 In other words, do unto others not as you want them to do to you, but do unto others as they would like to have done to them. Don't measure your relationships by what you want in the person who you love, but get to work and find out what's going on in the heart of the person you love, and then try to help meet their needs. That's what they call the platinum rule, but it's not really any different. It's just the golden rule in the context in which it was presented.