 how do you even get started well it helps to think about who you might want to live with in terms of the people who are currently in your lives like who would be the person you're most excited to live with the person you are you would trust most to make decisions for you at a hospital this is reyna cohen i think you know this because we work together at npr reyna and i both worked on the npr podcast louder than a riot but she also knows a whole lot about building a life with friends