My stepfather, Ian Fernie, he was a chef and he gave me the love and support of the father that I was sorely missing. He completed our whānau and introduced three step-siblings into my life. He was a wise man with lots of aroha and who taught me how to cuddle; although Ian didn't have the same patience with me that Mum had—I only lasted one driving lesson and one cooking lesson with him. But Ian did truly complement our whānau and was the best father figure a young girl could have.