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  1. I had a decoy phone that I left on, and when I moved, I did not leave forwarding address. He left all these vile messages, with differing emotions, after a time, the messages started to feel like more of a joke. I just became less and less and less detached. I would forget about my decoy phone, and then, months later, listen to the 100s of messages, just shaking my head, saying to myself, “wow. what a whack job!” Eventually, the messages died down, but it took years, and now they are non existent. Same with my old address, letters went on for years, like he was having some type of relationship all by himself, never getting any response.

    1. Hello Sam, he was still obtaining Thought Fuel for a time and then felt these hoovers might yield results. You must have yielded plenty of fuel for him to have kept trying and this serves as a useful example of how we do keep trying.

  2. If the target had not responded with anxiety/the wish for the phone number to be changed, and just pushed through. Would the calls have continued? How would you have switched tactics?

    1. They would have done for a while until it became apparent that the desired effect was not being achieved. There would be a contingency margin built in to continue them for a little while longer even if there was no confirmation of the desired effect being achieved, part of it is based on knowing the nature of the subject. I would have looked at alternative method of drawing fuel, there are many different ways.

  3. BRRRR…this is cold. I came in to get out of the heat of a hot Summer Solstice day and got more than I bargained for. Do you consider this to be revenge or punishment? (Maybe that’s a distinction without a difference.) As always, thanks for the insight.

  4. My best friend who had to end a five year relationship with a raging alcoholic, as it turns out after following you for almost a year, we discovered he falls in the lower to mid-victim Narcissist. She actually booked and paid for one month at a hotel to drive him to when she officially kicked him out of her house for good. Although she packed majority of clothes and things that could go there, many of his things like furniture, tools, etc remained at her house. For six months following, the allotment of voice messages he left for her was insane. He felt he had the right to say or do anything until he got the rest of his things. The problem was he was living from 1 friend’s couch to another. Being called a “f’ng bitch” was a mild day. As time went on she’d maybe get a week or two reprieve, then it would start. In the course of an hour, she would get, “I love you. You’re still my best friend”. After 5 minutes of being ignored, then a vc msg raging, how she is a “f’ng C*nt”. She’s a “black-hearted whore” (insert vile sexual images) and would end with such a “spoiled bitch”. When another 5 minutes would go by with no response from her, “I love you. I didn’t mean any of that. I just hurt so bad. Can you just talk to me?”
    Oh yes, those kind of threatening messages are very real.

      1. That is very kind. She has completely rebounded. This happened 2 years ago. She’s getting remarried this August to a very nice man.

  5. I know this all too well. Mine is the opposite. Sweet kind and loving when I am gone…. When I am back total ignore… I feel like a yoyo

  6. 21,744 new messages. Why would anyone leave someone who pays such attention? It is chilling. My N2 was a slacker. My personal phone only had 118 messages over 3 days. Ringer off.

    Why at work and why at night? Wouldn’t you get a better reaction during the day when your supply person didn’t know if it was a genuine client or you (or lieutenants)? Disposable phones make this torture an easy practice, day or night. That’s not a suggestion, btw. Evidently, your way is what works for you.

    1. Valid point but think about how the victim,when getting ready for bed wonders if there will be a greeting message in the morning. They will be struggling to get off to sleep wondering if the message is being recorded that moment. When they wake it will be at the forefront of their mind, as they get ready for work and commute. Imagine the fuel that comes from having such an effect. Our message is likely to be the first that greets them, rather than becoming lost amongst the day’s messages/

      1. True. Your message would he the first they would hear. The anxiety would be the fact that it was happening at all. I’d think it would be startling to pick up the phone and hear the spew just before a major presentation. So so happy my work doesn’t have voicemail. Thank you company.

  7. I am a bit speechless.. I have seen so many narcissistic relationships end, but none ending like this.. At most stalking and following but this is such a psychological torture.. I assume a person at the very far end of the malignant spectrum.
    Thanks for your answer.

  8. Is this a true story? How can this be? I would use every authority to make it stop and never talk to this person again in my life..
    And I would really deeply examine myself on how did I wind up with in this situation? How did I get here? This would be a wake up call.

    1. Indeed it is and when someone offends our kind through the commission of such treachery a malign hoover such as this Nikita is the result. In your world, the victim has done nothing wrong other than try to escape us. Of course in our world, that is an act of treason for which the repercussions are long-lasting and severe. Yes, you would do well to utilise outside assistance to counter such behaviour, but it does not always work.

    2. Nikita-this has happened to me… car window was smashed!! All valuables were untouched….he (N3) took things that I care about-family photos and my work schedule! This happened in my work parking lot…..funny thing is…for the last 2 weeks, I felt I was being watched while walking out to my car….

      I was right… careful out there, Ladies!

      These N guys play hardball!

        1. Nikita, do you think it was your ex N that robbed you? He only took things of no monetary value from my car….like a photo album from my father’s estate…but those pics had been copied, so I still have them…

          N3 used to work for the county crime lab. He has been trained as an officer….they wanted him to have a badge when going out to crime scenes…he knows that taking things of value would get the police to investigate it. They only took a report for the vandalism….no robbery…no investigation 😟.

          I wished he would just disappear….I don’t even like him as a person anymore….I just feel disgusted by him now….

          1. Hi T.
            No me I got robbed plainly robbed 😖.
            I have never had with any of my exes thise kinds of problems. All very civilized.
            Sorry to hear.. Until short it seemed to me you were still fond of N3…

          2. I was fond of him until I decided to take the blinders off my eyes and see him for what he is! I don’t dislike him because he has issues….I dislike him because he’s behaving so ugly! Obviously, he has some control over his actions…he can control himself-he didn’t have to hurt my feelings or damage my property. He cost me a $100 dollar insurance deductible for that window…not including what it will cost to have the privacy glass tint added on additionally! I should just send him a copy of the bill and request payment!!😡. However, if all he wants is attention-he sure the hell won’t get it!!! I’ll eat the cost of the window and consider it getting off cheap—he’s out of my life forever–and all it took was $100 to drive home what a jerk he really is!

          3. Hmmm seems he is very angry… Hopefully it goes away soon.
            I agree better not fight over money when its not a big amount and it would only bring harassment.

          4. He’s angry because he’s had to downgrade to dating women that aren’t me! I’m not being arrogant…I’m just being honest. Quality singles are not plentiful where we live….male or female….it’s a challenge to meet someone nice around here…

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