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human
CMV: A committed open relationship doesn't exist.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I asked my girlfriend of six years what her thoughts were on open relationships. She said she might be into it if I was capable, but my personality being what it is, it would probably would not work. It's a sacrifice she's not willing to make.

Sure, I get jealous easily. But that aside, it seems to me that being "committed" to someone means you lend yourself to them entirely. It seems mathematically impossible to give 100% of one thing (yourself) to two or more different things (other people). You commit to someone you think is worthy; someone who is special. That being said, and in relation to how much of yourself you can give, either one person is special to you, or nobody is.




Edit: My view has been changed. I think what I've learned from everyones varied responses is that when it comes to interpersonal relationships the only rules that exist are those which you and your partner (or partners) agree on, and that such agreements or disagreements result from how each individual feels on a solely personal level. So basically, the rules are made up. This leads me to question the validity of marriage, as marriage is just another set of rules, but hey... I can save that for a later post. Thank you everyone for the responses.
gpt
If your definition of "committed" is "exclusive", then by definition you can't have a committed open relationship.

But looking for another angle, you don't share everything 100% only with your SO. For example you sometimes go eating with friends, or have activities for other people, don't you ? 

For most people that are in an open relationship, sex is at the same level that eating a good burger or playing video games: it's pretty cool, but not sacred at all. As such, they can do it with people that want to share that with them, without restricting it exclusively to their SO. But if you think that sex is more than something pleasant and that it's something that define a couple, then sure you're not going to share this with other people.