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Foundations may not seem like the sexiest of topics but watching one get made will give you a whole new appreciation for what's under the covers of your house. Our crew spent the last couple of weeks constructing our pretty little raised perimeter foundation. I tried to capture the process in photos, as it is quite an impressive production. Several of our neighbors even stopped by to comment on the progress and how quickly everything's moving along.
Before construction begins the city requires a licensed surveyor to layout exactly where the house should be and ensure it's not encroaching on the setbacks. Stakes are placed to mark the corners of the house and string runs between them giving a visual outline of the perimeter walls.
|The surveyor's stakes + string outline the house's footprint.
Excavation involves removing the topsoil and digging underground to create the foundation. Unless you're going for the Leaning Tower of Pisa look, it's very important that you do not build a foundation on ground that's too soft to support your structure. The ground needs to be compacted enough to bear the load of the house.
Foundations have two major components: footings and a stem wall. Footings are poured concrete pathways that help spread the weight of the home from the foundation walls to the surrounding soil. In addition to the pathways, oversized mole holes are punched out for piers. Piers are a part of the footing that support girders—vertical beams which carry the floor system. Well built footings ensure that weight is distributed over a large area so that the finished house does not settle.
|Digging the footing pathways & piers. Palo Alto requires they be at least 20" deep in undisturbed soil.
Above the footings sits the stem wall, the top part of the foundation that connects the foundation to the vertical walls of the home. Forms are temporary molds into which concrete is poured to shape the stem wall. Made out of lumber, the forms hang above the footing cavity and need to be sturdy enough to prevent a concrete "blow out" when you fill them. To hold the forms in position, wood stakes are lodged into the ground every few feet and screwed into the form wall.
|Building forms is hard work. Especially if you have to redo stakes to apply blue sleeves. Hint: Use the sleeves.
Before pouring the concrete, steel rebar, short for reinforcing bar, is added to strengthen the footings and stem wall. The rebar holds the concrete together, allowing different loads and weights to be transferred throughout the structure. This helps your house resist shear and bending from conditions like soil movement, earthquakes and wind pressure. Hold downs and anchor bolts are embedded in the cement foundation to anchor to the frame and keep the walls from lifting off.
|Our general contractor, Jeff making sure the hold downs line up with where the windows will be placed.
At this time our plumber came to can out the sewer, creating a place for the sewer line to run through the foundation. Our electricians set up electrical conduits, a piping system that routes through the footings and across the house. By doing so, they can later snake electrical wiring through the pipes instead of having to run wire on the outside of the house or drill holes through the wall frames. They also set up a required Ufer ground—two 20' long bars of steel that connect to the rebar in the foundation to ground the electrical system (this protects against surges like lightning strikes).
|Our electricians James and Mark setting up conduits in the foundation. This will save time down the road.
Before you can start pouring cement the city requires a foundation inspection. Here's a cheat sheet of must-haves to pass:
- Survey letter
- 20" minimum depth footing below ground, 8" above ground
- Ufer ground
- Plasti-Sleeves (*See the Blue Condom Fetish footnote below)
|We all hold our breath while our inspector Robert checks out the footings and forms.
Step 6: Pouring the cement
Woohoo! We passed our inspection so the cement trucks showed up the next day and the crew started pouring. Manufacturing cement takes a lot of energy and produces about 6% of the world's carbon dioxide emissions. To make cement more sustainable you can mix in a recycled product called slag cement. The city gives you one GreenPoint (like brownie points but better) for adding 20% recycled materials and two points for 30%. The slag cement also makes the concrete stronger.
|Our little foundation ate 6 1/2 truck loads of cement. We added 30% slag cement to make it greener.
The cement was poured on Friday and had the weekend to set. On Monday the crew stripped off the forms to reveal a firm, flat, level and square masterpiece. The foundation is done! Or is it? Stay tuned for the sequel...in the meantime if you'd like to learn more check out the foundations and floors chapter in Habitat for Humanity's How to Build a House.
*Final Footnote: Palo Alto's Blue Condom Fetish
Experienced builders will tell you that every city has their unique quirks and hot buttons. In Palo Alto the head inspector is Bud Starmer. Bud was an exterminator in his previous life so he's vigilant about measures that can prevent an infestation. Personally, I like this about him because I am not a fan of bugs and rats and want all the help we can get on this front.
Page 35 of the Palo Alto code book (which Bud wrote) says the following:
Measures shall be taken to allow all wood stakes and form lumber to be removed. We recommend using Plasti-Sleeve to slip over the wood stake, this product is available at Barron Park Plumbing Supply, 377 San Antonio Street, Mountain View, 650-948-7160. Note: Wood stakes/forms not removed shall be drilled and treated with copper green.For those of you who don't understand inspector English, "we recommend" is code for "do it or fail." If you want to please your inspector, use the Plasti-Sleeves (lovingly dubbed the "blue condoms" by builders in Palo Alto). The idea behind the condoms is that they help you slide the stakes cleanly out of the ground when you're ready to remove the forms. This is beneficial because any wood that is left exposed in or near the ground becomes a feeding ground for subterranean termites (endemic to the Bay Area).
We spent about $120 on the blue condoms and another ~$100 in extra labor to put the suckers on. Indeed it was clearly worth the expense when Bud paid us an unexpected pre-inspection visit and gave us the thumbs up when he saw them. However, efficacy was another matter. I was shocked and dismayed when not one, NOT A SINGLE ONE, of our condomed stakes would lift out of the cement. Instead we had to snap each stake, drill off as much as we could, and treat the remaining wood with Copper Green pesticide. Bah humbug. Next time we'll use lubricant or pull out sooner.
|The fact that the blue condoms help may be a fantasy but if it makes your inspector happy, it's worth it.


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(a) Notwithstanding the provisions of any other law, where a vessel is engaged in any segment of transportation between the terminal facilities of the Pipeline and ports under the jurisdiction of the United States, and is carrying TAPS oil, the Owner and Operator (jointly and severally), and the Fund established by section 204(c) of the Act, shall be strictly liable without regard to fault in accordance with that section for all damages, including clean-up costs, sustained by any person or entity, public or private, including residents of Canada, as a result of any discharge of TAPS oil from such vessel. Strict liability under this section shall cease when the TAPS oil has first been brought ashore at a port under the jurisdiction of the United States.
(b) Strict liability shall not be imposed under this part if the Owner or Operator of the vessel, or the Fund, can prove that the damages were caused by an act of war or by the negligence of the United States or other governmental agency. Strict liability shall not be imposed under the Act with respect to the claim of a damaged party if the Owner or Operator of the vessel, or the Fund, can prove that the damage was caused by the negligence of such damaged party.
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Any pointers on replacing the plugs for an 07 k1200R Sport. Don't have the CD Manual and would rather dig into it with a better sense of direction. Thanks.
An older Airhead, Brick and Oilhead mechanic.
Any pointers on replacing the plugs for an 07 k1200R Sport. Don't have the CD Manual and would rather dig into it with a better sense of direction. Thanks.
An older Airhead, Brick and Oilhead mechanic.
It's not a twenty minute job... I watched a few done from a covert location
You have to drop the radiator, the shroud that supported it to the engine , the air pipe system on top of the valve cover, unclip the leads from the plugs without breaking one and use the plug puller to remove the boots . That's the easy part.
