 rehearse it in your mind like think of the elite athlete that's rehearsing that swing over and over so you rehearse okay my kid is going to yell at me my kid is going to curse at me my kids and i'm just going to stand there like a statue and honestly like it's unnerving you can make it funny like to yourself i think that to like practice with your spouse so that it actually becomes something that you find entertaining i know that might sound funny but honestly yeah like