on one of those 'family annihilator' killings, where a man killed his wife, children and the wife's lover; he was disgusted with the killer. I agreed, then reminded him that he said he would do pretty much the same thing.
Lesson #445 in life wisdom: Never remind a friend they've had moments of insanity, unless you don't want them as a friend anymore.
The Navy Corpsman
- May 28, 2012 at 9:23 AM
- Spacetraveller said...
"It's funny that you mention the difference between a breakup of a long term relationship, and one that has not been going for years, perhaps not even months."
Well, it's got to be harder once one's emotions are invested...
"Depends on whether you can afford to lose any points. I'm on the low side of normality, (at least I like to think so) so I tend to conserve all my strength for intellectual challenges, such as "Where's Waldo?"."
Hahaha! Toofunny!
NC, I can't afford to lose any points either, but maybe that's precisely why I am not bothered...
He that is down need fear no fall...
- May 28, 2012 at 10:10 AM
In my first comment, I said that this topic hit home for me, but I didn't say why . . .
It was because I was planning on ending a courtship that I knew would never amount to anything. I had let it drag on for some time, hoping he would get my hints . . . but I knew I had to be better than that and be direct with him. And since every man who has said anything about the subject gave some variation of, "I'd rather be shot in the head once and die instantly than shot in the chest five times and bleed to death slowly," I grabbed my gun and took careful aim.
And I felt very bad about it . . . but also very relieved.
Only to be told that I had been imagining his interest in me and that he really only wanted to be friends!
Which put me in my delusional place, I guess. :(
Two people (one of whom knows the whole story and another who just overheard the latest report) said that he might have just said that to save face. Ah, well . . . I guess I'll never know.
But the point is that it's over now, which is good for both of us, even if it still smarts very much.
- May 29, 2012 at 6:53 PM
- Spacetraveller said...
I am pleased for you that you are sure it was the right thing for you to do, i.e. to end something that was not right for you.
I however have this automatic knee-jerk reaction to say 'I am sorry' whenever I hear of a split of any kind, even when the people involved say to me 'it was for the best!'
I like how you use the word 'courtship' here.
You old-fashioned girl, you ;)
(Incidentally even though I am pulling your leg about the use of this word, I have recently learned that there is indeed a very big difference between this word and 'dating' even if they seem interchangeable. So thank you for using the more correct word).
"And since every man who has said anything about the subject gave some variation of, "I'd rather be shot in the head once and die instantly than shot in the chest five times and bleed to death slowly," I grabbed my gun and took careful aim."
I am sure you didn't mean to be funny here but I couldn't help a chuckle at the thought of you taking aim with a gun. Somehow it doesn't quite work, this image in my head of you! Au contraire, it is rather comical as I cannot reconcile you with the image...In any case,Danny's avatar keeps popping up lol.
You know, counterintuitive as it may be, I now see that your male friends are right. I guess there is a 'manly way' and there is a 'womanly way' of taking rejection.
And I think both sexes generally get it wrong in that men dish out rejection 'like a bullet' in the same manner they would reject another man (if you see what I mean) and women feel bad and want to 'mollycoddle' a man they are rejecting, in the manner they would treat another woman. Sure, there are notable exceptions...
Yes I also think he said what he did to save face. But that is his right, I guess.
And perhaps allowing him to save face helps you feel better about the whole thing?
Again I am sorry that you had this 'setback' in your journey to your goal :-(
- May 30, 2012 at 12:59 AM
Actually, ST, I think that his denial of his intentions was a little cowardly on his part. I understand that he might have felt embarrassed, but this reaction was a way to transfer the blame on me, as if I had deliberately embarrassed an innocent man . . . which I tried very hard not to do and which he was not. It's not fun to be cast as the one in the wrong when you tried to do the right thing.
Of course, this only applies if he was said what he said to save face. If it was the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth that he had no romantic interest in me, then I was certainly put in my place for thinking I was more desirable than I am. :P
- May 30, 2012 at 2:32 AM
- Spacetraveller said...
You bring up a very important point:
"Actually, ST, I think that his denial of his intentions was a little cowardly on his part. I understand that he might have felt embarrassed, but this reaction was a way to transfer the blame on me,..."
Yes, the point of 'saving face' is not to be 'honourable' yourself but to diminish your own pain at the expense of the other person.
