 When people hear, oh, so-and-so had a baby, it drives me nuts that the first question is, is it a boy or a girl? And I always say the answer to that should be, most likely, but only time will tell. But I think we really need to be much more intentional about deconstructing gender. And I don't mean that as a theoretical proposition. I mean in the way we live our daily lives, the way we react to people, the things that care, when we start whispering things,