 What is needed with both is an understanding of what is acceptable and what is not. That little bit of information makes the difference in getting along and always having problems. My grandfather used to tell me a good understanding was worth every effort it took to gain one. That is what all of us need to strive for, a good understanding of one another so we can work and play together effectively and safely. Nothing can take the place of respect for one another. In the horse business, that can save you from injury. In the people business, it can save you from losing valuable friendships.