It was colonisation and the imposition of European ideas around gender and sexuality that started criminalising and oppressing people for being who they are; turning us against our own whānau. My language tells me this. Our language is non-binary. Ko ia, ko koe, ko au, ko koutou, ko mātou, ko tātou. We need to decolonise ourselves, and maybe we should put some kind of therapy law to start decolonising ourselves and reaffirm the tikanga of our tipuna.