Secondary infertility &amp; over 40?

It helped me to read all of the other secondary infertility posts so I know I'm not being as selfish as I thought. Is anyone else in this category over 40? We had no trouble conceiving the first (I was 38) - he was unplanned but certainly eagerly wanted, but now I find that after 18 months of trying (he's now 4), that the reason my periods were irregular (since age 18) is that I do not regularly produce the right hormones or dosages to mature an egg to be released so I have been having &quot;empty&quot; periods for most of my life. Because of my age, my dr has agreed to try 1 cycle of clomid &amp; then will refer out to high risk doc for follow up, but my DH says he feels it's too risky due to age &amp; possible drug complications to continue with any further treatments. Even though I know some risks increase with age, how can I convince him that this one shot is not enough? At least once a month my son asks if I have a baby in my belly - a sweet, but painful question to me... Thanks
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I am just where you are - except no one seems to know why we haven't a second - our first came along after a dose of clomid but not the actual time I was on the drug - is it bad to want another when we already have one beautiful child? I don't know - but we do, and so does our 3 year old. Hope your story concludes happily and best wishes.
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