To be bloody fuming that DH

(98 Posts)
LadySybilPussPolham Wed 05-Dec-12 18:16:37

showers EVERY FUCKING MEAL I make in black pepper? Without tasting first?
Just had a row about it because I was unable to bite my tongue on this occasion, having made a delicious spiced carrot and lentil soup (roasted and ground the spices myself, put extra effing chilli and mustard seeds in for him), only to watch as he coated it in pepper and extra chilli before taking a mouthful.
I KNOW he likes a lot of pepper and I wouldn't care if he did this after trying it but he doesn't accept that it's rude. I love salt but I would never add it before tasting a meal.
Really really pisses me off. Can you tell?!

HoHoBrandyButter Wed 05-Dec-12 18:18:04

I know how you feel - sorry can't help but I offer my sympathy as my DH does exactly the same thing!! It's just rude!!angry

bradyismyfavouritewiseman Wed 05-Dec-12 18:18:57

Calm down, maybe?

Is this really something to row about.

If you know he likes his meals covered in black pepper and chilli, maybe don't spend so long making soup.

Some people only eat food covered in certain things. Some ketchup, some vinegar.

I really don't think its anything to fall out about.

It is considered rude in some culture, not here as far as I know.

5dcsandallthelittlesantahats Wed 05-Dec-12 18:19:40

maybe he just likes it stronger than you.. im not sure I could ever get this worked up about seasoning tbh!

nokidshere Wed 05-Dec-12 18:20:05


DH always seasons his food before eating it because he says I don't season it enough - after 30+years I guess he already knows that he will need to add extra because I season it to my taste smile

To be fair - when he cooks he seasons it for me too and adds more after for him!

I would have to say that YABU because I do this with salt, I never taste food first blush

Greensleeves Wed 05-Dec-12 18:25:11

me too with the salt

if dh got arsey about it I would tell him to blow it out his ass hmm

noblegiraffe Wed 05-Dec-12 18:26:55

It's called autocondimenting smile

mrskeithrichards Wed 05-Dec-12 18:26:56

Fucking hell, how is it rude?

PuffPants Wed 05-Dec-12 18:28:02

My dad does that. Except it's white pepper and all anyone can smell while they're eating is the pepper on his plate!

It's just a habit. My dad never asks for pepper when he's staying with us, but my mum puts it out on the table for him so he uses it.

I never taste before I salt. The reason is that if it is edible for normal people, I need to salt it. I do get annoyed when DH adds hot sauce to everything.

valiumredhead Wed 05-Dec-12 18:29:48

Why is it rude to prefer a meal with lots of pepper on it? confused

mrskeithrichards Wed 05-Dec-12 18:32:13

Rude would be saying your cooking is shit Joe proceeding to piss in your chardonnay.

mrskeithrichards Wed 05-Dec-12 18:32:31

Joe? And!

LadySybilPussPolham Wed 05-Dec-12 18:34:09

MrsTP isn't that the same though?

strumpetpumpkin Wed 05-Dec-12 18:34:15

both me and Dp are pepper addicts. if someone told me it was offensive for me to pepper my food id be completely bemused. are you sure there's not an underlying resentment you're building up about something else because this seems quite unreasonable and petty

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Wed 05-Dec-12 18:34:30

This is my MIL's pet peeve against my FIL. I can see that logically you should taste the food before you season it but since you're not eating it and he doesn't complain I don't think it's worth getting upset about.

SleighbellsRingInYourLife Wed 05-Dec-12 18:34:51

I regularly autocondiment (thanks noblegiraffe)

If a famous chef got sniffy about it, I'd tell him to "blow it out his ass" à la Greensleeves.

If DH did my face would be a combination of grin confused hmm angry shock

MadBusLady Wed 05-Dec-12 18:35:16

It would be especially rude if your name wasn't Joe!

Yes, it is the same, I am a hypocrite HTH grin

SleighbellsRingInYourLife Wed 05-Dec-12 18:36:35

What are you really pissed off about? Because there's no way it can be this.

MadBusLady Wed 05-Dec-12 18:37:02

Anyway, OP, you are being a bit unseasonable. Geddit?

QODRestYeMerryGentlemen Wed 05-Dec-12 18:38:10

I salt everything because I like the salt granules to be crunchy. It's a taste thing

LadySybilPussPolham Wed 05-Dec-12 18:38:39

It's true. It really winds me up. No underlying issues!

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly Wed 05-Dec-12 18:38:47

He doesn't even taste the food first? How can you possibly know if the food is seasoned to your taste if you don't try it? grin I mean, if someone likes their food with lots of pepper on, or salt, or whatever, fair enough. But to take one look at the food and chuck it on? That doesn't make sense. You don't know how much is already on it. What if you make your meal inedible?

If you would like to be petty, I suggest you drown his food in pepper before handing it to him. Absolutely go bonkers with it, half a pot.

Then sit back and watch him add loads of pepper and enjoy.


and film it for me wink

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