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I think that inappropriate jokes (racist, sexist, homophobic..) are ok if you are in a private group who all understand that they are just jokes and understand that you're just joking about the stereotypes. CMV

For instance one of my friends and I can joke about anything. What ends up happening is that we try to shock each other with how inappropriate we can be.
We both know that this is a joke and we're just finding humour in the stereotypes.

An example is the fact that I am gay, I'll always try (as a joke) to call him a homophobe if I am ever slightly put out by him. Sometimes he'll respond with "Yeah, so what?" and launch in to a fake homophobic rant at me. 
This is a joke, this is funny between us. 

I think of "inappropriate" jokes can be sort of like "inside" jokes among people who know they are jokes and know the stereotypes.

Another friend of mine likes the stereotype of JEwish people being cheap. He doesn't mind Jewish people at all, and he knows that it is just a stereotype, but he loves inventive ways to joke about that stereotype.

I don't think that jokes like these do any harm to anyone and when you know you're all on the same page, you should be allowed to laugh at stereotypes (stereotypes, not people) without anyone thinking you are racist/sexist/homophobic etc..

However, I do have an open mind and think that there are aspects of this, and views regarding this that I may not have considered yet. Reddit, change my view!
gpt
If you somehow know that you're all on the same page, sure. But realistically, you're not going to know that in almost any private group. There are two reasons:

* There's significant social pressure not to rock the boat. If someone's only mildly uncomfortable with your racist jokes, they're probably going to lie and tell you they're fine with them. The mild discomfort of your jokes is better than the more significant discomfort of telling you to stop. (Remember, they have no way to know you're not going to start ranting them about political correctness or a thick skin or something. Many people do just that when they're asked to stop making inappropriate jokes.)

* There's significant social pressure not to openly reveal shitty viewpoints. If someone really does think that Jews are an evil banking cartel, they're not going to come out and say that; they're just going to indicate they don't mind Jewish jokes. But when you tell a disparaging joke that you don't intend to mean anything, *they think you're agreeing with their racism*.