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CMV: Extraversion does not equate to social competence

It seems in today’s society being extroverted is equated to having good social skills. There is definitely a bit of a fetish for and bias towards being extroverted and it is generally seen as a good thing while introversion is not. 

I would argue that the most socially adept people are actually those that are best at balancing between extrovert and introvert traits. being loud and having a “big personality” all the time is quite maladaptive and actually a sign of poor social skills.

I can see the responses already arguing this is not how people see it, but I am not debating whether or not society does see it this way or not because at least in American culture its is painfully true that extrovert=good social skills. There is an extreme a fetish for extroverts in the west.
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I agree that people often see it this way, but loud or "big personality" isnt even what extravert means.  Some extraverts have quieter personalities, but are energized by being in a group.  Some introverts enjoy groups and can be the life of the party but need some time to recharge alone.  Some introverts are loud BECAUSE they're so uncomfortable in a group setting and that's their coping mechanism.  

I do think that on average, folks who are energized by groups tend to spend more time in them and become better at navigating large group situations via practice.  But there are many exceptions (both competent introverts and less competent extroverts) and introverts may become better at navigating smaller group or one-on-one situations, which are also a part of social competence. 

So it's really a lot more complicated than the commonly held view of extrovert = loud, introvert = quiet.