 um once you do something dumb you say okay that's in the never again bucket we never again do that and that way i'll never lose i may lose money another way but i won't lose money that way never again well the hardest part is not forgiving the other person it's forgiving yourself because you just think gosh how do i do something so dumb and i'm i can't let this go and it causes anger inside of you that's a difficult thing it is it is and it's like