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The March update is very late - it's been a tad busy hereabouts.
When Dimitri Telegonus is promoted to the Serious Unsolved Crime Unit to investigate the disappearance of a beautiful blonde escort, he thinks he's finally made the big time. He'd always wanted to do detective work; thought it was his destiny. But things quickly start to unravel. His assigned partner is an uninterested dinosaur and when progress in the investigation is slow, the bosses threaten to pull the plug. Desperate to crack his first cold case, Dimitri tracks the prime suspect down – only to find there are forces at play a naïve young detective will never fully understand.
Blockbuster! Fergus Hume and the Mystery of a Hansom Cab, Lucy Sussex
Before there was Arthur Conan Doyle's Sherlock Holmes, there was Fergus Hume's The Mystery of a Hansom Cab—the biggest- and fastest-selling detective novel of the 1800s, and Australia's first literary blockbuster. Fergus Hume was an aspiring playwright when he moved from Dunedin to Melbourne in 1885. He wrote The Mystery of a Hansom Cab with the humble hope of bringing his name to the attention of theatre managers. The book sold out its first run almost instantly and it became a runaway word-of-mouth phenomenon—but its author sold the copyright for a mere fifty pounds, missing out on a potential fortune. Blockbuster! is the engrossing story of a book that would help define the genre of crime fiction, and a portrait of a great city in full bloom. Rigorously researched and full of arresting detail, this captivating book is a must-read for all fans of true crime, history and crime fiction alike. To be reviewed at http://www.newtownreviewofbooks.com.au
An astute novel about Australian racism — and about humanity prevailing over entrenched prejudice. Jack Van Duyn is stuck in his comfort zone. A pot-bellied, round-shouldered cabbie in his mid-fifties, Jack lives alone, has few friends, and gets very little out of life. He has a negative opinion of most other people — especially refugees, bankers, politicians, and welfare bludgers. Jack doesn't know it, but his life is about to be turned upside down. A minor altercation in a kids' playground at an inner-city high-rise estate catapults Jack into a whirlpool of drug-dealing, ASIO intrigue, international piracy, and criminal violence. And he can't escape, because he doesn't want to: he's fallen in love with the beautiful Somali single mum who's at the centre of it all. The ensuing turmoil propels Jack out of his comfort zone, forcing him to confront some unpleasant truths about himself. After decades in the doldrums, can he rise to the challenge when the heat's on?
Six romance writers / Five secrets / Four poison pen letters / Three stolen manuscripts / Two undercover journalists / One over-complicated love life / Way too many teacups and tiny sandwiches. This shouldn't be a recipe for mayhem and murder, but Tabitha Darling has been burned once before and she knows the signs that she's about to fall into another crime scene. At least she doesn't have to worry about love triangles any more. Right? RIGHT?
Everybody Makes Mistakes! A mutilated body is found on a lonely street in Reykjavík. Detective Grímur intends to see that justice is done. Kjartan Jónsson vows that his daughter's killer will be punished. And that the punishment will fit the crime. Prime suspect Gunnar Atli desperately needs to prevent his own dark secrets from coming to light. And he's not the only one. Fine lines separate truth, justice and vengeance. Put a foot wrong, and any one of them could be making the biggest mistake of his life.
Chief Prosecutor Sigurd Halvorsrud's wife is found dead in front of the fireplace in the family living room. The cause of death is instantly apparent - she has been brutally decapitated. Halvorsrud immediately falls under suspicion. Then a journalist at one of Oslo's largest newspapers is found beheaded. What links these two horrifically violent crimes? Detective Inspector Hanne Wilhelmsen is called in to lead the investigation with her old colleague Billy T. But the most demanding task that Hanne Wilhelmsen has ever faced in her career clashes with the worst crisis in her personal life. Cecilie, the woman she lived with for almost twenty years, is seriously ill. Wilhelmsen must ask herself: is the truth worth chasing at all costs?
One spring morning a woman is found dead in a Brunswick alley adorned with symbols of the occult. Catherine Kint, milliner, gin enthusiast and raconteur, has no reason to be involved until her friend is under investigation. Armed with her sharp wit, a crime scene background and a barman named Boris, Catherine walks into a world of new age prophecies, curses and money. Honestly, it would drive a girl to drink.
The Road to Ruin, Niki Savva (Australian Politics)
In The Road to Ruin, prominent political commentator, author, and columnist for The Australian Niki Savva reveals the ruinous behaviour of former prime minister Tony Abbott and his chief of staff, Peta Credlin. Based on her unrivalled access to their colleagues, and devastating first-person accounts of what went on behind the scenes, Savva paints an unforgettable picture of a unique duo who wielded power ruthlessly but not well.
The Chimera Vector, Nathan M. Farrugia
The Fifth Column: the world's most powerful and secretive organization. They run our militaries. They run our governments. They run our terrorist cells. Recruited as a child, Sophia is a deniable operative for the Fifth Column. Like all operatives, Sophia's DNA has been altered to augment her senses and her mind is splintered into programmed subsets. On a routine mission in Iran something goes catastrophically wrong. Bugs are beginning to appear in Sophia's programming and the mission spins out of control. High-speed chases, gun fights, helicopter battles, immortal psychopaths, super soldiers and mutant abilities are all in the mix in this edge-of-your-seat action-packed techno-thriller.
Taken at Night, Christa A. Ludlow
The year is 1900, and photographer Beatrix Spencer has just opened her photographic studio in the bustling colonial metropolis of Sydney. But it is a turbulent time to start a new business. A deadly outbreak of bubonic plague is threatening the city, causing public panic, putting ships into quarantine and causing unrest on the wharves. The colony is preparing to send soldiers to the Boer War. Women are struggling to gain rights and recognition. When a mysterious passenger disappears from a quarantined ship, Beatrix is drawn into the investigation led by Detective Fergus Blair, who has secrets of his own. Against a backdrop of disease, politics and violence, Fergus and Beatrix find that their city has an underworld that is more dangerous than either of them realized. And somewhere, another more sinister photographer is at work...
Murder in Mt Martha, Janice Simpson
In 1953, a small dog leads his owner to the mutilated, dead body of a young girl. The senseless and brutal homicide not only shakes up the small seaside town of Mt Martha, but also begins an Australia-wide manhunt for the callous murderer. However, the witness testimonies are strangely inconsistent, and without a prime suspect, the case goes cold.
That is until the present time, when Nick Szabo begins an unrelated research project and comes across an old newspaper clipping. Aided by his friend Arthur, he digs deeper into the case, uncovering horrific layers of deception and betrayal. Steeped in Melbourne's past and historically accurate, Murder in Mount Martha is inspired by a real-life unsolved murder. It is an exciting and harrowing tale of what might have happened on that dark day on September 12, 1953.
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Winter in Sydney. The city is brimming with foreign students. Sophie Sandilands takes a job teaching at an English language school. When one of her students leaps to her death it becomes clear that lurking within the psyche of this community is a deep sense of despair and alienation. When it is revealed that the dead woman on the pavement has stolen another's identity, Sophie is drawn into the mystery.
Stepan Volkov forfeited his future when he was paid to forget his past. Forced to adapt, he ultimately became the world's most wanted killer... feared, vicious and brutal. A tool of the Organizatsiya, a Russian crime syndicate that forged him into 'The Wolf', he's pursued by American spies and Australian agents, torn between his need to survive and his desire to be free. When a shock encounter in Australia uncovers forgotten secrets and threatens uneasy allegiances, Volkov suddenly sees a choice... one he thought would never be his to make.
Crime Scenes, Zane Lovitt (Editor)
Is there really such a thing as an innocent person? Teachers, cops, mothers, wives, everyone has their breaking point; that moment where it could go either way. From the prostitute with no way out, to the bitter author, and a cop who just wants his leave, the characters in this collection will baffle and bewilder you at every turn. Features stories from emerging Australian crime writers Amanda O'Callaghan, Eddy Burger, Melanie Napthine and Michael Caleb Tasker alongside award-winning authors Angela Savage, Peter Corris, Leigh Redhead, Andrew Nette, David Whish-Wilson, P.M. Newton, Carmel Bird and Tony Birch.
All These Perfect Strangers, Aoife Clifford
You don't have to believe in ghosts for the dead to haunt you. You don't have to be a murderer to be guilty. Within six months of Pen Sheppard starting university, three of her new friends are dead. Only Pen knows the reason why. College life had seemed like a wonderland of sex, drugs and maybe even love. The perfect place to run away from your past and reinvent yourself. But Pen never can run far enough and when friendships are betrayed, her secrets are revealed. The consequences are deadly.
Someone Else's Skin, Sarah Hilary
Called to a woman's refuge to take a routine witness statement, DI Marnie Rome instead walks in on an attempted murder. Trying to uncover the truth from layers of secrets, Marnie finds herself confronting her own demons. Because she, of all people, knows that it can be those closest to us we should fear the most . . .
