system
Given the following post, respond as if you're commenting on Reddit:
human
I believe that the burden of disclosure when dating trans people does not fall on the trans person. CMV

I remember seeing an askreddit post about what sex was like for both partners when one of them is a post-op trans person, that eventually devolved into an argument about disclosure. I feel that if you are uncomfortable with dating a trans person, it is your responsibility to ask the other person if they are trans or otherwise make it known that you do not wish to date trans people.  After all if you're the one with a preference in a romantic partner, it is your responsibility to make that preference known to the other involved. I feel that if this makes it harder for you to get dates that is just the price that you have to pay for the ability to maintain your preference/avoid accidentally falling in love with a trans person.
gpt
> After all if you're the one with a preference in a romantic partner, it is your responsibility to make that preference known to the other involved.

Not when your preference is 'the norm'. Transexualism has been estimated to occur in 1 out of 30,000 males and 1 out of 100,000 females. Even if you're generous and say it's 10 times those estimates you're still talking about a tiny fraction of the population.

Disclosure is about *trust*. If there's something you're bringing to a relationship that is relevant to your partner not disclosing it is a breach of that trust. You haven't illustrated at all why it's acceptable to breach that trust. There's nothing to gain by not disclosing.

On the other hand there's plenty to lose by not disclosing. You're setting up yourself and the other person for a painful disclosure when it finally does come to life. What if the non-trans person has their heart set on children and an otherwise fantastic relationship suddenly crumbles? What if they just plain aren't okay with it, or do you think that's an invalid position?

>I feel that if this makes it harder for you to get dates that is just the price that you have to pay for the ability to maintain your preference/avoid accidentally falling in love with a trans person.

This makes it seem like the preference to not date a trans person is arbitrary and shows a stunning lack of empathy.