I have an issue with my current wife constantly verbally attacking my 12yr old son. We both fought very hard to get him out of a bad household and to get custody. Things were good at first, Although he tells alot of lies she often compares him to our (her)(girls) other kids. I have begged her to seek counseling but she insist s that she is angry because he wont straighten up his act and she believes that her seeking any counseling would jeaprdize he teaching carreer. Our (her) mother-in-law has been living with us for nearly 3 years and when I finally set a deadline for her to leave, my wife says she will leave too. Then the next day gives me an altermatum that both my son and her have to leave.
Degree understand your concerns went through your details. I can understand your emotions. I think the issue is more complicated. Your second wife is not satisfied with your son or for that matter even YOU. Also, your child is not satisfied with the step mum attitude. First, you know that it takes time for people to adjust with the situation. Your son will be able to adjust with stepmom provided she behaves and provides love. Asking an 11-year child according to her is cruelty. She definitely needs counseling. But before that you need to take some concrete decisions with which she understands, you are not too lenient towards her and the family life with her. Talk to her, cajole her, press her, trigger her, etc. In any case, she should live to have family peace. I think, you can do it. Please do. If you require more of my help in this aspect, please use this URL. http://goo.gl/aYW2pR. Make sure that you include every minute details possible. Hope this answers your query. Available for further clarifications. Good luck.