Cambodia Noir, Nicholas Seeley
A high-octane thriller with a heart-stopping conclusion about a mysterious American woman who disappears into the Cambodian underworld, and the photojournalist who tracks her through the clues left in her diary. Phnom Penh, Cambodia: The end of the line. Lawless, drug-soaked, forgotten—it's where bad journalists go to die. For once-great war photographer Will Keller, that's kind of a mission statement: he spends his days floating from one score to the next, taking any job that pays; his nights are a haze of sex, drugs, booze, and brawling. But Will's spiral toward oblivion is interrupted by Kara Saito, a beautiful young woman who shows up and begs Will to help find her sister, June, who disappeared during a stint as an intern at the local paper.
They caught up with her before she reached her car. She didn't hear their footsteps coming up behind her in the dark tree-lined street, had no awareness of them until they grabbed her from behind and threw her to the pavement. Fiona Galloway, a young, deaf social worker, has been threatened: keep her mouth shut or else! Frightened, she seeks out private eye Anna Southwood.
A Murder Without Motive, Martin McKenzie-Murray
In 2004, the body of a young Perth woman was found on the grounds of a primary school. Her name was Rebecca Ryle. The killing would mystify investigators, lawyers, and psychologists - and profoundly rearrange the life of the victim's family. It would also involve the author's family, because his brother knew the man charged with the murder. For years, the two had circled each other suspiciously, in a world of violence, drugs, and rotten aspirations.
For five days in January 1989, the parents of a seven-year-old Tokyo schoolgirl sat and listened to the demands of their daughter's kidnapper. They would never learn his identity. They would never see their daughter again. For the fourteen years that followed, the Japanese public listened to the police's apologies. They would never forget the botched investigation that became known as 'Six Four'. They would never forgive the authorities their failure. For one week in late 2002, the press officer attached to the police department in question confronted an anomaly in the case. He could never imagine what he would uncover. He would never have looked if he'd known what he would find.
Detective Sergeant Harry Belltree, back on the job after a near-fatal confrontation with corrupt colleagues, has become a departmental embarrassment. The solution is a posting away from Sydney and a quiet life in Newcastle. Or maybe not so quiet. A body's been found buried just offshore on Ash Island; there may be more. There's also Harry's unfinished business. The car crash that killed his parents and blinded his wife happened not far from Newcastle. And Harry knows it was no accident. The other unfinished business is Jenny's longed-for pregnancy. Which means that now the stakes are higher than ever.
The Silent Inheritance, Joy Dettman

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Vibrasics pay Lewis' Mum
Vibrasics owed about 800 bucks to our major sponsor, Lewis Waite's (keys) mum. She bought us our plane tickets for our last summer tour, and due poor returns at the ticket booth, we never paid her back. Fortunately we got offered 1.5K to play at Shooters, and 500 to play at Revolver that weekend, so we basically paid off our debts, got drunk on the band money, and came home. Brilliant.
So first off we on Friday we grabbed an essential touring item: The Hirequip shuttle trailor. This is a great trailer, which fits a full backline with plenty of room to spare. However when hiring these one has to remember to get a padlock to secure the catch for the trailer door. Naturally we left the band "padlock" "somewhere," so using our kiwi ingenuity we used a by product from another industry standard item (Nippy's Iced Coffee) to secure the door. Brilliant – just don't tell my insurance company (AON insurance – the only musicians insurance provider).
Anyway we made it to Shooters in one piece, met up with Grenville from Entertainment Solutions (a good PA hire company in Wanaka), and set up for the evening. The venue was kind enough to feed us, and give us a shit load of beer (another essential touring item). Brilliant.
The bar manager that evening (I forget his name now), was a really nice dude, and asked if we could start playing early, because punters leave in droves after their "Happy Hour" finishes every evening. We obliged, and played live hip hop to a bunch of very uninterested, and mildly bemused tourists and locals. The highlight of the gig was the really drunk girl from the U.S. asking us to "play some American music." Lewis replied,
"You came all the way over here to hear American music?"
So yeah, a pretty flat average gig. I thought we played pretty tight, and were in good spirits generally given the averageness of the situation. Fortunately we got a massive fee, and got really drunk on the band money in other bars later.
All in all it was a pretty fun weekend away, everyone was in decent humour, and it was good to wrap up the band's business without too much trouble.


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"Once Upon a Time"
Midseason Premiere Sunday, March 5 at 8 PM ET/PT on ABC
Midseason Premiere Sunday, March 5 at 8 PM ET/PT on ABC
Welcome to Storybrooke, a small town in Maine that you won't find on any map. This town is full of magic, populated by fairytale characters once cursed by the Evil Queen Regina to live in our world—deprived of their memories and happy endings. Until Emma Swan came to town and changed everything. With the help of her son, Henry, Emma embraced her true identity as the daughter of Snow White and Prince Charming—the Savior destined to break the Curse. But even after returning everyone's memories, Emma's mission was far from over. With the Curse broken, Mr. Gold (aka Rumplestiltskin) was free to bring magic to Storybrooke. However, magic always comes with a price.
In the midseason premiere, "Tougher Than the Rest," with Snow still asleep in Storybrooke, David and Hook race to stop Gideon before he can confront Emma. Gideon makes a startling confession to Belle and Gold about his whereabouts while he was missing. Meanwhile, Regina struggles with the realization that everyone, perhaps even Robin, is better off in the alternate world where the Evil Queen was defeated. And when Emma inspires a familiar face to help her and Regina return home, she discovers the power to change her fate.
Photo: ABC/Jack Rowand"Once Upon a Time" stars Ginnifer Goodwin as Snow White/Mary Margaret, Jennifer Morrison as Emma Swan, Lana Parrilla as the Evil Queen/Regina, Josh Dallas as Prince Charming/David, Emilie de Ravin as Belle, Colin O'Donoghue as Hook, Jared S. Gilmore as Henry Mills, Rebecca Mader as the Wicked Witch/Zelena and Robert Carlyle as Rumplestiltskin/Mr. Gold.
Guest starring are Sean Maguire as Robin of Locksley, Eion Bailey as Pinocchio/August, Giles Matthey as Gideon, Wil Traval as the Sheriff of Nottingham, Mckenna Grace as Young Emma, Rustin Gresiuk as Young Pinocchio, Nancy Sivak as Helen and Gaalen Engen as Bar Patron.


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By David Bramante | March 18, 2018
During our Mentee Mastermind conversation at Keller Williams Realty Downtown Los Angeles on Friday, we were discussing how to best deal with the issue of completing and properly documenting the 10 property previews per week requirement.
The book, The Millionaire Real Estate Agent written by Gary Keller and usually referred to as the MREA, states that a top-producing real estate agent will follow the following formula for success:
- 10 owner conversations per day
- 10 database entries per day
- 10 personalized notes per day
- 10 property previews per week
So as our 17 real estate agents at KW Downtown LA were discussing the amount of work required to follow the MREA and stay in the Mentee Mastermind contest, coined during the conversation the #AlphaAgents project, we struggled as a group on how the agents could properly document the previews online. (We started with 18 agents, but one agent tapped out this week).
The initial recommendation was that our KW agents would take 10 selfies at the properties they visited (open houses for residential agents and property visits for commercial agents).
What we have seen over the last two weeks has been all over the place… some of the agents in the group took photos of property exteriors and interiors, some took photos of only addresses with their selfie, some took pictures of the MLS print-outs usually found at cooperating agent open houses… and yet many more did not do any previews at all. We want uniformity for the contest.
The top three agents in terms of completing property previews for the week were Rosie Mazariegos, Summer Gorjian, and Matthew Blessing. In my mind, they had the microphone.
So as I opened the conversation up about how to best resolve the issue of proving property previews, I expected one of my top three to steer the conversation and teach the rest of the group and set the rules for the contest in this specific category.
They would talk about taking multiple photos at each open house which include some sort of selfie, open house sign and an interior right? Nope. All of a sudden agents who had not completed any open house previews whatsoever felt comfortable chiming in on how this party of our Mentee Mastermind / Alpha Agents contest should be conducted and that overall this requirement was too difficult.
This sounded the alarms in my mind because the book I recently read and had recently become addicted to, titled Principles by Ray Dalio, was being ignored. What I was listening to and experiencing was a violation of one of the main principles in Ray's book, and that was a violation of his rule on "believability" and so I needed to correct the conversation and remind the group of this core belief.
As one of the agents who hadn't completed any previews from the week continued to talk about this and that with the contest's previews and social media posting requirements, I realized that she was confident, that she was persuasive, and that she had no believability in the category of previews. Worse, my top three quietly listened to her and this was dangerous.
Alarming… she had the entire floor during the conference call and 16 other agents were actively pondering her thoughts. They may take her advice and form their businesses around what she was saying, which was not based on anything other than opinions.
As the Team Leader of KW DTLA, I have routinely experienced this issue, but never was it more painfully obvious. I was actively looking at all my agents' stats on the call in my Google Sheets tracker and sure enough, an agent with a glaring zero in this category was weighing in happily about this category. An agent with zero credibility in this category was happily sharing her opinion and knowingly or unknowingly trying to influence the agents in the contest.
