 and going what are they doing yeah how come what do you mean they're we're just living their lives yeah what do you mean like i've just experienced something that i can't even articulate yeah yeah and you're just going to work you're just going to work everything's just everything's just normal yeah there was this day after my dad died maybe uh probably the next day actually when the funeral is being organized and an uncle who's trying to be quite helpful around this period of time uh