 And she's left behind. Who's there to take care of her? As a rule, if you're the same age, you'll have a six to eight year window that he will leave you before you go. As a rule. And I'm worried about those six to eight years, how we're going to properly plan for that. And that's what makes it so important to come in as a couple and get the answers. Even if your job in the household is to take care of X and his or her job is to take care of the taxes and finances.