 right it's just uh wham bam thank you ma'am that kind of thing it happens it's just the reality but not so much on plenty of fish right that's almost like a match.com it's a thing where you sort of uh get to know each other and then you make plans to go date or go on a date or meet in public not uh hey let's go out sure i'll take an uber to your house that's weird it's kind of weird