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CMV - I don't think people should be able claim they want to be referred to as ze/hir or they/them.

Personally, I am a straight cisgender male, but I do have many friends who are LGBTQ. Some of them say they prefer other pronouns like ze/hir or they/them instead of he/him or she/her. The premise (correct me if I am misunderstanding) is that they choose to identify neither as male or female. I humor their request because they are my friends; however, secretly I do believe this is taking the issue too far. 

I couldn't say to people, "I don't like it when people refer to me as he/him. I want to always be referred to in third person as 'concerningzombies the great.'" This request would seem strange, and it would make me seem awfully conceited. The general response would be, "You don't get to determine how people refer to you. That just complicates everybody's life and makes conversation very difficult. It defeats the entire purpose of having things like pronouns in our language."

Of course this is quite an exaggeration, but the point is everybody can't have their own way of being identified. Yes you are an individual, but so is everyone. To say you don't identify as male or female is making a crude generalization for how men and women are supposed to behave. There are many different people in this world, each with unique personalities. I am content with using he/him or she/her, whichever you prefer, but I'm not okay with you inventing new words.

Pronouns aren't meant to be degrading. The English language has three singular pronouns: he, she, and it. I understand "it" is degrading because it is reserved for objects; however "he" and "she" are not insulting, but some people react as if they were. My belief is that the blame here lies not with the speaker, but with the one taking offense.

I understand that this is an unpopular viewpoint, so somebody explain to me why I'm wrong. CMV.

**edit:**
I've seen many repeated arguments that aren't quite responding to my view. It seems like they don't quite understand the issue. I've tried to clarify these points below.

Names are different from pronouns. I'm not saying people aren't entitled to choose their own name. Pronouns and proper nouns are different parts of speech for a reason, so stop saying it's the same as calling someone Joe when their name is Bob. It's not the same.

I know languages change. This is fine; however it is a natural process. You can't be offended by someone not conforming to your change. The only exception to this I can see are slurs, which are meant to be derogatory. If you say people shouldn't use the N-word because it is used to be insulting that makes sense. For words that aren't insulting, and especially words so basic as pronouns, I don't think anybody has any right to force a change in convention.

I'm not saying people should be identified by their sex. Sex is different from gender, but gender is a spectrum. That is why I think it is futile to add more pronouns. You can only subdivide it more. You can never encompass the entire spectrum accurately.

I do sometimes use the singular they in conversation; however the issue is there are many different choices for third person pronouns. I mentioned ze/hir because it is the one I've encountered in my life. From the Wikipedia there is also 'e/h', zhe/zher or zhim, shi/hir, hu/hus, and many others. If there was a single commonly accepted convention, that is fine. I have no qualms with that. The issue is that currently there are many different sets of pronouns trying to be popularized, and the ones in favor of using these pronouns believe that everyone is entitled to whichever they like best. Furthermore, they get offended when someone doesn't use their invented pronouns of preference. This defeats the entire purpose of having pronouns as a part of speech.
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Among most young speakers, "they/them" is already a gender neutral singular pronoun, much to the chagrin of stodgy English teachers everywhere. Introducing a brand-new one like "ze/hir" is probably not going to catch on, but a singular "they/them" should be pretty easy to get used to.