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Given the following post, respond as if you're commenting on Reddit:
human
ELI5: If it is so ingrained in our instincts to find a mate and pass on our genes, then why do we get so nervous asking people out?

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gpt
We have surrounded ourselves with a lot of social customs that get in the way of our instincts. This social niceties are what is blocking your impulses. Think about your instinct which is to see a person you are attracted to and want to mate with them. They likely feel the same way, either about you or about someone. We have deemed it necessary to not disclose that information immediately. People who disclose everything are considered creepy. This is for western cultures. Many societies don't have these social mores and they work differently.