 We call them commandments in the scriptures. These are things we don't do. These are things we do. Every commandment God ever gave, negative or positive, grew out of his love for us. So all of our rules ought to flow out of our love for our children. Don't have unnecessary rules. Have rules that are for the good of the child. When they do obey the rules, we reward them. I've heard people say, why do you reward children for doing good? God does.