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INCEST - The Family Secret After much prayer the writer has chosen to remain anonymous in respect for the other members of her family, and because of the relationships she is trying to rebuild. SEXUAL ABUSE WITHIN FAMILY CIRCLES IS ONE OF THE WORST KINDS OF CRIMES. IF A THIEF BROKE INTO YOUR HOME AND STOLE SOME OF YOUR POSSESSIONS, YOU WOULD IMMEDIATELY REPORT IT TO THE POLICE. BUT WHAT IF SOMEONE WAS ABLE TO BREAK INTO YOUR LIFE AND STEAL YOUR FEELINGS OF SELF WORTH, CRIPPLE YOUR ABILITY TO TRUST OTHERS, AND BEAT YOU DOWN UNTIL YOU WERE BRUISED WITH FEAR? WHAT IF YOU WERE A CHILD, AND THAT "SOMEONE" WAS YOUR FATHER OR BROTHER OR GRANDFATHER OR UNCLE? I WAS FIVE YEARS OLD THE FIRST TIME I REMEMBER ANYTHING SEXUAL HAPPENING BETWEEN MY DAD AND ME. THE MOMENT HE TOLD ME, "DON'T TELL," I KNEW THAT WHAT DADDY WAS DOING WAS WRONG! I CAN'T REMEMBER HOW OFTEN THESE ENCOUNTERS HAPPENED, BUT I DO REMEMBER HOW I FEARED AND HATED THEM! THE AWKWARDNESS, THE REPULSION, AND THE RESENTMENT... Incest may be the one secret that holds its victims in the tightest chains of all. Confusion, guilt, and fear create a dungeon from which there seems to be no escape. The nightmare of incest lasted nine years for me, yet even after the physical abuse ended I was still a prisoner. For years I tried to deny what happened, hoping I could make it all go away. But like someone caught in quicksand, the harder I struggled, the deeper I sank ... until I finally found the One Hand that could pull me out from my pit of torment. What Is Incest? First, I want to clarify what incest is not. When speaking of sexual abuse, I'm not talking about normal physical affection between parents and kids. Hand holding, hugs, kisses, and good-natured fooling around are all essential ingredients in a loving family. Without healthy affection, parents and children alike will miss much of the warmth and security that God intends family members to express to each other. Incest is something altogether different. In its strictest definition, incest is sexual intercourse between people who are too closely related to marry. It also includes other sexual acts such as fondling, molestation, and exhibitionism, since these too leave deep and lasting emotional scars. In my case my father was the offender, but it can often be another family member. Abuse by stepparents or close family friends also falls into this category because of the child's trusting relationship with them. Sexual abuse happens in families of every social, economic, and ethnic background - not just among the poor and unreligous. Many molesters appear to be upstanding members of their community and church. Sadly, most cases go unreported, so the full extent of this problem remains hidden. Of all known sexual abuse, 75% is committed by the children's own parents. The victims are usually girls between 8 and 12, with 20% under seven.1 There are also many young boys abused by both men and women. One girl out of four and one boy out of ten will be sexually assaulted at least once by the age of 18 - and for those trapped in the nightmare of incest, the average period of abuse is seven years.2 The hurt and long-term effects are understandably alarming. In recent studies, 70% of the prison inmates and 90% of the prostitutes interviewed had been molested as children.3 "Don't Tell!" Physical force or severe threats are rarely needed to take advantage of children, or keep them from telling. Though innocent, they feel dirty, ashamed, and "different," sensing the wrongness of the situation. As a young child, I was too afraid to tell anyone what was going on. Even at 18, when a very trusted friend asked me if my father ever abused me, I strongly stated that he hadn't! I didn't want to embarrass my dad or myself. Shame and fear work together to keep a strangle-hold on a child's ability to call out for help. The fear of losing daddy's love, breaking up the family, or telling and not being believed is enough to keep most children quiet. Abusers become experts at manipulating these young emotions: "If you tell, I won't love you anymore" or "Mommy will leave if she finds out." One woman shares, "I was trapped. My father threatened to leave if I didn't do what he asked. He'd left once before and Mom had a breakdown. I couldn't risk that."4 But there's a deeper reason children don't tell. Incest is much, much more than the violation of a child's body. It's the ultimate betrayal of their trust in the very people who are supposed to be their protectors, comforters, and closest friends. While they are suffering perhaps the most severe form of emotional abuse, their loyalty and love for their abuser make it nearly impossible for them to speak up. When a child does get up enough courage to tell someone, many times their parents or friends respond to their claim with horror, disbelief, judgment, or denial. One woman recalls, "I'm 45 years old. My grandfather molested me until I was 13 and told me never to tell anyone. I can vividly remember telling my mother when I was 10 that I didn't want to visit my grandparents anymore because my grandfather touched me. Mother said, 'Don't be silly.' Neither she or my grandmother did anything. The guilt I've felt! How do I keep from hating my family for this?"5 AFFLICTED, BROKEN-HEARTED, AND CAPTIVE...I OPENED MY HEART TO JESUS ONCE AGAIN, AND AS I GAVE MY LIFE TO HIM, HE STARTED A WONDERFUL HEALING IN MY HEART. My Own Story People may say "Silence is Golden," but not the silence that was between my dad and me. When anything sexual happened, I began pretending I was asleep - but we both knew I wasn't. This "sleeping" made things easier for me. Since I supposedly wasn't conscious I didn't have to deal with the situation. The next day was always strange. Silence again. Neither of us acted like anything unnatural had gone on, but it had! I felt trapped. Silence was not golden to me! Silence between my dad and me - silence between me and those who might have helped. I was about 14 when my dad stopped - but unfortunately, things didn't stop there for me! The secret visits of the past haunted me, and my memory became my enemy. Part of me was just a hurt and confused child, but deep inside there was another part - a very angry part! The Rampage of Revenge! By the time I was 15 I was on a course of self-destruction. Drugs, bad friends, and thoughts of suicide filled my life. My dad's abuse left me with some twisted concepts of life in general, including the false idea that the way to be loved, approved of, and accepted by men was through my body. I believed the lie that men only wanted "one thing," and it was my ammunition as I waged my own private war of suspicion and cruelty toward all men. The following years were filled with so many boyfriends that I can't even remember all their names. I'd lure them in through my dress and actions, then abruptly cut them off. I was driven by the burning desire to somehow "get even." My life was a wreck, but I'd just about convinced myself that my dad's abuse would not effect me. But to the contrary, my past controlled me for years. Then, when I was 21 and in the midst of my deepest hurts, my whole life changed. I believed in Jesus as a young child, but walked away from Him in rebellion as I grew older. Now I heard about Jesus again - and how He came to bring Good News to the afflicted, bind up the brokenhearted, and proclaim freedom to the captives. Afflicted, broken-hearted, and captive - I surely qualified! I opened my heart to Jesus once again, and as I gave my life to Him, He started a wonderful healing in my heart. It didn't all happen overnight. My healing has been both a crisis and a process. The crisis was coming to a point of honesty, admitting my true feelings and looking to God for help in dealing with them. The process has been unlearning the wicked lifestyle I had become so good at, and replacing it with right and godly behavior. A little over seven years have gone by since I come to that crisis point, and I'm now free from the pain and hatred that once ruled me. I couldn't have done it without the grace and the power that became mine through a deep relationship with Jesus. I now want to share some of the things the Lord took me through, and perhaps answer some questions you might have, in hopes that it will help some of you who may be hurting at this very moment. You Are Not Responsible If you have suffered through sexual abuse your life has been drastically affected. But however much your experiences may affect your life - they don't have to ruin it! I am living proof of that. For me, I first needed to get rid of my wrong ideas about what happened. Jesus said, "You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32). So let's start with the truth: You are not responsible for the wrong choices of others. All abuse victims struggle with shame, false guilt, and a horrible distortion of self worth. One woman who was raped by her brother said, "Think of the lowest thing in the world, and whatever that is, I'm lower."6 Many feel they must have somehow encouraged the abuse. I wrestled with these things myself. I already felt dirty, because of my father's abuse, and to top it off, he called me ugly names - making me feel like it was all my fault! Another girl shares, "I felt like there was something terribly wrong with me that other children didn't have wrong with them. I knew this didn't happen to everyone. I