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CMV: The best way to respond to false accusations of racism is to not validate it

My wife is a licensed clinical social worker. In her first year she was called racist on 3 separate occasions merely for following protocol

1. Was called racist for explaining to a mother that it was illegal to keep her child home from school. He was a teenager and didn't know how to read because he hadn't been to school since elementary
2. Was called racist because she was unable to find an open medication appointment on schedule
3. After 2 no-shows, therapists are required to refer the client to a meeting with the supervisor. This happened, the client was referred, and my wife was called racist.

I have purposefully left out my wife's race and the race of these 3 people, because I think it distracts from the intent of my question.

My wife is one of the kindest humans on this planet. In all 3 of these situations my wife was self-reflective and tried to figure out if there was something wrong in her tone or her demeanor. In all 3 situations she was very apologetic. After the apology, mother #2 backtracked and admitted she knew my wife was just trying to help. After the apology, mother #1 felt validated she truly was acting out of racism. Her supervisor explained to her that it is best to not validate a false accusation. I find it very strange to assume the motives behind someone's actions without evidence. I suppose it is a personal narrative that has developed based off of real life personal experience coupled with media attention. Sometimes the accusation will be true, sometimes it will be an erroneous extrapolation.

This leaves me with a question though, if I am accused of racism falsely, what is the best / most productive way to respond? At the moment, I believe it is to not validate, but would like to have my belief challenged with alternative or more productive ways of handling this accusation.
gpt
In all of your specific cases the individual had very little social capital and was emotional charged.

If you are being accused of racism by an employee or someone else who can engage in a civil case, it’s best to ask the person to outline their complaint and then hand the complaint to a lawyer for advice.