10 man myths busted

Dispel these common misconceptions

Myth 1 He thinks kissing is a waste of time

Yes there is a male sexual urge to bypass foreplay in our haste to get the 'old chap' involved in proceedings but we're still happy to indulge in hours of kissing. Try retraining him. Say you need to be romanced a little. Then, gradually drive him into a frenzy of frustrated lust.

Myth 2 He expects you to orgasm at the drop of a hat

We know it's not straightforward, but it's hardly a chore. Plus the longer it takes, the more satisfying it is for both parties when you do finally have lift off.

Myth 3 He wants hot, dirty sex all the time

Sometimes a guy does want to make slow, romantic love or have playful, fun sex. Passion comes in many forms. So go with the flow and try to sense what kind of mood you're both in.

Myth 4 He wants you be a gymnast in bed

What turns a man on the most is a woman who's relaxed, enjoying herself and fully engaged with him as an individual, not as an audience.

Myth 5 He loves it when you makes lots of noise

Sex is not better if it involves the woman warbling like a Mariah wannabe. Making noise in bed should be natural - never faked - whisper encouragement in his ear, talk dirty (but not too dirty) and let rip when things really are getting nice (this lets him knows when he's on the right track).

Myth 6 He's desperate to have anal sex

Plenty of men have no interest in it at all. And, if you're with a guy who keeps asking, even though you've told him it's not your bag, just smile and say, "of course darling and afterwards I'll get a 12-inch strap-on and we'll try it the other way round. How about that?"

Myth 7 He wants you to put your finger in strange places

Apparently, having your prostrate gland tickled intensifies the feeling of a male orgasm. You get to it with a spot of finger intrusion. Some guys are up for it, but not all. If you're willing to try, proceed with caution. Bring the subject up in conversation - he'll soon let you know where he stands. Or, play around the general area and see how he reacts.

Myth 8 He's obsessed with blow jobs

They do feel nice, there's no denying that, but a lot of men actually find it difficult to come through oral stimulation alone. It's much better when both of us are having fun.

Myth 9 He's only interested in coming

Often the longer we have to hold off, the better it is when we do finally let go. So don't worry that he's losing interest if the sex is going on for a long time. Stop and try something that doesn't involve penetration.

Myth 10 he wants S&M

For most men, extreme pain and sexual pleasure rarely go together. But, men do occasionally enjoy being dominated. This doesn't mean donning a PVC catsuit - it means you should make us your sex slave. Get on top, push him down and let him know he's not moving until he's fulfilled his duties to 'she who must be obeyed,'

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