 pray silently and when you get through praying you say amen out loud so they know you through you hang on till they say amen out loud i said anybody here thinks you couldn't do that then i take them through the motions of doing it and i say now i want you i want you this is your homework tonight pray together silently and i said if you'll start this about six months down the road one night one of you'll slip up and pray out loud but if you never pray out loud