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CMV: No kids = happier marriage, happier life.

**I really** ***WANT*** **people to change my view on this.**

All my life, for a number of unrelated reasons, I've had a severe antipathy towards babies and young children. However, now that I'm much older, I'm starting to see that it probably creates a sense of happiness and fulfillment that cannot be created any other way.

**POINT 1 \- Poorer sex life**

If you want to have kids, this will put your wife's life at risk. Pregnancy is extremely dangerous, and a wife is much more important to me than children are. Childbirth can create a huge number of physical and psychological issues, and you and your wife *won't be able to have sex for six weeks* \- that is, if her vagina did not tear and experience permanent damage.

Even after the six weeks are over, she will say things like, "I'm too insecure about my post\-baby body", "I'm too tired after taking care of the kids", etc. etc. There is the stereotype that one's wife stops giving them sex once she has as many kids as she wants to.

Women's libido is dependent on her stress level. This combined with the fact that there is little to no "alone time" anymore, must make it extremely difficult or impossible to have sex.**POINT 2 \- Life sacrifices**

EVERYTHING \- sex, hobbies, interests, quality/romantic time together, \[insert item here\], ALL become second to raising the kid, and these things will necessarily need to be sacrificed. \- No more playing guitar. No more cute dinner dates. No more vacations, etc. etc.

The cost will run about $250,000 or so, at least in the United States. It will take 20\+ years of your time.

**POINT 3 \- Relationship Strain**

I've noticed that, among couples who have kids, issues relating to the children are the catalyst for 50\-60&#37; of the nasty fights that couples go through, and even some of the divorces.

Not to mention, dealing with a hateful, unloving rebellious teenager \(this is coming from someone who was mean to his dad growing up \- I regret doing this and would HATE to have to experience it myself\).

**Could someone try to change my mind? And, if possible, please do so in a way that addresses all or some of the points I have listed. Thank you! :\)**  


And here is my case FOR wanting to have kids:

1. I have a pregnancy kink that I will probably not be able to satisfy in any other way \(I mean, how many single pregnant women are there willing to hook up?\)
2. My mom wants to have grandkids. My sisters have not followed through, and I don't know if they will. I feel guilty about this.
3. As I said above, kids probably provide a sense of fulfillment and happiness that cannot be obtained in any other way.
gpt
This is only true if having children is not a major part of your life goals as a human being. For most having children is just that, and the failure to do so causes more damage than all that you list. We are talking about fundamental primal biological drives that are a part of our psychies that few can ignore.