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CMV: aiming to be married with kids by 25 affects your ability to build a well rounded life

There's still a lot of learning and growing and figuring things out when you're in your 20s, and that is all effectively stunted when you have kids because it's very easy to have your life revolve around them instead of focusing on yourself, career, hobbies, experiences and interpersonal relationships.

It seems to me that people who have kids young struggle to find their identity outside of their family, and may have crises when their kids finally move away from home.

It also seems that people whose sole purpose is to get married and have kids may not have developed enough interests or purpose outside of this - as if kids will bring meaning to their life. If you have a great relationship with yourself and others, have hobbies and maybe a career you enjoy, wouldn't the idea of having kids that would effectively change your life forever be quite daunting?

EDIT:
From most of the comments it seems like younger parents nowadays, or at least the ones on here, are able to find a balance between raising children and rounding out their lives with other things, which is great to see. The context surrounding my initial opinion is that I have often been surrounded by traditional conservative individuals who seem to jump into marriage and kids and seem to be resentful of their choices or have lost themselves in their roles as parents while simultaneously praising parenthood as their sole purpose in life. I recognise my bias - thank you everyone for your thoughts!
gpt
Anecdotally, people who don't have kids until they're 40 end up being physically unhealthy, spiteful parents and often never get to play with their grandkids (if their children do the same as they did, they'll be 85 by the time their grandkids are in kindergarten).  Your kids move out when you're 58, and you basically can't do anything cool anymore.

In contrast: people who accidentally'd their way into parenthood at 18 ended up being able to enjoy middle age.  Your kid moves out when you're 36 and you're free again to go skydiving and vacationing, etc.  If your kids mimic you, you're playing with grandkids in your 40s and still doing racquetball and whatnot.

Kids deserve healthy, non-spiteful parents and active grandparents.