 something that expands us and evolves us and we can grow from it and so when we're you know open to you know what what what happened to me versus saying okay that's interesting you know what's going on what's happening what's the lesson behind it curiosity opens up the doorway for growth and evolution uh versus when we're anger we tend to get constricted and to view the things just based on the surface that happens so life doesn't happen to us but for us is what i would say