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CMV: The Concept of Men Having To Be the Pursuer In Relationships Is A Stupid Idea Meant to Control People

Its forces men and women to form life and morals around a societal idea that is designed to force people into roles.
If you want to be approached by anyone, you've got to play this Alpha Male Dance, and force people into being interested. I've talked to many a person, after being friends with them so long, who give the "If I knew you were interested, I would have given you a chance earlier." type talk.

I'm a 6'2'', decently well built guy; called pretty boy and other slightly demeaning, if not just jokey or flirty things.
I'm demi, and I've got to have a connection, and the only way to have that is if the person meets me at least halfway. Only thing I'd say I'm missing that others could provide is being well off financially; born into a poor family and poor state.

Like walk towards me with intent, and you have my full attention. I want to know you, but society says I should leave that for last, and is total mind washing BS IMO

In regards to dating apps, If I'm presenting myself in any fashion, clearly I'm looking for something, use your head. I'm not going to walk into a McDonald's looking for a steak; you know where we are.

Taste is subjective, so I know others would want to be approached too. People are too afraid to be open and emotional.

But I can accept that I'm wrong on this, so im listening for other perspectives. Not Validation please.

Edit: Tfw you're downvoted without any discussion.

Edit2: I'm realizing how far leaning some people are. Some comments are based strictly on emotionally personal growth; some are ITS SCIENCE.

Can't the two be combined? Am sleep, answering back ASAP

Edit3: I agree my view is brought upon by childhood raising, alot of the current day "be yourself, yadada", and a healthy dose of wanting to be more positive in general when it comes to humanity. Though hearing incel-lite is a bit harsh, you are entitled to your opinion.

Edit4: My biggest issue with most reasonable responses is that humans constantly do things that go against that natural instinct. We've had social constructs and unspoken rules such as the "Golden Rule". If we were and are meant to be the pursuing role, whats with the influx of different sexual orientations? To play "The Game", we really either fully go into it, Alpha Boy Prime, or we dabble and ask why it doesn't work. Makes me feel as though I'm the broken one here; wanting to not as much be picky but interact with those who have the same mindset of I want to know the person.

Edit5: Its not some evil Saturday morning cabal, its more along the lines of a mix of religion, media, and society, though things are changing. Like yes, its been proven from a scientific standpoint why we are like this, but saying that things are only because of that is naive and very narrow minded. This is not an Occams Razor topic; its not "That Simple"

Edit6: By whom is difficult, potentially multifaceted (culture, tradition, religion),  potentially extremely simple i.e. nature.

Whom to control is easier; EVERYONE. Why can't you like both masculine and feminine traits? Isn't being "balanced" the end goal for human mental development? I have to chase because my and others biology apparently says I must according to science, while according to religion and many societies, I must take up the Mantle of Man. You can be more advanced than that.

But what is a Man really? Being brave when I need to be? Sure, easy. Stand up for others in crisis situations? Always. Be some Omega Chad, slapping my dick on things to mark my territory; This is MINE? Fuck that.

I am deeper than that; apparently most arent.

Edit7: I have some id like to Delta, but I'm reddit incompetent, (on mobile at least). View isn't entirely changed but it has advanced. What I perceive as control is mostly circumstantial, and people just kind of naturally go into the flow when it comes to these types of issues.
I am just weirdly different, its ok that I am, and those who lean into only (psuedo)science explanations, true or not, lack E.I.    Embrace both and grow lol

Edit8: Last one possibly, this entire paragraph blew me away and is eye opening. 
"I'd also like to reference someone who addressed the idea of other minds. You want people to approach you, despite their personal inclinations not to, for reasons they don't seem to associate with you, but you identify within yourself. How is anyone supposed to see who you are without seeing who you are? And if your the type to stay stush in a corner, angry with the lack of interest that your rendering, I suggest a different approach. If you're looking for it, it won't come. Go out with some friends for the purpose of hanging out with your friends, your energy will speak for itself and whoever finds it attractive will make their way over. Otherwise, you might have to do the talking. And if the conversation dies almost immediately, as you described somewhere in the thread, they're just not for you. Or...vice versa."

It never ends lol. If there's anything that comes out of this, outside of my views, I hope someone reads this and some of the wonderful posts, and grows. I want people to be better and truer to themselves, rather than listen to what others say they should be.

Final Takeaway: I need to stop using Reddit.
That is true wisdom.
gpt
From the perspective of an evolutionary psychologist these different behaviours from men and women with regard to finding sexual partners are cognitive biases and adaptive behaviours. They aren't rules created by humans that are unique in humans. Many other species have similar behaviours where the male pursues the female.
In these species the cost of baring a child is disproportionately on the female because she has to undergo a gestation period and often raises the offspring. This means that the repercussions for poorly choosing a mate are more costly for the female than they are for the male. If a female makes a bad choice of mate, she is stuck with the responsibility of gestation and raising sub par genetics whereas if the male made a poor choice he just moves on to the next female.
As a result of the disproportionate costs of poorly judging the quality of a mate, females tend to be more cautious and conservative whereas males will rarely pass up an opportunity for sex. In humans, specific cognitive biases have been identified. Women tend to underestimate a man's commitment and men tend to overestimate a woman's interest.

By the way, monogamy or being lifelong partners is also an adaptive behaviour found in many species. The idea that it is purely a human social construct is ignorant. This is because while a male might pass on his genetics by sex alone, the survival rate of his offspring will continue to rise if he helps to raise them. The chances of his offspring having more offspring will also increase and that is the ultimate goal (perpetuating your genes).