Jun 09, 2014, 23:00 IST

Cross Father and Cross Offspring

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Children are born out of the marriages between their parents. The marriages are sometimes overt and sometimes covert. It is sometimes arranged or sometimes love ones.  It is surely a sacred bond between two souls, a relationship in which a male and female promise to be companions for a life time after tying the nuptial knot, brining significant stability and security in the relationships of human beings, which is otherwise incomplete. The reasons behind such marriage are many like social, economical, cultural and sometimes political too. We, their children, come to see the light of the world because of them only. We are nothing except them, carrying on their all attributes like blood, genes, inner and outer ones too.

Under the circumstances where people who are bordering two different geographical locations whether it is a state or nation, the nuptial knots of such parents take place because of many considerations, mostly occasioned by the intentions of stability of relations between themselves to find a  place of permanence of their existence for life time.

In such cases of bonding between the parents, both the male and the female partners come from the different strata of religion, caste, culture, blood, language, community and even ethnicity.

When their children are born under any of these backgrounds, the religion, caste, culture and so on, the children get many pragmatic changes in themselves. With the passage of time of their bringing up by their parents, they witness a different set of existence both in their outward and inner selves. They look different in their complexion, physicality, behaviors, emotions, logicality, either tilted to their father or mother.  Under the circumstances when a tribal mother is married to a non-tribal father in the matrilineal system as prevalent in North East India, their offspring s may not show love, sympathy and loyalty as expected from them to their father. They fail to identify the matrilineal attributes existing in their society and start underestimating their father leading to their hates and ultimately not recognizing their father as their own one. They harbor ill feelings about their father as he does not belong to their matrilineal society and try to outcaste him from their mother and themselves even after they are so called educated and aware of the real reasons behind the marriage of their parents.  Their father feels demoralized and outcaste in spite of his fatherly responsibilities and duties to his filial offspring. Deep hate and abhorrence towards their father grows, thus delinking themselves from their father. Their father stands out alone from their cross bred offspring.

Such filial offspring fail to understand the role and place of their father in their lives and the society which is the most dangerous phenomenon for the growth of their own family members and in turn the society around them. What is mostly needed from such offspring is their logical understanding about their father by dint of their love, trust, respect, patience, appreciation, compassion to him. They must consider that the marriage of their parents were not an artificial one and it was performed out of their individual freedom ,  aspirations and compulsions  for their coming nearer to each other for their survival on the earth for a greater and stronger offspring loyal to him only.

In spite of the foregoing, practicality of relations between these cross parents and their cross  offspring speak volume of completely different scenarios of relations today.

Perhaps one day will  come when these differences in attitudinal behaviors between such cross relations  of the parents and their offspring will be set right in its truest manifestations of reality.



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