There are 2 types of connection: 

1. Inherited connection: one will just open his eyes to a name and brand established by his family. This is just grace. 

2. Relationship Currency: this is a connection one gets through interpersonal relationships and networking. It can be as a result of work, business or any other life endeavor. This is open to everyone irrespective of social status. 

Both the two connections are not just built out of thin air. Efforts are made one way or the other. There is always first generation man/woman that sacrifices and works hard to establish the name/brand of the family. Abacha’s or Abiola’s family can get things very easily because of the efforts and sacrifices made by their one time family member to set up the brand. 

The second one is by efforts of the first generation member of the family. He/she didn’t inherit the brand name but is establishing for the future generation of the family. A lot of extra effort has to be in place to get the name established. It’s like establishing a business brand. The initiator suffers more than the subsequent generation. 

And this is not only in Nigeria. There are generational family members in every family, some in their village, some in their state, some in their country and some even internationally. 

Connection is not easy to build especially if you are from humble background (the second category). It is a product of failures, challenges, sleepless nights, rejections, failed planning, fights, refusals and above all, value addition to the network you are connecting with. It’s not just an overnight endeavor.