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I find teenage dating silly. CMV.

I think there have been slightly similar posts before, but I don't think I've seen a post quite like this one yet.

The mostly Western institution of teenage dating, such as in high school and middle school, always seemed rather strange to me (possibly relevant, I was born in Pakistan, but I've lived in Canada since late 1999, and am currently 17). Obviously, this is a fairly ubiquitous practice, so I want to know what's incorrect about my view.

First of all, it seems rather superficial. Lots of the relationships that I see other people at my school go through seem not to be motivated by love or anything of the sort. It seems to be more like picking a favourite person of the opposite sex (or the same, I guess) to be best friends with for as long as possible. This includes obligatory dates that are nothing more than glorified hangouts.

Second of all, it seems pointless. Most relationships in high school don't end in anything more than a break-up. This can change friendships for the worse (for both the ex-couple and the friends involved) and basically end with everyone a little worse off. Even if the couple breaks up and they remain friends, what was the point of the relationship?

Third of all - and this is partially related to the previous point - it causes unnecessary drama and emotional pain with no intention of proper commitment. Not only the actual people in the relationship, but their entire social spheres end up worrying about the state of a relationship which probably won't end in anything substantial, like, say, marriage or something (not saying all relationships should end in marriage, but a high school or middle school one has a very low chance of it). Instead, it stresses out people financially and emotionally in ways that minors shouldn't have to face. Why would anyone make a decision for which there are more cons than pros and the chances of actual benefits are low?

Fourth of all, students are too busy to be worrying about relationships. In fact, I've seen at least one relationship end because one party was too busy. Adults are busy too, (and maybe I don't know the extent of how busy they are due to my age) but students spend six hours a day at school, one or two more on homework and extracurriculars, and many have jobs, chores, and volunteering as well. It feels like too much to ask to include a relationship as well. 

Fifth and finally, many teenage relationships involve sex, which seems to me to just not be appropriate for teenagers. Sex is a very intimate and personal act (if it weren't, rape wouldn't be such a serious crime), so the fact that it's almost a given for some relationships just seems odd. While teenagers are autonomous individuals, the teenage brain isn't even fully developed (though that isn't my whole justification) and the relationships are often devoid of actual plans to commit or love and thus don't really justify something as monumental in one's life as sex.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that teenagers shouldn't be allowed to be in relationships, but the whole practice of teenage dating just seems strange to me. I'm also not saying that dating itself is strange. Just teenage dating.

**TL;DR: I find teenage dating silly because:**

1. **It seems superficial and loveless.**

2. **It seems pointless with each relationship doomed to fail.**

3. **It causes more drama and pain than it is worth.**

4. **It causes too much stress in the already busy and involved lives of students.**

5. **Sex often comes with it, and if it's already loveless and doomed to fail, it's a bad idea to have sex as well.**
gpt
1) Dating doesn't have to be deep and about love. It can be about having fun, and learning how to date.

2) Dating doesn't have to be about finding eternal love. It can be about having fun, and learning how to date.

3) and 4) are your opinion, both of which are partially based on the assumption that dating is about deep, eternal love. Others may not share your opinion.

5) Sex doesn't have to be about love. It can be about having fun, and learning how to have sex. Just be safe about it.

At some point, people are going to have to learn that relationships aren't the sunshine fairy tales that Hollywood presents them as. Whether they learn that in their teen years or in their adult years, it's going to happen.