 but you're in those first four or five years, what's one thing you have learned? What's one thing that you're working on? What's a challenge that's helped you in your marriage? What is it? Or if you're in the middle years, you know, the routine that comes with raising kids and balancing responsibilities and the intimacy issues that get to be an issue in the middle years. If you're in those middle years of marriage, what's one thing that's helped you?