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CMV: It is ok for a person with non-mainstream tastes in music to impose their music on people who like mainstream-music, since the world imposes pop-music on everyone, regardless of their taste.

Of course it's "ok" to do this in the grand scheme of things. That being said, when I have house guests, or I am driving other people in the car, I feel that in order to not be rude I should play music that most people will like. When this happens, it is almost always music that **I** don't like.

Example situation: Let's say I am a fan of heavy metal (which I am). I am having a party and my friends want me to play Despacito and other "songs of the day". I politely say that it is my party, I am tired of listening to Despacito, and I would prefer to play Motorhead. Perhaps one guest complains throughout the night that the music is annoying, or "hurting their head". I argue that changing the music to pop-music will simply transfer the annoyance and "head hurting" to me, instead of them, and since it's my party I get to choose what music we listen to.

Is this a straw-man? Well, in reality I would absolutely compromise. I would stop playing Motorhead because continuing to do so after explicit complaints would be rude. Perhaps I would put on something less aggressive, like Black Sabbath. Or perhaps something soothing like Opeth's Heritage album (the actual bands/songs don't matter, just the general idea).

However, I feel that even the compromise is wrong. Living in a society where pop-music is forced upon you (stores, restaurants, radio, bars, clubs, tv, advertisements, facebook etc), and you don't like it you're experiencing an aural assault that makes me feel culturally out of place and uncomfortable. There is little reason why others should feel entitled to avoid this discomfort when a large proportion of the world is basically catering to their musical tastes.
gpt
Pop music is designed to be inoffensive and catchy. Heavy metal is designed to be loud, aggressive, and dissonant. Being a good host is about making your guests feel comfortable, and in a mixed crowd bland pop music is better at doing that than heavy metal.

Consider another example: you've been asked to make dinner for a group of white, American friends you barely know. Do you prepare:

* Hamburgers / veggieburgers (the safe option)
* Korean kimchi (a flavorful food that has a powerful odor if you're not accustomed)

If you get the buy-in, then kimchi and heavy metal would make for a fantastic party. But as a host, you need to make compromises. It's not just politeness--people are more likely to trust you if they find you're flexible and caring. Maybe then they'd be willing to give new music a chance.

From the perspective of a music fan: did you get into heavy metal because it was forced on you, or did you explore on your own and discover what's great in a safe, trusting environment?