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I am bigoted against people in open "relationships". Please CMV.

I find the abstract idea of non-monogamous relationships viscerally repulsive, and actually, I'm totally comfortable with that. They're simply not for me, and that should be the end of it. I'm not going to change that opinion, nor do I think I could even if I wanted to.

The problem is, I don't stop there. My disgust with the idea of open relationships carries into how I feel about the people who engage in them. By proxy, I find those people disgusting and childish and their relationships ultimately invalid. I realize this is wrong. I realize it is totally predicated on emotion. My higher brain knows that it is wrong to assign value judgments to what goes on between two (or more) consenting adults, and I should stop. But for whatever reason, I can't.

I recognize that monogamy is in itself a societal construct. It's not for everyone, but it's definitely for me. Why can't I get over the "stop liking what I don't like" mentality?

If you can, please change my view.

*Update edit:

This has been an enlightening discussion spanning the course of hours, and I want to thank everyone involved for sharing their time with me. It's not something that is easy for me to discuss, but I feel better now that I have. I'll reflect on this discussion later and try to consider these points in regards to how I judge other people's relationships (something that I felt was unethical behavior from me to begin with). I'm going to try, at least. Later I might answer more questions or clarify my viewpoint further, but for now I have work to get to. Thanks.
gpt
I think Dan Savage actaully makes a good point about this topic.  Every single relationship ends, except the ones that don't.  Monogamous relationships fall apart and are childish and pathetic but we just look at them and go, "oh that's just a bad relationship" but when a non-monogamous relationship has the same qualities we go "oh non-monogamy is bad."

The other thing to consider is that due to this view, we only ever hear about the non-monogamous relationships that fall apart and rarely if ever hear about the ones that last.  You yourself know people in healthy non-monogamous relationships but you don't know you know because they don't advertise it thanks to social stigma.