wondered what made me different. I thought there must be something I did to cause my dad to do this." 7 The fact is, to a child, sexual encounters result in confusion, guilt, repulsion, and shame. It's definitely not the sort of thing a child asks for. After a lot of inner battles, I finally saw the truth: I never would have initiated those encounters on my own. My father decided to pursue a sexual relationship with me. It was his desire, not mine! You must release yourself from any false guilt you may have. I call it "false" because that's what it is. Put away forever the idea that you brought all this misery upon yourself. You were a child and you were a victim. It was not your fault! But I Did Something Wrong Maybe you did something you knew was wrong, and that thing led to your abuse. For example, perhaps Mom told you not to go to Grandpa's but you went anyway, and Grandpa molested you. Or you and your cousins were "playing doctor," and the next thing you knew, your oldest cousin sexually assaulted you. In situations of this type, it's true you may be responsible for doing something wrong - but no matter what situation you got yourself into, you are not to blame for the wrong choices of other people. Look at it this way: If you left $1,000 on the kitchen table and a thief took it, you might feel foolish for leaving the money out, but you didn't cause that person to steal it. The sin was in his heart, and he saw an opportunity to carry out his heart's desires. Someone more trustworthy would have put the money in a safe place until you returned. Your offender's choice to abuse you was just that - his own wrong choice. Someone more trustworthy would not have taken advantage of you no matter how tempting the situation may have been. Maybe You Enjoyed It Probably one of the most difficult things to overcome is the feeling of guilt you have if you ever received any emotional or physical pleasure from what was going on. One woman states, "What my father did made me feel dirty, but so did my own response. I think that caused even more guilt - the fact that there was some pleasure involved. At times it did make me feel good, up to a point. It was a progressive relationship, and in the beginning it was pleasurable. It was attention from my dad. I'm sure all little girls love attention from their dads, and so did I. That attention was special. But then as it progressed it was very frightening and painful, and I felt used and worthless. In the end it all just worked together to give me that feeling of not being a whole, normal person." 8 It's vital for you to understand that feeling some enjoyment does not mean you are abnormal or to blame for the situation. In fact, it appears that many victims have experienced mixed feelings. You can't escape the fact that you live in a physical body designed to respond in certain ways to certain things - and all children want approval and affirmation from authority figures. You may have felt some physical or emotional pleasure at times but this does not mean you consented to be abused. You must get a hold of this truth: You were just a child! Children can be sexually curious at times, but no child seeks out abuse. Where Was God? Have you ever wondered where God was when you were being abused? The Bible tells us, "The eyes of the Lord are in every place, watching the evil and the good" (Proverbs 15:3). The truth is, it broke God's heart to see you suffer such injustice and endure such pain! He loves you more than you know, and even while you were in your mother's womb He wanted you to have a future of knowing His love. But things don't always work out the way God would like them to. Why? Because He gave each of us the freedom to make our own decisions - good and bad. Put away forever the idea that you brought all this misery upon yourself. You were a child and you were a victim. Just as you are not responsible for the wrong choices of others, neither is God. When God gave us the freedom to choose, He ran the risk of us using this freedom to destroy ourselves, and hurt others as well. He never intended for people to be cruel and wickedor for them to shut Him out of their lives. But He's had to watch people inflict pain on each other throughout history. Why doesn't He stop it all? Well, God could at any moment appear and say, "Enough!" He could wipe out every selfish, unkind, and hurtful person from the face of the earth. But where would that leave you and me? Many of us would have dropped like flies years ago without ever finding the love of God. He loves everyone equally and doesn't wish judgment on anyone. If we receive judgment it's because we brought it on ourselves by refusing to yield to the Lord and accept His grace. His last choice is judgment, because it's a final decision. God patiently endures great heartache and gives each of us time in hopes that we will come to see our great need for Him before it's too late. Jesus knows what it's like to suffer innocently and unjustly. He can relate to your pain and He longs to comfort your sorrow. God's unselfish love for us sent His only Son to earth, to suffer and die so we could be forgiven and fully restored to a loving relationship with Him. God's love gave us the grace and the strength to have victory in every situation no matter how hurtful or devastating it may be. There's a story of a father whose son was dying of a terminal illness. At the boy's bedside, he turned to his minister and said, "I have one question for you, and if you can answer it I'll be satisfied. Where is God right now?" The minister thought for a moment, then answered gently, "I believe God is in the same place He was while watching His own Son suffer and die on the cross." Opening the Wound At this very moment God wants to reach down tenderly into that little child's heart of yours - a heart that's been crushed under such a heavy load - and lift your burden. Open your wound of pain and pour out everything you feel to God. Be totally honest and share every hurt with Him. Tell God what happened. Tell Him how it made you feel. He is waiting to heal you and comfort your soul. He is waiting with open arms ... arms longing to hold you and love you. Ask His forgiveness for the things in your own life that you know have been wrong, and let Him cleanse you and heal you. One of the most wonderful promises we have from God is that "the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin" (1 John 1:7). Not only will He forgive and cleanse you from your own sin, but Jesus will cleanse you and heal you from the hurtful effects of other people's sin as well. He's there for you right now, just call out to Him. "Trust in Him at all times, O people; pour out your heart before Him; God is a refuge for us" (Psalm 62:8). Forgive And Live For years I tried to bury my past, but it was like trying to hold a beach ball under water. It works, but not for long! The longer I tried to ignore my abuse and held bitterness in my heart, the more my life fell apart. Why? Because what I had buried, I buried alive! Seven years after my abuse I was a mess and not just because my dad molested me - but also because I refused to forgive him. I used to think no more dad, no more problem! But that wasn't true. A large part of my problem was in my own heart. Unforgiveness keeps us a slave to our past. When we think we have a right to hold a grudge, what we don't see is that our grudge is really holding us! There was no freedom in my life until I realized the ugliness of my own sin. I found it much easier to forgive others once I saw how much I needed forgiveness! The night I finally admitted to myself that I hated my dad, I admitted it to God as well. I wasn't responsible for the abuse I suffered, but I saw I was responsible for my own sin - the rebellion, hatred, and bitterness I allowed to fill my life. I told God I was deeply sorry for all of it, and He was there for me! If a Holy God was willing to show me mercy and forgiveness when I didn't deserve it, how could I withhold forgiveness from my dad? With this understanding, I decided to forgive. It was a choice. It's true, my dad didn't deserve forgiveness ... but none of us do. Forgiveness is a gift. If you want to be healed from the wrong that's been done to you, you must forgive! Getting your own slate clear with God is the first step towards getting it clear with others. The following questions will help you uncover any hurt or unforgiveness you may be feeling or suppressing. Grab a pen and paper, and honestly answer the following: 1) Write down the name(s) of the person who abused you and the things they did that hurt you - sexual or otherwise. 2) What are your honest feelings towards that person? 3) What unloving things have you done to them - in reality and in your thoughts? 