It's not a nice thing to do, but pride and hurt dictate that we do it, at a time when we are most vulnerable.
So the rejector is made to look 'worse' than they really are because they are the ones to pull the plug.
Yes, it's another csae of 'pain all round'.
I agree the whole thing is fun for no-one...
I truly sympathise because I can see both sides here...as opposed to other situations/contexts where I can only see one side.
- May 30, 2012 at 2:44 AM

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Blocked punt helps Florida escape Louisiana-Lafayette
GAINESVILLE, Fla. -- Black punt block.
Loucheiz Purifoy was getting ready to take his place on the left outside of the Florida defensive line for what was the final ticks in a game Saturday that Florida probably had no rights winning. Louisiana-Lafayette were just a couple of breaks away from ruining the Gators' hopes of a ninth win for the first time in three seasons.
But then Purifoy heard the call, looked across the line, and saw opportunity knocking - breaking free and swatting the ball off the foot of Ragin Cajuns punter Brett Baer and into the air. That's when Florida linebacker Jelani Jenkins camped under the ball, pulled it in and raced 36 yards for the game-winner, a 27-20 victory that came with just two seconds left to play.
BOX SCORE:Florida 27, Louisiana-Lafayette 20
"I was just thinking, 'Run, Jelani, please run. Get in the end zone so it will be over.''' Purifoy said afterwards.
Fans roared, on a windy day with hundreds of empty seats, more out of relief than anything on a tense afternoon that left a lot of Gator fans rubbing their eyes in disbelief.
"In all my years of playing football,'' said Florida defensive tackle Sharrif Floyd, "I've never seen a touchdown like that.''
"Black'' is the play that Chris Rainey used to set the Florida school record for career blocked punts, with six, before leaving after last season for the NFL's Pittsburgh Steelers. Purifoy took Rainey's spot on the play and has two blocks in consecutive weeks.
"I'm no Chris Rainey,'' half-joked Purifoy.
Actually, he's getting there fast. This one saved Florida from possibly the biggest upset of the college football season. The only other loss by the Gatorswas 17-9 to Georgia in Jacksonville.
"We certainly make it interesting,'' joked Florida coach Will Muschamp of UF's seventh comeback win of the season, the second in the fourth quarter. "It's a football team that is finding ways to win games. We certainly shot ourselves in the foot enough to get in that situation.''
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Actually, it was a day filled with not real smart plays by the Gators that was saved by a couple of brilliant ones at the end to give it the program's seventh come from behind win of the season, the second in the fourth quarter. Slowed on offense by the sprained ankle of starting quarterback Jeff Driskel, 10 penalties for a loss of 79 yards and five quarterback sacks for another 24 yards in losses, the offense struggled all day.
Trailing 20-13 with 2:56 left and Driskel (98 yards passing and 76 rushing on the day) in the locker room, Florida went 49 yards to tie the game.
Backup quarterback Jacoby Brissett hit tight end Jordan Reed for a 39-yard gain to the 3-yard line and found Quinton Dunbar in the right corner of the end zone for the touchdown. Caleb Sturgis' point-after tied it at 20 with 1:42 left.
"Man down, man up,'' Muschamp said. "We've said that all season. Give (Brissett) credit for making the throws.''
Brissett completed six of eight throws for 64 yards in his relief stint. Muschamp said Driskel only has a sprain but won't know the severity until later, so Brissett could get another start next week against Jacksonville State.
"The saying, 'One snap away,' is real,'' Brissett said.
Louisiana-Lafayette (5-4) then played conservatively to try to run the clock out for overtime. But there were just enough seconds to save Florida.
"Give them credit for doing it right and making something happen," Ragin Cajuns coach Mark Hudspeth said. "That's what great football teams do.''
It was a tense second half.
Louisiana-Lafayette's Bradley Brown blocked a Kyle Christy punt and Blake Comminie returned it 22 yards for a touchdown that put Louisiana ahead 17-13 with 4:03 left in the third quarter. It was the Cajuns' first blocked punt of the season and the first one the Gators had allowed.
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But it was a tense second half.
"We fought and we believed,'' said Lafayette quarterback Terrance Broadway, who finished 16 of 23 for 171 yards. "I told the team after the game, 'I'm really proud of you all.' I am just happy to be a part of this team. We fought our butts off.''
