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I am against my SO's use of marijuana. CMV

My SO uses marijuana recreationally and illegally, where we live. He really enjoys the way it makes him feel. The way he describes it is that he is able to have a peaceful mind and enjoy what's around him. He argues that its not harmful. I'm not worried that he's a lazy hedonist,  because he's not. Hes a very motivated,  intelligent guy.

But his use makes me uncomfortable for 2 reasons. One, the lack of legality. The lengths he goes to get weed sometimes is risky, asking a friend of a friend of a friend that he doesn't even know. He lives on a college campus too, so it's posssible to get caught. 

Two, I dislike the way it changes him. It makes me uncomfortable that I'm dealing with someone...different than normal. His responsiblities are forgotten and he's out of touch with our relationship and his life. I feel like talking to him while high is a waste of my time. Once he got high on Valebtines Day and goofily asked me to be his valentine, and that was it. Not to sound high maintenance but I love holidays,  I love celebrations,  and I love occasions to express love/appreciation. I feel that being high inhibited him from engaging with me in a more meaningful way or realizing my disappointment over how the day went. He agrees. I just don't get how so many people are fine with their loved ones escaping to a different and motivationless place.

I understand that I can be selfish in relationships. If I'm just being selfish, please show me.

CMV.

Edit: I'm not looking for relationship advice. We are happy together and this isn't a big issue between us. I think that my anti-weed view is unfair to my SO and I was seeking help understanding his perspective.
gpt
This feels like a relationship question, not a CMV question.  

Was he a weed smoker when you met him?  You cannot decide to date a person and then tell them how to change.  If he enjoys a thing that you hate then you should not have started this relationship.

Also, if he is living on a college campus and asking for a friend of a friend then he is a terrible weed smoker.  Any decent regular weed smoker has a guy.  Not a friend of a friend.

So you have an issue with marijuana or do you have an issue with this one dude smoking marijuana?  We can try to change your view about the drug, but we cannot try to change your view about a dude.