 in that first couple years but it was such a big deal for us to in the first 12 months just learn how each other handled money you know what i mean how you handle life there's that too but it's like to make a big purchase decision like that and strap yourself into a mortgage like that without kind of as you said experiencing marriage in the way we viewed money that first 12 months for us was really eye-opening and we had to learn how to get on the same page yeah