 who understood who I was and was willing to walk the walk with me, not just talk the talk. I'm sure every lesbian has to have a wonderful relationship, every gay male, you know, that's the human need. That's the human need. But I think before time did that for me, in 97, it happened when I left political work, when I was left out there. I found someone that I really fell in love with, and that helped me to see, Wanda, you can't do this.