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Given the following post, respond as if you're commenting on Reddit:
human
CMV: Whether people are born male or female, they should be free to dress and act absolutely however they want. Changing your pronoun to be "in line" with these actions, however, is ultimately harmful to society.

The implication that dressing or acting differently than is typical for your "gender" requires a different pronoun is simply adding more stereotypes to the labels "male" and "female." As a queer woman, I have spent much of my life feeling like I didn't necessarily dress or act the same as the other girls around me. I have many of what are typically considered very masculine characteristics. I never wanted to or allowed myself to feel like my pronoun somehow defined who I had to be or what I had to act like. I figured women can do or be anything. I think it would ultimately be more beneficial to youth growing up to create a society in which your pronoun is not associated with a way to act or even feel. For me, watching those who were born men put on makeup and feminine clothing and say they now "identify as women" is now associating those attributes to the female persona, though they are attributes I do not hold. Am I less of a woman for lacking them?  What does that even mean - identifying as a woman? Will people think differently of me because of my pronoun? If so, stop. My "she" doesn't define me and I don't think others' pronouns should define them as we let them do. I really wish that when people called  me "she" it really only referred to my sex and didn't put all these other implications on me.

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I want to be clear I am completely open to people dressing, acting, and thinking outside of what society has defined as normative for you (as evidence by my own life). What I think needs to change, though, is society's associations with our gender pronouns as opposed to people changing their own and thereby reaffirming all of the stereotypes we've associated with them.

Edit: My view has changed! I realized that while I don’t feel it, some people have a very strong sense of gender identity which is why their pronouns are so important to them. Does this strong sense of identity create more of a divide between the genders? How much of it is socialized? Like though there are tons of questions to be asked - asking people to not change their pronouns if they do feel so passionately about it is just not really effective. After all of the discussion, I think more of what I wanted was simply lowered expectations of what it means to be male or female (no matter cis or trans)

Thanks to everyone who gave really articulate arguments without bashing me for my views. I would love to keep discussing the questions I posed in my edit if anyone wants.
gpt
You're reversing cause and effect.

You see trans women acting feminine and assume that they've decided to identify as woman because of that. But the truth is that they internally identify as women, and want to act feminine for the same reason many cisgender women do.

And also because they'll be harassed, discriminated against, and even murdered unless they make the effort to become indistinguishable from cis women.