 the conversations haven't been far and few between, you know, and just trying to let go of that whole idea of, of, uh, marriage in the first place. You know, I've never been married before and it was something that I thought, you know, it was going to be forever and it just, it just didn't work out. And it was, you weren't married or you were married? I wasn't married. I mean, were you married to this man?