4) How are your relationships with people of the same sex as your offender? How do you feel about that sex, and how have you treated them? 5) Have you in any way taken out your hurt on someone else or on yourself? This would include self-destructive patterns such as drug or alcohol abuse, depression, suicidal thoughts or attempts, etc. Pray about your answers to these questions and let God show you any areas that He wants to change or heal. Doing The "Impossible!" Some of you might say, "Forgive the person who hurt me? Impossible!" Without God it would be, but Jesus said, "with God all things are possible" (Matt.19:26). When the chains of unforgiveness were broken in my life, I wrote my dad to tell him. I asked him to forgive me for my hatred and rebellion. I also told him that because of Jesus, I totally forgave him. Making things right with those we've wronged is essential in the forgiveness process. Whether you do it in person, by phone, or by letter - it must be done! You may say, "But I was the one wronged!" Yes, that's true, but if you only focus on what "they" did, you'll never be free. Forgiving others is the key to your own freedom. When we refuse to forgive, what we may really be saying is "I'd rather stay hurt and bitter than be healed!" But God is there to comfort you and take away your pain if you will let Him. Walking Free All it takes is the turn of a key to set a prisoner free. But once they're out, there's an awkward and sometimes difficult period of re-adjustment. Forgiveness was the key releasing me from the prison of my past, but I needed to learn some things before I was really adjusted. Because I spent so many years walking in bitterness and resentment, my whole outlook towards men, sex, and relationships needed a total overhaul. I needed to learn to treat men with respect rather than disgust. I needed to change my seductive behavior and learn about modesty and purity. And I needed to start looking to God to discover my true value - believing in His unwavering love and acceptance. Piece by piece, the puzzle continues to fall into place, and by the grace of God I'm now enjoying a happy and productive life, a fulfilling marriage, and the freedom to tell my story, which is something I thought I'd never be able to do. Sure, from time to time the Lord shows me something more that needs to be restored in this area, but the major breakthrough has taken place. I've given my past to the Lord, and I'm thankful He's brought me this far. Now my experiences, instead of just being a hindrance, can be used to help others who are hurting. The Bible says "if any person is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. " (2 Cor.5:17). Jesus has made me a new person and given me a new life. I pray that you will find the same peace in God and forgiveness in your heart as I have. "'For I will restore you to health, and I will heal you of your wounds,' declares the Lord... " (Jer.30:17). 1) Parade Magazine, July 29,1984; Children's Hospital National Medical Center, Washington, D.C. 2) Child Assault Prevention Project, Columbus, OH. 3) King County Rape Crisis Center, Renton, WA. 4) Glamour, November 1981. 5) Ms. Magazine, April 1977. 6) Ladies Home Journal, November 1978. 7) "How Can I Live After Incest?" Kay Arthur, Precept Ministries, Chattanooga, TN. 8) Ibid. "Incest: The Family Secret," (Copyright: 1985 Last Days Ministries) was reprinted from an article in The Last Days Magazine. For more information contact Last Days Ministries, Box 40, Lindale, TX 75771. Unforgiveness keeps us a slave to our past. When we think we have a right to hold a grudge, what we don't see is that our grudge is really holding us! ................. The above article was taken from "Acts" magazine, October 1996, a publication of the Churches of God, 7th Day, Meridian, ID. USA SETTING THE CAPTIVES FREE The following pages are devoted to giving further help and instruction to current victims of abuse, for whom there is help; their abusers, for whom there is hope; and for parents and responsible, caring citizens everywhere - who must look, listen, and become involved. Is Someone Abusing You Right Now? IF YOU'RE BEING SEXUALLY OR PHYSICALLY ABUSED, YOU MUST DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT RIGHT NOW! YOU NEED TO TELL SOMEONE IMMEDIATELY AND KEEP TELLING UNTIL YOU GET THE HELP YOU NEED. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WILL BELIEVE Y0U - AND THEY WILL HELP YOU. THERE IS A WAY OUT OF THE NIGHTMARE YOU ARE IN! IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHO TO TURN TO, YOU CAN CALL CHILDHELP, THE NATIONAL CHILD ABUSE HOTLINE: I-800-422-4453. IT IS FREE TO CALL THEIR NUMBER FROM ANY PHONE IN THE UNITED STATES. IF YOU CAN'T DIAL BY YOURSELF, JUST CALL 0 FOR THE TELEPHONE OPERATOR AND ASK HER TO GET THE NUMBER FOR YOU. YOU CAN CALL DAY OR NIGHT, SEVEN DAYS A WEEK, AND THEY WILL GET YOU HELP. For those of you in other countries, call your local Police Department or Social Service Agency. And again, KEEP TELLING until you get the help you need! Hope For The Abuser Child abuse is a devastating sin, but it's not unforgivable. If you've abused someone there's an incredible burden of guilt and shame that weighs heavily on you. Your life has been affected as well. Your guilt cannot be hidden behind drugs, alcohol, or lies, and it cannot be erased by just determining to "cope" with it. Whether it's in the past or something you're still practicing, you need the deliverance that only God can give you. You can't just "fix up" your old life, you need a brand new life from Jesus. You have been a slave to your appetites, but you can be set free if you are willing to pay the price. Though your actions have been wrong, there is somewhere you can go to be healed. There is only one way to deal with this problem. The Bible says, "He who conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will find compassion" (Proverbs 28:13). God wants to forgive you and pour out His compassion on you. He's the only One that can bring true peace and cleansing to your heart. But you must bring this problem out into the open. First confess it to God, then to a trusted Christian counselor. If you are married, you will need to tell your mate as well, or your relationship will be based on lies. Then with all your heart, you must follow through with a decision to turn from your sin, and towards God. "Let the wicked forsake his way, and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord, and HE WILL HAVE COMPASSION ON HIM ... HE WILL ABUNDANTLY PARDON" (Isaiah 55:7). God delights in being merciful, and He is calling out to you right now. He says, "Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn form Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you shall find rest for your soul (Matt.11:28-29). Jesus wants to give you strength to overcome the power of sin in your life. There is nothing too hard for the Lord. He loves you just as much as He loves those you have hurt. He knows you are hurt too. You are a precious child to Him and He longs to cleanse you, heal you, and fully make you His own. Admit your guilt to the Lord, asking Him to forgive you, and allow Jesus to be the Lord of your life. For continued help and support, get involved with your local church or fellowship, and commit yourself to be accountable to at least one mature counselor of the same sex to openly share your heart, your past, and your prayers with on a regular basis. If you're already attending a church, you need to go to your pastor immediately and be totally honest. Parents United is a secular organization that helps parents who have abused, or fear they will abuse, their children--physically, emotionally, or sexually. To find the nearest chapter or group in your area, just call 1-800-422-4453. Our Responsibility How would you want others to respond if your were a child caught in the snare of sexual abuse? Jesus said, "Whatever you want others to do for you, do so for them" (Matthew 7:12) If you know or suspect sexual abuse in your family or anywhere else, you must do something about it. So many have chosen to "look the other way" that the government has made a law about it: If you know of a child abuse situation, you are legally responsible to report it to the authorities. If you don't report it, you are breaking the law! "...do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them" (Ephesians 5:11). Child abuse is rarely an isolated incident, and unless legal pressure is brought to bear, the abuser may go on for years abusing generations of children. If you're not sure where to start, you can call the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. You don't have to give your name when you call. They can answer any questions you have, and assist you in contacting local help. Signs of Child Abuse It's easy to ignore signs that "something" might be wrong, but ignoring things won't change them. We don't want to breed undue suspicion, but this is a widespread problem and just being sensitive to things that seem out of place may mean the difference between a child's freedom or continued abuse. Each situation is different, but the following things indicate some problems in general and could be warning signs of sexual abuse: 1) Unusual shyness or privacy regarding the body. Not wanting to undress in front of others at proper times may indicate feelings of an "unclean body," or an attempt to hide tell-tale physical marks. 2) Sudden, extreme changes in behavior, such as reverting to bedwetting or thumb-sucking, withdrawal, loss of appetite, nightmares, running away, failing in school, or a fear of adults, a particular person or place. 3) Unusual interest or knowledge of sexual matters, or expressing affection in ways inappropriate for a child that age. If a child is found instructing other children in sex-related play, he or she may be reenacting their own real life situation. 4) Torn or stained underclothing. Bleeding, abrasions, or swelling of the genitals or mouth. 