system
Given the following post, respond as if you're commenting on Reddit:
human
ELI5: Why is it that when a girl decides to give up her baby for adoption, she's applauded for doing the right thing, but when a man doesn't want to be a parent, he's a deadbeat?
gpt
What your describing first is the woman chosing to give birth to the child and put it up for adoption, rather than have an abortion.  In this example you're talking about people applauding her for doing the HARD thing of actually bringing the child to term, and then giving it up to live in a better home than she can provide.

The second thing you're describing is when the mother keeps the child, but the father refuses to be involved.  If the baby's given up for adoption, nobody cares about the father not being involved, but when the mother keeps the child, and the father denies it, that's a different situation.