The Gators, after allowing just 20 points in the second half all season, gave up 14 in the first 11 minutes of the third quarter Saturday.
"We made some big plays when we had to, but didn't make a big play, the biggest play when we needed to and let that one sort of get away,'' Hudspeth said. "I felt like we had a legitimate chance to win a game when we were up and then they got the score (to tie). To be honest with you I thought we were in good enough of a position to put the game into overtime, then who knows what happens when you get into overtime.
Louisiana-Lafayette drove 77 yards in 12 plays to add a Baer field goal from 22 yards out to make it 20-13 with 13:11 left in the game.
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Florida took the game's first lead. Floyd forced a fumble and linebacker Jon Bostic fell on the ball at the Cajuns 28. But the Gators couldn't do much with it and had to settle for a 38-yard field goal from Sturgis. A Lou Groza Award finalist last year, Sturgis suffered an ankle injury in practice before last week's 14-7 win against Missouri and missed most of that contest.
After Sturgis' kick, Louisiana-Lafayette came back to get a 49-yard field goal of its own from Baer to tie it at 3-3 with 4:02 left in the first quarter.
Florida managed to scratch out a nine-play, 85-yard drive at the end of the second quarter. Driskel hit Trey Burton on a 2-yard score in the right corner of the end zone, and Florida led 10-3 at halftime. The big play in the drive was a 30-yard pass to Reed to get the ball to the Louisiana 4.
Aside from the Reed catch, Florida managed just 128 yards in the first half. The Cajuns had just 125.
Florida started the second half by driving 73 yards in six plays but had to settle for a 21-yard field goal to make it 13-3. Reed, a former backup quarterback, took a reverse from Driskel and tried to throw a pass to backup tight end Clay Burton in the end zone on third down, but Burton dropped it.
Louisiana came back with a 77-yard drive that took nine plays. A pass inference call on Purifoy on third-and-goal kept the drive alive. Alonzo Harris scored the touchdown from 2 yards out and it was 13-10 at 8:35 in the third.


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DDR SDRAM Prices to Surge in April
A report assumes that prices on 256MB DDR SDRAM memory modules will soar by 14% in the first half of April due to exceptionally high demand and lower than expected supply of DRAM products.
According to an article over DigiTimes web-site, memory modules from Samsung Electronics, Infineon Technologies and Nanya Technology will see an increase of 10%, 5-6% and 14% respectively. Memory prices typically decline a bit in April, but either the tremendous demand for DRAM encourages the prices to go up, or memory makers intentionally limit the supplies to support the prices on high level.
Analysts believe that the reason for the price climb is tightening supply of memory components, which allows DRAM manufacturers to control the pricing. Even major PC makers, such as Dell and HP, cannot secure enough DDR SDRAM modules for their computers shipping shortly and have to accept higher prices to meet their own demand.
Another reason for the price increase will be natural reduction in supplies to spot markets, as memory makers tend to service their partners among PC makers first.
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Prices of many commodities are down this year, but U.S. oil futures have rallied. Skeptics say the mismatch is a sign of trouble.
U.S. benchmark crude-oil futures ended Friday at $96.02, up 4.6% since the start of 2013. Oil is a standout in a mostly dismal year for commodities, as the Dow Jones-UBS Commodity Index has fallen 5.6%. The decline has been even steeper for gold, copper and other former darlings.


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Planning for College: How to Cover College Costs
We've all heard that the annual tab at some schools now tops $30,000. But here's the flip side: Thanks to over $100 billion of financial aid available each year, most families don't pay the (astronomical!) sticker price. Your piece of the money pie may be waiting.
The High Price of Tuition
In a perfect world, all parents would stop on their way home from the hospital to open a college savings account for their newborn. Eighteen or so years down the road their consistent monthly contributions — sizably supplemented, thanks to the miracle of compounded interest — would easily cover the cost of tuition.
Except that in the real world, if you're like my husband and me, paying for college seemed light-years away, making it easy to postpone putting money aside — especially when you had bills up the wazoo for stuff like daycare, braces, music lessons, and camp. But now high school is winding down. Higher education is around the corner and you're coming up on pay-the-piper time. And you're stressing. To put it mildly.