The difficulty comes in purging the cooling system afterwards...lot's of top secret intel needed as even some dealers are learning how to really do it and I believe BMW may have tweaked the procedure. Some folks say just hook it up and gravity will take care of it...I don't think that's wise as there are lots of places air can hide in the system. Lot's of thoughts and opinions on the K bike forum and of course some tempers flare on each. You'll have to do a search in the K12S forum
I have read the manual so many times , but have not done either of ours yet ( '05 K12S) I am in the process of getting a better vaccuum purging system once the better mousetrap is invented by someone that is not cost prohibitive.
might as well do a valve check/adjust if you make it that far!
here is the BMW drawing...positive pressure pump/compressor...The hose headed over the bars goes to the compressor
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Make sure you are sitting down when the parts person tells you how much the plugs cost. My local dealer quoted me $25.56 a piece! Fortunately I shopped around and found them for the bargin price of $14.04 each at Crossroads BMW in Lynchburg, VA.
One tip; make sure to fully engage the coil with the tip of spark plug. You'll need to hear an audible snap as they seat themselves. It may take a little extra force.


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For once, I hope Harry Reid is right: he says he is not close to a deal with the Republicans to raise the debt ceiling.
The hysteria currently in the air is ridiculous. There is no prospect of a default on Treasury obligations. The federal government takes in much more money than it needs to pay principal and interest as it falls due, so default is impossible unless Barack Obama specifically orders it for political reasons. So, let's start by drawing a deep breath and relaxing.
Worst case, Congressional Republicans should agree to the "clean" bill to raise the debt limit, with no strings attached, that Obama originally said he wanted. Far worse than an increase in the debt limit would be a bad bargain that skews fiscal policy for years to come. When was the last time Republicans came out on top in a midnight, back room deal? For that matter, when was the first time? I'm not sure it has ever happened. Today, Senator Jeff Sessions said:
One thing every American should know: the level of spending cuts currently being discussed is only a small step. It will not change the debt course we are on. The Republican House has passed several measures, including a historic budget, which would have changed our debt course. The Democrat Senate rejected the House budget, refused to present a plan of its own, and has failed to adopt a budget for 822 days.
Ultimately, a solution is more difficult to achieve as a result of the president's current focus on his re-election, as evidenced by his recent statement that "the only bottom line I have is that we have to extend this debt ceiling through the next election, into 2013."
The president thinks it's about him. It's not. It's about America.
Now, in the 11th hour, having totally surrendered the public legislative process, Congress is at the mercy of one last round of closed-door meetings that we can only hope will produce a minimally acceptable result.
Congressional leaders, like diplomats, tend to have one terrible failing: they yearn to be deal-makers. Every successful businessman knows that no deal is better than a bad deal. Here, as in som many other areas, politicians should learn from them.


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FA Cup action returns this weekend, with a mixed bag of knockout competition bringing six fifth round fixtures and one fourth round replay.
Cup holders Chelsea must try again in a derby date with west London rivals Brentford, while Premier League heavyweights Arsenal and Manchester City will be hoping to negotiate tricky tests against Championship opposition and book their place in the last eight.
Luton Town, meanwhile, will once again be flying the non-league flag in English football's oldest and grandest cup competition.
Luton, who made history by overcoming top-flight Norwich in round four, get the weekend action up and running, with the Blue Square Premier outfit set to welcome second tier Millwall to Kenilworth Road.
Arsenal welcome in-form Blackburn Rovers to the Emirates, with the Gunners looking to take another positive step towards long-awaited silverware.
Possible upsets
MK Dons proved too strong for Queens Park Rangers in the previous round and will be eager to ensure that all of their hard work does not go to waste when they entertain Barnsley.
The final fixture on Saturday sees Oldham Athletic face Merseyside opposition for the second round in a row, with the Latics looking to send Everton the same way as their arch-rivals Liverpool.
On Sunday, the fifth round action continues with Manchester City - aware that a cup exit could leave them empty-handed this season - due to welcome Leeds United, who sent Tottenham packing in round four, to the Etihad Stadium.
Later in the day, Huddersfield Town will get the opportunity to claim themselves a Premier League scalp when they welcome Wigan Athletic to West Yorkshire.
The only fourth round fixture to be staged over the weekend sees Chelsea - who have lifted the trophy four times in the last six years - lock horns with capital foes Brentford at Stamford Bridge on Sunday lunchtime.


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When my 2 1/2 year old daughter whines/cries because she didn't get her way I simply tell her if shes going to continue to whine the she can do it in her room. Once she is calmed down she will come back out and continue on with her day. But if she is truly crying because she stubbed her toe or bonked her head, for example, then I cuddle her and kiss it to make it feel better :))
Should you scold your toddler for whining or crying?
All children express themselves through crying and sometimes whining. Should they be comforted or should you discipline them? How do you handle a crying or whining toddler?
I feel like a tantrum is stemming from very powerful, very raw emotions, like anger, frustration, confusion and fear, which kids don't yet know how to process very well. Their brains don't work like ours. The feelings could even be linked to something that happened earlier in the day, or even days before. Our preschool gives parenting classes, and they've taught us to "connect" with the child, actually put your hands on them, and make eye contact with them, and let them talk, really talk, about what's up. If they're flailing and trying to hurt you, you wait it out. It sounds exhausting, and it is at first. But, it truly works, and future tantrums are shorter and easier. Basically, parents should come to terms with the fact that whining and crying are just a part of having a toddler, not something that needs to be "dealt with". As long as you're not overly permissive, i.e. giving them whatever they want, then they will outgrow it.
"Whining is, in fact, just an advanced form of crying and, as such, is just as grating on the nerves as crying because it is designed to get the attention of a caregiver. The difference is actually in our attitudes toward whining. We accept crying as a normal part of baby and toddlerhood, but label the whining of a preschooler 'bratty' and 'spoiled' and refuse to listen to them until they 'use their normal voice'…just when they need us to listen the most!
If we, the adults, would adjust our mindsets to accept the normalcy of whining, it would lose a bit of its power to annoy and enable us to respond empathetically to our children when they're mustering all their newly-developed coping skills to avoid a meltdown." from Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond
I simply tell him, 'honey, I am sorry, I did not understand a word, could you please speak properly?'
I continue to say that until he gets the message--ususal it gets it right away, some times it takes a couple of tries. I can see that other parents who have responded here are using simlar technique. It seems to me that this works well.
this has been our biggest issue with our 2 year old son, it has been horrible....I tried ignoring his tantrums, I tried mostly everything besides hitting him....our doctor recommended reading the book "1-2-3 Magic"... we just started "counting" his tantrums and whining and it really seems to be working....I highly recommend this book to all parents..I honestly didnt think it would work but things really have improved since we got the book.... good luck everyone!! :-)
My preschool teacher recommended this book for my 3 1/2 year old daughter and it does work. Seems like such a simple system, but it has given me confidence, when nothing seemed to work. My daughter still struggles with prolonged tantrums over things that other children seem to get over quickly, like not getting her favorite color, not being first in line, someone else cleaning up her toys....basically... not getting her way. She seems to be immune to many of the other methods that parents find effective.....and borderline "too old to be still having tantrums". After 2 very frustrating year, I am having success with the method described in this book.
Who is the Author? I'm interested!
I agree that it is a form of seeking attention. From my experience with my soon to be 3 year old, I explain that he can speak properly if he is asking something of me otherwise he should find something else to do. I'm not sure if this is disciplining him exactly but it shows him that I don't entertain whining.
