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Open relationships/non-monogamous as an academic - need to keep secret?

Throwaway account. I am curious how common this is in the academy. Given the unpredictable nature of the jobs market and the need to travel often for field research, and the two-body problem, this arrangement makes the most sense for me.

Another question I have is whether I need to keep this aspect of my life on the down low in the time before getting tenure, even from colleagues, in order to not create any fuss over one's personal life? I'm already pretty low key and reticent in discussing my personal life so this is more of a question of whether I should intentionally keep it a secret, aside from a few trusted friends. For what it's worth, non-monogamy/polyamory is not a protected class like LGBTQ from the perspective of anti-discrimination laws.

A third question is whether embracing this kind of lifestyle would preclude me from jobs in religiously-affiliated institutions (BYU, Notre Dame, Georgetown, to name a few that lie on different points in the spectrum of religiosity and strictness), under some morality clash with campus culture clause or preventing any kind of uproars from parents etc.
gpt
Generally, it depends on your colleagues, really, however: 

> A third question is whether embracing this kind of lifestyle would preclude me from jobs in religiously-affiliated institutions (**BYU**

Yes.