We also need to acknowledge the fact that not all parents are good parents, and sometimes the State does have to interfere. Blaming the State for all the issues is just not fair. We need to acknowledge that sometimes parents need to take that responsibility on board and parents need to do the right thing by their children and, if they can't, seek the help. There's so much help out there. Community organisations that will take you under their wing and give you the resources you need to be a better parent. Reach out to your neighbour. Reach out to your friends and your family. Tell them you're not coping, because once your child dies, there's no coming back from that. Whether you meant to or not, whether you were stressed and not coping or not, that does not bring a child back. Let's as a community look over your fence, talk to your sisters, your brothers, your cousins, your aunties, and your uncles. If you think something's not right, say something. If you think Oranga Tamariki in their organisation is not doing their job and not stepping up where they should, speak up.