 When it comes to church hurt, number one, you have to name it for what it is as a church hurt, as a wound, maybe as a form of spiritual abuse. I would say you need to process it in a safe community, whether with a Christian counselor, with a group of friends, with family members who really love you and are for you. And then I would say, number three, it is so important that we separate the God you are shown from the crummy representations of him.