In 2005, when the Civil Union Bill went through, it was another momentous shift in the psychology of what it was to be a rainbow person here in New Zealand. It made it OK for me to acknowledge the love that I have for another person, and be it male, be it female, it didn't matter. It always struck me that I felt such a deep sense of injustice that both of my sisters could get married and that I couldn't because I was gay. What that bill did was that it normalised this. 