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human
CMV: it's not inherently transphobic to not want to date transgender people

So one of the biggest counter-arguments I hear is that transgender men/women come in a wide variety and you can't have possibly met them all, so to exclude transgender women/men as a group from your dating pool is transphobic.


I think this argument falls flat because men also come in a wide variety and you can't have possibly met all men, so how come it's not sexist to exclude men as a group from your dating pool?


Trans activists believe that it's not transphobic to not date a trans person for reasons such as genital preference or wanting biological children, but not dating a transgender person because they're transgender is transphobic. How is not dating a man because they're a man not sexist then?


You're not saying trans women aren't women, you're just saying that they are a type of women you don't want to date.


I do acknowledge that transphobia in society leads to some people who are attracted to transgender people to exclude transgender people from their dating pool. Just like how homophobia in society leads to some people who are bisexual or even gay to identify as straight and exclude people of the same gender from their dating pool.


That doesn't mean all straight people aren't dating people of the same gender because of homophobia though.
gpt
>I think this argument falls flat because men also come in a wide variety and you can't have possibly met all men, so how come it's not sexist to exclude men as a group from your dating pool?

Are you attracted to men? That's the difference.

We know heterosexual men can be attracted to trans women just as much as they can any other woman. If they weren't, we wouldn't get guys coming on here all the time with "CMV: You should have tell someone you're trans before dating them." If straight men couldn't be attracted to trans women, there would no need for someone to tell you they're trans at all. You would just know by whether you're attracted to them or not.