5) Take note if you notice anyone showing affection to a child that appears sexual in nature, or making remarks about the child's body that seems out of order in terms of sexual attractiveness, etc. If you discover an abusive situation, or if a child tells you they've been abused, it's very important that you offer loving support and reassurance. First of all, believe what they say. Children almost never lie about these things. Be careful about your own reaction because a child can misinterpret your disgust or dismay as being directed towards them. Tell them that they didn't do anything wrong, and that you are glad they told you. Finally, get help for the situation immediately. Protecting Your Children The key ingredient for protecting your children is open and honest communication with them in all areas - not just on the subject of sexual abuse. It's important your children know they can come talk to you about anything. Make time each day to find out how your kids are doing and what they are feeling - and be sure to really listen. It's best when children learn about life in a natural, godly, relaxed way - in terms appropriate for their age. As they grow we teach them names for their eyes, hands, and feet - but we may fail to teach them about the "private parts" of their body. This can create a feeling of wrongness about what God designed to be beautiful. Your children will learn about sex from someone. The question is who, and when. If you don't inform children, they might be easier victims because they can be told "all the kids do this" and not know any differently. Seek God's wisdom and timing, but in general, if a child is old enough to ask, he's old enough to be told in terms he can handle and understand. Training a child to always obey every adult can be dangerous. Your child needs to know that if an adult is asking them to do something they think is wrong or they feel "funny" about, it's okay to say "no" until they check with you. Also, forcing your child to hug and kiss "Uncle Charlie" or others when they don't want to can be damaging. The message is: My authorities say I'm supposed to submit myself to things that are distasteful or uncomfortable to me. Children need to sense your protection. Remember, almost all child abuse is done by people the children know. Teach your children that if someone ever says, "Don't tell," "Mommy will be mad," or "It's a secret," they should come and tell you right away. Let them know you'll be glad they told you ... and be sure you are. One particularly helpful concept is to talk to children about "good touch," "bad touch," and "confusing touch." You can simply explain: "Good touches" make you feel good; like hugs from mommy, petting your dog, or holding hands with daddy. "Bad touches" make you feel bad; like if a friend hits you, or if you are kicked at school. "Confusing touches" might start out good, but then make you feel bad or funny inside; like if you were sitting on someone's lap and then they started touching you in places you didn't like. Or if someone asked you to touch them somewhere that was scary for you. Talk about these things with your children. Teach them that they always have the right to say "NO!" - and to come tell you about it right away. A child needs to know that God made his body and that it's beautiful. But God gave his body to him, and he doesn't have to let anyone touch this body in ways that make him feel funny, afraid, or bad. "Setting the Captives Free," (Copyright: 1985 Last Days Ministries) was reprinted from an article in The Last Days Magazine. For more information contact Last Days Ministries, Box 40, Lindale, TX 75771. Further Resources "Protecting Your Children From Sexual Assault" - This kit includes two excellent, Christian-based workbooks ("Little Ones Workbook" and "Parents Teaching Guide") to help parents and children learn how to deal with nsexual abuse. Order from: Little Ones Books, P.O. Box 1805, Buffalo, NY 14231; (716) 6320500. "Child Protection Guide" - A publication with a focus on reforming our laws to enforce punishment for this offense and providing protection for the abused. For quantity prices, order from: Dick Key, P.O. Box 5282, Santa Rosa, CA 95402-5282; (707) 5782374. "Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Resources" - Catalog of many different available resources; National Committee for Prevention of Child Abuse, 332 S. Michigan Ave. #1600, Chicago, IL 60604-4357; (312) 663-3520. "He Told Me Not to Tell" - Insightful booklet on the sexual abuse of children with information for anyone concerned. Especially good for helping parents talk to their children; Order from: King County Sexual Assault Resource Center, P.O. Box Renton, WA 98055; (206) 226-5062. Be an intercessor on behalf of these innocent and unsuspecting children. Pray that these crimes will be revealed, and the abusers along with the abused released to healing and freedom in the Lord. .................... The above article appeared in "ACTS" magazine, October 1996, a publication of the Churches of God, 7th Day, Meridian, ID. USA.
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First time EVER trying crepes! I thanked God for such wonderful food ideas He has given us : ) Made Ham and Parmesan crepes….absolutely Delicious!!
These are wonderful and will become a regular part of my repertoire. I used achira flour (similar to arrowroot), and ghee instead of coconut oil. Yum!
I've never heard of achira flour. I'll have to look it up and see where one gets such a thing!
What temperature do you use for cooking, and does it really only take 2-3 seconds per side? I couldn't get mine to brown or flip, even after increasing the time to a few minutes per side. (FYI, I used size Large eggs, and subbed tapioca flour for the arrowroot powder.) Thanks!
This is an incredible recipe! Thank you so much!! The simplicity paired with the deliciousness and excellent texture makes this a fantastic go-to for me. Very impressive. Thank you!!!!!
Can I use almond flour instead?
Almond flour is a very different flour. It doesn't absorb much and adds oil. If you give it a try please let us know how it turns out.
I don't have arrowroot powder, could I use Tapioca or cassava flour instead. Thanks for the recipe!
Yes, either will work. Tapioca will make it have a more "springy" texture.
After visiting France, my only sadness moving onto Paleo was zero crepe! Well these are just as good! Thank you South for this recipe. We serve ours with lemon curd and whipped coconut cream
I agree, these are real deal, just like I used to make with my mom in the old days. Thank you so much for this recipe!
I used coconut nectar instead of stevia and it worked fine, next time i'll leave it out because i don't mind my crepes to be a bit bland, toppings (my fav is coconut cream&berries) are sweet enough.
These crepes are REALLY good…not just good paleo crepes, good crepes by any standard! We left out the stevia and stuffed ours with leftover pork roast and gravy, with sautéed bok choy on the side, but they would be awesome with any kind of filling (sweet filling with the stevia). Delicious dinner!

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Yeah, many people here don't have the first clue about weapon terminology. I have been trying for years; I recommend you give up or risk your sanity.
However, there are some 'true' semis out there. DJ linked a couple of the better ones below.
Semi-Auto guns aren't really semi-auto? Answered
I'm somewhat new at this knex stuff, but I built several guns already. I first search what I want to build; for example, if I want to build a "semi-auto pistol" I type in that. Whatever looks cool as the main picture for the instructables is selected in a new tab. Thus, the comments and rating helps me proceed to 'filter' the good stuff and the bad stuff. I like knex, as well as this site. But what's bugging me is that I'm not too sure that people know what 'semi-auto' really is.
I don't want to be offensive or anything, but it's really ticking me off. I'm trying to find a gun that's semi-auto, meaning: A type of firearm that fires a single bullet each time the trigger is pulled, automatically ejects the spent cartridge, chambers a fresh cartridge from its magazine, and is immediately ready to fire another shot. So, in knex terms: A gun that fires a single bullet, loads the bullet automatically, with the rod automatically pulled back.
I'm sure plenty of people have done this before. Search for semi-automatic knex guns in the search bar. See the title 'REAL semi-auto knex gun!!!!1'. See a really nice gun, think it's awesome and stuff. Then when you finish building it, you use it and you have to pull back the rod manually. It seems that semi-auto on this site is really a gun with a magazine and a rubber band to push the bullets in the mag up or a mag pusher. But in reality, it's not.
We need to make up a name or something to show to someone what's the difference between semi-auto and semi-manual.
PS: If you know any guns that have a real semi-auto function to it, can you PM me or comment below? Thanks :)
PSS: I added the '1' up there as exaggeration.. though some people actually do that, smh..
Yeah, many people here don't have the first clue about weapon terminology. I have been trying for years; I recommend you give up or risk your sanity.
Oh boy here we go.
We already have semi-auto guns that don't require pin pullback. Check out Oodalumps's semi-autos (He has one on Ibles and 2 on KI), and Kinetic made a semi-auto with a horizontal mag in a forum topic. There's more but I can't think of them right now.


