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CMV: I shouldn't be made to feel guilty for not catering towards people with kids

I don't think we should cater to parents. It was their decision to have a child, and I should not be expected to be sympathetic towards that. People within my friend/family circle (for example my boyfriend's sister) expect everyone to give them special attention because they have young children. For example, they come late to events, expecting everyone else to save a seat for them, and then say their excuse is "the kids", without ever apologizing or acting appreciative. Many people bring small, ill-behaved children to nicer restaurants and expect others around them to just put up with the screaming and running around. Every mother or father (that I know) constantly complains that they are always so tired, and that life is so hard with kids.

Now, my issue is that if I speak up against any of these situations, I am made to feel guilty, as if I am some child hating monster. You chose to have kids. Kids are not an excuse to be rude in social situations. It is your responsibility to keep them under control in a nice restaurant, and if I speak up or complain, do not glare at me. Again, you chose to have children, everyone knows that it is hard, maybe you should budget your money better and hire a babysitter or nanny to assist with nighttime duties so you can sleep. I appreciate that is not always possible, but again, do not constantly complain to me about a choice that **you** made, and then act shocked when I don't give you oodles of sympathy.

Note: I do not have children, but one day I plan to, when I am emotionally and financially prepared to. I expect it to be challenging, and I know my friends and family will be there to support me. However, I do not plan to constantly complain or let my kids be an excuse for inappropriate behaviour.

**EDIT:** After discussion with multiple redditors, I would like to further refine what my view is:

CMV: When parents are shitty parents (ie they do not take all reasonable steps to control their kids in public, use their kids as an excuse to be consistently late without apology, and excessively complain) then there is no socially acceptable way to relate to them my criticism. I would argue the majority of people would label me "an asshole who doesn't understand how hard it is to raise kids", even if my criticism is justified.

**SECOND EDIT:** I love children, and I know children do not follow anyone's schedule other than their own (lol). I am not complaining about kids being kids. Kids are an important part of our society, and I have special compassion and understanding for people that day in and day out wrangle little balls of energy that are often without impulse control. My view is that there is no socially acceptable way to relate to my criticism to parents that are being shitty. **If your child is doing laps around a steakhouse, or you use your child as an excuse to consistently be late (without apologizing) there is no way for me to express my view without being attacked as a child hater who doesn't understand how hard it is to have kids.**
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You seem to have a lot of confirmation bias going on.  You talk of all these parents bringing kids to nice restaurants yet you don’t see all the parents who are ordering takeout instead or hiring a babysitter.  You notice the loud parents who use no sleep as an excuse but you don’t notice all the times that parents do make it to things on time and don’t expect your sympathy.  

If a restaurant wants to ban kids, they can, but they don’t want to risk losing the business.  You can choose to not go to restaurants that allow kids.  If enough childless adults push for this, then perhaps restaurants will agree to ban kids, but the restaurant is allowing the kid to be there and you choose to go to a restaurant that is okay with screaming children.  It is still rude of the parent for not parenting and letting them run wild, but it is allowed by the business so they aren’t breaking any rules.

If someone is asking you to safe then a seat for something, they are likely someone you consider a friend.  If you feel they are using their having children to abuse your friendship with excessive demands, feel free to not do what they ask.  Don’t be surprised if they take this personally and find better friends who are willing to help out in minor ways when they need it though.  

Long story short, you shouldn’t be forced to drop everything for people with kids, but your actions will be judged and people are free to dislike you for your behavior.  Also parents don’t owe you peace and quiet when you go to a place where kids are welcome.  Keeping a child behaving well is respectful but not required.