Jenna Dewan Tatum has been pretty honest about her sex life with husband Channing Tatum—which she describes as being "very happy and healthy." And in a recent interview with Redbook, Dewan Tatum spilled her tips for keeping things steamy in the bedroom after nearly seven years of marriage. Dewan Tatum's secret? She's not afraid to focus on herself.

"I think all women should keep it exciting for themselves, Dewan Tatum told Redbook. "People always ask, 'Do you do anything to keep it fresh for your man?' I hate that question. I'm like, 'No. Why is it for your man?' I do things to keep it fresh for myself. The lingerie I buy is not for him necessarily. It's for us and for myself. If you feel sexy, then it's good for you." In other words, do what makes you happy. Comfort and confidence is key.

And yes, they manage to keep their sex life interesting—despite being incredibly busy. (ICMYI: Dewan Tatum will be appearing as a judge and mentor on the Jennifer Lopez–helmed competition show World of Dance. And her husband, as you know, makes frequent appearances on the big screen.) "We are not sex schedulers—not yet," Dewan Tatum said. "Give us a couple more years—maybe with child number two. There's a beauty in being two busy people because we get a lot of time to miss each other. To continue to miss someone after so many years is kind of a blessing in disguise."

And Dewan Tatum shared another secret to relationship success with Redbook: communication. She said that speaking to each other frankly and honestly is essential for staying connected—even though can be challenging. "You change when you're together from 25 to 35," she said. "I think maybe in my early 20s, I might have tiptoed around issues or didn't want to make too many waves. Now it's like, 'This is how I'm feeling.' You have to be OK with the other person becoming defensive—to let them be emotional and accept that it won't be OK for a while."

Further proof that Jenna Dewan Tatum and Channing Tatum are the total #RelationshipGoals package.

Read her full interview with Redbook here.

