 it's deeply concerning and disturbing to me i'm a parent of four young people and a lot of ways that young people learn to navigate the world the way i learned to navigate the world when i was their age is through our music and i remember how much it spoke to me and in retrospect i remember how much it affected me what is normal what is acceptable i think the danger is for young people to say my relationship is supposed to be toxic i'm supposed to be unhappy half of the time