 grow up and you grow older and you don't meet somebody that would be wonderful to meet and would have been good that that's a bad thing he's not saying that he my interpretation you'll have to ask him actually but my interpretation is he's strongly family oriented but that doesn't mean if you don't have a family uh there's something wrong with it just one last point and then we'll move on just just one of the bedrock principles of american life is one person one vote