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CMV: Sex is about having fun and pleasure.

This is the only view I've ever been exposed to since I learned about sex through porn. Im interested in hearing arguments for the "sex is about romance and intimacy" side. I honestly want to think like that, I don't want sex to just be meaningless in my mind.

I think of sex as something done for pure pleasure and fun, I see absolutely zero intimacy involved, it's just about being penetrated or penetrating someone. I am still a virgin. I think that my view of sex is very simplistic and I would like if it had more meaning to it.
gpt
Well,  to have sex you have to expose yourself to somebody else.  All the flaws you may cover up normally,  ever bit of you that may not "measure up" to perfection gets shown. That alone seems pretty intimate to me. It is important you can trust the other person (not NECESSARY for a long term relationship if that is not your thing,  but as this moment and knowing they will know your body from now on).  

If you want to make the other side happy,  and them to enjoy sex (sex for pleasure) you further will most likely have to do a lot more than just have penetrative sex.  For many women that is honestly not the big part that will get them especially off.  And what works for one person to fulfill them may not work for another person.  So,  you will need to have an intimate understanding of your partner's body and their desires.  You and your partner will, most likely, not get sex to work perfectly the first time. You will fumble around,  be awkward, maybe hurt each other.  So,  it is important you can be open with each other,  laugh about your own foibles,  and communicate.  So,  again, far more than being penetrated or penetrating somebody.

Also, pleasure and fun is also not the antithesis of  romance and intimacy.  They can both work together.  For many people romance and intimacy have to be there first for pleasure and fun to work.  For others pleasure and fun work easily without much else.  And others again don't get much fun from sex but still like the intimacy you get from being super close to somebody they care about.