To want to shout at this bloody child..

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Wilberforce2 Tue 24-Jun-14 21:20:21

Not sure if I'm being a bit precious but this is driving me mental.

Every Tuesday my ds does rugby 4-5 and as they are only reception and year 1 all of the parents stay. I like staying and enjoy watching him but one of the little girls of another parent is doing my head in. I have a 4 month old dd and every week this little girl does not leave her alone, constantly plays with the hood on the pram (pushing it backwards and forwards), putting her fingers in the babies mouth, kissing her on the lips, takes her toys/muslin off of her, pokes her eyes it just goes on and on. Last week this girl had a heavy cold and was constantly wiping snot around her face then walked over to dd in her pram (I dared to take my eyes off of her for a second) and stuck her fingers in her mouth, Friday my dd gets an awful cold. The mum just laughs and says "oh she is so motherly" or "she just loves babies" but I want her to tell her to leave her alone for one fricking second. Today I told the girl no a few times and had a couple of looks from the mum who then said "oh * come over here darling I don't think you are wanted" but I can't just watch her prod and poke her for an hour, she was trying to put a pine cone in her mouth then whipped her with a muslin!

Am I being precious or would you keep telling the girl no? Little girl is 2 years old. Older brother is in my ds's class so I don't want to cause an argument.

MrsWinnibago Tue 24-Jun-14 21:22:17

No yanbu but you should have spoken up sooner. It's no good sitting and fuming need to make your wishes known right away or you cause more offence.

Wilberforce2 Tue 24-Jun-14 21:23:18

I know but I'm such a non confrontational wimp!!!

Delphiniumsblue Tue 24-Jun-14 21:24:35

Don't cause an argument - just be firm!
Say in a no nonsense tone,'she is going to sleep- you will have to go and play somewhere else today'.

Fairy13 Tue 24-Jun-14 21:26:06

The child is two.

I think wrt the fingers in mouth stuff - perhaps 'we don't put fingers in DDs mouth sweetie, it can make her poorly' - and perhaps have a friendly chat with her mum about it

But I think YABU overall - there is a little girl at my slimming group who is obsessed with DS and spends the whole time with him. I do step in occasionally - but I am friendly with her mum and we generally laugh about it.

YWBVVVU to shout at the child.

Trillions Tue 24-Jun-14 21:26:39

Don't shout at the 2yo, say no firmly and if she doesn't listen, ask her mother to keep her away from the baby.

clabsyqueen Tue 24-Jun-14 21:27:50

YANBU to be irritated but don't shout! Tell her firmly to go away and scoop up your child. Snotty fingers ugh.

Delphiniumsblue Tue 24-Jun-14 21:28:20

You do not need to shout - but of course she shouldn't be treating your baby like a doll!

usualsuspectt Tue 24-Jun-14 21:29:38

The bloody child is 2 , still a baby.

stargirl1701 Tue 24-Jun-14 21:29:43

A sling?

gamerchick Tue 24-Jun-14 21:29:51

No don't shout at her, she's still a baby. But I wouldn't allow my 2 yr old to make a pest of themselves either. Just keep speaking out calmly so her mother gets the message, it's not the littluns fault.

ENormaSnob Tue 24-Jun-14 21:30:15


Wtf is the other mother doing letting her do this in the first place?

SirChenjin Tue 24-Jun-14 21:30:47

YANBU - firm voice, smiley face, and tell her she needs to leave the baby alone as she is trying to sleep. Her mum is obviously using you as the babysitter for the hour wink

Wilberforce2 Tue 24-Jun-14 21:30:54

I feel like shouting but definitely wouldn't shout at someone else's child!! Sorry probably shouldn't have said that..

VenusDeWillendorf Tue 24-Jun-14 21:31:22

I don't think OP shouted Fairy, she is just so frustrated she wants to!

You must be more assertive OP and tell the little girl not to put her fingers in your baby's mouth, as she's making your baby sick.
Tell her mum you're not happy to have your baby poked so much.

Practice saying it to a mirror, low voice, high voice, super squeaky voice and your normal voice.

maras2 Tue 24-Jun-14 21:31:34

Just tell tell the kid to get lost as we would do round these parts.What is Rugby 4-5 anyway? Reception aged kids playing rugger? Oh my Good Lord.

usualsuspectt Tue 24-Jun-14 21:32:37

I'm not sure a 2 year old would understand, not unless she is a MN G & T 2 year old.

RollingGreenMarble Tue 24-Jun-14 21:33:00

Nevermind the child you need to talk to the mum.

SirChenjin Tue 24-Jun-14 21:34:04

Not rugger (who calls it that nowadays?!) - it's touch rugby at that age, aka charging about the field, having loads of fun, and exercising. Just what the doctor ordered.

maddening Tue 24-Jun-14 21:34:43

Pop the baby in a sling ? Would avoid confrontation as baby would be less accessible and out of reach of the girl.

Softlysoftlycatchymonkey Tue 24-Jun-14 21:35:08

I say sling too.

BUT I'm not adverse to actually saying something to DM.

"Can you come and get your dd, she is trying to poke my dc eyes out " cue exasperated laugh.

If she falls out with you - she will make sure she stays away.

And if there are any PA comments aimed at you...just roll your eyes and look bewildered grin

Wilberforce2 Tue 24-Jun-14 21:36:06

Yes she is just two but not my two year old and I don't want her constantly pawing over the baby!

Now I'm getting told off for reception aged rugby! It's just a fun after school class they are passing the ball, playing games and just running around in the fresh air maybe I should take him straight home to play on the Xbox?

Softlysoftlycatchymonkey Tue 24-Jun-14 21:36:59


Ha ha ha reminds me if when I'm teaching my pupils a new word .

SolomanDaisy Tue 24-Jun-14 21:37:10

That's not a nice way to talk about a two year-old.

DizzyKipper Tue 24-Jun-14 21:37:48

I'm betting you wouldn't really shout at her, you're just feeling wound up and tbf I think it's fair enough that you are. When we took DD to softplay centres there was always a girl 2-3 years older than her who'd be obsessed by her and constantly wanting to follow her around and do things with her the whole time we were there. It gets very tedious - more so when the other parents aren't bothering to manage their child and make sure they're not being too much! Talk to the mum.

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