 My advice would be to learn what real love is through Christ. My parents loved me and they took care of me, but they taught me a broken kind of love. And so I did things where I thought was out of love to my kids, but a lot of it ended up being stuff that was kind of damaging to them. I really didn't know what love was until the last few years. I didn't realize that I was kind of a broken person last few years.