 you know it's one of those things where you can say a word and everybody has a different definition of what that means anna i have a feeling that when it comes to money in you say let's share our money everybody pops up with the definition that they grew up with their had in their last relationship or heard somebody else say and i think when it comes to that in your life you've got it defined for you guys exactly what that means so there's no gray area there's no room for someone to insert