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WARNING: Spoilers for "Game of Thrones" below:
It wasn't written in the stars, but possibly on a poster.
Some "Game of Thrones" fans believe the identity of who would eventually become the ruler of Westeros was actually revealed in a promotional image that previewed the very first season of HBO's epic fantasy drama.
The picture, below, shows Ned Stark (played by Sean Bean) on the Iron Throne. To his right is a raven. Sunday's last ever episode saw Bran Stark (aka the Three-Eyed Raven) take control of the six kingdoms:
The caption reads, "You win or you die."
Bran ended up winning the "Game of Thrones." Ned, of course, died.
Now, Bran didn't actually follow his father in sitting on the actual Iron Throne after it was obliterated by Drogon the dragon in response to Jon Snow's (Kit Harington) killing of Daenerys Targaryen (Emilia Clarke).
But that hasn't stopped fans from debating the meaning of the bird's appearance on the image, with many hoping it wasn't just a coincidence.


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The Ellis W. Hawley Prize is given annually by the Organization of American Historians to the author of the best book-length historical study of the political economy, politics, or institutions of the United States, in its domestic or international affairs, from the Civil War to the present. The prize honors Ellis W. Hawley, Emeritus Professor of History, University of Iowa, an outstanding historian of these subjects.
Eligible works shall include book-length historical studies, written in English. Each entry must be published during the period January 1, 2019 through December 31, 2019.
The prize will be presented at the 2020 OAH Annual Meeting in Washington, D.C., April 2–5.
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Agoraphobia, an anxiety-related disorder, is usually experienced in conjunction with panic attacks. It's a condition that many people are ashamed to talk about.
But, what does Agoraphobia mean?
What is it and are there ways to cure this condition?
What Does Agoraphobia Mean?
A lot of people are under the misconception that Agoraphobia only means that you are afraid to leave the house.
Although this is one form of Agoraphobia, there is usually more than one fear that contributes to being diagnosed with this condition. These fears are irrational and pathological and can be any combination of the following:
- Fear of open spaces, such as bridges, parks or parking lots.
- Fear of enclosed spaces (also referred to as Claustrophobia), such as elevators, stores or even the movie theater.
- Fear of public transport, such as trains, the bus or taxis.
- Fear of leaving the home.
- Fear of crowded places and standing in lines, such as at festivals, parties or shopping malls.
Basically, when you have Agoraphobia, you fear and want to avoid any place that might make you feel trapped, panicked or helpless and embarrassed. You're scared that you will be in danger and not be able to escape.
The condition usually develops after having a panic attack.
Either the place you were at or the situation you were in triggered it and this caused you to worry about having another one. You end up wanting to avoid any place or situation that may have initiated the panic attack, and so a vicious cycle begins.
Psychological and Physical Symptoms of Agoraphobia
Symptoms of this disorder are generally dealt into two categories and a combination of two or more of them should be present for a period lasting longer than 6 months in order to be diagnosed with Agoraphobia.
Psychological Symptoms
These type of symptoms commonly include, but are not limited to the following fears and feelings:
Being in open, enclosed or crowded spaces
These are the most commonly experienced symptoms for people who are suffering from Agoraphobia. You could be scared of being in large open spaces due to the fact that you are open, exposed and vulnerable to threats.
In the same manner, you could be scared of being in enclosed or crowded spaces as this leaves you unable to escape if any form of danger should present itself to you.
The feelings of fear are very real and can lead you to have a panic attack when you find yourself feeling threatened in any of these situations. The onset of the panic attack could then in turn trigger avoidance of the place where you had the panic attack, leading to further isolation and irrational fears.
Feeling detached from yourself and others
The fancy term for this type of feeling is called Depersonalization.
This term is used to describe feelings of detachment from your body and your thoughts. Like they are not real and everything is a dream. It's quite a scary feeling to not feel in control of your body or thoughts.
Feelings of shame and embarrassment are not uncommon for the Agoraphobia sufferer and often ties in with underlying Social Anxiety disorders.
The fear of ending up in an embarrassing situation or being embarrassed by a panic attack usually drives people suffering from this disorder to avoid these situations entirely.
Being Alone
This term is also known as Monophobia or Autophobia and can significantly influence the state of your life and even cause panic attacks. On some occasions, it may lead to obsessive or depressive thoughts.
The fear of being alone can greatly hinder a person in the sense that they are afraid to go into public spaces alone or leave their house on their own. It's not always possible to have someone by your side at every single minute of every day, so this can cause a lot of problems for the Agoraphobia sufferer.
Fear of Dying
Thanatophobia, or the fear of death, is a symptom often experienced if you have Agoraphobia and is more commonly referred to as death anxiety.
This fear will also stop a person from wanting to leave their home for the fear of dangerous situations, real or not, that may lead to death.
Fear that people will stare at you
The fear of being stared at also goes by the fancy term of Scoptophobia and is another common symptom of Agoraphobia. It generally falls under the scope of Social Phobia.
When you have this symptom you will really go out of your way to avoid all situations that might put you in the spotlight and being around or talking to other people may make you blush and feel very embarrassed.
Feelings of Helplessness
A person with Agoraphobia may feel helpless and feel that they are unable to do things or approach different situations on their own. They feel incapable of doing anything for themselves or other people.
Fear that you will lose control or become insane in public
When you have a panic attack, you often lose control over your emotions and body movements. This can be highly frightening a stressful and will definitely heighten anxiety levels. The agoraphobic will go to lengths in order to avoid feeling like this.
Feeling like your body or the surrounding environment isn't real
Similar to Depersonalization, this feeling is known as Derealization and it will feel as if you are not part of the environment around you or as if you are viewing everything from a third person perspective.
You may become lost or disoriented as familiar places may suddenly seem unfamiliar and even distorted at times.
Fear of danger without being able to escape
All the above symptoms come down to irrational fears of being placed in "dangerous" situations and not being able to escape without embarrassment or feelings of being out of control or death.
This also includes a high sense of fear of the onset of a panic attack and not being able to be in your own safe environment when this happens to you.
Physical symptoms
These symptoms are very similar to those of a Panic attack and include, but are not limited to, the following:
Trembling or Tingling Sensations
You may feel shivery or tremble and experience a crawling feeling throughout your body. These are of the more common physical symptoms experienced by people who have Agoraphobia.
Feeling Faint, Lightheaded or Dizzy
Many links have been established between dizziness and agoraphobia, with or without panic attacks.
In a study carried out with 17 subjects suffering from lightheadedness it was found that a much higher percentage, 76% to be exact, also had panic disorder and/or agoraphobia.
In another study, with 103 participants, it was found that almost 30% of the subjects also had panic disorder and agoraphobia with or without panic disorder.
Rapid Heartbeat
The anxiety levels of someone with Agoraphobia get extremely heightened in situations where they feel unsafe or threatened and the stress and anxiety levels will cause their heart rate to increase or their heart to start beating rapidly due to the adrenaline rush and the body's flight or fight response kicking in.
Feeling nauseous
Nausea is another common symptom often associated with anxiety and agoraphobia.
Take a look at this YouTube user's experience with nausea and agoraphobia:
Feeling hot
With all these symptoms, you may also feel very hot and sweat excessively.
The symptoms of agoraphobia and panic attacks are very similar to those of a heart attack and should never be taken lightly. Best is to consult a medical professional immediately if you experience any combination of these symptoms.
The onset of hyperventilation is always unexpected and without reason.
You experience hyperventilation when you start to breathe really fast and uncontrollably so that you end up exhaling more than you inhale and you eventually become deprived of oxygen leading to other frightening experiences such as dizziness or nausea.
A study revealed that about 60% of agoraphobic sufferers also showed hyperventilation symptoms.
Known Causes
The causes of this disorder can be broken down into two sections – with and without panic disorder.
Agoraphobia is most commonly experienced as a result of one or more anxiety related disorders.
