 And she acts out, you know, for whatever reason in this way, but just, I'm just saying you need to step in. And I would say that to any caller, um, when it comes to marriage, you guys need to be more of a team and that's going to be a, that's the, that's the exact reason you want to push into this. Cause it's going to create a better marriage. It really will. It's going to not be fun at first. Cause you're going to be, you guys are going to be maybe, you know, back and forth with stuff, but that's what creates a level of intimacy because you're doing it together. Yeah.