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WYOO ‘Tell Me Who I Am’ *sensitive post* SPOILER

I’ve recently watched a documentary on Netflix called ‘Tell Me Who I Am’.

It’s about twins who are in their 50s. One of the twins had an accident and lost his memory. He had to relearn about his life from his other twin who decided not to disclose that they were abused as children. Years later, the first twin discovers the truth and feels betrayed that his brother had lied. His brother said that he lied to protect him and so that he wouldn’t have to be tortured by memories of abuse.

WYOO this? Has anybody watched it?
It’s an upsetting documentary as it talks about abuse.

comments (12)

  • Havent watched it, but rightly or wrongly I would have done the same as the twin and not told them I think

  • I haven't watched this no but i think i am going. Is it based on a true story or just a programme on netflix? x

  • I watched it last night. So, so sad. I will admit I did have a little cry and then found it hard to get to sleep after. I just wanted to give them both a massive hug!

    I can see it from both sides as well. I can understand why he didn't want to tell him what happened and I can also understand the other one wanting to know.

  • I watched it and my heart broke for both of them. I can totally understand why he didn’t tell him though. However, once he disclosed that there had been abuse, he should have been more open when he seen how it was affecting his brother imo. I hope they got their relationship back on track after the show.
  • BubbaC1990 said:


    It’s a true story x
  • I haven’t watched it but it sounds an incredibly difficult thing for them to go through. I can see why he wouldn’t want to disclose, he may himself find it hard/impossible to talk about. At the same time, such things effect a person on such a deep level that not knowing would be very confusing, wondering why you feel or think or instinctively react to certain circumstances or over/under react.
    I know it’s different but I had almost no recollection of my childhood until the past few years. Remembering has been awful but at the same time it has made me more compassionate and understanding towards myself. Instead of getting frustrated at my reaction, or just not knowing why I suddenly feel panicky, realising my triggers and the things that have shaped me, has really helped. So I guess that for all the difficult emotions and times of despair, I would rather know than not. But likewise there have been times when I would have done anything to forget again. The brother who could remember, I can’t even begin to comprehend how difficult that must have been for him.
  • I would deffo not tell the other, it would be horrible to hear now or ten yrs later, being annoyed surely is aboit misappropriation of anger
  • I watched it today and thought they were both very likable and my heart broke for the both of them.

    I totally understand why the twin who lied did what he did. It was an act of kindness and love designed to protect them both.

    Harrowing. May she burn in Hell.
  • I also understand why he lied. He wasn't only sparing his brother, but he was erasing it for himself if no one else remembered and he didn't have to talk about it. It was uncomfortable to watch.
  • I was heart broken for both of them and so angry towards their evil mother.

    As others have said I can understand both sides.

    What really really broke my heart was the fact that the twin who lied had to watch his brother and mother form a close bond. All whilst knowing and living the truth of her horrific abuse towards them both.

    Just awful 😞