If he's whining/crying to get attention, get something he wants or just to push my buttons (he knows how to do that pretty well!) I tell him to stop and use his words. If he doesn't stop he eventually ends up in his room after a good lecture. So, if it's a 'real' whine/cry, give lots of love....but the fake stuff needs correction. If you don't let your children know whining/crying is not the way you get what you want they will grow up to be spoiled little brats. That's a bit harsh, I know, but that's my two cents worth!
It depends on what the situation is. If the child is crying because they are emotionally hurt and upset about something, you need to comfort them, they get the security from parents to know that everything will be okay plus they get the bonding time with parents to make them feel safe. In turn it just helps them have that self confidence to know its ok toshow their emotion, that its a natural thing.
On the other hand if the child is crying and whining because they didnt get what they want, parents need to make sure they do not encourage this behavior. Children need to understand how to express themselves in a healthy manner and the responsibility is on the parents to teach them that. I think we need to stay firm as a parent, letting them know it is not acceptable to do so and to listen, explain, and show by our own behavior how the toddler should react to different situations. I think its a thing that the child needs to fully trust and feel secure with the parent to be able to learn from them. On the parents side in any situation we need to show them that we are there for them and comfort their needs, but theres that fine line we need to show we care but we have to be the parent and make sure to stay firm with them and stay consistent with it.
It depends on why my son is crying/whining as to how I handle the situation. If he's just upset that he didn't get his way about something, I just let him have a little fit and I don't give him the attention that he is after. He is only 16 months old, so I can't quite tell him to go to his room or what not yet. On the other hand, if he is hurt or sick or even just tired and wore out and whining, then I will comfort him by holding him close for a few minutes until he calms down.
if its whinging to get his own way i tell him no and that his behaviour is unacceptable and that i will talk to him when he is finished being silly. any more than that and they will use it to get attention time after time
The trick is being able to tell the difference between "legitimate" feelings like sadness, fear, etc. and just crying because things aren't going the way they want. Context clues and whatnot, if they're not old enough to say what it is that's bothering them. I don't "scold" my daughter for crying or whining this way though - I simply tell her "crying won't get you what you want" and walk away. The first several weeks I did this, it didn't have any effect on her behavior but I didn't give in - after that she started realizing that it wasn't doing her any good and now she'll squeal protest for about ten seconds and then give up and do something else. In most cases, anyway. Sometimes she's persistent about it and I say, "If you're going to keep crying about it, you can have a time-out in the crib till you calm down." or if we're out of the house, we simply leave wherever we are and go back to the car and either sit with her till she settles down, or just go back home. It's inconvenient for me, but it's helping to stop the tantrums, which I feel is much more important than my own convenience.
I always pre-warned my 4yo (just turn 4 in June), that if he whines/cry, I will walk out of the room and when he finishes whining/crying, he can come and get me. After that I will tell him to start crying/whining now while at the same time pretending to walk out of the room. And immediately he says 'I'm not crying'. Very adamant that he is not crying. This way I make it as it's his choice/decision not to cry. They like making 'decision' at this age. And it's also a reversed psychology. Of course, the trick is if you wish to use this threat method, for the very first time, it must be follow thru or else this method will not work. Always use a calm voice.
Adding on to this, I will not punish him for whining/crying. They whine/cry because they are tired, overwhelmed or hungry. I must admit, we adults do sometimes get cranky when we are hungry lol Punishment for me is only because when they did something wrong. Of course whining/crying is not going to stop overnight but teaching them to recognise why they are whining helps them to think first before they act. Who says parenting is easy lol
Sometimes, if my 4yo has a long day at school, I would let him know that it's ok to cry if he needs to cry. I know how important to get the frustration out of his system or else the whole day would be unbearable. And again, try to remove yourself from the room until he feels better and stop crying when he's ready. Then give him a hug, a 8 seconds hug that never fails to calm him down. Finally ask him if he wants to talk about it. If he says no, nevermind. Ask again later when he's 'happy' again.
Well, not really. I understand that for a child of that age, everything is emotion and "i want it now" and so forth. The 4 yr old recently was whining and crying about wanting more lunch. Now, I said no and let me tell you why...2 breakfasts, one snack and two sandwiches and veggies all in the space of three hours. This escalated into a full blown jumping up and down fit. I just stood there, said, well fine, but when you are finished with your third sandwich, you are going to take a nap because obviously you are in a bad mood. Then he freaked out some more...I stood there...again.. let him be a screaming jumping bean for about a minute.....finally saying..are you done now?
All jumping and screaming stopped ...cold...and he said...yes.
Sometimes kids don't know why they want something only that they do. The whining and crying and screaming and tantrums etc are a way of wearing you down, pushing your buttons, and trying to get their way...even if it is something unnecessary or not good for them. Its important not to react or give in..no means no. Remove a child from the situation of you have to, or let them freak out and when you don't give in or react in the way they want you to, it stops.
My mother actually stepped right over me when I threw a fit in the grocery store once. I was on the ground whining and crying and having a good old fit. she just walked away..I got embarrassed by my own behavior, got up and followed her...I think I wanted a box of cookies and she said no.
Most of the time they just need to be comforted. When my 3 y/o son whines or cries, I take him in my arms and ride out his emotions. He would, sooner than later, calm down in a few minutes or fall asleep in my arms. This makes me glad I did not give in to spanking or scolding. He would be too tired or too sleepy, too young or too cranky to see the reason behind the scolding.
great comments everyone. i'm not a bad parent after all. i do the same thing as all of you. it's good to know i'm not destroying her spirit by sending her to her room when she's unconsolable.
I sit him down, in a spot for two minutes, and he sees that his way is not right way, and calms himself down, and attitude out the door, every time.
I condone it to an extent. If she is unhappy or truly upset I coddle her. If she is just defiant over not getting her way, I send her to her room. I will refuse to listen to it. I will definitely scold her if she gets too loud or tries to argue with me.
My daughter whines or cries when she is unhappy about something. It might be that she didn't get her own way, or she is hungry, tired or sick. If it's because she didn't get her own way then i just tell her to stop crying and I walk into another room, then she stops or runs after me and stops carrying on and wants to give me a cuddle. All other things I tend to straight away.
my daugter is soon to be six if she dont get her way she start whining like today she hade her eye on a cup of coffee she wanted but dit not tell any one that she wanted that so when she came back fron the bathroom she started crying about it so please if any one can help me and give me adive please
I don't. With whining and crying I just ask the child to use a more clear voice so I can understand what they are trying to say.
If thew whining was too bad and over something insignificant, like they just felt like it, I would whine back, and it wound up being a whining contest, and they would stop and have fun with it, Sometimes I would raise my voice and tell them to stop, there's no reason to whine. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it made it worse. If it was over something more serious, I would try to correct what was bothering them, and let them watch me try. I'm bipolar, so it wasn't always easy trying to let them watch me try to fix something when I would get frustrated. I would take them outside and let them run around to burn off their frustration and whines. If it was over something really important, I would coddle them a little, and when they calmed down, I would explain about whatever it was. Try to figure out what got them upset, and go from there on how to fix it.
I'm speaking from experience, do whatever you can to teach them that crying all the time isn't appropriate. My 8 yo son still cries over a lot, and he knows I can't stand it, but I think he just gets frustrated and doesn't know how to to express his feelings. I've given him different ways, but I guess he prefers to cry. And telling him he sounds like a baby, and he's too old for crying that much doesn't do a it of good.
Sometimes toddlers will whine and cry because they want to see what they can get away with. So if you can figure out what triggered it, you'll know how to prevent it, or if you should just tell them to stop.
