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CMV: It's OK to have normative views in society, that's what a culture *is*.

I saw a post recently that it's ok to treat "Straight person wouldn't date bi" different than "Gay person wouldn't date bi" because the US society is hetero-normative. That got me thinking that it's not discrimination to have some idea of normal in a society, and that normal ideal is kind of what makes a culture IMO. I also think it will happen naturally given all the different cultures around the world, but all of them have some idea of "normal". A basic stereotype of what is expected.

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I'm not saying that we should be ok with poor treatment of anyone here. I'm not defending bigotry. 

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Here's an example - if I'm in a random garden party, there's some basic expectation of behavior for that situation, and the very type of party is sort of a cultural touchstone. If someone comes up to me and we're chatting and asks if I have kids - that's not a childnormative attack on my identity of being childfree. I just say no, and move on. Now, I agree, if they start pushing the topic and grilling me about my choices, that's out of line. However, the basic assumption that I might / likely have kids from my age and presentation isn't some discriminatory attack.

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I specifically think it's useful for a culture to have some ideals and expected standards. This ranges from the "seemingly obvious" standard of "don't be a criminal" to the more WASPy standard of "Get and hold a middle class or better job". 

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Note, I'm not saying there cannot be a "bad culture", I strongly disagree with most fundamentalist religious cultures. I'm saying that it's not inherently bad to have normative ideas in society, and it's not inherently bigoted for strangers to have a basic guess of how someone is before they know them.
gpt
I think you're missing the forest for the trees here. People against heteronormativity aren't against social norms, they're against a specific one that excludes LGBT people. Rather than abolishing norms, they're advocating replacing it with a more inclusive norm. A world where homosexuality, bisexuality and every other orientation is considered normal and part of a model society is a world where the culture was changed, not destroyed.