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Wengrin -- I hear you on alllll that ADHD stuff. I'm absent-minded (probably would have had an ADHD diagnosis if I'd been evaluated when I was younger), so I get it and do okay rolling with DS's forgetfulness at home most of the time, but he's in middle school now and it's really hard to see his grades low because of these issues. He's so bright, great test scores, but has a terrible time completing assignments. I hate that this could mess up his future choices, but I've accepted that we're limited in how much we can fix this for him. As far as the neuro-psych testing goes, I will say that the main reason we had it done was because we had some concerns about austistic spectrum disorder and wanted to know about that finally (we'd wondered about it for years). It didn't give us a lot of new insight into his ADHD, just told us that our kid was smart and disoragnized (which we knew). Anyway, AFTER insurance, we had to pay almost $1000 for this. It took us a year to pay off. While I'm glad I know more about my kid, in retrospect I don't think I would have bothered. It didn't really improve our situation. But, fortunately for me, he's my easy behavior kid at home, so at least I am not dealing with opposition and such while I'm trying to help him remember where his clarinet is. My hope for him is that, once he's out of school, he'll find a job and lifestyle that's ADHD-friendly (school definitely is not) and he will be able to feel successful and not necessarily need medication.

Cute picture, btw. The very safe thing for my DH to do when I'm hormonal and stressed out is clean the house. I can't handle messy when I'm anxious.

AFM, work is crazy this week, but we have a three-day weekend (which I may not take all of, but at least the office will be empty while I catch up). I'm working on Beowulf in my British Lit class, and I'm going to try to take the family and the dog to the park this weekend for some play. What is everyone else up to?

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Morning ladies... From someone without children, (but whose mum was a teacher) I just want to say its not embarrassing or un PC to talk about you children's issues like you have... It comes across in every sentence how much you care about them and would seriously walk through fire if it made their lives better - it's a wonderful thing to see. All too often people don't care that much. There was a kid in mums class (age 7) who had been through testing as they thought he had leukemia... He was cleared, but a few weeks later mum was on playground duty, for lunch he was eating a hot cross bun - it was 2-3 weeks after Easter and the bun was as stale as you like... So mum just gave him her sandwich and walked away (she was so upset she couldn't talk). I know we're not those people but seriously your kids are soo blessed that you care enough to work at understanding them - to the level that you do. Just saying lol
Wengrin I love that pic, funny! Except for me instead if wine it would be dh saying - I like paying more for organic - lets do that lol

Oxford - I chart stalked, how are you? I am pretty sure I'll be joining you today, as I definitely have AF cramps now and done spotting... Up side is we will be synched this cycle. I'm at peace with it.
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Hi ladies, thank you all for sharing your feelings and concerns about your journeys to become mamas and of the challenges of raising children. So much has been said that I could not have possibly said better, but I did want to add my voice to the chorus of support.

Oxford and Chourd - I want you to know how much I am looking forward to seeing you become mothers. I know the path is rocky and lonely at times, but I am so proud of your perseverance. You are both making real progress, and you are in good hands with your respective doctors.

Wengrin and primal - I am proud of you for working with your children to find good outlets for their energy and getting them the medicine they need to function and live happier. You are good mamas. All too often parents minimize the medical needs of their children - especially if it is a medical need that is not something physically seen from the outside.

Afm - We finally told our kids, family, and close friends about my pregnancy. I asked DH if he would let his parents and siblings know and he said sure. Now mind you, my husband is not one for conversation. He unofficially lives by the Abe Lincoln quote "Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt." So yeah, he's a quiet one. Anyway, it turned out that he decided to send them all a text. (This is baby #5, so a big announcement felt somewhat silly.) His text read, "[mamaBlue] is pregnant." That's it. No due date. No expressions of joy or excitement. lolololololololololol. His family is totally used to him being like this, so I'm not upset or anything like that. But I am glad that it was my job to tell my family and our friends. It was worded a little more eloquently. wink1.gif and speaking of my family, they are not easy people to be around. My maternal grandmother and grandfather were not pleased. They were so incredibly disappointed, which has been their response every single time I have become a mother. It's not personal, and they really do love my (well-behaved, polite) kids, they just don't understand why anyone wants to have children - let alone 5. Needless to say, they treated my mother the same way when she had my brother and I. Everyone else has been happy and surprised, but of course when one has a big family, no one is really excited like they were with the first baby. Fifth babies make for great gossip more than anything - people that do not know us well just assume that we are planning to be like the Duggars or that we are a randy pair that is lazy about birth control. Um no. This is our last baby. And it was a planned pregnancy.
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Not only planned mamablue - but you had to work so hard and put your body through a lot to get there! I wonder if understanding that would make them think differently... Lol re dh, that's hilarious! Also congrats on being comfortable with being 'out' thats another milestone passed.
Thanks for the kind words, I appreciate and take it to heart...
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I think its a shame that people only really get excited about the first especially as my partners brother has already had a boy and a girl so I worry that our future baby wont be as celebrated as theirs were. Its funny the assumptions people make about those who have large families although where I live more than 2 is considered a lot!

