A Sophisticate is 'Miss Independent'

"The more you know who you are, the less you let things upset you" from 'Lost in Translation' (2003)

In the 21st Century, a Sophisticate is not just financially independent she is emotionally independent. Financial independence is a given in the 21st Century. As the second decade unfolds so does a Sophisticate and the definition of what it means to be independent. 

In the second decade of the 21st Century, the definition of Sophistication being independent financially and emotionally. What does it mean to be emotionally independent? It means you don't need anyone to listen, deal, or work through your issues, feelings, fears, or emotions. A Sophisticate doesn't need anyone to solve her problems for her.

A Sophisticate is not only self-confident but self-assured. 

What is the difference between confidence and being self-assured? Confidence has to do with your mind, self-assurance has to do with the heart and spirit. To be self-assured is know that you are resilient (A Sophisticate is Resilient). When you are self-assured your actions speak louder than your words and you believe in your heart that you have wherewithal to handle anything that comes your way. 

Confidence is attitude (A Sophisticate has Attitude), assurance is peace. 

Where does her optimism come from? Her self-assurance. A Sophisticate is not afraid (A Sophisticate has No Fear) to admit that she is happy that her life is going well. A Sophisticate is positive not because she is 'faking it' since Sophistication in the 21st Century is about being true to oneself. 

She is optimistic because she is assured that even in tragedy she will not only survive, she will succeed. A Sophisticate more than knows that she won't fall apart when and if things go wrong, she has faith in herself and believes in her ability to come back from anything (A Sophisticate is a Phoenix).

Tragedy will occur because a Sophisticate is not perfect and life is hard. As a friend in college once stated, "Life is hard, that is why we were meant to live it as two people and not alone". A Sophisticate is strong, confident, and self-assured enough to admit and know she can't do it alone. She has proved that she has proved that she has the ability (intelligence and capability) to do it alone. Yet, although she can handle her problems alone she has the confidence to admit that she can't do everything herself. 

There are times that she does need help with the challenges that life presents to her like having to move furniture, help with home repairs, watching the children, cooking, or shopping when she has forgotten to pick something up from the store. A Sophisticate has earned the right not to have to prove to anyone her self-worth and her ability to succeed. Therefore, she is not ashamed to ask for help nor does a Sophisticate abuse the privilege to ask for help. Like kindness, help is rare, and special when offered.  If someone is willing to help she appreciates it. 

A Sophisticate is 'Miss Independent' because she is not only financially independent but emotionally independent. In the end, a Sophisticate is not only confident but assured she is and deserves the best. ;D