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CMV : I'm fatphobic, please CMV

Hi everyone,

Let me explain my problem. I am very tolerant to all kind of people regardless of their skin color, sexuality, political side (often interesting talk), gender (interesting talk too), social status etc .. but I can't help myself with obese people and it bother me a lot.

Here are my arguments :

For me, obesity convey an unhealthy way of life. I'm not speaking about people with a generous belly but very sporty but I'm speaking about the unhealthy aspect of this. When I see an obese person, I see a person who has difficulties to move, who usually doesn't like his shape but most important, who will likely die before 70 or even 60 (in a wealth country I specify).

Moreover, for me (again), you can't say "I want to be *insert skin color* to not suffer from racism" or "I want to be straight to not be discriminate" but, except in specific cases, you can say "I want to be fitter to not be discriminate and to feel better". I'm aware that "be fit" is not equal to "be happy". There is a lot of people who are in the "norm" who are non confident but I think that it's easier to accept your body when you look good in the mirror and I think you are happier when you are healthy due to the fact that you are not suffering from simple tasks like walking during more than several minutes, and a healthier way of life means a healthier body (biologically speaking) that favor a good mood. As a kid, I didn't eat a lot of vegetables and other healthy stuff (I say too much "health" but I don't have a synonym sorry lol) but when I started it, I feel truly better.

Finally, in a context of ecological disaster and overpopulation, obesity will represent 500M mouthes to feed in the next few years that will be good to avoid.

I'm not saying that all people should practice sport daily and eat like a nutrinazi etc .. but I don't think that we can think that it's normal to be fat since fat people can change. Do we accept that smoking a lot or doing drugs daily is good ? I don't think so. I'm aware that it doesn't help fat people to be less fat by discriminating them by being mean but it doesn't help by accepting it too.

I'm aware that it's not just a choice. It could be the result  of all kinds of reasons like a divorce, a break up, a death, a disease ... And I have not a problem with this people, I give them all my support to get back stronger but with all the obese people in the world, I don't think that most of them can't do something about it.

My biggest problem with that is mostly that they can do something about their status when with racism or homophobia, it's the society that has to change. (On top of that, being black, asian or gay is not unhealthy lol).

In order to constantly open my mind, please enlighten me.

Edit :

Thank you all for enlighten me. First of all, the meaning of fatphobic is not fat shaming for me. It's the fear and the lack of understanding of fat people.

Most of obese people are not obese by choice and when you are obese it's difficult to get back thin. That's the reason why obesity should be taken seriously by the states to help people who whant to lose weight. Obesity can be the consequence of depresion, disease but education too and most important, food industry.

The fact that there is too many obese douchebags on tv or social media arguing that being obese is cool and we have to accept it witout a word feeds fat phobia and unfortunetly fat shaming. But we have to not forget that the silent mass is not them and obese people are just people who want to be peaceful. Well, it's the same fight for all communities I guess.

However, I still think that being fat is unhealthy and I would never become fat but it's your choice and if you are okay with that, I'm okay too. I still think that it's a bit selfish but smoking and doing drugs weekly is selfish too and I don't have such a big problem with that.
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Here is what helps me be sympathetic to obese people:

All human beings struggle, it's just that we struggle in different ways. It may seem simple to you to just not eat or to exercise more, but for other people it isn't simple at all. Perhaps for you it is procrastination, or controlling your temper, or drinking too much, or being a better sibling, or being a better romantic partner, or achieving your work goals, or controlling your spending, or saving money, or dealing with that nagging depression/anxiety. None of us are immune to failing in the face of easily achievable behaviors that we just can't seem to do reliably enough. For a lot of overweight people, that thing is eating and controlling their weight. It is just as much of a struggle for them as not procrastinating may be for you and me. They see the correct behavior, they have a desire to do it, but it is just a struggle for them. 

And you want to know the rub? Unlike most people's issue, obese people have to wear their vice on their sleeve. Your boss may not know that you gamble a little too much or have road rage, but everyone immediately knows an obese person's weakness the moment they meet them. So while we all struggle, they struggle in the open. 

To apply extra judgement on this one issue is to simply ignore that we all have our own issues.