 When we have been hurt or wounded by someone else, shame almost always is lurking nearby. I think shame is the biggest tool of the enemy. He wants us to hate ourselves. He wants us to blame ourselves. He wants us to stay as victims. He wants us to stay angry, resentful, and bitter. And shame is the best way to do that. It's just this whole body experience. And, you know, the cliche thing to say is shame is saying I am someone bad. Guilt is saying I did something bad. That's a little abstract.