children s health issues
Death and Dying in Children
Attending a Funeral
Parents often wonder whether to bring children to a funeral. This decision should be made individually, and children should be involved in making the decision if possible. When children attend a funeral, a close friend or relative should accompany them to provide support throughout, and children should be allowed to leave if they want to. Parents should understand that children may be curious and ask lots of questions about death. Parents should let children know that it is alright for them to ask questions. If tragedy affects someone else, children may feel more confident, and less helpless, if they can contribute. For example, children can Pick flowers Write or draw a card Wrap a present Collect food, money, clothing, or toys If a child appears withdrawn or sad after experiencing a death, refuses to engage in usual activities, or becomes aggressive, the parent should seek professional help for the child. 