 so i'm just thinking i'm just thinking about interjecting here so we've got a four hundred thousand dollar house and several hundred thousand dollars in some sort of retirement which mom isn't really touching and she's living off social security and a pension so now chris goes on to write a friend's father is in failing health and my friend is in a family of seven siblings his parents own their home both are now moving to a nursing home due to health issues and the family is now concerned about the nursing home coming after the home as part of the payment for care