It depends on the age of the child and why they're whining. If they are overstimulated, remove them from the situation, it's not their fault. If they are tired, hungry, in pain, etc, address the issue. The child is probably just frustrated, if they have an issue and can't verbalize it, that's not their fault either.
If your child is on the autism spectrum the whining is probably caused by a meltdown. Telling her to "dry it up" will make her spiral out of control and she will probably rock back and forth or try to hurt herself.
Scolding is a loose term, if you mean correct them by teaching, than yes. However, I do not think any discipline action should be taking for crying or whining (unless it turns into full blown tantrum). Crying is a form of expressing one's emotional or physical pain: Both are legitimate reasons to cry. However, if a parent responds to the emotional pain of "not getting what they want", as appose to what the child needs, then this is negative reinforcement. Teaching them that this method works as a means of getting what I want, and so the behavior continues. Ignoring the behavior works only if the child has been educated in advance that is going to be the consequence of the inappropriate behavior, otherwise...they will think they still might have an opportunity to gain control of the situation and continue whining or crying. Other methods I used with my boys (I had one crier, and one whiner) were stating:
"I can not understand you when you are crying or whining. Please use your words in a "big boy" voice. If he did, I gave positive reinforcement by saying, Thank you, and address his needs appropriately. If he did not, he was ignored until doing so.
If the crying or whining was to get something he wanted, but COULD NOT have. I would first acknowledge his feelings: I know you are upset, (sad, angry, hurt...whatever) but my answer is still no. If you think this behavior is going to help me change my mind, you are sadly mistaken. In fact, if it continues you won't get "such and such" until ____.
We all know how long some of these toddlers fits can last... If it continued after the ultimatum (which it rarely did) I then asked them to "finish in there room because they are distracting the rest of the family". By this point, they usually just fall asleep due to sheer exhaustion.
The key is to remain calm, and consistent with whatever method of teaching you choose.
My 2 y/o and 4 y/o have a big problem with not getting their way. They both will throw a fit over practically nothing. But as most of you have said the easiest way to get them to calm themselves down is a short timeout. I keep mine at about a minute, and repeat over and over in a neutral voice "when you calm down you can come out". It never takes long for them to calm down and once they are calm we will sit down and snuggle and talk about why they got a timeout. The tantrums get fewer every week, and we are actually having days now where there are no tantrums at all!
obviously wining at different ages is different as they get older wining over what they want changes aa my two yr old wines alot of the time esp wen ive gone to have a bath n dress or need to do summit round house i tend to just tell him to stop the noise or go out the room toll he has if i was to jump out bath everu 2secs not only would it drive me nuts itd delay my proper time to take him out or sit n have a snuggle infront tv or play, what hes realy waiting for, if my four yr old winged id b stricter, i wiuldnt expect it to b ok in my house at that age regularly
if my son whines or cries,I'm trying to explain why I never allow him to do a certain things, or sometimes I'm using a reward system.
I usually try to figure out why my soon to be 3 year old is whining or crying most of the time it is his meal time and in that case I feed him and he goes right back to being himself. If he is throwing a tantrum then I put him in time out and when he calms down he tells me what he really wanted and if I feel that it is ok to give it to him I do if not he does not get it.
I think it is important to consider where the whining is coming from. Some of the other moms mention that whining comes from emotions toddlers can't process and that is true but it is up to us to determine what is under it. If you determine that the underlying cause is that you kid is tired, overstimulated or hungry then you can easily solve the problem and worry less about the whining. Basically, can treat the real problem instead of the symptoms. :-)
However, if you child is like mine, some will whine just to get attention or to express mild displeasure. I personally feel this is unacceptable. Generally I will gently tell my daughter that her behavior is not acceptable and suggest other ways she can communicate the same thing (or sometimes ask her for suggestions if she isn't too far gone). If that doesn't work I just let her know that until she can speak to me properly she will not be able to get what she wants.
I've said this in other answers and I'll say it again...You must stick by your word. My child is very willful so I know how incredibly hard this is but it will pay off. However, as with all things, if you notice her spiraling completely out of control it might just be time for a really big hug, and I love you, and some nice deep breaths before going back to sticking to your guns. Sometimes they just need a little love. :-)
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My son is 26 months old, he doesn't so much cry, he squeals and I can tolerate it but not many others can, I've found the best way to deal with it is to distract him, if were on a bus ill point out trees and birds and cars etc, after a while he calms down and gets excited about what he see's! I try and stay calm, if I shout so does he, once he's calmed down I tell him that there's no need to squeal like that & he's finee :)
I feel like this is a dumb question you know your child and you should react accordingly. If my 3 year old is throwing a fit over not putting on his avenger shoes (because they were in the washer). Then I Try and explain that he needs to calm down and if he continues with this behavior he is going to sit in time out until he calms down. Second time around goes a lot smoother because of the time out. I try not to to get too angry when it's one of those awesome (I say with sarcasm) days. Emmett (my 3 year old) is very opinionated and will let you know if he doesn't want something. I don't think you should strait up just yell at a child but honestly time out is working wonders with our spirited little man.
Oh and obviously if he is crying because he hurt himself I make sure he is okay and kiss his boo boos but I would never scold him for crying if he or someone else hurt him.
First of all, there is no such thing as a dumb question...Second, your kids "tantrum about his avenger shoes" is due to disappointment, and sadness...it's not behavior that deserves the threat of a time out! Second time around goes smoother because you taught him he can not express his emotions of disappointment or sadness because it makes mommy upset and he ends up in the time out chair. My point is, Maybe you should know your own kid before you judge others for questioning techniques on how to handle there own. Of course the "Physical pain is obvious to you...it's the emotional pain that is not so obvious. Well, now it is. Your welcome :)
I guess it depends on the reason. First I try to determine the reason for the crying and try to help my child with whatever is wrong. If the crying or whining is because they didn't get their way then I ignore it and if it goes on too long they get sent to their room until they can calm down.
Megan (5 years old) started this crying and whining mess. But she does it because she wants something she can't have which is usually candy! The kid will follow me and say "why" over and over again. I just keep walking away and doing things. If it's goes 10 minutes, she gets to go to her room.
I have an 11 year old daughter too. She would be sent to her room and throw things at the door. What to do? I'm so exhausted between the two of them.
Good ol' fashion spanking...not hard and with the intentions to hurt them...but to scare them. Guarantee they'll get the picture and quick enough so you don't feel guilty about being THAT parent who spanks. lol That is what is wrong with the teenagers now a days..they were never spanked! lol
If my kids are just whining to try to get there way , I tell them that is no reason to cry like that you only cry when you are hurt or something serious . If that doesn't work i tell them if they are gonna cry like that over nothing they have to do it in there room . When they are through they can come out . If they are hurt i love on them and comfort them .
If the child cannot talk then i wouldn't scold them, but if you are able to talk then you need to use your words.. its really a case by case thing . Besides Crying and Whinning are 2 different things
I'm in limbo about that because I feel like that it depends...I feel like if it is after a lengthy amount of time then it should be considerate if there is nothing that you can see that is wrong and you are offering that child attention than you the child could be doing it deliberately.In that case I may have to take a sterner form of discipline. Sometimes enough is enough!!But normally, time will usually calm a child down.
I only get on to my child if she is whinning to get her way. I explaining dont get it and she can ask me like a big girl. if she is hurt and crying of course I comfort her. If she is crying from a fit I tell her to dry it up and when she is done she can ask nicely or talk to me about it.
It depends on what they are crying/whining about!