Agoraphobia with Panic Disorder
Most people get Agoraphobia after the onset of one or two panic attacks.
The sufferer may feel worried that a next panic attach may strike unexpectedly, as they usually do, and that it will cause them embarrassment or humiliation in public – so they practice avoidance, leading to Agoraphobia.
Usually, when the Panic Disorder is treated, the Agoraphobia will also disappear.
Beat the Panic!: Dealing with Anxiety and Panic attacks – The Ins and Outs
Agoraphobia without Panic Disorder
These are usually triggered by irrational or pathological fears such as getting into an accident, becoming a victim of a violent crime or even something as simple as doing or saying something by accident that will make you embarrass yourself in front of others.
It can also be caused by traumatic events such as bullying or abusive relationships.
Substance abuse, mainly an overuse of tranquilizers and sleeping pills, is another common cause of this disorder.
Diagnosis and Treatments
The disorder can be diagnosed by your GP who will usually ask you a few questions to determine your state of mind and often commission blood tests and other physical examinations before determining the final diagnosis.
A combination of symptoms should usually be present for longer than 6 months and in such a manner that it inhibits you from living a normal daily life.
You may be referred to a psychiatrist if your case is more extreme.
Treatment usually consists of a combination of medication (anti-anxiety and depression drugs mainly) and psychotherapy.
There are many support and therapy groups available online as well. This makes it much easier for those suffering from this condition to get help as they don't have to leave their house and become panicked.
Do you have Agoraphobia and want therapy? Read about the Advantages and Disadvantages of Online Therapy HERE.
There are also alternative treatments you can try, but if these do not work after about a month or two, please immediately contact your GP and arrange for a consultation.
Agoraphobia symptoms should not be taken lightly.
5 Natural Treatments for Agoraphobia
- Chamomile
- Lavender
- St. John's Wart
- Valerian Root
- Passion Flower
Other forms of alternative treatments available are hypnotherapy, yoga, and meditation.
If you find yourself experiencing any of the symptoms and/or feelings described in this article, please seek professional help immediately. If left untreated, your symptoms may only worsen and will cause many problems for your mental health and general state of wellbeing.


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This weeks songs are:
1) Disclosure – Omen ft. Sam Smith:
Omen is an electro house/synthpop song by the English duo, Disclosure. This song was released in 2015 and it's the second song from their
album, Caracal (2015). Omen peaked at no.13 in the UKs singles chart as well as featuring in the video game Fifa 16. I really like the music video to this song because its sensual, futuristic and it follows a gripping narrative. Sam Smith is a great vocalist and I really advise you to listen to the song if you haven't already. Check out the song on the link below:Disclosure – Omen ft. Sam Smith
2) Craig David – 7 Days:
7 Days is an oldie by the R&B singer Craig David. This song was released in July 2000 and was nominated for a Grammy award. This is David's biggest hit worldwide, earning a gold certificate sale in the UK and it reached no.1 in the UKs singles chart. I enjoy the groovy beat of this song! Check out the song in the link below:
3) Naughty Boy – Lifted ft. Emeli Sandé:
Lifted is an R&B/soul track by Naughty Boy featuring the Scottish artist, Emeli Sandé. Lifted reached no.8 in the UKs singles chart in 2013 and the music video features a hotel that displays a number of lone people dancing. I like the way this song makes me want to get up dance as if no one is watching and I really like the lyric "I'm not afraid and I'm not alone, even if I'm dancing on my own". Check out this song on the link below:
Naughty Boy – Lifted ft. Emeli Sandé


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Ophelia is still staring at the five fingers holding on tightly to her wrist. It was a grip unlike any she's experienced before. The kind that screamed "don't go". And it didn't feel much like a simple squeeze anymore, or a light suggestion. It was the first time that these long, slim -yet with tatty nails- fingers were begging for her to stay. And all she knew was that she'd have to resolve such choice all on her own.
As every harrowing second passed, Ophelia could feel her head getting lighter. All she could focus on was this ruddy hand. Her eyes don't sparkle by its touch anymore, but she can't even fully remember if, or just how, these black, hollow windows sparkled, for that her memory tank is now laying at short distance, though too far away from her, taking into account that she has no intention of moving from her current place. So she instead chooses to trust her gut and believe that the gleaming was once indeed, real. She now even makes an attempt to move away a bit, or turn her torso towards the opposite direction, but it truly feels as if she has completely turned to stone. As if the hand was Medusa herself, and the fingers took the place of the living, venomous snakes. As if there was no escape at all anymore.
Ophelia moved her pupils a bit, knowing that it was the only body part that had been left unfrozen. And as time passed by, they became more and more dilated by the sight of the grip, for it was probably the one and only time they could see beneath the skin- and they only kept on getting bigger and wider. As if they were entering a wholly different time dimension.
And that was when Ophelia saw everything passing by, right before her eyes. So, she finally, for the first time in forever, remembers;
This time. Last year. Before everything. Before the illness.
It was about 6 a.m when Ophelia headed out for her morning run. She'd woken up a bit grumpy, but was certain her mood would instantly light up once she could move like a bat out of hell, lighted by the peaceful sunrise. Indeed, when she reached the grove that she was headed to, she could feel an ideal mix of intensity, yet with dashes of inner peace. She put on her headphones and immediately started to run at the speed of light. And when she'd been running for a solid hour, she decided it was time to give the sun a goodbye stare and head home; after all, she had a big day ahead of her.
Ophelia had been told that the best decisions are made when you're either walking in, or walking out, hence the metaphor. But for her, her mind would never be as clear as when she was running. You see, she loved running so much because of the momentary sense of complete freedom it gave her. She was the one to decide at what pace she'd run at, where she'd head, and how long this freedom would last- the sole reason she's always run alone.
She waved the Sun goodbye as her eyes lit up and appeared golden hue before she turned around to head home. She stared a little longer today. As if it were the last time that she'd look.
When she arrived at her little, beautiful house, she played a funky jazz vinyl and run some water to heat it up on the stove, so she could have her first cup of coffee for the day. It was a Saturday. Not her absolute favorite day of the week, but she felt a strange vibe about this one. She sat on her couch, opened the windows so the extraordinary sunlight could sneak in, and started to write. She could go on for hours and hours, and it would always feel as if a single second had passed. So, she spent the whole day absorbed in her notebooks, until she realised it was time to get ready.
As she got out of the steaming shower, trying to clean the mirror, as another jazz record was playing discreetly in the background, she heard her phone beeping. It was her best friend Jeanne, rightfully complaining about her being late once again. She hung up the phone, making rapid movements so she'd finish getting ready as quickly as possible. After a few minutes, she could be seen wearing a beautiful, long,slim fitting, backless black dress with long sleeves, which absurdly matched her honey hair and dark red lipstick. It would have to be around 10 p.m now, and she headed outside to find Jeanne waiting for her. She smiled. Jeanne loudly mouthed a "Finally!", before she started the car to head to the venue.
"You know we're as late as it can be, right?" Jeanne cried.
"I do. But you know how I feel about parties, don't you?" Ophelia smirked, her words more of a statement than an actual question.
Ophelia hated these events so much, that she'd completely forget about them. However, because of her situation as an aspiring writer trying to make it in universe Anamnesis, she couldn't help but go. Because, if she made the right impression, everyone would remember.
Little did she know how the night would come to an end.
Jeanne parks the car in front of the building, and the slowly enter it, accompanied by the sound of clinging high heels on the floor. The day had started out truly hot- even if it was the middle of the universe's winter, but it had now become pretty chilly out. As the two girls enter from the staircase, Ophelia can feel a certain pair of eyes striking her. She turns her stare to meet a pair of hollow, dark brown eyes, framed by what seemed an otherwise normal face. She was now compelled by the stare that was resting on her, but kept on walking anyways- until five, long, firm fingers lightly tapped her shoulder.
She turns around.
"Care to join me for a drink?", the pair of eyes suggest.
