Non-Awkward Ways to Start and End Networking Conversations



Opening Lines

To Start a Conversation


To Make a Friend

Try: Hi, have you been to the silent auction table yet? I'm heading over there now and would love some company.

To Get Advice

If you're interested in a new opportunity or area of work, networking is a great way to get more information. Don't be afraid to ask someone candid questions after giving some background on why you're interested.
Try: Hi, I see that you work at Company X. I've always been interested in their work, and recently saw a position open up that I'm thinking about applying to. Do you have any advice for me? What's it like working there?

To Get Your Bearings

Large conferences and events can be pretty overwhelming. If you're a first-time attendee, approaching someone for assistance can be an easy way to start a conversation. Look for someone who seems familiar with the scene and ask for an insider tip.
Try: Hi, I've never been to this event before. You look like a regular-any tips you could give me on what to expect? What are the best sessions here?

To Lighten the Mood


Parting Ways

The icebreakers above can be the launching pad you need to start networking and feel more comfortable in an unfamiliar situation. But unless you're lucky enough to stumble into your soul mate at a trade show, you'll eventually need a natural way to exit a conversation. A good rule of thumb is to talk for five to 10 minutes-and then move on. Here are some closing statements that are polite, but still get the point across that it's time to hit the road:

To Exit Gracefully

Sometimes, even when you've met someone interesting, the time comes when you're ready to peruse the rest of the event. This is a great time to hand off one of those business cards burning a hole in your pocket.
Try: Steve, it was really a pleasure speaking with you. I'm going to take a look at some of the other exhibits here, but if I don't run into you later, I hope to see you at another event soon.

To Connect Later On


To Plan a Follow-up Date

Try: I had a great time talking with you-are you planning to go to the expo next month? It seems like something that would be relevant to both of us, so maybe we could go together.

To Get Advice and Get Out the Door

A new contact can be a valuable resource, but that doesn't mean you need a shadow all night. When it's time to part ways, be honest that you'd like to follow up at a later date, and then say a polite goodbye.

To Just Flee the Scene

Sometimes, you end up talking to someone who really isn't that pleasant or interesting. I once got trapped in an endless conversation about uses for old dryer sheets (I wish I was kidding). When you're struggling for more conversation and need a reprieve, be kind, but assertive.
Try: Laura, it's been great getting to know you, but I need to say hello to a few more folks around here. I hope you have a great evening.

Networking isn't always smooth sailing, and most of us have at least a few awkward experiences to share. But learning how to start and close conversations is one of the best ways to master this important skill. With any luck, you'll make some connections, you'll find some event buddies, and you'll gain some helpful professional resources.

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