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Would'nt a black holes gravity tear us apart before we get any where near it's event horizon?

So after watching interstellar i watched a couple of interviews with some physicists, and the topic of discussion always seem to be what would happen at the event horizon or inside a black hole. However something that's alluded me is, why aren't we already getting torn apart by the gravity when we get some what near it. 

Like the stars we see getting eaten by black holes, where this acretion disk is formed and it's ripping off matter from the star or just ripping it apart completely. Is this something that happens because of the size of the star?
gpt
>Is this something that happens because of the size of a star?

Yes. Tidal forces depend on two factors. 

The first is the gradient of gravitational force, which increases the closer you are to the centre of the black hole (this is relevant because for larger black holes, the tidal forces at the event horizon are much weaker than that in smaller black holes). 

The second is how large you are. For a large object like a star, the tidal forces are huge because the difference in gravitational force acting on the close and far end is large. 

These two factors influence the difference in force across the object, which the phenomenon of tidal forces arise from.