Many of these caregivers are whānau caregivers—that is, members of a child's family, their whānau, their hapu, or their iwi, and many whānau do feel that they're being asked to do this for little more than aroha. Often these whānau members are stepping up in difficult situations where there is little choice. For example, if I was a grandparent in straitened circumstances and the choice for me was either to take in a grandchild whose parents couldn't care for them or to see my grandchild go into the care of strangers, I know that I'd take the former choice. 