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CMV: Single life is incredibly depressing.

Hoping that this sub can help!

It seems that my life is in a weird period, and will stay this way until my view is fixed. 

23 year old male. I've been working in a startup for the last 3 years and it's grown tremendously. I make ~45K a year and have my own place with a few roommates - leasing a car, keeping busy with music... It all seems to be solid from all measures.

But it isn't enough. I don't have a girlfriend (likely due to a desperate vibe that I emit) and really find that to be the only thing I'm concerned with. I was in a relationship for 5 years - that ended 7 months ago, and I'm not yet over it. Before that, I had a 2.5 year relationship. A lot of thinking has led to a lot of learning - for example, I didn't end either of those relationships. Once I'm content... I never leave. That must be coming from a deeper belief/view at play.

So many cliches make sense, but are frustrating and have been functionally unhelpful:

You want what you can't have
If you love something let it go
Time heals all wounds

Logically, they all make sense - but from a deeper level, it doesn't seem to hit (or maybe I'd be changing how I view things).

Even though it isn't a pressing issue at the moment, I haven't finished my degree - that will forever irk me (due to possible financial outcomes). Don't really have the drive to finish it.

I've dealt with depression and it all seems to come down to a belief I hold deep down - that romantic relationships are the most significant thing in life. My last relationship ending was mostly my fault - I've learned what not to do moving forward, but don't have an opportunity to correct it with my last partner.

I'm not looking for female friends - I'm looking for a lover, for a partner. Being able to sleep and wake up next to someone you care about is one of the coolest things I've ever experienced.

My view makes life very frustrating and unenjoyable without a relationship, which I don't currently have. I write to you here with a few things in mind:

1. I'm not happy with how life is when single
2. This is attributed to my worldview
3. I realize that the significance I place on relationships is likely unhealthy
4. I don't know how to change it
5. I've spoken to many people about this (family, friends, therapist, ex's parents)
6. Nothing said has been enough to hit me on a belief/view level.
7. After 7 months I've been unable to solve this on my own

Please CMV.
gpt
You were in a relationship that lasted for 5 years. 

And you reaction to that is simply trying to get in a relationship. 

It seems like you haven't taken any time to figure out why things went wrong in the first place. That's kind of important. 

Time doesn't heal all wounds. Time alone doesn't do shit. Time plus reflection can bring healing. It seems like you haven't really done the second bit. 

You said you have learned what not to do wrong. Have you? You had five years with your last partner. Did you make the same mistakes as you have made in other relationships? 

Are you going to find a girl who is special and who means something to you or are you just going to wake up next to the first girl who takes you in?