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From: "Marc Pele" To: Subject: All Should Know Date: Mon, 21 Apr 2008 22:05:18 +0000 Baba "Kenoi va' ele, dola' diye gele, na' bale gele cale, phele a'ma'y..." (PS 1995) Purport: Baba, You have been gone so long, why did You come and stir my heart only to then go away without saying a word-- thereby leaving me all alone. Baba, neither do You have any love for me nor do You understand the aching pain of my heart. Baba, after coming and reciting one fairy tale, where did You go. Baba, I want You to remain here with me. Baba, amongst all the dear ones, You are my dearmost. Why then do You not reside eternally in my heart. Baba, You are my dearmost and innermost, then how can You justify going so far away from me. Is it proper to leave me isolated and all alone. Please tell me. Baba, You are so dear to me, no matter what I will never forget You; Baba, I will never leave You. Not at any cost will I ever wipe You away from my mental plate-- from the memories of my mind. That I will never do. Baba, even if You do not desire to remain with me-- even if You want to hide-- I shall always keep You in the golden casket of my heart. Baba, You are eternally mine; my everything is surrendered at Your lotus feet...
Namaskar, Here below is one important issue that is related with the welfare of the entire society. The topic at hand revolves around the various phases of life and in particular the potential challenges of mid-life issues. By being aware of the ins and outs then we can not only internalise points related with our own lives but also be prepared to guide others as well.
If we are aware about the aforesaid issue-- which revolves around human sexuality-- earlier, then we can better prevent any mishap. Because... When any threatening situation happens in an unannounced way, then people are more scared and they do not know what to do. But when they are fore-warned and made aware that an incident it is going to happen, then with their know-how and talent and by various other ways they find some solution how to solve the problem. It is just like if suddenly an air attacks happens then the common people become more scared and mayhem results. But if told ahead of time about the air strike then they will manage far, far better. Or if one cyclone bursts out all of a sudden then more people get injured than if all were warned ahead of time that a cyclone is going to come. The point is that knowing the problem beforehand makes it more easy to solve that. So when we know that this problem of middle age crisis and psychic disease is going to affect people between the age of 45-55, if they are not pointedly focused in spiritual life, then this information should be shared with one and all. Because if others are alerted about this then they can properly face & overcome the situation and it can properly be resolved in their life. Thus it is in this spirit of prevention that this discussion has been raised in this whole entire email message. To bring awareness to the matter. People should know and write their own experiences and opinions and ways to solve this matter. And we should also remember that according to Baba's teaching, the answer of all problems exists within Parama Purusa. So if one surrenders at His alter, then any problem can easily be solved.
Human life is full of ups and downs. And in the life of sadhakas the exhaustion of samskaras happens quickly in comparison to non-margiis. For this reason negative and positive experiences come and go in quick succession. Sometimes mountainous problems come and at other times life is smooth and easy. In comparison to animals, human beings have a lot of freedom. But that freedom is of a certain dominion; it has certain limitations. For example suppose one animal is tied up with a rope that is 50 feet in length and one end is securely rooted in the ground. Then within that parameter of 50 feet the animal can move freely, eat grass, and basically do whatever it likes. The sense is that it is free up to that extent-- up to the length of that 50 foot rope. But beyond that it cannot go. Similar is the case of human beings. Although it looks like human beings are entirely free to do whatever they like, but in reality it is not like that. So many things human beings plan and dream, but all do not get to come to fruition. Problems can come anytime and disturb and interrupt their planning. And top of all, no human being can avert their own death. Nobody likes to think about their own death; but death will come to everyone. Nobody has control over that. So in some ways human beings have freedom and in other ways not. It is tied up and the bound with the serpentine noose of the Cosmic Operative Principle, Maya.
We see that when children are small then only their inborn instincts function. That means for infants they are guided purely by instinct and that is reflected in their actions. That is why just after birth they know how to suck the mothers milk. And when they grow up then, according to their maturity, other types of glands start functioning. And at the time of adolescence people's sex glands also develop. And the sexual urge tries to pull them in a particular direction. But when that same person was an infant then that instinct was in its dormant stage. So the young child had no problem from that side. This then is one example how according to age, various glands and sub-glands start functioning. And it also happens that after a certain age those glands and their correlating instincts gradually become defunct.
So when nature orders for the sex instinct to develop, then the desire of procreation comes in the mind. This is one way of functioning of that creative principle (prakrti), which has bound up this entire universe.
