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How to tell my narcissistic boss I am leaving?

Using my throwaway for privacy reasons…

Edit: Thanks everyone for the kind and wise words! They are much appreciated and of great help!

Next week, I will have to tell my boss that I will be leaving a postdoc position early. I am leaving because of him and the very toxic working environment he creates at our institution. 

I know narcissism is a word that gets thrown around a lot, however I have a strong suspicion my boss must at least be somewhere on the narcissistic spectrum. He can be a very charming person at first sight (that is also why I had no idea what I was getting myself into); yet he is also a terrible micromanager with anger issues (anything can set him off anytime, and he constantly creates problems out of non-issues), everything is always about him and nothing is ever his fault (he is also very easily offended and takes everything as a personal insult). My institution turns out to have a history of people leaving early (because of him). 

I made a lot of personal sacrifices for this position. For example, I have moved countries, while my family stayed behind. In the meantime, I am not getting any research done (I am almost two years in and still have no publication in sight, because of all the drama going on and the menial tasks my boss keeps swamping me with), my mental health is deteriorating (I suffer from a lot of stress-related issues and I feel burned-out), and my family is in another country. In other words, this job is not getting me anywhere and it is all just not worth it.

I could really use some advice on how to handle this conversation I am going to have next week. On the one hand, I want my boss to know, that I am leaving because of our toxic relationship (the mere fact that I am leaving, he will probably take as a personal insult anyways). On the other hand, I am afraid that will do me no good, as I am in a relative small field of study and he holds power (at least to some extent) over my career. Also, I am in the process of applying for other positions, but I have currently no job lined up… 

Please help?

Tldr: How to tell my narcissistic boss I am leaving?
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Is there a reason you have to tell him? He probably will not change and by telling him now you are burning a bridge with a person who could still potentially write you letters of recommendation. Can you frame it in terms of getting another job or moving to live with your family or something.