 there's, you know, it's a lot about what the lady wants and what we, and we got to come with the bag. We got to come with the snail bag. We got to come with the, a lot of the different things that to even get a lady's attention, um, before we even get to all our needs, we have to have something to show that we even worthy of a conversation. So, uh, you know, and being successful black men, you know, it's a different process when, you know, uh,