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Given the following post, respond as if you're commenting on Reddit:
human
CMV: Too many parents treat their kids as objects to be put on display/invested in instead of as people.

And I'm not even talking about those school-age beauty pageants. I'm talking about in the academic and prestige sense. It seems to me that a lot of parents expect their kids to be something they can be proud of in the same way one would be proud of having the newest iPhone, or a fancy car or big house; something to be used to impress/one-up your peers and have tailored to be exactly what you want it to be. At worst, this can develop into a nepotistic sense of wanting a 'miniature clone' of yourself to helicopter parent into meeting your own unfulfilled dreams or reach an unrealistic level of success (congratulations mr and mrs x, it's a CEO!).

Consequently when and if those kids leave home and decide to follow their own path, the parents act like they've been ripped off. The fact that parent culture seems to promote bragging about your kids' grades or accomplishments like they're yours (I think there may be a gender bias in this regard, but I'm probably wrong) doesn't help either. If you're going to bring a new life into the world, you need to understand that said new life is theirs to live, not yours.
gpt
Think about the opposite of this scenario: 


Your parents don't give a shit about anything you do. They don't celebrate your accomplishments, they don't care about your awards, they don't even care if you succeed or not. To them you're just a kid taking up space and costing them money. You're just another person to them - a burden until you turn 18. They don't brag about you ever, they don't even talk about you to their friends and family. You're just.... there. 



Is that the correct way to raise a child? No. Surely it's not. Which of these scenarios is worse for the child to experience: Extreme indifference, or extreme investment/pride? 


Child development actually has an answer: It's far worse for development to ignore or neglect a child than it is to celebrate them and be proud of them. Is your scenario also bad? Yeah kind of - it implies some bad parenting traits. 


But a whole lot more children will do just fine under that parenting model than otherwise.