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CMV: It's wrong to not teach children HOW to stand up for themselves against bullies.

 I'm mad as hell and I can't take it anymore. My lovely parents who taught me many wonderful things taught me to turn the other cheek. I'm so pissed as I realize that they just set me up for bullying. 

I was bullied like many kids. I was taught at home to ignore it and walk away. AAAARRRRGGGG That is an adult function, not a 13-year-old. 

What I should have done from the start is be less of a p\*\*s\* and stick up for myself. I'd let girls walk past me on the stairs and elbow me or make some snide comment for everyone to hear. I literally can't remember their exact words, but they stung because I knew I'd just take them on. Then, once you have the reputation of not standing up for yourself, you're fresh meat for the next bitch. 

While knowing that my parents wanted to teach me right, they did me wrong. I should've been taught to turn around and get in the face of said bullier and at least fight for myself. I should've been given the right to defend myself. *I should've been given the tools to at least have a fighting chance even if it got me in a fist fight.* 

Every time I hear about bullying in my adult life I just get infuriated. It's always about "we don't accept bullying" or "zero tolerance." Bullshit, they're trying to control the bullier. The only thing to stop bullies is for the person being bullied to fight back. There will always be bullies, but if they don't have anyone to bully, they'll lose their job. 

**Parents, teach your kids how to stand up for themselves and support them in school if they get in trouble for doing so. Please, I beg of you parents (and I'm not one by choice) to teach your children exactly that.** 

I'm pissed that I've spent my life feeling like I "have" to turn the other cheek. It has caused more problems than I can put on paper. I'm just now, at almost a half a century, figuring out HOW to stand up for myself. 

I'm less of a p\*\*s\* than I used to be, and I'm thrilled. I'm just pained for kids these days and hope we, as a culture, stop focusing on fixing the bully when it's time to fix the bullied and empower them. The bully will move on to the next guy and let's hope he gets a door in the face.
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The problem is that actual violence or talking back, usually does lead to more bullying, because it simply fails. The bully picks you, because you're alone and weak. They don't pick the kids that can physically take them and their friends on. The bully doesn't pick those who can talk back and hurt the bully's emotions.

Sure, you can try to teach children that, but honestly, that's really hard and would also likely compromise the innate qualities of the child. Some kids simply aren't build to look tough or quick witted talkers, and they shouldn't have to become so just to avoid being bullied.