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CMV: I don't believe not wanting to date someone based on their gender identity or race is wrong.

To start and give a little background I'm a straight white male and I mention that because through conversations with other college friends it looks like the opinion that having a preference towards not being interested sexually or in a relationship with a person based on their skin color or being trans is either racist or transphobic. 

To be specific, I told a good friend of mine who is a transgender woman that also has an interest in dating that while we can still be friends I am not interested in a sexual relationship. She passes very well almost like that youtuber Blair White, but I only want to date a cis woman. Some of my friends believe I'm transphobic because I don't want to give her a chance due to my reason being she's not a cis woman, which I think is wrong since I don't have a phobia towards trans people just a preference for who I want a sexual relationship with. 

For a little background, we've been friends since the 9th grade and I knew her when she was a "he". We were best friends then and still best friends after she transitioned. I noticed after we went to college though, she started to flirt about the idea of a relationship or sex which made me feel uncomfortable. Which led to her coming right out with it recently and me turning her down.

I also typically don't date women of other races. I have friends that are of different races and don't hold view that is hatred of any race..I'd just prefer to date white women. However I've been told that it is a racist view to hold to rule out any black woman. My transgendered friend is also biracial (black + white) and feels this is a racist view that I have. 

Is it really an unacceptable view these days to not want to date a black or hispanic woman due to their features and/or cultural differences? Is it really transphobic to rule out dating anyone that is trans for child bearing reasons and just prefering a cis gendered woman? 

Update:

I read through the responses and I wanted to clarify my stance on the issue to avoid confusion.

1.) I am a straight male with no desire for another man. 

2.) I do not desire dating a person with a penis regardless of their gender.

3.) I only desire natural born women, I would not date a transwoman that went through the surgery of removal of the penis into a vagina.

I do see that it is hard for trans people since they only see themselves as full woman. When I turned down my friends advances, she took it as a rejection on her womanhood. It is possible I may have been too blunt and since apologized for how I came across to her.

I still maintain that since she had and still has a penis (no surgery yet), I would never consider dating her. I still maintain that sexual organs are a very important part of a relationship. While I do understand the many different ways a child can be conceived (ex had PCOS), on the onset I would prefer a woman who can bear my a child. I would like to go through the whole pregnancy experience with a woman, and a transgender woman just cannot provide that.

I'm still interested in hearing arguments as to how that makes me transphobic since I don't have a fear of trans people, I just don't share a sexual preference for people who were born male.

As for my racial preferences, after a few discussions here I will concede that it could be difficult to determine on the onset whether a woman shares some black traits especially if its far up the generational chain. My position on race now is that I still don't find brown skin women attractive due to their physical features (skin, typical facial features, body styles etc). 

I know that not all black women share these physical traits which is why I mentioned typical features that are from black people. So to refine my viewpoint on race, I'm attracted to:

1.) Only women who are white and have features that white women typically have.

2.) I'm a fair skin guy myself, but I prefer a woman to have either pale or fair skin.

3.) I like black or brown hair typically but would also date a blonde. Most black women I know (unless they are mixed) are naturally kinky haired unless they use perms or weaves and I'm not attracted to that.

I've turned down black women before since I just don't find them attractive. I'm never rude about it though, so would this still make me borderline racist?
gpt
I would say it doesn't have to be, but it can be.

I grew up in a smallish Texas town and I've absolutely heard people say "I would never date a n\*\*\*\*\*" \- It had nothing to do with the hypothetical individual personally, they were just disgusted at the idea because the person was black.  Would you agree that in that instance, not wanting to date someone based on race is racist?