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My student isn’t taking the hint...help please!

Hello all! Apologies for typos and weird formatting as I am posting from mobile.

I teach theatre and have a student in my class who I can tell is very well-intentioned but also very insecure. I can tell that she does not read social cues well and is likely relegated to the category “awkward girl over there.” I have no idea if my student is neurodivergent or not, but some of her behavior in class makes me think she might be. 

We had auditions for staged readings (low stakes, we try to cast a ton of people so everyone gets a chance to perform) and she asked me if she should audition. I told her that she should as it would be likely she would get in and we need lots of actors. This turned into a twenty-minute series of verbal jousting as her anxiety took over and all logic went out of the window. I have never, EVER told a student to not audition before and I said this to her as an option because the thought of auditioning gave her an incredible amount of anxiety. 

While I’m sure she does not intend to be anxious, the emotional labor I have to perform to attempt to alleviate this student’s frequent crises and anxiety is wearing me down. It was so bad that on Friday, I bolted to the bathroom immediately after class so she couldn’t corner me in the 15 minutes I have in between classes to keep stating her insecurities.

I don’t want to push this student away and alienate them as I can tell they may not have many resources, but I’m just worn out and it’s only March. 

Totally open to any tips, tricks, and ideas on this one.

TL;DR: My student’s anxiety is causing me to perform an exhausting amount of emotional labor. How do I set better boundaries without feeling bad as she is likely neurodivergent?
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Especially if this person isn't paying attention to boundaries because of neurodiversity (vs, say, being self-centered or confused about school or alone) then letting her know directly that you do not have time to discuss extra-curricular things after class would be helpful. Folks with autism spectrum minds tend to be less good at hints! It would probably also make sense to schedule an office hours meeting with this student so that you can then forward her to the school counselling service.