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human
CMV: it’s not okay to reach out to someone you didn’t match with on other social platforms just because you saw them on Tinder/Bumble

I don’t have my social handles listed on any of my dating profiles but I’ve still had people be able to find my Instagram as some of them go to the same college as me and we have mutual followers. I don’t think this is okay as the fact that we didn’t match should indicate that I may not be interested, and it sometimes makes me uncomfortable being randomly reached out to. I also know of women who’ve had someone who found them on tinder (one whom they matched with and one whom they didn’t match with) find them on Facebook and message them, and as we know last names aren’t listed on Tinder and Bumble, so it’s very creepy to me that there are guys who will go out of their way to find someone’s socials just because they saw them on a dating app.

I’ve had people say I’m wrong to take issue with guys reaching out to girls they didn’t match with on tinder and bumble as they don’t have bad intentions, but I think the issue for me is respecting boundaries as it does feel invasive. But I’m willing to have my view on this challenged because maybe I am being too hard on these guys, or maybe I’m being a little mean.
gpt
If they don’t want unknown people contacting them on other forms of social media, they should disable the option for people they aren’t friends with to message them.  


I agree, this is like the first step to stalking. But this is like leaving your door unlocked and getting ~~upset~~ surprised when someone walks in uninvited.


Edit: Should people know better? Yes. But we live in a world where people have many personalities, and unfortunately some people don’t. This is reality. Locks exist for a reason, as do privacy settings on social media.