My Grief With My Culture

In this culture there is no room for individuality. There is only one mindset–conformity. Either conform or die.

What they don’t tell you is that to conform is to choose to die also.

Author: ebonyandcrows


34 thoughts on “My Grief With My Culture”

    1. There are many ways to die—physically is just one of them. Being a pariah in the eyes of your culture is another form of death, a social one. We die a little inside every time we get rejected. Being invisible to someone you crave love from. Same with killing off parts of yourself to fit into a narrow view of what life should look like and what roles each individual must play. Specifically if each role is literally made out of the exact same mold. Programming runs deep in people who have a long history of holding fast to traditions, culture, and religion, and someone who doesn’t conform is generally shunned. It’s a flaw in humanity, but there comes a time when one must choose what type of “death” they can live with and grow from.

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  1. We can be whoever we want to be but we may not be liked or have a lot of friends. It is so much harder when your young I think. Now as I am much older I do what I want. When I was in high school I wore clothes that no one else dared to wear. I didn’t have a lot of friends. I have a necklace that reads “Well behaved women rarely make history. Something tells me your smarter than those that follow the crowd. I say cheers to you. Love J

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  2. Individualism has not been jeopardized by those determined to keep tradition.

    Individualism has everything to do with individual leadership, and those determined to reject the value of “personal responsibility” are the conformists.

    There are people from the American 1990’s who rejected the value, itself. I call it, “The Breakthrough of Idiocy”. It was a pioneering moment of moronic behavior. Because, what does a lack of responsibility make for a world, besides the adoration for slavery? Chains aren’t always shackled to flesh, to wrists, to ankles. They can also be shackled to the mind.

    Tradition does not impede Individualism, as much as what we will term to be “growth” for how excessive this growth has become. Encourage self-esteem, and you will see Narcissism become the norm. Encourage pride, and so will egotism become the norm for each person’s mindset. People aren’t subdued, through this, and they aren’t peaceful. They are deceitful, because they are emotional. All emotions, of themselves, are deceiving.

    Grow too fast, and you end up passing by people who you end up regretting that you ignored, and such happens all too frequently, in today’s “contemporary” world. I find it to be pathetic with how much we are obsessed with advancement and improvement, though never for things that could be deemed to be preventable.

    For one, responsibility is not encouraged for the sake of money. When a human behaves irresponsibly, science flourishes, and idiocy is also the norm, through this.

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  3. No place and no culture has ever been free from the pressure to conform to some imagined “way things are”. Sometimes, when public rebellion is unwise, speaking truth quietly is still truth.

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