These are the moments where I need to get involved, remind the group of our core principles, about the book Principles, and the concept of believability. I politely interrupted our talkative and "unbelievable" agent (on this topic) after a few seconds, and reminded the Mentee Masterminds that our brokerage, KW DTLA, believes in believability and that the opinions of the most active agents in the preview category had the floor.
I called on Rosie first, since she had done 20 property previews in the week, then I called on Summer who had done 17 previews. As the book Principles states, the person with the most experience takes on the role of teacher, while the challenger and would-be debater (or show-boater) takes on the role of student.
This was one of the moments, though seemingly very minor, that I was able to course correct the group and specifically outline one of our brokerage's beliefs in 2018. It felt great and it probably seemed relatively minor.
What happened is so routine that no one usually notices, and so dangerous that those who are aware of this rule need to setup and make the group aware of what is happening. I couldn't believe I had to re-introduce the concept of believability.
PS In case you're wondering what the group settled on, we stated that there needs to be 10 images posted on Instagram, with descriptions of the properties and the hashtags: #AlphaAgents #KWDTLA and #KWDowntownLA. The posts should be shared to a linked Facebook account, so that our office can quickly find and count the preview posts for each agent.
PSS The featured image of this post is from my Instagram, where I'm doing handstands in front of agent's open houses… to preview that I visited the open houses and I'm believable.
David Bramante is the Team Leader & Managing Partner of Keller Williams Realty Downtown Los Angeles, and the manager of BRE Investment in Echo Park.
He has been a top producing California Realtor since 2005, helping clients sell, buy, invest and lease residential and commercial real estate in Los Angeles.
As a real estate consultant, he has hired, mentored and coached over 150 Realtors in Southern California, including many top producing Realtors in Los Angeles County.
For questions about the above blog post, becoming a real estate agent, or joining Keller Williams Realty, send an email to David directly at david (at) breinvestment.com or davidbramante (at) kw.com.


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CORRADI WORLD - Creative Direction and Gianluca Rossi
Responsible for the original design-mindset inside Corradi is this well respected Italian design guru, Gianluca Rossi. After being awarded his degree in Architecture in Florence, Italy, Gianluca ran his own architectural practice in San Francisco, USA at the Berkley University. From 1995 until 2007 he was the appointed contract professor in the Restoration Laboratory of Architecture in the Architecture Faculty of Ferrara.
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Well I'm def a newbie to this forum but def not a newbie to losing (or attempting to lose) weight! Currently weighing in at a quarter of a ton...250lbs which is around 114kg. It is time to do something about it and im hoping that this forum will be an inspiration and a support!
I have a big holiday coming up at christmas when i will be flying to the uk and the thought of being too big for the chairs on the plane is just horrifying. I also dont want to be uncomfortable on such a long flight and would really like to look good for all the xmas and new years velebrations while we are over there...yep I am vain!
So...I have 13 weeks before i leave. Im hoping that i can drop a good few kilos and shrink my arse a little before i leave! Wish me luck


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MADISON -- "As Catholics, we know that we are universal," said Fr. Michael Radowicz, pastor of St. Bernard Parish in Madison.
"We welcome all people, all faith traditions here on this night as we gather together to honor and to pray for the men and women who are charged with a great responsibility, bringing Christ to those who are sick and to those who are in need of safety."
Those words opened the first Blue Mass celebrated in Madison on May 18 at St. Bernard Church.
It was held in thanksgiving for all first responders, including sheriff's deputies, police, firefighters, and emergency medical technicians (EMTs).
The Mass, which took place during National Police Week and the day before the annual Law Enforcement Memorial Ceremony at the State Capitol in Madison, was a year in the making and the idea of Dick Rinehart, a retired Madison police lieutenant of 36 years and member of St. Bernard, and Father Radowicz.
"We just have to show respect for the profession and I think the way things are going today, I think faith plays an important role in all of their lives," said Rinehart.
Every first responder in Dane County, regardless of religious affiliation, was invited to the Mass.
Father Radowicz was the celebrant at the Mass and Madison Police Chief Mike Koval and Dane County Sheriff Dave Mahoney read the readings.
Along with Madison police officers and Dane County deputies, attending were Madison firefighters, UW-Madison police officers, Fitchburg police officers, and other emergency workers.
Also in attendance were the St. Bernard Parish Knights of Columbus Council 9082 and the Bishop William O. O'Connor 4th Degree Assembly, Knights of Columbus.
During his homily, Father Radowicz reflected upon the fire that destroyed St. Raphael Cathedral in Madison 12 years ago.
"I can't describe in words that sadness that overcame me to see the mother church of our diocese, a building which is home to our most prominent liturgical celebrations, as no more," he said. "It was a difficult day for me and many others."
He recalled an image he saw that day in news coverage -- a firefighter standing in the parking lot with the ciborium, holding the Eucharistic Lord.
"It filled me with such peace," Father Radowicz said, adding the building may have crumbled, but "the true cornerstone, Jesus Christ, was present that day."
He said the Mass was to "honor the men and women who have made it their lifelong purpose to be that light in the darkness" like the light shown on the firefighter and Jesus in the parking lot.
Calling their work a "vocation," Father Radowicz told the first responders that "when someone is in need, you spring into action" using the gifts and talents that God gave them.
He also spoke of their on-the-job challenges of not always having time to think about their actions.
"You don't have time to think when a bullet flies past your head," he said. "You don't have time to think when a window explodes from a fire and you hear the voices of those screaming for rescue. You don't have time to think when you see someone who isn't breathing and they need immediate intervention . . . you must react instantaneously to the things happening around you."
He added, "Your desire to do good" remains unchanged and "we can never question your motives or where your hearts are as things unfold around you."
He also acknowledged the family members in attendance that "every day they are making a sacrifice as they let you go out that door, allowing you to enter a world where nothing is certain and nothing is guaranteed."
Following the homily, Father Radowicz prayed petitions for all those gathered to "keep them safe and allow them to be great witnesses of God's love to those they protect and serve," for those who have been injured in the line of duty, and for an end to acts of violence and hatred.
Madison Fire Department Chief Steven Davis then lit two memorial candles to honor police, fire, and emergency workers who died in the line of duty or from other causes.
Chief Davis, Chief Koval, and Sheriff Mahoney each spoke following Mass.
Chief Davis called the police and deputies in the county the fire department's "brothers in blue" and encouraged everyone to "always have a good prayer and a good thought for them."
"They are human beings and we tend to forget that," he said. "They need the support of the chiefs, they need the support of the community."
Chief Koval said that there needs to be "spiritual dimension" in service work and the Blue Mass helped to "validate and affirm that dimension of who we are as servant leaders."
He remarked that he gives recruits a coin of St. Michael the Archangel -- the patron saint of police.
"Remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice and all of those who stand ready, willing, and able to do the same for a complete and absolute stranger -- what greater nobility is there," said Chief Koval.
Sheriff Mahoney reiterated that the work they do is a "call."
"We enter this service to our citizens and our community because we were called to do this work . . . we get up every morning and feel blessed," he said.
The sheriff called the Mass "uplifting . . . It reminds us why we are in this profession."
Father Radowicz closed the evening saying, "Know that we love you, know that we care for you, and know that we celebrate with you tonight."
The entire church then prayed the prayer to St. Michael the Archangel.
Following Mass, a reception was held in the parish center gymnasium.
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Wrong belief has always been a folly of man. From the moment Eve heard these words "Ye, shall not surely die." and believed them, till now, man has been consumed with believing a lie. That lie destroyed our relationship with God, and also cursed this earth that we live on. Why was Eve deceived? Because she was tempted by the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh, and the pride of life.
But God in His infinite wisdom always had a plan to bring us back to Him. Jesus Christ: His one and only begotten son. John 3:16 Jesus delighted to do the will of Father as the scriptures declared: "Sacrifice and offering thou didst not desire; mine ears hast thou opened: burnt offerings and sin offering hast thou not required. Then said I, Lo, I come: in the volume of the book it is written of me, I delight to do thy will, O my God: yea, thy law is within my heart." Psalm 40:6-8
Jesus provided THE bridge for man to get back to God. In the dirty cess pool of false teaching that message of redemption by the death of Christ on the cross is often lost and deemed obsolete. People want to hear how they can prosper and be healthy and rich now.
"Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you. For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many." Matthew 24:4 Jesus also said: "Then if any man shall say unto you, Lo, here is Christ, or there; believe it not. For there shall arise false Christ's, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if it were possible, they shall deceive the very elect." Matthew 24:23-25
These false christs, that Jesus was speaking about are here right now. They may be called by other names to hide their true identity, but a false christ is a false christ no matter what the name. Each false movement has its own false doctrine, false teachers and made to order false christ. And you can always tell a false christ by checking their birth certificates.
Word of Faith leaders claim that Jesus did not pay for your sins on the cross. They claim that after he died on the cross, He went into hell and was under the authority of satan and his demons for three days. They also claim He was tortured and paid the cost for our sins in hell. Then, on the third day, God called out and said "That is enough!" then Jesus regained His deity and rose from the dead.
