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CMV: The sexual aspect of bachelor parties should be considered unfaithful behavior in a traditional, monogamous relationship.

I am perfectly okay with the idea of a potential future fiancé going out with close friends to have one last wild weekend and am all for that. What I don’t understand is how other women are so accepting and open about the sexual nature of what happens at bachelor parties in the views of a traditionally monogamous relationship. Even if the bachelor doesn’t specifically have sex with another woman while away (which I would absolutely consider cheating), it seems like the traditional lap dance should be considered unfaithful behavior as well (within the confines of a monogamy). 

I believe most people would say it isn’t unfaithful because 
A) the dancer is simply doing her job 
B) the man usually isn’t allowed to touch the dancer himself.
This seems like an awfully thin line to draw between having fun and being unfaithful. The man is certainly still being physically pleasured here. If a guy in a relationship were to go out and have another girl grind on him, it would generally be considered cheating even though there is no emotional involvement. Why is a lap dance any different? I admire women who can be so okay about. Personally however, I would feel hurt thinking about the man I am about to marry receiving such sexual pleasure from another woman especially since sex is so important and special to me in a relationship. 

I also want to acknowledge bachelorette parties in this argument. To me, the sexual aspect of bachelorette parties (male strippers) seems more trivial. I imagine it’s more like entertainment and about the performance. I don’t feel that there is nearly as much sexual pleasure derived from watching male strippers or even the bachelorette getting a dance. 

Lastly, it seems like people also rationalize the behavior because it’s “the last time to have some fun before you’re stuck with one woman forever”. To me, this just seems like a terrible and sad mentality to have right before entering married life. Perhaps I’m wrong and this isn’t really the mentality behind all bachelor parties especially when the engaged man is (hopefully) very happy to be getting married. 

Although I have never been engaged (I’m in my early 20s), I’ve been in several happy and committed relationships and don’t generally consider myself to be insecure or “the jealous type”. I’ve never felt irrationally possessive about my significant other. This is just me thinking ahead and imagining my self in the fiancée position wondering what it would be like.  I’d like to hear your experiences.
gpt
At the end of the day, faithfulness is keeping the trust and agreement of your partner. Unfaithfulness is breaking that trust. If a person's partner doesn't consider a lapdance cheating, then within their relationship, it isn't.

Some couple's consider looking at pornography to be cheating. Some are open to their spouse having sex with other people. Everyone draws their own lines.