Good news: When all is said and done, lots of families don't end up having to pay the full fee in cash. From grants to loans to part-time jobs, there are many ways to cover costs. Easy? No. Possible? Yes, with some inside info.
How to Cover College Costs
1. Search thoroughly for "free" money. Scholarships aren't just for A+ students or star athletes, says Kelly Tanabe, coauthor of 1001 Ways to Pay for College (SuperCollege). For instance, participation in community service, religious affiliation, and artistic talent are also frequent criteria.
Encourage your teen to start searching during her junior year to ensure she won't miss any deadlines, often in the fall of senior year. "Every student should apply for at least 10 scholarships to increase the odds of winning one or two," says Lynnette Khalfani, author of Zero Debt for College Grads (Kaplan Publishing). Kids should visit FastWeb.com and CollegeAnswer.com, Internet sites that will generate lists of possibilities based on intended major, special talents, GPA, and other info. It's also smart to ask school guidance counselors about scholarships offered by area businesses, churches, and community and service organizations. Local awards are generally easier to win than national ones because fewer people compete for them.
2. Fill out the FAFSA ASAP. The Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) is used to determine eligibility for all federal aid, including Pell grants, loans, and work-study programs, plus many state- and college-based initiatives. By all accounts the six-page FAFSA can be tricky — okay, exasperating — but it's a must in order to apply for need-based aid, determined strictly by a family's income and assets or lack thereof. (President Barack Obama pledged during his campaign to eliminate the FAFSA form, but whether that will happen remains to be seen.) The federal deadline is always June 30, but many state agencies and colleges require the form be completed as early as March 1. Some aid is given out first-come, first served, so later filers could potentially miss out on money, says Lee Harrell, assistant vice president of financial aid at Ohio Wesleyan University.
To fill out the FAFSA online, go to fafsa.ed.gov. For a paper copy, check the library or call 800-4-FED-AID. You will need your driver's license, bank statements, mortgage data, and the previous year's tax return to complete the form. If you haven't done your taxes yet, estimate your numbers based on the prior year's return rather than wait, suggests Harrell. You can update the figures later. Pro help with the FAFSA — starting at $80 — is accessible at fafsa.com. If your child isn't a senior yet but you would like to get a sense of what's involved, go to fafsa4caster.ed.gov.
3. Compare aid packages. Every school that admits your kid will review your FAFSA and issue an award letter indicating the types and amounts of aid it can offer. Obviously, scholarships and grants are most desirable because — unlike loans — they don't have to be repaid. For help comparing aid packages, use the Award Letter Comparison Tool at FinAid.org.
4. Push for a better deal. If you feel a package contains too many loans or if the amount the school expects your family to contribute doesn't reflect extenuating circumstances, such as job loss, ask for a reassessment. "Financial aid officers hate the word 'negotiate,' but they usually have a fair amount of leeway when determining how much aid a student receives, especially if the school really wants your child," says Khalfani. Be clear about why you can't afford to pay and exactly how much assistance you need.
If your child gets a generous aid package from a college that isn't her top choice, leverage that offer to win more aid from the place she really wants to attend. Write a letter to her desired school explaining why she would rather go there and why the cost is prohibitive. Talk in the language financial aid officers understand — numbers. (At this point, it's not about how wonderful your child is.) Make sure to include a copy of the other school's award letter.
5. Go where the money is. Some schools are able to be more generous with merit-based aid, usually because they have large endowments or are actively trying to attract top-tier students in an effort to inch their way up the college rankings ladder, says author Lynn O'Shaughnessy. To up your child's chances of receiving money, apply where she would be likely to fall within the top one-third or one-quarter of the applicant pool, says O'Shaughnessy. You can get a good idea of how her academic record compares by looking up a school's range of test scores and average GPA at collegeboard.com. Also keep in mind that although it seems counterintuitive, high-priced private schools can actually cost less than cheaper state schools in the long run, simply because private schools generally have a much deeper well from which to draw when awarding financial aid.
6. Agree on a split decision. If your son's first choice is a pricey big-name university, broach the idea of starting out at a community college for a year or two, then transferring to get the designer degree for far less money, suggests Robert Brokamp, who writes about money management. Contact the desired school beforehand to make sure it will accept transfer credits and to find out whether there are any specific course or GPA requirements that you should know about.
