 But what revolutionized it really is I said to God one day, I don't know what else to do. I've done everything I know to do. It's not getting any better. If anything, it's getting worse, and I don't know what else to do. And as soon as I said that, there came to my mind a visual image of Jesus on his knees washing the feet of his disciples. Oh. And I heard God say, that's the problem in your marriage. Really? You do not have the attitude of Christ toward your wife.