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CMV: Saying "everything happens for a reason" is dumb and insensitive

Far too many times have I experienced someone sharing some form of traumatic experience or sad
story, and someone has replied "everything happens for a reason."

First of all, no it doesn't. As humans we have to accept that most of the time life isn't some fairytale with a resolution and happy ending. More often than not, things happen for no reason. There is no life lesson that came from stubbing my toe, there is no hidden meaning behind my pet fish dying. We are not characters in a book and not every single event has a purpose that contributes to the "plot."

Second, it is super disrespectful and insensitive to say this to someone talking about a sad or traumatic experience. If a person is opening up to you about something, and you just dismiss it by saying that "everything happens for a reason," that's just gross.
gpt
> and you just dismiss it 

They're not dismissing it - at least, they're *probably* not dismissing it. It's a way of trying to offer support, even though it may not be logical. Is it *really* as insensitive as saying:

>  life isn't some fairytale with a resolution and happy ending. More often than not, things happen for no reason.

to someone who just had their dog die, or something?