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ELI5: How was 50 Shades of Gray a bad protrayal of BDSM?

I remember hearing somewhere that 50 shades a gray was a pretty shittyk movie and it protrayed BDSM terribly. I've never seen the movie except for some parts of it but I get the point. So how did it fuck up protraying BDSM?
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BDSM should be safe, sane and consensual. Both partners should be agreeing to what boundaries they want to push, which ones they want to leave in place, and everybody involved should always be able to stop at any point during either through using no and/or a safeword (depending on what sort of scene you are doing).

50 shades is not safe, nor sane, and definitely not consensual. The guy stalks his partner, threatens her, controls her through expensive gifts, pretty much throws a mental tantrum when she uses her safeword and on at least one occasion disregards her use of no/her safe word entirely. We call that rape.

Plus, there are a lot of people who aren't really happy with how the guy's backstory and his interest in BDSM were linked. It really feeds into the whole 'all people into BDSM have to be mentally damaged' stereotype, which is hardly true.