 uh... minus our mortgage but okay great yeah that's excellent okay so i sympathize with what you're saying because i you know they're your parents you love them you see them drowning and you want to save them right but at the same time you've got to get yourself into the raft first and save yourself so that you can pull them into somewhere safe so there's there's all of that there it sounds like your dad at the very least it sounds like he's willing to talk to you somewhat about this