 uh basically to try to keep it short but for the whole last year and this year he has been um kept me in the dark of our finances like i wasn't allowed to be to have access to his account or any of the accounts um um and he would kind of occasionally like give me money weekly but anyways it um i was like hey it's time to get a new house because we have a a three-year-old that needs his own bedroom so we pulled out money from the hillock