The Psychology Of Seduction

Attracting your ideal partner is easier than you think.

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How often do you dream about meeting your perfect partner?

Many people imagine it to be a moment of pure bliss, in which you swoop them off their feet as they can’t help but fall in love while looking into your eyes.

But let’s face it: most of us wouldn’t have a clue how to begin having a conversation with someone we find incredibly attractive.

Right? We all dream about meeting our ideal partner, settling down in a beautiful neighborhood, and living a perfect life alongside them as if we were in a fairytale.

But before any of that can happen, you need to seduce them in a way that creates desire, passion, and a beautiful feeling of irresistibility towards each other.

Throughout my life, I’ve found myself in the same position as you many times. But despite initially thinking that people would disregard me for my average body, I’ve learned that emotion plays an incredibly important role during the process of seduction.

So below are several ways to become more seductive using emotion. Each one of these insights gave me the confidence to approach attractive people, create incredible relationships, and understand psychology in a way that has transformed my dating life. I’m sure they will do the same for you, too.

Identify Your Most Attractive Qualities.

When you know what your strengths & weaknesses are, it becomes a lot easier to use them to your advantage. As Steve Maraboli once said: “Accept yourself, your strengths, your weaknesses, your truths, and know what tools you have to fulfill your purpose.”

So don’t dwell on the physical & emotional qualities you wish you had. Instead, focus on what you already have, and find ways to use those characteristics when seducing your ideal partner.

For the longest time, I believed that having good looks was a requirement to be considered attractive. Why? Because with all the pictures of Instagram models floating around the internet, I couldn’t help but feel inadequate in the eyes of other people.

But when I discovered that attraction is merely attracting people into your life because of the qualities you possess, my entire mindset changed. After all, I had a newly-found ability to focus on my strengths instead of wishing for personal attributes that would never come to fruition.

So I began gaining the necessary confidence to approach girls, using humor as a way to connect with them on a meaningful level. Over time, this approach helped to eliminate negative thoughts & self-doubt, which used to make me feel like I wasn’t good enough.

If you want to begin seducing your perfect partner, you first need to let go of any desire for your personality to be different. Because when you focus on who you are, instead of wishing to be someone you aren’t, it becomes a lot easier to be more confident when approaching someone for the first time.

Focus On How You Make Them Feel.

One of the reasons that many people struggle with seduction is because they’re continually overthinking every aspect of it. For example, they’ll plan out their body language, what they’ll say during a conversation, and how they might answer hypothetical questions from someone they find attractive.

We’re all guilty of it. But instead of concentrating solely on what you say, I’ve discovered that a better strategy is focusing on how you make them feel. In the words of Maya Angelou:


We all know that it’s easy to forget a random conversation at a bar, in the club, or anywhere else that you may choose to meet people. But when someone makes you feel special and excited about what the future may hold, you often can’t help but feel a connection as they want to spend the rest of their life making you happy.

So whenever you begin creating meaningful relationships with people, consider using emotion to make them feel special, and your dating life will never be the same.

Provide Whatever’s Missing In Their Life.

When you’re able to fill a void in someone’s life, you can make them feel like everything is perfect, and that you’re the solution to whatever adversity they’re facing.

For example, if someone is feeling lonely in a time of need, staying by their side will help them to feel like they always have someone to trust.

When you’re willing to do anything necessary to improve someone’s life, it creates a connection between you both as you’re committed to giving them a happy life. In the words of Marcus Aurelius:


Don’t overthink. Don’t hypothesize. Just do whatever it takes to become the best partner that you can be.

That’s all that matters.

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