tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4977632418931117009.post148538129638015984..comments2019-09-22T02:37:27.069-05:00Comments on Elixired: When women and traditions stand against women #womenissues Shesha Chaturvedihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14602714942699492851noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4977632418931117009.post-23817715980822886092018-04-27T22:12:02.368-05:002018-04-27T22:12:02.368-05:00Glad you addressed this topic. It&#39;s true...unl...Glad you addressed this topic. It&#39;s true...unless women respect other women, it is only a distant dream for men to start respecting women.<br /><br />In Indian households, children are usually guided by the thoughts, words and actions of their parents - and especially their mothers. I think the principle of gender equality can only start taking shape if parents influenced their kids positively in this respect. CRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14040468252329133910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4977632418931117009.post-12026297680359362462018-04-27T12:27:13.166-05:002018-04-27T12:27:13.166-05:00Women are their own worst enemies. According to a...Women are their own worst enemies. According to author Ms. Kelly Valen “Girls can be mean to other girls, but it is adult women who vie to destroy each other”. Very rarely a father-in-law is involved in dowry negotiations or asking the DIL to wear a certain dress or bangles. This destroying each other happens between 2 female friends and also between 2 female colleagues at work place.SGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05790347071764332430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4977632418931117009.post-2985700264842365572018-04-27T03:02:07.345-05:002018-04-27T03:02:07.345-05:00Women and traditions go hand in hand together, and...Women and traditions go hand in hand together, and its the women who will follow every tradition and they are ones who will be talking about dowry, cooking, duties of the new bride,do&#39;s and don&#39;t in the family. I have seen very few men involved in all this- very rarely I hear father in law involved in cultural and traditional customs.It is very sad that women are condition to think, feel an behave in a particular manner. The conditioning has become so strong that despite education they continue to follow blindly without even rationalising for a second. There is a theory in psychology called Learned Helplessness by martin seligman who speaks about how victims become so habituated that they accept violence as part of life. Having worked in the area of domestic violence, I was shocked when i heard some stories of women in a managerial cadre and living in a abusive relationship and violence in all forms have become an accepted norm. Women need to come out and help each other in empowering themselves, instead of just following the traditions and customs blindly there is a need to articulate and express one&#39;s thoughts and opinions. In my in laws house as a new bride I was expected to wear a sari 24/7 and being a working women and used to wearing dresses it was very uncomfortable. I wore two days and i couldn&#39;t wear the third day and I told my mil directly that I am uncomfortable and not used to... she was silent for a while and then told me ok wear what you are comfortable. From then on till date I wear what I am comfortable.. its a small example.. big battles are won from small victories:)G Angela Davidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17866368362204764911noreply@blogger.com