 And don't depend upon a relationship other than your relationship with Christ right now. And then really get into some counseling for yourself before you would look to the future with this man or not to make sure that God is in the middle of it. It's going to be a relationship that's going to be healthy for both of you, because right now it doesn't sound like it is for either of you and certainly not the kids. Hope comes when sometimes when we take the action, we experience hope when we take the action that honors Christ.