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CMV: it doesn't matter when somone loses their virginity. The concept of virginity hurts almost everyone.

Young or old. Loss of virginity has little impact on who someone is. Being a virgin does not mean someone is less likable or less socially adept.

The focus on virginity makes everyone either lose it for bad reasons or be really nervous the first time.

Speaking from personal experience, I had a terrible girlfriend pretty much just because I wanted not to be a virgin anymore.

We don't have specific words for people who haven't driven cars yet. I wouldn't assume someone who does not drive does not have the ability to do so. I understand why this concept makes some amount of sense. In a time without birth control a non virgin has essentially taken on the potential role of parenthood. It now only hurts people.

Edit: awarded a delta over a small intricacy of me saying people shouldn't judge virgins. I just think society is too focused on it as a whole. People can judge who ever they want. (Still agree with my main thesis)
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you're right. it doesn't matter. it's something personal that others have no right to know unless you wish to tell them. 

but people cherish firsts. firsts are thresholds and to some extent change your life. virginity doesn't matter in the same way that your first steps don't matter or your first words don't matter. they really don't. 

but as someone else said, it's a way people gauge others bc humans are a competitive species. we compare our physical bodies, we compare our grades in school, we compare how much money we make. and those comparisons can reveal something about us as people. if you lost your virginity at a very early or very late age compared to when you sexually matured it says something about you. if you waited for it to be with your spouse or if you hooked up with someone randomly at a party it says something about you. did you keep it to yourself or did you brag about it? that says something about you.

does it matter what it says about you or how people gauge that? it doesn't any more than any other social measure does. but you can't make the concept of virginity disappear. even if you try to take the name away everyone's lives can still be split by a time before they have had sex and after they have had sex. 

I personally don't think it matters. there are other ways to gauge people other than something so arbitrary as for the most part you can be on any end of the "how/when" spectrum of losing your virginity and it not make as much a difference as some other first like "hey you're a salesperson who's never made a sale" or "you've never considered the well being of others". but people like to jump to it as a measure of social worth, and in most cases, those who do are usually immature.