 you know so you you you can pay in albany new york you might be nicer than that but what we get we get all we get all hillbilly around here i'm just saying uh... hollywood sharing free for all the uh... don't you don't just go get some marital help it's worth pushing into that you can you can win this battle it's i've seen people overcome it many a time but he needs to he does not understand how much harm he's doing to you into the marriage he can really lose his house he'd be a stupid