 it's like oh what was that and then you have to know you have to like complete the loop what was that notification about i must know and we're there and then we look around us and everyone else is doing it so it further reinforces that oh this must be okay this must be the norm yeah you know my family and i we just returned from a trip to italy and of course we hit all the museums the sistine chapel and all the thing that caught my attention the most was how many young girls