Dear Dan,

I'm turning 30 in December, and I want to have a "nontraditional" celebration. I'm thinking about re-creating some economics experiments at my party.




Have a dilemma for Dan?


Then ask each guest to toss the coin and tell you if their guess was right. If more than half of your guests "predicted correctly," you'll know that as a group they are less than honest. For each 1% of "correct predictions" above 50% you can tell that 2% more of the guests are dishonest. (If you get 70% you will know that 40% are dishonest.) Also, observe if the amount of dishonesty increases with more drinking. Mazel tov, and let me know how it turns out!

Dear Dan,


—Concerned Mother

It seems that you are experiencing the same reaction most mothers around the world have toward their daughters' boyfriends. Let's assume, for the sake of argument, that you are, in fact, correct, and that your daughter's new boyfriend really is dumb, lazy and up to no good. Nevertheless, don't tell your daughter your opinion and instead ask her questions. Naturally, people tend not to ask themselves certain questions. But if someone else asks them, these questions get planted in their minds, and it is hard to keep from thinking about them. So thoughtful questions can make people think differently about what they want and how they view the world around them.

For example, you can ask, "How do you and your boyfriend get along? Do you ever fight? What do you love about him? What do you like less about him?" I admit it's a bit manipulative, but I hope it will get her to think about her relationship in more depth. And maybe she will reach the same conclusions you have.

Dear Dan,

My wife-to-be really wants to get a two-carat ring, but I'd rather get a smaller ring and spend the rest of the money for future expenses—house, wedding, etc.

Her view is that most of her friends have big rings, plus she's been dreaming about this for a long time. What do you think about this irrational behavior? Any advice?