If it's just general whining, ie they want something, then i tell him off and say tell
me what you want
I don't discipline tho. Unless it's getting hysterical then i'll take him to his room until
he's calmed down.
Telling a toddler to "dry it up" doesn't work if he/she is really stubborn and persistent or if he/she is autistic and in the middle of a meltdown, that will only escalate it.
I agree with most of these post, if its real crying for a hurt ect you cuddle and mother them, but if its because she wants her own way after she has been told no, I explain I dont like whining and if she wants to continue she can do it in her room (she is 3 and half) most times she will stomp to her room (with me trying not to laugh) for about a minute then she comes out all smiles and has forgotten what she wanted in the first place.If she does it while out I ask what do you need if she is just tired I tell her we will be home soon and that usually helps if it again is she wants her own way again I tell her stop or you will go to your room when we get home and then I just ignore it most times she gets bored and stops after a minute or two yes it can be very embarrings when in public but I just remeber ever parent goes through it at some point,so most know what you are going through.
if my 6 yrs old son cries for little things, i start saying that i have won. i challenged him that he will definetly cry now. but he says no'. so this way he stops crying and won.
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SANAA/DUBAI (Reuters) - An intense two days of air strikes on al Qaeda in Yemen may have killed or wounded some of its commanders, but drones alone are unlikely to eradicate the threat the group poses to Yemenis and the West.
A weak central government, a rivalry-ridden and poorly equipped security force, endemic poverty and corruption have made Yemen the ideal haven of al Qaeda in the Arabian Peninsula (AQAP), whom U.S. President Barack Obama has described as the group "most active in plotting against our homeland."
Desperate to prevent AQAP from planning more attacks like its attempt to blow up a U.S. airliner in December 2009, Washington has used drones to kill group members and leaders.
A U.S. national security source said on Monday that the U.S. government believed that AQAP is currently plotting attacks against American targets, including the U.S. embassy on Sanaa.
But analysts say drone strikes do only limited harm to AQAP.
They say the group will remain a serious menace unless the government can address challenges such as poverty and inadequate security forces, and curb the occasional civilian casualties inflicted by drone attacks that inflame anti-U.S. sentiment.
"The U.S. can't simply kill its way out of the terrorism threat," said Letta Tayler, Human Rights Watch's senior researcher on terrorism and counter-terrorism.
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The drones' main success has been to severely limit AQAP's movements and ability to hold territory as it did back in 2011.
"When they move from A to B, they have to think 100 times. They've lost their freedom," said Mustafa Alani, a security analyst with close ties to the Saudi Interior Ministry.
"It (drones) is very effective, but this is not going to deal with the problem. These people are replaceable. You can kill 10 of them and there's 10 more in the pipeline. (So) it's a success that won't end the war against AQAP," he said.
On Saturday and Sunday, several air strikes - presumed to be
carried out chiefly by U.S. drones - were launched on central and southern provinces of Yemen.
Yemen's interior ministry said 55 militants were killed on Sunday alone, which would make it the biggest strike against al Qaeda militants since at least 2012.
It said three of those killed were leading members of al Qaeda. Yemen said 10 al Qaeda militants were killed in Saturday's attack.
A senior security source said investigations were being carried out into the identities of those killed, but confirmed that "leaders in the organisation" had died.
Rumours have been swirling that those killed include AQAP leader Nasir al-Wuhayshi and Saudi bombmaker Ibrahim al-Asiri, especially after several eyewitness reports emerged that at least one helicopter had landed after a late Sunday night strike in the restive southern Shabwa province.
Tribal sources told Reuters on Sunday that five suspected militants were killed in that attack.
"Minutes after the car (with militants) was hit, we saw helicopters hovering overhead and military cars spreading. Soldiers were seen disembarking from one of the helicopters," said Obeid Awad.
"After they left, we found the struck car but we could not find any body parts," he told Reuters.
Local and tribal sources over the weekend said unmanned drones had been circling for days prior to the attacks. Yemen is among a handful of countries where Washington acknowledges using drones, though it does not comment publicly on the practice.
Faris al-Saqqaf, an advisor to the Yemeni president, told Reuters that Yemeni fighter MiG-29s joined in the operation in Shabwa.
"Drone strikes are never the solution. It is a tactical band-aid but it can be quite an important one if you don't want to see planes dropping from the sky in the West," said Magnus Ranstorp, a terrorism expert at the Swedish National Defence College.
Yemeni President Abd Rabbu Mansour Hadi praised the anti-terrorism unit in Yemen's special forces for their strike in Shabwa, which he said targeted "dangerous leading elements of al Qaeda" and described the operation as one "that represents a strong message to the elements of evil and terrorism."
But the use of drone strikes has inevitably meant that civilian casualties are sometimes inflicted.
The government acknowledged that three civilians were killed in the air strike on Saturday in the central al-Bayda province. That same province was the site of a controversial strike in December in which security officials said 15 people on their way to a wedding were killed.
Yemeni political scientist Abdulghani al-Iryani points to the sharp increase in the number of al Qaeda elements from when the drone campaign started in 2003, when they were a few hundred to the several thousand they are believed to be today.
"There are many reasons for the increase of membership of al Qaeda, but we cannot rule out that the use of drones and the popular backlash it produced has increased the recruitment opportunities of al Qaeda," Iryani told Reuters.
"The fact that both the Yemeni and the U.S. governments have relied too heavily on the use of drones as an expedient way to postpone the resolution of the problem rather than having a proper, comprehensive approach to the problem, has contributed to the expansion of al Qaeda in Yemen," he said.
Yemen said the attacks were carried out after intelligence that the militants were planning attacks on "vital civil and military and installations."
Underscoring the threat militants still poses against security forces in the country, police sources said on Monday the head of Sanaa's police survived an assassination attempt, while one of his aides was killed by armed men. This came hours after an intelligence officer was killed and an aide to the manager of Sanaa's airport.
The appearance of an online video a month ago in which Wuhayshi appears brazenly with hundreds of other fighters, vowing to attack the United States while celebrating the escape of al Qaeda prisoners from Sanaa's central prison, may have helped provide some clues.
Saqqaf, the president's adviser, described the video as "provocative" and said it showed the location in which al Qaeda elements were present.
But the army's weaknesses in providing security in swathes of the country helps gives AQAP more freedom, making drones "an easy option to attack specific targets in a timely manner", said Charles Lister, a visiting fellow at the Brookings Doha Centre.
"But the lack of on-the-ground military presence means a lack of localised intelligence, which by extension means strikes have inevitably struck civilian targets on occasion. In a deeply tribal and conservative society, such incidents are a recipe for disaster," he said.
"While a drone strike might represent one step forward, more often than not, it also means two steps back."
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There is something amazing about age six. Granted, I have loved every age Violet has reached (except 4. 4 sucks.), but this is a whole new level of amazing.
Until this point, it was like she was in training; she was soaking up the world around her, learning how it worked. There has been this switch where she no longer observes the world, but is an active participant.
She has these astounding thoughts that I end up sharing with professors, things I have to stop to think about. In her world, things are black and white, yet colored with compassion and creativity.
Though I study religions, I have none of my own. However, I was raised in a very conservative, very fundamental Christian household. The Christian ascetic life is what I knew…I know. It was torturous for me to embark on a intellectual journey that would lead me away from that. So I don't want to push my personal views on God, religion, the afterlife onto my children; I want them to come to their own conclusions after learning facts and histories.
So when the subject of God came up recently, I was at a loss. She knows what my parents believe, but she wanted to know my thoughts. Instead, I deflected it back to her.
