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CMV: JK Rowling's messages in her books were downright awful and dangerous, especially for a kid's book.

CMV: When I say "JK Rowling messages are dangerous" I'm referring to the messages she had in her book regarding the Dursleys and Harry's relationship.

In any other setting, Harry's childhood would have been a villain's origin story. From what I remember it only shows the abuse Harry takes from them daily and never Harry learning any form of moral compass or lesson. I'm surprised he managed to make friends with Ron after all the abuse he took from the people that "loved him".

Frankly, I'm shocked that Harry never tried to kill the Dursley's after learning he was a wizard.

But what pisses me off the most is the "motherly love" angle Dumbledore told him about and how his mother's love lives on through his aunt. WHAT THE FUCK ROWLING. You basically told your reader "You have to stay with your abuser because they love you deep down". "They love you deep down" is something you should never say to an abuse victim, especially one with childhood trauma.

This motherly love also seems to have faulty logic to it. Harry spends most his time away from the Durselys and that love never seems to go away. At most he only seems to spend about 3-5 weeks max a year at their house.

My main complaint is: Using the neglect and favouritism for Dudley that the Dursleys clearly displayed and playing it off as normal and something that everyone knows about but does nothing about is a dangerous message. Imagine a kid in a similar situation to Harry. Seeing his role model suffer every day and dealing with it because "That's what Harry would do". 

In real life, there would not be a competent solicitor (lawyer) in the area that wouldn't call the police and have the Dursleys arrested for child abuse.

But there were many alternatives that Dumbledore could have had placed on Harry's protection when his parents died.

Hogwarts is a well-guarded area thanks to Dumbledore and the forest. Why didn't Harry just stay at Hogwarts? You would have thought that Dumbledore would make an exception for "The boy who lived" and the one destined to save the world and keep him close to the school grounds for extra spell practise and security. Why not give Harry a "summer school" program taught by Dumbledore himself or even Hagrid, allowing Harry to learn more about magical creatures.

The ministry is well aware of Harry and his legacy. Why not have Harry taken by the ministry and placed in some sort of witness protection that Dumbledore can closely monitor? Maybe Dumbledore can even handpick the members of Harry's guard. Like, say... The Weasely family?

Sirius was a wanted criminal but I don't doubt that he could have kept Harry safe. It took the death eaters half a year to find them when they lived in the house during Deathly Hallows and Sirius showed great magical skill during the battle at the ministry. Surely he of all people would have kept Harry safe. Plus the fact that he's Harry's Godfather must mean something to the magical world. Would that not make him Harry's sworn parent. Surely that's enough to warrant at least some of Lily Potter's protection.

and those are just off the top of my head.

My td'lr is this: Having Harry stay with clearly abusive parental figures and forcing him to stay is a fucked up message for kids, especially those that are going through similar situations. In real life, the Durselys would be arrested for their crimes and taken away from Harry.
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When dumbledore said that he was explaining the original thought and why they didn’t keep him. 

They didn’t know Petunia / all of them would neglect Harry. Their belief wasn’t anything concrete just a hope that it would continue through the maternal connection **not** that Petunia would love him but that whatever kept Harry getting killed by Voldemort (keep in mind they **do not know it was the horcrox thingy**) was something to do with Lily and it **might** continue with Petunia through a gene connection. Harry had to stay with someone with the same blood for this protection. 

In fact Harry Potter puts a lot of agency with Harry. It never ever shames him for moving in with a different family, it never shames him for cutting out the Dursleys, the **only** acknowledgement is that Dudley was a child and therefore wasn’t a horrible person necessarily but needed to grow up, Harry still didn’t completly get over any of it though.