Ophelia turns her stare towards Jeanne, who after a few snorts waves her hands in a "fine, go" way.
"I'll catch up with you soon!" Ophelia promises.
"Sure thing!" Jeanne ironically grunts.
The two strangers head towards the countertop to grab a much needed drink.
"Don't you have a name?" Ophelia asks the boy with the black hair and matching eyes.
"Not one that matters; for now." He replies.
"Then we'll just have to wait for a time that it does." Ophelia says.
"What if the time never comes?" the gentle voice asks.
"The time always comes." she answers.
Cecilia was now on her train back home.
She was feeling quite tired both from the exhausting heat wave and the tiring day full of a set of obligations she had faced. But at least she knew she had the best thing to go home to. As the subway opened its doors for her to exit, she caught a brief glimpse of her face. It had become quite weary, hence the level of her exhaustion, but she was still happy with what she saw. She momentarily wondered what it must be like to be unhappy, and felt utterly blessed to not have a single wretched clue.
She got out of the station, and instantly felt relieved by the light breeze that was now stroking her hair. In her walk back home, she even played some of her favourite upbeat rock music to guide her in her direction.
As she turned her key in the doorknob, she instantly heard the heavy, yet impeccably sweet voice of Axel crying her name. She enters the room, only to be welcomed with a kiss and a pair of beautiful green, sparkling eyes.
"I missed you, kiddo." Axel casually mouths.
Missed you too, you little alien." Cecilia laughingly says.
"You know, I made you something today." Axel hesitantly whispers.
Axel was a painter. He was mostly self-taught and always made Cecilia these absurd, yet impeccably fascinating paintings. He thought they were complete horse shit, but took the time to make them anyways. And Cecilia, oh, she couldn't get enough of them.
Her eyes instantly sparkled when she heard about her favourite artist's new creation. It'd been a while since he presented her something. And she could barely hold her excitement back.
"Well show it to me then!" She lightheartedly demands.
"Because I know how much you love staring at the sky." Axel declares, as he uncovers a giant frame, which instantly manages to take his lover's breath away.
Right in front of her disbelieving eyes, Cecilia witnesses the most beautiful sight she has ever seen in a while. Unable to return her jaw back to its place, and without even bothering to cover her mouth with her hand, she stares at the universe from her living room;
The great, silver moon, lightened up so much that it appeared white, lost in a maze of utter, dark blue nothingness inside the Milky Way, as purple and blue planets in the shape of peculiar flowers surrounded it. And a tiny ship, in the middle of it all, about to enter another dimension. Its passengers remained unknown.
"What should we call it?" Axel's voice makes her snap out of it.
" The only thing that suits it." Cecilia smiles, extending a few beats of silence for effect.
" The Panoptic Blue."
To be continued…


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Chill out at the luxury TUI Sensimar Cabo Verde Hotel in Cape Verde for the perfect 'no stress' break with endless sunshine
Unwind and enjoy a stress-free holiday at this luxury Atlantic gem in Santa Maria with flights from Glasgow
THE first thing we heard when we landed on our holiday was 'No Stress' — and that's exactly what our week in Cape Verde turned out to be.
It's the motto of these gorgeous islands just off the coast of West Africa and this is one laidback, relaxed place with everything you could possibly want for a perfect holiday.
Even in the depths of our freezing cold December, the sun shines in Cape Verde making it the ideal winter sun getaway — but it is just as perfect the rest of the year too.
Hubby Alan and I flew out on the Thomson service from Glasgow which started last November.
The six-hour flight was spent watching a movie on my iPad (do take your own entertainment, there isn't any on the plane), eating a lovely dinner and dreaming of the week ahead.
We were off the plane, through passport control, had our luggage and were in our private taxi to our hotel within 20 minutes. See, stress-less!
It was a quick 15-minute drive to the absolutely stunning TUI Sensimar Cabo Verde Hotel just outside Santa Maria. (TUI is Thomson's parent company and they will be renamed under the TUI brand, including all their hotels and ships.)
This place only opened in December and is in a beautiful setting right on the beach with sweeping views for miles.
We were greeted with a sparkling cocktail and a wet towel — bliss after the 27°C that welcomed us as we landed at 7.30pm — and were in our room minutes later, and boy, what a room. We were lucky enough to get one of the hotel's lovely junior suites. These duplex rooms are HUGE.
There's a massive living room with two sofas, dining table and chairs, satellite TV and fully stocked (and even better replenished) minbar, Dulce Gusto coffee maker and kettle with plenty of teas and coffees to choose from.
The bathroom features a spa bath and walk-in shower and upstairs the bed is enormous and there's another TV with plenty of English channels from news to sports and movies — tick for one happy hubby!
But the luxury didn't end there. Out on the balcony — with the best views in the hotel looking over the grounds, pools and the beach — there was a hot tub and sun loungers.
Down at the pool we quickly found our favourite spot which we headed to every day. The no-stress philosophy extended to that too.
No need to get up at the crack of dawn — there were always plenty of loungers to be had at either of the two pools or on the enormous private beach with it lovely beds surrounded by semi-circular wind breakers.
Yup, you will get a wind in Cape Verde — it is in the Atlantic Ocean after all — but believe me it will be welcome to help you cope with the heat.
We came prepared with our beach towels pegs to keep them from flapping in the breeze (thanks to a very popular Facebook fan page for the hotel and its sister one next door).
The Riviera snack bar at the pool serves a late risers breakfast until 11am — another huge tick from sleepy-headed hubby — then lunch from 12-4pm and dinner from 6-10pm.
The food is really good and ranges from burgers and hot dogs to spag bol, Caesar salads, samosas and spring rolls.
A cab into Santa Maria costs around three euros.
DO: Buy beach towels clips — they are brilliant!
DON'T: Get lots of local currency at the ATM — you can't take it home
Most days we ventured up to Latitudes buffet restaurant for lunch and dinner, where it took all of our will power not to load our plates.
There's everything you could possibly want and anyone who can't find something here is simply far too fussy.
Oh, didn't I tell you — this place is all-inclusive so leave the purse in the safe and eat, drink and be (very) merry.
There are also two specialist restaurant, which you get to eat in once each for free per stay.
The Culinarium is a Mediterranean restaurant. I had grilled scallops with lime foam. They came served in the shell and were absolutely fantastic.
Alan is a fussy eater but he said his Taco guacamole chicken was better than anything he'd ever eaten in Mexico.
For mains we both chose the Cape Verdean Tuna. This was the best tuna I have ever eaten and being a non-meat eater I have had plenty, believe me.
We were too full for deserts and opted to head out to the Bellini cocktail bar for a little after dinner drink or three.
They do all sorts here, and other alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks too. In fact they open at 6am just in case you fancy a morning cuppa and can't be bothered making one yourself in the room.
The other restaurant you get to eat in once for free is the Italian Casa Nostra.
You help yourself to starters (yummy bruschetta got a pounding from us) and desserts and are served a main course.
I had the penne arrabiata and Alan had pasta the tomatoes, bacon and sausage. Bellissimo.
The staff are among the loveliest we have come across on holiday (big shout out for the TUI rep Houda).
Nothing it too much hassle for them and every request is greeted with a smile!
The hotel lays on nightly entertainment but if you are after some serious clubbing, head to the Bikini Beach right on the sands in front of the hotel.
Don't miss a trip to Santa Maria itself. The hotel lays on a shuttle bus three times a day or it is a quick five-minute cab ride away.
There's lots of lovely restaurants and bars and during the day the bustling pier is alive with fishermen and locals for a real slice of Cape Verde.
I have to be honest and say that was as far as we got on Sal but for those looking for more adventure there plenty on offer from quad-biking to a tour of the whole island, catamaran sailing trips and beach BBQs.
But we were here to relax and unwind and that we did in buckets — no stress!