What's the big deal you ask? This is a false belief! Christ paid the cost of sin on the cross not in hell. This is a distorted view of Christ, and a very dangerous one at that. Because its covered up by the word of faith vomit.
Word of faith teachers tell their followers that they can speak into existence whatever they want and as long as they believe it, God will do it. They completely remove sovereignty from God, and give it to man who now becomes self centered instead of God centered. God is then downgraded to a genie or farie Godfather. John MacArthur explained that these false teachers are giving the people exactly what satan offers. The pride of Life, the lust of the eyes, and the Lust of the Flesh.
This is why the ministry of warning is one of such importance. People, even the very elect, are being deceived. God poured His full wrath out on Jesus on the cross for all sins. Even the ones that hadn't been committed yet.
When Jesus had completely paid the entire cost of sin on the cross He said: "It is finished." John 19:30 The cost of sin had been paid and there was nothing else that needed to be done. God's justice had been served and now we could be justified by our faith.
Then Jesus said: "Father into thine hand I commend my spirit…" Luke 23:46 This completely eradicates the word of faith doctrine belief that Jesus went to hell to be tortured for the sins of humanity. Jesus went to the place where all dead souls go called Sheol/Hades. Which had two sides, one side for the righteous and another side for the wicked. Read Luke 16:19-31
The Rich man, after he died, opened His eyes in hell or Sheol/Hades. The bibles clearly states he was being tormented. Lazarus however was seen in Abraham's bosom, also know as Paradise. Remember the dialog between Jesus and the theif on the cross? "And he (the thief) said unto Jesus, Lord, remember me when thou comest into thy kingdom. And Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, to day shalt thou be with me in paradise." Luke 23:42-43
Now 1 John 1:7-9 says: "But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin." If Jesus supposedly paid for our sins in hell then we are still guilty of sin. Why? Because Jesus' physical body stayed here on earth and went into a tomb after the crucifixion.
The bible says: "This man (Joseph of Arimathaea) went unto Pilate, and begged the body of Jesus. And he took it down, and wrapped it in linen, and laid it in a sepulchre that was hewn in stone, wherein never man before was laid." Luke 23:52-53. Jesus' Spirit is what went into Sheol/Hades, if He was tortured how could blood come from a spirit? That's not possible! The blood from Jesus was shed on the cross of Calvary. There, and only there was our true redemption purchased.
Jesus said: "I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. John 14:6 Those who believe in a false Christ are still in danger of going to hell. That's why we must stand boldly and contend for the faith. There are many souls at risk!
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Join Tripp as he takes us on a tour of varieties of Postmodern Theology . . . Here is what you get in this Digital Download . . .
1) Frank Tupper and Reconstructing God
Tupper has developed a rather robust account of divine providence in his ambitious text "A Scandalous Providence." In this article he gives a constructive account of the divine attributes after having worked through the doctrine. It serves as an example of postmodern theology which ends in the reconstructive task.
2) David Ray Griffin and Constructive Postmodernism
In these rather succinct lectures DRG gives an alternative understanding of the postmodern situation in which his process philosophy facilitates new avenues of constructive theology. Plus he talks about Demons and the church! DRG is a model of those who see the PoMo challenge as one that can be addressed metaphysically. The theologian is then to do their constructive work attentive to the new philosophy.
3) Catherine Keller and Theopoetics
These two articles give a taste of the poetic fury Keller takes to traditional theological doctrines. We will examine how she unmasks the perversion of power running through the traditional accounts of our beginnings and endings – creation and eschatology.
4) Eberhard Jungel and Hermeneutical Theology
Jungel represents the rich inheritance of the German theological tradition. Hermeneutical theology developed from thinkers as diverse as Bultmann, Bonhoeffer, Barth and Ebeling with a specific focus on the event. Jungel's theology represents a radical Lutheran voice which insists that God cannot and should not be subject to the confines of "god" in modernity.


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Age of onset is typically 15-35 (young adulthood), although I am reading about early-onset schizophrenia in children (a diagnosis I find troubling at best). Prevalence is about 1/2 to 1%. There is no "test" for the disease, so diagnosis is based on behavior and the patient's self-report.
So far, no single isolated organic, social, or environmental cause has been identified (duh!?). So these studies represent the latest efforts in trying to understand this disease (if it is an actual disease).
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Schizophrenic Brains Try to RepairNeuroscience Research Australia
Monday, 06 August 2012
Most neurons are found in tissue near the surface of the brain, but people with schizophrenia have a high density of neurons in deeper areas. The researchers suggest this is because the neurons are migrating towards the surface, where they are lacking, in response to the disease. Image: Sashkinw/iStockphoto
New NeuRA research shows that the brains of people with schizophrenia may attempt to repair damage caused by the disease, in another example of the adult brain's capacity to change and grow.
Prof Cyndi Shannon Weickert, Dr Dipesh Joshi and colleagues from Neuroscience Research Australia studied the brains of people with schizophrenia and focussed on one of the hardest-hit regions, the orbitofrontal cortex, which is the part of the brain involved in regulating emotional and social behaviour.
Most neurons – brain cells that transmit information – are found in tissue near the surface of the brain. However, in the brains of people with schizophrenia, the team found a high density of neurons in deeper areas.
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This is from PLoS ONE - just the abstract, the whole article is available by clicking on the title link.
Abnormal Neural Responses to Social Exclusion in Schizophrenia1 Medical Research Institute, University of Dundee, Dundee, United Kingdom, 2 Biomedical Imaging Center, University of Aberdeen, Aberdeen, United Kingdom, 3 Department of Psychiatry, University of Oxford, Oxford, United Kingdom, 4 Institute of Mental Health, University of Aberdeen, Aberdeen, United Kingdom, 5 Department of Psychology, University of Aberdeen, Aberdeen, United Kingdom, 6 Division of Psychiatry, University of Edinburgh, Edinburgh, United Kingdom
AbstractSocial exclusion is an influential concept in politics, mental health and social psychology. Studies on healthy subjects have implicated the medial prefrontal cortex (mPFC), a region involved in emotional and social information processing, in neural responses to social exclusion. Impairments in social interactions are common in schizophrenia and are associated with reduced quality of life. Core symptoms such as delusions usually have a social content. However little is known about the neural underpinnings of social abnormalities. The aim of this study was to investigate the neural substrates of social exclusion in schizophrenia. Patients with schizophrenia and healthy controls underwent fMRI while participating in a popular social exclusion paradigm. This task involves passing a 'ball' between the participant and two cartoon representations of other subjects. The extent of social exclusion (ball not being passed to the participant) was parametrically varied throughout the task. Replicating previous findings, increasing social exclusion activated the mPFC in controls. In contrast, patients with schizophrenia failed to modulate mPFC responses with increasing exclusion. Furthermore, the blunted response to exclusion correlated with increased severity of positive symptoms. These data support the hypothesis that the neural response to social exclusion differs in schizophrenia, highlighting the mPFC as a potential substrate of impaired social interactions.
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Gradin VB, Waiter G, Kumar P, Stickle C, Milders M, et al. (2012). Abnormal Neural Responses to Social Exclusion in Schizophrenia. PLoS ONE 7(8): e42608. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0042608
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Read the whole article.
Brain Abnormalities in Schizophrenia Due to Disease, Not Genetics
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on August 3, 2012
The brain differences found in people with schizophrenia are mainly the result of the disease itself or its treatment, as opposed to being caused by genetic factors, according to a Dutch study.
"Our study did not find structural brain abnormalities in nonpsychotic siblings of patients with schizophrenia compared with healthy control subjects, using multiple imaging methods," the team says.
"This suggests that the structural brain abnormalities found in patients are most likely related to the illness itself."
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Schizophrenia Linked to Inflammation in the Brain
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on August 8, 2012
The brains of people with schizophrenia may be under attack by their own immune system, say Australian researchers, who are offering the strongest proof so far of an association between schizophrenia and an immune dysfunction.
About 40 percent of people who suffer from schizophrenia have increased inflammation in an area of the brain called the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex — a key brain region affected by the disease.
"To find this immune pattern in nearly half of people with schizophrenia raises the possibility that this is in fact a new root cause of the disease," said senior author of the study, Cyndi Shannon Weickert, Ph.D., from Neuroscience Research Australia and UNSW.
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Brain Hemispheres Out of Sync in Schizophrenia
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on August 22, 2012
People with schizophrenia have significantly decreased interhemispheric coordination compared to those without the disorder, according to a new study.
Researchers discovered that interhemispheric connectivity was especially reduced in the occipital lobe, the thalamus and the cerebellum areas of patients with schizophrenia.
Face in the Mirror More Distorted in Schizophrenia
Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on August 11, 2012
Individuals with schizophrenia experience more intense perceptual illusions while gazing into a mirror than do healthy people, according to a new study.
The new research also showed that patients with schizophrenia were more likely to believe the illusions they see in the mirror were real.
