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Saturday, May 21, 2011

Toddler Tricks 41 - When You Leave Someone Behind

Ways to Trick Your Baby:

Problem: Sometimes you take the kids somewhere, leaving someone else still in the house. The babies usually want everyone to go together everywhere and have trouble understanding that the person being left behind wants to stay or needs to stay. This can lead to tantrums and crying, even if you're all going some place fun. Oftentimes, the babies and I will leave my husband at home to go grocery shopping, for instance, or we'll go to the park before he leaves for work. They will start getting teary-eyed when they realize he's not coming along.

Solution: Have them say a big goodbye and explain to the person where they are going and that they'll be back. This puts them in control of the situation. They become the "adults" telling the person being left about their plans for the day, instead of being babies that are being dragged along for whatever ride their mommy is going on.

Ways your Baby Tricks You:

Problem: That doesn't work.

Solution: Have them tell the person not to cry. This works for us at least 90 percent of the time. It is magical, truly. This allows the young child to feel empathy (though it be false) for the person being left behind. They remember how they feel when someone leaves them behind, and instead of being upset at the present situation, they feel for the person and concentrate on making them feel safe and loved. "Don't cry, daddy! We'll be right back!" And as they say the words aloud, they hear them as if those words are meant for them. They'll know, since it came from their own voices, that we will be right back and that no one has to cry.

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  1. LOL Darlena, when I read the title I was like "OMG She left one of them at the mall or something!" You fooled me ;)

  2. Oh, I like that trick! My kiddos definitely like to feel like they are in control and usually they are! I always love stopping by your blog. Thanks for the tip.

  3. Folllowing from the hop. Funny trick!



  5. I'm going to try your advice next time we have to go out and leave Daddy at home :) New stalker here from Super Stalker Sunday. Would love it if you'd swing by my blog when you get a chance! :)

  6. Thanks for linking up on the Super STALKER Sunday! I stalk you everywhere that I see possible here! :D

    I hope you won't be a stranger and come back next week, or even just mid week and say hello! : ) I post lots of other great things like recipes, tackles, GIVEAWAY'S and rambles (oh my!).

  7. Super trick! I love it! Definitely using this :)

  8. Neat tricks.

    Thanks for the follow, following you back :)

  9. So smart! Following from the Sunday Stalk!



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