 a year ago he told me he had a relationship with someone and so basically there's the schmuck part I was waiting for the schmuck part have you filed yet have you filed for the divorce yet no no I just I just I can't afford to like I don't know I'm in Tampa things are just everything's ridiculously expensive and I can't I've been looking to see you know what what my options are but I can't afford to like live alone right now didn't you say you make 75,000 a year I do