 you know so you you you can pay in albany new york you might be nicer than that but what we get we get all we get all hillbilly about it around here i'm just saying oh holly we're cheering for you girl yeah go get go get some marital help it's worth pushing into this yeah you can you can win this battle it's i've seen people overcome it many a time but he needs to he does not understand how much harm he's doing to you and to the marriage he didn't really lose his house because he's being stupid