Baby announcement etiquette - what do you think?
For me, not acceptable. We are simply not telling people until we are ready for the news to be public this time. MIL has proven herself unable to bite her tongue when it comes to sharing our special news.
My SIL did this to us when DD was born. I was raging then and it still upsets me when I think about it. I know she only did it because she was so excited for us but it's still totally unacceptable to me.
I hate the thought of it. My sister was really unwell after her bub was born (spent 2 nights in ICU) and I didn't mention anything on FB even though I was so proud and excited. I wasn't FB friends with my BIL at that time (he has general family issues, more with his but long story) and I ended up texting my sister a few days later to ask if there were anymore photos (they live interstate) and all mum dad and I had seen was one photo from immediately after the birth. BIL had made the announcement on FB when he was born and had been sharing all these photos with his friends, but none with us. I don't know what my sister had done, but she wasn't tagged in any of the announcements/photos so we were literally in the dark, so that sucked. I was happy I waited until I knew they had announced it, but also annoyed at the fact that more of the news/photos were shared amongst his friends only. I'd do the same again though. Not my baby, not my news.
This however is my biggest worry when we have babies. My MIL puts everything on Facebook, there is no filter. It's like there's no thought about whether appropriate or not. (Her breast cancer diagnosis was played out on Facebook. Basically the second she was off the phone with us telling us she had announced it on FB 😕) She will be someone I'm wary of and I shouldn't have to be.
My friend had her baby in July. Her best friend announced it. And people congratulated her before she got a word in. I asked her and she said she didn't mind. Evidently it depends on the parent.
But in my personal opinion. Not ok in any circumstances.
When I had DS1 my father put it on Facebook within minutes of me calling. That's how my BFF (babies godmother) found out. I was planning on calling her within an hour or so when we had decided bubs name. I was furious.
With ds2 my BFF received the first phone call and my father the last. People were told "we're holding off posting in Facebook until we confirm bubs name."
It happened to us and I was so upset. We had a beautifully worded announcement ready that was spoilt by a family member jumping the gun. This family member had my phone number so could have text a congrats. I deleted the msg as soon as I saw it but a few people had already responded.
We wanted to wait till the next day to Facebook announce so we could enjoy the special time to ourselves for a while.
I think it's so rude.
Yeah it wouldn't really bother me. I know some people actually disable their account from a week out from their due date so they aren't bombarded and can concentrate on the impending birth.
Slightly different but my MIL announced when we found out I was pregnant on Facebook. I was only 10 weeks, so I was really annoyed!
It was our news to share and she took that away from us. Half my immediate family didn't know so I was annoyed.
Etiquette in baby change rooms!