 and then I was able and gosh if you were to do that I could help you I would coach you I'd be I'd be your biggest cheerleader I'm not going to interfere in your business if you don't want me to but man I'm so excited about what this has done for my wife and I this for our lives and how we've changed because we're doing this stuff in any of this that you would allow me to share with you I would be so honored and that's your only shot I was going to say and then temper your expectations because as many parents at that point want to change the way they've been doing money at 67 like you always say Dave sometimes you don't want to change