 let's say so you feel like she's not you feel like she's not just using social security to survive she's pulling actively off of that nest egg and you're worried that that's going to run out that's going to run out and then i'll be the escape though me and my wife would be the escape and my wife does have another sister what's your household income i make over 95 000. what does your wife make my wife makes over maybe let's say 30.