 i think i'm a pretty good judge at that what about you kathleen yeah i think that i can i can tune into that's like a that's like a frequency you tune into like oh he's not in a bad mood or he's in a bad mood or he's happy and you can kind of feel that it's a feeling and so i just say in my book too that we're all oriented a bit differently so some of us are very brainy brainy and we're always thinking thinking thinking others are very feelings