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The necessity of (not) being lonely


Sometimes we don’t realize how the time passes by and we become all alone in the middle of life. A breathtaking feeling, but it’s true. I never felt it on my own skin, but I heard a lot of people annoying about that and being depressed. Better said we are envious because we couldn’t catch our happiness when we were younger, the period that distinguishes by its own power to attract someone to you or to create your personality if you haven’t created yet.

If for somebody loneliness is a lifestyle, some people are desperately trying to avoid this state. There are friends that are conscientiously helping, organising dates, I mean the random ones , when a stranger appears and it starts like: ” Oh, dear, what a surprise, I haven’t expected to meet you here, let me introduce him/her to you… ” and that’s the beginning of the disaster, when a totally unseasonable person enters in your private life without any permission and suddenly ruins everything you built all these years. It sounds dramatically, I know, but it’s just reality.

   Our chaste hearts are running after pure love, but where is it ? No one can tell us where it is exactly cause we were made to find it ourselves and the most beautiful thing is when love comes exactly in the moment you less expected. That is how our not very lovely loneliness gets full of hugs kisses and sweet words.

The history of our early life is sometimes motivating us to lead a lonely, isolated lifestyle, not being a part of society we are living in and to create our own world where is no place for someone else, or we just do not allow anyone to “roam the lands” of our world. “Leave me alone” is a well-known phrase frequently used today, which means that the person concerned wants not to be disturbed. But who ever thought about the real or the straight meaning of this? Sometimes we’re just too busy to realize that we’re ignoring our friends and family and step by step we get more distant. There are moments when you need a place of silence, a place were you can gather your thoughts and feeling, were you can feel safer and you can relax from a very difficult day. There is nothing strange in the necessity of spending some time being all alone, it’s a psychical and physical need, I could say. Even if those people aren’t always understood by others, they shouldn’t be criticized, everyone needs a day or more to clarify what is going on and it always helps if you have to take a hard decision or if you’re confused, stressed or in love.

Someone is supposed to be lonely forever, someone is just in a hard period, someone is  in the process of searching for a real love, but someone is too disappointed to keep believing in a happy ending. No matter what is your situation, no matter how sad you are, there is always a way to leave everything behind and smile. Try not to use repulsive words, be nice, be optimistic and you’ll see how your life will change into a positive side.

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