 for the moments that my life has been most focused on relationships that are accountable, that are loving, that are both directly about the people in front of me, but also about the world at the same time. And I care a lot more about that than about validation. I care a lot more about that, as it turns out, than all the things I spent a lifetime pretending to care about. And having to not just write that, but then, of course, repeat it back to yourself really reminds you