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CMV: People don't talk enough about how the media - through commercializing love and sex - contributes to movements like the incels

Nowadays a topic that often comes up is how we shouldnt judge people (mostly woman) because of their sexual lives - whether that means having lots of past partners, or very few. This is obviously a good thing, but I feel like a key factor that often gets overlooked in these debates is the role of the media, and how it feeds into the insecurities of some people, which, in turn, may lead to repressed anger.

In my experience, one of the biggest reasons leading to young men judging woman because of their sex lives is their own insecurities. I have experienced this in my mid-teens, and I've seen other friends go through this same thing a bit later in life (like their early 20s): at a certain point, many single people - especially virgins, though not exclusively - begin to project their own desperation onto others. If they're a virgin, they project that onto women with active sex lives, and deem them "sluts". If they've been single for too long, they project that onto women with active dating lives, and call them "easy whores" or whatnot. This is an unhealthy coping mechanism, but at it's root is an issue still largely unresolved: the role of the media.

I have been in situations where I alsmost fell down the self-pity incel rabbit hole. I was (and to an extent, still am) extremely insecure about being a virgin in my 20s. People have told me that I shouldn't worry, it's okay, it's actually very common, and they are right, statistically speaking. Yet, this didn't help much when I turned on the radio, and every song is about love, sex, women, etc. Nearly every show has romantic subplots, ESPECIALLY the ones featuring young people. Nearly every YA book is filled with people finding the love of their lives in their teens.

This is obviously unrealistic, people shouldn't have their real life expectations based on works of fiction, but many people - including former friends of mine - really can't get over this. They're getting closer and closer to the incel subculture, because they can't reconcile with their own lack of success, while everywhere they look, every show, book, ad, billboard, etc. is full of sexual messages. It further puts sex on a pedestal, which inevitably feeds into people's insecurities about it.
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I don't think I've _ever_ seen a long-form work about incels that does not mention media as central to incel communities and the incel movement. Why do you think that people don't talk enough about how media has fueled this movement?