 you have to really fight against desensitization of thinking, well, I've seen some real abuse. I mean, yes, that's abuse, but that's not that bad. There can't be a degree on that. It has to be it either is or it isn't, and you have a response to that. So desensitization is a real thing that goes on, especially in human services fields. Carby alleges that while she was at this adult-only pool party,