 Um, I think the same thing as him because I was just like in survival, survival mode since I was 16 and on my own, you know, trying to figure, figure it out. And I found myself in situations and my only thought was to survive. I get out. I really thought that I was just going to be killed by in a relationship. I thought that that's just, that was normal. That's what happens. Yeah. And, and so I lived in fear for a long time and,