 it shaped us and it's how we raised our kids and our kids have grown and she just began to you know talk about it and you know i got a letter from a young man that trusted christ at 25 and had had a pretty rough life and you know he writes to me and says i've listened to every sermon you've made available over the last 16 years some of them i've listened to four and five and six times and then he goes on to share how his dad died when he was 14 and