 were wrong about how they taught you. And maybe because they needed some healing too. I don't know. The other wall I see a lot is the pressure for it to look a very specific way. These might be the two that I feel the most or hear the most. One is that it was forced on you. So now it being a choice is really a journey. And for me, it wasn't a choice until my life shattered and I didn't know who I was. And then I thought, oh shoot, I need to know who I am.