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CMV: Promises made in a relationship are instantly void when that relationship is broken up.

Long story short: My boyfriend and I promised each other that we would not talk to our exes. About 5 months ago we broke up for one day. I proceeded to catch up with an ex (two texts, superficial small talk). We got back together and I never brought it up, being somewhat ashamed and the fact that he previously told me he doesn't like me talking about my exes and me.

Today, 5 monthsish later, he asked me if I had reached out to an ex during that time. I said yes. He is very upset with me (which I understand) and said I lied to him by not telling him (which I hesitantly agreed with). He insists I apologize for "breaking my promise" though. I see it: When you break up with someone you don't have a set time frame where being loyal is a necessity. Everyone for themselves.

I want to make up with him but he says he sees me in a different light now and that I broke my promise. Please try to make me understand that so I can honestly apologize to him for that, I don't want to lie to him.
gpt
Not trying to be insulting, but probably unsuccessfully, none of this sounds like a healthy, mature relationship?

Promising not to talk to each others ex's, breaking up for a single day then getting back together, loyalty tests or timeframes or whatever.

I think the problem isn't that you all have differing opinions on the statute of limitations on promises, but is actually that you think such promises are meaningful or nessecary to make in the first place.