The research highlights the underlying ego dysfunction and body dysmorphic disorder found in schizophrenia.
According to the researchers, gazing at one's own reflected face under low light can lead to ghostly experiences called "strange-face in the mirror" illusions. No study has previously focused on mirror gazing in schizophrenic patients, who already experience delirium, hallucination and self mis-attribution.
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What am I doing here?
I was initially drawn to this book because it reminded me of the Chas Addams and Ed Arno collections from my dad's bookshelf. There are stylistic similarities to the classic New Yorker cartoons, but Abner Dean's work dispenses with their gloss to espouse a much bleaker reality.
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Identity Programs by Noel Martin
Noel Martin was a renown self-taught typographer and designer who studied drawing, painting, and printmaking at the Art Academy of Cincinnati. He later became an instructor there and was the long-time designer for the Cincinnati Art Museum, as well as a prolific free-lance designer. Martin was celebrated for modernizing museum graphics and industrial trade catalogs. In 1953, he was featured in MoMA's landmark design exhibition, Four American Designers, along with Herbert Bayer, Leo Lionni, and Ben Shahn. His spiral-bound self-promotional piece, Identity Programs, presents some of his iconic minimalist logos.
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Toys of the 1940s
Henry Wolf art directed and photographed "Toys of a Decade" for the October 1960 Esquire. The text was full of familiar connoisseur's details about an eclectic range of 1940s bric-a-brac. But it was presented in classic sixties prose style: partial acknowledgment of excess clothed in mock-rapturous anaphora:
Bliss was it in that dawn to be alive! While the world was impoverished, America rejoiced in its material goods, and honest goods they were. Lionel trains had a third rail down the middle, and telephones came in any color, if it was black … Johnny hawked his Philip Morris cigarettes (in plain brown wrappers) on the airwaves. Charles Eames's plywood chair, built to sustain the bottom, has lasted until today, while brain food like Collier's and Flash Gordon became period pieces. God, we were content! The only subversive voice was Baby Snooks every Friday night, she would ask, all feigned innocence, "Why, Daddy?" … Then, suddenly, it was 1950. North Korea invaded South Korea; and next spring Baby Snooks was dead.
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The unsung micro-Botham
Has a player who did not score a half-century or take three wickets in an innings ever had a greater impact on a series than Tim Bresnan on this year's Ashes? He totalled 103 runs at an average of 25 and ten wickets at fractionally under 30. Hardly numbers that explode out of the scorebook, but his performance was of enormous value.
With the bat, his turgid nightwatchman's grind at Lord's helped to snuff out Australia's microscopic hopes of coming back from the dead, then, more importantly, he played with solidity in the first innings at the Riverside, helping Graeme Swann and James Anderson add 40 precious runs for the last two wickets. His second-innings 45 - solid while supporting specialist batsmen, then punishingly aggressive with the tail - was priceless, as England's last three wickets added a match-turning 79.
With the ball, nine of his ten wickets were of top-six batsmen, including two of the first three wickets at Lord's, sparking the Australian implosion that essentially confirmed the destination of the urn, and the pivotal wicket of David Warner in Durham, just as the intermittently brilliant left-hander was on the verge of turning the game decisively Australia's way. He added the wicket of Shane Watson, leaving Brad Haddin and the tail to either (a) score 120 to win, or (b) be swept away by Stuart Broad. They chose (b). Or perhaps had (b) chosen for them by Broad.
He was statistically unspectacular but impactful. In his five Ashes Tests, two in the last series and three this time, 17 of his 21 wickets have been top-six batsmen; one more was Haddin; he has also dismissed the bowling allrounders Mitchell Johnson and Ashton Agar; his sole genuine tail-end Ashes wicket was Ben Hilfenhaus, and even that had the added glory of being the final, Ashes-confirming wicket in the MCG Test in 2010-11.
Like Ian Bell, he was emerging from a significant slump. It was aggravated by injury but two wickets for 420 in four Tests, against South Africa and in India, while conceding 3.5 runs per over, and failing to pass 20 with the bat, were hardly numbers to write home about, unless that missive was to say, "Stock up on my favourite biscuits, I won't be playing much Test cricket for a while."
The selectors trusted him to recapture his form of 2010 and 2011; Bresnan rediscovered his game. Both deserve great credit.
He is the first bowler to have taken ten or more wickets in an Ashes series without taking three in an innings, and only the third England bowler to reach double figures in any series without bagging a three-for (Flintoff took 10 at 59 in five Tests against South Africa in 2003, and Laker 11 at 29 in the five-match rubber in South Africa in 1956-57). Only four other players have scored at least 100 runs in a series at an average of 25 or higher, and taken at least ten wickets at an average of 30 or lower, without either scoring a half-century or taking four wickets in an innings. And only Bresnan has done so without even taking three in an innings. To future cricket-loving generations, he might barely be noticeable on the 2013 Ashes scorecards, but Bresnan has been England's unsung micro-Botham.
I'll be back in late September, with some thoughts on Cook's much-maligned and much-praised captaincy - I think both sides of the argument are, essentially, right. I will also, hopefully, be touring India with a cricket-and-global-politics-themed stand-up show in October. I'll keep you posted here, and on my @ZaltzCricket Twitter feed.
In the meantime, one final statistic for all those who sat through England's miserable batting on Friday and thought to themselves: "I have paid £65 for this. I wanted to see history being made." Well, you did see history being made. For the first time ever in Test history (admittedly including only games for which balls faced have been recorded), a team's top six all scored 25 or more, and all at a strike rate of less than 40 runs per 100 balls. This was not "proper Test cricket" or "a day for the connoisseur". It was unnecessary, and unparalleled, (and, I would argue, not particularly effective) collective hyper-caution.
Until late September, goodbye, all hail to the Sledgehammer of Eternal Justice and his three series-defining centuries of Dravidian silk and steel, some of the finest English batsmanship of all time.
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David Horowitz asserted the essentially intellectual nature of Conservatism:
"Conservatives are best organized around an issue. (They) are generally already committed to religions in which the savior is not government, but a divinity. Barack Obama and the socialist juggernaut he heads have persuaded conservatives that they are prepared to destroy everything Americans hold dear. So there's no real problem in organizing conservatives now, just focus on an issue…"
This primacy of ideas, as opposed to personality worship or political expediency, demands that conservatives quickly confront the significance and implications of Governor Palin's endorsement of Dr. Rand Paul, son of Ron Paul. Her $2,000 donation to Paul's campaign came with this statement:
"I'm proud to support great grassroots candidates like Dr. Paul. While there are issues we disagree on, he and I are both in agreement that it's time to shake up the status quo in Washington and stand up for common sense ideas."
On Fox News Sunday, Palin told Chris Wallace:
"There are things that I don't agree with Rand Paul, and yet his domestic policies for the most part, I do agree with."
The conclusion of Going Rogue is a magnificent outline of the author's positions on key issues. Statements by Dr. Paul to Anti-War Radio and Alex Jones cause a jarring ideological cacophony when compared with those appropriated by his Alaskan supporter.
Going Rogue:
"Today our sons and daughters are fighting in distant countries to protect our freedoms and to nurture freedom for others…we do have a responsibility to complete our missions in these countries so that we can keep our homeland safe. America must remain the strongest nation in the world in order to remain free. And our goal in the War on Terror must be the same as Reagan's, 'We won. They lost."
Dr. Paul:
"Part of the reason we are bankrupt as a country is that we are fighting so many foreign wars and have so many military bases around the world. I don't say, 'Out of Iraq now!' I say out of Iraq two or three years ago, or never go in – even better."
Going Rogue:
"We are both the world's sword and its shield…we lend not just our strength but the support of a free people to others who are fighting for their freedom. They need to know that America is not indifferent to their struggles…nations like Israel need to be confident of our support."
Dr. Paul:
"You have to ask yourself, 'Do you kill more terrorists than you create?' We inflamed an entire region there and I don't think it was the best thing for our national defense or for our country. We have to decide if putting missiles in Poland is going to provoke Russia or if we can afford to put missiles in Poland."
Going Rogue:
"But we have been given a unique responsibility to show the world the meaning and the rewards of freedom. America, as Reagan said, 'is the abiding alternative to tyranny.'"
Dr. Paul:
"I think that these issues [the economy and maintaining the American "empire:"] become the political coalition you need to win a race because there are people from the left who acknowledge the vast expenditure of the military industrial complex. There are some on the right that are beginning to understand that. It's really that sort of right-left paradigm that you bring these groups together in order to try to win an election."
At least Dr. Paul had the decency to tell Alex Jones clearly:
"I'd say we'd be very very similar (Dr. Rand and Ron Paul). We might present the message sometimes differently.. I think in some ways the message has to be broadened and made more appealing to the entire Republican electorate because you have to win a primary."
This means that, while Going Rogue insists:
"It is not in our best interests or the interests of the peace-loving nations of the world for America to project weakness to terrorists and tyrants,"
Dr. Paul's ideas about terrorists would be "very, very similar" to his father's:
"They are terrorists because we are occupiers."
