 uh, who was then to be my, my husband. I didn't know it at the time, but we were, we became best friends. He had suffered a lot of loss. I had suffered a lot of loss. He was a runner. I used to be a runner. Um, he was a cyclist. I was a cyclist. So we, we had a lot of things in common and we kind of bonded over this shared, you know, Oh, I know what that was like.