 outside of the military connectivity with sean right i'd known him for 10 years and we were very close military comrades but i hadn't known his family so deeply until my wife came into the picture so it prompted me then to write a gratitude letter for my wife to really go home and tell her wow like i'm so glad that i have a relationship with sean's kids because of you so again who who's doing that i don't really know but taking the actual time to go sort of break these stories down and let the biographer be a co-creator and making the connections is i think where the value is