What Not to Do
Sometimes a parent's best intentions — like wanting to help your kid go to the college of her dreams at any cost — can lead to trouble in the future. Whatever you do, don't:
Clear out your retirement funds.
There are numerous ways to pay for college but limited options when it comes to funding retirement. "If you reach 65, want to quit working but don't have enough cash set aside, there are no low-interest retirement loans or scholarships to help pay your bills," says Robert Brokamp, author of The Motley Fool's Guide to Paying for School (Motley Fool).
Stash money in your child's name.
Saving is super, but setting up a college savings account with your child's name on it may actually reduce her aid opportunities. "In the federal financial aid formula, parent assets are assessed at no more than 5.64 percent, but a child's money is assessed at 20 percent," says Lynn O'Shaughnessy, author of The College Solution (Financial Times Press). Keep college savings in your name, or, better yet, save in a tax-deferred custodial 529 college savings plan or prepaid tuition plan. If money has been saved in your child's name and she's planning to enter college this fall or next, it's too late to move the money since aid calculations are based on the prior year. If she's a sophomore or younger, consider transferring her funds into your account or a custodial 529 plan, which will be regarded as a parental asset come July 2009.
Assume you don't qualify for financial aid.
You might think you make too much money or have too many assets to be eligible for assistance and decide not to bother filling out the Free Application for Federal Student Aid, which can be a hassle. Still, file the FAFSA even if you think aid is a long shot because it's the gateway to all federal and most state- and college-based help, including federal loans. Schools take into account factors you might not realize, like having more than one child in college in the same academic year and the number of years until your retirement. Fill out the form.
Buy into the idea that a high-cost education always leads to a better-paying job.
"Attending a top school is prestigious, sure, but it doesn't always translate into larger paychecks," says Brokamp. Fact is, a future teacher with an education degree from an Ivy League institution isn't guaranteed to earn more than one with a similar degree from a state U. If your child has her heart set on a pricey school, by all means let her apply — because a good aid award could make it affordable. But also insist she apply to less-expensive schools, in case you end up having to cover costs and will need to rely on loans to do so.
The Lowdown on Loans
For an increasing number of students, borrowing to help cover college costs is a fact of life. Loans now make up more than half of typical aid packages, according to the Center for Economic and Policy Research. Over the past decade debt levels for graduating seniors more than doubled, from $9,250 to $19,200, a 108 percent increase (58 percent after accounting for inflation), according to the Project on Student Debt, a nonprofit advocacy group. Parents are borrowing more too, via loans or even credit cards. What you need to know:
Try for federal loans first.
Government-backed loans typically offer better terms than private ones, including capped, fixed interest rates, extended repayment plans and less stringent approval requirements, says Mark Kantrowitz, publisher of FinAid.org, an online resource for financial aid. After you complete the FAFSA, your teen's school will send a letter indicating your eligibility for federal loans. There are three different types.
Perkins Loans These are subsidized loans made through participating schools to kids with exceptional financial need. They are the best student loans out there, with interest paid by the federal government while the child is enrolled in school. Each school has a limited pool of funds available. Max loan amount for undergrads: $15,000.
Stafford Loans (subsidized and unsubsidized): Subsidized Stafford loans are based on need, with interest paid by the government until your child leaves college. Unsubsidized Stafford loans are available to most students and begin accumulating interest charges as soon as money is disbursed. Max loan amount for undergrads: $20,000.
PLUS Loans They are the financial responsibility of the parent, not the student. They are not based on financial need, and a poor credit history can impact loan eligibility. Payback (including interest) begins 60 days after funds are disbursed. Max loan amount: Total cost of attending the school less any financial aid the student receives.
Shop for a lender.
Federal loans are available through colleges, private lenders, and some state guaranty agencies. The government sets the rates that can be charged, but some lenders discount those numbers to attract business (and hope to make up the shortfall with increased volume). Most schools provide a lender list as a service but will not offer specific recommendations, to avoid a conflict of interest. Your state guaranty agency can also help you locate a lender. To find your state guaranty agency, visit ed.gov/erod (click on State/Territory Search) or call 1-800-4-FED-AID. If federal loans are not enough to cover college expenses or you do not qualify for a parent PLUS loan, you or your child can take out private loans, which are often marketed by mail and on campuses. Private loans should be your last choice because, unlike federal ones, they have variable rates that are not capped by Uncle Sam. Interest also begins accumulating when funds are disbursed. If your child needs a private loan, make sure he has a cosigner to increase his chances of getting the best terms.
