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CMV: Divorce is not a Tragedy; a tragedy is staying in an unhappy marriage.

Here are my reasons why staying in an unhappy marriage is worse than getting a divorce, especially with children involved. And I am not going to address marriages that contain abuse, drug use, or financial irresponsibility. I'm just referring to marriages that have become roommate situations at best, daily fights at worst.

1) You will not grow.

Marriage is an opportunity to encourage one another, to become a better person than you were yesterday. It should be a place of mutual respect and support. But if you are in a marriage with a disconnected, unsupportive, nagging, etc., spouse, any growth you make will be survival skills.

2) You will likely become depressed.

People often assume that someone is lonely if they are alone, but I'd argue that sometimes the feeling of being alone when you are with someone is much worse. That feeling of knowing things shouldn't be this way, that you've tried and tried and you are still stuck and have no means of making the marriage work and just pass each day as co-managers of shared life logistics is depressing as h-ll. The inability to fix a marriage will make this worse, and while there are thousands upon thousands of counselors and books and classes and talks about fixing your marriage, in truth they rarely work. 

3) You will have a negative impact on your kids

There's so much to tackle here, so I'll just cover the most salient points. Kids will learn what marriage looks like from you. If you are modeling a bad/unhappy/unhealthy marriage for your kids, the best they can do in their own future marriage (if they even want to be married after witnessing yours) is to use your marriage as an example of what not to do. Some say that they don't fight in front of the kids, so it's not hurting them. Well, kids pick up on the negative emotions in the room. You don't have to raise your voice or slam a door to know mommy and daddy can't stand one another. And if you grow up in a family where the parental foundation is really a shaky facade, the kids will be raised feeling insecure about their family and their relationships. 

4) One of you is likely to cheat on the other

It's happened so much around me in the past few years it's sad, and that is one or even both spouses cheating. Whether it gets discovered or not, it's happening a lot. Now, I'm not saying that having a happy, supportive marriage will mean one of you will never cheat. Nor am I saying that you can blame an unhappy marriage for your affair. If you cheat, you made that decision with free will. In short, I think it's much more likely that being in an unhappy marriage creates an environment where one or both of you may cheat. 

5) Very few people have what it takes to fix a marriage

If you and your spouse have spent years being unable to communicate and resolve your issues, if you have reached the point where you nitpick each other in front of your friends, etc., I think the marriage is dead and can't be saved. This last item is probably THE biggest one that someone may be able to change my view on. What seems to happen, though, is that one or maybe even both parties in the marriage is unwilling and/or incapable of doing what is necessary to fix a bad marriage. One person can't fix a bad marriage; it takes two. And from what I've seen, most people are unable to do what it takes to fix their marriage.
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When someone finally dies after a tragic illness, their death is still a tragedy as well. 

Similarly, divorce is a tragic conclusion to an already tragic marriage. Until that point, there may be some hope of an improvement. In both cases the finality, be it divorce or death, crushes whatever hope that remains.