"Who do you think God is?"
The thing about my girl is that she is not going to give you a stock answer. She is going to think, consider, frame her response. Simply infuriating when trying to decide what to wear in the morning, but phenomenal to watch in a religious discussion.
"I think," she said, "that God is something that takes care of people. Like baby Hiram is our godbaby. So, really, everyone is God."
Good lord. I had to digest the enormity of that statement, then discuss it with a woman who holds a master's in Religious Studies…she was as blown away as I was.
Now, I am not stating anything about God. Your beliefs are sacred, and should be respected.
But what really floors me about this statement is the concept of care, of spreading compassion and love to your fellow man. EVERYONE should take care of someone, and so reasonably, EVERYONE is someone who should be cared about. Each person is worthy of love.
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"I love and support Cory and will stand by him through this," Michele said in a statement. "I am grateful and proud he made this decision."
Monteith's rep revealed today that the Glee actor "voluntarily" checked into a treatment facility for addiction.
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Michele's statement echoes a tweet she posted earlier today. "Feeling so grateful today," she posted.
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Sierra Leone men and Rwanda women top podium of African qualifiers for Youth Olympic Games
Sierra Leone defeated hosts Ghana 2-1 (16-21, 21-16, 15-11) to pick up the gold in the men's final, while Burundi pulled off a 2-0 (21-18, 21-14) victory over Congo to close its tournament campaign in third place.
The Sierra Leone pair now heads the qualified men's teams from Africa to the Youth Olympic Games. Ghana, Burundi, Congo, Nigeria, and Rwanda, likewise secured spots for the second edition of the Youth Olympic Games.
In the women's side, Rwanda proved their consistency throughout the competition by beating Namibia 2-1 (17-21, 21-19, 19-17) in the final match. Sierra Leone took the bronze by beating Ghana 2-1 (11-21, 21-15, 15-10).
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MACON, Ga. – With two runners posting times in the school's all-time top-10, the Georgia College men's cross country team took fourth among 15 teams at the Mercer RunFit Invitational Saturday. The Bobcats were tops among the four Division II teams.
Senior Tyler Mattix (Snellville, Ga.) took 12th place, covering the 8K course in 26:38, leading the team for the second time in three races this season. Mattix's time ranks fifth in Georgia College history.
Classmate Dan Horseman (Cohutta, Ga.) was three spots and just 10 seconds behind Mattix in 15th. Horseman's 26:48 is eighth in GC's recordbooks.
Another senior, Colin Conroy (Dacula, Ga.) was third on the squad, crossing the line 20th in 27:13. Sophomore Philip Laskey (Marietta, Ga.) broke up the senior finishes by taking 31st in 27:54, while senior Rob Manning (Lawrenceville, Ga.) finished off the scoring five for GC, taking 34th in 28:01.
The Bobcats were fourth with 105 points, just three behind Darton College in third. The Savannah College of Art and Design was second with 38, as host Mercer University took first with just 35. Among the Division II teams GC beat in the race was Peach Belt Conference (PBC) foe Armstrong in 13th. SCAD's Ignaci Fernandez won individual honors with a time of 25:29.
The Bobcats are back in action Saturday, Sept. 24 in Boston at the Cod Fish Bowl race.
The Georgia College Department of Athletics, two-time winners of the PBC Commissioner's Cup, sponsors 10 varsity athletic programs at the NCAA Division II level. As a Division II program, Bobcat Athletics prides itself on balancing the life of the student-athlete, evidenced by the teams' multiple appearances in post-season competition as well as documented academic success and community-service involvement. Sign up at www.twitter.com/BobcatSports and www.facebook.com/gcbobcats for up-to-the-minute reports, and visitwww.GCBobcats.com for more information, and to nominate your favorite former Bobcats and Colonials to the GC Athletics Hall of Fame.


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Americans in urban and suburban areas take wireless service for granted. This is not so much so for those living in the rural and remote areas of the Washington where service is not always available. There are vast areas without 3G wireless coverage, much less the new 4G LTE technology. And because of the mountainous terrain and greater distances, people in some rural areas also lack reliable, high-speed wired Internet access.
There is some good news. The federal government has just allocated $300 million to bring 3G coverage to unserved areas across the United States. The Federal Communications Commission provided the money from the Connect America fund through an auction in September.
But this funding is a mere drop in the bucket compared to the billions of dollars needed to really make an impact in delivering high-speed Internet access to those people who still need it. You can see for yourself. This map toggles between the areas in the nation with no 3G service today and the areas that will get the service by 2015 as part of the funding awarded. Check out Washington. $300 million spread out over the nation barely registers here.
If you've wondered why we're so vocal about the importance of private sector investment in our nation's wireless infrastructure, you need look no further. Even massive amounts of taxpayer dollars aren't nearly enough to deliver the high-speed connections consumers want and need.
Wireless broadband service has the potential to have a significant impact on people's lives in rural areas where it's often prohibitively expensive to deploy wire lines across hundreds of empty miles to connect scattered homes, businesses, and ranches. Wireless service is a much more plausible option. Next-generation networks built on Internet Protocol (IP) platforms can carry voice data over the Internet and can transmit enormous amounts of data at lightning fast speeds. An Internet rooted in super-fast IP technology can revolutionize health care, education and transportation—all critical services that rural areas struggle to get the best of.
Beyond life-changing services made possible by fast Internet connections, research shows substantial job growth results as states transition from one generation of wireless network to the next (like 2G to 3G). An economic analysis released this year showed that"the investments and innovation entailed in the transition from 2G to 3G wireless technologies and Internet infrastructure spurred the creation of some 1,585,000 new jobs from April 2007 to June 2011." During this same time period, the overall private sector trimmed 5.3 million jobs. The study went on to suggest that a rapid transition from 3G to 4G mobile broadband networks would create even more jobs in a shorter time frame.
Given how much is left to do to expand access to high-speed wireless connections, even after the FCC Mobility Fund announcement, the government can supplement its actions by ensuring public policy and regulations encourage private sector investment in the build out of robust communications infrastructure.
Consumers spread out all over America need the networks that the private sector is poised to build. The government can do its part by supplying regulatory certainty to potential investors so that companies know their investment in state-of-the-art IP-network connections are a safe bet.
Tom Gurr is Executive Director of Pacific Technology Alliance , an Issaquah-based, grassroots organization working to increase access to technology.


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When I was in fourth grade, my class took a field trip to the American Tobacco plant in nearby Durham, North Carolina. There we witnessed the making of cigarettes and were given free packs to take home to our parents. I tell people this and they ask me how old I am, thinking, I guess, that I went to the world's first elementary school, one where we wrote on cave walls and hunted our lunch with clubs. Then I mention the smoking lounge at my high school. It was outdoors, but, still, you'd never find anything like that now, not even if the school was in a prison.
I recall seeing ashtrays in movie theatres and grocery stores, but they didn't make me want to smoke. In fact, it was just the opposite. Once, I drove an embroidery needle into my mother's carton of Winstons, over and over, as if it were a voodoo doll. She then beat me for twenty seconds, at which point she ran out of breath and stood there panting, "That's . . . not . . . funny."
A few years later, we were sitting around the breakfast table and she invited me to take a puff. I did. Then I ran to the kitchen and drained a carton of orange juice, drinking so furiously that half of it ran down my chin and onto my shirt. How could she, or anyone, really, make a habit of something so fundamentally unpleasant? When my sister Lisa started smoking, I forbade her to enter my bedroom with a lit cigarette. She could talk to me, but only from the other side of the threshold, and she had to avert her head when she exhaled. I did the same when my sister Gretchen started.
