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CMV: It doesn't make sense to have your own kid(s)

Hello, so my bf and I have been together close to 5 years now and he can't wait to eventually have kids. He loves kids and so do I!

When I was a teenager, I always looked forward to eventually having kids of my own. But as I've gotten older and my opinions and views have changed, I find it unnecessary to have your own kids. Not just for me, but I believe that nobody should actually be having their own kids when adoption is an option and there are so many unwanted children. To the point that lately when I hear of a friend getting pregnant or trying to have a child, I feel a little bit of resentment (I don't express this, of course).

I do love children but sometimes I wonder if I even want kids because of the amount of pressure being a parent; making sure you bring up your children to be better than yourself to improve the future generations. And let's say I come around to the idea of having children, I feel like the only thing that makes sense is adopting a child that has already been brought into this world rather than making a brand new one!

I do hope my views can be changed because my boyfriend definitely wants his own children and he's just hoping that eventually when he's ready, I'd have changed my mind (I'm 25).

EDIT: I'd also like to add that I find it quite narcissitic for people to feel they need a mini version of themselves.

EDIT2: I wanna add that my younger brother is adopted. I was 12 and he was 9 when he came into the family. I have 2 biological siblings. I love my younger brother like my very own sibling, but I won't deny that my parents don't treat him the same as they do us. It has been a huge struggle because of how different he is to us. not just because of his genes, but how much he had gone through prior to living with us. It was free to adopt him because my mum, who's a doctor, had a patient (my brother's dad) who was very old and ill at that point and his wife (my brother's mum) found my brother to be a burden to take care of. so she had already put him in an orphanage and was just looking for someone to adopt him (she's an awful human being). However, there were fees to pay the lawyer when the adoption was made official.

EDIT3: Hi, I want to point out how badly phrased my explanation was. I don't mean for no one to have kids in the sense 'if no one is having kids, who are we adopting?' lol. but that more people should really consider this to be an option over having their own. and I also don't mean this in the way to take a loved child from a loving parent(s).

and in regards to taking responsibility for someone else's mistake. the issue with this is that the child that is born did not ask to be born and therefore, it is suffering from their parents' mistake. until more people are more educated in the options of contraception and abortion and also educated on pareting, we will face the issue of bad parenting or no parenting at all. I think more people should consider adoption, and before even considering adoption, think about the implications of bringing a human being into this world and how you plan on teaching/bringing up this/these child(ren).

I also do not condone human trafficking and it's an interesting topic to wonder if adopting would then worsen the issue of human trafficking and that would be awful.
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Adoption is not just a way to get a child. It is a very important decision that effects everyone in the family, including the adopted child. There are so many issues to deal with when adopting, that are not issues when having biological children. This doesn’t make people weak if they don’t want want to deal with these issues, it is actually better to admit you are not equipped to handle things like differences in race, adopting an older child, a child with a past of abuse, etc. These issues take a lot of preparing for, and some people cannot emotionally handle that aspect in addition to all the raising children stuff biological children come with. 

Wanting biological children is normal and healthy. Any child brought into a family will be a challenge, no matter how they come. But saying adoption is just a way to add to the family is frankly selfish. The impact of adoption can be extremely difficult on a child, and to adopt without consideration of that is irresponsible. The most important thing should not be that a person wants a child, but if the child can be emotionally and physically taken care of, and with adopted children that is a particular challenge. 

I’m all for adoption, as long as people know what they are getting into and are prepared to deal with it. It is okay to want a family and know that adoption isn’t the way to have one for you. It doesn’t make you selfish, it just means you are self aware to what is the right way to have a family for you.