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Given the following post, respond as if you're commenting on Reddit:
human
I think it is unreasonable for a transgendered person to be angry with me if I use the wrong gender/non gender neutral pronoun when referring to them. CMV

I was recently put in a situation where a transgendered person became angry with me because I did not refer to them with a gender-neutral pronoun. While I consider myself compassionate toward their struggle as a transgender individual, I don't think it's reasonable to be angry with me when I accidentally call someone her if they look very much like a woman.

I would understand politely asking me to refer to them with a gender neutral term, but this person made me feel very uncomfortable and insensitive, and I've heard many stories similar to this. So, please change my view!
gpt
This isn't a transgender thing. If you accidentally call an old (cis) woman "sir," there's a decent chance they'll be grouchy with you too.

If it's done as an accident, then no, calling someone by the wrong gender pronounce is not a cause to get angry with someone. But (1) the person may perceive the gender mix-up to have been done intentionally -- which is an offensive thing to do. So the person may (incorrectly) perceive themselves as responding in a way that would be appropriate, if they had been correct in perceiving the slight in being intentional. And (2) in any event, the person is likely going to be embarrassed and their feelings are going to be hurt by the mixup, which leads some people to get snappish and lash back. Again, not an excuse for their behavior, but the cause is understandable.

Just apologize and move on. That's how you handle unintentional social slights.