 to go and provide for this family unit i know it's difficult right now because you got a baby coming any minute and you got i mean my my daughter-in-law's getting ready to have a child any minute and she's got a three-year-old who's you know that's more than anybody should have to deal with right there that right there is enough okay and your wife's got two sitting there on top of this and it's just she's i mean because i know because