 okay is being a parent is like such a blessing for people uh certainly people like me who benefited from having that compass because you're suddenly making decisions on behalf of multiple people instead of just one and i can tell you this prior to having lincoln you know i was a bit of a mess like you know more so than i am now like now i'm a professional mess you know what i'm saying like i'm pretty upfront about it but having that kid is like a north star