 loss in the past gets in the way of bonding and new blended relationships. And you just heard that from Jim. The loss of his family. Even though, by the way, I'll just throw in this observation. Even though it was a relief for you that mom and dad broke up, still there was a sense of injustice about it and pain and disruption. And, you know, it was still wrong. And so the object of your pain quickly becomes your stepmom. She's the one to blame. It's got to go somewhere.