 addiction and of course pornography use can be on a whole spectrum but it's it's looking at what's really going on or maybe there's infidelity so it really is going okay there might be something kind of up here but what's really happening i always say underneath the water line that's so what's and it's so important to talk about that and to figure that out there is like the garden you know we were ashamed when we realized adam and eve that they were naked