 And now you are facing high interest charges. Contempt will look like saying you never follow through. I can never count on you to do what you say you will do. A complaint is more of when you said you were going to pay the bills and then I found out they hadn't been paid and we are going to get charged interest. It causes me a lot of stress. Some signs that indicate contempt is ruining your relationship are that you no longer feel fondness, admiration and respect for your partner. You no longer enjoy. Hey, listen.