 maybe maybe surviving on a level of deceit it probably did still fracture a lot of familiar relationships that kids had with whoever was raising them because i wasn't prepared to have this conversation with you yet and i and because i know you i know that you weren't ready to have this conversation with me yet i would much rather have it at a later time when we're both well at least when i'm comfortable so i get it but i also understand how some parents could look at this and be like