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Relationship in the lives of academicians

It takes time for someone who went for a PhD to get settled down with a permanent job which is pretty obvious. By that time, a person is near 30 or around 32 or more if we consider postdoc. How does uncertainty of which city/state/country(?) one may get a job relate to finding and keeping relationship a partner? This particularly happens a lot in faculty position. If one's lover or spouse has a job, how should the decision to move in other's city be taken?

There is a meme on internet that you either settle down for less or stay single. Jokes aside, once I read an social studies article where it shows that statistically male faculties more likely to have housewife (had a job but left) or wives doing a job she's too qualified to do because of moving with her husband. Female faculties may have faculty husband most likely (I forgot the percentage). Housewife observation may be relatively uncommon nowadays because of the changes compared to 30 years ago. Unfortunately I can't find the article again, so please ignore if you wish. However it is relatable.

I wonder about my professors how their life is (am afraid to ask such personal questions). It is more difficult for single academicians in a foreign country to find a partner (like me). From PhD to postdoc, you may need to change your place 2-3 times or more. I have checked my teachers's profiles and I don't know how they manage to do it if they had spouse at that time. Also, taking children is a parallel issue and a time dependent factor for female academicians if they want to. What do you think about this?

about me: I am a male grad student of STEM in his mid-20s. I have a plan to stay in academia, if not, in a research lab. I may do 1-2 postdoc (maybe?) in different places in future. I never had any partner and I am worried how it would go in future. I don't want to be a jerk asking someone to leave her job for me. I am even afraid to ask out someone I like because most likely we won't be able to stay together.

Any kind opinion and comment on my perspective will be welcome! Thanks for reading.
gpt
1. Find a partner working in academia (at your grad or postdoc university)
2. Be kickass as you both begin your careers, and both apply to faculty jobs
3. Whoever lands the job at the better university, condition the appointment on also finding a faculty position for the partner
4. ????
5. Profit 

Kinda tongue-in-cheek obviously, but that route seems to happen an awful lot.