 vulnerability or longing or loss would be a lot of people would characterize that as as the scary thing you know you have to you'd have to go back to my upbringing to understand why it's easier for me because my so my dad is very emotional and my mom worked my dad stayed at home my dad cries my dad fills all the emotions my dad's very emotional and open about his emotions so you know me and my family it's quite wild the way we speak to each other