'Pra karoti yah sah prakrti'
Prakrti creates various colorful things. That is why its name is 'creative principle'. We see that in animals and plants and in all kinds of creatures on this earth, this procreation system has been going on and on since millions of years. So the old are moving towards death and simultaneously side by side new babies are born. It is the same story in each and every aspect of creation. So changes are always going on, always people are passing from one stage to the next. In human life one of the most delicate times is during adolescence. Because when the sex instincts come to function then the cosmic operative principle inspires that being to create more and more. And in this way it maintains this cosmic cycle of creation, or srsti. And as human beings grow older then this instinct of procreation gets controlled to some degree. But in human life, in addition to the period of adolescence, there is a second time when the sexual urge again starts dominating, and that happens when humans are going to lose their capacity-- during the 'mid-life crisis'. The reason behind this is that the creative principle wants to create more and more. And wants to ensure that it gets maximum output from each and every created being. So it infuses the idea in the mind of those human beings who are on the verge of losing their sexual capacity that they should produce more before they lose their capacity entirely. This stage is like one master who has many slaves but if he knows that soon one of the slaves will be set free then the master will try to utilise that slave more and more and get maximum output from him before he gets freedom. The solution is that if one follows spiritual life then the mind will be serene & positive then the ghastly effect of sex will not be problematic for that sadhaka. Whereas those not leading devotional life or Margii life then they get caught up in the noose of maya and they do many nonsense things. The whole point is that Maya wants to keep the jiivas in her control. That is why Baba says that there is no other way than to get rid from maya, other than surrendering to Parama Purusa. This maya is insurmountable:
'Daevihyes'a' gun'amayii mama ma'ya' du'ratyaya' Ma'meva ye prapadyante ma'ya'meta'm' tarantite'
Meaning: "My Divine Maya, the Supreme Maya or the Cosmic Force is comprised of three attributes. Ordinarily it is very difficult to transgress it but only those who merge themselves in Me or take refuge in Me can transcend Prakrti." (BABA)
Here following Baba is making one special declaration. Baba says, "Metamorphosis is taking place not only in the realm of physicality but also in the realm of psychic structure. Changes are fast coming in the psychic arena and in all the realms of human expression. They are not only coming, they have just come. We have crossed the threshold of a new era." (PNS-17, p.56) Namaskar, Mahendra Now please read these notes below. They all are connected with this middle age syndrome. Such as who experiences it, how margiis manage the situation, and what is the stand of AM on this point. All this and more are talked about in the notes below. Everyone should also express their own opinions on this important issue.
Note 1: WHEN, WHO, & HOW
It is the common phenomenon viewed all around that sex oriented problems mostly come to those non-sadhakas during two critical phases in the life: during puberty and in mid-life when people are around 50 years of age. In those communities where humans beings are more extroverted they get seriously affected by this psychic disease. Just like we see in adolescence that many become uncontrollable but then later on after that age passes they become alright. But those who are spiritually minded and focused in sadhana do not undergo these difficulties, not even in adolescence. But in general people know that this is the problem of that difficult age of adolescence when that particular instinct just appeared in that person's life. And everyone also understand that this problem is going to get solved in some or more degree. And such a similar problem also comes between the age of 45-55, more so in males and very seldom in females. In persons of that age the sex glands become more active. The worst case happens when someone has lived their whole life in a crude way then when that male reaches the age of 45 or so, the they become more crude, uncontrollable. That is why we see that even when people have superficially ok marital relations with their spouse, even then those relations get ruined. And they get divorced because the husband gets completely infatuated with another member of opposite sex. That is the main problem which occurs. And then in some few cases the wife may sometimes fall-- but usually not, or at least less so. So when these types of things happen, in that case everything gets ruined: their family, their marriage, their children, it all gets ruined. Those involved in pointed spiritual life do not suffer from these things. Otherwise lackadaisical sadhakas and especially non-margiis experience a lot of problems. No doubt the vast majority of our western / European society is more extroverted in comparison to many of the so-called 3rd world countries. So naturally then they face it more If however one is pointed in sadhana then they will be alright. But otherwise those living in extroverted communities or if one has that desire then this problem of uncontrolled sexuality is more commonly seen-- indeed so many people are affected in this way. It is very, very common in non-margiis but also not uncommon in our Marga. But again if one is truly dedicated to their spiritual practices then they do not face any problem or difficulty. For them life remains serene and blissful. So although all this is more common in the west, actually the seeds of this problem are everywhere-- in each and every corner of the globe. Because wherever human beings are living they are controlled and bound by that Cosmic Operative Principle and their mind functions in that same direction, everywhere. All, everybody's mind. Even then it is more common in our western countries primarily because the accepted standard is different than in the Indian sub-continent etc. For example in India people cannot have partners or friends of the opposite sex etc, but in our western countries it is quite acceptable to have such types of friends and/or sexual partners. Furthermore because our so-called third world countries and in many other states social pressure is there, that is why such cases did not burst out. They got controlled in their own way through social rules, regulations, and norms. So even if people wanted to do they did not. So, of course, the main way to permanently overcome this problem is to charge the mind with the divine balm of spirituality. Because when the mind is goaded to Parama Purusa then surrender comes and in that state all problems are easily solved. That is why we see that in spiritual persons this problem is negligible-- zero. Whereas in crude persons it is rampant. However the colorful panorama of such nonsense is quite evident in our western society where you will see a wealthy 80 year-old man moving around with and an 18-year-old film heroine. And this is getting more common where even in that age on his death-bed they involve in all sorts of crude behavior and one offshoot is that they produce children also. In our western society this is not looked upon as a bad thing; but in our Indian society it is looked upon as being very bad. For this reason it is invisible in India and more visible in the west. So if social acceptance is there such that people get praise and prestige by these negative ways, then these cases of degeneration happen more-and vice-versa. In our Ananda Marg, however, such type of behavior has no place. The power of procreation is only for producing children and not for lust and crude enjoyment. And when a husband and wife do create babies then their duty is to maintain, nourish, and provide all sorts of arrangements for that child up to higher education. But if on their death bed-- at the age of 80 or 90 years-- anybody is involving in crude behaviour and producing children, then how in future will they be able to care for the welfare of that baby. Never they cannot. And in the case of those marriage break-ups which occur in mid-life. The worst effect of all this happens when the young children get alienated from their families because their fathers leave because he got attached with a new young female. Then tragically, the children become sentimentally affected or fatherless or get treated just like one football. Sometimes living with the father and sometimes living with their mother. So everything becomes chaotic and disastrous. And the worst effect happens upon our impressionable, growing children. Because in that tragic circumstance, the children do not get proper love and affection from the parents side. Because the father is involved in the lustful, dirty games. And in our western society, it is such a shameful thing that the children do not say that, 'he is my father'. Rather most often they say that, 'Mr So-and-so is my biological father'. This term or type of speech you will not hear in our Indian society. But it is quite common in our western society.
