 uh and there's a practical reason to accidentally i mean you and i may disagree two of us may disagree on an issue one is can we still maybe reach a compromise that leaves us both better off than if we hit gridlock that's a legitimate question or secondly even if we can't even if we can't find common ground on issue one well tomorrow another issue is going to come along and if we've disagreed civilly on this one maybe we haven't wrecked our relationship so the two of us can find common ground