Im on cd 9 according to my tracker so should O early next week but my cycle varies slightly so Im not sure.
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Hi, I'm on holiday this week so just. Quickie...

Mamablue- I'm delighted for your announcement. Your DH is hilariously understated! Has he got British heritage? ;-) it must be excited for it to be out. Ignore your grandparents, that's definitely their issue!! Thanks for what you said about my journey, you hit my heart. You are very eloquent.

Chuord- enormous hugs my dear. There are no words for your is disappointment or loss. We will move on together. Maybe we both just needed a few drugs to give that extra push. AF hasn't started for me yet but is due today.

Wengrin- you're adorable! I love the hormone thing!! That is totally me last month. I spoke to DH about it and he told be to just let it out and stop holding back. Bless his heart, he has no idea what encouraging authentic hormonal wife could be like for him!!! I'm looking forward to hearing about dd's competition. Hope they win!

Wengrin, primal, Chrissie, your kids are blessed to have you. Amazing strong mothers!

Mare- you have my prayers for the house. It sounds like your nest.

Right better go, it's the second day of our hols and DH has a fever :-(
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AF has landed :-(
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So sorry Oxford!
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Hugs Oxford
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So sorry Oxford
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Oxford - I'm very sorry to hear that. I was hoping that you'd get lucky on the first go. A new cycle has begun with a new opportunity to conceive. Keep looking forward. You can do this.
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Hugs Oxford!!! Know I'm keeping you company this month... We will do this! You were born to be a mum xxx
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How is everyone today? Its getting colder here and snow in forecast for tomorrow. Somewhere from 3-6 inches.
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Sorry to hear af came for you Oxford someone once told me not to see it as a failure but just another step closer to getting your bfp.

Chrissy - your so lucky I was so disappointed it didn't snow this winter I know Im weird but I actually like it.

In my fertile time now but as per OH isnt in the mood although hes been sick this past week so I cant really blame him just frustrating that something always comes up.
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I'm sorry Oxford, sending lots of good wishes and thoughts to you and Chourd. 

Chourd, how are you? You seem very zen. I hope you feel like you can express any way you are feeling here.

I really do feel like babies are so close for both of you. I'm so glad that your doctors have buckled down and are working with you to make you both mothers.


I felt the baby moving last night :love Pretty neat.

The house didn't work out, but that's okay. I think it would have been too small. Hopefully someone will list the perfect old farmhouse in need of cosmetic TLC, in our price range, with a few beautiful open, flatish acres. And maybe a creek? A girl can dream. 

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Chourd, I keep forgetting to mention that Malcolm absolutely loves the drinking kitty in your signature. He just thrills every time he sees it, and then he doesn't want me to scroll away.


MamaBlue, Primal, how are you both feeling? Any updates?

Wengrin, glad to see you around! I really enjoy reading about your DD. How is DS doing?

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Yammas - try and have a gentle chat to him explaining how important to you it is to be in with a shot... Try for -2 days from I if you only get the one chance lol... I've been there and it's hard getting them to understand... Now I get told 'we should try again' lol tables are turned!
Mares - that is so cute re Malcolm! It's part of the list of icons that mothering provide, so you can make as many as you like wink1.gif
I'm sorta zen because at least now I have a definitive answer and I'm moving along with the next cycle... For me the torture was the waiting between the dropped beta and AF - wondering every second lol - crazy really! I any change anything, lucky for me I only feel like the vessel wasn't quite right and that the baby will try again next time - it really does help emotionally. Lol you got me rambling again wink1.gif
Love that you can feel the baby! Primal, mamablue - can you ladies yet?
Wengrin - we're hanging out to know how the cheer comp went?
Chrissy - still jealous of the snow... Swap?
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Hi everyone.  I belonged to this thread for quite sometime and am still rooting for all of you. I just wanted to stop in and offer encouragement.  On Jan 8th after a 2 year fertility struggle Merciful Joy finally joined this world.  Big hugs to all of you still waiting for your bundle.  I just wanted to say that it can happen!  :)


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That baby is beautiful!!!!!
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JustJenny - Congrats! She is a beauty! This reminds us all to keep on going despite setbacks.

Mares - So glad your little one has let you know of their presence. It's such a reassuring feeling.

Chrissy - I too am jealous of your snow. I'm in San Diego and cannot remember the last time it rained. The air is so dry and warm, and my backyard is very thirsty. We desperately need some cooler temps and water.

Chourd, Oxford, Wengrin, faith, lovey, primal - Are you all well?

AFM - Nothing new or exciting to report around these parts. Word is spreading among our friends that I am expecting again. I've had several friends say that they are glad I'm giving my little guy a close-in-age sibling, and that they would have made the same decision. Although I don't need or expect or desire others people's permission or blessing to add to my family, it's nice to hear that I'm not thought of as crazy in the head. heehee. Like Mares, I've been feeling the baby move here and there for a week or so. It's very light and not a regular or even daily occurance, so it's very exciting every time it does happen. I'm very much looking forward to feeling it with regularity. It's one of my favorite things in the whole world to experience. I am so looking forward to everyone on this thread being able to experience it, too. Keep moving forward my TTC mamas. You are all headed in the right direction. xoxoxoxo
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