 We Europeans think you either have community, which must be enforced by the state, or you have a bunch of weirdos living off in a cabin by themselves in Montana as isolated individualists writing some weird treatise. You've got isolated individualism, or you've got state-enforced community. He's like, no, these Americans, they believe in this other thing, which is community, but voluntary. You persuade people to marry you. The marriage isn't arranged. You persuade people to join your church or religious or synagogue.