 the children go to the father about 25% of the time, and 75% of the time they are with somebody who is not one of their parents. About 10% to 15% of the time for mothers, that's foster care, and about 3% of the time for fathers, that's foster care. But what happens to that other 60% of children? You're correct that a huge number of them are in informal care, and the services just do not exist. Women's Justice Institute Senior Advisor Alexis Mansfield.