 because they are putting themselves in a lot more situations in which they could meet other people and form those kinds of bonds. Dr. Westmoreland says we shouldn't change our personalities to be someone we're not, but we can build positive traits and possibly increase our chances at finding love. So what's a small first step we can take? If you make your bed or you clean your room or you build some sort of routine, you'll start doing more of this thinking and planning.