 If the tendency is I just want you to act good, no, no, no. I want you to be good. I don't want you to just show me you can follow the rules. I want you to be somebody that can engage in such a way that you're thriving. And so it's okay to have rules. You've got to set those rules and create boundaries and communicate them well and enforce the consequences. But you've got to focus on the relationship and engaging with your child, create accountability for