Watch the bottom line.
It's easy for students to get neck-deep in debt. As your teen evaluates school options and financial aid offers, remind her that loans have to be repaid, and let her know approximately what her loan payments will be after she graduates. For example, $20,000 in loans at 6.8% interest (the current rate for unsubsidized student Stafford loans) will cost $230 a month for 10 years. You can find calculator tools at FinAid.org and other college Web sites.
Recession 101
Naturally, the economic crisis has parents more freaked out than usual about paying for college. These are scary times, but higher education is still within reach, says Cindy Bailey, a senior policy analyst for education finance at the College Board, a nonprofit that manages standardized exams. Despite the cash crunch, schools will still be doling out aid, says Bailey. "There will be money available because students need it and institutions are committed." Her timely tips:
Complete all financial aid-related paperwork early and accurately.
This is especially critical now because more families than ever will be applying, including many that would not have applied even just a year or two ago. (As of February 15, 2009, the Department of Education had received 20 percent more FAFSA forms than by that date last year.) Pay close attention to deadlines and don't leave any fields on the form blank.
Don't believe the hype about loans not being available.
"I predict there will be more borrowing, especially among families who thought they wouldn't need to," Bailey says. "But despite media reports that the student loan pool is drying up, the Department of Education has been very resourceful about creating liquidity, so finding funds won't be an issue." However, because of the fiscal fiasco, there are fewer private loan providers, meaning fewer options when it comes to comparison shopping for the most favorable terms.
Adjust expectations.
"Even if it wasn't part of the plan initially, teens may have to pitch in, like by getting a part-time job," says Bailey. Stay focused on the big-picture goal — getting a degree.— Celia Shatzman
Originally published in the May 2009 issue of Family Circle magazine.


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We're officially six days removed from the release of Waka Flocka's sophmore release, "Triple F Life: Fans, Friends, Family". Courtesy of The Warner Sound, Waka will release new viral footage each day leading up to his album dropping. In today's "Friends" episode, Waka starts off the video flashing a couple dollars and sports his brand new all-gold grill. Nice flex move. Flocka then speaks on the inspriation behind his album title. He then allows Southside, Wooh Da Kid & director Cordaryll Ward speak on their love for friends, family, and fans.
Waka goes on to announce his run for presidency and his own form of money. Southside shows off his Triple F Life tattoo before giving us a snippet of a new record. The beat was nice but there's no sight where that will land. The Brick Squad Monopoly general continues to clown both on and off stage before shouting out all the artists on the Club Paradise tour.
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ARB to Hold Residential Waste Burning Workshop in Redding
January 23, 2002
1:00 p.m. - 3:00 p.m.
City of Redding
Civic Center Community Room
777 Cypress Avenue
Redding, California
The workshop discussions will cover public health impacts and a proposal to prohibit the outdoor burning of residential waste materials other than natural vegetation, as well as eliminate the use of burn barrels. For more information, including a Fact Sheet and a complete list of dates and locations for workshops around the state click here.
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ext three years, the average U.S. home will have connected a whole bunch of new devices to the Internet.
TVs are the obvious choice, but smartphones, tablets and lots of other machines will also be connected.
Our homes will have so many Internet devices that it will average out to five devices per person with an Internet connection.
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A 5-hour Group Golf Day at Southampton City Golf Course - great for getting a full knowledge of the game, working on all areas and meeting other people. A fun and social group coaching day.
What's happening?
Introductions to the group (maximum 8 golfers) and run-through of the day
45 minutes putting coaching on the Putting Green
45 minutes short-game coaching in the Practice Area
45 minutes coaching on the Driving Range, including video swing analysis
Break for lunch
9-holes on-course coaching lesson (approx. 2 hours)
Round up and reflection
Thursday 5 December 2019
10.00am - 3.00pm
Southampton City Golf Course, Golf Course Road, Southampton SO16 7LE
What should I bring?
Golf clubs
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Lunch (also available in the club house)
Where should we meet?
I'll meet everyone at the Southampton GC club house just before 10.00am.