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Moving to a new country for a PhD - scared it will ruin my relationship.

So, im assuming this is a common problem, feel free to link any  previous threads dealing w this. As young reseacher (ecology n conservation) it's super hard to get a funded position. But now, I might be able to get one in Germany. Moving there is plausible for me, the city is great and the topic is right up my alley. In my heart I feel that this is something I want for myself. The problem is Im (practically) married to  my long-term partner. I'm simply scared of putting us through long-distance hell. But I'm also scared of the prospect of having him going there with me and ending up miserable through lack of work and connections. Ruining this great relationship for a job would be too tragic, and not the correct priority. So - huge conflict of interests!

Experience with this? How have you solved your family issues when getting far-away job offers? Have you moved for the sake of your partner's career? 

Edit: I should specify that I'm in Scandinavia now, so I would be located about a 2 hr flight away. Still far but not the same situation as a cross-atlantic distance!
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Examine your relationship, ask yourself do you see a long term thing with this person. If so, you must make the distance a temporary thing. Do not leave it open ended. Meaning, one of you should plan to move to be close to the other. 

Also, make sure you have SCHEDULED visits. Don’t just see each other when you “can” or “have time.” Be intentional in your planning. I’m a psychologist at uni and this is a huge concern among grad students. You can work it out long distance provided your intentional.