

Out with the old - supportive MN kick requested!

(35 Posts)
MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 09:47:31

Infrequent poster, mainly lurker.


*told me he loved me within a month

Other stuff but don't want to bore anyone further.


freeandhappy Tue 01-Jan-13 13:35:29

"A ready made nest that they can wedge their needy arses into". Brilliant swallowed. Gave me my first big laugh of 2013! I'll remember that.

good! and yes i was well rid! very thankful for my son though smile

MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 13:14:35

thanks swallowed (sounds like you are well rid too, well done) - wine in fridge ready for later!!

sorry LOTS of swearing from me grin seriously though do a big woo hoo dance that you're not the one to get stuck with him.

onwards and upwards.

i think tossers like this have a special penchant for single mum's btw because they're like cuckoos really - trying to find a ready made nest that they can wedge their needy arses into.

now or tonight or whenever pour yourself a nice glass of wine and toast to your freedom and independence and thank the universe you're not desperate or needy enough to put up with this twat.

ds's father was like this - brief relationship, clearly trying to move into my home and my soul it seemed within very short space of time and throwing in the emotional blackmail about me being closed, not letting him in etc because i had some basic, normal, healthy boundaries.

when i found out i was pregnant he was over the moon sure that that meant i now had to let him move into my home and tap into my jugular for his life's sustenance. once he accepted that wasn't happening he chose to have nothing to do with the pregnancy and has never met ds. he went on to find the next home owning child bearing age woman, got her pregnant and moved into her house and this one was daft enough to marry him.

you are well rid. someone desperate enough will take him. these kind of men are incapable of being full, adult human beings - they need someone's life to feed off of because they can't feed themselves itms. you were briefly sucked in but you got out. breathe a huge sigh of relief and move on.

pictish Tue 01-Jan-13 12:53:03

Yep. That's the idea.

MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 12:51:56

You're right and I see what you mean - I shall be telling him when he can pick up his things and not other way round as no longer my problem.

Plus if he doesn't collect his tv then am sure someone else will collect it from the front garden!

pictish Tue 01-Jan-13 12:45:23

My point is...don't let him decide if and when he's going to put in an dictate.

Put his stuff out and have him collect it right away. His stuff is no longer your problem...and you don't want to hang on to anything that might give him a reason to come back. Dyswim?

Pack up the lot and put it out.

pictish Tue 01-Jan-13 12:36:51

He wanted to absorb you more likely.

Put his stuff in black bags, knot them up, and put them outside the front door.


Your belongings are in bags outside the front door. Collect them by xx or they will go to the bin. No need to reply.

MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 12:30:44



MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 12:18:25



freeandhappy Tue 01-Jan-13 12:17:48





pictish Tue 01-Jan-13 12:14:00


MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 12:09:14



Thanks again!

FlorIxora Tue 01-Jan-13 12:07:27

He sounds like EA waiting to happen.


freeandhappy Tue 01-Jan-13 11:19:14


MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 11:18:57

Very apt indeed Cog - thank you!


pictish Tue 01-Jan-13 11:14:58

Very succinct grin

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 01-Jan-13 11:13:48



pictish Tue 01-Jan-13 11:10:45


Good for you. You sound very strong!!

MuthaHubbard Tue 01-Jan-13 11:06:30

He is packing his stuff as we speak.



CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 01-Jan-13 11:05:53


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