 Or would you rather go to a dinner party at a real woman's house where she's confident enough in the value of who she is that she's willing to let you come over to visit when things are not perfect? Maybe the carpet needs to be vacuumed. She's ordered some takeout and the kids are playing noisily upstairs, but she's willing to be vulnerable with you to show you what her life is really like and to enjoy the pleasure of your company.