 makes it a little easier to process the details of our own lives by just getting it out of our heads. Yes, yes. Well, Jill says that she writes because it makes the memories something she can handle. And you say, by handle, I think she means both that she can touch it and that because she can touch it, she can process and accept it. Most of us can cope with it insofar as we can cope with it because the reality passes so quickly and then begins to fade.