Four months ago, Sarah Palin signed her name, tens of thousands of times, to Going Rogue's vision of America. That vision is now so much silver to barter with. Endorsement rarely implies total concurrence. However, the logical conclusion of this endorsement is that Palin considers America's global defense of freedom, national defense, the War on Terror, the defeat of Radical Islam, and the support of Israel and our allies, to be less important than "some" domestic policy issues.
By designating Dr. Paul as someone who should be influencing foreign policy, Sarah Palin has joined forces with a man whose vision of America substantively mimics that of Michael Moore. It is time to reread Horowitz. Deviating from principled intellectualism will reduce the Tea Party to a gruesome mirror image of the eschatological, savior-seeking deplored in the Obama apotheosis.


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LAT Home
What happened on November 14, 2002
Hikers Rescued After Six Days in Snow
From Times Wire Reports
Tracy Coley, 38; Actor and Singer Co-Founded Performing Arts School
From Staff and Wire Reports
Flight Inspires Historic Cast
Karima A. Haynes, Times Staff Writer
Ex-Attorney Charged in Impersonation Case
From Times Staff Reports
Zakaria Erzinclioglu, 50; Childhood Interests Led to Forensic Entomology
Dennis McLellan, Times Staff Writer
Bishops Ratify Policy on Abuse
Larry B. Stammer, Times Staff Writer
Bristol Offramp Will Be Closed Another Week
From Times Staff Reports
Bicyclist Struck by Car on Halloween Dies
From Times Staff Reports
Traffic at John Wayne Surges 21% in October
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D.A.'s Policy Calls for Allowing Court Cameras
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22 Suspected Illegal Immigrants Seized
From Times Staff Reports
Woman, 81, Hurt in Accident Dies
From Times Staff Reports
Davis' Mudslinging May Stain Fellow Democrats in Elections to Come
George Skelton
2 City Officials Receive Raises Despite Critics
Gregory W. Griggs, Times Staff Writer
District OKs Purchase of 40 Acres for High School
From Times Staff Reports
Firm Hired to Review Boating Center Plan
From Times Staff Reports
State High Court Denies Blake Bail
Therapists Seek to Intervene Early in Troubled Lives
Steve Berry, Times Staff Writer
UC President Atkinson Announces Retirement
Rebecca Trounson and Stuart Silverstein, Times Staff Writers
Pair Face Hate-Crime Charges in Assault Case
Kenneth Reich, Times Staff Writer
41 of 44 City Candidates Agree to Spending Limits
From Times Staff Reports
Alleged Belmont Rapist Is Charged
Nancy Wride, Times Staff Writer
Woman Killed in Collision at Huntington Beach Intersection
David Haldane
Pacoima Plane Crash Injures 3
Andrew Blankstein and Carol Chambers, Times Staff Writers
Eddie Worth, 93; AP Photographer Covered WWII, War Trials
From Staff and Wire Reports
Ex-Bagel Chain Owner Pleads Guilty to Fraud
From Times Staff Reports
The Valley's Once-Mighty Tower of Pallets Has Fallen on Hard Times
Steve Harvey
Pro-Peace T-Shirts Get Campus Talking
Daniel Yi, Times Staff Writer
Ex-Officers Sentenced for Beating
Steve Berry, Times Staff Writer
Better Water on Tap in Ventura With Change in Purifying Agent
Jessica Blanchard, Special to The Times
Apparent Overdose Death Evidence of Growing Threat
Gail Davis and Jenifer Ragland, Special to the Times
It Doesn't Pay to Lose Touch With IRS
H.G. Reza, Times Staff Writer
Tollway Plan Hits a Bump
Dan Weikel, Times Staff Writer
Atkinson Admired for Diplomatic Skills, Consensus-Building
Stuart Silverstein, Times Staff Writer
Traffic Cameras Spur Conflict Lawsuits
Seema Mehta, Times Staff Writer
Cal State Seeing Faster Graduation Pace
Stuart Silverstein, Times Staff Writer
Screener Suit Allowed to Go Forward
Henry Weinstein, Times Staff Writer
Court Curbs Logging of Charred Trees
Geoffrey Mohan, Times Staff Writer
Joint Effort Will Target Cargo Thieves
Louis Sahagun, Times Staff Writer
Playa Vista Plans Sharply Curtailed
Martha Groves, Times Staff Writer
Police Chief Pledges a New War on Gangs
Andrew Blankstein, Times Staff Writer
City Council Briefs Valley Residents on Improving Services
Patrick McGreevy, Times Staff Writer
State Praises Turnaround at School
Doug Smith, Times Staff Writer
Residents Renew Bid to Halt Valley Busway, Calling Crossings Hazardous
Caitlin Liu, Times Staff Writer
HBO Loses Bid for Emmys
Brian Lowry, Times Staff Writer
Citing Mailers, Baca No Longer Backs Pacheco
Patrick McGreevy, Times Staff Writer
Jackson Denies Breach of Contract in Lawsuit
William Overend, Times Staff Writer
Teen Denies Killing Couple
Tracy Wilson, Times Staff Writer
County Board Orders Inquiry Into Morgue
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Man Gets Prison in Slaying
Jean Guccione, Times Staff Writer
State's Case: Cash, Hate Led to Murder for Hire
Monte Morin, Times Staff Writer
New Shell Permitted at Hollywood Bowl
Diane Haithman, Times Staff Writer
The Rocky Road to Restoring a Scenic Area
Bob Pool, Times Staff Writer
Newport Approves Mormon Temple
David Reyes, Times Staff Writer
Philip Dye, 72; Led Private Network of Pinecrest Schools
From a Times Staff Writer
Hollywood Managers Take Breakout Roles
Claudia Eller and James Bates, Times Staff Writers
Amgen Licenses MS Drug to French Firm
Denise Gellene
Possible El Paso Price Inaccuracy Disclosed
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Ex-Adelphia Executive Set to Plead Guilty
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Taxable Fund Yields Slide Below Tax-Exempt
Tom Petruno, Times Staff Writer
IRS Looks to Reunite Refunds, Taxpayers
Kathy M. Kristof, Times Staff Writer
Retailers Post Profit but Outlook Iffy
Angela Moore, Reuters
Syncor Seeks SEC Filing Extension
Scott Reckard
Stocks Are Mixed on Concern About Citigroup, Iraq
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Deals Set Stage for Online Music Firms
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Payless Profit Doubles on Rising Sales
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Schering-Plough CEO, Under Fire, to Retire
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WorldCom Ex-Officers Near Deal With SEC
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Redding Doctors Keep Licenses
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L.A. Housing Sales Still Hot
Jesus Sanchez, Times Staff Writer
Boeing Engineers Union Backs Contract
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Economy Hits 'Soft Patch'
Peter G. Gosselin, Times Staff Writer
Changes at Vivendi Suggest U.S. Spinoff
Richard Verrier, Times Staff Writer
Ernst & Young Charged Again by SEC
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Accounting Board Sets Steps for Getting Organized
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FCC OKs Comcast-AT&T Deal
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Applied Materials Posts Higher Profit
Alex Pham, Times Staff Writer
No Sanctions on Port Slowdowns
Nancy Cleeland, Times Staff Writer
Sony and Royal Philips Acquire InterTrust
Jon Healey, Times Staff Writer
Study Says Calif. Hospital Costs Surging
Ronald D. White, Times Staff Writer
Output of Crude Oil Gushes
Warren Vieth, Times Staff Writer
Space Shuttle Receives a New Lease on Life
Peter Pae, Times Staff Writer
Troubled Unit Drags Down PG&E Profit
Nancy Rivera Brooks, Times Staff Writer
Isuzu to Cut More Than a Third of U.S. Staff
John O'Dell, Times Staff Writer
Jack in the Box Profit Falls 32.3%
Karen Robinson-Jacobs, Times Staff Writer
Analyst Was Asked to Reevaluate AT&T
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Homestore to Join SmallCap Market to Avoid Delisting
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Taubman Rejects Takeover Offer From Simon Property
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Brokerage Arbitration Dispute Goes to Court
E. Scott Reckard, Times Staff Writer
Arizona's Mackovic Vows to Change His Approach
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Injury Puts San Clemente in Hot Water
Martin Henderson, From Staff Reports
Free-Agent Questions Are Simply Continuous
Elliott Teaford, Times Staff Writer
Maybe They'll Give Him a USC Refresher Curse
T.J. Simers
Now You Know
Former Agent Sues Kings
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U.S. Gets Victory in Youth Play
Grahame L. Jones, Times Staff Writer
Off Day Follows Off Night
Tim Brown, Times Staff Writer
Bobbin Lee Goes After Fifth Victory in a Row
Thrashers No Longer in League's Basement
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Still Plenty of Road Work Left
Jerry Crowe, Times Staff Writer
Red Wings' Fischer Out at Least 4 Months
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Rams List Faulk as Questionable
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Pick Six, Tizbud Get Attention
Dallas Keeps Rolling Along
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Hollywood Park Plan Put on Hold
Bill Christine
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Hewitt, Agassi, Safin Beaten at Masters
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Bol Will Soon Be Klutz in New Sport
Mal Florence
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We hired a cab from Shiraz to Persepolis. The driver sent us for breakfast in the city and it was about half past ten by the time we left Shiraz. We did not communicate much with the cab driver for he spoke very little English. Most of the time my Iranian friend was narrating to us about the city of Shiraz and the archaeological sites in Persepolis we were about to visit. Along the way to Persepolis I saw several huge posters of Iranian men lined on the highways and out of curiosity I asked, "Who are they?" I was told that those are portraits of the martyrs in the 8 years Iran-Iraq War from 1980 to 1988, thus making it the longest conventional war in the 20th. century.
|Can't stand the heat!