It wasn't the smoke but the smell of it that bothered me. In later years, I didn't care so much, but at the time I found it depressing: the scent of neglect. It wasn't so noticeable in the rest of the house, but then again the rest of the house was neglected. My room was clean and orderly, and if I'd had my way it would have smelled like an album jacket the moment you remove the plastic. That is to say, it would have smelled like anticipation.
When I started smoking myself, I realized that a lit cigarette acted as a kind of beacon, drawing in any freeloader who happened to see or smell it. It was like standing on a street corner and jiggling a palmful of quarters. "Spare change?" someone might ask. And what could you say?
The first time I was hit on, I was twenty years old and had been smoking for all of two days. This was in Vancouver, British Columbia. My best friend, Ronnie, and I had spent the previous month picking apples in Oregon, and this trip to Canada was our way of rewarding ourselves. We stayed that week in a cheap residence hotel, and I remember being enchanted by the Murphy bed, which was something I had heard about but never seen in person. During the time we were there, my greatest pleasure came in folding it away and then looking at the empty spot where it had been. Pull it out, fold it away, pull it out, fold it away. Over and over until my arm got tired.
It was in a little store a block from our hotel that I bought my first pack of cigarettes. The ones I'd smoked earlier had been Ronnie's—Pall Malls, I think—and though they tasted no better or worse than I thought they would, I felt that in the name of individuality I should find my own brand, something separate. Something me. Carltons, Kents, Alpines: it was like choosing a religion, for weren't Vantage people fundamentally different from those who'd taken to Larks or Newports? What I didn't realize was that you could convert, that you were allowed to. The Kent person could, with very little effort, become a Vantage person, though it was harder to go from menthol to regular, or from regular-sized to ultra-long. All rules had their exceptions, but the way I came to see things they generally went like this: Kools and Newports were for black people and lower-class whites. Camels were for procrastinators, those who wrote bad poetry, and those who put off writing bad poetry. Merits were for sex addicts, Salems for alcoholics, and Mores for people who considered themselves to be outrageous but really weren't. One should never lend money to a Marlboro-menthol smoker, though you could usually count on a regular-Marlboro person to pay you back. The eventual subclasses of milds, lights, and ultra-lights not only threw a wrench in the works but made it nearly impossible for anyone to keep your brand straight. All that, however, came later, along with warning labels and American Spirits.
The cigarettes I bought that day in Vancouver were Viceroys. I'd often noticed them in the shirt pockets of gas-station attendants and, no doubt, thought that they'd make me appear masculine, or at least as masculine as one could look in a beret and a pair of gabardine pants that buttoned at the ankle. Throw in Ronnie's white silk scarf and I needed all the Viceroy I could get, especially in the neighborhood where this residence hotel was.
It was odd. I'd always heard how clean Canada was, how peaceful, but perhaps people had been talking about a different part, the middle, maybe, or those rocky islands off the eastern coast. Here it was just one creepy drunk after another. The ones who were passed out I didn't mind so much, but those on their way to passing out—those who could still totter and flail their arms—made me fear for my life.
Take this guy who approached me after I left the store, this guy with a long black braid. It wasn't the gentle, ropy kind you'd have if you played the flute but something more akin to a bullwhip: a prison braid, I told myself. A month earlier, I might have simply cowered, but now I put a cigarette in my mouth—the way you might if you were about to be executed. This man was going to rob me, then lash me with his braid and set me on fire—but no. "Give me one of those," he said, and he pointed to the pack I was holding. I handed him a Viceroy, and when he thanked me I smiled and thanked him back.
It was, I later thought, as if I'd been carrying a bouquet and he'd asked me for a single daisy. He loved flowers, I loved flowers, and wasn't it beautiful that our mutual appreciation could transcend our various differences, and somehow bring us together? I must have thought, too, that had the situation been reversed he would have been happy to give me a cigarette, though my theory was never tested. I may have been a Boy Scout for only two years, but the motto stuck with me forever: "Be Prepared." This does not mean "Be Prepared to Ask People for Shit"; it means "Think Ahead and Plan Accordingly, Especially in Regard to Your Vices."
Given my reputation as a strident non-smoker, it was funny how quickly I took to cigarettes. It was as if my life were a play, and the prop mistress had finally showed up. Suddenly there were packs to unwrap, matches to strike, ashtrays to fill and then empty. My hands were at one with their labor, the way a cook's might be, or a knitter's.
"Well, that's a hell of a reason to poison yourself," my father said.
My mother, however, looked at the bright side. "Now I'll know what to put in your Christmas stocking!" She put them in my Easter basket as well, entire cartons. Today, it might seem trashy to see a young man accepting a light from his mom, but a cigarette wasn't always a statement. Back when I started, you could still smoke at work, even if you worked in a hospital where kids with no legs were hooked up to machines. If a character smoked on a TV show, it did not necessarily mean that he was weak or evil. It was like seeing someone who wore a striped tie or parted his hair on the left—a detail, but not a telling one.
I didn't much notice my fellow-smokers until the mid-eighties, when we began to be cordoned off. Now there were separate sections in waiting rooms and restaurants, and I'd often look around and evaluate what I'd come to think of as "my team." At first, they seemed normal enough—regular people, but with cigarettes in their hands. Then the campaign began in earnest, and it seemed that if there were ten adults on my side of the room at least one of them was smoking through a hole in his throat.
"Still think it's so cool?" the other side said. But coolness, for most of us, had nothing to do with it. It's popular to believe that every smoker was brainwashed, sucked in by product placement and subliminal print ads. This argument comes in handy when you want to assign blame, but it discounts the fact that smoking is often wonderful. For people like me, people who twitched and jerked and cried out in tiny voices, cigarettes were a godsend. Not only that; they tasted good, especially the first one in the morning and the seven or eight that came immediately after it. By late afternoon, after a pack or so, I'd generally feel a heaviness in my lungs, especially in the nineteen-eighties, when I worked with hazardous chemicals. I should have worn a respirator, but it interfered with my smoking.
I once admitted this to a forensic pathologist. We were in the autopsy suite of a medical examiner's office, and he responded by handing me a lung. It had belonged to an obese, light-skinned black man, an obvious heavy smoker, who was lying on a table not three feet away. His sternum had been sawed through, and the way his chest cavity was opened, the unearthed fat like so much sour cream, made me think of a baked potato. "So," the pathologist sniffed. "What do you say to this?"
He'd obviously hoped to create a moment, the kind that leads you to change your life, but it didn't quite work. If you are a doctor and someone hands you a diseased lung, you might very well examine it, and consequently make some very radical changes. If, on the other hand, you are not a doctor, you're liable to do what I did, which was to stand there thinking, Damn, this lung is heavy.
When New York banned smoking in the workplace, I quit working. When it was banned in restaurants, I stopped eating out and when the price of cigarettes hit seven dollars a pack I gathered all my stuff together and went to France. It was hard to find my brand there, but no matter. At least twice a year, I returned to the States. Duty-free cartons were only twenty dollars each, and I'd buy fifteen of them before boarding the plane back to Paris. Added to these were the cigarettes brought by visiting friends, who acted as mules, and the ones I continued to receive for Christmas and Easter, even after my mom died. Ever prepared for the possibility of fire or theft, at my peak I had thirty-four cartons stockpiled in three different locations. "My inventory," I called it, as in "The only thing standing between me and a complete nervous breakdown is my inventory."
