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You’re not in Kansas any more Dorothy


40’s are the new 20’s so it seems but Yuk no disrespect to 20 somethings, I don’t want to be there again.

So what’s my point?

The other day watching 40 something actresses and models on TV looking stunning I remembered how not so long ago being 30 meant you were over the hill and would struggle to get work.

How fantastic that seems less and less evident and women are rocking it in there 40’s, 50’s, 60’s 70’s … well you get the picture.

So what’s my point?

This week I had a shake up and a wake up that I knew I had to face and take responsibility for but ouch it still hurt.

Over the last few years I have read stuff that I have accepted, that we have to take responsibility for our actions and that we are the creators of our ‘Physical Reality’. Yep I got that and I actually feel comfortable with having to take responsibility for my life. That way I don’t feel powerless and I can feel in control and have the ‘Power’ to change things however after saying all this I still got a mental slap in the face.

Each day I try to read or listen to inspiring information. I aim to do daily practices that I feel will help me grow and improve my lifestyle and I try to monitor my thoughts and find a better feeling place and react differently when faced with something uncomfortable, unpleasant so in my head I am doing good. I am much happier and more relaxed most of the time compared to what I used to be like so I am making progress .. right?

The slap in the face came when I read “Look around you NOW to see the propensity of your thoughts. If you don’t like what you see, you brought this on yourself”. For me that was an ouch because as I looked around my current situation there were some definite areas that were painful. It was a wake up call that I must not be focusing my thoughts in the right area.

As I said previously it was a wake up but it was also the shake up I needed. I can see now I was living in a sort of dream world where I was floating along thinking “Yeah I’m doing better than the me of 10 years ago, 4 years ago” and only recently I patted myself on the back that while my physical environment appeared no different how I reacted to it was different from even a year ago.

But that’s it. Nothing’s changed externally. I’ve just changed in how I react to it. Something is wrong somewhere. I’m missing in something that I am doing or what I am seeing would be different.

What I can see now is that in my dream state I was just waiting for my theoretical Prince to come. I just thought one day, bingo the Universal Energy, Quantum Field or whatever you choose to call it would pop up a series of events (because it has done so many times before) and all would be OK with my world because I have read so many examples of who and where it has happened in the past like my hero’s Henry Ford, Thomas Edison etc. It didn’t happen over night for them so I was thinking “Ahh this might not be as great as I would like it right now but it will work out OK in the end”

What I can see now is (thanks slap in the face). I was just coasting. What I want to do now is be a Deliberate Creator.

Each morning and evening (depending how tired I am) I try to say thank you’s for the things I am grateful for. Since my shake up and a wake up I realise I  have only been grateful for the things I can physically see NOW.

I think nothing has changed in my physical environment but everything is always changing, it’s the Law of the Universe but from the focus of my thoughts I am just changing it in to the same old same old.

I read the other day that the mind doesn’t know if you are actually doing something or you are imagining that reality and attention goes to where you are focusing your thought regardless if it is in the past, present, future or imagination.

Now as I wake or go to sleep or any other possible moment I can find I will be grateful for and focus my attention on those things I desire to see in my physical environment like they are already here.

And along with the examples of the ladies who are Rocking it 50 and above I am just getting started.

Examples of people finding ‘Success’ later in life:

Julia Child (I love the film Julie and Julia) Didn’t start cooking until in her 40’s.

Colonel Sanders was retired and rejected 1009 times

Authors Elizabeth Jolley  and Mary Wesley were 56 and 71 when their first novels were was published.

Alfred Hitchcock directed his most legendary films when people felt he was ‘Over the Hill’

Probably my number one inspiration Louise Hay started her publishing house at 60

Harry Bernstein achieved notoriety at age 96 for the memoirs “The Invisible Wall: A Love Story That Broke Barriers.”