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CMV: Nonbinary, genderfluid, genderqueer etc. are actually enforcing gender binary, not defying it.

Update: Thanks to everyone so much for your inputs. I probably won't be responding much more, I didn't expect so many replies! I really appreciate all the perspectives and feel I have learned today. It is unfair of me to say NB/etc people are enforcing gender, as that sounds very accusatory. I realize now that it would be a herculean task to abolish gender, and NB identities are the best many can do for now. It's hard living in this gendered society isn't it? I hope all of you are able to find peace in yourselves and your identities, whatever they may be. 


Gender isn't real, it's a set of harmful stereotypes about both sexes. To be gender-nonconforming would mean to identify as your biological sex, but not identify with gender roles associated with said sex. Example: a male wearing a dress, being openly emotional, or a female who never wears makeup and has a gruff personality. 

However, if you're genderfluid/NB, and go by they/them pronouns, not identifying with your biological sex, you have essentially made a third category. This does not defy gender. Instead, it reinforces it: if you do not fit into a gender box, you are simply placed into another box. Why don't we just rid of the boxes altogether? Gender is not a spectrum or a binary. It is some sexist BS that should be abolished entirely. 

This is probably a poor explanation of my stance. But I'd like to learn why people who denounce gender, have to make up a new category for themselves, instead of just identifying as their sex and being who they are, stereotypes be damned. It doesn't make sense to me.

Edit: I would like to make a correction to my post. Gender IS real, and that was a poor choice of words. What I meant to convey was, gender is made up by humans as a social construct. This doesn't make it imaginary though.

Edit 2: I would like to add an example of how I believe NB identities can enforce gender. Say you are a young girl growing up in today's society. You naturally don't adhere to traditional gender roles: you are loud, strong, love to play sports, get dirty, wear comfortable plain clothes. You, as kids do, look around you at others to find representation of somebody like you. However, most gender NC people you see identify as non-binary or something of the sort. You see very little people like you, that identify as women. 

You might start to think you are actually nonbinary, as most of the women you see are conforming to gender roles, and you do not. The category of "women" does not diversify, as most of the gender NC women move into the nonbinary identity. You are left with a narrowed view of what women are like.
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Genderfluid people and enbies don't 'denounce gender', they just don't think their gender fits in the established gender binary. If you're arguing that genders don't exist, sure, maybe they seem superfluous, but they very much feel genders exist and they feel theirs isn't in the binary.