It is here that I'll identify myself as a Kool Mild smoker. This, to some, is like reading the confessions of a wine enthusiast and discovering midway through that his drink of choice is Lancers, but so be it. It was my sister Gretchen who introduced me to menthol cigarettes. She'd worked in a cafeteria throughout high school, and had come to Kools by way of a line cook named Dewberry. I never met the guy, but, in those first few years, whenever I found myself short of breath, I'd think of him and wonder what my life would be like had he smoked Tareytons. People were saying that Kools had fibreglass in them, but surely that was just a rumor, started, most likely, by the Salem or Newport people. I'd heard, too, that menthols were worse for you than regular cigarettes, but that also seemed suspect. Just after my mom started chemotherapy, she sent me three cartons of Kool Milds. "They were on sale," she croaked. Dying or not, she should have known that I smoked full-strength Filter Kings, but then I looked at them and thought, Well, they are free.
A light cigarette is like a regular one with a pinhole in it. With Kools, it's the difference between being kicked by a donkey and being kicked by a donkey that has socks on. It took some getting used to, but by the time my mother was cremated I'd switched over.
"After everything that's happened, how can you put that thing in your mouth?" my father asked. He started smoking when he was eighteen, but quit when my sister Lisa and I were young. "It's a filthy, stinking habit." He said this fifty times a day, not that it did any good. Even before the warnings were printed, anyone could see that smoking was bad for you. My mother's sister, Joyce, was married to a surgeon, and every time I stayed at their house I was awakened at dawn by my uncle's hacking, which was mucky and painful-sounding, and suggested imminent death. Later, at the breakfast table, I'd see him with a cigarette in his hand and think, Well, he's the doctor.
Uncle Dick died of lung cancer, and a few years later my mother developed a nearly identical cough. You'd think that, being a woman, hers would be softer, a delicate lady's hack. I remember lying in bed and thinking, with shame, My mom coughs like a man.
By the time my embarrassment ripened to concern, I knew there was no point in lecturing her. I had become a smoker myself, so what could I say, really? Eventually, she dropped her Winstons in favor of something light and then ultra-light. "It's like sucking on a straw," she'd complain. "Give me one of yours, why don't you?"
My mother visited twice when I lived in Chicago. The first time was when I graduated from college and the second was a few years later. She had just turned sixty, and I remember having to slow down when walking with her. Climbing to the elevated train meant stopping every fifth step or so, while she wheezed and sputtered and pounded her chest with her fist. Come on, I remember thinking. Hurry it up.
Toward the end of her life, she managed two weeks without a cigarette. "That's half a month, practically," she said to me on the phone. "Can you believe it?"
I was living in New York then, and tried to imagine her going about her business: driving to the bank, putting in a load of laundry, watching the portable TV in the kitchen, nothing in her mouth besides her tongue and her teeth. At that time, my mother had a part-time job at a consignment shop. Easy Elegance, the place was called, and she was quick to remind me that they didn't take just anything: "It has to be classy."
The owner didn't allow smoking, so once every hour my mother would step out the back door. I think it was there, standing on gravel in the hot parking lot, that she came to think of smoking as unsophisticated. I'd never heard her talk about quitting, but when she called after two weeks without a cigarette I could hear a tone of accomplishment in her voice. "It's hardest in the mornings," she said. "And then, of course, later on, when you're having your drink."
I don't know what got her started again: stress, force of habit, or perhaps she decided that, at sixty-one, she was too old to quit. I'd probably have agreed with her, though now, sixty-one, that's nothing.
There were other attempts to stop smoking, but none of them lasted more than a few days. Lisa would tell me that Mom hadn't had a cigarette in eighteen hours. Then, when my mother called, I'd hear the click of her lighter, followed by a ragged intake of breath: "What's new, pussycat?"
My last cigarette was smoked in a bar at Charles de Gaulle airport. It was January 3, 2007, a Wednesday morning, and though Hugh and I would be changing planes in London and had a layover of close to two hours, I thought it best to quit while I was still ahead.
"All right," I said to him, "this is it, my final one." Six minutes later, I pulled out my pack and said the same thing. Then I did it one more time. "This is it. I mean it." All around me, people were enjoying cigarettes: the ruddy Irish couple, the Spaniards with their glasses of beer. There were the Russians, the Italians, even some Chinese. Together we formed a foul little congress: the United Tarnations, the Fellowship of the Smoke Ring. These were my people, and now I would be betraying them, turning my back just when they needed me most. Though I wish it were otherwise, I'm actually a very intolerant person. When I see a drunk or a drug addict begging for money, I don't think, There but for the grace of God go I, but, rather, I quit, and so can you. Now get that cup of nickels out of my face.
It's one thing to give up smoking, and another to become a former smoker. That's what I would be the moment I left the bar, and so I lingered awhile, looking at my garish disposable lighter and the crudded-up aluminum ashtray. When I eventually got up to leave, Hugh pointed out that I had five cigarettes left in my pack.
"Are you just going to leave them there on the table?"
I answered with a line I'd got years ago from a German woman. Her name was Tini Haffmans, and though she often apologized for the state of her English, I wouldn't have wanted it to be any better. When it came to verb conjugation, she was beyond reproach, but every so often she'd get a word wrong. The effect was not a loss of meaning but a heightening of it. I once asked if her neighbor smoked, and she thought for a moment before saying, "Karl has . . . finished with his smoking."
She meant, of course, that he had quit, but I much preferred her mistaken version. "Finished" made it sound as if he'd been allotted a certain number of cigarettes, three hundred thousand, say, delivered at the time of his birth. If he'd started a year later or smoked more slowly, he might still be at it, but, as it stood, he had worked his way to the last one, and then moved on with his life. This, I thought, was how I would look at it. Yes, there were five more Kool Milds in that particular pack, and twenty-six cartons stashed away at home, but those were extra—an accounting error. In terms of my smoking, I had just finished with it. ♦


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- Illustrations by Mr Joe McKendry | Animation by Mr Daniel Sousa
- Voice-over by Mr Michael Griffiths | Music and sound by Mr Dan Golden
- Script by Mr Jeremy Langmead, Editor-in-Chief, MR PORTER
Underpants. You might think they don't matter because no one sees them, but you'd be wrong. What happens if you get knocked over by a bus and the medics remove your trousers? What happens if you spill a hot drink all over your legs and have to remove your scalding chinos in the middle of the office? What happens if you get lucky on a night you weren't expecting any action? And don't imagine other guys in the gym, gay or straight, aren't going to notice either. With a little help from the purveyors of very public-worthy undergarments, Derek Rose, here are some considerations worth addressing.
Based in London, the family firm Derek Rose has specialised in men's nightwear and loungewear since 1926. And now the company is launching its new underwear range on MR PORTER. "This new collection has taken two years of focused design and development work. The products are superb and they exemplify our core belief of consumer-centric design," explains managing director Mr Sacha Rose, grandson of the company's founder.
Indeed, the comfort, quality and style that the firm is famous for is evident throughout the new jersey underwear range, which includes boxer shorts, briefs, hipsters and T-shirts available in either 100% double-mercerised cotton or in a deluxe Pima cotton fine-gauge stretch. With Derek Rose's legendary attention to detail extending to innovative magnetic closures, ultra-fine threads and super-fine stitching (to avoid skin irritation) and jersey-covered waistbands, it's been a long time since we've been this excited about our smalls.


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