 the primary way that we identify what we do want is by identifying our own values, right? So going through what are our values, what are those things that kind of guide our life, our decision making, and make us happy. And so we go through exercises where identify values. And so therefore, we're going to need someone who has similar values, not necessarily the same specific, but have similar values. And so all of those are kind of activities in the workbook to help you to have