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human
CMV: Custom genders and non-binary identities are kinda sexist and only reinforce exclusive gender norms

Saying that you need a special identifier to differentiate yourself implies that your identity is incompatible with gender norms, which implies that gender norms define you. It's the 21st century; men can like "girly" stuff, women can like "manly" stuff. Claiming to be non-binary implies some of your personality traits are incompatible with masculinity, and some are incompatible with femininity. Transgenderism feels similar in the reinforcement of gender norms, but at least it uses conventional norms as a shorthand for conventional preferences. Custom pronouns are linguistically counterproductive to the whole point of a pronoun, though in practice "they/them" is fine with me if you insist on gender neutrality.

I'm genuinely confused, and am looking for clarity. I cannot reconcile non-binary genders with gender equality. How does one not totally undermine the other?
gpt
How are these pronouns actually sexist though? Your post pretty much says you don’t understand them and doesn’t actually explain what is sexist about them. Unless your only point is the manly/girly interest stuff.

Either way, being transgender or non-binary isn’t about liking girly or manly stuff, it’s about your identity. Trans women may like stereotypically manly stuff and vice versa, that doesn’t make them any less trans.

I think this is a common misconception in general that a trans woman is just a man who likes makeup. That’s a really simplistic and ignorant view of what’s going on, and not true besides.