 After living and loving more than half a century with your better half, now what? How do you build a new life out of the shattered pieces? All grief journeys are unique. It's a journey that possibly will never end. There's no getting over the loss of a loving spouse. Instead, I try to build my new life around grief. When the waves of sadness wash over me, I've learned not to fight them, but instead go with the flow. Change is hard, but inevitable. Sometimes we have no choice.