The journey from Shiraz to Persepolis (about 58km) took us more than an hour and by the time we arrived in Persepolis it was almost noon and the heat was getting intense. I can feel it on my skin and even the hat would not help much. We had to walk up the ancient site quite far from where the cab dropped us. All we saw were just ruins and stones which tell a story of the ancient Persia that was once ruled by the Romans in 2 million BC.
Persepolis may not be a place of interest to everybody because apart from the ruins, there are not much to see unless you are such a great fan of archaeology.
Founded by Darius in 518 BC, Persepolis was invaded and burnt by Alexander the Great in 331. Persepolis was declared the UNESCO World Heritage Site in 1979. There were many locals flooding the ancient ruins, be it for nostalgic purposes or pride of the past. Persepolis bears an important chapter of the Persian history in particular.
In the scorching heat we walked through the sites and it was really tiring that we need to stop for a cool glass of ice cream and faludeh in a small cafe next to the museum. From the cafe we decided to walk back and call the cab to pick us up. We should have come earlier in the morning to avoid the heat but anyway, just a few hours in Persepolis to have a taste of this ancient history is sufficient.
|A site near the museum
|Tall columns all over the site
|Huge rocks formed the horse sculpture
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Effects of Domestic Violence on the Family
The purpose of this session(s) is to understand the effects of domestic violence on children and to learn ways to talk to and listen to them about their experience of domestic violence. In addition we will learn to understand how domestic violence affects you as a parent. We will review suggestions for parenting children who have witnessed domestic violence. Lastly, we will look at support and resources available to you and your family.
How do children feel when violence is in their home?
- Scared
- Powerless
- Confused
- Helpless
- Angry
- Self-blaming
- Anxious
- Guilty about loving the abusive parent
- Guilty about not protecting abused parent
- Worried about the future
- Worried about possible loss of a parent
- Insecure
- Hopeless
- Split down the middle
- Numb
What do children learn when violence is in their home?
- Other people are responsible for my behavior
- I am responsible for other peoples' behavior
- Men have the right to control women
- Violence is an appropriate way to solve problems
- My mother is to blame for my father's violence
- The violence is my mother's fault
- Women have no rights
- My mother can't protect me
- Nothing is safe
- Domestic violence is normal
- Intimidation is the way to get what you want
- Other people have the right to abuse me
- My father's violence is my fault
- It's OK to abuse my mother
How do children act when violence is in their home?
- Regress: bedwetting, whining, temper tantrums
- Earlier childhood fears return
- Aggressive to other kids, brothers and sisters, pets
- Treat Mom like Dad treats her
- Experience problems concentrating
- Easily distracted
- Fight at school
- Get bad grades
- Lie, steal
- Withdraw and unusual shyness
- Forgetful
- Have trouble sleeping
- Very anxious
- Physical illness: stomach aches, nausea, headaches
- Easily startled
- Unable to play
- Highly sensitive to noise
- Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) symptoms
How can parents help their children who witnessed domestic violence?
Many parents say that the experience of domestic violence didn't affect their children. They may see that their children are acting "normal," doing well in school, and playing with their friends.
It is important to understand that children learn to define themselves and to understand the world around them from what they observe at home. When very young children start to understand the idea of "ME" they watch their Mom and their Dad, or whomever is taking care of them. A child begins to develop her concept of "ME" from how each of her parents interacts with her, and how her parents interact with each other. She defines herself as "Like Mom" and "Like Dad," and "Like Mom and Dad."
Many other people and experiences contribute to a child's idea of "ME," including brothers and sisters, friends, teachers, other family members, etc., but a child's sense of self begins to develop at home. This is the child's self that begins to interact with the outside world.
With that being said, a child's emotional recovery from exposure to domestic violence depends more on the quality of their relationship to the non-offending parent than any other factor. The presence of a healthy parent or adult in the life of a child can greatly influence a child's ability to heal from trauma.
A Word about Brain Development:
In order to continue growth & development children adapt to chronic stress and threat, but it affects brain development. Children's adaptation to this fear can alter the development of the child's brain, resulting in changes in physiological, emotional, behavioral, cognitive and social functioning.
Children usually respond to chronic stress with a combination of the following 2 responses:
Hyperarousal Response: Most often the response used by children and adolescents. It is a flight or fight response to stress & threat. It may look like frustration, impulsivity, irritability, aggression, and violent behavior.
Dissociation Response: Most often the response used by infants and young children to cope with violence. It includes distraction, avoidance, numbing, daydreaming, and fantasy. It may seem that a child is just carrying on as normal and not reacting at all to family violence.
What can a parent do?
- Talk about it with them when they are ready
- Listen to them
- Talk about their feelings
- Show understanding
- Let them know it's not their fault
- Let them talk, if they want to
- Let them know you love them
- Let them know you will try to keep them safe/act in a way that is safe
- Let them know the violence is not okay
- Acknowledge it's hard/scary for them
- Accept that they may not be willing or able to talk about it right away
- Always act in a way that is non-threatening and non-violent with your kids
- Take them to counseling if they need it
- Set limits respectfully when your child is acting violent (to be discussed further in a later session.)
- Don't expect your child to respond immediately.
How Denial Affects Kids-
- Child learns that the violence is normal
- Child is afraid to talk about the violence
- Child is confused, doesn't understand
- Blames her/himself
- Learns to deny and not to talk about their own feelings
- Makes them feel like they are crazy
- Makes them feel lonely, isolated from their friends
- Learns that it's not OK to ask about the violence or discuss it
- Gives children unrealistic beliefs about the causes of the violence
*It's a lot scarier for kids when no one ever talks to them about the violence.
What are some obstacles you face in trying to talk to your kids about violence?
Could it be some of the things on this list?
- I feel uncomfortable.
- I'm scared to bring it up.
- I don't know what to say.
- I don't have time.
- I'm embarrassed.
- I'm afraid I'll make things worse.
- I don't think it's such a big deal.
- It's over now, why talk about it.
- I don't want them to hate their Dad/Mom.
- They won't understand.
- They didn't know it happened.
- They are too young to hear about it.
- They'll just be more scared.
- They'll tell other people.
How to overcome barriers:
- Be patient. Don't push it. Try another time. They usually hear you anyway.
- Acknowledge that it may be uncomfortable for you to talk about the violence. Try to get more comfortable by talking to someone you trust.
- Acknowledge that it may be scary for you to remember the violence. It's scary for your kids, too. Once you start talking, it may feel less scary.
- Acknowledge that saying that you don't have time is probably because it's difficult, or you don't feel capable of talking to your child about it.
Benefits of talking to kids about the violence:
- Children feel safer.
- They learn that violence isn't their fault.
- They learn that violence isn't an OK way to solve problems,
- It helps them to feel cared for, and understood.
- Children learn that it's OK to talk about feelings.
Emotional Needs of Children Who Have Witnessed Domestic Violence
Child's Emotion: Fear
- Fear of those they love in their own home, where they should feel most safe
Child needs to:
- Be able to talk to someone they trust about their feelings
- Learn ways to keep themselves safe and to know they have a plan for what to do when there is violence
- Have a feeling of control in the situation ("I will go over to my neighbors when it happens")
Child's Emotion: Anger
- Anger at the abuser, or at the survivor for not leaving the situation
Child needs to:
- Know that it is normal and okay to feel angry about this
- Be able to talk about the feelings with someone they trust
- Express their anger in non-destructive ways
Child's Emotion: Mixture of anger and love
- Feeling torn between feelings of anger and love toward the abuser. Feeling guilty for both feelings
Child needs to:
- Learn that it's okay to feel both anger and love toward someone
- Know it is okay to love their parent even when they hate the behavior they see
- Know they are not bad if they love the abuser
Child's Emotion: Confusion about being able to love both parents
- Feeling they need to take sides (e.g. "if I love Mom, I can't love Dad" and vice versa)
Child needs to:
- To know that it is okay to love both parents at the same time
Child's Emotion: Loss
- Loss of a healthy, safe family
- Loss of one parent if they leave (or the constant threat of this)
- Loss of comfort in the home
Child needs to:
- Talk about feelings with someone they trust
- Develop a support system of extended family or friends outside the home
Child's Emotion: Guilt/Responsibility
- Guilt for causing the violence, or not stopping it somehow
- Responsible for preventing the violence, and taking care of Mom and the family
Child needs to:
- Understand that the violence is not their fault, and that it is an adult problem for the adults to work out.
