You will get a lot of unsolicited and quite frankly ridiculous advice from people when they hear you’re going to tie the knot. Just like having kids, EVERYONE has an opinion.
They all think they know the secret, but.. Surprise! There is no “secret” and every relationship is different, for the most part.
I know what you’re probably thinking: why should I take advice from someone whose marriage crashed and burned? The answer is I can likely help you prevent your relationships from the same fate. That being said, I’m going to dispense a little sisterly advice to you.
There are two people in a relationship. Two. Once you let a third party dictate how your relationship is run, you’re giving control of your relationship over to them. Once that happens, communication goes downhill, which leads me to..
Relationships take work. Lots of it. I hope both you and your future spouse realize that. If one of you isn’t putting in the effort, your relationship will suffer. I’m not telling you to smother each other or to be paranoid, but just understand that there is someone who is directly affected by your actions or lack thereof.
I’m not an expert nor much of an example either, but I hope you both can benefit from my advice and learn from my mistakes.
What a sweet advice. I bet your siblings appreciate this.