- Seven nights' all-inclusive at the 5H Thomson's TUI Sensimar Cabo Verde is from from £924pp including flights from Glasgow on July 6 and transfers.
To book visit your local Thomson travel shop, see thomson.co.uk or call 0871 230 2555.
- Treat yourself to Glasgow Airport's Upper Deck lounge where your holiday will get off to a relaxing start with comfy seating, free wifi, sandwiches and snacks and free drinks all for £21pp.
- See glasgowairport.com
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Self Storage in Lawton Can Help with any Residential Downsizing
Every day, around 10,000 Baby Boomers hit the age of 65. That's a lot of people, many of whom are looking to downsize their lifestyle, simplify their lives, and just enjoy more with less hassle. Downsizing helps save significant amounts of money, as well. Letting go of a larger home with larger utility bills, upkeep costs, taxes, and so on can really help the retirement fund. Of course, when it comes to downsizing, there's always the question of what to do with all that stuff you've accumulated over the years. Fortunately, that's where self storage in Lawton comes in!
If you're moving away from Lawton, Oklahoma to be closer to family (or farther away from them!) or just because you always wanted to live in Florida or California or New England, we're sorry to see you go, but we wish you well! If you're moving to the Lawton area, we're happy to welcome you to our community! Storage 'R' Us has been a part of the Lawton business community since 1972, and our family has lived here even longer than that, so we can vouch that it's a great place to live. Whether you're moving to Lawton or away from us, there's a lot that goes into downsizing your lifestyle. First things first:
Begin the Decluttering Process Early.
There are plenty of books, articles, TV shows, and YouTube videos on the subject of decluttering and downsizing your home, so you can find the one that works for you. To make your downsizing go as smoothly as the ones portrayed on those shows or in those books, however, you need a game plan before you start. Find a process that works for you, make a game plan, and then get started!
Handy Downsizing Tip: If you have heirlooms or other belongings that you're planning to leave to your children or grandchildren, consider giving them as gifts today instead. That way you get to see your family enjoy them, and you'll have one less thing you have to move, dust, or otherwise worry about.
Keep Only What Matters to YOU.
If you've been following organizing consultant Marie Kondo in her books or on her popular Netflix show, you know that she recommends keeping only items that "spark joy." This means that anywhere from 30-70% of your stuff can go to a garage sale, Goodwill, the church, eBay, Craigslist, and so on. Chances are, you also have a lot of stuff in the basement or attic that belongs to your kids or other extended family members. Remind them that your home isn't a warehouse and give them a deadline. Remind them that if they don't have space for it in their own homes, self storage in Lawton can help!
Handy Downsizing Tip: When you're downsizing, think about the rooms you won't have in your new place. A smaller house may have fewer bedrooms, and may not have an office, a garage, or an attic. Look at what is in those rooms now and decide whether you really need it after you move.
Find a New Place to Call Home.
Before you know what you're going to need in your new home, you need to know where you're planning to live. Are you hoping to rent or buy a smaller home or condominium? Do you want to enjoy the benefits of a senior living community? Will you be living with one of your children, another family member, or a friend, or are you moving into an assisted living facility or retirement community? All of these living arrangements will bring different variables to the downsizing process. If you're moving into a smaller home of your own rather than moving in with friends or family, you'll need to hang onto more of your utility items, such as kitchen utensils.
Get Help When You Need It.
It's important to ask for help when you need it—not just during the planning and decluttering stages, but throughout every step of the process. Your kids, family, friends, neighbors, church members, and even the staff at your friendly neighborhood Lawton self storage facility will be happy to help. Just be sure that you only ask for help from people you know that you can trust. If your family or close friends aren't around or available, the managers and staff at Storage 'R' Us are always happy to help folks pack, move, and store their belongings. And with three convenient locations in Lawton, as well as others in surrounding communities, there's bound to be a Storage 'R' Us near you!
Handy Downsizing Tip: There are even folks who call themselves "senior move managers" that you can hire to help you with all the details. They'll contribute as much or as little help as you need. Not sure where to start? The National Association of Senior Move Managers has lots of member companies and can help you find one near you!
Self Storage in Lawton for the Overflow.
Just because you don't always have room for everything in your new place doesn't necessarily mean that you're ready to let it go just yet. Maybe you're trying out the "six-month test." What's that? If you're not sure whether you're ready to part with something, put it someplace out of the way—such as Lawton self storage—for six months to see if you miss it. If you decide to hang on to it for good but don't have enough space in your new home, go ahead and keep it in Lawton self storage along with all of your other overflow, from seasonal decorations to your mother's dining room furniture that you simply can't part with and none of your kids can use.
With different-sized storage units and climate-controlled self storage in Lawton, Storage 'R' Us offers all the self storage options you need, not to mention some of the friendliest managers and staff around. With three convenient self storage locations in Lawton, we're eager to help you move into your new home or simply find a home away from home for some of your most treasured belongings.
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Located in an established water access community and offering a well designed floor plan, this 4 bedroom, 2.5 bath home has 3,100 sq.ft, formal dining room, living room with gas fireplace, eat in kitchen, stainless appliances, Quartz counters, plenty of cabinet space and a center island for added work space when entertaining family and friends. Relax in the sunroom playing games or watching the game. The spacious 1st floor Master Bedroom has a walk in closet, great light and the MBath has a soaking tub, separate shower, dual sinks and his and her closets. The upstairs is open to the living area and offers 3 bedrooms, full bath and a great craft room/storage area hidden away in one of the closets. The meticulously maintained yard will delight you with its blooms while you relax on the 20 ft x 40 ft wrap around porch and deck overlooking the patio- perfect for enjoying morning coffee or relaxing after a day on the water. New metal fenced rear yard, programmable irrigation system, raised flower bed garden, corner lot and a 10'x16' shed, great for storing yard tools and items for the winter. Boat Slip #66 with lift available at $25,000. Very active HOA includes pool, tennis, pickle ball court, snow removal and "Toasts At Sunset" a biweekly summer neighborhood gathering at the pool. Yearly HOA fee of $500. Seller offering a full 2 year Home Warranty. Furnishings negotiable, all offers considered/negotiated.
Single Family, Single Family-Detached
2 Full/1 Half
0.37 Acres
Tankless Water Heater, Public Water Service
Stick Built, Vinyl Siding
Public Sewer
3,100 sq. ft
Yes - 2 spaces
Whites Creek Manor
School Information
Indian River
Detailed Room Information
- Rooms
- Kitchen, Laundry Room, Living Room, Storage, Florida Room, Attic
- Kitchen
- Eat-In Kitchen, Island
Interior Features
- Appliances
- Dishwasher, Electric Dryer, Exhaust Fan/Hood, Freezer, Ice Maker, Refrigerator, Microwave, Electric Range/Cooktop, Self-Cleaning Oven, Washer
- Flooring
- Hardwood, Tile, Carpet
- Cooling
- Central Air, Electric, Ceiling Fan(s)
- Heating
- Electric Heating. Heat Pump, Zone.
- Doors/Windows
- Screened
- Fireplaces
- 1. Gas Burning.
- Security
- Security System, Alarm -Smoke/Fire
- Additional Interior Features
- Attic Storage, Window Treatment, Cathedral/vaulted Ceiling
Exterior / Lot Features
- Parking
- 2 Garage Spaces. Paved Driveway.
- Exterior
- Vinyl
- Patio
- Deck, Patio, Porch, Wrap-around Porch
- Sprinkler
- Lawn Sprinkler
- Roof
- Composition Shingle
- Body of Water
- Whites Creek
- Zoning
- Fence
- Full, Rear
- Additional Exterior/Lot Features
- Satellite Dish, Out Building, Landscaped, Front Yard. Cleared, Landscaping, Corner, Front Yard.
Community Features
- Community Amenities
- Marina/Marina Club, Water/Lake Privileges, Common Grounds
Financial Considerations
$500 Annually
Fee Simple
Standard Sale
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