Or, like me, you never find the strength to tell your oldest child how she was conceived. Instead you raise her the best you know how given the limited amount of parenting skills you were shown as a child. And you create a loving, kind, caring, smart, wonderful adult despite your shortcomings as a parent and your fears and terrors.
Becky, you are an amazing woman, and you’ve done beautifully raising your daughter. Please be gentle with yourself.