 And the most powerful way to influence your spouse is to have the attitude that Jesus said, and I'm here to serve them. And I want to find out what I can do to express love to them, like learn their love language and speak their love language, for example. Whether I feel love or not, I want to be God's agent for expressing love to them and serving them. And you're having the most powerful influence you can have because your service and your love to them is,