 A growing Christian is not sweet and kind one day and then rude and cold the next. A person like that is not being controlled by the Spirit, but he's controlled by the flesh. It is impossible to be a good witness for Christ when you exhibit such up-and-down behavior. So what's the answer? Psalm 40, verse 16 says this, Let all who seek you rejoice and be glad in you, and let those who love your salvation say continually, The Lord be magnified.