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friend - so do you go to any churches here?

friend - so what you invovled with these days?








Nina van der Roos.






i lost my last fundie friend last week, it sucks, but once she found out i was no longer a 'believer' she dropped me like the plague.. 20 years i had known her... each person is different, but hiding it is dishonest, and if you can live with it, then don't tell, just don't pretend to be a christian either! if they ask, tell them, if they ask you a question about what you should be believing, politely tell them the truth! if they ask, they must still care on some level about you! be honest!!

imho.. be honest, respect their views and share what is happening in your life.. it is too short to live ashamed or in fear of others narrow opinion of your right to think for yourself!

I'm definitely not ashamed, but it does feel weird to have to insert it into conversation where there's this unspoken understanding you both believe the same thing. So, she'll be talking along about all the things God has done in her life, and that seems like the wrong time to say, "Oh, I don't believe that stuff anymore." For one, it seems as though I'm asking she stop talking about it. Also, it's just unnatural. The only thing to do is smile and nod, but that seems dishonest, too. Well, I mean... the "smile and nod" probably happens more often than we realize; this just happens to be a topic we're more sensitive to. Oh well... I'll figure it out.

I don’t see why it would be important to “confess” your atheism. If it comes up, it comes up. If they are there to visit Cara, then it should be an unimportant detail. If they are there to visit a Christian, then maybe you should offer a forewarning.


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