 experienced that wounding and has allowed me to begin to heal because it's not something we talk about like gay men we don't sit around talk about like so that was really traumatic you know being in you know a 17 18 year old sexually active gay man in you know 1991 yeah you know yeah uh you don't sit around and go like that was crazy that was crazy yeah and holy shit did that shape yeah the way that i yeah but this play allows me to kind of have that conversation