December 2016 Birth Club

Long rant: jealous sisters and gender

So, background story: I have 2 sisters. My oldest sister (1.5 yrs older/ she's 30) has always been the rebel/trouble maker of the family. She's stolen jewelry from my mom and I for $, screwed over multiple people she's called her friends, makes up the most ridiculous and elaborate lies to tell about herself to others (ex. She's in a band and plays gigs, we are Italian/French, she had a twin who died at birth, etc... that's only a few of her bizarre lies), and has consistently tried to negatively influence any decision I have made in my life. (I got smart after high school, but she still tries). She has gotten better with most of these things, and is the most charismatic person you will ever meet. She must be the center of attention and everyone loves her because they believe all her BS. I actually like to hang out with her bc she is fun, despite her being a pathological liar sometimes.
My younger sister (8 years younger/she's 21) is a brat/the baby of the family and gets whatever she wants. She's the most materialistic person I have ever met, can never be happy for anyone especially if they have something she wants, and will judge/tear down any girl she ever sees. I assume she's miserable, and she just can't stand to see other people happy. She tries to degrade/tear me down because I am so happy in my life. I have an amazing husband and we want for nothing. She pretty much wants everything for free, but refuses to actually work for it... She expects things to just be handed to her and wants to marry asap so she doesn't have to work. (She acts and is treated like a child). I don't ask for things and I don't expect them, but you should see her face and hear her jealous, snarky remarks at xmas time when I open any gifts from my husband. You can literally see the fire of jealousy in her eyes.
Both sisters pump my parents for money.
ANYWAY... We don't know the gender of our baby and its our first one... first grand baby for my parents as well. I will love the baby regardless of the gender. I have always wanted a boy because I grew up with 2 horrible sisters haha. Both sisters want a boy eventually too when they someday get married and start families of their own. I want a girl eventually, but I won't stop till I get a boy lol. WELL, once they found out I was pregnant, they were thrilled (they are not monsters, just selfish and self serving), but then not long after, the jealousy set in. My lil sis had to be snarky "well, WE already talked and WE think youre having a girl!" And continues to attempt to "taunt" me with this. My older sister says "yup! That means it's a girl" when referring to any wives tale, even tho almost all of them point to boy (and they aren't even real anyway!!) I made the mistake of letting them see that this mildly bothered me, so they know it's effective and use it to continuously to try and chip away at me and feed their inner monsters. (Even though a lil girl would be lovely, they use it as a weapon.)
My question to you ladies is... Before or when we do the gender reveal with the family and my close friends... What the hell do I do about my sisters if it comes up girl? I can't STAND to give them the benefit of the doubt and let them smugly announce "I told you so!!" They'll get great pleasure from assuming I am unhappy and continue to try to smush it in my face with taunts, etc. I will be happy with either girl or boy, but of course, I MOST DEFINATELY don't want them to be happy about my "assumed" misery. They will be overjoyed I didn't get the coveted boy we all hope for. If the baby is a boy, that fact alone is enough to make their blood boil because that would mean their "fun" is over and "once again!" their sister is happy because "she has everything she wants!" I wouldn't even have to "smash" it in their faces because I already know they'd be jealous. My natural reaction (surprise and excitement) would piss them off.
God forbid I'm happy in my life! Sheesh.
Thanks for listening to my rant ladies!

comments (12)

  • The way to take control of the situation is to be genuinely happy if it's a girl. If they tell you " I told you so" just smile and say that you are thrilled because mothers and daughters have such a strong bond. And that you are so happy that your daughter will get to have such a special relationship with her aunts . Once they know that their words have no power over you they will stop
  • I think maybe you shouldn't even do a gender reveal... If you find out it's a girl, I would go out and buy a bunch of really cute bows and girl outfits. Make a FB post or send a group message with pics of the clothes and ultrasound, and say something to the effect of how you can't wait to meet your daughter and teach her how to cook, do make up (or whatever) and help her grow into a smart, responsible young woman. Just make it seem like you are over the moon that you are having a girl.
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