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Given the following post, respond as if you're commenting on Reddit:
human
ELI5: Why are homosexual acts in straight women generally more socially acceptable/passable than vice versa?

I feel like this question was explained a while ago in some form or another, but I just can't find where. Basically, when two girls kiss just for fun/experimentation/whatever, why is it written off as such? Why don't men experience the same? Or to put it a different way, I've met homophobic people who have no problem with watching lesbian pornography. Where does this come from?

Sorry if it's unclear. I just remember seeing a great explanation on reddit once and it'd be great to read something like that again.
gpt
It's fetishized. Queer women still can't get married in a lot of states, can't go to prom together, can't pursue their relationship without stigma and judgment and (in some countries) the threat of death. The difference is that men in power find girl-on-girl sexual acts to be sexy to them, and that fetishization is mistaken for acceptance.