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I have come to the conclusion that pursuing a intimate relationship for myself would be selfish and immoral. Please CMV.

**EDIT 3:** There are sooo many replies to the original post and to threads. Going back and forth to check context and read original replies a lot of my orangereds are falling through the cracks. If you post and I don't reply within an hour, and you really wanted a reply, feel free to PM me. I'm trying my best, but I am also hearing a lot of repeating arguments. **Please try to read the thread and see if your point as been made already**, that would really make this less tedious and reduce my inbox! 

**Original Post:**

I think it is important to know at the top of this description that I've never been in a romantic relationship of any kind. I have been plagued with various illnesses which affect my outward appearance and have made me, and continue to make me, unattractive.

That, however, is not the issue at hand.

Last August I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis. With medication and vitamin supplements we can slow the progress of the disease, but there is no medication-- nor any medication on the horizon-- that can heal the damage, or truly halt the course of the disease.

I could go my whole life without ever being disabled in anyway, but then again, I could be crippled or worse pretty much at any time in my future.

In this way, I believe willfully entering an intimate relationship with someone else would be offloading a colossal and unfair responsibility upon that person to take care of me in such an outcome. It is one thing when an accident occurs unexpectedly and one partner must take care of another-- but to know that accident is considerably more likely than just random accidents and to put someone in that position is horribly selfish and morally wrong.

This is all besides the point that I doubt I would be appealing to anyone at any point. My many sicknesses leave me small, frail, pale and discolored. But should any of these things change, or someone happen to find me appealing, I believe it is morally correct to decline.

**EDIT:** I keep hearing the same non-argument to this, which is that I am somehow making someone else's decisions for them. As I have said repeatedly, a relationship is two consenting adults who each make a choice to enter into the relationship. My choice to foster and enter into the relationship is the one I am viewing as immoral. If you want to participate in this conversation, you should be presenting me with reasons why that choice isn't immoral, not reasons why **I have no right to make that decision in opposition to someone else's desire to be with me**. That is describing a non-consensual relationship. 

**EDIT 2:** 88 comments and 8 upvotes. Upvotes aren't about agreeing or disagreeing, they are about making valid/interesting conversations visible. I think we can agree this is a valid/interesting conversation, and I still haven't heard a convincing argument so I'd like some more exposure.
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1) You are a person and you dont cease to be a person because of a disease.

2) MS is bad but its not a death sentence and you can still live your life if you take medication and if you slow the progression long enough you may see a cure in the near future (stem cells and new medications are being perfected every day)

3) It isn't purely your responsibility to enter a relationship. Its a consideration that both people have to make.

If you are honest about the situation and give the other person enough information so they know what they are getting into, then you aren't being selfish at all. You are being fair and opened and they would not be taken advantage of by you.

In every relationship one person dies. By your logic that would make every relationship selfish because one person will eventually leave the other behind.

Relationships aren't about the end result. They are about the equation before the result.