 I don't spend too much time in the kitchen. I prefer to barbecue on the back porch, but I do know that recipes make baking a whole lot easier. The problem comes when we apply the step-by-step process to raising kids. Hi, I'm Mark Gregston with Parenting Today's Teens. Adding ingredients in the right order and giving it time in the oven may work in the kitchen, but you're in trouble if you think that's the way parenting works.