Child's Emotion: Feeling life is unpredictable (never knowing when a crisis will erupt)
- Feeling vulnerable on a daily basis, with no power or control about what will happen
Child needs to:
- Find areas in their lives where they can have control and make plans and decisions
- Create a safety plan with someone they trust
- Create some structure and stability wherever possible (creating daily routines that provide a sense of control)
Talking to Children about Domestic Violence
What Children Need to Hear About Domestic Violence from the Survivor
- It's not okay.
- It's not your fault.
- It must be scary for you.
- I will listen to you.
- You can tell me how you feel; it is important
- I'm sorry you had to see/hear it.
- You do not deserve to have this in your family.
- I will keep you safe.
- There is nothing you could have done to prevent/change it.
- We can talk about what to do to keep you safe if it happens again. (For example, staying in your room, going to neighbors, etc., which will be discussed in detail in safety session).
- I care about you. You are important.
How has your child responded when you try to talk to her or him about violence?
Common Responses:
- Ignore you
- Change the subject; for example, "I'm hungry"
- Blame you; for example, "If you were nicer to him, he wouldn't hit you," or "You should have done what he said"
- Put her hands over her ears
- Act out aggressively towards belongings
- Run to her room and slam the door
- Say "Don't worry, Mom," and try to cheer you up
- Hit you.
- Listen quietly, without saying anything
- Say, "It's no big deal"
What kinds of feelings do you think a child feels during this?
Listening is key!
How to Listen:
- Don't interrupt.
- Look at the person who is talking.
- Give them your full attention, if possible.
- Answer in a way that lets them know you are listening.
- Don't express an opinion or say that the other person is right or wrong.
- Let them know you understand their point of view.
- Being a good listener takes effort and practice. Try to hear what the person is saying, even if you don't agree.
How to Not Listen:
- Don't look at the person speaking
- Interrupt him
- Correct him
- Give advice
- Tell her she is wrong
- Tell her not to feel what she is feeling
- Change the subject
- Ask a lot of questions
Tips for Listening For and Accepting Feelings
Learning to listen can be difficult. Here are some tips:
- Listen for the feeling you hear.
- Let them know you hear them. Say, "It seems like you feel ________."
- Don't say anything else. Allow some time for the child to respond.
- Don't tell your child what to do, how to feel better, or why he feels the way he does.
After your child has had time to respond, you can let her know you understand by saying things like
- That sounds frustrating, hard, etc.
- Sometimes I feel that way, too.
- I understand.
- I'm here for you if you want to talk about it now, or later.
Safety Planning With Your Children
When safety planning with kids, it is important to let them know that they are NOT responsible for the violence, and they can NOT stop it.
1. Talk to your child about violence in your family
2. Identify a person or people who could help
- Ask her who she thinks could help her, and whether she would feel comfortable asking that person.
3. Children should know that:
- The safety plan may not always work.
- It's not their fault if it fails.
4. Help your child to identify warning signs for abusive behavior
5. Identify ways the child can stay safe
- Go to their room
- Leave the house and go somewhere safe: a neighbor's house, a relative's house, or outside
- Stay out of the way
- Dial 911 if there is a phone where their Dad can't hear them
- Don't ever try to physically stop the violence
Here are a few questions to consider when examining your own parenting preferences and styles.
- What was it like when you were a kid?
- What have you learned from your parents on parenting?
- How is parenting/discipline seen in your culture?
- How does your culture view the role of the parent?
- How does your culture view the role of the child?
- What are you currently doing now for discipline methods? Is it working?
- How do you define your role as a parent?
- Do religious beliefs or faith play a role in how you discipline your child?
- Do you have support from your faith-based network?
Think of ways Domestic Violence affects your role as a Parent, both during and after the relationship with the batterer.
- Overly permissive
- Overprotective of children at times when they don't need her protection
- Unable to pay enough attention to the children because she is overwhelmed by the violence
- Afraid of what will happen when children misbehave in front of Dad
- Rescues children from Dad's discipline/abuse
- Has difficulty maintaining structure or routines because of the violence
- Unable to contain anger at the batterer, and turns it on the kids
- Stress and fatigue leaves little energy for the children
- Abusing drugs/alcohol as a way to cope with the violence
- Gives children whatever they want because she feels guilty
- Afraid to discipline because the batterer has threatened to report her to CPS or sue her for custody of the children
How does Domestic Violence affect the way children act towards their Mom?
- View their Mom the way the abuser labels her (stupid, crazy, etc.)
- View their Mom as weak because she "takes" Dad's abuse
- Don't respect Mom
- Don't listen to her
- Put her down
- Use power and control tactics against Mom
- Use physical violence against Mom
- Demand that she do what they want
- Treat her exactly the way the batterer does
- Try to take care of her all the time
Domestic Violence can affect a Mom in a lot of different ways. Lots of Moms who have been battered experience the following:
- Self-blame for the violence and its impact on their children
- Loss of respect from the children and loss of leadership with them
- Feelings towards the batterer that come out at the kids
- High levels of anxiety and stress in daily life
- Fear of leaving the batterer because of the impact on the children
Many battered women who are Moms not only blame themselves for the violence, but also for the problems their children might be experiencing as a result. When a parent feels badly about their child's painful or difficult experiences, a normal reaction is to be easy on the children to make up for the hardship. In some situations, it is very appropriate to be easy on them; for example, when a child falls down and gets a cut and a bad bruise on her knee, most parents would not expect her to do her chores that afternoon. When a parent always feels badly or guilty about their child's experiences, permissive behavior becomes a pattern.
Establishing Leadership with Your Children
Usually when we blame ourselves and act overly permissive with our kids, our intentions are good. We want to compensate for the fact that our kids have been through so much. But when we don't set any limits with our kids, or we let them act disrespectfully, we are not helping them.
When we fail to set limits, we may get angry and resentful at our kids for the way they act. We find ourselves getting "fed-up" and we may become too punitive.
When we are inconsistent in limit-setting, kids become confused. They learn that they don't have to respect limits or be responsible for their behavior. They may have learned from Dad that being abusive to family members is acceptable, and helps you get your way.
Many parents use physical punishment (spankings, whippings, slaps, etc.) to try to set limits with their children. For children who have witnessed domestic violence, physical punishment can be damaging.
Ways to promote stability and security in your child:
- Encourage your children: Notice your children's positive qualities and let them know that you appreciate these.
- Set clear limits: Set limits that are reasonable and appropriate to your children's ages, to help them feel valued and secure.
- Listen carefully: Pay attention to what your children say, and let them know you hear what they are saying.
- Be affectionate: Hug, kiss, pat, and smile at your children. Tell them you care for them.
- Allow them to solve problems: Encourage your children to solve problems and make some decisions for themselves.
- Communicate respectfully: Share your feelings, expectations and needs with your children in a way that is respectful.
- Promote independence: Allow your children to play independently in a safe environment.
- Spend time with your kids: Reading together, talking and listening, or playing together helps children feel cared for.
- Arrange for new activities in which your child can succeed: Set up new activities for your children that they enjoy, like playing sports on a team, taking music lessons, etc., so that your children learn new skills and gain confidence in themselves.
- Be a positive, non-violent role model for your children: Maintaining safe, reliable interaction with your children and their other parent can help them develop self-esteem.
- Let your children know they are capable: Allow your children to have responsibilities and let them know you have confidence in them.
- Let your children know they are worthy of love just for who they are, not related to their behavior: Tell them you like them, enjoy them, appreciate them, etc., without relating it to their behavior.
Reasons to avoid corporal punishment, especially with children from domestic violence households:
- Hitting teaches hitting
- Ineffective in responding to needs of child
- Distracts child from learning to resolve conflict
- Ruling with fear instead of love & respect
- Can escalate to abuse
- Might makes right?
- Parent is modeling aggressive behavior in problem solving
Strengthening Your Support System
Isolation is a tactic that many batterers use to control their partners. Many women who have been battered find themselves cut off from family and friends, from coworkers and neighbors. Think of ways you've been isolated.
We can do a better job of helping our kids when we feel strong and supported ourselves.
Support comes in many forms: people we can talk to; family members and friends who can help with our kids; counseling or women's groups where we can share experiences of being battered, and share our struggles of co-parenting with a man who has abused us; connecting with people in our faith-based network; drug/alcohol programs where we can get help for chemical dependency. What are your obstacles to expanding your support network?
What resources are available for parent survivors of domestic violence?
1. Lending library at Tahoe SAFE Alliance
2. Talk to your therapist or your child's therapist about parenting concerns related to family violence
3. Parenting classes are available through the Family Resource Center of Truckee and the North Tahoe Family Resource Center.
4. Internet resources: tons of research on family violence, child development, and parenting information
5. Support Groups at Tahoe SAFE Alliance or online support groups
6. Peer counseling at Tahoe SAFE Alliance


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