'Man ayo manusa ma'n karnam....'
Mind is the cause of bondage and that same mind is the cause of liberation. If the mind is goaded towards Parama Purusa then it leads to salvation. And if the mind is goaded towards degenerative propensities then it becomes the cause of bondage. We know that human life is not for eating, drinking, and sleeping. Baba says "Human life is an ideological flow". We have come on this earth to do something great by following bhagavad dharma. Those who remember the Goal, they cannot lose the path.
Note 3: OUR DUTY
It is our duty to be aware about and inform others about these two critical periods of the life-- i.e. adolescence and middle age. So before then and while at that age, everybody-- those who are not pointed in their spiritual routine-- should be cautious. It is just like when you are climbing on the snowy mountain then you take all sorts of tools because you know that it is very slippery. Or if you are walking in the hot, sandy desert, then you will have to be prepared with something to cover your whole body, especially to cover your face from the dust. So having knowledge before-hand is very essential. That is why when in any city an air attack happens, then the city officials blow the siren to alert the citizens. Suppose you have to cross through the thorny path with your bare feet, then you will be very cautious. In contrast if you are walking inside your own room then you may not be that cautious. So when that delicate age is coming in anybody's life if they will remember or be made to remember that avidya maya is going to create more magic and the mind will be dragged towards negative direction easily, then they will be more alert. And the situation has a better chance to be controlled. So if one is going through that difficult age, then they should do auto-suggestion and ideate on Parama Purusa, then the problem will be completely solved. And to guide others, when we see anyone passing through adolescence or middle age, then we should guide them by giving them outer suggestion. The central idea is that when alertness is there and when spiritual feeling is inculcated, then with surrender this instinct problem can and will be minimized to zero. And this will happen with the grace of Parama Purusa.
Everyone has surely seen how well-tamed dogs, horses, buffaloes, and cows-- all kinds of animals even those who are very obedient to masters, they become wild when their mating season comes. Their behaviour gets changed in a radically uncontrolled way. And those people who are around them become more alert to deal with them. So this happens with the captivation of sex instinct. The same dog which was obedient, that dog becomes uncontrollable in the mating season. In a similar way when human beings are captivated by sex, then they do all kinds of negative things. But no problem is bigger than the solution. So in the life of those sadhakas who are motivated towards spirituality, then such problems hardly arise. Everything is controlled. But those who are leading crude life, they indulge in and gratify their animal instincts in a very wild way-- breaking all boundaries of propriety and impropriety. And in result they become more strongly bound by avidya maya and then they get reborn as lower creatures who dominated by basic animal instincts. This is the unfortunate and sad plight of such persons.
This common type of problem exists everywhere-- it knows no boundaries. And in our AM family there are two types of members: WT's and family margiis. And both are human beings and both have to follow the same path. So this problem of middle age crisis (45-55 yrs) can be seen in those who are not spiritually minded or focused in sadhana-- whether they be Wts or margiis. This is the unfortunate state of affairs. Some, by the grace of Parama Purusa, are able control this easily. And some fall down in the ditch and they feel shame and come out from the dirty land and clean their clothes and they never fall again. But there are still others who are of the worst quality. They may be WT or they may be margii but with such persons their infatuation with the opposite sex knows no bounds. They indulge in this psychic disease and crude lust as their hobby. And in this way they degenerate themselves down to the lower most level. Down to the most negative mental status of degeneration--- that is rasa'tal loka. Because all belong to my family so I do not feel comfortable writing anyone's name. I feel sympathy for everyone. After all patient is patient; it may be related with the physical disease or the psychic disease. All should be treated with compassion and heart-felt feeling. And it is everyone's duty to cure them.
The title of this letter is "all should know" because this whole entire issues involves our whole family. Because even if we are pointed in our sadhana and we are not affected by such things even then it remains our duty to guide and inform others about this situation. So for that reason we should be aware about all this. Because the society should be protected from this negative onslaught.

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